Look, when u ask:

“What intentioms does this girl have with me?”

what ur really asking is:

“What script does this girl want me to follow so I know what to expect and how i should behave according to her script?”

In other words:

“What rules does she have for me, so I know whether I am allowed or not to do what I want, in case I overstep and upset her".

But this mindset is counterproductive, as it shows passivity, a lack of spine, a lack of leadership and is dishonest cuz u are not being real, but rather adapting to what u think she wants u to do or be as if she suddenly had the authority to give you permission to be urswlf.

Ur essentially acting like a fake politician who says or does what he things people want, rather than what he genuinely believes or wants to do.

And this mindset in dating ruins things very easily cuz doing what u think she wants u to do leads to the friendzone or rejection as an indirect "consequence" for being fake and for being an orbiter without his own clear and non-negotiable direction.

Tryin to guess and cater to what a woman wants, instead of acting on ur own intentions is essentially playing not to lose rather than playing to win.

Like, ur basically letting her intentions dictate ur behavior, instead of leading the interaction with ur own clear sense of what u want to try to avoid rejection or discomfort.

And in doing so, u end up being less authentic and assertive, which doesn't create the kind of attraction or genuine connection u want.

So don’t u shouldn't adapt urself to her intentions, she should either adapt to ur intentions or walk away if she is not feeling it in the moment.

If she doesn’t like ur intentions, she can leave, but u should not be behaving like a friend just because u have determined that's what she expects you to do during your hangout.

Oh, and u should not try to negotiate beforehand what script u both will follow before the date/hangout even happens. Things always need to feel spontaneous!! Not predetermined.

Act according to ur own intentions, not according to her intentions or any expectations.

And lastly, every time u feel tempted to think bullshit like:

"If a girl does "this" and "that" with me, then i suppose that she wants me to do X or that she is waiting for Y to happen, because she should know that's what a man would want in such a situation"

Forget that assumption and do the action not because u think she wants u to, but because u want to.

And if she is shocked/surprised that u did it and asks u: "Why are u doing that!!?!?!!?" don't say, "Because I thought u wanted it or expected it"

Instead, say: "Well, because I want to do it" Period.

Always treat every hangout with a girl as something where the vibe is open. Not guaranteed romantic, not strictly platonic, just open.

And remember that what determines where it goes will be:

• the chemistry u create in the moment,
• how u escalate (light flirting, tension, playful energy, ur move to kiss her),
• whether she reciprocates the vibe.

Not predetermined, scripted or decided in her head days before. Don’t try to guess a woman’s intentions, cuz women either don’t have fixed intentions, or if they do, very frequently, those intentions aren’t permanent at all and can easily change every 5 minuts depending on how they feel in the moment.

Just be spontaneous.