Feeling guilty for flirting too hard

TheRealJamesHoffa · 2025-12-06T06:28:15+00:00

There’s no such thing as good ones. If she was more into you she would have responded positively to it. Girls are sexual too. On to the next one brother. You can’t expect to build something without taking some risk. It happens to every guy at some point.

Hell, I’ve had some girls bait it out of me and then pretend to be offended once they got what they were asking for. It’s a shit test. The key is to not let it bother you or act insecure about it afterwards. Act confident and like she’s the weird one.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-12-06T08:32:43+00:00

Ask her how she is. Just talk to her and say sorry if it was too much. Tell her you find her really attractive, and that's why you're sometimes losing control with her. Tell her you're worried that you've overstepped some boundary of hers.

I've also made a sexual joke to my current girlfriend that she didn't take well. So I just apologized and reassured her that I'll be more respectful in the future and showed that I care about her. That's it. Haven't fought about it since, we had sex, all is good now.

Just be real and respectful. That's all you can do. If she won't be receptive of that, move on. That's all you can really do.

Level_Condition1899 · 2025-12-06T21:44:26+00:00

you might be shocked by how often men will try to steer a conversation towards sex. it's not really interesting, or novel, or the best way to flirt IMO. if she's an attractive young woman she's probably sick of that vibe.

vigilanting · 2025-12-07T02:51:49+00:00

If you can meet her again, you did not mess up as bad as you think you did. It may not have gone how you wanted it to go, but if a girl is willing to keep seeing you, that is a good sign.

Matter_Still · 2025-12-06T08:44:04+00:00

So, if the girl were ordinary, that is, not as attractive to you as this “good one”, you wouldn’t be concerned if you have offended her?

That sounds like you have a sliding scale in place: the more attractive a girl is to you the more remorseful you will be if you crossed a line.

Dandys3107 · 2025-12-10T07:36:33+00:00

Well, it’s yet another important feedback for you to improve your seduction strategy. Unless you really trespassed her intimacy zone in a harsh way, there is no reason to be too bothered about it, sometimes you get overly optimistic with your emotional high or just misread the mood/signs, and women are usually not helping with that at all. Don’t get too defensive and don’t get too apologetic, but still probably there is no coming back from your current situation, unless she will show some good will to fix things up as well, which is not really a common occurrence.

AlastairXXL · 2025-12-06T12:51:41+00:00

She would have wanted to be your girlfriend first before you even talked about sex bro

Title	Feeling guilty for flirting too hard
Author	thenuttyhazlenut
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	December 6, 2025 5:57 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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