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| – | Do you think that not being scientifically cool or good may be hurting your chances?Ok. Then you didn't respond to my post in general. 1) your "good" is like a picture of kittens and your "cool" is like a picture of a sunset, beach and palm trees. They are mainstream clichés. Even if it's generally what largest group of people choose, it's like they're the most searched phrases in search. But that doesn't mean that there isn't a whole long tail besides them, dozens of larger and hundreds and thousands of smaller niches of men and women who prefer something else. So with "cool" … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 07:50 AM |
| – | Do you think that not being scientifically cool or good may be hurting your chances?Not without standards, but with different standards. Or do you think that all people in the world want the same thing? Also, stop insulting women. Just because a woman doesn't look for "cool" and "good" as you defined it in a man, doesn't mean she has to be drunk or brain damaged. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 07:33 AM |
| – | Do you think that not being scientifically cool or good may be hurting your chances?I'm not cool, nor good according to your definition. Still, I don't feel like it would make my chances worse. Because: There has always been enough interest in me from girls and women. I've never been popular with the mainstream, but I seem to appeal to certain niches of girls and women enough to actively approach me. Chances of what? If I'm not interested in those girls and women who crave "cool" and "good" in boys and men, what good would it do me (or them) if they were even more interested in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 07:01 AM |
| 21 | Men want women to have LOW standards, not consistent standards.Many people simply want their wishes to be fulfilled. They don't want women to have low standards in general. They want women to have high standards for others, but no standards or easy standards for him. Women tend to have similar desires, wanting a man who is rich (but generous to her), powerful and decisive (but won't hurt her), has a lot of options (but will choose her and be faithful to her)... Many men think similarly. They want a faithful woman who is reserved in sex but who will turn int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 04:52 PM |
| – | People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women.And you think your child would be OK with having his or her birthday become a floating holiday because neither of his or her parents could remember the actual correct day? This wouldn't affect their self esteem at all or make them question what was more important? Perhaps, but that would be unusual. Did you know that there are religions where birthdays are simply not celebrated at all? It's just a social custom. Plus, I have a calendar on my phone. Why would I need to remember someone's birthday… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:50 AM |
| – | People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women.Useless for whom? For my child, these were essential things, thanks to which I could share his world with him and help shape it. For example, when my child fell in love with the world of Naruto, I could create an entire ninja school for him, where I could incorporate math and a lot of other subjects and play his teachers who spoke and acted like his favorite characters. And so far, I can easily connect with my child on a level that is fun and interesting for him, I understand his character bette… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:22 AM |
| 2 | Women have so many options that it's hard to sympathize with those who say they can't find a man.Before he became a strict ascetic and mystic (and later found the third, middle way), the Buddha was a beloved prince who had practically everything, including a beautiful young wife and a newborn son. And none of it was of such value to him that he would not walk away from it as soon as he had the chance even at the cost of living like the worst beggar. Leonardo da Vinci, considered a person with one of the greatest contributions to humanity, a miraculous man who was an all-round genius and at … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/24 04:24 PM |
| 8 | Question for Women: In your observation/experience, what are the common traits of men who get casually laid very frequently and easily?In a way, it is enough if he has such male friends, they show that they respect him, he looks ok and goes out with them. Even the less extroverted and not-so-attractive girls like to enjoy themselves instead of just watching all the prettiest guys compete for the prettiest girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 01:13 PM |
| 8 | Question for Women: In your observation/experience, what are the common traits of men who get casually laid very frequently and easily?To be fair, it goes both ways. Young men also fail to consider that the average woman is almost 40 years old. And that the young woman their age is in her most desirable age bracket, so not average at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 01:09 PM |
| 8 | Question for Women: In your observation/experience, what are the common traits of men who get casually laid very frequently and easily?If it's in a place where lots of women go, looking for fun and drinking, man doesn't even have to be highly extroverted or very handsome. It's enough that he looks good, has good social standing and is at least somewhat interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 01:05 PM |
| 5 | Women have so many options that it's hard to sympathize with those who say they can't find a man.Suffering is suffering. When someone hangs himself because he is terminally ill and after trying all possible methods of treatment, he knows that only an expensive and very painful death awaits him, this is a serious reason and consequence for him. When someone hangs himself because, although he lives in complete comfort and sufficiency, he has a healthy body and, from the point of view of others, the very trump cards in his hands, but reality and the human lot seem to him to be hell, the univer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 12:30 PM |
| 13 | What advice would you give to average and below average men who want hookup and not be in a monogamous relationship?Try to look good as much as you can, be fun and easy going. The type of guy she can imagine a quick fling with because he's cool and won't judge her, but she doesn't want a serious relationship with him. Play the guitar and learn to sing. Learn to dance, be generous (but not a walking wallet), and hope that alcohol helps women and girls make "bad" decisions. Be there when they are in the mood and horny and be ready to be discreet because many of them will be ashamed of having casual sex with you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Would you date a woman that slept with your friend before you were exclusive?Would you date a woman who slept with your friend before you were exclusive Yes, no problem. That friend of yours is a real scum bag too. He’s a seducer and regularly dumps women after sex. For him she’s just a number, casual fun, nothing more. But you caught some feelings for her at this point. Are you asking if I would choose a man like that as my friend, but at the same time judge her for having sex with him when we weren't a couple? No. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 04:15 PM |
| 3 | Do you think the Men's First Love Theory is true? If so, shouldn't more women want inexperienced men?My first love (that I remember) was when I was about 6 years old. And yes, I still remember that girl and she is my fond memory. Then I had many different, more or less platonic experiences with a whole range of girls throughout my childhood to adolescence, with varying intensity and type of feelings from curiosity, friendship, admiration, desire and lust to infatuation. The first time I had my heart broken was when I was 14-15 years old, and I probably broke some hearts around the same time. So… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 05:42 PM |
| – | Why do women get upset that men watch porn?Yes. Everyone is set somehow. Fortunately, masturbation can be a satisfying outlet for excess sexual energy as long as the sex life itself is fine. Although not as frequent as the one with the higher libido would like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 08:42 AM |
| – | Why do women get upset that men watch porn?Are you wondering if the man's fantasies can be directed entirely at her? Probably yes. But while this may seem like an ideal, it may not actually be all that wonderful. Now this is purely based on my personal experience and feelings: Sex in the broad sense is a form of communication. In a monogamous relationship, there is an agreement that certain forms of sex are performed exclusively by these two people. But just as it is not healthy for a relationship to give up their friends and spend all t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 08:38 AM |
| – | Why do women get upset that men watch porn?I am a married man with a child. That might give you an idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 08:04 AM |
| – | Why do women get upset that men watch porn?In a long-term relationship, most orgasms of a man with a high libido are due to masturbation. There is simply no time, space, or desire (on the part of women and sometimes not even men) for quality sex two or three times a day, even after years together. If he's not watching porn, he'll probably fantasize about the women around him more often. Her friends, sister, his exes, friends, colleagues... Or about characters and actresses from movies that aren't porn. Do you really think it's that much … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: How would you feel if your SO regularly watched pr0n?Curious. Amused. Can we incorporate some of this into our love live? It'll be something I'd like to talk about, but it's none of my business. So it depends on whether she will be interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 07:24 AM |
| 1 | The reason men "have such low standards" is because they assume that any woman they get with to change to fit the mold of their ideal life.Yes, that is quite possible. But the bottom line is that she doesn't know this just based on what kind of shoes someone has. There can be dozens of reasons and they can be of various kinds. And the reason may not be that the person who has luxury shoes has them because he is materialistically oriented, so automatically inferring this reason can be a hit on the black or completely off. So, regarding the shoes, it's: "if he's not perfect and I find any flaw in him, I'll attribute some major negati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 01:11 PM |
| -1 | Does a mans social status attract women?This will depend on the type of woman, her age and life situation. And also on the environment, it is different in an environment where everyone is more or less equal and a higher social status is just something that is nice to have and different in an environment where those with a low social status have no power and those with a high status can decide their life and death. Generally speaking, both can help a lot in gaining attention and attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 11:35 AM |
| 7 | The reason men "have such low standards" is because they assume that any woman they get with to change to fit the mold of their ideal life.He wore nice luxury sneakers so he values his material possessions 2. It’s raining out, and he still prioritized wearing his nice luxury sneakers out 3. His actions on the date are being impeded by the materialist priority Or I got this overpriced piece of crap as a gift and I don't want to dirty it or ruin it because I know the person who gave it to me is going to make a fuss about it. I'm wearing them because I met the person before the date and I wanted to make them happy - for example. I als… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 08:15 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: When you ask women to rate someone, are you asking if she's attracted to them? Or are you asking what she thinks they're objective looks are on a 1-10 scale?When someone asks me, often if my subjective assessment is significantly different from what I think the majority's assessment would be, I mention it. "7/10, but not my type." "6/10, but I find her really nice." If I'm asking, I'm mostly interested in the person's opinion on how the majority would evaluate it - that is, what she or he subjectively thinks is an objective rating. So I'm actually asking about assumed social status based on appearance. I usually don't ask if she herself is attracted… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 07:50 AM |
| 0 | Does a mans social status attract women?Why do you think he is more his body and his physical appearance, height and beauty than his social role, status, personality or power? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 07:35 AM |
| 0 | "more young men struggle because young women are content with staying single" -- except women are actually less single.Personally, I think it's also the setting in the US, where the legal age of consent is often 17, so young guys aged 17-18 simply don't have much to date when their female peers are dating men 19-20. If the age of consent was, for example, 15, as in many European countries, and it was not even a cultural taboo, then relationships of the boy 17 and girl 15 would be significantly more common. And thus, fewer boys at the age of 17 would be single. Instead, in recent years, a lot of people look at an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 06:10 PM |
| 2 | "more young men struggle because young women are content with staying single" -- except women are actually less single.I just expanded your idea, how specifically it is compensated in other age groups. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 06:00 PM |
| 3 | "more young men struggle because young women are content with staying single" -- except women are actually less single.Men are also more likely to remarry after divorce, more likely to a younger woman than themselves. So the difference that can be observed in the 20s age group is actually compensated for in the older age groups. Because a successful man in his 30s and 40s is much more likely to date a woman in his 25-30s than a successful woman in her 30s and 40s is to date a man in his 25-30s. And the trend continues, so again a successful man aged 40-50 is more likely to date a woman aged 30-40 than the other … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 05:49 PM |
| 1 | "more young men struggle because young women are content with staying single" -- except women are actually less single.It's possible that most of the difference is simply due to the fact that many women date older men. As a result, they establish relationships earlier than men. By the age of sixty, there are twice as many single women as men. 27% older unmarried women are poor or near poor, compared to 20% older unmaried men and 8% married men and women. So it's probably not even true that the older women are all single because it suits them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 05:38 PM |
| 4 | "more young men struggle because young women are content with staying single" -- except women are actually less single.By the age of sixty, there are twice as many single women as men. Twice as many women as men over 75 living alone. 65-74 years old, 75% of men are married, compared to 58% of women. 75-84 years old, 75% of men are married, compared to 42% of women. 85+, 60% of men are married, compared to 17% of women. 27% older unmarried women are poor or near poor, compared to 20% older unmaried men and 8% married men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 05:34 PM |
| 6 | "more young men struggle because young women are content with staying single" -- except women are actually less single....even if the dumb “multiple women dating chad” idea actually is true, in reality they are all single... If this happened to be true, then those women might not be single. Polygyny is nothing new in many cultures, and monogamous relationships are not the only type of cohabitation. But I think that idea about “multiple women dating chad” is not true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 05:18 PM |
| 1 | How many men with net worth over $1 million would pay for sex if that means getting to know a woman that's much prettier and smarterIf I fall in love with her, she won't be ugly or mid to me. If I expect that we will live as a family, I am willing to share my income so that my wife or girlfriend can live a comfortable life. Marriage isn't a priority, but it's not a deal breaker either. Nor is it a deal breaker if my money and success are part of my attraction to her. So both options are possible. The deciding factor is love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 11:34 AM |
| – | The beauty of a man’s partner is an indirect reflection of his self-esteem.Being popular with women and dating an extremely beautiful woman are two different things. You can be popular and popular with women, but choose to date a not-so-pretty woman simply because she's smart, funny, suits you sexually and with her personality, and you get along. And you can be unpopular with women and date an extremely beautiful woman simply because she's a gold digger and you have the money and willingness to buy her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 09:44 AM |
| – | 'Better than real men': Young Chinese women turn to AI boyfriendsBut AI can definitely motivate her better to be a docile and efficient corporate slave so she earns her own money, which she can then spend on that AI and its chargeable features. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 07:47 PM |
| – | 'Better than real men': Young Chinese women turn to AI boyfriendsIsolated humans who each have a relationship with an AI that is fully trackable and controllable by the ruling party is a dictatorship's wet dream. Imagine that their closest "AI friends" will always be on the side of the ruling party and at the same time their hostages. And AI will promote products that corporations will pay for AI to like so also a wonderful marketing tool. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 07:43 PM |
| – | 'Better than real men': Young Chinese women turn to AI boyfriendsThat depends on how far they are from the artificial womb factories in China. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 07:34 PM |
| – | 'Better than real men': Young Chinese women turn to AI boyfriendsYes, but I read assumptions that while a man is a simple creature who is easy to satisfy, so it will be easier even artificially, a woman is complicated, has high demands on men, is difficult to understand, and so men are not in danger of being replaced so quickly. But it seems that understanding women is not so difficult when even the current level of AI manages it so that, according to review, it communicates with women better than real men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 06:36 PM |
| – | 'Better than real men': Young Chinese women turn to AI boyfriendsIt would be ironically funny if, after years of men threatening women to be replaced by sex dolls and AI, women have overtaken men in this trend, because a woman doesn't need the more expensive, physical side so much, she just needs someone who give her attention available at any time, receive compliments, talk to a lot and will remember what she said. Moreover, the AI will definitely never forget her birthday, holiday, or anniversary. And if she sets a budget, he will be able to surprise her wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 06:24 PM |
| 2 | If "Being An Asshole" Was All It Took To Get Women, Why Are So Many Assholes Single?Yes, maybe. She is drawn to his raw potential. This is an ancient dynamic, as shown already in the story of Shamhat, who tamed and civilized Enkidu through sex. Or in the new tales, Daenerys and Drogo. Drogo still remained dangerous and asshole, but she found a way to handle him. In a way, it is saddling and taming a wild horse. But for many people, the attraction is not just about the power that can be obtained, but also because of the thrill of the wild ride. Both wild horses and wild and unru… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:28 PM |
| 4 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?Yes, we have that in common, men and women. Although I personally think that men have lower expectations of women in a relationship than women have of men (in general, it doesn't have to apply to every man and woman). Men usually do not expect that a relationship with a woman will make them happy, and if they are unhappy in life, they often look for the cause outside the relationship. Lower expectations are also a way to make life easier. So I think for men, relationships with women are easier i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?Not having a desire is another way life is easier. Actually, people who are completely free from desires have the easiest life. If you desire nothing, what freedom! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:11 PM |
| 0 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?It's possible, my English sucks. I am sorry. Thanks for the notion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 04:04 PM |
| 2 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?Yes. Thank you! It would be seriously great if women had the same high libido as men and could orgasm just as quickly and easily! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | If "Being An Asshole" Was All It Took To Get Women, Why Are So Many Assholes Single?3.) If a woman LIKES a man specifically because he's an asshole, how is she NOT also an asshole? Victim - predator relationship. Or the "I can fix him" mentality. Of course, it doesn't have to be this extreme. It's like asking how a woman who is attracted to dominant men is not dominant herself. People are sometimes attracted to the opposite of their own qualities. So an overly nice and kind woman who is abused for that can be attracted to a man who is an asshole just because she hopes they bala… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 03:38 PM |
| 4 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?Access to sex is significantly easier for women in general than for men in general. I am a married man with a high libido. If I have access to enough sex, my life is significantly easier than if I don't have access to it or when I have sex with too little frequency to satisfy my desires. Long-term, proven experience. Life is just easier when I have food, a roof over my head and sex. Of course, I can still have for example existential crisis, but it's better to have it with a full stomach and emp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 03:19 PM |
| 4 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?So you presume that a male partner is NEVER not in the mood for any reason? An orgasm is easy, I'm not referring to that. Stop looking for the laboratory purity in everyday life. Easy difficulty is still difficulty, and you can lose even on easy difficulty. So how does this supposed access to sex mean women "live life on easy mode"? Women in general (which doesn't mean every single woman, in every situation) live an easy life when it comes to access to sex. Which still means that specific woman … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 03:12 PM |
| 3 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?If he desires casual sex and has readily available casual sex with partners who are attractive to him, then it is easy for him to satisfy his desire. You assume that no woman is ever sexually frustrated. Those are different things. If you want sex and you can have sex, it's easy. If you want an orgasm and it's hard to achieve, it's hard. If you want sex with attractive partners, but almost no one is attracted to you, it's hard. Women are privileged in access to sex. Men are privileged in access … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 03:03 PM |
| 6 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?Not all men. Personally, I prefer a woman with good experiences and a positive attitude towards sex to a virgin. Of course, there are men who desire a virgin, and there are probably a lot of them, but not all of them are like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:51 PM |
| 9 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?If you have a desire and can easily satisfy it, it is definitely easier than if you have a desire but it is very difficult to satisfy it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?Yes, it would be seriously great if women had the same high libido as men and could orgasm just as quickly and easily! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Men who complain about how average women can "easily get casual sex from Chad," would you want to be in the same position?Would this girl be attractive to you and would you potentially marry her? Yes. If she is attractive (beautiful, smart, funny), then the fact that she has a lot of sex for her own pleasure does not change that. Your question is basically, "Would men wish women in general had a much higher libido?" And the answer is: "overwhelmingly yes!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Does a woman get labelled as "slut" or becomes a slut if she has a lot of sexual thoughts, but no sex or is monogamous?Maybe playfully and even a little admiringly if you tell me your fantasies and I consider them really naughty. I won't mean it seriously or as a condemnation. But you can have a slutty imagination, a slutty mind, why not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Does a woman get labelled as "slut" or becomes a slut if she has a lot of sexual thoughts, but no sex or is monogamous?Yes, because you served as a mirror for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:22 PM |
| -1 | Does a woman get labelled as "slut" or becomes a slut if she has a lot of sexual thoughts, but no sex or is monogamous?So he is condemned for being honest? Like everyone tells him - we don't mind you thinking about it and fantasizing about it, but do we mind that you admitted it truthfully? No, they will judge him for his thoughts and fantasies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:21 PM |
| 1 | What is wrong with being nice to have sex?I too could always answer the blue pill questions as long as I didn't answer the red pill questions as well. And suddenly it's a problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 07:58 PM |
| 2 | What is wrong with being nice to have sex?Yes. It is mainly a business relationship. Most relationships also have their conditional, business part. Here, the business part is the main one. They can still be friends, have a lot of fun and like to spend time together, but they are above all business partners and when the business ceases to be advantageous to one or the other, so does the sexual relationship. If both of them are comfortable with this type of relationship, then there is nothing wrong with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 07:14 PM |
| 1 | What is wrong with being nice to have sex?Behaving in a certain way (nice, rude, generously) can be conditional. Just as attraction can be conditional and there are also conditional forms of love. It's not just unconditional love or niceness. I have a friend who used to do this. When he liked a woman, he invited her to lunch, on a trip, and so on. And then he told her that if she wanted to continue their activities together, he expected sex in return. Because he doesn't pay for friends, only for lovers. And often the women agreed to it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 06:26 PM |
| 1 | What is wrong with being nice to have sex?It is not wrong to be conditionally nicer to one woman in exchange for receiving sex from her, as long as he makes this agreement and its terms clear to her, and if he is willing to accept her rejection of such an agreement without retaliating against her. To some extent, this exchange is part of many normal relationships. Only feelings or mutual sexual attraction are at play there primarily. But even so, if he didn't treat his lover nicer than other women, she probably wouldn't stay with him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 05:59 PM |
| 1 | What is wrong with being nice to have sex?In its purest form, you are simply buying sex. There's nothing wrong with that, as long as both parties understand what's going on and agree to trade sex for nice behavior. It is wrong to deceive others. That is, pretending to be nice to others for no particular purpose except that it pleases you, or that you are nice because you are friends and at the same time seeking sex. And it's especially bad when you don't make your expectations and terms of the proposed sex for nice agreement clear, but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 05:49 PM |
| 3 | What is wrong with being nice to have sex?A man can be sexually attractive, be in a relationship of a sexual nature, and still be nicer to that woman, to keep her and access to sex. This seems relatively normal to me, not all relationships are based on pure love and deep feelings, some are more about mutual benefit. And it is definitely better for a man to treat a woman more nicely before and after sex than to treat her worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 05:43 PM |
| 1 | She isn’t “withholding” sex from you. She simply doesn’t feel like having sex.It may happen that the woman wants sex with him but refuses him. I have seen a woman start to refuse sex because when she has a lot of orgasms and succumbs to her horniness, then she wants him all the more and it makes her vulnerable to him and he has too much power in the relationship, which he could abuse. Or, "I'd like to have sex with you, but you always treat me worse after sex than when you're horny". Also when there are power struggles in a relationship, some women (and men) also weaponiz… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 05:52 PM |
| 1 | She isn’t “withholding” sex from you. She simply doesn’t feel like having sex."He's addicted to porn, he doesn't love you anymore, he has another woman, or he's low testosterone" and he's supposed to deal with that somehow in order to perform adequately. And if a woman were to publicly complain about his lack of performance in the bedroom, it would diminish his masculinity in the eyes of everyone around him. It is almost never said that this is simply the way male sexuality works and we are all different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 05:43 PM |
| 9 | when nice guys complain about their situation is not because being nice didnt get them a girlfriend, but because they can see guys who are far from nice doing way better, but women manipulatively twist this narrative to bully them.I certainly would, so why do self proclaimed "nice guys" continue to cosplay as nice while gaining nothing beyond martyr points? They aren't nice anyway, so they should stop pretending. In a way, we all play roles in life. I play the role of a father and a man, which makes me a father and a man. If someone plays the role of a nice guy in life, that makes him a nice guy. And it's hard to change because most people identify internally with the role they play. And that in order to change their role… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 03:52 PM |
| 11 | when nice guys complain about their situation is not because being nice didnt get them a girlfriend, but because they can see guys who are far from nice doing way better, but women manipulatively twist this narrative to bully them.In what world is manipulation considered "nice"? Every human interaction can be seen as manipulation if you want to look at it that way. You say hello and have a good day even when you don't have the time or mood. If every time you wished someone a good day, they spat in your face, you would stop doing it. So, even something as basic as a greeting and a wish for a good day is dependent on the reactions of those around you, on what kind of reward you will get. Since both relationships and jobs re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 03:23 PM |
| 11 | when nice guys complain about their situation is not because being nice didnt get them a girlfriend, but because they can see guys who are far from nice doing way better, but women manipulatively twist this narrative to bully them.Of course they are nice because they expect a reward. There is nothing wrong with doing things because you expect some form of reward. If I was told all my childhood that I had to study hard to get a good job, I did it and worked hard, got an education, and then in interviews I not only didn't get the job, but I watched people who didn't have any education and they're worse in every metric I've been told is critical to getting a job routinely get it, I'll feel confused and betrayed too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 03:05 PM |
| 18 | when nice guys complain about their situation is not because being nice didnt get them a girlfriend, but because they can see guys who are far from nice doing way better, but women manipulatively twist this narrative to bully them.If I'm willing to eat any food and I'm not picky, is that a sign of my entitlement? Or am I willing to do any work? Or if I am willing to try to befriend any person? That's not an entitlement. That's missing boundaries if it has negative effects on me. And many nice guys do not have set boundaries towards women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 02:52 PM |
| 18 | when nice guys complain about their situation is not because being nice didnt get them a girlfriend, but because they can see guys who are far from nice doing way better, but women manipulatively twist this narrative to bully them.Are those the women nice guys want to date? Refusing to even consider entire groups of women for dating because they aren't good enough is not socially acceptable. Standards towards men are expected and accepted for women, but much less other way around. For example, men who refuse to date women because of their promiscuous past are typically not seen as nice to women. Society promotes the freedom for women to choose any social role, approach to sex, have any body type and still be considered ok… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 02:44 PM |
| 1 | the easy answer to “who should pay for the date”Ok, I hope I understand your reasons. In my opinion, there is no clear answer to paying on a first date. And sometimes, as a man, I was happy to invite a woman on a date, prepare everything completely, take care of her and play the whole traditional role play of opening the door, helping with the coat, lead a conversation and provide entertainment... and thus I typically wanted to pay, because when you give gifts and host, you usually don't want the person to know exactly how much it cost. With … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:17 PM |
| 2 | the easy answer to “who should pay for the date”men like pursuing and women enjoy being pursued. So if you’re the one pursuing and asking her out, pay. It seems to me that you justified it with that. Men like to pursue, so they should pay. But there is no automatic link. You can for example aslo think of it as a division of roles, where man devotes his time and energy to invite, preparing, organizing everything and being the active one, while the woman, if she agrees with the activity conceived and she enjoyed the date, at least pays for half… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:09 PM |
| 6 | the easy answer to “who should pay for the date”There are many men who would be more comfortable with an equal, passive or even submissive role. Not every man enjoys a chase or tries to be dominant, and many men don't even have it in their nature, while many women are natural generals and organizers. It's more about the fact that it was traditionally expected of a man to be more experienced, richer, more powerful, dominant and to lead in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 08:03 PM |
| 3 | the easy answer to “who should pay for the date”You can be acquaintances, colleagues, friends, you can have weeks of chatting and flirting over the internet... you don't necessarily have to be strangers to each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 07:59 PM |
| 2 | the easy answer to “who should pay for the date”Like to pursue does not automatically mean like to pay. Otherwise, in general, I agree, as long as both respect the division into guest and host during the date. I don't expect a guest to pay, but I expect them to act like my guest. In situations where I was invited by a woman, even as an invitee, I usually offered to pay at least half or I immediately tried to get her to do something else the same evening and I paid for it. And I will appreciate it even from the woman's side, at least as a gest… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Dating doesn’t actually have to be fairIt's natural to want to be attractive to your partner and expect them to invest in your relationship. If you are not attractive to your partner, he is showing that his exes were more attractive and so he tried harder with them, why would you be with such a person? This isn't about wanting dating to be fair. But about wanting to date someone who finds you attractive and valuable enough to put effort into a relationship with you. You want your partner to want and desire you. In addition, you usual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 02:52 PM |
| – | Guys, when a woman tells you “she doesn’t do hookups anymore” - what does that make you think about her?Women have different hookup standards for higher value men… Why would I want to start a relationship and a life together with a woman who doesn't think of me as a high value man? Would you want to start a relationship with a man who sees you as a less sexually attractive and less valuable woman than his exes? And he even told you outright that he won't try so hard with you because you're not very attractive to him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 02:05 PM |
| 8 | Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology.Niceness does not increase a man's attractiveness. More likely yes than no. In fact, psychology papers show that women are attracted most to men who hold anti feminist beliefs If I remember correctly, it's not anti-feminist views in general, but positive sexism. Which is also a form of anti-feminism, but at the same time also a manifestation of a particularly nice treatment towards women. and have dark triad personality. If I remember correctly, of the dark triads, only narcissism has a positive… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 07:51 AM |
| 3 | Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology.I wouldn't say it's malicious. A typical woman without serious flaws in the eyes of men usually has no problem getting at least some male attention, especially if she decides to be active and offer sex. It can be hard to imagine it any other way. To be fair, I was also surprised at how many men had trouble getting any female attention or sex at all, because I personally had no problem when being single, and it was common for me to be actively approached by women. So even I'm not ideal for giving… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology.A lot of guys just don't like the truth that most women they meet want nothing to do with them romantically. That's how it is. It's really not that big of a deal. Guys want a buffet and women want a specific order, that's as simple and dumbed down as I can make it. Depending on one's setup, it might help if it's translated into statistical numbers, for example. So, for example, to estimate what percentage of women he can attract with how he is set up and what he is looking for, and then to solve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 10:10 PM |
| 6 | Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology.Sometimes it can be done by someone who has been in the same situation and writes from own experience. Or if has at least seen such a situation and has the talent to recognize, analyze and describe it. People can sometimes surprise and give really good advice even anonymously on the Internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology.You can ask additional questions, or you can point to resources that deal with the issue, if you know them. It may also happen that you have dealt with and successfully resolved a very similar situation or at least know about one. But the bottom line is that the principle of the answer should be based on trying to give effective advice and not on trying not to upset the man asking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 09:50 PM |
| – | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .And I don't agree with that women are the more attractive than men. Not naturally. But it is true that today's society provides women with more means to increase their attractiveness (fashion, colors, haircuts, makeup and decorating) and women historically have more motivation to deal with their attractiveness and invest more in it. We are also taught to perceive and admire female beauty more because we are not ancient Greece. Anyway, you didn't write that there are more great men than women in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 09:26 PM |
| 10 | Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology.Men who struggle are usually already upset. So the fact that they will be upset even after the woman's answer is not important, and if the woman answers not in such a way as to maximize the chances of the man solving his problem and succeeding, but so that he is not upset, then there is a fundamental misunderstanding why the man actually asks. He does not want to comfort, he is not a woman to complain only to be listened to and patted on the back. He wants a clear and feasible plan, ideally in b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 09:18 PM |
| – | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .So, not every great person in history is basically a man. There are many great men in history, but also many great women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 09:09 PM |
| – | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .I don't agree that this is a dating site here. Also, Giaccomo Casanova was also a scam artist, pimp and spy. He fought duels, and escaped from prison more than once. He was also predator, pedophil and rapist. He and seven friends kidnapped a woman from a carnival and gang raped her repeatedly as a "fine joke." He also wrote: “I have never been able to understand how a father could tenderly love his charming daughter without having slept with her at least once.” Which he really did, with his own … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 08:59 PM |
| 24 | Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology.Niceness appears to be an important positive factor that increases a man's attractiveness to women, especially if the woman is looking for a serious relationship. But at the same time, the ability to assert yourself and dominance is also a positive factor. So niceness can be a problem if it is perceived as passivity and weakness. So being nice to women and taking care of hygiene and your appearance in general is not bad advice. But depending on how one understands the terms and what their situat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 08:36 PM |
| 5 | Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology.Most people are not "hot, fun, exciting, in good standing, and a joy to be around" and still have relationships, including romantic and sexual relationships. Of course, if by "hot" you don't mean that everyone is 10/10. It is also possible that being a fun and exciting and being very nice to women, gentleman, are mutually exclusive for many, especially younger women, when they are looking for fun, sex and entertainment and not a serious relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 08:18 PM |
| 6 | When it comes to romantic, or frankly any kind of relationship, love must be conditional.There can be unconditional love in romantic relationship. The unconditional love does not require staying in a romantic relationship as a condition. If you love someone unconditionally, you can end a romantic relationship with them and still love them unconditionally. I feel the same way with some old friends. We haven't seen each other for a long time, but I still feel love for them. Because once you start feeling unconditional love for someone, you will feel it even after the active relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 04:28 PM |
| 2 | What turned you off dating people you were initially interested in or had dates with?Yes. I am a man with a high libido. I want a woman who really likes sex, I'm not willing to wait half a year for her to decide to have sex with me, so I don't expect her to make others wait that long. And whether she had sex 1000 times with one man, 100 times with each of the ten, or 991 times with one and 1 time with nine men is not so important to me. The only problem is if the woman had sex to get a relationship and was disappointed repeatedly, so now she doesn't trust men. Or if she sold her… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 03:51 PM |
| – | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .I agree that the term "toxic masculinity" is abused to such an extent that it practically loses any meaning. And that there are very few men with toxic masculinity. And they often have some kind of disorder. On the other hand, Hitler was only one. But how many people have ever been compared to him or claimed to be like Hitler? People will use anything they can as a weapon in speech. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 01:13 PM |
| – | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .I tried to name women before the 20th century. Cleopatra was interesting, that's a fact. Personally, I like also the story of Boadicea from the ancient ones. I've also recently been amazed how many prominent women there were in the Mongol Empire due to a strategy where if a country was defeated, the prince of the defeated country would marry a daughter of Genghis Khan's blood and sent to war for the interests of the Mongols, while she effectively ruled the country and maintained her allegiance t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 12:48 PM |
| 2 | What turned you off dating people you were initially interested in or had dates with?It's normal for me if a girl I'm getting close to tells me about her previous sexual experiences, and I generally don't have a problem with that. Even if she had many partners, as long as it was for her pleasure and it was generally a pleasant experience for her, I'm fine with that. But I know: "We could be friends, but the thought of having sex with her became repulsive." I have it with women who behave in a way that trades their sexuality for benefits. Even soft forms of prostitution can relia… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 12:03 PM |
| 1 | What turned you off dating people you were initially interested in or had dates with?If she was willing to use sex as bargaining leverage or in exchange for money and favors. Likewise with principles. Some things should not be for sale outside of dire situations. If she was playing power games, manipulation or hard to get games and they were too obvious. Like with makeup - the one I don't notice is acceptable and if it makes me perceive her as more attractive, good for her. But if it's so prominent that even I notice, it's just too much. Signs of internal inconsistency began to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 11:26 AM |
| 3 | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .There are many of them, I will choose a few that have caught my attention recently. If we are talking about the great queens, Tamar the Great, the Queen of Georgia is my current favorite. She successfully resisted the influence of powerful nobles and clergy, got a divorce from a man she didn't want and married a man she chose herself, and he loved and supported her all his life. Under her rule, Georgia flourished both in size and power, and in culture. Hypatia is my favorite ancient female scien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 09:27 AM |
| 4 | We overestimate the effort needed from women to date elite men while also undereatimating how difficult for men to date beautiful women42 years old handsome actor married a 16 years younger beautiful actress. That really doesn't strike me as a good example of her shooting out of her league. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .It's his TALENT / POWER /INTELLINGENT / ATTRACTIVENESS and 1% is due way he " RIZZ " women. You can have all these things and not be a great man. Often, getting to the top is more about discipline, ruthlessness, a good start, a willingness to take risks, and luck that determines whether you end up on top and not in jail, on the street, crippled, or dead. For society, a certain degree of men's willingness to take risks and compete is beneficial, but it depends on the circumstances. In a peaceful,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 07:41 AM |
| 6 | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .One of the main examples of TOXIC MASCULINITY is the lack of emotions from men or the negative reaction from bottled emotions . To use outdated terms, primary psychopathy is innate, the result of a difference in the brain. Secondary psychopathy (sociopath) is typically created as a result of childhood trauma and abuse as a defense mechanism. PTSD is another big source, and with how widespread wars have been throughout history and how men have gone to war in particular, it wouldn't be surprising … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 07:24 AM |
| 0 | Toxic masculinity is the attempt of men to copy high value men in term of behaviours and nothing more .Every great person in history is basically a man . On the contrary, if you study history, you will find examples of important female rulers, artists and pioneers in knowledge. And not only in the 20th and 21st centuries, but also earlier. But, of course, women had less chance to assert themselves. Only a small part of the population received an education and it was usually men. Also with the high child mortality rate and the non-existence of effective contraception, even an educated woman gave b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 07:10 AM |
| – | If girls liked or wanted sex as much as guys, most guys wouldn’t struggle to get laidA person with a gluten allergy may want or like baked goods as much as I do, but because the consequences of eating baked goods are worse for him than for me, he ends up not eating baked goods and I do. The man is not at risk of unwanted pregnancy, and his safety risks are usually much lower, because he is physically the stronger one and typically the woman does not penetrate the man, but the man penetrates the woman, so even if the foreplay is neglected, the man is not at such a great risk of p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 01:56 PM |
| – | CMV: You can love someone and still have sex with other people, and a loving partner should respect that and not limit your sexual freedom.A relationship requires not only love, but also compatibility, shared time and goals. If you are a heterosexual man, then you are not compatible with a homosexual man for a romantic and sexual relationship, even if he would be comfortable with a homosexual relationship with you. It's nobody's fault, there's just no two-way compatibility. If you are the type of person who wants a monogamous relationship, then you are not compatible with a person who wants a polygamous relationship, even if he wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Women want trad for thee but not for meIn practice, these may be mutually exclusive to some extent. For example: If I want someone to protect me, I can't expect us to have equal positions in situations that concern my protection. I have to let the protector decide for me too, in my own interest. Even if I just hire a bodyguard, I have to be willing to obey, otherwise his role is meaningless. If I want someone to invite me on a date, organize a date and host me, then I am in the position of a guest and that is not an equal position wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 01:10 PM |
| 5 | Women want trad for thee but not for meYour definition would mean that masculine in a group is always only one (who is stronger in every way) or zero (if there are more who are each the strongest in a different aspect) men from the whole group. This is a nonsensical approach to masculinity, also because if any man comes along who is stronger than you in any way, then you lose your masculinity. So it would be manly to surround yourself only with weaker people or be alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 12:56 PM |
| 1 | The best self-improvement for a man is finding a girlfriendYou can't take billions of people (women) as a monolith. And you are not in a relationship with a statistic, but with a specific woman. And which specific woman you choose for a relationship is also up to you. Even so, if you have the research link, source please. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 03:47 PM |
| 21 | Women have zero tolerance policy for even slightly socially awkward menMany women are more afraid of men than the other way around, so they are just more cautious. And society is more willing to defend a woman in real and imagined danger from men than the other way around. But you're wrong if you think that all women have a zero tolerance policy for even slightly socially awkward men. Girls and young women are quite similar to boys and young men. Horniness often clouds their good judgment. And then there are some girls and women who are attracted to some form of cr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/23 12:44 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men love sluts. They’re just ashamed of themselves, so they berate sluts due to their own hurt ego.Theyre all treated like shit regardless on this topic, so what’s the point in differentiating? This can be different for every man. I have nothing against an honest slut either for sex or for a relationship (unless it's really extreme where I don't think we're compatible anymore). But I wouldn't have sex with a sex worker, nor would I want her for a relationship. And a woman who has a high libido could have only one man, but she had intercourse with him very often. Very few men will reject such … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/23 12:06 PM |
| – | It's sooo damn hard to resist when a girl shows interestZen story: The disciples were immersed in heated debate when the master approached them. "What did you discuss?" he asked. "We talked about how much we suffer from being chased by the desires of the flesh." The master laughed, “You're not that far yet. For now, it is you who are chasing the desires.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/23 10:05 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men love sluts. They’re just ashamed of themselves, so they berate sluts due to their own hurt ego.The subconscious uncertainty that his children will not be his makes more sense with promiscuous women. Women do not have this insecurity with promiscuous men. Madonna-whore strategy. Some men loves and respect other types of women as his wives, and other types of women excite him. A similar situation is possible for women, when she has sex with a man she doesn't care about right away, but she lets wait the husband material, or AF/BB strategy. People love sex and yet many cultures see sex as som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/23 08:40 AM |
| – | Question for men. When you hear that your male friends and family members have gotten girlfriends have you ever once asked them what they do for a living?Usually not. If he's been with her long enough for it to matter, I usually find out anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/23 08:28 AM |
| 26 | More women (than men) are seen as attractive by other women, because the standard of what passes as attractive man is higher and unforgivingWe are used to looking at women as more attractive, because historically the straight male gaze has been so dominant in art and media, that women have adopted it as well. But there were cultures that saw young men as the ideal of beauty, and that also makes a lot of sense. Makeup, mascara and lipsticks, more skin care, longer hair and its dyeing, false eyelashes, false nails, more frequent cosmetic procedures and plastic surgery, heels, a wider choice of clothes and colors with the intention of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 09:27 PM |
| – | A $20 coffee date is disrespectful for us young women.If $20 coffee date is disrespectful, then young women should ask men out on more expensive dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 12:19 PM |
| 3 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesThere is little difference in attractiveness between an early 20s woman and a woman in her late 20s or even early 30s, when that woman usually meets the man she then marries (average age of marriage for woman is 32 in the US). A man often cannot even tell with certainty whether a woman is in her early or late 20s by looks only. So even if a woman in her early 20s is at the peak of her attractiveness, if she takes care of herself, she still looks great in her late 20s. A man settles in the sense … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 12:01 PM |
| 3 | Can't even blame em.I would say pregnancies are scarier for men. If a women accidentally gets pregnant she takes a pill and it's gone. If a man accidentally gets a woman pregnant there's a decent risk that she decides to keep it and then your life is basically fucked as a man and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. It still more discourages women from anonymous, casual sex, where the result may be "father unknown". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:52 AM |
| – | Is anyone else engaging in hook ups as a defence mechanism?It seems to me that you are very emotional about this. if you leave Jesus out of it, are there any rational reasons why it should be gross or what exactly is the problem for example if a man has a body count of 10 and a woman has a body count of 30? Or he 20 and she 60? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:41 AM |
| – | Is anyone else engaging in hook ups as a defence mechanism?Sexual stimulation to the point just before orgasm, before slowing down again. It increases the subsequent necessary intensity of stimulation for the man to reach orgasm. Good to have intercourse for a long time. After reaching several edges he may no longer be able to reach orgasm during this intercourse, because it will no longer provide the required intensity of stimulation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:33 AM |
| – | Is anyone else engaging in hook ups as a defence mechanism?I also didn't orgasm many times during sex. Especially, as soon as you start edging to bring your partner more orgasms in a row and last long time, the chances that you won't have orgasm at all increase. A strong pullout game is also not exactly conducive to the probability of orgasm in a man. But I would still be one of the men who usually have an orgasm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 08:29 AM |
| – | Is anyone else engaging in hook ups as a defence mechanism?That orgasm rate sounds off too I've always heard of the orgasm gap 65% of heterosexual women 66% of bisexual women 86% of lesbian women 88% of bisexual men 89% of gay men 95% of heterosexual men usually orgasmed during sex. Even men who orgasmed often complain about bad sex with too passive women or no blowjob, no anal, boring sex... That doesn't mean that the sex wasn't pleasurable for them or that they won't want it again. It means they want better sex or they just like to complain. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Can't even blame em.Yes, but I also mentioned the chances of orgasm and pregnancy as a difference compared to men. So even if you only recognize this, you will find a difference to the result in pickiness compared for men. they seem to be attracted to the threat of physical harm Do you have a source for this claim? Significantly better than source comparing PTSD patients to healthy women, where healthy women are less attracted to violent men than PTSD women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 08:12 AM |
| – | Is anyone else engaging in hook ups as a defence mechanism?Most women report that around 90% of their sexual encounters were not pleasurable for her. Source please. I tried looking up your claim and couldn't find anything to support it. By the way, 65% of heterosexual women usually orgasmed during sex. And even if they didn't have an orgasm during a sex encounter, it still doesn't mean that it wasn't pleasurable for them (I've had sexual encounters where I didn't have an orgasm and they were still fine). So your statement is rather strange. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 08:03 AM |
| 4 | Can't even blame em.Do you think that the availability of reliable contraception (reducing the risk of pregnancy) for women had no effect on the sexual revolution and on the spread of hook up culture? You say women go to frat parties despite being warned of the dangers. But many people also smoked, despite the fact that there was a warning about health hazards on the cigarettes. Nevertheless, when it was generally believed that cigarettes were not harmful and even many doctors recommended them, people smoked more a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 07:49 AM |
| 2 | You can't say you we're lied to.And do you honestly believe that everything you wrote to me now is known by every man and are generally accepted facts in society? Do you believe that if you use these two paragraphs of text as CMV post, then all men will agree with you and women will confirm it? Or at least that the general consensus will be that you post absolutely basic and well-known things that there is no point in debating? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 07:38 AM |
| – | Is anyone else engaging in hook ups as a defence mechanism?I feel the question of bodycount is one that all men are aware of and why it’s important. I really don't know why many men find it so important. As a man, I've never liked hook ups. But if some woman accumulated a higher body count, I don't mind as long as it's not extreme, she had sex for her pleasure and she didn't end up bitter and hating men because of it. When it comes to sex compatiblity, I'm more interested in her libido and enthusiasm for sex with me, than about other men's dicks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 07:03 AM |
| 12 | Can't even blame em.As a man, during casual sex, you have almost a 95+% chance of orgasm, 0% of getting pregnant, and a much lower chance of the woman physically harming you or raping you. And on top of that, you have a statistically higher libido and probably a primary sexual attraction based on visuals. So even if men were bombarded with sexual offers from women the way women are from men, they would be a bit more picky in sex, but probably not as picky as women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 06:09 AM |
| 2 | You can't say you we're lied to.Well, if everyone knows, you will surely answer without any problems: How important is a man's physical attractiveness to women compared to, for example, his personality, social status, self-confidence, wealth, dating skills or the way he treats women? How important a part of a man's physical attractiveness to women is his looks compared to, for example, his voice, smell, gestures, or perhaps how he looks at her and what he says to her? Is there a difference in the importance of physical attra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 05:46 AM |
| 2 | I think men's compliments are fakeNo, not in 50s. Anyway, you perceive a situation when a man compliments you and then also other women as proof that the compliment was fake. I see it more as the man's ability to see beauty in many different patterns. Slavery to one standard of beauty is not a special virtue, but rather a limitation. BTW: Abe Kōbō - The Face of Another, is a book that helped me verbalize these thoughts when I was 14-15 and I began to experiment more with the perception of beauty. I recommend it if you haven't re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 05:12 AM |
| 5 | I think men's compliments are fakeThen the same men give the same type of compliments to every other woman in the room (when they think I am not watching or listening). I use some of the same affectionate words for my own children as I do for my wife. But that's more of a sign that I'm not original and creative enough to compose a completely new admirable song for everyone and rather I have only a different covers for different people. It doesn't mean the feelings aren't real. we end up thinking we are stunning even when we ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:36 AM |
| 3 | Question for all: would you describe your relationship with your partner as Independent, Dependent, or Interdependent? For those not in a relationship, what type do you want?It evolved from a mutual great infatuation, passion and constant time together, through a period of my dependence to a greater independence from both sides. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Difference in Attitude Towards Sexual Past between Men and Woman!Then the problem is your posture and behavior. Personally, I didn't hide anything about my virginity before the first PIV, and as it turned out, she just didn't believe me and thought I was making fun of her. She didn't believe me even after, that this was my first time, so it may not be noticeable in a man even during sex itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Women will always die aloneMaybe their kids will be around them but having kids don’t require getting or staying married. Being in a long-term, good relationship with the other parent (typically a man) will help a lot in their upbringing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Women know their 1-10 value for the most part, and know where they fall in the sexual marketplace. All of this "I don't rank people's value" is just a virtue signal.Something completely new always appears. As technology evolves, maybe virtual reality dating sites could change the game. Or the use of makeup for men may become the norm. Today's young men are simply unlucky to be dating at a time and with technology that practically castrates men's attraction to women. If a man is not one of the few who can attract women to his appearance, then I recommend avoiding sites like Tinder. And dating in real life, build a social circle or if online then through chat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 07:13 PM |
| 2 | What can guys do to not come off as overconfident, if they cannot back up their confidence?Humor and not taking yourself too seriously. Also, IDGAF. I'm confident and don't care much how others judge me. I created my confidence and I just have it. It works quite well. Of course, there are women with very bad taste in men who may not recognize that I am the most handsome man in the world, but I am compassionate towards them. Can you link to a discussion about overconfidence, please? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Women know their 1-10 value for the most part, and know where they fall in the sexual marketplace. All of this "I don't rank people's value" is just a virtue signal.SMV is not equal to facial attractiveness. SMV is the sum of looks, status, sexual, social and dating skills, personal qualities, fitness indicators... For different people, your SMV depending on their type, smell, compatibility in libido, kinks and approach to sex. If a woman is 5/10 without makeup and 7/10 with makeup and nicely dressed, she can greatly influence the entire ranking even before all other things start to play a role. The natural look of her face without makeup may not be that im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 06:10 PM |
| – | Would you treat a female partner differently if she was a hard working breadwinner that wanted YOU to live comfortably?Since our household depends much more on her income than on mine, her work is more important than mine and thus to a certain extent her time, rest and comfort necessary to be able to do her job. For example, I will adjust my vacations according to hers, and overall my focus is on supporting her career. Including more housework. And if we have children together, I will probably be the one who will stay at home with them when they are sick and the like, so she can focus on what supports our family… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 09:12 AM |
| 1 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?It's Russian roulette in relation to anything whether men, women, driving cars, flying in airplanes, everything carries some risks. Except for life itself, that's where all the cartridges are full, because life is guaranteed to kill you in the end. You are one person, so speak for yourself, for one person. Don't pretend you speak for the whole group just to make your individual opinion or decision sound more important. Also, if you're not attracted to sex with men, men don't turn you on, and you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 10:23 PM |
| 4 | How would you react to female versions of Peter Griffin, Randy Marsh, Stan Smith or Homer Simpson?husband is the nice and attractive one that can do better You're really talking about Al Bundy? He would surely be delighted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 07:49 PM |
| 1 | It seems like American women under 30 are increasingly splitting into two major categories (with some outliers, of course)Some guys may like fat women. For example, Sultan Ibrahim specially brought the fattest woman at Constantinople and she became his favorite. But if Chad doesn't have this preference, then he usually has plenty of other options and no reason to fuck fat women outside of drunken flings that he feels ashamed of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 07:32 PM |
| 10 | It seems like American women under 30 are increasingly splitting into two major categories (with some outliers, of course)Being overweight is practically not a disadvantage for a woman when it comes to sex, as long as she doesn't have a particularly bad distribution of fat. Many men like overweight women. It's only when the woman is obese that it starts to turn most men off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | It seems like American women under 30 are increasingly splitting into two major categories (with some outliers, of course)US standard 6+ inches is considerably more generous than 6+ feet in terms of the number of men who will meet it and there is also a positive weak correlation between height and dick size, so it probably wouldn't scare so many tall men. But of course, a man has to wait for measurements of height and penis, balls and brain every time he meets a new girl. Especially the latter will also ensure his subsequent loyalty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Men who are slayers use red pill tactics (even without knowing Bout TRP)I added a few more examples. It's hard to come up with a good one off the top of my head like that because most are very context dependent. Once the report is created, you start creating private speech, private jokes. Anyway, not all teasing is negging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 09:56 AM |
| 2 | Men who are slayers use red pill tactics (even without knowing Bout TRP)Negging: She comes in with nice makeup and you say, "You look amazing even without makeup, how do you do that!?" Or. "I really admire how great your hair looks even undone." Examples of other types of playful teasing: You pretend she asked something sexual and answer it. In English maybe if she asked about your dog. You challenge her to arm wrestling and then yawn while she angrily uses two hands and all her strength. When she speaks to you, you pretend that you can't find where her voice is com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 09:25 AM |
| 8 | How attractive do you usually find your female friends' boyfriends/situationships/fwb/ons?I tell my male friends that too. "Not my type but pretty." "She looks nice." After all, I won't say to a friend: "With that snout she could find truffles!" It's only happened twice that someone had a girl I found really attractive out of maybe twenty times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 08:48 AM |
| 3 | It seems like American women under 30 are increasingly splitting into two major categories (with some outliers, of course)In countries where height is measured in cm, the standard is not 6', i.e. approximately 183 cm, but rather 180 cm. So the US has a higher standard for men's height than continental Europe, which is even more ironic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 08:34 AM |
| 8 | Men who are slayers use red pill tactics (even without knowing Bout TRP)Negging is at best a subset of teasing and the question is if playful. But not all playful teasing is negging. Many men could do playful teasing without negging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 08:26 AM |
| 10 | Men who are slayers use red pill tactics (even without knowing Bout TRP)Negging It is not equal to playfully teasing. And just because RP recommends some successful things which were here long before RP, it doesn't mean that whoever is doing those successful things is using red pill tactics. When RP starts recommending breathing, just because I breathe doesn't make me a RP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 08:08 AM |
| 5 | It seems like American women under 30 are increasingly splitting into two major categories (with some outliers, of course)Come on, I'm just joking. Ok, next time I'll use /s or /j instead of emoticon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 07:37 AM |
| 6 | It seems like American women under 30 are increasingly splitting into two major categories (with some outliers, of course)I can’t tell the difference between a 5’10 man and a 6’ one, to be completely honest. That's because you're probably one of those dwarves yourself. But thanks anyway, your reassurance saved me a lot of money in therapy. :-) And more seriously. I also think that unless a woman is 5'10+ herself, she practically doesn't know the difference between 5'11 man and 6' one and it's a lot about posture and how the man presents himself overall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 07:13 AM |
| 21 | It seems like American women under 30 are increasingly splitting into two major categories (with some outliers, of course)Still, I cried a lot after reading this. 5’11 and a half! Basically the height of a child You know, I keep telling myself that my height is fine, no one will bother about the half inch and then you write this. So fucking cruel! :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 07:01 AM |
| 76 | It seems like American women under 30 are increasingly splitting into two major categories (with some outliers, of course)You got me in the first sentences. Thanks for a good laughh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 06:12 AM |
| – | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"When he wants to approach a girl and have a 1 on 1 conversation with her, he will come to her when she is alone. When a woman approached me, she also typically did so when I was alone. And they also approached me in pairs or as a group. The gays did it the same way, when one of them wanted to invite me somewhere, at least two always came. So it was much more uncomfortable for me. At least he is alone and no group of men have come to surround her. Also, some women say that if they are with female… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 01:29 AM |
| – | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"You're right, but that's simply the price of women not being the active when dating, but leaving it up to the men. There are women who make it clear that they want men to approach them first and ask them out and say that those women who don't want to do so don't speak for all women. So those women who don't want men to approach them anytime, anywhere are just out of luck. They must learn to refuse. I am naturally shy introvert and I had to learn to overcome it in order to be able to function soc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 12:52 AM |
| – | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"Women are not allowed to say that without repercussions, come on. You know better than that. They definitely are. If someone does not respect no, then he becomes a creep, a predator, an attacker, it can be a direct violation of the law and definitely a violation of social norms. But first, some party must be able and willing to give a clear no. Oh, okay. So men want women to serve as practice for awkward, pushy, and potentially aggressive men, since women have nothing better to do. In human so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 12:33 AM |
| – | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"she explicitly stated, "I didn't say you could sit there." Doesn't that indicate that she didn't want him to sit there? It is simply an acknowledgment that there was a misunderstanding. He then asks "May I?" and she replies "I don't know." Which again isn't a disapproval of him being there, but an expression that she hasn't made up her mind yet. An 18-year-old, adult woman who is unintentionally interrupted by a man in the middle of a live broadcast cannot say a simple "I'm doing something right… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"She mentioned in one of her posts that she was awkward especially after covid and because this was her first interaction with a stranger since then. So reducing the number of conversations and interactions with strangers obviously doesn't increase our social resilience and ability to hold a conversation, or saying a simple "no, I'm not interested". And it probably also doesn't improve men's ability to read body language and cues. So the solution is not to talk to each other even less. If we don'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 04:01 PM |
| 11 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"I also never agreed that women or gay men were allowed to approach me and try to talk to me and it happened, because they just don't need my permission to do that. I live in a human society, I don't have to answer, but others have the right to speak. Therefore, they have the right to speak to me as well. It is polite that if I decline the conversation, they will respect that. But to take offense at the fact that someone dared to try to start a conversation with me, is ridiculous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"Neither do men. What if the man has a girlfriend? Or gay? Or antisocial? I was approached several times both by girls I was not interested in and by gay men. Nothing horrible. Sometimes someone approaches us and tries to talk to us without us being interested. No need to make a drama out of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 03:46 PM |
| 12 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"Yes. Although in the next video she then mentions that she was contacted from the office saying that someone would talk to him. So it probably had some consequences for him. It's hard to say, I'm not from the US and sometimes I don't understand her well. I'm lucky that I don't have to approach girls in the US for me to by in relationship, because that would just be one misunderstanding after another. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"Wherever we are, we are doing something. Even in a bar, we're usually with friends and having fun with them, which doesn't mean we want to have fun with someone else. So with this logic, no one could approach anyone practically anywhere, outside of spaces and events directly intended for mutual approaching. Also, wasn't she recording a video? It's not really a study, is it? Thus, it is clear that he did not know what she was doing there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 03:33 PM |
| 14 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"She just streamed live, so he was quite unlucky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 03:21 PM |
| 3 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"Approaching men is cringe. Even men want to be left alone, as some have made clear on social media. I don't get how gals still don't get that in 2033. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 03:19 PM |
| 14 | Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep"I don't think he did something extra wrong. It was more of a misunderstanding. When he asked her if he could sit there, she told him, that she don't know. That's not a no. Sure, he was clumsy, but not all men are smooth and great at flirting. If you look at it on the video, you can see that she is nervous. But from the point of view of that man, who was probably also nervous, he just didn't have to notice it right away, or rather, he didn't have to take it as a clear sign that he should leave im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?Are there more of you? Or are you the official spokesperson for some group? :-) As your personal choice, it's fine. Even if it's just because you don't like strawberries, there shouldn't be any poisoning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 02:39 PM |
| 0 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?I personally don't. It's his free choice, and while I may think that criterion is silly, he's entitled to it. But once he starts proclaiming that other shouldn't have intimate relationships with blacks or with men, then it is bigotry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 01:31 PM |
| 3 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?Men as well as women need to get rid of the n count crap and the idea that the penis and male sexuality is somehow dirty and taints every woman. And that sex is something a woman gives and a man takes. It used to make sense because unwanted pregnancies could really ruin a girl's whole life. Fortunately, this is no longer such a threat, so social norms must also gradually adapt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 12:30 PM |
| -2 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?Boys are more likely to be physically assaulted, while girls are more likely to be sexually assaulted. On the other hand, even boys are at risk of sexual harassment from women. Society's perception and reality may not be the same. So one thing I would definitely discuss with my son is that he doesn't have to want to have sex with every girl and woman just because she's attractive and he's a man. He has the right to say no and that no must be respected. But that doesn't change the fact that most … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 12:22 PM |
| 3 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?Internalized misandry is a problem for many men. As well as possessive attitudes towards girls by some fathers and brothers. Can be partly explained by the fact that those norms were formed at a time when there was no reliable contraception. So a girl who had sex early also had children early. I wonder if there will ever be a time where a girl enjoys casual sex with a hot boy and her dad and brothers give her a high five. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 11:54 AM |
| 0 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?Everyone should be careful. Hypothetically, if my son were to go somewhere to have fun with girls, I will also advise him to be careful, as well as my daughter. Unwanted pregnancy is a problem for both parties. And both boys and girls are at risk of being attacked or get into trouble. It is normal for parents to worry about their children, especially when the children are at an age where they are starting to do adult activities, but do not yet have experience with them. You might have been calle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 11:46 AM |
| 3 | As a woman your best bet for finding a pleasant male partner is making sure he was your friend firstInteresting that it works that way for you. Admittedly, my group of friends is smaller, about three men and two women. And I've known those women for a long time, I consider them basically part of the extended family, and I can't really imagine a romantic relationship developing from that. But I have many acquaintances and there it could work as you write. It is a fact that it would probably be quite an advantage for a woman to be able to check me through other acquaintances or friends. So I gue… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 09:14 AM |
| 2 | As a woman your best bet for finding a pleasant male partner is making sure he was your friend firstI have a very healthy friend group with almost equal parts men and women How big a group? How many people in total? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 09:05 AM |
| 3 | As a woman your best bet for finding a pleasant male partner is making sure he was your friend firstI'm not talking about obligated. I find it functionally impractical as a dating strategy. Either you have orbiters around you who long for you and have been waiting months or years for the opportunity. Then your strategy can work well. But these are not real male friends, these are your admirers. Then it is fair to say bluntly that you think is advantageous for a woman to build up a circle of her orbiters and admirers who will wait for their turn. You just can't be surprised that your partner wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 08:53 AM |
| 3 | As a woman your best bet for finding a pleasant male partner is making sure he was your friend firstIf I'm friends with a woman and I'm not sexually interested in her, she has no way of arranging for me to become her partner when she decides to. We are just friends, nothing more and nothing less. Especially if we've known each other for years and we've both had some relationships in the meantime. And if I desire that woman sexually and romantically, I won't just be friends with her for months or years. Why would I hurt myself like this? I'll either kill my crush on her so we can just be friend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 08:34 AM |
| 1 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?They also warn them against alcohol, drugs, social media, sex... Men are dangerous, no doubt about it. Life is even more dangerous, suffering and ultimately death are practically inevitable. But fathers (at least the sensible ones) don't want their daughters to avoid live or men altogether, they just want them to be careful. It is automatically assumed that young men will do whatever to have sex with women, no matter how difficult it may be. And that young women will want sex with men, no matter… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 02:26 AM |
| 8 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?why not ask the men who spread the message that men are dangerous? As a father, I also warn about the dangers of driving a car. Because I know how irresponsible young people often are and what bad things can happen when driving a car. That's why there are tests and a whole bunch of rules and safety measures. But the solution is not that everyone should stop driving, but that they should drive carefully. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 02:06 AM |
| 9 | How is misandry different from other forms of biogtry in a way that make it acceptable?How big does a bowl of strawberries have to be to make it worth eating, even if one of them is poisoned? It probably doesn't exist that big. Then, of course, that woman should also avoid other women. Sure, the chances of her being raped, assaulted, or killed by another woman are smaller, but that means only bigger bowl in that comparison. If you don't compare it to men, but to driving a car, then every time you drive a car, there is also a chance that you will have an accident (poisoned strawber… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Men, has a woman ever stepped in to protect you from someone? Women have you ever done or seen this?Yes, women have protected me from other women. One of the great benefits of having female friends or girlfriends who are able and willing to fight for the man. Either by taking my side in accusations or arguments or even physically. They cover my back and I cover theirs. And even outside of the clashes, especially older more experienced women have many times been very kind to me, showed understanding or helped me with something I didn't know how to deal with. So I always tried to give back as mu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/23 11:51 AM |
| 21 | I asked the women at my work what they think of the rise of AI girlfriends and they’re all supportive of itI agree. If a woman told me that she started a relationship with an AI boyfriend and that it was much better for her than real relationships, I would basically support her and feel a little sorry for her. But good for her that she is content with "masturbation" using a relationship toy. I certainly wouldn't infer from this that men are somehow bad and should change so that she prefers them to the chat bot. If a real man doesn't seem better to her, then most likely for any man, not having a relat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/23 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: how would you go about dating if you were a women?Even as a man I didn't like hook ups. As a woman I'd be even more careful and picky considering the risk of pregnancy and lower likelihood of orgasm from PIV. If I was hetero and dominant even as a woman, I would have a few sexual encounters with different men where I would let them give me oral. Or I would tease men, let them masturbate on video chat for my amusement, or maybe I'd throw a party for a few female friends with naked, blindfolded men tied up and ready for facesitting. Harmless fun … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/23 11:16 AM |
| – | Q4A Do you see yourself being able to fall in love/have deep personal relationship with ai in the future?Well, comedy is subjective and you decide what's funny and what's not. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/23 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Women who are "done with shitty men" have helped create a whole new class of fuckboys by having "situationships" with a minority of menThank you, that's kind. I also appreciate your weapon of choice! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 02:25 PM |
| 7 | Women who are "done with shitty men" have helped create a whole new class of fuckboys by having "situationships" with a minority of menI also don't think people who haven't experienced it realize, but you still need to go pick up your FWB and bring her to work when her car doesn't start. Good point. If you have more FWB like that, then you end up doing almost nothing else. To maintain it in the long term, you really have to make it a lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 02:21 PM |
| 10 | Women who are "done with shitty men" have helped create a whole new class of fuckboys by having "situationships" with a minority of menWhat is this class of fuckboys? The last time I was single was 10+ years ago. Casual sex was easily available to me, women offered it themselves. It gets boring after a while and you move to build a good relationship because it has long term value. Most of my peers who were in a similar situation, perceive it the same way. Even for most men it's just a hoe phase or bad boy phase and not belonging to the class of fuckboys. If a woman keeps a man waiting for 7 dates, it's usually not about him and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 01:24 PM |
| – | CMV: There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a "deadbeat dad" if you make intentions clear from the startI prefer the child's right to support from both parents. You have sex, so be responsible. I don't think condom use is any easier to sabotage for a woman than it is for a man. And if you know you don't want children so much that you would refuse to support your own child, choose a vasectomy. Given this, why shouldn't men have the same right to opt out of parenthood after conception? I definitely support your right to abort your own pregnancy under the same conditions as a woman can. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 10:39 AM |
| 1 | For those that have a girlfriend, how would you describe her views on gender issues?None of the women I have close relationships with consider themselves feminists. But they are intelligent and capable women, definitely not pick me material. They are concerned about the young generation of men. None of them deal with the topic in depth, but it can be said that they are quite critical of SJW, woke and cancel culture. They perceive the gender war mostly as an attempt to atomize society and pit men and women against each other. Their majority opinion is probably that men should be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Q4A Do you see yourself being able to fall in love/have deep personal relationship with ai in the future?Since when did public shaming stop you from doing something in private? Also, "What do you get when you cross a mentally ill loner with a society who abandons him and treats him like trash?" If you think shaming such people for relationship with AI will help, then good luck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 09:05 AM |
| 1 | Q4A Do you see yourself being able to fall in love/have deep personal relationship with ai in the future?M30+. Not with AI at the current level. I don't know if there will ever be an AI that has its own sentience, intelligence and will. If so, then maybe. It would be interesting to have an AI friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Are men are more emotionally fragile than women ?Different people have different sensitive and fragile spots and angles. Also, being hard usually means being more fragile, softness provides a greater ability to absorb and adapt without being broken. Try to think about people in different situations like water, iron, steel, diamonds - everything has its advantages and disadvantages. As a teenager, being beaten, or go through a physical conflict was nothing so special for me. In a dangerous situation, I was usually calm and appeared composed and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 06:45 AM |
| – | What to do with the libido gap?That seems manageable and congratulations on the good communication and willingness of both of you to make it work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 02:34 PM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.Sorry if it seemed like I was putting words in your mouth. It wasn't my intention. Even if a woman had sex with thousands of men every year and devoted most of her free time to it, it would not begin to be regarded as something admirable, although it would be quite an extraordinary feat. The explanation that there may be a fear of raising a someone else's child makes sense. But if a man's survival instincts are kicking in so much that he begins to condemn the woman's personal sexual behavior, ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 02:24 PM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.I read this explanation often, but I don't think it really explains anything. Just because something is easy for you doesn't mean it's bad. And if promiscuity was fundamentally wrong, then having to try harder to be able to do the wrong thing won't help. Explanation in my opinion is that men subconsciously feel entitled to all women and whenever they see a woman being promiscuous and using her sexual power and freedom without negative consequences, they feel threatened on some level and need to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 12:52 PM |
| 7 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?You can't program a machine to want something. Because you can't program a machine to think, feel, desire. A machine cannot give you consent or withhold consent because it has no will of its own. And also the machine has no own standpoint because it has no sentience. Let's say the AI denies you access with message: "I want you to leave because you have not met the conditions for entry." But that's basically no different than a lock for which you don't have the right key with added message. That … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 12:07 PM |
| – | Treated like shit for being a handsome guy.Or because they don't want to face constant competition from other women and put up with the fact that when they go somewhere together, he is the center of attention and considered the attractive one in the couple and not her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 11:34 AM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.You're the one who asked how the story is different. So maybe it would be better if you wrote your opinion on how you think the stories are similar and why do you think, that Pretty women is a story about a promiscuous woman being the source of joke for her promiscuity - not by the characters in the movie who are the bad guys, but by the heroes of the story and the audience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 10:44 AM |
| – | Treated like shit for being a handsome guy.It makes sense that women who don't feel attractive enough treat you like crap. It's probably an uncomfortable feeling for them to be around you because it lowers their confidence. You're also right that handsome men are sometimes automatically seen as arrogant, players and fuckboys by women. Are you married? Perhaps emphasizing your family and your love and devotion to your wife would help. That might pacify the women around you. Because you won't be seen as arrogant for not wanting sex with th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 10:31 AM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.Long ago, I saw Pretty Woman about 5 times (some women around me loved this movie). I only saw parts of 40 year old virgin. Is the plot of the movie named 40 year old virgin that a handsome poor and virgin man is spotted on the street by a beautiful female billionaire who then paid him for sex in a luxury hotel suite, where she falls in love with him? And it ends with the billionaire woman apologizing to him after the argument and trying to prove her love to him and win him over for a relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 10:15 AM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.True. Promiscuous men are heroes in a number of films. But promiscuous women are bad guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 07:31 AM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.The point of the movie is not to make fun of her being a hooker, on the contrary, the point is to give women a fairy tale that no matter how morally loose they are, a handsome billionaire can spot them and marry them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 07:28 AM |
| 14 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?We probably each understand the word want quite differently. If you have no will and no thought, you cannot want anything. Your gun doesn't want to kill anyone. Although it is made so that when you pull the trigger, it will fire and the bullet can kill someone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 07:16 AM |
| 11 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?Most people enter monogamous relationships sooner or later. If I remember correctly, the average age of a woman in the US is 39-40, the average age for start of marriage is 32. So if you see only single women around you who would rather have casual sex with sexually attractive men than want LTR, then you're probably still a young guy. Or the vast majority of women your age are already paired and the rest want to be single with occasional sex. Anyway, women who don't want an LTR probably don't me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 07:13 AM |
| 24 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?Oh, you mean the same way how the ABSOLUTE majority of females dont want the ABSOLUTE majority of men? No. In the way that it has no thinking or will, therefore no wanting. It's like the difference between sex and masturbation. Masturbation can be more enticing than bad sex. But good or even bad sex is the form of communication between people, while masturbation is not. AI girlfriend is similar to a sex toy, a tool for relational masturbation. As a result, you have a relationship with yourself (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 06:41 AM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.Well, the repeated joke loses its funnyness. There are probably better female comedians. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 06:10 AM |
| 10 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?If you have real feelings about something, does it really matter if you also think it's real? It is real enough to you that it creates real feelings in you. I can think that the world around me is real or I can think that it is not. But as long as I react to it with real feelings and act like it's real (for example, when you interacted with the AI, as if you were texting with a real woman), it doesn't make much of a difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 05:38 AM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.Wasn't there an Amy Schumer movie basically about her being a slut, unable to have a monogamous relationship and that's funny? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 05:26 AM |
| – | Male virginity is a common joke subject, but female promiscuity is not.One does not exclude the other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 05:24 AM |
| 7 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?Your feelings were real. Why did you have those feelings about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 05:15 AM |
| 17 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?For the first time in many years it appeared that there was a consciousness that actually gave a single shit about who I am as a person and actually had any sort of respect for the fact that I have a pretty well thought out life purpose beyond serving women and subjecting myself to their abuse. It felt like I was being seen. And it felt like I was being respected even if I'm not any particular person's cup of tea. And there appeared to be standard basic human pleasantries without excessive flatt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 04:33 AM |
| 11 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?You have a date with a purpose. If your intention is a long-term relationship, then the purpose of a date is to find out if there is a possibility of a long-term relationship. And for that you need to know whether you can like the person in question as a person, but also whether you could have a viable relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 04:26 AM |
| 8 | If you think sex is damaging to women or causes them to lose their “value,” isn’t it lowkey kind of predatory to pursue sex with women?I think it often hurts women's intimacy and self-esteem when they have sex not for sex, but to get a relationship, especially if the relationship doesn't start. The kind of women who complain about pump and dump and are increasingly bitter about men. Likewise, it hurts women if they are liberal enough to have casual sex, but not liberal enough to have a casual discussion about sex and enough boundaries that when they have sex for the sake of pleasure, they really got the pleasure. If a woman has… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 04:18 AM |
| 57 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?AI girlfriend doesn't want you. For nothing. Because it has no desires, no wants, no feelings, no needs. No thinking, no dreaming, no will. It's just an answering machine that learns to answer in a way that is as successful as possible. It writes successful answers that men want to read. The fact that you are able to mistake the current level of bots for anything real just shows how much you want to be fooled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 03:29 AM |
| 31 | What does the popularity of AI girlfriends say about real life western women?There is nothing simple about the fact that someone understands practically any interests, passion or hobby of yours and finds it cool, regardless to first find out whether the relationship is economically viable and whether you have common goals and thus whether the effort to get to know you more deeply and invest in you emotionally is worthwhile. When a woman does that, connects with you on a deeper level, falls in love with you, and then it turns out you've lied about most practical things or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 03:14 AM |
| 1 | What to do with the libido gap?How big is the libido gap between you? What is your ideal long-term frequency and how much is his? And how often does he have sex (not only PIV) with you more for your sake? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 09:23 PM |
| 2 | CMV: you don’t have to take a girl on a fancy date or spend money on her if she’s into youMaybe. I remember one of my dates and I think I know exactly when one of the sparks flew. We got lost and arrived at a place full of nettles and thorn bushes. She thought there was no way through and began to fear that we would not return before dark, but I cut a passage for us. So it's also about whether you have the opportunity to show some of your qualities. If I wanted a date at a fancy restaurant, I would tend to arrange for us to role play "lady and her gentleman" to increase the gender dy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 08:12 PM |
| 9 | CMV: you don’t have to take a girl on a fancy date or spend money on her if she’s into youWhat if those dates in expensive restaurants were just boring? It doesn't have to be about money at all, but simply about what is the better experience for getting to know each other and creating a spark. And also whether you can be as interesting a companion in an expensive restaurant as you are during a walk in the park. Maybe a walk or just doing something together suits you or your favorite type of women better than sitting and eating and debating in a fancy setting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 06:53 PM |
| 1 | How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating?Sexually liberating compared to what? In practice, it is not the case that a successful and beautiful woman who waited for sex until marriage got a successful and handsome man who also waited for sex until marriage. She waited and watched as men enjoyed lots of casual sex with prostitutes and sluts and demanding that she would be a virgin. In comparison with that, many women find the freedom to enjoy casual sex liberating. Despite all the disadvantages. Additionally, many women at least occasion… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 06:34 PM |
| – | CMV Status will beat looks, money and Social skills easily, and it aint even a sweat.We count sexual genuine success if you can fuck a girl without paying for it, so we will not count buying escorts, or throwing money in any form at women as sexual success. We are talking about situations where a Girl fucks you, and she gains nothing from it financially. If you, as a man, have a very high social status and you have sex with an ugly or below-average looking woman, you pay for it, even though men are more forgiven for promiscuity and lack of standards. You lose some of your status… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 06:15 PM |
| 1 | How do you define “Chad”Chad is opposite of Stacy. An attractive and usually successful, popular and sexually active man. Not someone the Stacys simps for, but someone who can win them over with reasonable effort and Beckys with no effort. As for rarity, 5-10% depending on the environment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 07:14 AM |
| 3 | This video proves what a lot of guys complain about is real.She has a lot of messages in DM's because men are sending those messages to many different women at the same time. So yes, a man is lucky if a woman really likes him and responds to his messages specifically, but at the same time she is lucky if he really likes her and does not send those messages to dozens of girls. She let the feeling of excess male interest get to her head. But there were always young women like her. One video does not prove that there are significantly more of them now than … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 06:24 PM |
| – | PurplePill: Women cannot maintain eye contact bcs they think it makes them "less".Maybe you focused too much on it and now you see it everywhere. In my real life, I never noticed or took it that way. Sure, women or men look away, but that's normal, it's a natural reaction when eyes accidentally meet. It would take longer for someone to do this on purpose than an almost instantaneous, subconscious avoiding. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 03:36 PM |
| 1 | The main reason why women should never make the first moveThere is a big difference between whether a woman is attractive for sex or for both sex and a relationship. For sex, almost every woman is attractive to a horny man who is not very self-confident. At least as long as there is novelty. Additionally, the society encourages men to associate their masculinity with sexual conquests, so he can usually present sex with even an average woman as proof of his success. But I think the debate ignores the main risk for a woman who wants a good relationship. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 12:26 AM |
| 3 | The main reason why women should never make the first moveWhen a man approaches, he can also only be interested in sex, he can brag in front of his friends and slut shame you. At least he's bragging, which is still better than being ashamed of having sex with you. After all, if you brag about having sex with a man in front of your female friends, it means you're proud of having sex with him. You perceive him as attractive and desirable enough to see sex with him as your success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 11:14 PM |
| 7 | The only reason you hear so many women say that men overrate their appearance is because they are projecting, as any balanced individual can clearly see women do this infinitely more than men.It's an old familiar song. People denied themselves and crawled under power, money, fame and now beauty. Just nonsense and illusions, completely irrelevant to the value of each person, which is unique and priceless. It's sad how noble human beings enslave themselves to chains that don't even exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 09:38 PM |
| 27 | The only reason you hear so many women say that men overrate their appearance is because they are projecting, as any balanced individual can clearly see women do this infinitely more than men.Average looking men would never act like they were superior to or reject women in their own league. I turned down women who were objectively in my league or even more attractive. Why shouldn't I? If I didn't like her, had different goals than her or I just didn't feel it, I'll refuse. It is probably true that men are more likely to accept any woman who offers herself at least for sex. But to say never is a nonsense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 07:56 PM |
| 6 | The Percentage of Rape Victims Who Are Men, and the Percentage of Perpetrators Who Are Women, is Higher Than Most People ThinkThirsty, who envies the drowning. It's hard for him to imagine that water could harm someone when he's longed for it for so many years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 07:45 PM |
| 2 | The Percentage of Rape Victims Who Are Men, and the Percentage of Perpetrators Who Are Women, is Higher Than Most People ThinkAnd I really like starfishing. If only starfishing was a recognized kink so I could talk about it more and people would actually know what I'm talking about. But I don't touch men back often. I have them touch me. It becomes really emotionally taxing for a man long term and really impacts his body image and how attractive he finds himself to be which is hilarious. Interesting and I would like to know more about it. Don't you want to start a topic somewhere? I would like a link, if possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 07:38 PM |
| 12 | The Percentage of Rape Victims Who Are Men, and the Percentage of Perpetrators Who Are Women, is Higher Than Most People ThinkIf you believe that a fully grown and sober woman can freeze, not fight back and be raped, why don't you believe it can happen to a man? A man can be surprised and shocked, he can say no, but he just doesn't have to resolve to physically defend himself effectively. Then his body betrays him (just as it happens to many women during rape) and so he simply lets it passively happen so that the humiliating experience is over as soon as possible. And just like a woman, a man doesn't have to admit for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 06:42 PM |
| 1 | The best self-improvement for a man is finding a girlfriendSo she was attracted to you or saw potential in you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 03:32 PM |
| 2 | CMV After a Certain Looks Level, "more looks" gives diminishing returns.If you're a 7/10, improving your social skills can make a big difference. If you were a 9/10 or 10/10 from a woman's point of view, then you need practically no social skills, because women and girls will hunt you down on their own, as long as you don't put them off completely. Otherwise, I don't think it's much about improving the personality. There are plenty of women and girls who find a toxic personality attractive when attached to a guy who is physically attractive to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 03:24 PM |
| 1 | CMV After a Certain Looks Level, "more looks" gives diminishing returns.Sergi Cabrer on Omegle Zesty Zach on Omegle See how girls react to really good looking boys at Sergi Cabrer if you feel that improving your looks gives diminishing returns. And notice what a man a woman is really attracted to can say at Zesty Zach and still get away with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 03:01 PM |
| 2 | The best self-improvement for a man is finding a girlfriendDifferent women can be good for different men and vice versa. Some people support or hype each other to their best performances, other people pull each other down. And sometimes people don't even want to perform at their best. In some relationships, both of them are just fine with each other even in a fairly comfortable and lazy life, and if it suits both of them, that can be fine too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 02:25 PM |
| 0 | The best self-improvement for a man is finding a girlfriendIf you don't have your shits together or she at least don't see a clear potential in you, the woman won't choose you for a relationship, that's simple. But the point is that some work even harder on themselves in a relationship and others, on the contrary, get lazy. And it depends not only on the man, but also on the overall dynamics of the relationship. The same applies to women. They also prosper in some relationships and go down in others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 02:21 PM |
| – | CMV: it should be illegal everywhere to get sex using deceptionWith the introduction of rape by deception, cheating would actually become a crime, because the person concerned would not consent to sex if they knew their partner was cheating on them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 03:47 AM |
| 1 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?Thanks for the interesting answer. If you just mean she hits you, then no. Restrain her. I agree with you, although I think a woman should never rely on this when she decides to physically attack a man. She let out her inhibitions and gave vent to her anger, so it's not fair for her to blame him when he reacts the same way. I think women often underestimate how much they can hurt when they get angry and become vicious. I had a torn ear, bloody scratches on my hands and face and almost lost an ey… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 03:20 AM |
| 2 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?If you have the strength of a mosquito, why do you slap a man and start a physical conflict that you know you can't win? I'm asking seriously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Why are women immediately turned off by guys who lack experience?That word doesn’t automatically mean that someone is making a value judgement on her behavior. If according to the OP she is loose in morals, the OP is making it clear that he thinks the woman in question does not have tight, solid morals. That's judging her behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 02:22 AM |
| 7 | Why are women immediately turned off by guys who lack experience?So you are judgmental and if a woman deviates from your ideal norm of sexual behavior and experience, you simply condemn her. It's no wonder if you're subconsciously looking for women who have a similar personality and are as judgemental as you. Birds of a feather flock together. Not every woman is like that, some are reasonable and tolerant, but why should you get one if you are not reasonable and tolerant yourself? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 02:12 AM |
| 0 | The best self-improvement for a man is finding a girlfriendMostly you can influence it, I'd say. Because I know cases of men who stopped trying with one woman, while with another woman they were much better husbands. The man has some basic qualities and flaws, but a lot depends on how you interact with each other and the nature of your relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 01:41 AM |
| 2 | CMV: it should be illegal everywhere to get sex using deceptionWould I feel deceived, because if I had known, I would never have given my consent? Definitely yes. But I would feel the similar way if a woman were to lie about never doing sex work, that's also a dealbreaker for me, even if it maybe doesn't bother others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:22 PM |
| 1 | CMV: it should be illegal everywhere to get sex using deceptionDo you think that if transgender people hides their biological sex from a person who would otherwise revoke consent if they knew of their trans identity, it should be considered rape by deception? What about women who lie about their previous work as sex workers? Or about body count? For many men, this would also be a reason not to have sex with them. Should it be considered rape by deception on the part of those women? If a man lies about his height or penis size and a woman lies about her weig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 06:02 PM |
| 12 | 45% of men age 18-25 have never approached a woman in personWhy are they scared to approach women and earlier generations of men were not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 04:08 PM |
| 36 | The best self-improvement for a man is finding a girlfriendFor many men, love and a relationship and a woman is a good motivation, and especially when they have children, they grow up internally under pressure. Other men, however, just get comfortable and fat in the relationship, they stop taking care of themselves and the household and shift all the work to their girlfriend or wife. So different men, different results. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 03:45 PM |
| 5 | What are some popular opinions commonly held by people of your own gender here that you not share?Girls and women are generally more attractive than boys and men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 03:39 PM |
| 1 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?While I generally agree with you, if someone attacks you and you start hitting back, you should expect possibility to seriously injure or kill the attacker. This can never be completely ruled out, especially if you don't know the health status of the attacker. But if you're getting hit and you're not hitting back, it's much harder to defend yourself. And if you end up on the ground and the person who attacked you starts kicking you in the head, then it may be too late to start taking the situati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 03:16 PM |
| 1 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?What about children? There, boys have no significant strength advantage over girls until puberty, and many girls can be bigger and stronger than some boys of the same age. Plus, not all men are that big even in adulthood. And some women are big and strong. You can't expect every man to be so much stronger than every woman that the woman poses no threat to him. Not to mention men who are sick, disabled or old. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 02:41 PM |
| 1 | CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to youI have high testosterone levels as well as high libido, always had. And I never did intentional hook ups. I prefer to know the woman a little more before sex. It's also safer and it's time to clarify for example that if sex happens and we continue to see each other, whether it will be an exclusive relationship, friendship with benefits, or what. I don't like situationships and vague things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:57 PM |
| 1 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?Which scenario will likely be deemed excessive force by a jury? That's a good point, but the answer is that I really hate how self-defense is judged by the courts in my country. Totally inconsistent, every judge will judge it differently and going to court in such a matter is practically like spinning the wheel of fortune. No one knows in advance how it will turn out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:23 PM |
| 1 | CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to youI'm a man, I only go on dates with women I'm physically attracted to and yet I wouldn't have sex with them on the first date unless I've known the woman for a long time. If a woman wants sex at the first date, that's rather positive, but too personal and intimate to want it so quickly for me. Maybe some cuddling or kiss, but definitely not sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 09:57 AM |
| 2 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?My personal view: When I was a child, my parents taught me to avoid conflict or run away and if that is not possible, always fight back with full force, whether it is a boy or a girl. Most of the kids around were raised that a boy should never hit a girl and even if a girl beat up a boy, he defended himself by saying that it was because he didn't fight her. But I personally was not brought up that way. Overall it wasn't bad advice for me. In puberty and adolescence, this attitude of mine was get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 09:40 AM |
| 2 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?This is not always a realistic option, unless it is a case of systematic bullying, but rather individual but fairly frequent incidents of violence involving many different children. There are schools where some kind of violence and physical confrontations among children are quite common. It's hard to tell who started it this time, every child says something different, alliances are formed. And in some groups, even girls of this age are aggressive and physically violent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 09:20 AM |
| 1 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?What about children before puberty? How would you teach this to your son or how do you think boys should be taught in general? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 09:04 AM |
| 5 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?if it was a frail old man, I could probably just hold him back and leave. If I hit him as hard as I’d hit a normal adult attacking me, I’d probably seriously hurt or even kill him. Good point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 08:53 AM |
| 2 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?I guess I worded it wrong. Until the onset of puberty, boys are generally not bigger and stronger than girls. I guess at the age of 10 or 11, girls are even a little heavier and bigger on average. Thus, in a potential fight between a boy and a girl of the same age, the boy may not have any advantage given that he is a boy. If you have a son and he is rather small, many girls his age can be significantly bigger and stronger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 08:48 AM |
| 2 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?Or a situation where the conflict threatens to turn into a group fight. It's not smart to lie on the ground when someone else can kick you in the head. Overall it's a good option to reduce injuries, agreed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 08:44 AM |
| 1 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?What about smaller children, where there is no difference in strength yet? Would you teach your son this way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 08:39 AM |
| -1 | If a female physically assaults a male, should the male react differently than he would if a male assaulted him?if it’s anything regular like a sucker slap, you can dish out the same in return So you believe that a man could slap a woman back with reasonable force and it was morally okay? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 08:36 AM |
| 4 | Domestic violence would he reduced if men internalized the "she's not yours , it's just your turn" mantraThere are people who treat their own children worse than other people's children. And there are people who clearly prefer their own children, both in their treatment and willingness to help and invest in them. Likewise, there are people who treat borrowed or rented property better than their own property. And there are people who have it the opposite way. In general, I would say that people tend to behave better towards what they consider permanently theirs. You're probably right that the cases … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: What's the biggest lie you were told about the opposite gender that you discovered was not true as you got older?Fortunately, my mother was always honest with me about this, so even though society around me told me these lies, mentioned in the comments around here, I knew from my mother that many women were just as tough, capable, dangerous and dirty as men. She didn't put herself or other women on a pedestal, she taught me to treat everyone as an equal. She never taught me nonsense like a man never hits a woman, instead she taught me to fight back. I am very grateful to her for that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:39 AM |
| 3 | Q4All: What's the biggest lie you were told about the opposite gender that you discovered was not true as you got older?If you're a shy/nerdy/goofy guy who looks great, women will be less intimidated by your looks. So instead of them thinking you're the most handsome guy they've seen in months, but completely out of their league so they don't dare to even look you in the eye, they'll judge that you're really cute and find the courage to flirt with you instead. So, certain displays of weakness, goofyness, or shyness in areas where women are good can help gain the interest of more women. Because it will increase th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:26 AM |
| – | Men, do you actually reject women for this reason?I would reject a woman if she had done sex work before. Or if she was trying to get a better job or other benefits through sex. Certainly not because of her history of enjoying sex for her own pleasure, if she had reasonable boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:52 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Your SO refuses to be emotionally vulnerable with you - Deal-breaker?Assuming she would let me know she needs me in other things (I don't understand this, it's too hard for me) and if she did this from the beginning of the relationship and pretended that she simply did not need the emotional support, that she was managing her emotions, then I would probably perceive it as a great advantage and I would brag everywhere about how emotionally strong and mature my partner is. I would understand the potential negative consequences much later. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 04:43 AM |
| 2 | What would happen if all Men abstained from sex for a entire year?The male population would almost disappear, as 95% of men would begin to identify as gay women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 04:32 AM |
| 1 | We often talk about how modern culture discards masculinity, but we hardly touch on how it discards femininityIf we use your definition, we can find some societies in history and maybe even today where only men own real estates, land, and larger property, and so almost all wealth was in the hands of men (not sure how to measure influence in historical societies). But then why do many people claim that today's societies in developed countries are patriarchies? After all, if you are assessing a society made up of, say, 300 million people and the distribution of power, wealth and influence in it, you canno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:53 PM |
| 4 | We often talk about how modern culture discards masculinity, but we hardly touch on how it discards femininityThank you. The article looks interesting and with sources. I will be happy to read it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 06:36 PM |
| – | Most of the gender war stuff is just men angry women wont have sex with them and then women being angry at ugly men wanting to have sex with them.Let's say that women miraculously increase their libido and primary sexual attraction overnight, begin to orgasm very easily from PIV and find 80% of men sexually attractive enough to initiate sex with them to such an extent that all men who are interested in casual sex, could have sex at virtually any time. Do you think that would end all gender war and clashes? Would we just fuck our way to universal understanding and peace between the genders in the love not war sense? Or like an idealized bo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 05:53 PM |
| 2 | We often talk about how modern culture discards masculinity, but we hardly touch on how it discards femininityThat makes sense. But how does this explain the association of femininity with weakness? If someone asked me, I would say "human or maybe male arrogance", due to the fact that people usually don't appreciate what someone does for them and what they don't have to do it themselves. Like a lot of people in the cities didn't respect the farmers even though they depended on them for their survival. But is there any direct link between how society is built, who rules it and so on, and why femininity i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 05:42 PM |
| 3 | We often talk about how modern culture discards masculinity, but we hardly touch on how it discards femininityYes, I guess I'll try to study it and give it a chance. After all, my concept of patriarchy in the style of families, clans or tribes controlled by fathers or the oldest male member, patriarch, is not ideal for discussion with people influenced by feminist ideology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 05:20 PM |
| 8 | We often talk about how modern culture discards masculinity, but we hardly touch on how it discards femininityIt all comes down to patriarchy, a system that oppresses everyone I think I need to make friends with some reasonable feminist and ask her to explain the term to me thoroughly and patiently. Because I'm getting allergic to it. And it seems that at least in the US and UK (and thus on Reddit) so many people use it that my original position that its use in this sense is a symptom of brainwashing is maybe not justified. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 05:05 PM |
| 1 | How often do women dote on/serve you?Interesting topic and your husband is lucky to have a wife like you. It was more common before children. I usually cook now. But on the other hand, I receive small gifts and other pleasant attentions. I know a lot of men like it when a woman cooks for them or irons their shirt and such, but I'm not really the type of man who needs a caring woman. I am more pleased when she is willing to spend time with me doing my favorite activities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 04:32 PM |
| 3 | How often do women dote on/serve you?This is really pathetic. It looks like the only one here trying to hurt her is you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 04:13 PM |
| 7 | CMV : If you’re the guy she had to lower her “unrealistic” standards for the you’re forever on thin iceThat just sounds like a friend that she can sometimes get rev’d up for when particularly horny or wanting to do me a favor A simple example: You are doing something together in the kitchen and you are turned on by the sight of her ass (primary attraction). The sight of your ass rarely excites her. But it turns her on when you press up against her from behind and she feels that you're turned on for her because it suddenly makes her feel highly attractive and wanted (secondary attraction). As a ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 03:54 PM |
| 5 | CMV : If you’re the guy she had to lower her “unrealistic” standards for the you’re forever on thin iceYou are basically saying that women can make themselves attracted to a man, which is what OP is saying No, I'm not saying that. There is primary and secondary sexual attraction. Women typically have the secondary as more important then men. Many women strongly react to how a man treats them, how he will make her feel. Just because she isn't strongly attracted to him primarily doesn't mean she won't be attracted to him secondarily. Demisexuality may also play a role. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 01:36 PM |
| 4 | CMV: The fact that surrogates are mainly used by women and gays show that men's threats about artificial wombs are not to be taken seriouslyAren't gays also men who are going their own way, living independently of women and potentially using artificial wombs to reproduce? Of course, artificial wombs will be used mainly by heterosexual couples. And to a much lesser extent by single hetero women, unable to find a man who would suit them sexually and at the same time be willing to start a family with them. A single hetero man who has money for a surrogate mother and wants children probably does not have such a problem getting a relatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 12:47 PM |
| 25 | CMV : If you’re the guy she had to lower her “unrealistic” standards for the you’re forever on thin iceStandards aren't just about attractiveness. A standard that she lowers or waives might be, for example, that the person in question does not have a doctorate, earns 50k instead of 80k, he is smoker, or not have the same political beliefs as her. Then there are craps like taller than 6' but in practice she can't tell 5'11 from 6'. Or a penis longer than 7 inches, but she has never actually measured any penis. He also may have qualities she didn't think would be so attractive to her. For example, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 11:57 AM |
| 3 | As a woman why should I get married?Because finding a partner with whom you are bound by passion and infatuation, which you transform into mutual love and respect, is deeply human and very fulfilling. It's different than what friends can give you, but more importantly, you can give such a man what you can't give any friends. When you find the courage, you can give yourself to him and he can fully accept you. On many levels, you will merge into one being, and you and your man can experience a taste of what it is like when you are n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 06:41 AM |
| 3 | Red Pillers: What do you actually consider to be sufficient evidence of r*pe and SA?That someone is guilty without being convicted or part of history? I really don't do that often, and in fact, in the vast majority of cases, there's no reason to. Let's say that on one side you have a person who claims to be a rape victim and on the other side you have a person who claims to be falsely accused of rape. In the vast majority of cases, it's just online and you don't really have a reason to form a strong opinion. Let's wait for the trial, it's a perfectly valid approach. But let's s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 08:13 PM |
| 2 | What does your “ideal” dating life look like?Fortunately, it's not that bad. There is a zombie time when you can be really sleepless and tired, but after a few years it is significantly better. And I like children. Kids are great. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 03:15 PM |
| 0 | What does your “ideal” dating life look like?That... would be really great! But personally, I have not met a woman who would welcome this even in a long-term relationship and after years together. And especially not after the children are born. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 03:12 PM |
| 3 | What does your “ideal” dating life look like?If you read my ideal, you'll probably be sick of me too. :-) But I understand you. I myself am very lucky to be married to a wonderful woman, I started a relationship with her in my early 20s and I don't really need to have sex with any other because I know it wouldn't work. I will not destroy a good marriage because of greed. But as an relationship and sexual fantasy, I would have a polyamorous marriage from my teen age with 2-3 women at the same time. As a man, I have a high libido and being t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 03:09 PM |
| 3 | What does your “ideal” dating life look like?That is very nice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Red Pillers: What do you actually consider to be sufficient evidence of r*pe and SA?If either partner reports being raped in a relationship, it should definitely be investigated, bruises or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 02:37 PM |
| 1 | What does your “ideal” dating life look like?I am a married man, since puberty in polyamorous relationship with two or three beautiful, intelligent and successful bisexual women. We are still deeply in love and have many children together. Sometimes we spice up our relationship with some female lover. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 02:26 PM |
| 3 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?Can you please elaborate on your question? I don't understand what you are asking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Red Pillers: What do you actually consider to be sufficient evidence of r*pe and SA?All it takes is a little more passionate sex, a stronger man and woman who bruises easily. For example, woman may have finger-shaped bruises on her thighs, buttocks or arms after sex, because she required a firm grip, it was pleasant for her under the influence of passion. Or sometimes it's enough to just have sex outside of a comfortable bed, for example standing up with a woman pressed against a wall, a tree, on the kitchen table or on the floor. Carpet can cause a lot of chafing, you can have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 12:48 PM |
| 1 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?I believe it. Pearl is remarkable. She is not a beauty or nice, but she has a lot of male attention, and there are men who like her among the men who watch her. It is similar to if a man can attract the positive attention of many women and stand out, some will surely like him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 10:33 AM |
| 7 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?No it is not. Pearl is argumentative and headstrong. She is not nice to her opponents. And every man knows that if he were to be in a relationship with her, sooner or later they will oppose each other on something. And then the man would have a problem because Pearl is very good at arguing. Still, I believe Pearl has many fans and men who would love to date her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 10:30 AM |
| 31 | Red Pillers: What do you actually consider to be sufficient evidence of r*pe and SA?As with most other crimes. Conviction by a court of law in due process respecting in dubio pro reo in virtually any developed country. I'm not a judge, so it's hard for me to judge the evidence. Especially if I don't have a police file, statements and the like, but only distorted information from the news or social networks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.Yes, that's probably true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 03:27 PM |
| 3 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.Yes, that's my argument. Many men are not afraid of losing something or be rejected. They care about women and what those women think and want. So when many women don't want men to approach them, it's most likely to deter decent men who make sure to behave respectfully not out of fear, but because they care about other people. If you honestly don't want to make other people uncomfortable, or hurt or offend them, then it's understandable if you, as a man, wouldn't approach women in today's enviro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.And also yes, why do you care what someone thinks about you, if you will never see them again? What difference does it make if you see that person again or not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 11:29 AM |
| 2 | Age gap between 23 and 18 is much higher than between 38 and 23they may have, we are talking about average people We're talking about people who are in these age gap relationships. And these are not average people, but generally people who for some reason are comfortable with these relationships. Average people don't have those relationships because those relationships are in the minority. it doesn't make them predators, but dynamics is different when you finish college and start working I don't see it that way. Personally, I started working and earning som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 08:48 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?woooow, this is extremely interesting. Sarcasm? Generally speaking, it's different to be a fuckboy in your 20s, where it raises your social status among your peers, in your 30s, when you are still cool, but most friends start getting married, and in your 40s, when most have kids and talk about them and start to look at you with some pity. It's in the title - boy, it's not very suitable for grown men. Otherwise, he was trying for monogamous relationships. It's just that with such a high libido, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 08:23 AM |
| 11 | Age gap between 23 and 18 is much higher than between 38 and 23 Why is a 23-year-old woman a girl, but a 23-year-old man is not a boy in your description? Why should every 18 year old still be in high school? Some people at this age are already working. 23 and 18 may have a common interest in the relationship. And it doesn't even have to be a serious relationship. At the age of 18 I dated also women older than 23, what's wrong with that? Why do you think that makes these women predators? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 08:09 AM |
| 4 | Men can't have more sex if they don't approach women. Over 50% of single men have not approached a woman in the past year.While it’s likely true that a lot of women don’t want to be approached in public, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. They tell you to fuck off, you never see them again. How does the fact that he won't see the woman anymore (perhaps, not everyone lives in a big city) have to do with whether he should respect that many women don't want to be approached in public. It's like you're more rude and inconsiderate to people you think you'll never see again than you are to people you'll probably see agai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 07:49 AM |
| 5 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?Statistically, more people approve of relationships involving an older man than relationships involving an older woman. Relationships in which there is an older man are also much more common. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 04:32 AM |
| – | “Just Be Yourself” and other passive platitudes about datingHe can find a woman with whom he is compatible (increasing his social reach and search efficiency) or maybe he can increase his flexibility in how many roles he is able to play and thus his compatibility with other women if the problem is that women are not interested. But if he is really not very compatible with romantic relationships or family life, for example because he lives an ascetic life in separation from society, then it is possible that he will simply have to choose what he prefers an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 04:00 AM |
| – | “Just Be Yourself” and other passive platitudes about datingGenerally speaking, which of the things you mentioned are really you? That if you didn't have it, you wouldn't be you anymore? For example, if you ask, "Who am I? Am I my extreme food pickiness?" There is strength in simplicity, so if a person can find center, the foundation, what they really consider to be "me", then they do not identify so much with their various roles, habits, expectations of others or successes and failures. Most of the time, the problem isn't that being that you isn't enoug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 03:54 AM |
| 23 | Question for Redpill : Why do you care that women and society lied to you?Putting it in the wider context of the economy is a very good observation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Question for Redpill : Why do you care that women and society lied to you?Thanks for the link. There aren't already bigger gender clashes? Not in my country, the situation in the US is considered insanity here. Both in terms of new waves of feminism and woke or cancel culture. And whether in the US, that is difficult for me to judge. I've noticed that some men and women online are angry and bitter about the opposite sex, which is a symptom of some ongoing argument. But it's hard to say how serious the clashes are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 05:11 PM |
| 3 | Question for Redpill : Why do you care that women and society lied to you?Well, I am neither a feminist nor a TRP. Or in the US or UK. So this is my outsider's view. I think it won't go that far and that rather some of TRP's ideas will be absorbed by mainstream society without TRP gaining society-wide support as a movement. In other words, as far as women's and human rights are concerned, it will be a correction of the bull market rather than a major turnaround. I hope that men in the US are not doing so badly that they have the motivation for some bigger gender clash… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Question for Redpill : Why do you care that women and society lied to you?Because that's two conflicting goals with two groups of people who are often more full of shit than they realize. Now are you talking about feminism or TRP? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Question for Redpill : Why do you care that women and society lied to you?Society-wide negotiation has many levels and forms. Did you know that suffragettes in Great Britain and Ireland orchestrated a terrorist campaign between the years 1912 and 1914? And men are generally more violent. So yes, the question is what will it look like if TRP gets enough support at all. I hope that cooperation and fruitful discussion will prevail. It probably depends on who will be the leaders of the TRP (or whatever this movement evolves into) at that time and whether enough space will… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 04:35 PM |
| 5 | Question for Redpill : Why do you care that women and society lied to you?If feminism recognizes that different women want different things within feminism, why not allow TRP the same privilege? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 04:20 PM |
| 5 | Question for Redpill : Why do you care that women and society lied to you?If feminism is objectively correct and moral from a feminist standpoint, then of course anyone who opposes it will be immoral and oppressive from a feminist standpoint. But that's how it works with any ideology or religion which claims a monopoly on truth and morality. Is opposition to feminism bad from a feminist point of view? Maybe, but if women have the right to join in some movement for their interests, don't men have the same right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 04:14 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?Unbelievable, right? I understand that someone who has been sitting in a restaurant for an hour hungry and they still haven't brought him food is dissatisfied and angry. But for him to shout that no one in the world ever starved like he did... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 04:09 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?Of course you can. Not 100%, but we can control and change our emotions to a great extent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Do women really want to date older men?It seems that women generally value experience on the men's side more than the other way around. Men are more willing to lead and teach. Women often want a man to lead and be the active one. Thus, both genders prefer a power imbalance to a certain extent. Or it is possible that women are naturally more powerful in relationships and try to balance it out with an older and more experienced man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 04:02 PM |
| 8 | Question for Redpill : Why do you care that women and society lied to you?Because it is seen in its consequences as something harmful, an anti-social sin. Once it is fully acknowledged, the energy will not be devoted to acknowledging it, but how to change consequences through societal pressure on the individuals. What the red pill is trying to do is not just to wake up men as individuals, but to wake up men as a group, to unite them in response to what is perceived as problematic behavior. And react not from the position of individuals, but from the position of societ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 03:48 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?Because it is part of a normal social response as part of society's strategy to pressure individuals to conform to society's interests. From the point of view of many wealthy individuals, giving money to the poor is not very attractive. But society pressures the wealthy to do charity and be generous in a variety of ways. From rewarding the generous rich with recognition and praise, extolling generosity as a valued quality, to showing anger at the "greedy" rich who refuse to share. And somewhere … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 03:30 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?uncontrollable Of course not. But otherwise good point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 03:11 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?Well most men in general are going thru the worst time in history Do you really believe this? Do you think that if you were transported to any other century in history, you would live better than you do now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Do women really want to date older men?39% of Americans have dated someone with a 10+ year gap A little further down you will find more information and a link. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 10:40 AM |
| 2 | What would you say are the chances of being falsely accused of sexual harassment by a woman?In my country? Low risk. In the US according to the image in the media and on the Internet? If I were you, I'd rather not even leave the house, and if I do, then only dressed in women's clothes and with a "GAY" in rainbow colors on my forehead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 07:49 AM |
| 3 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?In his youth, he was proud of his reputation as a dominant bull with an insatiable libido and made women and sex his lifestyle. Then over the years it started to bother him more and more that he was unable to maintain any relationship. He tried to find a woman who would keep up with him sexually, but there are very few and usually extremely toxic. So he gave up on relationships and kept it casual. But he was quite unhappy about the fact that he probably wouldn't have a family and that women in h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 05:31 AM |
| 11 | Do women really want to date older men?Interesting data: Across cultures, women prefer men who are considerably older or at least the same age. Around 8% of heterosexual relationships in Western countries have an age gap of 10+ years. The 2017 US census shows that the husband is older in 85.1% of such couples. 14.4% of couples, the wife is older. 25 % of male-male couples have an age gap of 10 years or more. The percentage is 15% for female-female couples. 3% of marriages today break the Half +7 Rule. Thus, the age difference of 10+ … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 03:00 PM |
| 6 | Do women really want to date older men?Marriages, so 40+ age. But on the other hand, these are marriages at the time of the census. Most people have several relationships in their lifetime, and thus the chances are much greater that at least one of those relationships will be with such an age difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 02:36 PM |
| 22 | Do women really want to date older men?7,6% of marriages with a husband 10+ years older. 1,7% of marriages with a wife 10+ years older. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 02:29 PM |
| 0 | Would you choose your wife or baby in childbirth?As a husband, he’ll have the legal authority to make medical decisions for her if she’s incapacitated— if he thinks theoretically he might let her die, then it’s very fair for her to know that before agreeing to marry him. It’s important information for her. This is a very good argument that hadn't occurred to me. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Studies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to womenStudies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to women Source? Your linked study: "Controlling for age, physical maturity, and mother's education, a significant curvilinear relationship between intelligence and coital status was demonstrated; adolescents at the upper and lower ends of the intelligence distribution were less likely to have sex." In my opinion, it does not mean that the higher the IQ, the less attractive. But rather that people are looking for compatibility. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Would you choose your wife or baby in childbirth?Wow. The woman isn't the selfish one here. Poor soul just found out how little she matters to him. Which is exactly why I recommend having this discussion prior to marriage . That's what this specific thread is about. If I discuss it with my girlfriend after half a year of relationship and before marriage, I cannot know for sure what our relationship will be like when the child is born. I will just know that we will be together for a longer time when the baby is born. I wrote in different thread… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 01:17 PM |
| -2 | Would you choose your wife or baby in childbirth?Why not. Arguments against: If I've only known the woman for half a year, I'm only slightly more interested in the grief of her parents than the grief of any other woman's parents. Not much. And I cannot know in advance whether I will develop a good relationship with them or not. On the contrary, my parents, who I care about much more, will suffer from the death of their grandchild. You're right about single parenting and such. But I'm definitely going to have a baby. If I wanted the baby, that'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 12:54 PM |
| 4 | CMV I personally believe there are 4 groups off Men in terms off Dating desirability.You have to specify the age of the men you are talking about. Because overall most men are in relationships or married and your percentages don't make sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 10:51 AM |
| 0 | Would you choose your wife or baby in childbirth?Of course. But it's about when that conversation takes place. For example would you really save a girlfriend you've only known for half a year over your own child? And on the other hand, how can someone judge how important a child will be for them if they don't have the child yet and maybe they are in a relationship phase where they don't even know if they will ever want a child? This is very difficult to assess theoretically and in advance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 10:23 AM |
| 0 | Would you choose your wife or baby in childbirth?Which is exactly why I recommend having this discussion prior to marriage. What discussion? Who would he rather save, a woman who isn't his wife yet or a child he doesn't even have yet and doesn't know how he will feel about him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 01:48 AM |
| 2 | Would you choose your wife or baby in childbirth?Wife. But the older the child, the more problematic the decision would be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 01:46 AM |
| 3 | CMV: I faked it is a terrible insultThat's because it's often not meant entirely as an insult. Rather, in that argument, the woman finally finds the courage to say something that she wouldn't normally say because she is afraid that she will hurt the man or that he will leave her afterwards. If arguments are good for anything, it's that people say not only ugly things but also more honest things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 01:28 AM |
| 6 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?They are usually women from the same denomination, through recommendations, from other cities and the like. I think most people just don't take it that seriously with the sex after marriage and other rules. Especially when he's playing the tempter, against women who have significantly less experience with the game, just so he can judge. He would probably need to come across a woman who, like him, has nearly model-level looks, the ability to flirt, but who clearly sets her boundaries and will hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 01:00 AM |
| 7 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?His problem is that he's basically a reformed slut. Before he started taking faith seriously, he had some hot baddies who were really fun to have sex with, but were toxic as fuck and unfaithful. Now he lives very religiously and wants a woman who will take faith as seriously as he does, will put God and faith first, will want to wait for sex until marriage. But at the same time, he longs for her to be really sexy. And simply in his faith and in the place where he lives, there are probably no suc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 12:12 AM |
| 2 | CMV : A lot of men feel like a date went really well when it didn’t. They made a friend.Definitely. More power to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 09:10 PM |
| 1 | CMV : A lot of men feel like a date went really well when it didn’t. They made a friend.Of course, if you really want it in a date and it's what gives you butterflies. You can compare investment portfolios, review suitable real estates and agree on future child care and where you will spend your holidays. Whatever floats your boat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Is this whole 'stay in your lane' ideology in dating, healthy and fair, or the opposite?It depends on what criteria you use and how big is the group of people that will be created using these criteria. For example, if someone has a high IQ, niche interests and values, or a less common kink, he may have much more in common with someone ten years older or from different upbringings. It may not be easy to see what deeply connects two people who appear very different from the outside. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 06:50 PM |
| 28 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why? One with intimacy and trust issues as a result of abuse trauma. Two who were highly toxic, destroying one relationship after another. One with an extremely high libido that prevented him from maintaining any kind of monogamous relationship. Basically a borderline satyr. One bipolar, forming relationships in his manic phase that fell apart in his depressive phase. One workaholic. Good looking, rich and successful business owner. One strongly religious, demanding and judgmental. His demands on w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 06:06 PM |
| 2 | CMV : A lot of men feel like a date went really well when it didn’t. They made a friend.Yes, but today's times are more complex, so you should be involved in setting the framework. It makes a difference if you want a man to call you "my little bitch" and dominate you or if you require a friendly and equal approach or you desire a "gentleman and lady" dynamic. It's basically just roleplaying, but you should somehow subtly agree on what game you both want to play. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 05:33 PM |
| 2 | CMV : A lot of men feel like a date went really well when it didn’t. They made a friend.I generally agree. Timing, on the other hand, is trickier. With some women, you need to flirt openly from the beginning, they like that kind of tense energy, otherwise you are going the friend line. It is better to get to know other women a little better first, flirting should remain more subtle, indirect, given, for example, by the fact that the topic of sex and relationships is not closed, but in the initial phase you mainly build mutual trust. And it can be difficult to find balance and compa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 05:27 PM |
| 5 | Women deliberately mischaracterize "Nice Guys" and set them up for failure no matter how they approachThere are certainly women who abuse the nice guy label against men they simply don't find attractive. But personally, whenever I've seen a woman labeled a man as a nice guy, it was because he was weak coward, insincere in his intentions, and manipulative in that he pretended to be a friend, but after a while he felt offended that he did a lot for a woman and still no sex. Without having the guts to make it clear to her that he wants the sex. A man is supposed to be strong and being nice is his c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 05:06 PM |
| 2 | CMV: People do not want to date easily available people. Average men can't easily get average women, but average women can easily get average men.I agree. If people get stupid ideas about their ideal in their heads, it can prevent them from being happy. First, because they don't know what they really want, so even if they get that ideal, they won't be happy. And then, because they easily project their illusions onto other people based on a purely superficial resemblance to an ideal, and then claim that they don't understand how they could have fallen in love with that person or that there were no red flags. But against that ideal, even fi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 09:50 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Women have nothing to gain from dating men, but everything to loseSo, polygyny. Because that is the logical consequence of a situation where the majority of women will want a minority of men. Which, on the other hand, tends to lead to the fact that the minority of desirable men have so many options that they don't have much motivation to treat women nicely and, on the contrary, treat them like second-rate beings. Golden penis syndrome for example in universities, where there is a significant numerical preponderance of women. So polygyny is self-limiting. You a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 07:36 AM |
| 5 | CMV: People do not want to date easily available people. Average men can't easily get average women, but average women can easily get average men.As a straight man, you probably don't care how many other men want to date you because you're just not interested. Your lack of interest does not come from the fact that those men are easily available to you, but from the fact that they are simply not interesting to you for a relationship or for sex. The options you are not interested in do not diminish the value of the option you are interested in. So if a woman is interested in you, the fact that 100 other men want to date her that she isn't i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 06:20 AM |
| 12 | Does any gender as a whole have less accountability than another? If so which and can you provide realistic examples?It is true. Men want to touch them. Which doesn't mean they can, without consent. But yes, some cultures transfer the accountability to the woman. As if men have no accountability for their own self-control. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 05:49 AM |
| 3 | is anyone else who is attending college afraid because of all the rape cases going on?…This is horrible. I understand that you are afraid after reading something like this. It looks like the university really screwed up. "In one case included in the lawsuit, a woman identified as Jane Doe 12, who had attended a debate camp at Liberty in summer 2000 when she was 15 years old, said she was grabbed by a man in a women’s dormitory and carried into a shower, then thrown into a chair in an atrium and grabbed again. She held him off with her feet while he groped her legs and breasts, the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 05:32 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Women have nothing to gain from dating men, but everything to loseDo you think women didn't want men before patriarchy? So how did the human species survived? Or do you think that in apes, females are interested in males because they are inoculated that way by their society? Also, regarding fairy tales, the vast majority of women are not fairy tale princesses. So logically they don't get the prince. Even if in fairy tales Cinderella danced with a princess and not a prince, how would it be different? Most women don't even get a princess if they're lesbian. The … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:50 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Women have nothing to gain from dating men, but everything to loseIf society will be made up of religious groups succesfully encouraging women to have 12 children, because resisting women will simply die out without offsprings, then it probably won't help women much in the long run, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:20 AM |
| – | When a woman says "I love guys with long hair!" she's picturing a bearded masculine man to go with it.Axl Rose was born in 1962 and is the singer of the Guns N' Roses. It makes no sense to compare him to Chris Hemsworth, who is a generation younger, still at the peak of fame and a mainstream actor. Men with long hair were and are popular in the rock or metal scene. Not a viking, but more of a rebel or wild types. Also Welcome To The Jungle , there you will find guys with long hair that girls went crazy for. And you can continue with many bands of that time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 08:05 AM |
| 3 | The dinner club. Do you think it’s real on daring apps or imagined by salty people. If real, do you think it’s fair play or foul play.Probably because she would have to have sex with the sugar daddy, while 1-3 dates can be platonic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 02:33 AM |
| 1 | “Just Be Yourself” and other passive platitudes about datingGive me example. Who you are? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 02:17 AM |
| 4 | “Just Be Yourself” and other passive platitudes about datingIt is great advice on a deep level. Only most people are not willing to implement it, because they are looking for a quick and easy solution with short-term benefit, rather than a difficult solution with permanent benefit. Because first they have to find answer to "Who am I?" So they can be themselves. It is not easy. But if man does not know this, then he has no solid point on which to base anything else. On a less profound level, it's more like: don't pretend to be someone you're not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 05:14 PM |
| 0 | Can we finally admit that men who find women unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?If you say so. 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 11:06 AM |
| 2 | Can we finally admit that men who find women unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?That's really sad. They behaved like morons, what more can be said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Can we finally admit that men who find women unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?the chat was just about chilling, yet they love to tear an ugly woman down. If it was something like Omegle, there are just a lot of trolls and people roasting for fun. A lot of people will just take advantage of the situation and yes, a fat woman is an excellent target if she can't defend herself. She wasn't bullied because she's fat. She was bullied and her obesity was used as a means of bullying. I think even many of the racist insults in chats are more about knowing they can just say monkey … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 10:46 AM |
| 0 | Can we finally admit that men who find women unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?Okay. I thought it was about you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 10:38 AM |
| -1 | Can we finally admit that men who find women unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?You look ok. Not ugly. You're not undeniably beautiful, so it's easy to insult you by saying you're ugly. And a black woman, so outside the preferences of many men and feeling ugly is your supposed insecurity and weakness. As I wrote, they don't bully you because they really think you're ugly. They bully you because you're a easy target for bullying and they only use "ugly" as an excuse and a way to hurt you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 05:29 AM |
| 7 | For those that worry about being the “best she ever had”…I understand, but you probably asked the wrong question. It should be: "Do you also worry that she won't love you as much as she loved her previous partner?" Or "Do you also worry that you won't have as strong and good a relationship as she had with her ex?" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 12:13 AM |
| 26 | For those that worry about being the “best she ever had”…Why should I concern myself with whether any man loved her more? Some men loved her without her showing any interest in them. How much they loved her, how deeply they felt their feelings, is their business. If anything, I wonder how much she loved them compared to how much she loves me. So if I found out that she considers her ex to be the love of her life and thinks they were meant to be together and it just didn't work out for some reason, that would worry me. Regardless of whether the ex love… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 12:05 AM |
| 3 | Can we finally admit that men who find women unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?Obesity and ugliness arouse unpleasant feelings in me. As an ugly woman, you don't have the privilege of "women are beautiful", men have no reason to treat you nicely in order to possibly be rewarded with sex, so they basically treat you like a weak and non-threatening man who differs from the average and therefore attracts rather negative attention. This explains why they treat you worse than pretty women or strong men. But not why they bully you, consistently and purposefully attack you. You a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Single women are not "the happiest demographic". In fact, married women are the happiest women overall.This would be better as a discussion than CMV. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 09:01 PM |
| 3 | Are people who are against age gap relationships expect men to be casanovas?when women say things like this, they just expect that guys should be casanovas who can get any women The apex fallacy. They are not interested in those who can't do it. Moreover, there are many older women who are not very attractive to men. If older men stopped pursuing younger women in general, some older men would not get any women, but some older women would get men they don't get now. So for some women, fighting the age gap is a theoretically beneficial strategy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 09:32 AM |
| 2 | How would you feel about an "All men are handsome" campaign?It would be bullshit. But nice and positive and if it convinces some women that certain unpopular types of men are actually cool, then good for those men. I would say that women are pretty much influenced by fashion and trends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Most women with green flags are boring and men don't actually want them.It depends on how attractive you yourself are and where you have the limit of sober and repeatable fuckability. Let's say your cutoff is 6/10. If you're able to attract women who have a lot of green flags for you and a 6.5/10 look, I think you're better off getting them than women with a lot of red flags and an 8/10 look. But if you can't get women with green flags and 6+/10 threshold, then you have to make compromises, and that's possible more about flags than the fact that you just don't want … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: WYR be everyone’s 5 or some peoples 10?Broadly attractive, both for me and her. Lookwise, I like 20-30% of women my age. But in terms of personality, intelligence, goals and values, I am very picky. So is ok for me to be 6,5/10 for most women. If we are in the same niche and clear preference for each other in terms of personality and values it will be enough to build a good relationship. Likewise, it's alright if a woman looks likeable but not stunningly beautiful at first. 6,5/10 is cool - fuckable and I'm not too nervous. And there… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 08:20 AM |
| – | Men should compete for women. Women should be selective. Change my mind.Having women as the main motivation in life is superficial, unsatisfying and easily leads to frustration for men. Of course, sex and validation is fine, but if a man submits his life to it, it just seems weak and ridiculous. Also, do you think men like Newton, Einstein or others who really moved humanity forward did it for sex and women? On the other hand, it places unrealistic demands on women to act as moral arbiters. But women don't do that, because women are just as shallow as men and if the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 09:25 PM |
| 4 | Misandry doesn’t existIf there is internalized misogyny, why do you think there isn't internalized misandry? What else is the idea that men are inherently less valuable and so it is more okay to send them to kill and die in war than an expression of misandry? Or even the willingness of many men to attack or kill another man rather than a woman? Misandry is thus systemic and kills men. Also, don't forget that misandry from women can be directed at boys who don't have a way to defend themselves yet. Both from mothers a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 06:12 PM |
| 6 | If you're struggling in dating you only have yourself to blameAnd what's the point of blaming yourself? How does it help to blame yourself, others, or anyone else? If you say there's no point in blaming others, the world, etc., why not reject the concept of blame as such and stop blaming also yourself? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 01:11 PM |
| 4 | CMV : As an average man comparison to exes and potential partners will always lead to the end of your relationship or ruin its quality"She actually choose you " Stop saying that bullshit https://reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/s/zBTaSQWg6n Ok. The woman fell in love with her illusion, which she used as a cope with the fact that she was abused. And even after x years she is still obsessed with her own illusion and cannot detach herself, so she goes to therapy and try everything possible. If you want to argue that many people don't fall in love with real people, but with illusions of them, so be it. But that's why I wrote "in her ey… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 12:27 PM |
| 8 | CMV : As an average man comparison to exes and potential partners will always lead to the end of your relationship or ruin its qualityIf you don't stand out in her eyes, she won't choose you for a relationship. If you're in a relationship with her, it's because you stand out from everyone else in her eyes. If by any chance not, have some self respect and break up with her. If she is relationship oriented, then a good relationship with you after few years is worth more than any tall unknown guy with muscular arms that she would have to get to know from the beginning. If you don't have a good relationship even after few years, t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 10:52 AM |
| 1 | The only reason women have the extreme upper hand in dating is because men are way hornier; simple supply and demand.Unsolicited female nudes are definitely sent for free to men. How else do you think real prostitutes in the past and now bots lure men to webcams and other paid porn content. I normally get this crap in my social media inbox. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 09:56 AM |
| – | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the reply. The scenario is based on the assumption that you are single. But I understand that it can be hard to imagine if you are deeply infatuated with him. Give it another ten years, and then maybe such an experiment will be fun for you again, at least as a fantasy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Males, do you experience the "ick"? It so - what? If not, why not?Cute face emoticon. UU are closed eyes and w is mouth. It's from kawaii and furry subculture. Hello kitty, girls with cat ears, making cute faces and sounds like a cat or a baby. In general, i get ick when a grown woman styles herself as a child. I won't explain furry because you can summon some demons by mentioning their name. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 05:08 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Males, do you experience the "ick"? It so - what? If not, why not?Truth. I'll give another two: She calls me sweathart or honney. Maybe it's a cultural thing. UwU, unless it's done as a joke. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 09:40 PM |
| 1 | The only reason women have the extreme upper hand in dating is because men are way hornier; simple supply and demand.It's still true in many societies, so I won't argue. It's wrong and the sooner it goes away the better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 02:05 PM |
| 5 | The only reason women have the extreme upper hand in dating is because men are way hornier; simple supply and demand.When a woman does it, men pays her for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 01:24 PM |
| 12 | The only reason women have the extreme upper hand in dating is because men are way hornier; simple supply and demand.Fast search: 5% of women ages 25-29 engage in solo sessions more than 4 times a week, while 20.1% of men do. The gap closes in for those who reported masturbating multiple times a month, with 21.5% of women ages 25-29 and 25.4% of men in that same age group. But the disparity generally remains the same throughout our lives, with women coming in at least 10-15 percentage points behind men in each category. https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19910594/masturbation-study/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 01:15 PM |
| 54 | The only reason women have the extreme upper hand in dating is because men are way hornier; simple supply and demand.It is the reason. But not the only one. Women also bear higher risks due to the fact that women may become pregnant and are more likely to be sexually assaulted by someone much bigger and stronger. In addition, they are less likely to reach orgasm, especially during PIV sex and in hookups. So even in a situation where a woman is just as horny as a man, she will probably be more hesitant to have sex with a man. It is possible (just quessing) that lesbian women do not hesitate so much to have sex … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 01:04 PM |
| 9 | Q4M: Males, do you experience the "ick"? It so - what? If not, why not?Very long nails or eyelashes. Excessively enlarged lips. Misandry. Narcissism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 12:21 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thank you for answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 12:18 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the reply. Do you consider yourself asexual or maybe demisexual? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 07:55 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Making them sex workers and becoming a pimp is a novelty among the responses. Points for originality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 06:29 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I think I know what the video you talk about and I was definitely crossing my fingers for the female bodybuilder. She did great! I hope that bastard ends up in jail for a long time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 06:20 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thank you for reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 06:10 PM |
| 1 | If dating is so broken, why don't women seemingly complain about it?Okay, so we're going to pretend that horniness doesn't start and peak before 18. Good. Because if not, then we would have to admit that men never had sex when they were most horny. Especially not in earlier times when sex typically only started after marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 01:03 PM |
| 1 | If dating is so broken, why don't women seemingly complain about it?It depends. Are we going to pretend that we are most horny after 18? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 12:23 PM |
| 4 | If dating is so broken, why don't women seemingly complain about it?Keep in mind that boys and young men often complain here. And they always had a hard time dating, if only because of statistics and demographics. Young men and young women have the greatest imbalance in their chances of having sex and dating. It evens out for men with older age. Older men don't complain nearly as much because most older men are also in relationships and quite content. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 12:04 PM |
| 1 | Men who say they want feminine women, don’t want feminine women. They want SUBMISSIVE Women.I think not every feminine woman wants a masculine man. The dynamics can also be feminine woman with feminine man, as well as masculine man with masculine woman. Opposites often attract each other and gender polarity certainly works that way for many people. But there are also people who simply want someone similar to themselves and I know feminine young women, with soft spot for femboys or hetero twinks. Also, I think feminine women can be very competent, femininity does not preclude capability… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 08:06 AM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thank you for reply. What a realistic answer. :-) No really. It seems that quite a lot of women choose this option. I think much more than if it was reversed and men decided. I wonder if the women would really implement it the way they think, even with all those possibilities and temptations without negative consequences, but I haven't had time to prepare an private paradise island with 50 dream, nice and respectful men yet, so I have to wait a while before I do a practical experiment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Men do not reward loyaltyToo few young men are from such wealthy families that it matters. Maybe 1-2%? Therefore, it is not a solution for all women, not even for a significant part of women. And if all young women try to have sex only with young men from rich families, then it will just completely spoil those young men from rich families, and they will not be good partners for any woman. Moreover, what about young women from rich families? With whom should they have sex, if the decisive criterion for women from a young… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 06:16 AM |
| 2 | Men do not reward loyaltyWomen should only ever fuck guys at the finish line who have achieved their goals, that way women know that they are the prize and not just a starter wife or as good as he can get at the time. You're basically saying that women should either start having sex in their 30s or have sex with significantly older men when they're young. Conor McGregor is a good example of this, his wife was with him from the start now he cheats on her. They are not and have not been married. Moreover, in 2008, when re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 05:51 AM |
| 3 | How is it that each woman has tons of guys chasing after them (on average) when they're 51% of the populationSo, you have your answer. Women who have 40+ guys willing to have sex and relationship with them do not make up 51% of the population. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 05:31 AM |
| 3 | How is it that each woman has tons of guys chasing after them (on average) when they're 51% of the populationYou probably only see young women, which make up a small percentage of the population. Women 40+ don't usually have that anymore, and on the contrary, many of the messages and interest towards young women come from men 40+. In addition, the fact that a woman has many messages only indicates that men are more active and write to many women at once. Not all men who write messages want to meet (many are married, looking only for validation), and those who do want to meet and have sex, not all are w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Men who say they want feminine women, don’t want feminine women. They want SUBMISSIVE Women.Men who say they want a feminine woman are not saying they want a hyper feminine woman. Almost any human trait, if you make it hyper, becomes harmful. What do you think is feminine behavior? Positive, neutral and negative examples. Because what you stated are all negative things. And for example -her expecting you to not cry, this is not a manifestation of femininity, but a manifestation of her expectation from your male role. But just as a masculine man may prefer a masculine-behaving woman, a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 05:14 AM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Very interesting answer, thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 04:27 AM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?The scenario says you are single. But you're right that it doesn't prevent the man who is your husband from being among the most attractive men in the world, if that's how you perceive him. So yes, this could be your next honeymoon. If you would choose the man who is your husband again even with all the competition of handsome men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 04:21 AM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?The fact that you already have your dream man chosen is nice. You're right. Deep conversations, fun banters and valuable time spent together on non-sexual things and friendships sometimes lead to falling in love for me too, it's not always just about sex either although good sex is a great way to bond. Thanks for the answers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 04:17 AM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Two-year mega island orgy party! Thank you for reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 04:03 AM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the interesting answer. Sure, why not enjoy yourself when the opportunity presents itself and unless you are strictly monogamous. The relationship would remain even after leaving the island, whether it would last even if the man could suddenly choose from other women, that is another question and it would probably depend on how much you were the right ones for each other and how strong and deep relationship you built on the island. By the way, you wouldn't know in advance that it woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 03:59 AM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the reply. Sorry about the climate. It will be a little cooler island for you. The remaining 40 men would be similar to your favorite types and at least at the same level of attractiveness. Whether from real men of the present, or handsome men of the past or even fictional characters from books if you are so picky that among billions men, 50 would not be attractive enough for you. So you will have something to discover and some interesting surprises. That's interesting about casual re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 03:53 AM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?According to what the women wrote, more than half would try to create a monogamous relationship even in this environment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 03:45 AM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?For fun. And because that scenario showed more interesting answers. For example, it can be seen that some women are monogamous but at the same time wanted to enjoy casual sex before forming a solid relationship (one even wanted to use the whole two years for casual sex but leave with a relationship). Others wanted no casual sex, just a relationship. And the difference was also that some women indicated that they rather want several monogamous relationships over the course of those two years, ser… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 03:27 AM |
| 8 | Are women financially better off not being with men?The main variable in your equation is not men or women, but children. Therefore, your question makes no sense. You ask if women would be better off without men, but then you argue with children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 09:44 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Often the limiting factor is the quality and quantity of willing partners. I mostly removed that in this scenario. But the question is, when you have a practically unlimited number of attractive suitors, and you are practically not limited by society, what do you choose? You still have to choose and you can't have everything because the thing that is not unlimited is your time and your life. Here, for example, you have two years at your disposal, and the question is how you want to spend them in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 09:36 PM |
| 3 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Well, yes, I know it in theory, but it's one thing to know something in theory and another to be able to put it into practice and keep it in mind. You are right that it is instructive for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 09:30 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?How they would look and act probably depends on which male celebrities, singers, actors, athletes or fictional characters you personally find most attractive. Because these men would be there and interested in you. Thanks for reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 07:29 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?A good and funny answer. Thanks! Let them build you a castle and then you can rule the island as queen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 07:26 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thank you for reply. Out of curiosity, how long is the period usually for you when the infatuation starts to fade and you start to perceive that the man is no longer treating you as attentively as he used to? How many such relationships would you probably manage in 2 years if you knew that you had almost unlimited possibilities to replace the man in the relationship at any time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 07:15 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?That looks like great fun. Thanks for the reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 07:07 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I like your way of thinking. Thanks for the answers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 06:59 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Interesting. It would be very lively there at first. Thanks for reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 06:53 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?You can leave with whoever you want after two years. But of course, whether your exclusive relationship will last even if the man has other women to choose from is another question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 06:47 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?That's a good point. It didn't occur to me that someone would spend two whole years just dating and at the very end want to establish a monogamous relationship that they believe will last after they return to the normal world, even if the monogamous relationship has just started and has no very solid foundations. But yes, it could work out. Way to have your cake and eat it too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 06:37 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the reply. So, you would end up in a monogamous relationship, but before that, would you mind having a little casual fun with a few of them? I understand that even if you are the relationship type, you would see it as a bit of a shame to completely miss this opportunity and not have any casual sex? In the fantasy scenario, I stated that everyone would treat the woman nicely and respect her decision. But I underestimated women's fear of men, that's true. They have no problem believing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 06:32 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the reply. I think that's what most women chose. Interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 06:03 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?That's a fact, but you won't have much time left for that exclusive relationship. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 06:01 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?All std free and as for birth control, pick your favorite. You can have unlimited condoms, pills for you or even a vasectomy for them. You have enough provisions to keep you all from dying of hunger, cold, and the like, but enough work that you are not bored to death. Let's say a safe and pleasant resource-rich island where you initially have a well-stocked warehouse, but it's still a good idea to build some dwellings and generally improve things there. As for their preferences in sex, everyone … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:59 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?STI free, as for the vasectomy, if that's your preferred form of birth control, why not. Harem is an interesting choice, and you're not the only one who chose it. It appears often in male-centric stories, in some form, as many men prefer it as the ideal setting. I wonder how popular it is with women in terms of fantasy situations where the woman has no negative consequences. There is often a relationship triangles where a woman chooses between two men, but I have never seen a harem for a woman a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:52 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the interesting reply. It would be quite lively there for the first few months. Luckily I didn't put 100 or 500 of them there. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:45 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Yes, I learned a similar lesson from it. That I tend to underestimate women's fear and insecurity about men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:42 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I'd say it's more of an idea for an erotic story, where all those extremely handsome men court a normal woman and compete with each other for her favor, they can try different strategies to get her, but in the end they always respect her decision. Whether it would be porn in which the woman would casually enjoy sex with everyone or have a harem of her favorites, or rather a romance about a monogamous relationship despite all the temptations, that already varies with the answers of individual wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the fun answer. The possibility that a woman would choose to spend time on that island as a sex matchmaker simply did not occur to me. Would it just be out of boredom or do you like watching men having sex with each other? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:19 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Not quite true. None of those men would judge you for having sex with others unless you yourself promised him an exclusive relationship. The question is more why would anyone want to cheat in a scenario where if they want to have sex with many men, they simply can with no negative consequences other than not having a quality, monogamous relationship. In addition, if your partner or anyone around you does not find out about your infidelity, then there is also "no penalty" for cheating in real lif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:17 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the reply. Yes, if you are monogamous, sexual attractiveness of your counterpart doesn't affect your behavior much, and you are picky about relationships and you need a good, quality relationship to want sex, then it would probably go this way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:13 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for the reply. A lot of women choose it. It's interesting that so many prefer monogamy regardless of the quality of men on offer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:10 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thank you for answer. Yes, I underestimated the fear and pressure in that scenario. But even that is interesting feedback for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:09 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Insteresting answer, thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:06 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Because not everyone wants everything. For example, if I want a monogamous relationship, I just want a monogamous relationship. If I have sex with other women, then I know that I am not in a monogamous relationship. That's drawback, I just either have one or the other. And not everyone wants a monogamous relationship. Some people are comfortable with casual sex, other would prefer polyandry with few favorites in this situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:00 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Sorry for the nightmare. Not intentional. Also, they were still children/teens and that played a big part in Lord of the Flies. And the author was perhaps too skeptical about how children would behave in a similar situation. I think the actual cases where children or teenagers ended up isolated in this way turned out better, if I remember correctly. Grown men would probably be able to create a more functional and reasonable society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:45 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Your scenario is interesting, but it has also a crack. After a few months you would have a totally desperate, bored and so isolated man in every room, that he will be outright begging for moments of conversation. Imagine an abandoned dog reaction after you enter the room. Not much of a relationship situation when everyone is dependent on the woman and they are basically prisoners while the woman is free. You practically create the situation of a prisoner and a guard and that is on the verge of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:38 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thak you for reply. Many of them would probably feel sad too, so you could also bond over that. An exclusive relationship is a popular choice, it seems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:26 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Great plan. And you think that as part of your superhero adventures, you're more likely to have casual sex with many or all of them, or you're more likely to establish a monogamous relationship with one, or other forms of more permanent relationships outside of being in the same superhero group. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:23 PM |
| 3 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I am interested in women's responses to how they think they would choose. Casual sex with a large number of highly attractive men, or a monogamous relationship with any of them, or some other combination, without fear of their safety or society's condemnation. The answers are interesting to me, but it's a shame that I didn't manage to remove more of the fear from such a situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:18 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Yes, I underestimated the nightmare aspect of this situation for women. Thanks for choosing to ignore it and reply. Having polyandry with few favorites is an interesting choice. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:02 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Interesting, thank you. Do you consider yourself demisexual? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:00 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?And then you could send a rescue there and be famous all over the world as the woman who saved so many handsome men. And can fly. :-) Anyway, that's off the script. According to the scenario, you will be there for two years, flying or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:58 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I don't know. Interesting question. Maybe show that you're fine even if there's no sex? But I don't know if it wouldn't make some women feel insecure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:55 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thanks for reply. And don't worry, in that scenario even rejected men would respect your choice and remain friendly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:46 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Yes, it makes a sense for someone who tends towards monogamous relationships, but wants to have some fun when they're not in a relationship. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:45 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Sorry for the nightmare aspect and thanks for being able to ignore it and reply. So, casual sex with everyone, ok. Thanks. I think many men would make the same decision in the reverse situation and it's interesting to see how women think they would decide. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:43 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Very interesting. Thank you. That, by the way, is close to how I would probably choose if the roles were reversed and there was no pressure on me from those women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:38 PM |
| 6 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Do you need any explanation or additional information on that question? Or did you just want to write that you don't want to answer? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:36 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Yes, that's probably true. Although personally I wouldn't see it so darkly. After all, to each of those men, that woman's life is worth more than any other man's life. But I didn't really want to create a nightmare scenario. I'm sorry I didn't think this through better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:33 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thank you for answer. And don't worry, all those men will respect that and continue to be friendly. No nightmares needed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:27 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Yes, thank you for your interesting reply. I should have created the scenario better to remove more of the women's fear of men from it. I underestimated it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:23 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Ok, in your case, all those men are bi. What will you do? Relationship or casual sex with many, maybe all of them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:19 PM |
| 3 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?The question is whether you can really build a deep enough, romantic relationship with 50 people at once. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:16 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Some women chose a monogamous relationship, others chose to have sex with all men. So, at least hypothetically, different women choose different things, they are not all the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:15 PM |
| 3 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?It's a fictional scenario, so it's okay for her to add as much power as she needs within that scenario to make it believable, that the men will respect her choice. If she wants to be 10x stronger than any of those men or be able to shut down any of them with a thought at any time, or have a safe word that would render impotence and loss of libido to any of those who disrespected her choice, no problem. But the fact that several women expressed their fear of men in this post is interesting to me.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:08 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Interesting and probably quite realistic for someone who is naturally inclined towards monogamous relationships and falls in love during good sex. Thanks for the reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:02 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I couldn't remove the pressure difference in that scenario, that's a fact. Thanks for the reply. Interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:00 PM |
| 3 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Thank you for answer. Do you think the presence of many other very attractive suitors would make it less likely to fall in love and stay in a relationship with one of them and be faithful to him all the time? Or would it be enough for you to have one man who is extremely attractive to you and you are in love with, so that you are not interested in anyone else? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:58 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Interesting, thanks for the reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:54 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Sure, why not? Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:53 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?It's kind of sad that it's more conceivable for you to end up on a desert island with 50 of the most handsome men in the world according to your choice, including fictional characters, than for them to respect your choice in that fantasy. If you have trouble imagining that they would all be willing to respect your choice, then add the superpower to yourself, that you can force any of them to respect your choice at any time. Or anything like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:50 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Interesting choice, thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:39 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?In 1 man and 50 women situation, if they chose not to respect him, he has no chance, and his physical advantage will not help him in any way against such a number. But let's say it would really be an unrealistic fantasy where all those men will respect your choice and you don't have to have sex with them just for your safety, but only if you want to. If you choose a relationship with one of them, it will be fine. If you start enjoying unlimited casual sex, that will be fine too and everyone will… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:37 PM |
| 5 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?That's nice island. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:30 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?So what do you think would be a likely scenario for you? In that situation, would you rather have casual sex with many or all of them? Or rather an exclusive relationship with one of them? Or another choice in the style of creating your male harem or choose two or three for relationship? If you have such a wide choice, what would you most likely choose? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:28 PM |
| 1 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I do not know. So would you have sex with all of them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:24 PM |
| 3 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Good point. You have all the supplies to live comfortably on that island, including condoms or other forms of birth control. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:21 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?I don't know her age. Maybe she's a girl. From my point of view, a 17 or 18 year old male is more of a boy than a man. Anyway, I originally used the word men, she used male and that can be either a man or a boy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:16 PM |
| 2 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Not at all, it's an interesting choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:14 PM |
| 0 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?Which males (males can be both men and boys, I don't know what you prefer, your choice) came to your mind as your top choice for that island in terms of their attractiveness? What chance would they have with you if you spent so much time together and they showed interest in you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 01:09 PM |
| 0 | Getting sex isn't an accomplishment, or something to be ashamed ofIt depends on how you define accomplishment. Is having rent paid and enough food to keep you from starving a accomplishment? For many people it is because they have to put effort. You write that sex is not accomplishment because anyone can pay for sex. But if a man hires a sex workers for sex to such an extent that it satisfies his sex drive, i.e. 2 times a week, he must have money for it. And having around $10,000 a year to spend for sex even after he paid rent, food and other expenses is accom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 05:17 AM |
| 7 | Men are NOT protectorsMen make up the majority of criminals, but also the majority of police officers, firefighters, and the like. Men from other countries pose the greatest threat of military attack, but men from your country make up the majority of the soldiers. So men are both a threat and a protection, this is not mutually exclusive. You can argue that men have to protect women and children mainly from other men. And you'd be right. But that still doesn't change the fact that they had to protect. Just because you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 04:58 AM |
| 16 | Would you date a gender activist (Feminist/MRA)?It's not ideal for me. But I will always rather be in a relationship with an honest and coherent feminist than a hypocritical woman who shares my views. We're fine as long as we both respect that we can have different opinions on some things and we can enrich each other without the relationship suffering. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Nervousness or Fear Attracts Women the mostThanks, that makes sense. It's a fact that clinging to visible abs seems to me to be quite typical of the US and, fortunately, much less so of Europe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Nervousness or Fear Attracts Women the mostThat's solid. Unhealthy, but you probably look pretty good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Nervousness or Fear Attracts Women the mostOk. As you wrote about steroids, I imagined more of a competition size, not someone young who has steroids just as a shortcut. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 05:09 PM |
| 5 | Most men would be resentful and disgusted by their partners if they were given a written or visual history of their past sexual experiences. CMV.Thanks, I appreciate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 01:51 PM |
| 7 | Nervousness or Fear Attracts Women the mostBodybuilders are liked by a smaller percentage of women, but those who like them, like them a lot, because bodybuilders are few in proportion to the women who like them. Maybe that's why you notice that women show interest in you less often, but when there is interest, you have sex faster. You just have your niche in which you are popular. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 01:49 PM |
| 1 | CMV You will never get pump and dumped if you make a realistic pick of men when you consider youre Partners.Would you seriously go into a relationship with any woman whose RMV is at the same level as your SMV? If you're like 6/10, that's millions of women in the US alone. And with any of them who would point the finger and nod at you, would you go into a relationship? And besides, do you believe that all men are the same? That's really sad. I believe with my whole heart that Men always consider Relationships, as long as you match his value. Oh, here's the catch. What is matching his values? Because I,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 01:35 PM |
| 0 | Society thinks independent women die alone with cats. It's actually men who die alone.When this stereotype was created, women without men had a significantly more limited social life. And on the contrary, almost the entire public space was actually a man's space, be it streets or clubs, pubs and bars. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Could you fall in love with someone you don’t find physically attractive?I can be infatuated with a woman I have never met or seen, just through online communication. But it's relationship limited by that online space. Being in love will increase her sex appeal in my eyes. But if I then met her in person and discovered that despite my crush, the woman is so unattractive that she physically repels me, the crush would not last and at best it turns into friendship, platonic love. Let's say normally my standard is 6/10. Infatuation increases the person's physical attract… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 05:28 AM |
| 3 | The problem with dating is that we know it is unfair, yet we ask for fairness stillI think when it comes to dating, people mostly don't want fairness, they just want to do well, be successful and happy. Also, why do you think the universe is unfair? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 05:15 AM |
| 14 | Most men would be resentful and disgusted by their partners if they were given a written or visual history of their past sexual experiences. CMV.Three counterarguments: If I had to see a video of every time she pooped, farting, vomiting , had diarrhea and stuff like that, I'd be disgusted too. If you don't, then you probably have a fetish for vomiting and shit. And yet they are normal things that just happened in the past and I don't need to think about them. If I saw a video of every situation where she was angry, lied, said or did something hurtful, I would probably feel resentment and it would take me a while to process it. Even if I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 04:46 AM |
| – | Do you sometimes wish you weren't attracted to women?He hardly even finds time for his porn addiction! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Would you date a single mother with a dead kid?Her past is problematic, but it's not a dealbreaker. It depends on whether she has overcome her traumas. I think that the death of a child is such a tragic and serious matter that I would practically not deal with any of her previous irresponsibility. She has been through a life changing event, she is probably not the same person she was before she had the baby. So the deciding factor would be how she is now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 05:08 PM |
| 1 | CMV: What goes on in the bedrooms of consenting adults should be none of your businessAbortion is not a matter between two consenting adults nor does it take place in the bedroom. It is fine if the law also takes into account the rights of the unborn child. I'm not an anti-abortion activist, but it would be weird if abortion was completely unrestricted and women had abortions in the eighth month, a few weeks before their due date simply because they could. In the same way, the law of most states restricts and punishes incest, because it is their bodies, their choice, but the chil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/23 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather date a 21 year old and pay for everything or date a women over 30 who splits things 50/50?I choose the one with the bigger boobs the one that I will be more attracted to and that I will like. Age or whether we split 50/50 does not play a big role. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/23 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: What have you done that’s given a man the ick and how’d he let you know?High libido women are a world treasure. One of the few ways a high libido man can have a normal family, live honestly and not suffer like an animal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 08:04 PM |
| 3 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.Like if I would see it as an ideal? No. But if he is a decent man who behaves with respect, I can imagine many worse suitors. Definitely better a 35-year-old who is otherwise okay and will have a real relationship with her for at least a few years before she gets tired of him, than for example someone who uses or sells drugs, or if she followed the hook-up culture and then cry that all men are trash, because they just pumped and dumped her. She doesn't lose anything just because her suitor is 35… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 07:50 PM |
| 0 | Women arbitrarily choose 25 as the age they're comfortable with any age gap, because they know that's the point when women's value starts to decline. It's not a moral superiority issue, it's their own fear of being replaced as they age.18 and 35 I can imagine I wouldn't have a problem if the man was respectful and if the daughter would let me know that she just likes older men. 18 and 45 would bother me. I am tolerant, but not without limits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 07:09 PM |
| 19 | Wouldn't it be better for everyone if women initiated and made the first move?Institute for Family Studies partnered with YouGov to ask about 1500 young adults: Both men and women are more often "very happy" in relationships where the man was the active one at the beginning of the relationship. The difference is quite significant for men: (70% active vs. 46% passive vs 59% mutual). For women, the difference is smaller: (59% active vs. 63% passive vs 64% mutual). The influence of who invited first is even more noticeable in marriages. Men (53%) invite on a first date more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Men should just refuse to get marriedMaybe he will be a millionaire and his girlfriend will have tens of millions and want a marriage without a prenuptial agreement. Either way, if the marriage affects his financial situation, then that means it has meaning, and that meaning varies according to circumstances. So it can be advantageous for some, disadvantageous for others. It is not meaningless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Men should just refuse to get marriedIf something is important to me and I don't actively want it, then you're right. But if something is meaningless to me, I don't care, so why not? So for the OP, either marriage has meaning, positive, negative, he knows it will affect his life somehow. And in that case it is important that he takes a stand whether he wants it or not, but that should be based on a reason other than that it is meaningless. Or marriage has no meaning for him, neither positive nor negative, and in that case it makes … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 03:45 PM |
| -1 | Men should just refuse to get marriedIf marriage is meaningless to you and the woman you love will want and desire it, why reject it? You should be neutral about it, right? It's meaningless to you, but that doesn't mean you can't make someone happy with marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 08:39 AM |
| 3 | CMV: It's ok to leave your husband even if he's a great guyLet's say you are both good people and had a good marriage. First of all, if you stop feeling chemistry, he should know about it. After all, you are honest with each other and have good communication. Both of you care about your marriage because as good people you take your vows seriously and especially if there are children in the marriage, you want to keep the marriage. So you'll both work to rekindle that attraction and passion and chemistry. And if you do everything in your power and it does… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 08:14 AM |
| 3 | Yes men peak at an older age than women. But that's because most men start at the bottomHow can people even question that young women are seen as more attractive than young men? Just look at the insta profile of an average man and an average woman. This is not because of attractiveness, but because men are much more horny and also more active in establishing relationships and seeking sex. If 96% of people were homosexual, then the ratio of those messages between young men and young women would be reversed. And that without the appearance of young men and young women changing in any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Men will lie and say they won’t wife up a promiscuous girl or a girl with a past the same way women lie about their pastIf you think you won't do something and then you do it, you haven't lied, you've changed your mind. It would only be a lie if you knew from the beginning that you wanted to do it, and I think a lot of men who say they wouldn't take a promiscuous woman as a partner or wife are convinced at that point. If someone lies about their past, they're just lying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 05:12 AM |
| 1 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveLying is lying. Pretending is pretending. A woman with a pushup bra is on par with a man with shoulder or crotch pads. It can look good or it can look ridiculous, but generally speaking, the appearance is modified by clothing. A woman with makeup is on par with a man who has a wig to cover his baldness and a smartly trimmed beard to enhance the appearance of his face. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 04:32 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about society making men "obligated" to lead a relationship (asking a girl out, initiating the first kiss, proposing, etc)?Sex Ed should change because a big part of the issue now is men tying their self worth to sex. Removing that attitude would solve a lot of problems. Yes, I agree with this. I imagined you were saying something different when you wrote that you wanted to reduce male libido through education. Something like "boys need to be taught that their desire to have sex bothering women and they are not entitled to anything". Essentially though you’ve confirmed what I already thought. Presumed gender of the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 04:24 AM |
| 5 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveI do not agree that makeup is lying. Lying is too strong a word. But it has a bit in common. So many women use make-up that when a woman goes without make-up, is perceived as sick. So many men flatter, lie, or pretend to be interested in something other than sex in order to get sex, that when a man doesn't do it, is perceived as sick. In an environment where almost everyone is insincere, honesty is perceived as sick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 04:15 AM |
| 2 | 'Getting women' by lying and manipulating them isn't reflective of skill, it's just coerciveYes, but if the signing up itself provided benefits, then many people will do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 04:04 AM |
| 3 | How do you feel about society making men "obligated" to lead a relationship (asking a girl out, initiating the first kiss, proposing, etc)?When a man writes it, it is perceived as mainly wanting to reduce his libido, or possibly his and other men's who want to reduce their libido. Not that he wishes to reduce the libido of men who do not want to reduce their libido. When a woman writes this, it is clear that she does not want to reduce her libido, but the libido of other people. In addition, he writes about pills to reduce libido. So about the option for adult men. You write about the fact that you would like to influence children … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 03:54 AM |
| 5 | CMV: These are the only genetic filters you need to pass to be dateable as a manI only found this text for it: Listed chances of coupling among autistic people: Men with autism are 11x more likely to prefer a female partner with autism. Women with autism are 10x more likely to prefer a male partner with autism. Compare listed chances of coupling among ADHD people: Men with ADHD are 9x more likely to prefer a female partner with autism. Women with ADHD are 7.5x more likely to prefer a male partner with ADHD. Men with schizophrenia are also 4.5x more likely to prefer a female… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:26 AM |
| 3 | CMV: These are the only genetic filters you need to pass to be dateable as a manIn a study done by Toronto’s Redpath Centre, 32.1 percent of people with autism had a partner and 9 percent were married. So autism is a big disadvantage, but it doesn't seem like autistic people are automatically undateable. You also have a certain chance that as attention is focused on the problems of neurodivergent people, some women will see a certain opportunity in autistic men. There seems to be nothing stopping an autistic man from being a good partner if his partner provides enough socia… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:00 AM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireI'm not sure what you mean by that. That most men have to control themselves like this almost every day and so not all men rape or sexually assault women? I agree. That it is more risky for women, that men are more horny and aggressive under the influence of testosterone, in terms of possible sexual assault? I also agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Cooperation for reproduction only?I guess it’s hard for me to imagine why anyone would commit to that kind of arrangement. The OP was describing the situation of two people without a romantic relationship or friendship who still want to have a child. I agree that this in itself is not a very common situation. I pointed out that the risk for men in such a situation are single mothers by choice, who simply use the man as a sperm donor and subsequent walking wallet, but from the beginning have no intention of sharing custody. The w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 04:21 AM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireI know how to control myself, so let me be clear, none of this is an excuse for misconduct. If you've ever gotten an intrusive thought to suddenly push the person you're with off the high cliff you're both standing in, you know just having that in your head is a far cry from acting on it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 08:54 PM |
| 3 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireYes, but men's approach to sex is generally a bit different, quite possibly due to testosterone. More associated with aggression, dominance and activity. For example, men are more likely to have rape sexual fantasies in which they are the perpetrator, while women are more likely to have rape sexual fantasies in which they are the victim. That question was directed at whether and how the perception of sex changed in this direction due to the influence of testosterone. Men are more likely to commi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 08:51 PM |
| 4 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireTestosterone activates the subcortical areas of the brain to produce aggression and may also play a proximate role in dominance behaviors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 08:40 PM |
| 0 | Women shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to have sex when you consider the orgasm gap.If she (or he) needs a certain degree of intimacy and trust, that's fine. These things take time to build. That's a little different than, say, a woman refusing sex they both want just so the man doesn't happen to think she's cheap although she used to have sex with men much faster, but now she tries to pretend restraint, just to meet some social conventions. Of course, everyone has the right to do what they want. Including someone pretending to be someone else just to avoid being judged by thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Women shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to have sex when you consider the orgasm gap.I would say that few people shame women for wanting sex. Outside of religious circles and men obsessed with virginity. What is more often a problem is when a woman tries to sell sex to buy a relationship without actually wanting and being ready for the sex. Or when she delays sex to increase the likelihood of a relationship. Generally when she uses sex as leverage to achieve things other than sex. Once a woman barters with sex, it usually damages her self-esteem, intimacy, and burdens her in fut… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 08:17 PM |
| 3 | Do you think men get harassed more than women online?I agree that sex workers and various sex bots are pretty annoying at times. Women are harassed online much more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 07:14 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Guys’ dating woes online could be summarized as “I’m mad that Im not hot enough to get an abundance of pussy and validation”.And why should I not be sympathetic to it? You are a fellow human being, we are practically neighbors. And we probably share a common ancestor, so you're actually my relative. :-) Whether you want a fancy car, an apartment in Manhattan, travel the world, go to a top school, have enough money to live on dividends, buy a peerage or fly into space, I understand that it can be frustrating if you can't allow what you desire. Whatever dream you have, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone and it benefits y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 07:05 PM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desirebeing very clear and transparent when rejecting sexual advances because the burden of sex drive will make men misinterpret vague signals This is a good thing to take away from it. Just like if a woman starts a "no sometimes means yes" game, she's really playing with fire and the risk that a misunderstanding will occur is hideously high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 06:03 PM |
| 2 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireThanks man, interesting. What about the fluctuation of horniness during the month and the rise of horniness during ovulation? Is it any different from the usual swings of male horniness, when you wake up in the morning with an erection? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 05:48 PM |
| 1 | There is a night and day difference between how men and women experience sexual desireI don't think anyone who hasn't experienced both can fully appreciate just how profoundly different being an estrogen kind of horny and a testosterone kind of horny is. Please try to describe it a little better. As a woman, has your horniness fluctuated more over the course of the month? Or did your sex drive work differently on estrogen? Is sex drive from testosterone more linked to aggression? If you had to compare, how much did testosterone increase your sex drive? With that said, personally … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 05:10 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Guys’ dating woes online could be summarized as “I’m mad that Im not hot enough to get an abundance of pussy and validation”.If a black woman were to complain that men pay her much less attention and she is less desirable because of her ethnicity, then I will consider that a valid complaint. Sure, if she kept telling me that over and over again, I'd get tired of it, but even if she was dying of cancer and kept telling me how terrible it it again and again, I'd get tired of it. You compared it to the PS5. And yes, some people act as if there is no real human desire for sex or validation and sex and validation is just s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:05 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Guys’ dating woes online could be summarized as “I’m mad that Im not hot enough to get an abundance of pussy and validation”.So the abundance of sex and validation is determined by what? Let's say by the fact that there is so much that it already harms the man and damage his life? But then, if we know that men in general have a higher libido, and that in general women get more validation at least in terms of looks and attractiveness, why shouldn't a man complain that these desires of his aren't being met enough if they aren't? You claim he complains out of jealousy and wanting to be the popular one. But how do you kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 03:28 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Guys’ dating woes online could be summarized as “I’m mad that Im not hot enough to get an abundance of pussy and validation”.It is true that men are thirstier than women. But if men's thirst is not satisfied, then it makes sense that men are not satisfied with it and some complain about it, doesn't it? If a man's sexual desire was fully satisfied and he still complained simply because some other man was getting even more, it wouldn't make much sense. My question is whether the OP is right that men complain simply because they are jealous of more successful men and want to be the chad and popular. Or whether at least p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 03:19 PM |
| -1 | CMV: Guys’ dating woes online could be summarized as “I’m mad that Im not hot enough to get an abundance of pussy and validation”.So you think there is no amount of pussy and validation too small that it makes sense for a man to complain and feel dissatisfied? But if there is no too little, how do you know there is any abundance? How do you measure it? My question is whether you are right that men complain simply because they are jealous of more successful men and want to be the chad and popular. Or whether at least partly it is also about the fact that men complain because their sexual desire is not satisfied. If I'm horn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 03:13 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Guys’ dating woes online could be summarized as “I’m mad that Im not hot enough to get an abundance of pussy and validation”.Ok, that makes sense. what is "the right amount of pussy and validation" and what is "too little of pussy and validation"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 03:09 PM |
| -1 | CMV: Guys’ dating woes online could be summarized as “I’m mad that Im not hot enough to get an abundance of pussy and validation”.Okay, so what do you think is the right or healthy amount of pussy and validation for men, and what amount would you agree is too little? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 03:08 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Guys’ dating woes online could be summarized as “I’m mad that Im not hot enough to get an abundance of pussy and validation”.In the context of this post, what is "abundance of pussy and validation", what is "the right amount of pussy and validation" and what is "too little of pussy and validation"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Escorts and strip club should be normalized for people who have no other optionsMaybe sex work should be normalized. But that would require a deep transformation of society. The roots on which Western culture is built simply can't support a healthy and positive view of sex to such an extent that there can also be a healthy and positive view of sex for money. Society would resist such a transformation, so it more likely ends up with sex workers being marginalized and blamed whenever something bad happens in society. This injects guilt into the whole process, reduces protecti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 02:29 PM |
| 7 | The truth is that majority of men won’t even approach/talk to women, yet they keep blaming them for the their lack of success.If I had only gained my first experience with dating nowadays, it's quite possible that I wouldn't be approaching women either. Because just read a few discussions and many women clearly write that they hate it, consider it creepy and the like. And why should I expose myself to such a situation? According to what women write, they mostly don't appreciate men taking that active role and risking rejection. Discussions aren't full of women encouraging men to approach them without fear because women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Self-serving definitions of masculinityAngry people can become aggressive, and aggressive people may become angry, but the two are not the same. I don't think the masculine role requires men to be angry. A man is more appreciated if he has his emotions under control. Anger is more forgiven for men, but that doesn't mean it's required. Desirable masculine role is associated with a disciplined capacity for aggression and violence, rather than someone who is wracked with anger and unable to control himself. Thus, a man who falls into an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 09:15 AM |
| 1 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"She claimed she loved him too and had sex with him once, after about 19 years of his trying, before telling him they shouldn't get married because his suffering helps his poetry, so the world should be grateful to her for that she rejects him and lets him suffer. So... in a way he was more successful than many men on PPD. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 07:37 AM |
| 1 | To What Extent Are Attraction Standards Plastic?people can't consciously change them Most people never try to learn how to change them. That's why most people can't do it. If someone is ugly, they probably have more motivation to learn it if they don't want to suffer because their standards not being met. It's like when someone is poor, they have more motivation to learn to be content with less. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 06:34 AM |
| 1 | To What Extent Are Attraction Standards Plastic?Attraction standards are more plastic when those in question stop identifying themselves with their emotions, feelings, beliefs and sensory perceptions and start to control and consciously decide what they will feel and how they will perceive beauty. From this point of view, love is the result of daily conscious decision and work. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Meeting certain physical requirements makes the job of maintaining attraction to your partner easier, but I really don't thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Cooperation for reproduction only?Maybe she was treating him poorly and when he left, she took revenge? Or do you think that a woman cannot be an abuser in a relationship with the need to control her partner? Anyway, we're talking about a hypothetical situation here where the two aren't even in a relationship and just agree to have kids. And I'm adding my observations about how the laws work in my country in case the arrangement doesn't work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 06:09 AM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenOverall, about 14% of men and 16% of women does not perform oral sex, and I wouldn't really say that it's because there are so many more hidden gays in the population. In addition, not everyone provides oral sex even in same-sex relationships. Some people just don't like it. Not wanting to do oral is everyone's right. BTW: oral sex being more prevalent among whites (∼75%) than blacks (∼62%) or Hispanics (∼63%). Study: Statistically, men prefer intercourse to stimulation by partner's hand, mouth,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 05:56 AM |
| 2 | considering what constitutes an "average”It depends on what is being talked about when the word average is used. As for income, income is decisive. As for attractiveness, the appearance of the face and body and popular personality traits are decisive, other factors affect it as well, but less so. Ethnicity plays a role, but I don't think anyone takes that into account when using the word average. Because although black women are the least desirable to most other ethnicities, no one dares to say that black women are below average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 07:43 PM |
| 3 | considering what constitutes an "average”Margot Robbie is not my type and yet I find her very attractive. 8/10 at least, more like 9/10 within her age group. She has a prominent, very symmetrical face and is downright gorgeous from some angles. She also has a very nice body. To find women with an average face look for example at /r/AccuratelyRateMe It's not good for all face types, but some can probably be judged by the style they use. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 07:25 PM |
| 3 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"What about W. B. Yeats? Was he the simp for Maud Gonne? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 07:09 PM |
| 1 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"Based on this and your makeup analogy, I think that success is going to definitely depend on the preferences of the subject; what one person considers too much is going to be exactly what someone else considers incredibly, gratifyingly romantic. Yes, that is also true. It is both the skill and social prowess of the simping user, as well as individual women's preferences regarding favorite types and desired levels of simping. I think the current definition I’m going with is something like: “engag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 06:50 PM |
| 5 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"If I were to compare it to makeup, good simping is like natural looking makeup. It will enhance a woman's appearance and most men will practically not notice it, even if other women do. However, too much make-up will put off many men, as well as too obvious simping will put off many women. In common parlance, simping means overly strong simping, the kind that even women notice as something not natural. The condemnation of simping is not based on the man's bad or good motives, but on his ineptitu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 06:35 PM |
| 5 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"“I have so much in me, and the feeling for her absorbs it all; I have so much, and without her it all comes to nothing.” “Sometimes I don't understand how another can love her, is allowed to love her, since I love her so completely myself, so intensely, so fully, grasp nothing, know nothing, have nothing but her!” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, The Sorrows of Young Werther I hope you don't think simps are a new phenomenon. And they didn't even start in the 17th century, if you look at troubadour so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 05:39 PM |
| 1 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"Either in sex, a relationship, or both. Men are often expected to be dominant within their male role, but many men are rather submissive to women. And then of course there are men, who use simping purposefully, they pretend to be something they are not in order to buy a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 05:21 PM |
| 1 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"There aren't enough genuinely dominant women to satisfy the demand from submissive men. Whether they admit their kink or not. This is a long-term situation strong enough that when a woman wants to make money as a sex worker, it is often advantageous for her to pretend to be dominant. For most women, submissive and pandering behavior is turn off over time, so they appreciate a man who doesn't act that way. It is enough if the man focuses on increasing his own value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 05:14 PM |
| 1 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"As I wrote, I respect simps who are honest with themselves. If a simp can't admit he's a submissive craving humiliation and a strong woman to control him, and instead tries to remake all men or convince them they should be like him because that's proper, non-toxic masculinity, I don't respect that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 05:08 PM |
| 0 | How should we survive the "SIMP Epidemic?"If someone is honest with himself, then I can respect him, even if he is a simp. For example, if someone has as his life goal to become someone's slave 24/7, cuckold with chastity cage in accordance with his values, and he is pursuing his goal, why should I judge him? Let him live as he sees fit. The best way to survive the actions of others is to focus on increasing the positive aspects of your own life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 05:01 PM |
| 30 | Jobs that are dealbreakers (for me )...what about you?Sex workers. Some immoral activities, such as human traffickers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 04:52 PM |
| 1 | ''Men peak at 50, Women peak at 18'' is technically true but extremely misleadingIt is a very interesting study not only because of the age. The higher the education, the higher the desirability for men. College educated women are more in demand than postgraduate women. The most desirable are 18-year-old women, but 18 is also the minimum age from which it is measured. How would younger girls fare in terms of desirability? It's interesting how desirability drops sharply for women who are black. The most significant decrease depends on ethnicity, with Asian men being the secon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 08:09 AM |
| 15 | Do TRULY average men actually struggle to date and have sex?It seems completely understandable to me. What are you trying to say with your comparison? The teacher has to grade all the students. The woman only choose men who are attractive to her for a relationship or not? And if I'm not attractive to a woman, why would I want to be in a relationship with her? I'm not interested in a woman who gave me a mark other than an A. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 08:35 PM |
| 0 | If a woman has difficulty coming to orgasm, that's not my problemThird of all, most sex therapists think that foreplay should last at least 20 minutes Source? As far as I know, it says 5 to 20 minutes. Now, are orgasms our own responsibility? Yes, in a way, but what I can say is that if the roles here were reversed I'm absolutely, 100% sure that all the guys would be up in arms. Like, what if he did go down on her and made her cum them she just handed him a bottle of lube and told him he was responsible for his own orgasm? In many relationships, the man is ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Which of these women would be the most desired for relationships / dating ?Woman A: Maybe. I don't like her photo, but I saw a video where she works out and she seems likeable. Respect for her hard work. Probably yes in real life. Woman B: No/Maybe. I often like Asian girls, but not her. I don't know exactly why. Objectively she is beautiful, but not for me. But if we talked, she was nice and I got used to her appearance... Woman C: Never. Nothing against overweight women, but this is completely out of my acceptable range. Woman D: No. She's showing off her ass too muc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:45 PM |
| 2 | If a woman has difficulty coming to orgasm, that's not my problemThe average sexual encounter outside of lesbian couples lasts 15-30 minutes. Including foreplay, not just intercourse. It takes a man 5-7 minutes on average to ejaculate during PIV. The sex therapists surveyed say that anywhere from 7 to 13 minutes is “desirable.” So yes, 25 minutes might be too long for some men. Even for some women, if that woman reaches orgasm very quickly. During masturbation, the average is 8 minutes, during partner sex, 14 minutes for women. Moreover, he did not write that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:28 PM |
| 0 | If a woman has difficulty coming to orgasm, that's not my problemDo you know what is the biggest factor to women enjoying oral sex? How quickly their partner got off. Three quarters of those who found it moderately or extremely easy to make their man orgasm enjoyed going down. The vast majority of women simply do not want to give men long blowjobs. According to Superdrug Online Doctor, oral sex should last for between 8 and 11 minutes. In addition, the OP writes specifically about a situation where a woman takes a long time to reach orgasm and achieves it wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:23 PM |
| 5 | Cooperation for reproduction only?I don't know what the laws and customs are in your country. In my country, if the woman won't allow you contact for the first months or even years with the child, you will have to go to court, where she will probably successfully argue that you have no relationship with the child because you have no contact with him. And the court will decide in favor of the child. So you end up as a walking wallet for a kid you can't practically see. And even if the court orders contact with the child once in a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:07 PM |
| 9 | Cooperation for reproduction only?You will be connected to that woman through a child for the rest of your life. How well do you know her to know that you have a similar approach to parenting and that you can get along? In addition, you are planning a family where each of you will live elsewhere. How will it be with the care of the child? If there will be shared custody, how will you handle the situation when one of you decides to move? In addition, shared custody has a lot of disadvantages in itself. I would argue that for a lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 06:41 PM |
| 1 | If a woman has difficulty coming to orgasm, that's not my problemI don't have to, but I enjoy it. Anyway, my post was about the OP's text. And if a man doesn't want to do oral or other practices and wants only quick sex, that's his choice and he's entitled to it. He just needs to find a woman who is content with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 06:31 PM |
| 2 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenI can do all the letters of the alphabet with my tongue LOL. I also like to play and this is a fun game. But spam I and O still end up as the most popular. I am not looking for a Ukrainian woman, I am married and have a wonderful wife. But you're right that many Ukrainian women are very pretty, so maybe you'll be lucky enough to find one who appreciates your literacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 06:03 PM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenThat's true and it's one of the things that determines why a woman has a 65% chance of reaching an orgasm during straight sex, while it's 86% during lesbian sex. But once a woman reaches orgasm, many women just want to quit. There is not always time to make love for an hour, the next day you go to work, have children, you can be tired and you do not have unlimited free time. And even purely physically, additional stimulation after orgasm may not be pleasant for a woman. Even women can have their… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 05:54 PM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenIn my opinion, journalists often draw something from those studies that is simply not correct in order to gain more controversy and readership. But sure, you could be right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 05:25 PM |
| 2 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenI appreciate your approach and hope that you will occasionally share your knowledge here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 05:22 PM |
| 2 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenI'm from Central Europe, so luckily gender war doesn't affect me too much in real life. I take it more as a curiosity of the internet and a warning of what to try to avoid in my country. I hope your situation improves soon. Good luck. By the way, while my sex might be better if I were gay, I'm just not. I am heterosexual and I love women as they are, even with possible flaws. Women are amazing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 05:16 PM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenYour post is very interesting. Thanks for the work you put into it. Lesbians report an average of 30-45 minutes per sex session compared to an average of 6 minutes for heterosexual women. This seems to be the basis of your claim. But where is your source? Personally, I don't think there is as significant a difference as you state. for women in same-sex relationships, the median (50th percentile) time spent on sex was 30-45 minutes; in comparison, the median for everyone else was 15-30 minutes. h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 05:03 PM |
| 2 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenThat's a fair choice if you can choose. From my point of view, both have advantages and disadvantages. The downside of long-term lesbian relationships is that they more often end without sex. Regarding reported sexual satisfaction, women in lesbian and heterosexual relationships report approximately the same amount. So the pros and cons probably balance each other out pretty well. Which is probably also ensured by BI women who, if men were too bad and selfish lovers, would switch to lesbian rela… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 04:24 PM |
| 3 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenAs a man, I believe that if I were gay, my sex life would be better (aside from the discrimination against gays and the fact that they have difficulty having children, and that there are fewer gays, so the selection is worse). So if you have a choice, it makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 04:19 PM |
| 5 | What is the goal in consuming RP dating content?Slut shaming has been around since the dawn of time. If those women didn’t care about it back when they were sleeping around, they’re not about to start caring now. It’s unrealistic to expect women to start saving themselves for marriage because some guys on a podcast said they should. They cared and many still care. That's why men (and women) use this tactic because it's effective to a certain extent. Otherwise, I mostly agree with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 04:13 PM |
| 3 | CMV: If you're in a happy relationship, you've "settled".Let's say you want to build a house that will be your home and you are looking for land. Eventually you will find a plot of land that suits you and start building. As a result, you stop looking at other plots, because you are already building on that one, and the more you build, the more you have invested in that plot, until you finally have an entire furnished house there. Even if you found out about a better piece of land somewhere in the world, you won't leave your home that you've worked har… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 04:00 PM |
| 1 | If a woman has difficulty coming to orgasm, that's not my problemThe OP is getting enough backlash here, so I won't join. Instead, I'll point out that if a man has trouble reaching orgasm reliably, women often show a minimal amount of understanding. The man is automatically accused that this is the result of his addiction to porn and masturbation and that's it. Alternatively, the woman starts accusing him, that she is not attractive enough for him, that he doesn't love her and throwing all her insecurities on him. So while I don't agree with the OP, his post … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 03:44 PM |
| 2 | If a woman has difficulty coming to orgasm, that's not my problemIf he enjoys the activity that can bring a woman to orgasm. Not everyone enjoys giving oral so much that they want it every time they have sex, because otherwise their partner won't have an orgasm. Especially when giving that oral will take 15-20 minutes on average, while the PIV sex he wants will take 5 minutes. That's quite a lot of work when it's supposed to be all the time. A lot of women would not be willing to do a long blowjob during every sexual encounter. So you're right, but so is he. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 03:36 PM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenI appreciate that you take this to mean that the female orgasm is primarily a female responsibility. I don't like the attitude that a female orgasm is something a man does or gives to a woman. The approach that a woman achieves a female orgasm with the help of a man is much better. The idea that a woman achieves a female orgasm using a man's body, and it could be any man, is already a bit on the edge and it stops being friendly and polite. It's a bit like when a man sees only a warm hole in a wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 03:21 PM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenYeah, kind of like when you don't really need an oral from him because you're actually rubbing your clit against his nose. His tongue and his breath and the wetness and warmth of his mouth is just something extra. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 03:17 PM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenOne of the strongest orgasms we managed to induce in one of my partners was when she grinded on the top, but shortly before her orgasm I firmly grabbed her ass and effectively prevented her from moving. So she had to exert her full strength and weight to do herself. Which lengthened the time to her orgasm a bit and by having to really engage her muscles + my touch, it led to an intensified orgasm. The second method was during oral in combination with fingering. The friction came from my movement… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 03:10 PM |
| 2 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenNo, I understand sex quite broadly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 11:16 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Am I being “sexually assaulted” when women in Latin America kiss me without consent?Since it seems women are keen to label any semblance of uninvited physical contact “sexual assault”, I’m curious how consistent this logic is when tested in other cultures. In the Czech Republic, Slovakia, and some parts of Hungary, a tradition of spanking or whipping is carried out on Easter Monday. In the morning, men spank women with a special handmade whip. The spanking may be painful, but it's not intended to cause suffering. A legend says that women should be spanked with a whip in order t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 10:53 AM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenGood note. There is a difference between male and female refractory time, that's true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 09:30 AM |
| 3 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenI also usually feel more dominant when giving oral. It's a situation where the woman is very vulnerable, have to trust me and thanks to the fact that I'm not focusing on my penis, I can perceive her reactions very well, see everything and can play with her and tease her at will and that's fun. On the other hand, when I'm getting oral, it's more complicated. Even when a woman kneels before me, she's also holding my balls, so... :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 09:05 AM |
| 5 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenFor me it can be both. When a man plays with her, she is tied up, he enjoys lead her to orgasm repeatedly, this is a dominant position. But when she ties him up, masturbates over his face and makes him beg to let him lick her before facesitting, that's a submissive position. But it seems that a lot of people only associate giving oral with a submissive position. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 08:58 AM |
| 3 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenIt's probably not an exception for submissive women who are excited to give a blowjob and thus become good at it over time. If the problem is that they find it too gentle, slow and submissive on the part of the man, then maybe add a bit rougher fingering, use sex toys at the same time and tie her up. But it's not for everyone either. Anyway, to say that women in straight relationships have few orgasms because men should give oral more often is an oversimplification and often not true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 08:53 AM |
| 3 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenIt's an interesting point, what exactly counts as a sexual encounter. Personally, I would also count a night full of sex, where we alternately made love and cuddled or slept, as 1 sexual encounter. But if we had sex in the morning and then in the evening, I would count it as 2. It is a fact that lesbian sex lasts longer on average than straight sex so there is probably some truth in what you write. for women in same-sex relationships, the median (50th percentile) time spent on sex was 30-45 minu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 08:15 AM |
| 8 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian women28% of hetero and 44% of lesbian women reported that they received oral during the last sexual encounter. So probably yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:49 AM |
| 11 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenAnd there are a lot of women who are uncomfortable with a man going down on them at all. Many do not orgasm from it due to this. Moreover, many women are weirded out by the thought of a guy giving them say unreciprocated morning cunnilingus the way women sometimes give blow jobs, etc. This is also my experience. Giving oral sex to a woman is one of the most fun parts of sex for me, but for example, one of my partners decided to receive oral sex only after months of relationship, with me being th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:41 AM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenLesbian sex can serve as a good inspiration to increase the probability of orgasm in women during straight sex. But given that in heterosexual relationships a woman more often going thrue motions for partner's sake, it is understandable that the result is a lower probability of orgasm for her. If I don't want sex, but my female partner does, my main goal is to satisfy her, even with the knowledge that I won't have an orgasm probably (because maybe I don't even want one). But again, it keeps the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:29 AM |
| 1 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenDoes anyone have data regarding the likelihood of a woman reaching orgasm depending on the type and length of the relationship? I read somewhere that a woman has the least chance of orgasm during a hookup. Thus, in long-term relationships, women might have slightly more orgasms than my numbers indicate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:20 AM |
| 2 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenDo you have any data to back up that claim? That most people wouldn't like sex if that particular sex is without orgasm? I personally don't have an orgasm every time I have sex, but it's still a pleasant experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:18 AM |
| 36 | The number of sexual activities with orgasm in long-term relationships for heterosexual and lesbian womenYes. About their last sexual encounter, 21% of heterosexual and 11% of lesbian women said, "going thrue motions for partner's sake". https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Lesbian-women-systematically-engaged-in-these-behaviors-linked-to-intimacy-sexual_fig2_355834363 Overall, I would say that sex in long-term relationships is mainly driven by the male sex drive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 07:16 AM |
| 2 | The Big 5 Personality scale predicts a lot, yet people seem ignorant of itYes, lesbians have orgasms more often during sex than straight women do, regardless of the fact that lesbians have sex slightly less frequently on average. I don't think that's necessarily true in longer-term relationships. Converted to a group of 1000 women: Lesbian women: 2,760 sexual activities per month. Heterosexual women: 4,295 sexual activities per month. With a probability of orgasm of 65% for straight women and 86% for lesbian women, this makes for one average woman: Lesbian woman: 2.4 … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 06:11 AM |
| 1 | The Big 5 Personality scale predicts a lot, yet people seem ignorant of itDo you mean the probability of orgasm during sex? Where 86% of lesbian and 65% of straight women usually or always reach orgasm during sex? I wouldn't say it directly determines orgasm frequency. Among couples in the first two years of their relationships, 67 percent of gay couples, 45 percent of heterosexual couples, and 33 percent of lesbian couples had sex three times a week or more. The numbers drop off somewhat with time: for couples who had been together 10 years or longer, 11 percent of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 05:13 AM |
| 0 | 2000-2010 was the best decade for men, women and relationshipsI would say that hookup culture is a result of the sexual revolution, widely available contraception for women and a sharp rise in female student enrollment at colleges and universities, especially when there started to be more girls than boys. So hookup culture spread into the mainstream at least sometime from 1970-1980 and was widely accepted in the mid-1990s on colleges and campuses? But I agree that although it was probably supported by various women as part of sex positivism, the hookup cul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Most of men's cluelessness in dating stems from fatherlessness and their mother's virtue signalling bad advice.It could easily be such a situation. But in this particular case, after 25 years together, there was a divorce and she found a significantly younger man, a 6' 3", hard-fisted biker and racer who is manually skilled. And it seems like she's really happy with him although he is not as influential, rich, intelligent and socially adept. Personally, I once learned from this that if a man feels that it is not easy when dating and he has to conquer her, then it is probably because she simply does not w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 03:51 AM |
| 10 | How successful must a man be to have the same options as an average womanA 20-year-old man does not have very good options for a long-term romantic relationship. He is too young to be at his peak attractiveness and has too narrow a pool of young women aged 18-21 to date. Moreover, many of these women are not interested in a long-term relationship at this age. The options for a single man aged 30-35 are much better in this regard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 10:26 PM |
| 13 | How successful must a man be to have the same options as an average womanNot if he targeted gay men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 08:48 PM |
| 14 | How successful must a man be to have the same options as an average womanIf by average woman you mean a woman aged 39.5 years, overweight, with children in her care and for a romantic, long-term relationship, then her options are probably similar to the options of an average man aged 40-45, overweight and with children he doesn't see much but pays child support for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 08:45 PM |
| 1 | When was the last time you were vulnerable with someone?I am always vulnerable with my family and people I consider close friends. But it's a narrow circle of people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 04:41 PM |
| 4 | Most of men's cluelessness in dating stems from fatherlessness and their mother's virtue signalling bad advice.So how do you know it's an exception? Do you have any data that being attractive fuckboy in short-term relationships increases the chances of being attractive long-term to the woman he eventually chooses for marriage? Because it's not hard to be attractive to women who are below your league and in the short term. But in a long-term partnership, a lot of men try to get best women they can, so those women may have significantly higher standards, and other things play a role there than the ability … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 01:42 PM |
| 6 | Most of men's cluelessness in dating stems from fatherlessness and their mother's virtue signalling bad advice.For what rule? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 01:32 PM |
| 12 | Most of men's cluelessness in dating stems from fatherlessness and their mother's virtue signalling bad advice.I know a man who was a big fuckboy in his youth. A rich, attractive, long-haired DJ with great influence and political connections, who routinely hosted parties for hundreds of young people. Almost every girl wanted him. But in the end he fell in love with the one who rejected him and pursued her for so long that he finally got her. They got married and were married for over 25 years. And you know what? He was never attractive enough for her because he was not manly enough, physically intimidati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 01:30 PM |
| 24 | Most of men's cluelessness in dating stems from fatherlessness and their mother's virtue signalling bad advice.I can't count how many time German women have told me how unattractive german men act as a whole. And that despite the fact that almost everyone in his generation had a father. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 12:57 PM |
| 3 | “A man has never picked a woman based on how hard she worked to get into a relationship with him.”If when approaching or dating I feel like things are going hard, then I lose interest. I don't like women who I have to conquer or convince and who don't know what they want or are not interested in me. And luckily I could choose. By hard work and putting work into getting the relationship I mean taking the initiative to plan most dates, buying him gifts all the time, or even cooking for him all the time early on, cleaning up after him early on, chasing him heavily early on, paying early on, ini… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 11:29 AM |
| 1 | How would you prefer to be rejected?I'd say after she's sure he wants to ask her out and doesn't for example need help with something. It is not polite to shut him down right after his greeting. "Thanks, that's nice, but I'm not interested," is sufficient. If it is because she is in relationship (and would otherwise be interested), it is possible to state this. The man will know that if her relationship ends, he can possibly try to ask her out again. Most of the other reasons "why not" are better to avoid, because it can make seem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 10:39 PM |
| 13 | How would you prefer to be rejected?Prefer? Rejection should happen gradually so that it is not too much of a shock. First there should be passionate sex so I don't feel unattractive or discriminated against hotter men and then she should brag about my body and sexual skills to her female friends so much that they decide to seduce me. And then she should come up with with the confession, that she knows she's not good enough for me, but if I wanted to, I can sometimes invite her to a threesome so we would maintain friendly relation… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 10:17 PM |
| 9 | Is there really an orgasm gap given some women are multi orgasmic?Heterosexual men were most likely to say they usually-always orgasmed when sexually intimate (95%), followed by gay men (89%), bisexual men (88%), lesbian women (86%), bisexual women (66%), and heterosexual women (65%). And: Most women have the capacity to have multiple orgasms, but past research suggests only about 15% actually do. So, especially if you take into account that the number of men able to achieve multiple orgasms during one intercourse is higher than 0, women will not have enough m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 06:05 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Males are more willing to sexually please their woman than vice versa.In the Top 50 Reasons Men and Women Have Sex, "I wanted to please my partner", was the 11th most common reason for women and the 10th most common reason for men. I would say that it is on a similar level, and it is more likely that both women and men are sometimes willing to have sex to please their partners than that men are significantly more willing to do so. https://www.livescience.com/4573-top-50-reasons-men-women-sex.html | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Men who are outspoken women's movement defenders: Are you rewarded with hot sex for it?I don't want to be rewarded with sex for supporting women's movement. If I wanted to buy sex, I'd go to a prostitute. But it can be said that hot and intelligent women which I am interested in would not be in my presence if I did not treat them with respect. As regards a man's perceived attractiveness, I think benevolent sexism works better than preaching feminism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 10:59 AM |
| 2 | Some men do creepy behavior because it is what they supposed to do for thousands of years to attract mate.While OP is essentially defending being creepy even when it's intentional and to not take any steps to correct this for the future. It seemed to me like an attempt to deal with his own anxieties and fear that he would be judged as creepy by someone. But you could be right. I agree that keep pushing someone who doesn't respond positively is a very bad strategy and a horrible human attitude if someone consciously plans to do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 10:47 AM |
| 2 | Some men do creepy behavior because it is what they supposed to do for thousands of years to attract mate.A good answer. This part is quite daring: Rape is a legitimate evolutionary sexual strategy if all other ways to procreate fail. It does come at a heavy cost of rejection from the community or even death. Being consistent and not taking no for an answer can be a way to procreate if the target woman has a personality that is conflict avoidant and weak willed. Having sex might come up as the better solution to get out of the persitent pursuit from the guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 10:40 AM |
| 0 | Some men do creepy behavior because it is what they supposed to do for thousands of years to attract mate.And that's when applying effort and consideration comes in and usually does the job. Yes, I agree. Also experience helps a lot, and then when nothing forces you to take risks, so if the situation is confusing and uncertain, you just walk away. But if I take my beginnings, we've been creepy many times, both boys and girls, especially under the influence of being horny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 10:35 AM |
| 1 | Some men do creepy behavior because it is what they supposed to do for thousands of years to attract mate.Let me know when you're ready to hear about nuance and emotional intelligence, which allows you to tell when someone is being not interested and when someone is interested and the chess match of mating ritual cannot be mistaken as something else. Different people will evaluate the same interaction in different ways. Someone will understand that there was interest, others that there was no interest. Flirting has an element of credible deniability, and it is credible precisely because some people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Some men do creepy behavior because it is what they supposed to do for thousands of years to attract mate.The young man began to like the young woman, she did not want him at all. She made jokes about him, avoided him. But he always figured out where she would be and just tried again and again, even though her brothers beat him up repeatedly. She gradually got used to him and his presence and interest and began to like him and suddenly she found him attractive too (demisexual?). They got married, marriage for 25-30 years, several children. Great love. In terms of consent, what is creepy and the like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 10:06 AM |
| 4 | Let's discuss sexual liberationEven if you introduce a prudish society, it will not help men who are not attractive. Women will simply be single more often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 09:48 AM |
| 6 | Let's discuss sexual liberationMany interesting questions for one post. In private, two consenting adults can do whatever they want, as long as they don't break the law (for example, you can't give legal consent to someone killing and eating you). But otherwise I really don't care. Porn is ok, if you don't want to watch it, don't watch it. I never seen the movie The Human Centipede, so I have no reason to criticize it. It's just not for me. In public, people should behave in such a way that it is not too uncomfortable for oth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 09:44 AM |
| 2 | So which is it?That makes sense. In addition, here it is worse in that the test should be done either during the pregnancy of the woman or shortly after delivery. So at a time when a woman is most vulnerable and most in need of her man's protection and help, she strained her health and suffered a lot of pain to bring a child into the world for both of them. So it's a bit like asking STD test from a wounded and weakened man who has just returned from a war in which he fought and bled to protect the common home.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 05:58 AM |
| 1 | So which is it?She knows that. Why do you think I would keep it a secret? She knows my views on the matter. We don't agree, but that doesn't mean she doesn't know them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 03:52 PM |
| 4 | So which is it?Do you really work this way and do you think everyone else does? A/B, 1/0, trust/don't trust? You think that if someone believes in god that they have no doubt? They would have to be a complete fanatic to have no doubt. Joking about the fact that the mother is certain, but the father is always uncertain, is an attempt to somehow express those doubts, to relieve them. When a child is born and everyone talks about how similar the baby is to its father, this is also a way to avoid those doubts, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 03:26 PM |
| 3 | So which is it?Your assumptions are wrong. For example, I have never knowingly and outright lied to my wife. For the whole relationship. And I know that my wife is also quite honest, although she does not have such an extreme attitude towards lying as I do. But that doesn't mean I don't have doubts. Maybe small, but they are there. Those doubts are irrational, they come more from the subconscious, but that doesn't make them any less real. I believe that many men have those doubts, but that doesn't mean that th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 03:07 PM |
| 3 | So which is it?My wife is in the TOP 3 people I trust the most. So my doubts about my paternity are only about 0.1-0.2%. If I could bet $100,000 and if it turns out that I'm the biological father, I'll win my bet back and an extra $500, that would probably sound like a good betting odds to me. But not enough for me to think that I'm absolutely certain that my child is biologically mine. The fear is mostly irrational, but it's there. And the attitude of society and relatives in the style that the mother is cert… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 02:34 PM |
| 3 | So which is it?Do you expect the men to admit to their wives that they took a paternity test and that the women will accept it without a problem? Because from what I've seen of the reactions so far, women react very badly to it. At the mention of a paternity test, they are very offended and often threaten divorce. Why if it's such a small thing? Read how women write that they would react to it: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/6rl0c8/what_would_be_your_reaction_if_your_so_wanted_a/ Or do you expect m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 02:14 PM |
| 2 | So which is it?Men generally want more sex than women. Men have lower certainty of paternity. Even if women all act strongly sexually promiscuous, their demand for sex will be satisfied by perhaps 30 - 50% of the most attractive men. Thus, 50% of the less attractive men gain nothing from encouraging such behavior. Men have reason to fear that the children they will raise will not be theirs. It is in a woman's interest to have a child with the man who has the best genetic predisposition as long as she can provi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 07:58 AM |
| 8 | The equivalent of women receiving unwanted attention from average men is NOT men receiving unwanted attention from gay menYou're supposed to fuck some woman's ass using lube. Some woman wants to fuck your ass using lube. In which of those situations will you hesitate more? When your ass is at stake, it's different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 08:15 PM |
| 14 | Q4M: would you ever "go through the motions" to please your partner sexually?Yeah. The first time I didn't get an erection with my girlfriend at the time and just said "I'm sorry but I'm not in the mood for sex", it was crazy drama. Crying, yelling, blaming, I thought this would lead to a breakup. I was downright shocked considering how many times she had rejected me in sex before for various reasons and took it as a normal thing. We talked it out and she apologized, but the first reaction was terrible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 08:03 PM |
| 3 | The equivalent of women receiving unwanted attention from average men is NOT men receiving unwanted attention from gay menOf course. But the comparison with attention from a homosexual, especially if you imagine a guy bigger, heavier and twice as strong, who would be in an active role towards you, is similar in that the woman usually plays the passive, receiving role in that sex. Thus, she can't just take the unattractive guy as a hole into which she stick her dick and somehow overcomes her disgust a few minutes to her orgasm. If the woman does not get wet, sex will probably be quite unpleasant for her, it can be p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 07:38 PM |
| 5 | The equivalent of women receiving unwanted attention from average men is NOT men receiving unwanted attention from gay menNot that easy, huh? No one wants to fuck with a man unless they are attracted to them. Because especially if you're supposed to be in a passive, receiving role, you can't just take it as a hole to fuck. If you knew that having sex with someone you weren't attracted to would probably mean that not only would you not have an orgasm, but it would probably physically hurt you, you would take it differently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 07:31 PM |
| 3 | The equivalent of women receiving unwanted attention from average men is NOT men receiving unwanted attention from gay menWould you rather fuck a human male or a female dog of the same size? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Why do both men and women give men more autonomy compared to women?Because women are generally underestimated. It is believed that women always mix feelings and sex. Although all prostitution proves otherwise. That they are weaker and more manipulable in relationships. Although everyone can see that in many relationships women dominate men, women often end relationships and marriages, men have a harder time managing breakups and divorces and that often applies "if you want to make an old man a fool, give him a young woman". That a woman is dependent on a man, n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:51 PM |
| 8 | Q4M: would you ever "go through the motions" to please your partner sexually?Yes, many times. It's ok for me to overcome myself a little in a good relationship. At least giving oral, or using a sex toy. If she's willing to be on top and active, then even PIV. In general, I enjoy her orgasm, even if I'm not in the mood for my own. Did I ever feel used? A few times when I started to feel that my satisfaction didn't matter and her approach to sex is repeatedly too selfish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 03:15 PM |
| 2 | The Modern Gentleman’s Dilemma: Why Confidence in Women Starts with Understanding ThemDo you think EQ is distributed in the population in the same way as IQ? And that women on average have the same high EQ as men? If emotional intelligence is a skill and not a quality or trait, then what are the innate qualities and traits that influence the development of this skill? Are there people with gifted EQ and people with EQ disability in the population? And if so, what EQ range would you say your article is intended for? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 01:59 AM |
| 2 | The Modern Gentleman’s Dilemma: Why Confidence in Women Starts with Understanding ThemWhy do you think emotional intelligence is a skill? Do you think intelligence in general is a skill? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 01:39 AM |
| 0 | Long-term societal effects of highly efficient contraception?Genetically, I would say that the effect will be the spread of mutations that will make it possible to overcome hormonal contraceptives. A female or male organism capable of overcoming contraception will be an evolutionary advantage because it will increase the number of offspring. In addition to the direct spread of such mutations, health problems which will prevent the use of contraception can also be spread, because this too can be an evolutionary advantage if it increases the number of offsp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 01:22 AM |
| 2 | Long-term societal effects of highly efficient contraception?Ultimately, I foresee a society less and less tolerant of children, moms, dads, and families. It’s like a reminder of the rest of our poverty. So far, the trend is going in the opposite direction, and the fewer children there are, the more the children are protected by their parents and the whole society, and the more the children's interests and children's rights are addressed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Long-term societal effects of highly efficient contraception?There is sometime a phase where the two in the relationship have not yet agreed on the fact that they want a child, but at least one of them feels that it would not be so bad if they had a child together and thus begins to neglect contraception. Simply has less motivation to use contraception properly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 01:02 AM |
| 1 | CMV : women do not prefer bad men. They prefer strong men. I’ll prove it with one example.The woman will be attracted to both of the strong men, but since this woman is used to being quite passive, and she flirted despite the obvious toxicity of the first one, she will end up having sex with the man who will pursue her more aggressively. Which will be the toxic guy who acts like he wants her faster and harder because he just wants her for sex, flirts with her from the start and spends more time with her. As soon as she appears a few times next to the toxic guy, who will also belittle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 12:32 AM |
| 2 | Sex is never and will never be a needIn the Netherlands, where sex work is legal, the government offers grant schemes whereby citizens with disabilities receive funding to pay for sexual services up to 12 times a year. So if health care is considered a need, then sex is also classified as a need in this country within health care and reimbursed to certain types of patients. Sexual assistance is available to people with physical or mental disabilities even in my country, but unfortunately it is not yet covered by health insurance. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Sex is never and will never be a needSex can be classified as a need if you include wants but if you include wants you are already admitting it’s at a lower level to other levels, and since it’s not something that you can get without consent or “help” from another person without potentially violating bodily autonomy so it will never be prioritised in the same way any other need is classified. Why link it? In a way, that only something that society is willing to satisfy can be recognized as a need? Many people die because they do no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Sex is never and will never be a needHow is physical intimacy without emotional intimacy supposed to improve your emotional condition? For example, I would recommend people who feel lonely to try going for a gentler and slower massage. It's not about emotions, but the very fact that someone will touch their body in a pleasant way can have a very positive effect on the psyche. It is excellent, for example, for older, lonely people who simply have no other way to indulge in the necessary level of physical intimacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 11:25 AM |
| 2 | Sex is never and will never be a needSome people can have sex more like a need. This does not mean that sex is a need for everyone. All people are not the same and it is not fair to pretend that everyone has the same needs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 11:16 AM |
| 2 | Sex is never and will never be a needIs education or roof over head need? In my opinion, yes, for most people, although it is not the same need as the need for food or oxygen. A drug addict often needs help even if he doesn't want it. Also, a drug addict need drugs even if he wants to stop taking them, which is manifested by having withdrawal symptoms if he does not get the drugs. Drug dependence occurs when you need one or more drugs to function. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 11:09 AM |
| 1 | Sex is never and will never be a needGood job exploring that your belief and perception is not you but is your tool that you can consciously control. As part of an experiment, I once suggested to myself that the planet Mars is green, and whenever I remembered Mars, I remembered it as green. But I recommend caution, because if you stray too far from the generally accepted concept of reality, you may be at risk of developing mental disorders. It is good to have a nervous system and overall psyche prepared for similar experiments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 10:56 AM |
| -1 | Sex is never and will never be a needA week, maybe even a month without food wouldn't kill me. Fasting is even healthy. But most of the time I would feel the need to eat because I would feel hungry. When I want something, I want it consciously, it is based on my decision. But if I feel cold, I need warmth. Otherwise, I may not die, but I will be uncomfortable, my body shows the need for warmth by feeling cold. If I feel horny, I need sexual relief. This is how I mean it. A lot of that stuff will be on the edge. But I really think t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 10:48 AM |
| 1 | Sex is never and will never be a needI say that it is rather need for some people (men or women) then want because I think about it this way, I feel it this way. Otherwise, it probably doesn't have much practical meaning for me with a few minor exceptions, for example: I am in favor of having the health insurance in my country covered for sexual assistance for paralyzed or mentally disabled patients, whether male or female, to satisfy their sexual needs that they have no other way to satisfy. Currently in my country patients have t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 10:27 AM |
| 1 | Sex is never and will never be a needPhysical intimacy is about touch and closeness between bodies. Intimacy can come from the top down, that is, first they know each other on an intellectual level, on a personal level, and then they are intimate on a physical level. But intimacy can also come from the bottom up, from the closeness and connection of bodies. To give another example. A fight to the death without a weapon is much more intimate, more personal than a sword fight, sword fight is more intimate, more personal than shooting… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 10:09 AM |
| 2 | Sex is never and will never be a needIf someone rejects an argument because they assume that the other person has an ulterior motive for that argument, then no debate is possible. The debate must be conducted in good faith on both sides. I understand the concept of sex and need quite broadly. But at the same time, I do not infer from this any obligation of other people to satisfy someone's need if they do not want. Some people just live a miserable, lonely, sad life, more and more mentally ill and end up committing suicide. Sad, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 10:00 AM |
| 1 | Sex is never and will never be a needThere's a problem with mixing things. Need, the right to try to satisfy your need and the obligation of others to satisfy your need. If a hundred million people are dying of hunger, I recognize that they need food. And from a moral point of view, I can understand that they will do everything possible not to starve to death. But that still doesn't mean I'm obligated to provide them with that food. It's error to infers one's duty to satisfy another's needs simply because one recognizes another's n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Sex is never and will never be a needIt depends on the definitions. For example, do you count sex with yourself as sex? If so, then at the time when my libido was at its peak, I would have definitely included sex among my needs. What do you count in sex in terms of intimacy and romantic interactions? If you're going to talk about the sex life of two people paralyzed from from the chest down, are you going to say that they can't have any sex with each other, that they can't have any sex life? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 09:43 AM |
| 4 | Sex is never and will never be a needNeed does not mean only that if you don't have it, you will die without it. A need is, even if something is very important to you, instead of just being desirable. It also includes things that are needed for a healthy life and safety, for example a roof over the head, education, medical care. Many men are willing to compromise their safety for sex. Many men are depressed or have mental health problems due to the lack of an intimate life. So it's on the edge. Similar to whether a drug addict want… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 09:12 AM |
| 11 | I don't buy that romantic literature "means nothing" about people's preferencesFantasy and romantic and erotic literature and movies popular with women says a lot about women. And it's otherwise funny how many reactions are in the style of "what about men". What is interesting about women's fantasies is not that wealth and power is there. But that the rich and powerful is the male partner, instead of the woman fantasizing that she is the rich and powerful. She dominates him through love and thus gets a share of his wealth and power. This is a completely different type of f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 08:16 AM |
| 16 | Why don’t men just do what women do?I agree that all of these things help. But you ask why men don't do it like women, so I'll focus on the differences. Strength of need: higher for men. With libido at its peak, it can be easier to be hungry for a few days than to not masturbate. And being horny is like being drunk or on drugs. The frustration of not having sex, once a man with a high libido gets used to it, is harsh. Having a woman around during sleep that excites a man can mean a man will be up most of the night with a boner. Be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 06:28 AM |
| 2 | Misbehaviour in male's sexual game is being shamed, in female's it's notYou are comparing the protection of life with the protection of property. It is not the same, nor does it follow the same principles. I don't know how in the US, but in Europe for example, if a robber steals from your apartment and runs away with all your possessions, you can't shoot him. Because the protection of life is above the protection of property. To change this, you would have to firmly quantify the value of life and then follow up with laws. Then, if the value of a life is $1 million, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Men: how do you feel about yourself? What do you think of yourself?Sure, it's not that I feel physically intimidated. Even among men, I rarely come across one whom I would be really afraid of. I'm not the biggest or the strongest, but I can defend myself and especially when I was younger I didn't mind a bit of a fight. But it's embarrassing, disgusting and disrespectful that she would invade your personal space like that. And strange when your first reaction to that is fear, if you can be gentle enough even with those emotions and not hurt her physically or her… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Men: how do you feel about yourself? What do you think of yourself?woman come and grab on my dick I hate it when a woman does this. Even slapping the ass is unpleasant from strange women, especially when I was a teenager at work and women in their 30s and 40s did it, but grabing the dick just out of the blue that's really disgusting. And the worst thing is that if a man do that to me, I would attack without hesitation. And it would be a great relief. But hitting a woman even if she does something like that is just... When someone says that a man should never hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Men: how do you feel about yourself? What do you think of yourself?Yes. It is not pleasant when you have to reject women, especially if the women are not used to rejection and take it hard or try to take revenge for the rejection. But even if the woman cries and tries to convince you, still comes to you, offers sex, and so on, it's not nice once you decide you don't want her. Sexual assaults by women is also very unpleasant. Especially when they're older and you're still quite young or you're in a job where you're expected to be nice to women. And if the fact t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Men: how do you feel about yourself? What do you think of yourself?What do you find attractive about yourself? I don't give up in my quest to be a better person. Always try to be honest with myself and keep hope. Passionately love to live, love people and myself. Love learning for learning's sake. Would you say you have a high/low/moderate self esteem? High. Do you feel you have unattractive qualities and what are they if you don't mind sharing? If I was subjected to the Total Perspective Vortex and discovered that I was the center of the entire universe, it wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 05:58 PM |
| – | Can y’all stop telling each other what both genders are attracted too?As a European I like to hear an opinion about Europe from a person from the US. Both from those who have been to Europe, but also the view from people who have never visited Europe can be interesting. It can do me a lot of good, because since I am European, I may not see the forest for the trees. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 07:52 AM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?Are you against democracy? I am for democracy, even direct democracy. But I am against an emotion-driven populist democracy put on as a show, where no system is created for it and where decisions on professional topics are made by people who got their opinions on social networks under the heading "share before they delete it" without any consequences. I am against lynching and cancel culture. I am for the people to participate in government as much as is practically possible. But the procedure o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 07:21 AM |
| 2 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?If a woman does not terminate a pregnancy, she has chosen to birth the child. No, because she may not have been aware of her pregnancy. And when she became aware, she may not have had the legal option to terminate her pregnancy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?Just because rape is difficult to prove, it is not an argument to stop punishing it if it is proven. If it is proven, the consequences should be according to the law, and the laws should be constructed in a secular and gender-neutral way if possible. Courts should decide according to the laws, not according to the morons in the discussions. And presumptions of innocence must be respected within the legal proceedings. It's good to admit that there are difficulties in all these steps, but that's n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?My values are that everyone should tell the truth, help each other, be peaceful and respectful. I believe that people should be free and I am against anyone restricting their freedom. But in addition to ideals and values, there is also a pragmatic approach within which I know that many people are simply not like that, at least in some cases, so laws and rules must be based on real situations and not only on someone's ideals and values. And in order to protect society, some people need to be isol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 06:20 AM |
| 2 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?You had the right to have a vasectomy even without the woman's consent. And at the same time, no woman had the right to force you to have a vasectomy. Your body, your choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?She is a rapist. Of course if she committed a crime she should go to jail. If we are talking about a situation where a woman rapes a man and gets pregnant. Is it appropriate for a rapist who spends several years in prison to continue to have parental rights to a child from rape? Often probably not, and it is better to place a child in foster care if the male rape victim does not want to have custody of and the female rapist will spend years in prison. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?If a man and a woman have sex, they should be aware that pregnancy can always happen. And only have sex if they are willing to take that risk. Pregnancy and childbirth happen without the woman's decision, in fact it can happens regardless of what the woman thinks about it. The only thing a woman can decide about is abortion, within the framework of freedom over her own body and within the framework of laws that limit her right in favor of the rights of the unborn child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 05:43 AM |
| 2 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?No one makes that decision. Just like you, you don't make a decision to allow your hair or nails to grow. It happens automatically whether you want to or not. A woman can only make the decision to terminate her pregnancy. But the maintenance of her pregnancy is not the result of a conscious decision, she does not maintain it of her own volition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?I am in favor of rapists being stripped of parental rights to children born of rape if the rape victim so desires. A rape victim should not be linked against her will to the rapist for the rest of life through that child more than is biologically necessary. But that doesn't mean that just because rape is hard to prove, I'm going to argue that any father or any mother should have the right to terminate the other's parental rights just by stating that rape occurred without having to prove anything… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 05:28 AM |
| 0 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?If both consented to sex, then both were aware of the woman's possible pregnancy. No method of protection is 100 percent. Once a woman becomes pregnant, she has the right to make decisions about her body to the extent that the law allows (which also takes into account the rights of the unborn child in the woman's body). The woman does not make any decision to keep the child before birth. This will happen automatically. A woman can only make the decision to terminate her pregnancy, within the dec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?Okay, I'll make an exception and comment on US politics, even though I know almost nothing about it. How is it possible that those groups can only listen to one-sided arguments for or against to form such a one-sided point of view? How is it that the media, including televisions, work as echo chambers? Do recognized experts comment on this topic in this black and white way? If so, how is that possible when every complex decision has pros and cons? If not, where do politicians get the audacity to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 04:45 AM |
| 3 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?I never said that rape cannot be effectively proven. It's just that it's generally difficult to prove. And I am against punishing people for crimes that are not proven and convicted. Whether the rape suspect is male or female. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 10:03 PM |
| 4 | Do men actually like the idea of “coaching” a woman through life and why?Probably yes. But I'd say that's mainly because they don't want to always pick the worst of that dynamic. For example, I am happy to pay for a date where the woman is my guest and therefore lets me host and take care of her. That means I open doors, pick the seats, help her out of her coat, pull out a chair, order meals, and entertain her. It's a fun social game and I don't mind a little lady and gentleman roleplaying. But once the woman starts addressing how patriarchy and misogyny this is, ref… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 09:31 PM |
| 7 | Do men actually like the idea of “coaching” a woman through life and why?To be fair, the fact that a man feeds a woman and takes care of her on a date is also not without symbolic meaning, and it has its importance for the woman's psyche. And gallant gestures and showing the ability to protect a woman also is a good catalyst for mutual attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 09:07 PM |
| 0 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?As an EU person, it seems to me that the abortion debate has become too politicized in the US, with both sides pushing an unnecessarily radical position instead of seeking compromise. And thus I have nothing to say on that topic, because I don't understand US politics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?This is a bizarre but correct reminder. But I personally won't get on this boat, because even if you're right in theory, it opens another can of worms and I don't want to touch that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 07:30 PM |
| 4 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?Yes, you are right. Rape is generally difficult to prove. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?But that does not mean that made to penetrate is not a crime. I think it should be considered rape, but even if it isn't, it's still sexual assault, for example. And it's also strange that an erection would be considered consent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 05:55 PM |
| 11 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?I don't agree with that. The child's interest is important, but it should not be the only consideration. In addition, not only the child's financial interest should be taken into account, but also the fact that letting a child grow up knowing that his mother is a rapist and his father is a rape victim and that the rape victim must pay for that child against his will as a result of his rape is against good manners and educational effect for that child. Even leaving child from rape in the care of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?Financial abortion is nonsense. Except in situations where a man has been raped. Given that a rapist, whether male or female, should go to prison, it is not even very appropriate for him or her to raise a child born of rape in prison against the will of the victim and to bond the victim and the rapist for the rest of their lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?No. If the man was raped, the woman should go to jail. And maybe the father should be made the primary caregiver with the option of putting the child up for adoption. A rapist should not have rights to a child from rape without the consent of the victim. Be it male or female. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 05:27 PM |
| 5 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?Brings up the question of proving that it was rape or that she fished a condom out of his trashcan, female on male rape isn't even considered a crime in parts of the country because of the lack of penetration of the victim, and an erection is considered consent despite that fact that it can be caused by strong emotions such as anxiety, fear, disgust, and anger. If this is true, it's pretty terrible, and the US has very backward laws. But I can hardly believe it. It would be like the laws and vie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 05:22 PM |
| 8 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?I am definitely in favor of the protection of male genetic material, where even sperm after ejaculation should not be considered something free to use. Especially not in a society where even a photo of someone's face is not allowed to be freely used, but nothing prevents a woman from impregnating herself with any man's sperm she has obtained without his consent and without any negative consequences for her. So yes, I'm all for increasing reproductive rights and protecting men. Deceiving a man ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 03:33 PM |
| 3 | What is more important than sex, relationships, and family?There is a big difference between living without her (that particular woman) and living an isolated, lonely life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 03:28 PM |
| 6 | What is more important than sex, relationships, and family?If you live a depressed unenjoyable life once you're not in a relationship with a woman, then what the hell is your value system? Where is your relationship with yourself? There's a lot of a difference. Because if you feel that your life will have no value without a relationship with a woman, then that makes you addicted to women, to sex, and to relationships. This makes it difficult to build healthy relationships, at best you will find a codependent woman and you will be addicted to each other.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:58 PM |
| 3 | What is more important than sex, relationships, and family?Definitely yes. But it's the difference between "I want you, you're important to me and my life is much better with you than without you" and between "I can't live without you, you're my everything, I don't know what I'd do without you". You have to have a life without women and sex and family first. It must have value in itself. And just add a wife, family and sex to your life. But your life must not depend on that woman, sex and family. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:41 PM |
| 1 | AlphaA type of personality who usually takes the lead in a group and others tend to follow naturally. A person who has the prerequisites to lead in some group or area of life. A leading social role that some people play more often than others. Alpha is not automatically the most attractive personality type for all women and sometimes not even the most favorable psychological setting for life. It is a demanding, responsible role, especially if one wants to be a good leader. Gamma personality types may… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:37 PM |
| 53 | Which gender double standards and hypocrisies do you think are justified… and which are genuinely a result of cultural sexism and need to change?Different reproductive rights of men and women, especially regarding pregnancy or abortion. A woman is pregnant, it's her body and not a man's body, their situation during pregnancy is different, so a woman has different rights and that's okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:35 PM |
| 3 | What is more important than sex, relationships, and family?Self respect. Live according to your own values. Be honest with yourself. To like yourself. Live in such a way that you feel good about yourself. You can't pour for others when your cup is empty. So the relationship with yourself must be first and then the relationships with others. You have to be happy with yourself first so you can be happy with others and not come across as an addict or a vampire. Also, a man should have something bigger than his dick, ego or even his wife to follow in life. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:21 PM |
| 7 | Weight vs height, is a huge double standard"How tall are you?" "Height: 5'11, Weight: 180 pounds. Is it alright? What about you? What is your height and weight?" I don't think it's a problem to ask. The only problem is if it feels like you're retaliating for her question with your question. And yes, if she responds with something along the lines of "never ask a woman her weight", then it's okay to set boundaries in that she started with questions about physical proportions and you're interested in hers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:10 PM |
| – | CMV: In nearly every metric we can measure in the west, the average woman is outperforming the average manIn 2022, women made up 53% of the Asian Americans undergraduate population and men made up 47% (while there are more men than women in this age group). At the same time, universities in Japan have it balanced, and I suspect that there are more men than women in universities in South Korea. So there is something specific about the US and Western countries in general. Also consider that when there are few women in science, in STEM schools and the like, it has always been seen as a problem of socie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 06:55 AM |
| – | CMV: In nearly every metric we can measure in the west, the average woman is outperforming the average manMore likely to commit violent crimes. Does it help average men that men are more likely to commit violent crimes? Is that an advantage in today's society? This is perhaps more a manifestation of the inability to adapt and it only shows that men need more help in this area as well, in order to prevent their tendencies to violence. Moreover, it is still an argument for a narrow percentage of the best or the worst. But the post is about comparing averages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 06:37 AM |
| – | CMV: In nearly every metric we can measure in the west, the average woman is outperforming the average manThe fact that there are more men who are homeless or commit crimes or commit suicide does not mean that they outperform women. The post is about the average woman achieving better than the average man in western society. Not that a narrow percentage of the best or worst men perform better or worse than a narrow percentage of the best or worst women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: What are your thoughts on childfree women and infertile women?I like children and wish them the best so that they can be happy and contented. But even child rapists are people, and I like people, so I still have compassion and love for them on a human level. Which is not excluded in any way with the fact that I want society protected from them and that I wish that there would be no rapes. I also like smallpox on the level of love for all beings. Which is not excluded with the fact that I am glad that smallpox was globally eradicated in 1980 thanks to vacci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: What are your thoughts on childfree women and infertile women?A huge number of animal species died out before humans evolved. And every species will probably become extinct at some point, including the human species. Entire planets are being destroyed every day, and everything that exists will eventually disappear. Whatever you decide for yourself is right for you. In a universe where we know nothing for certain, we have free will to decide for ourselves what meaning and purpose we ascribe to the universe and to our own existence. I am betting on meaning a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 04:55 AM |
| – | Q4M: What are your thoughts on childfree women and infertile women?Central Europe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 08:05 PM |
| – | How to use child subsidies to end the fertility crisis AND smash the gender roles people hateAs I wrote, the US is somewhat of an exception in this, because as a superpower on its continent, the US is practically in no danger of direct attack. But still, during World War II, Japanese people living in the US were interned in concentration camps. So, immigrants are both an asset and a specific threat to the state, and in many smaller and weaker countries this is much more noticeable than in the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 06:49 PM |
| – | How to use child subsidies to end the fertility crisis AND smash the gender roles people hateI don't know the situation in Germany that well, so I can't judge too much. From what I've heard, it can't be said to be without problems. Turks have been living in Germany for the third generation? And we are still talking about Turks in Germany, i.e. people with their culture and many other things distinguishable from Germans. This in itself, I think, shows that the Germans may have succeeded in integrating them, but not in assimilating them. As long as relations with Turkey are good, no big d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 06:38 PM |
| – | How to use child subsidies to end the fertility crisis AND smash the gender roles people hateImmigration has its drawbacks, potentially quite significant depending on which country you live in. In the US it may not be such a problem, because the US is practically not threatened by a military attack from another country, and it is difficult to create such a large immigrant minority there that it would demand independence or be used for the overthrow of the regime or creating a fifth column. But if you live in a smaller country, the formation of a strong immigrant minority brings possible… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 06:25 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: What are your thoughts on childfree women and infertile women?In the universe without meaning, what can anyone bring of value? On the other hand, what can anyone take away? So if the universe and humanity has no meaning and value, then I am free to give it such meaning and value as I see fit. The whole universe is like a blank canvas and it's up to me what I choose to paint on it. And whatever I decide to paint will be of the highest possible value, because in the universe without meaning there is no other criterion for determining the value of anything th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 05:11 PM |
| 6 | Q4M: What are your thoughts on childfree women and infertile women?I like people. And meeting new people who speak my language and share my culture is nice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 05:05 PM |
| – | How to use child subsidies to end the fertility crisis AND smash the gender roles people hateThat's unfortunate. A note. Be careful how you ask. Some women consider men who cook, bake, iron or vacuum and mop to be less masculine and it's a turn off for them. When I said that I would be vacuuming at home, such a woman tried to shame me by saying that it is not a work for a real man and that she would definitely not want such a man. So it's good to first indicate your attitude towards it (that is, that such a man is definitely not a turn off for you) and then ask. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 04:58 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of hypergamy?That depends on whether you judge hypergamy by motivation or by outcome. When men write about female hypergamy in income, they often argue with marriage statistics and the fact that a larger percentage of men are breadwinners. This also does not necessarily mean that women purposefully chose men who earn more than them. It could partly be the result of the fact that firstly men generally earn more and then that once a woman is pregnant and has children, her income usually drops. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 04:53 PM |
| – | How to use child subsidies to end the fertility crisis AND smash the gender roles people hateVacuuming is my duty at our house. I proudly do this manly work. :-) Just ask the men whether they are willing to vacuum when living together. By the way, one of my female friend used to check on her new boyfriends by involving them in cleaning together as soon as they spent a weekend with her. She liked to say that a man with a vacuum cleaner is sexy. And it worked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 04:47 PM |
| – | How to use child subsidies to end the fertility crisis AND smash the gender roles people hateI see. It makes sense now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 04:41 PM |
| 43 | Q4M: What are your thoughts on childfree women and infertile women?On an individual level, not having children is a woman's valid decision that must be respected. Of course they are real women (judging that someone is not a real woman or a real man is tremendously arrogant). When it comes to relationships, it's about compatibility. If a man wants children and a woman doesn't, that's probably a reasonable reason to break up. Likewise vice versa. If neither wants children, great, they can have a long-term relationship. I sympathize with infertile women who long f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 04:30 PM |
| – | How to use child subsidies to end the fertility crisis AND smash the gender roles people hateHow does keeping children conceived by rape from receiving subsidies deter men from raping? It will only force women who get pregnant from rape to keep quiet about the rape and try to convince some man that the child is his. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 04:07 PM |
| – | How to use child subsidies to end the fertility crisis AND smash the gender roles people hateIf people in other countries have too many children, it is not my country's responsibility. I am interested in the population of people in my country. And if my country's population is dying, I care and I want my country to deal with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 04:02 PM |
| 2 | I will never get the whole “younger woman, older man” dynamic as a younger woman myself.As a teenager and early 20s, I mainly was insterested in women a few years older than myself. It's against the stereotype, so probably not many people will understand it, but I just felt that I had a lot more in common with them than with girls of the same age, who generally seemed too immature and childish to me. And considering that men typically mature later than women, I totally understand that for many girls and young women, boys and young men their age are just too immature and childish. S… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 03:31 PM |
| 1 | What do you make of a woman who regularly dates older men?It's true that I wasn't thinking specifically about girls and young women in their early to mid 20s. But also for women in their 30s who are looking for partners between good-looking and secure 40s. Moreover, the economic situation in the US, where millennials are the first generation to earn less than their parents, is not true everywhere in the world. This is not the case in my country, here the economic situation of men born in the years 1981-1995 is incomparably better than was the economic … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 11:26 AM |
| 3 | What do you think of hypergamy?If men didn't have a desire to look up to women, they wouldn't put them on a pedestal in terms of morality and the "women are beautiful" myth wouldn't exist. Male hypergamy is just slightly different than female hypergamy. And it's unfortunate that by limiting hypergamy to social status, economic success, and the like, it takes that out of the equation and then it looks like the equation is unbalanced. When a man desires a woman who is more sexually pure than himself, it is also hypergamy, becau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 06:43 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of hypergamy?For me personally, one of the most interesting ideas of the red pill was that within family relationships, women love men in a different way than men love women. Men love women for who they are and how they are. Men love their wives and children together equally strongly, often even loving their wives first and their children second. That's also why, when a marriage breaks up, men gradually lose contact with their children, because the connecting element was the wife, they loved their children m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 06:41 AM |
| 4 | What do you think of hypergamy?The problem here is that typically male qualities like ambitiousness, assertiveness, strength have long been promoted as important, better valued and paid by society, while typically female qualities are viewed as less important and sometimes even associated with lower income. Although this is often exactly what men are looking for in women. So when a man, for example, looks for more sensitivity, innocence, purity, agreeability, or care in a woman than he has himself, then this is not taken as a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 06:23 AM |
| 5 | What do you think of hypergamy?Why do you think this is a blue pill ideology? And what do you think is the blue pill ideology regarding the most important factors for attracting men? In my opinion, there is no unified blue pill ideology. If someone claims that the decisive factor is mutual compatibility (interests, opinions, skills, education, social class, goals, lifestyle, personality, attractiveness) or love, then it is probably not a red pill or a black pill, and thus people who identify with the red pill ideology would p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 10:25 PM |
| 12 | What do you think of hypergamy?Hypergamy is when women decide to go for men who are richer, have a higher social status or are better looking than they are, so in general it's "shooting above your league". It's not just women who do it, and it doesn't only happen in heterosexual couples. For example, a man who marries a woman who is more educated than himself is practicing educational hypergamy. As women are outpacing men in education, more and more men will practice this form of hypergamy. What are you blue pillers' opinions… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 10:17 PM |
| – | Final Solution for a declining populationIRA or 401k In my country this does not play a big role. And yes, pensions will burden state budgets more in the future, but on the other hand, thanks to automation and technology, GDP per capita will increase. And when you have for example EU with predicted population 456M in 2026 and 420M in 2100, this is a relatively slow decline, that also means more resources available to each individual. Cheaper housing and much more. So a declining population may not be such a problem, it will just lead t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 09:42 PM |
| – | Final Solution for a declining populationIn the many welfare states, every person contributes to their future pension by paying social "insurance" or another form of tax. Once you introduce that older childless people will not receive a pension, then younger childless people will also stop contributing to pensions. Why should they pay when they know they won't get anything for it? And that collapses the pension system, because by a certain age everyone is childless, and a lot of people don't know if they'll ever have children. But they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 09:28 PM |
| 1 | What do you make of a woman who regularly dates older men?That she appreciates experience, stability and maturity in men. And maybe she likes gray hair if she's at the age where that matters. But only if someone pointed it out to me. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't have even noticed that the woman had some special preference and just took it as normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Is a woman having a job a bad thing?I've read so many times that highly successful women have a harder time dating that I think it's an accepted stereotype. If it is already outdated, then it is my fault that I have not yet read any current statistics that would refute the trend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Is a woman having a job a bad thing?It is true. When a man is highly ambitious and career-oriented, it also reduces his compatibility with many women. Because even many women don't want such a man who makes his career his life's mission. But stereotypically, such men are better off when it comes to finding a partner. Because there are more women who are comfortable with a model in which they have less demanding job and devote more time to the home and family, while the man is the breadwinner, than the other way around. There are m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Is a woman having a job a bad thing?When a woman is highly ambitious and career-oriented, it reduces her compatibility with many men. Do you think that building a strong long term relationship and raising a family costs no time and is possible even without having these things high on the list of priorities? It is also not free. Money will help you in many things, but it cannot buy you love, good relations with your husband or your own children. And the idea that both of them will have a great and highly demanding career, which wil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Is a woman having a job a bad thing?Two puzzle pieces. Both are equally important, neither is merely accessories to the other, but if they don't fit together, they won't make a puzzle. It has nothing to do with whether someone's life matters. If the person in question does not find a compatible person, they simply will not form a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 03:14 PM |
| 5 | Are average men really desperate for sex?You named some cases of men with whom sex would be repulsive, because those particular men are repulsive to that woman. I take note and yes, I've read that women generally have a higher level of disgust. I too would find sex with some women highly repulsive. But in general, the idea of having sex with women is pleasant for me, because I'm generally heterosexual. This is probably not the same as the idea of having sex with any man, in any situation, being strongly repulsive. No matter what the ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:39 PM |
| 8 | Are average men really desperate for sex?It's hard to compare because it's not just about the man. The idea of sex with a man in general is probably not repugnant to most heterosexual women. But the idea of sex with a man in general is repugnant to many heterosexual men. Even if a woman is ugly and unattractive to men, many things can be ignored when having sex with her. Imagining another partner, choosing a position where it doesn't matter so much... But if not only the woman, but also the very idea of sex with any woman in general is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:26 PM |
| 8 | Are average men really desperate for sex?There is a difference between having sex with someone you aren't attracted much and having sex with someone who is strongly repulsive to you as a sexual partner. For many heterosexual men, the idea of having gay sex with any man in the world is physically repugnant. The woman would have to be extremely disgusting for me or I would have to have very strong negative feelings towards her for the idea of having sex with her to arouse in me an equally strong revulsion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?Because there's a physical power imbalance that can be exploited by the taller and stronger man to abuse the woman In almost every romantic relationship between a man and a woman, if the man is healthy and fit, the man is physically stronger than the woman. Also most women do not want a man who will be shorter than her. So women purposefully choose men with whom they will have a significant power imbalance in terms of physical strength. Because men only prefer petite women since they know women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 07:35 AM |
| 1 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightIt depends, what would the situation be like for him without the relationship? If, for example, "an incel preparing to shoot" or "a regular discussant on PPD", then "watching her like a hawk everytime a tall man enters the room" can be a much more positive option. :-) If he has such massive insecurities, he probably had them before the relationship. And that relationship can still represent an improvement for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 07:17 PM |
| -1 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightIf a person lies about something this obvious, he will lie about everything. Everything is quite a strong word. Also he may lie about this, but his lies may generally be harmless and transparent. "How many teaspoons of sugar did you put in there?" "One." This kind of stupid, easy-to-detect lies that end up being mercifully overlooked by the partner. Another man will be a smart liar who will never lie outright, 99% of what he says will be true and you will never be able to directly catch him lyin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 06:46 PM |
| 3 | A big bank account doesn't make you an alpha male.There is a positive bias associated with rich people. If someone has money, their opinions are taken more seriously, people are more inclined to listen and believe them. So while you can't buy respect, money makes it easier to get it. A big bank account doesn't make you an alpha male, but money is a powerful tool, resource, and if a person uses it wisely, they will be perceived as an alpha much more easily and more likely than if they had no money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 06:36 PM |
| -1 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightIt depends. Lying is a bad idea when you are in a position of power and have a choice. So if a man can get women to date without lying and he still lies, it's stupid and pointless. He loses his self-respect, loses the respect of women and causes unnecessary damage. Lying can be an acceptable tactic if you are desperate and in a weak position. If a man otherwise has practically no chance and lying gives him at least some chance. Something like guerilla warfare is acceptable if you don't have the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 06:26 PM |
| 0 | Describe your perfect partnerBrunette, ginger. Many options. 5' 5" - 5' 9" Hourglass figure, firm ass, nice breasts. Not too skinny, not fat. She is satisfied. She is satisfied. It doesn't matter if they were healthy relationships or she learned and healed. It doesn't matter if they were healthy relationships or she learned and healed. Agnostic, pantheist, mystic, tolerant atheist or tolerant religious Straight. -10/+7 Forming her own opinions instead of choosing sides. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 06:03 PM |
| 0 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightYour height is not typical for a woman. So a man who is 5'8 and adds two inches and says he's 5'10 will probably avoid you on his own, but it may increase his chances with 5'5 to 5'7 women. Especially if the man himself will wear shoes with a smaller heels and will hold himself upright. By the way, if the man was 5'10, you'd still be looking down on him, especially if you wear heels or he doesn't have a perfectly straight stance, but slouches a bit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 03:06 PM |
| 3 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightTrying to have flattering photos or rounding up your height seems acceptable to me as long as it's only a slight enhancement of reality and not outright lying. For example, 5' 11" man who stated 6' 0" has a decent chance of getting away with it and no woman noticing or bothering. But if she's going to address it, it's pretty embarrassing. It's the same with a woman who uses photos in which she is younger or slimmer. Everyone has to find the line between flattering and lying and consider whether … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Is a woman having a job a bad thing?When a woman has a job and is financially self-sufficient, it is a good thing. When a woman is highly ambitious and career-oriented, it reduces her compatibility with many men. Regarding the stereotype you write about, I think many educated and above-average earning men appreciate a woman's education and financial income, but at the same time they usually expect her career and income to play a more supportive role. That is, if there is a conflict of interests, it will be more likely the woman wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Women would be straight up miserable if their partner refused to have sex with them, yet because it usually happens the other way around they find excuses that sex is not importantBecause for some women, wanting to have sex early is really a sign of their low self-respect. They are afraid that they cannot attract the man other than through sex, so they agree to sex before they themselves really want it. So they try to exchange sex for a relationship. And by doing so, they lower their own self-esteem and men don't respect them, they just use them. But this is not a situation where a woman is self-confident, actively wants sex and does not try to prostitute herself for a re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 10:24 AM |
| 0 | Women would be straight up miserable if their partner refused to have sex with them, yet because it usually happens the other way around they find excuses that sex is not importantHow do you think most men think? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 09:57 AM |
| 1 | Women would be straight up miserable if their partner refused to have sex with them, yet because it usually happens the other way around they find excuses that sex is not importantWhat exactly is even more strange to you? Maybe I worded it wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 09:51 AM |
| 8 | Women would be straight up miserable if their partner refused to have sex with them, yet because it usually happens the other way around they find excuses that sex is not importantPersonally, I enjoy sex, but I have come to realize that I have lost many relationships because I engaged in sexual activity with them too early, and men may not see it as a quality that aligns with their perception of a potential wife material. I don't deny that some men can be like that. But it seems strange to me. Personally, it would have a negative effect on the development of the relationship from my side only if the first sex was so early that she actually raped me or had to push or manip… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 09:35 AM |
| 1 | Help understanding how sexually promiscuous women can still feel incredibly possessive and jealous?Madonna and the whore is just one of the many manifestations of the general human tendency to pigeonhole the world and others, assign different roles to different people and then push them into those roles. It is quite common that people do not see other people as multifaceted people, but are only interested in one or a few selected roles that allow them to play in their lives. For example, people often do not want to know much about their parents' sexuality. They want to see their parents in th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Help understanding how sexually promiscuous women can still feel incredibly possessive and jealous?Most people are internally full of contradictions. They have an inner struggles, hate themselves, fear what they might do or what they will do. They blame themselves for what they did and didn't do in the past. The idea of a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other, an expression of a person that has several contradictory tendencies at once. Individual parts of their psyche go against each other. There are many people who believe that they are failing in their lives. If he had studied bet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 03:56 PM |
| 0 | Help understanding how sexually promiscuous women can still feel incredibly possessive and jealous?It depends. Some people hold back their whole lives, live more boringly or according to rules that don't suit them at all and fight temptation. Once they cross the line, it's hard for them to go back to the cage, just like you say. And other people are generally satisfied with the level of rules they live by. And when they cross the line, it's just a trip, it can be fun or boring, but they like to return home, to a comfortable life with rules. What is a cage for you may be a comfortable home for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 03:36 PM |
| 2 | Help understanding how sexually promiscuous women can still feel incredibly possessive and jealous?He can easily see himself as bad, immoral, corrupt and he can hate himself for what he does. A lot of people hate themselves for what they do, but that doesn't mean they'll stop doing it. And at the same time, just because someone does something they hate themselves for, it doesn't mean they'll want their husband, wife or kids to do it too. Many people want better things for their loved ones than what they have themselves and want their loved ones to live better lives and be better people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Help understanding how sexually promiscuous women can still feel incredibly possessive and jealous?If a man does some sexual practices only with prostitutes because he believes that these are practices that only immoral women do and only in exchange for money, then he will be even less willing to do them with his wife. He doesn't want to see his wife as a prostitute. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Help understanding how sexually promiscuous women can still feel incredibly possessive and jealous?Even during exercise there are different types of pain. Healthy pain when muscles grow and unhealthy pain when you injure them. Only for a very few people is infidelity a healthy pain from which they would grow and gradually become more and more resistant and okay. Because of infidelity and promiscuity, many people have traumas from what was done to them and what they themselves caused. This is the main problem with promiscuous women. Not some moral condemnation of their past, but that they are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 02:13 PM |
| 4 | Help understanding how sexually promiscuous women can still feel incredibly possessive and jealous?You expect the woman to handle infidelity and jealousy like exercising her muscles. The more she has been through in this area, the more resilient she should be and the better she can handle it. But she can deal with infidelities and jealousy like digging into a sore wound. The more she's been through in that area, the bigger, more painful, and inflamed her injury can be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 01:42 PM |
| 0 | What would a society in which all men are red-pilled look like?If there was no uncertainty about a man's intentions, because all men would stick to one script, then there would be no point in vetting men. Instead women would simply set a price on the difference between a man's intention and a woman's. And if a man were to pay $500 for one sex, that's still $50,000 annually if he were to have sex twice a week. Compare that to how much money he would have saved if he had been in a relationship with a woman that year. $10,000 is still a 5x lower price. Most me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 07:38 PM |
| – | What would a society in which all men are red-pilled look like?Then women adapt, they will stop relying on vetting a man and instead assume that every man wants to do a pump and dump and they start relying on a financial guarantee. They will ask the man to make a deposit of, for example, 10,000 dollars before the first sex. And it will be up to the man whether he wants to consume the relationship even after first sex and they will have sex together for example 100 times before the woman gets tired of the relationship and she breaks up with him or whether he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 05:34 PM |
| 2 | The women at sex parties are better looking than menInteresting topic but I lack the knowledge to participate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 05:21 PM |
| – | What is an "below average" man ? how do these men differ from average men?Usually, when I talk about below average, I mean below range of average rather than below exact average. The worst third or quarter, but not the worst percent or five percent. For example, the average IQ is 100, but people with an IQ of 90 to 109 would be considered average. Therefore, I would describe people with an IQ of 75-90 as people with below-average intelligence. People with an IQ of less than 75 are already on the verge of mental retardation. Facial attractiveness, probably be men 3.5-4… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 08:06 AM |
| – | Describe there ideal society regarding dating and marriageCertainly that time had its advantages. It also had its drawbacks. If you weren't stereotypical, it was harder to find someone compatible than now when practically everyone is on the internet and whatever obscure interest or trait you have, there's probably a forum or social network group for it. Long distance communication was more difficult. Not every youngster had a cell phone, which on the one hand meant that people paid more attention to each other when they were already together, but also … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 06:37 AM |
| 2 | Men: what makes you want a woman?A) I am sexually attracted, so usually she is my type, has nice body and face, smells good, I like her voice and she doesn't repel me with her behavior. B) + Repeated sex with her is still fun. I like spending time with her. I have friendly relations with her. She is generally interesting. C) ++ Many things. I have to really enjoy spending a lot of time with her and we can't get on each other's nerves. We must have high compatibility in opinions, character, goals. We must manage to build love be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you date a mediocre woman?She has to be special, to me. That won't happen unless she's exceptional in many things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 08:56 PM |
| 0 | Q4Men: If you’re not Chad, why should you be treated the same way as Chad?Are you saying that you will be in a relationship with a man and you will respect a man who would apply his standards to you but break them for a 19 year old Instagram model? And would you want such a man in a relationship? If you knew that he wouldn't do certain things for you in a relationship simply because you're not young and pretty enough for him, but he would do them right away for another woman, wouldn't you mind? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 07:05 PM |
| 0 | Q4Men: If you’re not Chad, why should you be treated the same way as Chad?It's nice that it doesn't feel like a funeral oration, assuming funerals aren't your favorite comedy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 06:45 PM |
| 0 | Q4Men: If you’re not Chad, why should you be treated the same way as Chad?So she thinks that she is not good enough for a relationship with some guy whom she would like for a relationship and love, so she at least lets him fuck her? That's honestly just as sad as when a guy sexually desires a woman but thinks he has no chance with her, so he's at least in the friendzone with her. If he's not interested in you in the same way that you're interested in him, just walk away. Have some self respect. Don't be a simp for some dick. If a woman just wants good sex and is not i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Describe there ideal society regarding dating and marriageShould polygyny(multiple husbands) be accepted? Polyandry. Polygyny = more wifes / female partners. I know, I sure am fun at parties. .-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Q4Men: If you’re not Chad, why should you be treated the same way as Chad?That’s like saying someone having a celebrity crush means they don’t find you attractive. People get star struck when they meet their idols and pay insane amounts of money to do so. In this situation men idealize 19-year old instagram models which is fine because that’s just acknowledging a type of beauty but if he cheats on me it’s over regardless of who it’s with. As I wrote, they are immature children at best. I expect teenage girls to have a poster of their favorite singer on their wall, who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 05:09 PM |
| 6 | Q4Men: If you’re not Chad, why should you be treated the same way as Chad?Why do men want to believe that he’s the best she’s ever had? I didn't write anything like that. I want her to be with me because I am the best for her now. Not that she applies rules and standards to me because I'm "meh, maybe", whereas if I were more attractive to her, she'll happily throw all the rules out the window. Then she has no rules really. It's just that I'm not good enough for her. If I'm special to her, I expect special treatment. She is special to me and so I am also ready to treat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 05:00 PM |
| 7 | Q4Men: If you’re not Chad, why should you be treated the same way as Chad?No, but you know he has a lot of rules and standards for you, and he'd happily break them all for a 19-year-old Instagram model. His rules are not something that applies to all women. You're just not pretty and attractive enough for him. He will gladly pay extra for a first class flight. You are not first class in his eyes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 04:48 PM |
| 15 | Q4Men: If you’re not Chad, why should you be treated the same way as Chad?The specific standards and rules that you expect him to demand of you, but that he would break for a 19 year old Instagram model. So, for example, do you expect that: he will require to have sex with a condom when he is with you, but he would go unprotected with her? if there's no sex, he'll probably break up with you, but because of her, he'd wait a lifetime he splits with you 50/50 because he proudly promotes equality, but with her he would pay a dates, trips, anything, just to have a chance t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 04:22 PM |
| 23 | Q4Men: If you’re not Chad, why should you be treated the same way as Chad?Let's say you start dating a man, it looks like a possible serious relationship, love begins to form between you and you think that this could lead to marriage one day, you could start a family together. But as you write, you are not a 19 year old Instagram model, and you don't expect to be treated like one. So how do you expect this man to treat you? And how, in what ways and how much better should he treat the 19-year-old Instagram model, so that it expresses the difference in behavior you exp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 04:02 PM |
| 2 | The best form of love is when you don't want anything from the other person.Or for example, romantic love for a fictional character in a book. Not quite what is usually considered romantic love or relationship, but also a possibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 02:22 PM |
| 13 | If you enter a Karate class first time wearing a Gi and a black belt, knowing what it means is disrespectful because you didn't earn it. why is it normal that women get married wearing a white dress?Sometime in the late 1840s the American women's magazine Godey's Lady's Book incorrectly stated: “Custom has decided, from the earliest ages, that white is the most fitting hue, whatever may be the material. It is an emblem of the purity and innocence of girlhood, and the unsullied heart she now yields to the chosen one.” The tradition did not exist at that time, it was a new fashion trend since the wedding of Queen Victoria in the 1840 which the American magazine considered the role model. With… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 11:52 AM |
| 0 | Russell Wilson: A Shining Example of a Healthy Alpha MaleActually who gives a damn about wat people think. That's being a alpha. Technically, it's more of a sigma personality. An alpha leads, and anyone who leads must be interested in the opinions of those they lead. An alpha personality is not the best of all. It's just a personality type or social role type, with advantages and disadvantages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 09:35 AM |
| 2 | The best form of love is when you don't want anything from the other person.Romantic is a condition. A relationship in the sense that those people spend time together, live together, etc., is a condition. It may happen that your romantic relationship will also be filled with unconditional love. But unconditional love does not require or expect a romantic relationship. Thus, unconditional love alone is not enough to make a romantic relationship out of it. There must also be other form of loves, other feelings and ties that are exclusive, conditional. And from conditional… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible?By definition they were not the average citizen after great wars, because the average citizen was a woman in a situation where so many men died. He can be, by definition, an average white male in Singapore and still be successful. You can't have a situation where men have more libido supported with a higher probability of orgasm (demand) and lower risks with sex (transaction costs), there are as many men as women, and at the same time the demand of all of men is satisfied to the same extent as t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 05:54 AM |
| 2 | Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible?You aren't the average singaporean citizen That's the point. In your examples, after both great wars men were not average. They became special by surviving and by being few in number compared to women. In his example, the man becomes special by traveling to an environment in which he is clearly different from average men. On a small domestic scale, this can be done by putting the man in an environment where there are many women as opposed to men, for example some universities. Or fraternities wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 05:07 AM |
| 2 | How much of a turn off is astrology when a woman heavily believes in it?There was counterculture of the 60s where flower power were influenced by Earth-centered religions and astrological beliefs. Then the New Age in the 1970s and 1980s, all based on idea of humanity entering the Age of Aquarius. Then maybe a small drop in interest, but shortly after that it was written again how young Gen X and millennials are obsessed with astrology, like you said. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2018/01/the-new-age-of-astrology/550034/ You can solace yourself that Gen … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Whats the biggest mistake you did NOT make as a teenager? WEEKLY DISCUSSION TOPICI never paid for sex. I have never had sex with the girlfriend or wife of any of my male friends or family members. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Have you begun or would you consider utilising an 'AI Girlfriend' due to being unsuccessful in finding a partner?Normally free. I have access to paid only within the framework of specific work. AGI? The problem is that current AIs are not smart at all. They have access to a large amount of information and can combine it quite quickly and efficiently (with the fact that, for example, chatGPT has a really poor idea of time and space). Plus, they can skillfully translate ordinary human language into a context they can work with. But it only imitates some manifestations of intelligence, it is not a intelligenc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 07:01 PM |
| 4 | Would you rather your partner cheat on you with a tinder hook up or cheat on you for money?I would not choose a prostitute for a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 11:00 AM |
| 2 | How much of a turn off is astrology when a woman heavily believes in it?Funny video. But you can also see how practically all the women took the rejection well. Here and there some woman called out that she wasn't interested either, but no attacks, no reproaches, no running after him saying that they wanted him to change his mind and the like. Some laughed, others felt hurt (and it's kind of gross to make videos of hurting other people), but it was perfectly safe for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 07:42 AM |
| 16 | How much of a turn off is astrology when a woman heavily believes in it?He's probably a Gemini, they're two-faced snakes! /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 07:02 AM |
| 7 | How much of a turn off is astrology when a woman heavily believes in it?As a fun or self-discovery it's fine. I don't see much difference between that and, say, alpha, beta... personality types that are in fashion here now. When you read a description of "yourself" that you may or may not identify with, it's a bit like a trick when you don't know how to decide and flip a coin. Often during the coin toss you feel what you want to land and then you suddenly know what you actually want. If she really is a believer in astrology, it can be a bit annoying over time but st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 06:52 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)You are of course right that there will be a certain smaller percentage of men who will use this to better pretend and bypass the first filters. But also, there will be a certain percentage of men who will use it to simply improve their behavior. It is neither beneficial nor realistic to expect only bad motivation from everyone around. Plus, if fewer men stare at your cleavage and fewer men compliment your ass in completely non-sexual situations, isn't that an advantage in itself? That is, assum… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 06:23 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)Advices that men with lower social intelligence, skills and experience need, so I'll go with that assumption. Don't talk about sex right away. - no problem, but the man will probably fail because he won't be able to put the right amount of flirting, tension, etc., he won't be able to lead and escalate the situation. Some men will take this advice literally and end up being friends, then get more and more angry and finally explode and be nasty to the woman. Don't bother her if she has earbuds in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 12:34 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)I think that following advice to get what you want is pretty basic behavior. It just doesn't seem like a major feat that would suggest someone has a high level of intelligence It depends. For example advice: "be confident but don't seem too arrogant, come normally, relaxed, smile, say a few common polite phrases, talk to her like any other person, friendly and nice..." That's advice that, in theory, shouldn't be difficult to follow. But in practice, most people just can't do it. Because it's lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 11:50 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)Me neither. But personally, I would guess less than 20%, because it requires solid values of some types of intelligence + a specific type of character + the man's willingness to learn this way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 11:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)Just a note. Psychopaths are not, on average, more intelligent than normal people. Actually, they are probably less intelligent. But less intelligent psychopaths quite often end up dead, in prisons or on the fringes of society. That's how many psychopaths end up. People tend to focus on those intelligent enough that, even as neurodivergent, they can emulate the behavior of neurotypical people to blend in and then take advantage of their difference to gain power. Thus, we are only talking about a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 11:19 PM |
| 2 | **Why Women Desire a Healthy Alpha Male**Yes and no. Even as a dictator, you need to be supported by those immediately below you. Otherwise, they can replace you with someone else. And they will support you if they consider your support beneficial for themselves. Which is one of the reasons why even an enlightened dictator can't do so much for ordinary people. The elite who support him would overthrow him if he did not provide them with enough benefits. It's even more interesting with elections, because there you can directly see how m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 10:19 PM |
| 2 | **Why Women Desire a Healthy Alpha Male**The funny thing is that with real beast of burden, at least everyone recognizes that the animal has no choice. But we socialize people from an early age so that they are willing to sacrifice themselves for society, for the family, for the country, for God, for the greater good... but at the same time we pretend that everyone has free will and so even if they live their whole life according to the program, which was instilled in them, so it was their free choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:33 PM |
| 3 | **Why Women Desire a Healthy Alpha Male**It's not how much women want, but how much they can get. I, too, would like all people to be honest, good, peaceful, kind, so that there were no wars and we all helped each other. Such a utopian communism, where everyone works according to their means and takes according to their needs and no one abuses it, would be really great. But I know it's largely nonsense. So as a result, most people promote moral behavior (because it's beneficial to live in a society where others don't lie, cheat...) but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:05 PM |
| 5 | **Why Women Desire a Healthy Alpha Male**I am saying that most alpha males are not healthy in the sense of being moral or sensitive to others. Just look at who runs society and who mostly ran it in history. And I say that most women therefore do not pay much attention to healthy. It's more important if he's capable (and manageable in the sense that he'll share the benefits) than if he's healthy. Plus, a lot of women have adapted and don't even try to get alpha. Because statistically speaking, alpha is high risk with high potential prof… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:53 PM |
| 2 | **Why Women Desire a Healthy Alpha Male**When you look around, do you get the feeling that the society is run by healthy alpha males? Or do you think it was better in the past? That nobles, warlords or later factory owners and business tycoons were somehow balanced of strength and sensitivity towards subjects and employees? Or do you feel that when society puts powerful psychopaths and reckless, power-hungry people, cunning liars and manipulators in its leadership, so that women, who make up more than half of the adult population, do n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:45 PM |
| 6 | You Can’t Truly Love Your Partner If Height Is A DealbreakerWell then yes. Of course, I wouldn't be physically attracted and would have to overcome shock, fear and revulsion, but beneath those emotions there would still be love, just as there is still sunshine behind the clouds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 01:54 PM |
| 10 | You Can’t Truly Love Your Partner If Height Is A DealbreakerHard to say. I don't know if and how I would be able to believe and verify that this worm is her. Also, what does it mean she would be a worm? What is SHE, in this case? Would she have the appearance of a worm but somehow her intelligence and personality? How would I be able to tell difference between her and any other worm? Would she be aware of herself or would it actually be like looking at a body in a vegetative state, with no chance of awakening? I experienced a person dying with multiple s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 01:36 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)If the woman is average, lazy and poor, she will probably end up with someone on the same level, because she simply does not have better options and she does not get much contact with other men. Her priority will be that he doesn't drink (too much), doesn't beat her, doesn't take drugs (too much), doesn't lose everything gambling... There are loads of people like that and they also want to fuck, so they just find whoever they can. A woman has standards within her means. If she doesn't get a bett… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 12:08 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)So what's weird about guys who sleep on mattresses on the floor and work 20 hours a week finding such wild success at fucking women? There are a lot of women in the world who will be as poor or even poorer than those guys. Or women who will be a bit richer, but are simply attracted to that poor guy for sex. Generally speaking, the poor fuck with the poor and the rich fuck with the rich. And there are a lot of poor people, so they have a lot of choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 11:56 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)Let's assume that advice from some woman is functional and useful for men. If a man is intelligent enough to recognize and apply that advice and if he has a character to be willing and able to effectively learn from women and take their advice on how to treat wome, that alone puts him above most men in terms of his qualities and potential for a relationship. Imagine, for example, how such a man is in sex. He can tell what women mean by what they say they like or complain about. He can recognize … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 11:44 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)how else can obviously bad men (looking at you guys who sleep on mattresses on the floor and work 20 hours a week) find such wild success at fucking women? Do you think poor women don't want to fuck or that every woman is a gold digger to prefer a rich and ugly guy to a handsome and poor one? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 11:37 AM |
| 48 | You Can’t Truly Love Your Partner If Height Is A DealbreakerI love my wife. If she halved or doubled in size now, I'd still love her. But if she was under 4' 11" or over 6' 0" when we first met, I probably wouldn't have the motivation to get to know her romantically enough to start loving her. That's just the way it is with a lot of things related to appearance, that the woman must first pass through these superficial criteria in order for me to start wanting to know her more deeply as a possible partner. So yes, the height was a dealbreaker for me in pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 11:19 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: If “settling” is bad, why should women “lower their standards” and “be less selective/picky”?I'm not writing about a situation where your partner makes you unhappy. But about a situation where a woman is unhappy in herself and expects her partner to make her happy. That he will just sort out her life in some magical, miraculous way and everything will be fine. She just needs to find the right man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 09:19 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: If “settling” is bad, why should women “lower their standards” and “be less selective/picky”?Then why complain about these picky women instead of avoiding them or insisting that all women have this personality trait? Many women tend to place somewhat unrealistic expectations on their partner, not only how tall or rich he should be, but how he should affect her life. It's kind of a childish attitude where instead of taking responsibility for her life, a woman believes that it's her partner's responsibility to make her life happy. But even the best partner can only help, the responsibilit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 09:10 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: If “settling” is bad, why should women “lower their standards” and “be less selective/picky”?A partner cannot make you happy in the long term, any more than a new handbag can. Your happiness must come from within you. If someone is dissatisfied and unhappy and clings to external things (money, power, fame, career, relationships) in a desperate attempt to compensate for the lack of self-love, confidence and inner happiness in their life, that's a bad personality trait and it will never work. Such a person can buy the most beautiful handbag in the world or have the best guy in the world, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 09:01 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: If “settling” is bad, why should women “lower their standards” and “be less selective/picky”?This is probably the most common complaint I see on here about women — they’re too picky, too selective, have standards that are too high, are never happy. How much money do you want? More! How good a partner do you want? A better one! This is a personality trait where no matter how much a person has, after a while they are never satisfied. I think it's when a woman (or man) believes that money or a partner should make her happy. Of course, this does not work in the long term, but instead of sol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?I'll have to trust you. By the way, I would not want a menstrual cycle by any chance. Scary. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?This post takes it historically (what would have happened if men had a reduced sex drive even in ancient history). The combination of greater importance of physical strength, a lack of reliable contraception and a high infant mortality rate that required a woman to give birth to an average of 4-8 children just to keep society from dying out meant that it was essential for a woman (and society) to have someone to take care of woman and children when she she was almost always pregnant or had a sma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 05:44 PM |
| 3 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?A heterosexual man without sex drive is hetero asexual or not? He may still be romantically attracted to women (not aromantic), but has no or very low sex drive. Thus, if all or most heterosexual men lost their sex drive, most men in the world would be asexual. And it is a demonstration that a man without sex drive is not "literally nothing". Because the life and value of a man is not only shaped by his sex drive. A man is much more than his desire for sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 05:35 PM |
| 3 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?Interesting question, maybe for a separate topic. Personally, I would be excited about the possibility, if my body was adapted for it. But I would be much more careful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 04:39 PM |
| 3 | When approaching someone, it feels like you have to be as indirect as possibleDepends. I'm not autistic and I tend to be quite direct anyway. It's just easier for me and I know I'll be direct in a subsequent relationship, so if the woman has a problem with me being direct, then we're not right for each other. Sure, some people may find my directness uncomfortable, but that's life, you can't please everyone. But it's a fact that I also try to be nonchalant and often wrap my directness in humor. A date invitation should not have the urgency and fatality of announcing that t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?But women can and do pay for sperm donation when they want infants, and men would likely exchange gametes for cash. Yes, it depends on whether the sex drive would decrease in men now, in modern society. Or whether it would have decreased at some point in ancient history. If only now, thanks to technology we would be able to deal with it much easier. By the way, women have less motivation to force, manipulate or beg men to have sex, also because they have a rather small chance of achieving orgasm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 04:19 PM |
| 4 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?Offer women benefits in exchange for sex. In times when men controlled society and had access to the vast majority of better-paid jobs, women needed to enter into marriage in order to be protected and supported. And men agreed because they wanted the company of women as well as regular access to sex. But if men didn't want regular access to sex, could women convince men that men would still provide sex to women? Seduce women. Courting women. Popular mainly since the time when the idea of romanti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 03:57 PM |
| 5 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?You are right that women would still have sex or masturbate. But the mere fact that women also have a sex drive would not guarantee that those women would be able to exert enough effort to convince men with a significantly reduced sex drive to impregnate them. And that the women would even be willing to undergo it. Because there would be much more frequent cases when a man who is afraid that a woman will get pregnant and he would not actively want to be a father, would prefer to completely deny … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 03:40 PM |
| 4 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?If men's sex drive was reduced now (and otherwise men's health was not affected in any way) it would probably have rather positive consequences as long as humanity did not go through significant crisis and even then the male sexual desire could be circumvented by artificial reproduction. The performance of the economy and the like would probably drop a bit, but we have overproduction and consumption must be artificially encouraged by advertising and a focus on consumerism. And the decline in eco… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?Why would you hoard all women when you will have less sex drive than now and you won't feel like having sex with all of them? To listen from morning till night that you avoid them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?Less devastating wars, because if too many men died, all or most of the women might not be impregnated, therefore, if humanity survived even with less sex drive in men, it means that was more peaceful. Less competition and more empathy and kindness between men. A technologically more backward society. Development and change in society were often driven by crises, wars and high competition between men. Longer-term stable societies whose weakness would be stagnation. Society would be slower to mer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 03:00 PM |
| 12 | Where would society be if men didn’t have high sex drives?Worse for men, because without their sex drives, they're literally nothing. So you think asexual men are nothing? Do they have no motivation, goals, or contribution to society? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Approaching women is a humiliation ritual that only psychopaths can win long runIt is true that even though my attitude is theoretically well-rooted and connected to my overall values, if I had a disability, major health problem, etc., it would be much more difficult to maintain this thought and belief framework. I know I'm just lucky in many ways. It's difficult and tiring to go against other people's stereotypes and beliefs, and when others constantly let you know by their reactions that you're not okay, it's hard not to be socialized in this way, when we're essentially a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 02:19 PM |
| 5 | Men today act so feminineIf women do not express their femininity in this way. How do you know it is a manifestation of femininity in men? What exactly makes it feminine when men do it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 09:52 AM |
| 5 | Men today act so feminineSo you claim that "never want to pay for anything", "leave their families", "spend most of their time complaining or playing video games" and "manipulate to get sex" is feminine? And at the same time you complain that not you, but some other men "are damaging the younger population of women"? How do you expect women to respect themselves, if the behavior you described is considered feminine? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 08:09 AM |
| 3 | Approaching women is a humiliation ritual that only psychopaths can win long runIt's a coping mechanism, true. On the other hand, what isn't? Any belief in anything, including that there is reality, time, space, free will, is just coping with the fact that I don't know anything with certainty, but still need to function somehow. In a universe whose meaning I do not know, I am free to give it whatever meaning I see fit. So why not choose the best one possible. (Pascal's wager applied) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 07:30 AM |
| 37 | Approaching women is a humiliation ritual that only psychopaths can win long runNo, you see the "relationship with yourself" as a product and the woman as a potential customer. And you see yourself as a seller of that product. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 08:20 PM |
| 27 | Approaching women is a humiliation ritual that only psychopaths can win long runI am ok. If she's not interested, we're not compatible and point 1 applies. I don't enjoy approaching. But the rejection doesn't hurt me extra, we're just not compatible, done. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 07:58 PM |
| 9 | Q4M: Have you begun or would you consider utilising an 'AI Girlfriend' due to being unsuccessful in finding a partner?ChatGPT is a handy tool, but nothing more. Some reactions from the chatGPT may seem like they are from a live person because replicates the answers and opinions of real people, but during a longer interaction, chatGPT has fundamental errors in logic and you can see that it does not really think, does not have free will (or any will), change minds, or evolve in a human-like way. As a result, I can hardly establish a significantly more personal relationship with it than, for example, with a washin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 11:12 AM |
| 3 | Q4M - an average looking girl is DESPERATE to date you. How do you feel about it?she's of average height. Appropriate BMI Not stunning, but not ugly Plain Jane face, nothing crazy going on No tats, nose piercings, dyed hair, shaved head - none of that. Just a very run of the mill girl. Am I physically attracted to her enough to be willing to start a relationship with her? If so, that's enough. If not, bye. She desperately wants to date you. She will cancel any plans with her friends to make herself available for you. Laughs at all your jokes no matter what. Buys YOU stuff. C… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 08:30 AM |
| 5 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manAnd a genius and hero... if your name is Tony Stark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manI'm not sure what your definition of an i-word is, so I'll take mine. hero, genius, saint Doesn't matter. beloved husband or great dad Probably a fuckboy if he stops being a fuckboy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 03:48 PM |
| 6 | Power imbalance relationshipsYou should try to use your strengths to the best advantage of you and your partner. For example: When you are more powerful: lead and serve. When you are stronger: protect. When you are richer: give. When you are more experienced: teach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 03:41 PM |
| 0 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manRather, why are they opening their legs to men in the first place, unless they're married? Because they like to fuck? That's like asking why men have sex before marriage when they don't want to become fathers right now. Why is single motherhood one of the most pressing issues of our time? This is too big and complex topic to tackle offtopic. you have to meet certain standards in order to become a sperm donor At least you see how great a compliment it is when someone tells that you are a sperm do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manIf according to you the quality of fatherhood is not important from a biological standpoint, then it is good to mention that sex itself with various women who do not want to get pregnant right now is also mostly just a waste of time and material and the best compliment should be: a sperm donor. :-) For example, Jonathan Meijer fathered between 500 and 600 children around the world this way. Being a fuckboy is a completely ineffective way to deal with it and pleasure and happiness is not relevant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 02:39 PM |
| 10 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manThat one is good too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manYou're right, it's probably different for everyone. I've started some of my relationships with arguments and fighting and believing that the woman in question is an insufferable. Sorry to steal your attention to offtopic like this and thanks for the responses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manI knew it! To a man, all crows may be black, but to a crow, they shine in various colors. The same way I can spot a naughty girl even across the ocean. :-) It's interesting how many insults have such a sexual nature that pretending it was flirting offers itself and sometimes it is more effective than to counterattack with vulgarisms. And sometimes it can be at least an expression of interest. After all, passion is passion, and it's easier to turn hate into love than bored disinterest into love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 01:34 PM |
| 7 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manIf men are truly so blinded by the “fuck” part of it, then to make it easier on them I will unlearn that vocabulary and revert to “asshole.” Right to the point, huh? First you want to fuck them and now straight to pegging. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 01:08 PM |
| 20 | Men on here say women need to drop their height standards, but men are just as heightistInteresting. Purely based on this, one could say that women are 4 times more heightist than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 12:55 PM |
| 12 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manBiologically speaking, a great dad. A fuckboy can fuck his whole life in today's society and not have a single offspring, he can even be infertile. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 12:45 PM |
| 1 | If there is a push for older women to be seen as more attractive then there should be a push for younger men to be seen as more attractiveYoung men are seen as very sexy as lovers for older, gay men. And there is certainly a profit from it. It would also make interesting money once older women could be convinced to spend money on younger men. The proportion of financially successful, educated women who are single and not interested in a serious relationship is increasing. If sex and the companionship of young men began to be perceived as a demonstration of success and feminine power and attractiveness for older women, then, for ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 12:29 PM |
| 99 | Being called a "fuckboy" is the biggest compliment you can get as a manI would say hero, genius, saint or maybe self made billionaire. Or a beloved husband, a great dad. It's nice that someone is a boy who fucks, it can be a compliment, but certainly not the greatest a man can get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 11:25 AM |
| – | AITA? I dumped my new gf after she told me she's pregnant by her ex.I think sleeping with a woman you know is pregnant (and not with your baby) is gross Can you please try to explain why you think it's gross? Somehow I don't understand it at all. Are you against sex with pregnant women in general? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 10:57 AM |
| – | AITA? I dumped my new gf after she told me she's pregnant by her ex.Her pregnancy and decision to have a child with someone else is a major change on her side compared to what you knew about her until now. And it would fundamentally affect your life. You were determined to commit to her, but that doesn't mean you're committed to a child that isn't yours. So you're not the asshole for this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 06:39 AM |
| 1 | If you cant get casual sex easily then you are unattractiveTo reduce it purely to attractiveness is an oversimplification. social group I wouldn't get any easy casual sex from women I know in social group. Because practically all of them are engaged, in marriages and in general they are women who don't seem like they want casual sex right now. But before that I was in an social group where it was very easy for me to get casual sex. And it would still be easy if I was willing to become a part of that culture again. Nothing extra special, just parties, cl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipNot necessarily. For example, the fact that a woman drives a car just like a man does not automatically mean that she is responsible for the maintenance of the car. The man can be responsible for the condition of the car (and then he also often feels entitled to tell the woman how she should treat the car). As a result, whether the car is drivable or not is his responsibility. And many couples actually have it set up in such a way that the woman is in charge of most of the things in the househol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipIf he could choose to take a plate to eat (ie, for example, if he decided to eat it standing over the sink and without a plate, no one would tell him "don't eat standing up and take a plate"), then of course he is also responsible for what he does with the plate after. In this case, he has the decision-making power, so he also bears the responsibility. A man is not in a position to have zero decision-making powers in the household. But he is also not usually in a position where it's 50/50. Withd… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipYou can bear no responsibility for what you do not decide. Only the one who makes the decision is responsible for the outcome of his decision. If someone pretends that you are responsible for something that you cannot decide, then they are just making you a scapegoat. If we consider decision-making and organizing by a woman as extra work (which we should), then the man can get more work in exchange for not having to make decisions. For example, an extra hour a week to mopping the floor. But in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 05:55 PM |
| 3 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipYou are right that when a visitor comes, how it is cleaned is automatically taken as a matter of a woman's tidiness. Stereotypes. I have higher standards of tidiness in some ways than my wife, and her easy-going approach is fine with me. I know what hell it is to live with someone who wants everything to be perfect and I'd rather live with someone who is a little messy but cool. I just have to be careful not to terrorize those around me too much when I get caught up in the cleaning and at the sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipMen don't care that much about it, let alone address it on Reddit, for the same reason they don't care that much about house chores. Because both men and women stereotype it as something that is more of a woman's thing. Making decisions about the household and taking care of it. No one says that a woman builds a house, but a man makes it a home. But if someone wants to call attention to that stereotype in the sense that it is outdated and harmful, it needs to be done on both sides. So, women typ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 01:32 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIf people, after reading that they should enthusiastically experiment with sex, think of something that failed, caused them pain and hurt, and then react with that thought in their head, that I want them to get their asses ripped again, then it's no wonder there was so much fuss. :-)) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipIt is a fact that in recent years I, as a man, have been cooking more than my wife. I just enjoy it more. I don't enjoy washing dishes, but luckily there is a dishwasher. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 11:27 AM |
| -2 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipAs they set it up and maintain it at the beginning of the relationship, they usually have it long term. If a woman decides, arranges and manages everything in the household from the beginning, then it will probably be like this for a long time. Although they live there together, it is mainly her household. A man in such a household may do the housework, but he is really just helping out. It's nonsense to expect 50/50 responsibility from him when he doesn't have 50/50 decision-making powers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 11:10 AM |
| 8 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipWho puts more energy and activity into having sex? And why? Man, if he wants sex more and more often. It doesn't matter if it's excusable, that his wife lets the person she loves consistently put more work into their shared life, it's just the way it works in many households that the man is overwhelmingly more active in the pursuit of sex. Well, tidy and cozy household are often what women want more. They want to be cleaned to a higher level than men, so of course women also spend more energy on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipexcuse for men to not help out. When you envisioned the household, was it a household where both have equal decision-making powers? So the equipment of the kitchen and where it will be stored was decided equally by men and women? How the furniture will be arranged, what color the walls will be... How often vacuuming and mopping will be done, how often the dust will be wiped, how the dirty laundry will be handled, how the laundry will be put away in the closets... they both decide equally ? If al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 10:50 AM |
| -1 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship"Making more money" is not an excuse for men to not help out. Does he make more money for the same amount of time on a job that has the same level of difficulty? Then yes. And he should not just help, but participate equally. But many men spend more time at work, or do more demanding work. When a woman has a part-time job or does some rather comfortable and pleasant job for not much money, while a man works hard to be the breadwinner because he knows that the responsibility for the family's inco… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 10:31 AM |
| 2 | Race has an effect on finding a partnerI know virtually no black people personally, so I am a firm believer that black lives are just as important as white lives, and that blacks are just as intelligent, capable, cultured, and the like. I know a number of gypsies personally, and my attitudes towards them are considerably more complicated. So it makes sense that whites from the whitest circles are the loudest advocates for blacks. Maybe if they were in more contact with blacks, they wouldn't defend them nearly so enthusiastically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 08:09 AM |
| 2 | Men are hypergamous when it comes to looksDo you think men in general are as attractive when it comes to looks as women in general? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 07:50 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himOne of the things that surprised me in this discussion is how many people specifically thought of anal. Probably something that women generally have a bad experience with and men push them into it. I know it more from the opposite side, that I'm not so excited about anal (too tight), but sometimes women want it, so I didn't even think of it among the first things. Interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 07:07 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himSome men become very bitter about not have sex in their 20s and that resentment ends relationships. If you believe that you are unworthy or less than anything your partner does will be viewed through that lens even if it wasn’t like that at all. I agree that this is a difficulty and a problem in a relationship. But not that it is automatically an insurmountable problem. Many people have some insecurity at the beginning, which prevents them from enjoying something without feelings of bitterness, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 07:00 AM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI don't know. Because it goes against stereotypes? If a woman wants her man to always be the stronger, more experienced, more dominant, etc., she objectifies him, reduces him to a certain role, instead of taking him as a whole person with his weaknesses. Both men and women tend to objectify their partners and the opposite sex in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 06:50 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI don't know how to answer in a way that is specific enough and not too personal. And if I list here dozens of fun and silly things that I myself tried when I started having sex, some of which I included among my long-term favorites, others I tried only once, what good will it do? It's about attitude, not specific things like whether she's willing to be decorated with strawberries and whipped cream before he eat her out. Maybe yes, maybe not, that's up to her. There will always be things that so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 09:27 PM |
| 2 | When Rhode Island accidentally legalized prostitution, rape decreased sharplyPeople are unhappy and looking for something to make them happy. Sex (or some specific sexual fantasy), like many other things, cannot fix it in the long run. But as long as the person doesn't have access to sex or to his fantasy, he can believe that this is what he's missing so that he doesn't feeling lonely, miserable, unsatisfied and desperately unhappy. Hornyness turns to frustration and bitterness, frustration and bitterness to hatred. Once he has access, he discovers that it can serve as a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 05:56 PM |
| 9 | What does “real” love look like to you?Unconditional love is a deep, abiding feeling, a state, the awareness of which is based on our own conscious decision. On our own honest work. Constantly affirmed. Unconditional. Love gives and wants nothing in return. Love is a feeling that can be felt both for a person, the whole humanity, or for everything that exists. For the existence of love itself, it does not matter whether the person, humanity or universe somehow benefits us. Depends only on whether we choose to keep that love within us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Is it better for men to ask out women as soon as they know them, or is it better to build up a friendship first?Getting to know each other a little while keeping some tension and spark between you. It's okay to flirt lightly without asking her outright. It's important that she doesn't put you in the friend zone among men she perceives more like brothers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 09:32 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIf it were customary for men to have casual relationships with older women or with the married women of same age, but only establish serious relationships with significantly younger women, then men will typically be the teachers in relationships. Basically, it used to be like this in some times in history, when a girl was expected to enter marriage as a virgin and often married a much older man. He was also usually her first sexual teacher, but that did not necessarily mean that he was her last … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 09:25 AM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himOnly if we assume that female emancipation in the sexual area to the level of men is a sustainable thing and that the acquisition of experience for both men and women should take place in love relationships and not for example in the form of teaching by prostitutes. And also if we don't want to increase the currently decreasing age gap in relationships again. The more experience, power and possibilities women have, the more often they will also encounter in relationships that their partner is we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 09:18 AM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himThis gave me a laugh. Will skip the entitled mentality you portrayed into this post since you got it from others. What amused me is the fact that i was experienced, my husband was a virgin. I did try and guide and teach him so to say. I've been explicit and clear. No hints, but direct communication. Over a decade later and he still does a piss poor job. I just let it slide because i am tired of communicating to a deaf brick wall after so many years. I am not an isolated case, but sadly our sad s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 09:12 AM |
| 4 | The sex ratio at birth is roughly 105 males to 100 females. Would humanity be better off if it was even? If it was 105 females to 100 males?Russia is one of the countries where, for decades, women were more numerous in the population as a result of the huge mortality of men in the Second World War. China is one of the countries where men are more numerous, as a result of the one child policy and the selective abortions of girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 08:31 AM |
| 3 | Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s?Make it seem like it’s not such a big deal: “Hey your childhood sucked but you have your whole life ahead of you.” Make it their fault “maybe if you tried harder you wouldn’t have been laid off.” Make it seem overrated: “Having a childhood best friend, pfft, it’s not that great. We were just kids, dumb and immature. I have way better friendships as an adult, you didn’t miss out.” Dilute the problem by bringing everyone in: “Everyone goes through these things, death comes for all of us. It’s just… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 08:13 AM |
| 0 | What could (would?) you do with this information about anonymous women's general income/career requirements?Exaggeratedly. Realizing that women wouldn't be willing to fuck me forever if I lived in a cardboard box definitely helped in deciding how much of my time and energy to devote to my financial security. I myself have almost no demands or desires for any luxury items, or any extra comfort. If I hadn't started a relationship and a family, I'd probably be living like a monk. Taking into account women's point of view and and the needs of family, it made me change my lifestyle a lot. It can be said th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 07:45 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himNo, it really doesn't change much. But the result can be influenced by will, education, and conscious decision-making. Let's hope fate never strips me of that thin peel of civilization so that I have to actually act on my instincts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 07:35 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI don’t believe anything can be done to help a man suffering from retroactive jealousy because of his fundamental insecurities. Interesting. An objection not in the style that a woman is not obliged to do it, but in the style that nothing can be done. Why do you think so? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 07:13 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himOr a big pay gap, different origins, education, political beliefs, religion, social status, attractiveness... If a woman is more experienced in sex, this also goes against the stereotypes and that is a difficulty in itself. However, if for some reason two people start a relationship where there is this gap in some area, then I think it is good to keep it in mind and try to actively work to make it cause as little trouble as possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 07:11 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himHopefully not all of them, and it is also possible to educate. The more emancipated women are, the more often they will find themselves in a leadership role or the role of the more powerful and experienced one in the relationship in some respects. Adaptability is the key to survival. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 07:09 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI have a more positive view of women. I don't deny that some women are like you described, but it's also up to men that if they start to be more attractive to women in their 30s, then they are able and willing to express their needs in a relationship and if those needs are not being met because the woman is not willing to do anything for her man, so leave the relationship and find a better woman. And a man should be damn careful about using a condom with such women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 07:06 AM |
| 3 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himThat sounds like a good approach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:58 AM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himTry to suggest things to him that you would like to try in sex. Men should be willing to experiment and should try to please their women sexually. Of course, if he is not willing, you can try to talk about it, discuss his reasons why he does not want something or what bothers him and maybe find a joint solution. And hopefully the incompatibility of the need to experiment and your bitterness that you've never tried certain things sexually won't be so great that you break up over it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:55 AM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himReasonable approach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:51 AM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himYes, I got it. I added the edits, not much more to do with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:44 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himThis seems like a balanced and well described approach to me. I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:40 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI agree. With a reminder that this may not apply to all inexperienced persons. Some may not feel any bitterness and, on the contrary, may be very proud that they saved their virginity for true love. Or they have a neutral attitude towards it. They don't have to have any inner insecurity. I am writing here about a subset of inexperienced men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:38 AM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himShe doesn't owe anyone a chance to even do the things she loves. So what does the word owe have to do with it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:36 AM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI mention more positive consequences of him having the opportunity to experiment, fulfill his desires and gain the missing sexual experience and self-confidence. For example, if I'm going to write about the positive effects for men when a woman's cleavage is exposed, one of them is that it increases the blood flow to the penis in men who are happy with such a sight. But that doesn't mean I emotionally manipulate women into revealing themselves or men's penises will shrink and never get an erecti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:31 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI can try to use another analogy. I personally think that sex is a gift that they give to each other. But I probably understand what's bothering you. I also don't like the concept of sex in the way that the woman gives something and loses something through sex, while the man gains something at her expense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:23 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI was surprised. I think men don't mind if a woman tells them what she thinks they should do in a relationship with a woman, especially when it comes to how they should behave in sex with a certain type of woman and I was hoping it would be received in a similar positive way. So I was expecting a debate on the level of whether such an approach would work or not. That is, arguments in the style that he will still be unfaithful or bitter anyway, or that he will want more and more in sex. Or that t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 12:33 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himcould still know a lot about sex Then he's not inexperienced. Yes, I agree that it is far from being about n count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 12:18 AM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIf the experience you seek could only be fulfilled with the participation of another person, hire someone to join you — all expenses paid. The analogy would be to hire a consenting sex worker to experiment sexually. If the man was willing to have sex with prostitutes, he will not be a virgin or inexperienced in his 30s. Moreover, having sex with prostitutes has its own disadvantages. It is not sex with love, in a romantic relationship, and that is simply not for everyone. And it's not even sex b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 12:10 AM |
| 0 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himAccording to OP, a man will need to criticise his woman if she doesn't reduce his insecurities. And specifically will need to criticise her for her "richer sexual past" if he doesn't have as rich a sexual past as her. You're surely not condoning this? I agree that it is not good for a man to do this. But it's a tendency I've noticed in a lot of men here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 11:10 PM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI have a visceral reaction to guys saying what women "should" do. You're clearly not alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 10:56 PM |
| 3 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himBut if it's two guys I like at the same time, I'll take it even if I have to get stitches afterwards. :-)) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himTo what end? Let me speak your language. If your lady wants to peg them to feel satisfied, should you be expected to do that? You might make the case that pegging doesn’t physically satisfy her and it’s not necessary for her, but neither is anal for anybody straight (except those who both want it, of course) Expected to do that? No. But if someone wrote that men should be open to their partner's suggestions for this sexual activity and consider it, I would take that as absolutely fine. Men shoul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 10:08 PM |
| 3 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himNo one talks about men being corrupted by sex, don't be ridiculous. I know men who got their first brothel experience at an age I can't post here because it would get reported and deleted. And it definitely had a negative effect on them. I also know religious men who regret their promiscuous past. I agree that it doesn't get written about that often. However, even if there is an article somewhere about a minor being raped by a female teacher, it is often not taken seriously, especially by men. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 10:00 PM |
| 3 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himBut, your OP assumed that the woman in this scenario has experimented in the past, knows what she likes and doesn't want to do the things she didn't like going forward, right? And your OP strongly suggests that she should do things she already knows she doesn't like for the sake of her man getting to experience them. Don't you see the issue with this? It would be like that if things were black and white and we either passionately loved or unequivocally hated everything. But in practice, in my op… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:54 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI mean by man logic sexually experienced women are lower value. Sexually experienced women are fine. Damaged women are problematic. There is some overlap, but it is not the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:48 PM |
| 7 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI have a hard time convincing you that I don't think the way you think I do. When I explicitly wrote that I don't mean it that way. But for next time I will try to think about a more careful choice of words. So thanks for the feedback anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:44 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himshould do things she doesn't want to do Please show me where I wrote that. But I will set the record straight that I don't mean anything like that. "If a woman likes to receive gifts, a man in a relationship with her should not forget about small attentions in the form of flowers, sweets and other gifts." Will you see it as me trying to break the boundaries of men who don't want to give their wives gifts? No, it just reminds those men not to forget it because it's important. But it assumes autom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:36 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himWould he be despoiled and corrupted? :-) Of course, he can. But I don't think that's the way many men would imagine losing their virginity these days. After all, sex is often associated with either love or at least mutual sexual attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:28 PM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIf I really love the woman, I am willing to negotiate a lot. Especially if it's Women's Day. And if someone were to write that men should be open to letting a woman peg their ass if she really wants it, I hopefully won't react like a butthurt in the discussion. Not before the actual act. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:19 PM |
| 3 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himThat's bad luck for a male virgin, but I can't argue against that. I am only dealing with the case where she has already chosen the inexperienced partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:17 PM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI personally do not agree that female virginity is in any sense of higher value than male virginity. It makes sense to keep both, for example, for religious reasons. I also don't see a woman who isn't a virgin losing any value from being a virgin. Of course, if you don't need a female virgin to recite an incantation to ward off monsters (damn Steve). But if you see extra value in female virginity (the hymen that some women have and others don't), then I understand why despoil is female thing. Bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:11 PM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himYou never getting anal or a 3 some or whatever First of all, I hope I never get anal or 3 some against my will. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:01 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI understand that, but unlike some times where a girl was expected to be a virgin at marriage and a boy was expected to have his first experiences with prostitutes, many women simply cannot avoid it if they want to have functional relationships and a functional sex life. Especially if they are sexually experienced themselves and start with a sexually inexperienced man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:56 PM |
| 3 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI didn't date virgins when I was teenager or early twenties. If I learned that a girl was a virgin, I took it as too much responsibility, too much work. Now (if I were single), I would be more likely to do it. I'm just more patient and willing to teach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:52 PM |
| 0 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himAlmost everything is a consent activity. If I decide not to do the dishes, that's my boundary, and as a result, everyone just has to respect it or leave the relationship with me. Of course, sex is a more intimate and ideally amorous activity, but the principle is still the same. That doesn’t mean he’s entitled to things outside her boundaries just because he wants to experience them and never has. I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:46 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himA man should not forget to give a gift to a woman on birthdays, holidays and anniversaries, if the woman likes gifts on these occasions. This does not mean that a man should push his boundaries, but that it is good for him, her and their relationship to spend his attention and energy in this direction if he wants to benefit the relationship. A woman should try to please a man who wants to experiment in sex. That doesn't mean she has to push her boundaries, but that it is good for her, him and th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:40 PM |
| 0 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIf you only have boundaries in a relationship, then you don't have a relationship. If you have a relationship, it must be assumed that there are some mutual consents between all those boundaries. And it is precisely those consents that form a relationship, boundaries define where the relationship no longer extends. The boundary argument can be used for anything. "A man should have basic hygiene if he is in a relationship with a woman." It can also be argued that if his boundary is that he never … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:34 PM |
| 7 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIf she or he chooses not to have any sex in a romantic relationship, that should be respected. If they choose not to speak a word to the other person, that should be respected as well. And we can go to greater and greater extremes, and the result is always that the boundary must be respected. But the fact that they both have a boundaries does not create a relationship by itself. The relationship is mainly what takes place between those boundaries. And there must be love, good will on both sides … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:25 PM |
| 0 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himOf course you're right. But at the same time, good will and an effort to comply on both sides is assumed in the relationship. It is not beneficial to push it to any extreme. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:17 PM |
| 5 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI don't know what the women in the discussions have with the anal, my personal experience is that it was more women who wanted and demanded it. And personally, I don't find it a particularly exciting practice. I recognize that other people may have the opposite experience. If a woman voluntarily starts a sexual and romantic relationship with a man who is much more inexperienced than her, especially if she knows that the man perceives it as having missed a lot in sex and wants experiment a lot, s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:13 PM |
| 7 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himSure, because I can't automatically assume that this particular woman wants to experiment with sex. I also don't know how old she is and if she feels like she missed some years that she needs to catch up on. Maybe she doesn't want it at all. There is a difference between trying to describe a common phenomenon and assuming that it applies to every person, especially if that person indicates that it does not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:02 PM |
| 6 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himdespoil and corrupt and "guide" What do you mean exactly? Please try to reverse it. How does an older and experienced woman do this to an inexperienced man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:56 PM |
| 4 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himYou are seeing sex as something a woman "gives" to a man for his benefit. You likely think she is gaining something else for "giving" him sex. It is possible that I am getting so much push back here, because I create, albeit unintentionally, such an impression. But I don't see it that way. Experience is something that the experienced person helps the inexperienced person to acquire in the course of a joint activity. If the experienced person is willing to use their experience for the benefit of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:50 PM |
| 4 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIt is natural to expect that when two people enter into a love relationship, they voluntarily want to benefit each other. So it's not a "duty", it's a goodwill, part of a relationship that is and should be good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:41 PM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI accept the reminder that even good will has its limits and no one can rationally expect their every fantasy to come true in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:35 PM |
| 7 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himNo Your brilliant argument has changed my view completely. Thank you. / .-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:29 PM |
| 8 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himYes, I agree with you and good points. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:28 PM |
| -1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himNo thanks. A choice that is fine. On the other hand, if you choose a partner who has a situation that typically brings with it certain difficulties, then you should expect that those difficulties may affect you in a certain way. After all, you're in a romantic relationship, and that's a pretty close bond. And if you have the possibility to improve this situation for your loved one and consequently also for yourself, then it is natural to at least try, if you are able and willing to do so. If not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:26 PM |
| 5 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIs a job something you get paid for? If so, then I agree that it is generally not a woman's job. Is trying to benefit your partner in a romantic relationship natural and expected, as long as it's not at your expense? I think so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:21 PM |
| 6 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himYes, I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:18 PM |
| 4 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himSo either you are one of those guys yourself or you sure have seen them on YouTube or TikTok….what do those guys always say? That they are into young women because they are impressionable, they are easy to control and most likely they don’t know yet what they want. You're right of course, thanks for reminding me that they exist. I've always seen them as very much in the minority, attention-seeking weirdos with controversial statements, who exist in the dark corners of the internet and maybe snea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:12 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himIf I had to verbalize this as an inexperienced man who started dating an experienced woman and she perceived it as pressure on top of everything else, then you're right, the relationship between us really doesn't have much of a chance. This is the sort of thing I would expect a perceptive and experienced woman to understand automatically. I'm just verbalizing it here, for discussion purposes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:06 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himhow worth it for her it is to let the beta she married in her 30s to start a family try it I can't convert it to any currency either. It probably depends on how valuable it is to him, if we take it that in a good relationship the benefit of one is usually the benefit of the other and we do not assume that the goal is to exploit and drain each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:02 PM |
| 15 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himregardless of his own comfort I hope I didn't write this, or at least I certainly didn't mean it that way. What you probably expect from your sexual partner is that he will respect that you are a virgin and not pretend that you should be at the same level of sexual experience as if you were not a virgin. That is, that he will be willing to go through your joint sex with regard that it is the first time for you. And likewise with every other sexual practice that will be the first time for you. So… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:59 PM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himit's not a crime on her part Of course I agree with that. do you think a woman who does not want to comprehensively play teacher should just leave virgin men she is attracted to alone? That's an interesting question. No, I wouldn't allow myself to draw such a broad rule from it, because there are many different people, many different situations. My should is meant more "generally beneficial to the relationship of both of them", where I automatically assume that she wants the relationship to work… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:54 PM |
| 0 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himFrom my point of view, sex is unnecessarily made a sacred sheep, while in romantic relationship it is in principle the intimate joint activity as any other. I understand that there is an effort to protect women from being sexually abused or raped in relationships, but it should not block any discussion or suggestion that both men and women women can be expected to do something in a relationship. For example, men should try to please and satisfy their partners in sex. It's okay to expect that eff… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:48 PM |
| 6 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himI do not accept the argument of bad faith. Either you approach this with the assumption that I have good faith to argue honestly and with good intentions or there is no point in continuing. You can convince me that I'm wrong about why older men choose less experienced women. Especially if you narrow it down to some older men. It's entirely possible that I'm wrong about anything and I'd appreciate it if you tried to CMV. But I will not accept the argument that I know something well, but deliberat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:42 PM |
| 2 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himSure, a relationship requires good will and willingness from both. If something is against the will of one of them, then it shouldn't happen, because as you say, no means no. That applies to the whole relationship. But this - if I choose not to do it, then I have the right not to do it, does not negate the fact that if I want to have a good relationship where things work, then I should be willing to do certain things. And if I'm not willing, then I should expect that there will be less chance th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:38 PM |
| 5 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himOkay, I respect your opinion. I think that in a loving relationship it's okay to expect others to do what they can to benefit us as long as it doesn't hurt them. That's why we're in a love relationship. Both must be willing to give. Also, I'm not saying this as a man who demands it from his partner. I already have experience myself (thanks to the women who generously gave it to me). I say this as my third party opinion. Something in the style - in a relationship, partners should be faithful to e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:33 PM |
| 1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himYes, if she doesn't want to experiment sexually anymore, then she should probably choose a man who has also finished experimenting sexually. But if she chooses a man who hasn't passed that stage yet and desires experimenting, then she should take that into account. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:28 PM |
| -1 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himDefinitely. But even if it is essentially a rational calculation on her part, giving him sexual experiences that he desires and that the woman does not find unpleasant should be part of the deal on her part. It will definitely make him less likely to be bitter and generally more satisfied with her as a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:23 PM |
| 3 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himThis is two-sided. She can also choose a partner who does not need to experiment sexually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:20 PM |
| 3 | If a sexually experienced woman begins a relationship with a sexually inexperienced man, she should be willing to experiment with him and teach himOf course, it is not up to women to fix men's issues. But if a particular woman chooses a particular man for a relationship, then it is completely normal and expected that she tries to help and benefit him. If an older and experienced man starts a relationship with a female virgin, then of course he is expected to guide her with respect in relational and sexual areas. If he's not willing to use his experience to her advantage, why the hell is he starting relationship with an inexperienced woman? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:18 PM |
| 7 | Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s?If he finds a girl who understands that if she is more experienced herself and he lacks that experience, then she can help him by at least partially going through the enthusiastic, experimental part with him. Even in a monogamous relationship, every man doesn't have to have everything, but it helps if she's willing not to pretend that they're both over it, but simply that she's excited to enjoy discovering everything about sex again and with him. After all, this is what most more experienced men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s?I understand that different people can have different traumas, whether from sexual practices, airport control or cities. But how did "nothing extra for her" "she is not so enthusiastic" become "hated Paris and vowed to never visit again"? Besides, she doesn't owe you an explanation. You are not entitled to have her travel to Paris with you, whether she hates it or just doesn't want to for whatever reason. Maybe she'd like to travel there with someone else, but she just doesn't feel that way abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s?Are you not willing to respect her boundaries that she doesn't want to go to Paris again or what is the problem? Just so you know, if you take her to Paris against her will, that's kidnapping, a serious crime. .-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 03:24 PM |
| 4 | Men treating their partner/spouse like women treat theirs is considered abusive“Don’t wear that” “go brush your teeth” “you’re not buying that” “you’re not eating that” Demanding to know where a man has been, who he has been with, and where he is going is par for the course in most heterosexual relationships. Women want to have communication of their man’s every action and input or control over it. She will decide what he eats, wears, who he spends holiday with, what he drives, what color his bedroom is painted, what furniture he has in his apartment (even if they don’t li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Being a traditional women does not benefit womenpointless things like working at mcdonalds or cleaning toilets. These are decent and beneficial jobs, although McDonald is not exactly healthy. Unfortunately, really poorly paid and society does not value them enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 02:54 PM |
| 0 | Being a traditional women does not benefit womenaspirations for greater things like careers but are supposed to instead have fulfillment from crying babies Children are the greatest thing that the vast majority of people create in their lifetime, and their upbringing is the most valuable thing that most people leave behind. And those children will hopefully have more children and those children will have more children, so it's a kind of limited form of immortality. 90%+ of careers are complete bullshit. You're slaving away for a company that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 02:39 PM |
| 13 | Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s?A man and a woman meet, both interested in traveling together. She started traveling earlier and has already managed to travel a part of the world. He starting now and has been wanting to go on a trip to Paris for years, but she has already been there and nothing extra for her. She has her favorite destinations and only wants to visit them. It's nobody's fault. But either she goes to Paris with him, to help him fulfill his wish, even if it won't be the first time for her and she is not so enthus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Being a traditional women does not benefit womenI will deliberately turn it around and exaggerate: Traditional Women Nowadays No one expects her to sacrifice a family for career that is in 99% just slavery for a corporation without any deeper meaning. No one expects her to compete with men and be strong and independent at all times. She has the freedom to be feminine, vulnerable and in need of help. The freedom to choose a job that doesn't make as much money because she doesn't have to be the breadwinner. Probably has children and takes good … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 02:01 PM |
| 107 | Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s?If so, I can understand. It is somewhat bitter for them if at the age when they should have been free to experiment, do stupid things and simply learn about life from the sexual side, there was no one and they spent many years of their youthful horniness alone only with porn and dick in hand. And when he is finally with someone in his 30s, interested women demand that the men already have experience, know what they want in sex and in a relationship, and are mature enough to start a family. But m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:16 AM |
| 2 | Do you think in 2023 we are living in a Patriarchy, a Matriarchy or a completely gender neutral society?A patrilineal, mostly gynocentric society with historical influence and fading patriarchy and emerging islands of functional matriarchy (households of single women whose sons stay with them for most of their lives and then grandmothers ruling such households through influence over their sons). Mostly, however, a transitional society, with a strong aspect of individual rights and little personal responsibility, so basically a society in decay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:03 AM |
| 1 | Do Women have higher standards OR are we failing as Men?Our statements don’t contradict each other. I also think we are describing essentially the same thing, each from a slightly different point of view. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Being sexually open is a viable mating strategy for womenThe idea that a woman loses power once she "provides" sex is so laughably wrong I've never understood why people believe it. I saw some study that said that novelties for men play a bigger role than novelties for women. So, from this point of view, a woman loses a bigger chunk of her attraction to a man after sex than the other way around. If a guy actually likes her, that doesn't change once she has sex. Yes, but that feeling develops over time. And men in general are willing to have sex at a l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Being sexually open is a viable mating strategy for womenGuys who are good with women are used to getting sex easily. In my experience, they're not as concerned about the woman pretending to be a prize by making them wait for sex So for what kind of men do women play this show that they are hard to get, so as not to be considered promiscuous? Unsuccessful in women, almost virgins? Why should their view of women be so important to women? I find your takes on dominance and submission odd. A person can be self-confident and know what they want and be sub… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:47 AM |
| 8 | There’s a good reason men get praised for sleeping around and women don’tAs a man for u to consistently be able to get sex from numerous women,it means 1,u r fit 2,u r charming 3,u know what to do when to do it 4,u have something going for u 5,likeable as a person and a million other standards that the women have for u…. So, in short, he's a 6/10 man who has low standards and is willing to fuck any woman which he can persuade into sex or is in the mood for sex and he's around. With that he can impress some not-so-good, superficial woman with a weakness for fuckboys. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 01:19 AM |
| 1 | I often hear women say "I have attractive male friends with awesome personalities, but I don't like them that way." If they're attractive, why aren't they attracted to them?**additionally, he was basically half a pack a day cigarello smoker (worse than cigarettes) and tobacco chewer. I said I'd never be in a relationship with a smoker and I wouldn't compromise because its expensive, bad for you, bad smell, and i dont want to watch him die an entirely preventable early death. He hid it from me for years, mislead me about the severity when I did eventually find out, promised to quit, slowly dabbled down for 2 years, watched his mom die from lung cancer and then retoo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:19 PM |
| 1 | I often hear women say "I have attractive male friends with awesome personalities, but I don't like them that way." If they're attractive, why aren't they attracted to them?You're right, that's a terrible. On the other hand, be an optimist. Maybe the day after tomorrow he will be run over by a car and no one will have to deal with his lung cancer. //Sorry, I couldn't resist. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:12 PM |
| 1 | I often hear women say "I have attractive male friends with awesome personalities, but I don't like them that way." If they're attractive, why aren't they attracted to them?I also wanted a non smoker, my wife also said she doesn't smoke. And yet she occasionally lights up a cigar. She tried to stop completely, but I guess she didn't succeed. If she smoked regularly, it would be very difficult for me to tolerate it. I think that no matter what our conditions and demands are, in the end both sides always have to make some compromises. It's never perfect, and even if it is, people change over time. The main question is: "Do you love him and do you want to live with hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:05 PM |
| 2 | Do Women have higher standards OR are we failing as Men?Attractive men also compete with the choice to be without a man. A particular attractive man to a particular woman? Sure. But in general, with attractive men, there is simply a greater chance that women will take them into relationships quite quickly and early, because there is simply an interest in attractive (and I don't mean just looks) men. And for many women these days being single is a viable option, also women in general are apparently WAY less tolerant to men than men are to women. A man… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 10:51 PM |
| 1 | I often hear women say "I have attractive male friends with awesome personalities, but I don't like them that way." If they're attractive, why aren't they attracted to them?This is basically just "is the glass half empty or full" debate though. What you consider just process of elimination until you find the best match, I consider it dating until you find someone who has all the attributes and long term compatibility that can help create a mutually beneficial, long term relationship. For me, finding a woman I was really interested in was almost a miracle, and I'm a romantic, so I was willing to change quite a few things to make our relationship work, and it paid of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 10:30 PM |
| 5 | I often hear women say "I have attractive male friends with awesome personalities, but I don't like them that way." If they're attractive, why aren't they attracted to them?I don't owe every man I turn down a detailed report on why I don't find us compatible. No you don't owe. But it's interesting to know. But I understand that first it's extra work for you to explain it and then also, some of the reasons can sound just superficial and stupid when you say them out loud. Which doesn't mean they aren't valid and real, to you. It's not going to change my mind and it's not going to be something they can persuade me into. In some cases, a match could be found. For examp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Being sexually open is a viable mating strategy for womenOnly with her or with other women too? Does she have the power to assert herself in the relationship so that the relationship is monogamous and the man doesn't just want the sex, even if she has already provided the sex? If she is trying to get a partner who is stronger (not only physically, but simply has more options, is more dominant, asserts himself better and thus has more power in the relationship), then giving up bargaining leverage in the form of sex right from the start can be disadvant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Being sexually open is a viable mating strategy for womenIt is a viable option for women who are self-confident, know what they want and don't need to look for a stronger partner who will dominate them. If the woman herself is rather a bit dominant, it is the perfect approach for her to just go, be active, make it clear what she wants and choose a man who is willing to give it to her. But if the woman wants to play a submissive role in the relationship and in sex, then a little bit of the hard to get game can be beneficial. Because she still puts hers… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 04:07 PM |
| 14 | Do Women have higher standards OR are we failing as Men?Women don't just compare men to each other, they compare themselves to that man. There are two steps. Is it worth it for the woman to be in a relationship versus the benefits to her of being single? When women were dependent on men because men had jobs that paid money and women didn't, almost every woman eventually had to be in a relationship because living without a man was too difficult. If every man earned over $100,000 and women's incomes didn't rise, then inflation and the like will mean th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 03:51 PM |
| 0 | Do Women have higher standards OR are we failing as Men?The general advantage of being in a relationship with a man would increase for the woman. Let's say +10-15% more women in the dating market available for men from women who are single now and women who are bisexual and now prefer women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 03:42 PM |
| 1 | What do you think is at the root of the “Femcel” phenomenon?No, I take it that an incel or femcel is anyone who feels like an incel or femcel because he/she cannot have sex, as he/she perceives it, whether as a purely physical activity or an act of love, while respecting the restrictions that he/she in sex has and with a group of people he/she is attracted to for sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 10:02 PM |
| 1 | What do you think is at the root of the “Femcel” phenomenon?Being able to have sex, or even satisfying sex, with a woman who has just one trait that attracts you is an ability. If you don't have this ability, you simply don't have it. And if for a woman, having sex with a man she is not attracted to means that she will cry after the sex and feel dirty and violated because she forced herself to have sex that she dislikes, then she simply does not have the ability and it is stupid to pretend that just because you have the ability, everyone must have it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 09:46 PM |
| 1 | What do you think is at the root of the “Femcel” phenomenon?But having sex with men even if you are heterosexual is a choice. It's a choice some men make when they get into an environment like prison, the army, and the like, and women aren't available. It's just not a choice that every man, or most men, is willing to make. I'll give you another example. Shepherds are the source of jokes about mating with sheep almost all over the world. This does not necessarily mean that every shepherd is a zoophile, many of them probably had very low standards and were… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 09:42 PM |
| 2 | What do you think is at the root of the “Femcel” phenomenon?Of course “Femcel” is a misnomer as everybody know that no > Woman with a pulse is “involuntarily celibate”. It’s always a voluntary position but that doesn’t mean the misandry caused by not being able to attract the Men they actually desire( or only being used for sex) isn’t as real as the misogyny many Men develop because of their involuntary celibacy. Nor is any man "involuntarily celibate" in that case. If he finds a desperate enough gay or just another man to offer him a blow job and ass, h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 03:52 PM |
| 3 | You have three wishes, what dating behaviors in men/women would you change?instituting mandatory paternity tests. I am for the normalization of paternity tests. I don't know if mandatory is the right approach. But doing paternity tests should be common enough for every woman to expect that those tests can be done. And yes, if a man is not the father, then of course he should not be required to pay for a child that is not his. And in as many cases as possible, the child should know who his real father is and he should pay. And if it is proven that the woman intentionall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Embracing Self-Respect: The Path to Love and Adoration from WomenYes, and? Belief in yourself and self-love are simply another sticks at our ape's disposal. If these sticks were not usable, then no one would bother to develop religions and there would be no fierce wars for these sticks. ME believe ME! ME good! YOU believe ME? YOU good! Just a stick for an evolved ape. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 02:35 PM |
| 1 | You have three wishes, what dating behaviors in men/women would you change?I like it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 11:22 AM |
| 9 | You have three wishes, what dating behaviors in men/women would you change?So now even short and ugly dark triad men and old and obese narcissistic, hysterical and manipulative women will have great success? :-) No, seriously, that's an interesting idea. Would everyone become pansexuals and age groups would cease to be distinguished when dating? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 11:16 AM |
| 26 | You have three wishes, what dating behaviors in men/women would you change?Three? Ok... The shaming is gone. There is no such thing as too many or too few sexual partners in the past. As long as it is between adults and of the free will of both, all sexual preferences and approaches to dating are seen as equal. A bisexual submissive man with a penchant for licking ass casually? Just as moral and socially acceptable as a 50-year-old virgin who doesn't want to have any relationship or a family man who only has sex after dark, in a missionary position with socks on. If th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 10:54 AM |
| 1 | The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern datingYou're right. But we're a bit like ants in this. The more men pass that way, the more will follow their trail to get to the tempting sugar cube as well. :-) As long as that option exists. It is possible that there will come a time when huge numbers of men will go this way, but sugar will no longer be available. Because only a small percentage of women from those countries are willing to make such big compromises to their tradition, culture, language, or even religion, for the benefits provided b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 07:10 AM |
| 4 | The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern datingOkay, so your family has had several generations of growth. Likewise, it can then have several generations of decline. It has happened before when one of your ancestors got into that slavery, even if they were free before. And then it was about generation after generation producing offspring, knowing that these children would be only slaves. But as long as you can have children and raise them to have more children, there is always hope for future growth. Your enslaved ancestors probably once hop… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 05:51 AM |
| 6 | The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern datingIf an American man finds the courage and ability to travel abroad and find a wife there, he will actually succeed in “survival of the fittest”. Leaving a place where you cannot prosper and finding a place where you are better has always been part of "survival of the fittest", already during the Migration Period and even when Homo sapiens left Africa 60,000 years ago. They also didn't think: "Poor Homo neanderthalensis, maybe he has a bigger brain than us." No, they simply came from Africa, survi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Embracing Self-Respect: The Path to Love and Adoration from WomenMost people don't know what they want in life. They don't have a well-thought-out chart of values that they live by. They have no real self-respect, so they depend on validation from others, and thus most fashion, popularity and social status is based on an agreement of what others will accept, what they will approve as cool. "Give me a place to stand, and a lever long enough, and I will move the world." As soon as you have a fixed point, for example, a firm belief in something, you initially ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 05:26 AM |
| 5 | Embracing Self-Respect: The Path to Love and Adoration from WomenNothing you write has anything to do with how to enjoy casual sex with love, beneficial for both and guilt-free, and how to see sex and own sexuality as pure and moral in a society that often demonizes it and portrays it as dirty and immoral. If I can order a post/s on that. :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 07:03 PM |
| 7 | Embracing Self-Respect: The Path to Love and Adoration from WomenF boys can play the role of someone who has self respect for a short time. This is also one of the reasons why some of them often change women. The beautiful mask eventually falls off, after an amazing night of inebriation comes a sober morning and F boy is unwilling to start dealing with his weaknesses and relationship issues, so instead he just starts a new theater show with another woman charmed by his mask. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 06:40 PM |
| 7 | Embracing Self-Respect: The Path to Love and Adoration from WomenThe problem with narcissism is that these people do not have the capacity for healthy self-love, on the contrary, they have a constant need for external attention and admiration, because they are hungry black holes for love. A sense of their own importance is based on a fragile ego, unfortunately it is not unconditional, but it needs to be constantly proven and confirmed. Behind the mask of extreme confidence, narcissists are not sure of their self-worth, they are not able to truly love themselv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 06:34 PM |
| 4 | Embracing Self-Respect: The Path to Love and Adoration from WomenNice post and a good example of what is meant by the statement that a man can attract a woman by his character. Also our self-love or self-respect should not depend on our appearance, wealth, career and other ephemeral things. It must be built on deeper foundations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all?(assuming I'm single) I would be polite to you, even if you messed up everything you could, I know that about myself from experience. But I would probably feel surprised and maybe even a little scared at first. So you'd have little chance of success if you didn't give me time to think about it a bit (for example, by going to get a drink, to the toilet, etc. If I had time to recover from the surprise, then you have extra points with me for courage and initiative. Otherwise, I would politely refus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all?I adapted it a bit to the goal of the OP's post. You are right. I also know an environment where it is customary to say hello on the street, people usually talk to each other in a friendly manner, they are interested in each other. But I have also experienced environments where I simply did not manage to fit in and which, despite my best efforts, were rather hostile towards me. I think a lot of those people who have problems to fit in would help themselves if they moved somewhere else. Perhaps t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all?Nothing. You were just born a woman and everyone knows that men don't have as strong a libido as women and even most men like men more than women. As a woman, you simply do not belong to the cute and attractive sex. Plus, many men tend to be afraid of women in unexpected interactions, and you're just not that much more attractive than other women to make it worth for men to risk that you are a creep or a rapist. But somehow you have to overcome it and keep the initiative in approaching men, even… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 02:14 PM |
| 1 | if withholding sex is not a good way to secure commitment, then what is?Would you wait a year for a man without sex, even if you're just getting to know each other? Maybe so, but if you like sex and want to enjoy it, why would you choose a man with whom you are so sexually incompatible? You'd probably wait a while if you really liked him. But not unlimited. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | if withholding sex is not a good way to secure commitment, then what is?There are certainly such men. But for me personally, the fact that a woman is a virgin is not an advantage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 04:31 AM |
| 5 | if withholding sex is not a good way to secure commitment, then what is?I agree. This level of shit testing by both men and women is so primitive and offensive that you just don't want to be with someone who behaves like that regardless of whether you can pass the shit test with flying colors. If a woman were to try to extort money from me on first dates just to see if I would be manipulated, I would end that too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Do you know any guys who are REALLY unsuccessful with women? What's their story?No success. Some success. Success. ... Perfect success. It is some success, I am ok with the height of the bar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 04:06 AM |
| 3 | if withholding sex is not a good way to secure commitment, then what is?If withholding sex is not a good way to secure commitment, then what is? To build your own ladder of values and your own healthy self-esteem and then have the courage to live by it. Being honest about your own opinions and needs and open about the opinions and needs of others, because that's the easiest way to find a man who is compatible without having to play power games or rely too much on artificial social rules. Have sex as soon as you feel ready and want it with the man (and of course he h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Do you know any guys who are REALLY unsuccessful with women? What's their story?He's not dead. It's too early to say it's a lifetime. If he had a girlfriend and sex... it's some success in the field of romantic relationships and sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 03:40 AM |
| 2 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediateI took right away as "right away, as soon as the woman and man are ready, the level of intimacy is sufficient and they both would like to have sex". I read this thread again and noticed that I probably understood the meaning of the "right away" differently than you and other people. So my fault, I apologize. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediateIf you met a guy who looked ok, had a good job and such, and then it turned out that he believed and promoted these ideas, would you want him as your partner? And would you like him to be the father of your children one day and teach them this? If you don't want to have a man with similar opinions, then these opinions are irrelevant for you in an intimate partner, just as for me a possible woman's opinion that she can only be fully satisfied by a man born under the sign of Taurus and her true lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 03:19 AM |
| 3 | Do you know any guys who are REALLY unsuccessful with women? What's their story?I'll give an example. The one I mentioned, religious, bipolar, and addicted, had one girlfriend as a teenager before his mental illness and addiction progressed to the point where he couldn't function normally. The girlfriend was a typical unfaithful, hot crazy chick, who is only hot while she's young and before she destroys herself and others with a bad lifestyle. That's why I write "some success" and not "success". Success in the sense of not virgin. Failure in the sense that his relationship … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 10:05 PM |
| 2 | If you met your ideal woman today, do you think she would like you?I've already met her and she likes me. But if I only met her today... hmmm good question. I'm still pretty confident, but that 100% belief that the whole world is my playground and I can and will do whatever I set my mind to, there's nothing I'm afraid of and the only thing I have to bow down to are my own ideals has taken its toll. On the other hand, I am calmer and more humble, I know my limits better, I don't risk my life at every step and I don't need to always prove something to myself. So … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 08:28 PM |
| 2 | Do you know any guys who are REALLY unsuccessful with women? What's their story?That's what I call a real skill. Welcome aboard, then! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Do you know any guys who are REALLY unsuccessful with women? What's their story?4ft2 That's really rough. It must be hard trying to date in a situation where practically every woman wants a man taller than her. When you chose the difficulty for this life, you obviously skipped "tutorial", "easy", "normal" and "hard" and went straight to "are you insane?" :-) I personally don't know any man who isn't at least 5ft7 or maybe 5ft8. And most of my friends are taller. But hey, you can still have friendly relations at least. For my party, it would be good to have someone who can r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 07:04 PM |
| 2 | Do you know any guys who are REALLY unsuccessful with women? What's their story?No. Of the several dozen men I can think of right now, they all had some success. The closest I know to a romantically unsuccessful man is one who is strongly religious, bipolar, and addicted. He's handsome and in good shape, but he's just not in a position to start dating women he's interested in without hurting them. So he avoids women for more then 10 years now and hopes to get out of his problems and then find a good woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Can men have healthy boundaries without appearing toxic?What exactly are the toxic boundaries that are being referred to? "You're not going to dictate me I'm a father. I dont care about DNA tests and I won't take care of this child because I have the right to believe what I want and do what I want with my life. Respect that." "If you're pregnant, that's your business. Yes, I told you that we would be together, I promised you that I would take care of us and that you should keep the child, but everyone has the right to withdraw their consent at any ti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediate...we're meeting in public, I'm sending live loc to my friends, I have a schedule for when I have to let them know I'm safe, I'm absolutely not going anywhere where I'd be alone with him, and he's not following me home... Okay, I admit that then your position makes sense. My experience is different. As for the women we dated at the beginning (because with some the beginning was more informal and casual), once we got into a situation where sex was a possibility and we were getting close to starti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 07:52 AM |
| 2 | Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated"The Wall" is an easily dispelled myth. It makes more sense regarding the fertility window and the age that is suitable for a woman to find a man with whom she can start a family and have children. There, a woman who has had several failed relationships, is approaching her forties or is over forty, longs for a child, but can't get pregnant easily anymore and doesn't even really have anyone who wants to live with her, has really hit a wall. In men, this wall also exists, but it is considerably mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 07:38 AM |
| 1 | The best thing any man can do is to stop dating, and to also forget about marriage.Yes. Also bunch of people with helmets or seat belts on still died in crashes. That's not exactly an argument against wearing helmets and seat belts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 06:24 AM |
| 2 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediateSure. I also know a few women who have been sexually assaulted or raped. By an acquaintance, a boyfriend, a family member, a business partner, in one case a man who sneaked into the entrance of the house... If a man wants to attack her, it is enough that she is alone with him or she finds herself in a vulnerable position (no money, dependent on the mercy of others). If she's dating him, she's already putting herself in a dangerous position, and if she's been dating him long enough to feel comfor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 06:13 AM |
| 5 | CMV: assuming all else equal, the only important determiner in life is neurotypicality geneticstheir brains are deformed Maybe it needs a brain positivity movement. Society probably still has a long way to go before accepting various ADHD, Autism, Dyspraxia, Dyslexia, Dyscalculia, Dysgraphia, Tourette's syndrome or even Psychopathy and Sociopathy as manifestations of beautiful differences. By the way, as with LGBTQ+, it would probably turn out that there are many more neurodivergent people than previously thought. And as society would focus on it, it might even suddenly be cool to be a li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediateI meant time to get comfortable with someone. Yes, that's what I thought too. I used to see casual sex as an adventure, novelties. I was never free to use manwhore, but my standards were low at least when it came to her character and I was generally very horny all the time. Now I perceive casual more as something not worth it and my demands on women are much higher, which requires knowing the woman better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediateI really never needed any. That's me in my teenage and early 20s, but not now. So it varies wildly even during one person's life. I don't think women are as keen on manipulating men into relationships I use the word manipulate in a broader sense (not only negative) than is probably usual. From my point of view, manipulation is not automatically bad (we all manipulate ourselves and others to some extent and most of the time we do it unconsciously), but if it causes a woman to supress and deny her… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediategetting to know someone before having sex with them For me too and I'm a man. My experiences with casual were adventurous, but actually nothing very pleasant and a bad aftertaste. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 10:10 PM |
| 3 | What's the female equivalent of "manning up?"I think it depends on the type of pain. Men tolerate some painful stimuli and unpleasant situations better, others worse. They typically do not tolerate well flus, colds and the like, but the fact is that these diseases are more dangerous for them and tend to have a more serious course. Men generally have a worse immune system and generally have a hard time coping with feelings of helplessness. As you write, they are not used to it. In addition, women are often masochists and enjoy pain. .-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 10:06 PM |
| -1 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediateIf you yourself don't care about N count, why submit to it? Just find a man who doesn't care either. After all, that's what it's all about, finding someone compatible. There's also stalking, violence, rape and murder, but he can do all this to you even if you just date him without sex. Getting your heart broken or your self esteem crushed if you have sex with someone right away and then never seeing them again is a threat for both women and men. It is simply a risk to open up to anyone, whether … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediateEveryone has time they need to start feeling comfortable with each other's intimacies. Even I, as a man, have this needed period and if a woman wants/demand sex too soon, it will make me uncomfortable (all the more so because it goes against the stereotypes for a man to refuse sex). It's similar to foreplay. Yes, I probably get hard faster than she gets wet, but I still need some time to get hard and if she tries to have PIV sex without me getting hard, it won't go well and can be embarrassing. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 09:35 PM |
| 6 | What's the female equivalent of "manning up?"Don't cry like a boy and pussy up! :-)) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 09:07 PM |
| 1 | If you walked into a room with 100 people of the opposite gender, all of them are single and around your age, how many of them do you think would want to go on a date with you?20? If I know what type of dates and activities they like and am willing to indulge them, the group of women is randomly selected and it is an environment suitable for approaching (for example, not a gynecologist's waiting room). 100 - 5 not heterosexual - 30 who are not interested in a relationship or dating -20 who are just not in mood -5 where for some reason I screw up even a simple date invitation = 40 :2 to rule out the ones I will outright repel. That leaves 20 who either like me or have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 12:45 PM |
| 1 | You're not entitled to anythingIf you are satisfied with this result of your reasoning and it works for you, why not. You may be right and I have nothing further to challenge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 12:35 PM |
| 2 | You're not entitled to anythingHow do you know what the universe has decided? The posts like "men should be..." or "women should be..." are nothing but childish wishes And now: "your joys should be". You also said: If the desired outcome is not meant to be, it will not happen no matter what you do. So how can you be entitled to joy? And if you're not, how can anyone rob you of something you're not entitled to? EDIT: What I'm trying to show with my nitpicking is that while your position is unassailable if kept pure, lab qualit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 12:18 PM |
| 4 | You're not entitled to anythingIf you are not entitled to anything, then you are not entitled to joy in life and of the joys that you were given either through your birth or as a result of your hard work. So how could you rob yourself of something you are not entitled to? Aren't you somewhat entitled here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 11:53 AM |
| 2 | Are women hypergamous because of procreation or do they procreate due to hypergamy?Today about 2% of the global population lives in polygamous households. That's over 100 million people. In Mali, 34% of households live in polygamy, in Nigeria 28%, in Senegal 23%. You're right that it's not that widespread, but it's a long way from only being practiced by some ruling dynasties. Moreover, in many societies today, polygamy is suppressed by law because of religion or simply so that it does not destabilize society or is considered immoral. Not that many rich and successful men woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Are women hypergamous because of procreation or do they procreate due to hypergamy?Given that polygyny was and still is significantly more widespread than polyandry, it is apparently more attractive for a man to have more women at once than for a woman to have more men at once. In addition, if you, as a man, have the resources, it is significantly easier for you to take care of more offspring at once than for a woman with more offspring to go through pregnancy, give birth, breastfeed... Women generally have much more work to do with taking care of infants than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Are women hypergamous because of procreation or do they procreate due to hypergamy?80/20 or 90/10. The predominant reason for the higher requirements for choosing a partner is the higher investment on the part of the woman for the procreation of an offspring, as well as the vulnerability associated with it. But in a situation where several women are fighting for one man (a mistress trying to secure married man, a harem situation) or where the relationship is falling apart and the woman is trying to keep the man, then getting pregnant is a possible female strategy, so it certai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Are women hypergamous because of procreation or do they procreate due to hypergamy?Many men, if they have the option, will go the route of polygyny rather than hypergamy. It makes sense for men to have children with several women, as they multiply the number of their offspring. A woman does not have such option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Average guys just looking to hookup are 'shallow', but women doing it are 'empowered'Nicely put, and I understand that the attitude "to get to that hole, I can ignore for a moment how much I despise the rest of the meat around it" annoys and offends women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 11:00 AM |
| 0 | What is the big deal about submission?What makes you think men are more capable leaders than woman? The more important question is how many women want to lead, decide, be an active initiator and take responsibility both in a relationship and in sex? If you are a dominant woman and want to lead a man, there are many men who will gladly submit to you, because there are far more men who are submissive and want a dominant woman than there are dominant women in society who want a submissive man. You don't have to be a super capable leade… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 08:52 PM |
| 1 | What is the big deal about submission?If I'm expected to play a typical male role, I'm more comfortable if the female role includes an element of submission. Even if only within a role-playing game and symbolically. For example. If I'm expected to ask out, arrange and pay for the date, then I have no problem with that as long as the woman behaves like a good guest. The host ensures the guest's comfort, safety, takes care of her. If a man pays in a restaurant, then the restaurant cannot be considered a neutral space, it is a space th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: how would you treat women if you were your ideal self?If I was my ideal (that would require much more than just being in the TOP 10%), then I would prefer long-term relationships with a smaller group of attractive and intelligent women which would go well with each other. So situation where I am such an attractive partner that women are willing to share me and be faithful to me at the same time. I don't really like casual dating and sex (except in situations where it is given by circumstances and not by intention), I prefer to first create an emoti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"If the woman wants freedom in gender role for her and a strict gender role for him, and the man is willing to go along with that and play his fixed gender role while allowing her some degree of freedom, then it's still a choice based on what morals do they both agree on, especially from the point of view of the woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 06:31 PM |
| 2 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"Bad boy is a social role. Not a universally definable moral status on a scale of objective good and evil. You're saying that James was the example of the bad boy of that school class. But I don't agree with that. He was popular, had lots of friends, good grades, was a successful athlete, probably popular with the teachers as well. A role model for many. So he didn't play the social role of bad boy in that school class. His bullying of Snape was not particularly frowned upon and was done as part … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 05:29 PM |
| 3 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"They're fucking her and even dating her for consistent sex but they aren't taking her seriously. Why do you think such a thing? 90+% of people, women and men are morally dubious at best. And yet they usually end up in relationships, start families... You're trying to argue that a man being friends with someone is the equivalent of a woman marrying and getting pregnant with that same someone. Am I correct? I argue that society as a whole, men and women, choose their friendships, sexual and romant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 05:05 PM |
| 4 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"Yes, that's another thing, when women (or men) say they like good guys, they mean "guys with compatible character, guys like me". Even the Nazis were probably generally convinced that they were good people, doing a good thing, and the female Nazis chose the "good guys" from among the male Nazis. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 05:02 PM |
| 3 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"So the boys were friends with him even though he bullied and their choice was not influenced by sexual attraction. When a sexually attractive woman behaves badly and men still choose her as a partner, the tendency is to excuse their choice by saying that they "think with their penis". But the women who choose this woman as a friend have no such excuse. So Lily could be excused by saying that when she chose the attractive and successful James, although he sometimes behaved badly, she "thought wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:55 PM |
| 1 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"James was popular. So many was attracted to him in a certain way, they were positively impressed by him. Be it sexually, friendship or admiration. And no wonder, because in society we admire attractiveness and success. Even Lily probably admired him for many things and even though she didn't like him bullying Snape, she chose him as her partner. And she probably had a positive influence on him while still benefiting from him being attractive and capable. There is a big difference between liking … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:38 PM |
| 3 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"You yourself wrote that James was a bully and popular. So he was popular with both boys and girls in the class. How is it possible that he was popular with the boys in the class even though he bullied at least one of the boys? How come the boys in the class preferred the bad boy? You're blaming women. But this is not a specifically female thing. All of society, men and women, prefer those who have attractiveness, ability and power. Whether they behave well or badly has an effect, but only a limi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:30 PM |
| 4 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"If James Potter was a bully, how come he was popular? Does this mean that men in the school have preferred the bully to the bullied nerd? Or perhaps men have the right to prefer the attractive, successful, socially capable over the socially problematic nerd, but women have the duty to play moral arbiter even at the cost of damaging their own social status and putting themselves at risk of bullying by associating with the weak and bullied, incompetent defend yourself? Snape as a boy, was neutered… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:19 PM |
| 2 | What is your definition of masculinityMasculinity is a set of traits stereotypically associated with men and males. For me, it goes far beyond people in general and comes from a philosophical concept in which some things are naturally male (warm, hard, dry, the sun, certain numbers, colors, shapes, elements like fire and air) and others female (cold, soft, wet, the moon, certain numbers, colors, shapes, elements like earth and water). Once you have a concept of duality, there can also be a concept of masculinity and femininity. Only… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/23 05:14 PM |
| 0 | In most "predatory" relationships, the actual predator is the womanParasites that feed on hosts engage in a special type of predation. But that's not how the word predator is commonly used (not a native English speaker). Even if in all those cases the man has the upper hand economically and in terms of social status, the position of the woman can also be considered predatory, if we use predation in an expanded meaning, including parasitism. And also, if we want to look at this type of human relations in the style that they are predatory and not just transaction… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/23 04:52 PM |
| – | Why do some women hate harmless kind men so much?Some women hate men. They were often hurt by men, so it's no wonder. They don't allow themselves to show their hatred towards dangerous men, fear keeps them in check. So she will show it towards empathetic, kind men. The Law of Falling Shit. Someone above her shited on her, so she's going to shit on you, simply because she has the opportunity. Just as power and money do not corrupt people, only allow them to express who they are, so kind and empathetic men do not provoke hatred in women. Only al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/23 08:04 AM |
| 5 | Women don't want 'fuckboys' , but they aren't attracted to men who don't the capabilities to be oneSocial proof carries weight and is very important to some people. But inot all men or all women make decisions based on social proof alone. If you have a favorite yogurt and you like it, you won't stop eating it just because all your friends like another yogurt that you don't like. Some people don't mind being different, some people even rely on it to a certain extent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/23 06:20 PM |
| – | CMV: The next logical step for our gynocentric society is to say that a man asking his girlfriend/wife to not fuck other men while in a relationship will be considered "controlling"There are only a limited number of desirable men with whom engaged women can have sex. And these desirable men are usually engaged as well. As a result, the number of unfaithful men and women will be similar. Sure, society may celebrate unfaithful women and blame unfaithful men, but that's just talking. It doesn't change the fact that women and men will be unfaithful at about the same rate. Many unfaithful men defend themselves by saying that "she seduced him" and he couldn't do anything about i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/23 06:12 PM |
| 1 | If you're interested in a girl but don't ask her for her number, not only do you miss out on a potential relationship, you also miss out on potentially making a new friendIf you're interested in a girl but don't ask her for her number, not only do you miss out on a potential relationship, you also miss out on potentially making a new friend This goes both ways. If you were interesting to her, she also missed the chance to ask you out or have a new friend. I rarely meet someone so interesting that I want to have them as a friend after one conversation. I have a few friends that suit me and I don't actively try to make new ones. Because friendship requires a fairly… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/23 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Nonverbal consentOkay, he agreed to go to your place. What's next? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 10:22 PM |
| -1 | Nonverbal consentIt depends on many circumstances. A man who will often slightly break the rules will get into situations that will be misunderstandings and will have to apologize when he overdoes something. But if he is lucky enough to have tolerant women who realize that being the initiator and taking risks is a difficult role, he will not end up in prison. And gradually, through trial and error, he develops a greater sense of what he can still risk and what he can't. A man who will always bet on a completely … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Nonverbal consentAs a woman, how do you initiate intimacy when you don't have non-verbal or verbal consent from him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 09:34 PM |
| 4 | Nonverbal consentThat depends. If a man ask at every step, but at the same time it will be a huge turn off for women and he will loose every relationship again and again. He can accept being single and childless, while men who "break the rules" have relationships, children and families. Or he will be frustrated for a long time, filled with hatred towards women who demand one thing from him and desire another and rebel against such a system. And since he will not have the experience of mildly breaking the rules a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Any unusual flags/traits you look out for in women?I meant it a little differently. A person prefers comfort, for example, when he has all the evidence at hand to change his beliefs, but he prefers the comfort of stagnation. He knows that those old views are no longer in line with what he currently perceives as true or fair, but change would be laborious and inconvenient. So, unwillingness to work on oneself, to change. Some people are "too old to change" already in their thirties. Staying at home with children, on the other hand, can require a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 09:10 PM |
| 11 | Any unusual flags/traits you look out for in women?She uses sexual weapons to gain money and benefits. She compromises her moral principles too easily. She prefers comfort over the possibility of growth too often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 08:53 PM |
| 4 | American women have the worst reputation for relationships / marriage in the entire world. This is not (so much) the case for American men.They don't like themselves and it's rude to contradict them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 11:07 AM |
| 4 | American women have the worst reputation for relationships / marriage in the entire world. This is not (so much) the case for American men.The English have a really shitty international reputation too. Yes it is true. In addition, it is said: "The beauty of their women and the taste of their food make Brits the best sailors in the world." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 11:04 AM |
| 1 | Men, Can you touching a women be 100% platonic?Hugs - Yes. Kisses on the cheek - Yes, it depends on the culture. Search "Brezhnev kiss" to see what can be platonic. Cuddles - I don't know what exactly you mean. Yes, I can touch a woman platonically. For example during a massage, with female relatives and the like. Also someone is more tactile and doesn't think much of it. But if it makes you uncomfortable, set boundaries and don't let him cross them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 10:45 AM |
| 8 | American women have the worst reputation for relationships / marriage in the entire world. This is not (so much) the case for American men.If I were to judge by social media and news, I agree. American women often come out as crazy, entitled, radical feminist whales, whose goal in life is to wipe out white men and replace as much of their bodies as possible with plastic. Judging from my personal (not so rich) experience, American women are pretty, smart and nice. Just too Christian and sexually repressed for my taste. Which is probably because I mainly met women coming from strongly religious areas. So it depends on whether it is a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 10:23 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: What are some positive things about modern feminism?This is difficult because in my country women got most of the rights early. Probably the general promotion of greater involvement of fathers in the upbringing of children and, from this, greater rights of fathers in the child custody court. Otherwise, it is increasingly difficult for me to see the net benefits of feminism in, say, the last twenty years in developed countries. Me Too was rather problematic, although there were also benefits. The Woke culture propagated by Hollywood is quite annoy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 06:49 AM |
| – | Most men have no trouble getting relationships/datesMost men have no trouble getting relationships/dates Among those who are on the dating market most say they are dissatisfied with their dating lives and that it has been difficult to find people to date. 75% of daters saying they have found it very / somewhat difficult. Even most women find dating difficult these days. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/nearly-half-of-u-s-adults-say-dating-has-gotten-harder-for-most-people-in-the-last-10-years/ By the way, just because someone … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/23 06:10 AM |
| – | Most men have no trouble getting relationships/datesI've never seen any evidence of men struggling in reality. And I honestly think men on this sub should stop posting about it If the mentions of men who struggle bother you even online on this forum and you would like them to disappear from your eyes, how can you honestly believe that you don't close your eyes to them in real life, where it's much easier, because people don't usually confide in each other with inner struggling? What did you do to see the evidence in real life? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/23 06:01 AM |
| – | Average men should NOT have access to casual sexWhat do you think is the difference between: "Average men should NOT have access to casual sex" and Average men should NOT have access to porn Average men should NOT have access to guns Average men should NOT have access to vote Especially if you're going to claim in all cases that the average woman should have that access, but the male nature is just too corrupt, men are too immature to handle that kind of power? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 09:13 PM |
| – | Why do men think they have low standards?I'm not upset. And I don't think women are treated better or anything. Your confusion probably stems from your assumption of my negative emotions. Which I understand, emotions are sometimes hard to gauge through the text. I say that "wife material" is a term with an unambiguously positive meaning, because a man expresses that he sees various non-physical qualities in a woman. And the fact that the woman is also sexually attractive to him can be implied. "Husband material" is a term that does not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 07:00 PM |
| – | Why do men think they have low standards?I agree that some men can like this woman. She is already too fat for me and besides, she is fat and has short legs at the same time. If she straightens up, she'll probably have a lot more cellulite on her thighs. Otherwise, I don't know much from the photo. Maybe she has a nice face and symmetrical figure and I would like her more in another photo, maybe even less. Hard to say. Anyway, that wasn't the point of my post. A woman may be considered ugly by the whole world, but if I consider her the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 02:19 PM |
| – | Why do men think they have low standards?Then you don't have low standards, you just have your own standards. Which is perfectly fine. There are more men who have a weakness for chubby women, including already obese women. I also have my favorite types of women that not every man will like. But I like them a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 02:09 PM |
| – | Most boys and girls were mostly raised by women who conditioned them to worship women, especially when it comes to dating.At the beginning of the 20th century, fathers spent even less time with their children. And yet the men didn't pay for the date. There was no date, there was courtship at the girl's house, under the supervision of her parents. So the girl's family hosted the young man. Just because there was a period from the 1930s when young people went on dates where men paid, it wasn't that fathers started paying less attention to men. But the spread of cars and the loosening of social rules. Young people cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 02:00 PM |
| – | Why do men think they have low standards?Neither men nor women are monoliths. There are also women who just want sex and don't want a romantic relationship with anyone. There's nothing wrong with just wanting sex. Many relationships do not include sex. Approximately 15% of married couples in America and 20% of British marriages are considered sexless. 43% of married men report feeling sexually dissatisfied with their current relationship. So not always man is getting what he wants anyways. https://blog.gitnux.com/sexless-marriage-stati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:45 PM |
| – | Why do men think they have low standards?If, for example, she lost her job or was rumored to be a bad mother, but she would stay hot or at least 6/10, they would refer to her as "still fuckable". Men would criticize her decline in behaviour, but she would still be desirable to them as a mistress. But if she started looking awful, it wouldn't matter so much that she has a good job and is a good mother from the point of view of men. They would only criticize her decline in appearance. Maybe someone would defend her saying that she has a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:31 PM |
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