So im going to explain the difference between chasing and not chasing.

Chasing happens when you are in a situation where a woman loses interest in you, becomes colder, becomes distant, takes longer to reply or leaves you on seen, gives excuses not to talk to you or hang out with you,…

And you then try to compensate by going after her, adapting your life to her schedule, double or triple texting when your last message that was expecting a response didn't get answered, trying harder to make it work, convincing her to give you a chance,…

And basically clinging to breadcrumbs and hoping that if you show more interest and flexibility, she will eventually give you the attention and investment you want but are not getting or are losing.

That’s when you are chasing, and it leads to a sunk cost fallacy where you continue chasing more because you tell yourself your previous investment cannot go to waste, leading you to waste even more time and effort that is still not going to be reciprocated which leads to resentment.

Not chasing would be to let them go when they distance themselves or when they break up with you, to not base your life around that person’s schedule, to be independent of them, to not orbit around them,…

And to make peace with the idea that if they are interested they’ll be back without you having to do anything, and if they don’t come back then they are not interested and you are fine either way, because your happiness and well being does not depend on them coming back.

Chasing makes it more likely to repel that person, and not chasing usually makes it more likely that it will attract that person but if not, you are fine either way.

You don’t act desperate if they go away because you value yourself enough to never beg for someone’s approval or attention or love.

The mindset from a person who doesn’t chase is: “if it’s not a 100% yes from that person it’s a no, and so you stop trying”. While the mindset of the person who chases is the opposite: “if it’s not a 100% no, then it’s a yes or maybe and have to keep trying”.

The person who chases is usually desperate and has scarcity of options, they don’t believe they can find someone better and fear being alone above all else, so they conclude that grovelling themselves for a woman increases their odds of finding someone.

The person who doesn’t chase isn't desperate, usually has plenty of options and believes they can find someone better, hence when a woman pulls away he is just calm and unperturbed, he doesn't panic because he has made peace with whatever happens happens and doesn't see being alone as something to fix, but something to enjoy.

This attitude makes it more likely to attract women since the man doesn't need saving, his attitude is more carefree, nonchalant, doesn't pressure women, doesn't beg and so he is just simply giving a more attractive aura that's more likely to attract women naturally.

And when it doesn't attract a particular woman, it doesn't affect him in any significant way because his life is still fun without that particular woman and can find others easily.