Difference in Attitude Towards Sexual Past between Men and Woman!

darkredpintobeans · 2023-10-09T13:04:52+00:00

So that's how my dad keeps getting new girlfriends, I used to try to warn them because I'm a woman too, and I've seen how he treats women, but they never listen. If your partner has a daughter who never talks to him and never visits without her brother with her, that should be a huge red flag. There's always someone out there willing to look past all red flags and abandon rationality for the sake of not being alone.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2023-10-09T13:05:29+00:00

>women give too little importance to sexual/dating history of their prospective partner.

Hell NO, try finding a partner as a virgin or someone that has little to no experience and you'll see that women put a massive importance on history, they do not want to fill an empty spot and feel like "teaching" how to sex.

slinkysadie · 2023-10-09T13:11:58+00:00

Honestly I see body count as an indicator of value and self-respect. Anyone who holds themselves in high esteem (man or woman) wouldn’t inflate their body counts to ridiculously high numbers.

I see why men pay a lot of attention to it in women, because to an extent yes — it is an indicator of the quality of a woman. A woman willing to give away such intimidate parts of herself to any random dude is not girlfriend material.

Similarly, women pay attention to it (albeit to less of a degree) in men. The difference is, society actually champions the narrative that a man with a high body count is a high-value man. While some girls buy into it, educated girls see it for what it is: an excuse to be a man-whore. Just like with women, a man who so easily gives away the most intimate parts of himself does not have any regard for himself.

Just my thoughts.

Mobrowncheeks · 2023-10-09T14:51:39+00:00

The only reason people think this is because the average man has a low body count.

If it was the average for men to have 20-30-40 bodies. Y’all would see that women are intimidated by, and disgusted by it too.

Ok_Smile_60 · 2023-10-09T13:58:02+00:00

As someone who married a very promiscuous women, she ended up turning hoe and leaving. I wouldn’t recommend the increase risk it brings to a relationship.

For women, eh, marrying a virgin is rough, he might be one for a good reason, but usually has a serious social awkardness issue that could cause issues later

throwaway164_3 · 2023-10-09T12:58:41+00:00

Men give too much importance and women give too little importance to sexual/dating history of their prospective partner

You understand why this difference exists though right? It’s evolutionary biology at work

Men have a risk of uncertainty in offspring. They don’t know if a child is theirs or not. So they evolved to view promiscuity in women negatively due to sexual selection .

Women always know their child is theirs. Much lower risk of false maternity, so they don’t have the same selection pressure. They are way more indifferent about promiscuity.

We are primates. Nothing about our behavior makes sense without evolutionary biology.

obviousredflag · 2023-10-09T13:48:28+00:00

Your experience is heavily biased. Perception bias, sample/selection bias, confirmation bias, small sample size.

Who talks about female body counts? Men who have an issue with that. Religious people, insecure people, very conservative values people, sexually inexperienced people, young people.

Who is dating men with a past of abuse? Women who have already dated men who abuse them. It's not that they don't give too little importance to the men's dating history, it's that they are victims of abuse, likely since childhood, and they will continually go for abusers as boyfriends. Years of therapy can maybe change this cycle and break the preference for this kind of "love".

Opening_Tell9388 · 2023-10-09T15:01:32+00:00

If a woman's past or her ex partners threatens you as a man. Don't be with her. Some of us men are just less sensitive about peoples past partners. That's okay.

Alexa play "Sensitivity" by Ralph Tresvant

Few-Notice9304 · 2023-10-09T13:02:07+00:00

I would say you’re fairly on the money,

Although women are wary of the body count if its extremely high, but that probably a rarer case (I think).

My best guess as to why the difference is there is just the nature of the sexual marketplace.

Men don’t want to be compared to 20 previous dudes they’d rather teach a virgin. Where women it’s less about the sexual insight and more of a character insight.

In both cases it’s a character insight but the sexual performance comparison and competition is not there.

Maybe the closest ‘competition’ aspect for a woman would be how ‘pretty’ the previous girls were.

Just my thoughts.

wtknight · 2023-10-09T15:35:22+00:00

Women do care about the sexual past of a man, but often, a man who was able to have a lot of casual sex is the symbol of a high value man to women, so it's actually a plus to them. A woman being able to have a lot of casual sex doesn't mean anything except possibly something negative to men, on the other hand. So this is the big difference between how men and women view sexual history of the opposite sex.

harmonica2 · 2023-10-09T17:02:33+00:00

If a woman has a higher body count, can't a guy uses to his advantage and find out what she is into you from that high body count as opposed to being with a virgin woman who you have to teach and have nothing to work off of to please her?

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2023-10-09T17:34:20+00:00

Men and women are not the same and are looking for different things regarding sex with the potential partners so it makes sense for their attitudes and preferences to be different.

Women want good sex, stamina and someone who they can trust to guide and teach them about their sexuality, so it makes sense for them to not want virgin and inexperienced men as their partners. It also makes sense for women not to care about men's sexual because they are actually looking for men who have a sexual past and a lot of experience.

Men want women who have a low risk aversion and are sexually exclusive to them for their fear of paternity and relationship uncertainty. Men also like to be in control and teach their partners about sexuality, you can only do this with a less sexually experienced woman. So it makes sense for men to care more about sexual history than women and to not want to be in comitted relationships with women with a sexual past or high body count

TSquaredRecovers · 2023-10-09T17:44:13+00:00

I haven’t experienced this obsession with past sexual history. All of the men I’ve dated have been similar to me in that we both had past sex lives. No guy ever directly asked me about body count or anything like that, although after being in a relationship for some time, discussions organically would happen where we’d both talk about our exes (though obviously not the actual sex acts within those relationships, because that’s fucking weird). No guy has ever cared, and I’ve never cared about their pasts. It seems that experienced men are less likely to be fixated on this sort of thing. However, I’m sure there are some men who are.

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toasterchild · 2023-10-09T13:09:57+00:00

Dating really isn't easy for either sex, sure women can generally get laid really easy but having actual relationships involves all sorts of emotions that get in the way of logical choices. People get attached before they find out the red flags then make excuses for why they really aren't THAT red. Men like to rant about wanting women with a small sexual past but then end up with the opposite all the time, just like women do. If dating was easy then this place wouldn't exist for people to bitch about it. You are more alike than you are different.

SlowEffective8146 · 2023-10-09T13:50:01+00:00

My bodycount is high and I can only count 2 women who ever had a negative reaction to it. Most women do not care as long as you're ticking all of their other boxes.

Brain__Pain · 2023-10-09T14:17:26+00:00

Women seem more bothered about past relationships than past sexual partners.

My ex who slept around a lot before I met her made a huge deal about me having been married before (my one and only previous sexual partner too). I had one "body count". But because of the emotional significance of that one body, she was as insecure about it as a guy would br with his gf if she'd had a thousand "bodies".

Safinated · 2023-10-09T17:41:24+00:00

The attitudes are biologically appropriate

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-10-09T18:45:13+00:00

Just commenting here to remind everyone I like hoe men, with 3-5x my own bodycount.

Title	Difference in Attitude Towards Sexual Past between Men and Woman!
Author	Anxious_Adult123
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Date	October 9, 2023 12:48 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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