WaitingForTheFire Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
91	What kind of (non sexual) skills impress women?	Outer Game	WaitingForTheFire	/r/seduction	06/09/21 03:04 PM
4	Extra money beyond child support		WaitingForTheFire	/r/Divorce_Men	09/11/17 12:38 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	If you don’t go to clubs/bars you can’t say you want to get women/being introverted is a choice Yikes. That mindset greatly increases the risk of self-deletion. While I agree that a life without sex is very unfulfilling, it’s not necessarily a good reason to take a one way trip to the great beyond.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 06:37 PM
1	If you don’t go to clubs/bars you can’t say you want to get women/being introverted is a choice I don’t think you really understand what it means to be an introvert. Especially an introvert with anxiety issues. It’s difficult enough just to drive to the club and walk in the door. And then you expect that person to be sociable and have a good time. And then you expect the dude to be able to approach women? And you think that the guy is going to be capable of being charismatic enough to get the attention of a woman? Get real. It’s easier to move a mountain.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 06:29 PM
1	If you don’t go to clubs/bars you can’t say you want to get women/being introverted is a choice If the woman is intoxicated enough to “make a bad decision”, she is intoxicated enough that she may not clearly remember what happened. That often leads to a grey area where it is not clear if there was consent, leading to accusations of SA.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 06:12 PM
2	fellas, would you rather keep up the dry spell in hopes of something better or keeping fucking these 4-5s? I’ve been choosing the dry spell. I think I’m worried about being unable to perform in the bedroom if I’m not feeling a strong attraction. Maybe it’s time to start thinking about pharmaceutical assistance because I’ve gone without for way too long and I’m not attractive enough to get with the women that really turn me on.	/r/seduction	25/06/26 05:12 PM
1	It’s so wild seeing the shift in sentiment towards cold approach Cultural trends swing back and forth like a pendulum. It was only a matter of time.	/r/seduction	23/06/26 01:45 PM
6	Can't do this anymore It seems to me that you are focusing on the wrong things. Substance abuse ruins people’s lives. I think you’re going to need to take responsibility for your actions. That doesn’t mean giving up on life. But, it does mean that getting clean needs to be your first priority. Otherwise, everything that you have left is going to fall apart. You need a support system to help you get through your substance abuse and depression issues. Group therapy can do wonders. At this point, inpatient treatment mig…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/06/26 01:29 PM
11	Friend and I used to go out and ask every girl at the club if they wanted to get out of there immediately, No? Next girl. Never failed Yes. But the average woman is much more selective about who she has sex with than the average man.	/r/seduction	18/06/26 09:08 PM
4	Unpopular Opinion: Strip clubs are the best place to learn “Game” Playing “hard to get” is one thing. If you want to make the woman work to convince you to buy a dance, I don’t see an issue with that. But, be ready to pay for a dance at some point. Don’t go to a club with the intention of not spending any money. If you are taking advantage of the woman’s patience, without doing anything for her in return, that makes you a douchebag.	/r/seduction	15/06/26 06:05 PM
10	I get attention from women but struggle to get laid I agree that it is very important to be grateful for what one has. However, I also completely understand life being unfulfilling without intimate physical contact. Try not to be too critical of OP.	/r/seduction	02/06/26 07:59 PM
1	Anybody else have trouble dating after divorce? I wish this was easier to find. After being divorced, a lifelong relationship seems like an unrealistic goal to pursue. Friends are more likely to be accommodating when you need some space to be yourself.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/26 05:37 PM
4	Anybody else have trouble dating after divorce? My ex found someone within two years of the divorce and has been (happily as far as I can tell) married for several years. It’s a real kick in the ass because I’m lonely and I’ve barely been on a date.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/26 05:33 PM
1	Anybody else have trouble dating after divorce? Let me know if you figure it out. I’m basically in the same boat.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/26 05:30 PM
4	I hear a lot of people spreading the idea that a lot of men are MISSING opportunities with women by not approaching. The reality is they aren't Like many of the posts in this subreddit, it seems like you’re over analyzing. Approaches are always a gamble. In my opinion, self esteem is the only limiting factor. When I’m feeling down, I’m not going to take the chance that a rejection might make me feel even worse about myself. If I’m feeling really confident, a rejection isn’t going to bother me. So, I might as well take a chance when I’m feeling good, even if the odds are against me because I have nothing to lose. If you have to follow so…	/r/seduction	08/05/26 06:23 PM
1	To The Guys Who Like To Push Through Resistance With Women. Why do You Do It? I guess some people just enjoy the thrill of the chase. Probably the same reason why some people are never satisfied in long term relationships.	/r/seduction	21/04/26 09:40 PM
–	The majority of women can’t make men feel as desired as women who engage in casual sex with them. It really depends on what is important to the man. If having sex is enough to make you happy, then casual sex will keep you satisfied. Most men are not completely one dimensional. Eventually most heterosexual men will, at some point in their life, desire companionship and love from a woman. At that point, casual sex and feeling attractive is not enough to satisfy the man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 07:32 PM
10	Women don't chase Chad because women don't experience post-nut clarity I think most people would have more dating success if they spent less time over analyzing the social dynamics of dating and put that time into interacting with other people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 03:03 PM
31	Women hypocritically dismiss men complaining about not having sex, yet get angry if a pro life person tells them not to have sex. It’s a very simple issue of bodily autonomy. Women reject the idea of someone else telling them what they can do with their own body. I don’t think women generally complain about men sharing their feelings of loneliness and sexual frustration. I think women complain when men sound as if they expect women to take on the responsibility for fixing those problems. No one should feel obligated to date or have sex with someone out of pity. Women have the right to be selective about who they want as a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/26 01:21 AM
1	The majority of men don’t have the privilege of not caring about sex. Herpes, hepatitis B, HIV (AIDS), and HPV can all be treated. However, they cannot be cured. People with one of these diseases are stuck managing the symptoms and trying not to spread it to their sexual partner(s) for the rest of their life. Thankfully, AIDS is no longer a death sentence (even though it is uncommon between heterosexual people, as you stated). However, I think most people would rather not have an incurable disease. I’m not anti-promiscuity. But it makes sense to use condoms and be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 04:07 PM
1	The majority of men don’t have the privilege of not caring about sex. You had my attention with the first paragraph. You lost me with the second paragraph. I agree that men who have casual sex are typically more successful and attractive. However, sleeping with as many women as possible is a good way to end up with a (possibly incurable) STD/STI. While I would like to experience casual sex, I’m not going to “sell my soul” in order to accomplish that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/26 05:54 PM
–	Women don't owe men "sexual equality" You might be overthinking this. There is a very simple principle that may have been overlooked. Sometimes people try things once and decide they don’t like it. Other times people do the same thing for a while and eventually decide they don’t want to do it anymore. That’s not limited to kinky activities. It could apply to sports or hobbies or anything else couples might do together. Just because your girlfriend played tennis with her ex-boyfriend, she’s not obligated to play tennis with you. It’s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/26 04:31 PM
6	If you had to pick a career to meet women, what would you choose? You’ve got to be really discreet though if you’re a teacher dating another teacher. If the students find out, you’ll be the talk of the whole school. Could be really embarrassing.	/r/seduction	14/03/26 04:52 PM
2	If you had to pick a career to meet women, what would you choose? They make good money too.	/r/seduction	14/03/26 04:50 PM
0	If you had to pick a career to meet women, what would you choose? I think if you have charisma and good looks, most jobs create an opportunity to meet women. There are some exceptions where you would be surrounded by men all day, such as a job in a steel mill. But there are a lot of women in the workforce nowadays, if you’re ok with an office romance. Jobs where you interact with the public obviously provide a wider variety of women to meet.	/r/seduction	14/03/26 04:49 PM
1	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes I fucking hate reality. Just pointing out that young men have different expectations than older men with more life experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/26 10:22 PM
3	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes Yes, that is a fantasy that many men have. A mature man realizes that real life doesn’t work that way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 07:30 PM
1	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes From the perspective of a middle aged man, I would say live your life and be true to yourself. If you’re frustrated with dating, you should be putting your effort into being the best version of yourself, rather than worrying about when the right guy will show up in your life. If being promiscuous seems like the right choice for you, then go for it - if that is what you really want, as opposed to a knee-jerk reaction to the aggravation of modern dating. Also, be prepared to protect your physical …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 07:28 PM
1	Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learned I guess it’s both. The sex itself is different. Different people have different preferences. Every individual has preferences for how and where they like to be touched. There are variations on sexual positions that work and don’t work which vary based on who the partner is. One person might like a particular type of music during sex and someone else might like something completely different. One woman might moan softly while another one is a screamer. The discovery of what the other person likes…	/r/seduction	12/02/26 04:04 AM
1	Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learned I find that difficult to believe. 50 matches in 4 months would be above average. And you’re getting 10x that?	/r/seduction	07/02/26 06:06 AM
1	Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learned I believe in the expression, “Variety is the spice of life.” I’ve been in long term monogamous relationships and was always faithful to my partner. But, no matter how much you try to spice things up, sex with the same person over and over eventually gets boring. I’m currently single and I don’t know if I could ever handle another monogamous relationship. On the other hand, I don’t fully understand the appeal of sleeping with a double digit number of women in one year. It seems excessive. With wo…	/r/seduction	07/02/26 05:59 AM
1	What went wrong? Many people find that experience unsatisfying, despite having no moral objection to the activities.	/r/seduction	05/02/26 04:32 PM
1	What went wrong? Apparently you became “metrosexual”. Definition: A heterosexual man who is sensitive to stereotypic feminine interests and is very concerned with personal appearance, as in grooming and dressing stylishly. If it makes you feel any better, the gay men may think you are bisexual, not completely gay. That would be a good thing in your case, because it means you still give off the vibe of a man who is attracted to women.	/r/seduction	05/02/26 04:27 PM
1	Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company. I think there are a lot more socially inept people out in the world than you realize. Sometimes it can be quite difficult to know exactly how the other person feels about the interpersonal connection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 08:40 PM
6	I found my ex wife in sexually explicit promotional materials for her job It sounds like you split before having any kids. Be very grateful for that. You can make a clean break from her. If you have kids with someone, you can potentially be stuck with that person in your life for decades. After the divorce is final, you are not obligated to ever have to communicate with her again.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/26 05:04 AM
1	Being seen as boyfriend material but not hookup potential I’m definitely not an expert in this area. However, it has become clear to me that, “I don’t have sex unless I’m committed” is usually NOT set in stone. It’s a way to get rid of the thirsty fuckboys. I can’t say that I blame them because there are countless stories of men just using a woman to get off, without any concern for her having an orgasm. If a guy is willing to keep things going without the prospect of an easy lay, he’s probably gonna treat her much better, both in bed and in public.	/r/seduction	22/01/26 03:43 PM
-1	Being seen as boyfriend material but not hookup potential Please be very careful about including alcohol in your plans. It’s not as big of an issue if you’re in a relationship with the person. But alcohol blurs the lines around consent issues and memory of events. You don’t want her waking up the next day forgetting that she was literally asking for the “D”, and she thinks she was coerced.	/r/seduction	22/01/26 03:34 PM
2	How I went from being a virgin to having meetings and sex. Some people get bored easily by having sex with the same person over and over. That was me whenever I was in a long term relationship. It really sucks when the person you love just isn’t enough.	/r/seduction	31/12/25 06:34 PM
1	How I went from being a virgin to having meetings and sex. Yes. Having enough free time to do self-improvement and engage in social activities can work wonders. Unfortunately, some of us struggle with being able to do anything outside of work and other personal responsibilities. As far as the last paragraph goes, I guess the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.	/r/seduction	31/12/25 06:29 PM
3	24 deep truths about women & relationships that you won't hear from the mainstream. If an alien species studied human mating habits, they would say we are a disaster. Seriously, it’s like one big dumpster fire.	/r/seduction	10/11/25 11:30 PM
1	Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn” That was the predominant view in the USA until things started changing sometime around the 1960s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 08:27 PM
2	Men who gave up, why are you still here ? That’s a good way to put it. I’m broken, but maybe one day I will be fixed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/25 07:22 PM
2	Planning to quit my job to meet girls at hostels Sounds like a good way to end up with an STD.	/r/seduction	28/04/25 04:41 PM
5	What is the best mindset a short guy can have to promote taking action without living in delusion? Women do have preferences. No matter how much any guy tries, they will not have success with 100% of single straight women. The vast majority of men have to overcome some quality that some women will find less than attractive. A man could be overweight, underweight, balding, have an oddly shaped nose. Maybe the guy has a stuttering problem or a physical disability. I’ll bet you can think of at least one guy you know who has overcome one of these issues to find a remarkably good woman. Height is …	/r/TheRedPill	17/04/25 04:28 PM
29	Do the most gorgeous girls NEVER chase a guy? That depends on what you mean by “chase”. Will gorgeous women drop hints that they are interested? Absolutely. I’ve even heard stories from friends about beautiful women giving the guy her phone number without him having to ask for it. But I would definitely expect the guy to put in the majority of effort to get a date. If a gorgeous woman gets a polite/soft rejection, I’d expect that she would move right along to the next guy without wasting any time. Compare that to the guy who gets an ambiguo…	/r/seduction	17/04/25 12:03 PM
1	I lost a girl in a beach party to another girl. You have to have your radar really fine tuned before you live by this motto, unless you’re willing to endure embarrassment and rejection on a regular basis.	/r/TheRedPill	04/04/25 12:47 AM
1	Can a Fat guy seduce girls or get girls? It’s important to remember that women find confidence irresistible (real confidence, not false bravado). They may like your improved physical appearance. But the most important change from getting physically fit is probably that it made you much more self-confident.	/r/seduction	27/03/25 02:44 AM
1	Can a Fat guy seduce girls or get girls? It can take a while to build self confidence. Don’t make it all about dating/seduction. Some sort of hobby or recreational activity can help to make a person feel good about themselves. That confidence can carry over into dating/sexual situations.	/r/seduction	27/03/25 02:40 AM
1	Can a Fat guy seduce girls or get girls? If a guy is tall, wealthy and charismatic, I would imagine that being fat would only slightly hinder his chances at dating. Whoa! I thought I read the entire post, but there was more. Most hated? Why? Are you an easy target for bullying, or do you knowingly do things that trigger people? Do you flaunt your success in a way that makes other people jealous? There is a lot to unpack here. It seems that either you have really judgmental friends or you are treating other people poorly. I suggest you …	/r/seduction	27/03/25 02:16 AM
9	What’s considered being boring to women and how could not being boring long term? It may not be the hobbies themselves that women find interesting. What women tune into is probably the enthusiasm and confidence and satisfaction that you get from pursuing your hobbies.	/r/seduction	14/03/25 04:49 AM
1	Why do I feel like I need to be an A**hole to get girls? Did you read the second half of the post where it basically says, “Don’t be an asshole”.	/r/seduction	24/02/25 07:07 PM
9	Fuck it I’m just gonna approach girls for fun instead of treating it like it’s some kind of big chore I’ve heard this works very well for some people. Personally, I can approach one or two women per day and then I’m mentally exhausted. I really hate being an introvert with social anxiety.	/r/seduction	17/02/25 07:52 PM
5	3 Texting methods that consistently get me laid Step #1: Have someone to text.	/r/seduction	16/02/25 09:37 PM
1	Why KINO is the Difference Between the Friendzone and Attraction On the other end of the spectrum, you can be handsome and wealthy, with a great personality and you still are unlikely to have success with 100% of single women. Sure, it helps to have certain qualities. But, there is no secret formula that every woman is universally attracted to. Sometimes you’re just not gonna be her type.	/r/seduction	10/02/25 11:31 PM
2	Why KINO is the Difference Between the Friendzone and Attraction It is not going to work every time. Chemistry has to be mutual in order for anything to happen. No matter how handsome and charismatic you are, there are some women who just aren’t going to be sexually or romantically attracted to you, even if you do everything “right”.	/r/seduction	10/02/25 11:14 PM
6	Laughter being anti-seductive Well. That explains a lot for me.	/r/seduction	15/10/24 09:35 PM
0	My wife is begging me now to stopt the divorce process! You didn’t give any context as to why the divorce is happening. Is she sane and trustworthy? Maybe there is a chance to save the marriage. On the other hand, if she is dishonest or mentally unstable, it is probably best to split up. Don’t agree to stop the divorce unless you both are willing to make a serious commitment to marriage counseling and making a real effort to fix the problems. For the foreseeable future, you need to protect yourself. You need to make sure you have money put aside in c…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/24 11:10 PM
22	She is USING you if you are in the friendzone, this is why... I think you are partially right. If you meet a woman and think of her as a romantic prospect and she does not reciprocate the feeling, it is unlikely that a friendship will be an adequate consolation prize. However, if you meet a woman and there is no romantic chemistry at all, but you enjoy each other’s company and have common interests, this can develop into a valuable friendship. The idea of being friends first before dating is cute. But it doesn’t align with the fact that most people will de…	/r/seduction	12/10/24 03:04 PM
0	The idea of men needing to be "nice" really needs to die already Kindness matters if you are concerned about being a decent human being. That should be a higher priority than what it takes to get a date. Unfortunately a lot of people are fake nice because they think that being nice is part of a simple formula that is going to bring wonderful things to your doorstep. Life doesn’t work that way. After you learn to treat others with dignity and respect, you still have to put some work into making yourself into the kind of person that people actively want to be a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/24 05:22 PM
1	How do you guys handle girls fishing for drinks? Considering that no woman has ever approached me this way, I’d probably buy her a drink.	/r/seduction	29/09/24 06:49 PM
3	Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice ever If you need money, maybe find a more legitimate way to obtain it than robbing banks. If you need sex, maybe learn to flirt with women and ask for a date in less competitive environments than a nightclub.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 12:49 PM
2	What do you say when a woman asks for clarification about what you'll do in your room? I was thinking we could build Lego Star Wars characters or play Naked Twister. You can make the call on that. I’m up for anything.	/r/seduction	23/09/24 09:14 PM
4	I DON'T buy that men who date a younger woman do it because they're easier to manipulate Some middle aged men find their female peers to be jaded, cynical and both physically and mentally worn out. Younger women often still have a bright outlook on life and have vivacious energy. They will typically have a number of potential child-bearing years ahead of them. Some men just think younger women have more to offer. Some older men do take advantage of younger women, but I think it is a mistake to assume the motives of every older man that seeks a relationship with a younger woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 05:10 PM
3	What makes you have a lust or sexual desire for someone, but not necessarily want to date them? Great body but lacking in personality.	/r/seduction	17/09/24 01:24 PM
1	CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillment Are you including flirting too? Unless you’re Amish, that’s a nearly impossible standard to meet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/24 03:06 PM
3	Banned from dating apps forced to approach IRL You get matches on dating apps??? I thought that was just a legendary tale passed down from people who were single in the 90s and early 2000s.	/r/seduction	12/09/24 01:15 PM
1	Big city's are SO much easier than small towns. Why is this? That could be an advantage. If the woman wants to see you again, she’s likely to give you a phone number or other contact information, rather than hope for another chance encounter.	/r/seduction	06/09/24 05:20 AM
9	Why do women have high physical standards when looking for a hookup but not so much when looking for a relationship? If your goal is a happy long term relationship, you probably have to make some compromises. It is statistically improbable to find someone who is 10 out of 10 in every category: looks, personality, sense of humor, financial security, etc. For a long term relationships, women (and lots of men) are ok with the partner who is 6/10 in looks but 8/10 in every other way. If your goal is to find a short term partner or hookup, it may be flipped the other way around. The person who has 8/10 looks may fu…	/r/seduction	05/09/24 09:33 PM
25	Why do I feel like I'm on God-mode when drunk? Convincing yourself that you perform at your best with alcohol in your system is good way to end up as an alcoholic. It might seem fun now, but plenty of people have destroyed their body and their life by thinking that alcohol is going to make things better.	/r/seduction	03/09/24 10:14 PM
1	Age Gap during Clubbing Make your move now. Otherwise you will regret it if you are single in your 40s. At that point, women in their early 20s are genuinely too young for you.	/r/seduction	15/08/24 04:14 PM
–	Average guys are made to feel "dirty" for having a sexual desire Many problems arise from assuming what is going through another person’s mind. A woman should not assume that a man who approaches her only wants sex. HOWEVER, the man should be polite and respectful and should take a hint if the woman gives the impression that she is not interested. A significant number of men do not understand the subtleties of approaching a stranger. If a woman feels the slightest bit unsafe or uncomfortable, that can destroy your chances of her agreeing to meet you at anothe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 03:57 PM
–	Average guys are made to feel "dirty" for having a sexual desire Some women can still get in touch their playful side while being bitchy. Others are just mean and angry.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 03:15 PM
–	Average guys are made to feel "dirty" for having a sexual desire You’re supposed to use couch cushions, according to JD Vance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 03:10 PM
3	I will never let my kids call my wife's AP "step-dad." Please be careful. The choices you make now can affect the relationship you have with your kids when they are grown. If they resent you for cutting them off from their mom, don't expect to have a good relationship with your grandchildren or to have someone look after you in the later years of your life. Unless the mom or her significant other are abusing/neglecting the children, it may be unwise to push them out of the kid's lives. Yes, your ex hurt you. You probably feel like she's not the best…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/11/23 03:42 PM
3	I will never let my kids call my wife's AP "step-dad." It's true. It's toxic to keep hatred in your heart.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/11/23 03:31 PM
3	I will never let my kids call my wife's AP "step-dad." Words can have a big impact. If he decides to try to drive a wedge between the kids and their mom's family members (like her future? husband), there will probably be some negative consequences. OP has every right to be angry with his ex and her AP. But dragging the kids into that mess and forcing them to pick sides is a really bad idea. It's an adult problem between the adults in the situation. Don't burden the kids with trying to understand adult problems. That's the kind of thing that leads to…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/11/23 03:27 PM
1	If a man is the type to always want a paternity test, he should make that clear to his partner BEFORE they decide to have kids. I think you have a different definition of trust. Trust is mostly a feeling that is based upon an assessment of a person's character, values, statements, and past actions. It is the feeling that in the present and future, the person's actions will be consistent with the type of person that they have shown themselves to be in the past. Requiring proof of paternity shows a lack of trust. It's the innocent until proven guilty argument. If you trust your partner to be faithful, they are innocent unt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 07:12 PM
3	If a man is the type to always want a paternity test, he should make that clear to his partner BEFORE they decide to have kids. Trust is the foundation of relationships. Let's assume that the context here is long-term monogamous relationships. Most women will view automatic paternity testing as a red flag that the man has trust issues. If a man trusts a woman to be faithful, logic would dictate that there should be "reasonable suspicion" to believe that a paternity test is required (borrowing a term from the legal system). If a man can't trust the woman to this extent, either he hasn't found the right woman, or he wants …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/23 05:27 PM
5	So my wife, idk what she is actually, wanted space and now we are taking a “break” Nice to see a rational answer. Lots of people want to jump to conclusions that she is cheating. It's possible. But I'd say it is equally possible that she's having a mental breakdown. It sure would be a shame to throw away a marriage based on a hunch that she's cheating, with no evidence to back it up.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/11/23 03:53 AM
3	So my wife, idk what she is actually, wanted space and now we are taking a “break” I think you should ask her to VERY clearly define what she means by a "break". Is a break a trial separation or just a short cooling off period? I don't need to tell you that there are some red flags going on here - a number of other people have pointed that out already. I'm not going to tell you to ignore those red flags. But it IS ok to be cautiously optimistic. The changes of employment and housing is incredibly difficult for a person to adapt to in a short period of time - especially while t…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/11/23 03:36 AM
12	Why modern women complain that men only pursue them for sex when they refuse to provide anything else? I don't think much has really changed on this front in the last 100 years or so. Men are allowed to show a little bit of emotion. And a woman can be very loving and supportive of her man. But, ultimately, men are expected to be stoic for the most part. Men are expected to be the rock of strength and the voice of reason. Most women are turned off by a man who can not fulfill this role. Sure, you get a free pass to be emotional if a parent or a sibling dies. But, on a normal basis, men can not be …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/23 03:40 PM
5	What to do If I suspect my wife is considering divorce? If she's receptive to cuddling in bed - not sex, just cuddling - that can be very therapeutic for the relationship. Of course, if it doesn't feel right, then don't try to force it to happen. I can agree from experience that avoiding the wife at bedtime is not going to help things at all, if you are trying to stay together.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/11/23 01:53 AM
1	It is very unlikely that couples today will last deep into their 70s and 80s Do you have any idea how socially unacceptable it was to divorce, prior to the 1960s/1970s? People stayed in bad relationships because divorce was an equally bad option due to the social stigma. Nowadays, people are much less likely to feel like they are trapped in a bad marriage with no escape. The couples that are actually meant to be together into their 70s and 80s will still do so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 05:28 PM
1	Men should always assume a woman is not interested unless proven otherwise The odds of winning the big Poweball lottery jackpot are 1:292,000,000 or 0.0000003%. I think it is a much more realistic idea to believe you can date a hot girl than to win the lottery. Suddenly, a 0.01% chance doesn't seem so bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 12:10 PM
1	Men should always assume a woman is not interested unless proven otherwise There is some truth to that. But does every discussion have to revolve around physically attractivemen having an advantage? We've all seen gorgeous women dating average looking men. It may not be common, but it does happen. This means that the average guy probably approached the woman at some point, and shockingly, did not get rejected. Just because you're not a male model, you shouldn't assume you are automatically going to have a 0% success rate when approaching women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 01:41 AM
2	Men should always assume a woman is not interested unless proven otherwise These usually come across as vague, ambiguous gestures rather than conclusive proof of interest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 01:35 AM
1	Men would have been more accountable had they actually been told the truth Yeah. If you have no major responsibilities outside of work/school and you don't have anything like ADHD or depression holding you back. For many people, we are talking 5+ years to really change themselves to the point that it makes them more appealing in the dating world.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 06:54 PM
1	Men would have been more accountable had they actually been told the truth I mean, sure. Women would love to date a guy that is a real-life version of a superhero. Confident, strong, dominant, muscular, ethical, successful, charitable, etc. But not many people are going to fit that mold. At least not without a LOT of work. Even super heros need help from a radioactive spider or some other catalyst to give them a jump start on the road to greatness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 06:41 PM
6	Men would have been more accountable had they actually been told the truth I think one of the biggest problems is positive feedback loops aka "a vicious cycle" or a "downward spiral". A young man has problems with self-esteem. This prevents him from being appealing to women. The lack of success with women hurts his self-esteem. This makes him feel even worse about himself. His further lowered self-esteem makes it significantly more difficult to have success with women. This often results in a lack of motivation, which means that the man doesn't take action to improve h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 04:18 AM
7	Men would have been more accountable had they actually been told the truth Do men not have social awareness? I'd say approximately half of men are lacking in social awareness, to some degree. For whatever reason, the social awareness software in the male brain has a lot of glitches.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 04:07 AM
1	Is Monogamy Natural? Well, that gets the cringe award for this post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/23 01:39 PM
1	Why should men commit? What makes being my wife better than being my GF I would agree on thirst traps - they make no sense unless the woman is seeking a sexual partner or some other type of sexual attention. Kinda gross if that person is in a monogamous relationship. On the other hand, women should be able to do friend activities with other women. OF accounts are a bit of an extreme situation. While OF content creators are very well represented on reddit, they are only a small segment of society, and I think that very few relationships are actually affected by someo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/23 10:37 PM
4	Why should men commit? What makes being my wife better than being my GF Legal Marriage is just a contract. It makes it easier to own property jointly. It makes it clear who is entitled to inherit things of value when one person dies. It also helps to affirm who should speak on an individual's behalf when that individual is incapable of doing so for themselves (such as a person having a medical problem). That's about it. A marriage certificate doesn't really do anything else for a relationship. There is also the intangible benefit that it allows two people to publicl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/23 10:15 PM
2	Why should men commit? What makes being my wife better than being my GF There are a lot of other considerations, too. In those days, one man could bring home an income that could support a wife and several kids, in addition to himself. Most people at the time (including women) believed that a woman belonged at home, raising the kids and keeping the house neat and tidy. A large number of women were perfectly happy in this role (although, logically, some women probably did not like this idea). Young men were not taught about cooking and cleaning and child care, and th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/23 09:54 PM
2	Is Monogamy Natural? Thank you. I will check out those sources.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 05:13 PM
1	Is Monogamy Natural? I think it is also important to look at jealousy and possessiveness as very toxic states of mind. Mankind (or humankind, if you prefer) should strive to avoid fostering an environment where jealousy or possessiveness exists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 04:48 PM
1	Is Monogamy Natural? It makes sense for humans to be monogamous for the first few years of the offspring's life. The critical formative years. After that....it's complicated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 04:45 PM
5	Is Monogamy Natural? I think that if one was to dig a bit deeper, there is more nuance to be discovered about human sexual attraction. However, as far as practical advice goes, I think you are right on target.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 04:43 PM
2	Is Monogamy Natural? Can you recommend any books on the subject? This is one of the most enlightened perspectives I've heard on the subject. I definitely want to know more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 04:40 PM
5	Is Monogamy Natural? Any rational person should be able to understand that betraying the trust if one's partner goes completely against the whole concept of being in a relationship in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 04:35 PM
4	Is Monogamy Natural? I'm grossed out thinking about what would happen if people took this seriously. There are always a few....	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 04:34 PM
-1	Is Monogamy Natural? Seems like a bit of a straw man argument. Look for the most extreme example and then point at it and tell everyone how terrible it is. Scream about how everything related to the straw man is inherently bad and evil. Sorry, I don't buy into this corporate media propaganda mentality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 04:33 PM
3	Is Monogamy Natural? I think this is a very good take. I agree that monogamy is not natural. But that does not make it wrong. While I do not believe that monogamy is not natural, I think establishing a bond with a romantic partner that is based on trust IS in fact, a natural state of existence. In monogamous relationships where one individual (or both individuals) decides to discreetly have another partner, it is the BREACH OF TRUST that is truly damaging to the original relationship, not nessicarily the presence of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/23 04:25 PM
5	CMV: As a society there's almost nothing we can do to help lonely men I would upvote this a dozen times if I could.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 05:08 PM
2	CMV: As a society there's almost nothing we can do to help lonely men Even nowadays, with more independent women than ever, a woman typically wants a man to contribute at least 50% of the household income. When men have poor access to jobs that pay a living wage, they will struggle to find a relationship partner. So, logically, if a man can find a job that pays well, he has an increased chance of finding a relationship partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 05:01 PM
1	CMV: As a society there's almost nothing we can do to help lonely men I think you are mostly correct. However, the way you describe feminism is only half of the story. What you describe is the positive aspects of feminism when it works correctly. However, feminism does come with some flaws that help to drive a wedge between men and women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 04:57 PM
2	Why do even women with high libidos prefer monogamy or sex with just one partner? I am happy to hear that monogamy is working well for you and your spouse. However, the "seven year itch" is a very common phenomenon. I'm sorry if you felt personally attacked. But, generally speaking, I believe my statements are accurate. The number of divorces filed on the grounds of infidelity tends to support my claim. Again, I wish you all the best for a happy, healthy, successful marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 04:16 PM
1	Why do even women with high libidos prefer monogamy or sex with just one partner? Interesting take on the subject. I'd like to learn more about the science behind this hypothesis.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 02:23 PM
1	Why do even women with high libidos prefer monogamy or sex with just one partner? Interestingly, for myself, I would say that there is a huge improvement in sex with someone I like vs. a random stranger. However, the difference in how much better sex is with someone I love vs. someone I like is a much smaller increase in quality. But, definitely an increase.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 02:22 PM
6	Why do even women with high libidos prefer monogamy or sex with just one partner? Yeah, it's nice to have an emotional connection, too. I don't mean nessicarily being "in love". But, strongly liking the person for more than just their body heightens the experience. Actually getting to know the person, and being able to genuinely say "I like you" is really powerful. Especially because at that point, making sure the other person is having a good time becomes a priority. I think that it's kinda difficult to make that emotional connection within a few hours of meeting someone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 02:13 PM
1	Why do even women with high libidos prefer monogamy or sex with just one partner? A lot of guys with high libido prefer staying with the same person. The sex tends to be better that way, as you and your partner know each other really well, and know what exactly the other person likes. Excellent point. But after a while things can get boring. At a certain point, you run out of ways to "spice things up". At the end of the day most people are monogamic, including high libido men. I have to partially disagree. I think that monogamy is comfortable and easy (easier than constantly …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 02:05 PM
3	Why do even women with high libidos prefer monogamy or sex with just one partner? Monogamy drastically lowers the risk of getting an STD/STI. If there is an accidental pregnancy, raising the child in a loving two-parent environment is a possibility vs. making the choice of being a single parent or terminating the pregnancy. These two factors effectively lead to the conclusion that it is easier to have unprotected sex in a responsible way when a person is in a monogamous relationship. It goes without saying that many people prefer the physical sensation and/or spontaneity when…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 01:48 PM
1	Girlfriend's past showed up a hell of a hoe phase among other red flags. Advice on how to proceed with keeping her as a plate? Yes. She could easily end up being a serial cheater. One of several reasons that OP should make a clean break and end things with her.	/r/TheRedPill	29/10/23 12:23 AM
4	Girlfriend's past showed up a hell of a hoe phase among other red flags. Advice on how to proceed with keeping her as a plate? According to OP, the only confirmed time that she was unfaithful was when she was doing OP on the side while in other relationships. She's kinda obsessed with OP. And he's using that to get what he wants. No sense in playing the blame game because nobody is innocent in this situation (except maybe the dudes she cheated on). Just realize that it is an incredibly toxic situation. The longer it goes on, the shittier it will get for all involved when it finally ends.	/r/TheRedPill	27/10/23 08:48 PM
5	Girlfriend's past showed up a hell of a hoe phase among other red flags. Advice on how to proceed with keeping her as a plate? I was starting to worry that no one in this subreddit had a conscience. You've restored my faith in humanity.	/r/TheRedPill	27/10/23 08:40 PM
1	Girlfriend's past showed up a hell of a hoe phase among other red flags. Advice on how to proceed with keeping her as a plate? Make a clean break. It's possible to get sex without living a lie. This is the opposite of no strings attached. You are disrespecting her and yourself if you let this go on any longer. Can you even imagine if the tables were turned? Maybe you don't think it could happen to you. But men get played by women too. Its not right. Seriously, being a PUA doesn't mean you have to act like a POS.	/r/TheRedPill	27/10/23 08:36 PM
2	Everything In Relationships Ultimately Comes Down To Power For Men With great power comes great responsibly. (Where have I heard that before? LOL) Just remember that being in a position of power is NEVER a valid excuse to treat people poorly. I think some people forget this. BTW, I'm not validating that OP's theory is correct, nessicarily. But if this is a person's world view, that power needs to be balanced by compassion, kindness, and tolerance. Otherwise, you end up becoming a really shitty person	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/23 02:47 AM
2	Should we feel sorry for guys who are forced to have relationships in order to get sex? This person understands nuance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 02:23 AM
0	If men cared about a woman's money, then women would fight against poor-shaming. Oh yeah. Guess I should unsubscribe. I don't need this negativity. EDIT: I'm not even subscribed. Stupid algorithm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 07:03 PM
0	If men cared about a woman's money, then women would fight against poor-shaming. Do people come to this subreddit just to start arguments?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 06:48 PM
–	CMV you don't need to be a whore to be good at sex Yeah, I agree. I'd also say that part of it is that young men are not taught to see their own self-worth. A big part of being a teenager is other people trying to bring you down so that they can feel good about themselves. If a young man is lead to believe that a woman would not choose him based on his own merits, the alternative seems to be lies and manipulation. I was never big into lies and manipulation, so there were times that I considered ending my life because I didn't think a woman would…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 05:08 PM
2	Low Testosterone might be holding you back. Followed your advice. Now, I have an OF account where people pay me to hump inanimate objects. WINNING!	/r/TheRedPill	25/10/23 05:31 AM
2	If it's a chore why get in a relationship? Ok. I guess we are on the same page. I really can't imagine anyone staying in a relationship that's only a few weeks or months old if the sex feels like a chore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 05:26 AM
2	If it's a chore why get in a relationship? I think you are right about the first part. If you don't take some time away from the kids to have couple time, it will ruin your relationship. It's taboo to admit it but I think a lot of couples wouldn't divorce if they didn't have kids. I'm going to disagree with this part. I think what you see a lot of in society is the couples that had kids to try to save a relationship that was already teetering on the brink of failure. Sure, there may be some isolated cases of couples that didn't really wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 05:00 AM
1	If it's a chore why get in a relationship? The stereotype seems to be that sex being a chore tends to happen after the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship. The honeymoon phase generally lasts somewhere between 6 months and two years. Couples tend to have much longer engagements nowadays, but many are actually married by the two year mark. It is a lot more difficult to just walk away from a partner if you are married to them. But it can also be difficult to keep the romantic spark going for more than a year or two. I often wonder if the h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 04:44 AM
2	If it's a chore why get in a relationship? Sex shouldn't be a chore. If you view it as a chore, there's something wrong between you and your partner that goes way deeper than sex. That's the harsh reality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 04:33 AM
9	CMV you don't need to be a whore to be good at sex I'm just being honest. I'm older than a lot of people on reddit. I grew up during a time when the advice typically given to a teenage guy about how to lose his virginity was to find a girl and get her drunk. Now I understand how repulsive that concept is. I now fully embrace the concept of affirmative consent. But change does not happen overnight. It takes a while for one's moral compass to make a 180-degree turn. (If it makes any difference in this conversation, my girlfriend and I were both so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/23 10:51 PM
5	Low Testosterone might be holding you back. I don't think that is my issue. I feel like I've got more than enough testosterone to begin with. Started getting crushes on girls from a very young age. Obsessed with trying to fuck young women during my teenage years. Still horny AF. I'm reasonably muscular without even goung to the gym. If I had any more testosterone, I'd be humping everything in sight. Couches, tables, cars, trucks, etc. Nothing would be safe. But I still struggle with success in some of the areas mentioned.	/r/TheRedPill	22/10/23 09:53 PM
9	CMV you don't need to be a whore to be good at sex This statement hits me from two different directions. I know from experience what it is like to be a sexually frustrated young guy. For those of us with a high testosterone level, it can be hell. But I can see the other side of it too. It makes me really sad to hear a woman describe sex as a painful chore. If sex isn't pleasurable for both people, something is definitely wrong. And the more I mature, the more I can see how wrong coercion is. I really hope you find someone who appreciates you and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/23 05:40 PM
3	CMV you don't need to be a whore to be good at sex Rather than searching for the unicorn-like nymphomaniac virgin, I think it is a more realistic goal to find a woman who is "a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets". Someone who is experienced and passionate, but does not make sex their whole personality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/23 05:34 PM
3	CMV you don't need to be a whore to be good at sex Having experience is not the same as "sleeping around". From a male perspective, a woman in her thirties who has had somewhere between 3 and 9 sexual partners would be wonderful to find. That is not to say that there is anything automatically wrong with a woman whose "body count" is in the double digits. Like most things in life, experience is usually the most effective way to become good at something. If you want a virgin, you have to accept the learning curve that comes along with a lack of ex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/23 05:28 PM
2	Moderation is for losers - Pedal to the metal always or NGMI. I'm not too familiar with the athletes you mentioned. However, the business people you mentioned stepped on a lot of people on the way to the top. They are terrible role models. I agree with the idea of "go big or go home," but not when it involves a lack of a moral compass. I dont know about you, but when I'm on my death bed, I would like to have a clear conscience, not a list of regrets. Success without honesty, integrity, and ethics is meaningless. So, yes, stay motivated. Put in 100% effort.…	/r/TheRedPill	06/10/23 04:42 PM
1	Been dating a girl who I told I was in the process of getting divorced but otherwise didn't want to discuss it. Finalized a month ago and let her know I'm divorced. Told me today she was following the docket the whole time. Seems like red flags to me. I understand that a woman might want to verify that you are actually getting divorced - and not just using that as a cover story to cheat on a spouse. But following every development on the divorce docket seems a bit stalker-ish.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/04/23 08:40 PM
3	Dating is just sales. Sounds like you are on the right track, though.	/r/seduction	17/04/23 08:34 PM
3	How hard is dating for a 30 year old woman? Having kids is not really a disadvantage. I'm a single dad and I don't plan on having more kids. Finding a partner who is in the same situation would be ideal for me. I'm sure there are many other guys that feel the same way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/22 03:03 PM
1	Discussion: Pill people, do you want a homebody? To me, sitting on the couch all day and watching Netflix is the exact definition of a homebody. It's basically a nicer way of saying a couch potato.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/22 10:01 PM
1	How to meet girls on a cruise? Is that a quote from Dances With Wolves?	/r/seduction	28/07/22 03:05 PM
6	wife says not only would she know, but I would also be cutting my own throat if I served her papers Definitely mention this to your lawyer. You are going to need a damage control plan because she is effectively threatening to make your life a living hell (if it isn't already). If you have a friend or family member you can stay with, that might be a good choice. It doesn't sound like a good idea to live under the same roof as her any longer than nessicary.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/22 01:11 AM
1	My experience dating Instagram models: DO NOT BE FOOLED The fact that you are using the term "Instagram model" should be a big hint about what to expect. First of all, not every woman who shares pretty pictures of herself fits the concept of an Instagram model. It sounds like you are talking about the women who are social media influencers. I'm sure there are some Instagram models who are genuinely good people, but the stereotype is a person who is superficial, fake and self-absorbed. It should not come as a shock when the stereotype is accurate. The…	/r/seduction	10/07/22 12:41 AM
2	Traditional blue pill advice works for attractive people and most women, Redpill advice works for average and above average men, NOTHING works for men below average I think you are mostly, if not completely correct. I just wish there was something useful that could be done with this information. I'm an average guy with very little success in dating. I don't want to take the black pill route because I'm not ready to give up. Just wish there was a strategy that was actually effective for an average guy. I think the area where I have the nost room for improvement is my body - I'm overweight. Right now the only thing I can do is try to get a pay raise or a bett…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/22 11:59 PM
14	Traditional blue pill advice works for attractive people and most women, Redpill advice works for average and above average men, NOTHING works for men below average I know it's a joke, but plastic surgery can go either way. It's great what surgeons can do for someone with a birth defect or disfiguring injury. But the people who get unnecessary plastic surgery often come out looking worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/22 11:50 PM
9	Getting depressed from lack of sexual experience and loneliness Do you know of anything like Contiki for a slightly older crowd, say 25-45? I'm slightly too old for Contiki's 18-35 age range?	/r/seduction	01/07/22 05:00 AM
5	Assuming the Tinderpocalypse is real, what happens to the dating market over the next 10 years in the west? Currently 3 stars for Tinder on the Google Play store. Bumble, Hinge and Happn are 3.5 to 4 stars. However, the rating system has an algorithm which doesn't always tell the real story. If you read the individual reviews, you learn a lot about how terrible these apps really are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/22 01:17 PM
3	Cold-approached and complimented a girl at the mall. What could I have done better? This is good practice. It is helpful if sometimes you go a little out of your way to compliment someone without expecting anything in return, like a date or a phone number. I will tell you why. You will make the girl feel good about herself - that is basic human kindness, which is a quality that you want to cultivate in yourself. When you are not asking for anything in return, it is more likely that the woman will see it as a genuine compliment and it will brighten her day. It will also help you…	/r/seduction	24/06/22 02:17 PM
1	Average=invisible Confidence is one of the sexiest qualities a person can have. Don't worry about your breast size. It is not important to a lot of guys. Look how many models have small boobs. Having a confident walk and body language will get you noticed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/22 11:03 PM
13	who is this 'Chad' bogeyman guys have invented? You actually sounded credible until you said: Just be funny, confident, nice, and women will love you. It's literally that easy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/22 10:33 PM
1	Why don’t more men get sex bot? "Validational sex from a place of genuine desire confirming you as a competent biological organism." Yep. That is what I need.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/22 08:30 PM
1	Why do people assume that men that don’t get dates are basement dwelling neck beards? Sarah Jessica Parker	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/22 04:02 PM
12	With male virginity rates near 30% in the USA for the 18-30 age range what impact will this have on society How crazy is it that the AIDS crisis in the late 80s and early 90s didn't cause a significant decrease in sexual activity but some poorly understood cultural paradigm shift around 2008 seemed to ruin sexual expression among young adults. It really makes me wonder what is a greater turn-off than the chance of catching a deadly sexually transmitted disease.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/22 11:41 PM
2	With male virginity rates near 30% in the USA for the 18-30 age range what impact will this have on society Yeah. Sadly, the timid virgin guys are the ones who will be most likely to self-destruct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/22 08:48 PM
2	I honestly believe women just aren't interested in sex. Yeah. That seems like a reasonable conclusion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/22 08:46 PM
8	I honestly believe women just aren't interested in sex. Let's not confuse cause and effect. Women who have a high libido are going to be likely to both masturbate frequently AND want sex from a person that they find desirable. But, a woman's libido is affected by all sorts of things. Age, stress level, menstrual cycle, hormone changes caused by contraceptives, the alignment of the planets, phases of the moon, presence of children in the home, the rise and fall of the stock market, voodoo, witchcraft, sale prices at Macy's, climate change and psycholo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/22 08:02 PM
0	I honestly believe women just aren't interested in sex. Could be. Or maybe he just listens to what women have to say about the subject.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/22 07:54 PM
1	With male virginity rates near 30% in the USA for the 18-30 age range what impact will this have on society First of all, this is a generalization. It does not apply to every man. Second, I'm not saying that the result will nessicarily be sexual violence or violence towards women. In other species, the males who do not have a mate become violent towards the other males with whom they are in competition. Im thinking of bucks (male deer) that during mating season they smash their antlers together until one gives up or dies. "But those are deer and we are human", you may say. We are not as different from…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/22 07:44 PM
2	With male virginity rates near 30% in the USA for the 18-30 age range what impact will this have on society I predict an increase in violence. Males are genetically programmed to compete for a mate. If you look at other mammal species, the competition between the males during mating season usually involves physical aggression. Many male humans who do not have relief of their sexual tensions will become violent. I noticed that someone else here predicted an increase in the male suicide rate. That is a reasonable prediction since suicide is violence directed at oneself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/22 05:08 PM
3	Study: Sexually Unsuccessful Men Retaliate By Endorsing Anti-Egalitarian Attitudes and Becoming Fiscally Conservative There is a difference between empathy and courage. A person who lacks courage will not intervene to help a person who is being assaulted. Our society has been taught to call 911 when there is a problem. Let the professional responders deal with the problem. Schools teach kids that if they get into a fight, they will be punished, even if they are defending themselves from a bully. People have been programmed to NOT intervene when violence is occurring. There is no sense of responsibility to the o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/22 07:04 PM
1	What kind of (non sexual) skills impress women? I can do anything if I watch a few YouTube videos and read all of the instructions 😁	/r/seduction	07/09/21 03:21 PM
2	What kind of (non sexual) skills impress women? That might work for some guys, but most of the things in this list do not appeal to me.	/r/seduction	07/09/21 03:19 PM
1	What kind of (non sexual) skills impress women? I'm used to driving work vans so I back up using my side mirrors most of the time 😁	/r/seduction	07/09/21 03:13 PM
7	What kind of (non sexual) skills impress women? You forget looks. I believe I'm doing well with the other traits you mentioned, but women show no interest.	/r/seduction	06/09/21 06:01 PM
3	What kind of (non sexual) skills impress women? Yeah, working with animals in general seems like it would get at woman's attention. I tried volunteering at an animal shelter a few years ago but they already had more than enough volunteers. Maybe I will give it another shot.	/r/seduction	06/09/21 03:10 PM
2	Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps? Yeah. My ex had very few friends. She didn't get along well with other women. That should have been a red flag.	/r/seduction	16/08/21 04:35 PM
3	Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps? I think most women would feel the same way.	/r/seduction	11/08/21 04:00 PM
3	Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps? I've tried that and I do NOT recommend it.	/r/seduction	11/08/21 03:59 PM
0	Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps? Whole Foods. I didn't think of that. Probably has a lot of potential. I'm trying to eat healthier too. Maybe this might work.	/r/seduction	11/08/21 03:57 PM
4	Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps? I respect your level of self control. However, being the non-drinker in a bar can get awkward very quickly.	/r/seduction	11/08/21 03:51 PM
3	What’s the dating pool like for a man in his mid 30s? My experience with dating in the 5 or so years since the divorce has been awful. Very few women that I meet are single. Most of the single women don't want to date. The few do date have no interest in me. The one woman who I clicked with turned out be "on a break" from her relationship with her boyfriend. She went back to him. I can't even begin to explain how frustrating and disappointing the experience of attempting to date has been. And COVID essentially killed the dating "scene" for over a y…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/21 07:59 PM
1	Here's the god honest way to stop being needy and have girls chasing you I do have social anxiety, but I've made a lot of progress with that. Under the right circumstances I can approach a stranger and start a conversation. The few times that I thought things were going really well and I asked for a phone number, I have always been met with rejection. So, tell me how this can be considered a technique for beginners?	/r/seduction	25/09/20 06:11 PM
3	Here's the god honest way to stop being needy and have girls chasing you I think that what OP forgot to say is that this only works if you genuinely enjoy the life that you are creating for yourself. Some people are at a point in their life when they WANT to try new hobbies and expand their social circles for reasons other than meeting women. In this case, I think the method outlined above could have a high degree of success. But being fake and doing cool things just to impress women will eventually lead to feeling empty and unfulfilled in the long run.	/r/seduction	25/09/20 05:53 PM
1	Here's the god honest way to stop being needy and have girls chasing you I don't know about that. Cold approach is insanely difficult for beginners. Sure, its not that difficult to say hello to random women. But in order to make that go somewhere, you need serious skill.	/r/seduction	25/09/20 05:45 PM
2	Here's the god honest way to stop being needy and have girls chasing you That is so true.	/r/seduction	25/09/20 05:40 PM
1	Here's the god honest way to stop being needy and have girls chasing you Completed step I. Been trying for years, but I cant seem to get any further than that 😕	/r/seduction	25/09/20 03:31 PM
2	MEN, ITS OK TO HAVE STANDARDS In regard to the last sentence, I think that women suffer from fear of commitment almost as often as men. Sleeping around with other guys before officially becoming a couple might be a way for women to temporarily resist the urge to settle down. I'm not necessarily defending the behavior, but it may not be as cold hearted and calculated as it sounds.	/r/seduction	29/08/20 12:28 PM
2	MEN, ITS OK TO HAVE STANDARDS It sounds like she has no idea what is really involved in being a dominatrix. Doing it correctly requires an intense commitment to a particular state of mind and set of skills. Maybe she thinks it is easy money. If she thinks she can can get a job where she can basically just show up and people will pay her to be there, thats a red flag.	/r/seduction	29/08/20 12:14 PM
2	MEN, ITS OK TO HAVE STANDARDS I've considered significantly lowering my standards out of desperation. But I worry about this exact problem. I don't know if I could maintain an erection if she is less than 5/10.	/r/seduction	29/08/20 12:03 PM
2	How old are the posters here and is betabucks really even a relevant option for them right now? I thought BetaBucks was what you get in return for being a beta tester 😂😂😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/20 01:54 PM
1	Men are drawn to borderline personality traits in physically attractive women, study finds I thought my ex had issues but despite going to a psychiatrist, she was never properly diagnosed. A few years after our 7 year relationship ended, she was finally diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. It explains so many things!	/r/TheRedPill	07/06/20 05:47 PM
1	Redpill men in LTRs, what do you do if youre going through major life difficulties, since you believe that women will unconsciously hold it against men for having major chinks in their armour? Yeah. Seriously. That is the underlying message that I'm getting here. Relationships aren't worth the hassle. This entire post makes me think it is better to have a pet than to be in a relationship. Your get love, companionship and someone to listen to your problems.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/20 01:49 PM
1	Nobody's going to give a shit about sex bots, they will just be a thing for porn addicts and a novel thing men might try once Like the kid says in that YouTube video, "Is this real life?"	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/20 03:32 AM
1	Nobody's going to give a shit about sex bots, they will just be a thing for porn addicts and a novel thing men might try once Sex coins? What the heck does that mean?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/20 03:18 AM
1	Nobody's going to give a shit about sex bots, they will just be a thing for porn addicts and a novel thing men might try once There is a flip side to this double standard. Promiscuous men are praised for their behavior while promiscuous women are slut-shamed. Therefore, women have more of an incentive to pleasure themselves in private rather than to go to a public place (like a bar) to find a casual sex partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/20 05:33 PM
1	A friend who had his wife leave him of seven years wrote this - remember to respect yourselves I didn't mean to trigger anyone. I'm speaking from experience. Spent many years with someone before finally realizing that her and I were incompatible. The love we had in the beginning was slowly replaced by resentment. We made lots of excuses along the way as to why we had relationship troubles. We kept saying that it would get better but it didn't. Towards the end I still wished for affection from her but it became less and less frequent. It is important to recognize patterns like this before …	/r/seduction	19/05/20 12:51 PM
2	A friend who had his wife leave him of seven years wrote this - remember to respect yourselves That may be a factor in the failure of the relationship. But I doubt that it was the ONLY significant factor.	/r/seduction	15/05/20 08:49 PM
6	A friend who had his wife leave him of seven years wrote this - remember to respect yourselves Maybe this post would be better suited to a post about breakups rather than seduction. But it sounds to me that this is something that the author wanted to share because many people end up in this situation but it is difficult to put the feelings into words. I don't nesicarrily see this as a post about a man lamenting the loss of one particular woman. I think the message is to be honest with yourself about what you expect from a relationship and how you want to be loved. Otherwise you may end up…	/r/seduction	15/05/20 08:42 PM
2	Turns out my dad was a player. I don't know if my dad was a player. But I've seen old pictures of him before he met my mother. He definitely had swagger and he was popular with the ladies. I guess it skipped a generation. 😕	/r/seduction	12/05/20 10:27 PM
2	Why is nagging considered an issue? "If she was doing what she was supposed to do, then she wouldn't have to worry about being beaten by her husband". This is the thought process of many people who defend perpetrators of domestic violence. Notice how similar that sounds to the tl;dr for this post. Nagging isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes a forgetful person needs to be reminded by their spouse to do certain things to keep the household running. But nagging can quickly escalate to a form of verbal and emotional abuse. If a person…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/20 08:18 PM
4	Correlations between when people thought sex should start in a given relationship and when they actually began was very low for men but very high for women meaning only women decide when sex occurs I was very young in the 80s, so I can't really talk from personal experience. However, it does make sense that the AIDS crisis put an end to the "sexual revolution" that started in the 1960s. Imagine being an adult in the late 80s into the early 90s. For the first time since a treatment for syphilis was developed, having sex could end up being fatal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/19 09:35 PM
1	Trying is better than regretting so approach them girls I saw this in my feed and at first I thought this tweet had been posted to a Forex (foreign currency exchange) trading subreddit that I follow. Apparently Forex traders have something like a 1% success rate of making a net profit in the first year or two of trading. Even knowing that, I feel WAY more confident about winning at Forex rather than having success with approaching women.	/r/seduction	07/12/19 04:26 AM
1	Approached two, got two numbers How old are you? I'm just asking because I feel like younger guys have better luck with this.	/r/seduction	05/11/19 03:36 PM
2	Really struggling with turning conversation flirty I'm really bad at this too. But I have learned one thing. If you are about to run out of things to say, politely end the conversation on a positive note before it gets awkward - and walk away. Even if you don't get a phone number, it is still good practice for talking with women. Since the woman usually has the power to accept or reject when guys make these approaches, it feels good to turn the tables and be the one to end the conversation if it doesn't feel right. Walking away can really build …	/r/seduction	15/10/19 02:22 AM
17	Girls on Tinder do not want to meet in person You actually got girls to match with you????? I thought that was just a myth or a legend that this happens.	/r/seduction	26/01/19 04:18 PM
1	Dear seddit I've been drinking and have done 1000's of approaches and coach in my down time... here are some harsh truths for you all @traceviral Wow. That is so relatable. Sounds like what I go through. Nice to know I'm not alone.	/r/seduction	25/01/19 11:21 PM
2	Dear seddit I've been drinking and have done 1000's of approaches and coach in my down time... here are some harsh truths for you all I'm mostly in agreement with what you have said. I think that this is the crux of the issue: Guy thinks "I would really like to date and/or fuck beautiful, fun sexy wome. Guy has lacking social skills and therefore doesn't have much success with women. He doesn't even know how to even begin approaching women. Guy thinks learning the pickup game is the answer to his quest. Guy gets frustrated because the pickup game is an ADVANCED social skill which he is not even remotely ready to master. You ha…	/r/seduction	25/01/19 11:18 PM
1	Extra money beyond child support I appreciate the input I’ve gotten so far. The two questions I keep asking myself are: Should I give my ex-wife extra money beyond the legally required child support? I want my daughter to have opportunities for social and cultural enrichment and other extracurricular activities. I don’t know if I feel comfortable with providing only the bare minimum of my child’s needs. But I’m really struggling financially right now. I would never think of my child as a burden, however I don’t know how much lo…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/11/17 09:48 PM
1	How do you let a girl know you want her in bed. "The article is pretty interesting, but don't most people do most of that subconsciously? It's part of how you interact with someone you like, no?" This type of interaction may be instinctive to some people but for others it is like trying to learn a foreign language.	/r/seduction	21/10/16 02:03 AM
1	When a girl says "you have nice lips" Yeah, that is what makes it kinda creepy.	/r/seduction	27/07/16 03:43 PM