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You’re not meeting people in the right environment or from the right status.
/r/seduction16/07/26 07:04 PM
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In general, women have more options for sex, and men have more options for relationships. Because more men are looking for sex, and more women are looking for commitment. That’s a very broad generalization tho and can vary wildly obviously. Your personal experience may be very different.
/r/seduction13/07/26 08:26 PM
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No. Don’t let your height affect your self-esteem and confidence.
/r/seduction30/06/26 11:42 AM
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It was hers to tell you this, not on you. I’m just saying, if there is sexual tension, act on it. Even if it’s just a kiss, it takes 5 seconds, and it plants a seed. If you don’t do anything it’s like it didn’t happen… because nothing happened.
/r/seduction23/06/26 09:19 PM
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« But I swear to God that I felt a lot of sexual tension because our stares were like we wanted to make out right there, right now. » But you didn’t. Next time take your opportunities, don’t plan other ways to miss them in the future. Wish you the best
/r/seduction23/06/26 08:57 PM
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It’s a different situation. Don’t pay attention to it. Things are going well between you, who cares about how fast it happened with someone else in the past. That’s not relevant to your connection. And yes I would book a hotel and be upfront about it, since she already seemed positive about it. That’s a very normal thing to do. Wish you the best !
/r/seduction18/06/26 02:40 PM
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It definitely is too fast. I almost never take someone’s number on the day I meet them. Exceptions are when something truly exceptional happens between us.
/r/seduction16/06/26 11:15 AM
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How do you get the number ? Getting a number is meaningless in itself, it has value only if you already need to plan something or communicate about something. Usually you want to have a verbal validation for a date before you get the number.
/r/seduction15/06/26 07:14 PM
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This guy knows romance.
/r/seduction10/06/26 03:45 PM
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Your post is literally about people you think are attractive. Your sentence is true but your post proves that you’re not there.
/r/seduction09/06/26 09:00 PM
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No, I meet women regularly in warm settings (social circle, hobbies, events that incentivize connections) and have a high conversion rate of the ones I'm attracted to that usually end up in LTR / FWBs situations. Let's say on average it lasts for 6 months, that means if I meet one woman a month I have around 6 in my rotation, which is more than enough.
/r/seduction05/06/26 10:40 AM
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That’s just not true. I don’t use dating apps and never cold approach and I have very good results. Dating apps and cold approach work for some guys, and don’t for others. There are many different kind of approaches to seduction, and no one-size-fit-all. Volume is one aspect, yes, but efficiency is another and you can GREATLY impact it as well.
/r/seduction04/06/26 06:47 PM
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Yeah you can find them under different names, some of them are sexual but definitely not full-on orgies : cuddle parties, temple nights, sensual play parties, tantric nights, sextatic explorations...
/r/seduction26/05/26 02:56 PM
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I have been to quite a few and organized and facilitated some. Orgies can be very different and honestly it’s like saying « I’ve been to a party », depending on the music, the set up, the context, the people, it’s completely different experiences. The main difference is between « swinger orgies » and « sexpositive orgies ». Swingers are often more primal, with alcohol (sometimes drugs), people are dressed up with sexy clothes, it’s often older people, not really my style. Sexpositive orgies are …
/r/seduction25/05/26 10:29 AM
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You went way too fast for the number. You see her almost everyday, why do you need her phone number ? Talk to her a few times, become closer, then in one conversation you’re like « oh we should go to that cafe » or something and she’s like « yeah sure » and then you ask for the number because it makes sense for logistics. That’s why warm approaches like this work better than cold ones, because you don’t need to go as fast. But good job on trying, that’s how you learn.
/r/seduction18/05/26 09:00 PM
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Well you just explained the recipe so I don’t get your question.
/r/seduction23/03/26 12:06 PM
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Please never use that « you’re trouble » line ever again. I’m half kidding, but there is something interesting in your experience : you had more success with women you were not interested in. That means the way you were approaching women you were interested in wasn’t the right one. Environment matters a lot. Women especially are very connected to their environment, it means you won’t approach the same way if it’s 90% women or 90% men or 50/50 (or day vs night, or indoors vs outdoors, or noisy vs…
/r/seduction16/03/26 06:56 AM
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Lol that’s the most blindsided comment I’ve read in a while. Good luck in your endeavors and thank you for validating what I thought !
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:36 AM
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Well shooting for both is the risky play because you will very likely end up with none, but that's still worth the shot imo if you enjoy this kind of thrill. Basically I would create a group with both of them and casually ask them out both together. If it goes well you can offer them to go to your place or theirs and see what happens. Obviously asking questions on whether or not they like girls, threesomes, without making it too obvious or creepy. Keep the energy light and playful. Being flirty …
/r/seduction08/03/26 04:47 PM
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I highly doubt that you actually want to learn and change your mind. It seems your victim story is so deeply engrained into you, and I don’t think you can overcome this without some help like therapy. But anyway I will still try. You don’t need to be a « professional nba player ». Yes you will probably not become a male model (for that you need the physical features) but you can become a very good player, which is seduction means that you will be able to have sexual and romantic interactions wit…
/r/seduction08/03/26 08:11 AM
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Funny because I would say the exact opposite. On dating apps I don’t know if people are attracted to me or if I’m attracted to them. Pictures / bio and messages are such a poor interface to get to know someone and feel the attraction or compatibility. When I meet someone, I can feel if there is mutual attraction in a matter of minutes. The amount of effort needed to check if there is attraction with someone is so much lower in real life interactions imo. I also feel way more free to express myse…
/r/seduction04/03/26 11:22 PM
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« Why am I constantly beaten in chess against high elo players ? »
/r/seduction03/03/26 03:38 AM
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Sweden is pretty tough in terms of seduction. It’s not a very flirtatious or sexy culture, it takes a long time for people to open and get more intimate. I agree with that person that Spain is probably a good place, with Barcelona being my personal favorite. But if you speak French the south of France is also quite good, like Montpellier or Nice. But honestly it depends mostly on the culture you vibe the most with. I’m more into the Mediterranean culture than the Scandinavian one in terms of of …
/r/seduction01/03/26 10:36 PM
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You deserve better. Sneezing is an instant red flag for me, you’re better off moving on and finding higher quality women.
/r/seduction28/02/26 08:40 AM
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In your story, I really don’t think she cares about you. You’re way too self-centered if you think that people care about you that much. To answer your question, jealousy works on insecure people. Also « working » is not necessarily create attraction, it’s to stir up emotions. If you feel moved by her being with another man, which was the case here, then it means you have insecurities that she’s triggering. And once again, I don’t think she’s doing it for you. The fact that you would believe tha…
/r/seduction28/02/26 07:29 AM
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Very good post. And honestly also applies to women in my experience. Settling for less that what your deepest self knows is what you’re meant to be living is a death sentence. Happiness comes from growth, it comes for reaching higher and higher goals, living experiences that you couldn’t have dreamt of a few years before. And also failing again and again, success and fulfillment doesn’t come if you don’t fail, because it means you’re not even trying anymore.
/r/seduction27/02/26 10:01 AM
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There are plenty of amazing women. If anything, there are probably more amazing women than men at the moment.
/r/seduction27/02/26 07:25 AM
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In my experience if you have a healthy lifestyle, good hobbies, good job that you enjoy, a rich social life and you still. Don’t get any date, it means you have deep traumas that prevent you from opening yourself to people. So I would strongly suggest therapy. And you’re not too old. Stop with this limiting belief, it’s much easier in your 30’s than your 20’s. You’re only starting.
/r/seduction14/02/26 08:47 AM
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You can have a very rich and successful dating life / sex life without doing any cold approach ever. There are many other ways to interact with a lot of women : * Dating apps * Social circles * Work that makes you interact with people * Hobbies * Dance classes / improv * Bars and clubs You only need one of them to have more than enough interactions that you find yourself with a consistent stream of women interactions. I'm not saying cold approaches are not good, but the reason you're not having …
/r/seduction27/01/26 09:04 AM
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So much insecurities in this thread. You can totally go on a trip like this and not have sex with anyone. Do not quit this connection because of your projections. But if you can’t go on a trip with a girl and « not smash » then that’s an issue with you and she deserves better I think.
/r/seduction13/12/25 11:49 AM
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I read the title as « opening hinge massages ». In polyamory a hinge is the person connecting two other people. Basically I thought this thread would be explaining how to have threesomes with massage opening. Kinda disappointed to be honest.
/r/seduction11/12/25 01:06 PM
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Yeah I really don’t think you’re trying to get me point. I don’t really believe you want to have your view changed, and it’s ok. Have a beautiful life.
/r/seduction18/11/25 12:46 AM
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Then you really don’t understand the power of status, and how women psyche works. I can assert with personal experience that any kind of top 1% status will open you to an endless world of women offering themselves for anything that you’d like.
/r/seduction18/11/25 12:42 AM
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That’s the belief that limits you at the moment. A LOT of women want something casual with the right person in the right circumstances. They just don’t want something casual with you at the moment. Do you think many women would be open to something casual with Brad Pitt ? Probably, right ? I’ve seen guys where women were over the moon because that guy wanted to have sex with them when they thought he wasn’t interested in them. That’s the whole « become the prize instead of the chaser » kind of e…
/r/seduction18/11/25 12:31 AM
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This is only true at the beginning, if you’re not very good at seduction. If you haven’t a lot of experience or confidence, then yes the possibility of a relationship is probably the most attractive feature you can offer. But honestly, it becomes a problem very fast. They will know you led them on, will talk about it to their friends and people you interact with in the future and unless you change communities all the time it will end up costing you in the long term. Meanwhile, being straightforw…
/r/seduction18/11/25 12:07 AM
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A bit too basic tbh. Escalation is about moving forward yes, but what does that mean ? It’s about creating safety, intimacy, openness in her system. It’s about creating the feeling that she can surrender to you, that she is held and contained by you. Escalation never stops actually, even if you get into a relationship, it keeps being deeper and wider or it dies.
/r/seduction16/11/25 05:44 AM
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Depends on the sexual tension that you built with her, and how playful she is in that moment, but something like "well if you don't, I may have to punish you" with a smirk can have great success.
/r/seduction01/11/25 10:57 PM
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Don't keep entertaining a connection if there is no eros. She shouldn't have the possibility to "make you wait", that means she has all the power in the relationship. Well if you want to be the exception, you need to be exceptional. Not in the way you look and dress (that's nowhere near as important as people think) but in the quality of experience you make her go through. If you're present, spontaneous, exciting to be with, while also creating safety and depth, women will want to experiment wit…
/r/seduction01/11/25 08:44 PM
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Your whole post is based on an erroneous reasoning. Yes attraction is based on what you feel will bring you more aliveness, but many people are not attracted to joy. You may think that joy is the most attractive feature, but many very attractive people are not joyful. Some are very sad but use that sadness to be creative and make art for example. Some people are angry but use that anger to dominate others and hold power. I think finding your authentic expression is way more important than trying…
/r/seduction20/10/25 11:08 AM
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I don’t know who won but spelling definitely lost.
/r/seduction06/10/25 07:18 AM
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This post oozes insecurities.
/r/seduction28/09/25 06:38 AM
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168cm. Honestly it's mostly in your head, height is nowhere as important as you think it is.
/r/seduction24/09/25 02:13 PM
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5'5 here, height is not an issue if you don't make it one. It's actually a pro in many aspect : easier to look jacked, less intimidating, better hugging height... I have a lot of success and height is not even relevant.
/r/seduction24/09/25 01:30 PM
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You guys know that they are other options to meet people than day game, dating apps and clubs, right ?
/r/seduction23/09/25 11:08 PM
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“Hey, I noticed that you don’t seem to be very touchy. Is there any reason for that ?” The more natural you are with this subject, the more natural it will be for the people you talk to. It’s very normal to talk about touch with everyone, and about sexuality with the people you flirt. And also the conversation doesn’t have to be fun, it has to be intimate. She needs to be safe to talk about potential traumas or past abuse if that’s what prevents her from interacting with you. It’s better to have…
/r/seduction23/09/25 08:05 AM
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Honestly the best tip is that inner game will get you massive results in the long term.
/r/seduction10/09/25 06:55 PM
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I don’t really like the confronting tone you’re using and don’t wish to continue this conversation further. Have a great life !
/r/seduction04/09/25 12:36 PM
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Of course your status plays a role. But increasing your status basically means enjoying your life more and devoting time and energy to your hobbies and skills, which is not specific to seduction. My go-to way to increase status is to organize gatherings or support organizers. That means you’re « part of the team » and it will always be seen as a big plus. Of course you need to love what you’re doing. When I said different countries, I never travel specially to see someone (unless it’s a real rel…
/r/seduction04/09/25 12:18 PM
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Yes hobbies are the main way to connect with the right people for you. Find what lights you up, find where people that love the same thing gather and connect, and you have an entry point into the life you’re looking for. You’re talking about being a yoga instructor, but just going to a yoga retreat, you will meet plenty of beautiful women. If you befriend them they will introduce you to their events and friends, etc… it’s an exponential trend. We’re at the end of the summer and I’ve been invited…
/r/seduction04/09/25 10:08 AM
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I don’t think it’s worth it. Cold approach is good to overcome anxiety and désarmer of rejection. But once you get that point (and honestly around 20 should be enough) it’s the lowest conversion ratio of any seduction method after online dating. If you want a consistent stream of beautiful high quality single women entering your life with a good first opinion on you with minimum effort, the main options are warm encounters and social circles. Once you create the life that fits you and makes you …
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:41 AM
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That’s so not true. Many of the best girls are so dissatisfied from the level of men they meet.
/r/seduction24/08/25 11:44 AM
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The main reason why it’s awkward is that people are used to be judged over that meaningless number, so they may be reluctant to share it. If you care about it it means you have judgement on what is a « good » number and what is « too high ». So it’s not just a genuine curiosity, it’s a test. Making someone pass a test will often create awkwardness. Also most of the time men that care about this number have high insecurities they try to fix by controlling their partner sexuality. So asking this q…
/r/seduction24/08/25 05:11 AM
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It’s like saying that professional long distance runners smoke less than the average person. Porn stars get tested every two weeks and are way more « healthy » on that aspect than most people, because it’s their job.
/r/seduction11/08/25 01:52 PM
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I would just ask her number organically when you’re together. It’s generally widely accepted to ask for someone their number when you’ve been spending an evening together. One easy way is when you’re talking about something (like a song, a video, anything online) to say « give me your favorite social so I can send it to you ». But even now you can ask your friend to give you her number. Like « it was nice spending that time together with you and your friend ? Could you give me her number ? See y…
/r/seduction06/07/25 08:53 AM
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Not many useful answers in this thread. The first thing is how to meet them. It depends on the kind of 10’s you’re looking for. For instance I was close to the fashion world at some point and would be plenty of models or just beautiful women, but I found them often quite bland and boring honestly. Now I’m closer to the sexological bodywork kind of scene, and I’m meeting plenty of (ex-)strippers, OF models, sexual bodyworkers and so on, who are mostly gorgeous women but also who love and enjoy se…
/r/seduction10/05/25 09:34 AM
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Physique is pretty irrelevant to get girls (or more accurately it's secondary). It's your inner belief system that makes the difference. Your physique, clothes, and so on will help support your belief system but it's not what will attract women.
/r/seduction28/04/25 09:04 AM
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Once your calibration skills are high, you pretty much never get rejected (in the sense of receiving a hard « no » to the whole interaction). You just feel when it’s open and when it’s closed, and how to navigate the in-between. But in order to get there, you probably need to get rejected a lot. There is no other way to learn, practice.
/r/seduction08/04/25 10:31 AM
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I’ve had a girlfriend for 5 years (we’re engaged) and a lover for 2 years and a half. Then on top of that I’ve had shorter connections lasting from a few days to a few months, usually very passionate until it fades out. I would say 4 to 5 really alive relationships is a maximum at any given point, and 3 is where I feel the most balanced and resourced. There is nothing special to do really. It’s all about your belief system. If you think it’s weird or difficult to date multiple people, then you w…
/r/seduction08/04/25 06:39 AM
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I don't think you should have only one passion. It's great that you like Physics and can devote yourself into it and be paid for it. But I think it's important to still have social activities that you involve yourself in. You can like software engineering and practice juggling. I would even say that the more "autistic" and alone your passion is, the more important it is to balance it with social and physical activities. Totally agree that you still need some kind of game. I was just voicing that…
/r/seduction01/04/25 03:52 PM
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Some easy ones are being a DJ or a famous artist. But any kind of status and/or power within a certain field will do. Even just social game (having many friends that are fun and successful), or having a successful job that naturally gets you to meet many people, or social hobbies (dance, improv, bodywork, caritative work, yoga, spirituality, activism and so many others). With warm approaches you don’t need to meet as many people since the rate of success is so much higher. I meet about 20 to 30 …
/r/seduction30/03/25 02:56 PM
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You can have tons of sex with very attractive partners without doing any cold approach ever. I would even go as far as saying that for many people, cold approach will not be the best strategy to reach that point. That said, your overall point is very true. It has to become a lifestyle, you need to radically change how you behave, how you think, what you do and what you believe if you want radically better results.
/r/seduction29/03/25 10:40 PM
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Just be myself ? The interesting thing is not what I do in the moment, it’s what I did in the last 5 to 10 years to become who I am today where I pretty much only have to be myself and enjoy my own expression to get fulfilled sexually and romantically.
/r/seduction27/03/25 11:18 AM
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Turn jealousy into inspiration. Be curious, learn from them instead of comparing yourself. Don’t focus on results, focus on improvements and long-term transformation. It’s not about getting a girl in the club, it’s about becoming a person that effortlessly radiates erotic vibration. And then you will have more girls than you can even imagine.
/r/seduction27/03/25 09:31 AM
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If you’re non angry, you don’t have to be. Just tell her it’s not the kind of behavior that you want to happen again. But it seems you need to have a deeper conversation about this friend that you don’t seem to like.
/r/seduction23/03/25 08:53 AM
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Your example is good, it’s exactly how it works. It’s even crazier than that, if you are confident, know what you’re doing, love yourself and present yourself authentically, you will appear handsome (not taller tho). Beauty is not only genetics, it’s also very much connected to your beliefs. But yeah, I am short and had a quite very average face and have had a lot of success with 9+ women after a few years of getting better at seduction.
/r/seduction17/03/25 08:24 AM
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I would just text her like nothing happened.
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:00 PM
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Nah don’t lie, just say « yeah I love to meet new people, when I’m with my friends is to be with them you see. And magic, I’m with you now ». It’s all about keeping your frame and making it like being alone in a bar is actually the most social thing to do !
/r/seduction08/03/25 05:25 AM
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As a man, this is so wrong. You have very little idea of what it is to be an heterosexual woman in this dating world. It’s just as difficult as being a man, even though the challenges are different. Most men are awful boyfriends. That said, I agree that this sub should be mostly for men, just because it’s so different than women seduction. 2 different subs make sense.
/r/seduction07/03/25 06:21 PM
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That’s overpaying. You don’t need much money to increase your attractiveness and you don’t have enough money to have that « fuck me cause I’m rich » energy. Invest this money in professional skills, invest in your business, or just buy bitcoins.
/r/seduction07/03/25 03:27 AM
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What is the problem is them getting attached faster than you are ? Everyone has their own pace at developing feelings. You’re not responsible for their emotions as long as you’re being honest. Also, take the time to talk about where you are in the relationship. After 3 dates is usually a good time to have a talk about what we feel is happening between us and where we want to move in the future. If you feel you’re not going at the same pace, then just talk about it. No need to ghost or stop the c…
/r/seduction04/03/25 08:33 PM
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It sounds like you have a lot of unprocessed sadness and grief around your health situation. I wish you to find happiness, and I would recommend some kind of therapy.
/r/seduction04/03/25 06:34 PM
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Swingers clubs and brothels.
/r/seduction04/03/25 06:25 PM
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That’s not true. Many women don’t care about the hot physique and will be more easily seduced by status and power. Actually the more feminine ones will be more attracted to power, when the more masculine one will go for the good physique. It’s a simplistic view but quite accurate.
/r/seduction03/03/25 06:06 PM
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I started when I was 20 and started having a consistent flow of sexual partners around 27. It’s all about creating the life the supports you meeting attractive people and making genuine connections.
/r/seduction03/03/25 09:10 AM
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There are different strategies. Mine is all about context. I don’t approach much but I put myself in situations where approaches have a very high chance to be successful, to the point where you don’t really need to approach anymore. You just live your life and opportunities just present themselves consistently. Take for example a party in a club. If you’re friend with the owner, or the barman, or the DJ, or if you’re yourself one of the DJs, if you have access to the backstage, free drinks and s…
/r/seduction01/03/25 10:42 PM
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Yes seduction should be part of your life, not a hobby that you do on the side. Once you create a life where you naturally meet women open for connection and sustained loverships / FWBs situations, then it’s not as time consuming.
/r/seduction01/03/25 08:33 PM
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Your life is not exciting enough if you notice those things.
/r/seduction01/03/25 05:40 AM
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You don’t have to say anything, non-verbal communication is enough. If she initiate the topic, then be honest, if not just assume it’s understood. Don’t pretend your goal is something else, be in integrity and honesty.
/r/seduction28/02/25 08:23 PM
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Attunement and listening. If you can see through a person superficial personality stories, and pierce right through that to the deepest longing of their soul, then you can use that as a carrot to manipulate them, without giving them directly (if you do that it creates addiction which is another power dynamic). It’s like a child who doesn’t want to go to school, and you promise ice cream when he comes back. But here the ice cream is what they deeply long for : to be seen, to be loved, to belong, …
/r/seduction25/02/25 01:04 AM
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Did you talk to her about that ? Having multiple girlfriends is definitely a possibility, but it requires commitment and high relational skills. So yeah I would say the first step is to work on relational and emotional skills, and read books about polyamory.
/r/seduction22/02/25 06:58 PM
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Disagreeing strongly with the ambiguity one. In my experience clarity, reliability and holding stability is very attractive, especially to feminine women. Presence (which is the opposite of being easily distracted), not playing games, just being fully immersed in the moment with her is such a deep and intimate interaction that she will usually want to escalate. I like the way you try to model frames, but it seems like you like to play games, which I don’t. The high value frame comes from being h…
/r/seduction21/02/25 08:07 PM
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I highly doubt that. There are so many different types of touch. Just touching a woman on their hips you can make her moan and horny af. If she is still able to say that you need to conquer her, then she is still able to think and talk.
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:57 PM
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Seduction coach ? I think pretty much every other job you would get in trouble for trying to flirt with customers or coworkers.
/r/seduction21/02/25 09:59 AM
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They don’t do it once you start understanding consent. They are not just not as much into it as you think they are.
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:50 AM
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The standard for enthusiastic consent is « fuck yes ! ». Anything else you can ask again. I don’t understand A, both seem detrimental to the trust and quality of intimacy. And for B, there is a piece of her own responsibility if she says no when she means yes. And also, if you notice it, you can also ask again : « really, I don’t want to force anything but it feels like you want it ». Obviously it’s a more risky move so better to use when you already have a certain level of trust with that perso…
/r/seduction20/02/25 08:48 PM
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I’ve been teaching consent for a few years now (and also been a seduction coach, so believe me when I say that consent and seduction go well together) and she is absolutely right. It’s called enthusiastic consent. When you ask if a girl wants to kiss, you want a clear yes. Not because of morals or fear of consequences. Just because a kiss between two people that are burning for it is way more electric and alive than a kiss with someone that is a maybe. Saying “I’m not feeling you really want it,…
/r/seduction20/02/25 06:27 PM
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That’s a bit sad to be honest. Definitely not my experience.
/r/seduction20/02/25 06:05 PM
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Get out of your comfort zone relationally every day. It can be approaching someone, asking someone on a date, giving a compliment to someone, sharing something vulnerable and so on.
/r/seduction20/02/25 10:32 AM
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Once again, you missed the key part : creating genuine connections. I hug people, men and women, because I love hugs and feel more connected that way. Hope is fine, as long as it doesn’t go too much in your head and doesn’t become a way to evaluate your night. A good night, for me, was a night where I was authentic and enjoyed the quality of connections I had. Sometimes I meet people I feel erotic connection with, sometimes not. You can’t trick your mind, but you can stop listening to your mind.…
/r/seduction19/02/25 05:48 PM
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It’s because you’re missing half the sentence. It’s going out with the intent of having fun and create genuine connections. That means you’re still approaching people and initiating, but without an agenda or being result-oriented like trying to have x amount of IGs or something. But sometimes having a challenge like trying to kiss 10 people in one evening can be fun also. The real reason for all of this is just to get you out of your head and more in the present moment.
/r/seduction19/02/25 09:31 AM
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It’s not about the number of dates. It’s about the quality of physical interaction when you are together. You can feel if there is physical attraction and sexual tension.
/r/seduction18/02/25 07:16 PM
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Yes and no. Sometimes being with an unsuitable partner is exactly the lesson you need to become who you need to become.
/r/seduction18/02/25 04:15 AM
2

It’s corny because there is no context. Obviously it never comes exactly like that, it flows naturally in the conversation like if she talks about her job with enthusiasm it’s like « what do you like about your job ? » and so on. The idea is to follow where there is life and emotions.
/r/seduction15/02/25 10:57 AM
2

Well I rarely talk in nightclub environments. Why do you want to have conversations so much, is it really how you have the most fun ? Usually I like to dance, maybe talk for a short moment, maybe share a drink, be with my friends, meet groups of people. Also clubs are very different, if you’re in a techno, house, Latino, or hip hop club the interactions will be very different. Also the country, the city… But yeah, if you want to have long conversations with people, nightclubs are probably not th…
/r/seduction15/02/25 10:52 AM
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It seems you’re too focused on some end result like getting numbers or instagram, instead of focusing on having genuine connections and a great time. If you want her number / IG more than she wants yours, it will probably lead nowhere.
/r/seduction15/02/25 09:00 AM
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« What’s the most exciting aspect of your life at the moment ? » or « what are the dreams you’re still chasing ? » and then dive into whatever she brings. It’s all about finding common excitement.
/r/seduction15/02/25 02:02 AM
2

First, I totally agree with the consent-driven approach that is already in this thread. If you don’t know, just ask. There are two degrees of « touch mastery » : - physical touch - erotic touch To get more comfortable with physical touch, the key is to… have a lot of touch. With everyone. Your friends, family, strangers, anyone. It’s especially easy to practice with friends. Give them a warm hug when you see them, find ways to give them affection through touch. This will teach your inner animal …
/r/seduction14/02/25 09:32 PM
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It’s also about how long the touch lasts. If you’re holding her hand, hugging her while making soft sounds, spooning her, dropping some kisses on her neck, dancing with her sensually… that’s more erotic.
/r/seduction10/02/25 06:17 PM
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Your belief system is preventing you from having what you want. It feels like you have shame around the kind of relationship you want. You’re projecting that women want to be lied to, and I’m pretty sure that when you connect with someone you’re oozing with this kind of insecurity or blurriness around who you are. Stand for who you are, shine with your own unique light and I can assure you that the people that are matching this will come running. Be proud of what you want, and it will become att…
/r/seduction09/02/25 09:34 PM
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That’s such a weird question. You will find all sorts of of people with all sorts of partners. A story you make out of it is yours, it’s a projection. I personally only go for women who are into open relationships and already have a main long term partner so there is no chance that they want partnership with me. It’s not a problem if you know why you have this filter and you own it. You will find people that really match what you’re looking for if you have clarity.
/r/seduction09/02/25 07:37 PM
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It’s normal because there is a lack of erotic connections in your life. If you have no money and don’t know how you’re going to pay the rent, it’s normal to obsess over money. Once you have a stable relationship or you are fulfilled in term of intimacy, erotic connection and romantic love, your obsession should decrease. If not, it’s called sex addiction and it’s another thing.
/r/seduction09/02/25 08:33 AM
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I just think your way is not his way. I’m also an introvert and I’ve never had success in clubs, parties, any kind of late-night social environment. I’ve also never had success in dating apps or online dating. I’m the worst weirdo in any loud place, especially if people are drinking. The lifestyle you describe seems like a nightmare to me. That said, I still have plenty of friends, lovers and FWBs. I feel very fulfilled sexually, emotionally, socially and professionally. I do my dream « job » (i…
/r/seduction08/02/25 09:41 PM
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That’s just so weird to me. But to each their own I guess.
/r/seduction06/02/25 03:44 AM
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How you would feel ? Probably in love ?
/r/seduction06/02/25 12:12 AM
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I’m 32. I don’t drink, I don’t go to bars or clubs, I like to go to bed by 11pm, I don’t use dating apps or any social app, and I have a very active social circle that makes it so I don’t have to do any cold approach to meet plenty of new women every week. You need to find your tribe. During your meditation, try to call them in. Who are the friends you’re meant to be having ? What do they do ? How are they actively trying to meet you ? My way was to go to ecstatic dance / cacao ceremonies / smal…
/r/seduction04/02/25 08:07 PM
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Really depends on how often you see each other. I have had one for like 3 years : we are part of this friends group that I see once or twice a year for like a week each time, we have sex, have threesomes, just have a good time and barely text each other for the next 6 months to one year. Also some FWBs will go for a few months, then relationships happen and you stop for some time, then connect again when you’re available and so on. And some of my best friends were former FWBs that consumed the s…
/r/seduction03/02/25 02:56 AM
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Did you know that most guys, if you ask them to go to a stranger naked and pretend their dick is a flute will say « I’m too tired » or « this is really fucking weird man ». But the real reason is that they are scared. Is that really what a man looks like ? A guy who made millions, crushing it at the gym, but still too scared to pass their cock as a flute to a stranger ? Is that a successful man ? Does it even matter how much you’ve achieved if you can’t face your biggest fear ?
/r/seduction31/01/25 09:36 AM
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Dude. Not a single time in that story you told her any actual truth. Do you expect her to solve a riddle or something ? Be honest, own your truth. Lying or avoiding sensitive topics shows insecurities and creates disconnection. If I was her I would believe you’re not interested and just want to be friends. Even if it is obvious to you in the inside, it probably isn’t for her if you play games. When you want to give her your number right away, tell her (or tell her that you don’t believe she will…
/r/seduction29/01/25 06:00 AM
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Basically patience, honoring their boundaries and making them feel safe and welcome in their pace. If they didn’t contact afterward it’s probably that they felt some kind of pressure or urgency in having sex, when it was not their rhythm. When women don’t feel safe, unless they have some weird attachment issues, they will step out of the connection. But the opposite is true, so if you manage to make them feel safe and also holding your desire and being clear in your energy that you want to have …
/r/seduction29/01/25 01:46 AM
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What study is that ? Is it based on pictures or real life encounters ? Because it seems it would be based on pictures, which is not what I’m saying.
/r/seduction29/01/25 12:35 AM
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What ? I’m obviously talking about men. Peak male success in seduction is usually around 35 and definitely above 30 (if you take at least a little bit care of yourself of course). For women it’s around 20-25.
/r/seduction29/01/25 12:14 AM
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Your best years in term of attraction are your 30’s up until your mid 40’s (obviously every person is different but that’s a general law).
/r/seduction28/01/25 07:15 AM
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I think naturally the more self-esteem and confidence you get, the higher the threshold to actually find someone attractive. First you will only be looking at the prettiest women, then beauty is not enough and you also want them to have some depth, be fun to be with and so on. It’s like if you have more money you will look at more expensive cars. It’s pretty natural.
/r/seduction28/01/25 04:18 AM
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“I’m into connection, why would you think your genetic origins matter so much ?”
/r/seduction27/01/25 08:07 AM
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Well if you want something really dedicated to animal magnetism you can look into primal therapy. Try being more in your body, feeling the sexual tension, let the silence settle and take all the space. Go into touch slowly but assertively, she should be feeling your touch. Like a lion with a prey you want to be slow and knowing that you will feast tonight. It’s all about the energy, so you can practice by taking care of your inner animal, working out, eating proteins, being hungry for life.
/r/seduction25/01/25 10:54 PM
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I partially agree with point 1. Dress good yes, but dress in a way that suits you and the audience you are targeting. My audience is more of the yoga / ecstatic dance / sober partying / self development / esoteric spirituality / vegan / borderline anarchist. So if I dress in a coat then I would look like a clown. I dress with high-end creative and fitting clothes that make me stand out in the field and really attract women and men alike. I also have a great body and make sure to subtly make it s…
/r/seduction25/01/25 10:10 PM
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What do you mean ? I literally had sex for the first time a week ago with someone I met two years ago. I would say I have about half my new sexual connection with people I met recently and half with people slowly orbiting into erotic connection. Obviously those ones are more “sex friends” than romantic relationships.
/r/seduction25/01/25 09:02 AM
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Sometimes seduction is like gardening : you plant a seed and you only gather the fruits months or even years later. Obviously that doesn’t mean putting time and energy into the connection, but just keeping it open while you live your life.
/r/seduction25/01/25 06:26 AM
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Most of the time there is no « instant no », and if there is one it’s because of something you did, not only the way you look.
/r/seduction22/01/25 11:58 PM
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If you think the sex that most girls are offered is « delicious food » then you’re far from reality. Many women don’t have sex on a regular basis. You’re thinking like a thirsty man, not like a fearful woman.
/r/seduction22/01/25 06:25 PM
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I would say a couple days, up to a week is a good timeframe. It depends on your age and culture but I feel that less than two days feels insecure, and more than a week is like things moved on. Sometimes I will send another message a month or two later, just checking if there is some life. That depends on the depth of connection you had before of course.
/r/seduction21/01/25 06:26 AM
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Well I disagree. I can build intimacy with a friend, with someone I just met, with a lover, with a coworker. It’s a quality of connection.
/r/seduction10/01/25 07:54 PM
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Yeah exactly. My style is to build intimacy very quickly (it’s something I’m very good at) and go into vulnerability for myself and the other person. Building trust is the most important step I agree.
/r/seduction10/01/25 01:00 PM
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Hey, French here. It seems like you’re valuing your phone too much. It’s very normal here to take several days to answer messages on social media, or even to not answer at all. Instagram follower count and things like that are seen as professional tools, but have little value in seduction. We value actual physical presence much more, especially to flirt. Don’t try to flirt over messages and don’t try to call. Messages are for logistics and that’s pretty much it. Focus on spending great time with…
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:11 AM
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It depends on your style and personality. I’m a sucker for depth so I go full vulnerability and traumas even before the first date. And it works very well because it’s where I flow and feel the most confident. It’s actually when I try to do « fun stuff » that I get boring and awkward. Obviously I will connect and attract women that are into depth and psychology.
/r/seduction10/01/25 07:50 AM
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Well yes and no. I agree that inputs are the only thing you can control, and therefore where you should be focusing your energy. The goal is not to get numbers, it’s to be good at seduction. But where I disagree is that the only thing you can evaluate is outcomes. You can only judge your ability by the results you get. When you say “am I bringing a good energy ?” Well the only way to judge that is the feedbacks you get. If people reject you more often than the average, then it means the quality …
/r/seduction31/12/24 02:38 PM
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Yes, when you’re interacting when other people, the most attractive way you can behave is to be authentically yourself. That’s how you will be the most relatable, the most relaxed, the most outcome-free, the most open and so on. But it’s nothing if you don’t work toward being the best person you can be. Basically I feel like if you do things right, when you meet someone there is nothing special to do, you just naturally attract people and opportunities. That state of flow can only happen if you …
/r/seduction29/12/24 01:27 PM
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It’s just as selective tho. Only a very small percentage will make it to the top. You’re just judging the qualities that it requires as having less value, but I can assure you that being a top onlyfans earner takes a lot of hard work, dedication and yes, some good genes, but so does being a good nba player. I think it’s just mirroring your own judgement. Don’t focus of what others are doing, you will only get drained from that. Focus on your own success and purpose and you will feel empowered.
/r/seduction26/12/24 09:20 AM
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You’re comparing onlyfans girls to nba athletes and that’s a fair comparison. There has been men making millions putting a ball in a net for decades, but it’s only a very small percentage of men. Same with onlyfans for women. Female athletes have been making less than men, but on onlyfans it’s the opposite. I can assure you that 95% of women would not make good money on onlyfans. And only psychologically it’s a heavy pressure and definitely a very difficult job.
/r/seduction26/12/24 07:46 AM
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Yeah like others are saying, the number is the least important thing. Focus on the quality of the interaction. Places were I’ve had the most repeated quality interactions are doing hobbies, in festivals, seminars or any event that lasts over several days, spending a few days at a friend’s place and meeting their friends, traveling, things like that. Creating meaningful connections usually need spaciousness. I don’t like « junk social interaction » like bars, clubs and so on. And even less cold a…
/r/seduction23/12/24 08:50 PM
5

Long hug into kiss is a banger.
/r/seduction23/12/24 06:26 PM
2

Every frame is a power frame expressed in different ways. Basically holding your frame is saying « I’m unapologetically myself and no one can change that or damage the love I have for myself ». The surface frame has no value whatsoever, it’s always about power.
/r/seduction17/12/24 02:19 PM
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Okay you do you. I wish you a good journey.
/r/seduction26/11/24 03:26 PM
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That’s a victim mindset. There are opportunities everywhere all the time, I’m 100% responsible of the life I create for myself. That doesn’t mean there is no privilege and it’s important to be grateful and aware of what life has given you, but never use your past or any excuse really to not be living the life you’re meant to be living. If you have dreams, fantasies, desires, then it’s you responsibility to hold them sacred until you experience them. Luck can happen once, when something repeats i…
/r/seduction26/11/24 03:02 PM
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Find the thing that you're meant to be doing for the world, the thing that excites you to the core of your being and is also exactly your truest gift, and offer that to the world. That will open a world of opportunities like traveling, meeting inspiring people, being recognized in your field, being invited internationally and so on. Then the next step is to master your sexual energy so you can create sexual tension in any interaction, even the most mundane. It's not about words (unless you're a …
/r/seduction26/11/24 09:54 AM
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Nope, it's not luck if it's consistent and reliable. I meet new women weekly in settings supporting meaningful and intimate connections. I'm going to give you an extreme example to illustrate: if you are a famous DJ / musician, you will have a neverending line of beautiful women coming at you. It's about creating a life that makes it possible. Luck would mean that it's out of your control, when it is instead the result of very careful decisions.
/r/seduction26/11/24 08:55 AM
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It's neither skill or luck, it's personality and self-love. As an average guy, you can easily get to meet sexually 10 to 20 women a year without alcohol, dating app or cold approach. Just by living your life, meeting people organically and oozing with sexual energy. It's not skill, it's building a life when it becomes the norm, where beautiful women will approach you with that intention, where you become the prize.
/r/seduction26/11/24 07:53 AM
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I would probably use some polarization like « I don’t believe in age difference, maybe your soul is older than mine » or something like that.
/r/seduction25/11/24 07:56 AM
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Well, for starters stop giving grades to people or yourself. Since you put yourself in the 6.5 box, anytime you feel someone is « higher » than you, obviously you will feel inferior. It puts you in your head and prevents you from actually being present and available for the connection. Consider everyone as a unique human being and be curious about them instead of focusing on your perceived value. Try to genuinely connect, be in your body and vibrate your presence.
/r/seduction21/11/24 05:08 PM
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I’ve experienced different therapeutic modalities yes.
/r/seduction14/11/24 04:17 PM
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No, not at all. I support wellness festivals in their programs, line-ups, and overall artistic direction, and I organize my own retreats. The very same principles I talked about, I help other people embody them and become a more alive and vibrant version of themselves.
/r/seduction14/11/24 10:09 AM
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/r/seduction13/11/24 06:22 AM
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France, why ?
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:12 PM
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That’s where therapy helps. But also loving yourself starts with a choice to never ever let you down. Don’t let your past be an excuse for not living the life you’re meant to be living.
/r/seduction12/11/24 09:32 PM
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Yep, that’s exactly the kind of voices I would not allow myself to listen to. And it happened to be way easier (and more common) than I thought. Find what you love and are good at Do it until you’ve mastered it Find a way to get paid for doing it Don’t let anyone or anything pressure you into sacrificing the time you need for yourself and other aspects of your life
/r/seduction12/11/24 09:30 PM
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I feel like the appearance, the confidence, the attraction, and the sexual tension they're all consequences more than something I changed consciously. It all comes down to committing to loving the fuck out of myself no matter what, and creating the life that truly makes me feel alive. That means creating the job of my dreams which still gives me plenty of free time, spending time only with people I love to the core who inspire me, having a very healthy lifestyle with no alcohol, plenty of sleep,…
/r/seduction12/11/24 03:29 PM
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Honestly there's no better high on this planet than having women lusting after you Like everything, it gets old after some time. Quite fast actually. I used to crave this kind of attention, of physical compliments, women wanting to touch me, cuddle with me, be in my arms, kiss me, and so on. I changed my appearance, developed a very nice physique, gained a lot of confidence, learned to love myself, dressed better, got nice and soft skin, started dancing better and be just so much more at ease in…
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:20 PM
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Yep, very true. Basically any impulsive answer like "move on", "forget about her" and so on comes from insecurities. If you're grounded, secure in who you are, self-loving and radiating your purpose in the world, you'll be less and less fixated and triggered by any specific behavior. Did she ghost you? It's fine, just send another message a few weeks later like you didn't even notice. Does she flake on a date? It's fine, you actually got some time for yourself, just plan for another time or even…
/r/seduction10/11/24 12:02 PM
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I’d go down on the drugs that make me so paranoid.
/r/seduction09/11/24 01:44 PM
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Well then it’s probably that something in your appearance is not engaging, or scary. Hard to say without more information but those environments are made for connections and meeting new people so if you’re not met with warmth, it’s probably something to do with the way you present yourself.
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:55 PM
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And you don’t have eye contact in these environments ? Maybe you’re expecting something bigger than it is. Eye contact is usually quite short, with a smile.
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:31 PM
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It’s because you don’t go to places where women actively want to meet people. Ecstatic dance, cacao ceremony, salsa class, social bars, talking cafe, conferences, even some shows like cabaret, and obviously friend parties.
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:27 PM
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Yep, that's the thing. You have been to the darkest places of the human psyche, and now you need to find a way to trust women again. But you need to see that your experiences are not representative of all women, and even that these women are not bad people, they are just lost. You've trapped yourself in a place of loneliness and despair. You need friends, non-sexual relationships, things that light you up and make you see the beauty and love in the world. Once again, therapy would be very suppor…
/r/seduction03/11/24 10:36 PM
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You didn't "win" the game, you fell for the illusion. I went there too, even though I quit before you. Having a lot of meaningless sex with many pretty women is like everything, it gets boring very quickly. Obviously when you are hungry for sex it seems so weird and a great problem to have, but it's not. What will happen if you continue is more and more dissociation until sex feels like a chore. Usually you start having health problems also. Sex is not fulfilling in itself. True intimacy is. We …
/r/seduction03/11/24 09:33 PM
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No. Cold approaches are good for one thing : get over rejection anxiety. They are still, for most people, a terrible strategy for seduction. If you really want to have many beautiful women attracted to you on a regular basis, the actually successful strategy is to lead an exciting life, love yourself to the core of who you are, create many opportunities to meet plenty of people on a deep level naturally, and then be attuned enough to bring those connections into physicality and sexuality. But ma…
/r/seduction03/11/24 06:54 AM
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God you need to grow a spine. It means she’s not attracted, and you need to learn how to put boundaries. Yes you’re getting used, and you’re 100% responsible of that.
/r/seduction29/10/24 08:22 AM
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That’s where having true friends becomes handy. Real friends will not try to please you and will tell you your shadows even if it hurts. The more friends like that you have (especially if they are good at seeing through your bullshit), the more reflections you can have. This whole process is called shadow work by the way, you can look it up.
/r/seduction28/10/24 04:28 AM
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Wtf why would have a problem with her having a threesome in the past ? That’s one of the most insecure shit I’ve read in a long time. “To even the scale” ? Dude you need therapy, not a threesome.
/r/seduction24/09/24 02:29 AM
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Seems like you tried to do way too many things in that date. But honestly, the quality of the match or the escape game don’t matter in terms of of your connection. The question is : did you connect emotionally and physically, did you feel a spark between you, do you feel life and joy flowing between you ? Everything else is irrelevant. And you can also ask her how she felt during your date. It’s very likely that you’re creating stories in your head and what she went through was actually very dif…
/r/seduction22/09/24 09:35 AM
1

Meditation or therapy will help. You can try some psychedelic assisted therapy if you want something radical.
/r/seduction21/09/24 02:01 AM
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No shit tests are not filtering tactics, they are tests that you can fail. Like if she speaks about another guy to see if you’re able to keep your frame. Tests are made to see if you have the relational and emotional skills. Of course if you don’t, and fail the test, you will be filtered. Here it’s just her checking if you are on the same wavelength. It’s not a test, it’s bringing clarity.
/r/seduction15/09/24 06:33 AM
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You realize it’s not a shit test, right ? It’s just someone filtering you and you trying to pretend you’re someone you’re not. You both want different things, why would you try to lie ? The only way to « pass » this is to genuinely and authentically be looking for something serious. Then you can say « I’m not playing actually, and I’m truly looking to build something solid with the right person. It may be a bit early to know if it’s with you but we’ll see. » But if you are playing, no matter wha…
/r/seduction15/09/24 05:14 AM
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I think honesty is always a good call, but « having fun » is not a good way to call it. Something like « I’m really enjoying our physical and erotic connection, but I don’t feel like we’re heading toward a romantically relationship ».
/r/seduction10/09/24 11:13 AM
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Why would anyone want to hear about your bike trip ? Unless she expressed a passion for biking, it’s just very weird to tell someone, « hey, wanna hear about my life over the phone ? » Phones are for logistics, the only reason you would exchange numbers is to see each other again. So first you need to spark that desire, and then give number. You’re going way too fast for the number when there is actually no tension, no fire. Create a moment, a connection, and then go from there. Getting a number…
/r/seduction14/07/24 07:14 AM
2

I actually like double dates a lot, it removes a lot of the pressure for things to go in a certain way. You can just have a good time the four of you to get to know each other and when you feel more at ease you can split and go 2 and 2.
/r/seduction11/07/24 02:04 PM
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Easy success with 8-10 doesn’t mean every girl would sleep with you, it means you regularly get those girls with little effort. You really don’t have to be Brad Pitt for that, just have the right mindset. And the gym will help you create that mindset.
/r/seduction19/06/24 07:46 AM
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You’re creating the reality by believing it matters. It doesn’t. I’m 5’6, not Indian but very average looking. It’s not relevant if you don’t let it be. I truly believe that I’m the most attractive guy any girl could dream of, and I create a reality that supports that.
/r/seduction13/06/24 04:39 AM
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No it’s not correct. But it’s not so much about what you do, more about the mindset you have that your actions express. Initial attraction is only important if you have a basic behavior that will not make you more attractive when people know you more.
/r/seduction12/06/24 09:06 PM
1

If you have time to be too involved with one woman, then you have the time to meet multiple…
/r/seduction12/06/24 09:01 PM
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Yes I usually go for women around my height or shorter. I'm not really attracted to tall women anyway, I'm more into the cute type than the top model one. Height is the number one thing women use to filter their partners in a second! That's why I said in the right settings. If you're in a club or somewhere people will filter each other very quickly, it's obviously better to have the classic beauty standards. But in a cafe, anywhere where you have time to talk and introduce yourself, it doesn't m…
/r/seduction02/06/24 09:51 AM
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I’m 5’6 and usually get the prettiest women in the right settings. If you believe this is a problem, you will create that. If you know in your core your value as a man, height doesn’t matter.
/r/seduction02/06/24 03:52 AM
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What are the most exciting aspects of your life ? What turns you on in your day-to-day life ? If you’re excited and authentically fulfilled by your life, you will attract people and opportunities. If you depend on women to have your needs met and to feel alive, you will be needy and repulsive.
/r/seduction30/05/24 07:53 AM
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The different qualities of touch, the look in the eyes, the posture, the relaxation of the body, the way the person moves, the ease to make sounds, the joy… all of that are good indications that you can recognize when you have experience with them. Hugging someone is usually enough for me to know if we’re highly compatible sexually.
/r/seduction28/05/24 08:54 AM
2

What ? She could have 15 partners in one year and then a 9 year long relationship. Hell I’ve had 15 partners in a couple months before…
/r/seduction07/05/24 04:28 PM
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Holy shit really ? I would have said more than 60 is high. 15 sounds quite low to me for someone older than 25.
/r/seduction07/05/24 03:18 PM
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My gf of 5 years has a very high body count, way higher than mine. A lot of girls go through a « hoe phase » where they use their body as a way to feel loved. It doesn’t last very long usually. So yes, I would.
/r/seduction07/05/24 03:16 PM
1

What are you on ? I could share drinks with my family.
/r/seduction23/04/24 04:00 AM
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Inner game. Become the prize by building abundance in your life, and soon enough you will be picking instead of chasing.
/r/seduction22/04/24 06:03 PM
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Social bars are bars with added intent of social activities. It can be board games, creative activities, karaoke or other things, I’ve even been to a bar where you can do some sort of pottery, it’s great way to connect with strangers.
/r/seduction15/04/24 03:14 PM
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For me the most efficient is to go to places I love and activities I like. Bonus points if it’s inherently social and/or body-oriented. My top 3 is probably dance classes / social bars / psycho-spiritual workshops (like breath work, ecstatic dance, cacao ceremonies, 5 rythms dance, kundalini yoga, drum journeys, tantra and so on).
/r/seduction15/04/24 02:34 PM
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Well in my case, I’m always more attractive when I’m having fun and enjoying the time I’m having. If I’m not feeling well, people can feel it and girls will not react positively. Personally I don’t like loud bars and most clubs so I don’t go there, I have way more success in places where I’m having a good time anyway. It’s not creepy, it’s just less efficient in my opinion.
/r/seduction15/04/24 01:56 PM
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The more neutral a place is (the most extreme ones being public spaces like the street or the grocery store) the less likely an approach is to create a meaningful connection. People are not usually open to connect intimately when they go to the grocery store, so you really need to stand out or approach thousands of people. It’s usually way more effective to connect through hobbies, friend circles or social places like bars and clubs.
/r/seduction13/04/24 11:08 PM
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Short answer : yes. You’ve been with girl with anxious attachment, so they get addicted to you and seek validation and attention to feel loved. Especially when you’re not together. Someone with normal attachment will not initiate texting unless needed, because she is living her life and doesn’t need to connect with you all the time. She knows you will connect at the right time and they time together is always more quality than texting. It’s actually a solid green flag.
/r/seduction09/04/24 12:34 PM
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It’s actually a very good post, thank you for that. It’s not as obvious advice as everyone here make it seem.
/r/seduction05/04/24 11:34 PM
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More like a deep hug but yeah you get the spirit 😉
/r/seduction04/04/24 11:34 AM
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Paris 🥖
/r/seduction04/04/24 09:10 AM
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I guess it’s a cultural thing but where I live I feel like making out for a few seconds would not be considered as cheating, especially with someone you already did it with in the past. Making out is so nice, I wouldn’t want to stop doing it because I’m in a relationship, or make anyone else stop doing it.
/r/seduction04/04/24 07:54 AM
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No matter how gorgeous or skilled you are, there's a 90%+ chance that any given girl will turn you down. I hate when people say this, it's completely false. If you know how to read clues, if you know how, when and with whom to approach, you can change those odds to maybe 50% or even 80% success chance, even with the most pretty girls. That mindset of "it's a number game anyway, just approach approach approach" is the very reason your success rate is so low, because you see each new girl as a num…
/r/seduction26/03/24 12:08 PM
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It’s usually not recommended to hit on girls when they’re working. They are paid to be nice, there is nothing authentic about the interaction, you’re basically trying to hit on a fictional character in a movie. That said, I feel the only chance is to go the totally opposite way. Don’t try to be flirty at all, and just connect with her like a friend. Slowly get to know her and her to know you, and maybe after some time when you’re starting to be close, try to spend some time with her outside of t…
/r/seduction25/03/24 01:48 PM
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Safety. If they feel safe, that they have a solid connection with you and feel that they are able to express their boundaries, they will be open to more « risky » propositions like coming to your place. It seems like you want to do it for the wrong reasons tho.
/r/seduction25/03/24 01:06 PM
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There is nothing wrong telling her you find her cute. Why do you think you should keep that to yourself ? Just ask her out, everything seems to be going very well.
/r/seduction24/03/24 10:44 AM
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Presence. Practice mindfulness, being fully there in the moment, not thinking about the future or the past. Making this very moment unique. Also leadership, initiating, being the one that changes the status quo in every aspect. And not waiting for other people to validate, just following your flow and trusting your will. Finally, patience. Not being in a rush, not going too fast. Knowing that everything will come to you in the right timing. Not putting pressure but bringing presence and energy. …
/r/seduction26/01/24 11:41 AM
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There are workshops and it’s very easy to meet a lot of people so yeah, in a way. The “orgy camps” are easy to find so you can meet people from those communities and get a foot in. My first orgies I was terrified and couldn’t connect with anyone, so don’t be too frustrated if that takes time for you to get comfortable in those spaces.
/r/seduction22/10/22 06:34 AM
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To find these communities, burn events (burning man, afrika burn, midburn, nowhere festival and others…) are a good place to start imo.
/r/seduction21/10/22 08:30 PM
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I have quite a bit of experience with it, I love threesomes and I'm in a place in my life where I have group sex with beautiful girls semi-regularly. The easiest way, by far, is to have a girlfriend that likes it also. This is a good way but also it takes a lot of time in my experience. All the experiences we had in the beginnings were not going so well with my girlfriend being triggered and jealous, so it's about going slow, and not be too frustrated if carefully designed threesomes end up bein…
/r/seduction21/10/22 08:36 AM
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If you think giving IOIs has any correlation with being in a relationship, you need to understand women better. If anything, they are even more eager to give IOIs because they are not scared of having to say no, so it's free attention. Girls giving you IOIs only mean they feel you're high value, it doesn't mean anything about their availability. Also, if they tell you that everytime, it probably means you're too direct about your intentions, and a bit intrusive. If girls really like your attenti…
/r/seduction18/10/22 04:09 PM
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I know it seems weird but… confident people pretty much never face rejection. Because if you really listen to the moment, if you’re truly in a place of abundance, you will only ask when it’s right. You will not even ask actually, you will just find a way to exchange numbers organically. At this point you are the one saying no because there is not enough space in your life to fit all the people that want to share intimacy with you. And also confidence usually brings diving with one person fully (…
/r/seduction13/10/22 12:21 PM
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First, you are not supposed to entertain anyone. If you do things to please others, to fit in or to pretend to be someone else, you will drain your energy. So what to do ? Follow the flow ! What do you want to do ? As an introvert you have the ability to create intimacy, you’re seen as safe and enigmatic, you’re able to open people up in their vulnerability. Have one-on-one conversations for example, find a quiet spot and dive into your authenticity with someone. Breath, be in your body, look in…
/r/seduction11/10/22 06:30 AM
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If you want another comment than "next, don't waste your time" (not that it's a bad advice, I'm just bringing another light) : I feel like the “what time are you free today?” is a bit too pushy. She probably didn't feel like seeing you in the moment, maybe something happened or just she felt social the day before and not that day, who knows ? A lot of women (actually all feminine people in general, so cute girls especially) change their mind a lot. Like a lot. My girlfriend can completely change…
/r/seduction10/10/22 10:00 PM
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1-2 texts per day is generally too much. Obviously each person is different, but most girls I'm seeing is more like 1-2 texts a week, sometimes even less. Texts are for logistics and some cute "thinking about you" once in a while. But yeah, there is this girl I see, when we're together it's very passionate and intimate, but I usually have to wait a couple weeks to get an answer to any message. I don't mind, I like her the way she is and we have good communication. Also a looooooot of women have …
/r/seduction10/10/22 09:44 PM
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I’m a relationship & couple coach, and intimacy and conscious relating facilitator. But that’s not what matters. The more you love yourself and find self-confidence within yourself, the less you’ll have to rely on “shit test” to explain other people behavior. You create the story and therefore the test, this has nothing to do with others.
/r/seduction15/07/22 04:29 PM
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Well if you're triggered by random online people opinions on unimportant subjects like this one, I'm not surprised you believe people are testing you... Wish you the best on your journey.
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:09 PM
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It’s just a way of connecting then. If no one feel like they’re shit testing or shit tested, then how can it be a shit test ? There is no shit test, it’s not a thing. Remove it from your vocabulary and allow yourself to really connect with people, from a place of love and not of fear and trust issues. You’re an adult, you decide who you are, you create your life. Nobody can test you or reject you.
/r/seduction15/07/22 01:49 PM
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Shit test is a story some people create in order to explain why they get triggered by other people behavior. Shit tests don’t exist, only if you have low self-esteem you can feel tested.
/r/seduction15/07/22 01:03 PM
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Lol this is a perfectly normal size of answer. She is definitely enthusiastic about seeing you, relax.
/r/seduction08/07/22 09:43 AM
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Honestly it seems like you've done the hardest part, which is generating a consistent flow of opportunities. Celebrate the positives instead of blaming yourself for not doing enough. Alcohol will probably not help. With alcohol you will probably not even realise there are opportunities in the first place. Maybe let go of expectations a bit more. Enjoy the moment you have instead of holding on moment you could have had. They are not real. Yes meditation can help being in the moment and not in the…
/r/seduction08/07/22 09:41 AM
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Yes, cold approach is by far the most difficult, inefficient and often brutal way to interact seductively with women. There is this fantasy in the seduction community of these guys that can open anyone with success, but it's really not helpful for beginners to believe in that. The truth is : you can be very attractive and have a lot of success in dating and seduction without any cold approach, without dating apps, without going to the gym, without being extravert, without much money and with ave…
/r/seduction08/07/22 09:23 AM
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Remember : you will project what you believe. So if you think you're too short to attract girls, then girls will see that and go for taller men. You're basically trying to validate your belief and to prove that indeed it's difficult to have success in dating when you're a short man. If you change your belief (for example "being short is what makes me so attractive"), the reality around you will also change to validate your new beliefs. I'm 5'6, age 28, definitely not above average in attractiven…
/r/seduction12/06/22 01:04 AM
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I got used to hug pretty much everyone very often. It takes practice to feel if a person wants to be touched and how. Some people are very touchy, some people you need to be very patient so they trust you. Just by hugging someone when you say hi, you can know how she feels about her body, touch and her sexuality. A lot is set up already just in the way you say hi. Usually my take is when there is some silence, touch her hand and see if there is reciprocation. If not stop the touch and keep talki…
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:36 AM
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Be connected to your own emotions, let your creativity speak, do things that you love, share joy and freedom around you. Step out of the norm and your comfort zone. Be bold, creative, authentic and vulnerable. Express yourself from your truth, and love the life and body you've been given. You'll become magnetic.
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:23 AM
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Try being less in your head and more in your body. Making people feel comfortable is good, but it's only step 1, step 2 is too be in the flow, to be touchy, vulnerable, true and with clear intentions. > For eg "You look amazing tonight, love your shoes" and they would say "shut up, you're too much" and then starts giggling. Take your time. Slow her down, give her a hug, look in her eyes and then say "I find you very beautiful today" or whatever is authentic in the moment. People that receive a l…
/r/seduction20/04/22 11:38 AM
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Nothing to do with luck. It seems you are not following the first two steps of seduction which are : 1. Approach from a place of fullness (basically, have fun on your own) and 2. Make them feel comfortable. Nobody is "not interested" in just meeting someone that is fun and in abundance mindset, and having a boyfriend is irrelevant (a good answer being "good for you ! Is he here so I could meet him ?"). It seems you're not genuinely trying to meet and connect with people, you're having an agenda …
/r/seduction10/04/22 03:09 PM
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That’s a misunderstanding. Proposing someone to have a drink or something is not chasing. Chasing is when you have clear « no » signs and you keep going. As the man, you’re expected to guide the dance. Don’t wait for her to text you, take the lead and go for what you want. Most men are insecure, so generalities like « men say… » often come from a place of insecurities. I compliment people a lot, and I initiate conversations through texts also.
/r/seduction16/03/22 09:20 AM
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I'm 5'5, doing well, and I totally disagree with you. Every time someone asks me how I'm doing well with woman, I say that my height is actually a blessing. I'm convinced I'm more attractive because I'm short. As with everything, the cards you're given don't matter as much as how you use them. Own who you are, love yourself, and you will attract the people that resonate with you.
/r/seduction15/03/22 12:57 PM
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Well it's not yours to deal with that.
/r/seduction10/03/22 02:44 PM
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If you fuck someone regularly, you are in a relationship with that person. Even if it's a very open and low intensity relationship, it still is one. Sex and intimacy are biologically made to generate emotions and feelings, that's why it's so good ! You can't just ban or avoid them. I guess a way to maintain a long term sexual relationship with no feeling is to have terrible emotion-less sex but you will sooner or later end up abandoning it for better sex. Feelings are good ! Don't run away from …
/r/seduction10/03/22 01:45 PM
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I think the disrespectful part, and the one you should be talked out of, is the lie. Tell them the truth, and see how they want to have it. You're not going to be able to maintain two healthy relationships for a long time with such a big lie. If that girl has a GF already, it means she is pretty aware of polyamory, "casual dating" and open minded about it. As a burlesque performer it's pretty much a given. You can explain to her what your plans are for the night (like you told us) and if that's …
/r/seduction10/03/22 01:32 PM
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Not the guy you're talking to, but why wouldn't I be ok with anyone having the sexuality they want ? It seems you hold a lot of stigmas and shame around sex.
/r/seduction02/03/22 08:05 AM
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If you judge what you do, other people will feel it. Even if you joke, if your joke comes from insecurity of talking about your intentions, then it will affect your confidence. I even have a very high success with "I'm in an open relationship so I'm not looking for anything serious". I used to judge myself for not fitting in what she was looking for, but I found out it's actually the opposite. A guy that knows he only wants something physical and intense without strings attached is very attracti…
/r/seduction01/03/22 11:32 PM
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One of the most attractive questions you can ask !
/r/seduction18/02/22 11:53 AM
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The thing is not to show intent, it's to *be* intent, it's to fully incarnate your desire in your body. It's to fully allow yourself to feel that sexual energy and let it flow through you without repressing it, judging it or distracting yourself from it. Mindfulness helps, or any kind of practice that allow you to be in your body (dance improv, yoga, martial arts, even singing). I feel like the biggest difference between someone that radiates that sexual energy and someone that doesn't is how yo…
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:09 AM
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Because you want to ? Because you feel there is something meaningful to be lived ? Because it fulfills you to explore that present moment ? Because you’re curious on what will happen if you do ? When I say « no expectation », I mean no jugement based in result, no idea of success and failure. Just having that experience at this moment is something to be appreciated in itself, it’s perfect the way it is. Even when I get rejected (which honestly almost never happens), I’m filled with gratitude bec…
/r/seduction16/02/22 07:37 PM
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The thing is, you will always be more attractive doing something that you love and being in a place that fulfills you. If you go to a place you wouldn’t go to if not for the girls, then you will project that and project lower self-esteem. If you’re in a place that you enjoy no matter what happens, and on top of that start meeting some people, you will project confidence and higher self-esteem. It’s just basic logic : doing something you don’t enjoy to meet people means you value your perception …
/r/seduction16/02/22 02:58 PM
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You’ve never dated and you want to avoid the relationship status ? That’s a bit like learning to play tennis and worrying about winning Wimbledon. Just try to connect with people, be honest with them about what is true in the moment, not the projections of what you think you want in your life (unless someone asks). Being in a relationship is not something that happens by magic, it takes time. Don’t worry about this until you have someone with whom to make that choice, like you have dated for at …
/r/seduction16/02/22 02:47 PM
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Just tell them the truth… if you’re judging yourself for seeing multiple people, you will unconsciously give yourself away. In the long term, the only way is to be transparent and to move yourself for it. There is nothing wrong about seeing multiple people (unless you don’t let those people see multiple people of course).
/r/seduction16/02/22 02:40 PM
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When you don't expect anything from an interaction and you're offering your whole self to the moment, that's when you radiate abundance and power. This is where your most magnetic self appears. When you're trying, when you're evaluating yourself on results, you're in your mind. You radiate neediness and low self-esteem. You become repulsive. So I wouldn't say it's "just taking to women as you would to a guy" because you still need to project your sexual energy onto the other person. But it's int…
/r/seduction16/02/22 11:37 AM
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I'm sorry but if you think women are fickle and that your story is a proof of that, it means you're not over your self-esteem issues.
/r/seduction15/02/22 12:42 PM
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Well no, I never go to a random bar alone. Either I’m alone and I want to meet people (which honestly never happen nowadays, I already meet more than enough people, but I used to do that) and then I try to put chances on my side : I go in places where I know I will meet people I could easily talk to. Like an ecstatic dance, a fitness class, a poetry reading, a museum opening, an acoustic concert, a tango class, a social bar… most of the time I like to go to places I know well, I know the organis…
/r/seduction24/01/22 01:38 AM
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I’m afraid you carry your username better than I do.
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:26 AM
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I like those advices. I'm a bit torn on the third one. To me desire and fear often come hand in hand. If I let my desire take all the place, then my fear of not actually having what I want is just as strong. I definitely advise to be guided by your desire, but it sometimes can be overwhelming and your mind can protect you from the idealisation you have, and paralyse you. So yeah, I would love to deepen that aspect, if you have more to say on the matter.
/r/seduction22/01/22 03:47 PM
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There are many layers that need to be addressed on this question. How do you feel when you go to a bar, and what do you tell yourself ? If when you arrive you're telling yourself "I guess it will be a night where I fail approaching anyone again, let's drink to see if that gives me courage", then you will create exactly what you're predicting. You need to be clear about your intentions when you go somewhere : why do you go to this bar ? Is it to celebrate ? Is it to practice approaching people ? …
/r/seduction22/01/22 03:42 PM
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Right now you have a huge fear of rejection. There is a simple rule with fear : fear attracts its object. So if you fear rejection, you will find rejection (in that situation, you reject yourself by not even trying to talk to people, which is a very effective strategy). Your first step should be to overcome that fear. The way I did it, and the way I teach it is to embrace it. Go into your deepest fear so you're not enslaved by it anymore. Do things that you think will get you rejected, become be…
/r/seduction22/01/22 09:58 AM
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To add to what most people have said until now : Remember that whenever you think that something would make your life better, you're building an idealised projection and preventing that thing to happen in your life (because you're protecting yourself from the disappointment). If you have a balanced view of it, you can welcome it with more fluidity. Having an "epic wild ride" of a life is not better than having a quiet peaceful life. I've had a period where I had 5 beautiful girlfriends at the sa…
/r/seduction22/01/22 09:48 AM
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The idea behind it, is that in a very broad sense, women don't give a fuck about words. Words are masculine. They describe, analyse, put labels, explain, argue... Feminine energy is about fluidity, movement, poetry, music, dynamics, feelings. It's about the underlying communication behind the words. Only men (or masculine people) care about the content of what is said, feminine people will care about how that presence feels, how the sensations are in their body. So yeah, if you say something and…
/r/seduction22/01/22 09:08 AM
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No, you're going in the wrong direction. First, you don't have to "act". People, and women especially, can feel you more than you can imagine. If you're insecure and you act confident, they will feel your insecurity. If you are needy and act not-care-ish, they will feel your neediness. So it's not about how you look and act, it's about what is truly happening inside you. You can say anything that you feel is real. I give compliments A LOT. The question is, what's the intention behind the complim…
/r/seduction22/01/22 08:55 AM
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It’s funny because my advice would be pretty much the opposite : try to live using very little money. When you don’t have money, you need to meet people, do hitchhiking, earn everything. It’s a permanent adventure, sort of like a video game where even your meal is a quest. I feel like when I have money it’s easier to stay in my comfort zone. It depends on the sort of adventure you’re looking for tho.
/r/seduction21/01/22 11:15 PM
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How you talked about it to your therapist ?
/r/seduction21/01/22 06:46 PM
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None of that wouldn't have happened without the change in mindset. Without the "switch" there is no ride home, no sexy look, and no kiss.
/r/seduction21/01/22 11:37 AM
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I wouldn't even plan the date, just say something like "enjoy your travel, let me know when you're back if you want to hang out" or something (English is not my first language but you get the idea). Then if you know she's back and hasn't sent you anything (which is what usually happens) I'd send something like "hey, are you back ? How was it ?". Basically texting is to set up meetings. If there is no way to meet soon, then there is no reason to text. And don't plan dates too much in advance (lik…
/r/seduction20/01/22 04:02 PM
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It depends on the reason you're communicating through texts. If it's a dating app, you don't need to talk, just try to set up a meeting. It's terribly boring to text with someone you don't know, unless you're really witty and able to make a text conversation exciting (which is a rare and difficult skill), don't bother with that. If it's someone you met in person and want to keep some flow going, my advice would be to be authentic, to tell her that you think about her and to be short and simple. …
/r/seduction20/01/22 10:20 AM
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No, I only go for the most attractive women (in my opinion). Obviously I’m not very attracted to very tall women and I’m more into the « cute spanish girl » type than the « tall russian babe » type. I guess in high school height was sometimes a struggle but it was because I believed that, I created that struggle. Since then it’s never been an issue, and my girlfriend is slightly taller than me, a dancer and a model, and the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met. If you have an attractive personalit…
/r/seduction19/01/22 04:57 PM
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I’m 5’5 and never had any issue related to my height. If you think you’re struggling because of your height, you’re just looking for excuses. Actually I even think it has helped me having more success in dating. It’s not about the cards you’ve been given, it’s about how you use them.
/r/seduction18/01/22 09:58 PM
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So many things, but the one that comes right now is dealing better with my addiction. I had so many addictions (weed, porn, video games, reddit, political news, shitty food...), and I learnt to see what was the message underneath, what was the gift behind each addiction. I didn't stop them, but I relate with them without judgement and so I'm not a slave anymore. I use them as emotional tools to reach specific mindsets, or as alarm when I need to realise something. Basically I use my time to fill…
/r/seduction18/01/22 03:24 PM
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The success is being yourself. If you judge parts of your life as not being successful enough, it means there are parts of you that you haven't fully integrated. You're using the word success, I'm not. Because it's not about that. Things happen organically when you don't try to make them happen. When you don't judge you life according to them happening or not. But it's a long and painful process, it's not waking up one morning and just going "hey, I'm going to be myself from now on and I'm going…
/r/seduction18/01/22 09:45 AM
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I have. I had 5 relationships at some point, and many periods of high activity. But my mindset is to live my life and make girls join me, not adapt to what a date is supposed to be. So to me dating multiple people is barely more expensive than the rest of my life. My job allows me to meet beautiful women and be flirtatious (sometimes) so in a way I’m even paid to flirt. I can understand why that would be a cost tho.
/r/seduction18/01/22 08:41 AM
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I tend to show others I'm really happy and dont care about others . However it really hurts , no one matter how tough you're .It hits you hard . Yes I have a feeling of emptiness and hallow ness sometimes. Relationship puts so much pressure on me and breaks me everytime It's not relationships that put pressure on you, it's the lack of authenticity and pretending to be someone you're not. You shouldn't stop meeting people. But yes you should stop pretending you're happy when you're not, pretendin…
/r/seduction18/01/22 12:03 AM
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It's not about chasing your purpose, it's about remembering it, allowing space inside for it to materialise through you. If you're truly connected to your purpose, results will stop being important. Results are an illusion that you only chase if you feel empty and believe that you can have this emptiness filled with external sources. If you welcome this emptiness as a space for your true purpose to arise, then life becomes a journey without a destination. Instead of being focused on whether you …
/r/seduction17/01/22 11:55 PM
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There are some great advices here, I just want to add something : it seems you're forcing yourself into a life that isn't yours because you feel it's the only way to get results. You don't have to be someone else, you really don't. I don't go to bars or clubs, I barely ever drink alcohol, I'm really not that social (like I never ever cold approach or anything like that), I'm naturally introvert and hate to talk in loud places, I'm short, not specially good looking, and while I take care of my bo…
/r/seduction17/01/22 10:05 PM
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Why would that be expensive ?
/r/seduction17/01/22 09:17 PM
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Breath, feel, be present, be authentic. Communicate whatever is in your mind so you can be in your body. If you have a doubt, don't be afraid to speak, or ask. Each body is different so ask how to give her pleasure if you're not sure, you don't have to know how her body works. Remember that it is supposed to be an enjoyable experience, not a test. Don't do anything you don't like doing, take your time, it's ok to be slow, it's even ok to not have sex and simply enjoy caress and cuddles. There is…
/r/seduction15/01/22 09:07 PM
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The thing is, most people have insincerity deeply ingrained in the way they behave. Mostly because they think they need to be insincere to be loved by people (and because they saw their parents be insincere or they had to be to be loved by them) so they "normal mode" is based on "what will people think of me ?" instead of "what is authentically going through me right now ?" For those people, and it's probably everyone to different degrees, it's important to unlearn insincerity to access their na…
/r/seduction17/02/21 09:31 PM
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I think this sentence is incomplete. I prefer « always assume they are attracted, and always expect them not to be ». Expectations are attraction killers. If people feel you are expecting them to act or be a certain way, they will get away from you. For example if you send a text, write like you would if you knew she was interested : be flirty and confident. But once your text is sent, don’t expect her to respond, just give her time and space and move on. That mix of confidence and low expectati…
/r/seduction21/01/21 07:39 AM
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I think that is a huge misunderstanding of what those people try to say. "Women won't make you happy" is destined to people that think that the reason they're unhappy is that they're alone. They think that if they were attractive, they would be happy. But that doesn't work because happiness or fulfilment (I'm not talking about the emotion here, but to live a life that inspires ands drive you toward the person you want to be) doesn't come from the outside, it is a mentality, a state of mind, a ch…
/r/seduction19/01/21 09:03 AM
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Anything can be an amazing story, like literally your trip to the grocery store can be the most epic adventure if you're confident and have the strong belief that anything you say or do is fascinating and will interest people. Naturally if you believe that you will talk more slowly, you will add some great insights, you will build suspense and you will make people laugh and crave for more. Obviously, opening about your vulnerabilities (not in a "life is hard and I have flaws" way but more in a "…
/r/seduction08/01/21 02:52 PM
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I would advise against wingmen, because it already set intentions and expectations that I think are against the purpose of connecting with people. I don't think you should go somewhere with the intent of seduction. Go where you want to go, live the life that inspires you, and dive into attraction along the way :)
/r/seduction05/01/21 06:37 PM
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Hey. I’m French and live in Paris. PM me if you want. I’m not really into the « wingman » approach but we can talk and see :)
/r/seduction05/01/21 03:49 PM
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Don’t ask for advices, observe and learn. I learnt and improved so much by being with guys which have had hundreds of women and were complete magnets. Instead of envying them and finding reasons why they were successful and excuses to why I was not, I befriended them. I spent so much time with them and observed, noticed everything little detail and took notes. Most of what I observed they were not even aware. They had no idea of what they were doing because they were naturally doing it and never…
/r/seduction26/12/20 04:51 PM
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Talk to your friend and ask him what he thinks of an open relationship. You could say that you don’t imagine to be strictly monogamous and want to know how he feels about it. It’s very likely they talked about it. Maybe it’s both their fetishes to know she’s seducing you and nothing will come out of it. Maybe it’s an open relationship, maybe it’s a « Hotwife » scenario... or maybe you’re imagining all of that and she’s not sexual using you in any way. You won’t know until you talk to him and to …
/r/seduction26/12/20 08:28 AM
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I’m a seduction / relationships / self-improvement coach so obviously I love this subject. Sometimes I like to find questions and reflections on this sub, and writing helps me to clear my thoughts. Also I’m happy to help other humans beings to achieve relationship success, it’s literally why I get up in the morning. I would go to /r/relationship_advice too but it’s a terrible sub with terrible advices.
/r/seduction25/12/20 07:50 PM
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Well, it depends if she really really wants to focus on you.
/r/seduction25/12/20 09:49 AM
5

Well, I can find at least ten ways to answer, depending on the mood, the context, the feel I get with the person, how deep the discussion already is, what the values of the girl are (does she have a lot of make-up ? Does she seem spiritual ? Is she smart ? How feminine is she ?)... but basically I would say what comes naturally, with the intent of being authentic and connecting with the person. A few examples, to show that there is never one good thing to say, it’s all about how you say it and w…
/r/seduction24/12/20 11:22 AM
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If you're confident and proud about it, it will attract people. If you're ashamed and excusing yourself for it, il will repulse people. It's all about what you believe. I almost never drink and it has never been an issue, because I know it's a strength and a good quality. I own it.
/r/seduction24/12/20 09:02 AM
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That question makes no sense. Even worse than that, it’s bringing you down. It makes no sense because it’s all about context. Over the past year I’ve had the number of every single person I approached. Why ? Because I approach in very secure environment like events organized by me or a friend, where it’s expected that everyone is nice and friendly. If you’re cold approaching in a mall the numbers are obviously very different. So numbers don’t tell you if you’re efficient, it tells you how friend…
/r/seduction23/12/20 03:12 PM
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Obviously other advices are good, but are missing the main point : to achieve success, start by behaving like you’re successful. Being handsome is a state of mind, it’s a belief. You need to build a belief that you’re a handsome motherfucker and anyone is lucky to watch you move, smile, laugh and live. Check yourself on the mirror, tell yourself you’re handsome, wink and smile at people, look at them in the eyes, take your time to speak so people look at you longer, naturally you will start taki…
/r/seduction23/12/20 02:56 PM
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An aura comes from the perception that you can positively impact your life and surrounding. That can be from skills, looks, status, intelligence, leadership, friends / relationships, positivity, humour, anything that make people feel like being around you is exciting and fun. If you use those assets to make the world around you a better place, if you don't try to get all the light to yourself but if you support everyone to enjoy a wonderful life, you will attract like a magnet. It's abundance me…
/r/seduction09/06/20 09:44 AM
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I'm a bit late to the show but I think the most important thing if you want to have healthy relationships is : love yourself entirely no matter what. You are enough, you don't need anyone to feel the love and inspiration inside of you. I have a wonderful girlfriend I'm deeply in love with. Do I think she's the most attractive and beautiful human being on the planet ? Yes. Am I completely open with her and emotionally invested in the relationship ? Yes. Do I want kids and a family with her, and w…
/r/seduction09/06/20 09:03 AM
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Breathe, meditate, be authentic and talk about your issues instead of burying them. I'm sure many girls would love to be your first time, and they wouldn't have as much expectations as you think. It's fine, most 21 year old are terrible in bed (if not all of them), being true to yourself and willing to connect to the other person without mask already makes you a better shot than 90% of men. Focus on having fun, don't expect too much, and go with the flow. Also respect yourself, if you don't want…
/r/seduction26/02/20 01:12 PM
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Then just breath, feel the jealousy inside you and let it burn. Emotions don’t last long if you let them live.
/r/seduction17/02/20 10:05 PM
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Wow, this is some great wisdom, and I think you managed to put into words something that is not easy to describe. I’m just the totality experiencing the singularity. It’s not important, and at the same time it’s everything I have. Connect from within.
/r/seduction17/02/20 10:03 PM
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You ask her what she thinks of the idea and tell her that it’s something you would like to try. She probably has insecurities so you will need to set up a context that is reassuring for her. Ask her what she needs to feel at peace with the idea, welcome her emotions and respect her boundaries. Be sincere and compassionate.
/r/seduction29/01/20 07:30 AM
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That is because things are not black and white. Humans are complex, and seduction is a complex game. You won't be good at chess if you have only one strategy, you won't be good at tennis if you think "always play the backhand". Improving at seduction is learning where and when to adopt this or this posture. I think one thing is always true to be better at seduction : learn to love yourself. Loving yourself is becoming emotionally independent, it's welcoming negative emotions just like positive o…
/r/seduction21/01/20 10:01 AM
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I think advanced game is loving yourself no matter what happens to you. Rejections, shit tests, break-ups, critics, emotions. These are all opportunities to learn, to improve, to love yourself more, to be authentic, to go forward. It's not about protecting yourself so you don't feel anything anymore, it's about being at peace with what goes inside of you and outside of you. It's about breaking down your limiting beliefs and your expectations, going with the flow and being in the moment.
/r/seduction08/01/20 05:15 PM
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Also the more effectively you put, the more you get. It's also simple mathematics. You can increase the raw number but also the efficiency.
/r/seduction08/01/20 05:11 PM
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In my experience, honesty and confidence are key elements to become attractive. People I know that slept with more than 30 women last year are all completely honest and live their life authentically (and they are not that good looking). Lying and manipulation show insecurity.
/r/seduction07/01/20 08:20 PM
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It seems like you're considering that those people cannot make decisions for themselves. As long as I'm honest and sincere about my intentions, that they are fully consenting to what is happening and able to give reliable consent, I don't think it's manipulative. There is no line to draw. If you are honest and transparent about who you are, you will not take advantage of people.
/r/seduction07/01/20 07:22 PM
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Apologise and work on your defence mechanisms when you're nervous. Don't guilt people over their feelings, that's the best way to have toxic relationships. Teasing people a lot shows insecurity, work on yourself.
/r/seduction28/12/19 12:04 PM
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Thanks for additional input, I understand better. As with every insecurity, you need to face it. To get to the root of it. An insecurity is a part of you that you don't love. And as long as you don't love that part, you're reminded of it. When was the very first time you felt this way ? What was happening at the time ? It's likely that you build that belief system at that time because it made sense (maybe it was to please your parents, or a teacher, to fit in a group...), but now it doesn't. You…
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:32 AM
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Then stop Tinder and meet people in real life.
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:00 AM
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I would disclose it when asked the question. Maybe with a warning « we’ll it’s pretty personal and not very happy, are you sure you want to hear it ? ». Check the waters, you don’t have to disclose everything. You can just say « I have a bad history with alcohol, and so did my father, so I don’t want to drink it anymore » and that’s enough for a start. As for your reasons to not say it, I think they are terrible : 1) A red flag, lol. I guess even if I explained that my relapse risk is close to z…
/r/seduction28/12/19 09:59 AM
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Maybe stop asking them so often ? It seems you’re asking out people you barely know. That makes sense on dating apps, but in any other situation it’s probably too soon. Personally I never consider a meet-up as a date until I’ve kissed the girl. That way I have way lower expectations. But approaching girls in Facebook and asking her out right away, you’re pressurizing them. That is pretty repulsive behavior. Avoid using online interactions so often and talk to people in real life. Have fun, focus…
/r/seduction28/12/19 09:45 AM
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It seems like you’re putting a mask of « I DGAF » but you’re actually putting aside your feelings and sensations. You’re disconnecting from yourself and building a wall between yourself and other people. You won’t have a better or happier life that way. And you won’t get better at building fulfilling and loving relationships. Actually, it has been shown that longevity and health is directly linked to your ability to express your feelings. Have you read « the subtle art of not giving a fuck » by …
/r/seduction28/12/19 09:27 AM
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I’m doing this to help you, I won’t judge you but I will challenge you on why you do certain things a certain way.
/r/seduction28/12/19 08:35 AM
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Don’t go back with that girl. You can send me some convos in PM so I can give you advices on what to do different for texting. Usually it’s just being too needy or just saying uninteresting things that close the discussion.
/r/seduction27/12/19 11:15 PM
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Wow you need to calm down your insecurities man. If you don’t even trust your girl to not go with the first attractive guy that wants to get her, why are you even with her ? Be honest with your girlfriend, tell her that guy is trying to hurt you by seducing her. That what being a confident man is.
/r/seduction27/12/19 10:58 PM
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You do. You're alive, so you have sexual energy. One easy exercice to awaken it is to lay down, one hand on your pubis. Just breath deeply, try to relax. Then go faster with your breathing, and make so pelvis thrust with you hand on it. Breath with your mouth, you can make sounds too. Connect to the energy in your pelvis, you will feel heat, maybe some temperature changes all over your body. That's sexual energy. You don't need to have an erection or anything. It's just about connecting to the d…
/r/seduction27/12/19 05:09 PM
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I guess the same. It has nothing to do with desire or being attracted to someone, it's about letting your sexual energy flow inside you.
/r/seduction27/12/19 04:51 PM
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I have one friend with the most insane natural game. He is not good-looking at all, he is short, balding, a small belly, doesn't exercise much. I have yet to find one woman that is not attracted to him (and most men are too, he is mostly bisexual). He's just magnetic. He used to do hypnosis professionally, and he understands really well how people function so I guess that plays a part. I've seen him turn normal parties into orgies, and he has more group sex than most people have sex at all. None…
/r/seduction26/12/19 10:33 AM
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In term of quantity, definitely the one with good game. Being good looking has one advantage : fewer straight-up rejection. But with good screening and synchronization you can mostly get around that.
/r/seduction26/12/19 08:46 AM
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Define successful.
/r/seduction26/12/19 08:39 AM
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If you have known each other for a while, that means you both know already if you want to have a relationship together. So when you have sex together it’s either a « oh wow finally we’re doing it, I can’t believe we have waited so long » type of things, or « we’re both drunk and horny, I guess we’re doing it and forgetting all about it ». I’ve had both, usually the first one ends in a beautiful relationship, the second one doesn’t.
/r/seduction26/12/19 08:31 AM
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One of my mentor told me once : « you can only have what you are ready to lose. » It’s true for relationships, money, fame... If you believe some girls are too pretty to be dumped, your subconscious will protect you from a relationship you can’t escape from, and you won’t be with a really pretty girl.
/r/seduction26/12/19 07:18 AM
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It’s because it’s a terrible way to ask for advices. If you want to get insights from women, ask things like « what made you attracted to your boyfriend ? », « how do you feel what that guy told you that ? », « do you think that guy has a chance with your friend and why ? ». It’s difficult to give advice if you’re too involved. I would struggle to help someone to seduce me. But I can give feedbacks from which it’s possible to infer advices.
/r/seduction25/12/19 02:36 PM
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That’s assuming the deer doesn’t want you to hunt them. If you take advices from women, take them from women who genuinely want to give you insights about how to seduce them. Anyway that comparison is flawed. Seducing to build a shared experience with someone is not the same as killing them and eat them.
/r/seduction25/12/19 02:04 PM
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I would definitely take advices from deers if, you know, they could talk and give advices. You realize women can talk, right ?
/r/seduction25/12/19 07:58 AM
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Why would it be misleading ? You send nice holidays to people you want to send nice holidays to. That is not what expected from you to have a serious relationship with someone because you sent them nice holidays. You’re really overthinking things. Everything is fine, try to communicate more with her so you can synchronize with her emotionally, but it’s also normal to be at different speeds in the relationship. It’s not your responsibility to take the charge of other people’s feelings.
/r/seduction25/12/19 12:46 AM
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It seems you don’t really know what DHV is. Obviously you should never hide your value, but it’s not Show High Value. Its demonstrate. That means it should be obvious for everyone around you without you even needing to talk about it. It’s about being, not about being cocky or talking about your amazing life. Talking about yourself to prove others you’re of value smells insecurity. Be curious if others, relate with them, answer questions, be confident and authentic. If they already know you, it’s…
/r/seduction24/12/19 03:21 PM
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I think your genes are like 10% of attraction. I went from thinking I would never seduce anyone to having way more girls than I can handle.
/r/seduction24/12/19 12:38 PM
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Don't listen to people giving you made-up explanations. There is no way to know what went through her head. I can think of dozens of plausible explanations, from being scared of saying no to wondering where the relationship goes, including realising that she wasn't as attracted to you as she used to. You don't know, we don't know, maybe even her doesn't really know. What you did wrong is not talking about it. It's letting the unsaid settle and not express the confusion you had : "Hey I feel more…
/r/seduction23/12/19 11:34 AM
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Any kind of volunteering work is a great way to meet people. Also see what events you can find locally, like small concerts, theme nights, or any kind of clubs you could enjoy. Basically do things that you want to do outside of your house, have fun and you will naturally find people. Make tons of friends and you will have a constant flow of new people in your life.
/r/seduction22/12/19 01:19 PM
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Point is, i try things from this sub, usually never get anything like that and have to settle for something i dont really prefer. What did you try specifically ? It seems you haven’t understood what you read if you think it’s just something that you « try ». It’s something you practice, it’s a mindset you integrate, it’s about becoming the best version of yourself and improving every single day. It’s like saying « hey how can I get better at basketball ? I tried shooting the ball in the hoop a c…
/r/seduction22/12/19 01:13 PM
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Triangle gaze : look at her eyes then her lips. If she does the same thing, you can go for the kiss. For example you’re walking, you’re feeling great, connected to her. Maybe you’re holding her hand or her arm. You stop and say « I just want to stop and enjoy that moment with you”. You look in her eyes “I really like being with you”. Triangle gaze, see if she reciprocates (like saying “me too” or something). Then you lean toward her, see if she does the same, and kiss. If she looks away or you f…
/r/seduction22/12/19 11:30 AM
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It’s very confronting. You can use the same angle but change your delivery to create complicity between you like « why are you so interested in what I do with other girls ? » or « would you like me to tell you it’s the first time I ever do this ? ». The thing is to stay positive, relaxed, and you can be both smart and funny.
/r/seduction22/12/19 11:18 AM
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I tell her to do whatever she wants, to feel at home. If I have something to do I do it, if I want to spend time with her, shower with her or anything, I propose. I usually propose breakfast yeah. She leaves if she wants to leave. If I'm waiting for someone or if I need her to go I tell her, but I tell her before I invite her to my house, or when she decides to stay for the night.
/r/seduction21/12/19 07:58 PM
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I just keep being myself. Why would that be awkward ? Usually I tell her the night before how I want things to go between us, I ask her what she wants, what she has planned, and the next morning se just do as planned, unless we decide to do something else. One thing is I am never drunk and never have sex with drunk people so even during the evening we can easily talk about what we want and anything that need to be adressed.
/r/seduction21/12/19 07:47 PM
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Many people have given great advices, so I will challenge your last affirmation : I’m not looking for a relationship right now What is a relationship for you ? It seems like you have an idea of what a relationship should be, and you don't want to have that specific type of relationship. Relationships are what you want them to be. There are so many different types. I have a girlfriend I live with but I rarely have sex withe, I have another girlfriend that lives with her other boyfriend but we are…
/r/seduction21/12/19 02:24 PM
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« Do people really need a reason to not have a girlfriend ? » I would gently challenge her on her projections of what she thinks of people that have a girlfriend and people that don’t. It’s an interesting topic that can lead to emotional sharing about her relationship history. But the question I have is mostly « how do you handle having several girlfriends at the same time ? »
/r/seduction20/12/19 10:44 PM
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How do you communicate this during the date? I like to talk about personal and emotional subjects. So the question of what we look for in that period of our life comes naturally. I ask questions, about her relationship history, what she likes and what didn’t work, and I speak about how I see people and relationship. I communicate my attraction, I try to go deep into authenticity and vulnerabilities. One question I like to ask is « what are you afraid that I know about you ? » and answer back. I …
/r/seduction20/12/19 06:12 PM
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Touch, silences, eye contact, breathing deeply, talking about emotional and personal subjects, being present in the moment, transitioning from being funny to being deep back and forth, building and showing excitement, smiling, no putting pressure, building comfort and safety, listening, talking less but effectively, enjoying the moment and saying things like "I really enjoy spending that moment with you" when there is a silence, having fun, being authentic and vulnerable... Maybe this post could…
/r/seduction20/12/19 03:50 PM
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I'm always as honest and sincere as possible with people. I tell them I have multiple relationships, I tell them I don't have space for a relationship in my life right now, I tell them whatever is true to the moment. I don't expect anything from them, I don't plan to sleep with them. I just stay connected to my body, my sensations, I'm fully present in the moment and go with the flow. And sometimes I'm surprised, like my main relationship right now I was convinced I had absolutely no space for h…
/r/seduction20/12/19 03:23 PM
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Great, learn from him. Observe what he does, what works and what doesn't, ask questions, pay attention to details, to how he thinks, how he behaves, how he says and does things, and make it your own. Being with highly seductive people is the best way to get better yourself. If you play a tennis match against Federer and all you focus on is how you are not as good as him, obviously you miss the great opportunity to become a better player. You're exactly where you need to be. All the best people i…
/r/seduction20/12/19 12:59 PM
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Why do you feel useless when you're with him ? Use him as a weapon, not as a competitor. If you compare yourself to him or believe that he's more attractive than you are, people will feel that and will disregard you. If your confidence is affected by the people you are with, it's not confidence, it's a mask.
/r/seduction20/12/19 12:45 PM
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Ask her. You have nothing to lose and it could be useful for the next time.
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:07 AM
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Would you say that a sales person who tells a hesitating customer "You look good in those shoes" is rob-y? I think he did a bit more than that.
/r/seduction18/12/19 08:55 PM
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We are around 30. Obviously it's more complex than that, they also have flaws and self-doubts. Things are not black or white. It's worth noting that we are heavily involved in self-development, coaching, and challenging ourselves most of the time. But honestly it's nothing impossible to learn. A few years ago I was really terrible in seduction. It's possible to improve, it's only skills.
/r/seduction18/12/19 05:26 PM
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We joke about the age gap. (she was 18 last week and i'm in my 30's lol) (...) Quite a lot of LMR once in her house, but I kept backing off, waiting a little bit, and then trying to escalate again, and after a while we had sex Anyone else feels quite a rapey vibe here ? :|
/r/seduction18/12/19 04:16 PM
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You can be super respectful, always trying to connect, and at the same time being sexual and escalate through touch. Both are not exclusive. I agree with you tho. Building sexual tension and desire is essential, and it's not something to demonise or to be afraid of. Women have just as much sexual desire as men, they are just taught to repress it more.
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:31 PM
1

Role reversal is definitely queer-like. I think it's worth a try, the queer community is wider than you think, there are many cis people in it. It's also connected to the shibari and bdsm communities (and sex-positive in general) which could be of interest to you. But do as you feel :)
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:27 PM
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One of my mentors told me once "No one wants to be Ken (from Barbie), all heroes have weaknesses". If you're seen as perfect, people can't connect to you. Human beings connect through vulnerabilities, perfect people are uninteresting. Also I read a story about how Toy Story was made. At first, Woody was an insufferable character and they had to rewrite the scenario (which almost made Pixar close). Nobody could connect to the hero. They changed a few things, gave him weaknesses and feelings, and …
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:24 PM
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Get into the queer community, you will find many like-minded people (and will have a blast). It will be difficult to find the people for you randomly in the streets or through hobbies.
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:14 PM
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No my friends are like 6s, and the girls are everywhere from 5 to 10 I guess (but rating appearance is not something you would do to a goddess...) And by treating them like goddesses I mean they are really caring, they make genuine compliments, they listen a lot, they ask for their consent before touching them, they are curious, they give a lot without expecting anything in return (but boy do they receive), they support them with all their heart even if that means reducing their chance to be wit…
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:02 PM
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Mostly through social circle and social events. I have friends that are closer to my values and that inspire me, and that naturally allow me to meet to meet many new people. I also meet some people through the polyamorous / sex-positive community, and through interests like sustainable and ecological collectives, coaching, conferences on human psychology, sociology and human behaviour, dance and yoga classes, seminars on entrepreneurship and self-development, workshops on how to connect, communi…
/r/seduction18/12/19 02:18 PM
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Did you tell them ? Did you tell that girl "well I'm drinking and hitting on you right now, and you don't seem to be too annoyed" ? For the second one I fail to see the problem with thinking that there are too many guys and at the same time wanting to dance with one guy. It seems you're pretty judgemental of people. I don't think in the same situation I would think they play hard to get, there is a huge part of interpretation and subjectivity in this.
/r/seduction18/12/19 01:27 PM
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It's because you don't show vulnerability. Actually when you get better at game, when you're really confident and fully love yourself, people will get intimidated by you. They will think they're not enough, that you have all the girls you want, that they shouldn't be attached, that you have everything in your life so they can't bring something valuable to you... So you need to deconstruct that by showing that you're a normal human being with many flaws, self-doubt, that life is not as easy as it…
/r/seduction18/12/19 01:24 PM
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They're probably not that interested. People that are really excited about knowing more about you and sharing an experience with you don't try to drive you away. What do they do to play the "hard to get game" ? How do you know they're playing that game ?
/r/seduction18/12/19 01:14 PM
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By increasing your quality of man, and knowing what you're looking for in women. The more you know yourself, and the more specific you are about what makes you attracted to someone, the easier it gets to find the places to meet those people. Basically find what your ideal women are. Become the ideal man for those women. And then you'll have as many attractive women as you want in your life. It takes time, it's something that grows with you. A year ago I would not even be able to imagine some of …
/r/seduction18/12/19 09:33 AM
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Hey, thanks for your answer which is really interesting. I'll try to put some light on your questioning. However, the problem is that one never reaches perfection, and one will always aim at that girl which is slightly out of reach, so rejection is doomed to happen anyway. I disagree with that, at least in some way. Today I never feel rejected. So far in 2019 I've not faced anything that felt like a rejection. I've gotten good at being in set-ups where people are eager to meet me, good at screen…
/r/seduction18/12/19 08:38 AM
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I think the saying should be "Whatever you experience in life that is new and challenging is an opportunity to grow as a human being and to learn from it, as long as you have the tools to process it". That's why an emotional trauma doesn't make you stronger (unless you get help and emotional guidance), but overcoming obstacles in life definitely does. Do you take the time to learn from the rejections, to reflect on it, to identify what that says about you and what you need to develop to become t…
/r/seduction17/12/19 05:05 PM
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Well here is what I suggest to improve your ability to attract people. Your personality is fine, it's the way that you display it that is lacking. It's perfectly fine, it's something you can easily work on and get better at : Try to talk to people whenever you can, even if you're not attracted to them. In shops, at bus stops, anywhere, just say hi to people and talk to them. Get involved in clubs, social hobbies, anything that makes you meet people and feel valued and useful. Learn to trust peop…
/r/seduction17/12/19 02:46 PM
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Do you have a garbage personality ? I would love to hear advice from the expert himself. As for people downvoting me, this is a classic coaching exercise for people that think they have a bad personality, that they are shy, that are cowards, they don't have courage, they are boring and so on. The idea is "how can you prove me you have a garbage personality ? What makes you so good at that ?". Because obviously all of that is in their head, nobody really has a garbage personality, it's all subjec…
/r/seduction17/12/19 02:17 PM
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Hey, I would like to learn how to have a garbage personality. What are your advices, how do you manage that ?
/r/seduction17/12/19 02:09 PM
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Going from doing A to doing B is the change, rewording it to "made a deliberate choice" doesn't make it different. I agree with you. We're talking about two different questions : Is it possible for someone to change someone else ? I think the answer is no. Is it possible for someone to change because they believe it will please someone else ? Yes sure, as your example shows. What I mean by that is that if you change, you are responsible of that change (unless you're a slave or a child). It's bec…
/r/seduction17/12/19 02:06 PM
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Well I have never experienced or witnessed anything such as what you describe. And I think that it's because I would describe it very differently. That guy chose to stop going to the gym and watch romcom. He was free to do whatever he wanted and made a deliberate choice. That girl didn't change him, he changed his behaviour because at that time it was closer to his values and what he thought was going to fulfil him. And maybe he made a mistake, which is a learning opportunity to him to grow as a…
/r/seduction17/12/19 01:02 PM
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Why would you think she’s testing you and not genuinely trying to connect with you ?
/r/seduction16/12/19 10:47 PM
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But in my experience people don’t try to control me. That’s an excuse, a story I can tell myself. People try to be happy, I try to be happy, and hopefully we can be ourselves together, not against each others.
/r/seduction16/12/19 06:31 PM
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Insecurities. The main thing that prevents you from having as many girls and friends and money as you want is insecurities. It's the belief that you're not enough, that you don't deserve it, that you're scared, that you're not attractive enough, that you need other people to feel complete, that you need to be validated... It's all comes down to self-esteem, the ability to love yourself fully, to be authentic, to welcome your emotions, to be caring, to not let what other people think affect you, …
/r/seduction16/12/19 05:21 PM
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Are you really answering to my comment ? I don't understand how it's related to what I say. I'm saying that you shouldn't chase women that reject you or aren't involved from the start, and save your energy. So my advice to avoid that situation is to become more attractive and / or better at screening girls that will react positively to your approach.
/r/seduction16/12/19 05:08 PM
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It's usually a way that girls protect each others from annoying guys. It's a way of rejecting the guy without saying a direct "no" which can be difficult when the guy just tries to be social. It's a rejection, the only way to get around it is to make them feel more comfortable and excited so they don't want to reject you.
/r/seduction16/12/19 05:03 PM
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That is very reductive and honestly pretty dumb... People can't change you and you can't change people. And people can't dump you for someone else. They dump you because the relationship is not fulfilling to them, but sometimes it takes meeting someone else to realise it. Stop giving power over yourself to other people. You decide who you are and you are responsible for your relationships. Stop finding excuses.
/r/seduction16/12/19 04:54 PM
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All men I know that have sex with more than 10 women a month treat them like goddesses (and I have 3 friends like that). All men I know that are in a relationship with at least 5 women treat them like goddesses (and I know 3 people like that me included). That doesn't mean putting them on a pedestal. That doesn't mean making them your everything. That doesn't mean, obviously, being needy. That means noticing and supporting the goddess that is inside each woman, and showing the king (or the princ…
/r/seduction15/12/19 10:42 PM
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Oh god this post smells insecurity. No, attraction doesn’t rely on making people feel small. Attraction relies on your ability to build safety and excitement with a person. Being kind is a great quality, if you’re also able to build tension and being assertive. Treat yourself like a king, and treat women like goddesses. Nobody has to feel small. Women want to feel special, unique, heard, loved, supported, and also guided, brought along on an exciting adventure. Is your life an exciting adventure…
/r/seduction15/12/19 11:05 AM
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There are two things : first is being too affectionate. That means being all cuddly and kissy when she actually wants space. It’s all about non-verbal communication : is she reciprocating you’re kisses ? Is she cuddling with you ? Does she make compliments about touching you ? I don’t think that’s the issue, calibrating affection is pretty easy. I think the issue is the second thing : you’re putting too much pressure on the relationship. Saying « I like you » when you barely know someone is pres…
/r/seduction15/12/19 10:54 AM
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Most shit tests are signs of insecurity. You don’t need to test people if you love yourself.
/r/seduction12/12/19 06:14 PM
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Both vibes are essential. If you give off only the player vibe, girls will see it, have meaningless sex with you or not according to where they are in their life, and then move on. They will protect themselves emotionally and you will not be able to connect be them or create something deeper. If you give off only the boyfriend vibe, as you say, there is no sexual tension. Another way of saying it is that attraction comes from comfort (or safety) and excitement. It’s the mix of feeling totally se…
/r/seduction12/12/19 04:29 PM
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Yes. But I used to have one main relationship and several secondary ones and FWBs. It’s the first time I’m in two fully loving and involved relationships. It’s not that easy to make it work, but we’re doing our best :)
/r/seduction12/12/19 02:59 PM
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Yes. It’s a pretty funny situation because the girl I’m living with has another love story with a guy, and my ideal girl also lives with her boyfriend. We’re all good friends and make it work as well as possible. I would love for all of us to live together but I don’t know if it will happen.
/r/seduction12/12/19 02:52 PM
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Next time you see a girl, no matter if she is in a group, if she is pretty or not (just not someone working like a waitress) : You count "3.. 2...1... Go" in your head and you MOVE You walk toward that person and you say "Hi" Congratulate yourself, you just did an approach. Don't expect more from yourself than being able to say "hi" to someone. No pressure, just one word.
/r/seduction11/12/19 01:28 PM
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Yeah, and your post actually made me answer, so I found it inherently interesting. Didn't want to judge, it's just not my style :)
/r/seduction11/12/19 11:08 AM
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No difference. Everything is casual until you decide it's not. I think the difference between a casual relationship and a LTR is descriptive, not prescriptive. It's not something you want, it's something you observe : once you have feelings and a will to build something with the person and that it's reciprocated.
/r/seduction11/12/19 11:04 AM
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I almost never have this comment. Last time was maybe two years ago. I think people see that I want to connect with them authentically and not expect anything from them, so them having a boyfriend or not is the last of my worries. Some answers I had was : "Are you telling me that so I leave you alone, or do you want us to talk about your relationship ?" -> gives you an easy exit and honestly, most girls say that so you manage your expectations, not necessarily so you leave the conversation. This…
/r/seduction11/12/19 10:42 AM
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I found my ideal girl because I was ready for it, and I allowed myself to have her. It actually happened very similarly to The Game. I was having about as many girls as I wanted (one every day for three weeks straight at one point), having multiple LTRs at the same time (up to 6, including one I lived with), and basically having very little time for anything else beside my work. I was trying so hard to be my most attractive self, to connect with people, to create a space where people could open …
/r/seduction11/12/19 10:07 AM
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The biggest difference imo is that very attractive girls are distracted all the time. In a group they don't have the opportunity to get bored, to be alone or to seek something. They're constantly sought after (unless they have a cold look and people are intimidated, but those are not my type of girls so I rarely go for them). I think the key is to not treat them like they're a prize to be won, and not put them on a pedestal. If you try to compete with other guys and try to get her attention, you…
/r/seduction11/12/19 09:14 AM
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Well you shouldn’t do them with people that don’t like it, and you should do it with people that do. But many girls find being approached in the street creepy, or being dominated in the bed triggering, or being objectified degrading and repulsive. And some women love it. Depends on the past experiences and stuff like that. Through communication, observation and synchronisation, you can learn to identify what people like and want without crossing their boundaries.
/r/seduction09/12/19 08:23 AM
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It’s actually not the most terrible push pull. Devaluing yourself is a risky move but by taking a step back you made her go toward you. I know all of this is involuntary but you’re not in a bad spot, she really seems interested. So just keep doing yourself, it’s going great. And send that picture.
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:05 AM
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You realize that not all women might like the same things you do, right ?
/r/seduction08/12/19 11:58 PM
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Yeah looks are one way among others to grab attention.
/r/seduction08/12/19 11:30 PM
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Are you sure that her bf was worried ? Maybe she reasoned him, that she still needed friends, that he could trust her and all. Maybe she was the one worrying that he would get jealous and he told her it was fine if it was school related. Relationships evolve, she will have to talk to men at some point, she is not going to be reclused all her life. And people still want to have friends even if they are in a relationship you know ? You seem to be idealizing relationships, they’re not as black and …
/r/seduction06/12/19 01:06 PM
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Nothing strange, your friend is probably right. Maybe she was the one worrying and not her. People change their mind all the time, either you ask them why directly, or you just accept it. Nothing weird here.
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:17 PM
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Just very obvious. It’s like saying that you need to be funny to tease girls.
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:13 PM
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You can have dates where there is no kiss, and dates where there is a whole night of passionate sex. Both can be good dates. The thing is reciprocation. Follow her rhythm. See if she is as involved as you are. For example does she look at your lips ? Does she reciprocate your touch ? Does she smile for no reason while looking at your eyes ? If you read well body language and let space for reciprocation, and if you ask question when you feel hesitation, you will almost never cross any of her boun…
/r/seduction06/12/19 01:23 AM
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Well it's always different, but if a girl feels that she needs to tell you she doesn't want sex, it's probably because she feels that you expect it. So put less pressure and give her space to show if she wants it or not. For example you're making out for a while, at some point you back off, breath deeply, look at her, smile and tell her "I really like spending time with you". Now either she will jump on you and you know she is on to escalate a bit more, or she will just say "yeah me too" with a …
/r/seduction05/12/19 11:17 PM
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What you don't know is that this guy has 3 perfect 10 girlfriends. And those clothes are actually theirs, he's chilling giving advices on reddit while they're warming up the foursome. He's probably writing that looks don't matter much in seduction but nobody believes him.
/r/seduction05/12/19 11:04 PM
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Well there are real risks that it could threaten your relationship, and it’s not really worth it in my opinion. FWB is good with girls you have sex with but don’t see yourself developing feelings for. I really advise against doing it with a close friend. That said, being tactile with each other, sleeping together and all is fine. There is nothing wrong with that, and even having sex if that happens. Just don’t ask for it, let it happen without expecting it to happen.
/r/seduction05/12/19 09:36 PM
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Except confidence makes you attractive. It's like make-up in a way, or a beautiful smile. If you really love yourself, are confident, have fun, is present in the moment, can handle silences and maintain eye contact, a lot more girls will find you attractive. Also women in general put less importance on the visual attraction as we do (that's why, I believe, porn is so oriented to guys while erotic literature is more for girls). Many women told me they didn't find me attractive physically at first…
/r/seduction05/12/19 08:49 PM
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I think the men harassing women in this video should be more ashamed, don't you think ? It's giving such a negative reputation of the whole seduction community. Talking to women is not a crime and nobody will hate you for this, but this is much more than "talking".
/r/seduction05/12/19 03:25 PM
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What does "asking for a relationship" even means ? Nobody can ask me for a relationship, and I can't ask it to anyone. Relationship, or couple, or "FWB" are just labels. I consider myself in a relationship if I have feelings for someone that are reciprocated, if I have sexual desire for the person that is reciprocated and if we have a common intention to build something together. I don't have to ask for it, and neither does she, it either exists or it doesn't. Both people don't even have to put …
/r/seduction04/12/19 05:32 PM
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Well... This whole sub is pretty much about that.
/r/seduction04/12/19 04:38 PM
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Hobbies, friends, workshops, night game...
/r/seduction04/12/19 11:16 AM
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If you have to ask if the person is interested, it's usually a bad sign, but if she says "idk"... Well this is not looking good.
/r/seduction04/12/19 10:35 AM
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Well there are many things to talk about : the abundance mindset, the screening, the approach, and most importantly how to build safety and excitement. You can read this post if that interests you : https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dnjzzo/dont_try_to_get_her_interested_attraction_is/
/r/seduction04/12/19 10:17 AM
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It's great ! Definitely the good way forward. What I would do is like start a facebook or Whatsapp group then propose a social event like a salsa night in a bar, or just grab a drink with the running club. There you can talk more in-depth with the people you want to connect with. Also being the leader in that situation makes you stand out. All in all, you're doing great. Give it a bit of time, talk with them when given the opportunity, build complicity and attraction and try to bring value to th…
/r/seduction04/12/19 10:01 AM
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Well technically sex parties or orgies are the best place to get laid.
/r/seduction04/12/19 09:20 AM
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What are your hobbies ? How do you meet those people ? Basically once you've met them you get to know them better, you build excitement and attraction, you go on dates, things like that.
/r/seduction04/12/19 09:17 AM
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They say this because most people think they have a "type", so they're surprised when they're attracted by someone that is not what they expect. The thing is, physical type is of very little importance. I'm 5'6 and I have so many girls telling me they didn't expect to be attracted by someone so short. There is nothing to answer really, except maybe "You will realise I'm a pretty surprising person".
/r/seduction04/12/19 09:15 AM
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What do you mean by "seducer" or "player" ? People I know that have sex with a lot of girls genuinely care about them and are much more in the "savior" box.
/r/seduction04/12/19 08:24 AM
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It’s very large, but basically that means identifying who you’re meant to become and what you want to contribute to the world, and giving everything to become that person. And then you just expect other people to be themselves and do what is right for them. That’s abundance mentality, you don’t need anything from anyone, you’re enough, you’re complete. I advise you Model by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction04/12/19 08:18 AM
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Because they are paid to be nice to you.
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:20 AM
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Yes outfit can work, but it feels a bit artificial to me (probably because I don’t care about clothes and dress poorly most of the time). I tried street approach, but I prefer to do 10 approaches with no rejection than 100 with 90% rejection, and cold approaches are just too ineffective. Closed areas, like a bar, a party, a festival, a store, a workshop, a class, or anywhere that people use for something more than going from point A to point B is good. Also I’ve found investing in social circle …
/r/seduction03/12/19 11:26 PM
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Usually something situational. But something as simple as « hey do you want to talk ? » works well. I don’t approach people on the street tho. If I use a compliment, it will be something not about looks like « hey you seem fun / easy to talk to / joyful / interesting ». And only if that’s really genuine.
/r/seduction03/12/19 11:14 PM
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I’m not rich at all. Also I’m 5’6 and not ugly at all, but never had someone telling me I’m handsome before we had sex together. And usually girls say they weren’t attracted to me at first when they saw me but it came after talking and all.
/r/seduction03/12/19 11:10 PM
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Sure bro tell me about your kino escalation technique bro. Yeah sure. I actually ask the person before touching her, and if she's okay I do it. I usually start with the hand or the shoulder, I hug people often, I make it safe and non-threatening, I always wait for non-verbal cues before going forward. How many negs do you do bro? None. Just be direct and tell the girl you want them bro and they are all yours bro! It's usually more complex than that. But you can stay in your little world of excus…
/r/seduction03/12/19 08:45 PM
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I'm really not hot and I get laid very consistently with multiple relationships and occasional hookups. I have two very average looking friends who have sex with multiple new (very attractive) women every week and also have a long standing LTR. Another one who is also pretty short and not special at all in terms of look has had sex with more than 100 women that year alone. Being hot is really not that important. What is important tho is believing that you're hot and loving your body.
/r/seduction03/12/19 08:20 PM
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Shit tests don't exist. It's your insecurities getting the best of you.
/r/seduction03/12/19 08:13 PM
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Well, don't drink so much ;) I used to drink a lot in order to feel relaxed, but since I stopped drinking any hard liquor and limiting my drinking, my game has improved 100 times. Also if you want more info on the whole "safety and excitement" concept, I did that post : https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dnjzzo/dont_try_to_get_her_interested_attraction_is/
/r/seduction03/12/19 07:26 PM
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You're not hiding anything. "I'm attracted to you" -> no you're not. You're just needy sexually and you find her physically attractive. You can say "I think you're pretty", but why do you need to share that ? Unless you expect something in return ? You don't go around telling people "Hey I think you're nice", "hey you're really good at keeping your desk tidy". It's not a genuine compliment. "I want to know you better" -> Then why don't you do so ? Just ask her the questions you want to ask. What…
/r/seduction03/12/19 05:27 PM
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Last week I told a girl I work with that I was attracted to her and that I would like to get to know her better, she rejected me. In my experience, it's very rare that this kind of approach works. Telling someone you're attracted to her is putting a lot of pressure on the relationship. Most of the time (like in your example), you don't know you're attracted, you just find her physically attractive and would like to have sex. So you're approaching from a place of need and not of abundance. I find…
/r/seduction03/12/19 03:35 PM
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Why do you want reality to comform to your view of what is good and bad I think that's literally the definition of "good and bad".
/r/seduction03/12/19 03:24 PM
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It seems you're taking things way too personally. Trying to make people talk about your qualities is already showing huge insecurities. If you were confident you have those qualities, you wouldn't care about what people say about you. You need to grow up, understand that people talk about themselves, not about you, and stop caring so much about what they think. Then become the best person you can be, and show your most authentic self from a place of abundance and not scarcity. I play sports, dan…
/r/seduction03/12/19 03:19 PM
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Safety and excitement. Safety is the feeling that she will always be in control of her boundaries and will not be pressured into doing anything she is not comfortable doing. Excitement is the feeling that she doesn’t know what is going to happen, that everything is spontaneous without a plan. That the moment is special and unique because you’re building it together. If you got both, and there is physical attraction, it’s pretty much going to happen.
/r/seduction03/12/19 12:17 PM
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Well, did you feel the spark ?
/r/seduction02/12/19 06:03 PM
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Yeah you do you. I just think having no motive is a better mindset to live a happy and fulfilling life.
/r/seduction01/12/19 09:54 PM
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I think if you approach a person with the intention to seduce them, you're starting with a huge handicap. And if your motive is to "improve your game" then you're just considering that person as a training tool, and people can sense that. I think it all goes down to ethics : consider people as an end, not as a mean. If your motive to talk to someone is that you get sex out of them, you're considering them as an object. And that disconnects you from the real person, from the real relationship. Ta…
/r/seduction01/12/19 07:51 PM
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She was probably not into you at all.
/r/seduction01/12/19 05:13 PM
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I don't know who that Tom Torero is, but I know plenty of insanely good-looking guys who have no success with women.
/r/seduction29/11/19 11:46 AM
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I think it's mostly cultural. Here in Europe I feel like most first dates are around a meal or a drink.
/r/seduction29/11/19 10:23 AM
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Yeah what some call flirting is just normal behaviour for other people. Each person is different in the way they interact with others.
/r/seduction29/11/19 10:20 AM
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Well being in a relationship doesn't mean you're not allowed to flirt. Some people like to flirt even if that doesn't lead to anything more, it's a fun activity on its own.
/r/seduction29/11/19 10:08 AM
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What made you think she was into you ? You're probably getting clues wrong and showing off as needy / insecure.
/r/seduction29/11/19 08:47 AM
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During sex, and especially during orgasms, we release ocytocin which is a key component in attachment. So basically if a woman has a really good orgasm (or multiple ones), she will probably get attached and want to see you again, at least as a FWB.
/r/seduction29/11/19 08:44 AM
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Looks are like 5% of seduction. How you believe you look is a huge part tho.
/r/seduction28/11/19 06:23 PM
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First, you need to break up with your girlfriend. What has prevented you from that for the past 6 months ? You're also giving her very mixed signals. Second, you need to communicate with that girl. Communicate how you feel, what you want, and ask questions. Maybe she has an open relationship, maybe she is cheating on her boyfriend, you don't know. And then you can position yourself. Best way to get rid of confusion is to get clarity. It's better to end a relationship that doesn't suit you than s…
/r/seduction28/11/19 03:39 PM
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People have been drunk and sent stupid texts before, most will understand. Your text is not even understandable. Just send a "sorry I was drunk, don't even understand what I was trying to say... I guess my drunk self misses you" text and laugh about it. It's really not a big deal.
/r/seduction28/11/19 03:23 PM
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First, topic is not that important. Most important is the "vibe", which is how you say it, if you're able to listen, how you manage silences, your body language, if you're relaxed, if you don't have self-judging thoughts, if you don't put pressure, if you have fun. If you manage these things well, you can literally talk about anything. A recent approach I talked with a girl for maybe one hour about luxury women shoes. I never wore anything besides sneakers, I didn't even know most words she was …
/r/seduction28/11/19 12:11 PM
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Polarisation is key. It's the ability to generate emotions and getting out of "neutral mode". Nobody want to be neutral, we love to be polarised : we like and we dislike, we agree and we disagree, we go left and we go right. By being vulnerable and honest about yourself, you will make her position herself about you. If you touch her, she can like or dislike your touch. If you tell her something you like (or ask her what she likes) you can both position yourself on that matter and get to know eac…
/r/seduction28/11/19 10:52 AM
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What about physical escalation ? I think you seem a bit too needy / eager, and are too much in your head. Don't try to make them laugh or to be a gentleman. Don't show more interest than what comes naturally. Be authentic, use silences, talk about emotions and feelings and stay connected to your body. Maybe this will help you, it seems related to your issue : https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dnjzzo/dont_try_to_get_her_interested_attraction_is/
/r/seduction28/11/19 10:41 AM
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Casual conversation -> sexual or intimate conversation -> sensual interaction -> sexuality. Focus on playfulness, relaxation, safety, consent and authenticity.
/r/seduction28/11/19 09:45 AM
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It's usually the end of the "honeymoon phase" or "NRE". It's purely chemical, our brain doesn't release as much dopamin and endorphins so we have less desire for the other person. These advices will allow you to keep a healthy sexuality, but don't expect the craziness of the early relationship to last forever.
/r/seduction28/11/19 09:38 AM
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How long have you been together ? 2-3 times a week is pretty high if you've been together for more than 2 years. Is the quality there ? What you can do : Propose massage sessions where sexuality is not a given, and give good massages. Talk about your sexuality, talk about some kinks you would like to do with her, listen to her. Tell her when you're excited, even if you can't have sex at the moment. Tell her what you like about her, what you would like to do to her. Use metaphors, be creative, be…
/r/seduction28/11/19 09:34 AM
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Come one man... Don't try to sell him this esoteric feng shui crap. First feng Shui is a type of decoration. That's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about basic psychology. People will perceive from you what you perceive from you. If you go to as set thinking "What can I do ? They will all prefer my much better-looking friend", guess what ? It's likely that they will indeed prefer your much less insecure friend. Seduction is mostly about the idea you have of yourself, that's why self…
/r/seduction27/11/19 03:02 PM
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If you don't have fun, people won't have fun with you and you won't have success or progression. Do things that you want to do, focus on having fun, and then meet people from there.
/r/seduction27/11/19 11:10 AM
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Do you realise your whole point is about online dating when I didn't mention that at all ? But yeah, stay in your little world and don't try to improve. If you prefer to have excuses than results, it's your choice and I respect it. I just wonder why you come on this sub then.
/r/seduction27/11/19 11:08 AM
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It’s not only what he does, it’s what he thinks when he does it. It’s what he tells himself. I’m just saying that you have a good mentor with you and you’re trying to get help with strangers over the internet. Use the tools you have around you. I improved so much by surrounding myself with the most attractive people I would meet and understand what about them was so magnetic, then tried to apply that. We don’t know if it’s a test. Next time just ask : « are you testing me by talking about my fri…
/r/seduction27/11/19 09:37 AM
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If you really want him to leave you, I’m sure you will be able to do it after a while. You are sabotaging yourself again and again and again because you’re afraid of your feelings and you have low self-esteem. Go to therapy, trust yourself to get better, and trust him to know what he feels. Allow yourself to feel, to let go of your protective shells you built over time. There is no way you can be in any healthy relationship if you don’t work of the way you see yourself. I don’t know if that come…
/r/seduction27/11/19 09:30 AM
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I feel like you are asking us a magic trick to make people fall in love.
/r/seduction27/11/19 09:24 AM
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I think you have a lot to learn from him. And stop believing your excuse that « it’s about looks ». He’s definitely doing things and behaving in a way that is attractive. But don’t cheat, that’s not nice. Don’t get exclusive if that’s not what you want.
/r/seduction27/11/19 09:17 AM
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It’s already changed ! Go out there and be yourself. The worst that can happen is that you learn a lot.
/r/seduction27/11/19 08:56 AM
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Great. Wish you the best !
/r/seduction27/11/19 08:51 AM
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Either I feel like she is not interested, conversation is boring, I feel a bit awkward, then I just say so : « hey, I feel like there is something else on your mind, do you want me to let you alone ? ». I’m completely fine with leaving someone that is not 100% involved. It honestly doesn’t happen often, if you talk to people about what they like and who they are, it never ends. Every time it happened the person really had something in her mind (friends leaving, boyfriend angry, stress dur to wor…
/r/seduction27/11/19 08:50 AM
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I don’t get it. Why didn’t you wingman your friend and got them 2 together ? Don’t let your insecurities get the best of you. Some girls will be attracted to you, some will be attracted to others. The question is what do you do with that.
/r/seduction27/11/19 08:26 AM
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No I wrote it at once, but I’m really flattered you’re asking this question !
/r/seduction26/11/19 11:49 PM
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What do you mean nothing changes ? Obviously it’s your issue, you’re the one feeling hurt. It’s nobody else’s problem.
/r/seduction26/11/19 11:48 PM
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The issue is : you develop feelings that are not reciprocated. When you do that, you actually disconnect from the other person. You're not building a relationship together, you're building your own fantasy of a relationship. You're thinking things like "I hope she likes me !", "My life will be so much better when we are in an official relationship". Those are projections, they give you feelings that are not based on anything real. You build yourself an idealised vision of your reality, and when …
/r/seduction26/11/19 04:59 PM
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I'm going to break it to you : you can be an authentic feminist "alpha" PUA.
/r/seduction26/11/19 03:40 PM
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It's possible you're too much in your head and try to make things "interesting" more than "exciting". You're doubting yourself and get into mental loops instead of being connected to your body and your sexual energy. Maybe this post could help you : https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dnjzzo/dont_try_to_get_her_interested_attraction_is/
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:11 PM
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What is your last message ? Also how are you supposed to minimize contact with a girl that's initiating all the time? You don't. You go with the flow.
/r/seduction26/11/19 12:08 PM
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It was yesterday... Most people don't connect on dating apps every day.
/r/seduction26/11/19 11:42 AM
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Really ? That's interesting, I've found that I have way more friends (men and women) since I've improved my game skills. Now I feel I can connect easily with most people on an emotional level, so if there is no sexual attraction from one side or the other, they become friends. Of course among them they are some I find more boring or more interesting, and want to hang out with. But I love to have friendly evenings with girls I really connect with but I'm not physically attracted to (or at least n…
/r/seduction26/11/19 11:25 AM
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"I want us to remain just friends, and I don't have to have a romantic or sexual relationship with you". It's really not that hard, you can do it ;)
/r/seduction26/11/19 10:49 AM
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But after you have a solid date with a lot of sexual energy, making out, and vibing with a girl you actually like, but she doesn’t respond, feels like a real punch to the gut. It's a great opportunity to learn ! What were the signs that she was not going to respond after that date ? What were the things you were telling yourself during ? What did you do, what space did you let her ? Were you initiating all the steps, or reciprocating ? It's likely that while it was a good date for you, it wasn't…
/r/seduction26/11/19 10:20 AM
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You're facing dementia and real madness on a day-to-day basis. You overcame social phobia, depression, and got over your deepest fears. You have a job that you love that is about helping other people. I know almost nothing about you and I already have 3 huge accomplishments. And there are probably so many more that you don't even realise right now. Anything is an accomplishment if you put effort and value into it, and it's meaningful to you. And of course you should be honest, you are who you ar…
/r/seduction26/11/19 10:11 AM
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When a woman values the man she is with, she will be willing to do some of the freakiest shit he wants her to do. I don't understand why you always make it seem like it's the man who wants the sex or the sexual acts ? Yes, a woman that values the man she is with will be able to be herself and do the freaky things she wants to do. I have plenty of women who are enjoying the blowjobs they give me, I don't have to ask for it, they do it on their own. Same for threesomes (or more), BDSM, massages, o…
/r/seduction26/11/19 09:48 AM
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Stop avoiding your feelings. You need to grow up. Yes she didn't want to be with you. Yes she is probably trying to to her best to live a happy life, which hopefully involves having sex with other people she's attracted to. Now how do you feel with that ? Allow yourself to live that feeling completely, no matter what you feel, know that it's ok. You're allowed to be sad, to be angry, to feel devastated, to cry. Don't avoid it, don't distract yourself from it. Realise that it's nothing worse than…
/r/seduction26/11/19 09:38 AM
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This is such a stereotypical misogynist view of the world, I feel I'm back 50 years in the past. No, sex is not something that is bargained or used as a way to manipulate someone in a healthy relationship. Women want to have sex just as much as men, as long as they feel secure and loved in this relationship. Actually I think they want it even more than men because of how much it has been repressed. So if you want sex, she knows that she can't use it as a bargaining chip because there are tons of…
/r/seduction26/11/19 09:16 AM
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When you become the prize, you can make demands in the relationship. Women know that men love sex and all she has to do is wave "it" in his face and she can get him to do whatever she wants. This is why a lot of married men have a "Yes Dear" mentality. When you become the prize, she will be trying to win you over (no pun intended). So if you want sex, she knows that she can't use it as a bargaining chip because there are tons of hotter women who can easily replace her if she doesn't put out. Oh …
/r/seduction26/11/19 08:34 AM
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First, thanks for your kind words. I'm really glad you enjoyed my post. I don't know you, but if you have a lot of meaningless sex and hookups, it's probably due to a fear of intimacy : the belief that if people knew you deep inside, knew the deepest and darkest parts of you, they wouldn't love you and would leave you. So you protect yourself by having lots of superficial interactions. Don't worry, everything can be learnt. In order to do that you need to learn to accept and love yourself fully.…
/r/seduction24/11/19 02:16 PM
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Hey. It's normal to have an emotional drop after such a high. We are conditioned to think that we will be happy if we reach certain objective. Like "if I get a girlfriend, I will be happy", "If I get a foursome with three beautiful girls, I will be happy", "If I can get a girl every night, I will be happy", "If I win a million dollars, I will be happy". The thing, you don't. Happiness is never cause by external causalities. Happiness is the ability to love life as it is, and welcome anything wit…
/r/seduction24/11/19 01:31 PM
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I feel like emojis are half of my text game. It's a powerful form of communication, if used correctly with moderation.
/r/seduction24/11/19 01:12 PM
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If it's hard to choose, it's because none of them are good for you in the long term. You will find a girl that is both your most intimate best friend, and at the same time you can't stop thinking of her body and what to do with it. Maybe even more than one. You did well. I can assure you that when a girl will be right for you, there will be no hesitation. You will only ask yourself "how did I get so lucky ?", and so will she.
/r/seduction24/11/19 01:11 PM
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Advices in this thread are terrible. When a girl does that, usually it’s a mix of a few things : she is thinking about you she is bored she wants your attention / validation from you Don’t send broad and vague comments like « you’re hot ». To maintain the sexual tension, you need to : be short. Just « ooh 😘 » is fine if you don’t have time. Avoid « 😍 ». be a story teller. She is bored, she wants you to stimulate her imagination. Telling her she’s hot is not something that can generate fantasies.…
/r/seduction24/11/19 11:41 AM
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Women have the best tips about dating. Most things I learnt, I learnt them through women. But you have to know what to ask. Don’t ask for the rational, ask for the feelings, the experience. It’s not « what makes you attracted to someone ? », it’s « what do you like about your boyfriend ? ». Every time I heard a girl say « I have a boyfriend », I took the opportunity to ask them about their relationship, how they were attracted, what they are looking for in a man. Especially girls I’m attracted t…
/r/seduction24/11/19 03:02 AM
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I was thinking of talking to her and asking why she asked me to leave last night I wouldn't do that. You know why she asked : she wanted to spend time with you. If you ask her again she will get defensive. Don't insist on this. Go with the flow. So far nothing happened, there is nothing she did that could threaten her relationship. You're friends, and it's not unusual for friends to spend time together. See how that goes, give it time. Maybe she is struggling with her bf right now, maybe not. Sh…
/r/seduction23/11/19 10:12 AM
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Oh yeah my bad. In your case you’re single because you don’t want to be in a relationship.
/r/seduction23/11/19 12:27 AM
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I could definitely speak to them. Who is to say that they couldn't hear me ?
/r/seduction22/11/19 11:20 PM
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My comment is directed to both men and women. If you are with people with high expectations, it’s because you feed them. It’s because you play the games of labels : you put words on relationships before making the experience. For example, exclusivity. If the first time you sleep with someone you ask (or agree) for exclusivity, you’re putting too much pressure on something so fragile. If after two months you observe that none of you have had sex with other people, or don’t feel like meeting other…
/r/seduction22/11/19 06:43 PM
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It seems to me you’re handling it just fine. I don’t see any issue. Of course the longer you’re away, the less attractive being in a relationship with you becomes. There is nothing you can do about that. Being present is always better than being away to build a relationship with someone. It’s up to her to decide what is important for her in a relationship. So far she seems to be happy with what you have to offer, which is great. Enjoy !
/r/seduction22/11/19 06:29 PM
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Actually, you’re single because you’re afraid of being in a relationship, because you have too much expectations and putting too much pressure on yourself and others.
/r/seduction22/11/19 03:29 PM
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The thing is, you already do. Do you have enough food to eat ? Do you have a bed to sleep ? Do you have people to talk to ? Do you have a healthy body ? Can you go wherever you want and talk to whoever you want ? Do you have trees around you ? Do you have pure water easily accessible ? You have abundance. What you need is being mindful of it. One of the events that made me switch into abundance mentality was a vision quest : 4 days alone in the woods with no food, no light, no distraction, no wa…
/r/seduction22/11/19 03:26 PM
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Thanks for these beautiful words. I feel touched. I wish you the best my friend.
/r/seduction22/11/19 11:37 AM
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No. Do your thing dude, you sound like you know your stuff.
/r/seduction21/11/19 05:44 PM
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What are those ? You realise that a lot of people have dates that don't end in sex, right ?
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:47 PM
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I'm from France and have been living in Sweden, Spain and Germany. It is definitely the case in those cultures. Most people are definitely not as obsessed with sex as you seem to be.
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:46 PM
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What does "advancing sexually" means for you ?
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:44 PM
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Giving away a "let's have sex" vibe on an instant date location is not really realistic either.
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:39 PM
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It's obviously a good thing. I've had that a few times, and all those girls were crushing on me. The reply could be "wow thanks, nobody ever told me that. I have to say, you're a pretty impressive person yourself. I guess the more we'll get to know each other the less intimidated we'll be ;) " But you're charismatic, you know what to answer ;)
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:30 PM
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Oh no you're misunderstanding. Obviously she thought it was likely I was interested in her. She just had not made her mind about whether or not she was reciprocating. Sex was just not an option for her at the time.
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:18 PM
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I think you're the one being naive in that situation. Actually even going to one of your places doesn't mean sex is a given. It just has that vibe. Sharing a coffee has not.
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:08 PM
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A coffee and a nice get-to-know-each-other discussion.
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:04 PM
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Welcome to a world of disappointment my friend.
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:59 PM
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The only real proposition with a "I'm saying one thing but you know and I know that what I'm actually talking about is a sexual advance, answer yes or no accordingly" vibe is your place or her place. Getting a drink definitely doesn't have that, even less a coffee.
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:53 PM
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I agree with you. Thanks for your input (and for the energy you put into making this place the way it is). My point was not to criticise the mods, but more to question the rules. I feel like about 80% of the threads are removed, which is a lot. Especially when I'm in Europe, answering some threads in the morning when the US is asleep, and when a mod gets up all the threads I've answered are gone. Maybe we could use an automated message to help those people reframe their threads in a way that fit…
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:51 PM
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I don't know, ask her. It will be weird for some, some will like it. You can do other activities aswell, depends what you like to do.
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:44 PM
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is it something I actually want to be doing ? How do you expect us to answer that question ? It seems you're the best person to answer that, don't you think ? I don't like coffee or tea. Alcohol tastes like actual poison to me. Where do I go? Anywhere that serve juices or soda ? Seduction is not about what beverage you drink.
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:12 PM
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Ok. First, there is nothing going bad in your situation. That's only in your head. You had a good night with someone, and the second one she lasted for a very short time, she wasn't in the mood and there is probably not much you would have done. It's good that you didn't pressure her and you did well. Nothing to worry here. There is no such thing as "being too nice". That's an excuse for people thinking that they are nice (they usually aren't) and that this should give them some special benefits…
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:18 PM
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That's not entirely true. It's just that most guys are not able to see when a girl is making a move. With almost every one of my relationships we both feel me made the first move. It's just that we do it differently.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:30 AM
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What ? Neither. It looks like someone who has been left on read and tries to see if it was deliberate. I don't know, it's literally three texts, I feel like you're massively overthinking this.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:26 AM
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Next time, break the groups. Say something like "hey, we should mix a bit !" and just go talk to them. They probably wanted to be included in your group, and taking initiatives like that make you seem like a leader. Don't worry too much over it, take that as a learning experience. The more attention you put on group dynamic and how to make everyone feel included and safe, the more you'll be seen as a group leader, and the more people will trust you to make decisions for them.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:23 AM
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Literally every single one is douchy. Especially the start of each message is like /r/imverysmart material : "we have a lot of things to forward to", "I'm assuming", "I intentionally", "you see", "don't worry", "they say". Not to mention he doesn't listen anything she says, doesn't propose any compromise or anything really, he's just listening to his own boring discourse. And when the girl notices it, he says it's "subtlety". No, there is nothing subtle here, just emptiness.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:21 AM
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You have absolutely nothing to start from. I would maybe send one dm like "Hey, it was nice meeting you last night, you look like a lot of fun / an interesting person. I hope to see you again !" and leave it at that. Don't expect her to answer or anything. Then next time you see her, you can talk to her a bit more.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:04 AM
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I believe two things : girls want sex just as much as guys, and guys want relationships just as much as girls. There are just fears that prevent people from going for what they want. But yeah, most people here want relationship(s) that include healthy sexuality.
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:57 AM
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I don't understand your question or your problem.
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:51 AM
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I don't see any shit test, it's as straight forward as she can be. She will have sex with this dude, make him FWB if he's willing to, and then meet you. Are you ok with that ? If yes, then great. If not, what is your issue and what would you like to have with her ? Girls after a 4 year relationship usually need time to feel some sexual liberation before they're ready to get into another relationship. It's usually not very long (like less than 6 months) but it depends on the girl obviously. Until…
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:01 AM
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Do you intentionally use condescending sentences or is it subconscious ? It sounds really fake in my opinion, which is what she's trying to tell you.
/r/seduction21/11/19 09:56 AM
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You're thinking everything completely upside down. You're too self-centered. Look at your post, it's only "people should be nicer to me", "why would anyone want to know me ?", it's you, you, you. That's why people ignore you. You don't even care about them, you only care about what they can bring you. Change your mindset. What can you bring to other people ? What can you do to make their life more exciting, interesting, fun ? What fulfilling experience can you share with them ? People don't owe …
/r/seduction21/11/19 09:38 AM
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My sentence is not clear. I meant that you think she is needed for you to be happy. And by doing so you don see her a real human being with qualities and flaws, but as an idealized being that you can’t live without. Of course you can make other people happy :)
/r/seduction21/11/19 07:36 AM
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What I practice often is "enjoying frustration". Like when you want something and you can't have it, enjoy the feeling. Live it fully. Like you're very horny and a girl is not in the mood, say "thank you for your no" and enjoy that feeling of neediness. You have any addiction, like smoking, porn, sugar, social media ? Instead of compulsively doing it next time, just focus on your breathing and enjoy the feeling. Stay with it for at least 10 minutes and see if you still want it. After a while you…
/r/seduction20/11/19 04:20 PM
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pull her aside and tell her why I act the way I do. I want to tell her that it's sort of difficult for me being open in the beginning because of my past, but the more time we spend together, I get more comfortable around people in general. I don't mind being honest, and if she leaves she leaves. Yes, go for that. Tell her what you told us, it's great.
/r/seduction20/11/19 03:23 PM
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It's true that if you think you need something in your life, you will put energy into not having it. How does that work ? When you think you need something, you're building a fantasy in your mind. You're thinking "oh my life would be so much happier if I had a girlfriend ! I would love her so hard and she would love me and my life would be such a bliss". But it's wrong. Being in a relationship is just as hard as being single, it's just as many problems, it's more arguing, it's sharing intimacy, …
/r/seduction20/11/19 03:09 PM
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It's not that texting is forbidden besides logistics. It's just that it's not needed. So you have a date. You send her a message maybe the next day saying something along the line of "hey it was great spending time with you, are you available to see each other next week ?" and back and forth until you get a day and a place. Let's say the date is a week from then. Great ! You do your life for a week, do your thing. If you think about her or are very eager about meeting her maybe you can send a te…
/r/seduction20/11/19 02:59 PM
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Wow this is painful to read.
/r/seduction20/11/19 01:24 PM
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Any skill you learn feels awkward at first : learning to drive, learning to read, learning to juggle, learning a language. Good verbal and non-verbal communication is a skill. It's useful in seduction, business, job interviews, public speaking, debating, and any interaction : you can get better relationships with your family, you can get better prices at the store, you can get better friendships... I think good communication skills are definitely essential for seduction. The more you practice it…
/r/seduction20/11/19 10:53 AM
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Hey, here are a few tips in your situation : Most people are terrible to express themselves through texts. It's not that they play "hard to get", they're just not good at communicating through texting. Use texts only for logistics, or if you want to share something through text, don't expect the other person to answer or to reciprocate. It's not that they don't want to, it's because they genuinely don't have the ability. Nobody can "string you along". Are you happy in the relationship ? If not, …
/r/seduction20/11/19 10:16 AM
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Yes, as a guy I usually text first, a couple days after. Something along the lines of "Hey, thank you for that beautiful moment together. I really enjoyed being with you, it felt so natural [here I usually have a private joke or something]. I wish you a beautiful day and I hope to see you soon." I only say the truth and try to connect to my most authentic self, while keeping it short and direct, and not putting expectations.
/r/seduction20/11/19 09:36 AM
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Don't small talk. Do real talk. For that, you need to be confident enough to be vulnerable and real, to not hide behind your masks and your protections. Ask emotional questions like "how do you feel ?", "what is the thing you're the most grateful for in your life ?", "Which person in your family are you the closest ?", "What do you dream of doing one day ?", "how would you like to be remembered after you die ?". Go with the flow of the conversation, don't prepare a list of questions you're going…
/r/seduction20/11/19 09:21 AM
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If you put your value on external forces (what people think of you, what results you have, how attracted to you people are, how many lays you got, how attractive your girlfriends are...), you will go down at some point. That's why I don't advise people to go out everyday of the week. You need rest days, just like working out needs rest days. Your body and your mind need to rest. If you practice game because seducing people gives you a sense of worth, it's only superficial. That doesn't mean you …
/r/seduction20/11/19 09:09 AM
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The thing is, you make it seem like those « good characteristics » are universal. They are yours ! Of course you should know what you want and find a girl that fits your values. But don’t assume it’s the same for others. If you think your vision of good and bad is the only one that works, you will judge other people and you will judge yourself. Everyone is perfect the way they are. Everyone try to do their best with what they got, with their own set of values, with their own fears and needs. We …
/r/seduction19/11/19 12:56 PM
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English is not my first language, and sometimes it shows ;)
/r/seduction19/11/19 11:08 AM
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Wait until friday and if she has not answered : "hey, still in for sunday ?" That said, it's a bit weird to propose that she cooks for you. I would have gone the other way.
/r/seduction19/11/19 09:38 AM
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The thing is, I feel for the boyfriend. Here I am talking to his girl. Hitting on her. She likes it and seeks attention. Except she is not his girl. She is considering whether to do something with me and ultimately decides not to. But in effect she has already emotionally cheated. He should know this, so that he can end it. But there is no way he will find out even though he deserves to... How do you know the dynamic of their relationship ? How do you know that the guy would not be ok with his g…
/r/seduction19/11/19 09:32 AM
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What is loyalty for you ? Why is it so important for you ? Why would a girl that makes money on Onlyfans could not be loyal ? There is absolutely no way to tell if she is the right girl for you. How advanced is your relationship ? Does she see other people ? Do you ?
/r/seduction19/11/19 08:59 AM
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He showed many signs of nervousness. It’s a very clear cut case of « panic humor ».
/r/seduction19/11/19 08:21 AM
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You stand up for yourself. Your friend is an asshole and misogynist. You call out in his behavior in front of the girl. Asking a girl to suck a guy is not a joke, it’s not funny. If you want to seduce her you have to prove you can be there for her, that you will punish anyone that disrespects her, and that you can take care of her. By not saying anything in that situation and not taking a clear stand, you’re validating your friend behavior. Seriously, get better friends.
/r/seduction18/11/19 11:09 PM
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Ok, what happens just before you put the condom ? What makes you think "hey, it's time for me to put a condom !". Usually at this point I'm waiting for a clue from her. You don't put your dick in someone without being 100% sure it's what that person wants. Because if that's not the case, it's rape (actually you want to make sure before you put your fingers too). So at this point either she says she wants me to be inside her, or I ask "do you want me to put a condom ?". I think in your case you'r…
/r/seduction18/11/19 10:37 PM
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To guys, here is how to practice your « I’m gonna fuck you » face : lock eyes with intensity. Relax your eyes so you don’t need to blink. relax your face, let your mouse slightly open and breath deeply while keeping the intensity. You can have a slightly severe face, but no frown. Like a calm Viking or something. when you breath out, contract your pc muscles. Connect to your sexual energy in your pelvis. It’s like you’re breathing out through your sex. With a little practice, you’ll feel like yo…
/r/seduction18/11/19 05:54 PM
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Basically just make sure that's what she really wants. Build a safe environment for her to express her desires and boundaries. You can use questions like "do you want to do something after ?" and welcome the yes just like the no. Build excitement. Maybe a post I did a few weeks ago would help you : https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dnjzzo/dont_try_to_get_her_interested_attraction_is/
/r/seduction18/11/19 10:51 AM
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What do you mean you « tried to go all the way » ? You need to be more explicit if you want help. There is definitely an issue with the way you set up those moments or the way you escalate.
/r/seduction18/11/19 08:59 AM
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Why not just a movie night at your place ? But your idea is good too, I would not go with the mutual friend tho, because you have to eject that person afterward. Usually, I plan threesomes by calling them « massage session » so there is no pressure on sexuality. Make sure everyone feel safe and comfortable, but if they date each other it’s great. I always try to get girls that have sexual tension between them. Don’t put too much expectations on yourself ! First threesomes can be really stressful…
/r/seduction18/11/19 08:36 AM
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Have you tried meditation ? It could help you a lot. Also anything that help you love your body : yoga, working out, posing naked for drawing students... I’m 5’6, you can check my post history to find tips that could help you.
/r/seduction17/11/19 11:36 PM
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I just want to be friends with them that's it or be in a relationship if possible. ...
/r/seduction17/11/19 11:16 PM
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You did well. Congratulations on your first approach. Seduction is like judo, you have to learn how to fall. You know how many times you tried before you managed to walk ? Average for a human being is more than 1000 tries. More than 1000 times you tried to stood up on your leg and fell, hurting yourself. But you kept going, and now you're walking without thinking. You already have all the determination you need inside of you. Seduction is the same. At some point you will not even notice rejectio…
/r/seduction17/11/19 10:58 PM
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Well I'm sorry but girls usually have a protective group dynamic that make them intervene if one of them is in need of help. Usually because a guy is too insistant and she doesn't know how to get rid of him. If their friends pull her away and she is not seen again it's either : She was too drunk or high to make responsible decisions She has a boyfriend most probably : she wanted out the interaction with you If she really wants to go to your place, I can assure you that no friends will stop her.
/r/seduction17/11/19 10:51 PM
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at the end of the day it's up to the Woman if anything goes ahead or not. What do you mean by that ? I don't think it's true at all. In my experience seduction is frown upon much more when a girl does it. If anything, a girl is supposed to be passive and wait for the prince charming to seduce her. Fortunately it's evolving but there is still a stigma against women that actively seduce men.
/r/seduction17/11/19 10:41 PM
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Nice post ! I definitely agree with your points. I disagree with the meaning of your third one tho. I think it's more "find your Karens". People evolve, and in reality more than in TV shows. You will change, the people around you will change. Your Karen right now may not be your Karen in 10 years. I think expecting one girl to be your everything for your whole life is asking too much. So what I would say is : when you find your Karen, give it everything. When you feel she is the one, she is your…
/r/seduction17/11/19 10:32 PM
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The signs are really easy : Does she have hair ? Does she have boobs ? Does she have clothes ? Does she speak a language ? Then she is not a slut. There is no slut except in your mind.
/r/seduction17/11/19 09:47 PM
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Any serious relationship, any serious person, anyone you're attracted to. Yes obviously it's meant to be in a context where the subject of relationships is already in sight. That said, broad questions are great when you start to get to know someone, like "What is your priority in life right now ?", "what do you have the most gratitude for in your life right now ?" and so on.
/r/seduction17/11/19 04:26 PM
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The issue I have with "just be yourself" is that it sounds like being yourself is easy. No, it's not. It's really fucking hard because of years of conditioning, fears, brainwash, trying to please other people so much that you forgot who you are. Your automatism, even your thoughts are not you. They are the reflect of what other people, and mostly adults when you were a kid, made you believe. You can't just "be yourself". You have to become yourself, to find yourself, to deconstruct your limiting…
/r/seduction17/11/19 04:23 PM
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The thing is, it's never, ever "in the bag". People are people, they change, they evolve, they're complex. It's not because you have a date that goes well that you two will kiss, it's not because you kiss that you will have sex, it's not because you have sex that you will see each other, it's not because you have had a couple date that you will have a relationship, it's not because you have a relationship that it's going to last. Relationships demands constant efforts, you're constantly showing …
/r/seduction17/11/19 04:14 PM
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I'm 5'6. Height won't be a problem when you stop seeing it as one.
/r/seduction17/11/19 03:20 PM
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All you have to do is be yourself, that's it. Then proceeds to make at least 10 advices that have nothing to do with being yourself...
/r/seduction17/11/19 03:18 PM
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I completely agree with you. The thing is, if your post is for beginners (and that makes total sense on this sub), maybe you could explain a bit more in length what negs are, when to use it, show examples, anything that could provide actionable advices for people reading you.
/r/seduction17/11/19 02:32 PM
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Hey dude, no need to be all defensive. Maybe I was a bit harsh on your post, I didn't mean to offend you. "you won't need disqualification." From that I can totally infer that you have little to no understanding of the actual game. That's a bold conclusion, but I can be more precise in what I mean by that. What I mean is that you won't need any intentional disqualification. What I call intentional disqualification is your mind trying to disqualify as a way to "balance" escalation. Like "I need t…
/r/seduction17/11/19 02:20 PM
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This is what happens when you can't be your authentic self with someone and feels you have to go into your defensive patterns : here is humor as a way to protect himself from his feelings. For other people it can be over-rationalisation or avoiding conversation. You see how unattractive he becomes ? Although he is very good-looking. I can assure you that a very average-looking guy who would allow himself to be vulnerable in that situation would become very attractive. That's why looks don't matt…
/r/seduction17/11/19 02:05 PM
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Wow, what a beautiful bag of nothing. There is not a single actionable idea in this post. You didn't even say what a neg is, you only said what it wasn't, and purpose it has. If you need a neg to prove that she is not the prize, in order to get her, then that means she is indeed the prize. If you deal with your insecurities and treat women as people, you won't need disqualification.
/r/seduction17/11/19 01:53 PM
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The thing is, your reply only contains statements that close the conversation. There is nothing to answer to that, except maybe "haha thanks". How do you know she will be just fine ? Do you really think that smart people don't struggle career wise ? It's not dry, it's just not interesting and don't make the conversation going. Use questions, or bring something to the conversation. Like : "I feel it's such a common thing in our generation to not know what we want to do after graduating. Are your …
/r/seduction17/11/19 12:49 PM
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If you approach woman yourself, she will 9 times out of 10 be flattered, no matter what the outcome will be. On what evidence is based your stat ? And even if your statements were true, we could find just as many positives on online dating, night game or social circle game. I don't think that it makes daygame "the best way to meet women".
/r/seduction17/11/19 10:55 AM
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How do those friendships "turn into a relationship thing" without you knowing ? You're responsible for what you want in a relationship. If you want to stay friend with someone, just stay friend, what is the issue ?
/r/seduction16/11/19 06:04 PM
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Well if you don't know what makes her your girlfriend then yes there is something wrong. And what is this "something" that happens with every girl ?
/r/seduction16/11/19 06:00 PM
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Second one.
/r/seduction16/11/19 05:34 PM
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What was the difference between your ex and a good friend ?
/r/seduction16/11/19 05:27 PM
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However it’s also the hardest – which is one of the reasons why it’s the best! What are the other reasons ? And why being hard is a reason for it being good ? Merely by approaching a girl in the daytime, you’ll be doing something that 95 % of men cannot or will not do. Well, if you put your underwear on your face and run naked at women, you will also do something that 95% of men cannot or will not do. That doesn't make it a bright idea. I don't understand in your post why is daygame "the best wa…
/r/seduction16/11/19 12:51 PM
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But if you pretend and have other motives, then you’re not authentic and vulnerable. You’re pretending.
/r/seduction16/11/19 11:45 AM
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It’s not other people job to take care of your relationship. Your ex decided to kiss that guy, it’s her full responsibility. Then it’s your choice to end the relationship. You’re both adults and did what felt right for you at the moment. There is no right and wrong in this situation. Being authentic and vulnerable is not « a trick », it just means being yourself and connecting with the other person. Personally, all my girlfriends have other relationships so I have no issue with anyone kissing th…
/r/seduction16/11/19 11:16 AM
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Well do you want to attract women or do you want to have an attractive face ? The answer to the first one is to improve the person you are to be closer to your potentiality. For the second one I would go on skin care of make-up subs. It’s actually crazy the results you can have with a little make-up as a guy.
/r/seduction16/11/19 10:33 AM
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I have been in so many different groups and communities. Depends on what was my focus at the time. When I was alone in a country I didn’t speak the language and the only thing I was doing beside my classes was going to the gym, what did I do ? I went to the person leading the communication of the place and I told him « how can I help you organize a social event for your place ? ». I had no skill related to that, he never thought about that and we still did it. There was maybe 10 people the first…
/r/seduction16/11/19 04:57 AM
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Well I can promise you one thing. If you want to solve your issues you will have to do things that scare you.
/r/seduction15/11/19 04:27 PM
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Yeah it's definitely related. And it's fine dude, there are many people who go through the same things, it's perfectly normal and you will be alright. You're perfect the way you are, and you will find a way. I can give you a coaching exercise I find useful : First, write a letter addressed to your mom. Write everything you want to tell her. Everything she didn't do for you, what you wanted and missed from her. Take your time and really go deep. Then you write what you would like her to answer. W…
/r/seduction15/11/19 03:47 PM
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That could help. It seems you have deep insecurities and self-esteem issues. It probably comes from your parents and your childhood. What is your relationship to your mother ? Talking about it and being followed by a professional is really helpful. I wish you the best.
/r/seduction15/11/19 03:35 PM
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Have you done any kind of therapy ?
/r/seduction15/11/19 03:25 PM
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Hey, thanks for your feedback ! You said that you have to be part of the leaderboard of the organization in every single activity you invested any time in. Maybe I was not clear, so let me reformulate. To make people invested in you and connect with you, you have to bring value to their life. That can take many forms : sharing a meaningful experience, teaching them something, helping them, make them laugh, make them proud, make them feel loved and heard. The more valuable it is for them, the mor…
/r/seduction15/11/19 02:52 PM
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Who cares ? Don't put value on what people think of you. There is no "good way" or "bad way", just take it as an opportunity to connect with them. Own up to it, make it yours. It's not important what they mean by that (they probably don't even know themselves), it's about what you make out of it.
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:57 PM
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Mostly friends of friends, or people wanting to talk to me on a specific matter that they know I have expertise on. I like to organise social events so that makes me able to meet people without intentionally going to them. People come to me saying "hey, this event is great, how did you do this and this blablabla". If people hear about you in positive ways, they will want to know you. Just being nice with people go a long way. Also I'm good at managing multiple relationships so I don't need to me…
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:51 PM
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I know, and I'm telling you that's your issue. Your mind will never let you do things that you don't believe. You will always do everything you can to confirm your belief system. If you believe that girls want to test you for example, you will always find girls that try to test you. If you believe you're not good-looking enough to attract good-looking girls, you will never attract good-looking girls. Because you forbid yourself from going against your belief system. Your looks are your excuse ri…
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:41 PM
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I'm 5'6 and very average-looking and I'm pretty sure I have 10 times more success than your friend, and I rarely approach. I can tell you, looks don't matter if you don't let them matter.
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:27 PM
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No I'm telling you that they don't look the same. However, they can attract the same level of girls attractiveness. Obviously it's an advantage to look good, but I've seen guys so good-looking that any girl would look at them and still not getting any. And I've seen the most average-looking guys being literally flooded with attractive girls. The more you believe looks are important, the more it will be. It's all in your head.
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:20 PM
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That's the mindset. Wish you the best.
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:16 PM
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There are no leagues so yes. Looks are not very important, what is important is the story you tell yourself about them.
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:11 PM
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"date" or "as friends" are just labels. Don't put value on them. She's just protecting herself so she won't feel pressurised into being in a relationship with you. Respect that. "Yes, we can see each others as friends, we can even see each others as unicorns if that's what you want", then go from there. I never use the word "date" until we've kissed, it's always better to have things open so she feels free to do whatever she wants and be herself. I've had sex with friends and I've had platonic r…
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:08 PM
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She always compliments my style and looks, asked me if we want to watch a movie, wanted to see me without clothes and always asks if I'm gonna come to class today. What did you say to ask her out that she declined ? It feels like she is the one asking you out.
/r/seduction15/11/19 11:23 AM
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By leaving on a high note, you leave her with good feelings about you. That's the most important thing in your post. Neurosciences have shown that we storage judgement about an event on two criteria : the most intense peak, and the end. Having an "open end" that lets both of you starving for more is the best way to maintain excitement. Even when you meet a girl in a party for example. You can say hi to her, exchange a couple sentences and then just leave with "enjoy your night" after less than a…
/r/seduction15/11/19 10:09 AM
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A girl would leave you if she has better options thats a fact. I definitely hope so ! I don't want to be anyone's secondary choice. Everyone should go toward what's best for them. I know I do. I have never had a girl considering me as a provider, it's more the opposite, they always fight to pay as much as I do even when they have less money.
/r/seduction15/11/19 09:49 AM
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It’s a byproduct. I go to events I want to go to and then see from there. If I go somewhere with an intention of seduction I feel like I put too much expectations out of my control and I end up disconnecting from myself. Whenever I go somewhere my only intention is to have fun and allow myself to connect with people. I always let myself be surprised by the interaction instead of wanting it to be something it’s not.
/r/seduction14/11/19 10:19 PM
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And don't even try them on that last piece of cake.
/r/seduction14/11/19 09:26 PM
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This but unironically.
/r/seduction14/11/19 06:34 PM
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I agree with you. I just answered to a very broad post about "pickup being watered down" so my answer was not concrete. Writing all the process from the very first step which is "observe yourself" to the very last which is "make all your relationships feel like they're heard and they matter" is basically like writing a small book. There are so many steps : Knowing yourself and becoming the best version of yourself Get into an effective mindset Going into environments that are taylor-made for you…
/r/seduction14/11/19 06:03 PM
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No I'm actually terrible with Tinder, never got a single date. I'm only good with real life interactions. The most effective for me is going to an event where I know it will be easy to meet people, meet 5+ girls that I like and are interested for a date, then plan the dates over the following two weeks, and repeat. Once again that's when I'm actively trying to meet new people, it's not all the time. Dating apps are just as effective if that's your thing.
/r/seduction14/11/19 02:26 PM
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You're right, these are a bit exaggerated. It was more like 10 girls in 20 consecutive days, because there are some of them I spent more than one night with. It's definitely not my norm tho, I'm more into building long-lasting relationships. But that's just my story, I know a guy who slept with about 20 new girls a month, sometimes up to 5 in a single week-end. He is a bit less active nowadays but still about 10 a month I would say. I know a guy who has about 30 different LTRs (that includes a f…
/r/seduction14/11/19 01:47 PM
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How much og your "true self" did you sacrifice to be a better you? None. Being a better you is still being you. It's more like striping yourself from the limiting beliefs you have, like your fears of not being liked, or to not be enough, all the self-doubts and self-judging. It's about realising that you have already everything inside of you, that just need to be activated. That doesn't mean it's easy, it just means it's already there. You don't have to sacrifice part of you, you have to explore…
/r/seduction14/11/19 01:00 PM
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rely? Having a drink is the most common way to meet people and people relate to you a lot of you do that. If you dont, then odds are you will be questioned about it and seen as wierd. I'm not opposed to having a drink, but more in a date setting. You talked about "making a girl drunk", that's what I avoid to do, interacting with people that have had more than "a drink". I'm not opposed to alcohol. And why do you got for so old women? Because that's the people I'm attracted to. 18-22 are mostly t…
/r/seduction14/11/19 12:27 PM
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Maybe not the hobbie part and definitly not the being on top of the organization part. Well that's the main parts. I'm not talking about being a leader, just being someone that people can relate to easily, either because they project things on you because you're seen as a valuable person, or because they already heard about you in some way and wanted to meet you. You fell for a girl, nice, but also not really a good idea to do this early on. I know ! It didn't happen to me for a long time and I …
/r/seduction14/11/19 11:34 AM
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The thing is, this sub is about seduction. It's not about pick-up. What are you looking for ? A way to be able to confidently approach any stranger, or a way to have an endless amount of attractive girls wanting to have sexual and romantic relationships with you ? The answer to both these questions are very very different. I did a lot of cold approaches and I managed to get over my anxiety. Now I can approach anyone without a blink (which is very useful is many areas in my life, especially profe…
/r/seduction14/11/19 10:56 AM
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I don't sell anything, I don't write or make videos. I put more info about those places in my edit. Yes, 3 became "LTRs" (which is a very broad word for people I see regularly, that goes from GF who I live with or interact daily with, to FWBs I see once or twice a month). In that case one became a potential GF I'm falling in love with, one was a very intense relationship for a couple weeks which died out when she realised Polyamory was not what she was looking for, and one is a FWB I've seen abo…
/r/seduction14/11/19 09:31 AM
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See my edit. Basically people like to be approached when they’re safe, they are having a good time and they already trust the person that approach them. Good ways to be trusted is : people already know you or have heard about you, you have a good way to connect with them or the environment is really Taylor-made for connection. Like I organized creative events where people could draw things (it was in a bar, very classic setting) but they had only one marker so they had to talk to other people to…
/r/seduction14/11/19 08:06 AM
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Neither ! I’m just cautious and I approach people when I know my chances are high and I find the person really attractive. That means a good environment (see my edit) and good screening to recognize the girls that are “for you”.
/r/seduction14/11/19 08:00 AM
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See my edit, thanks for the remark. Sorry for that. In addition to my edit, I think the most important aspects are : people are there to socialize people feel safe and are having a good time you have some power in that space. Point 3 is of crucial importance. What I mean by that is that you’re not “one among many” and you have some obvious characteristics that make you stand out. For example, if the DJ is your friend (or if you are the DJ, I met so many people being a shitty unpaid warm-up DJ), …
/r/seduction14/11/19 07:54 AM
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I agree with this. I have done hundreds of approaches and know many guys who have slept with more than 100 girls and are under 30. All my girlfriends and friends agree with that : cold approaches in public spaces are an inefficient way of meeting people. It’s only good for one thing: getting rid of approach anxiety. You need maybe 50 approaches for that and then you’re done, move to some effective method. I honestly have met some of the most attractive guys you can imagine, they all have a sub 1…
/r/seduction13/11/19 09:53 PM
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Hey, thanks for your feedback ! I'll reply to your few questions : Then what? You keep asking until she gets magically on the mood or she gets too much uncomfortable? No. You ask once, you adapt, you respect her consent and you move on. Sometimes you can ask more precise questions to find something you and her both like. How many times have you talked about your emotions with anybody? Several times every day, especially with my girlfriends. Seduction and managing several relationships is all abo…
/r/seduction13/11/19 06:00 PM
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I wish you the best :)
/r/seduction13/11/19 04:18 PM
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You don't. She's not interested, she is just doing her job which is being nice to people and looking like she cares. She is literally paid to look interested. Don't hit on people when they're working.
/r/seduction13/11/19 04:09 PM
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I don't think treating someone like an ugly person is even possible. You can't trick your mind like that. But you can stop seeing attractiveness as a criteria on how you should treat someone. Treat everyone like you would treat a human being, like you would treat someone you want to know and connect with, like an intimate friend. Attractiveness is just an indicator, it's just your intuition telling you "hey, we should go toward that person". That's it. Follow the hint, go talk to that person but…
/r/seduction13/11/19 04:06 PM
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Okay, I understand better. Your issue is that you're trying to being liked. You put value on being validated by other people, according to how attractive they are. By doing that, you're putting your power on the hand of external forces. You're disconnecting yourself from yourself, and therefore you're losing your flow. You're acting like you need other people to like you because you're not loving yourself enough already. You're going from a place of fear and scarcity. What you need is to build t…
/r/seduction13/11/19 03:44 PM
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You're already good with girls. You're just scared of taking action. You won't get over that fear by focusing on hobbies and uni. You need to understand WHY you behave this way, what do you gain by not going for what you want ? Maybe it's because of your parents, maybe it's because you want to be a "nice person" and are afraid to be seen as a predator, maybe you're scared of being bad in bed, maybe you're scared of a girl laughing at your body or your dick. Once you know what your fear is (or yo…
/r/seduction13/11/19 03:31 PM
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I strongly disagree with this comment. I became good at seduction when I stopped approaching and I focused on being happy with my life and who I am. I focused on doing things I love, taking care of myself, meeting interesting people, having an exciting social life, learning and getting better on things that interested me, and meditating. Also I kept engaging with girls, but as something organic, not forced.
/r/seduction13/11/19 03:21 PM
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You can start by going for people you're not attracted to, and just try to connect with them, to know them a bit better. Like guys, old ladies... Also you can go to girls with the intention of friendzoning them, without the slightest intention of seduction or getting a number. Just trying to have fun and ask questions.
/r/seduction13/11/19 03:02 PM
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I love that moment where you look at her eyes, and she looks at you right - left - right - left, and then suddenly she looks at your lips. This is such a beautiful moment, you can see the sparkles in her eyes, the excitement, the suspense. She is humidifying her lips, the moth slightly open, her eyes are lost in the moment. But you know she wants it, so you're in control, and she's just there, questioning when you're going to kiss her. If you wait a bit, just keep staring in one eye, you can fee…
/r/seduction13/11/19 02:55 PM
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I agree with Todd on this. But if you get a hard no then thanking the person is the best way to diffuse. And it will make both of you more confident to make bold moves in the future because you trust yourselves.
/r/seduction12/11/19 10:17 AM
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Why does it have to be an act ? I think to become good at seduction you have to learn to be an attractive individual and then act authentically and be true to yourself. There is nothing temporary about that. I have several LTRs and I am true to myself with all of them. There is nothing to dissipate.
/r/seduction10/11/19 09:19 PM
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But our advice relies heavily on presenting a version of yourself that you cannot hold up permanently. I definitely disagree with that.
/r/seduction10/11/19 08:30 PM
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Maybe try to ask those girls what they find attractive in those guys.
/r/seduction10/11/19 08:17 PM
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What matters then ?
/r/seduction10/11/19 08:08 PM
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How is doing weights and finding a job give you any personality or interests ?
/r/seduction10/11/19 07:24 PM
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Just stay playful, go with the flow. Like "oh yeah, what are you gonna do if I keep talking ?" in a playful way, or "I knew you were the kind of girls that prefer stupid guys". What you say don't matter much, it's so contextual, just have fun.
/r/seduction10/11/19 07:22 PM
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I don't want to kink-shame you, but you should start by not posting fake posts on irrelevant subs.
/r/seduction10/11/19 07:17 PM
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You should apologise for the little tantrum you made about her leading you on. She seems to have been straightforward with you the whole time. You were leading yourself on, don't put that on her. And spend time with her if you want to spend time with her. If you have better things to do, don't. But don't avoid her because you're afraid of your feelings. Nothing will "suck you back in", you're complete as you are, you don't need anything or anyone in your life. You already have all the love and g…
/r/seduction10/11/19 07:13 PM
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As a man, I would take ballet and celeri sticks over action movies, video games or wrestling every day of the week.
/r/seduction10/11/19 02:06 PM
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You’re not ready to approach women. You need to take care of your mental health first. Do you have many friends ? Do you have hobbies and things you love ? Do you enjoy your life ? Start by trying to be single and happy, fulfilled, joyful, social, leader, and then you will meet girls without even thinking about it.
/r/seduction10/11/19 10:00 AM
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Don’t go to clubs if you don’t like them. That doesn’t mean other people shouldn’t like them too. And it seems you’re censoring yourself from approaching girls that have someone they have sexual interactions with. Why ?
/r/seduction10/11/19 09:55 AM
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I don’t think you have to show your motives. Your motives are already known. The default idea for someone approaching you being interested in you is that there is a possibility of seduction. You don’t have to add to that. Even if someone is your friend, asking her on a 1-to-1 is already showing your motives. People are not stupid, they know that if you put energy in someone, it’s for a reason. I think having no expectation or motives is the best mindset, and then allowing yourself to go with the…
/r/seduction09/11/19 05:51 PM
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No, the efficiency of tackling your insecurities to become a more attractive individual is not uncertain. It works. I don’t think anyone can even imagine how much it works until you’ve experienced it. But it’s a very challenging process, and I don’t know if these seminars are good for that having not done them myself.
/r/seduction09/11/19 05:41 PM
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The line I’ve found the best is « how can I contact you ? ». And it has to come organically. Like we’re talking about something we want to do together, of some info she wants me to send her, or a pic. « How can I send it to you ? » or even « do you want me to contact you ? » so she is in full control of if and how we will interact. Sometimes she will take my number, sometimes I add her on social media, sometimes she just doesn’t want us to be in touch, and it’s fine. I still thank her for the in…
/r/seduction09/11/19 04:43 PM
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What are your intentions that you feel are not clear ?
/r/seduction09/11/19 03:12 PM
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Yes this girl is right. The important thing is synchronisation. If you are not excited and she is, she will feel less of a priority, protect herself and probably move on. If she is not excited and you are, you’ll be needy and she will get tired of you and put distance. Relationships are about balance, about connection. Some girls want to be special and taken care of, to feel that they matter. Some girls want to be challenged with no attachement. Every person is different. Identifying what kind o…
/r/seduction09/11/19 02:10 PM
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Being happy and loving yourself is more than having a good job and working out. That said, you don’t have to attend to those seminars if they don’t appeal to you. Do whatever makes you happy.
/r/seduction09/11/19 01:02 PM
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I’m not sure I understand your question. They teach that because it’s more effective. Becoming an attractive individual will make you more successful in seduction and relationship than learning tricks to manipulate people and make you seem like someone you’re not.
/r/seduction09/11/19 12:24 PM
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There are multiple reasons that could make someone not kiss or fuck on the first date. It’s not « a type of girls ».
/r/seduction08/11/19 04:50 PM
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You’re manipulating them in a very obvious way (you don’t care at all about that Starbucks). And no seduction is not about that.
/r/seduction08/11/19 04:37 PM
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You did, that's why people want to literally call the cops on you. Several people (and apparently even entire GROUPS of people) calling you out on your behaviour. You are literally the definition of someone creepy. I know it's hard to hear, but you need to if you want to change that. If you want to really connect with multiple people, you have to know that what you're doing right now is not ok. By doing that you're not only hurting your reputation, but also the reputation of the entire seduction…
/r/seduction08/11/19 04:06 PM
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How would you know if you always go for it on the first one ? 🤔 I've had a large number of first dates (and even second date, third date) without a kiss that went very far. There are so many parameters.
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:53 PM
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No, you don't understand. It's not about "making it work", it's about changing your vibe, changing your intentions and changing deeply the way you interact with people so you're not a creep.
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:46 PM
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I don’t have approach anxiety or anything. I know. I think that's the issue. I think you don't have enough approach anxiety. Saying "hi" to someone in the street is still intrusive, if that happens multiple time it's really annoying. Especially if you say the same line all the time. That's another way to learn how to approach : never use twice the same opener, find something that is personal and grounded in the moment. And challenge yourself : "I like your red dress" and "I love your black skirt…
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:41 PM
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Maybe approach one person a week or something. Maybe not a girl but a guy or old lady and try to really connect with that person. Try to learn about that person deeply, what they like, what they value, what they think about. Try to make their life more meaningful. Try to share a powerful experience together. Also focus on your life, on doing things for yourself, things you love. And meet people through it, not because you want to meet them but because you have so much to share. Let yourself be s…
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:28 PM
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You're doing fine. Investing emotionally is not a problem, the problem comes when you're the only one to get involved emotionally. Just go with the flow, it seems like you have a cute story, don't expect it to be more than it is right now and enjoy ! If you're grateful for what you already shared together, you won't be needy. And being just a bit needy can be cute too, as everything it's about balance. But don't overthink this, you're doing great.
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:20 PM
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Repeatedly soliciting someone that doesn't want to be solicited. The fact that you don't remember it doesn't make it less harassing.
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:13 PM
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It's not about what you say. It's how you say it. A good way to improve is watching conferences by good speakers or comedians. It's all about the silences, it's also using the right words, that means knowing what they mean. Do you know how you recognise an expert ? He knows the right words. Become an expert on emotions, be precise, are you upset, annoyed, angry, furious, grumpy ? Avoid using words like "I'm good" or "I feel bad", don't be vague. And use examples, metaphors, make you life a story…
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:08 PM
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If you ask for the nearest Starbuck and get an answer, go to the nearest Starbuck. People don't like to be manipulated (or at least not in obvious ways).
/r/seduction08/11/19 02:10 PM
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Take the hint and stop harassing people. Learn to approach so you're not seen as a creep.
/r/seduction08/11/19 02:08 PM
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What you call « good-looking » is what I would call « nice-looking ». It’s people that seem easy to talk to, happy, interesting, funny, having a great time. To become that person you can do things you love, smile, maintain eye contact, learn to speak well, be happy with yourself, take care of your body, eat healthy. All of that make you magnetic for anyone.
/r/seduction08/11/19 11:04 AM
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Your « wife frame » is basically some version of Polyamory (with a bit of misogyny). But yeah having multiple LTRs is very teaching. I don’t travel that much so I have all of them in the same city tho (except a couple). I agree with your method, which I call « voluntary friend zone ». It’s terribly effective, and actually a great way to connect with someone. It’s broader than just getting someone to your place tho, it gets most barriers down, but you need to be able to maintain sexual tension at…
/r/seduction08/11/19 10:55 AM
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Yes, I understand. As I said it took me like 7 years to get to that point (and I’m still learning). It’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey. I wish you the best.
/r/seduction08/11/19 10:44 AM
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When I read the game 8 years ago and started to practice, I wanted to learn to be at peace with rejection, and I even wanted to like it, to be proud of it. So I did challenges that would force rejection. I went to a park once a week and did various challenges : going to a girl and ask « hey I love your hair, can I smell them ? » (this is my favorite one, réactions are priceless) try to speak to a girl using only my name, no other word. It works for any specific word. saying really cheesy lines t…
/r/seduction08/11/19 10:41 AM
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So ? If you need success with women to feel complete, or happy, or fulfilled, it means you’re still not loving yourself entirely. You will have success with women when you stop trying to be liked, seen or validated. When you don’t care if you have success with others because you have yourself and you’re complete on your own. When you focus on yourself, on doing what you want, on leading an exciting life for yourself, on not depending on anyone else to feel love and gratitude, on being present in…
/r/seduction08/11/19 10:22 AM
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It took me a few months after I read The Game to get a girlfriend (I was 18). But I only started being good with a lot of sollicitation from girls about 7 years later. It’s all about your inner self and learning how to love yourself for everything you are. Abundance in relationships, work, money, friends, family, health and spirituality is a consequence of that. If you do things you love, focus on yourself, challenge yourself to face your fears and take every opportunity as a learning experience…
/r/seduction08/11/19 10:03 AM
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Exit while getting her number, and text her right away « let’s meet after you manage to get rid of this « talkative » guy. We can celebrate both our birthdays ! » and see what happens.
/r/seduction08/11/19 09:09 AM
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Grow up. We all have this voice. So either you give up and stay where you are, or you make the decision to love yourself no matter what, to love even this voice inside of you, and to keep doing things that scare you, to keep going out of your comfort zone, and to keep being there for you. Yes you are fucked up, we all are. You’re also attractive, successful, smart, exciting, because we all are too. You have everything inside of you, you’re a complete human being. You are enough. But the only per…
/r/seduction08/11/19 07:29 AM
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It was not a shit test. It was nothing really.
/r/seduction07/11/19 09:20 PM
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I mostly agree with Grounded, Free and On purpose. I strongly disagree with Dominant. Like I would almost go the entire opposite direction for every point, and would call it "Consent". You lead in the interaction. You co-lead the interaction. You make the impulse, and you let her free in that space. It's like Tango, the man gives directions, but the dance is about her. It's about expressing who she is, she is the center of attention, she is free, she is to be excited. Nothing less attractive tha…
/r/seduction07/11/19 09:00 PM
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What happened ?
/r/seduction07/11/19 08:29 PM
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I love her too but was afraid that she didnt so i didnt say the 3 words back Well your fear got the best of you. Take this as a learning experience.
/r/seduction07/11/19 06:37 PM
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The thing is, in real life I go for like the top 5% of women. I'm not really looking for anything that is not absolutely amazing. But if I do the same on Tinder, I have almost no match. And when I have a match, I don't manage to keep it interesting because people bore me easily online. I'm not good at connecting with someone if I can't see their eyes, have physical contact, hear their laugh, see their smile, have their full undivided attention, see their body langage, feel the silences. I barely…
/r/seduction07/11/19 06:27 PM
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I'm 26, live in a major city, I'm terrible in online dating (like seriously, I never managed to get a date, and I tried) but I have a lot of success in real life. I think my game doesn't convey at all in dating apps.
/r/seduction07/11/19 06:08 PM
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What is a "nice" guy as you say, for you ? What part of your personality don't you manage to show quickly ? It's not because you're nice that you will or will not have sex. It's one feature, some people may like it, other not so much. That's great ! I've been with girls and I know they could have been with much nicer, better-looking, funnier, stronger, taller, smarter and more interesting dudes. I've also seen girls I was attracted to go with guys that had less of those characteristics than me. …
/r/seduction07/11/19 02:37 PM
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Well to be honest I never do small talk, I usually go with real talk right away. Like "what are you scared to tell me about you ?" or "what's your most terrible memory ?". But just go with the flow. There is literally an infinite number of topics and things to say. Don't plan them in advance.
/r/seduction07/11/19 12:06 AM
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Everything is going fine. Just keep doing you, it's working well.
/r/seduction07/11/19 12:01 AM
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What do you mean your compliments ?
/r/seduction06/11/19 11:58 PM
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Well if small talk is done, why not going for real talk ?
/r/seduction06/11/19 11:54 PM
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I don't think masturbation in itself is a bad thing. The problem is compulsion, which is doing something that you judge yourself for doing it. That can be any addiction : fapping, video games, smoking, social media, sugar... When you do something compulsively, you disconnect from yourself and from your body and you are less able to connect to someone. If you fap occasionally, you don't use porn and you have longer sessions (edging), it can actually be a way to connect to your sexual energy and m…
/r/seduction06/11/19 11:03 PM
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Exactly. If you think being nice makes you deserving of anything, then you're not nice, you're pushy.
/r/seduction06/11/19 12:58 PM
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Do they know each other ? If not, it's probably better to organise a meet-up with no expectation of sexuality so everyone feel comfortable. Are you in a relationship with one of them, with both ? Do they know the existence of each other ? There is so little info in there. I usually just plan a "massage night" when it's the first time with two or more people that don't know each other. And then we see how it goes from there. I also start with an emotional check at the beginning (because people ar…
/r/seduction06/11/19 12:02 PM
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No. In my experience it's almost always better to be nice. Or even better, to be yourself. Like being nice if you feel like it, being challenging if you feel like it. The question is not about what you do, it's what you tell yourself when you do it. If you wait to answer a text because you are afraid you will look needy, then you are already being needy and insecure. If you wait to answer a text because your life is exciting and you have other priorities, then it's perfectly fine. Don't do thing…
/r/seduction06/11/19 11:08 AM
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It's because "be confident" is not actionable. It's like "be spontaneous", or "be creative". First step is actually : "become the kind of person that would be confident in that situation". How do you do that ? By loving yourself. Be accepting that you may not be confident. Just like being creative starts with the acceptance that maybe nothing will come out of it. Maybe everyone in the world will always systematically reject you. Can you still love yourself through that idea ? Can you be complete…
/r/seduction06/11/19 09:23 AM
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You still have a "ugly kid mentality". So your subconscious still thinks that very few people can find you attractive so if one does, it becomes very important and you can't miss it. That makes you anxious and lose your frame. This is scarcity mentality, the belief that every opportunity is so unique it won't happen again and you put expectations on yourself to get results. If the girl is obviously attracted it's even worse, because losing an opportunity that is "already won" makes you feel wors…
/r/seduction06/11/19 09:10 AM
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Why do you need 5/6 texts to set up a date ? Maybe send a screenshot of the conversation, it's difficult to help you out with so little information.
/r/seduction06/11/19 09:03 AM
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Just reply "ok", ":)" or "great". It takes literally 5 seconds of your time.
/r/seduction06/11/19 09:01 AM
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The Alpha - Beta model misses one huge part : being afraid of being insecure is already being insecure. If you want to be Alpha and not Beta, you're already caring too much about other people think of you, you're already in your head, and you're already showing insecurity which is unattractive. It's like neediness. Of course neediness is unattractive. But doing things because you're scared of looking needy IS needy. We all have neediness but also avoidance inside of us. We are all alpha and beta…
/r/seduction06/11/19 07:12 AM
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What means « showing clear intent » for you ?
/r/seduction05/11/19 11:26 PM
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What does that mean ?
/r/seduction05/11/19 11:01 PM
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Then ask her. If her friend needs a date maybe she is trying to help her ? I don't really know what a formal is but if you're confused maybe you should ask for clarification, and tell her you'd rather go to it with her but you can help if needed ? Only her knows what is going through her head, don't assume things.
/r/seduction05/11/19 07:37 PM
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What is confusing you ?
/r/seduction05/11/19 06:37 PM
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Maybe you should invest in a punctuation program ?
/r/seduction05/11/19 06:29 PM
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I would use the words low frequency vs high frequency. You can be very low frequency, talk slowly, not engage people directly, but at the same very intense, mysterious, good eye contact, wise use of words, and have just as much success if not more. At the end it's just a matter of confidence, being yourself, and being connected to your body.
/r/seduction05/11/19 05:18 PM
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It's a complex subject, but basically because it's over-simplistic and misses most of the complexity of human relationships. I'm beta, you are beta, I'm also alpha and you are too. We have all of this inside of us, the question is how to you stay yourself and build connection and sexual tension through it. It's also pretty macho and completely misses a lot of girls. This video is pretty good at explaining some of it : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Icf7yKCaDE
/r/seduction05/11/19 03:34 PM
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How old are both of you ?
/r/seduction05/11/19 10:22 AM
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You’re missing part of the equation. Obviously you should be yourself, sincere and authentic all the time. It’s the most effective way to connect with someone, it’s to go with the flow and not being in your head. That said, there are skills that allow you to become a better version of yourself and connect more easily with people. Not only in dating, but also to have more friends, more business partners, better relationships with your family. It’s just relational skills like authenticity, confide…
/r/seduction05/11/19 09:30 AM
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Yes. Nobody is testing you but yourself. I don’t know if it’s the scholar system is something, but it’s crazy that we see tests everywhere. People are just expressing themselves. Stay connected to yourself, stay grounded, stay present and welcome anything that is presented to you, success and failure all the same, frustration and excitement, joy and sadness, fear and desire. Just be your most authentic self and nobody will ever test you, because there is nothing to test.
/r/seduction04/11/19 10:56 PM
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Most people won't care if you don't.
/r/seduction04/11/19 10:35 PM
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I always find a reason to get the person number, at some point in the conversation we find something we want to do together and I take her number saying I will text her to set it up. Then I say something along the lines of "Hey, it's rich_god, it was really nice meeting you at [Place], I enjoyed your vibe and you seem like a wonderful person (I try to be more personal than that, talking about something I liked about her). Do you still want to do [Activity] ? It's perfectly fine if you don't, I k…
/r/seduction04/11/19 10:34 PM
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It's in my opinion the best book about seduction, and Mark Manson's books are really deep and fascinating. But you need to give up your outdated notions of alpha / beta, and even the idea of shit test is not useful in my opinion.
/r/seduction04/11/19 10:07 PM
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So is balding.
/r/seduction04/11/19 09:50 PM
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Both are good. Go with whatever feels right to you. Don't overthink it, get yourself in a confident state and abundance mindset, put the first sentences that comes to mind, and it's usually the best ones.
/r/seduction04/11/19 08:25 PM
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You have a girl telling you that you are confident and attractive and you want to talk about grandmas ? Own up the compliment. I would go with something like « Thanks, I’m glad you find me attractive. I have to say you’re quite a spectacular lady yourself ;) » and then move to setting up a date. Don’t overthink this, she is basically telling you she likes you.
/r/seduction04/11/19 07:11 PM
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Yes. Haven’t found better yet.
/r/seduction04/11/19 06:59 PM
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One thought I use to shortcut my brain and not let the anxiety set in is « 5... 4.. 3... 2... 1 » and then I move. I go toward that person, even if I have nothing to say, and I just find at least one word to say. Even if it’s just an awkward « hi », it’s enough.
/r/seduction04/11/19 06:53 PM
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That is not my experience with dating. People get offended, that happens, how you react to it and welcome their feelings is very important. People will call that a shit test, but it's just an insecurity expressing itself. Taking care of other people insecurities is a basic skill of human interactions. Actually, getting angry at people that ghost you also comes from an insecurity you have. It's a good opportunity to learn to love yourself no matter what ;)
/r/seduction04/11/19 06:33 PM
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I know, that's why I'm asking : what is the risk ? What do you risk by going for it ? I'm also 5'6 btw. I thought for so long that taller women were unreachable, and now two of my LTRs are taller than me (not by much, but still), and I have absolutely no problem with it. It's not an issue if it's not an issue for you.
/r/seduction04/11/19 06:29 PM
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You're right. It's all in the delivery. The intention is to get clarity. If the person says "I don't want us to remove your pants", you just thank the person for stating clear boundaries and respect them. If she says "We probably shouldn't remove our pants, right ?" with a smile, it's probably a good idea to ask some questions. It's all about balance. But if you don't know what something means, just ask : "When you say that we shouldn't do it, do you mean do you don't want us to do it ?". It can…
/r/seduction04/11/19 06:26 PM
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What is the risk ?
/r/seduction04/11/19 03:53 PM
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No. Actually masculinity is not about muscles and aggressivity. It's about knowing what you want and acting on it. It's about being a leader, creating things in the world, being assertive and determined. It's about clarity and decision-making. And you will have more success if you have also a high feminine side. Both polarities are needed to be a complete human being.
/r/seduction04/11/19 03:51 PM
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"Why ? What are the risks ?" If you feel confusion, ask questions. Assertivity is also being able to express that you don't understand something, that you don't know. Assertivity is NOT knowing everything. If you don't know if a girl wants to be touched, ask her. If you don't know if she likes to be touched deeper or not, or faster, ask her. Clarity is security. That doesn't mean you have to ask everything, some things are better left ambiguous, because that how you build excitement : surprise a…
/r/seduction04/11/19 01:30 PM
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Challenging someone is questioning them to bring that person to be the best version of themself. It's not judging, it's not giving advices, it's not pleasing, it's not being aggressive. It's questioning and not not letting that person deflect from the question. A good coach is challenging. For example it's questions like "Why do you do this job ?", "why do you not pursue this dream ? What do you need to make it happen ?". It's not about results, it's about finding the strength and courage to do …
/r/seduction04/11/19 09:31 AM
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What means « taking things slow » ?
/r/seduction03/11/19 08:13 PM
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« Hey guys. How do I climb the Mount Everest without any gear or clothes ? Thanks ! »
/r/seduction31/10/19 12:37 PM
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You’re missing a part of the equation. If being brush it was the most attractive feature in someone, you would know. Monks would be considered as rock stars. It’s about being in your body. Do you love your body ? Do you dance ? Are you comfortable being naked in front of people ? Do you touch people easily ? Do your make deep and powerful hugs ? Do you offer good massages with or without sexual intent ? Do you offer yourself to being touched ? Do you maintain eye contact without thinking about i…
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:33 AM
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That can be why people don’t get emotionally attached to you.
/r/seduction30/10/19 10:48 PM
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Complimenting is fine, but you can do better than stunning / gorgeous.
/r/seduction30/10/19 10:46 PM
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Maybe you protect yourself a lot emotionally ? Is it easy for to express your feelings. I have some good-looking friends who are the same : having lays for can’t build a relationship because they are so afraid of showing their real true self.
/r/seduction30/10/19 10:34 PM
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What made you want to have more than sex with her ?
/r/seduction30/10/19 03:51 PM
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Ask yourself that question : why did she need to tell you that ? Why did she feel like she had to send you this text ? Unless she is totally projecting, it seems like she was given an implicit choice of either : You're best suited fo each other (and I guess that means having a relationship) You're not best suited for each other (and that means the end of whatever was happening between you two) By making her make such a binary choice, you killed the potentiality of this being something. You used …
/r/seduction30/10/19 02:52 PM
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Yes it’s pretty common, I’ve seen it a lot. Doesn’t mean she’s not into you. And the more freedom you let her, the more attracted to you she’ll be. These phases usually don’t last, you can reconsider after a couple of months and seeing how things go between you.
/r/seduction30/10/19 08:01 AM
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No, it’s about being who you are and loving yourself so people are attracted to you as a human being. It’s about assertivity, confidence, empathy, synchronisation.
/r/seduction29/10/19 11:17 PM
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Ohhh I’m so honored, you’re the only one I follow on this sub. I really like your comments ;)
/r/seduction29/10/19 01:24 PM
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What is weird about not having a girlfriend ? Just be honest, be yourself. It won't be awkward if it's not awkward for you.
/r/seduction29/10/19 10:00 AM
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People come here with questions about specific girls. They want to attract a particular person. Well there is probably not much we can do for this one. Seduction is about becoming an attractive person, it’s about yourself, not about the girl. I can’t help you get a particular girls. But I can help you becoming a person that can have so many girls, hookup, long term relationships, FWB, loving healthy romantic relationships and so on. You will even have more friends, more people wanting to work wi…
/r/seduction29/10/19 09:22 AM
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Mine is “oh great ! How is it going between you two ?” If she just says “fine”, I ask “what do you like the most about him ?” you can easily get out of the conversation when you want and no rejection you get feedbacks on what girls you like want in guys they’re in relationships with you get her to talk about what she likes if it’s not true, you show that you do not care and you get the conversation going you just focus on having a good time, and have no expectations.
/r/seduction29/10/19 09:16 AM
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Come on, you’re stronger than that. There is nothing hardcore about her, she hasn’t seen anyone apart from you. She is into you, she told you so, she just doesn’t want to feel trapped. Reassure her, let her time and space, let her be herself. Don’t overinvest of course but don’t bail out anytime there is the smallest issue, you won’t last long in a relationship.
/r/seduction28/10/19 06:31 PM
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Telling her that you want her to touch you is great. Basically expressing desires in a direct way builds excitement... as long as you built safety before. If she is not secure enough, telling her to do things is paternalistic and douchy. When both of you are just in the flow, you’re completely right.
/r/seduction28/10/19 06:27 PM
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How would you feel if she hooked up with someone else ? Someone out of a 5 year relationship might need some time to explore a bit before settling down. It depends on how much exclusivity is important to you.
/r/seduction28/10/19 06:23 PM
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You see the vibe you have on this message ? I can feel that's the real you. It's natural, you didn't think for an hour before sending me that. It's just your true self talking. You opened up, you're enthusiastic, you're not afraid to showing who you are. Keep the same mindset with her, and with anyone you encounter, and you'll have a life that suits you like a glove. Wish you the best.
/r/seduction28/10/19 09:41 AM
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Do what you want to do. Don’t listen what others want you to do, it’s their life, their vision. They do them, you do you. Do what fulfills you and makes you happy about yourself. You know what is right for you, nobody else does.
/r/seduction28/10/19 09:35 AM
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Well I would ask her about it. « Hey, I feel it was a bit awkward between us yesterday. I really enjoyed our time together on Saturday. How do you feel today ? » or something like that. You’ll have some clarity.
/r/seduction28/10/19 09:31 AM
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Why was it awkward between you ?
/r/seduction28/10/19 09:24 AM
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Polarisation is the ability to generate emotions and getting out of "neutral mode". Nobody want to be neutral, we love to be polarised : we like and we dislike, we agree and we disagree, we go left and we go right. By being vulnerable and honest about yourself, you will make her position herself about you. If you touch her, she can like or dislike your touch. If you tell her something you like (or ask her what she likes) you can both position yourself on that matter and get to know each other. B…
/r/seduction28/10/19 09:10 AM
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It can happen for anything. You approach someone "hey. do you want to talk for a bit ?" -> "no" = "thank you for your no. Have a great night" Some questions I ask pretty often : Can I sit with you ? Can I ask you an intimate question ? Can I touch your hand ? Do you want a hug ? Do you want a massage ? Do you want me to bite you ? (biting is a powerful way to generate endorphins, learn to bite without leaving trace) Do you want to get out of here ? It's ok if I remove this ? (pointing at her pan…
/r/seduction28/10/19 08:39 AM
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Thank you so much for your words. I'm seriously considering this. I'm better at writing (not native english) so it will probably be either a blog or a book, or both. Anyway, thanks !
/r/seduction28/10/19 08:30 AM
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Nothing is risky. "Risk" might mean that there is something to lose. There is nothing to lose. You can't have anyone, they're their own owner. You only have yourself, and you will never lose you. Maybe she will be shocked, or offended. It's just an emotion, welcome it, listen to it. Try to understand why is it problematic for her that you say that, and then adapt to build the best experience you can for both of you.
/r/seduction28/10/19 08:29 AM
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this same guy told me he was completely different with his ex and they weren't honest or open and he was always anxious and I truly feel like he's open because I am and vice versa. That's what happened to me. I used to lie, hide and not being transparent because I was not happy with myself and I thought people would reject me if they knew me. Now I've been in my main relationship for 4 years and we're so happy and loving together. We also have other partners that we share beautiful, intimate and…
/r/seduction28/10/19 08:26 AM
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I assure you that seeing a professional is nothing like that. They are professional, they will take care of you. Maybe you feel like it's a deprecating thing to do, but it can break the wall for you and make you realise what sex is really about. And then you will have an easier time connecting with other people because that anxiety will be gone. I'm currently dating a sex worker (among other relationships) and it's really fascinating how she takes care of every single person (even if I've never …
/r/seduction28/10/19 08:24 AM
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No it’s not seen as weak, if you’re just completely honest and don’t do it to manipulate, if you don’t hide, if you take full ownership of what’s going on inside you. I’ve seen girl just completely melt for me because I was telling them my struggles with another girl ! It’s crazy how being completely vulnerable and transparent about your feelings makes you connect with the person. Even someone you know for 5 minutes, if you can be vulnerable I know she will remember you and value you. I almost f…
/r/seduction28/10/19 07:00 AM
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I approve most of what you said, except « vulnerability can be seen as weak ». No. Vulnerability is power. It’s almost a seduction cheat code. Rest are good precisions overall.
/r/seduction28/10/19 06:40 AM
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A freak like he has written a huge text on every rule he follows about consent. Whenever he sleeps with someone he asks for desires and boundaries (even when I sleep at his place). He’s so safe and so into his body that most girls that meet him fall in love with him, which is actually quite a problem for him. I learnt many things from him, but that would be for another post ;)
/r/seduction27/10/19 11:03 PM
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If I feel like she’s bored, I just tell her. « I feel like I’m boring you. Are you okay ? ». Maybe she’s not bored, maybe she has something else on her mind, maybe she’s listening but not totally secure. Usually she tells me, and I adjust from that. I prefer to lose her than spending my time boring someone. Be honest, express what goes in your mind. Don’t keep it inside, it will take more energy and attention than it needs to. Is it something I have do or say? What's your intention when you talk…
/r/seduction27/10/19 10:59 PM
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No I didn’t ask to kiss her. And yes I escalated, but I didn’t try to. The nuance is huge. It’s a nice story, it wasn’t even a date actually. It was a party with friends. I saw she was a bit by herself, I went and asked her how she felt. She told me « I don’t really get in tonight, but it’s fine, I’m leaving soon anyway ». I told her fine and that it happens to me too, to take care of her. 20 minutes or so later she was still there, not having much fun (like sitting on a couch half listening to …
/r/seduction27/10/19 10:56 PM
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I had the chance to meet people that illuminated me on that matter. Especially one guy that had all the girls in the world (maybe like 40 relationships at the same time) and was a freak about consent. I learnt so much by his side.
/r/seduction27/10/19 10:42 PM
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Well, you can use statements, but I strongly advise for questions. You have a binary definition of the interaction : one is leading, the other one is following. You’re both leading, in a different way. You can see it as a car on the road. You’re on the driver seat and she has the map. Yes you can guess the road and go where it seems the most logical, but one wrong turn and it’s a long detour. And if you’re a bad driver she will chose another one. Questions are made for you to synchronize. You’re…
/r/seduction27/10/19 10:41 PM
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I went through depression too. What helped me was therapy, coaching, meditation and shamanism.
/r/seduction27/10/19 01:11 PM
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I’m 5’5, average-looking, I do yoga so I look kinda fit but not muscular, I dress with plain and cheap clothes, my hair look terrible. Good looks are not important as long as you find yourself attractive. As for empathy, I believe it’s a skill you can learn. Anyone can become empathetic and they put value on it and practice. Just like mindfulness, consent, authenticity... As for your edit, I think you need both energy. Yes that is a model that speaks to me and yes you need both masculine energy …
/r/seduction27/10/19 12:41 PM
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Yes it takes years. But the important is not the destination, it's the journey :) You never stop learning.
/r/seduction27/10/19 11:59 AM
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I don't understand what you say. My point is exactly that everyone can take responsibility over what's happening in their life. I'm taking responsibility over what's happening in mine.
/r/seduction27/10/19 11:58 AM
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I once asked one of my mentors « the more I go through my journey, the more I feel like there is always a higher mountain in front of me, and the more I climb the higher the mountain gets. How do I reach the top ? ». He said « it’s not about climbing. It’s about realizing you’re already on top contemplating the landscape. There is nothing to change, nothing to reach. You have already everything inside of you ». As for the switch, there was one moment that really changed me. I was so much in my h…
/r/seduction27/10/19 10:05 AM
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My question here is, could the "acts" I've seen become idealized or greatly over-valued in the mind of a guy who's never experienced the real deal? Ohhhh yes. If your only idea of sex comes from porn. You have been idealised it for sure. Especially the "perfection" of it. Sex is messy, it's either too quick or too long, it's sweaty, its uncomfortable, it's sometimes drunk, sometimes half-awake... It's very normal. What is not shown in porn and is the center piece of sex, is the connection betwee…
/r/seduction27/10/19 09:23 AM
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Meditation, shamanism, tantrism, therapy, coaching, and questioning the nature of my reality. The books that impacted me the most are Principles by Ray Dalio, Mindset by Carol Dweck, Mark Manson's books, The power of now by Eckhart Tolle, and some neurosciences ones like Thinking, Fast and Slow.
/r/seduction27/10/19 09:14 AM
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There is this belief (mostly ingrained by porn) that sex is about the dick. Today I believe that sex is about the clitoris (the whole thing, not just the little button). It's the center of it all. So no, my dick didn't do much other than its humble work, but she made profound changes in her life on her own. It's true that the experience was really powerful, every time I touched her (even just on the belly) she was having spasms, it was very intense. She had some passive of abuse during her child…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:57 AM
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I agree that the point is not to ask for permission. I agree that her body language is enough information to know exactly chat she wants at the moment. The point is to make sure that you both know that she will never have to do anything that is not comfortable for her, even something as simple as getting her hand touched. Do you know how much women (especially beautiful ones) are touched without their consent ? The number of guys that will touch their hand, their thighs, and shoulders to have so…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:50 AM
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I'm seriously considering writing a book, thank you for the encouragement :)
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:49 AM
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Step 1: Basically you are describing mindfulness? I would consider myself rather mindful although not to the level where I can get through very strong emotion (like anger, fear,...), those still take the lead. Yes mindfulness and also freedom of being who you are at the moment, dancing if you want to dance, getting naked if you want to be naked. By asking you are dragging her out of her body, into her head forcing her to make her decision there. Shouln't a kiss happen because it feels right, not…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:48 AM
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Asking for permission can easily look needy and insecure. You know what is needy and insecure ? Doing things because you're afraid of looking needy or insecure. If you're scared of being insecure, then you already are. You are already in your rational mind trying to protect you. Let it go. It's fine to look needy sometimes, it's fine to look distant sometimes. Don't focus on what you look like, focus on being aligned with who you are and becoming the person you want to become. That said, I agree…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:31 AM
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I agree with you, my point needed more nuance. What I'm saying is, when you want something, ask for it directly. Don't take detours. If you want to get her home, ask if she want to go to your place. But it's true that you want to co-construct the shared moment, so sometimes you can ask more open questions and see how that goes. Nothing is binary, do what feels right at the moment. but women always go with no it's like their brain is hardwired to only say no. I disagree with that, I very rarely h…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:21 AM
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Thank you for this question. When I started doing that, I thought it was going to kill the vibe every time, I thought I was "supposed to know", I even thought I had to know better than herself what was right for her. Tough job, right ? Maybe the first 5-10 times you'll ask it will be a bit weird, because it's weird for you. But it's fine, just say it "I've just read something on consent and asking before touching people, what do you think of that ?" and you even have an instant feedback about it…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:13 AM
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If you are annoyed by someone taking all the energy in a room, it probably means other people feel the same. Just get away from that "black hole" to some place quieter. You will find other people just like you, and you will already have something in common to talk about. It's why any good party has a counter-party in the kitchen. That's where people connect. Basically find places that suit your energy.
/r/seduction26/10/19 11:51 PM
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Who says you're boring and dull ? Do you really have people telling you "what I find attractive about you is how bored I feel when I'm with you" ? Boring is a subjective judgement, but I don't think anyone is attracted to that. I agree that getting people to talk about themselves and listening is a good way to connect.
/r/seduction26/10/19 11:47 PM
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Congrats on sobering up ! There is no conflict between your goals and meeting girls (I don't drink or take anything, I don't spend much, I eat healthy and exercise, and I have no trouble meeting and connecting with women). Do things you love, meet people that love the same things, make friends, meet friends of friends, approach people in day-to-day activities, organise or participate in social events, be someone that brings fun and value to people lives and you will be good. Also take care of yo…
/r/seduction26/10/19 11:28 PM
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Principles by Ray Dalio, anything by Mark Manson, Mindset by Carol Dweck. These are more about how to become a better version of yourself than specifically about seduction, but it applies so well to that. I would also recommend learning about tantrism which is a philosophy and practice that inspires me a lot.
/r/seduction26/10/19 11:07 PM
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Thank you a lot for your edit. That warms my heart. I truly believe that honesty, vulnerability and mindfulness are the best tool to connect with people and build fulfilling and healthy relationships. I'm transitioning to living fully as an intimacy coach and organising workshops about authentic connection, consent and ethical non-monogamy. I'm really grateful of my life right now :)
/r/seduction26/10/19 10:54 PM
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I agree that bad habits should be broken. That's what step 1 is for. Bad habits are insecurities that lure you into compulsive behaviours. The more connected to yourself you are, the more control you'll have over those behaviours and you'll be able to break them. Therapy or coaching is a powerful tool for that if you can't do that work alone (and there is no need for you to do it alone). I would even go to say it's not as much about breaking them as it is about deconstructing them : why do you h…
/r/seduction26/10/19 10:22 PM
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Oh god that is so manipulative. I agree with the assessment : everyone wear a mask. The last sentence is terrible tho. I think if you manage to pierce through the shell layers to the insecurities, and you welcome them with love and vulnerability, you will be able to connect to an authentic human being. This is where you can fulfil each other "missing pieces" and build a shared experience that may or may not include sensuality, sexuality, romantism...
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:47 PM
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"Well when are you available for that debate then ? ;) ", or "Well at least that debate is worthy to fit in your schedule". The "Mr.Todd" was giving away she was joking. If it's just a straight "I have to disagree" then it's clear sign of no interest and you can move on : "Ok thanks for the directness, it was nice meeting you".
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:31 PM
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Thanks <3
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:25 PM
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Deal with your insecurities. If you had abundance mentality, you would be happy that they hit off with each other well, you would smile and go on with your life. If you have insecurity, it means you're judging yourself. Maybe because you feel you're not as bold and courageous as he is. Great ! Learn to allow yourself to express what you want, to be spontaneous. It's not a question of value, it's a question of loving yourself for everything you are.
/r/seduction26/10/19 06:25 PM
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Just ask her how she feels about cheating with her boyfriend. Don't believe the "once a cheater always a cheater" crowd, human relationships are more complexe than that.
/r/seduction26/10/19 05:45 PM
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Some signs or « kiss is not going to happen » : she looks away (if she looks down it’s fine, maybe she’s not confortable with eye contact, but if she looks around it’s terrible). her body posture is closed she moves slightly away from you. she doesn’t reciprocate your touch she doesn’t look at your lips when you do Most important is her eyes. Is she present with you or do you feel like she wants to be somewhere else. And take your time, you will have all the time in the world to see if it’s a ye…
/r/seduction26/10/19 10:58 AM
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She is single, just go with the flow. There are hundreds of ways it could not work out between you two, you’ll never know until you try. Don’t cut the link between you, why did you stop talking to her ? Just keep doing what you were doing, it seemed to be working just fine.
/r/seduction26/10/19 10:49 AM
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It depends on how important exclusivity is for you. If Polyamory is something that you would be fine with, then no problem with going for a girl with a boyfriend. But be clear about your boundaries.
/r/seduction26/10/19 10:45 AM
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Silence (or talking slowly), eye contact, you touch her neck / face / her softly, you look at her lips briefly, you get closer and closer to her (and you let her get closer to you), you can say positive things like “it feels so good being with you” or “you’re a beautiful person” (just one sentence is enough), go slowly, take the time for you face to get closer, for you noses to touch, for your breath to connect, enjoy the moment.
/r/seduction26/10/19 10:38 AM
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I want say that it’s the best post I’ve read on this sub. It helped me tremendously in the past weeks to get better understanding of my new relationships and how to invest in them. Thank you for that.
/r/seduction26/10/19 02:39 AM
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Don’t try to put people into boxes. You’re not selective, you’re building excuses for not finding the right person. There is only one selection criteria : how much are you attracted to that person ? Then you can analyze that and realise that so far the people that attracted you have this or this trait. For example I know I’m attracted to some very specific physical traits, but I will select a girl according those traits. I just ask myself « how do I feel toward this girl ? » So stop finding excu…
/r/seduction26/10/19 02:14 AM
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You will be attractive if you are deeply convinced you are, and at the time don’t expect anyone to be attracted by you.
/r/seduction26/10/19 02:08 AM
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There is not much to learn really. If you’re confident and you love yourself, most of the job is done. If you have no desire for other people, it could be something therapy would solve. No problem with becoming friends with people, most of the girls I slept with are or were my friends.
/r/seduction25/10/19 04:52 PM
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Do you go to therapy ? Good looks and being an extrovert will not help you if you don’t love yourself.
/r/seduction25/10/19 04:44 PM
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Well I would go with meditation then. It's cheap and you can do it in any country.
/r/seduction24/10/19 09:16 PM
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Well it may sound obvious, but therapy ?
/r/seduction24/10/19 09:10 PM
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I don't think I've ever have a nice a fun first date that didn't turn into a second date. Is having a second date really something people struggle with ? I liked the story tho :)
/r/seduction24/10/19 08:50 PM
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Again and again, kinda resisting me. What do you mean "again and again" ? What happened when she told you to sleep at your home ?
/r/seduction24/10/19 04:59 PM
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Thanks wish you the best !
/r/seduction24/10/19 04:24 PM
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No
/r/seduction24/10/19 04:01 PM
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Just talk to her like a normal person.
/r/seduction24/10/19 03:58 PM
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Step 1 : go out Step 2 : talk to people
/r/seduction24/10/19 03:56 PM
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You can't get any specific girl, for sure. I don't even think you can "get" anyone. You don't get a person, you get a thing. Just like no girl can "get" me. So what do you mean by that ? Have sex with any girl ? Of course you can't ! Some people are asexual, there are lesbians, there are people that are only attracted to specific skin color, height or other features. They are people that are attracted by introverts, others by extraverts, there are age differences, there are previous engagements …
/r/seduction24/10/19 12:27 PM
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It's not about looks, it's about attitude and ability to connect. Do you make people feel valued and special ? Do you bring excitement into their life ? Is spending a moment with you something unique and memorable ? Do you maintain intense eye contact, do you listen, are you present in the moment ? Do you have fun and generate fun around you ?
/r/seduction24/10/19 08:28 AM
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Learning is in 4 phases : I don't know that I don't know ("Why have I not success with women ?") I know that I don't know ("What are good way to open someone ?") I know that I know ("and now I need to escalate with kino and DHV") I don't know that I know ("I'm just having fun and women are attracted to me") Scripts and tools are to be forgotten. If you have to think about them, to ask yourself what you need to say and how, you're still in your head. You're not connection to someone. Once you ful…
/r/seduction24/10/19 07:46 AM
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Honesty and vulnerability come with loving yourself. It really pays off.
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:50 AM
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« Be caring and do not care »
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:43 AM
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Thank yourself for this great opportunity to learn. It’s a long journey.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:44 PM
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You’re good-looking enough to have as many girls as you want. Keep taking care of yourself, but looks are not your worry.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:43 PM
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The only person that needs to find you attractive is yourself.
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:08 AM
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I think by not wanting to be needy, you’re being too passive. Go see her, spend good moments with her, ask her out. Be supportive of her « no », don’t force anything, but be present and have fun. If both of you are in « avoidance mode » nothing will happen. Maybe look into attachment theory if you want some rational explanation.
/r/seduction23/10/19 06:56 AM
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It honestly never happened to me, so I will need further information : in what environment are you when you make out ? what do you tell her so you get back to your place ? how do you get back to your place ? Do you make out during that process ? what do you do once you’re at your place ? what happens after she tells you she doesn’t want to kiss ? do you see the girl again afterward ?
/r/seduction22/10/19 05:19 PM
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You don't need experience to gain confidence. Meditating, exercising, feeling good in your body, dressing well, having a job you love, investing in your hobbies, having friends, traveling, doing what you love, going to therapy / coaching, eating healthy... All of those will bring your confidence up. You can be the most confident guy in the world without having a single approach. Also, you can definitely gain experience with no confidence. Talk to guys, talk to old ladies, talk to people you're n…
/r/seduction22/10/19 04:17 PM
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Yes, this is a surprising issue. What do you do when you're both in the bed and you have been making out ?
/r/seduction22/10/19 04:11 PM
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Great ! I think being attractive is a subtle balance between two core beliefs : - nobody is ever interested. Nothing that anyone can do or say is a proof that they are interested in going forward. Believing that allows you to never feel frustrated and to respect consent. It’s not because she is naked in my bed and making out that she is interested in having sex. I don’t expect anything from her and she can withdraw consent at any point, without me judging her or feeling frustrated. - everyone is…
/r/seduction21/10/19 03:48 PM
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They’re probably not as interested as you think they are.
/r/seduction21/10/19 02:13 PM
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Replace beautiful by amazing or anything that includes both physicality and personality, and you will have less guilt I think. Everyone want to meet and get close with amazing people. I want amazing friends, amazing business partners, amazing romantic relationships, amazing sexual interactions, amazing family. I want to be amazed by life and all its wonders. Beauty is part of it, but there are so much more.
/r/seduction21/10/19 08:35 AM
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That’s where a rational approach is limited. To know where the balance is, you need to... feel it. You need to sense if the person is slightly pulling or slightly pushing. It’s like a dance, it’s like a first kiss. In order to feel that, you need to connect to your feminine energy, your ability to be in the moment, to not have expectations, to empathize, to welcome yourself and the other person. If you have intentions, if you want things to be in a certain way (masculine energy) that will distur…
/r/seduction21/10/19 08:13 AM
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Flirting is not something you try. If you « try to flirt » you will not be natural and authentic and it will feel forced. Just let yourself be seduced, let yourself be funny, charming. Don’t force or try anything, but allow yourself. Silences, eye contact, physical touch, body posture : let them happen. It’s not about impressing her, it’s about being in the moment.
/r/seduction20/10/19 08:51 AM
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Sex is never granted. Let's say there is no sex and nothing happens between you, do you still want to go to that Island ? If yes, then go. If not, you are probably putting too much expectation on sex to happen and therefore degrading your chances of it actually happening.
/r/seduction18/10/19 04:09 PM
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Do not plan sex and do not talk about sex preferences before it happens at least once. You can say you're excited, you can build the energy, but not talk about it like something that will happen for sure. It kills all the buzz. It's like spoiling the movie.
/r/seduction18/10/19 04:07 PM
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Don't talk too much. Silences, eye contact, the way you smile, physical touch, body language, being relaxed and playful...
/r/seduction18/10/19 02:11 PM
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What you say really doesn't matter that much. It's all about the way you say it, and even more about what you tell yourself when you say it. If you tell yourself "oh my god this is ridiculous", she will think it's ridiculous. If you really try to connect and you're "in the flow", she will connect with you. Say what goes through your head, "hey, you look nice, what's your name ?" is fine, but "wow when I look at you I want to smile at the world and at the same time I feel some deep existential sa…
/r/seduction18/10/19 01:54 PM
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Obviously qualities you define as "masculine" are good to have : ability to make decisions, confidence, knowing what you want and how you want it, leadership, presence, directness is verbal and non-verbal communication, being grounded. Also qualities you would define as "feminine" are good to have too : ability to listen, to be vulnerable, to welcome and express feelings, to slow down, to be caring, to be comforting, to enjoy the present moment, to not have expectations. And if on top of that yo…
/r/seduction18/10/19 07:44 AM
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Building social circle is more important than approach skills in my opinion. Great job !
/r/seduction18/10/19 06:38 AM
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Just try to have a good time, don’t try to impress her, don’t expect anything. Spend a nice and fun evening and let yourself be surprised :)
/r/seduction18/10/19 06:34 AM
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It seems you could be looking for Polyamory. /r/polyamory is a great place to talk about this with awesome people with high emotional intelligence. My advice is try to talk about it with her. There is nothing wrong with how you feel it’s perfectly normal, and she may be feeling the same. Opening up a relationship can be a beautiful adventure as a couple. Be true to yourself, be honest and compassionate. Listen to how she feels. I wish you the best.
/r/seduction17/10/19 06:18 PM
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Well you have nothing to lose. All relationships end one day, don’t focus on what could happen in the future, follow what you want at the moment.
/r/seduction15/10/19 02:49 PM
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What do you mean "want her" ? She said she didn't want a relationship, not that she didn't want to spend time with you. Once again, what do you want ?
/r/seduction15/10/19 10:33 AM
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Well, it depends on what you want. Are you ok with a non-exclusive casual relationship ? Is so tell her that, if not move on. Some people put a lot of importance on the word "relationship", others don't. Depends on you really. I would just say it's fine and you understand where she's coming from, and still plan a date.
/r/seduction15/10/19 09:01 AM
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I find you really attractive. Please don't block me after this. If you ever have to say this, you really shouldn't send this text. Also compliments about looks make you seem superficial. That's a very boring compliment. Just talk about you "I really enjoyed spending time with you. See you soon". That's enough. "don't worry about it. Please don't feel guilty after this" Stop telling her how she should feel or not feel. She's an adult. I don't have much chance meeting another nice girl like her. Y…
/r/seduction15/10/19 08:17 AM
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Yes ! Self-friendzone is a very very good way to build a connection with someone. Also it's a bit surprising for a girl used to be hit on when you're just friendly and not make any flirtatious effort. And then if you do it's from a place of trust and emotional connection so it's way easier than when approaching. The friendzone is not terrible. Don't avoid it, make it yours. Learn to step in and step out of it. The more you're afraid of it, the more you're likely to get stuck in it.
/r/seduction15/10/19 05:49 AM
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What happened to the deleted comments ?
/r/seduction15/10/19 05:35 AM
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You can confront the belief that women think that men are sexual predator. It probably means you think you're a sexual predator. Why do you believe such a thing ? Did you experience anything in your childhood that made you believe that ? Maybe with your parents, movies you watched, things that people told you ? Maybe therapy could help.
/r/seduction14/10/19 11:03 AM
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I disagree with 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and 9. 11 is touchy, yes you should express how you feel and not repress yourself, but that doesn't mean being condescendant or blaming.
/r/seduction14/10/19 10:52 AM
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« I just discovered a nice technique for people like you, I can show you if you want. I called it « closing your eyes ». I plan to make a lot of money out of it ». Either you have a fun conversation about this wonderful technique, or you actually make her try and having your eyes closed puts you in a very sensual situation that you can explore with her.
/r/seduction14/10/19 08:27 AM
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Show that you’re angry when you are. Don’t hide or repress your emotions. The question is how do you express them ? Stand your ground but don’t be violent or blaming. Know that it’s your anger. Be direct and transparent and don’t try to guilt trip the other person. Be clear on what the person is expected to do next time to not step in your boundaries. Also understand the difference between a boundary and an agreement, people sometimes get confused.
/r/seduction14/10/19 07:49 AM
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Yes. Anxiety makes distance yourself from your feelings and emotions and drive people away. The more you love yorself, the more magnetic you'll become.
/r/seduction13/10/19 05:16 PM
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Have you gone to therapy ? You need to work on your self-esteem. Maybe you have issues with your parents, maybe you don't do things you like in your life, maybe you had traumatising experiences you have to let go. You need to learn to love yourself no matter what other people think of you. Therapy, meditation, self-development books or seminars, coaching, doing things that scare you (step by step and setting up goals you can control)... All those can help tremendously.
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:56 PM
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It's never a bad idea to find someone else ;) Do what feels right to you. I have girls avoiding parts of my messages all the time. It's fine, just go with it. You can always be honest "hey, I feel like you're telling me you like me and want to spend time with me but whenever I propose to do things together I feel like you're avoiding it. I feel a bit confused right now and would like some clarity : do you want to meet just the two of us or not ? Either answer is fine by me. I completely understa…
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:53 PM
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I just need to reset and step up my mental when confronting someone that I would like to sleep with. What happens in your mental when you're with someone you would like to sleep with ? What do you tell yourself and what do you do ?
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:46 PM
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Fuck dude, did I seriously just rape her? That’s gotta be like a sign of something seriously wrong with me right? No, it's fine. You didn't know. Learn from that experience, that's all you got to do. Don't hit yourself too hard on this. It happened to me, it honestly happen to a lot of guys. It's not your fault. At least she was able to say no and you listened, it's fine. Take more care next time :) Nothing wrong with you. You made a mistake, you apologised, your learnt, now you're a better pers…
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:35 PM
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"ok good. Your turn."
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:09 PM
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Yes those are good advices. Basically, be yourself and keep working on becoming a better person. I think your paragraph on what "respect" means is pretty weird. The examples you use feel patronizing.
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:08 PM
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Yes. Being assertive is the opposite of needy. Being assertive means "I'm going to welcome you into my world and provide a wild and joyful experience for both of us. You can say no or jump out anytime you want, it's fine by me. I don't need you, you don't need me, but we can share a beautiful adventure together". Being assertive is being courageous enough to express your desire while listening to her verbal and non-verbal feedbacks and not forcing anything. Be confident, be authentic, and manage…
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:03 PM
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Wow. That reads like a slow downfall into darkness. This is really terrible. It's a great learning experience but you really have to promise yourself you won't do that again. Hi everyone, I apologize... Also this will be long, sorry. You apologise twice in the first paragraph. Be confident. I'm on this website because I like reading other people stories, don't sell yourself short. I went in for the kiss and she responded well, laid her head on my chest after. Felt nice. Great start. Everything i…
/r/seduction13/10/19 03:58 PM
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So i Just thought too myself ok thats it and left cut my loses. Don't put value on what other guys tell you. Im just terrified of that potentially happening so i tend too panic. It's fine. She's into you. It's ok to be afraid, but you have to find the courage to still go forward. Work on your insecurities.
/r/seduction13/10/19 03:28 PM
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She is definitely interested. You can see her with friends if that helps. How do you lose someone twice tho ? Also text more interesting things than « I’m bored » and you will get more interesting answers.
/r/seduction13/10/19 03:11 PM
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Then I would advise to not approach her, unless it happens organically. People at their job are paid to be nice, approaching them is usually very annoying. One thing you can do is getting the habit of saying hello to everyone when you get in, so it’s normal to go say hello to her. Then after a while try to start some conversation. But honestly people working are the worst targets.
/r/seduction13/10/19 03:05 PM
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If you already have an emotional connection, you need to build up sexual tension. That means escalation and flirt. Having intimate moments, eye contacts, silences, some physical contact. Not too much texts or « friendly talk » or at least try to have deep, meaningful and personal conversations. Open yourself up, be confident, don’t try to save her from her issues. Also talking to other girls at the same time will help.
/r/seduction13/10/19 02:53 PM
1

You work together ? Doesn’t she take breaks or eat lunch sometimes ?
/r/seduction13/10/19 02:45 PM
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There are good insights and some very weird stuff in this post. A bit of a rollercoaster.
/r/seduction13/10/19 01:48 PM
2

What is it you don’t understand about this ? You think that because a girl flirted with you she has to leave her boyfriend in 6 months ?
/r/seduction13/10/19 08:28 AM
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They’re not as into you as you think. What happens after the date ? What do you text ? Do they answer ?
/r/seduction13/10/19 08:26 AM
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Evrything's fine. Do something just the two of you and escalate. All lights are green, trust yourself.
/r/seduction12/10/19 04:44 PM
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Yes, kind of. In a relationship you have the time to build the emotional connection, to know what the person is like, know what she likes, you have more intimacy, both of you are more secure, you can be really yourself. And so sex is better. Building intimacy, authenticity, desire, connection, safety and excitement in a short time takes practice and courage. Maybe you're not really yourself during pick up sex and you don't let your "real you" get through ? Like if you think you need to perform, …
/r/seduction12/10/19 04:03 PM
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Good sex is also a skill that you can practice. Understand how female anatomy works, learn to massage, build up the excitement, practice good oral sex, make compliments. Also having emotional connection adds to the intensity.
/r/seduction12/10/19 03:07 PM
1

No, I couldn't be further from Mystery methods and approach.
/r/seduction11/10/19 09:13 AM
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Everyone is aware of each other, they know my time and emotional dedication for each of them. Full transparency is key !
/r/seduction11/10/19 07:38 AM
2

I’m at 6 LTRs right now and it’s honestly a bit too much. I think 5 is the right number for me right now. A few things that help : very little texting I see them together sometimes I live with one and about to live with 2. I would like to live with all of them (I know 2 more would be interested) The main issue is jealousy / taking care of everyone feelings and insecurities. That can be tiring.
/r/seduction11/10/19 06:39 AM
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Well I disagree with this quote on two points : reality is not that harsh, I would even say that it’s fair. If you want attractive people, be attractive. good genes are not that important. Just don’t have terrible ones. But yeah overall the quote is right.
/r/seduction11/10/19 06:31 AM
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Keep going like you would if she had no boyfriend, and if things keep escalating find a moment to talk to her about the situation. The boyfriend is not your problem, it’s hers.
/r/seduction11/10/19 06:05 AM
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it is always up to you to 1. Choose a girl that's not crazy 2. Tell real "no" from playful one. You can't never be sure the girl is not crazy or the no is a playful one. My advice is to not risk it. you should either not have sex at all or wait for a girl to decide that you should have sex Yes, everyone should be able to decide if they don't want to have sex. That's called consent. I'm always 100% sure the person is fully enthusiast when having sex with me. It saves a lot of problems. Every sedu…
/r/seduction10/10/19 03:05 PM
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1 is terrible. Please don't do that if you don't want to be accused of rape. I'm serious. I'm not saying it's not effective, I'm saying the risk is not worth taking. 2 is great, basically you make her excited. It's obviously a good thing. 3 is manipulative and you shouldn't do that if you care about the other person.
/r/seduction10/10/19 12:48 PM
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Well, what is the issue for you right now ? Is it that you feel jealous of the time she spends with her boyfriend ? I would just keep doing what you do, and talk about her when it's appropriate to see what she wants and what you want and if it is compatible. You don't know the nature of the relationship with her boyfriend, you don't know what will happen in the future, so just take care of the present moment. It seems you're very much attracted to each others.
/r/seduction10/10/19 11:58 AM
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It’s a very good point. Love yourself through your insecurities and learn from them, you’ll become magnetic. There is nothing more attractive than a man that lives his life for himself and doesn’t rely on others to feel complete and loved. Like seriously, I’m talking about one or two 7+ girls every week with very little effort. I’m talking about 10 LTRs at the same time with insanely attractive women both physically and personality-wise. I’m talking about hundreds of friends, business partners, …
/r/seduction10/10/19 10:44 AM
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Long silences with eye contact, lots of physical contact for no reason, sentences like « I feel very good when I’m with you » with a bit of a surprised tone, she looks at your lips and smile before you even say something, her body leans toward you a little bit she closes her eyes when you touch her arm, neck, face... lots of signs !
/r/seduction09/10/19 05:41 PM
2

What is your earliest memory of thinking that a blowjob is degrading ? Was that something that someone told you ?
/r/seduction09/10/19 02:11 PM
2

Yes that's pretty solid advice, thanks !
/r/seduction09/10/19 01:45 PM
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I'm glad that works for you, but I'm not that dominant in bed and don't plan to be. I don't think this would work well with someone shy, submissive or very introverted. 32% conversion rate seems very high tho, I'm impressed. I feel like not even 32% of my matches would answer to ""Hey there, nice pics I really love your smile"...
/r/seduction09/10/19 10:06 AM
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You're normal. I know plenty of girls who are looking for guys just like you (if you take care of your body and hygiene). Cooking and hugging ? That's plenty ! Many people don't want the "traditional couple" stuff. You just have to meet them. Invest in your hobbies, go the events around those hobbies and meet people with similar interests. I've found that profiles like yours (nerdy, likes alone time, anti-conformist, don't like traditional couple) are usually highly compatible with Polyamory. Is…
/r/seduction09/10/19 08:51 AM
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Best time was a year ago, next best time is now.
/r/seduction09/10/19 08:44 AM
2

No, I don’t want a prostitute! Hmmm... I'm pretty sure you do.
/r/seduction09/10/19 08:32 AM
2

Go to therapy. You’re relying on other people to love yourself and validate yourself. You need to find that love within yourself. You’re enough, you don’t need anyone to validate you. I wish you the best.
/r/seduction09/10/19 07:33 AM
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Don’t try to make the person change or fit your idea of love. Be yourself. Remember that all relationships end one day, the only important thing is right now.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:42 AM
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Lol if you think strip club women LOVE sex, I doubt you understand how seduction works.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:39 AM
2

Yes because it’s a much more hostile environment. Friends of friends are usually nicer than strangers.
/r/seduction09/10/19 05:12 AM
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Start by just trying to make friends, or to meet people through a hobby. Don’t do cold approaches until you have already had successes in meeting and connecting with people. It’s much harder a less effective.
/r/seduction08/10/19 09:40 PM
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I’m never rejected. I can’t be rejected. I can have my proposition declined. And since I’m very respectful in how I propose my offer « do you want to have a talk with me ? », « are you available for a moment with me to talk and get to know each other ? », whenever people are not interested it’s always very nice and smiling. Don’t worry, you can put yourself out there and not be bullied.
/r/seduction08/10/19 09:26 PM
2

You will never what girls want or don't want to do. Nobody can destroy you, nobody can punish you. You're a complete human being, an adult that has control over his life, you have courage, strength, resilience and determination inside you. You just need to connect to that. Don't give other people the power to make you feel rejected, abandoned, punished or excluded. You have yourself. You're enough.
/r/seduction08/10/19 03:43 PM
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From what ?
/r/seduction08/10/19 03:39 PM
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I'm past the emotions, I don't get sad or upset thinking about them. That doesn't mean you're past your emotions, it just means you're repressing them. You won't get through the fear if you think you have no emotion. You need a different type of therapy. Maybe start meditation, dance, art therapy... Whatever feels right for you. I think you're not ready for seduction right now, you need to take care of yourself and build your confidence on your own before you get yourself so far from your comfor…
/r/seduction08/10/19 03:14 PM
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It’s not the end of the community. Just consider it as a shit test from the BBC 🙃 We are used to keep our calm and confidence through criticism, aren’t we ? Edit : I just watched the video and I agree that consent is of furthermost importance in seduction. Don't pressurise people and don't try to change a no into something else. Accept the no, don't question it, and let the girl decide her rhythm and what she wants. That's abundance mentality, you don't need anything from her, you just want to p…
/r/seduction08/10/19 03:04 PM
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Labels are just ways to structure your life. As long as you don’t label anything as a relationship, it’s casual. Casual basically means what you’re saying.
/r/seduction08/10/19 02:41 PM
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What do you have to lose ?
/r/seduction08/10/19 01:49 PM
2

Learn how to say no ?
/r/seduction08/10/19 10:29 AM
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I'm really glad it helps ! Guess all i have to do its to don’t engage in this type of thinking and change my focus I will go even further than that. Find out why you engage in this type of focus (is it because of your parents ? Of childhood experiences ?), and find when in our life you developed that belief that your ability to deserve love is correlated to your sexual interaction. When you do that, don't repress it, but love yourself through that. It was a belief that maybe made sense at some p…
/r/seduction08/10/19 10:27 AM
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It’s like everything, don’t be dogmatic. Traditional game are tools that can help in specific situations if you know how to use them. But overall what you connect with is your vibe, your authentic self. If you think you need tools to have success and don’t take a step back, you become dogmatic and close-minded. Do what works for you, find who you are and connect from within, not with a mask.
/r/seduction08/10/19 10:15 AM
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No it's fine, we all are ;) The thing is, when you judge someone else, you're actually judging yourself. It's likely (and tell me if it speaks to you), that you're either judging yourself for dating multiple people at the same time, and thinking that it makes you dishonest or of lower value, or you're jealous because you would like to fuck 20 people at the same time but you think it's easier for a pretty girl and you generate resentment. Resentment lowers attraction. Basically you're conditionin…
/r/seduction08/10/19 10:05 AM
1

What would be a failure for you ? Why ?
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:16 AM
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Don’t hit your head for that. Just text her you had a great time and you’re willing to see her again. You can make a joke about the good bye to diffuse the awkwardness. Just next time you see her give her a proper hug.
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:14 AM
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Have you gone to therapy ? Scars need healing.
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:10 AM
2

Well that’s what they think until they meet me ;) but I prefer short girls. There are enough girls below 5’6, I let the others for people interested.
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:07 AM
1

Don’t try to impress them, don’t put them on a pedestal. How would you react if a « lower quality one » was doing the same and not really answering ?
/r/seduction08/10/19 06:19 AM
2

If given the opportunity to sleep with many attractive girls, would you do it ? Not at the same time, but let’s say a different one every other day.
/r/seduction08/10/19 06:15 AM
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There is no universal rule. Do what you want to do. If you spend to spend more time with someone, do it. If you don’t, then don’t. And just cut it off honestly, it’s better for you and for her to know that you don’t have the space for her in your life, so she can move on.
/r/seduction07/10/19 11:47 PM
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It’s mostly an excuse for insecure people to explain why they got anxiety and got thrown off by a girl. It’s easier to think it’s because the other person intentionally did something to « test » you than just admitting you did something stupid and didn’t act accordingly. If you’re confident and just talk to people authentically you won’t get shit tests. Because it doesn’t exist.
/r/seduction07/10/19 11:42 PM
1

Ask /r/polyamory, you will have more thought of answers.
/r/seduction07/10/19 11:35 PM
1

As a 5’5 guy I don’t think you have much of an advantage over other people. People put way too much value on height and looks in general. I take confidence and self-love over height any day.
/r/seduction07/10/19 11:33 PM
2

Go for it ? What do you have to lose ? The worst that can happen is that it’s not reciprocal and then you know it was only a projection and not a true compatibility. Best case is you share a beautiful journey with someone.
/r/seduction07/10/19 11:31 PM
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What comes to my mind right now : understanding what makes a people want to sleep with someone else (basically because they feel safe, in control and are having an awesome time) and provide that. taking care of myself and doing things because they interest and fulfil me and not because I think that’s what people expect me to do. building a solid social circle with people that inspire me, that question themselves and go through their fears. That meant spending less time with my old friends and tr…
/r/seduction07/10/19 10:24 PM
2

What bothers you about it ? How do you feel when you know she’s dating other people ?
/r/seduction07/10/19 07:17 PM
2

If you think some people deserve to be fucked up with maybe you shouldn’t become a therapist.
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:06 PM
0

Zero times since January.
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:07 PM
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That’s what she goes out looking for: the man who can make her feel more alive. Wow that's powerful. This text is really beautiful, even I would want to sleep with that guy.
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:04 PM
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My "secret" is I don't try to sleep with 20+ women a year, I try to become someone that most women would like to sleep with.
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:01 PM
1

Your article doesn't say that men want more sex than women. It's about jobs and the link between gender and specific jobs. It's a different issue entirely. I'm not trying to brute-force anything except the freedom for anyone to choose the life they want to live. That includes supporting sexual freedom and fighting insecurities, which is what I'm talking about here.
/r/seduction07/10/19 03:58 PM
1

Life would be less exciting if everyone had the same opinion about everything, don't you think ?
/r/seduction07/10/19 03:40 PM
4

Yes. Text her like you would if she had 60 followers and posted picture of her food. The best way to distance her is to put her on a pedestal. She is just a human being just like you, don’t underestimate yourself and don’t try to impress her.
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:47 PM
1

"Hey, I feel like you're not really present with me right now. Is there something on your mind you would like to share or do you want me to leave you some space ?" Being transparent about what you feel and direct about what is happening is a great social skill. If she doesn't want to talk to you, you know and you can move on. Sometimes she has just something else on her mind or is not at ease, and giving her the possibility to express that will make her feel better and more likely to talk to you…
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:26 PM
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No it's not common. Seems like both of you were too shy to ask. But sometimes it's nice to just keep the magic of the moment and not expect anything else from this person. Maybe if you had talked you would have realised you were not compatible at all.
/r/seduction07/10/19 10:04 AM
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What do you want ? If you're looking for lots of hook-ups with guys, as a fairly attractive girl you will have an easy time. What is more difficult as a woman is to have multiple loving and caring LTRs. Two of my partners are relationship and intimacy therapists, and they are very good at building intimate, authentic and loving relationships. Don't fuck with people heads.
/r/seduction07/10/19 08:49 AM
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I think both men and women want sex. Well, they want good fulfilling and intimate sex. Dissociating is not fun, being raped is not fun. That’s where the difference lies : in a society where men hold most of the power, it’s much more risky for a woman to have sex with a stranger than a man. There are also biological differences that make a woman much more likely to not enjoy sex. Also there is a lot of slut-shaming that makes it difficult for a woman to express that she likes sex and having multi…
/r/seduction07/10/19 08:06 AM
4

Do you believe you’re low value because you’re seeking validation from others ?
/r/seduction07/10/19 07:46 AM
2

She wasn’t nuts, what you said was stupid. How would you react if a girl said your penis was ugly or too small, even as a joke ? Your self-esteem would probably be crushed. You shot yourself in the foot and now you’re blaming the person selling ou the gun. Don’t be stupid.
/r/seduction04/10/19 03:38 PM
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Maybe you don’t notice the non-verbal cues that they are not as interested as you think ? Also just go where you want to go, with them or not. « I’m getting a drink, do you want to come ? », she says no you move on.
/r/seduction04/10/19 12:21 PM
1

Anything is better than talking about "things". That's so bland and boring. Like "things are good but tiring" ? Wow I feel so excited hearing about this. Ask her meaningful questions, say things that actually interest you. If your message doesn't put a smile on your face, it's maybe not worth sending it.
/r/seduction04/10/19 11:16 AM
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Are you trying to make her lose interest ? Cause it seems like it.
/r/seduction04/10/19 11:02 AM
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Well she told you : she was tired. I don't see anything wrong with what happened. Text her, tell her you had a great time and hope to see her again. Many people have lower sex drive after smoking weed, especially if she drank alcohol before. No worries there.
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:55 AM
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I'm not talking about being happy. Being happy is superficial, it comes and goes. I'm happy sometimes, and sometimes I'm not. I'm talking about loving yourself. Loving absolutely everything you can find inside yourself. Loving the shame, the anger, the sadness, the jealousy, the loneliness, the fears and the doubts. Loving the violence, the frustration, the injustice. Loving my parents, and their parents, and everyone that came before. Loving my teachers, my friends, and every single person that…
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:52 AM
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Dude. I know you don't want to hear that, but it's time to move on.
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:38 AM
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I discovered I didn't need girls, friends, jobs or family to love myself. I started taking care of myself for myself, building the life I wanted to live. The book "principles" by Ray Dalio is helpful.
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:35 AM
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One huge downside about socialising in Australian universities is that everybody still has the same group of friends they made in high school. If you made shit friends or didn't make any, like me, who grew up in the middle of nowhere, you're massively screwed. That's bs. Especially if you study STEM, which is a social hellhole full of low-SMV spergs. That's bs. Will it be difficult to slot myself into pre-existing social circles when everybody's studying, working and still hanging out with their…
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:31 AM
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To me "game" is a reminder that the most important thing in life is to have fun and consider things that scare me as a game. It's not important, nothing we do, feel and think is important. We live, we experience a number of sensations, we make up stories about who we are, and we die. That's all there is. So yeah, game is doing anything that scares you because it's all just a game. We act depending on two impulses : desire and fear. Game is following desires and diffusing fears or going through t…
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:18 AM
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It’s not the chakras, it’s the overuse of emojis. But in that situation chakras are pretty irrelevant to the subject I agree.
/r/seduction04/10/19 08:28 AM
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I really don’t think so. You fantasize what rich and famous people lives are. It’s a lot of work, stress, effort, fears, deception, frustration... more than most people.
/r/seduction04/10/19 08:21 AM
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Worst is « you suck » because she has a boyfriend. Don’t say that to someone you just met. It’s not funny, it’s out of place, it’s just depreciating.
/r/seduction03/10/19 01:16 PM
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Soooo... what's wrong ? Seems like she is interested, but as a conservative girl will not initiate flirting or even reciprocate too much. Some people need more time than others.
/r/seduction03/10/19 12:42 PM
1

You do you !
/r/seduction03/10/19 10:33 AM
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This girl probably had to deal with rude customers for getting their order wrong. She's probably counting the minutes before her shift ends. She might be just bored out of her mind because it's a slow day. Or, you know, maybe she’s tired of smart-asses that tries to hit on her and think they’re the first one to do it. Seriously, this is the worst advice. Don’t hit on people when they’re working. They’re paid to be nice, nothing is genuine. Of course you can try to brighten her day by being a nic…
/r/seduction03/10/19 10:16 AM
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Absolutely no fail here. Only #3 is somewhat of a missed opportunity but it’s nothing. #5 is actually huge, you did well to talk about it, and showed value by doing that. Also those are not shit tests. She is not trying to test you. She just seems to genuinely enjoy spending time with you and building a relationship with you. Relax, be yourself, stop focusing on the so called « failure » and enjoy the good moments you’re having. everything is going well :)
/r/seduction03/10/19 10:12 AM
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I was talking about life coaching, not seduction coaching. I don’t think you need to want them to be happy. But if you don’t think that you deserve happiness, you will sabotage yourself. It’s about you, not about them. I wish you the best in your journey. I do believe you deserve happiness.
/r/seduction03/10/19 06:36 AM
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What would make someone deserve happiness in your opinion ? Also, what makes you think that happiness is something to be deserved ? Have you tried therapy or coaching ?
/r/seduction03/10/19 06:00 AM
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What do you talk about ? Try to have an emotional vibe in the conversation, talk about your feelings and ask about hers. Ask her what she likes, how she feels when she does something she likes, what made her like it. Avoid debates and rational opinions. Feelings, jokes, silences are the way to go.
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:57 AM
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How would you react if you proposed chocolate to a girl and she says she’s not hungry ? You probably would t think about it more than 5 seconds, and move on with your life. There is no rejection, your proposition has just been declined.
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:44 AM
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I’m not sure I understand your issue. Here is the situation as I understand it : you have a relationship with someone you see twice a week sex is great she is affectionate and caring, and you can be too there is no exclusivity you have to make the plans. What do would you want to change about the relationship ? I have several LTRs like this, it’s definitely what I’m looking for as romantic relationships go. Many people think they can’t have feelings is that situation, because they think that fal…
/r/seduction03/10/19 05:39 AM
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What I said in another comment : Find friends that themselves have large social circles. Best way for that is to invest in your hobbies or interests, find the people that organise events around that hobby and help them. You will become an organiser among a group of people that will likely match with you because you have already something in common that is important to both of you. The thing is, making friends is just like seduction, don't try to make them like you, focus on bringing value into t…
/r/seduction02/10/19 10:53 PM
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Find better friends. Friends that themselves have large social circles. Best way for that is to invest in your hobbies or interests, find the people that organise events around that hobby and help them. You will become an organiser among a group of people that will likely match with you because you have already something in common that is important to both of you. The thing is, making friends is just like seduction, don't try to make them like you, focus on bringing value into their life so life…
/r/seduction02/10/19 10:44 PM
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My main tip would be to genuinely care and be curious about people, and not setting expectations. If a girl wants to become friends, then great, it's one more friend ! And then I can meet her friends and then yay, it's more friends (with or without benefits) or romantic relationships for me. I speak to guys just as much as I speak to girls, because having guy friends is also important, and when I'm in a social environment I'm focused on helping everyone to have a great time. Just bring beers to …
/r/seduction02/10/19 10:23 PM
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I haven’t been to a club, a bar, used a dating app or cold approached a girl in a neutral area (like streets, restaurants, shops, parc...) in about a year. I have about 1 or two new girls interested a week (usually pretty high quality ones in my opinion, both physically and emotionally), which add up to as ma y LTRs as I can handle (everyone know about all the others). Good social circle, a fulfilling and happy life and solid leadership are more effective in my experience than the usual pickup s…
/r/seduction02/10/19 09:40 PM
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Hey. What you did was shitty. It’s not your fault, you didn’t know, and that doesn’t mean you’re not a good guy. You’re inexperienced, it’s fine. Being penetrated when you’re not « ready » (like properly excited) is terribly uncomfortable for a girl. It’s like having someone entering in your house when you’re naked and don’t want to see anyone, and this person suddenly breaks everything inside. It’s violent. When you’re with a girl, be slow. Check that she’s reciprocating every step of the way. …
/r/seduction02/10/19 07:05 AM
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You taking the problem the wrong way. Do the things for you, not to maintain your value or show her anything. Every person you meet is an opportunity to grow and become a better version of yourself. Of course you should care about anyone feedbacks, it's precious. Take what you want to take, make it yours, improve yourself and become a better person. But don't do it for her, do it for you. If you do things for you, if you really put yourself and living a fulfilling life first, you will never be n…
/r/seduction01/10/19 09:05 PM
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You do you ! Wish you the best dude.
/r/seduction01/10/19 04:10 PM
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Well then do things that interest you my friend :) It's the first step to live an happy and fulfilling life.
/r/seduction01/10/19 04:00 PM
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First, learn to use punctuation. Second, stop negging, it's mean and fake. Negging only works in very specific situation and is very hard to master. Honestly it's better to just put it on the shelf of ideas that had success but never were really good. i always make the girl work for the compliment How do you work for a compliment exactly ? It's true complimenting appearance makes you look superficial and needy, so it's good to avoid it. But I don't think anyone should work for a compliment, just…
/r/seduction01/10/19 03:58 PM
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Well then talk to someone else that you find more interesting.
/r/seduction01/10/19 03:45 PM
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What's your experience with girls who feel comfortable enough around you to swear like a sailor? I don't know, I'm honestly not sure I've ever faced such a situation. Some people swear, some people don't, I've never put real meaning into that. In that situation it just seems that this girl was not for you. That's honestly the first I consider this question so I have no answer, but thanks for the clarity !
/r/seduction01/10/19 02:21 PM
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Setup and mindset is : where do you approach ? What kind of people do you approach ? More in groups, alone ? Do you approach only the girls that really attract you or just any girl ? What do you tell yourself when you're approaching and during the interaction ? I think your approach is not terrible, but overly superficial. Yes they probably spend a decent 5 minutes, but I don't think most people would end this conversation saying "wow I can't wait to see this guy again". There is no deeper conne…
/r/seduction01/10/19 02:19 PM
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Do you have any concrete example ? There is none in your initial post. Like what do you mean by "swearing" ?
/r/seduction01/10/19 01:58 PM
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What kinds of approaches to you do ? What setup, what mindset, what type of opener, how do you handle the conversation ? Your numbers don't mean anything without more infos.
/r/seduction01/10/19 01:52 PM
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Do you have an example of someone swearing that made you think "oh, she's not interested" ?
/r/seduction01/10/19 01:48 PM
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What ?
/r/seduction01/10/19 01:45 PM
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Def out of my league dating wise. I almost want to do her a favor by rejecting myself, since I know she can do much better... You need to work on that. She's not out of your leagues, because there is no league. Work on your self-esteem and honestly, the length of your dates is not something to worry about.
/r/seduction01/10/19 01:41 PM
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Would you like to share this convo so I can see more clearly what you're dealing with ? You can send a dm if you don't want to share personal stuff in here. It's possible you're too invested, try to mirror her volume of text and when in doubt, just ask questions.
/r/seduction01/10/19 01:32 PM
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Well that's your opinion. Also I'm not justifying it, just saying it's to be expected. It's not because you think cheating is bad that people will suddenly stop doing it. They will if you give them good reasons to do so. I will say it differently : being cheated on doesn't make you a good guy.
/r/seduction01/10/19 01:13 PM
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I suck at texting and conversations in generall No you don't. You just haven't developed the skills yet. My first advice is to stop devaluing and judging yourself. You're exactly where you need to be. How can I fix these 2 flaws ? Do you have fun during these conversations ? Like, are you genuinely having fun for the conversation itself or are you just trying to keep the conversation going and you're only interested in the end result ? If you don't care about the end result and just have fun, ju…
/r/seduction01/10/19 01:06 PM
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Well if I don't put any effort in my relationship, I hope she will cheat on me and / or break up with me. That's just being smart and taking care of herself. I like to date smart people that will not let me be lazy and take them for granted. Completely deserved in my opinion, if it's really how it happened. I would need the version from the son perspective to be sure.
/r/seduction01/10/19 12:25 PM
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Then keep looking ! If I had to make a process it would be : Step 1 : find something she likes. With questions like "what do you like to do ? what would you do if you had complete financial security ? What would be your perfect day ? What did you do during the summer ?" Step 2 : Build an emotional connection around what she likes. With questions like "what do you like about this ? How do you feel when you do this ? Did you already like to do that as a child ? What made you like this ?" Step 3 : …
/r/seduction01/10/19 12:08 PM
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Just reply, set up a date, and escalate. It seems like she's doing all the job in that situation... She will stop at some point.
/r/seduction01/10/19 09:55 AM
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so I've invited her for a lunch and at the beginning she said yes and after that she declined the invitation and said she already was invited for lunch and she forgot about that..... she invited me to that lunch and i declined and said i already have plans! Wait... How could you have plans if you were supposed to spend luch with her ? What were your plans ? She always hangs with her ex and she know really weird guys, idk from where she knows them... Okay, maybe judging her friends as "weird" is …
/r/seduction01/10/19 09:42 AM
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"Remember to not fall into the friendzone stupid" It's the best advice to actually fall into the so-called "friendzone". Our brain works this way, if you think about something, you will make it appear. If you think you can be friendzoned, you'll likely be. A better advice would be "escalate the physical attraction". Focus on your sensations, on being present, on touch, on physical proximity, on eye contact and let the silence set in. There is no friend zone, only physical attraction and emotiona…
/r/seduction01/10/19 09:30 AM
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I just said its good to read as most people are just glued on their phones and social media. Well, can you be more bland than that ? Generic consensual statement that any 60-year old lady could say is not something that will spark the conversation. Forget the words "good" and "bad", be more creative, nuanced and profound than that. "Oh, what books do you like to read ? What's the book that touched you the most recently ? How do you feel when you're reading ? What makes you like reading so much ?…
/r/seduction01/10/19 09:09 AM
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Wow, I think you made me fall in love with her. It's a beautiful story, thanks for sharing ! And don't listen to people saying you're needy or oneitis. I've had wonderful relationships with girls I fell in love on first sight. Just keep doing you, it's working well so far.
/r/seduction01/10/19 08:50 AM
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If I go direct, it only 'works' in the 1 in 300 situation where the girl thinks i'm hot otherwise it's often a fairly straight rejection. Like, not a shit test. A literal ''yeah, you're not my type. Byeee'' and then she grabs her friends arm and walks away lol. Yeah, then it's probably too direct. I don't really think about direct openers and usually go with the flow, but it can be something like "hey, you seem nice, do you want to talk ?" or if it's a group "hey, I'm trying to meet new people, …
/r/seduction01/10/19 08:47 AM
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Yes, it’s normal to say dumb things. The brain freeze is not the things you say, it’s how you react to it. If you say something dumb and then become some weird disfonctional human being, then it’s an issue. Just go with it. “Well, what I mean by that is that you should smile if you want to and not smile if you don’t. Actually, I’m thinking of starting of political movement for more facial expression freedom, you want to get in ?” And then you have a fun subject to talk about. That’s what confide…
/r/seduction01/10/19 08:11 AM
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I will ask this question differently. What would be your ideal relationship(s) ?
/r/seduction30/09/19 10:36 PM
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What are you looking for in term of relationships ?
/r/seduction30/09/19 10:23 PM
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There are many subs suited to your fantasy. I would try /r/Swingers and /r/SexPositive at least, but I'm sure there are more specific ones.
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:52 PM
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I know that she recognizes me but It is obvious she is trying to ignore me for a reason. You know nothing and there is nothing obvious. Stop assuming things and just talk to her like a human being.
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:49 PM
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Go talk to her ffs. I think you broke my overthinking detector.
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:41 PM
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Don't worry about their parents. They know what it is to be 14. Just have fun, do what you feel is right for you and don't do anything she doesn't want you to do, and you'll be fine :) There is absolutely no need for anything to happen.
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:38 PM
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Just try to know each other. Don't worry with a relationship, you won't have time to start one. But you can just have some intimate few days and that will be a good memory for both of you :) Do what's right for you and don't worry about what happens after.
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:30 PM
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That depends on when was your last text. Sometimes I plan dates two weeks before and I could forget about it. For the first date, I always check the day before if there is any doubt that the person may not come. Also I feel like talking to her the day before "puts her in the mood" and is more likely to think about it the day before the date. So when we see each others there is more excitation.
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:22 PM
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I think "see you tomorrow" is a bit weak because you're half-assing it. Either you want confirmation and then why don't you ask ? Or you don't want it and then why would you say "see you tomorrow" out of nowhere ? I go with "Hey. Are you still in for tomorrow ? I can be there at X". It lets her total freedom to say she can't, and at the same time doesn't come off as needy, because I'm talking about something we already planned. Like it makes sens that if she doesn't want to come, I need to know …
/r/seduction30/09/19 08:57 PM
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I cannot bring it past this into my throat, but I heard done successfully can deepen the voice and make words more powerful and masculine. Well it's a bit more complex. The 5th chakra, located on the throat, is associated to creativity, communication, self-expression, anything that makes you express your interiority. The more you open this chakra, the more you'll be able to let the energy flow through it. So in order to do that you can practice your voice, your communication, but also artistic e…
/r/seduction30/09/19 08:20 PM
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What I’m tryna work on is how to have that confidence before I know that they are interested, it just kinda turns on if they engage with me but do you have any suggestions to have that engage before I even approach them or will that just come over time when I eventually achieve more success with my approaches? I don't think that there is any method that will make most people you engage interested in you. At least not at first. What you can do, is trying to offer people a good experience, like ju…
/r/seduction30/09/19 06:48 PM
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Do you really want to know how to be more sexual after 30 years of relationships, three kids and a mortgage ? You will have to be more precise on what you're asking.
/r/seduction30/09/19 06:33 PM
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Well it's pretty complicated because it would mean going in depth into what is sexual energy, and that's something difficult to define. I think the best spiritualities for that are Taoism and Tantrism (which is derived from Buddhism). Basically, in those spiritualities sexual energy is something that you can awaken, that you can raise in your body (you go up through the chakras). The higher you get, the more tension you accumulate in your body, the more powerful it is. It's like becoming electri…
/r/seduction30/09/19 06:23 PM
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What I mean is engage physically whenever it's appropriate. Set up the settings for that if needed (find moments where you're just the two of you). Friendly texting are neither an issue nor an ally. You can keep doing it if you like it. It's not like "stop replying or being nice", it's just "if she doesn't initiate and you have nothing really great to say, just do something else with your life that will be more meaningful". Don't be always on your phone waiting for an answer. Please don't.
/r/seduction30/09/19 06:08 PM
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You mean if she's a real friend and there is no sexual tension between you ? Like a "friend zone" scenario ? Then you need to build the sexual tension by bringing touch, physical proximity and silent eye-contacts in the relationship. The problem is with friends we're often in the mental, talking a lot, making jokes, because it's so fluid. But the problem is that to build the sexual tension you need to be in your body, to be connected to yourself. That's why talking less, looking in the eye and t…
/r/seduction30/09/19 05:47 PM
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I think you should read this guide, it answers most of your questions : https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/davojt/answering_common_questions_on_how_to_talk_to_women/ you have to be able to get them to want to talk to you which is not easy unless your their type physically. I think most people put too much value on this "physical type" thing. I'm 5'5, not that muscular or well-dressed, and I almost never an issue talking to a girl. If you offer a pleasant experience and people see that y…
/r/seduction30/09/19 05:41 PM
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It depends on you, there is no number. The problem is not beating off, the problem is the compulsive behaviour that leads to beating off. It's the same with any addiction, including video games or social media. If you're acting compulsively, that will decrease your sexual energy.
/r/seduction30/09/19 05:25 PM
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A few books keep talking about day game as being the easiest Yes, maybe I was not clear enough : "day game" is great, and can definitely be effective. I'm talking about approaching people on the streets. Usually people that are walking try to go from point A to point B and you are just an obstacle in that scenario. Starting a conversation from there is terribly difficult. Cold approaches are most effective in an environment where people are there to get distracted and enjoy a good time : coffee,…
/r/seduction30/09/19 05:23 PM
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Field-tested what ? Having little success at approaching girls on the streets ? Yes. And I know many experienced and attractive people, approaching people on the streets is not very effective. Obviously it works, anything works if you put time and energy into it, it's just not efficient (and honestly annoying for many people).
/r/seduction30/09/19 04:58 PM
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Approaching people on the streets is the lowest-percentage approach, except maybe approaching people who are working. It's only good as a practice for rejection, and having the courage to approach. Even if you're good at it, it's still a high number game. People don't like to be approached on the streets. If you like it, at least volonteer for an association so your ability to handle rejection becomes somewhat useful. Once it becomes easy for you to approach people on the streets, just stop doin…
/r/seduction30/09/19 04:41 PM
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You can fall in love, but know that if you do so, you will have to love her entirely. You won't change her. You won't be able to have a solid classic relationship. She will probably be with other people, she will leave you for days without reason, she will come back and say that everything has changed, she will throw at you all sorts of contradictory messages, both verbally and non-verbally, and so many other things that you will have to accept fully because it's not something she can stop (it's…
/r/seduction30/09/19 04:12 PM
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Look into chakra breathing, sexual energy meditation, kundalini yoga or kundalini meditation (kundalini is the sexual energy in sanskrit). There are a lot of yoga and meditation exercises to get more in touch with your sensual and sexual energy. Also, any activity that produces testosteron like sports, working out, getting some sun, not being stressed out, sleeping well, eating healthy... Basically taking care of your body and yourself. Best is combining both ;)
/r/seduction30/09/19 04:03 PM
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I would still send her a few texts a day during your study breaks. Just keep your phone away while you study. It will even help for your exams to have her encouraging you, and you can use it as motivation.
/r/seduction30/09/19 03:41 PM
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It's funny because, thinking about it... I don't think I have a "toughest rejection". I don't have a single rejection that really affected me or generated any long-lasting emotion afterward. Many people expressed they were not interested in interacting with me, and I was fine with it. Which is crazy when you think about it, how we are so scared of something that we will not even remember, or only in a positive way. I think I always felt more proud after an approach, or more generally after doing…
/r/seduction30/09/19 03:33 PM
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She knows.
/r/seduction30/09/19 03:23 PM
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It's jealousy. It happens. It's a feeling, there is nothing wrong with feelings. Being needy or overly attached are behaviour. As long as your feelings don't impact negatively your behaviour, it's fine. In order to do that just accept that you feel this, that it's yours to deal with, and let it go. Meditation can help a lot to process emotions such as this one.
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:48 PM
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A bar ? A restaurant ? A parc ? A walk in the forest ? You don't have any of those where you live ?
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:45 PM
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Was I supposed to just straight invite her to my place? No, it's great. Did I fuck up by going to with dinner? No, it's great. Logistically this seems too difficult. Yeah this is not the best. In that situation I would tell her to go directly to your place so you can go together to the dinner. Also this thing is 10 DAY AWAY. It's really not that long. You didn't see each other for your entire life, I'm sure you can handle 10 more days. Send her a message the day before to confirm that she is sti…
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:42 PM
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I don't want to weird her out and she stops talking to me again I think your issue is right there. You're too scared that she will stop talking to you. You create an imbalance in the relationship and you submit yourself to her. You can't build any sexual tension or attraction from that position. Giving her relationship advices is not bad in itself, just like the friend zone is not bad in itself. It's a way to build an emotional connection and to show her you have value (that you know how to hand…
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:34 PM
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Edging is fine but it depends on the regularity. Ejaculation makes you lose your sexual energy.
/r/seduction30/09/19 12:00 PM
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I will instinctively ask why or how so, even though this supposedly goes against what you're supposed to do (I think?) It's not against what you're supposed to do. What you're supposed to do is just not put too much value about what happens in texts. But if you like to get the conversation going and ask questions, there is nothing wrong with that. It's just not necessary. Texts are useful to set up meetings and logistics, and the occasional spark if you haven't seen someone in a while. Everythin…
/r/seduction30/09/19 10:36 AM
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Silences. Eye contact. Staying connected to your body. Breathing deeply. Being present. Initiating soft touch. If you're in contact with your sexual energy, you will naturally set up a sexual mood. If you struggle to connect with your sexual energy, there are breathing and body exercises. Also stop masturbating will help a lot.
/r/seduction30/09/19 10:13 AM
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This is the top post of the sub right now... Did you at least read it ? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/davojt/answering_common_questions_on_how_to_talk_to_women/ That said, I live in Europe and I think a lot of bars are terrible places to approach.
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:37 AM
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"Hi GirlName. I've MrNiceBrone, we met yesterday in ClubName. I really enjoyed spending time with you, I like your positive and joyful energy / I find you creative and interesting / I feel like you're deep and funny at the same time / anything you like about her that is not her looks. Maybe we can get a coffee sometimes if you'd like. I'm available next tuesday and wednesday. I wish you a wonderful day [here is a good place to put a private joke, anything that makes you look like you know her an…
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:26 AM
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Like only one text that says "let's get coffee" ? Yeah you can do better than that.
/r/seduction30/09/19 09:11 AM
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Do you realise how many answers to that question you've had already ?
/r/seduction30/09/19 08:38 AM
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I don't want to play games over it. I just want to meet face to face. Great, that's what texts are for ! Planning and logistics to meet people in person. There is no "text game" unless you're on a dating app. Once you've met the person already, you just have to set up the next time you'll meet. What is the first text you send after getting the number ?
/r/seduction30/09/19 08:32 AM
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Best way to deal with what you call "slut defense" is just to not put value on it. Just being able to say it makes her more comfortable, you don't have to do or say anything.
/r/seduction29/09/19 11:07 AM
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What I was asking was whether the results of this "be myself and don't act like I need her" strategy would differ if I used it with a girl that I had just flirted with as opposed to one that gave me an IOI first. No, it is more effective on any human being to be disinterested when you want to build attraction. It's the same if you want to sell a product to clients. It's the same if you want to get a job. For everything you want to have in your life, you will improve your chance if you're complet…
/r/seduction28/09/19 10:54 PM
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"then what make us more than friends in the future, because if that’s the case I could only really see you as a friend" This is a very weird thing to say. Like I see what you mean, but I think it participates to your issue : you're too much in the mind and not enough in your body / sensuality. Who cares if the label is friends or anything else ? Don't try to convince her she wants a hook-up, build a desire so intense that she will jump on you with enthusiasm.
/r/seduction28/09/19 10:50 PM
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What's the issue here ? Everything seems to go pretty well. Don't make assumptions where there is no need.
/r/seduction28/09/19 10:44 PM
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What is far more difficult, however, is getting into a situation where there is a girl actually taking an interest in me. If you think this is difficult, you will be interested because you want it to happen. Don't act, it's not an act. If you can build an abundance mindset, you won't need to act anything, you can just be yourself which is sometimes being hot, sometimes cold, it depends on what is on your mind and what you feel like doing. But it's not a deliberate decision to create confusion in…
/r/seduction28/09/19 10:40 PM
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Don't act disinterested. Be actually disinterested. Not because you don't care, but because you are fine with whatever happens.
/r/seduction28/09/19 10:21 PM
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I know you're a psychology student but you really need to turn down the overthinking. Literally nothing happened between you, how could you fuck up ? So shut your wandering mind off and just talk to her as a human being.
/r/seduction27/09/19 03:57 PM
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There is a third one : the girl that didn't answer in the first few days because she was busy or didn't know what to text (girls are also insecure about texting), and now feels it's "too late" and you have forgotten about her, or is guilty about answering you so late. Most of the girls that don't answer me, especially when the contact is still very new, are in that situation. Except on dating apps of course, but I don't use those.
/r/seduction27/09/19 12:41 PM
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I think it sounds better in my native language. Maybe "you're in my mind right now". It's more intimate and personal. But it obviously depends on your history with the girl, the level of intimacy, the type of relationship you have. There is no universal text to rule them all. My point was just saying that being honest and telling what is actually happening with you is better that anything in this post.
/r/seduction27/09/19 12:27 PM
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It's more like I have other activities with other people and don't necessarily want to make it a group activity ;) (unless that's what I'm looking to setup, but that's another subject entirely).
/r/seduction27/09/19 12:09 PM
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I completely agree with you on this. The "I hope" is not needed it's true. These days, I don't try to seduce, I'm confident enough on the fact that she is seduced already, that's not my job to do that. My job is just to be the best person I can be, which includes being honest, caring, and not putting pressure.
/r/seduction27/09/19 11:49 AM
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Yeah of course, this text works very well if you have an event you want her to join you to.
/r/seduction27/09/19 11:44 AM
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I think your texts come out as needy (to me) because they are fake. Trying to set up an excuse to send a text to someone in order to get a response just shows insecurity. I always prefer to go with honesty. There is nothing fake about my texts, everything is 100% true (I'm very aligned with Mark Manson on this). I agree that in my text I don't want to get a reply. I just want her to know someone cares about her and thinks about her, without any expectation for her to do anything or to change any…
/r/seduction27/09/19 09:20 AM
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Depends on you. Honestly to me "I have a complicated love life" is a really good card to activate my "oh so now it's a challenge" mode. The "just as friends" is just icing on the cake. She definitely is interested but doesn't know how to deal with that and is conflicted. I feel like complicated people are usually pretty smart. So an 8/10 smart girl is not something I would let go like that. I think I would send a text like "Hey, we met yesterday blablabla. It was nice meeting you, I really liked…
/r/seduction27/09/19 08:53 AM
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I'm sorry but those texts are very needy. Of course they work (actually any text work, people answer to texts most of the time), but it's not a good vibe I think. Except inviting her to an event if that's what you want to do it makes sense. I don't think anyone can ghost me. A person can take time to answer me but the only person that can consider as ghosting is myself. Nobody ever said to me "hey, I don't know if you noticed but I'm ghosting you right now". If there has been a long time since I…
/r/seduction27/09/19 08:20 AM
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What do you mean ?
/r/seduction26/09/19 03:14 PM
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I'm not even sure about that. Look at Nick Vijicic.
/r/seduction26/09/19 03:14 PM
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Well if you're a 2/10, it's mostly your fault. Eat healthy, exercise, shave well, have good hygiene, take care of your skin, dress well, smile and have fun, and you'll become good-looking enough that looks are not important. I think when we say "looks are not important", it's more like "genes are not important".
/r/seduction26/09/19 01:31 PM
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Literally anywhere you like to go and feel comfortable. I haven't approached anyone in clubs or bars in months, it's not my environment. Just find events that appeal to you, go there, meet people organically, make friends, have a social life where you feel that you fit, bring value in people lives, have fun, and seduction will become really easy.
/r/seduction26/09/19 12:22 PM
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Also, I’m a pretty boring person. I haven’t done much in life and don’t have a big social circle. As long as you believe that, that's what most people will think about you. Work on yourself, go to therapy, travel, make friends, find hobbies, do things that you like that put you out of your comfort zone.
/r/seduction26/09/19 05:59 AM
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Am I wasting my time here or are there girls that don’t kiss on a first date despite being interested? Lol yes there are plenty. She is interested don't worry. Your second date will be fine. Don't overthink this and go with the flow, the first date was already good. Have fun !
/r/seduction25/09/19 04:13 PM
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Well it's true. Ability to identify and welcome consent is a very attractive skill. If a girl is excited and safe at the same time, it's all green.
/r/seduction25/09/19 04:07 PM
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You can't reject someone, you can only reject an offer, a proposition. If your offer gets rejected and you see the person again, just smile and say hi, like it's the most normal thing in the world. Because it is. Also it's not unusual that someone says no on the spot but comes back later.
/r/seduction25/09/19 03:35 PM
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Depends on what you're looking for. If you want to have some fun and a drunk one-night-stand, bars is more adapted if you're funny and confident in that environment. If you want some deeper conversations and building an emotional connection, libraries are pretty good if you can handle a conversation and really listen.
/r/seduction25/09/19 02:31 PM
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Labels mean nothing. The only important thing is "what is happening in the relationship ?". I can have sex with my friends, I can have platonic romance, there is no universal definition. If someone prefers to label our relationship as "friendship", it's fine by me. Also, people often reassure themselves with labels. Like a girl is interested by someone but she doesn't want to be seen as pushy or as a slut so she will say "we're friends", so any behaviour will be seen as normal. Just don't put va…
/r/seduction25/09/19 02:16 PM
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And you can dm me your success with her if you want ;)
/r/seduction25/09/19 01:30 PM
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Nothing is weird if you don't make it weird. It's like "oh yeah seeing it was your bday made me realise I wanted to talk to you but haven't until now". Hey bday is a good opportunity to talk, you have a reason and she is probably in a good mood. But don't expect an answer, it's mostly just to be easier to talk to her in person. You have nothing to lose anyway.
/r/seduction25/09/19 01:24 PM
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Have fun. Don't put much expectations on what happens. Be present in the moment. Don't try to impress her, do what feels right.
/r/seduction25/09/19 12:56 PM
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Well I would just be honest without putting much expectations : "Hey, I don't know if you know me, I'm lula9871. I've seen you a couple times at Place. You look really easy to talk to / joyful / creative / open-minded / funny [what do you like about her except her looks ?]. I've been too shy to talk to you will all you friends around, but maybe we could chat a bit someday ? Anyway, I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday and I hope you have a wonderful day. See you around !" She will probably…
/r/seduction25/09/19 12:55 PM
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Obviously it’s gonna be akward It won't be awkward if it's not awkward for you. Go with the flow, if there is no sex it's fine. It's not an objective. If you feel like it, "do you want to go in my room" is explicit enough. When the excitation has risen through the roof (take your time for that, use your fingers), "do you want me to put on a condom ?" so you know she's ready for penetration. Then take your time and have fun. Asking questions and checking on her will make things easier for her. Be…
/r/seduction25/09/19 12:05 PM
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What is confusing to you in this situation ?
/r/seduction25/09/19 11:08 AM
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Have fun, listen to her and be present, get escalation going, be confident, don't expect sex (just be available for it), and don't try to impress her.
/r/seduction25/09/19 10:17 AM
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The friend zone doesn't exist. Either she's interested or she's not, that's all that matters. Considering you as a friend is in your favour. Everything is an opportunity for escalation : "Oh so we are friends now ? That's like an upgrade. What am I allowed to do with you as your official friend now ?" with a smile. You can take her hand "out of friendship" and even kiss her. You don't know what's in her head so stop making unhelpful assumptions.
/r/seduction25/09/19 09:06 AM
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Forget about women for a while. You're not there yet. Make friends, have fun, talk to people, do things you like, exercise, read self-development books, eat healthy, go to therapy. Try to seduce yourself before seducing other people.
/r/seduction25/09/19 08:56 AM
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Why should you put efforts to get a girl interested ? Did she put a lot of effort to make you interested ? Yeah stop overthinking, it's going well.
/r/seduction25/09/19 08:46 AM
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How is that mixed signals ? I only see positive signs.
/r/seduction25/09/19 08:40 AM
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Yeah, don't worry, you don't ever need to state explicitly those intentions. The more detached you are from your desire of sexuality, the easier it will be.
/r/seduction25/09/19 08:05 AM
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I have too many excuses. Yeah. Stop the bullshit and allow yourself to do what you want to do. Another issue is when I have the nerve to approach, I rarely have the balls to show my true intentions and don’t really know how to say it. What do you mean by that ? What are your "true intentions" that people wouldn't know about ?
/r/seduction25/09/19 07:51 AM
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Is her texting that a hint? Yes. should I text her on friday/saturday? Yes, sure, text her the day after. "Hey, it was nice meeting you on X. I had a great time, I find you really funny / smart / creative / inspiring. I hope to see you again soon". How do I approach people at parties? There are so many ways to approach. In college parties, I feel you can just talk to anyone and say "Hey. What's your name ?" and it will be fine. Obviously, you can use the context to help you out and start a conve…
/r/seduction25/09/19 07:48 AM
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I was very addicted, like a few times a day. Now it's like maybe once a week, or less. I feel like my life is better than most porn, so usually I start with porn and finish with my memories and imagination.
/r/seduction25/09/19 07:34 AM
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Wow that’s very cliche.
/r/seduction24/09/19 09:48 PM
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Text her. I would go with something along the lines of : "Hey. I'm FestivalDouche, my father gave me your phone number, apparently your father gave it to him. I don't know what those two are up to, but I hope it's fine for me to text you. Maybe we could grab a coffee together if you want, and discuss the terrible fate of having parents trying to decide our lives [emoji] [it's just to set up a non-sexual common interest. If you know more about her and are genuinely curious about something, you ca…
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:53 AM
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Nothing matters, except knowing yourself and loving yourself entirely. I don't work out, I dress as bland as you can get (jean and white tee-shirt), I'm not very funny, I'm not that confident (to the point I let the girls do most of the initiation and escalation), I'm average-looking and I'm also 5'5. I'm perfectly fine with all of that. I have other qualities : I listen very well, I know how to touch and hug, I'm very comfortable with my body, I can have deep and intimate conversations no matte…
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:38 AM
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There is no such thing as a friend zone. If she's not interested, you will know soon enough. Don't worry about it. If you spend hours just the two of you chatting and smoking, how is there no room for kino escalation ? It's about as intimate as you can get. In the club she responds neutrally to kino, I’ll hold out my hand and lead her through the club, and she also grabs my hand whenever she was walking in front of me. This is not kino. This is just people trying to walk in a club without losing…
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:17 AM
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She probably feels just as guilty as you do. You need to put that behind you and have a laugh about it. Organise a real date, talk about yourself a bit more and connect on an emotional level. You can talk about her about how you felt that night, how you wanted to please her but couldn't and how you felt guilty. Vulnerability is attractive if you own it. It will be fine.
/r/seduction24/09/19 10:13 AM
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Just one text the day before "Hey, still in for tomorrow ? If yes, what about Time at Place ? See you very soon !" with an emoji adapted to your level of intimacy. Anything more in not necessary. I mean it's great if something makes you think of her and you share it, but no text is just as good. And if she flakes, take it with a smile, set up another date. It's no big deal.
/r/seduction23/09/19 03:04 PM
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Best places are where you have already a common interest : hobbies, friends party, any enjoyment place (like theatre, museum, sport game, bars...). Girls working is a no. There are literally paid to be nice with you, it's a nightmare for her and ineffective for you. But seriously, a guy with no women friends is a huge red flag. It's easy to make friends and then you'll have a much easier time. Also, friends are nice too.
/r/seduction23/09/19 02:57 PM
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"See you later for round 2" doesn't call for an answer. "Do you want me to come over later ? I'm available at X." does. Wish you the best.
/r/seduction23/09/19 09:07 AM
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As for that day, she msged me after saying thanks for the great time, I said thanks for the invite, she said no problem and then I replied with see you later today for round two And why didn't you go there ? So I want to save the trouble of a breakup and just have fun and memorable relationship Then go for it and don't think about the break-up. You don't know if it will come or not, and how. Just go with the flow and stop doubting yourself. If you tell her you're a virgin it'll probably make her…
/r/seduction23/09/19 08:51 AM
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What do you want with this girl ? Do you want to have sex ? To have a relationship ? She has low self-esteem, so she will sabotage herself out of the relationship. It's not she's not interested, it's just she thinks she doesn't deserve it so sooner or later you will leave her. If you're really interested, you can reassure her, tell her you spent a really nice time with her after you see her, tell her you're impatient de spend time with her. Just little texts that say "I'm thinking about you and …
/r/seduction23/09/19 08:01 AM
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Open that shell and be authentic. Be yourself, break that persona and realise it's not you. People don't like you because of you, they like someone you're not. You're a complete human being. Seriously. You don't need to be someone you're not. Work on your self instead of working on a mask. Do things that you like, hang out with people you like, meditate, exercise, be passionate, be curious, be open to whatever experiences and smile at life. Stop pretending. And don't wait to be content with your…
/r/seduction22/09/19 09:21 PM
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Change the places you go to, change your friends. Keep the gym and the harmonica.
/r/seduction22/09/19 09:12 PM
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I think most advices in this sub would go toward "be the best human being you can be in that situation, while still being true to yourself". Which is exactly the same as treating girls as sentient human being just as much as men. This sub is mostly to help people getting through their fears, improve their self-esteem and trust themselves (just like many subs). It can be reductive sometimes because it's based on a flawed model, but it's still pretty accurate on a statistical aspect. That said, I …
/r/seduction22/09/19 09:02 PM
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Okay, first, congrats :) You can already be proud of what you did and even if this story doesn't go further, you can still be hella proud of you. It's fine you didn't text on friday night. No worries. What do you want to say on this text ? I think the important parts are that you had a nice time with her and you would be open to see her again, right ? Then say something like that with your words : "Hey X, I'm dajourneys, we met at Place on friday. I had a great time with you and I think you're r…
/r/seduction22/09/19 04:03 PM
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Silence, deep topics, being authentic, feeling-oriented questions like « how do you feel right now ». Also sensuality. You don’t trigger emotions, you set up an environment where they are welcome and they can flow. That also means being at peace with your own emotions and expressing them.
/r/seduction21/09/19 08:54 AM
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Yeah sure, it depends on the level of intimacy you have. But if you talk again about the bluntness of her texts, you can also slide something like "I could also call you if you prefer" and see what goes. It's not clingy if she feels in control. It also shows you're willing to adapt for her. Wish you the best.
/r/seduction20/09/19 02:37 PM
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Should i just not worry about it, organise the date properly closer to the day and just go with the flow? Yes. Also maybe call her instead of texting. Some people are just not into texting, it's not a big deal.
/r/seduction20/09/19 01:17 PM
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Learn to ask questions about her, that leads to feelings and emotions : What do you like ? What do you like about this thing ? How doing this thing makes you feel ? If money was not an issue, what would you do ? What are the most attractive qualities for you ? Why ? How do you feel when you meet someone like that ? If you're genuinely curious about who she is, how she feels and what is important for her, you'll never run out of subjects. You will find subjects you can relate, and talk about how …
/r/seduction20/09/19 10:39 AM
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It's because you put so much value on the result. You feel like if you get a no, it means you don't have value, and if you get a girl home, it means you're attractive and a player or something. Both of these are illusions, it's only practice and it doesn't say anything about you. Both results are successes. It's normal to have fear, but you also have the courage to get through your fears. So man up, breath, and do what you want to do.
/r/seduction19/09/19 04:17 PM
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There are so many ressources : books, videos, articles, post on this sub... What have you read and tried ? I still haven’t been able to approach with the explicit purpose of taking a girl home Maybe you're putting too much pressure on yourself with the results ? Just approach girls with the explicit purpose of approaching them, and see what goes. The worst that can happen is they are not interested, and it's still a success. It’s usually too loud to talk in clubs and I’m sure as hell not going t…
/r/seduction19/09/19 04:06 PM
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Stop sabotaging yourself and ask her out.
/r/seduction19/09/19 01:56 PM
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I know her interest can't be very high since she waited 3 days to reply to a short text You don't know anything. Stop assuming things and then taking them as facts. There are so many reasons she could have waited 3 days. Unless proven otherwise, she is interested in you. That said, I think what you plan is great, something like "Oh nice, I went there 2 years ago, it's really beautiful. I hope you'll have a great time. Hit me up when you're back so we can watch a movie someday and talk about our …
/r/seduction19/09/19 01:18 PM
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setting up an actual date is a nightmare and I just become their texting buddy How ? How do you manage to become their texting buddy ? It's not something that just happens, it's something that you deliberately choose to become (and that's fine if that's what you like). "Hey, wanna meet ? I'm doing X on saturday, you're welcome to come along if you want" is not very hard to text. I don't even feel like talking to women in real life anymore since I feel like it won't lead anywhere Talking to women…
/r/seduction19/09/19 10:40 AM
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No, being cockblocked just means you made mistakes. Nobody can prevent you from seducing someone except that person. Stop looking for excuse and just use what you call a cockblock as an opportunity to get what you want.
/r/seduction19/09/19 05:43 AM
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Don't worry, you will find a way to spend time with her alone. If you don't, it's probably her that asked her friend to be secure, so just be funny, don't be pushy, and opportunities will arise. Im planning to give her a hug when i see her that night You're so cute :) Will I get cockblocked You can't be cockblocked. That's just an excuse for bitter people. I advise you to remove this word from your vocabulary.
/r/seduction18/09/19 02:57 PM
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At this point, I realize it’s over with her What makes you think that ? Have you tried just talking to her in person and not overthinking ?
/r/seduction18/09/19 02:45 PM
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Yes, go for it if you feel like it. Nothing is awkward if you're confident. Have fun, don't take it seriously, you have nothing to lose. And it's the same for school. Who cares about anonymity ? It's a great practice to not let what others think affect you. You won't care about any of those people in a few years. The question is : will you have improved in that time in skills that are important to you ? Will you feel more confident, more aligned, more self-loving ?
/r/seduction18/09/19 11:45 AM
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Then go for the first one. She's not thinking anything, she's just scared and doesn't want to get her hopes up if you're more interested with the other one. The only answer she's waiting for is "there is nothing romantic going on with that girl, actually I'm more interested in someone else", with eye contact and a smile. Seriously, everything is just going your way, don't overthink it and go for what you want.
/r/seduction18/09/19 11:28 AM
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But I’m also only 5 feet 8”, average looking and not exactly killing it professionally. So a GF is currently out of the question. I don't see any correlation between your two sentences. Care to explain ?
/r/seduction18/09/19 10:57 AM
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Wtf dude, it's the best piece of information and advice in this thread. Work on your insecurities and don't behave like an ass.
/r/seduction18/09/19 10:33 AM
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I don't see the issue in your situation. What are your intentions, what do you want ? Do you want to date one of them, both, none ? It seems you have all the cards in your hand.
/r/seduction18/09/19 10:28 AM
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Take every experience as a learning opportunity. There is no failing, only success and lessons. Focus on yourself, have fun, take care of your body, notice the little things that make your life wonderful, learn to love yourself no matter what happens with girls, jobs, family... You're a complete human being as you are, life is perfect as it is, there is nothing to change, nothing to perform, nothing to show. Just go with the flow and enjoy the ride. Meditation, practicing gratitude and doing thi…
/r/seduction17/09/19 09:55 AM
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Anything you say with confidence will work, the content doesn't really matters. Just have fun, don't go with obvious compliments or even comments about her appearance, and don't force anything. "I can help you out if you need anyone to track the progress" and follow up a flirty conversation on how good you are at this, for example. If she says "no I don't think I need someone for that", don't be defensive, just go with it : "So you're sure you don't want to know my price ? It's competitive". But…
/r/seduction16/09/19 04:29 PM
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Did you try to talk with them about the situation ? Did you commit to anything exclusive with any one of them ?
/r/seduction16/09/19 02:55 PM
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