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I was sitting home alone every weekend. I'm naturally introverted and really enjoy time alone, but it was getting pretty bad even for me. So I decided I needed to be socially self sufficient. I wanted to learn how to go out by myself, meet new people, and have fun. So I started going to bars by myself. It was a very nerve wracking experience, but I learned the basics of making new friends. It's been a very "if you build it, they will come" experience. Lately I haven't even had time to go out to …
/r/seduction19/05/14 01:26 AM
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Man, there's nothing like having a lot of random girls interested in you to make you realize how pointless it is to have a lot of random girls interested in you. If you get decent at this the "approach everyone" advice really fucks you over because you end up hurting (or maybe just feeling like you've hurt) lots of girls, which makes you feel pretty shitty. My only advice is to figure out what you want then only go after girls who are compatible with that. Easier said than done though.
/r/seduction19/05/14 01:14 AM
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I've always thought the indicator-of-interest lists that people give are pretty useless. It's not really one or two things somebody will do to show their sexual interest. It's the entirety of their body language, behavior, and conversation which will let you know. If you can tell when somebody is pissed off at you, you can tell when somebody is attracted to you. The only problem is that a lot of people have insecurities which make them second guess themselves.
/r/seduction19/05/14 01:06 AM
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If it were something really obvious, like maybe there's a terrible stench emanating from your arm pits, then you might be able to find out by asking. Otherwise, I suspect (I've never tried it), that it will be useless. Just like girls (and also guys) don't have any clue why they are attracted somebody, they usually don't have any clue why they are un-attracted to somebody.
/r/seduction13/05/14 03:39 AM
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People who do that "super high energy" thing all the time get really annoying, in my opinion. So she's probably neither hoping or expecting it anyway.
/r/seduction13/05/14 03:05 AM
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Without very obvious signals, you'd have to be totally pro or just very lucky to walk away successful. In a social setting like a bar or a club, there's a reasonable expectation that people are going to hit on each other. Any girl that expresses surprise or uncomfortableness with this is, in my opinion, a weirdo. This is not the case when a woman is at work because she's mainly there so she can pay her bills. So guys, without clear signals, have to understand that the most likely scenario is tha…
/r/seduction12/05/14 01:08 AM
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There are girls who you'd fuck and there are girls who you wouldn't. Go after the ones you would.
/r/seduction11/05/14 01:07 AM
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It's actually pretty easy to go to a bar and not drink if you keep yourself busy talking to people. Just say your a DD, nurse a beer all night, or get a soda (and people will assume it's a mixed drink). The only issue is that people will often buy you drinks/shots - this is really the only way I even get drunk at a bar anymore - because it feels rude to turn them down. However, in my personal opinion it is really un-fun to talk to drunk people while I'm stone-cold sober. edit: forgot to a word
/r/seduction10/05/14 11:59 PM
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Agreed. It's a bit pathetic all around. Even putting morality aside, any guy who had confidence would say, "this is not worth the drama - I'll find another girl."
/r/seduction09/05/14 06:45 AM
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Never done a one-night stand (added to bucket list), and maybe you should try pursuing these platonic relationships with girls who you haven't slept with. This might come across as a little weird, I don't know... but you could try befriending the friends of a girl who you had a one-night stand with. Like, if you find a cool girl who has similar interests, suggest doing something together. But you'd probably have to make it as clear as possible that it's not a date or romantic at all. This could …
/r/seduction08/05/14 11:40 PM
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Let's get through the vegetables first: There's really no way to tell what's running through her head, and it's likely that she doesn't even know why she's doing what she's doing. The more important question is, what do you want? If you only wanted to date her, you just ignore her now that she's rejected you. If you want to be her friend, awesome, but let her know that friends don't cock-block and she needs to GTFO (or help) when you're talking to a pretty girl. Okay, now the fun part... Why do …
/r/seduction08/05/14 11:33 PM
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I'm walking down a similar path, though you're definitely further down the road than I am. I came into this wanting a consistent social life, and now that it's starting to come together, I've realized that I'm addicted to the ego-boost involved in pick-up. And those two things are not congruent when your social circle includes girls who are attracted to you. I get excited after making plans for drinks on a Saturday night with a cute girl I've just met, but my next thought has been, "fuck... now …
/r/seduction08/05/14 11:18 PM
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Yeah, I've had that feeling plenty of times. My thought process to get through it is this: The perfect moment to go in for a kiss will never fall into your lap. You have to create the best moment possible, then just go for it and see what happens. Working your way up to the moment is all about kino escalation. The video I like a lot is this, but basically you just need to keep getting closer (and performing more intimate touches). Know that if she feels uncomfortable with it then her body langua…
/r/seduction08/05/14 04:20 AM
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It's said a lot on here (and I think it's true) that girls often give terrible seduction/dating advice to guys, and I bet the opposite is probably true too. That's probably why you get directed to fpua a lot.
/r/seduction08/05/14 03:24 AM
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Telling these types of stories can sometimes make people look needy/desperate. Rather than demonstrating your high value right off the bat, let them be surprised by it.
/r/seduction07/05/14 11:04 PM
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Opportunities to judge people present themselves all the time. You show that you are non-judgemental by ignoring these opportunities. Remember: try to see situations from other people's perspectives and always try to give people the benefit of the doubt.
/r/seduction07/05/14 03:45 AM
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Yeah. If you're getting physically close during the date then going in for the kiss shouldn't even require any special "move." It should just be a natural extension of your closeness.
/r/seduction05/05/14 09:25 AM
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Personally, I agree with Mark Manson that the whole rating system is toxic. You're putting these girls on a pedestal by rating them, and that's definitely part of your problem. You need to go in with a mindset of, "Yeah, she's hot but is she... crazy? stupid? boring? uptight? depressing? etc." And then walk away if you discover that any of these traits apply. A girl's looks are really only one aspect to consider.
/r/seduction05/05/14 09:22 AM
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I think it's pretty common that people fail to be funny when they are obviously trying hard to be funny. That might be your problem. Try not trying, but if a joke pops into your head then say it. Also, don't laugh at your own jokes. That's another common problem.
/r/seduction05/05/14 09:17 AM
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The guys I've seen that act like RSD Tyler - and I've only really seen a couple like that (who I've seen at the same bars on multiple nights) - definitely can get girls. But I'd say a huge portion of the girls that these guys approach tend to think they are insane or creepy. And the girls I've seen these guys go home with tend to be the "drunk & desperate" type. If you're just interested in fucking, then it that style will work for you, but I'm not sure that it can do a whole lot for you if you'…
/r/seduction04/05/14 11:00 PM
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Not only is that a false dichotomy, but it also doesn't really matter. Physical touch is important for many different reasons. It can show comfort, confidence, and desire. It gets you in a close enough proximity to kiss. It also lets you know whether she's interested (i.e. if she is comfortable with you touching her, she likes you). A lot of PUA tips & tricks are total garbage, but kino escalation is seriously important.
/r/seduction03/05/14 02:29 AM
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"Thanks. What's your name?"
/r/seduction03/05/14 02:20 AM
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I lot of the PUA stuff is just self-help in disguise, and I think your criticisms are just reflecting that: quick fixes that don't really work, confidence boosts that don't last, promises that never pan out, etc. That's not to say that self-help is all worthless, but a lot of it is. You just have to learn how to separate the what from the chaff for yourself and be willing to help others do the same. But, as you mentioned, there are always going to be people who just wont listen. They don't want …
/r/seduction30/04/14 10:35 PM
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That "zone" is pretty common if you read a lot of FRs. Some people call it "being in state" or getting in a "I-Don't-Give-A-Fuck mindset" or just "God mode." It also seems like everybody has different ways of getting in this zone, and I'm still playing around with what works for me. As for capitalizing when in the zone, you still may have to get over "escalation anxiety." This is something I feel, but I haven't had much problem breaking through it lately. I just remind myself: it should be obvio…
/r/seduction30/04/14 03:12 AM
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To be fair, they weren't actually trying to pick anybody up in that clip (though they were definitely antagonizing strangers). A better criticism of their pick up might be: they annoy a lot of girls who eventually give them their number just to get them to go away. But to be fair again, I think even that misses the point of their videos. Most of their videos aren't about pick-up technique but just to show that talking to random girls, even when you say weird or strange things, isn't all that sca…
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:55 AM
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There are lists of "indicators of interest" out there if you search for them, but I think they are kind of useless to the majority of guys. Really you don't need them. If you can tell when somebody is pissed off at you without them directly telling you, then you can tell when somebody is attracted to you. Maybe the easiest question to ask is, "would this make me feel uncomfortable if a male were acting this way toward me?" Still it's never a 100% fool-proof because different girls act different …
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:47 AM
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To me it sounds like you're doing pretty well. I've heard a lot of people say that AA never really goes away, but it gets easier and easier to break through. I'm still pretty new, but I've had moments where I feel like I can talk to anyone and then the next weekend I'm totally stiff with AA. I'm not sure I really know why. Still, it's always good to work on whatever you can to improve your confidence. For example, I think wittiness is something that can be learned and practiced. It's also pretty…
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:41 AM
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There's only one way to find out for sure... ask her out.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:31 AM
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It's just a matter of context. Personally, I'll use "cute" at the beginning of the interaction: "I noticed you and thought you were cute, so I wanted to say 'hi.'" Or just generally as a go-to if I want to compliment their looks. I'll use "beautiful" only when I really want to overly convey that I'm being genuine (and I rarely use it): "I don't care that you disagree, I think you'd still look beautiful even wearing snow pants and a parka." And I'll use "sexy" when I am actively engaged in trying…
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:20 AM
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I'm probably only a half-step above beginner, but you're right in that I've already moved past most of what is posted on here. I think that's just the nature of this "hobby" or whatever you want to call it. A little success is all most guys on here really care about because they are starting off with zero success. So people meet a few new girls, start dating one of them, and therefore no longer need this place. It's just how it is, I think.
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:12 AM
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It probably depends a lot on the type of girl you're trying to attract. This is all just armchair opinion, but... A high-maintenance, superficial girl might be mostly concerned that you make a lot of money. A college-aged girl looking for a fun time might not care if you have a job at all, as long as you have a bit of money to buy some alcohol. And a typical 35-year-old woman whose looking to start a family might not care what your job is, as long as you have something that pays half-decent and …
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:03 AM
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You should understand that the stereotypical "pick-up artist" is a pathetic character. Most people picture a sleazy and shameless guy who is interested only in finding the most convenient wet hole possible, so he winds up with the drunkest girls he can find. Yet I think anybody who even dips a pinky-toe into the community knows that this is woefully backwards. The irony is that most of us don't come to this "pick up" or "seduction" community because we want to bang a bunch of random hot chicks. …
/r/seduction29/04/14 10:59 PM
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If these comments are coming from a place of true confidence, then they may actually make you seem more confident because you are showing your vulnerabilities without fear. For example, you can tell a girl you've approached something like, "I was nervous to come talk to you." it shows that you've acknowledged and accepted your nervous feelings, that you don't feel ashamed of these feelings, and that you had the courage to break through those feelings to take action. That's true confidence which …
/r/seduction28/04/14 10:08 AM
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Take it as a sign (from God?) that you two aren't compatible, and you'd probably be miserable if you started dating her. Remember the old abundance principle, there are other cute girls out there who will be fine with your lifestyle (though that isn't to say you shouldn't do what you can to improve it).
/r/seduction24/04/14 01:00 AM
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I can tell you from experience that this is all much easier said than done. It's great to get in a confident-as-fuck mood before you go out, but you have to prepare for the (likely) possibility that your confidence will dissipate like a cloud of dust as soon as you step through the club doors. Make sure your game plan includes re-building your confidence once you're there. A couple things to keep in mind: There's a fine line between "negging" and being mean/insulting, so always be aware of this.…
/r/seduction24/04/14 12:31 AM
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Obviously, we can all only guess as to what was going on, and it's especially hard when we weren't there to witness any of this. But if you want a guess, here's mine: Despite being attracted to you, she felt more comfortable with your friend because he was the one who was talking and building a rapport with her. So when she was feeling shy, unsure, or non-confident, she retreated to him. Or... she was really more attracted to your friend, but was attempting to get him a bit jealous by flirting w…
/r/seduction24/04/14 12:19 AM
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You've known her for 6ish months, you just have to directly ask. However, it does sound like you've put a lot of investment in this girl, and that's why you sound nervous to ask. Try not to do that in the future.
/r/seduction22/04/14 04:07 AM
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I think incorrectly "negging" was a beginner mistake for me. It's mainly useful when talking to a girl with a large ego (e.g. "So guys hit on you all the time, huh? You must be having an off night then because I haven't seen anybody try yet."), but it totally backfires on girls who are more shy, reserved, or sensitive.
/r/seduction21/04/14 11:46 PM
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Be yourself and make no apologies for being who you are. Still, attempt to be the best version of yourself possible. Basically, gain confidence and learn to hold onto it. With this confidence get in the mindset of, "if somebody doesn't want to be my friend, then it's their loss." And talk to people.
/r/seduction21/04/14 01:18 AM
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It also helps you remember girls' names, and making eye contact while doing it helps to associate the name with the face (because, let's face it, when you've met 2 Jennys and 3 Amys over the weekend it can be hard to remember who is who). Calling a girl by the wrong name is possibly one of the worst things you can do, so I do whatever I can to avoid it.
/r/seduction20/04/14 02:15 PM
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Typically, I'm better at conversations. It's been a skill I've developed. So the other person does most of the talking because I'm asking the right questions.
/r/seduction20/04/14 06:57 AM
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"blown out" = rejected, ignored, snubbed
/r/seduction20/04/14 06:55 AM
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I started going solo to bars a couple months ago, and you will definitely love it once you get comfortable with it. I've written a list of tips before, but I'll start from scratch: 1. It's only awkward if you feel awkward - nobody else really cares. I like to start by just sitting at the bar alone and relaxing for a bit. I'll look around, chat with the bar tender or the people next to me, and put myself in a comfortable and confident mindset. There's been a few times where girls have approached …
/r/seduction20/04/14 12:19 AM
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Most of the guys who you might consider AFC are really just stuck in "nice guy" mode, and a "nice guy" would never shamelessly hit on girls. So even if they have heard of The Game (which I had never heard of before this subreddit), then they'd steer very clear as to not besmirch their "nice guy" reputation. A lot of other guys just stumble through approaches, saying a lot of dumb stuff. But if the girl is frustrated herself (and there are a hell of a lot of frustrated girls out there too), then …
/r/seduction19/04/14 11:42 PM
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We kept talking/flirting until bar time. She said something like, "last call already!? It seems so early." So I said, "Well we live pretty close to each other," as I had found out earlier in the night, "Lets go hang out at your place." She seemed pretty happy with that idea, so we walked to her apartment - with my arm around her, rubbing her shoulder to keep her warm - and once we got to her lobby, I went in for the kiss. We went upstairs, and it just continued. It seemed very easy because I fel…
/r/seduction19/04/14 11:47 AM
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"Am I trying to hit on her? No... I AM hitting on her." As puaCurveBall said, there's nothing wrong with hitting on a girl. They like it most of the time. Even when they're not interested it's still an ego boost for them. Also, don't put out any bullshit and nobody can call you on it.
/r/seduction19/04/14 12:30 AM
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Simple method for flirting: act like you want to fuck her. Don't say it outright (at least not to start), but let your eyes and body language send the message. The rest is mainly just basic conversation skills, which you claim to have. How to tell if they're flirting? Unless you fall somewhere on the autism-spectrum, you should be able to identify a girl flirting with you. Not being able to seems like a lack-of-confidence thing. Just ask yourself, "would I feel uncomfortable if a male was talkin…
/r/seduction18/04/14 08:05 PM
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Don't bother. It seems kind of needy.
/r/seduction18/04/14 07:54 PM
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Why are your conversations dying off so fast? What is a typical conversation with a girl like for you?
/r/seduction18/04/14 05:33 PM
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Yeah, coming across as nervous while also coming across as trying too hard can create a "creepy" combination. So gain more confidence, move quickly from "asking a lot of questions" to having a real conversation, and then just walk away if they lose interest.
/r/seduction18/04/14 04:40 PM
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As near I can tell, confidence is just about being comfortable with yourself -- your personality, your opinions, your desires, and the way you look. You can either learn to be comfortable with what you've got, or you can go on a self-improvement spree to become comfortable with these things. The fact that you know you need more confidence is a positive first step, now you just need to get there. And in my opinion, once you have confidence, everything else on this subreddit is just a suggestion.
/r/seduction18/04/14 03:17 PM
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It's probably just her -- you probably caught her at a busy moment, and she didn't want the extra hassle of being hit on. That's the main risk of "day game," isn't it?
/r/seduction18/04/14 03:08 PM
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Pics are probably just a bad idea in general. Even though you'd both be underage, there are still legal issues that might crop up. Also... you never know when she might get pissed at you and decide to send those pics around the internets.
/r/seduction07/04/14 10:06 PM
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Really, you don't come across to me as needy at all. Sure you had your hands all over her, but showing your desire toward just doesn't seem needy to me (maybe others will disagree). In fact, your response to her "it's over" text seemed the opposite of needy. You acknowledged it and walked away.
/r/seduction07/04/14 10:04 PM
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Maybe you can explain to me the point of "text game," because I don't really get it. I'm a big proponent of "text with a clear purpose." If she ignores you then it probably means she just isn't that interested, and spending a ton of time trying to game her via text comes across to me as desperate. Look, you clearly have the ability to meet and hit on new women, so why get hung up on the flaky ones?
/r/seduction07/04/14 09:59 PM
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Not necessarily. There are girls who also just take awhile to establish that they trust a guy and THEN they will unleash a torrent of kinkiness. Right?
/r/seduction07/04/14 01:58 AM
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Good on you for the confidence. Neither you, me, nor anybody here could say why she seemed confused during your conversation. It's hard to say what was going through her head or why... or maybe she wasn't confused at all, she just seemed it to you. So don't worry about it. On conversation threading: yeah, you can keep a conversation going for awhile, but be careful to not turn it into an interview. Give her a chance to participate and put effort into keeping the conversation going.
/r/seduction07/04/14 01:55 AM
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I've been going out alone for the past six weekends, and I'm doing it again tonight. The uncomfortableness mostly went away after the first two weekends, and I realized that it's very similar to going out with a group friends: sometimes it's fun and sometimes it's lame. However, there are some great benefits to going out alone. The greatest benefit is that you get to be socially self-sufficient. I no longer worry about finding somebody to go out drinking with. And, ironically, people are now mor…
/r/seduction06/04/14 01:05 AM
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Why would they laugh? I'd find it a bit creepy if a girl did that.
/r/seduction05/04/14 11:17 PM
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Some would probably think it's funny or interesting and give you a hug. Some would be weirded out or confused and not give you a hug.
/r/seduction05/04/14 11:15 PM
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I've only been around here for a couple months, so not long (though I've heard it's harder to internalize that permanently, so we'll see). However, I already felt pretty good about all other areas of my life and that I had something to offer. That took longer, probably a couple years. I found a decent paying job that I like, I lost weight, picked up new hobbies to become a more interesting person, and even worked on learning conversation skills. I just had no social confidence, but that's starti…
/r/seduction02/04/14 04:02 AM
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Or maybe don't wait it out. Make other plans if possible, and it's her loss if she gets back to you too late. You can always try rescheduling, and next time she'll know that your schedule doesn't revolve around her letting you know (at some vague time in the future) whether she's free.
/r/seduction02/04/14 03:38 AM
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Once you get more confidence you start to think, maybe I did something wrong (or could have done something better) but there's also a good chance that it has more to do with her or whatever is going on in her life at the moment. Once you get the abundance mentality you start to think, it doesn't really matter even if I did say or do something stupid. No harm has been done by talking/texting this girl, and there are plenty of other cute girls with good personalities in the world who will be inter…
/r/seduction02/04/14 03:30 AM
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That is really great advice. One thing to consider, after I get the ball rolling and she's started to ask me questions back, I'll often transition into more emotion-type questions. For example, "So why German? Do you just enjoy studying it or do you have a specific reason?" I like these for lots of reasons: 1. The answers to these types of questions tend to be more drawn out, letting some pressure off trying to keep the conversation going. 2. They let you learn about her motivations, which tells…
/r/seduction02/04/14 03:19 AM
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You wrote that a girl hasn't shown interest you in around 3 years, and you also wrote that you spent a lot of time waiting for and thinking about this girl. Why? It comes across to me like there might be underlying problems: lack of confidence and lack of the "abundance mentality." If I'm correct, then the problems you're having with this girl will simply disappear once you fix these problems. Not that she'll suddenly be interested in you, but rather that you wont care as much. The agony caused …
/r/seduction02/04/14 02:57 AM
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I don't know if there is a correct response, but I think there's a correct mindset: If she comes out, cool. If she doesn't come out, also cool (because now you'll get to meet new girls!). So if it were me I'd probably just say, "Alright, let me know." Or if I was really interested in her, "Ok, I'll text you on Thursday with more details and maybe I'll see you." Then proceed to follow up on Thursday.
/r/seduction02/04/14 02:37 AM
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Figuring out whether a girl is sexually interested really isn't particularly hard because it's typically just something you feel - reading these signals is hardwired into us (unless perhaps you fall somewhere on the autism-spectrum). It's like asking, "how can I tell when a guy is pissed and wants to beat the shit out of me?" It's often just something you can feel. There are plenty of "indicator of interest" lists, but it's nearly impossible to actively keep track of them while you're interactin…
/r/seduction02/04/14 02:29 AM
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Really, I thought it was more of her trying to qualify me, not a shit-test. This girl was romantically very frustrated. She mentioned that she was online dating and made other indications that she was looking for a long-term thing, but she was also throwing out signals that she was out to have a good (stress-free and responsibility-free) time. I think she wanted to know what category to put me in: guy to date or guy to fuck. But whether it was a shit-test or not, it did stop me in my tracks beca…
/r/seduction30/03/14 10:58 AM
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A couple weeks ago I saw a girl at a crowded bar who was totally focused on her phone. I walked right up and asked her why she wasn't being more social when there were tons of people around her. She responded pretty well (unfortunately, her boyfriend didn't but that's another story). In essence, people often use their phone like a safety blanket, especially if they're in the middle of a social situation. It just means that their nervous, and they probably would love if somebody approached them.
/r/seduction30/03/14 07:24 AM
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In the short time that I've been doing this, I've yet to have a girl request that I buy them a drink. In fact I'd probably be a little off-put by a girl's presumption that I should. So, yeah, I like RedSunBlue's "you get the first round" because it's a total rejection of that presumption. Put on the spot I might just ask, "and why should I buy you a drink?" with a playful tone (but one that suggests that it'd better be a damn good answer if she actually expects me to pay for her drink). Though I…
/r/seduction25/03/14 03:34 AM
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I've been going to bars alone for the past month or so, and I definitely have a few tips for you. If you don't want to drink, get a soda. Everybody will just assume that it's a mixed drink. Alternatively, get a low-calorie beer (Miller 64 or Bud 55 is usually available) and nurse it for a couple hours. They have low-alcohol, so you shouldn't even feel it. If you feel like you need an activity you can... find a sports bar and watch whatever game is on, then discuss it with people around you... pr…
/r/seduction25/03/14 02:17 AM
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Actually, I've found that most people love talking about their work even when they don't like what they do. When you spend 40+ hrs a week doing something then you tend to have a lot to say about it, especially to somebody who seems interested. Hell, going out with work friends we usually have to make it a rule that we can't talk about work since it is such a natural topic of conversation.
/r/seduction25/03/14 02:01 AM
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Yeah, a great book but totally out of place on this list. As you say, it's a book about evolution which doesn't even focus on humans. The only thing I can think of that might be interesting to this community (and only on a meta level) is the part in the book discussing "the battle of the sexes." If I remember correctly, he shows how the goals of sex are totally different for males and females: Males need to spread their seed around as much as possible, whereas females need to invest heavily in t…
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:30 AM
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My response to "I have a boyfriend," is "Cool. What's his name?"
/r/seduction21/03/14 03:27 AM
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Here's a summary of the article: Any type of sexual stimulation will trigger a female's body to be aroused, even if her mind isn't aroused. Women tend to put a premium on intimate relationships over casual sex, yet their willingness to partake in casual sex may be about even with men. On average, women tend to have the same number of sexual partners as men. At different points during the menstrual cycle, women often desire different types of men. For women, closeness does not correlate with sexu…
/r/seduction20/03/14 02:31 AM
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I'd think that people who need a lot of honest, remedial help could benefit from something like a boot camp. But otherwise, yeah, I've made tons of progress in a relatively short amount of time just by using free resources and taking the initiative to go out myself. I think that the majority of people could improve the same way.
/r/seduction19/03/14 03:31 AM
1

I'm not a good enough actor to do the complicated/scripted opens and techniques, and I have a hard time believing that many guys are.
/r/seduction18/03/14 02:27 AM
2

Both and about a dozen other things too.
/r/seduction18/03/14 12:06 AM
8

Nah, you're just wrong here. It's pretty easy to tell when somebody doesn't want to talk to you, that's definitely not what happened here. In the last instance, the girl even physically grabbed my arm and asked me to stay and talk with her. I did call him an asshole in a smarmy way. It's true, though, he was being an asshole. And "smarmy" was probably the most polite way of putting it. It was an attempt at giving him some perspective of his words/tone. I'm not sure if it worked or not. Also, I t…
/r/seduction17/03/14 12:18 AM
1

Yeah, I just did what I thought might work in the moment. You might be right too, IDK.
/r/seduction16/03/14 10:03 PM
17

I have no personal experience with this, but to add one thing: I've always heard that you should introduce a fetish as, "check out this exciting thing we can do. I really like it, and I bet you will too!"
/r/seduction16/03/14 08:57 PM
1

Maybe. I'm still not sure how I should have handled the situation. Like I said, he was being so possessive/protective that there was a high chance he'd fight just to impress his girl. I didn't want to just walk away on his terms, so I tried to befriend him and walk away on mine (which half worked).
/r/seduction16/03/14 08:53 PM
3

Mid 20s
/r/seduction16/03/14 08:43 PM
8

It was already mentioned, but I didn't know they were with somebody else when I went to talk to them. I even kept the conversation going after they told me they were engaged, asking them about their wedding plans and making general small-talk with their fiances. I'm just out there trying to have fun and learning to be more social. Sex or a relationship isn't the main goal.
/r/seduction16/03/14 05:53 PM
1

Yeah, that sounds right to me. I think it's all about whether you're going to add energy or sap energy. Not sure that's true of groups of guys though. A couple of times I've been totally blown off by groups of guys who I'm just trying to have a chat with. In my small experience, ironically, guys (who I'm just trying to be friendly with) will be much harsher than women.
/r/seduction16/03/14 05:40 PM
14

For what it's worth, it was more of a "man hug." Like a, "we're cool, bro" hug. Not a full on hug or anything like that. He tensed up, but did it, and I think it made both of us look good.
/r/seduction16/03/14 05:35 PM
1

IDK, maybe those particular guys were weird
/r/seduction12/03/14 01:09 PM
1

Yes. Like I said, it was like spinning plates. You'd think there'd be a good way of engaging an entire group in a conversation, though.
/r/seduction12/03/14 01:09 PM
2

It's definitely important to be in a social mood. Building that momentum can be hard while alone, so i did it by talking to the bartender/dudes around me.
/r/seduction12/03/14 01:07 PM
7

First, I like going to places I've never been better. I sit at the bar, ask the bartender, "what's good?" and go with whatever he/she recommends. Then I just sit and look around. I have a "no phone" rule for myself, so I'm just taking in the environment. I look at people around the bar, maybe ask the bartender random questions like, "have you tried that new beer? Is it any good?" They have to be nice to you, so they're a good place to start. Then I turn to the people around me. Honestly, all I'v…
/r/seduction11/03/14 10:33 AM
1

I am total shit with names, but here's what works for me: after you learn their name, use it often. Use it 10 times during the course of a conversation and you'll have trouble forgetting it.
/r/seduction11/03/14 05:35 AM
3

Maybe you're a much more naturally social person, but I'm not that way at all. First steps aren't often the smoothest or most impressive.
/r/seduction03/03/14 01:52 AM
9

Definitely. There's a balance, and I'll be sure to drink less next time. And, yeah, that's my plan. Less and less each time until I feel totally comfortable being at a bar, alone and sober.
/r/seduction01/03/14 07:44 PM
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