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| 5 | Cloudy cities for daygame? | Lifestyle | Andetag | /r/seduction | 18/08/21 02:10 AM |
| 5 | Cold approach: Incremental changes vs. numbers game? | Fundamentals | Andetag | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 02:21 PM |
| 2 | Better openers than cute? | Conversation | Andetag | /r/seduction | 17/04/22 05:58 PM |
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| 1 | Overcome approaching anxiety challengeI don’t recommend something like this as someone who did a 6-week AA program. | /r/seduction | 15/10/22 10:23 PM |
| 1 | cold approach in the bus stopJust start singing wheels on the bus go around and round x3 easy convo startwr | /r/seduction | 21/09/22 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Tips and suggestions for a first date on Long Island!I met a hot girl from Commack who said she liked Prato in the Mayfield Shopping Center. (Also has a decent record store.) Anywhere in between that’s really good I honestly can’t think of. Maybe somewhere along the Babylon or Farmingdale strip? I met another woman who liked Norman J Levy Park in Merrick but that’s further away from her. They have goats but also fishing. | /r/seduction | 21/09/22 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Gameplan for newbies by a newbie :)Don’t ask a girl if you can meet her real quick. That’s confusing and sounds salesmany. My USA advice. A guy named John Anthony on YT has that line and it doesn’t work at least in daygame. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Tips for overcoming approach anxiety during the dayTravel to nearest hi population city away from your usual spot. Bring those skills back home. That’s what I’ve done to Manhattan from LI but I’ve done more near my own area. I’m at 200-300 approaches and done a lot of exposure therapy. Warming up helps too. Just saying hi to ppl. Weirding out ppl is unavoidable. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Don't be a schmuckCan someone explain the appeal of these sites? | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Had my first reapproach. Has it happened to anyone else?3 or 4 times. Women get upset when they know you’re approaching multiple girls; it makes them feel less special. | /r/seduction | 09/07/22 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Lifting weights and Listening to Rap music will give you insane amounts of confidence and help you get over approach anxietyLmao | /r/seduction | 09/07/22 01:43 AM |
| 2 | Stats on 40 Cold ApproachesThese IOI guys are crazy. I get called good-looking almost every week and I get maybe 2 from attractive women a year. Unattractive women give me most. You also need to be good at approaching to act on IOIs. Most people out in public are not even looking at other people anyway. | /r/seduction | 06/07/22 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Should I keep walking with the woman?If they don’t stop then just end the interaction and move on. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 09:39 PM |
| 2 | What was the Neil Straus's recipe for success ?The guy was a pro journalist as a teenager he was probably very interesting. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Day gaming at grocery store?No choosin’ sagnalz no approach ya feel me dawggg | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Need dating advice for Indians in USAI saw people thumbed me down lol. Probably bc I said follow? Its just a resource. Their free stuff alone (infields and critiques and breakdowns of approach and OLd texts) on YT alone is very, very valuable. Keep the down thumbs going https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Ze2CaLNSEj4&feature=youtu.be | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Feel conflicted about approaching girls at the gym. How bad is this, and what should I be doing differently?As long as OP isn’t a persistent creep then it’s those girls who ruined the gym experience for themselves. That said, not all women can stand the tension of an approach and consequential seeing you over and over again. Most women would rather change gyms than come back and see you in my experience. It’s funny but sad. I don’t recommend gym approach having done a good deal. It’s very social circle based and you have to play the long game. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 11:18 PM |
| 0 | Need dating advice for Indians in USAFollow indian_pe on the playing with fire YT channel. Below average looking chubby man with thick accent and still gets great results. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 12:02 AM |
| 2 | This experience instilled my fear in approaching women.Again with the toxic emotions and assumptions. Loser this, lonely that, needs a bootcamp. I hope you calibrate better in your IRL interactions than on message boards. | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 02:15 AM |
| 4 | This experience instilled my fear in approaching women.Typical ad hominem emotionally turbulent reply full of assumptions. One especially wrong—I never got kicked out of a place. It’s not necessarily because I’m good-looking or charming, it’s just random luck. But OP got unlucky. You’re mad because I called out your beloved form of pickup, which is basically walking around asking girls where the nearest Starbucks is. Good luck with this course of action angry dude. | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 01:41 AM |
| 1 | This experience instilled my fear in approaching women.Direct means he’ll actually approach. Indirect she’s gonna think he’s a gay salesman complimenting her Hermes bag or something. That is if he actually makes the approach at that point. People are busy and don’t have time with men beating around the bush in the daytime. I’ve had my pic taken at a mall and had a woman report me to someone working in a store. Double and triple approached the same person to their confusion. Was confronted to carry on in a Target. All while being laidback, easygoing,… | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 12:11 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Went out and immersed myself in public in the Toronto area. Not sure how I feel about my day.You’re obv from Buffalo lol. Did you see any guys doing cold approach at the Eaton Center? I think they banned pickup there many years ago but probably almost no one does it anymore. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 12:12 AM |
| 1 | How many approaches it takes you to get a number\equivalent20 | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 09:40 PM |
| 2 | How important really are charisma and wit?OP was joking. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 12:10 AM |
| 2 | Talk about sheer ignoranceLol | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 12:01 AM |
| 1 | More than 200 approaches. Zero lays. What am I doing wrong?I get asked if I model a lot and get called cute handsome by people who barely know me and also got very little from my 200+ approaches. He’s far from alone. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 12:08 AM |
| 2 | Do Asian girls usually act weird when approached?Chinese type women, American or FOB, are the most skittish of any ethnicity out there. It’s strange. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Is Good Looking Loser's approach anxiety program legit? Anyone tried it?I did it at the same exact time as 2 other guys including a urban German guy who beat it the same day as me last year. It worked for him and the other guy. It worked for 2 other guys that year. I am just a hard case. The best tactic I learned from it is to try hi 5ing people. It just gets the mood up even if they reject you. I was doing this at the height of Covid in the no 1 hotspot in the world and it still worked. These days I will just say hi to ppl passing by like on a street or mall, that … | /r/seduction | 29/05/22 12:56 AM |
| 1 | How To Approach Girls With Zero Fear WhatsoeverProb I always had with 3 second rule is usually that’s not enuff time to realize her bf is right around the corner. | /r/seduction | 29/05/22 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Is Good Looking Loser's approach anxiety program legit? Anyone tried it?I finished it it didn’t do anything for me. Good lesson is that you have to talk to the first person u see, approach the first attractive girl u see and keep the momentum going. | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 10:32 PM |
| 1 | I *still* haven’t had the courage to cold approach womenSay “Hi, I’m dad jeans” to 20 avg to hot women in 1 day. Go. | /r/seduction | 24/05/22 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Has any of you tried the AMS (Alpha Male Strategies) cold approach?Sounds retarded. I don’t even see how this would work for a chubby faced older guy like AMS whose demeanor is laughably serious. He said he’s more into women with just great bodies tho. | /r/seduction | 15/05/22 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Lack of volume in approachingThat reminds me on a a anecdote I read about an RSD instructor. He would go to the mall to chat up women rated a 6 but only bc it would warm him up for events like Maxim and Art Basel parties. | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone have any games to play to warm up social skills?None of those things will work. He’s honestly be better making a fool of himself than “high value” tasks you mention that will only make him take himself more seriously and get more in his own head. | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Lack of volume in approachingIt’s like that sometimes even in Midtown Manhattan for me. I don’t know where all these guys are finding beautiful women in the daytime. Only at nighttime will you find a lot at once. | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Anyone here who overcame Social Anxiety?I’m the same height and stats but never overcame my social anxiety. I did the GLL AA program and ended up worse than I started. Part of it is laziness though. I think the only solution is daily immersion in day and sober nightgame not skipping days. | /r/seduction | 07/05/22 04:42 PM |
| 5 | Doing first cold approaches tomorrow (Mall) - Best tips?Don't waste the Hi's on attractive women. Do it to old people, unattractive women, the first people you see before you even enter the mall. Mall game is like street game. | /r/seduction | 06/05/22 06:08 AM |
| 2 | How To Be An Attractive Man"You can also act like a badass from behind a keyboard." Typical response from you. Your ego make syou incapable of taking criticism. I would calmly say this to your face. Does that make me a badass? If you say so dude. Continue rehashing the same content over and over again for newbies so they can feel good about doing nothing. | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 05:02 PM |
| 2 | How To Be An Attractive ManOP always gets butthurt on YT and repackages the same ebooks over and over again. Very entry level gaming and convo skills. AG Hayden. | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 01:29 AM |
| -1 | Accidentally tried to talk to a minorNever say sorry in situations like these. Just walk away. Also you’re just making the whole situation more awkward by showing contrition. | /r/seduction | 02/05/22 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Cold approached 500 girls statisticsSame | /r/seduction | 01/05/22 08:51 AM |
| 1 | As a man. Do you use makeup to look better?I have Indian dark circles so I put 1 small dab of concealer on both eye bones. Light skinned people with purple eye bones will benefit from the same. Takes 30 seconds and it’s good for the day. | /r/seduction | 30/04/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | How to approach a potential wingman?I winged several guys in the past. It's only fun if you're actually real friends with them. You might not even like the experience. | /r/seduction | 28/04/22 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Moving out and anticipating lonelinessThat Charisma guy seems like he just wants to turn everyone into a high energy extrovert. Not everyone wants to be that way | /r/seduction | 24/04/22 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Scored a number on the bus. When should I call her?Is knowingly impregnating unsuspecting women after ONSs and then expecting another man to take care of those bastard children not the work of a lunatic? Or at least an amoral depraved asshole? I guess you don’t know much about your hero. | /r/seduction | 24/04/22 01:02 AM |
| 0 | Scored a number on the bus. When should I call her?I would take Mehlman’s word with a pinch of salt. This lunatic (understatement) is approaching women in train stations with droves of commuters none of whom feel safe and just going up to them saying “Hey you’re pretty.” He’s doing it much more to improve confidence than to get laid. Edit: Mehlman is not a lunatic bc he approaches in stations. That’s actually worthy of respect even though it’s practically 0 yield. There is another reason… | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else just feel like they'd rather not wake up tomorrow than to go out and "approach" women?I'm the same age as you and kind of understand where you're coming from. Approaching and then escalating seems like a Sisyphean task. You sound like either a very lazy guy or at least someone who understands that no one has to approach or meet women or have sex to live life. But you have to admit that once you've put in some approaches throughout your life, that there are "gimme" approaches, i.e., girl at a very advantageous angle, environment, by herself, smiling. There are tiny cheat codes lik… | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Anyone gave up on trying to attract women? (Could use some advice)I'm around the same height, same amount of approaches, much older virtually no friends (FYI women don't know how many friends you have) and also got squat for daygame. Maybe 1 number for every 20 approaches. I have a tendency toward hopelessness and laziness. But I don't think I'll give up... I'd move to a city before I do that. Maybe you live in a "cursed" city. Those do exist. I believe in my case it's 1) my city and 2) my lack of social skills and 3) genuine hardcase AA. There are subtle thin… | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 12:55 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on reputational/legal risk of daygame sarging?I know one time in Midtown at 4am my friend approached a pretty tranny and pulled out his wallet in front of her as a joke. She turned it down. Her black boyfriend saw it and the guy slapped the shit out of her and then chased us down the block until we found 2 or 3 6’6” strip club bouncers to get between. That’s the only risk I’ve incurred. I’d consider this daygame despite the time because no one was drunk. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Do you worry that a girl you approach might be too young?Underage girls usually have smaller heads and more forward necks. Still worth finding out if you’re bad at telling age. | /r/seduction | 19/04/22 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Do you just walk up to women on the street and talk?A hot woman invited me and my friend into her apartment after approaching her on the street at 4AM. They had sex. It was like the 4th woman either of us approached that night. It can work. Also have another friend, another guy not remarkably good looking, get laid off the busiest intersection in NYC. | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Better openers than cute?I only ever do direct approach at gyms, like 30. I only got 1 number from a hot chick and she never came back to the gym. Lol | /r/seduction | 17/04/22 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Better openers than cute?Thanks this is great. Style compliments are hard for me cuz they just feel disingenuous. I really just like the girls body adorning the clothes rather than the other way around. Lol | /r/seduction | 17/04/22 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Which look do you think would be more successful with girls in their mid 20s? (pics inside, hair color)You look kinda like early/mid 20s Adam Levine and Sachsen Cohen. Try to do more of what they do and def keep the sideburns shorter. | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 08:32 PM |
| 7 | The Importance of a Smile (Field Report)I’m a smiley guy by nature and I agree it doesn’t make much of a difference. If anything it can make you look overeager or like you’re trying to sell something. | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 08:27 PM |
| 1 | 1 year of daily daygame results - This is my success ratio, what is yours?Also started in September with similar results. It’s cool you made friends though. How did that happen? | /r/seduction | 12/04/22 11:26 AM |
| 2 | 1 year of daily daygame results - This is my success ratio, what is yours?Cold approach =/= social skills | /r/seduction | 11/04/22 09:57 PM |
| 4 | 1 year of daily daygame results - This is my success ratio, what is yours?Exactly. Cold approach for confidence, online date for getting laid. Just get lean, buy and pay to tailor clothes, and get some imperfect pictures. You shouldnt do daygame to get t laid but to gain confidence. You’re already doing the most confidence-boosting activity in the world. | /r/seduction | 11/04/22 09:54 PM |
| 2 | my review of Owen cook(RSD) high status communication Mentorship program: SCAMIf it's guys like Sid, John, Kendrick, Ibraheem, then don't feel too bad. These guys are roughly as smart as Owen. Sid in particular is very grounded and smart and experienced beyond his years. Besides it's not like Owen is an exemplary high value man himself. He's slightly above a 0 as far as celebrity goes. | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Intimidated by women in the gymI'm a skinny ectomorph who's approached maybe 20-30 big booty women in my small gym. (Got one number out of all of that.) Eye contact before approach is a big struggle for me, gym or elsewhere. Staring always feels much less creepy if you smile while doing it. A smile makes strangers feel at ease and that there's more positivity around. Try smiling as you look at these women or while scanning the room, doesn't have to be with teeth. The gym is a high testosterone tuff guy place, you a big guy sm… | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 11:43 PM |
| 1 | What’s a good conversation starter/topic after a confrontation with a women over textLMAO. This guy doesn't which brain to think with. | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 06:18 PM |
| 0 | Bad cold apporach experience in universityPeople seemed to overlook the fact that she was Asian and also a Redit user. Double whammy. Asian women, in my experience, tend to be very skittish. Doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 01:47 AM |
| 2 | To much anxiety while going out solo.I felt the same way last time I went to a bar by myself. (I don't drink and wouldn't know how to order.) Came in and out pretty much. They even had a guy singing a childhood song called "The Middle" that talked about being an outcast. What were the differences between this time and the last? | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 02:12 AM |
| 2 | The grim reality of gaming in New York City?Last time I did 40 approaches there in Midtown 20 which were sincere. I do retarded stuff like busy street approaches and lingerie store though. I got 3 #s and 2 IGs which is my usual ratio. Have had 10-30 minute convos on busy streets. One German girl in Times Sq responded to my texts the next week but lived in Jersey City. I have a PUA friend not as good looking as me who got laid with the 5th woman he approached one night in LES on a street. She was high status and just let us 2 strangers in.… | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 11:09 PM |
| 0 | How to approach girls in groups?Wasn’t asking, just stating facts. And the burden of proof is on you to prove most women get approached on the daily—and a coupla Tumblr posts and slam poems won’t suffice. All you’re doing is scaring the guy from making harmless nice guy approaches. I’d advise against that. | /r/seduction | 20/03/22 12:48 AM |
| 1 | How to approach girls in groups?Women get approached every time they leave the house? Sounds like what a radfem would say. Even in Midtown Manhattan vast majority of attractive young women aren’t getting approached. And yet 1% success rate (sex?) you claim is incredibly high. You’re all mixed up. | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Cold approaching sets/>1 personThat’s not a PUa tactic. That’s called being a normal person. You want to at least minimally engage the other women. If you don’t they’re much likelier to pull the girl you’re isolating away. | /r/seduction | 14/03/22 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Tips from an anxious guy entering the dating worldPopulation of your city? Average age? Do you find the culture insular or more open with foreigners? You're getting amazing results much better than my endless rejections as someone in an insular but high population town. | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 01:54 AM |
| 1 | i give up. I can't open my mouth at all. I think I'm going to check out.It took my almost 1 year, 5 of those months consistently taking action, going out in the daytime, to overcome 50% of my AA. Try to understand that even if you’re good looking rejection is usually 99-99.9% gonna happen insofar as 1 date is concerned. So try harder to get past square 0. | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Can you just approach women anywhere?I’m a skinny Indian guy in an all-white insular town and have gotten virtually all positive or neutral responses to small gym approaches. Only got 1 number out of those 15 or so. 2 or 3 awk interactions. I always go direct in the gym too. Made one woman’s day yesterday according to her. “Will you be my valentines crush” kinda line. I asked another women that too and told her to text her fitness instructor mom if she’s interested in a hot Indian guy. Also followed a woman on the train about to ge… | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Can you just approach women anywhere?Approached a hot Venezuelan in the lingerie annex of a H&M last week. She was not interested and was signaling that the lingerie spot was bad but it was still a pleasant interaction. Have done Victoria Secret approaches too. Some awk ones there. Why limit yourself though? | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Can you just approach women anywhere?I pulled a girl back to my hotel at 2am approaching from behind on a pretty shady street. She was a neuroscientist so way smarter than me. Same age 60 pounds lighter. Anywhere is good as long as you can deal with the tension of being creepy. (Afraid to approach employees or coworkers here.) | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 11:27 PM |
| 0 | Can you just approach women anywhere?I’ve approached all 3 places on Friday and all were visibly flattered. I’m a minority who mainly approach white woman. | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 11:21 PM |
| 4 | The cold approach method is unhealthy, and frankly a cringeworthy attempt at picking up women (or men)Not a hate comment but you can tell the guy is in his early 20s and just starting to get experience. The user name is Reddit cringe. | /r/seduction | 09/09/21 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Daygame NIGHTMARE! (My daygame experience and story)I remember his videos too. They were incredibly awkward, like cringe comps made to go. I can still hear that bellowing monotone voice: “I just thought you might be interesting to talk to.“ nahhhhh Your therapist is at least right that your social skills are rough. Approaching from behind is really not the problem. f it’s any consolation, I remember you were a handsome guy. | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Anxiety approaching girls in public, as I am concerned about ageIt’s just another form of AA. Just ask. You don’t even have to apologize or feel mortified because it’s not like you did anything physical or said anything “explicit.” 29 year old who got approached by a 15 year a week ago. | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Cloudy cities for daygame?I don't know. I've been this way since I was at least 12. I'm almost 30 now. It might be reverse season affective disorder but I just know I love the beauty and clarity of an overcast day. Sunny weather just looks ugly to me. Uneven light, glaring sun. On my last day here in Hollywood you better believe I have all my curtains down. | /r/seduction | 18/08/21 02:35 AM |
| 3 | I asked girls for directions today.That’s like Day 6 of 46 of the GLL approach anxiety program. Try doing that instead. | /r/seduction | 29/03/21 02:30 AM |
| 2 | This sub is highly effective. List of things that I LOVE about r/seductionLol. Would like to see the sub go into a field report direction and possibly more audio clips of what people are doing while approaching. Anyway brb 3 years gonna lift weights, “read,” and get 10 hobbies. Will surely be ready for sex then! | /r/seduction | 14/02/21 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Field report: Approaching a beautiful girl outside of churchI don't understand the coffee rejoinder. And this is the 2nd time I've seen "AFC" (a fucking chicken?) on this board. Can someone explain? | /r/seduction | 05/02/21 06:21 PM |
| 1 | To those who have no problem approaching strangers, why? What do you tell yourself/don't tell yourselfI think exposure therapy can help as long as you approach women you find at least somewhat attractive. It gets you from 0 to 1 where it’s otherwise very easy to stay at 0 when you go out. | /r/seduction | 04/02/21 02:18 AM |
| 1 | John Elite the best dating coach in the world with the most daygame student laid testimonialsCheers, John. | /r/seduction | 04/02/21 12:57 AM |
| 2 | John Elite the best dating coach in the world with the most daygame student laid testimonialsProbably the craziest known PUA out there for numerous reasons. He makes being a minority seem like it’s this huge disadvantage. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Women, where am I allowed to meet women?Good luck man. Once young people get into the full time swing they lose friends and they don’t go out often. No need to shop as much, rather stay at home with chores. Does that make sense? I’m the same age as you. Why not meet younger women, like early 20s? | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Women, where am I allowed to meet women?Don’t see women around that age out all that much. They’re working and probably married. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 01:48 AM |
| 6 | Going out each weekend, approaching each time, and posting a nightly account on this sub to keep motivated.The FA forum is toxic like the black cell and incel forums. They believe life ends at age 22 and you can only be friends or romantic with your exact cohort (if you're lucky). You may as well look at murdered out autopsy photos online—you will get the same feeling. This is the exact kinda self-improvement post I like to see, not the obvious "lift bro and take care of your skin money" stuff to which we're all inured. AFC? City population? | /r/seduction | 25/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 4 | I think I've found a really effective cold approach strategy: "you look really familiar..."This is as close to a household pickup line there is next to "Are you an angel..." which is why even that lady used it. I've heard from a black fella at work who hits on a lot of women. It probably does work, it piques interest. | /r/seduction | 17/01/21 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Used to love cold approaching before the pandemic, now it's an anxiety curse.This helps no one and is not apposite at all. | /r/seduction | 10/01/21 11:02 PM |
| 3 | Your Last Ever Needed Guide On Conquering Approach AnxietyI agree with STD Tyler. Being a high value man is great but won’t cut it when it comes to the approach. Plenty of tall, handsome, successful guys walking around with their normal anxieties and hesitations. Everyone will still benefit a lot from low stakes warm ups into an approach. Just like the gym. I warmed up today by complimenting an old lady and store clerk today and I’ve done cold approaches before. Tactics will always beat feelgood pablum. Also I’d love to move where you guys actually fin… | /r/seduction | 08/01/21 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Post COVID pickup trend?I don't think I've ever read a post by the earsugary fellow that wasn't cynical or just plain negative. Must be a fun guy to hang around! | /r/seduction | 07/01/21 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Cold approaching New ZealandThere was a guy here named Hanan019 who approached 2 months straight in NZ. Worth looking up. | /r/seduction | 02/01/21 04:10 AM |
| 15 | What is stopping you from cold approaching?COVID but more so masks... just feels too weird atm. | /r/seduction | 02/12/20 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Seeking Wingman Long Island/NYC areaI'm on the west end of LI. Where are you based? | /r/seduction | 13/11/20 06:19 AM |
| 1 | DemographicsI was thinking about this today. It's funny how people wanna follow men's fashion pages on IG or look at men's frugal fashion here, wanting to look like a fuccboi or like any other doofus who scored a deal at LL Bean. I was an indie kid and carry that well into adulthood. I dress in nice fitting shiny Nordstrom kinda stuff. I'm trying to look like Mac Demarco, a real garbageman kind of guy. | /r/seduction | 24/10/20 04:07 AM |
| 1 | 5th day- The worst approach I have done/ Belgrade daygame diary“Hey, I’m Ande” “Hi” “You’re very pretty” “Thanks, but I have a boyfriend” “ok I understand. Good day” | /r/seduction | 14/10/20 03:59 PM |
| 1 | 5th day- The worst approach I have done/ Belgrade daygame diaryLol how young? I think your opener is too long. It’s impossible to imagine saying it from a place of confidence or power. Can you do a more direct/USA kinda approach over there? Your opener is borderline logorrheic. regardless of culture it should be made concise. | /r/seduction | 14/10/20 01:20 AM |
| 1 | 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐝, 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐮𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧.What happened? | /r/seduction | 13/10/20 10:05 PM |
| 4 | 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐝, 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐮𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧." Most girls get approached by multiple guys a day. " I really don't think that's true and this is a good thing. I've seen stunning women look like deers in the headlights upon being approached because it's so uncommon in the daytime. Even at night, in bars, it can be uncommon because people nestle tight in their little in-groups. So unless you mean DMs or Likes are approaches then I don't understand where you got this opinion from. | /r/seduction | 13/10/20 04:50 AM |
| 2 | What places are great locations for Daygame in COVID-19? Having trouble?Home Goods if you like Target women. | /r/seduction | 11/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 3 | How to talk to strangers (part 1): normalizationI actually listened to this twice not knowing any of the guy's credentials. It can be boiled down simply to this, Go to a bar (amazingly applicable idea in 2020 dude) on a handful of weekends and listen to how normies talk to each other. See how they do it and then eventually try it yourself on virtually everyone from cashiers to random men and eventually beautiful women in venues like concerts or grocery stores. Underwhelming. | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 07:28 PM |
| 1 | How to talk to strangers (part 1): normalizationHow many dates you got out of cold approach? | /r/seduction | 07/10/20 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Looking for a wing Long IslandI live too far away but that part of LI always struck me as sparsely populated. Where would you go for day game? Smith Haven Mall? | /r/seduction | 04/10/20 03:15 AM |
| 10 | How do you fix your self esteem?I’m the same height, lifted/bulked for a year. I think you’re right that it won’t do much for your self esteem. Muscles is more of a status symbol than a looks sort of thing, and if you’re not a vain dude, it probably won’t make you any more self-loving. | /r/seduction | 17/09/20 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Wrong line to approach girls?Too long. I’ve tripped my way through that line a lot and it’s hard to deliver from a tonality of strength. It’s very efficient though. Try trimming it. “Hi my name is window. You’re [pause] really pretty.” And then wing it. “What are you up to?” | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Any good tips or a mantra to use for hesitating to approach because of what others will think ?The time is ripe. Shakespeare | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Old vs new seduction?Lol. Where do people get this stuff from? | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 01:23 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys use Audio Recorders?If you have it then use it. Approach is supposed to be uncomfortable. I envy you your gizmo. | /r/seduction | 13/09/20 01:09 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys use Audio Recorders?I've only ever recorded from my phone's built-in mics. I did a walking approach once, my cheap Android picked up every movement but it was still ok. I could hear myself and the girl cuz there was no music in the bg. But for standing approaches, the phone from pocket will usually suffice. Only thing that sucks is that the iPhone will say you're recording while Voice Memos (or external app) is recording. That and if you're recording in a store (bar or nightclub!) they'll be playing loud music. I t… | /r/seduction | 13/09/20 05:22 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys use Audio Recorders?For cold approach? | /r/seduction | 13/09/20 01:54 AM |
| 2 | People like it when others have interesting hobbies. What do you think of mineWomen’s favorite hobby: philatelic fellatio | /r/seduction | 02/09/20 01:04 AM |
| 1 | So how do you make friendsAre those the same hackneyed posts telling everyone to get jacked and get hobbies? Lol... | /r/seduction | 02/09/20 12:44 AM |
| 36 | Overcome Your Fear of Beautiful WomenIt's not beautiful ones that put me off. It's the average ones. My logic is, do THEY see themselves as sexually attractive options? Because I know the beautiful ones are conditioned that way and are usually more receptive. | /r/seduction | 31/08/20 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Approach anxiety?There’s no advice that will help a person AFAIK. Even the visualization thing is kinda bollocks. If there was a “cure” in terms of advice then so many more guys would approach and it would be devalued. So it’s kind of a good thing you get the shitty feelings—the difficulty is a part of the value. | /r/seduction | 30/08/20 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach: Incremental changes vs. numbers game?Cheers. I get that. I only had my first couple of women IOI'ing me and one approaching me after getting newbie gains in lifting. I'm 28. Regarding the storytelling thing, this has always been an aspect of PUA that I never liked or delved into. Telling stories as a way of moving conversations along just reeks of TedTalksism (TedToxicism!). But improving the voice, tonality, articulation, emotion is one of my idee fixe. I'm even taking to buying one of those earbud mics you hang over your shirt ju… | /r/seduction | 28/08/20 03:51 AM |
| 2 | Dwight from the officeThat's a TV show, man. | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Is it weird to approach a girl at a coffee shop?I mean it's weird approaching anyone you don't know. Takes a good deal of "go with the flow"-ness on the other person to go along for more than 10 seconds, especially if it's man-to-woman. The mask thing is neither here nor there although what I read from a u/FairAnalyst post he said they diminish game by 70%. I'm just trying to tame approach anxiety without getting security called on me. And if the summer body is there, the hair, skin, even if they got a port-wine stain goatee then yes they are… | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach: Incremental changes vs. numbers game?I understand. I do a bit of that by reading the Sunday paper, like I can talk gay-ass Steve Sondheim plays or Gerhard "Ger-l Yer Making Me Hard" Richter paintings with girls. But many of the things I listed are easy to portray without even opening your mouth. Intellectual depth is not easy to express. There's no shortage of cool men (and women) meandering about who seem like losers, bimbos. It's a travesty. What you're recommending I think would be more conducive to online game where you have a … | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach: Incremental changes vs. numbers game?3 years sounds realistic for most of the things if you’re highly driven. People like you are rare. Were you approaching during the 3 years while you were working on yourself? or were you a "monk moder"? I feel like if I became a billionaire from a tech startup or whatever I wouldn't really have any more confidence than I do now. I have a conviction that my confidence with women can only come from interacting with attractive random women IRL, not from like "I'm ace-ing med school! Look at me play… | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach: Incremental changes vs. numbers game?Insecurities about body measurements, weights progress, the anchoritism of eating all day subtracts from approaching time. No amount of testosterone is gonna outweigh the discomfort of a 3000-calorie or more diet. | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 08:09 PM |
| 2 | I like her, she likes me, she doesn't date shorter than her 😬Maybe she was lying and just doesn't like you that much and it doesn't have to do with your height. | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Is it weird to approach a girl at a coffee shop?I just did. It was one of my first approaches. She and I were waiting and wearing masks. I said she was cute, exchanged names, then right away asked her hobbies. Nice 2-minute chat, could've asked for #. It can be really loud in a coffee shop with the music + masks. It's "weird" approaching anywhere in the daytime. But that's kind of the whole appeal of daygame. No one expects it so the approach itself is very confident and for the girl even flattering. | /r/seduction | 24/08/20 05:20 PM |
| 3 | CHEW. GUM. EVERY. DAY. to get a chiseled jawline.I tried the Chisell thing for a month and a half. Muuuch more powerful than gums like falim or mastic. It just made my face look bloated after exercises, fat and boyish. It doesn't do anything for your actual jawline—you need to lose weight. Even then, many will have to get surgery to sharpen the jawline ("shade") or maybe mew. It only works your masseter muscles. For some people it will look cool, for others like they gained fat. | /r/seduction | 01/08/20 01:09 AM |
| 1 | In what situations to approach during daygame?...?(VIDEO infield)Hey man, I often enjoyed your comments and am glad you're posting again. You said you approach 30m to 1hr away for practice. If you do pull something off, then wouldn't that create a big logistical hurdle? I live within that distance of Manhattan but this never struck me to go all the way there. Are you suggesting practicing further away so you can bring it on home once you got better? | /r/seduction | 03/07/20 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach for two months -- February 2020Your original thread is somehow the default hyperlink to Seduction on my web browser. I bookmarked it several months ago. That was a great thread, probably the only cold approach-related topic most guys here need. | /r/seduction | 02/07/20 03:02 AM |
| 1 | How to turn any girl you have sex with into a girlfriendI remember his old post about the drunk Latina. He implied he was like 32 or 33. | /r/seduction | 10/06/20 07:06 PM |
| 3 | 28 year old guy who has not been nor done anything with a girl. About to give up, if I haven't already.I'm the same age as you. 28, a virgin, maybe not as successful. I did my first ever approach today. "Hey - I thought you were cute so I had to say hi." 30 min chat, got turned down. Whatever. At this point if I don't approach I'll hate myself and ruminate on it for a long time. It took me a year of inculcating myself in PUA stuff to get to that point. If you have to hate anything about yourself, it should be that. If there's anything I can suggest, it is to derive more confidence from your good … | /r/seduction | 22/05/20 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Looks like I'm gonna be single again in 2020If it's any consolation I'm 28, a virgin. Discovered PUA last year. Made dramatic improvements to my appearance and got my first couple of IOIs since then. At a bookstore I asked for a woman's number for the first time in my life, trying to date this stunner in the self-help section. She refused but still approached and complimented me. I was determined to finally start approaching after that... 4 days later they shut everything down. LOL! | /r/seduction | 16/04/20 05:23 AM |
| 1 | 26, Trying to get into everything.Yeah, the suburbs. It's nice to live here, and expectations are modest for people our age since most are still with their parents, but there are not as many people in their 20s as there are kids and parents because they move to places like where you live and also the city. I think we have similar challenges. But you obviously have a clear head. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 06/12/19 03:40 AM |
| 1 | 26, Trying to get into everything.You wrote that you live an hour away from NYC. Out of curiosity, is it Long Island? | /r/seduction | 06/12/19 03:02 AM |
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