TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

thenuttyhazlenut Archive

View 12 posts and 145 comments by thenuttyhazlenut on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
4

I live a pretty cool life and have lots of cool pics, yet I don't post on IG. Part of the reason is I know I wont get much likes, probably just a few because I'm anti-social and don't make it a thing to add people to social media much. But I resent it. I resent that it actually does make a diff when dating. It gives women a peak into your life, and makes them realize you're not a serial killer. I just hate posting my shit online. I'm a private person. But whether you like it or not, many women w…
/r/seduction08/05/26 06:24 AM
43

Get yourself off the tiktok man hating vids. Those are just the loud 2% of women. Women in real life aren't like that. Plus, what women say they want and what they actually want are two diff things.
/r/seduction28/04/26 05:50 AM
4

Women are a lot more sexual than a lot of us think. When they give you those signals, a lot of them would actually like to see some of that sexual desire come out boldly. There were a few times where at first the girl felt meh about me, but I very boldly showed sexual interest in her (sometimes in ways that most people would find creepy, but I did so confidently) and she suddenly became just as attracted in me.
/r/seduction27/04/26 05:12 AM
1

I struggle with the same thing bro. Except I have approached women I found attractive. But I struggle tremendously in making a move on the women who I really like, and who often make it very easy for me to make a move and who like me back. Most of the time I don't act on the women I really like, and this is a miserable way to live life because now I have to carry those memories and 'what ifs' with me for the rest of my life. Two women who were just exactly my type made showed interest in my the …
/r/seduction27/04/26 05:07 AM
5

The goal is to see if you'll give him a signal back. That's flirting. Especially the kind of flirting that you need to do when in a professional environment. A back and forth happens until both people know for sure they other wants them.
/r/seduction25/04/26 08:29 PM
1

Yeah man, my gym is so packed people share most of the time lol. We alternate between sets
/r/seduction15/04/26 03:49 AM
1

It can absolutely grow overtime. That's proximity attraction. When you see each other over and over again. Think of all the affairs and relationships that start at workplaces or at college.
/r/seduction14/04/26 09:34 PM
1

Whats your plan bro
/r/seduction14/04/26 07:42 PM
1

Thanks. You're right, I've been viewing it as a long game. Because like you, the gym is sort of my 2nd home. And I don't really want to be known at my gym as the guy who approaches women and gets turned down. My gym is so packed that I'll have an audience if I just straight up approach her, and I don't want to get turned down in front of other women especially. I'm not planning to force things. I'll sometimes put myself in her proximity, use the machines I know she uses, and like you said, excha…
/r/seduction14/04/26 05:18 PM
2

She gave me a few chances already lmao. One time she was doing simple dumbbell exercises across the mat, then moved next to me for no reason and continued. I turn and she gives a warm smile. Another time she waited with her friend just outside by the door near the time i finish my workout, and when I finished my workout and exited the door she backed up, almost backing up into me. I once went to make a move... I went to use the treadmill next to her when others closer were free. But then realize…
/r/seduction14/04/26 06:30 AM
1

I've done some cold approach in the grocery store and bar successfully in the past. Not a lot, but a few times when I felt I received looks back. But that feels easier TBH. Approaching women I don't know who I may never see again, and who I have nothing invested with. Compared to a girl I've been mutually crushing on for many months, who goes to the gym nearly every day at the same time I do. So if I get rejected there, I'll have to see her all the time, and possibly get rejected in front of an …
/r/seduction14/04/26 05:31 AM
5

what are women’s favourite topics of conversation? them and how they feel about stuff.
/r/seduction13/04/26 10:53 PM
3

has boyfriend
/r/seduction12/04/26 08:42 AM
7

If your attitude is bad overall and bitchy, it can turn him off you big time. Also if you're crazy
/r/seduction06/04/26 04:53 AM
2

It's empowering and makes you feel like the chooser, the one in power
/r/seduction06/04/26 03:38 AM
1

Never act reactive to a woman's behaviour even if it bothers you. It shows massive weakness if you do. Just act like nothing she did bothers you, and go back to paying her little to no attention and putting your focus on other women.
/r/seduction04/04/26 04:33 PM
2

Yea I'm more thinking of the girls who give you choosing signals or seem interested. And who I didn't approach and/or ask out because I was too puss. I can't get those out of my head years later.
/r/seduction03/04/26 04:40 PM
6

The worst thing about not approaching the girl you like is that one day... days, weeks or months later... you'll be standing in the shower or lying in bed, and you'll remember how you f'd up not approaching her and how you lost that opportunity. This will happen over and over again. And the memories of not approaching the women you like will accumulate until it becomes unbearable. A mountain of cowardness will haunt you as you get older, as you get grey, as you get wrinkled. The losses will be p…
/r/seduction03/04/26 12:05 AM
3

True about #1 and cheating and developing that abundance mentality. I used to be very anxious of my gf cheating on me. Then I started talking to other girls, developing mutual crushes, and then I felt like... If my gf cheats on me I'll just get to explore someone new, I'll get to approach that girl at my gym, or escalate with the coworker who flirts with me, or ask for the Starbucks girl's number who eyes me. And if she doesn't cheat on me? Great. It's a win/win. Cheat on me, I dare you, but if …
/r/seduction02/04/26 11:58 PM
2

Always carry a mars bar in your pocket to bribe the fridge in the group
/r/seduction02/04/26 03:57 AM
5

Thanks, GPT ✨
/r/seduction27/03/26 05:31 PM
14

You cant force someone to like you. Get the clue and move on. Why not experiment with it? Self respect, and training yourself to walk from low/no interest women. Instead of chasing and blowing up their ego more. You can literally always talk yourself into this "Its already dead why not just experiment with it" in any situation where you've been rejected. So why not forever chase women and look like a pathetic boy with no options and self-respect with all of them? You're training yourself to have…
/r/seduction25/03/26 03:37 PM
87

Looking at her social media tells a lot Look for thirst traps, a bunch of thirsty random men as following/followers, too active on social, no modesty, attention seeking behavior etc. And when you're on a date and asking her questions, getting to know her. You have to give the vibe that you're non-judgemental and she'll open up to your more. I have had a woman admit that they cheated on their ex. People will tell you who they are if you create the right environment for them to feel comfortable an…
/r/seduction24/03/26 06:27 AM
1

This is so right. The past year I've been stuck on 1-2 girls. 1 which I haven't been able to start anything with. Meanwhile, I've gotten strong choosing signals from other girls... who are attractive. Yet I ignored them, because my mind was stuck on those 1-2 girls. I denied so many opportunities, some 'first moves' by women where they give me a chance to initiate but I didn't. I've never gotten as much attention as this being in my mid 30s now. The game has changed compared to my 20s. But I got…
/r/seduction20/03/26 06:50 AM
1

Early on she knew about the other girl I was dating yet she seemed to pursue me anyways and gave me all that attention, including making a romantic playlist for me. And every once in awhile she would ask to see if I'm still seeing that girl. And I knew she was seeing someone else but she rarely ever mentioned him, like very rarely. For some reason nothing came out of it. I made some moves but nothing bold enough at the time. So things died off for a bit and then started getting hot again when sh…
/r/seduction19/03/26 04:23 PM
1

What exactly do you do to break their ego?
/r/seduction18/03/26 08:30 PM
6

What are you talking about? I've spoke to her for many months without even being sexually pushy. I was aiming for something serious with her. You sound really jaded and bitter. That's why men tend to date younger, because the odds of running into someone so jaded from bad experiences is less likely.
/r/seduction18/03/26 05:55 PM
3

100%. When she did finally mention the bf, she asked me my opinion on monkey branching and implied that she's open to it. And told me that her bf lies to her. I made more moves only to receive vague responses despite these confessions of her's. It was so confusing. I should have striked when the iron was hot, because it was hot at some point. But I hesitated because of confusion, then things cooled down, and the time wasting loop continued.
/r/seduction18/03/26 05:04 PM
5

Yes I never confessed my feelings. It's why this went on for so long. I'm sure she wanted me to confess despite not having those intentions with me. It certainly felt like she wanted me to, and she would have likely given me a vague response and received a big ego boost. I'm glad I didn't do that at least. But my behavior definitely showed I had strong feelings for her...
/r/seduction18/03/26 04:53 PM
7

BTW this girl had a bf for a long time. Yet never mentioned him despite sharing so much intimate details of her life with me. If I asked her what she did during the weekend she'd say the thing she did, but she won't mention that she did it with her bf. Lol. She'd tell me about her struggles, fears and dreams, but not mention her bf.
/r/seduction18/03/26 04:50 PM
1

Well said
/r/seduction17/03/26 04:56 PM
1

You fear losing her for good due to scarcity. That's why you don't make your intentions clear near the beginning. So you settle with holding onto her on friendly terms. You have to risk losing her by being bold. Get a clear answer near the start. Yes? Great. No? Also great because you get to move on without her being on your mind all the time. At least that's the way it is for most guys who get frienzoned
/r/seduction17/03/26 04:53 PM
2

that's not what he means at all
/r/seduction13/03/26 07:40 PM
1

Yeah sure, if you could send it to me that would be great. I don't have much experience in escalating long distance via the phone before meeting each other and getting intimate. In the situation you described with your girlfriend I think it was fine to say I like you, because you were already having sex with her. So on some level, you already knew she liked you back. My goal with this girl is... Well, I really like her and want to get her to choose me. I think what you said about timing is true.…
/r/seduction13/03/26 05:39 AM
2

That's because a text conversation shouldn't be a goal. Setting a date is the goal. If you can't do that then why are you trying to extend a conversation. Texting a lot kills attraction. Women often complain that guys text them too much and take too long to ask them out. Get a bit of a back and forth going and then ask her.. she's just as lost as you on how to keep a conversation going by text with a guy she barely knows The goal should be to get a yes or a no early, so that you can either move …
/r/seduction12/03/26 05:56 PM
12

I don't do pick up lines... Just go in without thinking, no need to treat her like a superstar or model. Just make a comment, then ask her name, and chit chat a bit. Beautiful women have been told they're beautiful most of their life. They'd rather be complimented on something else. Plus, saying 'you're gorgeous' puts her on a pedestal and removes mystery about how you feel, and it communicates that you're not used to women of her beauty.
/r/seduction11/03/26 03:10 PM
1

Hmm. I like this middle solution. However, I think if I approach her and she likes me she will expect and hope I ask for her number? Also, if I approach her this week, chit chat a bit but don't get the number, then I'll have to do it all over again next time. I don't know. I need to hype myself so much just to approach the first time. And how do you think is best to approach? She always has her headphones on, but she takes them off as she's leaving the gym (we finish near the same time). Would i…
/r/seduction11/03/26 04:17 AM
1

Interesting. So you recommend approaching, and asking for the number, and then arranging a date 3 weeks in advance? I mean, if I arrange a date 3 weeks in advance I think she'll expect communication during that time, and like you said... texting for 3 weeks will kill mystery and attraction. And how do you think is best to approach? She always has her headphones on, but she takes them off as she's leaving the gym (we finish near the same time). Would it be creepy/weird to end my workout when I se…
/r/seduction11/03/26 04:15 AM
1

Hey I like your insights. I also think it makes sense to wait until I come back. However... I noticed that she's been appearing frustrated that I haven't approached her. She seems to be avoiding eye contact now even when I'm close to her, just seems annoyed now. Maybe it's all in my head, but I doubt it. This has happened to me a few times before with girls. I get scared to make a bold move, and they get frustrated from waiting too long. And this girl gave me a few chances to approach the past m…
/r/seduction11/03/26 04:07 AM
11

These things used to bother me. If you allow it to you'll become the male equivalent of the typical 35 yo bitter jaded woman vlogging negatively on TikTok about how all men are toxic. To have a chance at a healthy dating life you have to become a lover of women and accept what is. If you're in your 20s it will get better so long as you keep investing in yourself. Then you'll have the upper hand
/r/seduction03/03/26 01:44 AM
65

There is no fault. It's just the way it is.
/r/seduction03/03/26 12:41 AM
197

The true answer is that they don't approach because they don't need to. Don't get mad at this fact. It's just the way it is. Accept it.
/r/seduction03/03/26 12:33 AM
-5

Stupid immature stuff. Is your ambition to become a bum? Always prioritize your work.
/r/seduction01/03/26 07:25 PM
3

Her suggesting another guy to join you is 100% friend zone energy. But there's a chance you didn't misread. Some girls like to make it seem like they're interested just to see you shoot your shot for an ego boost when they have 0 intention of anything romantic with you. Don't accept a 3some (especially with another guy...) outing unless you intend to confirm to her that you accept the friend zone.
/r/seduction01/03/26 07:55 AM
1

Do they think that us seeing them with another guy makes us want them more? Or is it more like.. she really wanted you, you didn't make a move, so she got bitter and showed up with another guy as an ego thing (like you could have had me, but I don't wait around kind of thing).
/r/seduction01/03/26 03:45 AM
7

I feel like it has the opposite effect on men though... Like if a girl tries to use jealousy on me by bringing another guy around, then I'm going to assume that he's smashing her... And that certainly doesn't make me want her more. If anything, it makes me want her less. Do women not understand this about men? But I know for certain jealousy works on women. Sometimes it works really well, because they value social proof whereas we don't really care about that. Women like men who other women like…
/r/seduction28/02/26 05:20 AM
3

I feel like it has the opposite effect on men though... Like if a girl tries to use jealousy on me by bringing another guy around, then I'm going to assume that he's smashing her... And that certainly doesn't make me want her more. If anything, it makes me want her less. Do women not understand this about men? But I know for certain jealousy works on women. Sometimes it works really well, because they value social proof whereas we don't really care about that. Women like men who other women like…
/r/seduction28/02/26 05:19 AM
4

Not good enough. You need confidence and some game too. I'm tall, fit and attractive. Getting initial choosing signals is easy, but if I don't act and play my cards right I ain't getting any.
/r/seduction27/02/26 02:30 AM
3

I agree. There has to be a significant contrast from the before and after. I've had attractive women in their early mid-20s become very interested after they started acting wishy-washy. I removed my attention completely then eventually they return with a very strong attraction. It's just something that has always worked for me. Ironically, when they return it I've already lost interest... So my pullback is fairly genuine. I tend to overpursue at the beginning and it drives them away. And then re…
/r/seduction24/02/26 09:41 PM
165

Lose interest in her. Let her feel the switch from 100 to 0. No more initiating, no liking her posts or nothing. Post stories of you doing fun stuff. Ones that make her wonder if you're with another woman and lost interest in her. And when she messages you her goal will likely be to check if she still "has" you, so don't play back into it so easily. Women like men who are a challenge. guarantee this works.
/r/seduction24/02/26 04:57 PM
4

Let those women filter themselves out of your life. Do you even wanna be but someone who's active in those groups? First of all, they've likely been doing online dating for a long time. And second, they're hypocrites because as soon as you message them they post your picture in the group feeling entitled to your undivided attention before any commitment at all. Meanwhile, they're very very likely talking to multiple guys at the same time. Think of those groups as automated toxicity filters for y…
/r/seduction14/02/26 01:38 AM
1

That's a good move. Yea, I'm above average, being tall white and fit, in addition to that peacock advantage you mention. It should be easy. It really should. But I've been acting too hesitant with women. Sometimes I notice attraction, I beat around the bush and then I can tell they're frustrated by my lack of action and give up. I need more confidence somehow. I think I can pull that "Can we share?" line. I can say it in Spanish, and I know enough for a bit of small talk. But I'd want to confirm…
/r/seduction06/02/26 05:26 AM
2

Yeah that's the thing. This gym is my second home. And I stand out being the only white guy in this all Mexican gym. If I approach and get shot down, others will see it - other girls will see it. And you know, women tend to like men who other women like. I know they gossip at gyms. I think I just have to wait for another natural opportunity maybe? Or make eye contact and see if she gives me a smile. I can't see myself just waking up to her. There was a girl like a month ago who kept making eye c…
/r/seduction06/02/26 02:54 AM
3

I agree, but some of us have an unhealthy relationship with video games. I was too competitive
/r/seduction05/02/26 04:31 PM
36

Fitness, therapy, worked towards getting a good career, pushed myself out of my comfort zone socially, quit video games, developed some discipline
/r/seduction05/02/26 12:39 AM
2

Are you going on dates with people you don't really feel attractive? Don't date everyone you match with
/r/seduction09/01/26 02:12 AM
1

Whatever you do let your decision not come from a place of fear. Decisions made out of fear turn into decisions lived to regret.
/r/seduction05/01/26 04:11 AM
0

My favorite is 1-2 drinks at a nice bar. Sitting at the corner of the bar, so you're close enough for touch and not sitting across from each other
/r/seduction28/12/25 11:19 PM
0

Ok you had success before. But 20 first dates with nothing more isn't just a streak of bad luck. There's something very wrong going on
/r/seduction28/12/25 09:34 PM
72

After 20+ dates and no success... I'd honestly hire a professional coach to help me. You have a major hole in your game that you're completely unaware of. Usually, for men I think it's.... trying too hard. When you try too hard women subconsciously think "I'm not all that, why is here trying so hard? Is he not used to women like me?". Or it's over pursuing. This ones probably the most common. Validating them too much, giving them too much reassurance, future talking (talking about plans for a 2n…
/r/seduction28/12/25 02:24 AM
1

Typically when men brag about seeing multiple women here it's because they haven't committed to either of them. being committed to 1 person, yet entertain others is just shitty whether you're a man or woman
/r/seduction13/12/25 11:09 PM
1

Helps being tall, with good hair, some facial hair and being white. Somewhat fit, but a little skinny. I realize these things make it easier with women
/r/seduction13/12/25 11:07 PM
1

If she's hurting just go slower and less deep. But of course foreplay until she's wet. A lot of girls get wet easily if you kiss/lick/suck their nipples, kiss them on the back of the neck, and take your time. They get less wet if you act too thirsty and in a rush. Make her really want it before you actually penetrate. Missionary position is less painful for them. And most girls really like being on top. You just have to get past the initial awkwardness, which is usually the first 1-2 times. Afte…
/r/seduction13/12/25 11:04 PM
3

Not as pleasurable as you may think. Awkward. Unnatural. Clumsy. Overall bad.
/r/seduction13/12/25 10:44 PM
1

insecure ≠ knowing what you want in fact knowing what you want and being willing to leave if your wants are not met is secure behavior You do know that 98% of the guys going to clubs go there in hopes of getting laid? If your girl is going clubbing a lot I'm sorry to break it to you but she's really not that into you. You've really been feminized to use the word "insecure" here. Do you also tell guys that they're insecure for having an issue with a gf who keeps a bunch of guy friends who want to…
/r/seduction13/12/25 05:46 PM
93

But also, I'm not someone who's ok with my gf clubbing without me. I don't buy the whole "I'm going to the club and dressing this way for myself". I'm in my 30s now. I know what I want in a relationship. I learned this excellent line from Bill Burr: "Maybe another guy can handle it, but I can't". It's what I say now when the girl I'm with wants to do something like clubbing. It's not accusatory. It's not controlling. It communicates: I know what I want... I admit I can't handle this behavior... …
/r/seduction13/12/25 08:05 AM
415

Bro Let me tell you something. I live in a Caribbean tourist city. If I want to get laid by Western women who are on a girls trip all I have to do is sit at a tourist bar downtown. I often get approached by women who are on girls trip. And I guarantee that a good portion of them either have a bf at home or are hiding their ring. They're easier to get with than a local woman. One time, there were 3 girls on a girls trip dancing near me as I was at the bar. One approaches me, I barely engage. The …
/r/seduction13/12/25 07:38 AM
1

You think a quick interaction is fine? Like "Hey you have a nice smile" "What's your name?" "My names ___, you from around here?" "I'm from ___" "listen, I have to go but I'd like your number first". Though it's a little awkward if I approach at the start of my workout, and have to stick around.
/r/seduction11/12/25 03:48 AM
-2

? My grammar isn't nearly as good to pass as AI Women do give these signals if you're attractive enough. That's not fiction. Perhaps for some it is
/r/seduction11/12/25 02:16 AM
5

You already waited way too long. She very likely doesn't see you that way. At this point, you're like her gay male girlfriend. When you accept to be friends for too long, they just stop seeing you sexually. Like the possibility that you have a penis doesn't even enter her head at this point. She behaves as if you have a vagina. No woman has ever said: my childhood friend is so damn hot and mysterious, I want to jump his bones. He's so confident that he waited a decade to make a move, but oh was …
/r/seduction08/12/25 04:10 AM
34

One of the main ways I've learned to pick up if they're interested or not is to first give them eye contact myself. Not staring, and not glancing. But holding it for a little bit more than what's normal. You could tell a lot from doing this with the women you find attractive. Don't smile, but don't look too serious either. And women have a lot of experience doing this, so they know how to convey to you that they're attracted. They'll hold the eye contact a little bit too, or they'll look at you …
/r/seduction06/12/25 10:18 PM
18

Each time I've gone into an interaction with planned flirtations it usually hurts things or comes off awkward or makes me more nervous. You have to learn to be in the moment and practice being playful and flirty.
/r/seduction06/12/25 09:25 PM
20

No because I've only approached women who I think want me to approach
/r/seduction06/12/25 09:06 PM
3

Yes, I suppose my thinking is too much in her frame. She gave me signs, accepted initial flirting, so I naturally escalated. I've been trying to get into the mindset of doing what I want. Rather than trying to estimate what she wants and to fit my personality and actions into that frame. A man should go after what he wants, but if it ends up being fruitless, then he needs to move on to the next without wasting much time... I still cringe and clench my teeth at the thought of my over the top flir…
/r/seduction06/12/25 08:01 AM
1

Bueno
/r/seduction03/12/25 02:27 AM
17

Is it a case of you are who you attract? Are you a party girl? Are you someone who seemingly posts all over IG for male attention? It could be that guys are advised to act the way you describe initially. We're taught to escalate using a flirty vibe because we fear coming off as "too friendly" or purely platonic. Maybe you are talking to some of the guys you want. They'll just feel more comfortable showing who they really are later, after the initial awkwardness and meet.
/r/seduction02/12/25 09:17 PM
2

Just checked, I don't think you can hide people from viewing who likes your posts. You can hide the like count though. But they can still see who liked your post and it will show all the people in the list. Or am I missing something?
/r/seduction01/12/25 03:26 AM
1

So can you hide people from viewing who liked your post? I thought about how to improve my profile knowing I won't get much likes on my post, and decided I'll just focus on posting great highlights since they don't have likes, and have just a few posts. You make a good point though
/r/seduction30/11/25 05:49 AM
2

But when you do meet a girl you like she'll eventually ask you about it and that will be an awkward conversation. Also, you can tell the followers are fake quite easy by looking at the bs profiles. If anyone decides to look. The ones I have look fake and their mostly Russian or Indian lol.
/r/seduction30/11/25 05:44 AM
9

Yes but if your posts get only 2-3 likes then what. Your IG profile will work as a negative. Women are cautious of lone wolf type men
/r/seduction30/11/25 05:33 AM
5

The thing is, when you do finally post you wont get likes from any of them. I bought like 100 only because I'm a loner. And I have lots of good pics from traveling and adventures I'd like to post, but I know I'll only get like 3 likes.... IG does unfortunately matter, especially if you want to improve your luck with women in their 20s
/r/seduction30/11/25 05:32 AM
1

Never. Flakey wishy washy behavior completely turns me off
/r/seduction30/11/25 02:18 AM
10

only an interesting question if he hit the mom too
/r/seduction28/11/25 02:55 PM
5

It only works if your status and or lifestyle and or physical shape is on point. You're not going to date 10 years younger as an average guy
/r/seduction28/11/25 01:55 PM
23

lose weight
/r/seduction14/11/25 04:36 PM
34

Women do this a lot too. We take for granted the options we know we have secured. And #2 some people have low self esteem, so when someone likes them back they think "How could he/she like me so much? I'm not great at all". And #3 some people are avoidant attachment style. And reason #4, if you grew up with a distant opposite sex parent, then your idea of love is experiencing it at a distance .
/r/seduction14/11/25 06:40 AM
107

25) Women want what other women want. Use social proof, and sometimes jealousy in your favor
/r/seduction10/11/25 06:49 PM
1

Wtf
/r/seduction10/11/25 04:35 PM
12

this. toxic people add so much drama and complexities to your life. not worth it for sex... some of you are desperate af for sex. there are other fish in the sea..
/r/seduction08/11/25 06:46 AM
21

immunity to getting hit in the head by ceilings when going down basement stairs can use the children's sink and urinal in malls more intrinsic motivation to develop humor and/or muscles and/or career to compensate for height dogs see you as equals, and often mistake you for mating partners the privilege to be called a king (short king) men (and women) are not threatened by you, only children are. You are underestimated. you reach your potential in bodybuilding sooner than tall guys and require l…
/r/seduction08/11/25 01:30 AM
5

Mixed signals usually means attention seeking. When you pursue, she pulls back to avoid clarity. When you pull back, she gives you bread crumbs of attention to make you chase again. Next time don't fall for her breadcrumbs of attention. Withhold your attention. Withhold it until she gives you more than just vague on and off signals.
/r/seduction04/11/25 08:00 AM
8

she removed her pic
/r/seduction30/10/25 04:20 PM
20

Because you prefer desperate guys, and likely can't get desirable guys most women want I'm guessing you're a big girl or ugg Edit: checked profile. I was correct
/r/seduction30/10/25 04:10 PM
4

It feels draining when she's not that into you. Only invest this kind of energy into high interest women
/r/seduction29/10/25 02:08 PM
1

AI or not, it's a good reminder. My gf has always treated me the worst when I tried the hardest. I am trying little now (and actually thinking of breaking up), so she has now entered the role of the pursuer. And with this other girl I've been talking to... She was chasing me. Then I realized it, and tried hard. Like planned every interaction, and started to act too nice and without mystery. Since then she backed away. I experienced this many times with women. When I back away and stop trying you…
/r/seduction29/10/25 06:11 AM
3

When you want it enough, you'll put effort into it. Wait until you're 30 and still haven't had a proper relationship.
/r/seduction28/10/25 05:52 PM
120

+1 and who the hell wants a girl with 100k IG followers. Those are things women care about, not men. Sounds like a headache to date such a person
/r/seduction28/10/25 01:22 PM
2

It was a little weird. Even though I wanted my bottle of water back, I didn't bother because I didn't want it to appear as if I'm approaching a girl in my gym. I don't want to be known as that guy.. But also I respect the bold move. If I did find her very attractive I would have went for it
/r/seduction22/10/25 04:51 PM
1

No why?
/r/seduction22/10/25 04:50 PM
133

she eyed me across the gym, then sat down next to me for a second, then took my bottle of water and left hers. definitely on purpose. Our plastic bottles were different. bold. I didn't do anything because I wasn't attracted enough. I didn't even take her bottle of water. She must have felt really rejected. Haven't seen her since. rip
/r/seduction21/10/25 07:17 PM
35

This. Many people don't realize this. In Thailand it's looked down on for women with any kind of value to date traveling foreigners. It's viewed as low class. And Thai women are very classist. You'll match with ladyboys and working girls and bar girls.
/r/seduction18/10/25 08:40 PM
161

Lol quitting your job for short term women. My god, man... If you work on yourself long-term you could get women from anywhere... The issue is your short-term gratification mindset lacking in discipline. You're 22. Build yourself up. Women your age date men in their 30s a lot not because rizz, but because 22 year old guys have nothing to offer... They're immature with no career, nothing going on for themselves, often no ambition, often not even independent. The longer you stay in that phase, the…
/r/seduction18/10/25 08:34 PM
1

Yes I def get more looks with stubble. Studies have shown women respond best to stubble
/r/seduction17/10/25 03:05 AM
1

I haven't had larger biceps than I do now, and I've been focusing a lot on a few exercises.. Pull ups, chin-ups, dips, kettlebell clean and press, hammer curls. And of course making sure I get enough protein but also I think creatine has made a noticeable difference too.
/r/seduction13/10/25 10:21 PM
5

Getting larger arms Trimming the beard down to stubble Wearing tank tops at the gym Getting a haircut more frequently I noticed increased attention from all of these
/r/seduction13/10/25 09:31 PM
7

Her energy should simply scream yes or no. Otherwise what's the point. If there's little enthusiasm, I'm not going to keep engaging with her or follow through with the date. I'm not going to put effort into a luke warm, wishy washy flaky person. And the fact that they pursue me HARD after I disengage completely shows that they were playing a game all along. For example, this girl I cold approached flirted hard with me when I approached. She asked me my opinion on 2 body washes she was considerin…
/r/seduction13/10/25 08:30 PM
125

The last girl who played hard to get, I cancelled on her because of her lack of enthusiasm, and told her actually something came up. She started chasing me, trying to get my attention, showing up at places she knew I was at certain times, joined my gym, spammed stories on social that are know were for me. She's done in my mind. It's not even bitterness from my side, just complete lack of interest.
/r/seduction13/10/25 08:26 PM
1

Are there no black women around?
/r/seduction21/09/25 07:36 PM
7

I knew a guy who did that a lot. He didn't have much standards. That's how he did it. The women were below his league
/r/seduction20/09/25 06:16 PM
56

Get out of the mindset that you'll look needy or creepy or desperate... For being a man, and approaching a woman and asking for her number.. This is just your fear talking. And your goal isn't to get her Instagram and keep in touch... Are you aiming to be her Orbiter? Is that the goal? When you approach her tell her you'd love to take her out someday
/r/seduction15/09/25 07:54 PM
2

Watch Orion Taraban's video 'drop the handkerchief '
/r/seduction14/09/25 12:28 AM
5

How do you show pre-selection without social media? Not trying hard is one, but what else?
/r/seduction10/09/25 11:04 PM
5

Just gotta linger a bit around them and make eye contact and/or smile. You'll know if they're interested based on the reaction, then you approach without thinking too much. The more you think the more likely you talk yourself out of it
/r/seduction07/09/25 04:58 PM
2

The grocery store
/r/seduction07/09/25 04:39 PM
4

Lmao
/r/seduction06/09/25 03:49 PM
10

The more you hesitate and think about what you're going to say, the more likely you'll talk yourself out of it. If you're receiving indicators of interest you can open with anything generic and do well
/r/seduction06/09/25 04:43 AM
2

Yea I think it's less about niceness, and more about going after what you want and being unapologetic about it. It takes a lot of confidence to behave like that. But at the same time, having enough experience with women so that you're not tiptoeing around, acting like this is your one and only shot with someone like her.
/r/seduction05/09/25 08:15 PM
9

So how do people like your friend break out of that mold? When it's in their nature to be kind, agreeable with women, and just lacking an edge overall. I was stuck in that mold throughout my twenties, but now I'm a little bit better with women. Not because I have a bunch of sex appeal, but because I've learned to be playful and flirt a bit, and have more confidence now. But still, I rely on my looks. Women show interest in me physically, with their eyes. But a lot of the time my nice, tiptoeing …
/r/seduction05/09/25 07:42 PM
2

😂🤣
/r/seduction04/09/25 03:38 AM
4

Lol I thought of acting weak and clingy on purpose to make her breakup with me. Easier than doing it myself and dealing with crazy.
/r/seduction04/09/25 03:38 AM
21

Nice try, GPT
/r/seduction01/09/25 02:18 PM
26

Shh. Let it be our secret weapon. Let the suckers swipe right, and pay club fees for low quality I've had a dime remember me years later for approaching her in a freaking grocery store. It leaves a lasting impression
/r/seduction31/08/25 10:16 PM
29

get a clue. she mentioned her boyfriend twice, are you rtarded? or just desperate? because you're coming off like a man with no options. even a woman who has a boyfriend and is interested in you wouldn't mention her bf. this girl is mentioning him left and right. I understand autism, but c'mon man
/r/seduction24/07/25 06:48 PM
2

Curious what you make of a woman who doesn't reply to a guy's flirtatious text or just responds with dry replies, but shows good interested energy in person with him?
/r/seduction22/07/25 09:36 PM
1

So you think there's no point in texting? I mean, I would have been open to something long-distance with her while I'm away for the 2 months. Would be fun to flirt and maybe more if I can manage to escalate it there
/r/seduction19/07/25 09:04 PM
1

I haven't asked for her IG, but I did look it up without following her. She's not active on it. And neither am I. She's early 20s so maybe on TikTok, but I don't use it. I'm early 30s. Honestly, I don't have much followers or activity on social media so it would act as a negative for me. Only until recently I realized that she's been showing interest for months and I didn't realize it at the time. I know she's been wanting me to ask for her number through her behavior. Now I just don't know what…
/r/seduction19/07/25 07:12 PM
1

I get that, but I might be away for 1-2 months. Also, and this is the interesting part, she's my Spanish tutor (and has been for the past 6 months). We do the 1 on 1 tutoring sessions online now twice per week since I'm out of town. I asked for her number a few days ago before i left because I noticed she's been showing pretty strong interest in me in person, she made me a personalized Spanish music playlist with love songs, showed me to dance to a song, so I asked for her number. She told me sh…
/r/seduction19/07/25 07:01 PM
1

But I might be out of town for 1-2 months. Also, and this is the interesting part, she's my Spanish tutor (and has been for the past 6 months). We do the 1 on 1 tutoring sessions online now twice per week since I'm out of town. I asked for her number a few days ago before i left because I noticed she's been showing pretty strong interest in me in person, she made me a personalized Spanish music playlist with love songs, showed me to dance to a song, so I asked for her number. She told me she's n…
/r/seduction19/07/25 06:59 PM
10

She probably suggested that early day hoping you'd be unavailable. Replying the next day is low interest and usually results in flakes. High interest replies fairy quick.
/r/seduction08/06/25 08:25 PM
8

This. It's like, you're literally being rejected... It's not even a soft no, it's a hard no. Even if she's not telling you the truth how about having a boyfriend, she's needing to make up a lie just to get you to stop bothering her. It's the one answer she's giving you where she'd think you'd get a clue.. a lot of women are afraid to outright reject men with a plain no, because they don't feel safe doing it.
/r/seduction11/02/25 08:43 PM
2

If they're not telling you the truth, then that means they're rejecting you. Accept it. Stop being so desperate and find yourself some options. You want women who are into you... And women who are into you make it easy. By pursuing women who are wishy-washy about you or straight up rejecting you, the most you'll get out of it is the friend zone.
/r/seduction11/02/25 08:39 PM
41

Yes but most of the men she'll be interested in just want to smash. That's all. Because the men a beautiful woman desires are rarer than her, and also have a lot of optionality (100% of women want the top 20% of men). She can pick and choose who to fuck, but that's it. And most women want a relationship. She's swiping through a sea of men who swiped right on her when they were horny. Not much of a victory there.
/r/seduction19/01/25 04:34 AM
1

Why higher quality through night game? I mean, if you consider party girls quality - I don't.
/r/seduction30/12/24 10:31 AM
6

Average male standards are pathetic. But the typical female standards are not? Women typically want someone who earns more money, stronger, taller, etc. Why do women typically want that? Are they pathetic weaklings? No.. it's biology. Most men (if they're able to) seek out younger women across all cultures and across all of time. And most women want someone with more experience, someone stronger, someone who can provide. Even in 2024 most people seek these things out. This is biology. And I don'…
/r/seduction12/05/24 03:08 PM
83

lol. yes sleep around in your 20s, and find your king in your 30s while he's eyeing women in their 20s. Women are not men. We're very different.
/r/seduction12/05/24 04:29 AM
1

They didn't do it to you. You did it to yourself. Stop blaming women. You get yourself friendzoned because you're a chickenshit afraid of rejection and think weaseling your way into false friendships with women you like will get you what you want.
/r/seduction08/09/23 03:51 PM
0

Because the offence was emotional and not physical, and I stopped it before it got too bad. I still love her. But maybe I need to hangout with another girl to see how I feel about it. "He's just a friend". Why can't I just have "just a friend"?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 01:51 AM
0

I like you're mindset haha. "Is this what you want or are you looking for a MRP to tell you that it is okay?" It is what I want. Well, I'm out of the country for a month and she knows. Do you recommend texting her every once in a while? I know she's attracted, it showed in person, but she doesn't flirt with me knowing I have a GF - I tried flirting by text, she doesn't reciprocate. Or to just wait until I return and do the gym invite? I think I'll just wait until I return. I doubt she'll forget …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/23 01:26 AM
1

OYS #4 2 year LTR. 6'2, 170 lbs (not enough! But i have some muscle). Met another woman To start off - I've struggled to forgive my GFs emotional cheating. One day I got frustrated and approached a woman in a grocery store. A real beauty. She gave me her number, which surprised me because I never did something like this before. But she smiled back at me a few times and I had to go for it. So we've been texting a few days, then she drops the bomb and tells me she saw me walking hand-in-hand with …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/23 12:29 AM
0

OYS #2 Basics: Early 30's, Weight: 170 lbs, BF: IDK LTR 1 year plus together. Mission My mission is simple. I want to maximize freedom and independence. How do you do that? Through a good job / money, and working on your mindset. I just got a new job that allows me to work remotely and I'm very happy I got it - it pays decent too. I want to focus on my job. And I also want to focus on improving my mindset (especially when it comes to my girlfriend and women) - I need to care less; I care too muc…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 12:21 AM
1

But if I didn't check her phone I would have never known that this guy has been flirting with her. I need to confirm that she's setting boundaries? Her: "I still have the work papers" Her: "I'll give it to you on Friday" Him: "And the papers?" Her: "Haha silly" Shit like that. It's highly disrespectful. He sends kiss gifs too. And her profile pic in those chat apps is of me and her. And I met the guy. Sure, I could focus on myself. Or I could choose to leave her. But at what point do you open yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/23 04:48 PM
1

OYS #1 I Failed as a Leader (advice please) My jealousy was justified. But the way I handled it was terrible. Her male co-worker "friend" keeps flirting with her. We had many discussions about it so that she sets boundaries with him. Yesterday I see another disrespectful flirty text from him, and she justified it as "Well, I'm not flirting back" --and my perspective is: "Well, you're not doing anything --including telling him to stop disrespecting us". My girlfriend is too nice to people. A peop…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/23 01:14 PM
2

yup. In my 40s I'll take testosterone so that doesn't happen!
/r/seduction14/06/23 12:16 PM
16

Does it worry you that your finance hasn't "been there done that" and had a chance to explore like you? The desire may strike one day
/r/seduction12/06/23 02:15 AM
1

But how do you suggest going to a hotel? While you're chatting on the dating app or while you're out for a drink?
/r/seduction21/11/21 10:18 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter