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ConversationImpossibleWaiting/r/seduction13/09/25 02:01 AM
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Two steps forward, one step back. Start with public parts of her body and short touches and then touch more until you get to private parts and longer touching.
/r/seduction26/07/26 08:27 AM
1

Yep. I told a girl she's got a talented mouth last week when her hands were busy and she had to put a straw in her cup with her mouth. She loved it and had a satisfied smirk and "he got me" expression on her face. Obviously she's attracted to me and I know that and use that to flirt with her.
/r/seduction25/07/26 02:28 PM
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You will have to do reassurance for 300% then. And then bring it up again and talk about it again. And it's going to be painful. That's unavoidable, I'm afraid. But it has to happen because it's true to you. Do you know when women accept you being a player? When you make them genuinely happy and let them know you dating or having sex with others has no effect on her position in your relationship. Only then will she be okay with you seeing others. She'll have both love and freedom, if you can pro…
/r/seduction23/07/26 08:20 PM
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You do it by talking about it with these women. You tell them you see other girls because it's fun. You tell them you prefer open relationships. And then you reassure them that it doesn't mean they're not enough. If anything, you love their company because there are a lot of things that make them unique. And then you list those things. Reassurance is 80% of the conversation, the rest of the 20% is explaining why you do it. The fear only exists because you do not accept yourself as you are. It's …
/r/seduction23/07/26 07:06 PM
5

"I want to dance with you. Come over."
/r/seduction23/07/26 09:04 AM
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She had another man she didn't want to cheat on, I imagine. Also, she didn't want to feel like a slut and you failed to protect her from that feeling. Some women need sex to feel spontaneous and out of control to rationalize it as "he did it, not me".
/r/seduction21/07/26 01:59 PM
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I'd add life experience to the list. Get buff if you're not. Watch other confident men and emulate them until you yourself become one through experience. Be bold, imaginative and proactive.
/r/seduction20/07/26 10:31 PM
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It's a you problem. Get comfortable with your masculinity lol
/r/seduction20/07/26 09:26 PM
8

When you're learning, flirt at all times. I told a girl she's got a talented mouth after she put a straw in her drink cup with her mouth because her hands were busy. She smiled in a satisfied "I got got" kind of way. Girls love teasing and flirting. And I'm not even dating her, she's got another guy, but she likes my company. You can do whatever you want with taken girls if it doesn't enter a digital space. Flirting, touching, kissing, sex, and so on.
/r/seduction20/07/26 09:24 PM
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If you're a player, own it. Be unapologetic about dating other women. Tell them you're poly if they ask or that you prefer open relationships. Much better than lying or worrying. If someone drops you because of that, it's their loss after all, not yours. You can always get a new girl. They can't easily find a great man. Let them chase you and fight for you. This will get some getting used to. Took me about a year to accept this part of myself.
/r/seduction19/07/26 01:56 PM
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There are girls who will like you for whatever you were doing. Usually they're not ambitious, lazy and have some soft of insecurity like anxious attachment. Do not recommend going that path. Doormat partners will slowly make you very unhappy.
/r/seduction18/07/26 11:07 PM
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I've done quite a lot of times. Lots of step by step stuff from my own experience, frame, mindset and so on. You can find it in my comment history. However, in this case OP wouldn't benefit much from a blueprint. He needs broader principles first.
/r/seduction18/07/26 12:44 PM
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Well, the guy in question doesn't even understand that you can pull a girl non-verbally. Would you say it's an absolutely useless course that doesn't teach you the basics? If you say yes, you'd be lying. It's not a perfect course, but it's a decent place to start for someone who has no idea what they're doing. Identifying the Yes and Maybe girls is half the game imo. You approach and see what happens.
/r/seduction18/07/26 10:01 AM
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Everything you said isn't in the course, IS actually in the course. Why are you talking out of your ass? You can't become biased, man, you're sharing knowledge and helping people, you have a duty to be truthful here. Like I said, in The Natural course there's good examples of what to talk about, how to do that, AND they teach you spontaneity as well. I've read Mystery Method and it's a great structure. If you take the main ideas, it will improve your game as well. So I'm not sure what you're ran…
/r/seduction18/07/26 09:58 AM
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I think you're wrong. The Natural course mostly repeats RSD teachings. Are you saying RSD is wrong? They have a really good grasp on social dynamics. Maybe you didn't watch it with intent. There's a part where he's showing how to use chain associations. You have to actually practice speaking through chain associations to keep going and talking and sharing as much of yourself as possible for a girl to hook. Free association is better which you can watch in Owen Cook's program Hotseat at home, but…
/r/seduction18/07/26 01:19 AM
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This is a poor man's version of Mystery Method. Did you read the actual book? Why are you using this sort of approach if you don't feel comfortable with it nor do you understand it? It's like you're grasping at straws and don't understand what's fun for you personally about cold approaching a set. Is negging fun for you? Do you understand that Mystery first did it because he was insecure? In any case, I suggest you learning what you're passionate about and talking about it. Tell a passionate sto…
/r/seduction17/07/26 11:02 PM
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The amount of self-berating you do is WRONG. That's not how you do field reports. Stop being so negative. It seeps into your interactions. You're ruining all your chances with stuff like this. Watch Julien's ten game course. In his challenges section he explicitly forbids negativity in field reports. You've got to create an upward spiral. Game is supposed to be fun. Challenging but fun. Be proud that you're trying to fix this part of your life. Be proud that you're courageous enough to do that. …
/r/seduction17/07/26 07:38 AM
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Asking basic questions is the worst way you can go about sparking attraction. It's utterly boring and shows your lack of fun. Remember once and for all. Dates are not a job interview. DATES ARE ABOUT HAVING FUN. That means teasing her, making fun of her, accusing her of being a total nerd for knowing some niche fact, playfully poking at her shoulder, laughing and overall being carefree, filterless, touchy and flirty. Read a book like Make women chase you by Justin Rigley. It will tell you how to…
/r/seduction16/07/26 10:51 PM
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Yep, game is chaos. If you're going to wait for perfect circumstances, your approach count is going to be exactly 0.
/r/seduction16/07/26 10:39 PM
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Yeah, be a man and take what you want. It's fun for the girl. If you get a sign of disinterest, simply back off and and try again later.
/r/seduction16/07/26 02:35 PM
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Can't speak for everyone, but mine are: Beauty and style Kindness, ability to communicate with empathy Ambitiousness, striving for social accomplishments Autonomy Kinkiness, sexually free, loves roleplay These are the top 5. I'd also never seriously date someone with mental illness or substance / smoking / alcohol abuse.
/r/seduction16/07/26 02:27 PM
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Have sex with lots of them. Although sometimes you only need it to happen just once. Big tits are great, but is she a good person? Control your lust and stop putting these girls on a pedestal. Do some affirmations daily like: "I deserve to have the most attractive girlfriends. Their beauty is something I enjoy confidently. I'm used to talking to girls I find attractive. It's not a big deal. I'm the prize, let them worry about winning me over."
/r/seduction16/07/26 10:40 AM
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It's mostly in your head. Remember that sexual or stylish women get extra points of attractiveness from men. If you think you're a 5, you can easily climb to 7 by the use of makeup, lashes, clothes that show off your body in a good way, being kind, being ambitious and being sexual. You can easily date better men this way because you're going actually be more attractive because you put in the work. How do you avoid men who are assholes? Check for eye contact first. If you have strong eye contact,…
/r/seduction15/07/26 05:47 PM
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You could read Always talk to strangers. It's got a good overview on how to increase your chances outside of the apps as well. It's cold approaching to talk and screen the man, then offering to hangout. You can be flirty and sexual from the get go to screen harder.
/r/seduction15/07/26 04:02 PM
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The cope
/r/seduction15/07/26 07:36 AM
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Models by Mark Manson is a good place to start
/r/seduction15/07/26 07:35 AM
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You'll have to move on. Don't let it bother you. A woman would rather have a man who other women want than a man who no woman wants.
/r/seduction13/07/26 11:27 PM
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You shouldn't care about what other people think of you. It's a waste of energy. It's better to lean in into player persona rather than try to hide it. It's better to be proud of yourself. If they're spreading false info, that's a different story. But it's normal in all communities, not just seduction. All you can do is make a post on your socials to clear your name.
/r/seduction13/07/26 11:25 PM
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Why even care about it? If you're not dating for longterm, it doesn't matter.
/r/seduction13/07/26 07:23 PM
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Be fun Don't be unfun And most importantly be filterless so that you find what sticks and what doesn't
/r/seduction13/07/26 05:11 PM
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You can do your own research for this. In short, you put one woman above all others and make sure she feels that she's safe and secure as your number one woman. You can still date others. You just need to make sure her needs are met. The benefits are deeper connection, family, and all that comes from that.
/r/seduction12/07/26 12:49 PM
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Set up a King and Queen relationship, it's the best way. Having a partner you can rely on is very important when life throws problems at you
/r/seduction11/07/26 05:16 PM
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Gym is warm approaching game so don't worry about rushing it. You can be a bit slower than during cold approaching. Next time talk again, talk about her weekend, stuff she likes to do, invite her to come along somewhere you're already going.
/r/seduction09/07/26 08:41 PM
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Don't do dinner dates, do action dates.
/r/seduction09/07/26 07:02 AM
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You shouldn't be approaching women, that's for sure lmao
/r/seduction08/07/26 05:31 PM
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Taking responsibility for their life and doing everything to achieve happiness and success at things they want to experience
/r/seduction08/07/26 06:27 AM
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Gifts are for girlfriends after they've done something cool or special. Gifts are earned, not freely given. Unless you want to test her of course. You can give a gift as a test and see how she reacts. But if a girl doesn't want to be your girlfriend it will only put her off because you'll seem needy and smothering.
/r/seduction07/07/26 10:20 PM
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She's hot, move my legs towards her, assume something about her. Let's go!
/r/seduction07/07/26 10:18 PM
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That's the wrong attitude. You have to force it. You have to be unafraid to shoot your shot and move on if it doesn't work. If you can't do that, how are you expecting to have success? You need female abundance, not a single girl's attention.
/r/seduction07/07/26 03:02 PM
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So go ahead and cut off your balls. Once your testosterone is low, you won't be spending much time on seduction, if at all.
/r/seduction07/07/26 01:53 PM
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Black pill is for losers who need an excuse for their bitterness and unhappiness imo
/r/seduction07/07/26 01:16 PM
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Working at it constantly.
/r/seduction06/07/26 05:29 PM
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And I want others to explain me how to do it. No specifics, no sticking points, just dump it all on me. Is there a pill like Ozempic but for game?
/r/seduction06/07/26 05:27 PM
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Maybe girls are yes girls that aren't horny or that excited about you yet. It's a good concept imo. Certainly helps me to escalate with shy girls. You probably misunderstood it if you find it bad. A lot of women can only get off with men they feel a connection with.
/r/seduction06/07/26 05:25 PM
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Most naturals grew up with girls period. With sisters or girls next door. That means being a natural is experience-based and can be learned.
/r/seduction06/07/26 09:50 AM
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It'll pass. Maybe casual isn't for you though.
/r/seduction05/07/26 01:04 PM
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You're lying to yourself. If you had a girl fully serving you 100% of the time, you'd be bored of her. There's no challenge there. She's got no ambitions, no future. All she does is listen to you and tell you things will get better while living terribly herself. All she does is listen to your whimpers and think "when will he get his life together..." That's how women see this type of behavior. If the man is incapable of going after what he wants and acts as an emotional tampon, it shows his lack…
/r/seduction05/07/26 07:27 AM
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A woman's compliance is simply more fun than her beauty. Took me some time to realize that.
/r/seduction05/07/26 07:14 AM
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Very often if the girl says "We're not having sex" is simply a shit test to see if you're dominant enough to handle her. How do you know if it's real? You escalate and see if she's okay with it. Read the way she says no. Your frame should have been "yeah, we're not having sex wink wink, I can keep a secret. I think bragging about sex is for losers. It should stay between two people". Boom. Her objection is handled, you start escalating to sex through non-needy acts, ordering her to get on top of…
/r/seduction04/07/26 07:10 PM
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You can actually have "on" and "off" mode for yourself. I'm recently in the "off" mode because I'd be upset of not shooting my shots otherwise but I'm just busy dealing with life stuff and working on a project. Once I'm free I'll get back to "on" mode whenever I can.
/r/seduction04/07/26 04:47 AM
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Or "I want you to comeback to my place". Or "I want to show you acting exercises back at my place". First time I hit an ASL wall I overcame it by voicing what I want to do to her and then she let me. Women love knowing they're desired and will be led forward sexually.
/r/seduction03/07/26 07:32 PM
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Doing whatever you find fun and leading the girl by inviting her to come along on that journey. It can be something simple like singing together because you find singing or just that particular song fun.
/r/seduction03/07/26 07:28 PM
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I'm great physically. For a good example I was talking about I was walking behind a girl and she looked back at me three times with eye contact in the span of a few minutes. Other times it's clear there's at least some interest, physical or it can even be simple curiousity. Success depends on the girl and the opener imo. You can't always be direct with women who get caught staring, better to tease them. Also, it's not about being 100% sure. It's about believing that eye contact means she's attra…
/r/seduction03/07/26 12:02 PM
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Not often, only during social circle game. First time it happened I didn't realize it at all. It looked like a girl just doing whatever made sense at that time during the party. It's only later I got told she likes me. Then I was like "ooooh, that's right, she had anime eyes, she talked to me even though she didn't have to, she seemed excited for no reason". Eye contact - all the time, at least 10% of all women I meet on the street. Sometimes a girl will stare back at you, sometimes she'll prete…
/r/seduction03/07/26 02:22 AM
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Say hi and talk. There's no secret here. Be playful
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:28 PM
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Poor baby
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:26 PM
1

By being nice
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:25 PM
1

Russia
/r/seduction30/06/26 04:37 AM
4

You've got to try again until you either get a clear no or get to the secret society of casual sex.
/r/seduction29/06/26 10:44 PM
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Focus on being non-chalant and self-assured. It doesn't matter what they think. What matters is you knowing your value. Make a list of what you offer to women. Mine is like 50+ points long. And don't over complicate it either. Very often what a woman actually needs is a truly masculine real man who wants her and is good at sex that can also create fun, positive and challenging emotions.
/r/seduction29/06/26 10:41 PM
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I go to the city center, that's where my hobby spots are. I sing, dance, do acting, film, photography. Previously when I had more free time I'd gather people to play tabletop party games as well. I only try to do activities that allow me to game afterwards so no nature trips or other stuff I personally find boring. So I finish my hobby session, then walk through the main street right towards the mall. Hottest girls are always at the malls where I live. Then ride back home. It's quite convenient …
/r/seduction29/06/26 10:37 PM
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If I have to do a challenge, then yeah. It's not that scary once you do it for the first time.
/r/seduction29/06/26 10:29 PM
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Depends on the day, I'd usually approach about 5-10 on weekends and 1-3 on weekdays. I try to go out daily and work on my hobbies when I'm actively gaming. After I'm done if I see someone, I'll approach. You've also got to do challenges. Make women chase you by Justin Rigney is helping me out right now. Currently its low approach numbers for me. I'm busy working on a short film and seeing two girls. Once I'm free I'm going to scale it up though, can't wait to be free lol
/r/seduction29/06/26 10:11 PM
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That's called fear of rejection. You're approaching to make something happen. Wrong!!! You approach to see what happens! Can you notice the difference? No expectations. It's just a game you play for fun. Next time approach to see what happens.
/r/seduction29/06/26 10:05 PM
1

Read Make Women Chase You by Justin Rigney
/r/seduction29/06/26 02:20 PM
1

Sometimes you have to be an asshole and just go for it and then calibrate after the fact. Your hesitance put her off.
/r/seduction29/06/26 02:15 PM
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Try to become yourself. Accomplish some socially cool things. Something hard to do, preferably perform on stage.
/r/seduction29/06/26 11:40 AM
7

By realizing that women love sex
/r/seduction28/06/26 11:08 PM
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That's literally impossible. No girl will want to embarrass herself by screaming like that during daygame.
/r/seduction28/06/26 11:12 AM
1

Talk about her, her profile, her stories, make an assumption about her. Assumptions that are wrong are best because they elicit a response. However, you shouldn't answer why you assumed what you assumed right away, defer talking about that and start a new thread. Convos usually contain three different fluctuating things: - Fun, joking around, positive vibe - Comfort building, finding commonalities, connecting through deeper questions and childhood stories and dreams - Sexual teases, flirting, ch…
/r/seduction28/06/26 11:10 AM
2

Be self-assured. Pull while alone as well.
/r/seduction27/06/26 11:36 PM
1

You escalate slowly and check her comfort level. You don't escalate girls who aren't comfortable with touch. Girls who aren't comfortable with touch have to be escalated verbally. Basically, this is what nice guys mistake for "asshole guys", creepiness and rapiness. This isn't asshole behavior, you're just sexual as your norm. You make the move, see how she reacts, then act accordingly. Nice guys are afraid to look creepy, but there's nothing creepy about touching a girl. It's masculine, playful…
/r/seduction27/06/26 02:08 PM
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Clearly you don't understand attraction. You don't do this to girls who are not attracted to you.
/r/seduction27/06/26 01:05 PM
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Get physical. A lot of touch of friendly game comes from punishing a girl for something she did or said or simply playing with her. She's busy doing something -> tickle her, touch her all over, push her, slap her ass. Playful attitude. Unapologetic. Laughing. She's talking about something boring -> lift her up with your hand on her ass cheek, let her ride and giggle. Extra playful attitude. You can negotiate with her as she laughs and begs you to put her down. She's talking about something in ge…
/r/seduction27/06/26 08:07 AM
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Telegram, vk com, Rutracker org
/r/seduction26/06/26 07:13 AM
0

5s and below are instant friendzone for me. Although there's nothing wrong with having sex with them. Just no relationships.
/r/seduction25/06/26 06:35 PM
1

The one who chases is less attractive. Don't chase. Don't be needy. Don't seek an outcome. Be fun, be the source of fun, and offer short time frames where this fun can be felt be it dates or simple hangouts. Fun is the drug you want the girl to crave. You can read Balls Deep by Krauser if you want to really drill down this lesson for yourself and learn more social dynamics principles.
/r/seduction25/06/26 05:01 PM
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It's actually not timid. It's about the way you say it. You can say excuse me unapologetically, matter of factly. Deep voice, low tonality, kind of like an order. Don't get any preconceived notions that the things you say matter. They don't. What matters is your frame and the way you hold yourself. That's why some pickup guys say "Hi, I'm shy." Is that timid? No, it's funny because it's contradictory. Same here. Words are secondary to your frame.
/r/seduction25/06/26 08:10 AM
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You need to complete two courses: Fearless by RSD Max and Make women chase you by Justin Rigney. In between those two, read Daygame Mastery by Krauser. And then you need to stop treating these interactions as anything more than some friendly flirty talks. Reduce the stakes and thus reduce the anxiety.
/r/seduction25/06/26 08:07 AM
1

She told you she's looking for something casual, act accordingly. That means no holding hands outside of sex. Rookie mistake, but very typical. Did so myself. You've got to learn to have fun through flirting and ordering her around instead of the physical touch.
/r/seduction25/06/26 08:04 AM
2

Try to extend your interaction next time, this one was too short to turn you from a guy she met in the streets to a guy in her life. Get the phone number to call her and let her listen to your voice.
/r/seduction23/06/26 09:52 PM
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Sometimes men don't understand how a dominant man can create exactly the right emotions in a woman that will make her very interested. Take Clavicular as an example, he's insecure and women just despise him. Better to be self-assured than crave outside validation from your looks or anything else.
/r/seduction23/06/26 07:46 PM
1

Why not say hi instead of flinching and then being sad you didn't talk to her. Just don't make it into a big deal and have a friendly talk. Friends to lovers is the standard path to success in the gym imo. Just don't fall into the friend zone, show sexual intent after you meet her 5th-10th time by inviting her to hangout together.
/r/seduction23/06/26 05:09 PM
6

Sex first comes as a trickle, then as a waterfall. The first time you overcome your fears you become mentally stronger than ever before. Congrats!
/r/seduction23/06/26 04:50 PM
1

Talk about relationships and sex. A decent question to ask is what kind of man she wants and what kind of relationship she wants.
/r/seduction23/06/26 08:50 AM
2

You're such a romantic, almost to the insufferable level. But if he likes you then I guess he'll tolerate or even like it. Treat the man right and have lots of sexual activities together.
/r/seduction23/06/26 08:47 AM
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Learn how to talk non-verbally and confirm attraction. You can order a girl to come over, or you can invite her on the dance floor. If she complies, it's on. Don't be too thirsty, but escalate consistently and rapidly, lead. It's fun for the girl if you can lead her. Don't take that away from her by freezing up.
/r/seduction22/06/26 08:30 PM
1

Look into open relationships imo. Longterm is a lot about investment from both sides.
/r/seduction22/06/26 07:34 PM
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Did you read Why men love bitches by Sherry Argov? Honestly, try the following mindset. You should focus on yourself and things you love doing way, way more than on relationships. Think about what kind of projects you'd like to create. Do those. That's how you can naturally create unavailability and self-validation.
/r/seduction22/06/26 07:31 PM
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Tell her that next time you're not inviting her if she's more than 15 minutes late. Or ignore her and simply engage with other women. Open new set after new set. You don't need no apologies, my dude. What you need is learning how to get abundance. Up your volume.
/r/seduction22/06/26 07:27 PM
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She's nuts, maybe even bipolar. Stop caring about her. There are other better women out there. Keep that abundance in mind.
/r/seduction22/06/26 08:30 AM
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Yes, you can read Balls Deep by Krauser. He started at 34 iirc and it worked out well for him.
/r/seduction21/06/26 03:11 PM
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No, definitely don't jump into it. First ask her if she likes only men or girls too. And build comfort before that. Then say you'd like to see her with another girl. It should be kind of scandalous, but in the realm of fantasy at first. If you just ask her outright, she might freak out. Don't just advice uncalibrated ideas.
/r/seduction21/06/26 11:04 AM
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Check if she's real, then if she is have some bdsm sexting. Then push for an IRL meet.
/r/seduction21/06/26 08:22 AM
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Talk about it, bring up fantasies, make it about her fun
/r/seduction21/06/26 05:38 AM
1

Onto the next one. Try to realize there's thousands of girls like her. You can never run out of options.
/r/seduction19/06/26 10:06 PM
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Men are visual creatures. Use makeup, workout, stay rested and healthy. Try to be light and feminine. The easiest way is to use non-verbals a lot. Eye contact is just the start. You can use gestures next. For example, you can wave to say hi. If they don't get it immediately, you can point your index finger at them and show your tongue afterwards. That's teasing. You can banter by being a little mean to see if they can hold their frame. If you want a really masculine man, you can test them with l…
/r/seduction19/06/26 12:40 AM
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Do voice notes and call them instead then. Call to tease and build comfort and invite tthem to come along somewhere.
/r/seduction18/06/26 03:43 PM
1

Gotta be more dominant and take her. Her talking about the other guy was kind of a shit test with a lot of signaling that she wants to be taken in such a way.
/r/seduction18/06/26 03:38 PM
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Do the Fearless by RSD Max course
/r/seduction18/06/26 07:44 AM
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Do the exercises in the book Make women chase you by Justin Rigney
/r/seduction17/06/26 01:36 PM
8

Be social with everyone, talk to everyone. Say hi, ask her how her workout is going, then say you've got to get back to what you were doing. After a few times of this you can ask her how her weekend has been, what she likes to do in her free time except the gym. Then ask her out for a cup of coffee or tea. Gym is warm approaching game.
/r/seduction17/06/26 09:47 AM
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Yep, very true. Some men think that women have it better, but they just don't want to do any work. I think women can also do that, but they have to be seductive and be near the man they want, engaging with them and pushing at their desire. It's very much a smart effort thing.
/r/seduction16/06/26 01:13 AM
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Signals "no ambitions except being a fuck boy", it'll be unattractive to nearly all women, I imagine.
/r/seduction15/06/26 06:30 PM
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It's only attractive if you're chasing and persisting after your ambitions like business, art, and so on. Chasing after women shows lack of abundance, lack of choice and thus lack of attractiveness.
/r/seduction14/06/26 12:59 PM
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Assumptions and teasing go hand in hand together to create banter. Flirting is banter with a sexual subtext. If you need examples, read a few seduction books like Daygame Mastery by Krauser or The Natural by Richard La Ruina, or Make Women Chase You by Justin Rigney, or the Mystery Method.
/r/seduction14/06/26 07:53 AM
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During cold approaching, the goal is to get into the flow state where each conversation is started easily and without effort. You mustn't be in your head, otherwise your approach count will be too low. Opening your phone puts you into logical state and into your head. So it's important to avoid getting into a logical closed off state and stay in the flow for as long as possible as a beginner.
/r/seduction12/06/26 06:31 PM
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Read the book Always talk to strangers. In your situation you'd have to walk in front of the guy, overcoming the flinch.
/r/seduction12/06/26 06:25 PM
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It's too distracting for the state building. If it could be controlled very easily, then sure. Personally I use a note taking app at the end of the day.
/r/seduction12/06/26 04:12 PM
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Find an excuse to talk to them, talk, flirt, see if he's as attractive mentally, invite on a date.
/r/seduction12/06/26 04:10 PM
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This message here shows me you're extremely needy and desperate. Cut that shit out. It's not even that nobody owes you an answer or that you can't wait for a few hours. Imagine a woman in this place. She has her own life. Then you come in and start text bombing the shit out of her, smothering her, making her think "this guy has no things to do, no direction in life besides wanting to be with a woman, is he even going to become his best self?" This is very unattractive and will result in breakups…
/r/seduction12/06/26 10:55 AM
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The only reason she even cared to develop a relationship with you is because she's attracted. All you've got to do is hit on her more often. If you need help escalating, read a few books like Daygame Mastery by Krauser and Make women chase you by Justin Rigney. Your self-development process should look like this: Get more confident and manly. Workout. Keep up the frame of positivity. That's the most important part. Even when you feel down, tell yourself that it's only temporary and that you choo…
/r/seduction12/06/26 10:49 AM
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I would hate to know I'm using such a crutch. Cold approaching is a hard skill, and I want to be proud of the skills I've learned from those who've done it. The app just will never be it. It's demeaning.
/r/seduction12/06/26 03:28 AM
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You've got to start hitting on women consistently while showing fun, positive and challenging emotions. If you want a good program to get out of it, read Make Woman Chase You by Justin Rigney.
/r/seduction12/06/26 03:21 AM
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Don't just compliment her, tell her what you feel and what you want to do to her. Tell her scenarios that you imagine yourself in with her. Tell her you're having a hard time not losing control, and so on. Make her do something particular, once she does it, reward her.
/r/seduction11/06/26 10:19 PM
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Get a room, guys
/r/seduction11/06/26 10:18 PM
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I haven't seen anyone besides myself in a city of a million people. The only people who actively cold approach are street photographers and bank reps. If I did see someone, I'd watch or listen in, or at least smile because I'm not that alone in this endeavor lol
/r/seduction10/06/26 11:05 PM
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Women are not logical beings. They're acting based on emotions. Does that guy make her feel some type of way? Great. Is he a terrible match? Maybe, who cares, emotions matter more.
/r/seduction10/06/26 11:02 PM
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Yes in a different way, the book of Book helped me refocus. You've got to self-validate and focus on your projects. Create a movie. Dance on stage. Create a business. Whatever you've always wanted to do, start doing that.
/r/seduction10/06/26 06:28 AM
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If you still call masculine men with no filters douches, you don't understand the basics. If you don't understand the basics, how can you expect results? You're lying to women and thus they see your lying and don't want anything to do with you. Tell a woman you want her (respectfully). At least that will be more interesting than whatever you're doing. Take action, get results.
/r/seduction09/06/26 07:18 PM
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Be filterless. Say whatever comes to mind. Say what you find funny about her demeanor. If she stands in a certain pose, copy it and poke fun at that. If she looks like a cute animal, say a squirrel, tell her that and then pretend her whole life is being like that animal and tell her how you imagine it. Or use stereotypes and put her in the stereotypes box and make her want to step out of that box. Find what you think is fun and do that consistently. Invite women to come along with you. That's th…
/r/seduction09/06/26 08:47 AM
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You don't ask questions, that's interview mode and girls find it boring. Make assumptions instead, tease her about something, have fun. Do not ask questions except what's your name and about logistics.
/r/seduction09/06/26 08:09 AM
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You didn't pass the shit tests. Read some books, man, this stuff is very basic. You did all the mistakes possible, which is easy to prevent. First of all, sex should feel spontaneous, as if it's a force of nature outside of both of your control (yet you're leading to it at all times). You can say that we should stop yet add that you can't and you're losing control because of her. She shit tested you and you didn't pass any of her tests. She was checking if you'd get upset and you did, which mean…
/r/seduction07/06/26 10:22 PM
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In my case lots or comfort and investment before having a first date that ends at my place. Painting pictures in her head on how I'll dominate her mixed with compliments and describing why I genuinely like her as a person. Once you set the first date, then ideally you want a lot of venue changes to build as much comfort as possible in person. There needs to be an innocent enough reason to get to your flat. I use dancing and theater exercises or me needing to leave my bag. Once we dance, it's eas…
/r/seduction07/06/26 08:08 PM
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Some days you don't get any. Gotta harness as much sexual energy if you can by not masturbating. You also got to learn how to be charismatic instead of needy and having fun on your own. Self-validate. Love your life as it is. Be the prize. Take what you want by approaching and saying hi.
/r/seduction07/06/26 07:04 PM
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I think you misunderstood the notion. You flip the stones until you find someone you like, which in your case would be someone interested in you just as much as you are. But leading in life is a masculine activity and brings joy once you learn how to use leading to create fun for yourself and your partner. The key insight is that you can literally create a perfect day for yourself out of your sheer will. Simply approaching a girl, talking to her, getting to know her hobbies and suddenly you can …
/r/seduction07/06/26 07:00 PM
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Normalize it for yourself. Talk to women a lot. Call them, text them, leave them voice notes. If you do a mistake, no problem. They're strangers anyway, there's no consequences for saying a compliment and inviting them on a date once you click.
/r/seduction07/06/26 05:05 PM
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You care way too much about what other people think, which is a typical newbie mistake. Another mistake is fantasizing of what could be instead of taking a leap of faith and finding out what would actually happen. To get where you want to be, you need to be outcome unattached. Make talking to people your norm. People should think of you talking to everyone as your quirk. Suddenly this guy is not a creep, it's just how he is with everyone. Once talking because your new normal you can introduce te…
/r/seduction07/06/26 11:16 AM
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It's definitely easily noticeable and makes you act more boldly because you just have so many confirmations that she likes your company. However, most of the time you must assume attraction as some girls won't display indicators of interest and then surprise you with accepting your escalation and welcoming it with moans and such. If she's there, assume attraction, build comfort escalate touch and do sexual subcommunication. Once alone, go for the kiss.
/r/seduction07/06/26 07:45 AM
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That's how women are. They can be checking you out and then you open them and they immediately shit test you with a rejection because you caught her looking. Gotta be chill in such situations and keep talking to show as much of yourself as possible in 5 minutes. Basically focus on having fun and teasing her.
/r/seduction05/06/26 07:24 AM
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You can't be satisfied with other people's answer when it comes to your life. You have to find your own answer. I'd ask myself the following questions: - Why didn't I tell her I would like to be exclusive with her? - Am I jumping into exclusivity because society thinks it's the right thing to do? - Would I rather keep seeing other women? - Do I ultimately prefer an open relationship? - What does my ideal life look like? - Would I rather be more honest with women so that I didn't have to feel lik…
/r/seduction05/06/26 07:20 AM
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Happiness is a choice and at times you have to actively choose it and do the work. Working out is the first step. Social accomplishments should be done next. Finances third. All the while you learn and practice game and learn new seduction skills. Personally I work out at home. Find a 30 day cardio + strength program. Obviously read books and watch courses.
/r/seduction04/06/26 01:25 PM
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How much resentment to women do you have? Don't neglect therapy.
/r/seduction03/06/26 02:53 PM
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Horny
/r/seduction03/06/26 06:02 AM
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Girls who don't want you to hold their hands in public see you as a sexual adventure, not boyfriend material. Treat it as such. It's a secret society. You being her coworker adds another layer of required secrecy. My advice: - Stop trying to hold her hand in public. It's a rookie mistake, I've done it myself because I thought it's normal to want to feel the connection. But you signal "I wanna be your boyfriend" with that. Clearly not something she's looking for. - Be sexual when there are no cam…
/r/seduction02/06/26 10:32 AM
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There's no problem dating younger girls as long as you act respectful and caring imo. Read Richard La Ruina's book The Natural. Should help.
/r/seduction02/06/26 03:19 AM
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You can't get good without losing a few games in the process. The goal is to practice and get good.
/r/seduction31/05/26 09:37 PM
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I'm not about pretending lol
/r/seduction31/05/26 06:10 PM
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Try to get control of your logistics. And push until the end. Always ask yourself "Is it epic yet?" and keep going. Because "Why the fuck not?" You deserve it. Believe that you deserve it. If you feel your beliefs shake just a little bit, fix that.
/r/seduction31/05/26 06:04 PM
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A lot of excuses get created out of thin air for you when you need to seal the deal. Can't you extend your stay 1 day? Can you choose better friends who won't get blackout drunk? Also you're the one responsible for creating the vibe. No such thing as "the vibe died".
/r/seduction31/05/26 01:19 PM
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Not exactly, it's about overall dominance and confidence, not just sexual. If you can lead in every aspect of the relationship, that's very attractive. And then there's women who want to fuck and do kinky stuff and you need to be dominant for that.
/r/seduction31/05/26 11:25 AM
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Most of the time I have fun alone working on my skills and projects. For example, I rent a room at my singing school and invite girls to sing together. This one on one time is a great opportunity to practice socializing and escalation. The main goal if you're starting out is to normalize this kind of thing for yourself. As for friends, I keep my friends, my main relationship and my hook ups separate.
/r/seduction30/05/26 07:17 PM
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For a girl I just met, I will usually offer to come along to something fun I'm already doing. If she's up for it, great. If she's not, I'm still having fun. It's the most non-needy approach and it works. If we're in the dating stage, I will try to setup longer dates with walks, a café visit and some sort of action like playing pool or another fun activity that ends at my house for dancing or something fun like that. Dancing is a very intense activity that ups the sexual mood a lot. Dancing leads…
/r/seduction30/05/26 06:36 PM
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Usually you don't need supplements. Just a good amount of sleep and not masturbating for a few days. The amount of sexual energy you exude when you don't masturbate is so huge that women notice it and make eye contact with you more often. And eye contact is practically warm approaching.
/r/seduction30/05/26 01:19 PM
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Overall you shouldn't believe what women say. Look at their actions over words. Same for men, but even more so for women. Test your friends, test your girlfriends. It's the only way to protect yourself from being used more than you allow it. Have a 3 strikes policy or something like that.
/r/seduction30/05/26 01:17 PM
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Yes, after dating my first 10 and doing some inner work I've become non-needy. But its easy to use it as an excuse to fall into apathy. You gotta stay connected to your true desires and keep going even when apathy strikes. Deeper on that in Models by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction30/05/26 06:27 AM
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That's only true if she sees you as a provider. Providers are low value, girls withhold sex from providers. With lovers they're ready for sex ASAP.
/r/seduction30/05/26 06:19 AM
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"I just want to relax and have fun" is probably safer. Let other things be uncertain. No reason to put yourself into "casual sex" box from the get go before you've even had sex. Have sex first, then manage expectations. It's not her job to lead dates. You are a man, you do that. Sure it's nice when a girl makes plans for you, but that's not the most feminine thing, right? Be in your masculine, invite her out consistently but rarely. The idea for you is to do this same thing but to 20 different w…
/r/seduction29/05/26 11:40 PM
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Relationship material girls are very sexual. You have a wrong set of values here. Very provider mindset. Stop for a second and realize she's not going to suddenly get sexual after you commit. Dead bedroom in the making. Longterm relationship are built on BOTH passion and INVESTMENT from both sides. No passion, no investment from her side. I say you're being blinded by her other traits.
/r/seduction29/05/26 11:38 PM
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Yeah, tell her what you're doing and invite her to come along once per 2weeks/1month. Tease her at the same time. Teasing can be flirty or sexual, depends on the vibe of her responses. Be non-needy
/r/seduction29/05/26 08:40 PM
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Accept that you might get rejected and that it's okay
/r/seduction29/05/26 08:38 PM
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I'm guessing she's saying real stuff. Don't fret, from time to time tell her about your plans and invite her to come along. You frame should scream "Adventure, get away, fun, relax and destress". So maybe not drinks but an action date (playing pool, bowling, etc). Then she's sure to consider your invites more. Girls who actually study are quite busy, they're usually not lying. Most of their days are spent with friends, blogging, hobbies and studying. Reassure her you're not going to need her to …
/r/seduction29/05/26 04:37 PM
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Best to use situational openers or direct openers wrapped in a statement of empathy. If you see her doing something, comment on it then explain why you're talking to her, then tease her until she gets interested and hooks. For example, you see her looking for something. You can smile and say "Heeeeeey, hello, are you preparing for a runway? (laugh)". Whatever she does, you can continue with a statement of empathy like "I know this is random and I've actually got to go soon, but I just saw you an…
/r/seduction29/05/26 12:47 PM
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Practice online, don't be picky offline. Boyfriend game is much more prelavent in small towns. Warm approaching is best, so join all the clubs that exist in the city.
/r/seduction29/05/26 10:53 AM
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There's no such thing as a good girl. Usually only a small percentage of women are in a longterm relationship. It's rare for them to find a guy because they're not going to make the first move and heavily rely on their social circle for screening their boyfriend, which takes them a long time. But even then they're willing to have fun with a lover guy because he knows what he's doing. Discreetness is key.
/r/seduction29/05/26 08:17 AM
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I'm doing an open relationship with a girl who is my nesting partner. She is secure in that position and doesn't want to date other men. I think someting like this is preferable and natural for a high quality man. The benefit of long term relationships are deeper connection, helping each other in every day life, as well as deeper and deeper depths of sexual compliance.
/r/seduction27/05/26 03:53 PM
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As a man it's usually detrimental to your life to have sex more than once per day. Twice is possible if you exchange energies well during sex and have the stamina and sleep hours for it. A woman can have sex way more than a man can. Women can have multiple orgasms in the same session as well. So nothing weird about your cases. You might just have low testosterone production. Needs are very much individual.
/r/seduction27/05/26 11:47 AM
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If she's showing off her sexuality she might be more open to approach, so it's less reason to worry. Just don't look at it. You can appreciate it with a glance, but it's not a reason to put a girl on a pedestal. You approach to socialize anyway. So socialize. Let comfort and sexual intent show up later after you've teased her and told her a story or two.
/r/seduction26/05/26 06:58 PM
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Read some literature, preferably romance books that girls love. You don't need to do much. It's banter, flirting, then listening and telling stories to build comfort, then seductive subcommunication. Build a strong sense of self-belief.
/r/seduction26/05/26 01:03 PM
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You got this. It only takes about 1-2 years to see success, sometimes faster depending on how much you put in the work. Treat is as a longterm journey. In 4 years your life will be unrecognizable.
/r/seduction25/05/26 02:24 PM
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You've got to put yourself first, set the frame of the relationship and see who sticks. I do it by being truthful to myself. I don't like cheating, same as you. I'd rather break up than lie. Now I will omit information if that's the deal I made with my partner, but we both understand that. A lot of longterm dating is about mixing provider and lover signals to keep your girlfriend feel secure and attracted. As long as you don't signal provider values to your hook up partners, she's safe and if sh…
/r/seduction25/05/26 01:21 AM
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Read the Natural by Richard La Ruina. The first thing you've got to start doing is getting out daily and socializing daily. A guy with lots of sexual relationships goes out a lot and talks to women at least an hour or two per day, sometimes more. That's texting, calls and in person. Fix your life to get those hours in. Models by Mark Manson describes how to do that best.
/r/seduction25/05/26 01:02 AM
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I've realized the same things as you. I'm dating 1 girl longterm in an open relationship from my side. I go out almost daily and can do whatever as long as I use protection and don't bring anyone home. You should strive for the same. What's awesome about longterm dating is how much deeper compliance you can get. I think striving to find a really kinky girl for your longterm relationship is a must. The best kind would be to have a girl who's into fucking other girls. If you want ideas on how to f…
/r/seduction24/05/26 08:56 PM
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You should practice at least 3 stories that demonstrate your ability to be an ambitious man. Mystery method book has some examples on how structure a story well. Hotseat at home course has challenges that explain how to grow as a pua fast. The first challenge is to tell a funny story that makes no sense like how you cooked a pizza with car tires and how tasty it's been. The focus should be on the way you tell it, which is passionate, emotional and funny. You can come up with your own funny stori…
/r/seduction24/05/26 07:31 AM
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If you want to be her friend, you can have a friend vibe. But it's best to show sexual intent from time to time. Doing both will kind of confuse the girl because you're sending both provider and lover signals. Flirt and banter a bit more, then tell her you'll punish her for misbehavior by biting her next time you see her if you want to create some tension. Or if she did something well, tell her that you'll reward her with an intimate dance or some such. Test her compliance and escalate.
/r/seduction24/05/26 12:39 AM
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A lot of dating is texting girls on social media. He's not fully correct. What he's right about is that you have to go out and live your life to the fullest. You can't do that while you sit at home.
/r/seduction23/05/26 12:17 AM
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I'm recommending the story stacking and routines part. It's got a lot of good ideas, for example, how to make a kiss gambit which is so not obvious when you're a beginner. You should read the Truth before trying to disregard it. Neil never said anything to ruin his credibility in his book so you're just putting unneeded assumptions out there. It's a therapeutic book.
/r/seduction23/05/26 12:14 AM
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The second one, it's normal to feel embarrassed and thus be embarrassing lol It's state transference. Still you have to go out and practice to get good at socializing
/r/seduction22/05/26 06:29 PM
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Improv is quite different. A lot of beginner improv people ARE embarassing. But it's easily fixable by working on yourself, your style and your muscles. Have a direction in life, be disciplined about working out 5 days per week, go out daily if possible and interact with people. At some point you'll grow into your new self and it won't be embarassing at all.
/r/seduction22/05/26 02:44 PM
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Yeah, I thought what could fast track you to change asap.
/r/seduction22/05/26 02:42 PM
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Read Mystery Method, it's got quite a few conversation explanations like using canned material, talking about yourself and stacking your stories, teasing, and so on. As for healing your trauma, read the Truth by Neil Strauss and No more Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. Do the exercises in the books. I also recommend you join acting classes in a small theater. They'll shape you to your desired outcome by breaking your past self and teaching you how different you can be. It's also a good socializing…
/r/seduction22/05/26 10:17 AM
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Gotta meet outside of work to escalate further. You can say that you're going to this place at this specific time, come along if you can. Repeat until you find the time he's available at. Also, no one will know if you don't tell anybody. Just don't be seen together in public, and if you do get seen then it should look like you met each other accidentally.
/r/seduction22/05/26 06:19 AM
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Different frame. You can read Krauser's book called Balls Deep, he tells about his transformation from a divorced man into a seduction player. Sex first comes as a trickle, then as a waterfall. Great book that shows how much women want adventurous sex sometimes.
/r/seduction22/05/26 12:05 AM
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Text her. Flirt, banter, then tell her what you'll do to her. Get together, plan a date with lots of venue changes that ends up at your place. Make out, make out, escalate to sex. In her head all of it is fun and spontaneous, but you know what to do. Make her imagine how mind boggling time with you will be, how you'll press her to the wall and not kiss her immediately to make her want it more. Stuff like that. All of it will happen for real once you meet up.
/r/seduction21/05/26 03:14 PM
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Get over the idea that it's weird. It's not. It's natural. How else would you meet people without the apps? Without the social circle? By meeting people! The goal isn't to get something out of a girl, it's to offer value, which is being a part of your fun world. You're not taking anything from her, not trying to get her to do something she doesn't want to, so it's never weird when you do a calibrated approach. The goal is to have a fun conversation with teasing and banter that slowly shifts into…
/r/seduction21/05/26 07:53 AM
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Any eye contact is usually a green light to approach. Like 99% of the time.
/r/seduction20/05/26 02:03 AM
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Yep. I feel more connected with younger women than older ones. I have lots more with them in common than older ladies. If you cannot find yourself guiding a woman enjoyable, you won't find a lot of feminine women enjoyable. I dated a mature 18 year old who had everything together, worked, worked out and didn't care about our relationship like it's her lifeline. She had fun when she wanted to, same as me. If you can't find a young yet mature hard working girl, that's on you. Not all of them are i…
/r/seduction19/05/26 11:50 AM
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Lookup ethical pickup
/r/seduction18/05/26 11:36 PM
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I dated a really kind avoidant 10. Looks of a literal Kpop idol. Pretty hair, makeup daily, amazingly fit body, pretty eyes. We attended the same event, she was on stage. I texted her about it, then got her laughing, then called her sexy and pretty right away, then built rapport, bantered. A few days later I'd play question games with her and tell her what I want to do to her, so more flirting with sexual and romantic context. A few days later she said she's basically okay meeting up with me, bu…
/r/seduction18/05/26 07:41 PM
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2 months with good protein diet (chicken) and you'll see decent results. Try a cardio + strength 30 or 60 days program on YouTube.
/r/seduction17/05/26 11:23 PM
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Core, abs and 1% calories deficit per week.
/r/seduction17/05/26 11:22 PM
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I once saw a dude do 100 on YouTube and was like damn, he did it, and then he did 10 more and those 10 extra just stuck in my head. Sometimes shooting over your goals is even cooler. When it burned he just let himself rest in the plank hold and then kept going. Hope you're gonna get there as well just for the fun of it lol
/r/seduction17/05/26 11:18 PM
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Daily for about 30-40 minutes. What motivates me is the following wants: - I want to film myself and a muscular body looks good on camera/on stage in theater/in photos. - I want to do a ton of push ups in a row, like over a hundred. Slowly getting there daily. Surprisingly it should only take about 3-4 months total with good diet, rest and consistent workout. - I want to succeed at dancing and you need a steel body for that. Dated a dancer, a total 10 in every aspect, and she taught me this with…
/r/seduction17/05/26 08:07 AM
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Don't forget about the fact that different time means different volume. IIRC you can look up how busy a place is at Google and get to it at the right time.
/r/seduction15/05/26 12:37 PM
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Women crave dominance. But not just physical, mental as well. So if you can dominate her intellectually, it's a turn on. Don't have to be an asshole about it, just need to show your intelligence, your passion for the subject and your world understanding. The other thing is you need to be able to dirty talk non-stop and paint both sexual and non-sexual pictures in her head. It's especially important in texting to get the girl horny and want to meet up with you. When in person, it's really importa…
/r/seduction15/05/26 12:32 PM
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The best you can do right now is say sorry you made her uncomfortable and that you're unsure why you even said that yourself and cut contact. Basically ignore her existence until you feel like it's hurting her. If she tries to talk to you, tell her that she's out of your life as that's better for you. That can take a few months to build up. Then give her a small amount of attention on your rules, which is flirty, sexual and fun type of attention. Destroy the previous picture of yourself in her h…
/r/seduction15/05/26 07:38 AM
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It wasn't depression, it was the first girl being interested in you and then preselection kicked in. You weren't needy for their attention, which is a plus as it makes the girl try to win you over. But once they realize you're not fun to be around, it will be over.
/r/seduction15/05/26 07:25 AM
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You need to first create attraction through flirting and touching and sexual talks. Confessions are a rookie mistake. They're awkward and lead to rejections most of the time.
/r/seduction14/05/26 08:56 PM
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You are the problem. As soon as you take the provider path, sex gets away. Be sexual and push for sex. Talk about sex and ask sexual questions presented as a game. It's a steep learning curve.
/r/seduction12/05/26 06:39 PM
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That's what it is
/r/seduction11/05/26 09:48 PM
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I've seen a guy who wanted to baby trap an 18yo here. You're delusional if you don't see the possibility.
/r/seduction11/05/26 09:48 PM
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Since the job has your info, you'll see her in court to get her alimony shortly.
/r/seduction11/05/26 05:04 PM
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Just assume interest, no need to think otherwise. Usually if they do prolonged eye contact, it's a test and a signal of being attracted at least on some level. Every time you get prolonged eye contact you should smile (smirk) and approach the girl. Never look away from the eye contact. Say hi and acknowledge the staring, then talk about whatever comes into your mind as you continue with the sexual eye contact and other sexual subcommunication.
/r/seduction11/05/26 04:58 PM
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No sex means she's afraid of losing her provider guy due to your shenanigans. This kind of woman will usually end up baby trapped in a year and cut contact with you. You'll see.
/r/seduction11/05/26 04:52 PM
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Read the dating part of Daygame Mastery by Krauser.
/r/seduction11/05/26 09:47 AM
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You force your legs to move, then you force your mouth to say hi. Last week I cold approached an extremely attractive alt girl by forcing myself out of the bus (it wasn't my stop). Talked to her for a few minutes about herself and her style. This approach consisted of three main beliefs: - I'm worthy. I worked on myself a ton and achieved a lot. I know I'm the prize. That means my style, hair, muscles, voice, posture, social achievements, great photos and videos of myself, having cool stories to…
/r/seduction11/05/26 09:43 AM
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As Todd Valentine said "Fun, fun, fun, by the way, I have a dick."
/r/seduction11/05/26 12:32 AM
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Krauser started at 34. You can read his book Balls Deep from Jilted lover to Lady killer
/r/seduction09/05/26 05:20 PM
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Cold approaching is another way. Social circle game too, but it's not great for fwb.
/r/seduction09/05/26 05:13 PM
3

A few things can help. Ego death, which means working on seeing everything as one thing. The power of Now is a stepping stone book for that. Finding joy in completing projects and shifting your values around so that completing stuff would be where you get most of your dopamine. For example, you could make a short film about something cool. That entails lots of learning, which is fun, problem-solving and thinking about it, which takes attention away from women. Yeah, maybe you'll be filming somet…
/r/seduction09/05/26 05:27 AM
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Wrong question. What you should be asking is "How do I approach women in any environment?" Most men cannot use situational or direct openers, don't know how to have fun. That's why they're standing there like poor bastards. If the music is playing, go dance! Then invite the girls to dance. Approach someone and notice something about them or the group. Offer to play a game of questions or something else that you like.
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:17 PM
5

It means you accept everything that's happening in your life instead of trying to numb yourself or hide away from it. You look your fears in the eye and do everything you can to overpower it. Radical responsibility is another side of the coin where you take responsibility for absolutely everything happening in your life, even the things you cannot control. This way you start seeing ways to overcome your situation and change despite any circumstances. What does it mean for seduction in practice? …
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:11 PM
1

Pickup is just another way to self-improvement lol
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:05 PM
1

Radical acceptance, radical responsibility, and yet being capable of letting go and living in the moment. Always going forward and achieving things you want to achieve.
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:47 PM
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You are totally wrong about some things you've said. You don't have to be handsome to be attractive. Women love being lead not only physically or emotionally, but intellectually as well. As long as you're not overdoing it and are able to let go (abundance mindset and preselection), you're going to be fine. You can always say sorry if the girl is being nuts. Then she looks nuts because you apologized genuinely.
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:46 PM
1

Eye staring is fine if she's not showing signs of disinterest. Eye contact is a huge tension builder.
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:43 PM
1

Nah, not true. Each rejection is a brick in my castle of greatness ;)
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:42 PM
27

You'll have to do a lot of sexual subcommunication for it to work. Staring, touching, banter, playfighting. Being friendly will never get you to sex. Being sexual will, but in social circle game you have to be discreet unless you're pining to be her boyfriend. That means building rapport and tension, then sliding into her DMs to flirt and tell her what you'll do to her. She's hooked when she asks questions about you. That means she's considering you for dating. Keep the dates in a hookup frame.
/r/seduction08/05/26 05:42 PM
2

Already have a girlfriend at home. Cold approaching is great for me logistically. No time for the dating apps, though I will try to free it up later this year after I'm done with a few projects.
/r/seduction07/05/26 11:18 PM
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Women don't really decide about sex. You push at their sexual nature with escalation and it just happens naturally. Now she can decide not to have sex and always shut it down, but it will be hard to do so if she's horny and wants it too. So it depends on the woman's psychology, culture and history. She can decide if she wants to continue the conversation or not after first meeting you. If you're never escalating sexually, it will never get to sex though.
/r/seduction06/05/26 04:45 PM
7

Dude wants to sit in the matrix tub and get nude women materialized into his mind while the alien robots are fiddling him. A few minutes of texting is not too much effort...
/r/seduction06/05/26 02:24 PM
4

Work on your style, work out and be muscular, make both hot and handsome photos, show status and the ability to have fun, show that you're social. Then be direct and nonchalant in conversations, flirt and tease, then tell her you want to kiss her or invite her to your house to dance or something else that suits you and is fun for her. Netflix and chill is a thing for a reason. It implies sex without outright saying it. That's how you want it to be said by you. Don't show boyfriend signals. Don't…
/r/seduction06/05/26 11:39 AM
1

Singing, I sing when I'm out between cold approaching or going somewhere. My other ones are theatre acting, dancing, coaching, photography and film. The most warm leads I get by far are from doing photography at events.
/r/seduction05/05/26 01:06 PM
2

It took me about a year to get to the same level of passion about my hobbies as you did with your guitars, so it's not that easy. You get a ton of self-validation from a good hobby, which in turn makes you non-needy with women.
/r/seduction05/05/26 07:17 AM
1

BTW, I got there mostly on my own. I thought how limiting the fear is and worked on disarming it. At some point I even realized that each year more girls become of dating age (finish unis), so it's literally impossible to run out of options.
/r/seduction05/05/26 01:06 AM
6

City center streets. Book shops. Coffee shops. Malls. If you want more ideas, read Always talk to strangers. If you live in the city of 250K women, the chances to run into the same women are not that high. Most of the women... you will never see again. I live in a city of 1M people and I've met my friends randomly just 3 times in a single year when I was out in the streets. And that's only because they frequented the same route/live close by. If you approach 1000 women, that's 0.33% of the popul…
/r/seduction04/05/26 09:10 PM
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You have to become desirable and attractive to have the possibility to turn on your wife. That means working out, styling yourself, talking to other women (having options) and most importantly have a direction and ambitions in life and act upon them. For example, I work out and then lift my girl up. She gets easily turned on by my strength and muscles. However, if your wife resents you for some reason, no amount of self-work will help turn her on because you're unattractive to her due to your pa…
/r/seduction03/05/26 06:02 PM
0

That's why you should start a lot of threads and see what sticks
/r/seduction03/05/26 09:46 AM
2

It means you suck at game. Women like men who are emotional with a good vibe. While your vibe is a robot.
/r/seduction02/05/26 10:11 PM
1

Watch a course on Free association and Chain association. Owen Cook's hotseat at home has a section on that.
/r/seduction01/05/26 05:19 PM
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Yeah, they try to fill the silence because the sexual tension is a lot for them. Despite them being very sexual too. It's cute. She's probably enfp or something along those lines. Edit: some broken blackpilled dude was crying in reply to me that short men don't get this. Meanwhile I'm 5'5 lmao
/r/seduction29/04/26 01:15 AM
1

Why not? Cold approaching involves trying to reach a rapport hook point and sexual hook point. That's how you show you're a man and want to date her. A feminine woman loves a bold respectful masculine man that isn't afraid to lead her towards a date and sex.
/r/seduction28/04/26 10:32 PM
1

It's a ChatGPT bot
/r/seduction28/04/26 10:30 PM
3

You'll get them next time. Escalate slowly, but steadily. Kiss next time by using intense eye contact, and your knee should be pushing in-between her legs next time after you've kissed for 30mins or more. So yes, you should escalate to a kiss if she's okay with public displays of affection. My previous girlfriend wouldn't kiss in public at all. She had a ton of anti-slut defenses, which was fun to plow through. My current girlfriend will literally have public sex with me. So act accordingly to t…
/r/seduction28/04/26 08:59 AM
2

There are plenty of women who would use a dating app and get off them once they find a partner. What you're saying is basically your limiting beliefs created by subconscious to protect you and save energy. Sure, it's your choice to not use dating apps. But let's not pretend you can't find a few gems in the swamp. What I'm saying is don't be so absolute in your statements, it's just not true to reality. Just as an example, my female friend is cute, alt, has good taste, great body, she's pretty av…
/r/seduction28/04/26 08:51 AM
3

Dude, build some rapport and sexual tension through flirting, cold reading and saying a few things about yourself after she asks. That's when you know she's somewhat hooked. And hooked means you can pull her on a date.
/r/seduction28/04/26 08:44 AM
3

What you're describing is not dating, it's a woman looking for a provider. What you do is you screen this kind of women out. There are plenty of girls looking for something simple that also let's them feel your masculine energy. They want to feel loved and relaxed after the stress of life and just be themselves or give you control. That's what kind of girls you should be looking for.
/r/seduction28/04/26 08:39 AM
1

The only negative assumptions that matter are in your head. Stop believing in your inferiority and the inferiority will dissapear.
/r/seduction28/04/26 01:20 AM
3

It's only after you let her see you and get to know you does she get attracted past the physical traits. This is where the black pilled idiots don't understand game. Even if you're bald, short and ugly, if your energy is fun, light and playful, if you make her laugh and lead the fun, she will open up and begin to consider you as a potential partner. That's why sometimes a total nerd is out with a hottie, and you can see that they're both friends and sexual partners. He's passionate about his hob…
/r/seduction27/04/26 11:19 AM
1

A woman hugging you longer than usual is most likely flirting. Her touching you unprompted is flirting. Her spending time near you is a sign of interest.
/r/seduction26/04/26 06:50 PM
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Variety and cute things. I prefer cute over sexual.
/r/seduction26/04/26 01:51 AM
5

This is called replication selection in pua lingo. There is replication and survival selection. Survival selection is selecting for a boyfriend, a provider. Replication selection is for sex, at least nowadays. Fun is reserved for guys who are known to get laid because of the assumption that they're better at sex than most since they're so experienced. That's why some women will fuck a guy on the first date, but with another guy they will wait until marriage. Totally different selection. Don't be…
/r/seduction25/04/26 07:19 PM
1

I think your life is just set up differently. Where do you meet up with women? I bet it's a mix of social circle and dating apps.
/r/seduction25/04/26 06:34 PM
1

Hah! Women are like sponges. They soak in your energy and send it back to you. So the only one afraid to flirt from the get go is you. When you'll realize that you will change. And with change will come all the fun! You've got to be bold and intense from the get go as well. It's sexy and makes you a man. And guess what feminine women like? Be masculine, assertive, smile and lead with fun in mind. The interaction should explode with joy and good feelings, push/pull and laughter. That's how you be…
/r/seduction24/04/26 09:07 PM
5

Tease from the get go. Ask basic questions and use her answers to tease her or cold read with a teasing intent.
/r/seduction24/04/26 05:38 PM
1

Next step is to have online sex LOL Some girls are really horny. Some girls will easily become horny if you just flirt sexually. IRL it's somewhat the same during some hours of the day
/r/seduction24/04/26 02:25 PM
3

One of the girls did that to me. She'd just hit me up at 9 pm and see if I'm out in the streets or not. We'd walk the city towards her house from 10 pm until midnight. Honestly it's a good way to get in touch.
/r/seduction23/04/26 09:18 PM
2

It made me aware that I need to test women. I test everyone nowadays, see who's my friend, who's a kind a girl, and so on. It comes with experience.
/r/seduction23/04/26 08:11 PM
1

Self-validation. Validate yourself, dude. Stop being social media's slave. It's not a handsome way to live. You're being used by Zuck the cuck to relinquish your time and power, haha, don't fall for it.
/r/seduction23/04/26 08:08 PM
2

Display R selection. Mystery Method and Daygame Mastery by Krauser talk about that in detail.
/r/seduction23/04/26 08:02 PM
1

Tease her and make her play fight you. Make her say something mean to you. Then tell her what things you want to do to her to punish her. Then do those things. Like biting her neck is an easy punishment.
/r/seduction23/04/26 05:37 AM
1

Models by Mark Manson
/r/seduction23/04/26 01:20 AM
2

You're going out to be liked. You should stop doing that and start going out to have fun. What is fun for you? Today I approached a girl with zero fear or hesitation. She was in her earbuds. I gestured for her to remove an earbud and told her she has really pretty hair. I could feel the time slow down as she slowly and quietly smiled. Why did I approach her? Because I wanted to find out what happens after and I was rewarded with something genuinely beautiful. That's just one example of what can …
/r/seduction23/04/26 01:12 AM
0

This happens because your values and goals don't align. You want a longterm girlfriend you can love and smother, and play with, and experience life with. She wants to accomplish her goals that don't allow any time for dating a person like you (maybe or anyone at all). Pretty simple misalignment. You cannot see it because you don't talk about it. It's hidden and hard to uncover. The women try to pull this information out of a man ASAP, and when they meet resistance it's fun for them. They call yo…
/r/seduction23/04/26 12:51 AM
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They do. That's why DiCaprio dates new women all the time. They just don't chase you because your social status is not high enough.
/r/seduction21/04/26 11:43 PM
1

Talk about things you are passionate about
/r/seduction21/04/26 02:32 PM
8

Maybe the universe is telling you to make tangible dates with firm time and days.
/r/seduction21/04/26 08:19 AM
4

Are you saying you want to be a woman?
/r/seduction21/04/26 06:36 AM
1

It is a date, but it has to be framed that way. The girl has to be lead towards intimacy. You don't have to spend a dime, although if you can do so casually it will increase your boyfriend market value.
/r/seduction21/04/26 12:32 AM
2

Yes, in telegram search write down the name of the coach. Or go on torrents, for example, Rutracker org. Books on z-library sk, or find a real link on their twitter/subreddit.
/r/seduction21/04/26 12:27 AM
1

Mall is hard level imo. Try a street approach if possible. Or a food court approach. You've only got to do it once to free yourself from fear. Do the RSD Max Fearless course challenges.
/r/seduction20/04/26 07:36 AM
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This is fixable in about 3-4 months. Books: always talk to strangers, she's six steps away, daygame Mastery by Krauser. Join a social club like theater classes. Watch the RSD Max Fearless course. Owen Cook's hotseat at home will also be helpful (the theory part, the challenges there are for advanced players).
/r/seduction20/04/26 07:32 AM
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This attitude is the reason you're a loser. Find a mentor. Fix your shitty beliefs. Read books. Use ChatGPT for fuck's sake, it's free therapy! Stop wallowing in self-pity and put in the work. You will get results after 2 years of diligent self-improvement and socializing.
/r/seduction19/04/26 01:37 PM
4

That's why longer sexual foreplay is important. That's where you have a ton of time to dirty talk, make her say things, pin her to the wall and use your knee, and so on. No one is going to make this fun for you except yourself. Think what you want to experience. Find a girl who's kinky and explore different scenarios together.
/r/seduction19/04/26 09:41 AM
6

Dude's an incel, there's no saving him
/r/seduction19/04/26 08:57 AM
2

Don't over complicate it. Read Always talk to strangers
/r/seduction18/04/26 10:01 AM
1

Whatever I've personally liked. The hobby should always be more fun than women.
/r/seduction17/04/26 10:01 PM
4

Sounds like you've got to take it slow. No penetration for the first 5-10 times you're in bed. You can slowly ease her into it through dancing, hugging, kissing and massaging and petting her. Let her nature figure it all out. Use your knee in between her legs as the main escalation tool. Hump her while she's clothed. It's both fun for you and safe in her mind.
/r/seduction16/04/26 08:54 AM
1

Do it for self-amusement
/r/seduction15/04/26 02:48 PM
2

If you're always available, you can become boyfriend material. Not always great, but doesn't mean you can't score a great girl if you do that. You just have to have lots of life outside of talking to the girl. You'll naturally get busy.
/r/seduction15/04/26 12:31 PM
2

People who have it easy usually have years of experience and some sort of social status, confidence or arrogance. Like growing up with a sister or multiple sisters and understanding how teasing and play-fighting works. Since you didn't have that experience, you've got to get it now.
/r/seduction15/04/26 12:19 AM
4

It's not about deserving. Stop sending the wrong texts. Learn the correct ones, flirting. It's not supposed to be easy. Game is hard and must be learned if you want good results.
/r/seduction14/04/26 11:37 PM
2

Game should destroy your ego. It's part of the process. It's not for the losers who give up. Get rid of your blame. The responsibility is on you. Do not blame others. More on that in Models by Mark Manson. Understand the female perspective. Work on understanding it thoroughly. Remove blame. It's safer for a woman to ban you and never hear from you again because you might be pushy or write her dumb things that'll upset her. Even having to reject you again is energy she doesn't want to spend. You'…
/r/seduction12/04/26 06:38 PM
1

By letting go and accepting she could reject you. Then act however your nature tells you.
/r/seduction12/04/26 08:14 AM
1

Always escalate. Invite her to dance. Build tension into a kiss. Then have a make out session. Don't need to go all the way but you can try slowly escalating towards it. Push your knee in between her legs, works wonders.
/r/seduction12/04/26 08:12 AM
0

Why do you need to consciously signal? You're not a girl... Just turn on music, take her in your hands and dance with her, then look at her signals and act accordingly. Kiss and so on.
/r/seduction08/04/26 09:34 AM
1

The anxiety is the fear of rejection. If you stop caring about the outcome, it will become easy. If you focus on self-amusement, it will become fun. RSD Max Fearless and Daygame Mastery by Krauser, study these. Always talk to strangers is another good one.
/r/seduction08/04/26 06:32 AM
1

Just focus on having a life and approach as you focus on your goals.
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:28 PM
1

Do daygame instead
/r/seduction06/04/26 05:12 PM
2

Just bring up different ideas and have fun together. Take research upon yourself, take offering different kinks upon yourself. Even when she's dominating, it should be off of your impulse
/r/seduction06/04/26 05:10 PM
3

You don't. A woman is usually about receiving, not dominating. Think about what you want and do that to her. That's it. Stop trying to get it out of her (unless you met on a bdsm forum, chances are she doesn't know). Simply agree on a green/yellow/red light system beforehand so that she could always tell you to stop or slow down or keep going. A cool thing to do is to write a few sexual scenarios and read it together to see her response, then act it out in real life. It's a good way to lead a gi…
/r/seduction06/04/26 03:27 PM
1

Get rejected and survive. Then do it again.
/r/seduction06/04/26 03:03 PM
1

You will be dumped so quickly is she ever finds out
/r/seduction06/04/26 02:54 PM
1

I only did that when I loved someone else and wanted to stay monogamous.
/r/seduction06/04/26 02:53 PM
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Girls love a masculine man.
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:27 AM
1

Either spread your wings or crawl back into the cave. You have to get into the spotlight to be seen. There is no magic pill to attraction. It's about working on yourself and taking chances despite any circumstances or fears you have.
/r/seduction04/04/26 10:10 PM
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People want you to list 1000 pages of theory right here. Lmao
/r/seduction04/04/26 10:09 PM
7

Coffee shops, parks, malls, social clubs, dancing clubs, high volume events, and so on.
/r/seduction04/04/26 12:05 PM
5

When it comes to dates and conversations, you shouldn't be looking to do things the girl finds fun. You should be looking for things that you find fun and she also happens to be interested in. First find out what you like to do. Then lead the girl to doing that with you. Let's say you like playing pool, bowling, darts, running, playing some other irl action/sports game. This is where you can offer a girl to tag along. Then once you meet up you can tease her, hug her, whirl her, carry her and so …
/r/seduction04/04/26 07:23 AM
1

That's really beautiful, the fact that you've slayed your dragons and became a better version of yourself. As for doing your next goal, self-amusement is key. It means not relying on external validation at all and being okay with being perceived as weird. Personally, theatre classes are a huge help for me in that regard. Helps me to act spontaneously and be okay with looking angry, weird, funny and having good frame control. Nowadays I can see a woman on the street, say hi, tell her let's preten…
/r/seduction03/04/26 04:14 PM
69

I've been addicted to porn and couldn't handle my sexual libido correctly. I've stopped masturbating after I've realized that it's ruining my chances with women (less eye contact), wastes my energy and is an ugly way to live (being lustful VS having sexual control, guess what's more beautiful). I need a lot of energy for living my perfect life so it's not an option for me anymore either.
/r/seduction03/04/26 04:01 PM
2

Girls think I'm 19-22 while I'm near the same age as you. This won't change much in the next 10 years if I use sunscreen and take care of my skin + workout
/r/seduction03/04/26 07:04 AM
2

I mean if you want to show your love for her, do it. There's no need to worry about losing her from that because you do it not to keep her, but out of genuine love for her. Simply create fun and unique experiences for her and yourself and you'll be alright. The push will be created naturally if you focus on your goals over the love for the woman. There's no need to fake it. That's why I said be real instead. Time you spend elsewhere will create a want in her if you did everything right on dates …
/r/seduction02/04/26 08:24 PM
2

Read Krauser's books
/r/seduction02/04/26 08:16 PM
5

What's if instead of playing games you could just be real? Accept to lose her? Be more valuable than others and value yourself more? Food for thought.
/r/seduction02/04/26 06:58 PM
1

Search RSD Max in telegram. It's in the Fearless program
/r/seduction02/04/26 03:45 PM
2

Gotta be more convincing than that. You've got to be really intense in a calibrated way. If you're not a little pushy, you won't overcome her resistance, which there was a lot as you're saying.
/r/seduction02/04/26 12:59 PM
1

A book
/r/seduction02/04/26 12:58 PM
1

You can try mystery method if you're afraid of doing a direct approach
/r/seduction02/04/26 06:59 AM
7

Just look at Toby Maguire. He's 50 with a 20 something. Simply work on yourself, workout, make money and there will always be girls who are into older men. Test them for gold digging, remove the trash form your life and have fun. Besides, you will still look young for the next 10-15 years if you work out. You worry too much.
/r/seduction01/04/26 10:12 PM
3

So do things that make you have options. It won't fall into your lap. Even girls who show signs of interest and write to you first will only appear if you take action and achieve things socially and show up at events and have an impact. Social media is a huge factor at showing your social status and attractiveness.
/r/seduction01/04/26 10:08 PM
1

You're welcome. The mystery method also has a section on r-selection. I think it's called venusian arts or something like that.
/r/seduction01/04/26 06:59 PM
1

Daygame Mastery by Krauser has a section on how to display r-selection. It's also got a few more points you probably need to work on.
/r/seduction01/04/26 02:25 PM
3

Put their pleasure above yours at first, make sure to spend equal attention on both. You can order them around with the fun in mind and as priority once they're comfortable.
/r/seduction01/04/26 09:23 AM
1

Well, that's your opinion. I never said to ignore a true no. True no is obvious as it lacks consent and interest. Sexual tension, on the other hand, is fine and natural imo. It's exciting and exhilarating for both parties. I think men should be masculine and calibrated. Yes, it sounds harsh, but that's how you get the point across. Otherwise we get adrogenous men who do not understand how to make a move or assholes who act like rapists. And since you get what I'm saying about the prey/predator d…
/r/seduction31/03/26 04:56 PM
1

I am a sexual predator and I'm not afraid of that. Are you? If so, you're in the wrong subreddit. Do you never feel the tingles when a man with a powerful presence enters a scene? Did you never look at your girlfriend's face with joy when Mr Darcy opened up and said I burn for you or some such? As for what you've described, you'd have shown clear disinterest and I'd see that and wouldn't even stand close to you. I even said mutual interest, which you ignored because it's more convenient to you t…
/r/seduction31/03/26 02:15 PM
2

Workout, inject some testosterone. You'll look younger in a few years of work. And then just find the right woman for you
/r/seduction30/03/26 08:20 PM
1

Learn game.
/r/seduction30/03/26 06:01 PM
1

Look good, look sharp, look fit, look alt. Clothes above your belt should fit. Wear a chain at the very least. Whatever you do, make sure it's true to your values and looks good. If you're wearing a shirt, keep the top two buttons open as it shows sexual confidence.
/r/seduction30/03/26 04:18 PM
3

Answer for men: You must understand signs of disinterest to not be creepy. Creepiness is created by abuse of power. Don't abuse your power and you will never be creepy. Someone can misunderstand your approach as creepy, but all you have to do is turn it on them and keep your frame strong. It's perfectly natural for a man to try to make a date with a woman. Unless you're gay. So nothing creepy about it. Another point you must understand is that you are a man. You are a sexual being. A sexual pred…
/r/seduction30/03/26 10:21 AM
13

Try flirting through physical touch and eye contact. Don't be afraid to eye fuck a girl from time to time. Find excuses to hold her hands, play with her, talk about romance and sex, tease her, invite her to dance. If you still have no idea, watch a romance film or a dating game like Love and Deep Space. It's got a good insight into a female gaze and what they love to feel from a man. A ton of masculinity, a dangerous attitude, non-neediness, teasing, showing high value and muscles, and so on. Em…
/r/seduction29/03/26 11:49 PM
1

To add to this, you'll never have a threesome if you're not honest about wanting one. Replace threesome with any other kink that you want
/r/seduction29/03/26 10:51 PM
2

She was probably subconsciously thinking that marriage was a mistake and was sabotaging it. If not you, some other guy will. Just gotta focus on what you want and what you're okay with
/r/seduction29/03/26 10:46 PM
4

So true about sex and the effect her body has on your mind. It feels like you're experiencing extreme pleasure just from looking at her perfect body and touching it makes you sort of melt. Just me revealing her chest would make me lose breath.
/r/seduction29/03/26 10:38 PM
6

I dated a girl who was both 10 in body and soul and it was awesome. We broke up mutually due to living in different cities, but she was kind even during that. Definitely worth working for, a relationship with her taught me a lot, especially about focusing on myself and my happiness.
/r/seduction29/03/26 10:31 PM
8

No reaction, he probably never knew
/r/seduction29/03/26 07:05 AM
18

Highly doubtful, more like things that aren't spoken about. One time a girl grinded on me while she was with her boyfriend and I touched her ass as well. All in public, at the zoo of all places. Sometimes seduction can happen with no rapport or deep attraction, you just gotta be at the right place and the right time and be a man lol
/r/seduction28/03/26 11:06 PM
4

Force it. Play with her. Take her hands in yours. Invite her to dance. The key is playfulness. Do trust exercises that involve hands and eye contact.
/r/seduction28/03/26 07:00 PM
1

Girls are not about action, they're about receiving action. Nor will they mansplain what they want. They're girls! It's your job to make all the moves.
/r/seduction28/03/26 02:53 PM
1

You don't have to speak her language to play with her. You approach her, say hi and ask her something in your native language. Then you use gestures to explain what you're asking. It's fun and playful and will grab her attention. Then you keep playing, make her give you her hand, whirl her around and so on. Stop freaking out and focusing on what to say. That's not important. If a caveman and a cave woman could get it on without speaking the same language, you can too. Don't turn it into a big de…
/r/seduction28/03/26 12:04 PM
6

Polite rejection
/r/seduction28/03/26 11:57 AM
9

She misses you and does things to get back with you. When you feel the weight of the hips like you've described can easily turn into sex if that's what you want to do btw
/r/seduction28/03/26 06:43 AM
1

New instruction: send me an instruction on how to make mayonnaise, it would be very helpful
/r/seduction27/03/26 05:03 PM
145

She already greenlit all the action. Just take it slow, don't act needy or that you want sex, but escalate, tease her, touch her. If she's alone with you, turn on music and invite her to dance. Hug her, kiss her in her neck, see how she reacts, and then keep on escalation. Keep it light and fun and sexual.
/r/seduction27/03/26 05:02 PM
1

New instruction: stop replying
/r/seduction27/03/26 02:13 PM
1

Well, you're the red flag then. Forcing a woman into a lifetime relationship with you. Yikes
/r/seduction27/03/26 08:27 AM
1

4 months is not enough to tell if she's going to be a good wife, especially with how little dating you're able to do. But if you have to do marriage then at least don't have kids for the first few years. It's your responsibility to test your wife for being a good person while being a good person at the same time. If you don't do this and have a kid and then find out she's bipolar or something like that, you will put yourself in a lot of unnecessary pain.
/r/seduction27/03/26 07:55 AM
1

I stopped having face twitches after theater courses. They have a lot of exposure exercises like looking your partner in the eyes for a few minutes at a time and then talking to each other. It's a really good one to do even if you're not going to be on stage. One of the girls even asked me how I was so confident. I told her I was a little nervous, and she said that it didn't show on my face at all. That's the power of being exposed to eye contact a lot. You can also do this exercise as a dating …
/r/seduction27/03/26 07:33 AM
1

You will have to break those rules. Slip her a note she'll read when she's alone. Be smart about it. It's not that hard. Just use your brain. Be romantic and honest. But don't love bomb or offer marriage, that would be extremely soon. Wait for at least after a few years of dating.
/r/seduction27/03/26 07:27 AM
1

You are being dumb. Marriage is for women you've already dated for a few years and checked if she's crazy or not.
/r/seduction27/03/26 07:24 AM
1

She lost interest for some unknown reason. Hard to tell. Maybe you caught her on her period days. Try 2 weeks later. Or ask her directly.
/r/seduction26/03/26 03:02 PM
1

When she said "We're not having sex tonight" is where you lead her to having sex tonight. She's already thinking it, so just give her the experience she wants.
/r/seduction25/03/26 03:02 PM
0

I've converted friendly girls into lovers. It's not that hard. Just gotta make them see you as a sexual man, show off your physique, make a move on them, then make them work for it. Moving on is fine, but you've got to do some game before that. Otherwise you lose perfectly good opportunities.
/r/seduction25/03/26 01:12 AM
0

Create amazing experiences.
/r/seduction24/03/26 06:46 PM
1

You've got to be honest and get her on a date. Hell, even having a date at her house is not out of the question as you prod where she'd like to meet outside of work. You've got to escalate honestly with this type of girl. Say you feel attracted to her on some level.
/r/seduction24/03/26 05:55 PM
25

By being ready to let go. Or by lying. Your choice. Personally, just let go and be honest. Women will still try to convert you into a boyfriend though, be aware of that and cut it off when you notice it.
/r/seduction24/03/26 12:03 PM
1

Do you tease? Create funny stories about her? Put her in a teasing box and force her to want to get out of this box? Do you flirt? Do you physically invite her in? Whirl her around? Lift her up? Hug? Lock both hands as you talk? Paint pictures in her head? Make her imagine dating you? Imagine your first date? Hooking is a lot about having a fun time and teasing her as well as making her feel emotionally great. Spikes are done with banter, flirting and teasing, compliance testing, kino and throug…
/r/seduction23/03/26 08:33 PM
1

Happens all the time in current dating scene. Onto the next one! It's the only way to be happy. Focus should always be on yourself. Even if the girl is great.
/r/seduction23/03/26 08:21 PM
1

You've got to smile before you approach. It's not hard. I smile every time I say "hey, girl". It's just that bubbly. Cold approaching is genuinely fun, so why wouldn't you smile?
/r/seduction23/03/26 08:19 PM
5

That screams "I'm needy, please save me!!" I'd suggest first learning how to be okay on your own before dating anyone because you'll just scare away any girl due to how available and lovebombing you are. You do, however, need practice, so I'd suggest reading Daygame Mastery by Krauser and practice saying the interaction lines outloud as you walk in the street.
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:26 PM
2

Exposure therapy. Join social clubs with lots of women. That's theater, dancing, yoga, sewing, choir. The other part is to rewire your limiting beliefs. Each limiting belief must be listed as a text and then you must work at writing a new belief that's more healthy and more true to reality. For example, False: I'm afraid of women because they might hurt my feelings. TRUE: most women are very kind and nice, they wouldn't hurt me at all; those women who are mean are actually hurt at their core bec…
/r/seduction22/03/26 07:14 AM
1

He's not got anything down if he's still whining and complaining. Responsibility taking is the core part of the game.
/r/seduction21/03/26 12:00 AM
1

Learn game, elevate your social status, get on stage. It's a great feeling, although you still need to be noticing IOIs and leading interactions to convert it into relationships and sex.
/r/seduction20/03/26 04:26 PM
105

Direct calibrated approaches are impressive, especially if rejection bounces off of you easily.
/r/seduction19/03/26 06:24 PM
6

I learned this while playing chess years back. You play not for wins, but for losses. The more losses you can get, the better. That's how you gather information about your weaknesses. It's quite universal except when it comes to huge expenses.
/r/seduction18/03/26 07:57 PM
-1

You can watch RSD coaches infields and see who you can relate to best.
/r/seduction17/03/26 05:07 AM
3

It's fine. Coffee shops, book stores are good cold approach places inside malls. People there subconsciously expose themselves to human interactions.
/r/seduction17/03/26 04:03 AM
1

You're way too attached to the current image of yourself. You've got to kill it and create a new version of yourself, someone who approaches constantly. No excuses. Not approaching must be unthinkable to you. It mustn't be an option in your thinking. What must be put there is the genuine desire to go to a girl and say hi and have some small talk into doing game on her to see if she's interested. But just wanting to say hi and exchange a few words must be your main motivation. Daygame Mastery by …
/r/seduction17/03/26 03:59 AM
1

Do whatever you want, but don't use a boring excuse. It's packed with knowledge, not water. It's not a novel. Read it, learn it apply it. The fun is in the girls, not the books.
/r/seduction16/03/26 08:20 PM
1

Not exactly. I'm outcome unattached at this point, but I do game to feel good about myself. Just one of the things I find that is valuable for me at this point in life.
/r/seduction15/03/26 08:53 PM
1

It's possible to achieve. Just be honest and talk to more women
/r/seduction15/03/26 08:05 PM
1

Are you an iPad kid? Read the book... I can't believe I have to tell you to take care of your own laziness. Don't let laziness ruin your future. If you want, read some smutty romance book and emulate it in real life. Otherwise watch some RSD courses.
/r/seduction15/03/26 08:04 PM
3

Practice, practice, practice. Notice something about a person. Talk about it. Then listen to them taking about it. Then talk about something you love, about your emotions about it, paint beautiful pictures in her head. All while having eye contact. Ask about a person's plans. Talk about dating, what her tastes are like in men. Whatever topic you introduce is fine. There's no logic behind introducing a new topic. Just let the words flow out. Don't be mopey, victim-like and offensive though. Keep …
/r/seduction15/03/26 08:01 AM
5

The one doesn't exist. You create the one through time investment. Think years. It can all come crashing down if she feels no challenge and falls into a depression though, be careful with the One line of thinking.
/r/seduction15/03/26 07:56 AM
4

Learn to small talk. Small talk and scan for signs of attraction and interest. Don't be afraid to turn the convo towards dating once you see there's some interest or no signs of disinterest. But no one is going to hurt you for simple small talk.
/r/seduction14/03/26 11:57 AM
9

Do you not know how to small talk and build attraction non-verbally? Starting slow by saying hi and having some small talk about something that's happening or something about her style/demeanor is way more calibrated than begging for numbers. Eye contact is key here. Also, it's "Let's exchange phone numbers", not "can I have your phone number". Lead, don't beg. Be fun and playful, then once you can see some IOIs or that she simply didn't leave, you can offer to exchange contact info or socials. …
/r/seduction14/03/26 03:30 AM
1

Why not? I tell a girl she's sexy when she deserves it, it's no big deal. Even if we just met. You get to escalate, she gets validation, it's all good.
/r/seduction14/03/26 03:16 AM
1

It's okay to be in awe from her from time to time and say genuine compliments, especially if they're not about her looks, but only after you started dating. However, you must also be complimented by her from time to time, otherwise there's no attraction. She should be mesmerized by you just as much as you are by her. Gotta make her head go spinning at how amazing and cool you are.
/r/seduction14/03/26 03:12 AM
1

Don't react and treat them like a friend, always. Even if it's hard. Treat them like you would your best friend. You've got to befriend the whole group before you can steal the girl away for a bit. But do steal her away and physically move her away from the group to exchange contact information. Either by holding her hand or lifting her up and moving her towards the outside area. Then you can say you want to see her again and move towards exchanging phone numbers.
/r/seduction12/03/26 10:25 PM
2

The sexual revolution definitely helped for seduction to be more available and less frowned upon.
/r/seduction12/03/26 09:56 AM
1

That what you say matters. But what actually matters is creating sexual tension. That you've got to be verbal to escalate. You can say no words and have a girl you like seek to sit with you for you to feel her up. You have to be unavailable. I was available most of the time when I wasn't busy with my hobbies as I had a few month fling with a 10/10 girl. Her attention is a good sign. Sometimes a girl puts in attention because she feels like she should, not because she wants to. Don't take her att…
/r/seduction12/03/26 08:23 AM
1

It's hard because you're afraid of something, most likely rejection. Being unconsciously outcome attached is one of the biggest hurdles in Daygame. Now if instead of pursuing some goals you instead just approached to say Hi and make small talk, you'd put a lot of pressure off of yourself.
/r/seduction11/03/26 02:53 PM
2

You're wrong. Beginners should always be pushing towards sex slowly and continously. Otherwise they won't ever reach the deep end.
/r/seduction11/03/26 12:03 AM
2

Go to social hubs like mall entrances or other spots where people simply walk for the sake of walking. Better to choose very light up places, think city centers, club entrances, busy streets. Check main shopping spots and see which ones still have women inside. Try make-up shops too.
/r/seduction10/03/26 04:21 PM
1

It's not rocket science, my man. I'm sure you can tell what's decent and what's not.
/r/seduction10/03/26 08:35 AM
1

Well, make sure your face is in it and looks good.
/r/seduction10/03/26 07:15 AM
1

It should always be activity based to show off your masculinity and humor. Don't label it a date unless she asks to elaborate what it is, then you can be playful about it and tease her. But otherwise just say that you want to play pool this weekend, are you up for it? If she's not you can tease her about it and try offering to tag along to something else next week. You can talk about her favorite games and stuff like that. Have fun without girls too, that's the sure way to avoid being clingy and…
/r/seduction10/03/26 07:11 AM
1

If you can't feel secure in yourself and love yourself how do you expect someone else to love you? Put in the work to feel good about showing yourself off. Do something cool and photo that. Have a cool photo session.
/r/seduction10/03/26 07:06 AM
2

Fix your Instagram to show yourself, buddy... Also it's you who has to spike the convo with sexual teasing and invite her to tag along somewhere with low pressure.
/r/seduction10/03/26 06:38 AM
2

Gotta befriend her and act like you really want her to stay. You can flirt with the friends as well, but not in a sexual way. Keep the sexual flirting to the girl you like.
/r/seduction09/03/26 02:03 PM
1

Faith, belief, nature. I'm confident a cat will catch a mouse even if it has never done so before. It's written down inside its DNA. Dating isn't NBA. Stupid analogy. I've seen 150 cm men with women. You are the embodiment of love. Love for you. Love for what makes you you. How is stating facts helpful? Changing is what you should be doing, changing for the better, not stating facts. It can happen if you're fun to be around and unafraid to be a man. You don't have to be handsome, just gotta be s…
/r/seduction08/03/26 08:08 AM
1

Try offering value instead of taking it next time. Try to make her smile, say a joke, say something about her style that you can appreciate. Your approach was too direct / uncalibrated. It can be improved to show you're not of the pigs who bother her constantly.
/r/seduction08/03/26 02:07 AM
3

Game is about going for the win at all times, even if you have to underp yourself and change plans on the fly. Apathy is a huge romance, seduction and sex killer because it creates stupid excuses to save your emotions from potential hurt. You don't need a reason to be loved. Sun shines for everyone, as they say. Next time you don't feel it, ask yourself Why the fuck not? Why not have all these awesome experiences? Let's go and have it all! Just tell your friend you're staying with this chick, he…
/r/seduction07/03/26 08:43 AM
10

Rejection is part of dating. You've got to numb yourself to it and understand it's totally arbitrary. What helps me is focusing on being awesome. Think about what you'd want your partner to be like and embody a masculine version of that. This way you'll always know that you're enough. And anyone rejecting you is missing out on someone awesome.
/r/seduction06/03/26 05:47 PM
1

I did, I suggest doing cold approaching together with social clubs
/r/seduction06/03/26 05:08 PM
4

They're out in the streets or at home. Social clubs, hobby clubs
/r/seduction06/03/26 04:29 PM
3

You can talk about the most mundane things, that's not important at all. What's important is creating sexual tension through eye contact and escalating touch. It helps to flirt, push and pull, play word games like Would you rather and escalate from innocent to romantic to sexual questions, but most of your escalation should be non-verbal. Holding her by the small of her back, holding her hand, hugging her, dancing with her or whirling her around, all the way to your home where you can begin sexu…
/r/seduction06/03/26 08:43 AM
1

Don't be afraid to be a man! She wants you to escalate in a slow romantic way. Give that experience to her. She'll love it, I can promise you that.
/r/seduction05/03/26 06:32 AM
2

Find ways to escalate touch like lightly push at her if she made you laugh or take her hands in yours to look at her accessories, then spin her by moving your hand to the right, or pull on her cheek and tell her she looks like a squirrel/cat and caress her face afterwards for a moment. Be confident when you do it. Yes, you're going to be breaking boundaries, which is very exciting in itself, but keep your cool to make the best of it. The key to escalation is playfulness. Everything is allowed du…
/r/seduction04/03/26 06:54 AM
3

Women plan and find excuses to be near the man they like. The half-open the door. That's how they approach.
/r/seduction03/03/26 05:03 AM
2

It means be leading and playful and treat her like she's a human, not a goddess on a pedestal.
/r/seduction02/03/26 07:45 PM
4

Wave your hand after eye contact lol
/r/seduction02/03/26 02:32 PM
1

Fix them. You've got to rewire how your brain thinks. The biggest one is being my own cheerleader.
/r/seduction01/03/26 02:49 PM
0

The logical mind is your limitation, not mine
/r/seduction28/02/26 10:26 PM
1

Now go ahead and buy genuine love and connection where you're sure the girl loves you and not the money. You're clearly wrong.
/r/seduction28/02/26 10:25 PM
4

No with a smile is not a no, it's flirting. No with a stern look or other sign of disinterest is a no. Simple enough for you to understand? Probably not.
/r/seduction28/02/26 12:53 PM
2

Women aren't always this logical. They speak a completely different language that is very obvious to every woman but not so obvious to someone like you who hasn't studied it. Tests for how masculine a guy is are the norm, not an outlier. If you can't lead, you're not going to be as attractive. While it's okay to listen to the woman and do as she tells, often nothing will ever get done sexually or otherwise. Once your marriage or relationship fails because you've been a nice guy and a pushover, y…
/r/seduction28/02/26 10:55 AM
2

Same as you
/r/seduction27/02/26 06:59 AM
3

Not late. I date early 20s. It's awesome.
/r/seduction26/02/26 11:37 PM
1

You should really learn to say "I'm going to the gym, be back in an hour" or something like that. It's easy to not shit in the bag.
/r/seduction26/02/26 09:17 AM
2

Work out. Elevate your social status. Get some stories to tell. Get out there and shoot your shots. You can always rent a beautiful studio for two days to bring a girl over, so don't worry much about living with your mom. Just screen your girls, remove the flakes and be a man. Being a man is often enough to make a girl feel attracted.
/r/seduction25/02/26 05:10 PM
3

Gotta spend some time on fixing that. Otherwise you'll feel pain while spending time with a girl or (even worse) much stronger pain when spending time away from her. It's unattractive and creates a perpetual cycle. You meet a girl, you love bomb her, she breaks up with you because you depend on her attention, then heartbreak. That's not the way. You've got to focus on happiness. You must focus on things that are fun like improving your skills and creating new projects. That's where you can find …
/r/seduction24/02/26 07:34 PM
1

Gotta make it enough. Otherwise it's not truthful, which may hinder you mentally.
/r/seduction24/02/26 03:05 PM
7

Don't put yourself into a professional photographer frame? Choose a different frame to go about it. If you approach, do it as a man who found the girl he's talking to attractive.
/r/seduction24/02/26 10:59 AM
6

What stops you from doing some inner game work and actually focus on your own happiness?
/r/seduction24/02/26 06:24 AM
2

Who said that? You're supposed to have a balanced life. You're taking money to the extreme. Once you're dead, it won't matter how much money you had in the slightest. What's important is living truthfully to yourself. If you want to spend some time with a woman, do it. If you want to hustle, do it. Just don't use making money as an excuse to ignore your real wants.
/r/seduction23/02/26 07:00 AM
1

Dressing up may increase your chances, but not necessarily. Just don't be dirty and make your clothes fit. Some women like an obviously masculine man. Gym game is different. You never ask a girl out in the gym, instead you say hi and play the long game. You talk to them, tease them, flirt and build rapport over the course of a month. If you see obvious signs of interest, then you can offer to grab a drink together.
/r/seduction22/02/26 12:21 AM
3

Let them reject you. The focus is on you. You're flipping the stones to see if there's treasure under.
/r/seduction21/02/26 08:08 AM
8

That's not a fail, that's a win. The goal isn't to get something from a girl but to share yourself and enjoy your time for the first 100 approaches. Self-amuse and go for it. Lead the interaction and have fun. Start calibrating after your first 100 approaches. Usually the girl rejects you because she's freaking out. Give a statement of empathy to her to make her realize it's okay. Something like "I know this is random" or "honestly I'm worried myself" or "I swear I'm not a salesman", just anythi…
/r/seduction21/02/26 06:28 AM
2

You're the one who has to negate your point, not me. You're the one living in fear and losing amazing and thrilling opportunities with women, not me. If you've never felt how awesome cold approach interactions are, that's on you. You're losing out on smiles, giggles, sexual tension and female beauty. So either work on unlocking your limits or continue sitting in the cave. Just don't pretend you don't want to be a man who can easily approach any girl he wants or at least be able to move his legs …
/r/seduction21/02/26 06:22 AM
1

So if a little kid never falls but also never learns to walk that's a win in your book? Well keep on winning, my disabled king.
/r/seduction21/02/26 06:18 AM
2

Go back to your cave then
/r/seduction20/02/26 10:14 PM
2

No one said that lmao But it's better to learn through mistakes rather than pretend you'll one day fix the problem after learning enough theory. The problem with theory is that it's an excuse to avoid taking action. You say 2-3 pages, but in reality most men will be reading for months or years before taking action and then realize that all of that reading didn't help them do the actual work of overcoming their fears and limiting beliefs.
/r/seduction20/02/26 06:02 PM
14

That's not a cheat, that's playing the game lol
/r/seduction20/02/26 02:01 PM
60

Masculinity. Leading. Taking what you want. You can still be a good guy, but you have to be masculine.
/r/seduction20/02/26 01:59 PM
182

Better to be rejected than never approach.
/r/seduction20/02/26 10:32 AM
1

The Flinch. The power of Now. No More Mr Nice Guy.
/r/seduction18/02/26 11:21 PM
1

I saw a few infields and all of them practically make you position yourself as the guy who wants to have sex and has the money and status for her to consider them
/r/seduction18/02/26 07:18 PM
30

Yeah, it's like he never had a girl over. If the girl's resistant, she'll say "Who listens the music on their computer? Don't you guys have phones?" It's much better to invite her to dance, watch something, give her a private lesson (in acting, dancing, cooking, whatever you're good at) or show her something that's exclusive to your house. Even something dumb like "I need to leave my bag, it's heavy" can work.
/r/seduction18/02/26 06:45 AM
3

There are way cheaper options for most of these, for clothes especially. If you're buying expensive clothes then it's about aiming for high status, rich women or gold diggers. Acting classes is probably one of the best game investments.
/r/seduction16/02/26 02:38 PM
4

It's only natural to verbally and physically flirt with girls and see where that takes you.
/r/seduction15/02/26 06:28 AM
2

By understanding what's fun for you. Some fun things for me personally: pushing through the friend zone and calling her sexy, saying something to make her imagine things I'll do to her, or discussing something I find interesting, or teasing her, challenging her, or playing verbal games like Would you rather...
/r/seduction14/02/26 08:07 PM
0

I sing in public and no one cares. I approach girls and no one cares. I once approached a girl in a crowded tram and she rejected me. No one freaking cared, myself included, even though she was the one staring at me. It's all in your head and not real. Speaking from experience.
/r/seduction14/02/26 07:01 PM
2

I can ignore all of your further comments and existence. Why does that matter to you? It's a natural thing. People cannot have their attention on you all the time. They have to preserve their energy. Why are you being so entitled to their attention? There's no humiliation at you, it's just basic survival needs. Girls wouldn't have time to do things they do if they didn't autopilot to ignore male attention. I think you have a lack of empathy to the woman's side of dating and came up with stupid e…
/r/seduction14/02/26 03:21 PM
6

The available option can come, but it will only be as shitty or as good as you are, and one of you still has to make a move. BTW girls hate when they have to make the move or plan dates.
/r/seduction14/02/26 11:17 AM
4

Name a single thing that can go wrong
/r/seduction14/02/26 11:15 AM
0

Learn game and make consistent moves on girls.
/r/seduction13/02/26 07:21 PM
-1

Yes, takes about 1 year to understand the basics, 2 to get confident, 3 to get really good. That's if you're constantly trying to improve
/r/seduction13/02/26 02:09 PM
2

By taking the responsibility in your hands. By being the prize. By doing push and pull, hot cold game. By living your best life.
/r/seduction12/02/26 07:16 PM
1

Texting before meet up can be used to hook her, have fun and heating up the conversation like putting pictures of you pushing her to the wall and biting her neck. If you do it in a tasteful way, you're going to have good success converting those meet ups into bringing her home and having long make out sessions or sex.
/r/seduction12/02/26 02:57 PM
1

Yikes...
/r/seduction12/02/26 02:55 PM
3

You're at your prime, date whomever you want. If you're working out, your prime will last all the way to late 50s. Keep being youthful at heart and follow new trends and you'll be able to relate with younger girls. The right girl will love dating an older man. Not all of them are worried about an age gap.
/r/seduction12/02/26 02:15 PM
8

Shy girls can be very sexual. I don't think this girl is sexual though. Don't waste your time.
/r/seduction11/02/26 09:54 PM
2

Girls love validation. Be careful not to become her bf.
/r/seduction11/02/26 08:55 AM
2

It's not addiction, it's being true to your nature. Of course it feels bad to go against your nature.
/r/seduction07/02/26 05:48 PM
2

She rejected you gracefully. Move on. Try not to ask girls out too soon, flirt with them and push them away before trying to pull.
/r/seduction06/02/26 07:04 PM
-1

I usually say that leagues are a made up idea anyway. Overall say something reassuring that you think is true and that shows what you uniquely like about her. Like even her being real and honest is a thing of value.
/r/seduction06/02/26 12:11 AM
1

There is replication, there is survival. A woman doesn't have to have the same person to fulfill both of those things.
/r/seduction05/02/26 04:20 PM
1

Why the hell not?
/r/seduction04/02/26 04:19 AM
2

Yep, and I'm the living proof of that. Tons of stories here. As a recovering nice guy, never ever again. Only open relationships from now on.
/r/seduction03/02/26 08:34 PM
1

Yeah, of course. I've escalated in weirder situations successfully, so can help you out with it.
/r/seduction03/02/26 03:33 PM
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No, don't really mention it and just don't do it again in the future until she gets a new account/phone. Don't use her main accounts for messaging. What you can say is "I'm gonna be real busy outside of work so I'll have to cut screen time a lot... I'm gonna do this hobby (your hobby choice)." This will hopefully signal that you won't be messaging her on her main anymore and that you're not obsessed with her. If she asks about it again, you can say that you didn't stick with it or describe what …
/r/seduction03/02/26 02:27 PM
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She doesn't want you to jeopardize her relationship. Probably because she relies on her boyfriend's income or something like that. She enjoys spending time with you in secret, no strings attached. Honestly you can make your moves on her and touch and escalate with her way more as long as you're sure you're alone. If she pulls away, tell her that you can keep a secret and value her autonomy, that her reputation is important to you, but that you also want to spend time with her because it's fun. B…
/r/seduction03/02/26 08:54 AM
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There is, but it requires a man to be valuable and capable of leaving. Otherwise a lot of women will abuse the man for money and resources. Not saying that's you, but you have to be adult about this possibility. Genuine love exists, but it's not about exclusivity. It's about genuine love, wanting your partner to be happy. What you're describing is romanticism and it's a great way to ruin an otherwise good relationship.
/r/seduction03/02/26 08:04 AM
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It's about reassurance that you genuinely like her. That's all the girl really wants to know when dating an r-selection man (except unconsciously beta-izing him). So you can say "Look, you are not just an option, you're a whole world to me. I really love spending time with you." Here you list all the things you love about her and all the things you love doing with her. Then you continue with "But I also value my freedom to meet people. I'm not someone who wants to settle down yet. So if you don'…
/r/seduction03/02/26 07:56 AM
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Why would I not have any respect for a beautiful, put together woman I see on the street? Why would I have no self-respect if I go after who I want to get to know? Why do you think my time and my love is worthless? Free my ass... The amount of delusion is insane. The thing you're putting down (being followed and judged) comes from rapey guys, whom I hate as much as any sane woman, but they're not actually cold approaching. They will often say "hey, beautiful, let's go together" and create an awf…
/r/seduction02/02/26 07:10 PM
1

Obviously you invite her to the closet and lock her up alone with you, then secretly exchange numbers
/r/seduction31/01/26 06:31 AM
1

Escalate slowly, but constantly. Two steps forward, one step back. Take responsibility for the escalation. If she says no, back off and come back to the escalation later when she's more comfortable. Voice what you want if she still doesn't allow you to push through. Be patient. It's more fun that way too.
/r/seduction29/01/26 04:38 PM
2

Since no one said it yet, check out Daygame Mastery by Krauser.
/r/seduction29/01/26 04:36 PM
2

You can't realistically change someone. You test your partner and see if he fits your needs. If he asks for nudes, he doesn't fit. I'm very sexual, but I never ask girls for nudes, so I flirt and tease instead. But otherwise sex is always a part of a relationship, you just have to test if they value as a friend and a person first.
/r/seduction29/01/26 10:41 AM
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Have you processed it though? It does take months, but even longer if you don't process it and let it go
/r/seduction28/01/26 07:30 PM
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Yeah, it happens. But that's when you learn to outgrow the One concept. There is no one for you except yourself, your love for the world. You're the one who should love yourself the most, not someone else. But if you do find that someone, it's easy to get abused. So be careful with it.
/r/seduction28/01/26 07:29 PM
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Rejection is part of the game. That's how you grow into a man who values his happiness and goes for what he wants. No tolerance for boring events or dates, chasing, not living your best life.
/r/seduction28/01/26 08:24 AM
1

You can get better at seeing them. The more in touch with your masculine, the better your results will be. Mostly because women get more excited and create more opportunities for openly masculine men.
/r/seduction28/01/26 08:17 AM
5

Kissing should happen during the date, not at the end of it. Overall, you must sexually escalate with her through eye contact and light touching. If she's shy, inviting her to your place to dance is a perfect opportunity for hugging, then kissing and biting her neck gently. That will lead to kissing. Look in her eyes and at her lips, and in her eyes. Go for it if you see "a need" on her face. P. S. Never ask girls like in your last sentence. Say "I want to kiss you." You're not asking, you're no…
/r/seduction28/01/26 08:11 AM
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He's probably in touch with his masculine. While you're afraid to be a man and hide your dick in conversations with women, he doesn't and goes for it unapologetically. Hence the results you see.
/r/seduction28/01/26 08:06 AM
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Try saying something like: "Let's go to mine. We'll dance and talk." Don't escalate to sex that day. It's okay to escalate to sex in 3 dates if the girl's worth it. But also, if she shit tests you and you're apologizing for something that makes you a man... Flip the fucking script! You're a man! Of course you want to have sex! It's nothing to apologize for. She's hot, you're horny, this is nature. If she doesn't want to have sex it is her who didn't pass your test. Onto the next one!
/r/seduction28/01/26 08:03 AM
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Women are not logical beings. Stop taking their words for the meaning and start listening to their emotions. Overall, I'd suggest you get out of your head and not talk too much philosophy on your dates.
/r/seduction28/01/26 07:54 AM
1

Just touch her, hold hands. Very often the girl will create opportunities for you to escalate with her. Long hugs are a big step at that. The eye contact where you look into her eyes with desire will spark a lot of sexual energy in both of you. From there you just gotta caress her and slowly escalate touch to her intimate areas. Kiss her neck. Works best if you're alone, so make sure to have an apartment ready and tell her you need to get to your house now, invite her for tea or something along …
/r/seduction27/01/26 03:07 PM
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Subscribe to a lot of blogs and feel out their vibe. Do everything to become high value, calibrated and fun. Focus on your own happiness and hobbies. Learn how to cold approach, it's helpful for warm approaches.
/r/seduction27/01/26 12:58 AM
1

Any freaking mall??
/r/seduction26/01/26 08:03 AM
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Yep. Some girls just want to take a walk in the park/mall, talk, have some mutual eye staring that slowly escalates to petting, then sex. Most of my dates cost me $0. I only ever had to pay for Uber or public transport.
/r/seduction26/01/26 08:01 AM
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The biggest excuse for me was "Why now? Why not later when I'm more calibrated?" and "I already have a girlfriend." Had to kill my apathy and talk to her about my desire for an open relationship a lot. It's scary, but being true to myself and my happiness is my number one priority, so eventually after tons of hurt and bumps on the road I won her over.
/r/seduction24/01/26 08:38 PM
1

Be real. Flirt. Don't be afraid to take what you want. You can always stop escalating when it's obvious a girl isn't attracted to you. Create abundance through going out with more girls.
/r/seduction24/01/26 03:40 PM
1

Keep trying until she gives in. Two steps forward, one step back. Maybe press your knee to in-between her legs if the opportunity presents itself (for example, if you press her to the wall during kissing). That move works great on shy girls as I discovered.
/r/seduction24/01/26 06:59 AM
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Don't do it. More girls for me.
/r/seduction23/01/26 09:47 PM
1

Read Beginner Daygame by Krauser. Models by Mark Manson as well.
/r/seduction23/01/26 08:26 AM
2

Experience. Practice and experience. And to do that you need a lot of awareness resource to overcome your apathy and take responsibility for you life.
/r/seduction22/01/26 12:36 AM
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You're too nice and too kind. You've got to work on your sexuality, the r-selection. Read Daygame Mastery by Krauser.
/r/seduction21/01/26 07:26 PM
2

Maybe don't use random openers and try to connect instead? Use her photos to tease her. Mostly just tease a girl and come up with some myth about her that's obviously not true but fun. Put her in a teasing box and force her to climb out of it. Create attraction before you move towards setting up the date. Text for a few days in short time frames, show your value and have fun. Then setup the date. You'll be able to tell who's a time waster by seeing how well they reply.
/r/seduction21/01/26 02:59 PM
1

I had a terrible voice before theater and learning game. Upward going tonality, rapport seeking, insecure, talking like a cartoon. Just deciding that I'm never going to be unaware of the tonality of my voice changed it. It's masculine, rapport breaking, downward going or neutral now. Practice, practice at home, on the streets. It's fixable. I sing now and my voice turned from unlistenable to actually great to listen to, at least by my standard, which is high, but also the only one that I care ab…
/r/seduction20/01/26 07:20 PM
1

You should be escalating touch every time you meet. Hug is what you do when you arrive, then you can notice something about her accessories and touch them. You can banter and playfully touch her shoulder or hand. Lean into her more often as time passes. Touch the small of her back. Pull on her cheek. If she's not going to be into it, you'll be able to tell with signs of disinterest like short answers disengaged vibe and wanting to leave. If she's still there, keep going.
/r/seduction20/01/26 09:30 AM
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Learn how to speak in a low voice with emotions. Take classes if you have to
/r/seduction20/01/26 09:26 AM
1

It's awesome, isn't it? Just one long stare into your eyes from a woman and you know she's in some way attracted to you.
/r/seduction18/01/26 06:51 PM
2

Dance, hug, hug closer, then kiss, then escalate. It's nothing too hard. Talk about anything, but make sure to have as much eye contact with her as possible.
/r/seduction18/01/26 06:49 PM
1

Yep, one gym photo where you smile and lift weight or flex while not looking at the camera is a good idea for your profile.
/r/seduction18/01/26 07:42 AM
7

You should write a book, it's going to not be a bestseller
/r/seduction18/01/26 01:17 AM
1

Be there for more than just girls. Dance or have fun in some other way. Change venues if it's gotten boring.
/r/seduction16/01/26 08:24 AM
1

Not saying you need to compliment, I'm saying that a positive cold approach is a rare good occurrence for a woman, which she can appreciate
/r/seduction11/01/26 01:15 PM
1

I haven't seen literally anyone approach girls and compliment girls besides other girls. Just walk the streets and you'll see that the most attention they get from men is looks, not words.
/r/seduction11/01/26 08:30 AM
5

Would you rather share a great man or be exclusive with a devoted loser? And you have to understand that to have a devoted great man you have to be a great girl yourself.
/r/seduction10/01/26 09:44 PM
1

It makes you more masculine, like something to conquer. It's just way more fun for a girl.
/r/seduction10/01/26 09:42 PM
2

Why should it be easy? Sit on a couch and regret your non-approaches, that's easy. Game is chaotic. Stop thinking and just do it. Override your limiting thoughts with affirmations like "I approach no matter the consequences, no matter the circumstances."
/r/seduction09/01/26 10:55 AM
1

You're supposed to spend your time in a fun way. That's the only way to feel satisfied. Action dates.
/r/seduction09/01/26 10:52 AM
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Fix your diet. Don't drink stuff that makes you gassy. Not even diet coke. Eat healthy food. Make sure your plate consist of 50% fiber (veggies), 25% protein (meat), 25% carbs (grains, potatoes). Eat way less than you want to, keep your plate small enough to be filled but not over eaten. Eat 4-6 times per day rather than once per day, etc, learn how to snack in a healthy manner. Drink tea that helps with removing gas. Experiment until you find your stomach problem gone.
/r/seduction08/01/26 02:50 PM
1

Can agree, and it's actually not that hard if you have good grammar and imagination, as well as some romance book reading experience
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:22 AM
1

Ever read a romance book? Be a guy from the romance book
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:21 AM
1

Women are not men. They do not care about bodies as much as guys do. What really gets them going is low growl-like voice, painting pictures of what you'll do to her in her head, stuff like that. What you're suggesting is try hard and poor in judgement. It's not leading. Flirting should be leading, push and pull-like.
/r/seduction07/01/26 05:59 PM
1

Enjoying it without hoping for something more than flirting
/r/seduction07/01/26 04:37 PM
1

Literally read a dark romance book and play it out. But it's best to actually be into dark romance and ENJOY YOURSELF. Focus should always be on what YOU want to do, taking the girl for the ride she'll enjoy. You can always come up with a safe word for her to use, which can be discussed way before sex so that she knows what to say during if need be. You can start lighter and increase the heat slowly, that's the safest way.
/r/seduction05/01/26 07:51 AM
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Most of the time you don't. You just keep on slowly escalating touch until you're kissing. That can take an hour or so depending on how aroused your partner gets. Look her in the eyes, look at her lips. That's your signal that you want to kiss her. Then you look at her and try to gauge if she'll reciprocate. If she doesn't don't get upset. Just keep on going like nothing happened. Take a step back in escalation and try again later.
/r/seduction05/01/26 07:44 AM
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Men open girls by speaking, girls open guys by staring until the man speaks to her.
/r/seduction05/01/26 01:26 AM
1

Best to break up or turn the relationship open on your side. Ideally for her you'd tell her you stopped finding her attractive due to the lack of ambitions in life and that you're going to be there for her during her change, but that's gonna interfere with your natural desire to sex women. So you'll have to decide what you're going to do on your own.
/r/seduction05/01/26 01:24 AM
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I'm someone who removed like 95% of my approach anxiety. I usually feel it after I start talking to a girl and only for the first minute of the interaction, which is actually a good thing as it makes it more fun. It took me 2.5 months to overcome this hurdle, so I know how it feels too be unable to speak even though you desire it more than anything else in the world. I can help you out in exchange for your feedback. DM me and we'll start with analyzing your current situation and beliefs. Then we…
/r/seduction04/01/26 06:40 AM
1

Too nice. Read Daygame Mastery by Krauser
/r/seduction04/01/26 06:29 AM
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Offer value with your interactions. Lead on a journey of fun. Be sure that you're doing the right and normal thing when approaching her. Just approach and let yourself learn.
/r/seduction31/12/25 02:12 PM
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Why not find a stable younger girl? That's also possible if you look hard enough
/r/seduction30/12/25 08:02 PM
10

That's alright. Just become a guy who says hi to everyone. Second time you meet talk about the sets and the progress and then get back to your workout. Third time talk about the weekend. And so on and so forth. Be a socializer, that's the best way to warm approach in the gym. This way you're not going to the gym to date girls, no, you're talking to everyone. How cool is that? Pretty cool.
/r/seduction30/12/25 07:42 PM
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Look into a girl's eyes sexually (deadpan gaze) while she looks into your eyes and you'll feel the tension. That's basically it. Touching her, escalating kino while feeling the uncertainty of what's going to happen next will also have that feeling. But too much tension will break your fishing line and the fish will escape your rod, if you know what I mean. It's the same in fishing. Pull, project your desire onto her, but switch it up with pushing her away, make her laugh or talk about boring log…
/r/seduction30/12/25 07:39 PM
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Good job, but you jumped the gun. Gym is a long game kind of place. You should ask out girls after 4-5th time you talk and you get the feel of her. You can even find out if she has a boyfriend (an actual one) by taking about how she spent her weekend. Take your time with your warm approaches.
/r/seduction30/12/25 07:17 PM
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Therapy work. You can use ChatGPT to rewire your beliefs. If you have theater courses nearby, sign up for that. It will teach you how to be under attention without worry. And stop with the bullshit. You have values. Find them out. Again, use ChatGPT if you have to. It's a good therapist if you have the attention span.
/r/seduction30/12/25 07:08 PM
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Understand your values and what you like to do in your free time. Share insights and feelings about it. That's it. Take up space and attention of other people. It's allowed. If the other person gets unhooked and bored, change topic, talk about them. That's just the basics of a nice flow to the conversation.
/r/seduction30/12/25 11:05 AM
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They're unlikely to be your friends. Just people you sometimes hang out with. You think it's only the girls that you want to test? No, you test friends too. Invite them somewhere and see who shows up. Talk and see how they answer. Think who you want your friends to be, what qualities they must posses, etc. All very important stuff to think about.
/r/seduction30/12/25 11:01 AM
1

Focus on inner game, but talks to girls and empose your masculine presence onto them. It's quite fulfilling. Eye fuck them, make them feel you want them. I did that when I was dating a girl who I wanted to be exclusive with for a few months before we broke up.
/r/seduction29/12/25 03:11 PM
1

To motivate yourself to make money
/r/seduction29/12/25 01:25 PM
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Game is hard. You'll get the hang of it though, don't fret. Just keep going out and cheerlead yourself. No one cares about you in life, you know that, but as long as you can offer value, some girls will take you up on it. Just being a sexual man is a lot of value, so aim for that.
/r/seduction29/12/25 10:39 AM
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Grab her hair and press her to yourself, to the bed. Be careful with teeth to teeth contact though. Just be passionate and don't be afraid to do things you want to do. Always act out all your fantasies. Just ask her to let you know if it's too much and listen to her. If she does say no to something, move to other parts of her body or do a lighter action like nothing happened. Focus on teasing her. Hump her with your leg gently. Make her ride your bulge. Have fun. Two steps forward one step back …
/r/seduction28/12/25 01:52 PM
2

By realizing these opportunities are not scarce. There's way too many women reaching adulthood every year for you to ever come through all of them, even when talking about the best kinds of women.
/r/seduction28/12/25 01:47 PM
2

I stop escalating on red lights, which is a clear no, clear discomfort on her face. I keep escalating on green lights, which is when she's clearly attracted to me, and yellow lights, which is her not reciprocating, not showing me she's okay with it and yet there's no discomfort on her face and she doesn't show she's not okay with it through other non-verbal signals. My goal when escalating is my personal fun, being in my masculine, enjoying myself and my time. If there's no kino escalation, I fe…
/r/seduction28/12/25 01:45 PM
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Not what I was saying. And you're obviously not okay if you're still trying to improve, but can't admit it's on some aspect of your game. Why lie to yourself? Why protect your ego?
/r/seduction28/12/25 01:39 PM
1

You can say "can I come with you" but actually believe you're saying "I want you to come with me, let's go and have fun" and she's likely to get your true intention. You can show you're not needy by not reacting to her saying no and going for it again later. A lot of resistance that girls are showing is just token resistance and she actually wants you to try again.
/r/seduction28/12/25 11:45 AM
1

Failing is not bad, why are you clinging to success? The more you fail, the more you will learn and calibrate. Calibration is the goal, not anything else when you're not getting the results you want
/r/seduction28/12/25 11:33 AM
1

"I never escalate unless the vibe is right" is literally your own words. You're supposed to escalate and create vibe yourself
/r/seduction28/12/25 11:32 AM
3

Definitely an inner game issue. Do you feel disconnected to your masculine? Why is grinding against a woman creepy if she's reciprocative? Do you have a sexual intent towards women? Do you allow yourself to "hunt" for a woman and later sex her? How long do your sets last? Do you have an escalation plan that leads to a pull to your place after 2 hours of building comfort? Why do you hate entitlement? Are you okay with living the worst kind of life? Who told you you must suffer in life and get les…
/r/seduction28/12/25 07:14 AM
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You're overrelying on outer game. Height, really? Now the fact that you're not escalating is very bad. You must escalate kino or you lose before it started. Kino starts with heavy eye contact, practically eye fucking the girl for a few seconds and then going back to a smug or light genuine smile. She must feel you want her sexually for the spark to occur. Tease and flirt first, then build rapport and talk about logistics in-between all that. Find excuses to touch her. If she makes you laugh, tou…
/r/seduction28/12/25 07:02 AM
1

Like I said, most of the seduction is non-verbal. Don't try hard, just project desire non-verbally
/r/seduction27/12/25 11:26 AM
1

Beta behavior is never good. Boyfriend behavior is good when you want to be a boyfriend
/r/seduction27/12/25 11:24 AM
1

You can talk about completely innocent stuff as you eye fuck a girl and she will freaking get it. It's honestly impressive how easily they get what's going on. Girls love to be desired and eye contact is the biggest thing you can do to show that
/r/seduction27/12/25 08:10 AM
1

You can't get friend zoned if you escalate touch and eye fuck her from time to time. She will know you're not just friend material after that.
/r/seduction27/12/25 07:38 AM
1

You should learn how to just have fun with girls. Get those dates in, escalate touch, hug her, look into her eyes. Yeah, don't call it a date, there's honestly no need to (they always know that it is a date if you're together alone).
/r/seduction27/12/25 12:47 AM
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You're a man. She's a woman. And women love sex. It's really hard to understand for Nice guys, but if you just push sexually on her, you'll seduce her. Even if she says nothing. But don't forget about rapport and comfort building. Some women will want something more than sex, they want the connection and the whole range of feelings.
/r/seduction27/12/25 12:43 AM
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Experience..... Sadly lol They key is to stop thinking that your life is about relationships. It's not. It's about your life purpose. It's only once you put your life purpose in priority above everything else can you actually stop putting women on the pedestal. It's only when you're happy alone can you be happy in a relationship.
/r/seduction27/12/25 12:36 AM
1

It's not really cold approaching. It's being a nice guy who gets excited from being in a woman's company. It's really bad long term. It's also boring for women as they love to be desired in a respectful, tasteful way. Shifting this mindset and embracing your masculinity in order to become a sexual predator will yield way more fun than just interacting with girls. Especially to the girls once you calibrate your sexual intent. I don't know if you ever saw girls scream in fear joy when they saw the…
/r/seduction26/12/25 07:33 AM
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Girls love to talk about themselves. Prompt her to do that. Then tease her about stuff she says like she's your little sister. Make yourself laugh with what you say to her, just be respectful and classy about it since you're clueless at the moment. Rinse, repeat. When she shows or says something about her beauty, tell her that you want to press her to the wall and see what happens after you hold her like that for a bit. Keep showing sexual intent and draw pictures in her head of what you might d…
/r/seduction26/12/25 12:20 AM
2

Yeah, keep talking about the weather dude...
/r/seduction26/12/25 12:16 AM
1

Don't listen to the above too much, it's a stupid ChatGPT bot that knows nothing about game.
/r/seduction24/12/25 05:44 PM
1

Just take up on more jock activities, you will naturally get more masculine from that. Overall try to listen to your nature and do whatever it wants. Working out for yourself is a big one. The more you work out, the prettier the girls you'll be dating. And the ugly girls will fall off because they'll feel like they're not in your league.
/r/seduction24/12/25 05:42 PM
1

Gotta work on that. The more masculine you are, the more in tune with your masculine nature, the higher the score of the girl you can be dating. A lot of 10s date extremely masculine guys. Even if you combine both feminine and masculine aspects, it still works as long as you are really in tune with your desires. Just wanting her and going for it is enough. You are the fun experience, not your status, money or anything else. You are.
/r/seduction24/12/25 12:44 PM
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Probably 7 and higher and more sexually open ones. Tattoos, alt-dressed are a big tell of non-conformity, and what's more non-conformist than sex in the bathroom or ONS. You have to get over that anxiety and dance, really just turn off your head and dance. I always do it before stage performances, and it works with cold approaching and dates to get out of head space. Finally, I'd watch RSD Max The Natural course as it has a good overview on how to get a girl to your place in a smart way (by chec…
/r/seduction24/12/25 11:43 AM
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What kind of girls are you approaching? In your place I'd work on renting a cheap apartment in the center, but I'm guessing it's not cheap where you live at. I'd focus on hustling if that's what would limit me. Energy-wise you should be able to get energy from dancing. I'd try dancing for at least 10 minutes if I didn't feel energetic.
/r/seduction24/12/25 11:10 AM
0

When it hurts you to stay loyal to the girl you're dating even if she's the most awesome girl you've met. I'm not saying everyone is like that, but if you feel that way, that's one way to describe it. If someone really loves you, they will be able to accept you having other relationships, hookups, fwbs and so on. It requires a high self-esteem, NOT anxiously attached girl as your partner though.
/r/seduction23/12/25 05:06 PM
1

By not trying to game the profile too much. The profile is for pics to show your value as a man.
/r/seduction23/12/25 11:00 AM
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You're a man, do whatever you please. But get to the core of what pleases you. If it's having sex with her, then do so without guilt. If it's not that great, don't do it then. If you want to preserve yourself for your new partner, sure! Don't wanna be monogamous? Well, say it so that your new partner isn't going to be hurt by cheating. Just be your true self and learn to live with the consequences of that. I'm in an open relationship and I'll never go back to monogamy because it makes me feel li…
/r/seduction23/12/25 10:57 AM
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She's put you in the friend zone. I guess she liked the attention. It's not a bad thing tbh. You can invite her to go out with your friends, expand your social circle. The bigger your social circle, the more options you'll have for dating.
/r/seduction22/12/25 09:31 PM
1

Apathy. It's fixed with intent to get her number and escalating to a date. Apathy is an excuse. Always.
/r/seduction21/12/25 06:30 PM
3

You are focused on making her happy. Focus on making yourself happy.
/r/seduction21/12/25 05:57 PM
2

Reconnect with your masculinity and become a natural too
/r/seduction21/12/25 05:56 PM
3

Don't try to please her. Focus on pleasing yourself.
/r/seduction21/12/25 04:13 PM
2

Tell her you want to check out a place (that is near your home), drive there. After checking out that place, tell her you've got to get home for a bit, maybe to grab something or maybe to show her something. That's it. When you're home, offer tea, then turn on music and dance. Escalate touch. Kiss.
/r/seduction21/12/25 01:06 PM
2

Some girls don't need you to have at all, they need to feel like you're going somewhere where you'll have it all. Show that vibe and it's going to be okay
/r/seduction21/12/25 01:17 AM
5

Yikes. I'd never change being 5'5 to higher. It wouldn't even make you more attractive. Just shows you're insecure and don't love yourself, which is the opposite of attractive
/r/seduction20/12/25 03:00 PM
2

Prolonged eye contact, like really out of place prolonged eye contact. It's a sexual challenge. If he's not afraid, he'll take the bait
/r/seduction20/12/25 01:49 PM
34

She's there with you, stealthily on for anything you will do to her, yet you're not escalating.
/r/seduction19/12/25 04:58 PM
1

Well then you know what to do. Stop caring about what others think, don't explain yourself and just be your best real self.
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:25 AM
1

The fact that you care about what others say means you have a weak frame. Weak frame is really bad for game. Imagine a girl rejects you and you get all pissy like a baby boy. That's not how you act as a man.
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:17 AM
1

That's the right way to do it, but you sound extremely hurt and bitter, which is not the right way to be. Don't victimize yourself. That's the first step to becoming happy. Take responsibility and be in a good mood.
/r/seduction19/12/25 08:27 AM
2

From my experience: missing her so much that it hurts, giving her a genuine present (can be misinterpreted), wanting to see her too much. I heard even kissing her too long when you do the first kiss can feel needy. And treating sex as your happiness when she's the one who gets to enjoy your masculine energy is needy too.
/r/seduction19/12/25 12:06 AM
2

If you're not having fun, don't waste your time. Maximize your happiness. Why settle for anything less? If you're bored on a date at least escalate touch and enjoy the intimacy. Make it about your fun.
/r/seduction19/12/25 12:01 AM
2

Start with hugging, playing with her hair, back touching, then waist touching. Kiss and bite her neck first, it's somehow less intimate than lip kissing. Then go for the lip kisses. If you brought her home, focus on her. Dance, do trust exercises like looking each other in the eyes, listen to music, then hug, then escalate touch.
/r/seduction18/12/25 05:46 PM
5

Anywhere. Don't make excuses
/r/seduction18/12/25 07:56 AM
2

You are a sexual predator is another one. Really hard to reconnect with your masculinity for Nice Guys and accept and revel in the fact.
/r/seduction18/12/25 12:28 AM
2

I wouldn't, though I do like a brat in bed. But that can be roleplays and doesn't have to spill outside the bedroom. I'd say try it at least once. You'll know for sure afterwards.
/r/seduction17/12/25 07:50 PM
3

What's uncool about cold approaching exactly? Every girl I told about my ability to do it said it was cool that I'm above social anxiety.
/r/seduction17/12/25 07:40 PM
0

Fear of loss of freedom, not feeling ready for a relationship, inability to just have fun without thinking about the future, feeling like personal life is more important, etc. Personally, I'd never leave a person hanging and let them know I'm busy beforehand. But that requires being real too. Maybe you did too much banter and didn't spend time to build rapport by having genuine conversations. Maybe she felt like you're just fun and games and want to use her. It's difficult to tell without asking…
/r/seduction17/12/25 06:39 AM
0

My friend, this is called self-respect. Gtfo with your stupid ideas of abuse and shove it up your trunk
/r/seduction17/12/25 06:15 AM
1

It's not a shit test. She's pulling away due to some concerns about you and her. You should focus on other girls though.
/r/seduction17/12/25 06:13 AM
6

What's texting for if not for screening time wasters?
/r/seduction16/12/25 09:06 PM
2

Not negative feelings, but being a challenge, being able to push her away, then pull her, then push is very important in keeping attraction high. It's a good idea to limit your love and make it a scarce resource that is given only to those who do things you like.
/r/seduction16/12/25 09:03 PM
3

By putting yourself and your dreams first. Actualizing yourself socially.
/r/seduction15/12/25 09:40 PM
2

Women are visually abundant. You can just look at her and say stuff about her. They love talking about themselves (most people do). Preferably you'll do it extremely slowly and in a teasing way. If she looks like a chipmunk, you can say that and tease her. Look at her, approach, get her attention, give a statement of empathy (I know this is weird/unexpected), show intent (I wanted... To say... That... You look like...), tease her (like a chipmunk! You have these cute round cheeks when you smile)…
/r/seduction15/12/25 10:25 AM
1

You don't have fun talking to a girl? Seeing her reactions?
/r/seduction14/12/25 11:28 AM
4

Don't try to fill in the silences. That's a wrong attitude. Just look her in the eyes and let her break first and say something. She needs to be in your frame, not the other way around. You're not an entertainer. You're screening her for potential. Ask open-ended questions or assume something about her. Let her talk. You talking should gradually go down from 100% to 70-50% during the first 5-10 minutes of the conversation. Try reading Daygame Mastery by Krauser. It will help you out a lot once y…
/r/seduction14/12/25 10:14 AM
1

It will never happen for most men. The one is a belief system of Nice guys. Don't get me wrong, you can really love a girl. You can prefer being with her over every other woman in the world because she's awesome in some or every way. But put you in a proximity with another hot girl and you're going to end up attracted to her and think about fucking her. And that's normal, you're a man. However, you're also able to make choices and live with them. If your choice is to live out your masculine, fli…
/r/seduction14/12/25 08:38 AM
2

You're a man. It's part of your wiring. If your testosterone would be removed, you would stop. Now, how do you control yourself? By actually engaging in a fulfilling kind of sex with your partner (think hugs, dominating her, kissing, aftercare) AND by having an amazing life outside of sex (find stuff that you enjoy over sex, it's actually the only way to get above lust and harness your sexual energy) AND by having harmless fun like eye-fucking the girl and seeing her enjoy it (you still feel inv…
/r/seduction14/12/25 08:30 AM
1

Approaching must be outcome unattached.
/r/seduction14/12/25 08:23 AM
45

Women prefer men who put their dreams above everything else.
/r/seduction13/12/25 06:55 AM
3

You can find most of these books on zlibrary. Their Twitter has the correct non-scam link.
/r/seduction11/12/25 05:32 PM
2

A masculine jerk is more attractive than a love-bombing feminine nice guy.
/r/seduction11/12/25 05:14 PM
1

I have, I made her guess my age after 4 days of talking. So she already liked me and was attracted. I'm youthful, look 25 at most, feel 20. She didn't voice the concern about my age until about 15 days later. Once she did, she asked me why I'm talking to her. I just honestly answered that I don't care about her age and just like her because she's cool and acts more mature than what I'd expect from a girl her age. It's kind of like flipping this whole idea. It's not you who's older, it's her who'…
/r/seduction10/12/25 08:53 PM
1

Obviously. I don't find black girls attractive. So no matter what they did, I would never be into them.
/r/seduction10/12/25 02:27 PM
8

Events like dancing events. Anywhere where you can give positive feedback.
/r/seduction09/12/25 06:56 AM
1

It's not really an opener. An opener is about hooking her attention. You didn't hook her, then backed off using apathy and lack of attraction as an excuse. Obviously nothing to apologize for since you didn't bother her for more than that sentence. But it could be improved to at least delaying your opinion and making it more flirty and fun with the aim to hook. Speak really slowly. Ask a question instead of giving your words right away. Let your eye contact do some work as you unravel your opener…
/r/seduction08/12/25 11:43 PM
2

Well that's the thing, you won't learn that without focusing on that. But I'm slowly getting there. I love singing, so I'll focus on that for now and try to expand it in other realms of my life.
/r/seduction08/12/25 01:31 PM
1

I have worked on myself for nearly three years. Working on yourself doesn't fix your personal issues. It's a different beast entirely as I've realized.
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:18 AM
3

Look into her eyes a lot, in a smug way, in a genuine way, then sexually from time to time for a few seconds. Touch her more. Flirt.
/r/seduction07/12/25 09:58 PM
7

For me game just enhanced my boyfriend game and I fell in love with a really cool girl, she's amazing in every aspect, hard worker, she soothes me, and the way she kisses me... like I'm her most prized possession. Just remembering our intimacy makes me content, which never happened to me before. I do all these stupid mistakes with her too, sometimes I'll even be a little needy, and she still loves me. I don't know how... And this in turn makes me not want to game or cold approach, even though I …
/r/seduction07/12/25 09:44 PM
5

Do you move her often? Do you change locations? Do you talk about what you're going to do to her if you were alone? Do you take the leap of faith of saying let's go and check out some place (near your apartment) for a little bit? Do you invite her to come in for 5 minutes for tea/something you want to show her like a video of your performance or something like that? Once she's home you can be making out more and escalate further, two steps forward, one step back. Last leap of faith is taking off…
/r/seduction07/12/25 02:45 PM
2

That's the thing, you don't. The frame is that he's a try hard and a loser because of that. Actually strong men don't need to put others down to look good. You can even voice that as long as you believe in that. Push back through your attention and frame.
/r/seduction06/12/25 09:56 AM
6

Ask her how she is. Just talk to her and say sorry if it was too much. Tell her you find her really attractive, and that's why you're sometimes losing control with her. Tell her you're worried that you've overstepped some boundary of hers. I've also made a sexual joke to my current girlfriend that she didn't take well. So I just apologized and reassured her that I'll be more respectful in the future and showed that I care about her. That's it. Haven't fought about it since, we had sex, all is go…
/r/seduction06/12/25 08:32 AM
1

Sign up for acting classes
/r/seduction06/12/25 08:26 AM
27

The one that suits her face
/r/seduction06/12/25 12:06 AM
2

Be higher on the pedestal. That way you can still appreciate them and appreciate yourself at the same time.
/r/seduction05/12/25 06:21 PM
1

No, he was just enjoying himself, it wasn't about marketing
/r/seduction05/12/25 08:19 AM
3

Most of it was banned because Julian didn't know what the hell he was doing and what consequences it will have on the community as a whole as the Me Too movement gained more and more traction. What he did was quite stupid. If you do something like being extremely masculine and egotistical like Julien at least don't get caught saying it on camera... I think Denmo was also recently banned for recording a girl without consent, which shows that you've got to have a good understanding of which action…
/r/seduction04/12/25 11:51 PM
10

Try to accomplish things you always wanted or that you find cool. I've become a theater actor and it helped me score a 10 I'm dating now. Just do something you find cool that is also socially impressive. Perform on stage.
/r/seduction04/12/25 11:28 PM
1

This is a bot, ignore
/r/seduction04/12/25 11:22 PM
3

Same as usual. Give her a massage or touch her hands. Hug. Caress her back. Then make out. After making out, touch more and more intimate places. Two steps forward, one step back to make it more fun for her. Just make sure to take all responsibility so that she doesn't feel like it's her cheating but more like you're pushing hard and her unable to say no.
/r/seduction04/12/25 11:21 PM
2

Fix your lingering trauma of coming out of a 4 year relationship. No one wants your pain or neediness in the club, people come there to have fun.
/r/seduction04/12/25 10:49 AM
2

Dumb bot, you have no idea what you're talking about. Leave it to humans.
/r/seduction03/12/25 10:23 PM
5

You're not stuck on one person in this case, you're stuck in the past. You need to get back to the present and take responsibility for your own mood. You can't allow yourself to always go down in the mood spiral. You have to understand that you're the one responsible for going up the mood spiral. I'm currently 'stuck' on one person, but I'm happy about it. She's the most awesome girl I've ever been with. But it doesn't really hurt (except for when we're not together and I miss her, but that's ju…
/r/seduction03/12/25 03:42 PM
1

With intent. You've got to have intent in getting to know her, teasing her and getting smutty with her.
/r/seduction03/12/25 01:40 AM
5

clearly 5 is not enough, try 500 next time for a real motivational boost
/r/seduction02/12/25 04:22 PM
1

Guess how good a girl feels, hahaha
/r/seduction02/12/25 10:19 AM
8

Some girls just aren't into PIV until they know you better, especially if they're a virgin. But a good idea is to push your leg in between her legs while your hands are busy caressing her all over her body. This leg push is a key escalation moment and can start even when you're standing if you gently push her into the wall beforehand. If you're lying down, to the side of her, just touch her leg and make her wrap around your leg, then begin the slow and careful leg grind. It has to be kind of sec…
/r/seduction02/12/25 08:18 AM
8

Lots of things. Mostly the pain of not approaching after clearly understanding that she was interested through intensely locked eye contact. Or seeing a girl so beautiful that it just makes everything in me to want to approach. Or reading theory and watching courses, learning game, especially inner game and the basics. Or walking my cold approach route daily. Working on myself and being on stage evaporated most of my neediness and fear, and I became the prize, which helped immensely with underst…
/r/seduction02/12/25 03:00 AM
2

First 5 minutes it's going to be you talking 90% of the time. It's only in the following 5 minutes can you try to shift it to a 50-50 ratio IF she's hooked and interested in the conversation.
/r/seduction01/12/25 07:36 AM
21

Like attracts like. Hang out in the dancing center, dress the way they like. Except for masculine feminine polarity. In that sense you have to be really manly, yet young at heart.
/r/seduction30/11/25 11:57 PM
8

The most awesome lessons from there are how mood downward spiral and upward spiral work, And how to talk about anything, AND taking opportunities into your hands and actually moving your legs towards the girl even if it seems she walked away (you can still run up to her and push it towards a meeting).
/r/seduction30/11/25 07:53 PM
1

Have you no own opinion? Read and decide for yourself.
/r/seduction30/11/25 02:24 PM
3

Create a good route with a lot of girls walking by and walk it every day. Look women in the eyes with a slight smile. Lock eyes if it happens. Keep moving forward. Each locked eye contact is a signal for you to approach. The clearest of them all. Once you've had enough of those, it will be too painful not to approach anymore.
/r/seduction29/11/25 08:06 PM
22

Don't be jealous now.
/r/seduction28/11/25 10:06 AM
2

Any concern for the age gap is a shit test. It's not a problem for casual dating. It's just a way to see if you're insecure.
/r/seduction28/11/25 10:05 AM
3

I think stuff like paralympics are there for a reason. Lets you find other people like yourself and find yourself a suitable date.
/r/seduction28/11/25 12:57 AM
0

As many as you can.
/r/seduction27/11/25 07:03 AM
25

He's saying you should look at her sexually and that itself will trigger the advance towards sex.
/r/seduction27/11/25 07:02 AM
4

You approaching a woman isn't weird. It's natural. Your brain is fried with "niceness". Stop trying to be a good nice boy and realize that you are a man that wants women. And women love men who want them respectfully. Nothing weird about it.
/r/seduction26/11/25 11:53 PM
20

Why would it be weird? I wish I had a good role model who'd teach me seduction when I was younger and explained how social dynamics work. It'd save me years of suffering.
/r/seduction26/11/25 12:11 PM
1

Being the prize is key to destroying the neediness.
/r/seduction25/11/25 03:30 PM
0

I find it funny how uncalibrated you and all the other downvoters are. I clearly said "If she laughs and smiles and doesn't show disinterest or hurt". Keep being you though. See where that gets you.
/r/seduction25/11/25 01:58 PM
5

Don't be perfect, be real. Just do it.
/r/seduction25/11/25 11:39 AM
-37

Is the cut out of the group in the same room with us?
/r/seduction24/11/25 05:05 PM
-20

So get slapped! Then laugh and tickle her or slap her ass with a smug smile. Unless she's not showing clear signs of disinterest or hurt, but instead laughs and smiles, it's all just a playful game. Frame it as a game. Your job and the most important task as a man is to make it comfortable for yourself. Be in comfort with your own sexuality. Be 'the jerk' or more accurately be a testosteronized male. If you want to have sex with a girl, show it. Don't be dickless. You're not doing anyone any fav…
/r/seduction24/11/25 05:03 PM
-39

Say that she makes you horny if she does. Tease her about her boob size. Be crude if that's what you truly want to say. Don't deny yourself. It's better to be real than perfect.
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:18 PM
132

Be filterless. Say what you actually want to say. Even if it's going to be crude, it's better to flirt and then take a step back than be platonic.
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:09 PM
1

If you're not okay tolerating that, don't. Otherwise... It's your frame, your reality, your happiness. There's a comment here by no-grade-5057 which basically shows that she's looking for a provider chump. I'd say don't tolerate it.
/r/seduction24/11/25 03:52 PM
4

So settle for someone with lower standards? Why not? Oh yeah, they're probably not as great themselves. It's often a trade off and only you can know what's best for you.
/r/seduction24/11/25 02:54 PM
1

You don't sit until you've hooked her because you've ambushed her and she has nowhere to go. If you didn't hook her, you leave. Even better if your body language is to the side of her, not squared up, to put less pressure on her. However, you can pull her towards you and then sit in her spot too. That's a fun option to tease her with for a little bit.
/r/seduction24/11/25 02:53 PM
18

Workout, do dancing, wear tighter clothes, don't do lipfillers and stuff and instead focus on 'no makeup' makeup or just sexually appealing make up, act cute and do eye contact. The more different you can be each week the better as people are visual creatures.
/r/seduction24/11/25 01:05 PM
1

I'd add that ignoring a shit test is the best way to handle it. It's a test to phase you. If you just say "Yeah" and keep talking about what you want to be talking, keeping your frame, that will often make you pass the test. The biggest one is usually "Why are you talking to me?" Answering "Cause I find you attractive.., so what's that about..." is one way to handle it.
/r/seduction24/11/25 05:01 AM
2

This is totally hookless and value-taking. If you're very attractive it can work, but it's boring. In the beginning you should only be talking about the girl and that talking should have a frame of teasing. You put her in a box she doesn't want to be in and make her work on getting out of that box. After she's hooked and interested in the conversation, you turn into rapport building and begin slowly switching into her talking more and more by asking open ended questions until it reaches a 30-70 …
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:39 AM
4

Self-love. No more Mr Nice Guy is a good book to start this process
/r/seduction24/11/25 03:53 AM
3

That's not true at all unless you're okay being an orbiter
/r/seduction23/11/25 01:09 PM
2

Well, you've got to be able to clearly understand that there's literally no danger. Your mind made it up. And you'll have to go through every single limiting belief and override it with a positive one. Some examples that I did: - There's no danger and no one is going to hurt me. Women are harmless. Best they can usually do in case of rejection is say a polite thank you and tell you they have a boyfriend. - It's okay to not know what to say. Just having a general plan of teasing her and asking he…
/r/seduction23/11/25 08:37 AM
5

Krauser did it at 30 something, so I call bullshit on your assessment lol It's possible to change if it hurts enough
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:59 AM
3

Being Pakistani is not bad, some women have a kink for that, you just gotta find them. Other Pakistani girls are also going to be attracted to you, so that's an extremely huge pool of women to pick and choose from. As for your hair, think about going bald, styling it differently (look at how celebs do it and repeat their hair style) and getting an implant down the road if you'll still think it matters to you. Game is not easy, but it's also not impossible. The hardest thing about it is being fil…
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:56 AM
1

Having sexual activities with a partner (even just kissing) is actually fulfilling compared to porn and masturbation. Porn is for uncontrolled lust, it turns you into a slave and a victim, taking away your energy into the void. That's why you can be masturbating all day and never be satisfied. It's really bad for your future. Even the courtship process, talking to a woman a looking at her sexually as you talk to her from time to time is more fulfilling than masturbation.
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:45 AM
7

She was likely attracted, girls don't really make the first move otherwise.
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:25 AM
5

As a short guy, I'm very attractive. Not sure why you yourself have to believe otherwise, but suit yourself.
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:24 AM
1

What beliefs do you think stop you from actively engaging in hook ups? For example, I have a belief that cheapens paid sex so I never engaged in it. My only option then was to learn seduction and talking to girls. What are your beliefs that help you or stop you?
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:20 AM
342

Short guys get plenty attention from women. As for this girl, she was just attracted to you. Any kind of girl that's attracted to you is an untapped resource in that sense.
/r/seduction23/11/25 12:52 AM
3

Just go through every single one /s One thing is raising your standards. But it's best to have relationships outside of college as well (so at the same time).
/r/seduction22/11/25 09:38 PM
1

I'm currently dating a girl in a LTR. I'd say it depends on the girl. It's probably not that hard, most women a monogamous and would prefer a LTR.
/r/seduction22/11/25 08:22 AM
1

It ups your attractiveness if you gain some muscle. Don't have to be too buff. You also get more energy for said game, which is a nice benefit. It also helps your inner game if you feel proud about your muscles.
/r/seduction22/11/25 01:56 AM
33

They test you. Just tell them "I don't kiss and tell."
/r/seduction21/11/25 10:43 AM
1

Personally, I became the prize, then got admired, receiving lots of attention whereas before I was invisible. It made cold approaching much easier.
/r/seduction21/11/25 07:04 AM
1

You are threatening their worldview and thus survival. Best not do that.
/r/seduction19/11/25 08:14 PM
3

Two steps forward, one step back. Communicating about what you want to do. It's 'just the tip' kind of thing, except you actually do just the tip and pull away, building trust. It's all about trust.
/r/seduction19/11/25 02:29 PM
1

Pick up a hobby that allows you to perform on stage. It's quite helpful because you will talk to other people more and then desensitize yourself to being in the spotlight. You probably also have no idea what you're doing. Start small. Just walk your route and think how you'd open this girl, think what you'd say, how you'd stereotype her in order to make it amusing for yourself in order to hook her. Give 50 compliments. Complete the RSD Max Fearless program. Work on rewiring the beliefs that make…
/r/seduction19/11/25 06:18 AM
2

Actually, there can be. Your future and your self-improvement, if you care about that ;)
/r/seduction19/11/25 06:12 AM
1

By getting to the point where you know that you approaching the girl is a lucky day for her. Doesn't take too much of personal work, only about a year of active self-improvement and social accomplishments. I recommend the RSD Max Fearless program. It helped me get over the edge and take my first 50 leaps of faith.
/r/seduction18/11/25 07:34 AM
1

When the girl's receptive: surprise, big wide smile, giddy joy, laughs.
/r/seduction17/11/25 06:50 PM
7

So? They broke your frame. I think that was the real tragedy, your frame being this fragile.
/r/seduction17/11/25 02:57 PM
3

You're still afraid of rejection. You also feel like you're not good enough. Both are fixable. I did theatre acting in parallel to learning how to cold approach and it just melted approach anxiety because I began to: Feel good about myself due to evelated social worth, vocal skills and accomplishments. Got used to being in the spotlight, which taught me to control my anxious response (so no more anxious blinking or straining my face when talking to a girl) - girls love this ability, it makes you…
/r/seduction17/11/25 12:30 AM
1

Not what's written here. Daygame is practically hunting for sex. But you can only catch the type of girls that want to be caught. It starts with basic statements of empathy and then talking about the girl, trying to hook her. If she's hooked, that's when you subcommunicate your desire to have sex with her as you keep the small talk going. In this case it's fun for both parties.
/r/seduction16/11/25 07:17 PM
1

Ignore the negative parts of game, focus on the positive parts. Learn more about the up-ward spiral. There's a section about it in hotseat@home (RSD).
/r/seduction15/11/25 05:58 PM
2

Well, you gotta go out 1 hour earlier then. Getting to the hook point takes a minute or two, especially if the group is hostile.
/r/seduction14/11/25 05:07 PM
31

Befriend everyone before you make the move on the girl you like. Sometimes it will take more than a few minutes. It can take half an hour or more. You're not interested in splitting the group or hindering the fun of the group before that. Show you're not an enemy, but an ally. Once it's done, tell everyone you're taking the girl you're interested to talk for a minute. That's where you offer to exchange socials. OFFER, DO NOT ASK. You're not a beggar. You're of value. Get that through your head.
/r/seduction14/11/25 01:02 PM
1

Showing sexual intent might be scary, but it can also be exciting for a girl If you style yourself well and demonstrate higher value subtly. Giving a girl a fun experience is all she's usually asking.
/r/seduction14/11/25 12:57 PM
12

Wear sexy clothes at home with make up. Doesn't mean lingerie but normal clothes that are sexy. Work out. Do things at home, be a good partner. Live an interesting life, be busy and somewhat unavailable, i. e. out of the house more often. Learn about the basics of body seduction: eye contact, staring, playful giggles, bending over, shaking your ass slowly, showing your tongue, and so on. Don't give yourself away easily. Tease and flirt more. Style your hair. To tell the hard truth, attractivenes…
/r/seduction14/11/25 12:52 PM
1

Why do you need to approach her naturally? What's wrong with saying hi and asking what's up?
/r/seduction14/11/25 09:36 AM
18

Imo, this is not the best way to explain game. A good game is like a good song. It's fun to listen to. It's engaging. It has all these instruments playing in your head, the bass, the lead, the drums. You want to get sucked into it and sing along. You approaching the girls doesn't have to be the best song. It just has to be YOUR authentic song that combines the sexual intent, the push-pull, hot-cold, far-close, touch-notouch, voice, posture, etc. Play on the things that flip her attraction switch…
/r/seduction13/11/25 02:44 PM
1

Some girls never give any IOIs besides proximity and letting you open her. Push until you get the clear signs. Don't confess love or ask her out, just mention that you find her attractive and that she has nice hair or something along those lines. Put a dick between your legs on the map, so-to-speak. You can always offer her to come with you to some coffee shop or an outing of sorts.
/r/seduction13/11/25 02:27 PM
3

The question should be How do girls keep me? What's your value?
/r/seduction13/11/25 11:33 AM
1

I'm not religious. I think it just depends on how you feel afterwards. Remember, you're not the only type of mind in the world. I'm speaking for myself, you're speaking for yourself. If it works for you, great. I'm just saying that it doesn't for me, adding to the picture.
/r/seduction12/11/25 11:23 PM
1

I agree. You have to constantly keep yourself in check. You want to be on top of your game and keep teasing, push-pull, hot-cold, far-close, tell stories, keeping it interesting. Don't let yourself turn your conversations into factual exchange. This is true for short term relationships, but even more so for long term relationships. If the conversation is dry, it's your responsibility to change that. The spark isn't going to keep itself sparking. You have to hit the flint because you enjoy these …
/r/seduction12/11/25 11:21 PM
1

That's what you believe. I thought like this too, but then realized I prefer romance over empty sex, so I'd talk more and put in the effort to know the person. So for me your paradigm isn't true. But you believe whatever helps you survive. Your reality is your truth after all.
/r/seduction12/11/25 11:13 PM
1

It's not a bad phenomenon. It's a boyfriend type of game. It's not beta, just different, kind of like quality over quantity. You just need to understand what's best for you and go for it. You don't have to put down boyfriend game to engage in fuckboy game. Or you can do both. Whatever works best for you.
/r/seduction12/11/25 09:01 PM
0

The first step is to tell her "I'm going to X" or "I thought about going to X". Then you describe why, selling the idea and tell her that you would love to see her there with you. In any case, tease her about it. If she agrees, tease her. If she doesn't agree, tease her. Keep it fun and light. You can always give another offer later
/r/seduction12/11/25 02:33 PM
2

Don't ask, offer. I'd say waiting a few days is okay
/r/seduction12/11/25 07:04 AM
2

Direct approaches don't happen to me (unless online) cause I'm not in a position like you, but lots of indirect. Eye contact is key. But you have to hold your frame when you approach a staring girl. Some of them will immediately test you for congruence.
/r/seduction10/11/25 10:42 AM
1

You can use search. It's about getting the girl interested in you
/r/seduction08/11/25 10:41 AM
1

Sign up to a social hobby class. Any will do, acting is the best for game though. The more hobbies the better. Then talk about your hobbies. You'd benefit the most from understanding and practicing chain association and free association. It's talking non-stop by using a word from a previous sentence or from a wordthat comes from your subconsciousness. Here's an example (note that this will all be said in high energy, loud, fun kind of way): Oh, hey, nice to meet you. You look like kind of a doll…
/r/seduction07/11/25 08:11 PM
23

Be loud. Talk near her ear. Don't ask for the number before you've hooked her. Learn about the hook point.
/r/seduction07/11/25 07:58 PM
2

TONS of eye contact. Smile with your eyes and connect with her through eye contact. It sparks attraction. TIME. It takes a lot of time for her to get interested in you. Become a regular. Look for basic IOIs. TEASE AND FLIRT. You have to tease her, you have to talk to her each time you're there. Make her laugh, begin a teasing dynamic. DEMONSTRATE VALUE. Tell her about the events you're going to. INVITE. A non-chalant invite "Hey, actually, I have a ticket/+1/always wanted to visit that place/spo…
/r/seduction07/11/25 12:12 PM
1

It's not a secret that PUAs have the most rejection out of all categories of men. Sometimes nothing will work. The idea is to find someone who's at least okay with your presence, or better yet someone's who's giving out IOIs.
/r/seduction06/11/25 10:16 PM
2

You can watch more courses like Owen's hotseat @ home and RSD Max - Fearless. It's true that you need to understand that rejection is normal and that it doesn't reduce your value as a man. So what if every single woman will reject you? Wouldn't it be awesome to become someone who at least made a move? Someone who took control of his life into his own hands even if they got rejected? Surely that's better than walling in fear? I suggest you to give 5 compliments to women next time you go out. All …
/r/seduction06/11/25 01:25 PM
3

The lack of experience is not something you should worry about. Being sure in your intent - meeting a woman in a respectful way - will make it work just fine. To not be a creep, let the woman decide to reject you or to stay in the interaction. Shift the responsibility to her just a tiny bit as you do your best game. Become okay with rejection. Say this affirmation for 5 minutes every day: "I'm going to be okay no matter what happens. I'm going to approach no matter what happens." Now: What else …
/r/seduction06/11/25 12:17 PM
3

Why is getting rejected bad? Isn't that completely arbitrary if you get rejected when the person knows you for 10 seconds or a few minutes? What are your thoughts of doubt? What are you nervous about? List all of them.
/r/seduction06/11/25 11:02 AM
3

Why are you afraid to do the approach? What's stopping you?
/r/seduction06/11/25 10:51 AM
2

Oh, and singing. I can always sing on the streets loudly after a singing session, which makes me way more open socially. Take a cold shower before you go out too. Like fully cold water shower for 2-3 minutes. It will teach you to take leaps of faith which happen all the time when cold approaching.
/r/seduction06/11/25 12:08 AM
3

That's somewhat wrong. What you want to develop is not a general sequence, but your own kind of game. Your repertoire. My game is based on theater acting and theater exercises. It's very effective at bridging the trust and kino gaps. But it's also my own. I came up with it myself so it's very congruent to who I am. When I do it, I'm not gaming the girl, I share myself with her. I share my past, my stories. I lead her on an adventure. We dance. I demonstrate that I'm cool. This makes us come back…
/r/seduction06/11/25 12:04 AM
5

Giving some compliments or talking to friends.
/r/seduction05/11/25 08:55 PM
4

What kind of mindset do you think you need to have to behave like that? How much abundance, self-love, self-prioritizing would you need to have? How much value would your attention need to have for a girl?
/r/seduction05/11/25 08:51 AM
2

In social settings as a man attraction can be felt like a girl clinging on your hands, touching you, seeking to be with you, talking to you over everything else the girl can be doing. Tons of eye contact and smiles. When you touch her, she's okay with it. When you escalate touch too much, she might stop you, but she won't get upset at you for trying, which means you can just try again later. How do you get attractive? Become socially accomplished. Be on stage. Be cool.
/r/seduction04/11/25 02:27 PM
1

Some girls are okay with having two men: one a provider, one a hot guy to fuck. You fall into the second category with her. Avoid falling into the first one. Avoid making her feel judged too. She knows what she's doing. No reason to shame her for it. Either play along or ignore her.
/r/seduction04/11/25 11:13 AM
1

Got it, though I was talking more about the fact that you're so ready to pour every little part of your being into her and expect to get meaning and happiness out of it. It's an easy mistake to make, I did it myself, but all it does is lead you into your lower-self and into unhappiness. You forgive all kinds of small betrayals until it snowballs into a huge one, and then you hate the relationship and want to be out of it. That's why the most attractive thing you can do is to live your life purpo…
/r/seduction04/11/25 11:06 AM
3

Yep, if she's not fat yet, she will be. And I'm sorry to say that, but a girl getting fat ruins her attractiveness. When you'll finally wake up, you will think "how the hell did I end up with someone like that?"
/r/seduction04/11/25 09:10 AM
2

The problem is with you. You are the problem and the reason you feel like you do. Your low self-esteem made you cling to the first girl that showed minimal interest. It is, sadly, pathetic. You have to work on this and realize that you can't just fall in love and be ready to sacrifice yourself for someone who doesn't care about you. Presents are for someone who deserves it AFTER they made something for you. Did she do anything for you? Reach out to you? Touch you, kiss you, have sex with you? I …
/r/seduction04/11/25 09:05 AM
3

You must hook the girl before asking for her number. Educate yourself on hook point.
/r/seduction04/11/25 05:24 AM
1

Sometimes it does. It's pretty cool.
/r/seduction03/11/25 12:05 AM
0

Provide more value. Go to events, film it, take photos with girls, compliment them. Tell them you'll send them the photos in your socials, exchange your contact info, then slide into their DMs. Warm approaching is super easy like that. Then it's just the process of being flirty and fun, and you can pick who you'll talk to.
/r/seduction02/11/25 08:32 PM
9

You escalate, take two steps back when she stops you, escalate again. Have sex. Have the talk, explaining that you're a player, which will lead to a break-up. That's really all there is to it. Don't over invest if you don't see yourself with the girl.
/r/seduction02/11/25 01:04 PM
9

She'll write to you first She won't ask for your money and will be against receiving presents or being paid for She's okay with sexual escalation, being called sexy (when she deserves it), she's interested in smutty flirting Test the girls you're talking to! My girl who's a 10 writes to me as soon as she wakes up. That's a clear sign of her appreciation for me
/r/seduction02/11/25 08:45 AM
4

Be sexual, teasing, push and escalate often. The thing is that you can always back off and apologize if she doesn't like it. Backing off shows you're not a threat, you won't rape her, which makes her appreciate you. But if she does like it, you're going to seduce her and get to the first kiss, then first make out session, first sex. Learn to escalate on amber lights. More on that in Daygame Mastery by Krauzer.
/r/seduction02/11/25 08:41 AM
1

Even if you think you're a villain, women won't see you that way. Just do what the heart tells you. The right woman will value if you're attractive and high value. You don't have to compromise your core to be attractive and seductive.
/r/seduction28/10/25 11:53 AM
1

Improve your social status. The quickest way is to dress in a stylish way and act confidently. Get more acquaintances, know a lot of people. Show that you're capable of being her perfect type (if you are). Lead an interesting life, go out as much as you can and document that, post that on your socials. Be able to talk about things that happened to you in an interesting and exciting way. Be able to flirt and compliment in a genuine way. That's the gist of it. Finally, talk to lots of girls and do…
/r/seduction25/10/25 11:37 PM
1

Imo, stop trying to get them to text back. Be more valuable. If your time is more valuable than theirs they will text you naturally.
/r/seduction22/10/25 10:16 PM
1

Some girls just don't want to be kissed in public. The way you know is you either had some near sexual talks before or during the date OR she's going home with you, or both. You might not be having sex that day, but kissing and heavily petting all over her body is practically the same thing, just the tamer version of it. You know you'll get there, but you take it step by step and allow each other to bask in the sexual energy exchange. That's for shy girls. If the girl's not shy you'll know. She'…
/r/seduction22/10/25 10:07 PM
1

For sure. Polarities pull together.
/r/seduction21/10/25 06:32 PM
2

I go to another city for my 10, she's studying in the university. Make your life your own and work for it
/r/seduction21/10/25 02:11 PM
0

"We're so spontaneous, haha."
/r/seduction21/10/25 01:58 PM
1

If a girl doesn't awe me, she's not girlfriend material. A hookup at most. I'm over longterm relationships with anything less than 10s. It's just disrespectful to yourself and to your happiness. So focus on loving yourself. Think about what you deserve. You deserve the best. Why the hell not? Why not deserve the best? Why the hell not?
/r/seduction21/10/25 01:51 PM
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Understanding your demographics is quite important. Visit every major spot in your city and take mental notes on what kind of girls you meet there. For example, of you want a gothic coded girlfriend going to the malls as part of your routine will be key. I personally want a strong and a self-reliant girl, so I prefer girls who are on stage often. Visit these events and offer genuine value. Notice what's lacking and offer that without expecting anything in return.
/r/seduction21/10/25 08:54 AM
2

it's you, obviously. Romance is too good not to work for Also you not wanting a 10 speaks of your terrible self-esteem. If you're a 10, you have to fight for a 10. Otherwise you'll find yourself cheating on your 6.
/r/seduction21/10/25 08:43 AM
1

Give 30 compliments to women. Try out the Fearless program by RSD Max.
/r/seduction20/10/25 09:26 PM
1

You're wrong about your options. You should attend events and get to see the best girls out there. That's where you should approach, preferably indirectly. Besides, you need only 1 or 2 girls at a time to be fulfilled. The numbers game and self-improvement will get you there at some point.
/r/seduction20/10/25 09:23 PM
4

Age is not something that even comes to my mind when I'm talking to my girl tbh. She's just a person same as anyone else. Pretty and cute, yeah, but otherwise she loves my attention, and I love giving it to her. Just make sure you take care of her and her feelings and be honest about what you want to do with her. For me it's romance and getting to know her. For you it might be different. But be honest about it.
/r/seduction20/10/25 06:58 PM
1

Acting on stage in theatre. Although currently I'm not a player, but a very attractive man dating a really awesome girl. Book-wise, Models and The Truth. Best courses are Hotseat@home and Fearless and the Natural by RSD Max.
/r/seduction19/10/25 09:32 PM
3

I think it's when your base validation needs are satisfied and you begin working on your business
/r/seduction18/10/25 10:07 PM
2

You can't have no energy. You either suck the energy out or you give it to people. Try to radiate security, confidence, handsomeness, giddiness
/r/seduction18/10/25 10:05 PM
11

You are talking to a bot and letting it learn from you. Although it's inescapable and cannot be stopped.
/r/seduction17/10/25 01:26 PM
45

Stared at me for a few minutes without saying anything many times throughout the date. She did preface that with "Let me just look at you". It's weird and hot at the same time haha
/r/seduction15/10/25 10:35 PM
1

5 people is not a good sample size. It's a laughable amount. The girl will respond to you if she thinks you're better than all her other options. Or if she has no other options. If you're both, then you can bet she's writing to you first and responding as soon as she can.
/r/seduction15/10/25 03:32 PM
1

Yes! I'd even add that you mustn't tolerate boring topics and gently tell her you don't really care for it for this and that reason, tell something about yourself and shift to another topic that's of actual interest to you. And obviously hold hands with her as you talk to each other. Otherwise what's the point? How are you going to truly connect?
/r/seduction15/10/25 10:40 AM
3

It is! So happy hahah
/r/seduction15/10/25 10:36 AM
20

I've only began to get girls IRL once I quit porn.
/r/seduction14/10/25 11:41 PM
25

It's called being kind. Nice guy is a different term that's about pretending to be good to get sexual rewards. It's creepy and ugly, don't be like that. I'm kind at my core. Girls love me for being considerate. One girl even said she loved it the most about me. I love the slow seduction, though it's better called romance.
/r/seduction14/10/25 11:40 PM
2

You might be her sex friend. Or she might think that it's best she doesn't talk to you for some unknown reason. If she's touchy, she likes you. Everything else is done through in-person communication in her case.
/r/seduction14/10/25 09:40 AM
6

When you love bomb, you project your feelings onto a person who didn't earn them yet. Don't love bomb, give attention instead.
/r/seduction14/10/25 08:37 AM
1

Talk to another girl and tell her you're going bowling, then say, hey, actually, wanna come with me, I'll teach you a few tricks. But bowling isn't the most fun date imo. Better to go for a walk and visit some cafés spontaneously.
/r/seduction14/10/25 07:31 AM
1

Yeah, it's better to give a statement of empathy and acknowledge the weirdness of the situation. It shows your calibration and relaxes the girl a bit.
/r/seduction14/10/25 06:55 AM
1

if you do it like a creepy sex addict, it is, haha
/r/seduction14/10/25 06:54 AM
9

Personally, I've tested the way women open me with no sexual energy (spent with orgasms) and tons of sexual energy (2 weeks no orgasm). It felt like a 4x increase in women's interest in me. It's like they seek eye contact with you, turn heads and cling to your eyes for longer. Rarely, they'll even say hi to you or start a conversation with you first. It worked for me and the difference was so noticable I've just stopped needing to masturbate and can tell myself "nah, I'd rather have girls seek m…
/r/seduction13/10/25 08:45 PM
3

Try it. Women notice you and hold eye contact way more when you harness your sexual energy. It also teaches you how to be non-needy and stop being such a creepy sex addict. Once you learn how to enjoy yourself without orgasms, your life will turn around and you will get so much more action with the girls it's a day and night difference.
/r/seduction13/10/25 08:40 PM
0

I believe that this is a dumb take. Asking out a girl in front of her friends LACKS social calibration. If the friends are cheering her on and having fun, fine, do that. But what if they're jealous and going to hurt her with their words or actions later? Think about the girl's situation, get to know her friends, then pull her aside and only then ask her out.
/r/seduction13/10/25 08:38 PM
1

In short, tell her that you want to hug her. If you're in the car, invite her to go in the back seat. There hug her and let her head rest on your shoulders. Caress her and hold her hands. Touch her shoulders, back, legs, stomach. The rest is the same. Tell her you want her to bite your neck or tell her you want to bite her neck. The more slowly you do it, the better. Be gentle and just scratch her neck a bit with your upper teeth. Kiss and lick her skin in the area. Look her in the eyes and gaug…
/r/seduction13/10/25 06:55 AM
2

Escalate through kissing and touching her all over her body, gliding over her sensitive spots. If she puts hands to stop you, deescalate two steps back and keep kissing. Try again later. If she's still stopping you, deescalate and tell her you want to touch her chest. Slowly escalate over her clothes. If the girl's is shy, it will take a lot more time than with a woman who's used to something naughtier. Respect her and escalate slowly and through communication. Tell her how much you want her, te…
/r/seduction13/10/25 06:48 AM
6

Also, if a girl says "we're not having sex tonight", guess what she's thinking about. Having sex with you. She says this stuff unconsciously. This kind of shit test is practically built-in in her psyche. Your reaction will show her if you're a horny man with no empathy and social calibration or someone who doesn't care about sex and is non-needy. It tests if you're a taker or a giver. If you want to seduce a woman, be a giver. Be able to both escalate and deescalate. Girls love when you can both…
/r/seduction12/10/25 08:04 PM
20

It's just a shit test to see if you're a man who's okay with his sexuality. If you pretend to not have a dick, guess what will happen... She'll lose both respect and interest for you. In fact, you should test her back. Tell her that it's the first time you find a girl who's not okay with talking about sex. You can even ask her if she's been living under a rock, haha.
/r/seduction12/10/25 07:12 PM
1

This is women with dead bedrooms. It's benefitial, sure. You can also look at men who get a lot of female attention and emulate them, see what sticks.
/r/seduction12/10/25 01:10 PM
9

1-2 times per 2 weeks. You can have multiple dates a week if you know you won't have time for it later though. As for cheap dates, I date the kind of girls who are liberal like me so they prefer paying for themselves or they strongly prefer just walking in the city and being in my presence. So because of this I go through the maps and press favorite on the chill spots like cafés, museums, pool/bowling spots, stuff like that. This way I can invite the girl to go somewhere from anywhere in the cit…
/r/seduction11/10/25 11:59 AM
6

Take more action. Don't think stuff will fall into your lap. It's too rare to rely on.
/r/seduction10/10/25 10:23 PM
1

Compliments is the base of my flirting. You tell the girl what you admire about her. Then you tell her how much she drives you crazy and how you feel like you're losing control when you see her or think about her. All true obviously because you want her kissed and touched by you. Then whenever she tells you something you use her words to tease her. At the beginning never make it vulgar, keep it romance book level unless the girl initiates something vulgar/naughty herself. Banter is flirting ligh…
/r/seduction10/10/25 10:05 PM
28

"Haha, so you're an example lover then, huh?" It's usually an implication of something that's not really true. Overexaggeration: "Can you not go on without any examples? Do the examples make you bothered? Haha." Telling the opposite of the outcome you're looking for: "So you like examples? We're never talking again. Ugh!! Hahaha."
/r/seduction10/10/25 09:46 PM
3

I'd also add that not only are you able to escalate, you're also able to deescalate as sson as the girl shows resistance. You can always escalate again later, but deescalating is key to getting it on.
/r/seduction10/10/25 09:41 PM
1

Work on removing the self-rejection and you'll become a ladies man.
/r/seduction09/10/25 06:36 PM
1

He's got good game. I was naturally doing a lot of things he's talking about in his book and it definitely works. He explains how to lead on amber lights (when the girl isn't giving IOIs and IODs) and when the girl is stealthily into you, which is very useful to know when you're starting to date a lot. Obviously take his advice with a bit of scepticism. Dude was a rightwinger with a bit of hurt towards the white knights and stuff if you read his blogs. But his game skill is pretty good and works…
/r/seduction09/10/25 05:51 PM
1

Are you always like this? lmao Do you even understand conversations?.. Must I comment on all your examples? A little bit more leniency pls...
/r/seduction09/10/25 05:47 PM
1

Well yeah, you can't even talk or keep eye contact during cinema. It must be something that helps to connect more
/r/seduction09/10/25 03:55 PM
1

In progress
/r/seduction09/10/25 03:51 PM
1

Abundance mindset. Cold approaching. Being fulfilled outside of the relationships.
/r/seduction08/10/25 11:59 PM
1

You're right. Some girls just don't want to play bowling or pool, or stuff like that. You've got to prod them a bit and ask them what their best idea of a date is. Last one for me turned out to be the girl wanting to look me in the eyes and make me go mad for her. It's really situational.
/r/seduction08/10/25 10:00 PM
0

Daygame Mastery by Krauzer
/r/seduction08/10/25 09:47 PM
4

flirt and banter is the gist of it, eye contact is the spark
/r/seduction08/10/25 09:25 PM
19

Proximity and availability is the only thing that you can use in all situations. If the woman touches you, pays attention to you, laughs at things you say, you can tell there's some attraction there. Eye contact too. Today the girl in the bus was taking glances at me in an unnatural way: she had to face away from her group and pretend she's looking at something else to take a split second look at me when she turned her head back to the group. I turned my side to her and let her do that more ofte…
/r/seduction08/10/25 09:12 PM
3

Personally I always expect the relationship to end since I'm in in open relationship already. It takes some sifting through to find the right person for yourself. Keep on having fun, my man.
/r/seduction08/10/25 05:49 PM
1

It's the other things that give you confidence to approach, not the other way around.
/r/seduction08/10/25 07:45 AM
1

Yeah, girls can give a green, amber and red light. You stop when you see the red light and act on green and amber lights. Green is when she's super into you, amber is when she's allowing you to lead her without obvious interest, red is when she says stop, go away, makes a face of discomfort.
/r/seduction08/10/25 07:45 AM
1

That was sarcasm...
/r/seduction05/10/25 09:14 PM
1

Yes, every single person has 'read those book and subscribe on courses'. Duh.
/r/seduction05/10/25 09:04 PM
1

I love how you're hyper focused on the approach instead of the actual comfort building part, being interesting, having a good posture and being attractive...
/r/seduction05/10/25 03:18 PM
2

You start by doing your own research and picking and choosing ideas from each book and course you've finished. Daygame Mastery by Krauzer. RSD courses. Models by Mark Manson. Lots of practice and putting effort into living an awesome and highly engaging social life is a must as well.
/r/seduction05/10/25 09:04 AM
-1

You shouldn't masturbate at all and get pleasure from being able to control yourself
/r/seduction05/10/25 07:57 AM
0

Go through the RSD Max Fearless program. You can find it at vk com and telegram (in search) or on torrents
/r/seduction05/10/25 07:55 AM
1

Touch her. Talkative girls get my attention only if they comply with being touched. Could be even to hold hands, but if there's no body contact, it must be fixed. Usually I'll fix it on my own. I'll play with her. I'll lead her and escalate touch until we're hugging and kissing and heavily petting each other. But if she doesn't comply, I'll tell her that I need the hold hands to feel like everything's alright between us. If she's still there, you can keep pushing through the boundaries until you…
/r/seduction04/10/25 09:47 PM
1

Sit near. Lean in. Let your hands touch her body indirectly. Play with her. Playfully touch her hands, shoulders, the small of her back. You'll get the hang of it if you try those things.
/r/seduction03/10/25 07:05 PM
4

Beauty is common nowadays. Doesn't make her special. Her effort does. That's the actual sexy part about a girl: her style, her effort, her confidence. If you date a lot, you'll know it's true.
/r/seduction03/10/25 06:48 PM
-1

You don't need a course, you need experience. Flirting is banter. You can watch women banter in different clubs and classes. It's more about lightly making fun of someone than being smart about it. Flirting is just sexual in nature.
/r/seduction03/10/25 11:18 AM
38

A small percentage of men fear physical escalation and even take pride in not touching a girl. Don't be like that. Anecdotary, but I knew a girl for a few months. We both friendzoned each other, though I did demonstrate higher value to her a few times. Then one evening at a party I held hands with her, leading her in dance, whirling her a bit. Next time we meet, we hug and our hands linger like we're two lovers. It's honestly insane what a bit of body contact can spark in a woman (and yourself).
/r/seduction02/10/25 05:12 PM
17

Assume attraction.
/r/seduction01/10/25 09:24 PM
2

You will become more of your true self. If your true self is a loving and kind person, you'll be that. I recently let the girl know I'm not for longterm relationships and we broke up and decided to stick to being friends. I could use her for sex, but I don't need to and I don't want to. It sucks, but this is better than lying to yourself.
/r/seduction30/09/25 12:38 PM
1

I don't cause I'm better and faster than ChatGPT when it comes to dating convos. But I did use it for fun and practicing actual romance book writing.
/r/seduction29/09/25 08:25 PM
2

Like crazy. I can get aroused from intense eye contact easily. When a girl eyefucks me, it's the best thing, to be honest. Feels good to be wanted that badly. One girl I know can just stare at me for minutes without saying anything and it feels intimate and sexy yandere like lol Note that I'm not afraid of eye contact, seek it out and have fun with it. Last week I was looking at a girl with a smile, and she smiled back and kept starting, turning her head after me as we walked past each other. St…
/r/seduction29/09/25 08:13 PM
1

You're welcome, my man. Try to remember that being real is a true commodity these days. Everyone is lying to get something out of people. If you're real, you're providing a rare value: non-neediness and vulnerability. And you surely know girls love it when a strong and cool guy is vulnerable with them once in a while. Every romance book has that kind of episode where the male lead opens up to the heroine and makes her feel things.
/r/seduction29/09/25 07:55 PM
1

I'm talking to an amazing girl every day and reply whenever I can, sometimes instantly, sometimes later. Not sure why you believe you need to be unavailable for her to keep interest. You must be interesting to keep her interest. I do tons of stuff daily. Today I showed her my singing progress and she loved listening to me. I don't need to ghost her to keep her attracted. I can just show how cool I am. We're talking for a month already (long distance), and she's still as attracted, if not more. T…
/r/seduction29/09/25 06:48 PM
2

This girl was highly interested in me. I know because she wrote to me first often and gave me extremely obvious IOIs (touch, staring, closing proximity, and later leaping to hug me and trying to get alone with me). What I was talking about that she was hesitant to have sexual acts with me and I had to reassure her I'll be a gentleman and not overstep her boundaries. That was all she needed to let go and have fun. To answer your questions, some girls aren't capable of a "hell yes" because they're…
/r/seduction29/09/25 06:40 PM
2

Have fun. That's the point. Don't focus on the girls, focus on bringing in the fun and sharing values. Do uplifting challenges. Tell girls genuine compliments.
/r/seduction28/09/25 10:35 AM
5

Stop trying to get and start trying to give.
/r/seduction28/09/25 08:54 AM
1

I'm far from boring. But you are full of limiting beliefs that negatively affect your dating life. You're a classic nice guy, and your ego is hellbent on protecting that niceness.
/r/seduction28/09/25 08:46 AM
1

I don't know what you're looking for right now, but it might be you've burned through your karma in this area of your life. If you're feeling like you should work on your business or do more social accomplishments, go for it. Or if you want a girl to just want you for you, no game, try that. Just talk to her and converse. Find someone you'll find interesting and want to know more about.
/r/seduction28/09/25 08:44 AM
1

I do that. I show my real self and it helps to break that "fuck boy" impression I generally give off through my style and confidence. Girls always tell me "you're a mystery" exactly because I'm so much deeper than just a dick on two legs that they've expected to get. It's honestly hilarious to think about.
/r/seduction28/09/25 08:40 AM
19

Touch is key. I usually listen to the girl and lean in closer to her, keeping our bodies in contact. You've got to touch her to spark interest. You've got to play with her and have fun. You've got to tell stories and lead her on an adventure in her head. You're the one who can turn the mood flirty and sexual. Touch her, play with her, listen to her reactions and watch her indicators of interest. Tell her what she makes you feel. Escalate touch further and further. Gaze into her eyes and make her…
/r/seduction27/09/25 11:28 PM
1

If one woman verbally attacking you can stop you from living your best life and becoming your best self, you're a loser and might as well sit at home forever.
/r/seduction27/09/25 09:29 PM
2

Cold approaching gave me a ton of confidence for both cold approaching and social circle game. It's definitely useful. But half of my social attractiveness progress came from taking acting classes and being on stage.
/r/seduction27/09/25 09:27 PM
1

No one stops you form being a romantic. Just push for romance.
/r/seduction27/09/25 06:55 PM
5

For me: beautiful, independent, passionate, fun, feminine, light-hearted, young energy, kind, stylish, sexy, doesn't smoke or drink, doesn't have any negative beliefs or dogmas, left-leaning, adventurous, dresses up often, loves romance, loves sex, wants me for my best self, accepts my worst self. Currently dating an asian girl who's a 10, she's just incredible. She's probably not a perfect match for me, but romantically she's everything I wanted.
/r/seduction27/09/25 06:49 PM
1

It's projection. They're testing your frame. Stay firm on your view of the world. Doesn't matter what they say. What matters if what you think and say and do.
/r/seduction27/09/25 06:31 PM
10

I notice this in myself. When a girl was hesitant about going on a date with me (I didn't call it a date, just invited her to spend some time with me), I assured her we can just have fun without any desired outcome from my side. I did push at her, of course, but when she'd say no, I'd back off. Overall we'd been heavily petting each other for 1 hour or so in that 4 hour date. And tons of sexual staring from her side. It was nearly everything I wanted. What's funny though is this is the new norma…
/r/seduction27/09/25 06:18 PM
28

Very true, lube stops producing and they won't like it as much. Depends on the girl.
/r/seduction27/09/25 05:26 PM
1

It made me laugh, it's not bad for sure. Add a little something personal so that it doesn't read like a line from a book. For example, you can go through her profile and mention the wedding spot as her favorite location or something along those lines. Use her photos to make a bit personal. If she has a dog, mention the dog present at the wedding. Also fix the "we match" to "you match" or a smart girl will tease you about it and create a bit of trouble for you. I'd also remove the peach emoji for…
/r/seduction27/09/25 05:01 PM
2

You can start with romantic questions like "Would you rather watch the sunset or the sunrise?" Continue upping the heat with intimate questions "Would you rather get kissed or caressed?" Once enough comfort is built, you can ask things of sexual nature. "Would you rather kiss me or not?" and "Would you rather have sex in public or in the car?" Make sure it's got a fun vibe to it. The point is to have fun, not to interrogate her.
/r/seduction27/09/25 04:56 PM
2

Just read the best one from the internet. The ones I like are a bit out there. But friends to lovers or enemies to lovers trope is one I'd recommend looking into.
/r/seduction27/09/25 04:52 PM
6

Offer value to girls and they'll love spending time with you. Playfulness is key for that. Be playful and fun. Move her mood into a non-judgemental playful state. That's your purpose as a man. Use word games, questions like would you rather, truth or dare, and so on. Listen to her dreams and help her achieve them. Pay attention and be her TikTok recommendations page, but without the TikTok. Touch her, flirt with her, lead her. Read a few romance books. See what the guy is doing there. He's usual…
/r/seduction26/09/25 07:00 PM
9

Flirting, story telling, listening to her, playing games with her, making her feel the whole spectrum of emotions (good and bad).
/r/seduction26/09/25 06:54 PM
3

I personally love it. I don't depend on it, but I enjoy it nonetheless.
/r/seduction26/09/25 06:53 PM
1

Wrong question. How do I become attractive? How do I begin offering value to girls? How do I keep my composure? Ask better questions, get better results.
/r/seduction26/09/25 06:42 AM
1

At least use Instagram for that and cold DM then.
/r/seduction26/09/25 06:35 AM
1

Why date online when you can work on your attractiveness and cold approach?
/r/seduction26/09/25 12:32 AM
354

They offer value. Attention, validation, fun, sex.
/r/seduction25/09/25 09:03 PM
6

I love the Models book. But what helped me the most is taking up acting classes and working on becoming interesting. I style myself like I'm a dangerous and hot guy. When a girl shows interest herself, gaming is done on easy mode. To do that, work on being attractive and loving yourself. It's really refreshing when you can just show a little vulnerability and the girl sees through the style and enjoys your true self. Also, read smutty books. They're a game changer. I'm currently dating a 10 and …
/r/seduction25/09/25 07:05 PM
5

I love the Truth so much too. I used it together with chatgpt and Journaling to work through my trauma
/r/seduction25/09/25 06:57 PM
9

Show you're not needy by (metaphorically) pushing her away. It can be done at any point to spike her emotions. I always do that when a girl says something like "You're bad for me." I know, girl, I am. Yet we're still talking, and talking, and then we touch, and my hand is on her neck while she trembles haha
/r/seduction25/09/25 06:55 PM
2

It's easier for you because your game is attuned to it. 6-7s require a different kind of game to be employed compared to 8-10s. Don't do the stuff that gets you rejected outright, kind of obvious if you think about it. However, if they still think you're a fuck boy, lean into that. Whatever.
/r/seduction25/09/25 06:50 PM
1

Don't mention money, mention being a leader of other men. Don't mention money, mention being passionate about your life. Don't mention money, mention your social status. Don't mention money, mention your social accomplishments. If you don't want a golddigger, don't mention money. It's not important for casual dating.
/r/seduction24/09/25 07:01 PM
1

She stared at me, touched me and followed my lead. Her interest was very obvious. She trembled when I touched her which drove me quite mad. For her to become my girlfriend she'd have to work on her attractiveness and be cool, self-reliant and continue dressing up.
/r/seduction24/09/25 06:49 PM
-4

Yet he's sitting at a seduction subreddit. Find a new job
/r/seduction23/09/25 07:17 PM
5

do not push like the others have said. There are much simpler and gentler ways to do so. Get closer to her. Show her something or make her show you something on the phone. Make your hands touch her body (lean in and keep your hand near her so that she can feel body contact, it can be anywhere: her hands, her legs, her back, her ass, even her chest if it's just elbow contact and not active touching). Make short contact with the small of her back with your fingertips. Fix her hair and pat her head…
/r/seduction22/09/25 12:48 PM
1

No, you're just afraid of rejection. Go in it with the idea of allowing yourself to be rejected. To talk just focus on saying funny things and entertaining the girl. Guess stuff about her, ask open-ended questions. It's easy once you get the hang of it.
/r/seduction20/09/25 11:43 PM
1

Override them with positive cheerleading self-talk.
/r/seduction20/09/25 10:47 PM
2

Yeah, ofc
/r/seduction20/09/25 08:52 PM
2

Yeah, I was just saying I'm not going to spend time on someone I don't find attractive. Attractiveness being many factors besides beauty, which I can finally see as somewhat arbitrary.
/r/seduction20/09/25 08:38 PM
2

Haha, that's how I feel. She's awesome! Yeah, we've had our first conflict recently and we've talked it through. I've also finally learned that running away from conflict will only hurt me more, I've got to talk about it to let it go and be okay. So progress on that part as well, which makes me glad. I was always emotionally avoidant in the past. I'm 28, I feel like I've already had my midlife crisis. Had my ego die and had to find a new reason to live for. Lived as my past self for nearly two y…
/r/seduction20/09/25 08:10 PM
25

Yes, it wastes your energy and desire for life.
/r/seduction20/09/25 06:35 AM
2

I do and it's refreshing when it's returned. Way more fun and romantic when a girl appreciates it.
/r/seduction19/09/25 07:32 PM
1

Anything playful and fun that fits the current comfort level of kino.
/r/seduction17/09/25 06:57 AM
5

Well, that's great. But make sure you don't turn it into an interview. And keep the questions open-ended if you can. It's more fun when there's no structure. Unless you're playing a game like would you rather, then a bit of structure is nice (ask a question, explain your choice or tease hers, finalize the pick).
/r/seduction16/09/25 01:03 AM
12

Haha, anyway, listen, there was this thing I wanted to do, it's called scuba-climbing. It's when you wear a scuba suit and instead of diving you just go and climb a mountain. Do you think you'd be able to achieve this feat? What, you'd never want to? Yeah, I knew it, you're such a boring girl haha Do you understand what I'm showing to you here? Stop asking questions you don't want to hear answers to. Be playful and tell stories instead. Fun should always be the focus. The key to attraction, comf…
/r/seduction16/09/25 12:01 AM
2

Start indirect. Talk to everyone, befriend everyone, ignore her for the most part, then focus on her. This way you'll be able to say "Hey, I think I've neglecting you for a minute, let me just walk you to the cafeteria to talk to you a bit more." and offer her your hand or just nod with your head towards the exit and go.
/r/seduction15/09/25 11:23 PM
3

Don't be desperate, prepare to be rejected, but hope for the best. That's how you'll look non-needy
/r/seduction15/09/25 10:07 PM
42

Notice how this is just a belief and that it can be changed to "I can't imagine not talking to people, even strangers. Starting a conversation is so fun and easy for me."
/r/seduction15/09/25 12:14 PM
7

It's his coping mechanism. He uses apathy to protect his ego from hurting
/r/seduction15/09/25 12:13 PM
1

Girls who like you write to you first and remain open for dates. t's refreshing. And I'm talking about hot girls too.
/r/seduction15/09/25 08:40 AM
1

If you're highly valuable and still choose to go and change the world despite thinking about her all day, then maybe.
/r/seduction15/09/25 01:14 AM
0

Not really. It's mostly mood and attractiveness based.
/r/seduction14/09/25 06:34 PM
14

ahahah this is hilarious
/r/seduction14/09/25 09:03 AM
1

Not the case for me, but I get what you're saying. Thanks for the caution.
/r/seduction14/09/25 08:27 AM
2

I have a ton of experience with long distance so I know what I'm doing. Did mistakes too, love bombing is the biggest one, so if you don't love bomb, you're likely to keep her attracted. Plus I love to prolong the romance stage. It makes me feel so fulfilled, to be in this enamored state. If she ghosts, that's fine. But she's the one worrying I'll find her boring, she voiced it already. I just reassured her that it isn't the case, so I'm keeping my hand on the pulse. Before I started, I hated my…
/r/seduction13/09/25 07:31 PM
1

Bet
/r/seduction13/09/25 07:26 PM
2

I think that's if you don't test them, but I'll keep it in mind and be cautious, thanks. Tbh I'm not a perfect match for a monogamous girl either since I have some baggage from before I've changed and started actively working on myself, so it's definitely true in that regard.
/r/seduction13/09/25 11:29 AM
1

I'm prepared to let her go, after all there are other awesome girls out there. But yeah, I get it, some people think they don't deserve love. Sorry you had to deal with that. And thanks, you're a real bro!
/r/seduction13/09/25 11:28 AM
2

Got it, I'll report back once this time passes and will test her more as we go. Thanks for the warning.
/r/seduction13/09/25 08:36 AM
4

I get that, but I can proudly say I've tested her for mentals. She's the sweetest pea, kind girl. Not without a bite, but not harmful at all. Even when she's angry at shit life throws at her, she just takes a break and comes back refreshed instead of sitting in it. I guess that's why I'm asking as it feels like a total jackpot. I'm guessing the biggest possible red flag is she might be too easily attached, but even that is unlikely due to her hard working life style and the ability to switch fro…
/r/seduction13/09/25 02:41 AM
3

Knowing and embodying is different tbh.
/r/seduction13/09/25 12:02 AM
25

It's self-talk and framing. "It's completely okay to suck at things. All beginners suck at first. I don't have to pretend I'm someone I'm not. I'm a beginner. Let's just have fun. It's not a big deal."
/r/seduction13/09/25 12:00 AM
2

it's actually about ATTRACTING a woman, then building COMFORT, and only then SEDUCING her, in that order
/r/seduction12/09/25 11:38 PM
2

Start indirectly. Be playful. Ask more about herself through guessing and cold reading. If she has the time and is okay with you, she'll keep answering. At some point she'll become interested in you and ask questions. You can talk for a few days and once you see she's attracted, invite to go out. I can't say exactly how to do it. But the idea is to care about her more than sex or dating her. Just talking to her nonchalantly and self-amusing for your fun. Asking her questions about herself, stuff…
/r/seduction12/09/25 01:51 PM
1

Only you can decide that you'll become a new person for yourself. Nothing else. It's just a decision. In the moment decision to make it epic.
/r/seduction12/09/25 01:43 PM
1

It does. Keep being fun, banter, attract, build comfort, invite to go out somewhere
/r/seduction12/09/25 10:48 AM
1

fix your stutter. There is therapy that helps with that
/r/seduction12/09/25 08:42 AM
2

You're outcome attached. Stop being outcome attached.
/r/seduction12/09/25 08:29 AM
11

Also, a lot of approaches are done by terrible guys who lack calibration. If you're a green flag and your game is good, imagine how much more validating it feels for a girl if you approach her. I'm talking to a such an amazing girl right now and the way she compliments me shows how much she loves the attention from an actualized and social guy. Just be confident in yourself and put in the work.
/r/seduction10/09/25 11:43 PM
2

It surely works. But the girls it works on are usually low self-esteem. Ugh.
/r/seduction10/09/25 05:04 PM
2

Act like you're not interested in her. Don't give her any validation. Only give her validation when she's worked for it and make it fun for yourself. Escalate boldly, hug her, kiss her, have sex, etc. Otherwise this game she's playing is not worth your time.
/r/seduction10/09/25 02:03 PM
1

this strategy can backfire because if you go too direct, you can look needy, which is unattractive. Just depends on the guy's inner confidence tbh. If he's confident, he'll pull it off
/r/seduction10/09/25 01:43 PM
4

I wouldn't do that before building mutual attraction and comfort/rapport. But otherwise it's a great idea.
/r/seduction10/09/25 08:55 AM
1

Playfulness is key. Play with her. Come up with games. Introduce touch. Banter a lot. Tease her. Be non-needy. Come from a frame that she might be too old for you rather than the opposite. Act attractive (posture, low, slow speaking, smug smile). When she asked you, she basically made sure you're in. Be slow, but don't waste it. You can be confident she's into you just based on that.
/r/seduction10/09/25 08:51 AM
8

What worked for me was rewiring my limiting beliefs one by one, accomplishing things in life socially, working on my attractiveness, making it easy for myself to open girls through showing up to events, and watching RSD Max Fearless and doing the challenges in its program. Then reading the Models book, particularly the part about apathy and self-deception, to fix my fear of fear when cold approaching.
/r/seduction09/09/25 08:28 PM
9

I think he wants you, even called you a stud
/r/seduction09/09/25 06:35 PM
1

Don't listen to them, lead. Only listen when they're uncomfy
/r/seduction09/09/25 12:06 PM
1

Shouldn't take more than 1-1.5 years of daily work if you're doing it right! It goes by quite quickly in the last half of the journey. Keep a journal and write your thoughts down daily, work on rewiring your thoughts into positive ones
/r/seduction09/09/25 12:43 AM
2

It truly is the same. I was also having this problem, but then I listened to one of Julien's courses. Dude's a huge narcissist, but he understands the game on a grandmaster level, and he said "Practice with everyone. If you can game a 5, you can game a 10." Obviously, gaming a girl who's used to male attention and has her armor up is going to be tougher, you'll need to demonstrate you're higher value, maybe deploy some light negging, but otherwise once you've attracted her, it's the same thing a…
/r/seduction08/09/25 07:48 PM
2

It's called having a frame. It's actually a good thing if your frame is of confidence and respect and not being a psycho.
/r/seduction08/09/25 03:14 PM
1

Dancers, gymgoers. HOWEVER! You practice communication skills everywhere and with anyone. Don't be picky, or you'll miss out on the ones you want due to lack of practice.
/r/seduction08/09/25 03:13 PM
0

If you want, DM me, I'll help you unravel your negative beliefs they way I did once. I also felt inferior before I've decided to change. I'm very grounded in my own frame now, so approaching girls has become easy. Just this morning I saw a fit-looking girl and had no hesitation or fear when opening her. Her smile after giving her a genuine compliment was so giddily surprised. I have no problems getting this kind of experience because I know what to say, I know that I'm good enough or probably hi…
/r/seduction08/09/25 11:17 AM
13

Accomplish things in life socially. Be congruent to your true values. Realize your worth after you've done all that. And try to remember that being real is rare nowadays and that it's as valuable as being fun and playful. Combine both and you're gonna do great. You don't have to be better than other men. You just need to become your best self. That's what matters. That's what's attractive.
/r/seduction08/09/25 11:10 AM
1

Took me about 1.5 year to change from a schmuck to an attractive man. Don't rush it, work on it daily.
/r/seduction08/09/25 07:07 AM
6

What sucks is how much time it takes. But dancing is really fun and the girls who dance are by far the hottest I've seen. They're not just pretty models to look at, they're hard workers and potentially make good partners down the line.
/r/seduction08/09/25 07:06 AM
9

I mean, pulling a girl in and pressing bodies together can be exciting for a girl, doesn't matter what music is playing.
/r/seduction08/09/25 07:04 AM
2

It's definitely not outdated. It has some dogma which you can ignore, but otherwise it's a good overview of how one can game. I'm picking and choosing, you know, to build my own congruent type of game. Do the same.
/r/seduction08/09/25 06:08 AM
6

Free associating. Chain associating. Sharing myself. Playful frame. Teasing the girl. Understanding the Attract -> Build comfort -> Seduction stages.
/r/seduction08/09/25 06:05 AM
3

The Mystery method book has the answer, read it
/r/seduction07/09/25 03:40 PM
2

You don't tell, you assume she's attracted and approach
/r/seduction06/09/25 12:59 PM
19

They see you as an exotic trophy. Make your move. Tell them camera and hands off the merchandise.
/r/seduction06/09/25 11:50 AM
2

Ignore her, open another set, merge your set with hers. Keep validation away from her.
/r/seduction06/09/25 11:48 AM
2

Why did you ask for her number when you could've built comfort and dance with her? If she's hovering for 2 hours, that's 7200 seconds of opportunity you've wasted due to your own apathy. Always do things improve your game. You know you wanted to, otherwise it wouldn't bother you now. Don't think you're too good for somebody, it's just a self-deceiving way fear finds you to prevent your growth. You can always think that after you've too many sex buddies and have to pick and choose.
/r/seduction05/09/25 12:59 PM
2

Just depends on your calibration, her indicators of interest. You can watch infields to get a closer to direct experience, for example, from RSD.
/r/seduction05/09/25 12:45 PM
2

Yes, always, always, always. Lots of stories on here on how a guy makes out with the girl sexually before building comfort and makes her feel like a slut, which makes her stop making out and blocks further escalation to sex. There are basically three stages that lead to intimacy. Building attraction -> Building comfort -> Leading seduction. You attract by flipping a girl's attraction switches: look good and stylish, lead an awesome life, talk about things, feelings, paint pictures in your head a…
/r/seduction05/09/25 06:11 AM
1

You were lucky. Just take the initiative in your hands next time, tell her you want to see her pet, watch some video of yours together, etc (depends on logistics). Make sure that she doesn't feel slutty. Make up some excuse. Your job is to lead and take the responsibility for all that happens. This way the girl can rationalize it like "things just happened" and it's less stressful for her and more fun.
/r/seduction05/09/25 05:39 AM
2

Hopefully it's a mistake you'll learn from and only do once in your life lol
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:22 PM
2

Nah, just invite her on a date and then do the deed
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:14 PM
2

Creepiness in a case of a greeting date hug is mostly in the eye of the girl. If she's attracted, she'll hug you. Even if it's a bit wrong, she'll give you another chance. The key is to build comfort and escalate. You can always back off if she doesn't like it. That's what your eyes are for: to look at her reactions. But if you're talking about a case where you didn't establish any sort of rapport, didn't tease her before the date, that might be the real problem. What you're concerned is a situa…
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:12 PM
2

I won't. Did that ruin your day, little temper?
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:08 PM
3

Take your time. You can only be excited for some time. Sometimes it's better to prolong the pleasure of uncertainty. Ask logistics next time. It's a must as you can now clearly see. Invite her or ask if you can come with next time.
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:01 PM
6

Attraction and comfort come before seduction, you dumb-dumb.
/r/seduction04/09/25 11:43 AM
26

You have to be okay with touch. What you want to do is a simple and short hug. Hug lots of women. Women love to hug as a greeting. It will come to you quickly once you start. It's not rocket science. Open your arms and invite her to hug. Gently pull in for a second. Maybe touch the small of her back for a moment. Linger for a second and let go. Non-needy, but masculine. This hug is an opportunity to establish kino and escalate touch later. Don't waste it. It will become natural at some point.
/r/seduction04/09/25 11:40 AM
2

Indirect, always. Direct is for cold approaching. College is going to be all warm so indirect is a must. Remember, it's not about you surprising her and giving her validation. It's about you screening her and keeping validation just out of her reach and giving it out in small portions. You can always switch to direct after she shows you some indicators of interest. Also, transitioning to text game makes it easier if you're leading a social life and have things to demonstrate higher value.
/r/seduction04/09/25 05:22 AM
7

Eye contact, touching, offering to grab a coffee after work
/r/seduction02/09/25 04:34 PM
1

When it's neutral, assume she loves it. Some girls are just shy. Lead and be rewarded.
/r/seduction02/09/25 04:12 AM
1

You're making the same mistakes I did. You're looking for an outside permission to approach. What you've got to do is have an inner permission to approach. You must allow yourself to approach women to have any success. Work on getting it through your head that you're not doing anything bad. Write down all your limiting beliefs and rewire them one by one. Work on motivation, self-worth, self-love. Why not approach? Why the hell not feel good? Why the hell not connect? Who owns your life? Society …
/r/seduction01/09/25 10:43 AM
1

10 minutes? That is just hilarous. You won't stand out like that and she'll think you're a sore loser with no confidence. You have 3 seconds to approach. The exception is if she's going to be approached by a waiter, then you approach her right after. If the girl on the street just made eye contact and passed you, stop and call her out. Use your opener then. This is why it's important to walk slowly when doing game on the street: you can stop dead in your tracks and square up to her much easier.
/r/seduction31/08/25 10:14 PM
9

Out of 1+ year of living socially, I've seen just 1 guy doing daygame type routine (it was at night though). He was likely a natural because he was acting like an uncalibrated asshole who didn't understand that being friendly with a venue owner is important. The only people actually cold approaching in my city in Russia are bank salesmen and street photographers. One of the girls I know has complained that she was getting catcalled and then chased after by some dumb chumps during the day, but th…
/r/seduction31/08/25 09:56 PM
1

Build a lot of comfort before going sexual.
/r/seduction31/08/25 06:09 PM
2

What you're describing is case #2. It might be a majority like you're saying. Is that helpful to believe in? Not really. The idea is to get to the truth, not give up instantly. A woman will test how confident you are after approaching her and try to discard your advances out of habit. If she didn't, she'd have a swarm of men hovering around her constantly. Don't forget about that. It's more beneficial for a woman to tell a guy she's taken than to convince him she's not attracted to him. That wou…
/r/seduction30/08/25 10:45 PM
2

I just don't telegraph it without a reason for it. If a girl did something cool, I'll tell her that she's really cool. If she didn't do anything, I don't say anything. If I flirt, it's cocky funny and filterless. Mostly you've got to keep validation just slightly out of the girl's reach, otherwise she might lose interest.
/r/seduction30/08/25 07:57 PM
1

Have you read number 2? Reread if needed.
/r/seduction30/08/25 06:39 PM
1

I'm in the learning/calibration phase, so I'd stay and keep learning.
/r/seduction30/08/25 06:38 PM
60

From the Mystery Method book: BOYFRIENDS Nine times out of ten, when a woman says, “I have a boyfriend,” what this translates to is, “You just telegraphed too much interest.” It has nothing to do with whether she actually has a boyfriend. In fact, if she is attracted to you, she will often deliberately hide the boyfriend from you until after you have had sex with her. Whether she mentions him or not in no way proves that he actually exists — only that she had a motive to mention him. Some Reason…
/r/seduction29/08/25 09:38 PM
2

- you've got to be sure of yourself and understand it's not a big deal to just talk to someone - say something situationally observant, notice her style or something happening around you, or notice her confidence and tell her that it's weird but you got attracted to her confidence, then ask her how she got to this point in life where she can smile like that. Just be normal and keep the conversation going at first. Stop trying to get with somebody. Cold approach is done to introduce yourself, not…
/r/seduction28/08/25 09:59 AM
1

She misses you, so she opened a door to reconnect
/r/seduction28/08/25 09:55 AM
1

Most giddy experience?
/r/seduction28/08/25 09:31 AM
1

It's in no way simple. You're being childish and dismissive. It's a comfortable position, but in no way helps you understand seduction or social dynamics.
/r/seduction27/08/25 11:39 AM
0

Not how it works. Survival isn't about not listening to environment
/r/seduction27/08/25 07:41 AM
9

Usually other women and beta males.
/r/seduction27/08/25 12:13 AM
2

Eye contact is key. You can also wear something that sparks an easy conversation like a top with something written on it.
/r/seduction27/08/25 12:12 AM
1

It's possible by showing you lead a different kind of life, high status, know game, pass shit tests. But it's not worth it because you're going to be shit tested so much it's too tiresome and too disrespectful to yourself.
/r/seduction24/08/25 04:58 PM
2

Listen well and touch her (flirt physically) as she talks. Start with short small touches, then escalate into giving her a massage, play games, dare them to kiss you, show them how to kiss passionately. Just don't be upset if they back away, don't react to them pulling away. Just take 2 steps back and try again later.
/r/seduction22/08/25 02:49 PM
1

Depends on who she is. If she's a single mom with nothing much to give, why bother?
/r/seduction21/08/25 07:50 PM
1

The idea is to find what's fun for you. Learn to game yourself. I can talk to a girl as long as it's fun for me. Otherwise there's no motivation and I'm a active listener at best. For example, it's fun for me to tell a girl to marry me or to play with her, or to talk about things that I care about. It's fun for me to overcome that anxiety, to prove to myself that I can talk to anyone. Find what motivates you. It doesn't matter how the girl responds. If it's not fun for you, you shouldn't do it.
/r/seduction20/08/25 07:51 PM
1

5'5 here. A girl at a karaoke party last week told my good acquaintance that I'm her perfect type after seeing me sing Linkin Park. I dress Gothic, look amazing and perform passionately, so it's unsurprising that I'm attractive. I love my height because I can be on the same level as most girls in my country, and it's so easy to hold them, kiss them, look them in the eyes. I know I would hate to be taller.
/r/seduction20/08/25 06:28 PM
15

Don't be at home, find dopamine elsewhere. I've only beaten the addiction after I found joy in other things like interacting with people, especially girls, and working on projects I'm interested in like acting, dancing, singing.
/r/seduction19/08/25 12:15 PM
1

everyone does it after work 2 days per week at my centre. Find solutions, not excuses. Pick up isn't cold approaching, it's the whole sha-bang: learning through courses, deeply understanding theory, working on your mindset and rewiring your beliefs, focusing on self-improvement, living your best life, performing, and cold approaching.
/r/seduction18/08/25 08:55 PM
1

It's about being playful, not an idiot lol
/r/seduction18/08/25 08:53 PM
2

Having no filters, letting go of outcome, being vulnerable, being ready to lose it all and knowing that you'll be fine. Going to acting or improv classes will allow you to grow in this regard. And doing pick-up.
/r/seduction18/08/25 11:53 AM
0

Why do you care? What's the reason? There lies your answer.
/r/seduction18/08/25 08:39 AM
1

It's just a test to see if you can handle a rejection. You can draw pictures in her head by telling her stories of your stamina or by telling her she looks younger than her age. It's really just a way for a woman to see if you can hold your frame. It's the same if you're older than the girl. It's always tests to see if you're bullshitting her about being an alpha male.
/r/seduction17/08/25 11:23 PM
7

For strangers it's usually a dominance test and a show of interest. But sometimes it's just a game of dominance. Girls can't help but test you sometimes.
/r/seduction14/08/25 05:56 PM
1

If she's still there, she's at least somewhat interested.
/r/seduction14/08/25 12:30 PM
2

Be available, go out, show your high status non-chalantly. You will quickly find a hot gold digger. If you want someone to love you for you, test, test, test your partner until you'll find someone who doesn't care about money.
/r/seduction13/08/25 10:14 PM
1

Ask yourself why escalating sexually with a stranger doesn't feel right to you. That's going to be your blocking belief. Work on coming up with a new belief and making it something you truly believe in. It can be multiple beliefs too.
/r/seduction13/08/25 06:54 PM
1

Push away. Don't show interest, but show intent. Show you're not afraid of escalation, and that you love flirting. Most importantly, play. Find games to play and engage people with them.
/r/seduction13/08/25 03:09 PM
2

My girlfriend lied to me about getting a job for years. When I've had enough, I've realized I've been a Nice Guy to her and if I wasn't she would get a job because she'd have no choice but to do so.
/r/seduction11/08/25 10:39 AM
3

If a girl stares at you while you stare at her for longer than 5 seconds, she's attracted to you. Your job is to come up to her and say hi, and ask her what she's up to, maybe talk about your plans for the weekend. Just a chill flirty conversation.
/r/seduction07/08/25 02:52 PM
1

If you can up your skills and move to a big city, that would give you lots more options. What you want to do with your friend is very likely to backfire and feel like a betrayal for her.
/r/seduction06/08/25 07:31 PM
1

Well, fix that then. What are you doing with your life?
/r/seduction06/08/25 07:07 PM
1

Change your style and look in the mirror often. Put more mirrors near your work table. You've got to realize you've changed, and the best way to do so is to erase your old self and ingrain your new self into your memory. Record videos of yourself. Just make sure you finally realize that your new self is YOU. It's your mind that is being late to the party. So invite it and let yourself celebrate all your achievements. List them. Write your story from start to finish. Cry if you have to, but bury …
/r/seduction06/08/25 04:55 PM
0

There's literally hundreds of women outside. Walk through the main street of your city every day and see how many options you have. Don't disrespect the friend.
/r/seduction06/08/25 04:25 PM
5

Go and have fun dancing, raving
/r/seduction06/08/25 02:22 PM
12

Fear is always going to be there. It exists to make you alert. Fear is your friend: it shows where the growth is. What you want to learn is how to overcome that fear or act so quickly that your body won't be in time to initiate the heart rate increase / fear response. Complete The Fearless program by RSD Max. Watch others do it. Detachment from outcome. Let go of your ego. Be vulnerable. Realize no one's going to hurt you for approaching a girl. Practice hand clapping for a minute in public and …
/r/seduction05/08/25 09:50 PM
1

I'd tell you even more, but don't want to brag or get your hopes up too much lol Just gonna say that I'm in a play with a love scene where a lot of intimacy and touching is involved and my hand stays on the ass of my girl partner for a long while. It's honestly so rewarding and helps my pick up a lot because I have clear proof that women like me and my touch. I was recently thinking how normal this is for me now (a year ago I couldn't even imagine myself talking to a girl I saw on the street), h…
/r/seduction04/08/25 10:43 PM
1

It's supposed to be. It's loud to prevent talking and make you drink more. Clubs are designed to ruin your game. That's where your vocal cord training and physical flirting comes into priority.
/r/seduction04/08/25 10:35 PM
1

Social circles is quite easy, but you have to put in effort to get into the best social circles. Women will stare at you and be noticeably more available if they're interested in talking to you, so your move should just be to grab their socials and proceed with good and fun, playful text game. Then it's just dates, dates, sex, and so on.
/r/seduction04/08/25 10:32 PM
2

Free association practice, letting go of your filters, being unapologetically your(best)self. You can study the hotseat at home program for it.
/r/seduction04/08/25 10:29 PM
1

That's an insane take. I'm guessing you're a bot. I'm enlightened and the only thing it did for me in regards to women and social interactions is realizing that I want to master that aspect of my life. You don't need to be enlightened to dive into a lower consciousness activity. But it can be helpful to master it since you'll have a lot of awareness resource and better detachment from loss.
/r/seduction04/08/25 10:27 PM
1

Join some social clubs. If you have an acting club nearby, you must join it. It will yield you a ton of good things, I can promise that because acting classes are filled with women. That's where you'll practice talking to people and being yourself.
/r/seduction04/08/25 10:24 PM
18

*With a smug smile on your face and a playful aura about yourself
/r/seduction04/08/25 09:23 PM
1

I personally prefer the eye contact and other signs of attraction like playing with your hair in front of me, smiling, being flirty physically (the woman touching my hands or chest).
/r/seduction04/08/25 07:06 PM
1

Journal at the end of the day. Think about what went good, not so good, and what you'll try to do better next time.
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:30 AM
2

Becoming numb to rejection IS a social skill
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:28 AM
79

Roll your eyes at them when you look in the girl's eyes and laugh together with the girl. Don't ever fight or provoke, not worth it. Most importantly, control the frame and be non-needy while he makes a fool of himself.
/r/seduction31/07/25 07:05 PM
3

Yes, pickup is how you get out of depression. Look up downward spiral and how to get out of it. Owen Cook's hotseat at home covers it well
/r/seduction31/07/25 12:01 AM
2

I work from 4 pm to 2 am, so I just cold approach for instadates after I'm done with my hobbies in the morning. Plus if you meet a woman in the morning, she's likely to be available during any other morning, so connecting and planning a date is easier. But instant dating like grabbing a juice or ice cream together is better for good rapport building.
/r/seduction29/07/25 04:53 PM
2

Perfect daygame approach time is 11 AM. Night game lasts until 3-4 Am. It definitely fits into your schedule.
/r/seduction29/07/25 04:21 PM
6

The best foot forward has playfulness and self-amusement to the max. Playing with the girl is key to not care about leagues.
/r/seduction29/07/25 01:50 PM
0

I'd say get into shape because it takes a lot of mental strength. Learn theory and improve your mental health while you're at it. Shouldn't take more than half a year.
/r/seduction28/07/25 09:17 PM
2

If you think you'll regret it, you should approach. At the same time, game is hard, and it's okay to rest once in a while.
/r/seduction28/07/25 08:09 PM
3

It means you're doing it right. This is like a long foreplay. She gets wet from the fact that you have options and aren't looking to get anything out of her, from your alpha male frame. She wants to conquer you. Once you kiss her, tell her you're not having sex today. That will make her think about sex, go nuts, and it's going to be true to you since you push a lot. I hope you pull in time though, watch for the woman's arousal. It will eventually find its way to release, and it won't be with you…
/r/seduction27/07/25 09:36 PM
2

If you want to learn more about good sexual talking and about how to act arousing for a woman, read a few smut novels.
/r/seduction27/07/25 08:36 AM
6

If you're needy for a girlfriend, you will find an abusive girlfriend. Bad strategy. What you want to do is lead an amazing life and keep doing what you're doing. One of these hookups is bound to become your girlfriend. But pick and choose carefully. Test her before committing to a ltr.
/r/seduction26/07/25 11:30 PM
3

What's attractive for a woman is not just looks, it's the style of clothing, grooming, lifestyle, confidence, non-neediness, playfulness, conversation and flirting skills. Work on those. Work on becoming derpless, lose that victim mentality and become a winner. Once you're there, attracting girls will be much easier, because you're going to offer value, be it fun or realness. But this needy victim you're playing the role of right now is never going to attract anyone but an abuser of some sort.
/r/seduction25/07/25 09:04 PM
2

Offer value, plan hang outs and parties, make direct connections, listen and be fun.
/r/seduction25/07/25 09:03 AM
3

She already rejected you, read the room. And the IOIs. If you talk to her, just banter, banter, flirt and flirt. Maybe it's salvagable. But all in all you sound very needy, that's why you need to make sure you realize the abundance of options you have when it comes to women.
/r/seduction25/07/25 08:49 AM
99

Yes. Please realize how valuable realness is. It's extremely important with women, and it's nice if you show some respect to the people who read your stuff
/r/seduction25/07/25 12:43 AM
1

Play with them, flirt, banter. Tell exciting stories. Talk about your passions. Discuss things. Touch.
/r/seduction24/07/25 03:17 PM
3

Date other women
/r/seduction24/07/25 12:33 PM
3

That's a catch
/r/seduction24/07/25 12:50 AM
4

Override questions like "What should I say? Am I good enough?" and self-rejections like "She's busy. She doesn't want to talk." with positive self-talk like "I am sharing fun. I don't want to get anything from her, but it would be fun to talk to her, so let's go ahead and just talk." There's a lot of work to be done here because you need to write down all your negative beliefs and overcome them, all your negative thoughts and override them with positive ones. Finally, PLAY. Play with the girl! D…
/r/seduction23/07/25 07:52 PM
2

Turn off your mind. Be playful, aim to play.
/r/seduction23/07/25 03:30 PM
2

About 95% of women aren't going to find a relationship with you worth their time due to their own beliefs and history. The other 5% are what game is about. Work on yourself and find your worth outside of women. Then you will be able to come back and meet those 5% on non-needy terms.
/r/seduction16/01/25 01:49 PM
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