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DiscussionAnxious_Adult123/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:48 PM
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RP: * Women give preference to F-bois and men with dark personality traits over genuinely good men. BP: * Men and woman can have friendship as good as that of ones men have with each other without things turning into sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:13 PM
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It was fulfilling to watch your journey from who doesn’t have years of experience of being lonely and possibly harboring resentment and bitterness towards dating and women. To they have some problems causing it To because there’s some problem And finally to I’m not saying that it means this person is a flawed terrible human being, On a serious note, IMHO, as far as my experience goes and that of many of my peers, luck is usually the main culprit followed by sense of maturity. In my case, I (24M)…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 05:48 PM
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I don't think every woman pick the worst. Nor everyone who picks them do so ignoring the obvious redflag signs. But in my experience working in mental heath field where I had to talk with victims of such poor relationships, there are some common things I gathered- Immaturity- most of them don't understand what a healthy relationship is. They might be having a good example in their own home in form of their parents but they are often deluded by glorification of borderline abusive relationships on…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:34 AM
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Would she be right to reject all the guys who are showing her interest now? I think it's reasonable in both ways. Reject all those rejected her can stem from the rational fear that they might leave her once she gains some weight since they saw her "fat-self" unattractive. Giving a chance is also rational as attraction is also an important thing. That's what glow up is all about. And however good a person you are, initial attraction is crucial. IMHO, the second scenario is more rational than the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 03:03 PM
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How this change the idea that women do not prefer virgin man? Like i said in the original post, there are those who are like that but they are a minority so as to be neglected. So are you telling me they assumed your experience from posture and behavior just like a said? No, I am saying assumptions can be terribly wrong. But I do agree with you, there is nothing that can stop them from assuming ones experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:40 PM
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Your experience is heavily biased. Obviously, it is. This is something from my experience and hence prone for bias. Who talks about female body counts? Apparently, a lot of guys. Not just the ones you mentioned but even guys with high n count themselves prefer women with lower count. And I was surprised with a group of my friends, all virgins, who didn't care about n count provided it wasn't ridiculously high. IG, it depends on a lot of factors. Women who have already dated men who abuse them Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:35 PM
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yes, there are women who don't prefer virgin men, and some goes to the extent of shaming them. But even the former is a minority as far as my experience goes. they generally assume from posture and behavior. I disagree. I am a virgin but many of my friends and colleagues, including women have assumed I have/had relationships/ I hooked up based on my body language.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:23 PM
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Thank you for your kind words. 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:24 PM
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For all my life I wanted to get my career sorted out, find a mate, fall in love and lead a simple family life. I got the career part more or less on track. But rest, total failure. After 2 brutal rejections, mutiple failed attempts at OLD and couple of woman who cared about me honestly opening up that no woman will find me physically attractive, I totally gave up on dating life. Being from South Asia, I do have the option of arranged marraige left but the total idea itself gross me out. So here …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:38 PM
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For all my life I wanted to get my career sorted out, find a mate, fall in love and lead a simple family life. I got the career part more or less on track. But rest, total failure. After 2 brutal rejections, mutiple failed attempts at OLD and couple of woman who cared about me honestly opening up that no woman will find me physically attractive, I totally gave up on dating life. Being from South Asia, I do have the option of arranged marraige left but the total idea itself gross me out. So here …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:36 PM
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I think it's much more of how you market and brand yourself! Dating market is, in a way, really a market! One of my friend had mentally and emotionally hurt his girlfriend after she broke up with him. Did stuff that made her cry for weeks, ruined her image infront of her family etcetera etcetra. He met some other girl a few weeks later, told his entire story to her, although in his narration he was the villain with the tragic back story. Guess what, they hooked up and are now in a relationship. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:50 PM
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You are right and wrong with respect to this post. Serial killers and dangerous men get love letters from women who are attracted to such people. It's some kind of sexual paraphilia. Most woman, or for that matter, most people find them dangerous and creepy. But in general, in majority of real life scenario, the difference between a creep and romantic admirer is weather they are perceived as handsome or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:29 PM
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In personal life, I have never been body shamed as such for being short. Yeah, it does have an effect on dating life and that's for sure. But blatant, or even subtle body shaming was extremely rare for me. And you can't really base your opinions on internet. There are tons of people who puts forward degredatory remarks against other individuals/groups just to get views. And people with bottled up frustration likes and comments on them. Algorithm present them to you. I am sure how much of the rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:52 AM
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Chad is my friend. For reference, I would consider myself a 4/10 man and him a 5 or maybr 6 out of 10 guy. 5'6" or 5'7" (Average height here). Not at all muscular. Extrovert. And yes, he can put up a narcissistic face when needed (although he is not really one). So he gets hookups once a month, for almost 7 or 8 months an year. His secret- talks with fake intrest in stuffs they are intrested in English (our language is different) to emphasise he is serious. He had around 5 failed relationships t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:58 AM
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It’s never complimenting how handsome the actual doctor themselves are (except for the very few men that actually are both hot and doctors). True words bro. True words. Second last time I had tinder, I got zero matches in 4 weeks. Last time when I reinstalled it, I flaunted my physician title in it. Exactly same profile otherwise. Got around 15 matches in 3 weeks. Turns out, none were intrested in my looks or some catchy catchphrases I put up or how I communicated with them. So I stopped it all …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:07 AM
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If you crush a cockroach, you are a hero. If you crush a butterfly, you are a villain. Morals have aesthetic criteria. It's the same fucking thing. So either go for uglier woman who might see you in their level or like what I did accept the fact that you are gonna be sad and alone for most of your life and put effort to be just alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:44 PM
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It might be your observation but where I am from, I see all kinds of couple- both ugly, both average, both super good looking and the combination of them. But it's mostly people who are on similar levels of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:38 PM
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Who the fuck with something working inside their head gives two fucks about experience dude. As far as my knowledge goes, for most people, if you aren't selfish in bed or bad to an extreme level, it's okay as long as you are putting effort in improving (if it needs improvement). A relationship needs a set of things to work and I honestly don't believe experience is one among it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:35 PM
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It's just that more men are horny. You'll see more ugly women with average looking dudes than ugly dudes with average looking girls. Rather than saying "women are attracted to less men" it would be "men are attracted to more women"!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 01:16 PM
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She's not yours, it's just your turn. One of the most important regret in my life is not realising this sooner. It's baffling to see how easy it was for many women in my life to forget everything like it never happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 01:07 PM
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Yeah. I get your point. And IMO, people who are upset are mostly upset online as far as I've seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:30 PM
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I think emotional immaturity is a significant factor. Younger women and even older ones without proper emotional development seek that excitement and fun in relationship. They don't necessarily care about the long term compatability or viability of their relationship. They are too immature to realise any long term relationship with such a person is near impossible. Once they are run through enough times will they realise the importance of other things in a relationship. Then either they cry "whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:40 PM
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Finally, someone talking some sensible stuff!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:37 PM
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My college batch has 300 students (it's hell of a sight to see all 300 sitting under one roof for theory classes). About 90% of them are on insta. And idk about the west, but we don't see a less cool person as a loser and not follow them on insta. So an average person will have atleast 200 followers/following from batch mates. Add seniors and juniors to this. Add people from high school and below that. Then add people from professional background looking for networking. So having some 400 follwe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 03:21 AM
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No history of cheating- Once a cheater, always a cheater! A personality and world views so that we can have good deep conversations and decent communication skills!! This is something I value so much in a potential partner! No exceptionally high body count. Never gonna say a woman must be virgin but body count does matter IMO This may be a bit of stretch but no type A, B or C personality defects. Not too extreme in their political or religious beliefs. Educated! Healthy weight. Not expecting som…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:54 PM
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What makes her a great mom? Apart from carrying me in womb, breadfed me and took care of me in my childhood and even in some way now, she has always been very nurturing and loving without expecting (but hoping) anything in return. There is nothing such as unconditional love but my parents' were closest to that! Do you feel that your mother has shaped your expectations of what a woman should do as a partner, wife and mother? Not completely. I'm aware she is from a different generation abd don't e…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:18 AM
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But I wasn't mentioning about the epidemiology of depression. I was just replying to OP observations.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:46 AM
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Cognitive triad of depression is actually hopelessness, helplessness and worthlessness. Well, idk about the west but I've seen many men of my community in such a state. And ours is not a "sleeping around" kinda dating scenario but one that is predominantly "serious relationship". So that might be one associated factor!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:15 AM
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This is true. Most men have that drive to get a woman. I don't think that's necessarily bad too. I mean, isn't passing your genes to next generation a basic survival instinct. But my problem with such a mentality is that, once such a hope of finding someone good for you is lost, all that drive goes away. I went through such a situation a few months ago. Fortunately I realised I have lots of other things to live for, like my family, my career etc. So it's sort of my advice for my younger self- al…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:16 AM
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I think there are quite a few reasons for that! Online advice is mostly just shit: It's either women trying to virtue signal how virtuous they are and "all men superficial" or guys who have never been in a serious relationship with the normal everyday woman. Both doesn't represent real life. Vague advices: (This is purely my personal view) It's almost always get in shape, this, that, bleh, bleh. Don't get me. These things are important. But they should be followed with the intention of being bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 04:17 PM
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Anyone can be fucked up be their failed relationship. Some get over it. Others mental health crumbles. I don't think women are affected more by it based upon my personal experience and existing evidence (never came across a paper showing this).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:21 PM
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I mean, even if I agree with entirity if you post, but personally I don't think we should restrict the personal choice of women (or that matter of fact, anyone) to become a mom, irrespective of her marital status. Hence such restrictions on AI is irrational for me. Regarding hiding the fact that someone has a child, I think that can be a reason for being fined ig, fathers need to be given the choice to be involved in the lives of their children. But such acts cannot be applied to AI or ONS ig!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:04 PM
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Selfish, narcissistic, self centered. You may use these terms as per your moral views. But how can this be made illegal? Someone gets pregnant from a ONS and she decides to keep it. How are you gonna stop it? Force her into abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:54 PM
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To quote a close female friend of mine Physical attraction just means 1% for women, but that 1% is the initial 1% that dictates the rest 99%
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:03 PM
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Couldn't it possible that they would value affection, care and other positive things in a relationship because they have been deprived of it and hence less likely to cheat even if they get the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:38 AM
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I’ve talked too has talked so poorly of marriage. This is a 80s or 90s comedy stuff. Even in my place (India), where women face DV and other forms of non violent, non physical abuses, there are comedy sketches showing how marraiges are a losing game for men and how theur lives become living hell post marraige. They cite example of how these men have to now listen to their wives, spend less time with their bros etc. But a lot of times, women leave their house post marraige and stay with their hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:52 AM
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Let me share with you a small experience of mine. I am a complete teetotaller and never ever drank alcohol or smoked or used any kinda narcotics. So I preffered someone like that. But I fell in love with this amazing girl. Around 1 month into relationship, I understood she drank occasionally, that too in moderate amount. But at that point, I didn't care because she was such a great person. That relationship ended because of some factors that were entirely out of our hands but we still are good f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:41 AM
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Idk brother. I sense a lonely future for you if you are so rigid in you preferences. Sorry to put it so blunt. I too am a virgin man and interested in sex with only someone with whom I am in a serious relationship that I'm sure to escalate into a marraige. But I realised looking for a virgin woman is like looking for needle in a haystack or I need to go behing 18 year old which I find creepy (even though I am just 23 year old). But more importantly, I realised there is no relevance in that. As l…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:35 PM
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Does that even matter. He wants sex. He gets it. It's a consensual sex. She may or may not have intention to turn it to a serious one but idk. He said most of the girls he hook up with are ones looking for casual fun. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:19 PM
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Men marry who they want How the fuck do you think you'll be the deciding factor in marraiges when you can't get the woman in the first place. It's not "Men" who marry anyone they want, it's those subset of men who are sucessful in dating a lot of women. They have the option and they marry the one they want. Rest of cucks can wait to be picked by some woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:00 PM
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But unlike getting shot, you need to get sunlight. I need to be exposed more because melanin doesn't allow a lot to penetrate my skin. You can't compare sunlight and bullets!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:54 PM
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I have dark skin. My melanin necessitates me to get some sunlight. I need my Vitamin D! Maybe you white folk can afford to stay inside! Edit: All Vit D pills ain't the same shit. Vit D is actually a hormone with multiple different forms. And why should I spend money on some supplement if my body is able to synthesize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:47 PM
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From what I've seen, women don't tolerate much (in dating scenario, not in other aspects of life) from guys thet don't find attractive but kinda tolerate most of the shitty behavior from guys they are attracted to or in a relationship with!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:26 AM
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I do respect your views and you might be functioning like this and respect for you! Even I felt the same way until recently. But if you look at this post and most it's comments , you'll see how a lot of women just repulsed by the guy showing too intrested in them. Confused by this, I sent the post to few of my female friends and they agreed, they don't feel particularly intrested in someone easy to get. So although I think what you've written is how you works, but might not be helpful in general…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:57 AM
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mine is 3 and almost every man I’ve told has accused me of lying I am a guy who do care about body count. But I think obsessing over it is unhealthy. I believe as long as it's comparable to yours and was not in casual hookups, it's ok for me. If someone is too concerned about n count and still don't trust the person, how can they ever be happy in a longterm relationship! Also, if you consider yourself a non traditional woman, won't it be better to not go on dates with someone who is looking for …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:37 AM
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Each person have their own set, mine are pretty simple ig. * Through words and actions, just convey to me that my presence in your life as a partner makes it happier and better. Does this bare minimum and I'm happy as a child * Plan for dates and similar surprises. * Gifts- no need for something expensive. Just to show you care. I still have a keychain that my female best friend gave as a surprise gift! I am a simple guy ig!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:13 AM
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Dating success depends on what you aim. One of my friend who regularly sleeps with random women is an extremely misogynistic person. Yet he has no lack of luck in sleeping with random people. Yes, his long term dating life will be shitty af but still, his life is what a lot of guys wish they had!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:01 AM
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admit when he's wrong about something. As a man, that's something I admire in my potential partner. Shows how matured they are as a person!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 03:33 PM
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"Grass is always greener on the opposite side." I am a 5'4" (on the lower side of average height here), average looking (maybe a 5/10 ig) neurotypical guy. I have always felt it would've been better if I was a taller and a little good looking. I am not saying women care about looks only or you don 't need communication skills or confidence if you are taller. But personally, I have seen how taller friends with worse communication skills than mine living dating life on easier mode because the girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 07:51 AM
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Most straight forward answer " Someone who gives zero fucks about traditional gender roles I think there is a difference between not wanting and not caring. For example I would consider myself a modern man because of the above arbitary definition. I prefer a relationship where there is equitable financial contribution (need not always be 50/50. If I earn significantly more than my partner, naturally I can't expect her to put as much as I can contribute). But, I don't mind being the sole provider…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:04 AM
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Regularly emotionally vulnerable around his partner I personally don't this is really a good thing to do if you want the relationship to last. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying men should not open up. I really think men should have few friends with who they can open up and unload the emotional baggage. But be really careful to who you open up. I had one relationship in the past and there when I opened up and showed my emotional side, I clearly noticed a change in her attitude towards me and not…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 03:56 AM
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Addictions Cant keep a job Cant maintain personal finances Too many failed relationships in a very short period of time : nothing to do if she had sex or not. Can't keep a conversation forward Extreme beliefs- political or religious Too sensitive to jokes- I'm a funny guy. Personality disorders- eg: BPD, Antisocial personality disorder, Narcissistic PD etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:49 PM
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Most of the women I know of doesn't like casual sex or guys intrested in casual sex only. So hence I wrote how befriending someone with intentions of sleeping around for few times and leaving is worse than befriending someone in hopes of a long term commited relationship. Relative differences! equally problematic when one-sided. Hence they propose one day and seek their response. Remaining friends causes less trouble. So if a guy feels uncomfortable to be in a friendship post rejection, don't he…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 08:05 AM
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I am not suggesting romantic intentions are not more deserving of praise. Good intentions, in comparison with bad ones does not deserve ridicule. If their intentions were not cynical like using them for sex. And hence need not be adressed with strong words with strong negative connotations. And when he found out his expectations are unreasonable, he left without causing anymore trouble. Isn't that woman (and for that matter anyone) would what- that guy being rejected doesn't cause further troubl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:52 AM
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Ohh God, it's you again! Their intentions were not cynical. Also I get your point. That's what I've explained later in that comment why these women feel the way they feel. And also the guys' POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:37 AM
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Yoi! Why you posting my pic and calling me a misogynist?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 05:06 AM
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I think there is every right for a woman to get mad. But that isn't a justification for public shaming of men or calling such guys unkind words. I think men should communicate regarding leaving that friendship. Unlike some crazies in comments calling that friendship as scam or manipulation, most guys usually develope feeling gradually. For such men, staying in friendship after rejection can be painful. I argue such men should atleast open up about that before leaving the frienship because they m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:40 AM
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Would I be happy? No I would spend my day in despair depressing over why God (if one exists) hate me so much so as to not get that feeling of being valued and liked by someone special. Will I survive ? Yes I have a job that's very engaging and competitive. So there is something to live for always. Maybe the momentary happinesst from getting a publication in my name might fill the void in my heart. What would you spend all your time doing? Clincis, research, teaching. How would you explain it to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:00 AM
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Was he convicted by a Court of Law for you to claim he raped women????
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:47 AM
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Things may be different based on our cultures but from based on where I come from, I think even for a lot of men who are happy by themselves, there is a pressure from social circles (friends, family, colleague etc.) that see older single men as some kind of weirdo, especially if they are virgins. I mean I don't think I would have to describe this shaming to a bunch of people here who shames anyone as incel for not agreeing to their views. Women too have to face similar societal judgements but fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:39 AM
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I wish I had their PR team. I would've been the next Prime Minister of my country.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:16 PM
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Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy. Damn bro, I feel like Dr. House.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:11 PM
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Devil is always in the details! they see women as people and consider everything into account Absolutely true. Provided they are looking for something serious and long term. However, if they are not serious and just want to sleep around under pretext of dating- then don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:05 PM
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Still looking for The One! 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:57 PM
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I prefer a suppository! Preferably a vibrating one!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:54 PM
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Different men desire different things. For me: * Companionship * Friendship * Sex (lots of it) * Emotional support * Financial support
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:51 PM
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Idk if men believe or not. I just think if they are are paying them for some good time, let them have it. I still don't think there is no big difference between paying for a sex worker and a ONS- just a bunch of sex hungry people trying to put their pee-pees somewhere!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:54 AM
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So you say!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:43 AM
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The first guy paid women to use their body to masturbate with. No, the first guy used money as the key to attaining consent for sex from a woman who set the condition in such a way instead of the woman in second scenario where she was intrested in his looks, communication skills, humor and/or other attributes as the criteria for providing consent. Will the consenting adults make that act pleasurable is upto their skills in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:39 AM
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I concur. A couple of years ago, I had OP's opinion. And once I was discussing it with my female friend about how dating life was difficult to average and below average looking men when compared to their female counterparts of same league. She was not a conventionally attractive woman and she told me how dating like of below average looking women are basically non existant. They are basically invisible to most men. They don't hesitate to get together with average and below average looking men (w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 07:10 AM
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Vegan might be a good option. But certain vegan food have high calories and shouldn't be eaten too much under the false sense of security that it's not gonna give you weight. Avoid high carb diet. As well as food with high glycemic index Do weight training. Try intermittent fasting. Have your dinner at 7.30night and breakfast at 7.30 morning. Don't spend too much time on reddit. And most importantly, consult a physician/dietician and get yourself some profession help. You are welcome!😌
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:30 AM
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In my case, it's not that men are not shamed, but rather women are shamed more for relatively less amount of drinking than men. that affects others in the same way as sex or violence. I would disagree on that. * People addicted to such habits are a burden on family and to a large extent society, not to mention how agression and acts of violence are influenced by intoxication * How is sex between two consenting adults harmful to others? I couldn't get you there! a point of defending violent behav…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:13 AM
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As someone who don't like sleeping around without intention of forming a LTR or having sex with someone without having a emotional bond, I would say a high n count in man also is a vice for me. Not that men have it freely available but I don't think I am really comfortable hanging out with people with such high body count. And I don't think n count devalue someone or make them less of a human. Apart from that, being from south asia, few vices men enjoy without societal pressure are * Freedom to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 02:36 AM
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I don't think it's a false equivalency. You may argue the correct analogy for that is women hiring male escorts but the fact that male escorts are very rare compared to female escorts and in some situations are mostly hired by other males shows women don't really need escorts to fullfil sexual desires. I think man who've hired escorts is same as a man who've had that many amount of ONS/hookup with women they've met in some night party or something like that. Yes, mutual attraction is needed in s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 01:29 AM
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Personally, I am not a RP guy, or for that matter any pill or dermal patches or whatsoever. But I feel there are certain things wrong with this post in my view. And I honestly think men on this sub should stop posting about it So basically the entire post is about your POV as a woman which is not inherently wrong as it is. But I don't think it's right for you to say men should or shouldn't do a particular thing because it's not in line with your POV. I once thought it was easy for all women in d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 05:41 AM
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Two things you have said, IMO, are incredibly relevant: I've heard women are gatekeepers of sex and men gatekeepers of relationships. This is wrong. Exactly. Have heard a lot of men finding peace with this statement. Even I used this statement to cope. But if you didn't had access to sex, which, in all probability meant you didn't had access to a lot of women, how can you think you have access to relationship. These kinda men are only second or even third choice for a lot of women. Beggars can't…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:57 AM
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Men do have standards. Usually a lot of them. But these are reserved for commitment and ling term relationship. Most guys would happily fuck most woman. He doesn't care if she has kids or older than 35 or had big boobs or small ass or plus size or broke or uneducated. But when they look for something serious, someone whom they are gonna introduce to their friends and families as wife/gf- that is when they really care about standards. Then they would really give two fucks about the many of the th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 09:16 AM
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What do you mean by "nice guys"? I have heard this a lot that most women don't prefer "nice guys" and "nice guys finish last"!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 05:19 AM
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I am equally attracted to plus size women (around the type as you have shown in the image) as a woman of normal BMI. And no, not as some type of weird kink or fetish. Infact, I think a lot of guys are attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:00 AM
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The comments are dire opposite of what I thought it would be and your's are the only one that making sense for me. But do you think your opinion might have been influenced by your age and emotional maturity you've gathered over that years (Idk about your age but something tells me you are above 30)?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 01:30 PM
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It maybe because English is not my first language but I don't understand how what I've written is insulting to women (which was never my intention). I was mentioning how, when I first entered the so called dating market a few years ago, a lot of women in my friends circle told me women considered personality over looks. I wasn't looking to jumping into a pool of ultra good looking girls and expecting them to drool over my personality. If anything, this statement gave me confidence to approach wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 05:20 AM
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I wasn't mad or bitching about it. Just shared my life experience. You don't need to dictate me on how to live my life!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:36 AM
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Yes it is!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:32 AM
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Dating apps are better off financially if they don't show that and people get more likes and matches. I personally took tinder when my friend who was at my same league look wise told he was getting around 7 matches a week. I was happy if vould get 1 per week as long as the 1 was someone who sahres my similar views. But little did I know he was using premium services. So basically they need you getting more and more likes to push you for paid services as well as to make more people join them!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:40 PM
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While being attracted to someone physically is not something superficial and nobody should be shamed for it but something that it felt uneasy with was this virtue signalling by many woman irl that "we don't care about looks!". Obviously, since people are anonymous in reddit and hence more honest, never seen this attitude much. While the above statement looks bening, there is certain intricacies that follow if. When they say this shit over and over like it is truth, a lot of less attractive guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:31 PM
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Sorry, I didn't get you there. I've provided with citations. There are a few more like this but unfortunately not at a situation to go through them all, hence not cited above. And if you want link to entire article, I think these are paid journals but you'll get pirated ones at Sci-hub (which you might already be knowing).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 03:09 PM
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Ilaria Lievore & Moris Triventi (2023) Do teacher and classroom characteristics affect the way in which girls and boys are graded?, British Journal of Sociology of Education, 44:1, 97-122, DOI: 10.1080/01425692.2022.2122942 Steven R. Shaw & Jeffery P. Braden (1990) Race and Gender Bias in the Administration of Corporal Punishment, School Psychology Review, 19:3, 378-383, DOI: 10.1080/02796015.1990.12085476
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:48 PM
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REGARDLESS OF GENDER, is expected to sit down, shut up, and learn at school. Idc about the other points mentioned because they represent more superficial and materialistic aspects of our modern life that are, imho, of concern to a smaller section of people. But what I find concerning is the apathy towards the gender bias at boys in school. A couple of [article](http:// https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02796015.1990.12085476) I have come across show this bias. Obviously I don't expect …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:30 PM
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Well I once thought about hiring some sex workers after an old friend of mine shamed me for still being a virgin. And the fact that it was a girl bruised my male ego even worse. There is no difference between ONS and hiring sex workers. As a guys, in both these situations, I need to put the efforts. Atleast in the latter, there is full probability that I'll get laid. And there are lot of people here looking to make some bucks for SW. But two thoughts stopped me- first, one's morality is tested e…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:21 PM
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I have been virgin shamed quite a few times. I finally stopped caring.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:49 PM
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Not me. Casual sex is something I don't look forward to. Rather stay virgin. Don't care how others would judge me but I don't feel like having sex with someone who I don't have an emotional connection with!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:05 AM
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I don't think just the N count matter. The devil is always in detail. I would rather date a woman who had sex multiple times with 3 guys in past 2 or 3 years so as a part of building a monogamous relationship with these men who she was dating (at different time periods, obviously) than a who who have had like 12 boyfriends in past 1 year and had N count of 3. And I've written before caring about N count is not simply rooted in insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 05:05 AM
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It is a bit sophisticated but I would say reasonable if the husband never watched porn and used to beat his meat without porn, yes, personally for me it's reasonable (purely a personal opinion and am sure other would find it unreasonable which is pretty acceptable) or the wife never liked him watching porn and he promised her he would never watch porn. Again this particular situation about porn is a bit convoluted with the distinction between boundaries and controlling extremly fine but at this …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 11:51 AM
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Considering other things I look for in a LTR to be similar, I would say I will choose the person 2 on any given day. I feel a 5/10 woman with the description you've given is 10/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 07:58 AM
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what would you do? Give her more love and comfort because it's not her that's really limiting the sex, it's the illness or whatever the thing maybe. Which means she too will be missing the sex. In a way, I thing it's important to love each other more..ig Would you leave her or cheat on her? Would never cheat or leave someone in times when they need us the most as I don't want something like that to happen to me in such a a situation. Do you think it is unreasonable if a woman doesn't want her ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 07:55 AM
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Respecting you views but I personally don't think men don't admire their women. They do, maybe in a different way than women. Most men won't want a woman who would be too different to them. Say for example, an intelligent man may marry a less intelligent woman (intelligence as an arbitrary measure by social skills, career and academic acheivements etc and yes, it can be rephrased as in intelligent woman marrying someone more intelligent) but surely they won't prefer a woman who can keep up an in…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 06:31 AM
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I think both male and female hypergamy exist and it is not as blown up as it's discussed! I have discussed this as a Comment to a different post! I think hypergamy exist for both men and women in their own regard, but it's more extensively discussed with respect to women than men. Men tend to marry younger and comparatively more good looking women. Men prefer women with better personality than what they are! And yes, women tent to prefer dudes that are taller than them. But in reality, a good pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 06:20 AM
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I think hypergamy exist for both men and women in their own regard, but it's more extensively discussed with respect to women than men. Men tend to marry younger and comparatively more good looking women. Men prefer women with better personality than what they are! And yes, women tent to prefer dudes that are taller than them. But in reality, a good proportion of women does care about height if the difference is extreme. Just as they are disgusted about dating a guy with is a foot smaller than t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 06:06 AM
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Copy pasting from my old comment to some post in the very same subreddit! No history of cheating- Once a cheater, always a cheater! A personality and world views so that we can have good deep conversations and decent communication skills!! This is something I value so much in a potential partner! No exceptionally high body count. Never gonna say a woman must be virgin but body count does matter IMO This may be a bit of stretch but no type A, B or C personality defects. Not too extreme in their p…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 10:37 AM
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The term incel is thrown around like the word "racist" these days as a means of demonizing someone who holsa views that are different from you and perhaps offends you personally (which is a subjective thing in many ways) and hence lost any significance for me whatsoever! When I was introduced to this term a couple of years ago, the picture that I've had in mind is a woman hating guy rotting in his basement spewing hate filled comments against posts about/of women. But after a bit of introspectio…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 05:59 AM
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I mean unconditionally and without the need to have sex, Dude, most people don't love anyone unconditionally. Everyone is loved under certain conditions. Not gonna explain it much, but we all expect something from others in a relationship and our love for them diminishes when they can't provide that we want under reasonable circumstances (like when we are ill, obviously they wont be like before but that's something we can expect). girl who waits til marriage so it makes me wonder if they simply.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:25 AM
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While I ageee with the first part of your comment, as far as my experience goes, I strongly disagree with: women rarely say this kind of thing about men. A lot of women makes comment mocking physical traits of men in both online platforms as well as irl. They tend to make such comments more on private spaces more than publically. Men also make similar kinda comment regarding women but they tend to be more loud about it. For eg. - idk, if it's because of difference between our cultures but when w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:20 PM
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Yh..it's mostly for forensic purposes. But that wasn't the point of discussion. I was replying to the factual error that they've made!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:11 PM
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You are factually wrong. Hip bones can be used to predict sex by upto 95% accuracy. Skull can be used to predict with 90% Combine above 2, you can guess sex with accuracy of 99%
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:04 PM
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Welcome to the club!🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 07:02 PM
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No I don't think there is pressure to enter romantic relationship. Rather there is pressure, or rather a distorted and unhealthy sense of glory in how many woman you have slept with. In other words, playboys and "chickmagnets" are perceived as something heroic in many areas. Yes, it does signify a guys has enough game to attract a lot of girls they are intrested in, but it automatically signifies virgin men or men with low count (even if it's voluntary) as incompetent (with respect to dating sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 03:32 AM
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Virgin shaming of guys are a real thing, especially among some friends' groups and even in dating scenario. I've heard a lot of women admitting that an average looking guy who is virgineven after 25 years (more or less) are a walking red flag. Even incel shaming is in a way virgin shaming (even though we refer to certain types of weirdos as incels, the concept behind it is the same). In short, virgin shaming of men happens in both guys' and girls' circles!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 03:28 AM
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I absolutely don't care about the virginity bullshit! I don't care getting together with someone who had sex before as long as they did it with a person they think they were gonna commit for a long term. But the thing is, I don't go for casual sex and hence want someone who has the same values. I don't want someone who fuccs the first guy they see when they are horny. Do anyone of here thinks it's delusional to expect someone like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:00 AM
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I never believed in the RP bullshit that I would be drowning in titts once I become a sucessful guy in my 30s nor do I want that. Just one person who shares my values is all that is enough for me. But honestly, this is a bit depressing to read for a guy like me! Never had sexual experience because I absolutely hate hooking up and casual sex! Went to limited number of dates hoping they were also looking for something serious but most were not! Very selective in who I want to pursue for a relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:52 PM
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I think only very few communities, who haven't been properly exposed to social media and tech still believe in this hymen BS. Most communities these days have understood that hymen is as fragile as certain people's ego and can be torn if a girl jumps or run too fast. Unless there is clear proof to contrary, most would just accept someone body count, in my experience!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 04:56 PM
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If this is the case, then you are not truly from a conservative community. Bro, I am from Southern India and we have a lot of conservative hindus, muslims and christians here! Most young people gets relatively more freedom once they starts going colleges and that is exactly when they becomes promiscuous. And yes, a lot of religious and conservative heads came up forwards discouraging education of women in past citing thus reason (something which has to be opposed with teeth and nails). We have i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 04:53 PM
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Unless it's extreme, I don't think there is a significant incentives for low n count for women (exceot for certain studies showing correlation beyween body count and sucess of relationships). The simple fact is that most women can and will have lots of relationships and hence will have high count A small proportion of highly desirable men will have very high body count (even more than their desirable female counterparts). A group of men will also have a certain body count. Those who get no strin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 03:33 PM
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more traditional cultures, having a low body count can be the determining factor if you get married How does that even work! I come from a conservative community (when compared to the west). A lot of women here are very promiscuous even though at large, the community doesn't view promiscuous people (women more than men) as desirable partners. I'm not talking about having BFs and having sex witht them, but more number of people are having casual NSA type sex! But a lot of these women (and guys to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 03:25 PM
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"I used the stones to destroy the stones" 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:43 PM
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IMO, before blaming society or women for their supposed unrealistic standards men have to take strong actions and have reasonably good standards as well! Simps have to stop going out of their ways in pleasing women, in other words simps have to stop being simps. The so called playbois should have a bit of standard in who they sleep with rather than fornicating with each and every women they can get their promiscuous hands on. Men in general have to understand that their purpose should be to deve…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:36 PM
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There are atleast a dozen studies showing impact of short height in men even outside dating place but hey, thanks for the moral support!!!❤️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:18 PM
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Isn't it same for men?? I believe everyone is loved with conditions. Guys love women in expectations of certain things from her! Woman reciprocate the same feelings. When a guy is with a woman, he'll expect a reasonable amount of physcial intimacy from her! And there will be situation where she might not be able to give it to you- stress of life, illnesses etc. But not all men gives up on her immediately. Same applies with women, let's say in case of a man lost his job and is entirely depended o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:06 PM
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And what I don't agree with your article is, I think women has it harder than men in many areas (considering my part of the world, please note this!) but not in sexual/dating market. Even in a relatively patriarchial society like mine, women have so much advantage than men. Even in western countries, the condition of average looking men and women are in no way comparable! Height is something more important than looks, weight or money. The impact on having good physique (wide shoulder to smaller …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 03:09 AM
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Idk about USA (or wherever you are from) it's certainly not the case for many areas!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:26 PM
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Happiness is a state of mind to a very extreme subjective degree (yes, there can be objective states where you can/cannot, under reasonable circumstances, be happy! I have a near perfect life- loving, caring parents wholeheartedly taking care of my finances, a dozen or so good friends, single (I presume thats because I have low self esteem and good amount of Imposter syndrome), doing okay in studies, good career prospects (with all humility and gratitude to the almighty, if one exists)...etc. Ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:23 PM
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As a man, my answer is slighly different from most of guys here but hear me out before you judge me!! So for context, I'm from a different cultural background than most of guys here, so that may explain my difference of opinion! For pornstars and OF with their identity out, it's a strict NO! Most have history of abuse and their minds are pretty fucked up apart from their videos out in the internet for eternity! As far as sex workers and OF girls (not categorized as above) are considered, I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 11:35 AM
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Can't these woman also go abroad out of the same desperation that drives men abroad? And how sucessful do you think these men will be if there are men from west moving east en masse?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:17 AM
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I agree with you! The thing I wanted to highlight was...most of the time..this 40% woman are gonna be single narrative comes from RP guys as a tactic of showing repercussion of woman having high standards. I assumed that the person to who I replied made it in same sense (and forgive if I am wrong)..but I just wanted to know what happens to men as well! And yes..I got your point...they might be comfortable in being single!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:14 AM
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Here is what I don't get .... many RP guys who speaks about "the holy wall" always make this statement that 40% woman are gonna be single in x amount of time and like that. That makes me wonder, lets say ratio of heterosexual male:female is 1:1..then wouldn't men also be single by the same proportion! why do you assume there are that many men who desperatly want to get married? And same could be said about these 40% woman right (obviously there will be some femcels and woman who are unfortunatel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:05 AM
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What about men? Who are they gonna marry? Passport bros?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:44 AM
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My opinion is that some of the redpill delusions and narratives are centered around self improvement for having a playboy lifestyle. Something that I've learned and will teach my children (if I have any in future) is job, money, status, career and other skills..all this should be there for a person to function properly in a society. Finding a monogamous (I am not a fan of casual flings and hook ups) partner is one (but significant nonetheless) event in that journey. However, the way I see it...f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 07:18 AM
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I think your question is flawed with respect to the "attention" term! Everybody loves attention. A person need not have type C personality disorder with insatiable apetite for attention but most men and women prefer attention in the dating scenario. People won't hate not being totally invisible! I would like to take the liberty of reframing the question into "getting option of no companionship whatsoever or options of companionship from the worst." In such a scenario, I prefer to be an incel (no…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:55 AM
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Why am I getting Pearl Davis vibes from your post. Like interview a very small number of guys, and then extrapolating it to grand scale, drawing extreme conclusions and in a way passively criticizing ______ (include man/woman) for their preferences and choice! There are surely cultural differences between us and this may be the reason for my difference of opinions. And settle down woman and man (whatever the terms redpill guys use) is what I've seen in arranged marraiges in my area! I personally…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:45 AM
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Caste is a shitty and heinous concept, I would say similar to racism. It's something you are born into! You can't change it! Modern right wingers and caste sympathizers have various statements at their disposal for sugarcoating this archaic and malicious concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:25 AM
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I ain't a 10/10 either.😂 I'm barely a 4/10 in my best day. Moreover, I think in a long term fashion (sacrifice today for a better tomorrow kinda guy). So however looks a person have, whats the point if they don't have the qualities I consider important for long term!😅
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:14 AM
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No history of cheating- Once a cheater, always a cheater! A personality and world views so that we can have good deep conversations and decent communication skills!! This is something I value so much in a potential partner! No exceptionally high body count. Never gonna say a woman must be virgin but body count does matter IMO This may be a bit of stretch but no type A, B or C personality defects. Not too extreme in their political or religious beliefs. Educated! Healthy weight. Not expecting som…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:23 AM
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Don't take me wrong bro, but IMO, if you were a guy who voluntarily kept your body count low, you would've the moral right to be insecure about the current situation! But you've such a high count. So if I were you, I would keep my chill and would be putting effort to make the relationship healthier! Best Wishes!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:18 AM
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I think it's stupid and relevant at same time. Stupid because high body count of Men being celebrated. (IK..IK..it's hard for him to get and hence shows skill..blah...blah...but just because you can doesn't mean you should. If we are shaming women for the same but celebrating men, even though men has power to control it..is hypocritical according to me). Although most of the manosphere and redpill guys shames women for high body count and men are shamed for low body count, why I think it matters…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:59 AM
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Women DO need to compete with younger women. I won't disagree. Contrary to popular redpill narrative, I believe both men and women are hypergamous and men choose the most young, fertile and beautiful lady he can get his hands on. I won't say women don't face any competition. But the state of an average man is NOT the same as that of an average woman in dating scenario. I would say the state of average guy is comparable with the of the least good looking woman out there (may not be as miserable a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:48 AM
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It's about the time! After date, if they are not impressed by my values, communication skills, my personality..It's absolutely fine by me. But my height or any physical trait isn't something that changed in that time. So if they were not okay with that, they could've said the before hand itself, not after wasting my time!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 07:03 AM
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When it comes to dating, there are a few things that irritates me about female nature- The sheer frikking lack of participation- I can understand that they are in a position of previlage where women choose the guy and men have to compete like animals within themselves. But many a times I've seen women writing "make me laugh" or "won't reply if it's just a hey or whatsup". So you somehow think of or google a good pick up line and continue with convo, adding topics to the conversation so that it d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 05:44 AM
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Even worse is the mental health scenario. Men with depression have stated that therapy aren't useful for them as most of times they are accused of toxic masculinity! https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8165839/
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 04:48 PM
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I am from India and I can give a list of misogynistic views that we have here in south east Asia. Can someone from western world gives instances of misogyny there (don't know much about the cuture there!)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 04:04 PM
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