Do women use jealousy?

Affectionate-Bet-649 · 2026-02-28T04:38:36+00:00

they try.

tattooedpanhead · 2026-02-28T23:31:12+00:00

Yes I had a girl trying really hard to get me. Let me see her with another guy. I still wasn't interested.

vertascend · 2026-03-01T05:35:22+00:00

Dude; why does it even matter?, the fact that you seem flustered by this so called performance means that you are giving your attention and energy to her in which case … you should have talked to her… if you are not interested in her … then don’t even think about it… you could literally be reading too much into it, the world is vast buddy and so are the way people think and act. Also the longer you postpone interacting with her… she’s not going to keep waiting… she will move on as well, how will you know if it was performative… talk to her!, does it matter if it was performative?, that’s a question for you to answer

949orange · 2026-02-28T04:48:22+00:00

Men and women use jealousy.

burncushlikewood · 2026-02-28T06:04:06+00:00

Yes, If you notice a woman in the gym trying to intentionally make you jealous, she might be doing this for a few reasons. Jealousy is a great tool in a man's seduction arsenal, trying to make her jealous does work but it can also backfire, certain people react to jealousy differently. The part of the brain that produces jealousy is also the pain centre of the brain.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-02-28T09:19:44+00:00

Both men and women use jealousy sometimes. And it usually backfires in the same way for men and women. It's, in my experience, not true that women respond "better to it" than men.

But you need to separate preselection from "performatively inducing jealousy".

Preselection = other people show an interest in you.
Inducing jealousy = pretending you are interested in someone else.

These are not the same. Preselection is good. Inducing jealousy is usually considered childish and will often drive people away.

pie-mart · 2026-02-28T18:36:50+00:00

We aren't a seperate species. Both men and women can use jealousy. Its just a shitty tactic and for immature people

Who wants to be with someone who plays games and resorts to that? Also, who wants to be with someone that responds to jealousy/games?

rich_god · 2026-02-28T07:29:54+00:00

In your story, I really don’t think she cares about you. You’re way too self-centered if you think that people care about you that much.

To answer your question, jealousy works on insecure people. Also « working » is not necessarily create attraction, it’s to stir up emotions. If you feel moved by her being with another man, which was the case here, then it means you have insecurities that she’s triggering.

And once again, I don’t think she’s doing it for you. The fact that you would believe that is actually something I would process in therapy.

OpinionThink481 · 2026-02-28T07:09:58+00:00

Sorry, but you are not the center of the universe. Her actions are not about you. Just because you feel jealousy doesn’t mean she is trying to make you jealous.

You are making assumptions about her supposedly doing things to make you jealous when in reality ahe probably isn’t even thinking about you at all and you are just assuming it’s about you, which is a sign of being too self-centered.

Title	Do women use jealousy?
Author	thenuttyhazlenut
Upvotes	10
Comments	14
Date	February 28, 2026 4:26 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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