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Cut her off, block her, send the mail back to the post office
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 04:40 AM
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Even if I file for a temp custody order while we are in this process and she wants to appeal it?
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:50 PM
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The attorney she hired is known for using the strategy of “bleeding the other person out” by setting up motions and meetings that don’t need to happen.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:47 PM
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Yeah my attorney brought up filing a motion to set up a trust for attorney fees. Supposedly the attorney she hired uses the strategy of “bleeding the other person out” and if she has to pay into a trust for fees it could prevent my sbtx from doing that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:44 PM
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Fearful I may be in the 10% that go to trial. She doesn’t want me have 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:02 PM
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Fearful I could be in that 10% as we previously agreed to 50/50 custody of our kids without getting attorneys and now she has back tracked and wants them 5 nights a week with me getting them every other weekend, and one night a week for a few hours. That is unacceptable to me and want to see my kids 50% of the time and she is standing on that not happening. Has anyone had a situation like this where thier ex agreed to 50/50 before there is a trial. Money is no object to her, she makes 4x the amo…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 02:57 PM
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Married for 2 weeks? Why did you get married in the first place?
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 02:43 AM
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All sounds good until she starts changing her mind….
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 02:14 AM
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Corrected. I just want to ensure we have joint legal/physical custody and see them the same amount of time.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 07:48 PM
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Can we do that? Instead of temporary just going right to the final custody agreement before finances/assets are complete? Would really like to get out of this house but ONLY if it won’t affect me getting 50% custody
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 07:45 PM
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You mean until the temp order says 50% legal joint custody? Or just staying the house until the actual custody is finalized?
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 07:34 PM
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Thanks man
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:21 PM
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Yeah I’m going to delete these and start a burner
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:20 PM
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I am reading in Texas with kids for a 100% uncontested divorce it would take 60 days.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:19 PM
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One thing that bothers me is she says she now wants them M-F because she wants them to have “One home”. WTF
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:10 PM
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We don’t have many assets to split. I cashed out my 401k to help pay off some of the debt we had(I know mistake) while she has roughly 200k in a 401k and is already borrowing from it to pay for the divorce. We rent our home. I don’t have anything.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:08 PM
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But why settle for 45/55 and by HER terms on her having every weekend free? Was thinking week on/week off would be what is best for our kids.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:00 PM
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My cards are maxed out
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:57 PM
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My wife is the bread winner. She makes 3 times the amount I do.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:44 PM
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Yeah I plan on doing and not leaving the house until everything is finalized but I don’t want to get a new lease and next thing you know instead of 60 days for an uncontested divorce she goes back on everything and it’s now 6 months and I’m paying for a lease for 6 months and not living there. My point being when should I start looking and when should I sign a lease? Is it better to wait UNTIL it is finalized to even start looking and then sign a lease?
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:44 PM
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Yeah I plan on doing and not leaving the house until everything is finalized but I don’t want to get a new lease and next thing you know instead of 60 days for an uncontested divorce she goes back on everything and it’s now 6 months and I’m paying for a lease for 6 months and not living there. My point being when should I start looking and when should I sign a lease? Is it better to wait UNTIL it is finalized to even don’t if this?
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:42 PM
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Yeah but didn’t you have a say in the custody order? I don’t have money for deposit and first months rent. She has agreed to already pay for this and I am not leaving the house until any type of visitation order is complete
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 02:49 PM
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What would I need temporary spousal support for? I told her that I’m not leaving the house until it’s finalized.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 02:44 PM
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It’s not that simple. She is the breadwinner and makes a lot more money from me. She also sold some of her company stock options to pay for the divorce (Yes I know I would be entitled to 50% of this), I literally have no money to pay for an attorney and so far in debt, I don’t even think I could get a loan if I tried.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 02:19 PM
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Do this prior to finalizing the divorce? But how can you do that if she doesn’t agree to a shared parenting plan?
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 02:15 PM
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Thanks everyone for the advice. Yes we have both already talked about divorce, one of the reasons we are in therapy together to become better at communicating with each other. My question though is still unanswered, am I wrong to feel that her actions are completely disrespectful?
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 06:19 AM
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I agree that was a mistake as she would have let me keep what so would have had and she stated she “ doesn’t remember” me doing that. BUT my 401k and anything I didn’t contribute went into supporting our family and paying off debt, hers did not. Why would I not have grounds to a portion of hers?
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 08:32 PM
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This is what I’m thinking. Dont think it’s worth it to spend $20k to get 50k when there will be hatred and bitterness for years and would affect the kids for years because our goal originally was to be great co-parents. She has already agreed to pay ALL day care which would be around $1400 a month for the next 3 years. I could end up spending $20K, and not be considered the primary and end up with less custody and on the hook for child support, which in Texas that risk is there. I just don’t thi…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 08:27 PM
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We don’t have lawyers yet. And yes that money isn’t worth all that BS
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 07:29 PM
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Well she hasn’t backed out yet. We still need to discuss the 401K more to see if we can come to an agreement before both getting attorneys. I just turned 40? I’m in Texas and think it defaults to 40/60 I believe. I have basically been primary, took a job to be able to stay home more..get them dressed in the morning, drop them off at school, pick them up, feed them dinner, baths. Usually I am the one taking them to appointments etc. Wife’s career is very time demanding. How can I get her to under…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 07:23 PM
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Yeah but I don’t have $30-$50K to spend on an attorney, undue stress on the kids, probation ship with ex, when we want to co-parent and I’m in a mother friendly state where yeah I may get half her 401k but only see a 40-60 or 30-70 custody agreement. Time with my kids is priceless to me
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 06:33 PM
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I know. My concern is if I go for it she will back out of agreeing on 50/50 custody and will try to get primary custody..,snd she has the money and resources to for a long fight while zonal not. I can’t lose 50/50 custody
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 05:50 PM
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We have already agreed on 50/50 joint physical and legal custody as well as visitation.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 07:49 PM
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Why would I be the one that pays CS?
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 07:31 PM
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I’m worried if I rock the boat she will try to go for primary custody
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 06:42 PM
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I don’t get alimony, in the state of Texas you have to be married for 10 years and we have been married 8.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 01:36 AM
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That’s my concern. I have to see my kids 50% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 01:30 AM
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That’s what I’m afraid of. Since she said “She is not paying me child support” She could make it a point to fight for custody to try and ensure I don’t get child support. On a side note I have no 401K while see has 150K in 401K. She says she doesnt want to give me any of that either because she has such high debt, well the reason is don’t have any 401K is so we could pay down our debt.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 01:28 AM
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She would have the kids under her health insurance. Where is the Texas calculator the only thing I find on there would be primary and custodial. And we would be the same.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 01:01 AM
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Yeah I’ve done nothing wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 06:26 PM
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With the cap on income being $110K a year and me making $100K a year it’s basically a wash then for child support because she makes 300K a year. So technically if custody and visitation is 50/50 neither of us would have to pay child support (technically she would have to pay a small portion because it’s 10k) over…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 05:34 PM
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I like this idea. She already said she would pay for thier college. If she is going to pay for it anyway. So she would pay $1600 a month daycare for the next few years and then an amount into this. Would that be a good replacement for day care?
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 05:02 PM
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Disagree: This is what the judge could enforce https://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/child-support/families-and-parenting/parenting-time-overview/parenting-time-schedule/50-miles-apart-or-less
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 04:52 PM
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They are all in her name only
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 04:50 PM
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This is WHAT I AM AFRAID OF. I can NOT see my kids less than 50% of the time..period
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 04:49 PM
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What a 529, can you explain more of this?
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 04:46 PM
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Been married 8 years. Texas does not allow alimony until 10 years.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 04:45 PM
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Everything I read it says the Texas courts get the mother and fathers normally only get every other weekend type visitation. I love my kids so much and am a great father and can’t not see them less than 50%. If we fought this out and got primary custody and visitation it woukd literally kill me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 03:43 PM
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Long story, but in short my wife spends way too much money on stupid shit and won’t budget.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 03:39 PM
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I’m going to guess about half of her student loans $100k were when we were married.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 03:37 PM
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I am in the state of Texas where alimony is only available if you are married for 10 years, we have been married 8. We are in agreement now on custody but she says if we can’t agree on her not paying child support, or her retirement that “we would then let the lawyers figure it out” and I think she would try to be the custodial parent and try to get more visitation than 50/50 so she doesn’t have to pay child support. I can not see my kids less than 50% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 03:36 PM
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UPDATE…We spoke together with an attorney for the initial consultation. If we agree on everything with the divorce it would be $7600. Which is the open petition, agreed decree, and the close. She stated to this law firm that we agree on 50:50 joint legal and physical custody. Visitation would be one week on/ one week off. We would each claim one child as a dependent. We would have a geographic location where each parent would have to live in the same county or surrounding counties. Instead of he…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 02:43 AM
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Still a little ignorant about the process. Can we do that without each having a lawyer?
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 03:23 AM
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My thought was that once we have the plan in place for this divorce would be to take that plan to a different attorney to see if he sees anything wrong with it before I sign off.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 01:22 AM
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Can we do that. Or is that how the he do it?
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 01:20 AM
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I feel that if I push that she is going to try and get full custody. We have agreed on everything and don’t know if it’s worth the gamble of possibly losing 50/50 with my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 01:20 AM
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Will absolutely put everything in writing. There will be no gray
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 01:18 AM
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I agree, want to spend as less money as possible in the process
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 09:16 PM
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How would that process work since we are trying to be as amicable as possible and use the same attorney.?
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 09:10 PM
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I want what’s best for the kids. I think what’s best is to see thier mother 50% of the time. But yeah I do take care of them more
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 09:09 PM
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I’m in Texas, you have to be married for 10 years to recieve alimony, we rent our house.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 08:04 PM
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She makes 300k a year, I make 100K. I turned tk a remote position to be able to take care of the kids more because she had a demanding career.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 08:03 PM
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She has t said she would for full custody. She said we would have joint legal and physical custody and 50/50 visitation. My fear is IF I go towards her retirement she will try to go for MORE than 50/50. I don’t want 70/30 at all!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 07:59 PM
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I won’t be leaving the house until our custody is finalized
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 06:43 PM
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I know the courts favor the mother, and so am a GREAT FATHER. I don’t have the money to for deposit, rent, furniture, and definitely can’t spend 20-40k in a long drawn out battle
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 05:11 PM
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We are using this. Pay per step. No big retainer https://www.marble.co/pricing?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=15612589847&utm_adgroup=150510779411&utm_keyword=marble%20attorney&utm_term=marble%20attorney&utm_ad=688647405315&utm_content=688647405315&match_location=9189648&utm_marble_cat=brand&stint=&ctype=&adgroupid=150510779411&network=g&match_type=e&mafid=%7Baffiliate_id%7D&search_network=g&intent=&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACf7sxFvoDg0pKoQIUBWDJ_k_Pb3L
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 05:04 PM
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The only thing is I have ZERO retirement and she has 150K….i guess that’s the cost of guaranteeing I have my kids 50%
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 04:52 PM
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I know but I know if we get into a court battle she could take full custody of the kids. That scares me the most.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:49 PM
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I don’t trust her. But right now she has agreed on 50% custody. When I asked about her retirement she got all pissed and said we will both get our own attorney and fight it out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:28 PM
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She is agreeing to pay deposit and rent for my first month, which is prob around $5K as well as giving me another $5K to buy furniture l..even though we are splitting 50/50 furniture
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:26 PM
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Yes I would absolutely spell it out on the days that I would have them. ALL my investments went to paying off our debt. She on the other hand has like $15OK in retirement, I have none.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:18 PM
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I agree she is being shady, but is it worth spending 40k to battle it out in court while also possibly have her win full custody of the kids for half her 401K which is like 75K? She makes 250K a year. I make 90K. She also said she would pay ALL the day care, give me $5-$10K to buy furniture even though we already split half, she is also willing to pay deposit and first months rent for what ever place I live in to. With that said should I get some child support since she makes so much and we agre…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:02 PM
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I live in Texas and I know so am entitled to 50% of what she contributed since we were married BUT she stated she spent it when she quit her job. Also she states that she would then get her own attorney and fight instead of us doing it the easy way so I’m concerned she would change her mind and try to take full custody of the kids…which scares me a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 02:15 PM
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