i’ve been going through quite a rough patch. It’s hard for me to write this entire post to summarise my dating history, but I will do my best because I’m genuinely stuck and I need help with inner Game.
I was a bit of a lead bloomer, I grew up in a conservative country and moved to the United States at the age of 26 years old, I was a virgin till then. At that time I started watching RSD videos and had this enthusiasm to call approach anyone and everyone, I would not wear headphones in public, I would talk to everyone but more than anything I had this overwhelming sense of optimism, everyone I met not necessarily girls were a story to be discovered and I feel women were able to sense that in me - from the edges of 27 till 33 I had quite a lot of success in my dating life, but all of this was through social Circle. The more women I slept with the more wanted to be with me and so it came to a point where I feel like I lost the fundamentals of how to do it because I do not have to go out and meet new women because my social circle was set up that New girls were just come to us. Looking back at it, that was the perfect set up.
Fast forward to the pandemic - went through an extremely difficult and toxic work environment which very much negatively impacted my mindset to appoint where I created an alter ego “deathstroke” just to get by the toxic work environment. but that required me to be quiet, very calculated and measured in my responses and has taught that my opinions don’t matter.
fast forward another year - I got engaged and that was a big mistake because she was one of the most extremely toxic woman of my life.

Long story short I find myself starting over again however I can’t Sheikh this overwhelming sense of pessimism, any time I try and approach I freeze because “ I don’t have the perfect thing to say” or “ I don’t see a point in this since it’s going to be temporary”
i’m 37 now, and while i do have a consistent girl i’m sleeping with - it’s purely sex, i have no interest in a long term thing with her. i just hit her up once a month when the need arises.

So long story short – used to have a lot of success previously but it seems like it was more of a fluke. And now I’m genuinely stuck, pre and post pandemic the bar scene is very different, the dating apps have been a waste of time, my only other hobby is the gym and raves. and at the raves my self conscious mind just takes over and i go into a functional freeze. a few of my friends have told me before that they have seen women checking me out but i genuinely get stuck since i don’t know how to make a move any more.

sorry for the long post but i could really use help. please and thank you, kind redditors.

Edit - I’d like some inner game resources to develop the framework which helps me believe that not only is it normal to approach women, but also natural and can lead to something great (instead of just transient)