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Lifestylevertascend/r/seduction17/06/26 08:09 PM
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Field Reportvertascend/r/seduction20/05/26 04:00 AM
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Escalation & Calibrationvertascend/r/seduction29/04/26 03:00 AM
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Keen on hearing about how this works out
/r/seduction25/07/26 09:40 AM
1

Plausible deniability; she wants to not seem like a slut; but can act on it without it being said out loud….it’s a girl thing, if you ask her straight up to smash, she’ll say no; if you suggest some other way and it just ends up happening then it’s something that just happened
/r/seduction17/07/26 01:23 AM
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Trust me; it’s a lottttt of work; and can sometimes get overwhelming or underwhelming
/r/seduction13/07/26 04:03 AM
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Don’t think with the brain downstairs; think with the one upstairs…. You got a good person with a good thing going and you want to ghost her???, many search for a keeper and you found one…. Think long and wise buddy, or are you just sexually attracted to her and nothing else???, she seems sweet I hope she finds someone who will give her what she seeks
/r/seduction07/07/26 06:50 PM
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I know this question is directed towards women and it’s not my place but if you’ll be willing to consider it as a male id just like to say if you’re looking for a persona that commands respect from a man … it’s the little things, Firstly men don’t like mind games; honestly and straight forwardness go a long way Secondly… warmth, men look for warmth; they’re looking for feminine energy from a woman not masculine energy Thirdly … value… you must value yourself, if you do, he will too; carry yourse…
/r/seduction07/07/26 09:29 AM
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You gotta find common ground; talk deep; see if your interests match; and if your interests are beneficial to each other; you must be able to convince her that getting with you is in her best interest
/r/seduction06/07/26 07:08 PM
9

Best answer…here…I agree with everything The 9s and 10s are not stuck up The lower numbers aren’t either, it’s the 7s and 8s that’ll give you attitude because they assume themselves to be 10s
/r/seduction06/07/26 11:26 AM
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For people that are saying you can’t “create attraction”, maybe you can and maybe you can’t but you have to think of it somewhat like a sculpture; you have to chip away at the pebbles to reveal the sculpture beneath; attraction works similarly; some say that she decides that she likes you within the first 2 minutes; how do you explain the ugly guys who get with the girl; attraction may not be created but it is possible to be brought forth if there’s factors in common between people; speaking fro…
/r/seduction06/07/26 11:24 AM
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Darwin’s theory at work right there
/r/seduction03/07/26 09:38 AM
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This is the problem, isn’t it; everything has become about consequence… I’m not saying to do anything illegal or inappropriate; it’s your responsibility to find a way based on morality and legality
/r/seduction01/07/26 09:35 PM
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People just don’t “do” anymore; they are too afraid of going out there and making mistakes; they do research and try to find reasons for it to fail instead of trying to succeed; our ancestors fought, starved, cultivated and worked to get us here… and here we are too afraid to talk to a girl to get our genes to multiply; I get that the dynamic have changed but they have always been changing…my advice is to stop looking for reasons to do what you want to do or reasons not to… just do it
/r/seduction01/07/26 06:50 PM
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I wasn’t insinuating that it would; I was merely stating that that’s when you want to give it perhaps to stay in touch or fwb; although I disagree with you about the bored part; she may have time on her hands or at a bar alone; you may ask her to have coffee with you instead of sitting alone; so while it’s not an actual date it’s a pseudo one; and at the end of it you will have a fair idea if it’s worth taking IG or not
/r/seduction01/07/26 09:35 AM
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Bingo; those are the circumstances I recommend to take instagram under; otherwise give out your number instead
/r/seduction01/07/26 09:31 AM
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I was going to say the same thing;
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:51 AM
1

Right after a full moon
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:48 AM
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Indicators of interest buddy and escalation at the opportune moments; sometimes you can’t force attraction as well; but you can convince them that they’re attracted to you by being genuine and having deep conversations
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:47 AM
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Overwhelming buddy; because your social skills were dependent on motivation and serotonin; there’s only a limited supply; eventually it’ll start feeling like a chore; discipline is more important and you have to stay yourself, this happenes when you lose yourself trying to be someone you aren’t
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:42 AM
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My suggestion is to get IG when you’ve had enough time to create attraction; so basically go on an insta date and then ask IG if it’s looking promising; If your interaction is brief then; give them your phone number instead; if they message you then you’re getting somewhere; getting their phone number is no different that getting IG, do so only after spent time; but if it’s brief then you give them yours Whether it’s IG or phone; if you ask for hers; you always run the probability of her flaking…
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:39 AM
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If you know what definition of creep is, then just avoid doing those things; all those places are fine for approaching people; just gotta build up some courage and confidence and shoot your shot
/r/seduction30/06/26 08:17 AM
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Make more friends buddy
/r/seduction29/06/26 07:32 PM
1

Yeah same here, you live and you learn
/r/seduction29/06/26 07:10 PM
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Get into social circles buddy; and observe how they talk to girls; make friends who know what they’re doing and just watch them work… you will learn quick….
/r/seduction29/06/26 07:09 PM
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I see; might I give you some advice; go out and observe people and make friends with people who have good talking to girl skills; it’s easier seen than read about; at least you’re admitting it and asking and that’s a good start
/r/seduction29/06/26 07:05 PM
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Basically you don’t do small talk; like how was your day, or what did you have for breakfast; that’s small talk; you talk with intention like…you wanna go for dinner, every word is aimed at closing; bond isn’t a seducer based on words; he seduced based on sex appeal
/r/seduction29/06/26 07:01 PM
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I have friends who drink for days at a time; go out and meet girls all day and keep drinking; all decisions are spontaneous and later are mostly full of regrets from the girls side “ buyers remorse”, they get blocked just as much as they got laid, “they don’t even remember what the girls looked like” and they just literally look for another one when that happens; question he’s gotta ask himself is what type of person he wants to become…it was sad to see these people operate like robots; my comme…
/r/seduction29/06/26 06:57 PM
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Someone gave me the advice of sharing their own post to them in the DMs, and making a comment in the DMs of course like “I like your shoes in this picture” or something;… it’s actually worked for me before too but I don’t actively message people on IG unless I’ve already created a physical bond….sharing their own post helps break the ice
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:27 AM
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Sometimes love bombing works ngl
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:22 AM
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The only real answer; sometimes the opportunity doesn’t come back around once missed
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:16 AM
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Buddy I read your guide a few weeks ago, nice recommendation for anyone
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:07 AM
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The guy that doesn’t talk much and says only what needs to be said gets the girl
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:05 AM
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It’s not a chore buddy; and there shouldn’t be any pressure to meet a quota; I can meet 30 girls a night and sometimes I meet one; once you become comfortable in your skin, you notice that quality matters over quantity
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:04 AM
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If by serious talk you mean trying to get to the bedroom; you’re flirting… you gotta read the igns and body language…. Then you try and escalate to physical touch and then go for the kisss, afterwards then you want to make the conversation sexual and that’s where your serious talk comes in
/r/seduction29/06/26 08:59 AM
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Dude you obsessed with bond or something?, just saw another post 3 posts before this asking about bond and wolf of Wall Street; stop being cheesy and try and be yourself… that’s the best way…. But if you must know; the bond way is to not talk toooo much, no small talk, talk only what matters
/r/seduction29/06/26 08:57 AM
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The way this question is written doesn’t give me bond nor wolf of Wall Street vibes; abundance gets girls, desperation doesn’t, bad boys do, good guys finish last; you want to get girls, flirt with many.. calm composed and unfazed by shit tests
/r/seduction29/06/26 06:13 AM
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Empty out your sacks so you can last longer the next round; that depends on yourself; you don’t need to do it
/r/seduction27/06/26 11:05 PM
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Well I’ve been fortunate; I’m my case, I choose to stay home even though I can move out to look after my mum; my hookups are based on attraction so they don’t usually mind the circumstances if I suggest the reason to book a room; they don’t usually get turned off, actually I’ve never had it happen
/r/seduction26/06/26 10:42 PM
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Yea; I just say that I live with family; it’s a cultural thing; sometimes I just say I’m away from home so I’ve got to book a room
/r/seduction26/06/26 07:36 PM
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The only way to come off as non needy is to have options…learn to control frame and fake it till you make it but don’t fold
/r/seduction26/06/26 10:51 AM
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Here’s my advice since you seem ok with getting girls… I don’t think it’s too hard to close the deal, you just need to be more assertive but not in a creepy way; don’t forget these things: 1. Never go out with a loaded gun ( you will last longer) 2. Always wear a sock ( you don’t want unwanted pregnancies) 3. Never go down on someone who’s history you don’t know ( you don’t want sloppy seconds) 4. Always do foreplay and make her bust first; ( don’t try and compete with her in a game of endurance…
/r/seduction26/06/26 03:35 AM
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How’d you manage 3 relationships without sex?, but don’t worry; once you’re over the first the others become easier
/r/seduction26/06/26 02:09 AM
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I do it all the time; I make enough money but here we are family oriented; if I bag a girl; I just book a room
/r/seduction26/06/26 02:07 AM
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Book a room buddy
/r/seduction25/06/26 04:39 AM
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Sometimes you just aren’t compatible because of the things that you want out of life; there might be heaps others who are into the same stuff as you; future plans too soon are never a good idea
/r/seduction25/06/26 04:35 AM
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Don’t even recover bro; you’d be playing right into her hands; girls are way more patient with these things than us…. If you respond too soon, or follow up, you will come off as needy
/r/seduction25/06/26 04:31 AM
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Move on buddy
/r/seduction25/06/26 04:29 AM
1

Go traveling for a bit
/r/seduction24/06/26 08:04 AM
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I’m older than you and still do cold approach
/r/seduction22/06/26 12:01 AM
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Shorter guys approach girls; taller guys get approached by girls… but the game is equal for both… but if one is better looking it tilts the narrative
/r/seduction21/06/26 11:58 PM
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Seems reasonable if she’s catching feelings
/r/seduction20/06/26 04:36 AM
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Bro watch lesbian corn and take a few pointers; when the deed is done the go to your usual 2 minute pound town… I know you may not get the chance with her again but for future reference
/r/seduction19/06/26 12:45 PM
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It’s easy; pretend to lean in for a kiss and then divert to doing something else; do this multiple times; where she’s expecting you to kiss her but you’re just teasing; talk about sexual topics and ask her interests, ask what she wants in a romantic partner and then say “ so basically someone like me?!”, let her think it’s her idea to want you, do the tease almost kiss, correctly and she’ll be the one kissing you; and do the conversation correctly with hints of intimate physical touch and she wi…
/r/seduction18/06/26 09:01 AM
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That’s 200 more matches than me in the online space; but one thing I can say for certain; don’t make small talk over the phone; it’ll kill attraction before it even has the chance to grow; logistics and follow ups; that’s all it should be for
/r/seduction18/06/26 08:54 AM
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How well did it work?
/r/seduction18/06/26 08:43 AM
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What did you learn?
/r/seduction18/06/26 08:41 AM
1

Go for it
/r/seduction17/06/26 09:16 PM
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Well said
/r/seduction17/06/26 08:20 PM
1

Haha I think you’re right
/r/seduction17/06/26 08:15 PM
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Tell her you didn’t realize that it was your birthday; and you didn’t want to make it wierd; let her decide if she wants to postpone it or keep it on the same day
/r/seduction17/06/26 07:40 PM
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And what would you righteously suggest I do with my free time?
/r/seduction17/06/26 07:36 PM
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Buddy I don’t even have energy to argue with you; it’s not what I’m here for; you 🏆win… call it what you want
/r/seduction17/06/26 07:18 PM
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Haha I just go out in shorts and flip flops, I invest my money in business so I don’t flaunt it, well because I’m trying to build something; I’ve come to realize that girls don’t necessarily judge you for your bank balance, not majority at least but maybe a certain demographic; as with any audience you have to look where your most ideal demographic is likely to hang out
/r/seduction17/06/26 09:43 AM
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Are you familiar with puns? Like if she says something funny about a tomato for example You would say in as joking way “what’s tomato with you?😂😂 Now I know this isn’t the best example for it it usually flows in the heat of the moment but that’s what I do occasionally
/r/seduction17/06/26 09:38 AM
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That’s just mental block buddy haha,
/r/seduction17/06/26 09:33 AM
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Life has a way of bringing things around: let me give you an example: If you’re hot, you sweat to cool yourself down; similarly let’s take a car for example, if it gets hot, the water in the radiator takes the heat away, both use water Everything is translatable, you referred to finding a date like numbers game when finding a job; similarly if you have a good resume and portfolio; you have a likelier chance to be called for an interview or a date Now that we have put things in those terms; once …
/r/seduction17/06/26 09:31 AM
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If she’s the life of the party; she probably doesn’t mind it; just learn to piggy back off of her humor; that way you can keep it flowing
/r/seduction17/06/26 09:23 AM
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I appreciate that you noticed buddy; people only read what they are envious of and see red haha; you are correct, I set aside those days for work and starting up my businesses; one about to begin, another in the planning stage; 3 ebooks written and I have a part time contracting job bringing in around 6 figs; I keep busy… so weekends are my time to reward myself…. I appreciate you standing up for me in the comments….so thanks mate
/r/seduction17/06/26 09:06 AM
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I think your math ain’t mathing buddy; I work Monday though Friday and only go out weekends; not every day; I earn 6 figs so I ain’t too bothered because I earn my time to go out; … yes I save money too and am on the verge of opening one business while building up another… I’ve got a fitness certification as well and keep myself in decent shape, I don’t play any sport, nor video games; those 7 hours per day are also divided amongst spending time with friends as they also go out…. I appreciate th…
/r/seduction17/06/26 08:58 AM
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Yes 7 hours; but it’s a little complicated; I spend 3pm-6pm at the bar,restaurant, beach etc; and if I find someone of interest I ask them to join me at that moment and so we end up hanging out for the rest of the evening and see where it leads; if I don’t meet someone in that timeframe; I just go extreme social butterfly mode from 6 till 10pm or later depending and hopefully someone decent comes across; my personal preference is to meet a girl sober so that’s why I do so in the day; most of the…
/r/seduction17/06/26 04:16 AM
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I set aside every Friday, Saturday and Sunday 3pm till 10 for my approaches
/r/seduction17/06/26 03:46 AM
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The interactions seemed great; from what I gather, people seemed nice and didn’t beat around the bush
/r/seduction16/06/26 11:38 PM
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Number 1 is the most important;
/r/seduction16/06/26 10:04 AM
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Might I suggest asking them out instantly and in that moment if they are free…. Don’t ask for the number or give out yours till you have proof of chemistry; and have some class, if you ask her out in that moment, at least pay for whatever you’re going to have be it coffee or dinner etc; and then if things look good; you need to show somehow that getting with you is in her best interest and to her benefit; that’s how you get her to bed
/r/seduction16/06/26 10:02 AM
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Just look at them and smile; hold your breath awkwardly walk up to them, and say hi,
/r/seduction16/06/26 09:50 AM
3

I think you need to go to the sex advice forum
/r/seduction16/06/26 09:49 AM
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Those numbers are wayyy to big, not impossible but insane…. It’ll turn you into a robot… that keeps saying “ ok… next” and the game will start feeling like a job; messaging 40-50 women?… when do you work and make money? Mean come on this is only possible if you have a lot of money already and all the time in the world; my advice is to do approaches within your means; focus on quantity then transition to quality when you’re good but don’t beat yourself if you can’t make numbers
/r/seduction16/06/26 06:07 AM
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Thanks for the context
/r/seduction15/06/26 07:00 PM
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Why that specific website?, surely you can just get a book on it, there’s heaps there
/r/seduction15/06/26 06:48 PM
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I read the whole thing, not bad at all; I think a lot of the guys in this sub should read the contents; it’s good; the club pickup is not to my preferences personally; I do daygame, moderate night transitions at bars and restaurants; I like how your book covers details which people seldom want to share; honestly if you add 15 pages more; you could package it and sell it on gumroad; I especially like how you go into the dynamics of creating a feel in the setting that has an allure to it; I do som…
/r/seduction15/06/26 10:20 AM
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Then go to a restaurant instead or a cafe
/r/seduction15/06/26 09:21 AM
1

Peak answer here haha
/r/seduction15/06/26 09:09 AM
1

Are you hoping to be given instructions on the game or something?
/r/seduction15/06/26 09:07 AM
2

They’ll reach out; I think the manner in which you gave the number I important; so your energy in that moment…”it’s gotta be larger than life”, if you can do that …. They will reach out
/r/seduction15/06/26 09:05 AM
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I don’t have an inclination towards size; slim to thick to pleasantly plump, small tits, no ass…. Doesn’t matter, The main thing is that they gotta have a good face on em and I need to have good chemistry with them… this is just my personal preference
/r/seduction15/06/26 09:03 AM
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Firstly…why are you even thinking of it as an interview?, Secondly…why are you trying to make it a one size fits all kinda thing? Thirdly…you ain’t finding girlfriend material in a club easily (not saying it impossible) What you need to fix: Right now sound like a robot; you need to become more human like, you’re not going to find the answers in a text book and the actual answers will be different from person to person; you need to improve your situational awareness, and approach more girls and …
/r/seduction15/06/26 08:57 AM
2

I like your style buddy; I use the same on some of my approaches
/r/seduction15/06/26 08:45 AM
2

Find a similar social circle; though I noticed the pickup game before covid and after are significantly different; much more volatile now
/r/seduction12/06/26 11:18 PM
1

Dude…. You’re at a club; if you can’t dance then go to a bar
/r/seduction11/06/26 08:08 AM
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Yeah if you’re Indian, your chances are lower wherever you go; unless there’s a low existing Indian population there; 😂😂, speaking as an Indian haha
/r/seduction11/06/26 08:07 AM
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Good ones
/r/seduction11/06/26 08:04 AM
2

You gotta ask the people watching me haha; but so far 99 percent havent said anything bad to me about what I do; neither guys nor girls … of course you got the oddball
/r/seduction11/06/26 05:28 AM
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It’s happened to me multiple times; in fact it’s happened 3 weeks ago; where a girl was interested in one day and lost interest the next; however I know why…. It’s because I didn’t make a move that very day; my circumstances prevent me from doing so sometimes because I have to work early; so I cannot spend nights chasing ( not desperate though… I get enough action to be content), but yeah I would recommend seizing that opportunity immediately if at all possible; the next day usually is a clean s…
/r/seduction10/06/26 02:54 AM
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Those books buddy; while they were good for learning purposes; you need to change the way you see situations; right now you’ve become a robot; time to turn human again…. Everyone wants validation; but that’s no substitute for a good partner; you might need so reflection buddy
/r/seduction10/06/26 02:49 AM
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She didn’t feel sexual attraction probably because it felt more like an interview; you need a few queues of escalation, put out more that average questions
/r/seduction09/06/26 07:20 PM
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Means numbers is to desensitize you to rejection but once you know and have enough experience you can and should be aiming to score out of that interaction instead of treating it like a number; so it quality of approach instead of quantity later on
/r/seduction08/06/26 10:10 AM
2

I have never tried it this way before; definitely going to give it a shot next time
/r/seduction08/06/26 09:07 AM
1

One suggestion buddy; you need more self esteem; you ain’t getting lucky if you lose before you begin; you’re not ugly, you just lack awareness; get yourself groomed, perhaps ask a girls opinion, your height is advantageous; you probably need to workout a bit too so you get a little more confident…. All I hear so far are complaints; do something about it; if you want a workout routine or something there’s heaps of information online
/r/seduction08/06/26 09:00 AM
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This has totally happened to me before; I dated a girl; then covid lockdowns happened; her friend then suggested we should date instead; I said that I had been on a date with her friend; she said she had already talked it over…. And so we proceeded to date….. needless to say, that became the topic of many of our arguments while we were together and it didn’t end too nicely….they stayed friends… I took the blame; she cheated and the rest is history….Learn from my mistakes….. don’t get tangled in …
/r/seduction08/06/26 08:55 AM
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Which country would that be which is ultra conservative?
/r/seduction08/06/26 08:50 AM
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I always say Little league- numbers game Big leagues- every interaction is aimed at closing from the experience gained from numbers game
/r/seduction08/06/26 08:17 AM
1

The little league is a numbers game The big leagues is an experience game which you needed numbers game to gain; but every approach is geared toward conversion Just like a sales funnel some would say
/r/seduction07/06/26 04:41 AM
2

Just walk up and say “hi”, pretend to be awkward and say “ what haha, I just wanted to say hi”, and then make small talk; I don’t use pickup lines but an awkward one comes off clean sometimes
/r/seduction07/06/26 12:35 AM
1

I’ve gotta be honest; getting laid without alcohol is the best way to do it; hands down
/r/seduction07/06/26 12:32 AM
1

I’ve got somewhere in the 60s and I’ve been lucky; I’m 34yo ; this is when I really figured my groove; thing is you realize that drunk mediocre sex is useless; so now I only get with girls I’ve got real chemistry with; that way nothing is off the table in the bedroom; I meet around 300-500 girls a year; take out about 50-80 on a pseudo date, close on about 8-10 a year that I have chemistry with; I wingman the other girls to my friends who just want to get laid and dip….you know it was real, when…
/r/seduction07/06/26 12:30 AM
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Talk> dance> physical touch> hand hold> >kiss> hand on thigh while sitting down> ask”wanna go someplace private?”
/r/seduction07/06/26 12:20 AM
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Not gonna lie buddy; Swedish girls are rough; it’s exactly as you said, a good amount of them don’t like men, I’ve met a decent few and that is what I gathered; but at the same time; I see them hooking up with guys on their travels so it’s confusing. Yeah buddy, from what I’ve gathered, cold approach is difficult in Sweden; the girls will just look at you wierd like you’re a creep; you might need to go to bars, and areas where it is expected to meet people; instead of daygame, you’ll probably ha…
/r/seduction06/06/26 11:38 PM
1

Which country is that?, if it’s an issue then travel out
/r/seduction06/06/26 08:08 PM
3

Don’t even bring up them checking you out; just use it as a hint that says “approach me”, just say hi
/r/seduction06/06/26 01:18 AM
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Just because she’s disinterested; doesn’t mean she’s being rude…. If you don’t like someone then you don’t like someone, it should never be forced; but yes is she is disrespecting you then you have every right to walk away; but remember disinterest is not the same as disrespect.
/r/seduction04/06/26 01:19 AM
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I mostly do bars, restaurants and beach, but I guess they aren’t bars so much as restaurants; so you could classify it as day game; I’m not the best with night game
/r/seduction04/06/26 01:16 AM
2

Try and be nice where you can; sometimes the universe brings her back into the interaction; don’t make it awkward
/r/seduction03/06/26 07:04 PM
2

For me I talk to a lot of people mainly because I don’t know if I’m attracted to them, I’m looking for chemistry not necessarily the hottest girl at the bar, if there’s an energy match I’ll ask her to join me for a drink; if there’s none, I don’t bother any further. But yeah the reason I end up approaching so many is that a lot of guys usually ask me to wing for them because they see me pulling, I didn’t used to talk to so many…like I said quality matters to me more; but regulars saw me pulling …
/r/seduction03/06/26 07:02 PM
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A good 70 to 80 percent of people I ask; some have boyfriends and some just aren’t into you; but majority give their deets
/r/seduction03/06/26 06:48 PM
2

Which country?, club expectations differ from place to place but there’s always workarounds; all the best
/r/seduction03/06/26 04:45 AM
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Not bragging; but as far as approaches are concerned; I usually end up talking with almost every girl at the bar; but I hate the phrase “numbers game”, I try to have more quality approaches, but because girls see me talking to other girls, it makes them perceive me as high value, and I’m quite popular so Is good social proof; but I’m not in the best shape, and not necessarily very handsome; my advice to you is quality of approaches instead of quantity, everything will fall into place
/r/seduction03/06/26 04:17 AM
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Yeah I’ve had interactions with a few Swedish travelers, and other regions around there, their receptiveness to cold approach is a little difficult especially since it’s not in the culture; I’ve approached a decent few and most have had a wired look when I approached them, they always think something suspicious is up; but once they start talking to you then they warm up; the thing is …. Approaching them on home turf might warrant different advice, you need to find reason; perhaps go to bars and …
/r/seduction03/06/26 04:10 AM
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If I may throw in my 2 cent; firstly…. I think someone in your position should be more spontaneous when it comes to women, they come and talk to you as a result of how they are feeling in the moment, if you ask for a date later, she has time to come to all the wrong conclusions; don’t let her think about it; say stuff like “are you free for coffee after this?”, “what are you doing later?”, make her the centre of one of your items, you better act before the feelings cool down otherwise it’ll be h…
/r/seduction03/06/26 04:05 AM
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Yeah see how it goes; see which way her head faces when you give her the hello hug, don’t get too sexual but at least make out if at all possible; but also don’t push your luck
/r/seduction03/06/26 03:59 AM
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You’re learning your own way; good on you
/r/seduction03/06/26 03:56 AM
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Just keep sitting there and wait for someone to just fall onto your lap Now if you’re done feeling self pity; how’s about you get out there and make some mistakes and learn how to interact; you’re finding problems right now not solutions, There’s always a solution, you just have to find it; good thing is that you are just looking for one, not looking for hookups My advice is cold approach, keep your intentions good, some countries may be more difficult to do this like India, if you find it hard …
/r/seduction03/06/26 03:50 AM
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Use your judgment buddy, don’t wait too long or she will drop you into the friendzone; do you think you guys have chemistry?, what’s your intentions?
/r/seduction03/06/26 03:42 AM
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Thing about dating advice or videos; the core fundamentals are absolutely timeless; but the delivery changes with the times; you need something adaptive to this day and age…. Not someone telling you to text like this from a time button phones existed; and different people and cultures are different so you need to learn to adapt; best way like you said is just going out and experiencing and watching others work
/r/seduction03/06/26 03:39 AM
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Dude I lost my V plates at 25, and now I’m only peaking, it’s taken me so long, now I’m 34…. The way I see it is that you have no problems, it’s never too late, and trust me you don’t wanna feel like you’re younger… you’re in a good spot
/r/seduction03/06/26 03:34 AM
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My Favorite question: “do you read books?” Catch onto the string and lean in from there “What genre”, “I like these movies”,”what’s do you find interesting about this”, “ohh we actually have this in common “
/r/seduction02/06/26 08:15 AM
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As you should; good on you; the only way to get better with anything is repetition, the more you do something the better you get; to get rid of the mental block you have to find another girl, and another and another if, until the block disappears…. Ideally you want it to happen on the first one so you don’t up a player like me
/r/seduction02/06/26 08:05 AM
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Buddy; it’s the generation, no offense, social media has ruined it; depression is at an all time high, there’s so many things messed up and people aren’t willing to work on themselves if takes longer that one minute to improve the person they are…. You have to slowly chip away at it till you find yourself, I was the same, went through similar situations during Covid, got heartbroken and immersed in toxicity, I blamed myself; but I realized that that’s what people do no blame others to make thems…
/r/seduction02/06/26 07:58 AM
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I’ve been saying this the whole time; quality of approaches is more important than quantity of approaches; the people teaching this so called “game” are YouTubers with low standards of quality playing on a field where girls are easily down(don’t get me wrong some girls or a lot are quite hot, but quality means a girl that doesn’t spread for every Tom, dick and harry); game is convincing her to get down even if she wasn’t initially
/r/seduction01/06/26 07:47 AM
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Pucker up and approach a dude you like on the street
/r/seduction31/05/26 07:31 PM
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Just get laid?, or actually date?
/r/seduction30/05/26 07:10 PM
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Use an app
/r/seduction30/05/26 07:06 PM
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Game is just game, that’s the ability to get women….. basically the ability to pull
/r/seduction30/05/26 10:47 AM
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I would say focus on quality of approaches instead of trying to make numbers and beating yourself when you can’t, but I’m tired of preaching to the choir My advice to you is, go out when you can and approach, but when you can’t, try downloading a “meet random person app”, like Omegle or monkey app, and make random chat online
/r/seduction28/05/26 08:56 PM
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You are absolutely true but for a specific type, especially where people use the term “numbers game”; pitch, hook, freebie, sell, upsell… pitching to 50 is your sales funnel, narrowing to less than 5 is the conversion process Now is you’re not playing the numbers game then you’re aiming at converting right off the bat in which case, it’s the quality of the approach instead of numbers that matters
/r/seduction28/05/26 08:51 PM
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Don’t beat yourself up buddy; it’s not a you issue… thing is… it’s a 2026 thing, it’s no longer about long term goals nowadays, it’s about pleasure and feeling 100percent rollercoster ride every single time, the moment the feeling dips, she dips, it’s about instant gratification and a whole lotta bs…..so you have to go into things with an open mind in this day and age; you’re 39, things have changed quite a lot especially in the dating realm since you were in your 20s, I’m 34 and have realized t…
/r/seduction27/05/26 06:56 PM
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If you eat the same meal every single day… eventually you’ll get bored
/r/seduction27/05/26 06:46 PM
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I think only the ones who like doing so will be responding here…. Myself included, I don’t fake it…. I quite enjoy it; but it’s just the same as a female giving head, not everyone likes it
/r/seduction27/05/26 09:21 AM
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I think people here have answered well
/r/seduction27/05/26 07:26 AM
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100 percent of the guys who have messaged me and asked for advice based on my Reddit answers have been Indian…. So nope I’m not assuming they’re from the west, myself being from an island country
/r/seduction27/05/26 07:19 AM
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Please clarify: Success in getting a girl to bed or success in the bedroom with a girl? Getting a girl to bed: make her wet with your words Success in the bedroom: make her gush by pushing all the right buttons This is the simplest way I can put it without it becoming a 10 page essay
/r/seduction27/05/26 07:14 AM
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The numbers sound not bad imo; you need to look in the mirror and ask what am I doing wrong… and that is not something a dating coach can tell you…. But I will give you a few pieces of advice; you’re socially calibrated already but you’re not calibrated to escalate yet… you don’t know how and you don’t realize it; if you get on a date, your chances of escalation should get significantly higher Another thing to consider is that there needs to be attraction which means you need to have things in c…
/r/seduction27/05/26 07:03 AM
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Here’s what I would do: Ask myself how my friends got girlfriends and do the same On my days off I would book a room at the city 1.5 hours away and take a break from the nowhere and go cold approaching; thing with this is that you need to become a little more familiar with the area first Yeah dating apps are a piece of crap but consider the ones specifically for your purpose; no small talk just get straight to the point All the best
/r/seduction27/05/26 06:50 AM
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I mean come on…. Is this even a question?, at this point I would only suggest dating apps to avoiding coming off creepy by cold approach
/r/seduction26/05/26 08:01 AM
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I literally just approached 7 different girls at different tables as I’m writing this…. Just walk up and say hi, got all of their instagrams and meeting 2 tomorrow
/r/seduction22/05/26 08:52 AM
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Trust me most aren’t as successful as they seem and a good portion of the time the girls ended up regretting the decision; that being said… it’s fully possible if you’re good looking and charismatic; but even then there’s a difference between having attraction and getting laid because you were drunk and itchy; you shouldn’t look at what others do but what you want to do; I know guys that get with 3 or more new girls per week; they remember they got laid but the details are blurry; I get laid bec…
/r/seduction21/05/26 09:50 PM
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You weigh everything on the scale against the question…”is it worth it”, if it tips The scale towards a yes then Go for it
/r/seduction21/05/26 06:49 AM
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Believe what you want buddy; it doesn’t bother me just what I’ve seen
/r/seduction20/05/26 05:52 AM
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Yeah I get you; I approach a lot…. And yes some guys around me give me the death stare…. While others are like “he’s da man”; honestly you gotta get comfortable being in your own skin, and learn to desensitize yourself to outside opinions, I have personally managed on multiple occasions to pull them into my zone, so if I see them looking, I’ll smile at them too and go and say hi
/r/seduction20/05/26 03:23 AM
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I know short obese dudes in their 40s pulling baddies… and I’m still scratching my head as to how they do it … and nope they’re not rich
/r/seduction20/05/26 03:18 AM
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You can totally approach groups but it’s going to be hard to single a girl out without insulting her friends in some way; in which case they will do everything they can to shoot you down; if she’s alone then the chances are higher; also if you approach a group then you become an invader in their personal space….so you gotta have some finesse; and also get straight to the point, don’t be a creep… remember they won’t be able to have their girly conversations with you hovering around them so they w…
/r/seduction19/05/26 08:37 PM
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Well she’s probably got a roster… if you’ve met her on tinder
/r/seduction19/05/26 08:31 PM
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A lot of guys will disagree simply because they don’t want it to be true; but yes it’s for first impressions or as you say “ get you through the door; I’m same as you in my 30s, balding, can’t lean on my looks anymore; but somehow I’m having better luck with girls…. Probably because my social and conversational skills have vastly improved compared to then which we’re already quite good
/r/seduction19/05/26 07:08 PM
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Have you two had any romantic time together?, what you message is very situational; my suggestion is to just straight up ask her on a date, not a hang out sesh, your tonality can get you into the friendzone; your path is correct though, you’re not doing anything wrong, just make it known that you have romantic interest in her… if she shoots it down at least you’re not wasting your time, if she agrees then you can try and escalate, say things in such a manner that you don’t come off as “just a fr…
/r/seduction19/05/26 09:07 AM
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Buddy; …. You’re beating around the bush and making small talk; just ask her out already and make small talk in person; if you carry on this way, you’ll just kill the attraction… hope this reaches you positively
/r/seduction19/05/26 08:46 AM
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Don’t get your hopes up firstly…. And just do a follow up later. These things happen, they’ve happened to me and multiple others; if she can’t look past the issue the. She’s not for you
/r/seduction19/05/26 08:09 AM
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I agree with this; it’s easier to pull if you have a private room to offer; be cautious of bedbugs in hostels in general; if you hook up with randoms, don’t forget to wear a sock, I’ve heard of heaps of people catching STDs, I having caught one before, hostels are very spontaneous, I’ve heard of people going skinny dipping or even in the shower in mixed dorms going at it; so don’t let the brain downstairs do all the thinking and put on a sock; don’t go down on anyone who’s background you don’t k…
/r/seduction19/05/26 04:04 AM
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Date>flirt>kiss>escalate….. it gets easier to asked once you have kissed
/r/seduction18/05/26 07:15 PM
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Being in shape helps
/r/seduction17/05/26 06:41 AM
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It’s still possible to pull but you gotta be a good dancer before anything else which I’m not; heaps of my friends have pulled from clubs; I’ve just come to the conclusion that it’s not my style personally
/r/seduction17/05/26 03:29 AM
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If I don’t get her; it’s her loss; someone else deserves a better time from me than her
/r/seduction16/05/26 10:07 PM
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I only ever go out alone; approached thousands but probably less than 50 in a club, girls who dress up and are in a group are less likely to be receptive if you’re alone in that setting, go to bars if you’re alone, clubs if you’re in a group
/r/seduction16/05/26 10:06 PM
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The thing about attraction buddy is that not everyone is attracted to everyone…. Otherwise everyone will be walking around with a 10…. And the thing about attraction is created over time and not short interactions; if you’ve invested over an hour talking about something you both gel with then clearly there’s an ember of attraction there. That being said, you don’t necessarily need attraction to get laid, just an attraction factor; which is temporary and spontaneous and there will be buyers remor…
/r/seduction15/05/26 11:14 PM
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How do you know that you like them if the interaction was quick?, if you’re trying to get with someone you like then she’s gotta like you too and that takes time to figure out
/r/seduction15/05/26 07:45 PM
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Easy there; you make it sound as if you just walk up to a girl and she’ll spread her legs…. You gotta learn to create attraction and chemistry….. and as for where I find them…. Just about anywhere from bus shelters, to supermarkets to bakeries to gyms and bars etc
/r/seduction15/05/26 02:52 AM
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That is the purpose of any mentoring in general buddy
/r/seduction15/05/26 02:44 AM
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Zero mentoring…. But I have helped others with my knowledge now; and I have winged for hundreds of guys… so I guess that’s my return to the community
/r/seduction15/05/26 02:38 AM
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Your dad is supposed to help… mine passed away before I could get advice on such matters because I was too young; I’ve made mistakes for 7 years before figuring out the game …. Just observing others and learning… no coaches
/r/seduction15/05/26 02:12 AM
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I’ve approached over a thousand girls… couple of thousand actually and I still freeze buddy, it’s a natural reaction means you value the interaction, if you’re devoid of fear, then you’ll just become a f**boy without any gratification… fear keeps us in check, which is the reason we don’t close our eyes when crossing the road…. What I do in these situations; just hold my breath and jump straight in; nothing ventured nothing gained; you’re always overthinking, but if it doesn’t go well; she will n…
/r/seduction15/05/26 02:06 AM
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Try smiling and see if she smiles back…. If she does then you approach
/r/seduction15/05/26 02:01 AM
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I like how people just put a number to things… this is what “so called”coaches suggest to people trying to get out there…. If I might make a suggestion and I hope this helps you as it has helped me: Learn to observe your surroundings… just chill watch and listen Focus on quality of approaches as opposed to the number of approaches Numbers game is just to desensitize you to rejection; but quality keeps you human and rejection makes you appreciate success 4…. So don’t put a number on yourself…. Ju…
/r/seduction15/05/26 01:51 AM
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I can relate a little, I’m a day gamer… I get with decent amounts of girls too but sometimes it gets depressing because of the effort you gotta put in; you are experiencing sellers remorse and the girls experience buyers remorse and mostly because it was just short stands; I don’t have any remorse and everyone I met has been happy and satisfied but…. The game chips away at you; culture plays a part… if you feel you want to settle then just do it…. If you got enough experience under your belt the…
/r/seduction15/05/26 01:39 AM
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Say “no but I have WhatsApp instead… what’s your number?”
/r/seduction08/05/26 04:02 AM
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Honestly you’re not alone; I’ve noticed a shift in girls behavior and attitude as of late last year; they don’t want to drink much, they don’t go out much and if they do they’re in groups and guard up; not saying it’s going to be easy going forward buddy, because it’s not, genes have only ever multiplied for those that fought for it to do so; you cannot give up; there is always a way, Try this: When you approach a girl; ask her on a date immediately, spontaneous, and the date must be immediately…
/r/seduction07/05/26 07:40 PM
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Unless she’s religious; if you haven’t smashed by the third date, you’re heading towards the friendzone; 80%of my lays came right after the first introduction
/r/seduction06/05/26 11:57 PM
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You know what your biggest problem is…. You’re making small talk over messages…. It’s a sure fire way to kill attraction…. Get her on a date in person and work from there… my guess is that you aren’t escalating properly… you need to get a little bolder
/r/seduction06/05/26 08:45 AM
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Asking people what to say is like learning to speak all over again; how did you get good, by doing it over and over again, you need to have more conversations so you know how to make it flow as it progresses
/r/seduction06/05/26 08:43 AM
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First tip… never ask her age during the initial approach unless you’re really confident in yourself or you suspect she’s under age; you come off as a creep…. Have a conversation first then you may ask later or she will tell you herself Also don’t read too much into it; ask her out and see where it goes; girls are difficult to read, she could’ve just been having a bad day
/r/seduction06/05/26 08:40 AM
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If we’re talking about seduction then you’re wrong… seduction is the ability to get a girl to like you based on influence; not giving a fuck gets you laid but technically it’s not seduction; and yes not giving a fuck gets you laid more than seduction does, because you shoot more shots irrespective of the result because you don’t care, hence you get more action as a result of the numbers game; seduction however is and aiming to get with someone with the full intention of swaying her into falling …
/r/seduction06/05/26 08:34 AM
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Reps buddy, reps improve anything
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:40 AM
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Aggression buddy; you better go for what you want and that gets you laid; don’t ask for permission; just kiss her; don’t talk too much over the phone, save that for in person meetups; when you first meet her, give her a hug, not a hand wave and hi; you gotta make bold moves for get laid vibes
/r/seduction03/05/26 07:26 PM
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Start off by having more confidence; change your style and get in shape… I can tell you lack confidence from the way you phrased the question?, come and ask me what to do when you got that sorted
/r/seduction02/05/26 04:43 AM
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I know exactly where you are going wrong, because I’ve been there….. You’re probably second guessing firstly, you’re hesitating which makes the girl feel somewhat unsure and to prevent herself getting hurt she friendzones you, the thing is that even if a girl likes you and friendzones you she’s thought hard about it and it’s very difficult to get out of it. Secondly You lack intent and escalation, probably because of your lack of the ability to flirt; and she doesn’t realize that you actually wa…
/r/seduction01/05/26 08:24 PM
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Easy buddy; you need to learn to test the waters, so firstly … show intention; secondly initiate physical touch and escalate that, if you’re both getting playful with your touch, then you’re clear to try and take it further by taking a kiss… gotta risk it
/r/seduction29/04/26 07:11 PM
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There wasn’t a specific number as I didn’t know what I was doing, it was just the grind; on work days, I’d approach 1 or 2 at the time on the bus if I thought they were hot, on weekends it was around 30 or something and I started the weekend thing back in 2017, when I actually started making enough money for outings, the weekday bus vibes I started in 2014
/r/seduction29/04/26 07:04 PM
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It took me about 7 years to get good at it, at this point I have done several thousand approaches, even if it’s just talking on the bus, in the shop, while waiting for the bus, I’ve asked multiple girls on dates on the bus believe it or not, walking on the beach, supermarket, you name it; I became good at it, but remained a virgin for a long time till a gay guy who was a workmate at the time pointed out my flaws; it was never the same, I had the speaking down and now I knew my weaknesses and I w…
/r/seduction29/04/26 08:17 AM
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Haha yeah I know a lot of people and no they aren’t taking girls from me, they’re doing things I don’t particularly enjoy doing which is staying up late, they’re also don’t particularly lack game… they all got game but lack the ability to effectively approach girls, once girls are there then game comes as a result of having resources and getting drunk, I don’t particularly enjoy that type, there’s heaps of plays and like I said I have an inclination towards solo; the social proofing does help in…
/r/seduction29/04/26 08:12 AM
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Do this: 1. Walk up to a girl who’s alone, take as many chances as it takes if you’re rejected then try with a different girl 2. Say “hi I couldn’t help notice you, would you like to hang out, I’m on my way to ( coffee or lunch or dinner etc) and it’d be a pleasure if you join me 3. If she does join you then you pay for the bill regardless of the outcome, be a gentleman 4. During the pseudo date, tell her your intention, that you asked her because you thought she was cute and that you’d like to …
/r/seduction29/04/26 07:22 AM
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You’re one chess game away from the friendzone buddy… if you don’t make your intentions clear
/r/seduction29/04/26 04:33 AM
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That’s kinda how I’ve been managing so far I pull my girl separately, but once grouped, she inadvertently wants to do the things they do like partying till the sun rises.. I’m not a tour leader or anything of the sort; I’m an engineer so nothing given to me on a platter; all the girls I meet are on the spot cold approach Online dating is not my style; but with cold approach I’ve got around a 90 percent success rate in getting the ladies to come and join us, no ones perfect, Yeah I need to set bo…
/r/seduction29/04/26 03:32 AM
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Everything that you mentioned buddy is understandable and trust me; you are not alone, there a heaps of people in the same shoes as you; but if you carry on down this path, you will become a narcissist and it’ll be even harder to get girls, yes they want a guy who knows how to have fun, I’m similar to you in that I don’t know how; but the difference is that I have the confidence to talk to them and I think you should work towards trying to harden up towards rejection so it doesn’t faze you; a lo…
/r/seduction29/04/26 02:38 AM
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Everything that you mentioned buddy is understandable and trust me; you are not alone, there a heaps of people in the same shoes as you; but if you carry on down this path, you will become a narcissist and it’ll be even harder to get girls, yes they want a guy who knows how to have fun, I’m similar to you in that I don’t know how; but the difference is that I have the confidence to talk to them and I think you should work towards trying to harden up towards rejection so it doesn’t faze you; a lo…
/r/seduction29/04/26 12:57 AM
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Conversation skills come with experience; instead of asking interview type questions, ask if she’d like to join you for coffee or something right now, this way if she comes along you know she’s giving it a shot, numbers can be given and ghosted, during your coffee sesh, you ask questions but the intention should be to establish common ground, and that’s where the conversation should henceforth flow uphill
/r/seduction28/04/26 01:19 AM
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Haha I remember that one; responded to that last one too; if old mate is removing posts and reposting like this; dude got some improvement that’s needed because this attitude reflects on your dating life; he probably got needy because someone didn’t give a magic pill, there is none, in my last response I told him not to be needy and this is the exact opposite of that; neediness in any aspect is a turn off for girls; buddy who made this post… DONT BE NEEDY!!!
/r/seduction27/04/26 07:28 PM
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Not something I can write here without it taking 30 pages 😂, I’ll give you one: you got to get her to join you, in any way possible; you must never be the one to join her…. Her joining you means she’s willing to risk taking things further because she leaves her safe space to join you, that’s your first confirmation that escalation is possible, of course this dynamic is more complicated than it sounds… but I won’t say too much; just ask her to join you… for whatever it is but non sus of course; m…
/r/seduction27/04/26 08:36 AM
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Exactly buddy; which is why I don’t see those YouTubers as people with too much game, they’re clout chasers
/r/seduction27/04/26 08:23 AM
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I’ve got a magic pill but; there are prerequisites; like the approach must’ve been successful and you’re on a date…. But yeah there’s no magic pill for those prerequisites unfortunately… numbers game
/r/seduction27/04/26 08:20 AM
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I give you one tip as a seducer: I don’t party hard or get drunk lays, I just chase and I don’t beg; a real seducer knows female nature… and what makes them tick, he adapts to the individual and makes changes as he goes, girls don’t know what they want; you have to convince her that you are in their absolute best interest….Im not telling my secrets but giving you this tip
/r/seduction27/04/26 08:17 AM
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I don’t know about Irish people in Ireland; but Irish people that are outside of Ireland are really out there and very open minded…fun people to hang with
/r/seduction27/04/26 08:09 AM
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Follow these rules: -Don’t go out there with high expectations or in desperation ( you will lose before you begin), have a calm grounded demeanor -I’m assuming you want to just lose your virginity and not looking for a relationship; because the places you’re suggesting looking aren’t suitable for relationships; in which case I suggest being in the presence of people with game and learning from them; those settings can sometimes lead to getting laid nonchalantly but at the same time hurts when yo…
/r/seduction27/04/26 08:04 AM
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Dude… so many things wrong here…. Just don’t bother any more…. Don’t even try calling her out, because you’re just as much to blame; learn from this and next time tell them it is a date; shoot the shot; I don’t imagine you were hoping for a friendzone effect here but you suggested that you were and that wasn’t worth her time; next time just ask for a date; if it doesn’t work then you can be friends; upscaling from friends to relationships is hard
/r/seduction16/04/26 10:15 AM
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I know how to seduce but I’m not telling you because in this case I think it’s unethical Firstly… how does one get out of a restrictive situation with the family… the only way is if she moves out to college or something…. But she will feel guilty all the time even thinking about it Secondly, yes relationships without sex is friendship, but relationships can and do exist without sex, but empty sex is not reminiscent of a good relationship; so if you’re just trying to seduce her just to take her v…
/r/seduction16/04/26 10:06 AM
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You know what this is called buddy “gaslighting”, she’s gaslighting you after going ghost hoping you would chase….
/r/seduction16/04/26 09:54 AM
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This is the only advice they should be following; as in Indian as well… kinda….we’re not dealt the best cards, and trying for different ethnicities is not the easiest… I mean come on, our counterparts in other countries have succeeded in ruining our reputation in a lot of regards, we’re all stereotyped as closet perves, and nerds, not to mention we make such a huge portion of the world’s population that we aren’t even considered rare, and quite frankly we also fall relatively short downwards….. …
/r/seduction14/04/26 09:24 AM
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2 questions to ask them “do you read books?” “What genres do you like?” These are subtle questions that’ll give heaps of insight on what she’s into, but you will have to learn to identify the right strings and pull on them to continue
/r/seduction14/04/26 09:13 AM
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I don’t get hangovers regardless how much I drink… my trick is eating before I go to bed, even if I’m not hungry … ohh and heaps of carbs makes it more effective
/r/seduction14/04/26 08:52 AM
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let me re- phrase … “fun is perceived to be synonymous with bad”, for lack of better words, bad boys don’t get girls by bad behavior, unpredictability … hell yeah… tension… I disagree; spontaneity and giving a false sense of thrill… this is what a girl perceives to be fun; the thing is… people watch too much orchestrated YouTube videos about bad boys and PUAs, people forget how to try and figure out how to be original… but yeah I stand by my opinion that bad boys are perceived to be fun because …
/r/seduction10/04/26 07:27 PM
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Buyers remorse from women… that’s what is happening… it was a spur of the moment thing, not real attraction…. If you were on night game then you should’ve sealed the deal, that’s the only way… the girl probably regrets her decision or feels rejected… one of the 2 and while neither are true… she will still overthink
/r/seduction09/04/26 08:30 PM
13

Nice guys absolutely get the girl…. The thing is …. You gotta be fun; the problem is that nice and fun don’t usually go hand in hand with each other because fun is synonymous with bad…learn to be nice and fun but have boundaries while being decisive
/r/seduction09/04/26 06:21 PM
2

In a nutshell buddy
/r/seduction09/04/26 03:54 AM
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Firstly buddy; you sound like you don’t have much confidence…. You lose before trying from what I’m reading; if you’re going to approach a 10, you need to believe that they are worth your time and vice versa…. I know dating apps haven’t done justice for you but you need to harden up here… the 10s are seldom as stuck up as people draw them out to be…. They are actually less approaches because people are afraid of being rejected by them… you need to also have an abundance mentality. As for actuall…
/r/seduction08/04/26 07:32 PM
2

I pull the hottest girl I that’s at the bar consistently but… I’ve never had a match on a dating app even though I swipe tinder every other day
/r/seduction08/04/26 04:18 AM
2

Approach the group and not just the one girl
/r/seduction02/04/26 04:33 AM
1

I was going to write this but you beat me to it; everyone gotta realize that most STDs are curable aside from HIV, and that is transmitted via fluid transfer, and can be transmitted also outside of sex; herpes can be transmitted in other ways actually statistically 60percent of the world have it on their lips majority being asymptomatic; if someone is worried about STDs, but wants to go unprotected then, find a long term partner, someone who respects your decisions and boundaries, get tested bef…
/r/seduction01/04/26 01:01 AM
3

Could you expand on this buddy; I’m curious… I haven’t been to Aus much but been with a few, where did that order come from and what metric is it based on?
/r/seduction31/03/26 09:29 AM
2

I know a 74 year old doing 20 chin up’s with 6 pac abs and a 5 year old boy… nothing is impossible… he has a way with words… never seen someone so smooth
/r/seduction31/03/26 09:27 AM
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Buddy…. There’s a phrase for this… its called “buyers remorse”, it’s kinda like something that happened in the heat of the moment, and when she came to her senses then overthinking came into play, kinda like going to McDonalds on an empty stomach…. You buy everything you can see and eat…. You regret eating all that afterwards and not to me having the dent in your wallet…. That’s buyers remorse….same thing she’s feeling…. It’s like their version of “post nut clarity”, thing is sometimes it’s unav…
/r/seduction31/03/26 07:37 AM
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Sounds like a very typical Indian drama movie; I’ve been there in the same situation over a liked post… buddy… you need to look outside your normal dating pool, culture makes for certain attitudes in certain countries… try looking elsewhere
/r/seduction30/03/26 12:04 AM
4

People don’t believe this but I’ve seen it work one too many times
/r/seduction29/03/26 10:51 AM
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Ohhhh buddy; I got heaps that the books don’t tell about
/r/seduction29/03/26 02:26 AM
1

My question to you is… ”if you’ve already had sex.. why would you stop escalating sexually?”you’ve gone from not needy… to not interested… if you go backwards, and once that happens someone just replaces you …. Also consider the possibility that she may have not been interested in you (all she wanted was a hookup) so to prevent herself feeling like a slut she made that excuse to get you to pull back a bit and she used that to friendzone you
/r/seduction25/03/26 07:21 PM
1

What all did you do together?, are you just friends?, there’s not much context….looks like you’ve fallen hard for her, this happens when you haven’t experienced these emotions before… you’re self sabotaging your own progress…. You need to harden up and learn to channel your emotions otherwise it’ll happen over and over again; you notice older people and how they react differently in these situations… they’re just like… ok cool,next…. Learn to harden up otherwise you’ll end up at ground zero ever…
/r/seduction25/03/26 07:03 PM
1

Buddy… do this…I’ve read that the moment you text they lose interest… what you need to do firstly is to learn conversation skills…in person conversation skills, not over text… you do this by talking to more and more people ideally the type of person you want to eventually get involved with, even if you fail, you learn how to talk, secondly you have to realize that they lose interest because you’re not creating attraction which is difficult to do over text, what you need to do is to avoid small t…
/r/seduction25/03/26 10:05 AM
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Buddy Buddy Buddy, come on man, you know you wanna ask, “how do I approach a girl sitting alone at the table”…. I’ll just tell you how… pay attention guys… I do this a lot… Firstly you walk up to her… and say “hi”…”I noticed you were sitting alone and was wondering if you’d like to join me at my table”, or bench or wherever……voila… simple as that Now sarcastic tone aside… do not at any cost ask this “may I join you”, or “may I sit with you”, If you ask to join her… you become an invasive species…
/r/seduction25/03/26 09:58 AM
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Same here, I can relate
/r/seduction25/03/26 09:42 AM
0

There’s heaps of girls just like you buddy; the trick is to have to know where to find them; you got to look where they would hang out; like you’re not going to look for a long term relationship in a night club, and you probably won’t find a fwb in the library… but trust me there are heaps of girls that want the same thing as you
/r/seduction24/03/26 07:07 PM
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The word building and quick shouldn’t be used in the same sentence; The fact that you want to build attraction is something that requires time and precision The term you are looking for is probably “attention and impression”; which is what you can get relatively quickly; you want you first impressions to be spot on *the way you dress *your scent *your confidence *the way you carry yourself You carry these onto and through to a meet up where you have time to create genuine attraction…. Think abou…
/r/seduction23/03/26 11:17 AM
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I guess buddy; this is the difference between settling for someone and actually being sexually attracted to someone; Sometimes it all depends on how you make them feel which determines what they do for you, both physically and emotionally And sometimes they just like to tear you down and break your frame because they know their kitty has power over you … so they make you work for it because you are over confident; and this point gives you a big insight into the character of the girl Trying to un…
/r/seduction23/03/26 11:08 AM
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New gen needs to see this
/r/seduction23/03/26 10:59 AM
2

Exactly what I was wondering
/r/seduction23/03/26 10:53 AM
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I’ve had more rejections this year than my past 9 years total doing approaches, the quality of people have reduced that are receptive to approaches; more people just want to stay away from socialising, they want to be in their bubble and on the phone while sitting with their friends; I noticed this starting last year… probably because all the people who had high school or college during Covid weren’t exposed to this outgoing life; don’t be mistaken… while I had the most rejections… I’ve also had…
/r/seduction22/03/26 02:19 AM
1

Go sign up for some bs looksmaxxing programs; don’t know if it’ll work because I’m not into it; your confidence needs work too buddy
/r/seduction20/03/26 07:25 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with feeling that way…it shows that you’re cautious and hygienic, as someone who’s caught STIs before I can give some advice, always wear protection, if you don’t know their history… don’t go down on them; always shower first… if you’re looking for a fwb and don’t want to use protection then best to discuss it and both get tests done and be exclusive and minimal not to mention use birth control ; don’t have too many partners… only ones that are tested…. Now finding them is …
/r/seduction20/03/26 06:50 AM
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I don’t understand how you fumbled; you mean to say you shouldn’t have asked for her to call? I don’t understand; where’s the fumble?, is it the fact that you called texting useless? Never regret a decision… you’re losing your grounding; never talk too much over text because the only way it can go is down after a certain point… try and create attraction in person
/r/seduction20/03/26 04:04 AM
2

Good on you buddy
/r/seduction19/03/26 10:58 AM
2

To answer your question… you have consumed too much garbage, the girls these ticktokers refer to are already the kind that are low quality by standards… low quality girls will send random nudes just like low quality guys send unsolicited d….k pics, it’s different when it’s consensual… but asking a random for nudes is not cool buddy… you need to make mistakes and learn, and you may not find the answers on Reddit
/r/seduction19/03/26 08:28 AM
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Buddy… put on the brakes; those responses are furthest from bad boy … which is what your topic is about, your responses are cringe and to some girls will come off as needy and desperate. If you want to get them to give you nudes, you obviously want them to trust you enough as well and that’s not going to happen; bad boys aren’t know for being bad boys over text… but in person… the persona spills over during text; so ideally you’d want to ask her out; but the bad boy response would be something l…
/r/seduction19/03/26 02:34 AM
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It took me over 4 years to learn game; all through tossing myself into the environment and making mistakes and learning
/r/seduction18/03/26 10:34 AM
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It’s a lot to write down here buddy, I’ve adapted my approach and attraction formula to myself based on my preference and kinks and it wouldn’t be the same for everyone, the principles would be however, but It’ll take dozens of pages to write, I’ve written a few little books but haven’t gotten around to finishing it since it’s a hobby, my suggestion to you would be to learn to discern and adapt, I’ll send you a copy when I’m done
/r/seduction17/03/26 09:51 AM
2

I haven’t read any books of the sort and I’m actually a late bloomer, my dad was 45 when he had me, by the time I was ready to date, he passed away and barely taught me any game, I spent years going out and handing with friends just to see them getting with the hottest girls, and I’d just watch from the sidelines; I’ve always had a gift of talking to people and hence knew a lot of girls, I was always in the friendzone, i didn’t know why, my friends would always come to me and ask me to introduce…
/r/seduction17/03/26 09:39 AM
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Might I add a little something buddy if you’ll take it as constructive criticism…. Those books you’ve read, I would suggest not taking too much of it to heart, they’re highly suggestive and quite frankly out of date… the intention of reading those should be information… not emulation; people back then didn’t have to deal with stuff like getting ghosted because mobile phones were just coming into play, social media wasn’t a thing… you catch my meaning…. Throughout history it has always been a man…
/r/seduction17/03/26 09:25 AM
3

I have not been to many countries…. But I have been to heaps of countries if you catch my meaning…. Germany, Croatia, Australia, Nepal, America, Ireland, Sweden, Indian, England, Singapore, Japan, China, Italian, Spain, France… I’m sure I missed a few from the list but I got heaps to go still…. I didn’t have to leave my own country, just hang out at the tourist destinations; have good game; meet nice people…. And the rest is history…. I’ve been fortunate… what I’m saying is that you don’t have t…
/r/seduction17/03/26 09:14 AM
1

In my experience, coming on too strong can hurt your chances, when it comes to face to face situations…girls aren’t the best at giving rejections… it’s easier for them to give their details and just flake… it doesn’t require them to show their emotions… so sorry buddy in those instances, the attraction factor wasn’t there that would’ve made them want to stay You must ease off on the boldness but not too much otherwise you’ll get thrown into the friend zone …. There’s a sweet spot in the middle t…
/r/seduction17/03/26 09:02 AM
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Don’t lose before you try buddy; the girls I talk to almost always join me for dinner and/or drinks, but then again the environment plays a part…. I’ve been lucky
/r/seduction17/03/26 04:09 AM
1

Remember… if they’re easy for you to get they would have been easy for others to get… the quantity route… may give you STDs so make sure you’re prepared and safe; quality route has a lower chance of stuff like that but never zero; high quality beats quantity any day but if quality is not available then quantity will suffice under the right circumstances
/r/seduction17/03/26 02:34 AM
2

You’re trying the “social circle game”, use your experience from there and pivot to “day game” or “night game” depending on your personal preferences
/r/seduction17/03/26 12:26 AM
1

I couldn’t tell you until I saw you… but if it’s first appearance then you gotta obviously change something about the way you are perceived
/r/seduction17/03/26 12:24 AM
14

I’m mid and I always talk to the hottest girl in the area; every single week; they’re always nice, it’s the lower ones that seem to have attitude… but they talk to me too so I can’t complain… I think they get approached the same amount but more are intimidated to approach at 10 as opposed to a 6
/r/seduction17/03/26 12:21 AM
1

Last approach was great; they always engage, I said hi, I saw you alone earlier and I wanted to say hello; last Saturday…, I talked about a lot of things in common… started to get sexual and tense a little later… but my friends came and joined and everything took a nosedive from there, sometimes your own friends cockblock you without knowing it, when that happened I pivoted and introduced myself to another girl so I might ask her out; previous night … six girls talked to, six contacts exchanged,…
/r/seduction17/03/26 12:15 AM
2

Who the heck is that guy anyway and what made him famous?, Whatever the case; I’m going to tell you one thing buddy; there’s confidence and there’s blind confidence…his confidence is blind… he’s never known failure, tall, clout chasing etc; real confidence is silent my guy, everyone can develop it; on the scale I’m probably a 5 or below but I’ll pull 8s and above; needless to say they don’t come to me; I go to them, while a lot of pretty bois sit around waiting for girls to approach them… they e…
/r/seduction15/03/26 12:54 AM
1

Dude come on, compliments don’t need permission; but at the same time you need to know how to give them…. Don’t just say “you’re beautiful”, you need to be a little more creative than that… asking if you can give a compliment will 100percent land you in the friendzone
/r/seduction14/03/26 07:07 AM
3

Sounds like you’re not ready to be married; you love her but you haven’t experienced life nearly enough to be content with settling; you want more and you realize that there is more to you; you my friend have a bit of soul searching to do because you will feel whelmed by the pressure… talk to her; wedding is not tomorrow… postpone it and actually do the things you want to do and if possible have her involved… and if you don’t want to then that’s your choice…. But you don’t want to have regrets l…
/r/seduction14/03/26 01:55 AM
2

That was totally me buddy, but not anymore; let me ask you a question…. What do you want out of life?, why do you work out?, everyone says focus on yourself?, why are you doing that?, I personally work and train so I can live, I don’t live to work, I work to live, it took me a while to get this into my head; since then I started going out more… I’ve built my work around my life, not my life around my work…. I go out every weekend for a reasonable time, I get my sleep and work out etc. As a resul…
/r/seduction12/03/26 08:56 PM
2

People think it’s changed but if you look carefully; the older guys have a much easier time time pulling girls than he younger ones, seduction has changed because the mindset has changed; people can’t take a NO nowadays whereas back then it would be OK ON TO THE NEXT kinda situation; there were no introverts and extroverts; there was just a need to get a girl and doing what had to be done to get her; the word simping didn’t exist, the internet wasn’t there so the playing field was even or slight…
/r/seduction12/03/26 09:55 AM
1

I meant in the context of control, since you said they want you control you … no disrespect intended buddy
/r/seduction12/03/26 06:44 AM
1

Buddy you need to be receptive and grounded… not lustful; grounded means you won’t be used…learn not to be wierd
/r/seduction12/03/26 05:29 AM
2

Let me better phrase your sentence Girls don’t lust over you but are more receptive of you when you lust less over them Edit: girls would only lust for a guy who’s either 20/10 good looking, has a reputation for having a big tool, or is a Hollywood celebrity or another type like Mr j sins. So don’t expect that response being a common guy like us
/r/seduction12/03/26 02:46 AM
4

My opener change from person to person, but it’s usually a hi, and the follow up is situational; if they’re on the beach, I’ll be like “anticipating a nice sunset today?”, bus shelter… I’ll ask “you been waiting for long for the bus?”, at my favorite restaurant…. “ hi… I saw you look at the menu…. Might I give a suggestion”, there are so many, you have to have situational awareness any the ability to carry a conversation
/r/seduction11/03/26 10:04 AM
1

Yeah that’s my recommendation, take it or leave it haha, ultimately it’s your call, yes if you arrange a date 3 weeks in advance she will expect communication; ask her out and tell her you’ll be back in three weeks; you’ll message her later and check what works for her, then you proceed to make a reservation and ask her if this place works for her, what times she’s free etc; it only kills mystery if you let it die; if you talk too much over text then of course it’ll disappear… messages for corre…
/r/seduction11/03/26 06:04 AM
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Empty the artillery before leaving the house should quell some of that horniness, thing is horniness leads to neediness; neediness leads to the dark side …. Ahem I mean it leads to not being able to get girls… at the very least don’t wear the lust on your face, and work on improving yourself from there
/r/seduction11/03/26 03:38 AM
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I don’t know her buddy, you’re going to have to make a judgment call on what to take her on, what I would suggest however is: Coffee if you’re 50/50 about to scenario and just want to test the waters and see where it leads Activities can possibly lead to friendzone if done wrong, the last thing you want to do is turn her extra curricular activities into a romantic situation doomed to fail Dinner is your best bet, put the intention out there in the beginning and stick with it, you’re going to hav…
/r/seduction10/03/26 07:12 AM
3

I didn’t even read the whole thing buddy… you’re talk too much You’re killing attraction because there’s no emotion behind your written words Ask her on a date and talk about these things in person and that will raise attraction Keep going at this pace and you will put yourself in the friendzone and seem needy…. Ask her out and keep the texts minimal it’ll save it before it becomes too late
/r/seduction10/03/26 05:31 AM
1

Here’s what I learnt: The number of bodies doesn’t reflect the quality of bodies; sure if you want to get laid then numbers is fine but if you want good, real intimacy then you have to go through a process of selecting on whom you’re going to try and seduce If you want a high body count; be cautious of STDs, wrap it up, which is why I mentioned quality earlier also You want to pick one out of a group, you need to make everyone feel appreciated but most likely you will need a wingman maybe even m…
/r/seduction10/03/26 04:49 AM
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I agree with all of this; quality approaches are better than quantity approaches…. But only as a novice or expert…. In the beginning…. For people who don’t quite know how to approach; learning different scenarios might be key, once they’ve mastered themselves they should inherently move to strategically put themselves where their ideal approach would be
/r/seduction10/03/26 04:35 AM
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“Hey [my name], sorry I missed your call yesterday. Hope you had a great weekend” Might I point something out….. “hope you had a great weekend”…..??!!! … read that again It didn’t say “how was your weekend?”, Which means that she didn’t want to carry on the conversation; otherwise the question would come as such; she’s not into you; you probably fumbled or pushed too hard and she’s diverted her energy without wanting to hurt you, sad to say it buddy but at this moment you are just an option to h…
/r/seduction10/03/26 04:24 AM
1

I remember reading that previous post you made; glad you decided to take a chance; one piece of advice I may give if you would take it positively would be: Take the interaction with a grain of salt; don’t rush it or perceive too much at the moment; let it flow naturally; don’t negate the opportunity with the other two prospects unless it’s official with this one; getting your hopes up too early is a one way ticket to hurt All the best, hope to read more about your progress
/r/seduction10/03/26 04:09 AM
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Haha yeah buddy… from here you have to proceed to create chemistry and attraction between the two of you, why did you talk to her in the first place?, ask her out?, take her somewhere fun, hold hands, find similar interests and double down on that, escalate further. Dont: Ask interview questions Talk about the weather Mention exes Talk about future commitments Talk about future dates Dos: Look for common ground Break the touch barrier Use playful banter Learn to flirt Concentrate on the moment K…
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:54 AM
2

Exactly buddy, I hear so many people saying “hit the gym”, or “purpose first”, and I’m not saying don’t do these but they sound like excuses to justify shortcomings, make one of your purposes the foundation of the relationship and build it together is what should be done
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:45 AM
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I was the same; I never club with people I go out and meet people…. This is what you have to consider: If you’re alone, you want to approach girls who are alone and for that you gotta observe a little before making a move …. Going to a solo girl will yield higher results… here’s the catch, girls rarely club solo because of the safety factor so they have a friend Which brings me to the next thing, if she’s with a friend, you need a wingman who knows what’s up and can provide a subtle distraction …
/r/seduction09/03/26 09:41 AM
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It’s a difficult situation buddy, you’re correct the feelings may not be there when you return if you don’t act now… here’s the down of getting her number now however, getting the number and not messaging will make her feel rejected; getting her number and making small talk is a sure fire way to kill attraction and you will lose her; I would suggest to talk to her and get her number; tell her you didn’t want to leave without at least saying hi but you’d like to take her out when you get back; do…
/r/seduction07/03/26 10:44 PM
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I believe it’s about shifting gears to come over to these topics, I do it all the time as well, you don’t bring up those topics right off the bat but catch a hook that will lead to that topic and tug on it, eventually transition, once you’re talking about sex etc, that’s when the magic starts, don’t let the momentum die, and if the opportunity presents itself to get some action… don’t miss it or you will end up in the friendzone
/r/seduction06/03/26 09:52 PM
1

Attraction is more than in the physical sense; handsome is just a visual appearance; you need to develop a deeper connection which takes a bit of sway and deviation You have to be comfortable deviating from the typical interview type questions into a “I’m into this….”kinda approach. You need to have passion and resolve and pay attention to how she responds to such passion while speaking, if something comes of as positive then double down on talking about it also whilst remembering that the conve…
/r/seduction05/03/26 04:10 AM
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If you’re at your place and making out; come on dude…. You’ve missed your opportunity to take charge and escalate…. Never ask for sex…. Always lead up to it….I also think that at that point she probably felt a lot of pressure that things weren’t going the way she intended either; she’s now learnt too much about you before you even became intimate so it’s the ideal time for friendzone, if you had hooked up it would have taken a different path …. You gotta also ask … was there even attraction ther…
/r/seduction05/03/26 03:53 AM
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Food for thought: Are you ok with her shagging other dudes? By asking for a friend with benefits situation means she’s not necessarily yours; both are only there for pleasure so she can get with other guys as well Are you ok with that awkwardness of working together while hitching after hours? Ngl it’ll be awkward as heck, especially if another guy comes into the picture and now you’ll just be used and tossed Are you thinking with your brain or with the guy downstairs? Suggesting fwb means it’s …
/r/seduction05/03/26 03:34 AM
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Have you talked to them before? Or just been in the vicinity with them?, You also mentioned that you’re in that displeased antisocial phase that you wanna break out of… so my suggestion would be to not wear the look of someone who’s not content… come off as someone who’s in control and knows what he wants in the vibes that you give off when you actually ask them out; don’t ask for socials just yet,instead…. Give them your number so they can text you or call… Since you are in the vicinity of each…
/r/seduction05/03/26 03:22 AM
2

Which is why I don’t like de dating apps
/r/seduction05/03/26 03:13 AM
1

In my experience, the 6s and 7s are better in bed because they put in more effort so is just take the win, build social proof, the actual 10s know they re hot and are going to do anything but make it easy for you to get in on some action, there’s one compromise in approach necessary but it’s possible
/r/seduction03/03/26 09:41 AM
3

Insecurities will exist, face it more and you will become desensitized…. Run away from it and you will never improve
/r/seduction02/03/26 09:43 AM
1

Why pretend to be someone you’re not, just post what you want, ultimately you want someone who likes you for your tastes and not superficial stuff
/r/seduction02/03/26 09:41 AM
2

Dude; why does it even matter?, the fact that you seem flustered by this so called performance means that you are giving your attention and energy to her in which case … you should have talked to her… if you are not interested in her … then don’t even think about it… you could literally be reading too much into it, the world is vast buddy and so are the way people think and act. Also the longer you postpone interacting with her… she’s not going to keep waiting… she will move on as well, how will…
/r/seduction01/03/26 05:35 AM
2

A lot of people giving good advice, I’d like to add one or 2 more things: Don’t read too much into the situation; you’ll only stress yourself out; sure there were other ways you could’ve phrased it but honestly it’s never perfect in the heat of the moment; bake some muffins and take it to work for her when you two will both actually be there. I would stop the muffin jokes and your muffins will be the final muffin joke…. Not in a rude way, but in a polite way. You are not really sure if she is in…
/r/seduction28/02/26 07:51 PM
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Depends buddy; I do mostly Daygame and transition to night…I make a tendency to observe my surroundings and see what’s going on, I don’t dig into the next girl when I’m rejected… my goal is to not get rejected in the first place; eye contact is key, confidence is a must; My main go to line is “Hi, I couldn’t help but notice you’re alone in a place like this, would you perhaps like to come and sit with me”, even if she rejects you most of the time it won’t be rude…. “Never ask to join her, you ar…
/r/seduction27/02/26 11:17 PM
2

When you’re in a new country, it’ll take time to adapt to a new culture… not every culture is receptive of hookups etc; for example in Japan… hooking up is not very common and you have to become boyfriend and girlfriend first before hitching … even if you dump a week later… understanding culture is important and your nervousness is understandable… any environment will take adaptation….if you go to Thailand… everyone is literally throwing themselves at you… so it’s not confidence you’re losing it…
/r/seduction27/02/26 10:52 PM
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Firstly buddy, if you’re going to lose weight, you must want to do it for yourself…know that it’s a life’s choice…a marathon and not a sprint Secondly, it’s not the main factor in getting girls, it is a factor however…your main point of improvement should be posture and confidence … abs later You are correct in that you may be able to attract a wider demographic of women by being in shape… I was skinny… zero girls, started working out still zero girls …. Learning female nature is what has helped…
/r/seduction27/02/26 08:41 PM
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It happened to me buddy, I’m still catholic however but I’m flexible; thought I’d wait till marriage before s3x but; saw everyone around me … now I am different and I actually know how to get girls…: was it correct?, who knows, do I regret it? Absolutely not
/r/seduction27/02/26 01:35 AM
1

“also the last time I used apps I got ghosted a lot. how to be explicit that I want to have sex with the girl but not come across as needy because I feel they sense this pretty much every time” This is better done in person; the moment you dabble into small talk over text screams needy; tell her your intentions within the first 10 texts if you’re using tinder…. If it’s an actual dating app then, ask her out and don’t do small talk over the phone, schedule a time and create that attraction in per…
/r/seduction26/02/26 08:52 PM
2

There’s multiple reasons here not to even attempt Firstly… coworker?!… never a good idea… you will only end up hurting yourself Secondly….if she’s genuinely an attention seeker, then it won’t end … ever… but you probably know this… what’s your intention… do you just wanna smash?, even then… bad idea Thirdly…. She may not be an attention seeker, but is a tomboy…grew up around the bros … it’s all she knows, and if that’s the case….she’s not what you thought, but you won’t be able to stomach her ge…
/r/seduction26/02/26 08:36 PM
2

I see so many people here saying 5 is less; which it is don’t get me wrong; all the reasons you wrote are excuses if you ask me from them because they don’t want to be rude to you; maybe a change of location might help, Approaching more people will definitely desensitize you to rejection but it doesn’t solve the core problem of why you’re getting rejected in the first place; while it’s a numbers game, there are guys out there who almost never get rejected… I’m not meaning bedroom but the girls a…
/r/seduction26/02/26 01:28 AM
3

From what you describe she seems nice, honestly I’d have considered staying with her, did you have to leave?, you can always go back, Yes it has happened to me too but in my case, she was hitting on me and there was no reciprocal feelings from me so she got heartbroken, I did feel bad but you can’t force attraction If there is something there for the both of you then I suggest exploring it further if possible
/r/seduction24/02/26 10:56 PM
1

Buddy…. Slow down there; don’t go ghost on her!!, she will then definitely lose interest… you “match energy” with her texting but make sure you don’t disappear; women have more options than men, she probably has 10 in her DMs waiting for her to fold which she will be tempted to try out, and now it’ll be guilt free because you’re not showing interest, it’s a shit test of sorts and you’re playing into her hands, if you met her at a bar, she most definitely has other guys lined in tow waiting…. No …
/r/seduction24/02/26 07:20 PM
3

Buddy we’re in the same boat; I solo my day games and night games; and I get more action when I’m alone because I don’t have hindrance or wingmen turned cockblockers; I have a reputation in my locality as a PUA and because of that a lot of guys come and hang around me to mooch of my opening on convos, in which case most of the time if they are there I end up wing-manning for them; they don’t even realize that they’re cockblocking, then there are the good ones, who are on the same page, when they…
/r/seduction24/02/26 05:01 AM
1

Broooo, you sound desperate and needy, and she can probably smell it; don’t beg for her; be a little more aggressive and ask her for what you want out of the relationship, don’t be needy looking at your phone and block her for something childish, she doesn’t know you yet, why would she give you long essays worth of answers?, you literally only commented on her story…. Skip the neediness, be straight up and ask her out; if it doesn’t then find someone who’s more receptive.. saying you need to sco…
/r/seduction24/02/26 04:52 AM
3

Look here; you don’t really know if you’re actually attracted to someone till much later, anything before that is puppy love; guilt after long term investment is valid… in this case, you tested the waters and it wasn’t your cup of tea… so why would you persist… but honesty is the key… tell her gently and genuinely that you don’t think you’re meant for each other and move on buddy…. She seems kind and so do you so act like mature adults and communicate and move on
/r/seduction23/02/26 02:21 AM
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Yes, it’s not masculine, you will lose all credibility and respect for not sticking to your words. A man sees his word through to the end, you call the other guy simp but you’d be no different if you try and get her back saying “I’m sorry, I’ve changed” Suck it up, move on and live with the decisions you’ve made, never apologize, unless it was an accident… in this case you knew exactly what you were doing The rest is history, that’s my advice, do what you want with it
/r/seduction22/02/26 02:08 AM
2

“ I almost fear the followers of this community are probably nerds trying to reform and get women that are out of their league maybe? What is your guys take on this?” Did you really just say this 😂😂😂,? I have no idea about others, no I’m not looks maxxed or any bs, I’m not balling, actually I’m balding…. Not ripped and don’t have abs To answer some of your questions, looks are a bonus but not a necessity, Yet, I get my fair share of action, not going into details The fact that someone is using m…
/r/seduction20/02/26 11:16 PM
1

This is why it’s called a numbers game; and for the record, any girl that’s on the market can be got, if she can’t means that she’s not on the market… so either she’s in a relationship or not looking to date whatever… if she’s red based on the fact that she is on the market… there is most likely a means to be gotten, I’ve approached a couple of thousand girls, less than a hundred would be what you consider red and that again would’ve been circumstantial…, the other 95+ percent were able to hold …
/r/seduction20/02/26 06:46 PM
2

Law of equal exchange… the more you put in or the more you invest, the more you have to lose… emotions are that kind of thing
/r/seduction20/02/26 06:29 PM
1

I know exactly how you feel buddy, I occasionally go with some friends who are socially awkward in which case I let them vibe themselves out, meanwhile I be the butterfly that I am and make friends, just tell them that I’m going to mingle and do so… there’s no correct way to blend into a group, it’s a concert so if you’re on the same vibe level and connect then consider starting a conversation, you said your social battery was Lowe so I’m considering that it’s usually high so you should be fine
/r/seduction16/02/26 09:37 AM
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Haha … lean in for a neck kiss…. Work your way to her ear, lick her earlobe…. Pull away and gently blow where you licked…. She’s going to turn into a waterfall buddy…… all this if your whole buildup was solid…
/r/seduction16/02/26 05:18 AM
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You’re just part of the options she was exploring buddy; and she doesn’t deserve to have a boyfriend if she’s considering cheating… my advice to you is to not get your hopes up and find someone with positive reciprocation
/r/seduction16/02/26 05:14 AM
1

There are a few things I gather from this: Firstly you said your success rate was low; has the only place you been approaching been the college campus or something? What would you expect from girls who’ve just been set free unto the world after high school… they are exploring their options and trust me they have options… heaps of it…do you think you can blow their mind after one encounter to the point that they will be willing to spend their precious time texting you back? Instead you have to be…
/r/seduction12/02/26 08:15 PM
3

Couldn’t have said it better myself
/r/seduction10/02/26 07:01 PM
1

Well you see I like writing… so I asked a lot of girls what they would like to read about if at all and from there I pieced it together….once I did my chances significantly increased
/r/seduction07/02/26 08:15 PM
3

Its different for everyone, creating attraction is the difference between friendzone and getting lays, you create attraction by finding common ground and making your intentions known, ultimately your objective is to have something that she wants by way of romance, emotional stimulation etc and being able to convince her that you are the answer to her needs… I’m going to give you a cheat code but you have to work around it and make it work for you “Ask her if she likes reading books” This questio…
/r/seduction06/02/26 08:26 PM
11

Don’t respond to that comment!!!, say haha and straight up ask her if she’d be keen on a date… small talk with a an instant way to screw this up
/r/seduction06/02/26 01:26 AM
5

Dude go out …. Buy a bunch of KitKats or some kind of chocolate… walk up to an alone girl and ask if she’s single …. If she says yes … say happy Valentine’s Day and give her a chocolate…ask if she’s expecting some company from anyone if yes, say have a wonderful evening and move to the next; if she’s not expecting… ask if she’d be keen on hanging out there and then… maybe a bite to eat … don’t talk about her ex but try and get into an emotionally invested conversation … don’t pretend not to be a…
/r/seduction06/02/26 01:13 AM
6

I’ve always been good talking to girls and just approaching, but didn’t have the confidence to ask girls out, lost my V plates at 25…talking wasn’t the same as creating attraction…which now I’m a wiz at so I just end up being a wingman for others
/r/seduction05/02/26 08:51 AM
1

Buddy you need some help; seems you got stuck on that focus on yourself stuff all the other single guys preach… all the stuff you wrote should be done for yourself and for no one else… girls will NEVER come to you… they’ll give hints that they want to be approached by you when you’re talking about decent girls during day game… and even then that’s only some of them, most don’t know that you exist… so you have to take the initiative…. Now if you’re talking about the kinds of girls that’ll approac…
/r/seduction05/02/26 08:44 AM
3

Books may help but a lot are outdated; morals and values may change; courses cannot teach you confidence and for lack of someone who taught me I had to learn by going out myself how to be a conversationalist… what you need is a coach or a mentor in game… or probably some good friends who are fluent in that area
/r/seduction03/02/26 12:51 AM
1

I’m an extrovert who enjoys his own company as well; we’re similar in that I don’t like going to those places, but I go to bars often to meet people, even is you’re an introvert just showing up means something, you might realize something about yourself but one thing you should not do is quit before you’ve even started
/r/seduction31/01/26 10:36 PM
5

Eye contact Of course you want intentful eye contact in the beginning to show your interest in her; the Eyes-Lips- Eyes method of eye contact suggests to her that you are intent in making out, if she doesn’t break gaze or look away in that time, it usually means GREEN light to go in for the smooch Words You want to make her feel like the moment is special and spontaneous instead of something you are constantly repeating in your head, words of affirmation will help create that spark… and I don’t …
/r/seduction27/01/26 05:32 AM
2

I know exactly how you feel buddy; men’s voices heard by themselves are like the big string on the acoustic guitar… and conversely a woman’s voice is always like music to the ears
/r/seduction20/01/26 09:00 AM
2

I know this dude; very handsome; tall, lives on a sail boat; got money, the only thing he lacked was confidence, he would get with girls on the occasion but would always need a wingman to start it off; we taught him how to approach and now he’s desensitized to it and getting girls left right and center, almost none left for the rest of us haha, similarly sometimes you are only one piece of the equation away… and the more you do it, the more you get accustomed to taking a NO!…. Repetition is key…
/r/seduction20/01/26 08:58 AM
1

Go for it buddy; but don’t overthink it too much… life is a journey of discovery and figuring out what works for you
/r/seduction19/01/26 07:31 AM
5

I agree, I’m friends with all the managers, owners and most of the staff at the regular bars I go to, they’re always cheering me on and helping with social proofing, not to mention the staff tell me if a girls there alone or with someone so she’s worth approaching… kinda like personal wingmen
/r/seduction12/01/26 07:55 AM
1

Buddy you don’t need a book; you need a mentor… someone you can actually trust…approaching friends of friends; you are borderline asking to be friend zoned; don’t give off that same friendly aura you do with your friend to her, you need intent from the get go…
/r/seduction09/01/26 02:55 AM
2

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that you’re using dating apps, in which case weeding them will be difficult, try and meet them in person or cold approach and approach the ones you deem your type, it’s the easiest way to filter, ask them for a date and set a meeting … won’t take long for you to know their character
/r/seduction09/01/26 02:51 AM
1

Things have changed a lot after Covid, everything is much more online driven, so dating apps are big, but in my opinion nothing beats the good old fashion cold approach, you get to choose exactly the girl you want to talk to, it’s easier to get rejected over messages but people struggle to reject in person, and eventually realize that the one they’re talking to is an actual contender, so yeah keep it real old school approach still works great… the location is literally anywhere… if you think she…
/r/seduction09/01/26 02:45 AM
1

I’ve got 90 percent receptive( they talk, join for a drink etc), 70% of that I get their IGs.. (not numbers because I don’t date local, place is too small everyone just goes round robin),but a good 10-15 percent turn to lays, everyone was lovely, just different boundaries and beliefs so I only really try with ones I truly resonate with… but I’m happy with that
/r/seduction09/01/26 02:41 AM
1

Most likely scenario
/r/seduction08/01/26 09:05 AM
2

Dude you caught a different bus from the one she was riding… it was the easiest initiation of physical touch possible… ahhh well, opportunities like this don’t come often, if by some miracle it does then don’t be so oblivious… physical touch almost always means they are open to escalation
/r/seduction08/01/26 08:59 AM
1

Arranged marriage can be tough buddy, but cheating is not the go here; I would suggest to talk to your wife and probably get a divorce… you gotta weigh your options here, do you want a fair skin girl more than your family… you can still be in the picture with your kids… and you gotta realize that it’s going to be difficult attracting the kind of girl you want if you have baggage. Ideally you want to get in shape and have money as well as western women are less likely to stay during rough times c…
/r/seduction05/01/26 08:51 AM
4

Order of escalation Eye contact- look deep into eyes from time to time Physical touch- initiate physical touch somehow, and become comfortable with maintaining it… if she doesn’t resist… alls green. Eye contact- eyes, lips, eyes …. Slowly lean in as you do this…and go for gold… do it slow to build tension
/r/seduction05/01/26 08:38 AM
2

I personally just tell them that I’m not looking for anything long term before we proceed… if she doesn’t pull back then you escalate and blow her mind… they’ll come back for more
/r/seduction05/01/26 08:34 AM
1

Firstly bro… don’t jerk of to social media pics, it wierd Secondly… attraction is not something that’s purely visual, otherwise every guy would have a solid 10 and the less attractive ones would’ve disappeared from existence Yes it has happened to me too; I just couldn’t get turned on by a girl.. same girl twice… then I realized that I’m just not into her… she didn’t match my energy So yeah it happens to the best of us
/r/seduction03/01/26 06:58 PM
1

Adding onto what he others have already written here; depending on the setting; and assuming your approach game is strong and you’re already with her; the general way to get a kiss is to create tension… good tension…so have good eye contact at the right moment… pauses between talking and just admiring her… just slowly learning towards her…looking at her lips and biting yours… then slowly looking into her eyes…there will eventually be an awkward silence and the two of you will be locked in eye co…
/r/seduction02/01/26 03:47 AM
1

I think you need a little more self confidence; I’m a guy and from a guys perspective a girl who’s actually looking for love is an attractive trait; guys don’t mind the freeze ups at all, be honest with him and say you’re nervous because you’re attracted to him… he will think it’s cute… Do you go out to bars or pubs?, or are you searching elsewhere… the kind of guy you’re looking for might be found in a park or in a shop, if you have social anxiety of approach, you should at least make it seem l…
/r/seduction01/01/26 11:42 PM
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Compliment something she’s wearing… and build up from there… girls dress up means they want to be noticed… and they appreciate it… turn off your brain and turn on your instincts and let the conversation flow
/r/seduction01/01/26 04:09 AM
1

Insta DMs need a follow back first, otherwise you will look like a creep or will seem desperate… try and find out a mutual hangout spot and just approach say hi; if you like her you sure know her by association or somehow… and the fact that you have her IG means you have some access to information… man up and talk to her… it’s the easiest way.. girls like confidence… is relatively hard for a girl to reject someone in person compared to text because text is devoid of emotion…not saying it doesn’t…
/r/seduction01/01/26 04:07 AM
1

This actually gave me some clarity about those guys; so it’s mostly fake
/r/seduction31/12/25 01:33 AM
1

Everyone has their place buddy; you will find yours; experience is key here; you need to get out of your comfort zone and try to become better at normal conversation; I’m the same was never good at it but handing around people who are made me better
/r/seduction30/12/25 09:58 AM
3

Na buddy it’s not a woman shooting her shot… but it’s definitely an opportunity for you to shoot your shot, you can use it to build up the conversation or redirect… if she approaches you with regards to your aroma the it’s up to you to keep her occupied in the conversation thereafter, she’s just being kind, maybe has some attraction but always assume the lesser to avoid getting disappointed, be a man make the move first
/r/seduction30/12/25 09:54 AM
2

Don’t be that guy buddy… just don’t, if you try and do that then you don’t deserve to call him mate
/r/seduction30/12/25 09:52 AM
1

I wish I could make a living doing the same thing; I think most of em use those fake glasses with cameras
/r/seduction30/12/25 09:50 AM
1

I’ve been to a bar and talked to a couple of thousand girls by now … and I still get rejected every now and then and still have anxiety at times, you’re going to have to do better than 3 times to a club buddy
/r/seduction30/12/25 02:50 AM
2

I’ll be going out; I’ve had some of the most fun I’ve ever had with girls I’ve met during New Year’s Eve, but that all depends on the party and the people… things seem to not quite have the same flair they had before COVID, but it’s always fun, you just have to find yourself at the right place at the right time
/r/seduction30/12/25 02:40 AM
2

Yeah it’s good to stay motivated even if you don’t have the means; I’m not quite in the same shoe but I go out alone to the bars every weekend for the same reasons, I talk to probably a thousand girls a year or something; and them being receptive and nice back gives you gratification; I don’t tend to sleep with them unless I genuinely feel attraction but I totally understand that you need an ego boost;
/r/seduction30/12/25 02:37 AM
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