What went wrong?

shortidiva21 · 2026-02-05T05:40:53+00:00

Not saying you're not doing this, but make sure you're holding masculine frame:

https://youtube.com/shorts/R30x9uUlRvA?si=KXrs1Bc3FdXadHAA

Make sure you're following this advice: Don't be passive in your communication, be present with the woman in front of you, demonstrate curiosity, be at the cause & not the effect in conversation, steer a lot of the conversation. Spike her emotions, but don't be a jerk and withdraw once you have her romantic interest.

Don't use overly passive "receptive" speech like: "Ask me anything" "wyd" "hru" "sup" "Send pics"<<==emotionally lazy, passive speech that turns you into a "reply guy" talking to himself in a woman's DMs

Unless you're just looking to hook up....

I know you said you improved, but here's my guide just in case: https://www.reddit.com/u/shortidiva21/s/1PoUFUU2cj

Whatever you do, DO NOT BE PASSIVE.

Friendly-Media4214 · 2026-02-05T08:28:13+00:00

If you’re interacting gays you definitely did a lot of stuff right.

ToroAzul81 · 2026-02-05T05:40:55+00:00

Have you tried talking to women? Only Star Trek villains say "female" and not even the cool ones. The guys who gave you this as advice do don't they?

WhusssuName4547 · 2026-02-05T07:24:18+00:00

How much approaching have you been doing lately?

WebNew9978 · 2026-02-05T05:33:58+00:00

Well that’s the thing about dating. You can do everything right and still have no woman wanting to date you. It’s the story for myself as well.

madiimoore · 2026-02-05T07:35:02+00:00

Sometimes attracting more people means you're doing everything right.

vertascend · 2026-02-05T08:44:19+00:00

Buddy you need some help; seems you got stuck on that focus on yourself stuff all the other single guys preach… all the stuff you wrote should be done for yourself and for no one else… girls will NEVER come to you… they’ll give hints that they want to be approached by you when you’re talking about decent girls during day game… and even then that’s only some of them, most don’t know that you exist… so you have to take the initiative…. Now if you’re talking about the kinds of girls that’ll approach you based on what you mentioned then… join social circles where they may be or play night game like going to the clubs…I’m sure they’ll approach you there… but I’m assuming clubs aren’t your thing based on your health conscious lifestyle so you’re going to have to put in some work into approaching buddy

Trip_seize · 2026-02-05T09:53:28+00:00

Instructions unclear?

AttractionIntel · 2026-02-05T10:42:11+00:00

Are you actually investing time and effort into actively approaching/flirting with women? Looks and fashion are great because they'll get women intrigued to give you their time of day.

But if you don't know how to communicate with women in a way that demonstrates your masculinity, creates flirtation, polarity, sexual tension, and as corny as this sounds, makes them see you as "high value", you'll be stuck.

All of what you did is good to look good but women respond to behavior and energy. You need to dial in the way you communicate w them.

tyYdraniu · 2026-02-05T14:50:39+00:00

theres nothing wrong, mind that attract man doesnt mean youre being attractive only to them, also womem doesnt show that they are attracted so... ye

WaitingForTheFire · 2026-02-05T16:27:45+00:00

Apparently you became “metrosexual”. Definition: A heterosexual man who is sensitive to stereotypic feminine interests and is very concerned with personal appearance, as in grooming and dressing stylishly.

If it makes you feel any better, the gay men may think you are bisexual, not completely gay. That would be a good thing in your case, because it means you still give off the vibe of a man who is attracted to women.

ReindeerFun3762 · 2026-02-06T03:57:03+00:00

Maybe you are secretly gay lol and working out on the wrong areas

Dandys3107 · 2026-02-07T01:02:27+00:00

What do you mean "attracting"? You need to make a move by yourself. Even if women obviously find you attractive, they are not wired to take the risk and they usually they are cluless how to conclude a flirt with a stranger. If you feel you are not prepared for direct approach with sexual intent, you can just conduct a casual , brief interaction with a girl to get your body language, voicetone and conversation strategy feel natural and ready. If you feel there is a problem with your interaction with a girl, you need to provide an example here. Good flirt is conducted in completely different vibe than casual talk with a stranger.

DistinctStruggle4201 · 2026-02-05T17:50:35+00:00

Have you tried just being yourself. Women don't necessarily give a fuck about looks. If you're a fun person to be around she'll want to be around you.

fuck_dating_reddi_t · 2026-02-05T05:39:05+00:00

Just go to brothels, have sex , pay money , be happy

Title	What went wrong?
Author	DundeeBarons
Upvotes	4
Comments	17
Date	February 5, 2026 5:29 AM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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