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| 2 | How to avoid getting friendzoned in talking stageYou get friendzoned when you don't express sexual desire with a girl that you are interested in and also when you start acting like an emotional support guy who is there to help her or make her feel understood, or when you act like a safe outlet for her to vent about her problems, or when you become sympathetic with her, or when you spend too much time texting and being on the phone talking with her, or when you start trying to push for a relationship and asking for clarity and reassurance from … | /r/seduction | 08/07/26 12:55 AM |
| 2 | I’m really confused too many mentorAgain, it's about what you want to do, more than about what works. What is it that you want to do if the outcome was the same? | /r/seduction | 04/07/26 04:34 PM |
| 1 | I’m really confused too many mentorThat's because seduction is an art, not a science. Everyone has a different style and all of them can work depending on their personalities. So instead of trying to find the right method, you can choose the one that resonates more with who you are or who you want to be. Because that's ultimately what seduction is about, it's not really about what type of man a particular woman wants, its more about what type of man you want to be regardless of what a woman wants. One day you will develop your ow… | /r/seduction | 04/07/26 03:50 PM |
| 2 | I feel invisible to womenThen stop expecting to get those signals and approach regardless. I approach women and get laid here and there, and even dated some, and none of them gave me signals or noticed me until i went straight to hit on them because they didn’t even see me coming until i was already in front of them starting the conversation. Stop comparing yourself to your friends and approach without signals. | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 03:25 PM |
| 17 | What does taking the lead look like to you?Someone who knows what he wants to do, someone who knows where he is going, someone who doesn’t ask her if she wants to do something and instead invites her to do something he wants to do and that he will do with or without her in case she doesn’t declines the invitation. A man who doesn’t treat her like she is his mom, and he is her son trying to obey her commands. Someone who doesn’t doubt himself or goes defensive just because she judges him or questions his actions, and instead reaffirms him… | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 02:58 PM |
| 6 | I feel invisible to womenThat’s because you expect them to be obvious or even take the initiative with you. You really want to stop being invisible? Stop looking for signs and approach them by giving yourself the permission to approach. Stop trying to do what women expect or what you think women want, and start doing what you want which is to approach them to get to know them, and don’t be apologetic about it if they question you. Your problem here is your pushover spineless attitude, mate. Not lack of signs of interest… | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 02:51 PM |
| 4 | My ex says she still has feelings for me but doesn’t want a relationship because she’s scared of getting hurt again. Am I being patient or just setting myself up for heartbreak?The mistake you are making is that you are being reactive, which is one of the first things you learn in the seduction community not to do. You are talking to her exclusively putting all your hopes and dreams in her, when you should be treating it as an option and exploring other options too. The solution to mixed signals is to keep your options open, talk to date multiple women at the same time, never remaining exclusive with one because she has not warned that exclusivity if she is inconsisten… | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 02:49 PM |
| 6 | How often do women approach you?Women don’t usually approach because the cultural expectation is that men will do it and also the biological imperative is that women tend to be more drawn to men who naturally take the initiative, over men who are passively waiting. You said it yourself, you have every advantage in the book and most women still won’t do it first. Some will occasionally, most won’t. | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 12:40 AM |
| 5 | How often do women approach you?Well, there is a difference between chasing which implies someone is running away from you, and taking the initiative to get to know someone. If you expect women to knock on your door and that has never happened you are not being wise. You are just missing out on life. | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 12:35 AM |
| 18 | How often do women approach you?I don't wait for women to approach me, i just approach women because i want to and because i can. I don't wait for life to work the way i wish it would and instead just adapt to the reality that i have to approach if i want anything to happen. Waiting for the women that i like to approach me is like waiting to win the lottery. I just approach and whatever happens I'm cool with it. The women i dated and slept with were women I approached first, if i did not take the initiative nothing would have … | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 12:18 AM |
| 4 | What about men appeals to women the way a woman’s body appeals to a man?Big triceps, wide shoulders, 6 pack abs. The V shape body basically. That and (blue/hazel/green) eyes. Plus 180cm+ height obviously. | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 08:23 PM |
| 0 | No bs answer where can I find all the information I need about game while practicing?You just need to read the book Daygame Code which has everything you need to know both in terms of conversational seductive skills and in terms of confidence and mindset to be more attractive. | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 12:03 PM |
| 1 | QuestionIf it’s important for each of the people in the relationship then it’s important, if it’s not important for each of the people in the relationship, then it’s not. | /r/seduction | 01/07/26 03:27 PM |
| 1 | QuestionThe fact that i know what i want, and don’t need a woman to tell me or signal to me what i should do to go for what i want as i lead from my own internal clarity of what i want and don’t want from women. | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 08:45 PM |
| 5 | Should I try something again?Are you desperate or something? Or why are you chasing breadcrumbs from a girl who has already unfollowed you and decided it wasn’t working? You really need to stop groveling yourself for women who aren’t saying fuck yes to you and look for women who are actually crazy about you. | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 05:40 PM |
| 2 | What is the best book for pick up artThe book "Daygame Code", here is an extract from the book: Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u … | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 04:57 PM |
| 14 | If i am talking to tall girls and if taller guys approach the same group and set, should i leave? Because clearly, women prefer taller guys and i think, i become a block between them. I feel girls might be upset with me because of that. They just don't show it on their face.Stop being a "mister nice guy". It's not your job to make sure women are never upset with you. | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Need help understanding this girl I met at a partyMaking a move in a party or a nightclub means you go for kissing and even sex that same night, not for a number or for a date some other day, mate. If she is not giving you “the look”, then you tell her directly that “you are trying so hard not to kiss her right now” and then go for it if she doesn’t pull back after hearing that, you don’t fucking hide that you want to kiss her, just because she doesn’t give you signals. | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 08:52 PM |
| 260 | Girl rejected me, still invites me to hang outYou are just making the classic mistake most guys in this sub make: being reactive as stated in this book. That the problem, always trying to decipher women like they are riddles, always needing a woman to lead you, instead of leading yourself from your own internal clarity of what you want. Why does a woman have to tell you what she wants for you to know what to do? Think about it? How come you don’t know what to do yourself on your own without her needing to say anything at all about what she … | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Kinda sad of women being rude straightup for no reason 22M.Either that or people would accuse them of being vague and giving mixed signals. | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 07:29 PM |
| 2 | What kind of guy get more girls?And who are you for real? Stoic or enthusiastic? | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 06:41 PM |
| 2 | What kind of guy get more girls?Look at you trying to be mister performative. The difference between you and James Bond is that James Bond would not be trying to be something he is not. He is not trying to be calm and collected because he thinks that's what women like. He is calm and collected even if women didn't like it. | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 02:53 PM |
| 39 | why many men feel uncomfortable with sparking sexual attraction in a woman especially if they like her?With other women you do it because you think they are easy to replace and don’t care much if you lose them. With the one you really like, you have the tendency to play it safe in order to not “lose” her. This happens because you prioritize the outcome so much that you put the filter on, and you no longer act authentic as a result. Instead, you act in a way that you think will guarantee that you win her over. Deep down you know that sexual desire has risks of it going wrong sometimes depending on… | /r/seduction | 28/06/26 11:12 PM |
| 22 | Do yall go out to just cold approach or does it just happen?Just a reminder that you don’t actually need people in general to do this for you to do it. If you go out just to practice thats perfectly fine simply because you say so. Period. Your actions don’t require social consensus or social approval to be valid on their own simply because you have the ultimate authority or do whatever you want to do. So if your question is “is it normal to do it” the answer it’s irrelevant whether it’s normal. You do things because you want to even if they are not norma… | /r/seduction | 28/06/26 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Is she (F22) playing a game or did I (M23) completely misread the signs?What you did wrong was that you became a close friend of her instead of just asking her out before becoming friends. Don’t do that if you want to date a girl. Don’t become her close friend if you want to date her and be direct from the start so that both of you are on the same page instead of trying to turn a friendship into a romance. Don’t do “friends first” as a bridge towards a romantic relationship. That’s the lesson you need to learn from this. | /r/seduction | 27/06/26 10:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with your buddies just pulling more than you ?By being mature and recognizing that you are not in a competition, that you don’t have to compete and that you don’t have to compare yourself to others. If you however do any of that, it’s because you want to, not because you have to. You accept the reality, you accept that other people have their results and you have your results, and just focus on enjoying what the results that you can get and thats it. Suffering for not doing as good as them is a waste of time. You already do this on other ar… | /r/seduction | 27/06/26 05:30 PM |
| 1 | How do i portray myself as non needy?I experience love and neediness, thats why i can tell the difference. The greeks at best defined neediness as mania, which was considered highly dysfunctional, a disease of the mind, and toxic. Not exactly good or sustainable and as such it can be dismissed. | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 06:30 PM |
| 1 | How do i portray myself as non needy?Neediness isnt any form of love, sorry. That’s why people don’t respond well to a needy partner. Because it aint love and the needy person is never able to recognize this. | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 06:26 PM |
| 1 | How do i portray myself as non needy?False. Being needy and love are inherently opposite things. Love is a selfless act, you prioritize the other person’s well being and happiness even if that means letting them go because they’d be happier without you and as such you don’t pressure them to stay or put obstacles, not make them feel guilty for it. Neediness on the other hand is selfish because the focus on what you need to keep your shit together, and letting them go without a fight to keep them is simply a no because your emotional… | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 06:22 PM |
| 1 | How do i portray myself as non needy?Love and neediness are not the same thing. | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 06:11 PM |
| 2 | How do i portray myself as non needy?Being needy happens when one of the following happens: 1- You begin to try to prove your worth or competency to the woman in order to win her over or get her. 2 - You are focused on not losing her because you’re just holding on to her out of fear of not finding someone else. Now, the way this translate to interactions is usually by you trying to brag about how great you are, how much you have to offer, and accepting "maybes" from girls as hope instead of going for "fuck yes" energy from girls. W… | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 01:49 PM |
| 2 | How do i portray myself as non needy?"I don't need this person" (true). "They need me" (wrong). The woman should not be needy, and you should not be needy neither. "I don't need this person to be happy with my life without them". That's what you need to be able to say. | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 12:25 PM |
| 1 | How do i portray myself as non needy?Being needy has nothing to do with having needs. Don't twist words to reach wrong conclusions or try to reframe "being needy" as a good thing because it's not. Having needs is fine and normal, on the other hand being needy has to do with acting desperate, and like your entire well being depends on a woman choosing to be with you or not leave you which is not fine and normal. | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Why are women so fucking entitled these days?Good so stick to meeting women in the real world and avoid dating apps. Most of the women on dating apps are probably bots anyways. | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 08:49 PM |
| 7 | Why are women so fucking entitled these days?For you to succeed with women, women need to change, huh. You can complain all they long about how women are soulless evil monsters that have come from the depths of the underworld with the sole purpose of ruining your happiness and well being. Or you can actually throw your phone and devices away and be involved in social activities where you meet real women face to face naturally. Do you like women? It seems like you don’t. And to me that seems to be because you assume women on the internet eq… | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Guys need help in analyzing situation with this girl (update) what are the lessons I can learn also why does this happen usually when I am trying to make things work/ happen in my dating lifeI told her I wanted to talk about the something similar that day you were rolled up in my bed I had an urge to kiss you like seriously but I couldn’t make myself as I didn’t know how you would react. Telling her this was a bad move because it only shows her that you are the kind of man who is hesitant and indecisive. Incapable of leading from your own internal clarity of what you want. This makes you less attractive in any woman’s eyes. Your other mistake was trying to force a relationship with … | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 02:21 PM |
| 1 | 34M. Experienced with dating. Met a girl I liked a lot & dropped other options. Then got dumped. What’s my mistake?The moment a woman feels you are sold on her, you stop being a mystery to her, you stop being interesting, and she loses interests in you. | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 12:45 PM |
| 41 | I (M26) hooked up with a girl (F28) twice over the weekend. When should I reach out again?Stop needing a woman to text you to feel confident in yourself. | /r/seduction | 24/06/26 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Is this a PUA subreddit?And who gave John Cooper the divine authority to dictate what other people should or should not engage with? | /r/seduction | 24/06/26 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Insane sexual tension during a cold approach, but now I’m being left on requested on IG. What happened?If the sexual tension is strong in person, you don't end the interaction with a contact exchange or a hug, you end with inviting her to some venue there where you flirt and kiss when she plays along your flirting, and then take her to place or a hostel nearby and have sex. Don't warm up the food if you are not gonna eat it when it's hot, because if you delay eating it, then it will inevitably get cold. You were not "played", you were just inexperienced enough to know that you should have gone fo… | /r/seduction | 23/06/26 09:26 PM |
| 5 | Feel like a creep trying streetgame or daygame- Women almost never seem to notice me when I’m out, like I’m completely invisible. That happens to the vast majority of people. Why? Because most people avoid paying too much attention to strangers on the public road. People tend to be thinking about their own issues, their own lives, their own task, etc... They are not walking outside thinking "will some stranger approach me today"? not because they are not open to the idea, but becasue simply they are not obsessed about that, as they have oth… | /r/seduction | 23/06/26 08:47 PM |
| 2 | If more people are meeting on dating apps but you don't make the cut, what should you do?The people who want to follow them, follow them. The people who don’t, don’t. Both are perfectly valid voluntary choices, but not obligatory duties. So it’s not about what people do or social norms it’s about what you want to do regardless of the “norm” or “societal standards”. Cuz those norms or standards only apply to those who want to abide by them, not to everyone. | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 06:16 PM |
| 7 | If more people are meeting on dating apps but you don't make the cut, what should you do?What "most dudes" do is irrelevant. A man doesn't do things because "most people" do those things, a man does things because he want to do those things regardless of what most people do | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Guys need help in analyzing the situation and what is up with this girlWhat’s happening here is that you are not listening. She is looking for something casual, that is not a negotiation, that is a clear statement that she is not interested in something romantic, serious and long-term; probably because she knows she won’t be there for long anyway. And instead of accepting the reality, you seem to be trying to force things to lead into a serious relationship. Your entire behavior is about trying to be a boyfriend, instead of what she is looking for which is a casual… | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 11:11 AM |
| 3 | Club gameDon’t go for numbers in the club. They won’t lead anywhere because women in clubs don’t really go there to see a guy again some other day, let alone a guy they only gave their number to. Either make out and smash, or you won’t see that girl again even if she gives you her number. | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 11:04 AM |
| 1 | What Do You Talk About When You Get A Woman’s NumberFirst you must have had a conversation in person, and i mean a real conversation. If you only approached a woman and asked straight away for the number without getting to know her in person properly, then your chances are pretty much over regardless of what you text. | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 11:03 AM |
| 7 | If more people are meeting on dating apps but you don't make the cut, what should you do?What i do and which works frequently for me is socializing with women in real life in places such us parties, weddings, networking events, social gatherings, libraries, gyms, large public parks, dance venues, beaches, organized group trips, book shops, large central train stations, airports, hostels, etc. I don’t use dating apps and yet i get laid here and there. | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 10:58 AM |
| 2 | I need some master helpWhen she declines, it means the “pursuit” is over. There is no further step after that because a rejection is not an obstacle to overcome, it’s a boundary that you respect or else you start being a harasser and she starts feeling creeped out and unsafe. So you move on and find someone who doesn’t decline. | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 09:16 AM |
| 1 | She slept with another guy quickly, but is taking things slower with me. How should I interpret that?- Would you make the hotel part of the plan beforehand and be upfront about it? Not really because even if she agreed to it beforehand, she can easily change her mind at any moment. So her agreeing beforehand is not a contractual obligation that she has to commit to from that point. So don't delude yourself into thinking that a woman will keep her word about that, if she suddenly changes her mind completely. - Am I putting too much weight on the fact that another guy got there faster, or is that… | /r/seduction | 18/06/26 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Field Report, women showing choosing signslsWhen you don’t lead and you let a woman lead, the result will typically play against you. Your mistake was just that; following her lead instead of your own. | /r/seduction | 18/06/26 12:21 PM |
| 2 | Would saying "I'm trying to talk to as many girls as possible" be bad or good for my dating life? (Social proof or just weird?)Sure, you are right. I just thought OP was actually referring to pre-selection even if he said social proof based on what he wrote in the rest of the post. | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 03:18 PM |
| 8 | Would saying "I'm trying to talk to as many girls as possible" be bad or good for my dating life? (Social proof or just weird?)Social proof doesn’t happen when you brag about talking to girls or telling women that you have access to girls. Social proof happens when women are the ones who brag about you publicly, when they show you off, when you mention it casually in a story in a way that you don’t put much emphasis on it, or when it doesn’t look like you are deliberately doing it on purpose, almost as if you kinda wanted to keep it private or remove it’s importance, but the inevitable truth comes out against your will,… | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 03:06 PM |
| 3 | My girlfriend accused me of cheating.You leave evidente behind actually. The person you cheat with or the people that she tells about her cheating can snitch. If your girlfriend said that its because someone told her | /r/seduction | 14/06/26 08:37 PM |
| 1 | What to message girl from social circle?You can say: "Thank you for your answer, just had to say how i felt and i hope we can continue to be friends : )" | /r/seduction | 14/06/26 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Relationship continuation:Is that really all that's important to you? That it lasts no matter what? Or that it's good while faith and destiny decides how long it has to last? Because you can easily make any woman stay long-term by being a people's pleaser and following the mantra of "happy wife, happy life" where you basically do everything she tells you. However, doing that tends to have negative consequences in the quality of the relationship, it can cause women to lose respect for u even if she stays, it can cause u t… | /r/seduction | 14/06/26 05:04 PM |
| 3 | What to message girl from social circle?A rejection is not what ruins a friendship with her or with mutual friends. What ruins the friendships is your reaction to her rejection. If you are mature, accept her word a final without trying to convince her to change her mind, or demanding justifications for her rejection and are chilled and casual about it, it doesn't ruin any friendship with her or with mutual friends. However if you act butt hurt, triggered, offended, demand explanations, try to insist, yell at her, insult her or whateve… | /r/seduction | 14/06/26 04:56 PM |
| 1 | How would I seduce my friend's sister? How would I even know if she's even interested?You find out if she is interested by hitting on her and she tells you. Everything else is always a guess. No amount of reading signals, of asking people, or anything will guarantee that you get the answer right until she herself declares it. Therefore trying to guess what she thinks of you is nothing but a tactic to avoid making a move unless you are certain that you can't lose, and in dating that's not happening. Nothing is ever guarantee in dating and in life to be frank. The only guarantee th… | /r/seduction | 14/06/26 11:57 AM |
| 12 | Why is persistence and chasing such a bad thing?There are no shoulds in dating. When people say don’t chase someone who has low interest, it’s more about asking yourself an important question, which is: Do you want a girl who says “fuck yes, i want to date you”or do you want a girl who gives you “breadcrumbs” and “maybes”? If you want a “fuck yes, then why do you settle for less? The best relationships tend to be the ones where the girl is actually excited and all over you and at least as interested as you are, if not more. When you chase how… | /r/seduction | 14/06/26 11:42 AM |
| 3 | Getting Back Into Cold Approach. Does It Get Easier?There was no connection that's why she turned down your invitation. Asking a bunch of question and then for a date is usually unlikely to work because it feels more like an interview where you hope to get a reward in the end, than an actual genuine connection where you two just clicked and enjoyed each other's time enough to justify seeing each other again. Be honest with yourself, you did not actually enjoy the interaction all that much because she did not actually participate in an engaging wa… | /r/seduction | 13/06/26 12:35 PM |
| 1 | How do I meet international people in my city when I am a local? I feel it is "strange". I am 33.And who says being weird (different and unique) is a bad thing? You are 33 years old and you are still trying to be normal (aka ordinary)? Come on man, you are not a kid anymore and this isnt school where your job is to be as ordinary as everyone else. If someone says you are so wierd, you don’t show shame about it, instead you say “fuck yeah i love being wierd” and as such the label can no longer be weaponized against you anymore because you reaffirmed yourself without being apologetic which sh… | /r/seduction | 12/06/26 10:44 PM |
| 1 | How can I save the gameYour mistake is that you seem to be making her the center of your life. It’s like she has become your mission, your entire life purpose and everything else you do in your life is secondary, while she is your main priority. That reality will inherently cause her to lose interest in you sooner or later. As a man you have to have more important things than her that naturally and for real take a priority over her. I mean you even say, that you are quickly available to text her, that can only happen … | /r/seduction | 12/06/26 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Why does seeing a girl with another guy completely change how I see her?Because a woman’s type is irrelevant. What matters is how the guy makes her feel. It’s like me saying i have type, sure i have it and yet i have dated girls who are way different than my type. | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 08:19 PM |
| 9 | Rank compliments for a woman ranked from safest to riskiest- you won't find success during day game going up to women and saying "nice ass girl". Depends on the girl, depends on the mood she has the moment you say it, depends on the guy saying it and his tone/delivery when saying it. | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Reconnecting with someone who initially rejected meWell when you negotiate for scraps and breadcrumbs, then scraps and breadcrumbs is all you get. | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Reconnecting with someone who initially rejected meYou are chasing breadcrumbs. Do you really want breadcrumbs? | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 04:02 PM |
| 2 | I'm getting better at seducing at the club or bar, but bad at followup / texting.Because it’s easier to give the number than having to reject someone face to face. Women can give the number out of pure courtesy, out of social pressure, or because in the moment they didn’t mind but then once they are more sober or the mood changes they change their mind and rationalize you are some random guy from the many randoms they meet every night A woman giving you a number is not a contract of permanent or long-term interest. It’s just a reflection of how they felt in the moment they g… | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 03:30 PM |
| 1 | So seduction isn’t real it’s a numbers game?There is more to dating and romance than just finding someone physically attractive. A girlfriend who is super hot, but who is a nagging bitch, controlling, insecure, always complaining, always arguing, always unwilling to have sex with you because of any bullshit excuse she comes up with, always flirting with other guys or fishing for their attention, always being awful to your parents or your friends, always disrespecting you, always trying to change you and acting bossy and abrasive... That's… | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 03:00 PM |
| 1 | So seduction isn’t real it’s a numbers game?Depends on each woman, it can be having good looks for some, it can also be being funny for others, for other women it can be being confident and having a strong unbending personality that the woman or society cant manipulate or change, for others it can be having status, for others it can be having money, it can be having a strong emotional connection for others… Different women can be attracted to different things, because they are not robots designed to all want the same things, just like we … | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 02:44 PM |
| 1 | So seduction isn’t real it’s a numbers game?Because the world is not actually divided by good guys or bad guys, thats a childish black and white way of perceiving the world. All of us have positive and negative qualities, and many of those positive anf negative qualities are not even universally good or bad. One sees arrogance as a flaw and a sign of being a bad guy, while another person can see that arrogance as a virtue and a sign of confidence because it’s subjective. Women are also not moral guardians that came from the underworld or … | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 02:32 PM |
| 2 | So seduction isn’t real it’s a numbers game?Seduction is not really about trying to get women to like you even if that can be a relevant consequence of it. Seduction is about what type of man you want to be, which is an often forgotten question many men forget to ask themselves. When you finally know who you are and what type of man you want to be, positive results with women follow. And when you don’t know who you are, or what type of man you wanna be, negative results with women follow. | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 11:25 AM |
| 2 | I'm getting better at seducing at the club or bar, but bad at followup / texting.What happens in the night club stays in the nightclub. Your problem is that you have this flawed expectation that women go there to meet guys they can continue seeing the following dates when in reality most girls go to the club just to have escapist short-term fun and that's it. They are not looking for a boyfriend or for a new fuck buddy they meet consistently after that night. They just go for super short-term fun, if they make out with a guy that's for that night and that's it. They don't ac… | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with getting choosing signals from intimidating girls?You still have so much to learn about what women are: humans, not achievements or symbols of your worth. Half of your problem comes from treating women like they are achievements to earn. Like they are some type of living trophy that is granted to those who do enough merits as a reward for their excellence and effort. Where the woman is both the prize and the arbiter of who deserves that prize. That means that when a woman likes you then you feel absolutely great, not because you love her, but r… | /r/seduction | 08/06/26 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with an anxious girlYou treat her the same way as any other girl because your personality must not depend on the type of person she is or the type of attachment style she has. You text her the way you want, not the way she wants, you say and do what you feel like, not what she expects. If she doesn't like your personality, you don't change it to please her because that's needy and ultimately the girl would lose respect for you and leave you anyways. Instead you let her go and find someone who naturally likes your p… | /r/seduction | 08/06/26 11:09 AM |
| 10 | how do you get over doing all the work?Because your value in her eyes is not high enough. If you were rich, handsome, famous, and an incredible good match, she'd put more effort naturally. But you are probably average like most guys and so women don't feel any rush to put that much effort unless they are somehow really in love with you for some reason because well it's not like they are missing out on much if it doesn't work out. | /r/seduction | 07/06/26 07:26 PM |
| 0 | How to know if a girl is interested at a bar?It's not a woman's job to indicate to you if she is interested, even if she is. Her only job is to accept or reject your move after you have made it without any guarantee of the result. Because nothing in life is guaranteed other than death so if you expect to make moves only when you know that the outcome you want is certain, sorry but you won't do well with girls then. | /r/seduction | 07/06/26 12:36 PM |
| 20 | What to do if I never get signals or cues?You don't approach a woman because she gives you signs, you approach a woman because you want to even if she doesn't give you any signs. What's at stake is not whether she is interested or not in you, what's truly at stake is what type of man you want to be. The type of man who goes for what he wants because his heart desires it? or the type of man who needs a woman to tell him what to do? You don't outsource your personal agency to a woman, it's not her job to indicate to you whether you should… | /r/seduction | 07/06/26 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Why is it always "maybe" with girls.- Why is it never a clear yes or no? For 3 main reasons. 1 - Cuz sex requires buildup of tension and anticipation for it to feel very good. Sex without tension buildup is like drinking a soda can that was open 24 hours ago instead of immediately after opening it or like watching a movie's end without seeing how the story unfolded before it got to the end. It's just not the same. 2 - Because women invest emotionally way more when having sex than guys. Her safety, her comfort level and trusting a … | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Shy nurse I asked out for coffee is giving me an answer tomorrow - Need advice on next move.You can get mad and downvote all you want, but down votes won't change the fact that its irrelevant why she did it and OP never asked why she did that (not that the question matters anyway as that's just overthinking). What matters is not what she did then but what she does now. Women are not puzzles or riddles to be solved. Coping is clinging to the past, instead of accepting the new reality and the reality doesn't care about your down votes. | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Shy nurse I asked out for coffee is giving me an answer tomorrow - Need advice on next move.The problem is you are being reactive with this mindset, you are essentially putting your life on hold for a woman who is not giving you what you really want. She is failing to meet your authentic desire of 100% interest from a woman and thus you settle for less than what you want. This already erodes your own self-respect because it means you are willing to negotiate for breadcrumbs already when the romantic relationship has not even began. A man with options and self-respect does not wait arou… | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 05:31 PM |
| -4 | Shy nurse I asked out for coffee is giving me an answer tomorrow - Need advice on next move.Women can change their mind at any time. When a woman is not giving you a "finally fuck yes of course", then that says it all. No man who respects himself wants a woman who is not truly as enthusiastic and as excited to go out with him as he is in her, unless he is desperate and is clinging to breadcrumbs.. The fact that she makes him wait, building unnecessary suspense, is a huge red flag and a big sign that nothing good is coming. | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 05:12 PM |
| 6 | Should I approach women who are checking me out?You don't approach a woman because she gives you signs, you approach a woman because you want her. What's at stake is not whether she likes you or doesn't or whether she wants to go on a date with you or not. What's truly at stake is what type of man you want to be regardless of the outcome. The type of man who goes for what he wants simply because he gives himself permission? Or the type of man that lets a woman tell him whether he can do what he can go for what he wants. Women even when they a… | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 05:09 PM |
| 6 | Shy nurse I asked out for coffee is giving me an answer tomorrow - Need advice on next move.When a woman doesn't give you an enthusiastic fuck yes, and instead tells you to wait, it means she is trying to figure out the nice way to tell you she is not interested without affecting the environment you both have to share together (in this case workplace, and the platonic and professional dynamic you had until that point. She is looking for the nicest way possible to reject you in order to not have an uncomfortable vibe with you after her rejection happens. | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 05:03 PM |
| 10 | Girls smell your insecurity BEFORE you open your mouthThey can spot it, but they get turned on by it. | /r/seduction | 31/05/26 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Best current PUA system? (Better than ToddV?)Let me know if you my system resonates with you, which i wrote in my book Daygame Code, here is an extract: Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what i… | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 11:13 AM |
| 1 | I seen a gym chick but got nervousYou are being reactive that's why you overthink. You don't make a move on a woman because you think she likes you, you make a move on a woman because you want her and that's all the reasons you need to go for it. It's not a man's job to read the mind of a woman, women are not riddles to decipher. They are not puzzles that you have to solve. What you do is to know what you want, to express directly what you want to her, and know what answer from her you want to get. And never settle for less than… | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 10:17 PM |
| 6 | ‘what do you do for work?’A children's tutor? ok just say: "I help kids build the confidence they need to unlock their own potential and succeed in their academic goals". Make it about the mission and how passionate you are about it in your tone of voice. And remember that a guy with a purpose is more interesting than a guy with a job, and that is also perceived when telling a woman what you do for a living. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 10:49 PM |
| 3 | What do you guys do when you propose a meeting and she will "let you know" if she can?Reactive men don't get laid. You are being reactive. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 10:42 PM |
| 2 | ‘what do you do for work?’Well, what is your job so we know how to say it in a way that doesn't sound like you are apologizing to women for it? | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Is the majority of good girls in a relationship?There is no such thing as good girls or bad girls as if it's a static archetype. There is only humans who sometimes do good things and sometimes might do bad things that you will not expect or see coming. That means that any guy here who thinks "my girl would never..." is deluding themselves because nothing is guaranteed in life other than death, even the most pure person in the world has the potential to go rogue at any moment when you least expect it. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 06:43 PM |
| 3 | What do you guys do when you propose a meeting and she will "let you know" if she can?That's reactive mindset which is repulsive to women. The question is what do you want? Do you want a girl who gives you "fuck yes" or do you want a girl who gives you "maybes"? Once you know what you want, you don't settle for less than what you want even if the girl is interested. In other words, you don't move on becasue you interpret that she must not be interested, you move on because even if she is interested, you don't want an interested girl who is only giving you "maybes"... You want a g… | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 06:40 PM |
| 4 | I hear dating is hard now? Why is that?Sure, being a reactive man means acting based on what women want, value, approve of, expect, or do, rather than acting based on what u want, value, or approve regardless of what women expect want or approve. It's basically what happens when you allow your actions be driven based on external factors, rather than ur own desires. It's an attitude where you don't take the initiative simply becasue you want to, and instead wait for singals from others to do something. You basically give control over … | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 12:05 PM |
| 2 | How do you manage roaster and how to deal with being caughtI never get caught because i never hide that i am seeing other people from them. I look for women who are on the same page as me about this and let go of those who are not on the same page about it. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 12:43 AM |
| 48 | I hear dating is hard now? Why is that?It's hard for most people because they are reactive, rather than proactive. The moment they stop being reactive, and become proactive and stoic instead, it will become easier for them. | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 10:06 PM |
| 28 | Got dumped after 4 dates - met on Hingejust because a woman is not compatible with you doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. You can’t and shouldn’t try to force compatibility that isnt naturally there. Your job is not to get a woman no matter what, your job is to filter women who deserve to be with you and let go of those women that don’t think they deserve to be with you. | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 06:31 PM |
| 3 | how often should you have sex?When you grow up one day, you will eventually realize that being weird or being normal is irrelevant, what matters is that you do what you want to do and to stop needing society to approve of your choice. So to answer your question, you have sec as much as you want to, and you stop needing people to give you a thumbs up for it. | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Age gap dating and the perception around itIt’s not your job to do what your friends want or what society wants, your job is to do what you want. The moment you do what other people believe you should do according to them, you are not longer a man that a woman you like will respect. You are a pushover who is always trying to please other people, and trying to conform to social norms and peopke who conform to social norms at the expense of what they actually want do not respect themselves and don’t deserve respect. And wothout respect wom… | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 03:14 PM |
| 6 | At a club/bar, does this mean anything?You don't make a move because you think she secretly wants you to. You make your move because you want to, regardless of what she secretly hopes. Her job is not to indicate to you whether you can make a move, her job is to either accept or reject your move once you have started to express it. So this question is not masculine at all because it's reactive instead of proactive, it's your reacting to her lead instead of leading things yourself. The man leads and the woman either follows his lead or… | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 11:55 PM |
| 6 | Best youtuber, coach, guide?As a dating coach myself, here is free tip. You won't truly succeed with girls until you understand that it's not your job to act because you think she likes you, but rather your job is to act simply because you want to without caring if she likes you or not. What's at stake with girls isn't her answer, what's at stake is what type of man you want to be. The one that needs a woman to tell him whether he can do something and go for what he wants, or the one who does what he wants because he gives… | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 02:25 PM |
| 1 | 35 and wasting my life awayAs a dating coach, i can tell you that you won't truly succeed with girls until you understand that it's not your job to act because you think she likes you, but rather your job is to act simply because you want to without caring if she likes you or not. What's at stake with girls isn't her answer, what's at stake is what type of man you want to be. The one that needs a woman to tell him whether he can do something and go for what he wants, or the one who does what he wants because he gives hims… | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 02:22 PM |
| 68 | Have a girl thats super into me, but I need to know how to keep her like this.You are thinking about this in a flawed way. It's not your job to make sure she doesn't leave you. That's reactive behavior which ironically makes it more likely that she leaves you. Your job is to be a man with purpose, his own goals, his own path and who doesn't put the girl at the center of his life, but instead treats her as a complement. You trying to make sure she doesn't leave you leads to approval-seeking performative behavior. You don't actually worry if a male friend gets bored with yo… | /r/seduction | 23/05/26 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Is this a shit test?No a woman telling you no, is not a shit test. It's a boundary. Also you don't really want to bte playing games like that. A woman who is mature and who is genuinely into you will not play games. And a man who knows what he wants from a woman such us honesty won't tolerate dishonesty like that. Cuz what a woman secretly wants is irrelevant, what matters is what you want. You don't try harder because you think that's what she wants,if you try harder it has to be because you want to try harder, re… | /r/seduction | 23/05/26 03:34 AM |
| 1 | How to flirt and close the date to ask them to come homebYour purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 11:47 PM |
| 2 | is it number game or lack of skills/frameIt's both. Training skills and luck. Nothing in life is inherently out of your complete control, and nothing is always inherently in your control. It's a mixed of both.. That's why there are books that can improve your skills, like Models, Mystery Method, Daygame Code and Mode One. They have the info you need to improve your seduction skills and they are all in Amazon, but you have to read them and not just ask randoms on reddit for quick tricks. | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 05:27 PM |
| 12 | What are the most distinctive signs of interest women show?You let opportunities pass because you make the mistake of being reactive. Once you start being proactive instead of reactive you don't miss any opportunity ever again in your entire life, becasue you are the one creating the opportunities when you want to. So signals of opportunities are 100% irrelevant when you finally become a proactive man. | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 05:07 PM |
| 2 | How are some men so successful with hookups or casual relationships?Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 21/05/26 09:57 PM |
| 10 | how much does your occupation/socioeconomic status matter when it comes to seduction?For actual dating as in being in a serious monogamous relationship, it matters significantly. For pure seduction and casual flings it doesn't matter at all because seduction is about making her feel the sexual tension and lust spontaneously in the heat of the moment and act on it on pure impulse, sometimes without even knowing each other's name depending on the context or place you meet her. But for dating it matters because when things are not hot, and you need to build something serious with s… | /r/seduction | 21/05/26 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Where can I practice cold approaches?The reason you do cold approach is not because it's normalize, you do them because you want to be the type of man who does what he wants, including approaching a woman that he likes, even if the rest of society doesn't fet it. So it's irrelevant if it's weird or not, because it's not your duty to be normal, or avoid being weird. What's relevant is doing what you want simply because you give yourself the authority to do whatever you want to. It's about empowerment and authenticity, it's about bei… | /r/seduction | 21/05/26 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Just wanna share how things going in GermanyYou have to get to now her and seduce her in the cold approach, not ask straight away for a number. That's what you do wrong. Asking straight away for numbers to hundreds of women is not seduction. It's jut playing the lottery. The country is irrelevant. | /r/seduction | 21/05/26 03:30 PM |
| 2 | My fucking luck. What do I do?You stop it when you understand that everything you do with girls is always the correct action for the simple fact that you say so, and what's done is done and now it's time to just own it and never go defensive with girls. When you stop needing to win a girl over. You shift your focus from "how do i get this girl to like me" to "i do what i want and what's done is done, if she likes it cool , if not also cool, take it or leave it". It's basically saying the equivalent of a girl scolding you lik… | /r/seduction | 19/05/26 11:33 AM |
| 2 | My fucking luck. What do I do?- I wanna text her and her casually just bring up the technical glitch that happened, or very very casually just send her a screenshot of it You don't have the right mindset here. There is no need to justify yourself, every time you feel the need to justify yourself all you are doing is being needy as in "please don't think badly of me, it wasn't my fault" or "i did not mean to just do x thing that i regret"... It's weak and almost desperate attempt to seek validation or not lose her approval. Y… | /r/seduction | 19/05/26 11:22 AM |
| 1 | What is the best response to rejection?Why is it so important for you that they don’t think you care when they reject you? Is it so important that a woman does not think your day got ruined? Why? “Yeah, I was interested, it didn’t work out, life goes on” is more powerful than bs like “I never cared anyway.” over-investing in what she thinks of your reaction keeps shows you still care even if you pretend not to. | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 07:37 PM |
| 1 | is confidence supposed to equal attraction?Think of it the opposite way. Insecurity destroys any attraction that is already there. So you really have no other choice than being confident, not because it will guarantee every woman likes you, but rather because it’s the bare minimum to not lose a woman who already does like you. | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 07:01 PM |
| 1 | How to stop negative self-talk in dating?Yo mate, look, it’s not your job to reject yourself before women do, thats their job. Your job is to ask them out not because you think they like you, but because you simply want to date them. So you do not ask a woman out because you predict she likes you, you ask her out because you want to. The actual stakes are not really “will she like me or will she not”… The real stakes are “what type of man do i want to be, the one who gives himself permission to go for what he wants, or the one who watc… | /r/seduction | 14/05/26 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Been trying to make plans with a girl for 3 weeks and has been very difficult.The question is what do you want? Do you want a girl who says fuck yes" and things actually happen, or do you want a girl who gives you "almosts" and "maybes"? See the problem when you try to overthink is that there is never an actual answer,every guess is just a story you are telling yourself trying to make sense of something and then it turns out that from her perspective the reality had nothing to do with any guess you could have made. There is a reason they are no telling you what they think… | /r/seduction | 12/05/26 12:10 AM |
| 5 | How can I tell if eye contact means interest or is just random?It’s not your job to predict outcomes or read minds, and it isn’t even her job to give you signals. Your job is to express explicitly to her what you want and her job is to either accept or reject your offer. That’s how the game is played. You don’t ask her out because you predict she wants you to, you ask her out because you want to. Any interpretation you makr about a woman’s behavior is just a story you are telling yourself, a guess that might or might not be reality. Ultimately it always com… | /r/seduction | 11/05/26 08:53 PM |
| 2 | I want casual but exclusive, she wants emotional connection. Is this doomed?If she has said she does not know what she wants, then she cannot have said that she does not want exclusivity. If she has not specifically said yet that she does not want exclusivity while being FWB then you ask her if that's ok with her. If she has already sad she would only agree to FWB on the condition that she is not exclusive then she has indeed clarified already what she wants to some extent. What happens if she reaffirms herself and tells you "No i don't want to be exclusive"? Do you jus… | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 12:29 AM |
| 1 | I want casual but exclusive, she wants emotional connection. Is this doomed?Why not find a woman who is naturally ok with your terms so that both of you win, instead of only you winning and the woman losing? If she has said she doesn't want exclusivity then you can't change people. You have to respect their autonomy and personal freedom. If you don't like it, then you look for someone else. | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 12:24 AM |
| 4 | I want casual but exclusive, she wants emotional connection. Is this doomed?- Then what the hell is this thread for? Oh this sub was just created to try to manipulate women into doing things they wouldn't genuinely feel like doing otherwise. But that doesn't mean i have to give advice on how to manipulate people into doing things they don't actually want to do. - If it was that easy, why not go to the pretties girl and ask for sex. If she says ok then great, if not move on? If by easy you mean easy to get the results that you want i was not talking about that. If by eas… | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 12:12 AM |
| 17 | I want casual but exclusive, she wants emotional connection. Is this doomed?You don't convince her, you ask if she is ok with that and if yes great, if not move on. | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 12:00 AM |
| 2 | Why do women in clubs are so unpredictible?The world works in unpredictable ways, so the only thing you need to understand about the world is that whatever you expect might or might not happen regardless of how much you try to predict things and that nothing is ever guaranteed in this world, other than death. | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 10:47 PM |
| 4 | Why do women in clubs are so unpredictible?Because that's what makes humans, human. Their unpredictability, otherwise we'd be soulless robots. It's not your job to predict people or to control outcomes. | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 08:08 PM |
| 0 | Is cold approaching as a 33m worth it?The defining factor is not your age, it's the fact that you say you are introverted, socially anxious and with little resilience. If you were extroverted, socially balanced, and with resilience then it would be worthy regardless of you being 33 or older. You might wanna try social circle game, or going to network events, parties, festivals, organized trips with other people, etc. | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 04:23 PM |
| 4 | How do I stop making assumptions about women I like?You make those assumptions because deep down you are scared of being rejected, so by making those assumptions you logically convince yourself that it's better not to approach in order to save yourself. So it's just a defense mechanism from your ego to avoid facing a girl telling you "not interested". That way the ego can say "well you did not get rejected, you simply didn't approach but if you would have approached maybe she would have liked you". So what you are doing is making assumptions for … | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 12:01 PM |
| 1 | I hear a lot of people spreading the idea that a lot of men are MISSING opportunities with women by not approaching. The reality is they aren'tYou get good at it by training, just like with any other activity that you are not initially good at. | /r/seduction | 08/05/26 06:56 PM |
| 1 | I hear a lot of people spreading the idea that a lot of men are MISSING opportunities with women by not approaching. The reality is they aren'tSome people will have success with it, some will not, as with everything else in life, because men are not a collective group of people who all share the exact same experiences and get the exact same results when they do one thing or another. Saying that everybody who cold approaches will succeed is just as daft and false as saying that everybody who cold approaches will fail. And this same phrase can be applied to literally anything for example entrepreneurship or university. Saying that everyo… | /r/seduction | 08/05/26 06:54 PM |
| 5 | Quiet confidence is cool, but you will still need to need to make the first move. You want to tell the story at your wedding about how she made the first move on you?! Lmao I hope not.I agree about the fact that you should go for who you want, simply because it’s empowering to do that. But the idea that you have to do it to avoid having to say at your wedding that she made the first move to me just sounds like it comes from insecurity. If a woman made the first love and it turns out that she was the one, then i wouldn’t have any problem at all telling people at my wedding that she was the one who made the first move and if someone tried to ridicule me or shame me (not as a jo… | /r/seduction | 08/05/26 01:19 AM |
| 1 | is not having instagram a red flag?No, it’s just a preference. Another woman can easily say she won’t take a guy with instagram seriously. Because each woman is different, so what someone likes or doesn’t like speaks for themselves only, not for every other women out there. Also, it’s helpful to learn that red flags are not universal. Peopme always like to speak as if their preference is a rule but it’s not beber will be. What you call red flags another person can call it green flag, and neither is right or wrong because it’s jus… | /r/seduction | 08/05/26 01:11 AM |
| 11 | How to not get playedYou can only get played when you don't do things because you want to them regardless of what the other person does, but because you think you should or are dependent of her. The moment you understand that everything you do is because you want to and that you always do things at your own risk, not because someone forced you with a gun to do it, you can't get played because you had already made peace that what you do is because you wanted to do that regardless of any outcome. It's basically attach… | /r/seduction | 08/05/26 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Why are you in a situation where cold approach is your primary way to meet potential partners?People can both attend events and meeting people through social circle, and also do cold approach as a side hobby or when they see a girl somewhere that they wouldn't have any other chance to meet than just that moment where they saw her. So there is not need to choose one or the other, people can do both. | /r/seduction | 07/05/26 04:29 PM |
| 8 | Ghosted after a hookupYou can do everything right and the other person still lose interest for the simple fact that not everything is under our control. Part of the outcome depends on our actions, and another part of the outcome depends on her mood, external circumstances, other guys she might be talking to, external influences, shifting preferences and priorities, etc. | /r/seduction | 06/05/26 11:43 PM |
| 5 | How long does it take a woman to decide that she wants to have sex with you?Seduction ain’t a math equation. It can take 5 mins right there on the spot in public if you are in the appropriate place, at the right time, with the right girl in the right mood, or it can take months if you are playing the long game. | /r/seduction | 06/05/26 06:08 PM |
| 2 | How do you get over oneitis?If you know a girl for just 10 days or less and you immediately say "wow this girl is the ideal girlfriend" then that's a sign of low maturity on your part. You don't know this person, you are just projecting a fantasy on them of who you think they are. You see only positive things, but no flaws at all. Then once you've spent enough time with her and the initial honeymoon period ends, you start seeing things that you don't actually like or feel comfortable with, things that were actually there f… | /r/seduction | 06/05/26 12:07 AM |
| 52 | How do you know if she’s interested?It's not your job to guess or interpret if she is interested. your job is to communicate what you want, and know the type of answer that you wish to receive after you communicate what you want. And walk away if the answer you receive is not the one you were looking for. | /r/seduction | 05/05/26 11:10 PM |
| 26 | Fellas. Hard situation. I've never seen anything like this before.You don't seem to understand that not everyone you like has to want to be with you even if they liked you. This is no longer about authentic connection, this is about you and your ego refusing to accept that someone could not possibly want to be with you and so you have to intervene and change that reality. It's basically a power trip for you, it's "i must have her, i must win, i must bend things to my own will, i must have control over this and get the outcome no matter what". It's all ego. It'… | /r/seduction | 05/05/26 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Daygame approachingSo if you want to seduce women then the goal of your approach is not to leave with her number to call her some other day, it's to leave with the woman right there on the spot and take her back to your place and have sex the same day you meet her or at the very least kiss. So your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invit… | /r/seduction | 04/05/26 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Daygame approachingFirst we need to know one thing: Are you trying to get numbers or are you trying to seduce women? Pick one. | /r/seduction | 04/05/26 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Should I focus on a physical glow up (aka gym and diet) or focus more on social skills?You have to do both as they are just as important. So it’s a false dilemma. It’s like asking “should i focus on clean nutritious diet or should i focus on doing exercise if i want a good body?”… Both are part of the equation and the two of them have to coexist on equal importance. | /r/seduction | 04/05/26 01:04 AM |
| 5 | Help me turn on my wife.You can disagree and continue to be sexless or you can get sex. | /r/seduction | 03/05/26 06:23 PM |
| 4 | Help me turn on my wife.Getting a woman to feel something is not manipulation. Desire is not inspired by comfort, never was, never will. it's inspired by feeling the sexual tension, the fire, the spark. you don't want any tension with her? then you can try getting sex somewhere else mate. | /r/seduction | 03/05/26 06:18 PM |
| 8 | Help me turn on my wife.Being too agreeable, too conflict avoidant, too accommodating, too nice, kills desire. If you understand how desire works, you know that roommate energy doesn't inspire it. It's the sexual tension. And sexual tension doesn't come from being emotionally flat, it comes from emotional ups and downs like an emotional roller coaster. you have to get her to feel intense emotional moods. They don't have to be anger, but they have to be intense. | /r/seduction | 03/05/26 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Help me turn on my wife.Maybe what you need to start upsetting her in measured ways, and then resolve the tension from your conflicts with sex. Too much comfort kills desire, it's tension what triggers the desire because the accumulated tension needs release and the most effective way to release it is through sex. Desire requires cycles of tension and release, when everything is too comfortable, safe, emotionally bland the desire simply won't be there. So it's not agreement and peace what you need, it's mild unimportan… | /r/seduction | 03/05/26 06:11 PM |
| 43 | How to give out vibes that get me hookups or get me laid?Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 03/05/26 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Women are individuals, not a collective hivemind that thinks alike. You can stop trying to conform to social consensusBasing your behavior on made up statistics isn't science and leads you to act fake, unauthentic and performative becasue rather than doing what you genuinely want to do, you are doing what you think women would want which is approval-seeking behavior also. And when you do that, then that leads to disconnect with the specific woman you have in front of you and causes you to jump to conclusions and prejudices about an entire group that do not reflect the reality of that particular individual and t… | /r/seduction | 03/05/26 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with dating : beeing constantly seen as just a friendYou can have platonic female friends, as long as you are not attracted to them. | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Between October 2023 and June 2024, I got over 40 numbers and since then I've gotten over 100. Every single one has ghosted me. I'm starting to think there is a problem with ME.It's not enough to get 40 numbers, you first have to make sure before you get the number that there is a strong enough emotional connection. Without an emotional connection girls won't want to see you again. If you did not create the strong emotional connection before getting a number, then you needed to use texting to create that emotional connection which is harder to do than in person, but still doable. Many guys make the mistake of thinking the first date is where you do the emotional connec… | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Problem with the vibesAs a coach i always tell my clients in your situation that your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u … | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 07:42 PM |
| 5 | A girl ghosted me after I got std tested like she asked.(Vent)She invited you to her place because spending the night with someone without sex can also be something fun for her, if it's not fun for you then you should have left. | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 02:39 AM |
| 2 | How do I get better at recognizing when someone might be interested in talking to me and stop freezing in those moments?You dont ask a woman out because you think she wants you, you ask a woman out because you want her. Thats really it. Dating is not about if you should or shouldn’t do something, it’s about doing what you want, and then letting destiny decide what the outcome of your actions will be. Do you want to be the type of man who needs to walk on egg shells to go for what he wants? Or do you want to be the type of man who goes for what he wants because he gives himself permission to go for what he wants? … | /r/seduction | 30/04/26 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Any tips for a comeback in flirting after 3 years of innactivity and a weird journey?I wrote a book that can help you, it's called Daygame Code in Amazon This book will teach you how to: ✅ Stop overthinking every little move and start trusting your instincts. ✅ Recognize the ego traps, self-sabotage, and validation-seeking that quietly kill your success. ✅ Start conversations that actually mean and get women to feel something real. ✅ Know what to say step by step after the introduction so you never run out of things to talk about. ✅ Know how to develop real self-esteem and true … | /r/seduction | 30/04/26 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Getting out of the friend zone- I can't help but wonder... ¿Why can't it be with me? We were that close after all... Because attraction and desire are feelings that disappears the more you act like a close platonic friend. The more you act like a listener, the therapist, the shoulder to cry on, the guy she goes to talk about her trauma and negative experiences, the more the sexual tension dilutes and the less natural it feels for her to act sexual with you. It simply feels forced and unnatural due to the nature of your plato… | /r/seduction | 29/04/26 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Women playing/adjusting with their hair while cold approach. Does it mean something or is it normal?Depends on each girl. Not every girl who does this is flirting, and not every girl who flirts does it for the intention of creating something romantic. And not every girl who flirts with the intention of creating something romantic does it because they are sold on you. So even if a girl is flirting because she is interested in you to try, it doesn't mean that when you try she will accept to go out on a date with you or that she will be impressed with your approach. | /r/seduction | 28/04/26 08:35 PM |
| 19 | Endless LoopYou dont ask a woman out because you think she wants you, you ask a woman out because you want her. Thats really it. Dating is not about if you should or shouldn’t do something, it’s about doing what you want, and then letting destiny decide what the outcome of your actions will be. Do you want to be the type of man who needs to walk on egg shells to go for what he wants? Or do you want to be the type of man who goes for what he wants because he gives himself permission to go for what he wants? … | /r/seduction | 28/04/26 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Missed Kiss?Yeah you should have told her you wanted to kiss her simply because you wanted to kiss her, not because you think she wanted a kiss. | /r/seduction | 28/04/26 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Are young women not attracted to men anymore?You think that because a clip goes viral among lots of women then that speaks for every woman on earth which is a logical fallacy. "This video said x, lots of people liked this video, therefore x is true for all people". Not really. Your problem is not understanding that preferences are an individual thing, you and i are both men, yet i can assure you that i don't like the same things that you do about a woman. So if you were to say "we men like x" sorry but me and many others wouldn't agree wit… | /r/seduction | 28/04/26 03:21 PM |
| 28 | I get the number 99% of time but never the dateYou've mastered the art of getting numbers that women give out of courtesy even when they are not interested, now it's time to master the art of seducing women instead of going for a number. | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 10:28 PM |
| 2 | How to win over a girl with trust issues?Do you actually like her or do you just like your fantasy of her? | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 09:56 PM |
| 4 | Too much plausible deniabilityIt’s not your job to read someone’s mind. If you want to know what someone wants ask them. | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 07:11 PM |
| 2 | I posted that hooking up is fairly easy and the general consensus was it is not...0"Being a successful entrepreneur is easy, you only need a small loan of a million dollars". | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Isn’t asking for something inherently needy?No, because needy refers to anything that communicates directly or indirectly that you can't live happy without a girl, or that you are terrified a particular girl leaves you, or that your emotional well-being depends on her decision to be with you, showing that pretty much your entire happiness depends on whether she stays or leaves. That is why we use the word needy from "need" because a needy person feels like they need another person, rather than simply desiring or wanting that person only. … | /r/seduction | 24/04/26 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Every time I try to make eye contact with a girl/woman she looks away before I am able to smile (6’4”/190lbs/I very rarely go to the gym)It’s not your job to smile or stare at a woman and waiting for them to give you a signal of interest. Your job is to approach a woman that you like simply because you want to. The idea that you have to wait for a signal for women was only pushed by cowards who were afraid of rejection, it’s not actually a required step at all. I approach women who never give any signs and some i go on dates with some reject me. Because that’s how it works. You go there try, and sometimes you win sometimes you lo… | /r/seduction | 24/04/26 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Just want to understand….Because not everyone has the patience to wait eternally for someone to make a move, so if another guy asks her out earlier or kisses her earlier than you, despite talking with you for long then she will just move on and date that other person instead. You might have wanted to take things slower but the other person doesn’t necessarily want to take it as slow as you prefer. | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Why women don't chase men?That's just a story you are telling yourself. Plenty of women marry guys they don't truly like just becasue they can provide, and you can see that because those guys later complain about their marriages not being good without understanding that it's becasue their wife was never truly into them. They just settled with them. | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Girl gave me the right number, told me it’s the wrong numberGetting a number is overrated, getting a number does not mean you have seduced a girl, getting a number is not a social contract where she guarantees she will see you again. More often than not if you are content with getting a number then that's all you will get, a number, nothing more after that. | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 02:26 PM |
| 0 | How do you night game?Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 01:35 PM |
| 4 | How to escalate on first dates without coming across as pushy if my goal is to hookup?Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 12:17 PM |
| 5 | Flirty signals in public. Help me take it to the next step.You don't ask a woman out because you thinks she likes you, you ask a woman out because you want to. It's not your job to self-reject yourself before she does. Her job is to either accept or reject your invitation to a date. Your job is to invite her to a date. So you are not supposed to be basing your behavior based on your interpretations of what she wants, you are supposed to base your behavior based on what you want and let her decide if she wants to accept or not whatever it is that you off… | /r/seduction | 22/04/26 08:41 PM |
| 1 | How to politely ask a flakey girl to respect my time?My personal motto is that when you negotiate for scraps, scraps is all you get. If you want a girl who is fuck yes about you, then don't settle for "maybes" or "almosts". The fact that you want to tell her "respect my time" leads nowhere positive because it's an accusation that she does this on purpose to disrespect you when in reality she is just being busy. So im not sure what you expect her she'd say other than a defensive answer from her which is the first step towards the end. Just know tha… | /r/seduction | 22/04/26 07:36 PM |
| 3 | How to politely ask a flakey girl to respect my time?You don't, instead, you simply ask yourself, "do i want a girl who disrespects my time, in my life?" If the answer is "i don't", then you block her/end things and move on and find girls who naturally respect your time. You don't demand that someone changes, you simply accept they are showing you who they are, and filter them out naturally instead of hoping they change to please you because they won't. | /r/seduction | 22/04/26 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Please help a 40 years old virginWhatever you feel is something that women will feel too, whenever you feel nervous or insecure, the girl also starts to feel nervous and gets a weird vibe from you causing her to feel unsure about you. That's because your emotional state is causing you to behave in ways that subtly show that sense of discomfort and insecurity you are feeling and it's contagious. So ultimately, if you approach despite that insecurity, then the girl is likely to reject you not because you are old, but rather becas… | /r/seduction | 22/04/26 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Please help a 40 years old virginWhatever you feel is something that women will feel too, whenever you feel nervous or insecure, the girl also starts to feel nervous and gets a weird vibe from you causing her to feel unsure about you. That's because your emotional state is causing you to behave in ways that subtly show that sense of discomfort and insecurity you are feeling and it's contagious. So ultimately, if you approach despite that insecurity, then the girl is likely to reject you not because you are old, but rather becas… | /r/seduction | 22/04/26 06:16 PM |
| 1 | how to have interesting convos with womenJust use the “What, Why and How it feels” frame. - Her: “What do u do for a living?” - You: (What?) “I work as a journalist” (Why?) “Because I always knew that I wanted to make the world more fair and fight corruption from those in power” (How it feels?) And I felt so satisfied when i once managed to make the corrupt chancellor resign due to my investigation, i felt so powerful in that moment, it felt glorious” Use this formula over and over with everything she asks, the whole point is to get he… | /r/seduction | 21/04/26 11:22 PM |
| 21 | Why women don't chase men?Some do if a particular guy is truly worth it or if the guy really made them feel something intense, but most don't because since most of society has accepted that men are more likely in general to approach, women are happy to sit back and let men do the job of approaching them more often than not. And that means that women don't have an incentive to chase a particular man as much because the abundance of options willing to be providers makes it unnecessary to chase a guy who they can easily rep… | /r/seduction | 21/04/26 10:07 PM |
| 0 | ‘I'd really like to see you again’: needy or not needy ?No it's not completely fine to feel needy, and it's bad advice to recommend someone that turns off so many people in the real world. | /r/seduction | 21/04/26 08:24 PM |
| 1 | ‘I'd really like to see you again’: needy or not needy ?Needy is anything that communicates directly or indirectly that you can't live without a girl, that you are terrified she leaves you, or that your emotional well-being depends on her decision to be with you showing that u care too much whether she stays or leaves. So in the phrase "I'd really like to see you again" i assume u are worried about the word "really", and while it's not needy if she is showing high enthusiasm, the use of that word implies a higher level of emotional investment than if… | /r/seduction | 21/04/26 08:20 PM |
| 1 | The ultimate list of unattractive traits that turn off women even if they were initially interested in you.Yes there can be a middle ground, as long as u genuinely believe u did wrong after thinking it through, not because u want to soothe their discomfort by default while deep down u still think u did nothing wrong. And if someone thinks ur arrogant, so be it cuz u don’t have any obligation to make sure other ppl don’t think u r arrogant. It’s not ur job to get along with everyone or to try to please everyone, or to go through life trying to make sure everybody is happy with ur behavior. | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 11:14 AM |
| 1 | The ultimate list of unattractive traits that turn off women even if they were initially interested in you.Thank u, yes there is a difference about apologizing when u have caused objective measurable damage (you’ve punched someone in the face, or u said an insult, or u pressured them when they’ve told u leave them alone or reject u) and being apologetic as a trait. And apologetic guy the way i argue in my post is someone who apologizes by default as soon as someone else gets upset with him. He thinks that if others get upset then that inherently means he did objective damage, but that’s not necessari… | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 08:12 AM |
| 0 | The ultimate list of unattractive traits that turn off women even if they were initially interested in you.They don’t care until it affects them. Letting people disrespect you might not be something by that you as a guy cares, until someone starts disrespecting you. Being needy might not be something u care until a woman leaves you and you go into a crisis because u cant live without her. And so on. | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 08:12 AM |
| 1 | The ultimate list of unattractive traits that turn off women even if they were initially interested in you.“This comment made me uncomfortable. Reflect on what u did and apologize.” See the point now? My personal discomfort is not something that requires u to get defensive or to soothe my feelings. You have every right to refuse to apologize and to refuse to go defensive. Y can just say “it is what it is, take it or leave it”. Because if u did something it should have been because u had the conviction that it was right, and own ur decision. If u start apologizing everytime someone cries, do u eve hav… | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 08:02 AM |
| 32 | If she is "easy" with you, does it mean she is "easy" in general ?You seem to be into women that give you problems and obstacles to overcome. Other people prefer things to feel effortless and simple, not like a puzzle. So to each their own. Could she be as easy with other guys? Maybe if she likes them, if she doesn’t like them, not really. However a girl can also make things easy to some guys and those guys can still screw up despite how easy she made it for them. | /r/seduction | 19/04/26 02:41 AM |
| 16 | The ultimate list of unattractive traits that turn off women even if they were initially interested in you.I wonder why u think that standing up for urself and not letting someone disrespect u is somehow silly. How can u be happy if someone disrespects u? I don’t think u actually read the post, as it seems like you read the title and assumed this was about women’s preferences, when it’s actually about basic self-respect, autonomy and ur boundaries regardless of what women like or dont like. | /r/seduction | 19/04/26 02:36 AM |
| 1 | I tried practicing dating conversations with ChatGPT. it was way too nice. so I spent 3 months building something that isn't.It's less reliable than a fight simulator, because a flight simulator is based on objective numbers, physics, measured gravity, specific core rules that apply to planes, the atmosphere... etc. Even the speed of the wind simulated is way more accurate and can be predicted ahead of time and you now that a particular button in an emergency will produce a consistent action regardless of whether it works to overcome the emergency or not. But in dating there are no rules at all, nothing you can contro… | /r/seduction | 17/04/26 03:27 PM |
| 1 | I tried practicing dating conversations with ChatGPT. it was way too nice. so I spent 3 months building something that isn't.AI can't replicate human connection for the simple fact that each woman and each person are too complex and different from each other. Yes you can theoretically practice conversation, but it's based on patterns that are not universal, and linear logic. And trying to use linear logic in seduction is where all the men's problems come from. An AI will respond in the way that seems logically to everything you say. Each particular woman however will respond one way or another depending on how she fee… | /r/seduction | 17/04/26 03:05 PM |
| 61 | What actually makes a guy instantly attractive?I'll tell you what doesn't make you attractive, but unattractive instead. Being needy, spineless, risk-averse, apologetic, ashamed of your desire for sex, approval-seeking, desperate, a pushover, weak, easily triggered, wimp, having no strict boundaries, acting like a doormat, begging for love, chasing woman who give mixed signals, being complacent, being accommodating, being insecure, putting women on a pedestal, being tension-avoidant, doubting yourself, second guessing yourself, backpedaling … | /r/seduction | 16/04/26 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Not sure what is the right mindset when going out and how to improveYou can have expectations on what you will do, but not on the outcome. That is, you know you will do something that night, and whatever happens as a result of your action, time will tell. So you can say "i will flirt with a girl, i will tell her that i want to kiss her, i will try to get her home" those are actions, but the outcome you accept beforehand that it will be whatever faith has for you. So the mindset should be, attach yourself to the action, and detach yourself from the result of the … | /r/seduction | 15/04/26 02:50 PM |
| 5 | Dating much youngerPeople don't have any obligation to follow your moral code, and have every right to be an asshole if that's what they want. So opinion dismissed again. | /r/seduction | 15/04/26 02:32 PM |
| 4 | Dating much youngerYou have a right to your opinion, but people don't have any obligation with you to do things that you find tasteful or to seek your approval on who they date. So opinion dismissed. | /r/seduction | 15/04/26 02:24 PM |
| 7 | Dating much youngerWhatever you find ok or not ok is irrelevant because no one has granted you the divine authority to dictate what others must do or not. You have a right to your opinion, just like everyone else has a right to dismiss it. | /r/seduction | 15/04/26 01:57 PM |
| 23 | Dating much youngerWhat if it told you that you can stop caring about what other people think. In the large scheme of things, their judgements ultimately don't matter and they can't do anything to stop you from dating whoever you want. It's not your job to make sure that they think well of you, it's not your job to seek their approval. It's not your job to get people's blessing for your choice. They can only give their opinion and that's it. When you simply choose to dismiss their opinion and continue doing what y… | /r/seduction | 15/04/26 01:56 PM |
| 1 | You are not asking women to judge u and give u a verdict of your worth when you ask them out, u r just inviting them to take on your offer and giving them the opportunity to feel a connection worth feelingThe point is that choosing to feel bad about is optional if you simply understand that this ain't a battle for your worth. It's just how you are choosing to interpret things what hurts. You change the way you interpret things, it doesn't hurt anymore. You have internal peace because you've finally learn how to cope in healthy ways, and thus your resilience grows. So no, if you take it 100% personal, that's a problem you create yourself because you choose to as you've tricked yourself into believ… | /r/seduction | 13/04/26 04:19 AM |
| 3 | How do you handle being tested/challenged?Trust me dude, he is right. You are looking for a dude. You just don't know it yet. | /r/seduction | 13/04/26 12:12 AM |
| 3 | How do you handle being tested/challenged?- Sometimes, when it's going really well they'll say something to challenge you, or be contrarian or disagree when it feels like they are doing it for the sake of doing it You take things to the playground. As in: "that's it, you are now my arch-nemesis", that's it "i hate you" (as a joke, non serious tone). Because rule number 1 of dealing with women when u are flirting and trying to seduce them is to never taking them seriously at all. The moment you let them get underneath your skin, you star… | /r/seduction | 13/04/26 12:11 AM |
| 1 | You just are not attractive"The people who tell you to be attractive are trying to sell you a fitness advice membership or course or gym membership to get your ass in the gym" | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 09:53 PM |
| 6 | How to deal a girl who wont share her private life?Let me ask you something, how would i have to deal with you if you refused to share your private life with me? What should be my next step if you simply did not want to share your private life at all with me, and my goal was to force you into changing your mind? | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 08:51 PM |
| 1 | How exactly do you handle LMR for women who activate their 'anti-slut defense' before sexBy solving the emotional dissonance that is preventing them from acting on it. That can be a moral reason, a perosnal value of them, a fear of being labeled something and accepting that sometimes you can't because sex requires the actual voluntary will of the other person without trying to force it. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Women give me headachesYes, if u explicitly tell someone to stay away from you, she will respect that. But women and men don't have to preemptively be aware of your boundaries and preemptively stay away from you, if you don't specifically mention what those boundaries are because they can't read your mind and your boundaries about this are not universal. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 06:03 PM |
| 1 | How to escalate physical play + flirt from this stage?- I'm too worried about coming off creepy or misreading the cues saying/doing something that will make women feel uncomfortable and im always regulating my behaviour because of that. Whoever taught you that you needed to apologize for existing, or to apologize for what you want or desire, or for not preemptively saving women from yourself needs to be locked up. You don't have a duty to shrink yourself, over-apologize, seek constant permission, or act deferential just for taking up space, showing… | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 05:12 PM |
| 7 | Women give me headachesMate. listen, I get it u don't like when a woman who was showing interest in u decides to go for some other guy, you might think she is a "hoe" or whatever, but let's face it, who says people can't be a hoe if that's what they want to do? It's not their job to make sure u think well of them, and if it upsets you it's not their job to modify their behavior just to soothe ur feelings or seek ur approval. I think u need to remember that people can do what they want, and as such when you ask "how da… | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Girl keeps smiling and making eye contact but ignored my Instagram request — what does this mean?If you want something, then talk to her in person. You don't look for her instagram and add her, you ask for her instagram and she gives it to you or she doesn't. It's not your job to try to read minds or to interpret behaviors. You are trying to rationalize with logic a woman's behavior and it's not your job to do that. You don't base your behavior on a false premise such us: "If a woman does x y and z when i am around, then that means A B or C conclusion about her interest level towards me". T… | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 02:59 PM |
| 1 | How Often Should You Text Her After A First Date?You text her as much as or as little as you want, not because you should, but because you want to and want someone who is on the same page as you. So if you text very often then do it because you actually feel naturally like saying something regardless of the result, not because you hope that frequency will guarantee a result. If you text very little do it because you don't naturally feel like saying more than that, and don't care if that makes her react one way or the other. Stop doing what you… | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 09:47 PM |
| 7 | Theres a fundamental flaw with dating adviceBecause dating/seduction is an art, not a science or a math equation. Art doesn't have one objectively correct artistic style that every artist must adopt in order to be considered real art. There is Picasso, there is DaVinci, there is Van Goh, there is Dali, etc each with their own unique style that doesn't resemble at all the style of the other. So if you asked what is the correct form of painting artisitc works? There isn't one correct official declared way. However this doesn't mean that eve… | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 11:41 AM |
| 2 | How to handle this type of response from a woman...Well when you are willing to go for girls who are at best giving you maybes, instead of "fuck-yes", you get this type of situation. You are an option to her, she probably has other men that she is more interested in and take priority over you. So you should probably have options too and prioritize other women while you put this one on the backburner. You don't prioritze women who don't prioritize you just as much as you are willing to do. | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 01:21 AM |
| 3 | what do you do after the first interaction ?Introduce yourself, get to know her, be curious to know who she is, what she likes, what she thinks, what her values are, what her experiences are... etc | /r/seduction | 09/04/26 03:02 PM |
| 1 | It’s all about what you want to do.True! No one can dictate "I find that thing you do weird, so you can't do that and i don't allow you to be weird because i say so". People have freedom and personal agency to do what they want simply because they give themselves authority to do so, no matter how many people get upset by it. | /r/seduction | 08/04/26 10:55 PM |
| 5 | Moving from friends to something moreThose are not signals. You are deluding yourself. There is no path because being friendzoned means the girl is not attracted to you. Attraction is either there or it’s not. So you are trying in vain to manufacture something that just simply isn’t there, and confusing wishful thinking for reality. She is gonna tell you again that she only wants to be friends. | /r/seduction | 08/04/26 12:40 PM |
| 1 | I have a bad habit of building the confidence of a low self esteem girl. She will then have confidence n find someone else. What am i supposed to do instead?No, you are not supposed to do anything in particular, and that includes building the confidence of a low self-esteem girl as if it's some type of job. You can choose freely to do that simply if you feel good doing that, not because she has to then give you a romantic relationship or something in return for your voluntary effort. If your job is to get laid or get a girlfriend then sorry but this is not about doing a transaction, it's not "i build your confidence, or i do these efforts or sacrifi… | /r/seduction | 07/04/26 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Men who understand women don't argue with them because the universe doesn't care who is right or what's fair in a relationship.You are absolutely right that there are conflicts that can be resolved by negotiation and compromise, but there are others that cant be resolved because they are about identity and fundamental incompatibilities. Many conflicts arise for refusing to accept that our partner just isn’t who we want them to be naturally, and we stubbornly belief we have to fix who they are. So you have tons of arguments about the same topic over and over, and nothing changes despite talking about it a hundred times, … | /r/seduction | 07/04/26 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Men who understand women don't argue with them because the universe doesn't care who is right or what's fair in a relationship.Hey thanks. The point of the post is that you have a right to want respect, to be treated well, to have any preferences you want, and everything you want. But the other person is not obligated to do that for us just because we have the right to want everything we prefer. So ultimately, you reach a point where you might need to ask yourself: "If i have an specific idea of what an "ideal good boyfriend or good girlfriend" is in my mind, and they don't match that ideal naturally, then do i still wa… | /r/seduction | 07/04/26 12:24 PM |
| 0 | Men who understand women don't argue with them because the universe doesn't care who is right or what's fair in a relationship.Yes that's right, which means that it's an ongoing evaluation process. So it's always important to ask ourselves the question: Is the new "changed" person still something that fits with what i want today the way it is or is there something that i just can't live with the new changed person? | /r/seduction | 07/04/26 12:15 PM |
| 20 | Men who understand women don't argue with them because the universe doesn't care who is right or what's fair in a relationship.No. You should never do that. As i said at the end, you simply let go of her and find someone compatible with your preferences. | /r/seduction | 07/04/26 12:52 AM |
| 0 | I wanna understandMany women like to keep options in case her relationship doesn’t work out so that they can monkey branch from one relationship to the next and avoid being single for too long. So, she is just feeding you to keep you slightly interest, as one of her second choices. Think of it as “you are her insurance, if something goes wrong”. Similar to how you have house/fire insurance even if you don’t expect the house to go on fire. | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 09:00 PM |
| 1 | What are some good book recommendations on approaching?I wrote Daygame Code, it is helpful when it comes to not just playing a number's game, but actually overcoming fears, anxieties, and a step by step process to know what to say, how to create sexual tension, and get dates, not just useless numbers that lead nowhere. | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 06:12 PM |
| 1 | So I tried being coached Owen Cook styleThis post is sponsored by (insert AI company that produces slop). | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 03:54 PM |
| 3 | among all singals given by a girlWhen she tells you directly and explicitly i like you. Anything else is always a guess and different girls can do the exact same signal and yet want different things. So if any person tells you “this particular behavior is the ultimate sign that means a girl likes you”, sorry but that’s still a 50/50 chance and the next girl can do the exact same thing and then reject you and put you in the friendzone, while another can do the exact same thing and like you romantically. That’s because women are … | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 11:40 AM |
| 139 | She said "I've never done this before"... Do they usually say that?They don’t want you to think they are slutty or the type of girl who sleeps around because there is a social stigma attached to it. Women are shamed for sleeping casually with some guy they barely know, so they will say that to save face. And, yep more often than not it’s a lie, but they feel the need to say it anyway. | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Soft Rejections and what to do after saying "hi"Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Is she just playing me?When you are willing to beat around the bush instead of being straight-forward and clear, women will gladly play that game that ends usually nowhere. The problem is you want to go indirect style, throwing hints, being passive and while that's your choice, that has consequences that play against you more often than not. If you want something say it clearly without double meanings, no indirect crap. You are 40 years old already to be trying to play things so ambiguous. If you don't want risks, the… | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 05:08 PM |
| 59 | How the fuck are meant to meet women if you don't like socialising?Having a girlfriend involves socializing at the very least with the very girlfriend you have, if you had a girlfriend but refused to socialize with her, she would dump you because there is no point in being together if you can't even socialize with her. Now if you just want to have sex, hire hookers. No need for socialization, you just pay and fuck, that's it. Welcome to life, where mature people do things even if they don't like to do them. | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Hypothetical for the ladies — from a guy always on the moveSome few women might, but most won't. | /r/seduction | 04/04/26 11:24 PM |
| 3 | Long time between approach/first text and date = guaranteed flakeYes, attraction is a fleeting emotional moment. This is why it’s often said that you have to strike when the iron is hot, meaning that if you can go on a date today you should not leave it for tomorrow, and if you can kiss now don’t leave it for a few minutes later, etc… Interest of a woman today is no guarantee of interest a day later or even a few minutes later. Don’t assume her interest is set in stone, it can shift like the weather and usually those fleeting emotions will play against you. | /r/seduction | 03/04/26 04:14 PM |
| 3 | How (and when) to pull back?You need to know what you want evaluate for compatibility. Do you want a girl who gives mixed signals or do you want a girl who is fuck yes about you? Never settle for less than what you actually want. If you feel you deserve a girl who is “fuck yes” about you, then why go for girls who give you “maybes” or “almosts”? Do you really want to have to spend energy on making a girl who is less interested in you than you are in her with this calculated tactics when there is no guarantee that it will w… | /r/seduction | 02/04/26 06:56 PM |
| 10 | How (and when) to pull back?The vast majority of guys in this world don’t need to be this calculated to get laid. This is just too much overthinking and a game you don’t want to be playing. Also, kinda pointless because “signals” are not universal. You think you are reading a girl properly but then it turns out that you still get it wrong hecause every girl is different, they are not computers that run on the same operating system. You try to apply signals that would work on windows but she just so happens to be Linux. And… | /r/seduction | 02/04/26 06:22 PM |
| 7 | Did she want me to take her home?The question is not what she wanted, the question is what you wanted and why you didn’t act on what you want by expressing and taking the initiative. You don’t base your actions in what you interpret she wants, you base them on what you naturally feel like you want to do simply because you feel like it as that is enough reason to do it by itself. So the lesson from here is when you want to take her home, you say so, you don’t guess what she thinks or wants, and she will either accept or refuse. | /r/seduction | 02/04/26 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else only struggles against girls they really like?I simply read about it, doing my own research on the psychology and the consequences of serving the ego. Every time someone has let ego dominate them, it lead systematically to self-sabotage and self-destruction. So i simply internalized it by learning about the topic by studying it over and over, and then applying it over and over in real life situations. So study of the psychology, and practice in the field by hitting on women, getting to now them, and analyzing the motivation behind my action… | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else only struggles against girls they really like?If a woman said “one should be performative” even more reason to double down and refusing to be performative. And it’s not your job to convince her that your approach to life is the correct one anyway. So you don’t have to make her wrap her brain around it, the point is to live by your principles, not to explain to her why your principles are good. | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 11:02 PM |
| 4 | I’m trying to become a man with options, but I’m struggling to understand how to navigate this?But I still don’t understand something. I’m fit, tall, and I think I’m reasonably attractive. Some days lots off women look at me and even stare at me, and I feel confident and masculine. Other days, it feels like nobody notices me at all. While i understand that it can feel frustrating, the reality is that it’s not a legitimate need to desire to be noticed every single day of your life. It’s nice if it happened sure, but it’s not an essential need. Wanting to be noticed here and there is valid,… | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 09:57 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else only struggles against girls they really like?I did inner work yes and i understood that tying your self worth to the attractiveness of a woman is the direct result of social conditioning and the social pressure to prove your masculinity and worthiness to others. Once you are mature enough you realize that this social pressure to prove your masculinity is pointless, no one really cares, those who you try to impress with your achievement or the girls you get, ultimately don't care about you, and you are just serving your ego for no real bene… | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else only struggles against girls they really like?To me it came with age, the older i got and the more i experienced misalignment with people, the less fucks i gave naturally about pleasing others. So maybe you need experiences to harden yourself and reach the conclusion that it's not your job to be a people's pleaser and that it's far more liberating to be your true self without filter and let in whoever aligns with your true self and filter out those who don't without regrets. | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 08:54 PM |
| 6 | Anyone else only struggles against girls they really like?By being willing to potentially lose any girl no matter how hot she is. When you simply prioritize compatibility over getting her or not losing her at any cost. That’s when you simply remove the filter, you start saying anything, no matter how provocative, daring, risky, polarizing or reckless it might seem. You willing to tease her, mess with her, potentially upset her for your own amusement,… etc That’s when you are your best but only if you truly mean it when you decide that you don’t care th… | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 08:19 PM |
| 15 | Anyone else only struggles against girls they really like?That happens because your mind shifts from just connecting by being me into performative behavior in an attempt to prove your worth. You begin to use those girls to measure if you are good enough as a man to get what you want and to get validation. You no longer see them as a person with potential flaws and potential incompatibilities, but as an object that if obtained would represent how great you are. And, not only that, but also because deep down u see yourself as unworthy of her,that u don't… | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 06:52 PM |
| 1 | 9M feeling paranoid about STDs and relationshipsLike I know at the beginning you should use condoms, but in a relationship do people usually keep using them the whole time? Or do you just get out of them or is it more common to both get tested at some point and then stop using them or is it a nerdy and unecessary thing? Here is what will solve all your confusion. It’s about what you individually agree with the other person.. It’s not about what most people do or expect, because what most people do or expect, is not really measured in any way,… | /r/seduction | 31/03/26 11:07 PM |
| 2 | I did every right but still got rejected because of own insecuritiesIt’s irrelevant if you don’t agree because ultimately it’s about what she wants, not what you think she should want just because you think he did everything right 🤷🏽♂️ | /r/seduction | 31/03/26 03:34 AM |
| 8 | I did every right but still got rejected because of own insecurities- I did every right but still got rejected because of own insecurities There is no such thing as "doing everything right" in dating. Because that would imply there is a universal standard that the entire planet has agreed to about what's right or wrong, and there is no such standard. Even if a majority of people on the entire planet voted that you did everything right, it would be irrelevant if the specific person who rejected to decided unilaterally, you did something wrong because it's all abo… | /r/seduction | 31/03/26 01:28 AM |
| 5 | Cold approach only : what is a good success rate for a small town (around 100k) ?For every 100 girls you cold approach, you might be able to sleep with 10 or so if you do things really well, are a pro at cold approach, and relatively attractive. | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Need an explanationExplanation 1: She is dead or severely injured. Explanation 2: She is busy and will g back to you when she is not Explanation 3: She lost interest, got bored or found red flags Explanation 4: It was a prank for her self-amusement Explanation 5: Her phone got lost/stolen/broken Explanation 6: She was an AI bot and they used you for training/testing Explanation 7: She got arrested and won’t reach out until she gets out of jail. Explanation 8: She met someone else who is more interesting or compati… | /r/seduction | 29/03/26 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Need adviceYou didn’t kiss her when you had the chance, she went on a trip and lost interest either because she met someone else, or because you didn’t strike when the iron was hot. A woman being interested today does not mean she will still interested tomorrow. Which is why the only thing that matters is the now. If you can kiss her today, don’t wait for tomorrow to do it because the chance will likely be gone. | /r/seduction | 26/03/26 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Can someone explain this?It means that while you may like a woman a lot you should never sacrifice everything for her. You shouldn’t prioritize being with that woman over your career if she forces you to choose between your career and her, you shouldn’t prioritize that woman over your best friends if she forces you to choose between your friends and her, you shouldn’t sacrifice your dignity and self respect just to be with her, you shouldn’t grovel yourself for her if she wants to leave you… And that you shouldn’t obey … | /r/seduction | 26/03/26 12:55 AM |
| 2 | To the men over 25: I'm 20, full of chaos, and just lost the only girl who could quiet my min8d- She reached out to ask if I was okay. I ended up admitting my feelings but immediately pivoted to avoid being vulnerable. I told her, "Who would like a man who cannot provide?" This was a really bad move from your part. Sorry but girls are not going to date you out of pity, so appealing to that is just gonna make them see you as a baby brother rather than as someone they could see themselves being romantic and sexual with. You are essentially making sure that a girl never sees you as a romanti… | /r/seduction | 25/03/26 03:59 PM |
| 30 | How do you proceed when the girls want a relationship, but you don’t?Abundance mentality. You tell them straight up you are not looking for a relationship at all, and that that you don’t take any responsibility for any hopes that they get. If they walk away, let them go and keep meeting new women. Simple as that. Have a mindset of replacing women, filtering them out, discard them. If they say “So you are just looking for sex” you don’t deny it, you don’t apologize for what you want, you don’t justify yourself, you don’t go defensive. You reaffirm yourself and say… | /r/seduction | 24/03/26 12:21 PM |
| 19 | Anyone get attached?You liked a girl too much and started to be needy while she is less interested than u. Classic mistake. No matter how much u like a girl, no matter how much u want a relationship, u cannot try to push so fast towards it. You cannot start acting like u want to be her boyfriend when you just met her a week or 2 ago. U barely know this girl and trying to lock her down so soon is always gonna turn girls off, specially if u have not even kissed or anything. But even if u kissed it'd still be a mistak… | /r/seduction | 23/03/26 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Do we all just ignore the hypocrisy?- sounds like rules for thee, not for me imo. People don't have any legal obligation or duty to not be hypocritical and there are no rules in social dynamics or dating, so you should not expect people to be coherent or to adapt to your script of how people should behave. - why is it one of the core foundations of game is "No limiting beliefs" then you go around preaching this "social status" garbage? It's different people saying those things. It's not the exact same person saying "have no limiti… | /r/seduction | 23/03/26 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Some guysTo some she is very attracted to, to others she is not that attracted to or no longer attracted to. If a woman makes you work hard it’s because deep down she is not that into you. You are just “ok” but nothing super exciting for her. Kinda like the difference between seeing a 5 out of 10 girl and a a 10 out of 10. Sure many of us would fuck the 5 out of 10, but oh boy if the absolute 10 comes along thats like a dream and would go the extra mile that we wouldn’t do for the girl who is just a 5. T… | /r/seduction | 23/03/26 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Looking for some advice/support I am a 25 year old virgin and it seems I have caught the eye of a very attractive 40ish year old woman at the gym, I’ve been seeing her for about a year and have noticed her repeatedly looking at me but I am anxious af so I usually ignore her and don’t make eye contacYou are treating sex like it’s a cheap disposable commodity and thats part of the reason why you are a virgin mate. Imagine telling a woman, “well i thought you would be into it since you are old”… Must be trolling | /r/seduction | 23/03/26 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Looking for some advice/support I am a 25 year old virgin and it seems I have caught the eye of a very attractive 40ish year old woman at the gym, I’ve been seeing her for about a year and have noticed her repeatedly looking at me but I am anxious af so I usually ignore her and don’t make eye contacmy plan is to just say fuck it and walk up to her and ask her if she will teach me how to have sex Dude… Seriously? I mean read loudly that stuff and tell me you are not cringing at yourself… It’s not a woman’s job to teach you how to have sex with a hands on physical demonstration. Sex is an activity which people either do for fun if they are turned on and/or for connection, not something done as some type of academic lesson…. It’s the most anti-arousing and anti-romantic thing you can offer to… | /r/seduction | 23/03/26 12:21 AM |
| 4 | Tips for a 45m who is attracted by 20 and 30 years old in the UK.This is irrelevant. We are not here to question or debate someone's individual preferences. | /r/seduction | 21/03/26 06:42 PM |
| 3 | I have never been looked at by womenThen start working out, become muscular and take off your shirt when you get abs. Problem solved. | /r/seduction | 20/03/26 05:02 PM |
| 1 | It's not actually your job to convince people you are normal. Stop being a people's pleaserAuthoritative would imply that i was giving orders and i’m not, i’m simply reminding people of their right to refuse following social norms if they want to and advising them to avoid it (which does not entail “do it or else”), not that they have an obligation to refuse following social norms or proving they are normal. | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 11:10 PM |
| 1 | It's not actually your job to convince people you are normal. Stop being a people's pleaserI think you responded to the wrong post cuz it doesn’t make sense what you wrote | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 11:01 PM |
| 1 | It's not actually your job to convince people you are normal. Stop being a people's pleaserThe point is if whether actually feel shame or not regardless of what people say. If it’s legal and you don’t feel shame you don’t owe anyone who judges you a change in your behavior in order to make them think well of you or be accepted by them. And it’s also not your job to do what others think it’s morally correct, just like you can’t expect others to do what you think it’s morally correct or acceptable according to your point of view a collective’s point of view. You do things or stop doing … | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 10:49 PM |
| 1 | It's not actually your job to convince people you are normal. Stop being a people's pleaserYe, they don’t need to date you and you don’t need to date them if it involves fundamentally changing every core aspect of yourself just to fit in with a woman’s individual preference which goes against your essence of who you really are, because then your relationship is based on pure performative behavior and that is not sustainable in the long term. | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Do you guys go through your girl’s phone? If then how?No. I don't see any reason to go through my girlfriend's phone or anyone else's phone. It is also illegal in my country without consent to spy someone else's private data or communication, even if you are in a romantic relationship with that person. It's also not my job to make sure my girlfriend is not guilty of doing something and it's not my girlfriend's job to prove her innocence neither. So i have not done it and i will never do it. | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 05:29 PM |
| 1 | 2nd date, help a brother outIt’s not your job to try to push things towards something serious, that’s the woman’s job. Your only job is to hang out, have fun, hookup and constantly evaluate her character everytime you hang out. Nothing else. So, not your job to seek labels, commitments, expectations, or to try to set a journey towards commitments or to try to lock her down. The relationship has to be her idea at her own pace, not yours. Your job is to gatekeeper the relationship until she proves worthy, if you have already… | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 12:06 AM |
| 2 | How to avoid the friend zoneYou get friendzone everytime you refuse to show sexual desire for them. You act essentially as a safe guy to hang put with, and i mean safe in the sense that they don’t feel you want sex, or that you don’t actually even fantasize about them being naked. So it’s safe in the sense that they don’t see you as a man with a penis or they see you as gay because you act too platonic around them, too respectful, too sexually repressed. Avoid that, and learn to actually start making them feel sexually des… | /r/seduction | 17/03/26 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Putting them on the Pedestal is part of the fun! No, wait for itHowever, aren't they still kind of on the pedestal in the sense that they are valued by me? You put them in the pedestal when you value things about her that don’t actually reflect who she is because you are projecting a fantasy of who she is which doesn’t match reality, or when you over value a woman just because of her looks disregarding every flaw red flag or downside. Valuing someone isnt the probelm, it’s when you value what isnt actually there. And to a small degree I am seeking their appr… | /r/seduction | 14/03/26 04:37 PM |
| 6 | Putting them on the Pedestal is part of the fun! No, wait for itYou are confusing things. Paying a compliment to a woman and putting that woman on a pedestal is not the same thing. Putting women on a pedestal is treating them like they are better than they are, to the point where you shrink yourself around them because you also think they are better than you. It’s essentially acting like they are royalty and you are there to seek their blessing and approval and to prove your worth because you believe it’s in question and that a woman like her could not possi… | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Could’ve number closed but…I fucked married women before and no i don’t regret it, and no i don’t care who gets upset at this. I also don’t believe in marriage anyway, but hey thats just me. I don’t try to be moral or anything, i just do what i want. | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 05:48 AM |
| 0 | How does one address rudeness from a friend in a group while keeping frame?Just agree and amplify: Her: “_Are you going to be weird about it?_” You: “No, i promise to just call a 174 times until i get the hint” or flip the accussation: You: “Usually it’s me who has to file a restraining order, you swear your friend is not the type to go crazy over the phone?” You don’t actually take anything a woman says seriously, not even from her friends. If you start making things serious you lose. So don’t take her comment seriously at all. Treat them all like you would treat your… | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 01:06 AM |
| 15 | ConfusedWhoever taught you that you needed to apologize for existing or for not preemptively saving women from yourself needs to be locked up. You dont have a duty to shrink yourself, over-apologize, seek constant permission, or act deferential just for taking up space, showing up around women’s sight, having opinions, doing what you want, leading, asserting boundaries, or to act like your presence around women or your masculinity is inherently burdensome/problematic. It’s not your job to self police yo… | /r/seduction | 11/03/26 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Stand up clips and receiving supportPeople will not necessarily act according to what you expect they should do. Unfollowing is not necesarilly something people will do just because they were not super amused by an instagram post. | /r/seduction | 11/03/26 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Stand up clips and receiving supportEither that or they are not paying that much attention to what you post. It really is not that big of a mystery. | /r/seduction | 11/03/26 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Stand up clips and receiving supportA joke can be harmless and still not make women laugh, not because they are mad, but simply because they don't understand the joke or don't share your sense of humor. | /r/seduction | 11/03/26 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Stand up clips and receiving supportJust because men laugh at the joke doesn't mean women will laugh at the joke. Humor that works with men doesn't always translate well to women's sensitivities. | /r/seduction | 11/03/26 01:00 AM |
| 4 | Do you say something bad about yourself hoping that the other person will say "No no, you are awesome!"That’s approval-seeking behavior mixed with neediness. It’s inherently a repulsive habit to women and to most men as well, as it’s just likely to turn them off or making them feel obligated to soothe you or rescue you from your own mystery and low self-worth. It destroys sexual tension completely, and it causes people to respect you less even if they try to show sympathy for you or reassure you. Overall, it’s a self destructive pattern of behavior, which needs to be fixed asap. People don’t exis… | /r/seduction | 10/03/26 09:47 PM |
| 2 | I don't understand why online-dating has such a negative stigma hereJust because someone is saying they hate online dating doesn’t mean they have the intention to discourage you, they are simply expressing their frustration with it which is perfect valid. And whether you allow that frustration to discourage you from using online dating is your problem, not theirs. | /r/seduction | 10/03/26 09:16 PM |
| 1 | What’s the difference between seduction and dating?Seduction is the art of enticing women you are spending time with to have intimacy (sex, kissing, arousal, lust) which involves making them feel sexual tension, lust,... etc. Dating is the activity where people can engage for the purpose of trying to look for compatibility and get to know each other for the purpose of creating a romantic relationship. Seduction can happen for one time hookups, but also inside serious relationships. For example, let's say she is your wife, you want to have sex wi… | /r/seduction | 09/03/26 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Field report : room matesIf you are desperate, you'll get none of them. Women can smell off desperation from a mile away. The vibe you carry, your lack of standards, your attempt to hedge your options, the fact that they will know you'll take what you can get is exactly what will turn them off. Trying to get a girl with a needy mindset is just not attractive and it shows through the vibe even if you try to hide it. Because you will be willing to adapt to things you shouldn't adapt just to get one of them, and you will o… | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Confidence comes from within? It make you more attractive? You actually believe this?Confidence is a process which involves many steps. Internal dialogue. The way you talk to yourself heavily impacts your self esteem. If you keep thinking things like “i don’t know why i even try” “i always fail”, “i am a loser”, “im an idiot”, “i suck with women”, “someone like me does not deserve to be liked or loved by women”... All of those thigns you say to yourself in your head will make your less confident in a steady manner. Because you are basically being a bad friend to yourself. If you… | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 04:36 PM |
| 7 | How to get out of friend zone?P.S. I'm not trying to fuck her immediately, I really want her to be my gf, I really like her. Ironically, the most effective way to make her your girlfriend and avoid the friendzone is to have sex with her first wothout labels. Because sex produces oxytocin the bonding hormone which makes ppl more likely to grow attachment to someone and develop feelings. So instead of going for a relationship first and then sed, it’s actually the other way around, first lots of casual sex with her, until she d… | /r/seduction | 02/03/26 03:34 AM |
| 0 | Do women use jealousy?Sorry, but you are not the center of the universe. Her actions are not about you. Just because you feel jealousy doesn’t mean she is trying to make you jealous. You are making assumptions about her supposedly doing things to make you jealous when in reality ahe probably isn’t even thinking about you at all and you are just assuming it’s about you, which is a sign of being too self-centered. | /r/seduction | 28/02/26 07:09 AM |
| 5 | Does she like me, or am I delulu?Don’t say the part “lets stop playing games” and keep the rest. So just: “Hey, I think we should grab a drink this weekend and see if we have some chemistry.” The playing games accuses her of being manipulative and puts her in a defensive position. You only invite dismissal and arguments rather than invitation. | /r/seduction | 28/02/26 01:59 AM |
| 12 | How to recognize if a girl is interested just form small talkYou need to stop treating women as if they are mathematical problems to solve. The problem is that signals are not universal in meaning. Different women can have the same behavior and yet can easily have different intentions or desires. Your job isn’t to figure out what she wants, your job is to do what you want simply because you feel like it, and let her be the one to allow it or stop it when you are about to make your moves. It’s not your job to preemptively guess what she wants or to stop yo… | /r/seduction | 26/02/26 08:34 PM |
| 6 | High Attraction vs Depths of the Friend ZoneGo out with, her make her feel good, flirt with her, start getting intimate, kiss, and hookup with her. What she says she wants can change in the heat of the moment if you suddenly turn her on during the hangout, and get her in the mood. It’s not your job to act according to her script, you base your actions on what you want, her only job is to either allow or stop your moves only in the moment that you are initiating them in person during the hangout. It’s not about pre planning, it’s about spo… | /r/seduction | 21/02/26 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Telling the difference between your coworker being into you vs friendly? What are the subtle tells?Your problem here is that you are trying to guess a woman’s intentions with you before taking any action, and that’s not happening. And the thing is her intentions don’t matter, plus are not set in stone, assuming she even has any. Women go with the flow, they don’t have a secret plan where her intentions are linear or set in stone. They can easily shift one day to another because women are acting based on how the feel in the present moment and how they feel now isnt a guarantee she will feel th… | /r/seduction | 19/02/26 10:59 AM |
| 0 | Using money to upgrade my dating lifeWaste of money. Invest in assets instead. | /r/seduction | 16/02/26 02:53 PM |
| 14 | 29 IRL “Signals” she’s attracted to you (fresh from the field)What if i told you a girl can do all of these signs and still reject you. | /r/seduction | 12/02/26 08:57 PM |
| 1 | How to find the right dating coach? Ideally in person (greater Boston area)Ok so as a seduction cold approach coach, this is the initial basic advice i can give u: 1 - Start approaching women in campus. The likelihood of dating women increases the more women you talk to. You also need to approach to start getting experience interacting with women and to start learning social skills. Now u might be thinking excuses not to approach such us: “Oh but girls are busy, they don’t wanna be interrupted, that one looks like she might not like me, they are gonna be upset cuz i’m … | /r/seduction | 12/02/26 01:26 AM |
| 4 | No girlfriend title until after sex. What are your thoughts?It’s 100% irrelevant what many woman or men in another sub say. No amount of complains changed the fact that her preferences are their problem and your preferences are your problem. Also it’s not your obligation or anyone’s obligation to not be weird or to do what’s normal. If someone says “_you are weird_”, you say “_thank you i love being weird_”. You don’t apologize for what you want. “Weird” just means different, where does it say that you are not allowed to be different (assuming that you w… | /r/seduction | 11/02/26 01:51 PM |
| 5 | No girlfriend title until after sex. What are your thoughts?There are no rules in dating, only preferences, so you have a right to your preferences and should seek someone who matches them. You don’t need someone to approve of your preferences for you to stick to them. Also what you are describing about sex before commitment isnt unusual at all, it’s actually a very common normalized standard practice. So there is | /r/seduction | 11/02/26 01:42 PM |
| 8 | Non-posessiveness is the key most of the timeBy not putting all your eggs in one basket, not treating a girl like she is the key of your entire well-being and happiness, not treating solitude as a problem to fix, but a gift to embrace, and treating your attention as a reward, not as a given. | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 11:23 PM |
| 33 | why are my female coworkers friendlier with other colleague than me?He just has something which can’t be copied or replicated by you, natural magnetism and instant affinity. You can’t match his results unless you happen to meet a girl who naturally feels chemistry with you, which comes down to pure luck. It’s like playing football, some people have natural talent like Lionel Messi, no matter how much you train to be a football player , you won’t ever be like Messi. Some people are just born to be great at something. They are essentially gifted. | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 11:08 PM |
| 1 | How are average looking men supposed to meet women?You are too focused on how others will perceive you which is a self imposed trap. You: I won’t do this because people will think i am desperate. So what? Let them think you are desperate. _You: No i can’t it is crucial that people who don’t give a fuck about me don’t think i am desperate._ Then stay single and keep thinking your “reputation” makes your life better. You: But i want girls. Then be willing to lose your reputation. You: Nooo. Can’t have your cake and eat it too. So grow up, chooose … | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 11:02 PM |
| 22 | Insecurity about my age?Girls are more attracted to guys older than them, so you actually have that in your favor. Most girl don’t like to be with guys the same age as them because girls tend to be more mature. The problem isn't a “flaw” the problem is your attitude about that flaw. The problem is not being old, (if you were old) the problem is hating yourself for being old. That’s far more repulsive to girls than the age itself. | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 12:53 AM |
| 3 | Authentic or Confident?False dilemma because in order to be authentic you have to be confident to dare presenting your true self, and most people don’t have the confidence to do that. | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 11:55 PM |
| 4 | Tips to open this girl on ig ?Rule numbers 1: Don’t bring politics when seducing women. Just don’t. Not even to agree with her. Just avoid it completely. | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 03:47 PM |
| 9 | Girlfriend (21F) calls me (21M) lustful for asking for sexAt the end of all 3 of thoes arugements shes called me lustful all becuase i've mentioned ita She is saying it like it’s wrong to want sex which is illegitimate. The reality is she is either not sexually attracted to you but will never admit it or you both are not compatible in the way you see relationships. You should find yourself a woman who naturally likes to have sex just as much as you and who is sexually attracted to you, and she should find herself a boyfriend d who is ok with either not… | /r/seduction | 08/02/26 01:20 AM |
| 3 | new to cold approaching need help with textingShe is giving you the energy of someone who is not that interested and who doesn’t have you as a priority at all. A “maybe” or “i’m busy” or “i’ll let you know” 99% of the time means “not interested” in girl world. | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Why were men Historically Married for Resources if Physical Attraction Definitely Matters Today?Nah i’m not that tall, just 175cm and i have hooked up with girls. | /r/seduction | 05/02/26 07:53 PM |
| 5 | How to Hit on Girls and Get Laid at a Night Out this Valentine’s Day?Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 05/02/26 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Why were men Historically Married for Resources if Physical Attraction Definitely Matters Today?Because historically since we were in primitive times, there have been two main type of men, providers and lovers. Lovers were those with great genes and traits and women had sex with them in order to have better healthier children. Providers were those with resources and who didn’t necessarily have the best genes for off spring. Women chose providers for long term relationships because despite not having great genes, they were reliable and offered security and resources that the lovers weren’t … | /r/seduction | 05/02/26 05:46 PM |
| 2 | The Friendzone TrapThe other guy was simply naturally appealing to her, so it’s not that she is into or isnt into seduction games. It’s that you confuse being yourself with a tactic to get “any girl who prioritizes authenticity” to like you. A girl can like guys who are authentic but that doesn’t mean, she will like every authentic guy she meets. She will be attracted to some authentic guys and not be attracted to other authentic guys. | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 02:36 PM |
| 5 | The Friendzone TrapU wanna meet a really great lady that shares your ideas and interests as well, so u try to be more yourself after these lessons. Because your natural self is needy, boring, dull. Being yourself and expecting great results with women only works when your natural self is seductive by pure instinct. If it’s not, then being yourself will mean you have to rely on the stars aligning to find a girl and sure if you find it by being your usual boring self great, but that can take huge amounts of time mis… | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 01:42 PM |
| 5 | Has anyone tried being mean on purpose?i have. And with certain girls it can get their attention monetarily, but ultimately there is too much tension that if not resolved romantically or sexually, then it leads to an ego battle or being slapped in the face, getting your ego destroyed, or getting cancelled. | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 03:17 PM |
| 0 | Get rid of your egoWrong. Ego is what you want others to believe about yourself and it’s based on seeking external approval. Serving the needs of your ego, leads to self-sabotage The authentic self is secure, requires no validation, and is present without the constant need to protect or enhance its image and that enters in conflict with ego. | /r/seduction | 30/01/26 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Get rid of your egoEgo is not your friend. Ego is an enemy. Don't confuse ego with self-respect. Ego is all about creating a facade that crumbles easily to get superficial respect from people who don't actually care about you. So yes everything, not just pussy, is more important than ego because ego is a flaw, not a virtue. The only thing ego can occasionally be good in small quantities is to push you to pursue goals as ego will do that to prove your worth to others. But even then, the motivation to pursue goals s… | /r/seduction | 30/01/26 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Help me guys !Practice emotional self-control. When i go to the gym my body is tempted to destroy the diet and eat cake, candy, sodas, but i simply control myself not to do it and eat proper food instead. With women it’s the same practice, i am tempted to tell her something to show i am interested? Then i remind myself i shouldn’t because i can’t see her for months, and thus don’t do it. So instead I talk to other women who i can actually see now or I go out to meet new girls on public spaces. Knowing well th… | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Help me guys !I already said how | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Help me guys !You are way too worried about maintaining a thing where not even a kiss happened. That already tells me you are needy even if you say you don’t want to appear that way hecause the fact that you are clinging to such small breadcrumbs that u won’t be able to see for 2 months is something only a needy person wothout options would do. The way to not be needy is to not care at all whether she leaves or stays, you say you are worried about her thinking you are not interested, well the not needy thing … | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 03:42 PM |
| 1 | I need help with this girlWhat would you do if you knew she would say yes? | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 06:22 AM |
| 3 | I need help with this girlWomen don’t necessarily do things with goals in mind, other than simply doing things because they feel like doing them and seeing what happens as a result without amy hope in mind. It’s the equivalent of touching a red button and seeing it will do something with curiosity. | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 05:42 AM |
| 18 | What is the best book that will improve your game?The book “Daygame Code”. Here is an extract that might peek your curiosity: Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The… | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 03:25 AM |
| 2 | Is she playing games or just not interested enough?Why dont you switch mindset to the following: You prefer a woman who texts faster, ahe is showing you that she is not the type of woman who texts the way you prefer. This isn’t a moral failing from her, it just means your texting preferences and speed don’t naturally align. If this lack of compatibility in text is a crucial dealbreaker then end things. If it’s not that important because you value other things more than matching exactly in texting, then match and mirror and keep your options open… | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends?You think the world doesn't have assholes? and that those assholes are always easy to spot in time? You think all of the friends you've had in your life were saints? You must be either extremely lucky or extremely inexperienced. Im not saying he should have assholes as friends, im saying that sometimes who you think is a friend can be an asshole and you don't realize until you've been hurt. | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends?I won't apologize for warning people to protect themselves from being hurt, at least they won't say that nobody warned them. If you think that advising people to be careful is "weird" or "strange" then you might need to live in the real world more often. | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 04:46 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends?This commenter right here is a clear example of what i was talking before, the usual smug who acts all mighty and superior but then won't deal with the consequences if things go south because it's not his problem. As you can see he has better friends, better women in his life and he calls others "losers" which is proof that he is such a winner. But ultimately the truth is he doesn't give a fuck about you and won't be there for you if things go south, after pushing you to be reckless and putting … | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Date was going very well until I said one sentenceIf you want it, you want it, no matter if people think it's good or bad, and because you want it, you don't apologize for what you want. If people disapprove of you, you say: "It is what it is, there is the door if you don't like me. Shut the door when you leave". | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 02:06 PM |
| 15 | Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends?The likelihood of friendzoning yourself is high and the likelihood of her finding another one of your friends more attractive than you because she is not invested enough in you if sex hasn’t happened is also high. Don’t bring prey to a pack of wolves and then cry if the wolves devour her. And warning: Don't take advice from people who shame you into ignoring your gut feelings in favor of their idea of what’s "brave" or "confident" cuz they won't take responsibility if things go south. They are q… | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 01:50 PM |
| 14 | Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends?Not a good idea. Specially if you haven’t had had sex multiple times with her first, but even if you have it’s still not a good idea. Too soon, you haven’t even talked about being in an official relationships and it’s too soon to have that conversation also. | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 01:46 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with this specific double texting scenario?Your previous text wasn't responded because she did not want to respond to it or had nothing to say to it. If you decided to double text then you should have just moved on from the previous one. You should learn that having no answer to a particular text is also an answer, just not one that you might like or be satisfied with, but an an answer nonetheless. As just because you expect a response doesn't mean you can demand a response to the subject they don't feel like responding to. If you find h… | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 01:04 PM |
| 96 | Date was going very well until I said one sentenceThe problem here is that you were basing your behavior on what she tells you she prefers. Acting like a puppet, following orders, trying to be an obedient dog hoping to get a cookie in return for being a good boy. So no, it was a bad move because the mindset of "she criticizes men who don't do x, so i will do x to show her I am different" show you have no integrity and that you are being performative. | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 06:44 PM |
| 60 | Date was going very well until I said one sentenceYou did not do anything wrong for asking her that. It’s not a moral failing no matter how upset a girl gets and even if she says “_you are not supposed to ask that_” it’s not really an order that you or any other man has to comply with. Her individual expectations or preferences about how men should behave are her problem, not yours. You simply are not compatible, and not being compatible doesn’t mean it’s your job to force compatibility. So the only mistake here was apologizing and begging for … | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Advice on not getting overly attached to every single woman I meet?Be outcome independent. Whatever happens, happens. Be willing to lose girls. And you'll find out that the world keeps going and that more often than not you can get away with more shit that you thought was possible. And even if you don't get away with it, you learn to make peace with it by force. Not sure why you'd think that being bold has to necessarily mean you have to start insulting her. A bold message can be telling her that you like her tits. That's not an insult and if she feels insulted… | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 04:28 PM |
| 6 | Advice on not getting overly attached to every single woman I meet?Every time you recognise these type of thoughts, send her a bold message without giving a fuck about the outcome just to rebel against those thoughts, to train your brain to be more reckless and impulsive. | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Why chasing women kills attraction and why giving zero fucks while you pursue them attracts them insteadWhat happens when they start playing games? There is no playing games if you simply don't settle for anything less than what you want. Do you want a girl who gives you “maybe” energy or do you want a girl who gives you “fuck yes” energy? Do you want a girl who makes things hard for you or do you want a girl who makes things effortless for you? Do you want a girl who is inconsistent and flaky or do you want a girl who is consistent and follows through any plan or promise? Do you want a girl who t… | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Women show interest, enjoy the interaction, then leave — what am I missing?I don’t worry about this at all. | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Women show interest, enjoy the interaction, then leave — what am I missing?There is no difference in my approach. I also don't pay attention to indications of interest. I just approach who i want, when i want to without caring about signs. As for her ego, that would only be an issue if i started showering with constant compliments. One mild compliment like "cute" is not gonna get any woman to think she is better than you. | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Women show interest, enjoy the interaction, then leave — what am I missing?I say that i find her cute, and i’m referring to her overall appearance. | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 10:18 PM |
| 2 | Women show interest, enjoy the interaction, then leave — what am I missing?That’s because you are playing it too safe and casual, so you need to actually have intent when you start the conversation not just throw a small bait. You want an actual conversations? Then make it clear explicitly that you want to get to know her. Don’t go indirect or casual, be clear: “Hey i want to get to know you because i think you are cute. What’s your name?” And no son go for the number straight away, have a 5 min conversation first to gauge chemistry, and a bit of compatibility and to s… | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Yet another first date that I think goes well goes poorly. How to not let it get to me?You didn’t find any of those girls incompatible with you? What makes you think incompatibility is a failure, rather than clarity that this person isnt right for you? | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 07:39 PM |
| 12 | Yet another first date that I think goes well goes poorly. How to not let it get to me?This will keep happening as long as your goal is to get women to like you in dates. Seems like you just want validation from women rather than to explore genuine compatibility. Did you ever noticed how they tell you they don't feel they are compatible with you, and you somehow think every woman you went out with is compatible with you until they disagreed? That shows that your focus is not where it should be. It shows you are trying to score points, trying to prove your worth, trying to convince… | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Advice on improving logistics when the girl lives far away and the city is new to me?If the company is great "just a hangout" is great. If the company is mid, then compensating with flashy things won't stop the company being mid. You'll just have the illusion that the flashy things will make you look good only for her to tell you that she is not feeling the sparks with you. | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 06:32 PM |
| 0 | Strong IOIs throughout 4-hour date, escalated twice, hard rejection next day - field report + looking for analysisNext day invited her out again. Hard rejection: "We want different things" / "don't imagine turning romantic or intimate" You asked her out too soon. You need to create scarcity after you had a date, keep her guessing where she stands with you after a date. Not reveal that you can’t wait to see her again, when the date was decent at best since she didn’t want to kiss you. Should I have verbalized intent throughout? ("I'd like to hold your hand" / "Can I kiss you?") Just say, “i’m trying so hard … | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Why approachingWomen also have to show value. The thing is their value for guys is very self-evident because it’s mostly their looks. An obese woman therefore suffers more because the vast majority of guys do not see her value. | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Why approachingI can't get it why do we need to do cold approaching You don’t need to, it’s just something some people want to do. Wanting is not the same as needing to. Why do people want to? Because it gives them the opportunity to meet a particular girl they wouldn’t be able to meet anywhere else. A random girl you cross paths with that blows your mind and which you probably will never see again so it’s now or never. It's just i don't like the idea of me asking a random woman about her number or her contact… | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 06:01 PM |
| 8 | Men chase, women choose: the reality of attention in datingWho told you that dating had to be fair or equal? Cuz whoever did clearly lied to you. Your frustration comes because you cling onto the idea that dating and sexual relationship is a right, when in reality it’s always being a privilege that is conquered. Women have it easier yes because the men make it easy for them, however not everything is sunshine for women, as they can get pregnant while you don’t. You take for granted how much of a privilege it is to not having to risk an unwanted pregnanc… | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How to know if I am doing everything right?The way you know you didn't do everything right is by realizing that you got rejected 9 times and the one who gave you the number didn't go anywhere. And the way you figure out what you are doing wrong is by learning about social dynamics and the fundamentals of seduction. There are books for that, such us, Daygame Code, Models, Mystery Method, etc which be found in Amazon. | /r/seduction | 21/01/26 05:47 PM |
| 2 | Do women instictively know when you have options?Because if they are not interested they are not interested, but to grovel yourself for them aint gonna change that, if anything it just causes them to disrespect you more because you are not respecting yourself when you humiliate yourself like that. You must never beg to be loved. Because no woman can love you when you do that. They just can’t respect you because you are essentially acting like a beggar. Better to not be liked and keep your dignity intact than to not be liked and losing your dig… | /r/seduction | 19/01/26 08:04 PM |
| 5 | How do you confirm dates with Gen Z girls after a cold approach?Gen Z is not a collective of people who all do the same thing or have the same expectations or rules about dating. Every person on Gen Z is an distinct individual with their own perceptions, values, expectations, preferences and ideals of how dating should be. A particular gen Z woman can act like a boomer woman, and a particular boomer woman can act like a gen Z woman. So to ask "what does gen z want" is like saying "what's people's favorite color". Who the fuck knows what every person favorite… | /r/seduction | 19/01/26 06:14 PM |
| 1 | How to be effective on DM?It’s a numbers game. There is no strategy that guarantees random chicks on social media will go out with you. Either they are attracted to you because of your photos or they aren’t. Texting the right way is not really a thing because the most boring text can work with the right woman and the most witty interesting text will not work with the wrong woman. So there is no “right amount of romantic intention to show”, it all depends on each individual. There is no right way, there is only girls who … | /r/seduction | 19/01/26 10:57 AM |
| 22 | Do women instictively know when you have options?Because his texting habits can be very revealing. If he tries harder with his texts than her, if he initiates texts more often than her, if he gets upset when the girl doesn't reply fast enough, if he writes huge walls of texts while she barely writes a couple of words per text, even the type of things you say in the text can be telling and also how eager and sold on her you come across through texts... etc | /r/seduction | 19/01/26 01:09 AM |
| 27 | Do women instictively know when you have options?What they can sense is neediness, which is usually inherently tied to having options. So it's more like they put two and two together. If you act needy, pressure them, beg, chase them, put too much effort in comparison to them, they can sense it's because you are desperate and no other girl likes you. If you are not needy, don't try to pressure anything, are very detached, and don't chase, they can interpret that you must have other girls, hence your nonchalant attitude. When you are completely … | /r/seduction | 19/01/26 01:04 AM |
| 3 | Majority of women are expert psychologistsI think you mean they are emotional intelligent, which is due to being more in tune with their emotions, more experienced at expressing them, and they tend to be more empathetic which allows them to sense what other people are feeling or relate to them. But that does not necessarily mean they are expert psychologists. To you it might seem like it's the same thing, but it's not. A psychologist is someone who can help you overcome your traumas, your toxic or unhealthy patterns of behavior that are… | /r/seduction | 19/01/26 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Is cold approach basically a numbers game like sales? Thinking of doing 100 approaches.Both hints can be true, can doing mass approaches get you more chances of a yes? Sure yes. But you can also do 1000 approaches and get rejected every single time. Your results will depend on more factors than just mass approaching everyone. | /r/seduction | 18/01/26 08:02 PM |
| 121 | Okay 100 approaches to learn is cool. But how do you guys deal with the fear of being labelled as creepy or guy who tries to hit on every girl?You are not supposed to mass approach in a place where you will be easily recognized or where most people know each other. You can approach selectively in those places, being picky and mass approach only in public big places where everybody is a stranger like large metropolitan center areas. Mass approach is for the streets, not for places like colleges or gyms. | /r/seduction | 18/01/26 10:50 AM |
| 8 | oh i need helpDo you want a girl who ignores you and that you resent having to put more effort that is not reciprocated, or do you want a girl who doesn’t ignore you, who chases you and makes things effortless? Never settle for less than what you want. | /r/seduction | 18/01/26 10:47 AM |
| 0 | She Said It Was "Only A One Off"; I Don't Believe Her- I have never, in my life met a woman whose words hold more weight than her actions. This is irrelevant to the point. You can choose to follow her actions and maybe you get success, but the risk is still yours if you get it wrong because she was telling you. So im not here to argue if women don't mean what they say, because what i am saying is that when you ignore words, the responsibility is yours and you have no one else to blame if it goes wrong. - In my experience, women don't keep promises… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Dating procedure- I see it more from a place of "let me do this for you because im appreciated/grateful". If she didn't offer is because she is not feeling it like doing it. She doesn't have any moral obligation to do it neither. And if you didn't ask her to do it then you cannot really complain that she is not doing it. - Subconsciously want something in return everyone does if not you would not even be there to begin with. Ok but you "wanting something" is not the same as "her using you for not giving you som… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 06:45 PM |
| 5 | She said she’ll text me next week - is this usually a soft no, or am I overthinking?If you want to text, text her. And text other women too and go out with other women too. Don't just focus on this girl, focus on many girls at the same time. | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 06:40 PM |
| 5 | She Said It Was "Only A One Off"; I Don't Believe Her- Next day, she said it was a 'only a one off', and that it wasn't going to happen again. I don't believe her because My thoughts are "she's trying to keep a distance because we work together", and sure enough, hooking up with a coworker might be a mistake.. Here is the thing, it is irrelevant if you don't believe her. When a woman says something and you choose not to believe her, then you are the one taking on a gamble. You are basically saying "her words don't matter", and fair enough, but you… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Dating procedureIt’s the default social norm that the man is the one who pays as a general rule always if u don’t say anything about it from day 1. When a woman pays is because she wants to signal that she sees u as a friend. So asking her to pay is basically you making the dynamic platonic on purpose, it’s you indicating “i see you as a friend”. She can pay sure but then your dynamic changes from “we are romantically dating” to “we are just 2 buddies hanging out so each of us pays separately”. You don’t get us… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 06:15 PM |
| 12 | She said she’ll text me next week - is this usually a soft no, or am I overthinking?When this happens, you need to match and mirror her behavior which in this case it means you prioritize her less (not necessarily to shut the door) and talk to new girls and going out on dates with those other girls. You don't put all your eggs in one basket, you keep your options open and date others who have more time for you. If she loses you to those girls eventually then that's her problem for not prioritizing you more earlier. So yes it is low interest, which is why you need to do the mult… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 04:37 PM |
| 3 | Day game mental block- I feel a certain sympathy for girls (especially good looking ones) that they might be getting eyeballs/attention from guys everywhere they go If you wanna be a mister nice guy, you should know that mister nice guys finish last. Many women like to play the victim hard as if they are poor damsels in distress. The reality is every woman is different. Some get upset that they don't get approached ever, others that they get approach all the time. And some might like to be approached only by some gu… | /r/seduction | 10/01/26 10:48 PM |
| 72 | Women of Reddit: What happens to a woman’s attraction when a girl is clearly interested but the guy hesitates or holds back due to sexual insecurity?Insecurity turns people off. Insecurity isnt something people show mercy towards. | /r/seduction | 09/01/26 04:13 PM |
| 7 | Sleeping on first date and not feeling connectionIt’s called slut-defense mechanism. By sleeping so fast, she feels slutty and low value, and inherently she thinks you will think she is low value or even if you don’t, she will assume her friends or family will see her as slutty when they ask how you two met/started dating. “Well we went out on a date and we fucked” This line isnt something she feels good saying. So to solve that dissonance you have to make her feel that sleeping fast with a guy doesn’t make her a slut but without using those w… | /r/seduction | 09/01/26 03:39 PM |
| 5 | What are subtle ways women flirt with men?1 - Signals don’t have a universal meaning across all women because they aren’t robots programmed to do the exact same things under certain situations, hence your reading can be off quite frequently since different women can behave the way same way and one might be into you while the other isn’t. And ultimately you always take a gamble regardless of how much reading of signals you did as the result is never guaranteed even if you think all the signals are clear. 2 - Reading signals also causes y… | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 01:40 AM |
| 2 | Going through tough times, good enough to meet women?You don’t need job or à successful stable career to get laid casually. You only need those things to date seriously which isnt something you should do even if you had the money because it’s a trap. Hooking up while being broke is easy because there is no expectation of being a provider | /r/seduction | 07/01/26 11:05 PM |
| 5 | What book is the modern-day equivalent of The Mystery MethodThe book “Daygame Code”. Here is an extract that might peek your curiosity: Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The… | /r/seduction | 07/01/26 05:53 PM |
| 45 | What are subtle ways women flirt with men?The only signal a man needs is the fact that he likes the girl to start going for it. The rest is just fear of rejection paralysing you from going for what you want. If you simoly stop acting like it’s the end of the world when a woman rejects you then signals become irrelevant and you don’t even look out for them to pursue who you want and do what you want. In dating risk-takers who are more inclined to be a bit reckless, win more often than risk-avoiders who try to play it safe. So stop being … | /r/seduction | 07/01/26 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Ghosted after really intense partyJust because you kiss a woman doesn’t mesn that woman is kissing you with the intention of wanting something long term. Your problem is assuming that someone having interest in the short term inherently means they want in the long term. So this is a problem with your expectations. Not everyone is seeking a romantic relationship just because they have sex with you or make out with you. Lastly, a woman in the night will often want one thing and then on a different day will not want anything anymor… | /r/seduction | 06/01/26 11:02 PM |
| 2 | How do I ask this question?First you have sex spontaneously and then after having sex, you might tell her that you want to keep seeing her, but aren’t looking for anything serious. If you haven’t had sex first then you should not talk about the type of relationship you want until sex has happened first cuz sex isnt something you ask her to give you in a negotiation. First she must be seduced and you should sleep together and then you can talk about expectations | /r/seduction | 05/01/26 11:36 AM |
| 5 | Jealousy in dating, wierd feelings toward friendYeah you are upset because this situation made you feel inadequate or like you are good enough or that you are inferior. In a way, it's like you interpret her decision to have sex with him as slap in the face to you. Because it's something you interpret as if she is telling you: "he is good enough and you are not". So you are not really upset about the fact that she is not romantically interested in you exactly, it's more like you are upset about what her choice represents or symbolizes about yo… | /r/seduction | 02/01/26 03:23 PM |
| 3 | Mixed signals after great dates, am I overthinking or was I gently rejected?If she doesn't put enough effort or show consistent investment or gives you mixed signals, then what you do is to stop prioritizing and prioritize other women instead, while you leave this one on the backburner. You don't shut the door to her, but you also don't sit around waiting just for her, you simply match and mirror her level of interest, and you speak and date other girls on the meantime. If she invests more in the future and you are still not exclusive with other girls then you may inves… | /r/seduction | 01/01/26 08:55 PM |
| 69 | How to not get jaded/jealous of how easy women have it ?If women make it hard for men to have sex you complain because women have easier access to sex than men, but if women make it easy for men to have sex with them then they are called sluts or ran through, for being so easy, claiming “she is for the streets”. So the same men who want easy sex, then lose respect for women who have had too many cocks in their mouth. “_I want women to say yes easily to me, but not to every other guy. If women are picky then they are unfair, if they are not picky then… | /r/seduction | 01/01/26 04:46 PM |
| 1 | have you all noticed this trend where men are using their credit card to buy things on infields now?Attempting to bribe women into liking you is not a trend. It’s the standard behavior of men since the dawn of civilisation. Women however don’t necessarily give you affection, sex or love in return for your bribe. So you have no one to blame if women gladly take what you give them, but don’t give you anything in return. As for women expecting gifts for giving their number, that would only happen if they don’t like you. | /r/seduction | 01/01/26 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Dating AdviceWoman are looking for the exact same thing that they have been looking for since the dawn of human life as primitive beings. A man who has great genes, sexual superiority, confidence, who can make them laugh and have a good time, who are emotionally stable and intelligent, and who can provide a stable comfortable life where in the circumstance of having children it would be easy and effortless to raise them, and even if an individual particular woman doesn’t want children, to at least have the f… | /r/seduction | 30/12/25 05:46 PM |
| 23 | Finally approached“I would but i have a boyfriend” She was definitely down for cheating. But good on you for being a nice guy. | /r/seduction | 30/12/25 05:06 PM |
| 12 | How do I stop caring?Yeah, not everyone enjoys playing the same games. The reality is treating it as something serious only creates pressure. And pressure is what makes it not fun. You can only stop treating it as something serious when you don’t use it as a symbol of your worth. When you stop treating women as judges of your worth, a role they never asked you to give them. | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 10:47 PM |
| 34 | How do I stop caring?You care because you are acting like this is something serious, instead of what it is, just a game. I don't care if i lose in a video game and yet i still play. It just doesn't matter, sure i'd rather win when i play a video game, but if i lose it's not gonna give me a personal crisis or a depression. So what your friends are actually saying is "Dude, it's not that serious if a woman wants to sleep with you or not, stop acting like it's a battle for your worth, or a life or death situation". Why… | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 10:07 PM |
| 1 | HeeeelpStop acting like this is an exam mate. Just have fun and stop trying to earn her approval. She is not supposed to grade your performance... Jesus... can't you just treat women as regular humans instead of judges? | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 09:38 PM |
| 14 | Does being nonchalant or confident work?It increases your chances of success to be confident. Not every girl is gonna like you just because you are confident, but most girls will definitely dislike you if you are not confident. So being confident is the bare minimum, not an optional thing, or a jedi mind trick to win them all. Everything else you mentioned is just optional tactics and social skills, but confidence is the root base of it all Without confidence nothing works. With confidence, some of those things can work here and there… | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 09:06 PM |
| 3 | I don't understand why men like "night clubs" for finding womenI guess you are | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 12:10 AM |
| 164 | I don't understand why men like "night clubs" for finding women1 - You can get laid by holding their hand and taking them out of there. 2 - Even if you just make out with girls and nothing more, it’s still fun to do that as an end goal. | /r/seduction | 27/12/25 05:38 AM |
| 292 | I don't understand why men like "night clubs" for finding womenIt’s easy to make out with girls in nightclubs if you are direct, ballsy and don’t hesitate your moves at all. Not even a need to talk. That’s why. | /r/seduction | 27/12/25 05:33 AM |
| 4 | my friend’s sister i think is into me.. how do i proceed?It’s not a woman’s job to tell you what you should do or to give you signals to do something specific or to tell you if. you should pursue something with her. Ever heard of leadership? It means you act based on what you want not based on what you think a woman might want but are not sure of. You need to learn to stop trying to read a woman’s mind and figure out instead what the fuck do you want and then go for it simoly because it’s what you want and thats why you do it because you give yourself… | /r/seduction | 27/12/25 05:03 AM |
| 7 | Impossible to Stay Single in 2026zzzzz… | /r/seduction | 26/12/25 02:39 AM |
| 3 | How you manage to learn seduction?Because everyone’s got different personalities and their game is adapted to their personality. You seem confused because you think of seduction as some of mathematical equation where there is only one answer. Seduction is an art, every artist has a different style. There is Van Gogh. There is Da vinci, there is Picasso. There is Dali. Sure there are certain basics, like emotional connection, confidence, self esteem, abundance mentality, flirtation, sexual tension, and then every style of each ar… | /r/seduction | 25/12/25 07:52 PM |
| 45 | How to proceed when girl signals me in a club?You dance close by putting her arm around your shoulder and/or whisper things you like about her in her earlobe. The closest your lips are to her earlobe the better. It will melt them, and will be easy to just kiss with them very quickly. You are not supposed to get into a boring conversation about who you are, or talking outside or anything. They don’t care about your life, they don’t even care about your name, all they care is how you make them feel. Hence, why you whisper things you like abou… | /r/seduction | 24/12/25 12:25 AM |
| 5 | She hit me back a few days later…You sound needy, too eager and you clearly operate from a scarcity mindset clinging to breadcrumbs. That’s what makes me think this girl is not going to be interested because that needy vibe you have can be felt so loud and girls have a 6th sense to detect that needy vibe. So I’m pretty sure that soon as she read that “i was drunk…” message she could feel the neediness which does no good for you. And then on top of that it’s her behavior. She is not a girl who was waiting for your message, which… | /r/seduction | 23/12/25 10:21 PM |
| 27 | How to communicate sexual desire with looking totally weird?Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 23/12/25 10:55 AM |
| 2 | Need dire helpYour purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 22/12/25 09:55 PM |
| 8 | Got a Text Back1 - Girls can easily change their mind at any moment. This confuses some guys because they think in black or white terms where a girl is either sold o them or not sold. However girls make their decisions based on how they feel in the moment and based on how they feel after they processed their emotions after the initial rush. So a girl can easily feel a high at one particular moment where she is all over you and the after she has had time to calm down relax and processed she can think well that … | /r/seduction | 22/12/25 08:19 PM |
| 3 | We might get a resolution of the looks vs game debate!The real "battle" would be to see an ugly dude with no game vs an ugly dude with game. And then see who does better. Cuz yeah, if you get warren buffet or bill gates there, then they will destroy both these guys. All they have to say: "ill give you a million dollars if you kiss me. And 10 million if you sleep with me once." Do you have money or loos? No? Well, then you have to work with what you've got instead of comparing yourself to others who have something you don't. So the point is people c… | /r/seduction | 22/12/25 02:22 PM |
| 29 | With a rich girl, should I hang out near her place/neutral/my place?Always treat every girl the same way. Never put them on a pedestal. Never treat them as special. Never treat them like they deserve any better than any regular girl deserves. She is rich? Cool treat her like she is not rich. | /r/seduction | 22/12/25 01:50 AM |
| 2 | First time.- We chat daily but the pace of replies are between 2-3 hours in between. So? You are adults. You shouldn't be expecting her to reply immediately. She doesn't wanna chat online. And neither should you. Focus on what happens in person and stop trying to measure a woman¡s interest in you based on her texts. - I asked her if the age difference was an issue to which she replied “i don’t really care” Never ask a woman if the age difference is an issue because then you are the one who is starting to m… | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 06:43 PM |
| 0 | What to do if friend is a naturalThis is such toxic unhealthy and illegitimate desire. Competing with him, trying to do better than him, trying to prove your worth, trying to convince him that you do well with women, being upset that someone is better at something than you when there will always be someone better and yet it doesn’t fucking matter. It speaks highly of your fragile self esteem and low maturity level that you obsessed over this. It’s childish as fuck. Dating and seduction is not about trying to be better than this… | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 05:52 PM |
| 10 | How to Recover When I Missed My Chance with a Flirty Girl?There is absolutely no reason to apologize. In fact apologizing for no reason comes across as insecurity and weakness. This ain’t short and sweet this is short and weak | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 11:31 PM |
| 6 | Really struggling to find out how to get girls to like meBecause you are not sexualising and creating sexual tension. You are trying to be nice and earn a boyfriend role instead. You are trying not to creep out girls, you are making sure that girls see how great you’d be as a boyfriend, as someone who is there for her, as someone who treys her well…, instead of doing what actually creates a spark which is to turn them on, aka Building erotic tension. You are praising woman, complimenting them and making them feel good about themselves, instead of teas… | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Make this make senseYour confusion comes hecause you think women should behave according to logic where 2+2 = 4. But women often behave according to emotions which goes more like 2+2 = 27 today, tomorrow 2+2 = 4 and the day after tomorrow 2+2 = 7… Constantly changing and very rarely you will get the 4 that you are looking for. All you need to understand is that women operate through moods, which are constantly changing almost as much as the weather. So you shouldn’t be shocked that a woman can go from súper interes… | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 08:38 PM |
| 17 | What are some subtle ways you can come off as needy without realizing it?Showing full availability for her, always adapting to her schedule, always prioritizing her, dropping everything you are doing just to have another chance to spend some more with her, rushing to lock her down into a monogamous relationship… bringing up without reason that you’ve uninstall the dating apps too soon or before she even has brought it up, spending lots of money on her, clinging to breadcrumbs, telling her lots of compliments… Double or triple texting, trying way harder than she is to… | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 07:25 PM |
| 1 | If you're a man you're always going to be perceived as a creep if you're a strangerThe problem with creepy guys is that because they are creepy and they get told they are creepy then they assume every other guy on earth is also creepy and no different than him. This is a You problem, stop projecting your flaws into other people. You are the creepy dude and you are the one who will be perceived as creepy. Sorry if this doesn’t make you feel good knowing that other guys get success, but it is what it is. | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 06:33 PM |
| 1 | I can bring the girl home, but she leaves without even a kiss.Not always but almost always you should have kissed before getting her home. Never rely on exceptions to find success. | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 04:35 PM |
| 3 | I lost my mojo helpThe problem is you need to stop treating dating as a way to prove something. Whether you got cheated by her, or whether you compared yourself to other guys in her life, or whether she didn’t appreciate everything you did for her, cannot be something now that comes into play in dating women in terms of symbolism. You need to detach from the outcome, treat everything as a game, interpret rejection or setbacks as lack of connection or mismatch in vibes, not as lack of worth or as proof that your ex… | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 03:19 PM |
| 4 | I lost my mojo helpYou are overthinking because you are now focused on the outcome and what it represents. It no longer is an unimportant game for you, now it’s a battle to prove something, hence you are pressuring yourself because you are trying to use dating as a means to prove your adequacy or your worth. Why that change? Well maybe the break up did more damage in you than you think. You say you are fine and ready, but deep down there is still something there about the break up that still lingers in the backgro… | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 02:43 PM |
| 7 | I can bring the girl home, but she leaves without even a kiss.You should have already kissed before taking her home. You are doing the order wrong. | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 02:26 PM |
| 3 | HELP! How Do I Stop Avoiding Approaches Because I'm Scared of Risking My "Cool Guy" Self-Image?By understanding that the only person who thinks you are cool is yourself, no one else. It’s just a story you tell yourself. You think you are cool but no one else thinks you are, so it’s just self-delusion. No different than people who have anorexia or any form of body dysmorphia, where people who suffer it feel they are overweight even though they are actually extremely underweight. So you are protecting an image that is an illusion because people don’t see that image you tell yourself you hav… | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 05:55 PM |
| 281 | As a guy in his 30s, is it easier to get dates with women in their 40s or women in their 20s?When you know how to seduce women the age becomes irrelevant and it won’t even be a topic of conversation. You are appealing to their rational logical side and trying to get something from them. Hence why they bring up the age. When you stir their emotions and don’t try to get something from them and instead just stay in the present following the energy motion and acting on impulses, then their objections go away and their preferences become irrelevant. So your issue is literally the fact that y… | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 03:23 AM |
| 1 | How do I get laidYour purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 12:01 AM |
| 8 | Is it over or a shit test?Well if you can’t do anything about it, then you should not be shocked that a woman who was once very interested becomes colder. Will happen again with future girls if you also can’t do anything about it. | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 11:59 PM |
| 19 | Is it over or a shit test?She loses interest because nothing happens other than texting. It’s a classic mistake of guys who text thinking they are making progress when actual progress can only be made in person, going out kissing, having sex… etc not by talking forever. | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 11:55 PM |
| 10 | How do you start a conversation with a stranger on Instagram and get a reply?Nothing because it’s a number game. If you have a good profile they will reply even to a hello… But if your profile is mid, no amount of creative wording will get them to respond or pay much attention to you. Ironically the only thing that could save you from an mis profile is precisely the pick up lines though. But that would get you a response in the short term eventually they’d lose interest if you are boring and your profile is mid. | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 07:29 PM |
| 39 | Does getting older make game harder? Will it be harder to get dates?Depends on more factors than age some. How young you look despite your age, how hot you look, how rich you are, how confident, how funny, the type of women that you go to,… etc | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 01:26 AM |
| 0 | Best way to ask a girl out ?You are reading what i am writing but you are not bothering to comprehend it. Whether you get friendzoned or not depends in what happens in the moment you are with her, not on whether you tell her it’s a date from the start. Let’s say you say it’s a date, and she agrees it’s a romantic date. Cool you haven’t gotten friend-zoned (for now). You then go on a date you talk about a lot of things, everything seems good, and the date ends in a safe hug. You think everything went well, but she tells you… | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Best way to ask a girl out ?It doesn’t matter what’s what she thinks, what matters is what you do during the hangout. Just because she thinks it’s friends doesn’t mean she is closing the door to romance if you do things smoothly. And just hecause she thinks it’s a romantic date doesn’t mean she is sold on you and that she will definitely want to sleep with your become your girlfriend if you fuck things up. There is no expectations or script. Simple as that. It’s all spontaneous whether things go in one path or the other. | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Best way to ask a girl out ?Their interest is not always black and white or predetermined statically from the start. Their interest is a spectrum where sometimes it’s higher sometimes it’s lower. Some girls are neutral about you, they are neither interested nor desinterested from the start. It all depends on how they feel about you. And some girls are interested from the start but then lose interest in you the more they interact with you because something about what you say or doing is turning them off. So if it works or n… | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 03:26 PM |
| 8 | Abundance vs delusionAbundance mindset is not necessarily about having women lined up that are already sold on you, although that could be part of it. The core principle of an abundance mindset is about understanding that every woman no matter how good and hot she is, is replaceable. That you don’t need an specific woman to be happy with your life, that she is not the last woman that will ever like you, that there will be just as great or even better eventually if you keep socializing, and that there are plenty of f… | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Best way to ask a girl out ?You don’t need to say it’s a date if you simply hangout as friends and then transition smoothly into flirting sexually during the hangout. So it’s a matter of being smooth, not a matter of creating expectations, which is what happens when you use the word “date”. Beginners are usually told to use the word “date” because they don’t know how to transition at all to create a romantic/sexual atmosphere, and so the advice is meant as a way for them to practice being more direct, but which can lead to… | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Need help textingWhy do you always start the same way the conversations? Are you a robot or something that doesn’t know any other way of doing things? You say you always wait 1 day and say the same thing. I am not sure what you want to talk about with them after saying hey x what’s up? What is it that you want this woman to say exactly? Like ok ahe says she says i’m doing good and you? You say good too, amd then what? Are you curious about anything for real? Do you want to talk about something in particular? Or … | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 07:21 PM |
| 4 | Gentlemen, I need your helpWhen she pulls back you pull back. You let her come at her own pace. Just because you like her more than others doesn’t mean you can treat her better than the others or show more eagerness than you do with the others. If she misses you she will reach out, which is when you make a date, so you have to give her a chance to miss you more than you miss her. Don’t use texting to keep in touch, don’t use it to seek clarity, don’t use it for reinforcing the connection, only use it for setting up dates … | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 10:01 PM |
| 2 | I have a questionYou are not there to ask for a number you are there to invite her to connect right there in the spot. Your mindset should be that you are giving her an opportunity to meet someone who she might connect with. A chance many women want but don’t get. This doesn’t mean there will be a connection after you talk for 10 mins but it gives her an opportunity. So you are not there to get something from her like a number. Your job is to express curiosity in getting to know who she is in that approach as a … | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 07:25 PM |
| 43 | My friend dates the girl I approachedSorry mate but you seem naive, your friends don’t exist to set up dates for you. You want a girl? Then you pursue her you don’t ask someone else like your friend to do all the work to set up a date for you. It’s your fault for not being you the one in control. I don’t get it how you could possibly think that someone else has to set up dates for you so that you get laid. Also if the woman wants him, then thats her decision and a valid one at that. You don’t have a claim over a girl just because y… | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, what grabs your attention?I don’t care | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 06:01 PM |
| 6 | 4 female friends flirted with me and probably made a deal to ignore me to stay friends with eachother.He is an incel. He is projecting | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 05:03 PM |
| 4 | 4 female friends flirted with me and probably made a deal to ignore me to stay friends with eachother.For a long time you didn’t make a move on any of them. That’s your responsibility. | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 04:35 PM |
| 39 | 4 female friends flirted with me and probably made a deal to ignore me to stay friends with eachother.So you didn’t make a move. That’s where i stop reading. You don’t make a move then women will lose interest. Everything else is irrelevant. | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Got friendzoned yet again, rethinking love vs arrange marriage now.You do you. I just do what most women in general respond to but there are always some exception that will do it like you do. For most women sexual arousal comes first and then the love and commitment come after. That’s the usual order most women and men follow. If you do the opposite thing then you have to accept that only a minority of women will do it your way, and that those who don’t and prefer to do my way which is the majority, will friendzone you. | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Got friendzoned yet again, rethinking love vs arrange marriage now.For me it’s very simple to know if i like someone without being friends. I notice what my body does. Does the woman get my penis hard? Does my gaze get drawn to her looking her over and over? Do my private thoughts keep lingering on her? Then, that’s when i know my body is attracted to that woman and wants me to act. I try to have sex with her without romantic feelings involved. Just fun. If i somehow al still thinking about her the next days after sleeping with her and i still get hard at the t… | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 03:33 PM |
| 13 | Got friendzoned yet again, rethinking love vs arrange marriage now.You are missing the crucial element which is sex!! Sex sex and sex is what’s missing in your interactions with women, sexual fantasies, sexual insinuations, expressing sexual desire for her as a woman, igniting sexual curiosity in her, turning her on, making her feel aroused… Instead you act like a safe nice guy who wants to act like a sweet boy who is there for her, acting supportive, doing everything a good boyfriend in theory might do, but forgetting the crucial aspect that sexual attraction … | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 02:19 PM |
| 17 | Got friendzoned yet again, rethinking love vs arrange marriage now.My last two attempts have gone the same way. Start as a friend, end up friendzoned. That’s because if you start as a friend you are the one effectively putting yourself in the friendzone. It’s not even the woman who friendzones you, it’s you by acting like a friend and then when you try to turn things into romance, the woman simply reminds you that you put yourself in the friendzone. She told me she only sees me as a friend and that there’s no “spark,” whatever that actually means. It means ther… | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, what grabs your attention?Being hot and sexy grabs their attention more than any word you could come up with. | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 01:01 PM |
| 28 | you think when girls go on a trip they're getting smashedThe psychology is people and specially women want freedom, even if they are committed they miss the freedom. What they fear is consequences and maybe guilt. If they feel that there is a way to not feel responsible for what happened, like blaming the guy who hits in her, or the alcohol or the peer pressure, they’ll take it. And if they feel that the boyfriend will never know, they’ll take the chance. Because if he never knows he’ll never be upset, so it’s like it never happened in their point of … | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 12:50 PM |
| 3 | Just went on a first date, feel like I screwed up. What should I do?So you are saying she cut the date short because she would rather spend time with her friend instead. Great sign. Definitely the behavior of a woman who is super interested. | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Just went on a first date, feel like I screwed up. What should I do?Women don’t read minds, but they can feel neediness from a mile away. That’s because your needy mindset makes you act in ways that overlook red flags, overlook low interest signals, as your mind keeps focused on trying to get something from her no matter what. You become overly available for her if she says she is busy, you double text her if she doesn’t respond, you begin to accept maybe dates instead of fuck yes dates,… You begin accepting going out with friends and other people she brings eve… | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Do I Have to Pay Again?Girls are raised to believe they deserve everything and that a man must pay, and to reject guys who don’t pay. Their leverage is that they are young and hot so they never run out of options and can afford to filter guys who don’t pay. It’s up to you to figure out if you have leverage or not. The more leverage you have (meaning that you have tons of options) the more you can enforce standards like that. The less options you have well, it’s up to you to decide what do you value more. Your money or… | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Just went on a first date, feel like I screwed up. What should I do?Mate. The date was awkward, you already know the vibe felt off, and on top of that she suggested hanging out with her friend, which is a huge hint that she is not interested. It’s a downgrade dude, you don’t go from going out one on one to accepting a platonic thing. It’s not about whether a second date is possible cuz that mindset is needy and desperate as if you are begging for a chance… It’s about understanding that you should not settle for girls who the vibe feels off, and you should not se… | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 12:14 AM |
| 6 | Do I Have to Pay Again?You can do whatever you want, as long as you understand that the outcome you get from doing what you want can go in any way sometimes positive sometimes negative. So you cannot avoid drama if she wants to be dramatic about it no matter how you go about it. just say, “i believe men and women should pay equally, so your turn now ;)” If she goes along with it cool, if not then be ready for the thing to end. Whatever action you do must be because you want to do it regardless of what ends up happenin… | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 12:08 AM |
| 17 | Do women actually prefer "older" guys?If they are attractive sure. If they are not attractive no. | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Tutorial for newbiesIt’s not the instagram or anything what you should ask, it is to tell her that you want to take her out on a date. That’s really it. The instagram is nothing but a medium to ask her out. A date is what leads things into romance. Not texting her. You already talk in person so tell her you find her attractive and want to invite her to dinner, or to some show or to do an activity like bowling, or whatever. And in the date you have fun, you connect, you flirt and you for a kiss ideally, simply becau… | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 06:56 PM |
| 0 | Assuming emotional connection and sexual chemistry, will asking a girl to be exclusive turn her off, or do they typically like it if the guy initiates that discussion?It’s better to let women be the one to ask for exclusivity first. Because that way you don’t risk rushing things before she is ready. It’s very typical that many guys ask for exclusivity too soon and the woman just gets turned off as a result and distances herself more and more ruining everything simply because she felt rushed and like the guy was trying to lock her down too soon before she was ready. Thats because many guys when they like a girl who is too attractive, they wanna secure her as s… | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 10:48 AM |
| 0 | Am I just fooling and lying to myself with not well planned cold approaches?Cold approach requires you to know how to seduce women. Seducing women is one thing, cold approaching is another. Seducing means being able to make her feel something sexual or romantic that she wasn’t feeling until your actions caused her to feel it. So the problem many guys have when they do cold approaching is that they they go there not to seduce her, but to beg for a chance, to beg for a number, to beg for a date… etc They go there hoping a woman likes what she sees so much and gives the gu… | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 10:29 AM |
| 26 | Role playing in the bedroom kinda screws up your perception of womenTenderness, softness. sweetness, and vanilla stuff is what societal conditioning drills women they should want… Women after all need to be pure and innocent according to the norms, right? We can’t accept women being slutty, right? That’s supposed to be a men thing, right? men are the perverts, whereas women have to be innocent and blush at the idea of sex, right? But power plays, submission, taboos (the forbidden), and plausible deniability to overcome sexual shame is what triggers their primiti… | /r/seduction | 11/12/25 04:25 PM |
| 16 | Input on age difference resistance from daygame approach / number?The excuse she gives you doesn’t matter. What matters is she is not attracted to you. The excuse is irrelevant if she were attracted she would just do it even if you were older. So the problem here is that you didn’t seduce her during the approach, you weren’t there to negotiate and close the deal with having a solid connection and without triggering any attraction during the approach. So it’s not about overcoming an age excuse, it’s about connecting and seducing her during the approach which yo… | /r/seduction | 10/12/25 07:31 PM |
| 6 | RejectionThis is extremely dumb. Everything thats worth something in life requires to take risks. And that requires you to make peace with something that is ultimately inevitable, rejection. You will get rejected many times in life, there is no way to be infallible where everything goes according to your plan. Where you get told yes every single time. It’s just not possible. Rejection hurts because you’ve learned to fear it and sisnt learn to manage it. You learned that rejection is shameful fue to socia… | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 11:41 PM |
| 12 | Need tips for pursuing this girl from sports classNext time you are playing together just tell her casually: “Hey, I’m gonna grab a coffee/drink or eat lunch, wanna join me, i’d like to chat a bit with you” That gives you an opportunity to spend time with her one on one if she joins you and that’s where you can connect and seduce her face to face which is the most effective way to do it, not over texts. | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 10:31 PM |
| 9 | Most approaches you’ve done in one day? How did you feel afterwards?It’s not about quantity of approaches, it’s about quality. If you are just gonna go around having 2 min conversations or even shorter because you are gonna go straight away for the number after 2 or 3 questions… don’t even bother. The point of cold approaching isnt to get a number, it’s to create a memorable and genuine solid connection. If you don’t do that and keep going for numbers straight away, you could do 10.000 approaches and still zero dates. That’s why most guys say they have no result… | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Unsure how to bring up my expectations with someone I am seeing.If you see it as dating them she needs to know early on that your intention with her is dating. Otherwise she will be shocked to hear later that you want to date because in her mind you both were just hanging out as friends with the intention of being just friends. So intentions, (not expectations), are what need to be communicated clearly explicitly from the beginning. | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 05:14 AM |
| 2 | Unsure how to bring up my expectations with someone I am seeing.I know she’s interested, but I don’t know how to interpret the times when she avoids phone calls or goes silent for a day or two, then comes back like nothing happened. Because she is not in a committed romantic relationship with you, she is just treating you like a friend. The phone call thing I can understand since she lives with her family, but the random ghosting is hard to read. It’s actually easy. Is “ghosting” what you want from a woman? If not then you find yourself a woman who doesn’t g… | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 04:24 AM |
| 0 | Which of these replies would usually make her find you interesting?No you are not making her feel special, you are just telling her that you are insecure by saying that. | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 01:26 AM |
| 18 | Which of these replies would usually make her find you interesting?Mate, women are not computers that all respond to the your input in the same way. Different women can like a different answer and some might mot really care about any answer of these 3 at all. As for making you more interesting, well none really. Because her interest is dependent on other factors like your appearance, your demeanor, your body language, your tone, her preferences, etc. Say what you want to say, and stop trying to find the magic phrase that every girl will like because that doesn’… | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Need your opinion on this.You simply describe or acknowledge her beauty but you didn’t say what you wanted, so that’s why she said she heard you. Next time tell her what you want not just what you observe. And no stop thinking that it should be obvious what you want to women. Even if it was obvious to her you still need to verbalize what you want. Not just make an observation or an opinion on her. Example: “So, I’d like a date with you, so i’d like your number, so i’d like to get to know you”. | /r/seduction | 08/12/25 10:35 PM |
| 3 | Is there any value in following up with a girl that likely lost interest?It's a weird test because what you communicated indirectly to her was : "i am boring actually. Everything you saw in those 2 first dates was just a facade... This is the real me, a boring guy that will give you a boring life if you settle with me, And it only took 3 dates to show my true colors (world record). Before i was just performing to be more interesting and fun to trick you." Women are looking for red flags until they commit. So this test where you pretend to be in charge of who is selec… | /r/seduction | 08/12/25 05:05 PM |
| 6 | She seemed interested at first, now she’s pulling back-what should I do?- I work with a woman who is a bit older than me. She gave me strong lots of eye contact, lingering looks, playful teasing, she initiated most of them. Recently though, her behavior has changed. A woman having interest today means you have to strike today. Because that interest is never permanent it can shift at any time like the weather. - She flaked multiple times when I tried to plan something casual. Sometimes she gives friendly banter, other times she takes hours to reply, like she wants to… | /r/seduction | 08/12/25 04:57 PM |
| 3 | Is there any value in following up with a girl that likely lost interest?- Third date I intentionally made a little more boring and chill to see how she would react and the vibes were completely off. Not sure why you did this type of weird test. But a woman settling down does not mean she wants things to be boring in an eventual serious relationship. This is important for you to know because i don't know if you did it because you have a different idea of what settling down means. Being in a serious relationship does not equal to "let's be boring couple". Specially wh… | /r/seduction | 08/12/25 04:46 PM |
| 18 | How do I escalate with a close friend?No offense but you are not being a gentleman, what you are being is a coward and telling yourself your cowardice is gentleman behavior. Being a gentleman is about showing you desire her, creating physical touch, and leading with your actions because you want to,(wothout waiting for signs form her) which you are not doing. You are just being a bestie (a best friend) not a gentleman. If you both have gone through hookups and relationship then you should already know what to eat watch and everythin… | /r/seduction | 07/12/25 10:01 PM |
| 3 | Do I have a chance with this girl?Does she have a chance with you? Did she earn that chance? How? Or are you just giving away a chance to her simply because she is pretty? And why or how did she earn a second chance after she missed the first one? Are you the prize or is she the prize? If you are the prize then she needs to feel that you are the prize, and you don’t do that by giving away chances for no valid reason that she didn’t prove she deserves. If you are not the prize, then why would she want to go with you? There is not… | /r/seduction | 07/12/25 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Approach taken number now what ?That's because you are not connecting in person before you ask for their number. You need to understand that for people going out with a stranger on a date is usually not something they want. Hence you need to make sure they don't see you as a stranger first which is done by talking for longer in the approach. Maybe going for an instant date right there on the spot when you meet them or simply by talking 10-15 minutes first face to face. This is very important when you do cold approaches because… | /r/seduction | 07/12/25 05:17 PM |
| 1 | How do I ask this girl’s number?Nah. I and many other guys have dated girls from our class and it was a good experience. This is just some absurd norm. Just because you had a bad expereince doesn't mean everyone has also a bad expereince. It's an individual cases whether it's good or bad. | /r/seduction | 07/12/25 03:34 PM |
| 28 | Should I still talk to this girl at my gym?Move on she already said no. | /r/seduction | 07/12/25 12:24 AM |
| 2 | Is she into me romantically?You don't need a woman to tell you she is interested to do what you'd do if she told you she is interested. You are just doing the beta male thing of trying to avoid rejection and wanting guarantees that don't exist. In other words, this dilemma is solved by doing what you want, not by trying to predict first what will happen if you do what you want. You need to stop caring if she likes you or doesn't and just make your move simply because you want to, not because the outcome you want will happe… | /r/seduction | 05/12/25 03:08 AM |
| -3 | How do you get girls on IGStep 1: You need to be attractive . Your profile should show you are a show sexually appealing women just can't resist you. If you are not that type of man, don't even bother. So do you have 6 pack abs, big triceps and broad shoulders? If not, do you at least have the kind of beautiful face that women just can't stop themselves from complimenting you? Step 2: Once the threshold of attractiveness has been passed, you are direct, you tell them what you fantasize sexually doing to them, and get the… | /r/seduction | 05/12/25 01:59 AM |
| 9 | How much does mindset effect your dating lifeYes, but it's not easy because you have to let go of decades of bad parenting, bad role models, bad social conditioning, traumas, emotional baggage, that shaped your current behavior and adopt healthier and more resilient mindset. So if you are framing this question as "do i just need a proper mindset and inner game" as if it's some minor trick or minor thing that you can master in a few days, sorry but this might require a lot of years of training, and even therapy in some extreme cases. Think … | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’m talking to completely changed her mindThe problem with your question is "what should i do to be chosen" as in what actions or arguments can i do to guarantee she will want to date me and overlook any reason not to date me. The whole mindset of this question is wrong. Because it implies that you expect to have control over something where men have no control, her feelings. It's no different than asking "what can i do so that it stops raining". You can't. If it stops raining or not will depend on factors that you don't control. When a… | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’m talking to completely changed her mindYou fucked up the moment you started to convince her to give you a chance. When a woman says i don’t think we should, you don’t change her mind, you don’t try to get her to reconsider, you don’t fight for her. I know it’s tempting to do that because social conditioning from movies and shit makes you believe that a woman is a prize you have to fight for. But that’s the opposite of what attracts women in reality. The neediness and chasing mindset only turns women off, and causes them to dinstance … | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’m talking to completely changed her mindThe woman says no and you think respecting her decision is horrible advice? sorry but you have no idea what you are talking about. | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’m talking to completely changed her mindMate, you don’t understand women at all. You can’t reason with a girl by saying shit like: “well the age gap is not really a problem because logically speaking it’s not an issue unless you make it, in reality image is just a number, and if you are mature and interests and values align then age is irrelevant, i know people who have different ages who are happy… Bla bla bla This is not how you get women attracted to you, all these logical arguments only turn women off more and more. Each line of l… | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 06:45 PM |
| 5 | Advice needed!!It doesn’t matter who likes and tells her first because she will be the one to choose who to date regardless of who asked first or second. So it’s not a first come first basis, it’s who do she like more or even who does she like, who doesnt she like. And maybe she doesn’t even like either of you. Reality is if you are both mature it won’t matter who dates her, if you two are immature somehow acting like she is theirs because they claimed her first, well the friendship will be ruined. Ultimately,… | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 09:28 PM |
| 8 | How to escalate with a girl with no intimacy past?You underestimate how many women pretend to be pure to hide how slutty they really are. | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 07:58 PM |
| 4 | How to escalate with a girl with no intimacy past?Only a naive dude would believe that an 18 year old girl doesn’t know what masturbation is, even nuns know it. She is lying dude. I don’t care how convincing she sounds she is lying. The more innocent and pure a girl claims to be, the more she is hiding how slutty she really is underneath the facade. | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 07:56 PM |
| 1 | I lack of experience and they lack of explicit signalsYou are not supposed to know if they like you until you ask them out and they reject you. So you are wasting your time trying to predict if a girl likes you or not. Because it's not her job to let you know with signals. Her job is to accept or reject you when you ask, so dating always requires to take the risk of getting rejected. So what you need is to accept rejection as a natural part of God's plan for you and that's it. Not treat rejection as something to avoid because you can't win when you… | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 05:47 PM |
| 3 | How do I initiate a relationship?You don’t talk about labels or relationships or try to negotiate anything. You just ask her to hang out again without expectations, and get to know her more as a person, and have fun and hookup. So you are not supposed to talk about what you both are looking for in the future in terms of romance or anything like that. Live in the present, focus on what happens now, not on where it has to lead next. Don’t bring the topic up, and if she brings it up, you just say “let’s see where the connection ta… | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Bad texting but good in personThe issue could be that you overestimate their interest level when you are in person simply because the approval in the moment from a girl feels good. Then when texting comes you find their real level of interest which you couldn’t really measure in person. Another thing is that too many guys are so obsessed with getting a number as soon as possible that they fail to recognize that no connection was made or that it simply wasn’t solid enough. It’s like, they approach hoping the girl doesn’t reac… | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Which one would you recommend ?Double your dating | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 03:08 PM |
| 26 | How do I first initiate flirting?Your purpose is to start the sexual experience is to be direct by expressing what she makes u feel in an emotionally driven way, not to try to get sex (or a relationship or reciprocation or anything else) but rather to invite her to feel the arousal u are feeling internally, so that she submerges herself into the emotion and u both just allow each other to sit with the emotion. And what is the emotion that u express? The way she makes u feel in terms of light-heart sexual desire (not of love). T… | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 04:15 AM |
| 6 | What does it mean when a girl asks if you're okay with just casual dates?If you are ok with dates that don't hae an specific end goal other than just be the end itself. Usually people date with the intention of having something serious, a girlfriend/boyfriend and build a life together. When they want casual what they are saying is "we hang out, hookup" but we are not building anything together, and we are free to walk out anytime or to see other people even because we both have agreed to not ccreate something serious. Just fun, just sex (if you both feel like in the … | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 01:19 AM |
| 7 | Getting An Ex Back?You shouldn't, but if you do anyway, then the best way is by showing that your life has improved drastically, that your life has never been better and that in fact it is 10x better than when you were with her. That triggers the fear of missing out on women and they naturally respond to a guy who is way more happy than he ever was with her. The worst mistake you can do is to act like you want to convince her to get a second chance, to beg, or to act like you are determined to prove your worth to … | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Difficult situationYou have no game at all mate. You are like an engineer or computer programmer interacting with women. | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 06:47 PM |
| 5 | so much potential but no resultsNothing will happen until you make the moves to get what you want to happen. Want a kiss? Go for a kiss. Want her number? Ask for her number Want a date? Invite her to a date. Want sex? Take her home. Want connection? Get to know her. It’s not her who has to take the initiative or start it, it’s you. The man proposes and the woman considers whether to accept or reject the proposal. | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 06:44 PM |
| 13 | Seduction book"Spend part of your life" Why are you talking like this is some crazy life time quest. I can read a 700 word book in a week if it's good. You need to start reading more and stop watching way less TV or tiktok videos. If the book is good with practical advice it can change your life. | /r/seduction | 30/11/25 03:19 PM |
| 8 | The theory on "Non-neediness" in practiceThere is nothing needy about approaching a girl unless you say some bullshit like: “please like me no one likes me, give me a chance” or “hey if you go out with me i’d buy you anything, i would treat you so well, i would make you priority number one” etc.. But who in their right mind would say something like this. Neediness happens when you treat anything that isn’t an absolute no from a girl as a maybe. Where you basically cling onto breadcrumbs out of hope that she might eventually choose you … | /r/seduction | 30/11/25 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Want to move a book...Yes, there is this one on amazon called, Daygame Code which relies more on the fundamentals of attraction rather than a culture specific basis, designed to appeal to the instincts and which teaches you how to have confidence and get rid of any anxieties or fear of rejection. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 10:42 PM |
| 41 | What do you say when sexual tension builds but the conversation goes quiet?That’s the moment where you got a kiss. Your body knows what it wants to do, it’s your brain that stops you from doing it. So it’s about being willing to go for the kiss not because you think she is ready, but because it’s what you want. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Is it all just bs?A coach or advisor or guru’s quality isn’t measured by his ability to get laid, if anything it’s measured by his ability to get you laid with the woman that you are attracted to. Take football for example, a coach can be massively good if he gets the players to win titles and win individual trophies, but that doesn’t mean the coach is good at playing football himself. And viceversa, a coach can be great at playing football, but suck at coaching others how to play like he does, causing the team t… | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 03:52 PM |
| -3 | Should I flirt at work?Ask your boss if it’s a yes or a no to flirt in that situation. If you don’t dare to ask, then you already know the answer is a no. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Concept of bringing value instead of taking value.Taking value is basically a mindset that says: “I want to get something from you? a number, your attention, a date, sex…” And the girl basically says: “what’s in it for me?” “Why should i give him something valuable, just because he ask me for it?” and since there is no good reason for her, the girl refuses to give it to you. So, in order to know why this is happening you need to say here in this post what your opener is, what your stack is, how and when you go for an instagram or a number. To p… | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Do Daygame models work?Yes, there is this one on amazon called, Daygame Code which relies more on the fundamentals of attraction rather than a culture specific basis, designed to appeal to the instincts and which teaches you how to have confidence and get rid of any anxieties or fear of rejection. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 07:27 PM |
| 7 | You dont need to learn about GAME"You don't need game, you "just" need to be extroverted, funny, confident, tall, be naturally good with women and not suck at social interactions"... The dude thought he was cooking. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 07:06 PM |
| 2 | I rejected by a girl in my class because “she didn’t wanted any relationships right now” what this supposed to mean?You did not reject her she was the one who rejected you by saying she is not ready for a relationship right now. And yes, when a woman says she is not ready for a relationship, it means with you. She is not necessarily closing the door to every other guy that tries. Women say it like that so it feels less personal. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Men who are into younger women age gapNo. A rejection is not a shit-test. A shit test is something that evaluates whether your words, beliefs, and actions are aligned or not. And secondly, not every girl you like has to like you back, no matter what techniques you use. You can’t be liked by everyone, simple as that. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 03:11 PM |
| 15 | Men who are into younger women age gapAny reason a woman gives to not want to date you is a valid reason, not because of the reason itself, but because they have that agency and the right to choose what’s best for them even if you don’t agree. There is no such thing as it’s unfair that they turn me down for the age gap or any other thing, because when you speak about fairness you inherently start to sound entitled, as if girls owed you a chance or something. And there is no such thing as being owed a chance by anyone in this world. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 12:28 PM |
| 1 | The problem isn't being nice, the problem is bending yourself to her standardsNo. Men are not sellers and women are not buyers. That is just social conditioning. The more you try to convince girl to buy what you offer the less likely she is to date you. You are supposed to make her feel emotions, and lead, not trying to impress her or giving her reasons why she should choose you. Seduction is not about convincing her you are good enough. If anything it’s her who has to prove she deserves a real man who is a catch because that type of man is scarce and doesn’t settle for a… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Does she (37F) actually want something to happen at the Christmas Party, or am I (33M) delulu?There are no guarantees in dating, what she wants today, might not be what she wants when the time comes. So you don’t act because you think she wants something you act because you know what you want and if she rejects you, then you accept it without acting butt hurt about it, and without being apologetic about it. So don’t have expectations. It doesn’t matter if she is giving you the green light today, because the green light can easily turn red when the christmas party comes. | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:43 PM |
| 36 | lost on why I can’t pull girls – need some perspectiveDon’t flirt with your female friends and instead flirt with girls you don’t know or new girls they introduce you before they have time to become your friends. Also, part of life is to be willing to do what you want and let go of people who have a problem with your actions that you wanted to do. So if you have to choose between doing what you want, flirting and having female friends, then choose flirting and let go of the female friends and get male friends instead. You want no consequences no ri… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:35 PM |
| 2 | should i text her?Women don’t care that you miss them, they only care how they feel about you, so telling them that you miss them is not really a reason for them to give you more attention. Quite the opposite, it makes them feel like you are asking them to fix your internal mood of longing. It’s like saying handling her a job: “_Hey my mood is down, so something to fix it/make me feel better_”. It like you flip the roles where you become the needy kid who needs mommy to soothe you. Never outsource your mood to he… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 03:50 PM |
| 2 | A positive attitude = attractive?What you feel women will usually end up feeling it too fue to emotional contagion. If you are negative, some will feel that negative vibe and feel negative too, and when they do they will associate those feelings of negativity with your presence causing them to be repelled by you. This doesn’t mean you have to be a fake positive person, because the lack of authenticity will also turn people off as they feel something is incongruent in your energy that the won’t be able to explain or articulate b… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 04:02 AM |
| 10 | How to reply when she teases you about having lots of girls“Don’t be jealous” “Aw you already getting jealous” “I’ll take that as a compliment” | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 01:12 AM |
| 30 | Tried talking to a pretty girl at work and failed miserablyCuz your mind shifts subtly into a performative mode where you are basically thinking: “_i have to win her over” i have to get her approval” “i have to get something from her” i have to get her to like me”, “I have to score points”. “I have to make sure she doesn’t lose interest and make sure i dont screw up_”. Which doesn’t happen when you don’t like the girls, where you are more present, and not on mission mode. This is a consequence of social conditioning because you have the pressure to win … | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 11:55 PM |
| 3 | How do I get better at talking to girls on dating apps? 22M needs guidance.😫None of what you said is true, and its ineffective, but he is feel to try your way and when he fails again, actually take proper advice like mine seriously because that’s how women connect. | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Dating Coach?I’m a coach and I am coaching even my 10 year old nephew things that even i should have known at that age to be a cooler guy in school. Things like: Witty comebacks, resilience when things don’t go his way and tricks to save face and his dignity, confidence tipa and steps to eliminate any anxiety or fear, and teaching what mistakes to avoid like confessing or friendzoning himself, and instead showing him how to flirt, be bold, provocative, and daring. So far he is doing really well. | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 02:43 PM |
| 10 | Is 4-inch length and 4-inch girth enough?Your insecurity about the flaw is a bigger turn off for women than the flaw that makes you insecure itself. When will men understand that their character is the most important and most valuable thing to offer. If you are a bitch, that’s always what will turn off women more than any physical inadequacy. | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 10:08 PM |
| 5 | How do I know if someone is interested before trying to sext?You can’t know until you ask. Seduction and dating isn’t about trying to read minds or trying to make sure that you cannot get it wrong when you make a move. It’s about being willing to be vulnerable, to be willing to get rejected and to be willing to take risks without guarantees of success. So this isn’t about saying: “Does she like me or does she not? how do i know so i don’t risk getting rejected?” It’s about saying: “Fuck it! I’m just gonna make a move and whatever happens, happens. If she … | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 09:23 PM |
| 21 | How do I get better at talking to girls on dating apps? 22M needs guidance.😫You need to learn social skills and the concept of connecting on personal level with someone. You have to talk about personal experiences that you have had, goals, dreams, anecdotes, and how you feel about those things. You need to actually get into detail of how you feel about your experiences or hopes. Not just i feel good, but like what exactly do you woman by good, you need to evoke more emotion, use analogies, metaphors, describe the physical sensations in your body,… You struggle with talk… | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 04:12 PM |
| 46 | How are you hot but single?Not everyone wants to be taken. Some people just want to fuck casually and/or focus on important things rather than getting distracted with a romantic relationship that requires way more attention than a casual hookup here and there. | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 04:03 PM |
| 7 | Does anyone on here suck at seduction?The first thing to understand is that you will always be rejected by some girl no matter what advice you follow. That’s because the outcome is never in your full control even if you are great at picking up girls. You only have control to some extent, the rest has to do with external circumstances that have nothing to do with you or your actions. So even if you have a good tactic that is great, or a perfect line, or a great joke or whatever, it is still not guaranteed to work with every girl. So … | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on Sitting w/Woman During Approach?You just have to tell them initially that “you approached them because you want to get to know them since you would regret it if you didn’t try” And if they welcome you and agree to get to know you, then you say “Cool. I’m going sit here briefly if that’s ok with you. So what’s you name…?”. It’s as simple as that, telling them what you want, and asking them to sit next to them if they agree to meet you. The girl can either accept or decline. | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 03:04 PM |
| 41 | How many of you are using condoms?You put condoms because you want to and don’t apologize for it no matter how upset/offended women get. You should not let a bad facial expression or reaction from a woman cross your boundaries. Putting a condom is perfectly legitimate and even reasonable, and a woman who somehow gets offended by it, is a huge red flag that you need to watch out for, because there is no real good reason to be so upset about using a condom. A woman saying “i’m clean” because you put on a condom has to be dumb or p… | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 12:04 PM |
| 6 | Why all these alpha males on YouTube still unmarried or still figuring it out”If these advices were true these guys would be the first ones to get a girl and settled and taken.“ Not necessarily. Settling with one girl might be your goal, but it’s not necessary a goal every person wants to have. You are stuck in the typical old-fashioned path that society typically had for people: get an education, get a job, buy a house, get married, have kids, retire… But this path isn’t for everyone. More and more people are choosing not to marry because they don’t want to, not because… | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 11:45 AM |
| 7 | Please rate my conversation openers/pickup linesYou got basically no game at all. There is no "man to woman" frame in any of this, it's all "admirer to fan" frame here, which is not seductive. This is the vibe that a celebrity would get when a fan interacts with her in the street. No connection, no sexual tension at all, and just boring impersonal elevator-like conversation that ends up being forgettable and doesn't show any unique personality at all. You shouldn't be telling girls that you are lucky to meet them or that their boyfriend is lu… | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 04:19 AM |
| 2 | How do I get rid of the “There’s no point in trying, there’s no way she’d like me” feeling!A man’s worth is measured by his character, his courage, his bravery, his emotional self-control, his willingness to take risks, his self-acceptance, his self-confidence and authenticity. If you lack these it won’t matter if you are tall or short or anything. It’s not your job to reject yourself first, that’s a woman’s job. Your job is to develop resilience to get over rejections quickly without taking them personally. And doing that is hard you might need a psychologist. It requires to understa… | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 02:28 AM |
| 5 | my friends have no issues with dating/hookup. What am I doing wrong where I'm always the odd one out.Like i said, social conditioning happens both in school and with parents. Being obedient, doing what your teacher tells you, following social norms, that’s something you learn even if your parents did ok. Usually good students tend to be more prone to learning social conditioning and social norms, and the more social norms you internalize the harder it is to attract girls. Many people don’t realize how many things they do, not because they want to, but because it’s what people expect or what peo… | /r/seduction | 23/11/25 04:39 PM |
| 1 | I built and fine-tuned my own AI texting coach to help with datingAI slop to create unauthentic connections, speak like a robot thinks a human speaks, catfish and pretend to be something you are not so that when you are in person, your conversation sounds nothing like how it did in texts and the girl loses interest because you are not what she thought you were? AI slop for dating is counterproductive. | /r/seduction | 23/11/25 04:10 PM |
| 77 | my friends have no issues with dating/hookup. What am I doing wrong where I'm always the odd one out.It comes easy to them, because they had different parenting style than you. Parenting matters. If your parents were either too harsh and authoritative punishing you if you didn't obey or do what they dictated, or if they were too protective of you, making sure you were never independent because they always had your back all the time and fixed every problem for you, then it's more likely that it won''t come naturally to attract girls. Teachers, classmates, and the school system might have influen… | /r/seduction | 23/11/25 04:35 AM |
| 75 | If after a few dates she says she's dating other people, should you stop spending money on dates with her?You can do what you want, just like she can do what she wants. If you want exclusivity after two dates so early on, that’s fair but you have to find a woman that wants to have such a fast pace. So it’s not about “should”, it’s about “wants”. You spend money on dates and go on dates with her if and because you want to, not because you have to. She also doesn’t have to match your expectations of wanting just sex and that’s it and she doesn’t have to drop her other options so early on if she doesn’… | /r/seduction | 22/11/25 03:42 AM |
| 1 | I am not sure if I got rejectedYou did not get rejected because you didn’t really gave her anything to reject. You still have not been clear about what you want other than “i just want to get more about the study” so not even get to know her as a person. You played it so safe there is literally nothing at all to reject when it comes to romance but also not accept. From her point of view right now she interprets that you just want to talk about an activity you two have in common., “study”. In order to be accepted or rejected y… | /r/seduction | 22/11/25 03:09 AM |
| 4 | How can you flirt with someone who’s already a friend or acquaintance?Being "Too nice" means that you prioritize creating comfort between you and her than creating tension here and there. For example, you don't try to mess with her in any way, you don't disagree with her, you make sure not to upset her, or make her uncomfortable in any way ever out of fear of rejection mostly, It's the type of attitude where you prioritize seeking her approval and do whatever she orders you to do as if you were her obedient puppy dog and she was your master who has authority over … | /r/seduction | 21/11/25 07:05 PM |
| 38 | How do you know if she is down to f***?You don’t wait for signals to initiate the sexual ritual , you initiate it because you want to because it’s how you feel. So it’s not about reading why she wants you to do, it’s about doing what you want without waiting for her to tell you what she wants. Her job is not to dictate what behavior you can do at a given moment, her only job is to see what moves you do and to either allow them to happen by not showing resistance, or to stop you by showing resistance. So you need to change your mindse… | /r/seduction | 18/11/25 03:36 PM |
| 17 | Change my view: leading women on is the most effective way to be a man who sleeps around.I think this is just a personal experience. Most women might want something serious with certain guys, and with other type of guys, most women will want something casual. My sister for example has hooked up with many guys she would never want to see again. Nothing personal against them, just she doesn’t want to. I know many guys who have no problem getting laid casually, but struggle a lot at taking things further into a romantic relationship. But i also know other guys who have the opposite pro… | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 11:07 PM |
| 49 | Change my view: leading women on is the most effective way to be a man who sleeps around.I don’t lead woman to believe I want something more and i have hooked up with them. Heck sometimes they were the ones who run the moment i tried to go for more than a hookup because all they wanted was to hookup and that’s it. So it seems like you just lack experience with a bigger variety of women. Yes many woman want something more, but many woman also only want to have casual fun and as soon as you start talking about relationships, commitments, and labels they run. Almost like they are not a… | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 10:58 PM |
| 10 | How can I hook up?!🪝How often do you tell those girls you want to kiss them? How often do you show them they make your horny in a visceral way? How often do you announce your sexual intent? Maybe start with that. It’s not women that initiate the sex or the kissing or who indicate to you that you can start initiating the sexual ritual, it’s you who initiates the kiss and the sexual ritual physically and she either allows it to happen or stops you. | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 10:35 PM |
| 10 | How to pass this shit-test?I don’t see how that’s a shit test. You are overthinking too much i feel. Just because she doesn’t like the music you listen to doesn’t mean she is shit testing you, unless you for some reason started acting insecure about not having the same music preferences as her. And in that case it wouldn’t be a shit test, it would just be self-sabotage. I would have just asked her what music she listens to or change topic. There is no need to complicate it at all. | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 06:25 PM |
| 12 | what’s the best AI chatbot to get help for texting?None, because they don't create a real connection but an artificial one. And once you meet in person and your real personality shows up, the one that can't come up spontaneously with the playful things the chat came up with, then the whole thing goes to shit as the woman feels that talking with you in person is different than in texts, which turns her off and she loses interest. AI is just slop that gives you the illusion that you are making progress when in reality the human brain requires a bo… | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 05:54 PM |
| 3 | Help me pleaseYou need to actually show that you sexually desire them in the dates, even if you want to have a serious romantic relationship because sexual desire comes first for women then love. Not the other way around. And you have to at least go for a kiss without having any certainty about whether they will want to kiss you or not. You simply do it and their job is to stop you or to let it happen. You can the woman at some point during the date "that you are trying so hard not to kiss her" or tell her "i… | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Had an Odd Interaction Last NightStop overthinking why a woman does not act like the rest of women in the world and focus on things that matter. | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 05:02 PM |
| 3 | Had an Odd Interaction Last NightSo you are confused because not every girl reacts positively to you? did someone tell you that every girl in this world was supposed to react well every single time? Seems like a weird thing to be confused about. I don't find it confusing at all to recognize that everyone is different and that while many can appreciate your approach or even admire it, there is always gonna be someone out there who doesn't appreciate it and gets upset with it. Stop overthinking and analyzing why one woman reacts … | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Guys I need a help about a girlRelationships are not a 50/50 effort in the beginning. They are an 80/20. where the man is the leader and takes on the 80% while the woman puts the other 20%. That means that a girl who likes you won’t really say she anything about it even if she likes you, she will let the man take on the lead. Your problem comes from being a coward. If you wanted to know if a girl likes you, you would simply ask because that’s the logical thing to do… But instead, you don’t use logic because you let fear contr… | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 02:09 PM |
| 8 | Generally, how much of post-rejection is due to nothing you had control over?You can only be yourself if you are lucky to have been raised properly by your parents, had proper social conditioning, and had a decent childhood without bullying, without abuse, without traumas, and your parent's were good role models. Otherwise being yourself is tainted by all this unresolved emotional baggage that will lead to self-sabotage. He is right in the sense that ultimately you have to be authentic in the sense that it's not your job to try to get a woman's approval, and that is a co… | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 03:57 AM |
| 4 | How do you guys stay positive?Then you move on and be mature about it. You don’t act weird or tense, you just treat her like any other random person. | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 12:17 AM |
| 7 | How do you guys stay positive?The problem is you are not approaching women with a mindset to connect with them, you are approaching them with a mindset of seeking validation to feel like you are worth something. So your frustration comes from that toxic mindset where you basically engage with women in such a way that you are trying to measure your worth as a man, to see if you are good enough and to hope that someone likes you. This mindset is self-defeating. “If she is interested in me then i’m worth something, if she doesn… | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 05:53 PM |
| 1 | any recommendations?The best thing you can do is to workout like a motherfucker, lift heavy, reduce body fat percentage, and you will have it way easier than most guys your age. That's more important than seduction. Workout everyday, don't eat crap | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 02:58 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with the waiting?Women can also be taken even if they are on online dating apps. In fact a study found that nearly two-thirds of Tinder users are already in a relationship, with almost half not actually interested in finding dates. Source I speak in the sense that opportunities are more likely to happen the more effort you put into it, not by sitting at home. I didn't say it's guaranteed, as i said before the only guarantee in life is death. Life is tough huh? That's why people drink. Since literally, every solu… | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 02:19 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with the waiting?It's not cold approach if it's on a networking event or a party. Anyway, no i don't have any advice for your self-imposed problem of waiting that you created, other than maybe alcohol?? I also can't help a man who finds problems for every solution. The infantilization of grown men has become a big problem. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 02:03 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with the waiting?It's kind of a lazy conformist excuse to say "im not comfortable therefore i won't evolve and grow as a person". The good things in life exists outside your comfort zone, not inside it. Your comfort zone isn't static, it can and is always evolving by putting yourself in situations where things are uncomfortable initially due to inexperience until they are no longer uncomfortable as you get more experience. I can see that you have problems for every solution, but the reality is you are the one cr… | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 01:57 AM |
| 7 | How do you deal with the waiting?Go to networking events, parties, festivals, nightclubs, gyms, large malls in metropolitcan cities, etc and approach women there in person face to face. Meeting people requires you to deliberately go out of your way to put yoruself in social situations to meet people and show interest in them, not just sitting in your sofa swiping profiles on tinder or whatever dating app you use. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 01:45 AM |
| 11 | Talking feminism on datesRule number 1: Don't talk about politics on dates. You are there to seduce her and get laid, not to argue or lecture her. Your entire intellectual debate with a woman has no impact at all in the world or the future of the nation. It's a waste of time. | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 03:40 PM |
| 11 | How to filter out gold diggers?And the problem is? That you are not a pilot or a business owner? So then it’s about you being mad and envious that other people can be picky. People thankfully don’t need your approval to date whoever they want, just because you are upset that you can’t. This clown acting like she is a bad person for having the audacity to select guys who have more to offer, and not settle with mediocrity. “Omg how horrible. Someone wants a better life, how terrible!! In my ideal world people, and specially wom… | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 02:35 PM |
| 0 | How to filter out gold diggers?I have only heard of gold diggers on the internet, every woman i met was just a normal girl with feelings, many of them dates guys who had absolutely nothing to offer and who were even financially dependent of them. This idea of golddiggers just seems promoted by guys who get mad they get rejected and so accuse women of being evil monsters who feel nothing and who have the audacity to have standards, “how dare they?!”🙄 Guys who take one example of a woman and then the generalize into every woman… | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 02:02 PM |
| 3 | Text game tipsThe game by Neil, doesn’t work for texting lol. It’s literally designed for nightclubs exclusively. Texting is a filter mechanism for women, it’s not about doing good things it’s about minimizing red flags and getting them out in person asap. 1 bad text can ruin permanently a 100 good texts that you send without any chance of salvaging the situation. In other words, it takes just one text to ruin everything, one tiny mistake, even if the entire conversation was perfect until then. So texting is … | /r/seduction | 11/11/25 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Approach and Making it emotionally relevant to the girlmmm, i might say something i actually experinced, like: I once drunk so much that i started singing Hala Madrid anthem cuz im a Madrid fun, in a bus full of people who didn't even speak spanish, while my friends were taking me home and trying to hush me because i was being too loud apparently and they were so embarrased... But like in my mind i thought "what, people should be greateful their ride home had a live concert for free...". And then i close my eyes at some point, and next thing you kno… | /r/seduction | 11/11/25 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Approach and Making it emotionally relevant to the girlIt feels so gamey and scripted your response. “You are one of those girls that my mama warned me about” sounds like a pick-up line that everyone has already heard a hundred times before and which doesn’t really reveal anything at all about your personality, and so it fails to build any genuine connection. I would just share a funny or embarrassing anecdote that i personally did when i was drunk, expressing the feelings i was having in the experience i’m narrating, and maybe some lesson i took fr… | /r/seduction | 11/11/25 04:03 AM |
| 2 | Approach and Making it emotionally relevant to the girlThe more questions, the worst the conversation is. IF there is one thing women don't respond well to is to a guy who keeps asking question after question with brief inputs or comments between each question before jumping onto the next question. | /r/seduction | 11/11/25 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Idk what to think or make of this.Maybe she saw the way you flirted wasn’t too smooth in her opinion and realized that you could improve and get much better results. | /r/seduction | 11/11/25 02:51 AM |
| 4 | This subreddit is not for everyoneIt's not for everyone in the sense that it's not for: Those who want to victimize themselves, those who want dating and women to be different than they are, those who want to complain and rant their entire lives about how unfair dating and women are, and those who resent women because they don't give them what they feel entitled to easily. Maybe it's also not for those who want to believe in the Disney rom-com fairy tales of how love should look like. The fact that a sub like this is one of the … | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 11:39 PM |
| 2 | Next moveJust say what you want to say or say what you want to do with her. it’s not your job to follow a script, it’s about being honest. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 04:10 AM |
| 8 | Why do single girls have to be so difficult?In the night, you have to strike when the iron is hot, either make out and take her home to have sex or get forgotten. Women don’t generally go to a club to find someone serious or to pursue something long term with a guy they met there, they go there but for the spontaneous thrill, the in the moment experience. They don’t generally want to go on dates with random guys they met there, so it’s a problem with your expectations. You are trying to look for something in a place that isn’t the right o… | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Gaming women who you’ve seen frequentlyStop trying read a girl's mind, stop trying to base your actions on signals, and be a real man instead. A man who acts without the need of knowing what will happen if he does. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 12:05 AM |
| 6 | A few mistakes that I've made so you don't have toThere is no such thing as "doing something wrong", there is only individual preferences. Her feedback is meaningless because not every girl will have the same preferences as she does. She just did not like you. There are guys who are complete assholes who will not behave according to her preferences and still get laid with many women and date them long-term with those women completely in love with them. | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Should I chase her.No, because chasing is the opposite of attracting. The more you chase, the more women run away from you. The harder you try to chase the more they distance themselves from you. If a woman is not "fuck yes" about you, it's a no". So you need to drop the mindset that "if it's not an absolute no, then it's a maybe" because that's not how women work. If you chase a woman you are indirectly teaching her that it's ok for you to treat you this way, that she ghost you, disrespect you, and you will still… | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 05:02 PM |
| 3 | Is this a good convo starter?Remove the "sorry to bother you" because you are not supposed to apologize for going for what you want or doing or saying anything you wanted to say... 99% of the time you should never apologize for absolutely anything to a woman. And you are making assumptions about bothering her which only shows your insecurity which is unattractive. If anything you can instead say "i know this is random". Remove also the "i'm sure a lot of men come up to you to tell you this" because if you already know that … | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 02:11 PM |
| 4 | How can I make a girl feel seduced?You can’t really play it safe if you want to seduce her because for a woman to be seduce the vibe needs to feel a bit risky. It’s called sexual tension, if there is no tension she can’t feel it, and for there to be tension there needs to be uncertainty about how she will take it. | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 12:02 AM |
| 4 | How can I make a girl feel seduced?The way you say it also matters, some words like touching you are more likely to trigger resistance, so it’s usually better to affirm what you want or feel, instead of asking her for something… So it’s better to say things like: “i’m trying so hard not to kiss you right now_” or “_i can’t stop imagining how it would feel to hold your hands right now_” or “_i wonder what it’s like to be just you and me in an elevator while i feel the way your heart beats as i pin you against a wall”. As to when t… | /r/seduction | 08/11/25 11:58 PM |
| 8 | How can I make a girl feel seduced?It requires either active verbal or non verbal consent, which a something you should seek during the interaction. If she consents it’s fine if she doesn’t consent to be seduced then you can’t seduce her or you’ll face legal repercussions. | /r/seduction | 08/11/25 11:51 PM |
| 21 | How can I make a girl feel seduced?Seducing her is about arousing her which inherently requires you to stimulate her senses with visual appeal, emotional appeal, erotic appeal and sexual appeal. For that you need to do intimate touching in erogenous body parts, like neck kissing, ear whispering, thigh caressing, hands caressing,… etc It requires “dirty talk” to get her to imagine what you would do sexually to her, and how she will feel as she experiences those sexual things you do to her, or getting no her to imagine taboo, “forb… | /r/seduction | 08/11/25 11:41 PM |
| 1 | A non generic approachAs soon as you try something creative the exact same girl would actually then tell you, that you are a try-hard or accuse you of rehearsing it and accusing you of saying that line to every girl, “does that line work for you with other girls” and losing interest anyway. The moral of the story is women are not your mother to tell you what you should do or what you should say. If a woman tells you your approach is generic, you say “thanks for your opinion, but i didn’t ask”, and walk away because s… | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 09:32 PM |
| 9 | How approach effect your reputationNo, approaching a girl here and there by itself is neutral thing to do. What could ruin your reputation, would be your social un-calibration, massively hitting on literally every girl in the workplace, gym or school instead of being selective, and refusing to take no for an answer. And basically, when you treat cold-approaching like a sport or hobby, rather than as a sporadic thing you do here and there with women who are actually worth meeting because they just blow your mind how attractive the… | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 05:26 PM |
| 8 | how often does outergame fail for you?1 - People who say they do everything right, lack critical analysis and tend to have, more often than not, a self-serving bias. More often than not they are not doing everything right even if they think they do, dismissing certain errors as if they are not a big deal, or not even noticing those little things that make all the difference. 2 - Even if you objectively did everything right, you need to understand that just like with everything else in life, success is dependent not just on your acti… | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Overthinking after texting someone from my schools org.You are not the center of the universe and this is not something worthy of her to talk about with her friends or other people. She has bigger problems to talk to and deal with than talking about how you invited to coffee. There is nothing particularly interesting for her to really talk with other people about this. You are overthinking only because you have the wrong belief about how significant your actions are to other people. Thinking you are important to them when in reality, they are indiff… | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Performance anxietyThey like primal sex, you look the vanilla sex. Something called incompatibility happening there. Primal sex is hotter for most women over the socially acceptable romantic or religious inspired love-making known as vanilla sex. Because, when you have the vanilla sex, you are restraining yourself, being too gentle, too boring, too unexciting, too predictable with women who want to be "sluts" in the bedroom. Some women feel fine about just having vanilla sex but that's usually because they haven't… | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Im depressedas I already said in my first comment, no you should not double text someone who ignores you because it’s needy and lame, and repels women | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 08:09 PM |
| 4 | Got Rejected Todayyou are the one that’s creating a bigger issue than it should be. You seem to think that the woman turning you down has to make some huge deal out of it but actually you are the one doing it. When someone rejects a chewing gum you offer them you don’t make it a big deal, but when she rejects you you somehow make it a huge pivotal moment that’s gonna change your life in that place but actually it’s you who wants it to be a pivotal moment. It’s you who wants a huge consequence, it might not seem l… | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 07:48 PM |
| 7 | Im depressedI said if you are not comfortable i wont text you again i know it was so random ( to make her comfortable, but i think i fucked up here) Yeah you did, because it shows insecurity and makes you sound apologetic which are not attractive qualities. It’s like you are preemptively playing on defense for no good reason. I replied same i have social anxiety too and she ghosted me (its been 3 days) Why are you telling your flaws instead of your pros? Like you are such a bad seller. It’s like you were tr… | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 07:13 PM |
| 1 | how to maintain the "Abundance Mindset" in world without "Abundance ?- but in the imperfect world I take the money over the ladies. You've made your choice then. Can't solve a problem if you have problems for every solution. Abundance mindset requires actual abundance, otherwise you are just performing and being fake which is not sustainable. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 03:29 PM |
| 21 | Been at this for 11 yearsI went to the gym for 11 years, i'm stil fat. Clearly the gym is a scam. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 03:26 PM |
| 14 | What is attraction ?Attraction has to do with your looks and your character. For example bravery is a character trait thea’s part of what can makes you attractive to some women. A way to prove your bravery is to approach a woman who didn’t give you any signs that she is interested and yet you hit in her anyway. That shows you are brave because you didn’t have any guarantees that the results could be good and yet that didn’t stop you. You didn’t overanalyse to hit on her you simply did it without caring if she likes… | /r/seduction | 04/11/25 02:52 PM |
| 5 | Is it Possible????what you should do? Move on of course... how is that even a question. Move on and stop the apologetic attitude with women. | /r/seduction | 04/11/25 02:43 AM |
| 4 | Is it Possible????Dude if there is one crucial lesson to learn from all this is to stop apologizing so fucking much to women. Stop being apologetic dude. It comes across as needy and insecure behavior rather than considerate behavior. The more "sorrys" you say, the more any woman feels like you are begging for her approval, trying to appease her, hoping she doesn't get mad with you, hoping not to lose her, which has the effect of being turned off by you. I know it seems counterintuitive, but it would actually be … | /r/seduction | 04/11/25 02:32 AM |
| 14 | My first time approachingGood for you that you managed to approach. Now the point and goal of cold approaching is not to get the girl's number, it's to see if there is a connection by getting to know her a little bit for 5mins at least. Getting a number isn't hard, but it's pointless more often than not without a connection, because most women don't give their number because they like you, they give it as a courtesy. Many guys are obsessed with trying to get a number because they assume they have to get something from t… | /r/seduction | 04/11/25 01:35 AM |
| 25 | Do women expect you to try to kiss them on the first date?You don’t stop going for what you want just because you get a bad reaction occasionally. | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 10:27 PM |
| 9 | Fell in love with a girl with social anxietyYou are solely responsible of chasing girls who tell you maybe. Women don’t lead you on when they say maybe, it’s you who treats a maybe as if she is promising to eventually date you if you spend more time trying. She basically turned you down and you are refusing to accept it and clinging to maybes, and that’s in you. You cannot blame her if you spend months or years chasing her only for her to date some other guy instead without warning. Because just because a woman is not ready for a relation… | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 10:24 PM |
| 4 | i like her alot , how do i seduce herYou are not the type of guy who is capable of making a woman break up with her boyfriend to be with him. You need to be a fuckboy for that and be really good at getting women to be able to do such a thing. And based on what you wrote it’s obvious that you are the kind of guy who struggles to get girls and whose current dating life experience if any has all been due to pure chance and luck, not control. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t try, but it’s quite obvious that you are gonna fail simply b… | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 09:24 PM |
| 5 | Girl comes and goesSeems like you want different things. She sees the thing she has with you as a super casual on and off thing where commitments are not expected and where she has no obligation to fuck just with you or to share details about her private life with other men. You want a friends with benefits which i assume means you want to have sex with her more regularly or frequently, but still without the commitment. Seems you want consistent hookups and she just wants to hookup, when she feels like it or is co… | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 02:41 AM |
| 3 | Girl from my Climbing gymIt's not about signals because signals don't have a unique meaning across every women on earth. Different women can act in the exact same way and want different things with you, some of them not wanting anything beyond friendship, some of them wanting romance. So it's pointless to try to figure out what the signals mean because ultimately any conclusions you make are just an interpretation which may or may not be accurate. I can't tell you how many guys were 99% sure after asking family members,… | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 02:16 AM |
| 4 | Confusing signals. Into me or just touchy?It's not about signals because signals don't have a unique meaning across every women on earth. Different women can act in the exact same way and want different things with you, some of them not wanting anything beyond friendship, some of them wanting romance. So it's pointless to try to figure out what the signals mean because ultimately any conclusions you make are just an interpretation which may or may not be accurate. I can't tell you how many guys were 99% sure after asking family members,… | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 02:06 AM |
| 20 | When she says " I just want to be alone"It means she needs space to figure out her feelings, or even to explore her independent life without having to care about a commitment. To feel the contrast between being single and taken so that she can see if she truly appreciates being in a relationship or prefers the freedom. Women are chaotic and the last thing they need is for the man to become chaotic, so the best thing to do to is literally to do nothing, not talk to her, not keep in touch, not check in, not to fix anything. She breaks u… | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 11:48 PM |
| 12 | Cold approach beginnerWell, your problem is that you don't seem to understand that you have to carry the conversation when you cold approach. You are just giving compliments and asking if they have a boyfriend, they give the answer and now it's on you to continue assuming they say "no i am single". Like of course most girls are not gonna take responsibility for the conversation that you started yourself since it's you who has something to say or else why start the conversation? Whoever starts the conversation has the… | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Is there something wrong with me for not wanting to be in a relationship?Who gives a fuck what other people think about others should do? I don’t get why so many people are so obsessed with letting others dictate their life and seeking the approval of other people to feel at peace with what they want… Dude, you do whatever the fuck you want. Did you not realize yet that you are fucking adult person and that adults don’t need to ask anyone for permission to live their life the way they want? friends: You should not be sleeping around, you should find a wife. Me: No on… | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 01:31 PM |
| 3 | How not to get this shit (failed date report / rant):- "Over the course of the date, it also turned out the girl wasn't really looking for a relationship which suits me well, too". She told you she was not looking for any relationship, so you should not be shocked that she tells you that she will stop dating for a little while. She never guaranteed anything, so it doesn't make sense for you to expect anything more than a short thing no matter how short it is. You don't have to play any games, it's simply that she has never said it would be more th… | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 06:38 AM |
| 3 | What to do when a girl won’t do a simple task you ask of her?It's not a shit test. What would you do if it was a man who told you the same thing "to do it yourself". You would not be asking him "how can i pass this shit test from this man". Women don't have to do what you want just because they are women. And not everyone has to be polite enough to do simple tasks for you. When someone refuses to help you whether it's a man or a woman is because they can't be bothered to be polite with you and when that happens, you simply take a point off because the who… | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 02:16 AM |
| 23 | Why is it so difficult in the moment?Because you are fighting decades of social conditioning and domestication. It's a battle between your desires/impulses and your internalized need to get permission from women and society to do what you desire.. This is the problem of civilized men, the more civilized the more anxious and scared you will be, the more primitive the less fucks you will give about consequences. Hence why women usually feel drawn to primitive men over civilized ones. Civilized prioritize social norms, the well being … | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Girl Went Cold after 4th DateI understand why you want to call her out, the thing is that her behavior is the way it is because she feels like it. It's not a mistake she is making or something she has to fix or something that has to be improved. She is not even wrong for acting the way she does, because it's her choice and she doesn't have any obligation to behave in the way you expect. So calling her out is pointless because calling someone out implies they are doing something wrong that needs to be corrected or improved, … | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 12:31 AM |
| 5 | Girl Went Cold after 4th DateYou can't really win with B or C. Those just mean you should move on instead of telling her what she should do, because it kills the vibe, and yeah maybe you don't tolerate that, but then you are not supposed to tell her what she needs to do. Example: Situation B: - You: Hey im not okay with a woman not doing x expectation i have" - Her: Oh ok, and what you gonna do about it? - You: I will move on if my expectations aren't matched. - Her: Well, up to you i guess A woman is not going to change he… | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 09:35 PM |
| -2 | You spend money on a date, thinking sex was supposed to happen, but she refused? That's your mistake, not her problem.No one can manipulate you into spending money when you are centered, hence it's still your fault for basing your actions on someone else's insinuated promises which are not contractual obligations. That's because any promise that isn't actually signed on a legal document is never a guarantee of anything. An insinuated promise is not even a real promise, it's an interpretation of her actions or assumption you make. And even if it was a real promise, the promise is always a "maybe" or a "probabili… | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 04:47 PM |
| 2 | What is the meaning of thisIt means that there is no sexual polarity, your behavior is too much like buddies would ac… This happens when you don’t behave in romantic and sexual way with her, failing to create sexual tension where she feels aroused and nervous, with her heart rate accelerating, you behave too safe, too neutral, like she doesn’t feel sexually desired by you. She might know you like how she looks but she doesn’t feel sexually wanted and that lack of sexual tension is what makes her see you as just a friend i… | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Should u become the “villain”?- I’ve had experiences where I pay for drinks dates get nothing in return or been flaked on That's because you are not supposed to get anything in return for paying for drinks. If you pay drinks it's because you want to out of pure selfless generosity without expecting anything in return, not because you are entering an agreement where she has to give you something as payment for it. And if you expect to get something for it then you should have been 100% clear by saying: "Hey im buying you drin… | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 02:07 PM |
| 49 | Do you feel guilty for approaching college girls when you’re older?No i don't feel guilty because i take ownership of my life and i don't allow other people to tell me what i should or shouldn't do, which is why i don't even bother telling others what they think of what i do because it's irrelevant what they think. I simply don't apologize for what i want and i don't seek validation that what i do is fine according to others, because i simply decided that what i want is perfectly fine simply because i say so as i made myself the ultimate authority on what is ri… | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 02:46 AM |
| 1 | First Date RejectionThen why the fuck do you go on dates with them. Why waste their time if you know they are wasting yours? Sorry but it's actually a good thing that someone that thinks like you gets rejected. Women are better off without you. | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 12:24 AM |
| 1 | How can i start as friends with benefits with my female best friend?Men logic be like: “_Oh she is single and she is my best friend therefore now it’s the time when she has to give me what i was owed for being a best friend but denied due to the circumstance of being taken by someone else, the sex! And she can’t refuse because she is single now, so there is no excuse! hehe 😜_” Girl is gonna feel so insulted that he even tries when she realizes he was just her friend to get into her pants, waiting patiently like a vulture for the death of her romantic relationshi… | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 12:03 AM |
| 2 | So if I cold approach and ask a girl for a location that I already know, wouldn’t she come to know later on that I lied to her?..Yes probably. There is no need at all to ask her for a location when you approach a woman, you can just tell her that you "find her cute and so you would regret it if you didn't try to get to know her". So you deal with it by not dealing with it, which starts by being honest about why you are talking to her, rather than coming up with bullshit excuses as to why you cold approach her. Honesty mate, honesty is not an option. It's the bare minimum to avoid problems later. | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 11:20 PM |
| 2 | "What are you thinking about?"Just say "I'm just trying so hard not to kiss you right now". That way you create sexual tension, and create a man to woman vibe, instead of feeding her ego with useless compliments. | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 07:59 PM |
| 19 | I like this girl at uni but I’m scared of rejection- I’m 18M, there’s this girl at my uni that I really like,honestly, I think I’m in love with her. You just demonstrated with this phrase that you are not mature enough to date anyone despite being an recent adult. There is no such thing as "i love a woman that i don't know". Don't confuse your feelings of infatuation or lust for love. Love means you've seen the absolute worst in a woman, things that you don't like, and yet despite those flaws that you don't like, still want to be with her. You h… | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Don’t know what to do…“_It feels honestly I’m out of her league and, a date with a such beautiful, intelligent for me already was a success for me. I have a lot of other priorities in life right now, and I’m trying to stay focused on myself. Still, a small part of me is drawn to her. She made me feel seen like I mattered. I honestly think the whole intention of this date was more about proving something to myself_” All this things you wrote show you clearly are not ready at all to date this girl, at all. You don’t ev… | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 05:42 PM |
| 6 | How to pivot initial negative response and continue the conversation to change it to a YES?How to take no for an answer? Also known as how to harass someone and disrespect their boundaries. Delete mate. You have an incorrect mindset about what seducing woman is. It’s not about refusing to take a no for an answer it’s about taking girls who are already interested and leading things into the bed without screwing up. If a woman has said no and you refuse to accept it, you literally start to be creepy. | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 05:29 PM |
| 8 | First Date RejectionYou got problems mate, and women will run from you because of it. Your interpretations of what happens are just that interpretations, not a truth. Her truth is different to yours. Start taking responsibility for yourself and stop paying the victim | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 03:08 PM |
| 13 | First Date Rejection“I sent her this message:"Hey also on Friday I got the impression that you found me physically repulsive off the bat so take care. Nice to meet you anyway" Do you not realize how cringe it is to send a message like this? Like really? i mean read it out loud in front of another person, preferably a man, and maybe you’ll realize how cringe it is. You are clearly having self-esteem issues if you say shit like this not just to women but to any person. Like what is that you hope a woman will say when… | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 03:06 PM |
| 2 | A random request, but can you please tell me if I look humane enough to approach girls?Your pricacy settings show that your profile is hidden, all your posts do not appear. So iin order to see them you have to enable in settings the posibility for others to see it | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 12:31 AM |
| 3 | is NEW YORK still the mecca of day/night game today?Im a conservative and most women i met are nice, even those who lean left and would be considered AOC supporters (yep they exist) are nice people who have no reason to hate on you unless you really give them a reason for it. Approaching them is not going to be enough reason to get scolded or reprimanded by liberal women, unless you refuse to take no for an answer, start following them, demanding that they give you a chance or demanding that they justify their decision to reject you or if you cal… | /r/seduction | 26/10/25 09:53 PM |
| 49 | Responding to "not sure if you're my type"As a coach, i can tell you that if she said: Her: You are not my type Just say: You: “Thank god, i was scared you would sexually harass me”. or You: “Good, that we can be friends without fear of you harassing me”. Or You: “Good, cuz I dont want to be your type” And just change topics. Never take anything they say about you seriously. What they think of you does not matter if you simply don’t care. A comment like that is irrelevant when you simply are not looking to get something from her, which … | /r/seduction | 26/10/25 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Don’t assume a woman has to behave in a particular specific way if she likes you or doesn’t.Women are anything but predictable in the dating aspect. If they were predictable this entire sub wouldn’t even exist in the first place. The only predictable thing about women is their unpredictability. | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Is there a way to re-attract?Yes. Just treat her like that guy you said was treating her like trash because it’s not treating her like trash it’s just teasing her which is emotionally stimulating to women. And don’t be a white knight or mister protector. Your confusion about why the guy managed to attract her is because you don’t understand that attraction happens when there is tension, not comfort. Too much tension can indeed lead to the woman being highly defensive and thus you could fuck up for overdoing it but lack of t… | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 11:45 AM |
| 1 | How do I get past the sticking point of getting girls to text back?By having emotionally stimulating conversations in person with them that causes them to connect and relate to you, causes them to open up emotionally and causes them to feel a flirty vibe, to the point where they are the ones begging you to take their number rather than you having to bring up the topic. You are getting numbed after having mostly forgettable conversations with them that don’t make the feel any intense emotion, probably focused on facts about each other like a small interview and … | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 10:53 PM |
| 6 | What Does It Mean if a Woman Says That She Doesn’t Feel A Connection?When a woman says she felt no connection it means some of the following: that she didn’t feel like you two had enough emotional experiences in common or emotional experiences that make her relate to you. That she doesn’t feel like she understands you or that you don’t truly understand where she is coming from. That she doesn’t feel comfortable opening up emotionally around you because of how different you two might be or how logical and rational the conversation was in general. And most importan… | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 10:45 PM |
| 1 | I'm older than most here I think (41). Recently single after a long marriage fell apart. Looking for advice with how to handle OLD.Do B, and never ever in your entire life do C with women. | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on this way of handling flakes?No because the girl being flaky is her choice and hence you calling her out does absolutely nothing to change her behavior since she doesn’t have to be complacent towards you. All you do is look petty because you are begging for consistency from someone who doesn’t naturally feel like giving it when instead you should just be focusing your attention on someone who actually feels like it without you having to demand it. It’s not your job to tell women what behavior they need to have that would sa… | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 10:11 PM |
| 0 | Guys who went from anxious to players, what book/course helped you the most?I recommend this one on amazon. Great book | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 06:06 PM |
| 2 | FrameFrame refers to the reality you and the girl live in your own heads about what's happening during the conversation and which is expressed in the way you communicate with full conviction as if it's unquestionable. So in a way yes these two examples reflect two different realities "Let's go to lunch on Tuesday" subtly communicates that you are the leader and she follows without negotiation. "I would like to take you sometime" subtly communicates that the relationship doesn't have a leader and whic… | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 05:08 PM |
| 13 | How do I show girls the same confident, funny side I naturally have with friends?By forgetting about the result. The problem here is that you want something from a girl and thus you stop being yourself and doing what you want and instead start trying todo what you think might get a result or to avoid doing whatever might get you to lose that result. And since you can't really know what behaviors will guarantee the result and you don't believe your usual self is enough to guarantee that result you end up doing nothing at all. The thing you need to understand is that your usua… | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 04:38 PM |
| 1 | In person/TextingYour expectations are a "you" problem. The problem with having expectations is that you begin to asssume that your subjective expectations have to be universal as if the entire world should know that "X" particular behaviour should be the norm that everyone must adhere to if they are interested, This is a problematic way of thinking because it would mena that people don't have a right to be themselves and that they must fulfill a particular "role" that you have uniletarally established as the "u… | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 01:33 PM |
| 1 | In person/TextingBecause your probelm seesm to be that people who do something particular in person then have to consistently show the same in texting. But that's not necessarilly the case. Some peopel can hate texting, or they might love texting but not texting you. Because with some people you love texting and with othres you dont. Now just because you dont like texting with someone doens't mean you dont enjoy interactions in person or that they are not interested. So you need to stop trying to interpret women… | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 05:22 PM |
| 2 | When do you feel like you have completed the game?I dont know how you can adopt a mindset like mine. I just know that i dont care what others do. I care what i do in comparison to what i did before. Mostly because it's how life works. If you are cconstaly focus on what otehrs do you are never happy with yourself because there will always be someone somewhere who does better than you in any area of life. The point is that im not in a competition. So there is no answer to "When do you know you have won in seduction". Because no one is tracking th… | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 05:17 PM |
| 2 | When do you feel like you have completed the game?Why do you compare yourself to others? The only comparison that matters is with your past self. I don't know what the "average guy" experience is and i don't care. You bring up the topic of wealth in order to compare yourself. But if you've made 10 million dollars who cares if there are other people who make billions? You are still living a great life with your current money. Dating is not about comparing yourself to others to see "how you are doing", this is about recongizing that your life now… | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 04:57 PM |
| 4 | When do you feel like you have completed the game?Sorry but who says that there is an end? or anything? There is no final. This is just self.improvement until you feel happy with how your life looks like. No one comes to give you a medal, or to tell you "you are officially a master in this area". The question is are you happy with your current life? If yes you have "won", if not you have not "won". There is no universal standard for "winning" that applies to every guy because everyone has different definitions of what winning is. Maybe you get … | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 04:47 PM |
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