Seducing a virgin - tips?

kashpw · 2026-04-16T05:35:13+00:00

Make sure you’re truly on the same page.

Be honest with yourself about what you want. There are plenty of girls who just want sex. Girls who are sex positive and relationship material can be harder to come around. On behalf of both men and women, i hope you contribute to encouraging there to be more girls like this. In the likeliest case, she’s expecting a lot to come out of it beyond just sex or ‘sexual awakening’.

If you know this to be the case, don’t go through with it without truly having the intention of dating her seriously and potentially marrying her. Yes, i know you can’t know everything right away. But at the very least, you know this by checking in with yourself ‘are you hoping it works out’, or ‘are you more excited about getting into this virgin unicorn - and will potentially make up some excuses down the road to break up’.

She’s been holding back this side of herself for something very special so it’s going to mean a lot to her - most likely going through with it with the intention of building a relationship that leads to marriage because that’s the only way she’s been thinking about it for years. Even after you’ve introduced a new perspective to her now about dating and it’s true, it’s a much smaller part of how she thinks about herself and this topic and does not discount the fact that years have been invested in how she’s been looking at it - whether you agree or not.

A few of my friends have triggered girls like this and it’s not pretty. It eats at them too.

On the other hand, if you’ve made sure she’s truly in it to just explore sex regardless of how it turns out no strings attached, guide her into it the same way you’ve been guiding her. She’s obviously into your style

Edit: typo

Valuable-Tangelo-193 · 2026-04-16T05:44:25+00:00

Marry her or leave her alone lol

lameboigenie · 2026-04-16T11:40:40+00:00

dont try to coerce her into sex when she wants something else

Setanta95 · 2026-04-16T14:19:41+00:00

If she wanted to she would that's all I'm saying but you need to be patient and get her comfortable with you and also if you truly love her you might have to wait months and if it's just about sex my advice is move on but if you are set on her you need to get her comfortable whether it's a good idea or not is an entirely different thing.

vertascend · 2026-04-16T10:06:01+00:00

I know how to seduce but I’m not telling you because in this case I think it’s unethical

Firstly… how does one get out of a restrictive situation with the family… the only way is if she moves out to college or something…. But she will feel guilty all the time even thinking about it

Secondly, yes relationships without sex is friendship, but relationships can and do exist without sex, but empty sex is not reminiscent of a good relationship; so if you’re just trying to seduce her just to take her virginity and then flake to the next thing, just to satisfy your ego, I cannot support this

But if she fully knows that all you want is sex and you will eventually leave then; by all means it’s consensual and she doesn’t get hurt… go for it buddy

And yeah … if you’re a real G then you’ll consider getting into a relationship with her before taking her virginity, and this would be the ideal scenario which I support

Relationships by the way are based on attraction, which you can have without sex, but here’s the thing, if she has never had sex then she won’t be good at it and her future husband will be left wanting as well, so it’s a double edged sword

Keep in mind the emotional trauma and consequences she will face when it comes to her family finding out… and ask yourself the question… “is it worth it?”…. If yes… go for it

Matter_Still · 2026-04-16T06:30:52+00:00

"But her concept of what a relationship was is warped."

She should be very fortunate she has you to help her jettison the values she has--an objective guy, devoid of any self-satisfying motives, who will instruct her on what a true relationship is.

pie-mart · 2026-04-16T14:53:28+00:00

If she wants a relationship don't be the guy to act like you want what she wants to get her virginity then bounce. When low key all you want is the conquest of a virginal woman and don't mind misleading her. Would be a shit move on your part

streetphilosopher23 · 2026-04-16T05:29:40+00:00

Her brain function around this topic is wired with specific way . She’s programmed by her house strongly it seems . The good news is that she probably willing to experiment and explore her sexuality. After that she would probably make up for the lost time so I would invest much emotionally but you know her better I guess . Organise a dinner at your house or open a bottle of wine and invite her . Don’t make her feel cheap or don’t mention anything about sex . Be gentle and passive , go with her tempo. Lastly be patient when you get to the good stuff.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-04-16T08:54:22+00:00

Sounds like you've got to take it slow. No penetration for the first 5-10 times you're in bed. You can slowly ease her into it through dancing, hugging, kissing and massaging and petting her. Let her nature figure it all out. Use your knee in between her legs as the main escalation tool. Hump her while she's clothed. It's both fun for you and safe in her mind.

Connect_Method_1382 · 2026-04-16T07:17:32+00:00

I dont agree with you , relationship can be without sex, you are forcing it. None of you guys are right . My best advice is that you will have to gain her trust and be honest about it ultimately

RSDAbhijeet · 2026-04-16T18:04:20+00:00

Many advisors here.. I will throw what I would have done: Firstly, a virgin girl is a NO for me. Secondly, it you plan to stay with her for long and marry her, then it's good.. else don't even think about it, I don't feel making a girl traumatized is a good thing. Thirdly, make her feel good. A woman's biggest sexual organ is her brain. You can take it slow.. or you can just grab her and do it without thinking twice.. depends on the girl. Don't bring up sexual topics.. only make her feel so good with you that sex is just a by-product of these good feelings. Her mind should say to her 'things were like this, and IT JUST HAPPENED' Win her trust before. And don't make it too obvious.. don't do it in a hotel room or someplace where she knows sex will happen.. she might resist.

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2026-04-16T19:18:04+00:00

Personally I think you're wasting your time.

You're kinda already manipulating the girl to enjoy sex for your own sake....

Furthermore, women that grew up really conservative like this basically run into a lot of issues as far as their own concepts and beliefs around sex and orgasms.

Aka there will be a LOT of guilt and shame around sex regardless of what you do and you'll only get through that if you know what you're doing.

Basically homegirl was likely raised to few sex as bad and her "urges" as not normal. I've talked to SEVERAL women before pretty much in this exact situation.

Unless you're in it for the long haul you're wasting your time PLUS will scar the girl if you don't stay around a bit.

Long story short like I said you're wasting your time.

Jack26918 · 2026-04-16T19:31:17+00:00

Why are you doing this to her? It's fucked-up selfish and twisted, dude.

Grim-vs-World · 2026-04-16T14:41:08+00:00

Women like her are difficult to find. Do not ruin her. If your intentions are truly pure, then marry her. If not don’t make her do something she will regret.

Voljinzzz · 2026-04-16T13:14:23+00:00

yes, but i was in serious relationships with them. just leave her alone unless you're willing to commit.

Lumpy_Self_8277 · 2026-04-16T16:06:24+00:00

Relevant_Occasion_33 · 2026-04-16T16:36:52+00:00

I dated a woman like this, except she was even older in her thirties.

My advice is find a woman who isn’t sexually repressed. Maybe if they’re perfect in every other aspect of the relationship it’s doable, but those women are too rare. This woman probably isn’t and you can do better for yourself.

Discopotatoz · 2026-04-17T01:11:17+00:00

Treat her like a normal girl, making her fall for you will inevitably lead to sex. Sounds like you're 90% of the way there. My experience with girls who have withheld that long is after they take the plunge (pun intended) the flood gates blast open and they make up for the lost time lol. Play it with care and consideration, ie. don't rail her out the first time and don't be a dick in general, and you may enjoy the release of all that pent up sexual energy and curiosity

Bbghaha · 2026-04-17T09:34:56+00:00

it would be manipulation on your part, unless you are serious about her it’s not your place to decide what’s warped or not. considering you’re on seduction asking this im assuming you probably don’t have anything serious in mind anyway besides your own sexual pleasure

Dev_In_Progress_Mann · 2026-04-18T09:47:45+00:00

Don't destroy her, she is a Gem 💎

cryptosis420 · 2026-04-21T00:38:59+00:00

Tbh its not even about her at this point its about you. If your just trying to get your rocks off and bust a nut there are a lot of women out there who have plenty of EXPIRENCE in this that you could meet. Believe me, those women will also stick around with you for a long time as long as your giving them value.

There is a reason virgin marriages have a lot of value in many cultures and the key here is the marriage. Marriage is a sacred commitment in every society. That committment is to not be just long term but a lifetime. Really consider what was just said here.

If this isnt your thing at the moment then keep on moving along because the intimacy youll share is a deep emotional, physical, and spritual connection she has never expirenced before.

The choice is yours and hers, im only helping you understand what your getting into if you go through with this.

Dandys3107 · 2026-04-16T06:45:09+00:00

She should get rid of the concept that it needs to feel something special. Also, it's not very wise for the person that have 0 experience to lead in the relationship. Let that sink in her. Keep yourself in the center of this matter too, how long you can wait and how you can measure if the progress is sufficient to you. She may get into healthy sexual mindset pretty quickly or she may never be able to do that with you at all, it's not like you can guarantee any breakthrough just by introducing proper escalation process.

Maleficent_Scale5365 · 2026-04-16T11:51:45+00:00

Who said relationships can't exist without sex ?

Back2theCouture · 2026-04-16T12:15:46+00:00

I’d just have her to practice with me. Start from kissing on the cheek, then on the mouth, then french kiss, keep slowly upping until you have sex with her.

schroedinger11 · 2026-04-16T06:04:47+00:00

Take her anal virginity and tell her only vaginal virginity is reserved for marriage.

Title	Seducing a virgin - tips?
Author	RealUltrarealist
Upvotes	13
Comments	42
Date	April 16, 2026 5:13 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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