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#JustLVMThingsAphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:42 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYAphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 05:18 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYAphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:11 AM
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QUEEN SH*TAphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:29 AM
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#KickHimOut2021Aphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 09:43 PM
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LEVEL UPAphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:45 AM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONAphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 09:41 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYAphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:06 PM
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STAY WOKEAphor1st/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:48 AM
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It's bear. I hate the English language sometimes. Bare is for clothing, bear is for beast modeing. At least that is how I remember it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:12 PM
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Not rape. There are women who will try to steal the condom/spem to impregnate themselves for that fat child support check. I live near LA and I have quite a few friends that date in these circles. I know a few guys that have almost become victims to this if not for the hot sauce. Also just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it would be obvious. You seem to be unwilling to have empathy for others that have different experiences than you. Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:18 PM
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You are throwing all people in to a basket and saying they're the same. I have never said that. Modern dating sucks yes, but that isn't because of any one gender or person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:58 PM
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I am a woman and I can think of tons. There is a reason why famous sport players put hot sauce in condoms. Even they can't always tell. Women who just want attention on dating apps and have no plans on meeting up with anyone. I live near a Marine base and I see every year women who just want to go to the marine corps ball start to date a marine in September/October and will break up after. This isn't Women specific. There is just shitty people in this world men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:55 PM
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I am not quite sure what your point is here. You are stating that this is not a gender specific thing by starting with both genders do it. Is it your point that some people suck? Because yes that is true. Some people are users and some are better at hiding it than others. It has nothing to do with being a man or a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:45 PM
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Would depend on of we still had the same goals and ability to meet those goals in life. Both of us want to retire at 45 and we are both on projection to meet that. We both like to travel and take trips together and apart. Like I am going to Japan with out him tomorrow and he just got back from Australia and we are doing France together for Christmas. If everything else was the same and he lived way below his means to meet my lifestyle and goals why not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:30 AM
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Not always. I make about 160k a year my husband makes around 100k we both own our own houses. I was able to take my time and find the right person because I worked on me first. I didn't have to try and find a provider or try to date out of my league because I provide for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 11:39 PM
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Naw, it just helps you recognize those qualities in others and you don't make the mistakes OP mentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:51 PM
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Yeah, but bringing yourself up helps you not make the mistakes OP mentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:41 PM
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I don't know dude, maybe women should just work on themselves. Make their own bag. Develop their own impressive career. Educate themselves so they're the smartest in the room. 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:26 PM
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Or I'm brining it up because I'm not sure who baby daddy is. Tbh that feels like the more likely story.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:55 PM
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I am not who you are replying to but I share the sentiment. I post on here because I believe in equal rights between the sexes. That include bringing men and women up. Men need better mental health and access to DV resources etc. I also want to hear from men that feel as if they have been rejected by women/society to understand their point of view. I also want to help educate and sometimes debate. I am aware of these rejected men due to the time I spend on this sub. Do I ever think about them in…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:01 AM
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Was also SAd in the military. Let me giess Navy? I stg women have it so much worse in that branch.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:17 AM
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We focus more on women's Healthcare? That is so laughable. Moden medicine is pretty much only tested in men. Women only matter when they are pregnant. Jfc seatbelts aren't even designed to work for women bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:15 AM
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Women who marry men have shorter life spans and the men who marry women live longer. Why is this? Yes, men are more likely to go to prison. However, they are also responsible for 85% of crimes worldwide and are also 90% more likely to comit violent crimes. 1 2 3. Unless that crime is raping a woman of course.. Men do work longer hours but, when you factor in household labor and work hours women do more work. I refuse to look in to YouTube video as a legit source. However, researches dove more in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:41 AM
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I uh, I mean you don't right? Like there is no way in hell you don't know those women are faking it right? What looks good on camera on a porn set is not good sex. Good sex does not film well. The positions they use are uncomfortable and are really only so the camera can get a good shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 02:44 PM
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I just want to be sure that we all understand that porn is not a reflection of reality. The way people in porn behave is a reflection of the tastes of the majority of viewers of porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 12:51 PM
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This. Some woman can orgasam during penetration some can only with clitoral stimulation. Women are also very visual not just men. Women tend to orgasam more mentally so the type of sex they are having and if they find it hot or not matters more than physical stimulation. I have had orgasams with my husband where I am fully clothed and only me touching him because it was just so damn hot. If a woman enjoys that kind of sex great. If she doesn't then no. Not every guy wants to be pegged. Those tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:15 AM
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You have been looking at to much tiktok. Most romance novels are just two normal people falling in love. The current landscape on social media leans that way, but the general population of women aren't reading that. You can check goodreads here for the best romance novels written in the last 5 years and out of 34 only two are in that category. Best romance novels of the last 5 years. Here is the most read romance novels of the last week and again dark romance/fantasy is a very small part. I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:21 PM
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Both genders want romance and sex. There is a reason romance novels are written mostly for women. Humans crave sex because of reproduction, it feels good, and we are little dopamine seeking monsters. I also think you are speaking about men too generally here. You may have that craving/need that you think that can only be filled by a romantic partner, but not every man does. I think a big issue for men that think they need a romantic partner is due to the fact that many of them lack deep close fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:10 AM
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No, there was no hole in me that was missing that he filled. I am a fully complete human on my own and I was deeply happy single. My husband is currently deployed and I miss him an insane amount. I actually went back to therapy after he left because of how deeply sad I was and am. My partner also is a fully complete person and I didn't fill some missing gap for him either. He was also perfectly happy single. Yes, he also misses me. We work great and are happy because we are fully complete people…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 04:28 AM
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Well yeah? I would not know what I was missing so I would be fine. I'm not sure what kind of point you are trying to make here?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 04:08 AM
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I completely understand that. I would not want to be one of the poor souls who's responsibility is that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:52 AM
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Could be a weird reddit issue as well. I am a mod for a decent sized sub and sometimes things like that happen. You can message the mods and just ask them to assign you a flair. I just had to get in contact with reddit because they blocked me from changing mod permissions and I'm the lead mod.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:46 AM
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I'm 37 and I got married last year. I was instantly attracted to my husband. He is very much my type and checked all of the boxes of what I was looking for in a partner. I don't think in any sense I settled for him. If anything I waited a long time for the right person to come along and I was fine if they never did.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:07 AM
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You right I see the debate tag now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:11 PM
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There is a reason so many men dont put conservative or republican on their dating profiles despite being full MAGA. They will put centrists or non political instead. They get way less matches. Even the hot ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:10 PM
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To be completely honest, as a woman, I would rather cross paths with a bear than a man I don't know.. Also can't be an incel. I'm married.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:25 AM
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This section under automod is not meant for that. Especially because it is for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:24 AM
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We do. Thats why most women pick the bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:14 AM
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Women think there is less of a risk of being utterly destroyed by a bear than they think there is a chance of experiencing violence or sexual assault from a man. We know we will lose to both but the odds are better with the bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:52 AM
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What does that have to do with "women should know better." Also it would be very easy to argue that all humans are pretty selfish and have a difficult time focusing on the needs of other over their own wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:22 PM
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How? Like men want women to trust men and also not assume every guy is an liar or rapist or abusive. Then we also have to know better when they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:03 PM
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I haven't looked at porn since 2019 like I said in my comment. So I'm not going to go look for it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:32 PM
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I'm married to a man so.....
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:29 PM
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Because it focuses on women's pleasure. It's not often porn does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:28 PM
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Women inherently do have more attractive faces and bodies because they take care of themselves and dress well. Women have less wrinkles and skin damage and have healthy hair and this are all indicators of having overall better health which makes them physically attractive. So much of (lizard brain/instinctual) attraction is based on if someone will produce healthy offspring. Women show this so much more than men because of their grooming standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 02:11 AM
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I'm not gen z. I'm old af.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 02:06 AM
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What do you mean by sexually aroused by women? I have never looked and a man or woman and become sexually aroused. Though lesbian porn does turn me on, but so does gay porn. Both are for different reasons. Lesbian porn is one of the few times women's pleasure is at the forefront. Gay porn because I love it when guys moan. I also haven't watched porn in like 7 years so I'm not sure it that has changed. I get aroused when reading smut with hetro/lesbian/gay couples mostly because I can imagine it …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 02:04 AM
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Maybe men should take better care of themselves? I dont know. Most women I know have a skin care routine. Pick outfits to be complementary to their skin tones ans body shape and express themselves through fashion. They have hair care routines. They wear makeup to enhance their features. Most men I know use a 3 in 1 bodywash/shampoo/conditioner combo and wear the same 5 shirts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 01:56 AM
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As I said in my comment sexuality is a spectrum and I am more on the straight side of things. I would rather ogle a woman than a man. However, I don't want to have sex with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:52 PM
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Yes this. If I had to choose a non-sexual life partner to share a life with I would want it to be a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:50 PM
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Yes this. Women are nicer to look at than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:48 PM
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Yup. I am more physically attracted to women than men. I am more sexually attracted to men than women. Yes I considered myself straight, but sexuality is a spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:19 PM
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Wait a minute. I just looked this up and you got it pretty wrong. That number is actually only for second+ marriages and not first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 02:11 AM
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That's a very different income bracket than me dating a guy making 200k a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 04:29 PM
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So obviously I work with people in the same income bracket as me. The guys that I work with aren't leveraging their income to date prettier and younger women. They want women in a similar income bracket and with similar values. I get asked out pretty regularly by people that I work with. I just don't date in the workplace and I'm not interested in any of them as I am married. My husband is in the 120k+ bracket and younger than me by a few years. Edit to add: My husband is a Marine officer and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 04:12 PM
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There is so much going on here that I would like to break it all down. Firstly lets start with confirmation bias. In my experience for the most women do reject these types of men at least women of quality do. However, because this is the reality that you want to see you go looking for the cases that confirms this. Just like I think that all people who drive Kia's drive like psychos when I see someone driving a Kia normally I don't even register it. Then whenever I see a Kia weaving in and out of…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 04:01 PM
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I think this should be Women and Men not just women. This is good for everyone. When I got out of FDS and just decided to be single and happy was when I actually became happy with my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:33 PM
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I had no knowledge on how to fix a hole in my wall. I used YouTube and tips on Reddit to figure it out. They just don't want to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:00 PM
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Providing is easy af. I make 160k a year as a woman. I have made more than every man I have ever dated. They all still wanted me to do the majority of household work. Even when I paid the majority of bills. I would rather just provide please 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 04:49 AM
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This is such a great point and one of the reasons my friends standards for if we invite new people in to the general friend group is "would I trust them to drive my drunk little sister home?" If it is no or I don't know they don't get invited. If it is a yes they get invited to our events. It's makes the safety question so much clearer if I wouldn't trust or I would be unsureyou to get my drunk little sister home why would I want to be around you in non-public settings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 05:15 AM
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And there is nothing wrong with perceiving grown up people as sexy, regardless of gender. I agree. However the post is about children being sexualized. I started being sexualized by men in 5th grade. I was 9 the fist time I experienced street harassment. I was 12 the fist time a 30 y/o man tried to hit on me (I did not look old for my age).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 05:21 PM
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Some women do. I have a much higher libido than my partner. Never bothers me when I'm in the mood and he isn't. Though it was something that he did bring up that he has had issues in the past with. The stereo type that these women are clinging to, that men should always be up and ready, is perpetuated by men. It's in the media that men write and on the internet in the porn that is made for men etc. Women also completely suck for having those kinds of breakdowns. However, they are convinced/taugh…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 05:03 PM
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You are correct here. However, it is men sexualizing women and mostly boys and men expecting other men to have the highest sex drive always ready and cracking the sexual jokes. It's less so from women. Edit to add: I 100% recognize this as a men's right and mental health issues. I agree it is a problem. However, men and women both face this issue mostly because of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:49 PM
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I don't see it as cheating per se, however I have asked every man that I have been with in a LTR not to watch porn and if they have an issue with that to not enter a LTR with me. While it is the same betrayal to me as cheating is, I don't see it as such. It is a hard boundary that I put up just like when you make a commitment to being exclusive. I believe that anyone should be allowed to make these kinds of boundaries at the start of a relationship and they are fine as long as both parties agree…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 04:17 PM
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All of this. Like damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 02:42 AM
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Jada Smith being blamed for her husband slapping Chris Rock
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:42 PM
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It's funny because I'm the gender swap if your story. I work as a SWE and I work from home. I do all cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping and laundry aside from my two least favorite chores which my partner handles (dishes and trash) my partner is a Marine officer and I make about 60k a year more than him. We split bills and dates evenly. I'm very lucky because my husband is on the more submissive side at home because of his job, so he really doesn't care. I have offered multiple times for him to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:40 PM
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I got curious and reply is for anyone else curious in 2024 5,070 people died on the job of which 4,657 were men. 38.2% (1,973) of the deaths were caused by transportation incidents (mostly car accidents, airplane is 109 water is 52 and trains were 36, 4 involved a bicycle and interestingly 11 were due to transporting an animal). 410 of the deaths were caused by drug or alcohol overdoses. Fatalities due to violent acts account for 733 of the deaths 470 of those were homicide. The largest category…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 05:33 PM
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Imagine being a very attractive straight man with his girlfriend at a large gay bar. Congrats you can now Imagine the everyday experience of women. The attention is not wanted and it's scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:07 AM
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This is false. Women have a stronger in group bias but that doesn’t mean men don’t have one. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15491274/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:56 PM
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He has given me permission and read all of my comments. I’m already famous from reality TV and he is famous for being one of the top three off road race car drivers in the world. Neither of us care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:11 AM
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I agree which it why I said that to OPs black and white approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:16 AM
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But breaking up is also wrong? Do you have an opinion or are you just playing a 12 year old devils advocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:46 AM
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If we disagree on deep needs or wants like that, then we’re not compatible. I don’t want and I can’t have children. If I’m with someone that wants children. We are not compatible and we should break up. If someone wants me to move six time zones away and I don’t wanna move. We are no longer compatible and should break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:57 PM
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He is around 350. He has used the scale at my house and it records and stores weights. Don’t tell him that 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:55 PM
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Then why bring up your mortgage and car payments?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:54 PM
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I said it in my post and the response you get is pretty spot on. I am way more superficial on dating apps than I am in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:53 PM
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He lives his life as he wants! I do make him walk my dog for me when he stays over though 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:52 PM
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I would choose to not be in a relationship if those are the only options.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:20 PM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 11:48 AM
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I can’t have and neither of us want kids lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 11:48 AM
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5’10 I’m 5’8. He is 350 pounds I’m under 130.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:37 AM
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Haha. I will say I’m ex military. I have lived in Chicago, San Diego and BFE Texas and many more places outside of the military. I currently live in BFE California (Joshua Tree) I have always been the same. I date people based on how they treat me and who they are. Not what they look like (though I have never dated anyone I find ugly).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:35 AM
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Men want to marry up to. They won’t admit it but if Elon Musk offered up half his fortune they would all take it up the ass. Humans are greedy by nature. Women can at least openly admit that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:20 AM
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I’m a feminist. A true feminist. I want equality for both. I think both are toxic. I have no problems with making more than any man that I dated. I have dated men in the military that are making $1400 a month. It doesn’t bother me. It does tend to bother them. That is still wrong. People are going to people. Doesn’t matter who you are male or female if Elon Musk wanted to stick it in your butt hole, you probably let him for a chunk of his fortune. It doesn’t matter who you are. Edit: people peri…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:07 AM
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5’10 I’m 5’8
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:00 AM
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I don’t want to date a guy that only values me for my body. I actually don’t even wanna date a guy who’s only with me for how I look. I want someone to date me for who I am as a person and I only wanna date someone for who they are as a person. I don’t care what people look like. I care about who they are. Looks has nothing to do with it for me. Money has nothing to do it for me. I have my own looks. I have my own money. I want real people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:57 AM
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Meeting people is hard for me as a 35 y/o woman that works fully remote from my bed. No not as hard as a man. I can agree with that but it is still very difficult to make friends and meet new people. My boyfriend weighs over double what I do. Most people think I should reject him on obesity alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:52 AM
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Co-signed. I’m a software engineer who has been doing yoga for 15 years. Not martial arts but I can do stuff with my body that even the biggest man thinks is impossible. Men are I intimidated by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:50 AM
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I really don’t think that. He is incredibly sexy to me. He has the most incredible eyes. I’m crazy about him. However the world is a cruel place to anyone who is over weight or obese. I don’t care. I’m underweight. Many people don’t find that attractive either. I hope my post did not come off as I think that I’m more attractive than him. I don’t. I just know that most people because of his weight disagree as you can see by the comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:47 AM
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He is about 350 pounds. I weigh 130. I find him incredibly attractive. I think we are looks matched tbh. Most people think because of his weight we aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:39 AM
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My boyfriend lives in a house his dad owns. I have a 2k mortgage. I bought my 60k car (Ford Bronco) in cash, my boyfriend drives a car Ford gave his dad for $1 and his dad pays the insurance on. I pay my mom’s and my sister’s phone bill. My boyfriend is on his dad’s phone bill. His dad is not rich for the record he just owns and runs the largest off road race in the world. He is also broke. I have never asked or wanted anyone to pay my bills. I pay my own bills. Find you a real woman. You should…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:37 AM
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So you want to be with beautiful women who are only with you for what you can spend on them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:39 AM
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No not a loser at all but people would say the “looks match” is very off. We both have gotten comments from people mentioning as much. TBH I pay more than he does. I know I make more and I want him to focus on his passion. What I’m saying is if you are putting out on dating apps that the only thing you can bring is money then women who only want money are going to show up to your table. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who is only with me for what I can provide (it has happened). TBH dating ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:29 AM
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https://imgur.com/a/nt90yIa Photo of me and my boyfriend. I make about 160k, he takes home from his business about 80k. I’m with him because he is an incredible human and matches my high travel life style. Do you really want to be with a woman who is only in to you for the money? Wouldn’t you rather be with someone who is hot for you for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:16 AM
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FR. I am technically a millionaire. I have been saving for retirement since I was 16. My investments have done very well and I’m also a high income earner now. I make around 160k a year. My boyfriend makes 400k a year. He is broke because he is a race car driver and has no savings and keeps about 80k a year of what he makes for bills and lifestyle. However he does travel all across the US and Europe to race which fits in with my lifestyle. I told him I want to retire early and die broke. He said…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:05 AM
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I don’t know many married adults that can lose 30% of their income and survive. Most people are a paycheck away from being homeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 06:00 PM
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If you are buying that stuff for women you aren’t even in a relationship with you are cray cray. Unless dating has changed meaning in the last few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:53 PM
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Yea they do. Women are held to much higher beauty standards. Going on a date typically means makeup nice clothes hair styling etc. That also doesn’t account for all the other behind the scenes cost of skin care, hair salons, nail salons and stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 09:54 AM
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Who tf is going on 6 dates a month for 17 years straight
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 09:49 AM
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I'm okay with that but future faking is still wrong. If you have given no expatiations either way that's fine. I'm talking about what the OP of this thread is implying that they need to like to get women to hook up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:20 AM
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If he went on 6 dates a month that means it’s $275ish a date. I feel like the math is not mathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:03 PM
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If you are going on 6 dates a month for the last 17 years you are spending $275 a date. What the hell kind of dates are you going in or are you adding in other expenses?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:02 PM
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JFC I make about 160k a year and I don’t even spend that much going out to dinner with friends a year and I pick up the check often. If you do the math even further and say he goes on 6 dates a month it’s like $275 a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:00 PM
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I mean I filter on dating apps for what I’m interested in at the time. If someone tells me they want a LTR and I’m really only looking for hook ups I’m gunna bounce. If someone tells me they only want hookups and I’m looking for a LTR I’ll bounce too. If someone tells me they want a hook up and I do as well and they are immediately trying to get to me to go to their place or invite them over without meeting in public first I’m going to bounce too. You can have results when being honest and sayin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 12:34 AM
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I’m mid 30s own a house and have a great career. I got my self sterilized when I turned 30 because I don’t want kids. I’m in a LTR right now and fairly happy but I’m honestly not sure if I want to get married, or even live with a partner. I have an amazing life single or with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:35 PM
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https://humanparts.medium.com/men-cause-100-of-unwanted-pregnancies-eb0e8288a7e5 Just going to leave this here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:32 AM
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That does not relate at all. There is no accusation of being unfaithful there either so still very different. Would you still be friends with the guy that asked you to take a DNA test to make sure you weren’t the father of his wife’s kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:16 AM
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Like I said possible is just as far away as impossible for most people at the time. It is possible for me to become a billionaire in my lifetime. The chance of that actually happening is slim to none and I’m in the top 10% of earners already.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:13 AM
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What you are missing is the emotional\relationship aspect. Accusing a corporate entity of being wrong does not involve the implications that a best friend/spouse accusing you of cheating does.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:08 AM
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Umm, correct and incorrect. It is very difficult and even more so then to prove a “reason” for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:04 AM
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Okay an even more equitable situation then: Your best friend that you have known since childhood divorces his wife because he finds out his wife’s child’s isn’t his. He moves in with you and you are doing the best you can to support and help him. One day he comes to you and says his wife’s kid looks a lot like you. He then asks you to take a DNA test to be sure the kid isn’t yours. He reassures you he know you would never sleep with his wife but just needs to know for sure. How do you stay frien…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:11 AM
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There is possible and then there is needing to take a train to a different state and set up residency for 90+ days before you can file. How difficult would if be for you to have to move to Montana (or any other state 2+ states away) find a place to live and fed yourself while it is very difficult for you to even get a job to get a divorce. Possible doesn’t even cover having the ability to have the resources to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:52 PM
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So what your saying is that your partners feelings and consent don’t need to be considered? Also I have seen a number of relationships not happen due to a prenup being asked for. At the end of the day there is no wrong in asking. There is also no wrong in your partner being offended by you asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:45 PM
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You should read the divorce colony. It’s a history of divorce in the US it was not easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:40 PM
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My grandmother was married to an alcoholic abuser. This is 100% not how things worked. She had to work outside of the house with 8 kids to make secret money to keep everything afloat while he spent all the money on booze.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:38 PM
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It is because the emotional response is similar and you are accusing your partner of the same thing. You want to avoid this point because you know it would anger you and you can see how awful it would feel. It’s the best gender reversed example we have and you can tell it’s wrong which is why you refuse to answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:29 PM
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This is such a good example!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:23 PM
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It’s not because the emotional response will be similar. Also you are accusing your partner of having a similar relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:14 PM
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You are accusing your partner of cheating as soon as you ask for that. Let me change things up. Let’s say you have a female boss at work. You both work very closely together on many projects, but your relationship is strictly work and you have never met each other out side of a work setting. Your boss gets pregnant and upon learning about this your girlfriend\wife demands your boss get a paternity test to make sure the kid isn’t yours. How does that make you feel? How does that affect your relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:08 PM
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It is absolutely this for me. The amount of times I have been treated like an object and not a human by boomer men is too damn high.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:38 PM
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I CAN NOT cum from penetration. I need clitoral stimulation. The main reason I have cum with some partners every time and not others? One makes sure I cum before his fun part starts and the other doesn’t, I can orgasam in under a minute easy. Still have been with men that can’t make me cum.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:00 AM
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And people laugh and blame women in the same situation. Doesn’t make it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:57 AM
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True okay. What you are saying makes wayyyy more sense now. Does this just mean a large amount of dudes are sleeping with the same small sect of promiscuous women?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:46 AM
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Yes but the 4 and 6 are the median not the average which accounts for the skewed data.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:42 PM
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Ii thinks it’s just most large cities tbh. Like I live in rural BFE California desert (Joshua Tree) everyone here is super chill. An hour away is Palm Springs which is basically LA lite people are very up tight about appearances.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:09 PM
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Yup haha. I’m honestly not that big on looks. I care more about who you are and how you treat me than how you look. If the worst thing about a guy that I’m seeing is that he needs to lose a few pounds then I’m happy that that’s the worst thing. He also does have the coolest job he is a professional race car driver. Like picture #3 is when one of his sponsors paid for us to have box seats at an angels game haha. Cheer us on at the Baja 1000 in three weeks!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:10 PM
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No one is saying men can’t start doing the same. Also the point was that women look so different with and without makeup. Maybe 5% do. I’m in the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:22 PM
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I mean it takes me 5-10 minutes to throw my regular makeup on and 25 minutes for special events. I just don’t wear a ton and I don’t have anything to cover up. Here are a bunch of photos of me with and without makeup: https://imgur.com/a/pEZeJtX I’m 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:49 PM
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Most women look about the same in and out of make up unless they heavily cake it on and you can tell they are wearing make up. No one besides me can really tell when I’m wearing it or not. I have had multiple men and women tell me I don’t need to wear makeup when they have never seen me out of it. When I point out there is no way they would know that because they have never seen me not in makeup they are usually shocked. I have also literally taken off a full face of makeup after work then had m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:20 PM
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As a woman I appreciate this. I don’t want to text for days on end. Let’s meet see if there is chemistry and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:06 AM
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Uhhh if you browse this sub for a few minutes you can see the outrage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:42 AM
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That’s not healthy. I dated a guy like that and it was draining he was an absolute emotional vampire. Things did not last long and I could not handle how insecure he was due to his need for constant validation. It felt like being around a black hole of need. You chase constant validation, most likely, because of your own self hatred. If you can’t love your self you will never be healthy enough mentally to have a healthy and secure relationship with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:25 PM
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It’s not? Want me to post studies. I did in another comment on this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:23 PM
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It’s not just women it goes both ways. Men don’t won’t to be told that their job at MCDonalds makes them worthless either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:22 PM
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Everyone is allowed to vet how they want. Telling someone they are less than because of something they don’t like is wrong. It’s the difference between saying: I don’t like the way tattoos look. So I don’t want to date anyone with tattoos/ I don’t like the way tattoos look and anyone who has them looks gross and trashy and is probably a whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:30 PM
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No, like I said 1% ever see a jail cell. If it gets to be enough for a trial he is probably guilty. I would pay for a good lawyer. Jim Edit: I would expect the same support from my family if I was accused of murdering my husband. It’s a 90% likelihood that I did, but I’d still want them to pay for a good lawyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:59 AM
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I mean there are multiple sources. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_in_the_United_States#:~:text=Based%20on%20correlating%20multiple%20data,and%206%20result%20in%20incarceration. https://rainn.org/statistics/criminal-justice-system https://rainn.org/newsletters/03-2012/march-newsletter-version-1.html https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2018/10/06/less-than-percent-rapes-lead-felony-convictions-least-percent-victims-face-emotional-physical-consequences/ https://www.saunders.co.uk/news/vir…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:57 AM
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1% of rapists see the inside of a jail cell. How much lower do you think the number is for the falsely accused?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:37 AM
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1% of rapists ever see the inside of a jail cell. I would get a decent lawyer and let the courts decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:36 AM
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Do you have proof of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 11:53 PM
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I own my own house and I have a luxury car and I earn about 160k as year as a software engineer. I live in a BFE town where the median income is 30k and the nearest Walmart is a 45 minute drive. I work remotely and it’s insanely cheap to live here and I love it. However the dating pool is tiny and I make 3-5x what most of the men in that dating pool make. I have had many guys that I have casually dated tell me they were intimidated by me at first that tends to go away when they learn deep down a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:29 PM
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This is for positive thoughts bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 01:42 AM
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Oh I will no worries! Thanks! You are always welcome to join us for Sunday Funday it’s a weekly event 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 07:21 PM
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Try staying in a place where we are both making each other miserable? No I ain’t doing that. Why does it bother you so much that I don’t want relationships? Why do you feel the need to try and fix me?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:46 PM
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I did that. I stopped seeing people for three years. I did therapy and tried to work my ability to have relationships and I got engaged after that and it all went to shit again and I just decided I was done.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:36 PM
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I don’t think I ever will be. Also my life is great without one. I’m early 30s I own my own house on an acre of land in Southern California. I make 160k a year and I love my job. I have an incredible friend group and tons of hobbies. I’m currently planning a Drinko de Elena party for Sunday Funday on Cinco de Mayo as a friends bday and have over 45 RSVPd. You know how had that is in your 30s? My life is great and I enjoy having the ability to pick up a guy for a year and keep it casual and have …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:14 PM
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As a woman, right now I’m not in a place to have a healthy relationship. I’m very up front to the guys that I talk to that I just want a long term fwb thing. But we actually have to be friends first and foremost. To fucking many of them get attached and I have to end things. It’s not that I don’t end up liking them too. It’s just that I can keep that separate and I’m not in a healthy place for relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 01:49 PM
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You know absolutely nothing about me, yet you are making all of these assumptions about me. I think you need a little introspection instead of projection. To start I work for a mental health crisis hotline. I do a fuck ton of community outreach even though I am not a mental health professional and I work in software engineering. I go to group homes and places with foster care services and I volunteer with autistic kids and teens big brother/big sister style. I do this same kind of work at boys a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 04:07 PM
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Who hurt you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:17 PM
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I think the issue is that anorexia and other eating disorders don’t come from wanting to be skinny or access to food. It comes from trauma. Many anorexics (like myself), don’t eat because it’s our way of showing people that I’m in control. I can be absolutely starving and still choose not to eat because of the extreme control that I have. When in reality I feel like my life is so out of control my food intake is the only thing I feel I have control over. If you watch 600 pound life every person …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:27 PM
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Eating disorders are not first world problems. Yes, eating disorders are more prevalent in the first world where the media plays a strong influence on those most prone to get eating disorders (adolescent girls), but eating disorders have been documented for hundreds of years in a variety of countries (think about saints who used to starve themselves). Although the self starvation was not diagnosed as an eating disorder at the time, there are still records of this behavior in many countries throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:23 PM
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How come you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:55 PM
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I’m just saying the world isn’t always fair and just. The consequences of children born from rape happen to both genders. However the main point is really that using the small fraction of pregnancies that come from rape as a reason for your argument about choice is ridiculous. Most of the time the man and woman had a choice to participate in activities that could lead to pregnancy. They also had a choice in the level of protection that was used. The consequences of that choice are just that. Me …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 10:00 PM
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You started with the whataboutism 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 09:52 PM
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Even if a woman is raped she can still be forced in many states and countries to give birth. She can also be forced to give the man visitation after he is convicted of rape. You act like that isn’t already happening to both genders here in the US and around the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:29 PM
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In many states and counties even girls who are rapped by their father or teacher or anyone don’t get that choice either. Then the man even after being convicted of the rape can get rights to visit the children. You act like the reality of that isn’t happening to both genders. The youngest person to give birth was 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:22 PM
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The same can be said for people who attempted abortions? Yeah no idea where you got this idea from. Less than 5% of women say abortion was the wrong choice after having one and only 2% out right regret it (https://www.ucsf.edu/news/2020/01/416421/five-years-after-abortion-nearly-all-women-say-it-was-right-decision-study). As for the second part I don’t. A man and a woman have consensual sex. Man doesn’t use protection or he does knowing that there is still a risk of pregnancy unless he has had a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:19 PM
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He did have a say when he chose to participate in sex. Yes he doesn’t get extra choices like women do but he did have that initial choice. A vasectomy is also a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:04 PM
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Or maybe before the pregnancy even happens. Would love to see one night stands whipping out a consent, and what to do in case of pregnancy form before getting busy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:02 PM
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That’s not bodily autonomy though because you are also taking away the doctor’s right to choose. No one is really stopping you legally from doing it your self though. You might end up in a psych ward but legally you are in the clear. Same with your other point. People on drugs tend to do harm/commit more crimes than those who don’t hence other people bodily autonomy would be affected. As for suicide I totally agree. If you want to die and you are willing and able to get a doctor and or a psychia…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 07:54 PM
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I just want to give you a hug. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I am also autistic but being female I was pushed a lot more to learn how to mask than most males are. I’m pretty sure if I was male this would be my exact life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:03 PM
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Right? I feel the same way. I really don’t care about someone’s past relationships even if things ended due to cheating or whatever. Circumstances change, and people can change. What matters is the work you do to not repeat past mistakes. As for the guy that has had no relationships it’s the same. There is a reason why he has never been in one and as long as that’s not a reason anymore what do I care?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:49 AM
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It’s the same for women though to but in a slightly different way. How does a woman know that a man is interested in her and doesn’t only want sex? How can a woman know that a man truly likes her? Also if a woman is accepting money from you to be around you how much longer until she gets a better offer and leaves? At least if a woman really likes you she will stick around most of the time even in the bad times.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:28 PM
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They are not more severe women on hormonal birth control are twice as likely to attempt suicide and three times more likely to be successful than women who are not. Being on hormonal birth control also is shown to increase anxiety and depression in women significantly. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6193788/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 01:08 PM
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This is totally fine and awesome if it works for you and makes you happy. I would like to think most people however, would like to be with someone who actually likes them a a person and not someone who is only sticking around for cash. I would find it depressing if someone was only with me for the money I offered them but that’s just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:07 AM
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Here is a study by pew research that breaks down data from the American time use survey. It shows that the only time men do an equal amount of household chores and caregiving on average is when the woman is the sole breadwinner. In egalitarian marriages where both parties make the same Men spend 4 hours more on leisure activities, 1.8 less hours on caregiving activities and 2.7 hours less on household chores. This study found that single moms do less child care and chores than married moms or mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:46 AM
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So the trade off here that you are proposing is that: Men will now be groped raped and sexually harassed more often than women are by other men. Women are now more likely to be homeless and successfully commit suicide. (Women attempt suicide more often than men but are more unsuccessful) I would totally take that trade.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:41 PM
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In a perfect world sure. The reality is it’s hard to tell the difference between who is going to be a creep and who is going to be respectful or who is going to finally snap from being rejected so many time they decide to fully take that anger out on me. I would just rather make my escape as quickly and safely as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:09 AM
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I mean you would be surprised about who has work done yet still looks completely natural. Like 99.9% of celebrities and models have work done. Even the men. Sylvester Stallone had a facelift, Howard Stern got a nose job and liposuction, Burt Reynolds had an eye lift, Brad Pitt did his ears, Clint Eastwood had eyelid surgery and Botox, Gordon Ramsey has had Botox and a facelift, Tom Cruise gets Botox and filler, Sting got a nose job, Patrick Dempsey had a nose job and the list goes on. Pretty muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:13 PM
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The last line is exactly it. I would not give a single damn if I was approached 10+ times a day (I might be annoyed but I wouldn’t hate it like I do now) if when the guy was rejected he just went “no problem have a great day.” Instead what happens is I say no and then they start following me to pressure me in to saying yes, or start calling me names and insulting me, or even start to get violent. Very rarely does it end politely. I’m on edge whenever a man approaches me because of this and that …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 04:14 PM
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That was actually interesting to dive in to! The over all percentage puts men at 20% and women at 13% but is pretty balanced between the ages 18-50 with men slightly in the lead (in the 18-29 age group women are more likely to cheat). Women cheat the most in their 60s (16% and drops once they hit their 70s) where as men in their 60’s are at 24%. The overall percentage for men gets screwed up by the old old (sadly a medical term) 70-80s is (26%) and 80+ is 24%. “Even so, older men were no more li…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 02:24 PM
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Yes this! The amount of people who are partnered with people that they actively dislike is astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 02:07 PM
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OH NO! Anyways....
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:50 AM
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In my experience it’s actually the smaller (5-7 range) penis’s that can get me there during PIV. The cluster of nerves that some women can orgasm from is quite low, only about 2-4 inches in.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:23 PM
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I like to stick with zero kids because I’m completely child free but if I have zero choice I’m going to go with the guy who raises kids that aren’t his. One of my really good friends from high school was dating a 24 year old mom of three (two different dads) when he was 16ish 🤮. She ended up getting addicted to drugs and because abusive towards him after they married and he was around 20. He divorced her and got full custody. Not a single one is his. I have so much respect for him and what he di…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:53 PM
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I travel internationally mostly (but I do enjoy the occasional weekend camping trip) and no living in a van doesn’t bother me just don’t expect me to stay over much 😂 Can he take non-paid days? And would he be okay with me out of the county 5-6 weeks a year? I don’t spend much time on my phone when I travel so he will hear from me sparingly. What is wrong with looking for possibilities with a partner? I don’t want to nor do I have to date someone where I don’t think we would be compatible. You k…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 02:37 AM
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I’m 5’9 so it’s a little more off balance than the average girl. I only mentioned his height because people her go off about 6foot or gtfo. Also, I never said he was short though you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:00 AM
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I would say a lot of that all goes hand in hand. I like to travel a lot. This year I will/have go to Mexico a few times, Pureto Rico, England and France. I would not date someone that expected me to pay for all their travel and I would prefer to date some one that could to afford to join. Does that eliminate a lot of broke men? Yes it does, but it is a difference in lifestyle and not because he is broke. Not all men that make less than me can keep up with my lifestyle. Not all men that make MORE…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:57 PM
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No I wasn’t dating then but speaking to my grandmothers, older cousins, and greats aunts about dating then painted a pretty clear picture for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:00 PM
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This is false. The only time men and women do an equal share of housework/ caregiving in a marriage is when the women is the sole breadwinner winner. Mind you this is not the man doing more only that they do the same amount of work of household work. When wives are the primary breadwinner they do 6.4 hours of caregiving a week and 4.8 hours of house work compared to the man’s 5.0 hours caregiving and 2.8 hours of house work. When husband and wife make similar incomes the wife does 6.9 hours of c…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:19 PM
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It really boils down to women’s standards for dating are much higher these days because they are no longer financially dependent on men to survive. 50-60 years ago u/obsidian_koilz may not have realistically been able to set a standard like the one they currently have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:03 PM
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It is all of this! I make 145k ish a year. I have a beautiful apartment in downtown of a large city. I have an amazing group of friends I regularly do stuff with and a ton of hobbies I do on my own. I am perfectly happy being single and I make more than enough to care for myself. I have no children and I have never been married. Any relationship I get in to has to be more fulfilling than if I was own my own. They need to make me happier and add to my life. It makes my standards much higher (no n…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 02:56 PM
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According to the American Time Use Survey, on average men and women do the same total work (breadwinner work plus household work). With this statement I believe you mean with breadwinner work the amount of money each person earns. So with couples that earn the SAME amount of money that are not parents. Women have 21.6 hours of leisure time a week and perform 6.9 hours of caregiving and 4.6 hours of housework. Whereas Men have 25.2 hours of leisure time while doing 5.1 hours of caregiving and 1.9…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 02:47 AM
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Apparently you didn’t read it because in table one number for the first set of averages for household activities is 1.89. All the stuff under it is: .14+ .18+ .65+ .57 which added up is 1.57 which does not equal 1.89. For the second row men the household activities number is 1.51 Everything under it is .31+ .42+ .24+ .12 which equals 1.09 which does not equal 1.51 For the third row women household activities is 2.26 Everything under that is .82 +.87 + .12 +.16 which equals 1.97 and not 2.26. Jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 02:05 AM
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No where in that does it say anything about income, only working and related activities which has nothing to do with amount of pay. Where as the study I linked does use pay and says the opposite of what you are say and uses the same data. You also forgot to add in so many house hold activities that skew the number considerably towards women doing way more work such as: Caring for and helping household children Food preparation and cleanup Housework Lawn and garden care Household management Purch…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:23 AM
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Even in marriages where women earn more, wives are spending almost 3.5 hours more per week on caregiving and household chores than their husbands, Pew found. Husbands in so-called egalitarian marriages, where they earn the same as their wives, spend about 3.5 more hours per week on leisure activities than their wives. Meanwhile, the women in those marriages spend a combined 4.5 more hours on caregiving and housework than their husbands. Full study here. (That used data from the survey you mentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:49 PM
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I am staunchly child free. I have known since I was very young (13ish) that I did not want a child. I had my tubes removed as soon as I found a doctor to do it. I DO NOT want a baby. I had an abortion at 19. Even not wanting children and having zero desire to give birth it was one of the most traumatic things I have ever been through. Having an abortion is not easy. The hormones are crazy. I cried for days. It was awful. I can’t even properly explain what I went through. I still to this day 15 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:04 PM
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Or..: I had a boyfriend a few years ago. The relationship was going stale. Resentment was building up on both sides. He had stopped being the partner he showed he could be when we had first started dating because of that I also stopped being the best girlfriend I could be. Well he cheated on me and his guilt from the cheating manifested in to him becoming the partner that he was at the start of the relationship. Things only got better after he cheated because of the guilt. He did eventually conf…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:28 PM
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This is just false. If you want me to dig through FDS post history and compile screenshots of a lot of the advice for women say to go to therapy and work on yourself before you start dating, I will. Its even all over the hand book. The first few pages of that were all self help books.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:38 PM
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The biggest most helpful things was FDS leaving reddit. I didn't follow them. Getting your self out of spaces that indoctrinate you to those beliefs is the best way forward. Not seeing people hating men and talking about how horrible all men are made me think about it less. The less I thought about it the more I realized it wasn't true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:36 PM
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I will disagree with you on the not pushing women not to be happy healthy people. Encouraging women to go to therapy, work on themselves before they get in to a relationship, develop meaningful hobbies and create meaningful friendships with other people are very healthy things to do. If I never did what their advice said I would of never gotten out of the toxic mind set they put into my mind in the first place. I will not disagree that their encouragement of man hating is toxic af and very unhea…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:59 PM
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I'm glad someone found it helpful! Its scary how easy it is to fall in to extremism these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:54 PM
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I got sucked in to FDS and fell down that rabbit hole for a bit so I think I can talk about this with a first hand experience. I had just gotten out of a very abusive relationship (I finally left because he hit my dog with a frying pan). The reason I even fell in to the trap of an abusive relationship was because I had been SA'd a year before we started dating and I was in a rough spot mentally and vulnerable enough to fall for his tricks/lies. To say that I was extremely distrustful and hateful…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 06:09 PM
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There needs to be a few of us around here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 08:58 PM
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I totally understand your feelings on that. Luckily now that I'm older (early 30's) I don't experience much of that anymore. Maybe I'm better at picking the guys I date (I don't do OLD and mostly rely on my social circle) now or the people in my social circle are decent people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:42 PM
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I agree with you on this. If I'm on a date with a guy and I know that I have no interest in a second date I will ALWAYS insist on splitting the check. If I like the guy and he offers to pay (also happy to split it) I always offer to pay for the second date. I will say though that I did not have these beliefs in my early to mid twenties. I wish I would have. It could have saved me from a lot of issues lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:31 PM
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I would love that tbh. The likelihood of our current state of government (in America) that is pretty much never going to happen sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 08:19 PM
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Pay for a surrogate using your sperm. If you can’t afford it then you probably can’t afford a kid either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 06:22 PM
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Sold my eggs a while back for 7500. Was not worth it the shots were absolutely miserable. 0/10 would not recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 06:21 PM
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Love bombing is what happens. The beginning of the relationship is perfect and once she is completely on the hook the mask drops.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:05 PM
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Many of the men I know can’t even make their own doctors appointments or know what their kids allergies are. These types people are very likely to force the wife to do it like everything else. Which is probably a big part of wanting the divorce in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 06:15 PM
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Most people on child free who have gotten it done and used the list have stories very similar to mine. If you actually want to get it done it would be worth you checking out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 01:29 PM
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I wouldn’t say it’s a multi year process for woman the child free subreddit has a list of doctors that are willing to do it for people. I used that list got a pap and asked her about it in December. I went under the knife in February.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 01:18 PM
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I got my tubes removed to protect myself it’s not just men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:29 PM
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34 just got my tubes removed in February. I’ve been trying since I was 22 to get snipped.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:29 PM
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Yes. Women tend to have skin care routines. Care about how they dress. Just in general take better care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 09:56 PM
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The marriage rate has been going down as women have had more options and do not have to tie themselves to men financially also, it’s been going down because there’s no longer massive societal pressure on women to marry. It’s a slow correction but still is one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 05:57 PM
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How is having more money no benefit?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 04:51 PM
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No where in your assessment do you take into account how much money the women make you only base it on their looks. I’m fairly average looking but I make 145k a year. Should I not hold out for a partner that makes 100k+ so that we are on similar income levels?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 04:43 PM
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Anecdotal evidence isn’t real evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 05:08 PM
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Again that study was on dating apps. Not real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 01:16 PM
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I don’t think she is lying. I think she got in to the app in the early stages and she is also stunning. I think I’m just ever so slightly above average looking so it’s only porn wanted from me. Edit: I do want to say from the amount of attention I got in that hour if I was willing to get nude I could probably make decent money on that app.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:13 PM
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Just saying it’s easier for women with no proof doesn’t prove I’m wrong either. It’s men’s low EQ that is the problem with men being able to develop friendships like women do. It’s a pretty easy problem to solve with some therapy and work.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:48 PM
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If you read the comments down the line I go over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:27 PM
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I knew it was going to be hard so I moved to an apartment that does lots of events for residents (you can also sign up to be a member to do the events if you don’t live here) so I met people there. I also did a bunch of events in town like an urban wine walk, I went solo to a ton of concerts. I basically said yes to everything and talked to everyone I could. My social battery was dead every week.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:27 PM
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For development of a social circle it can. Both genders can use the same methods.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:23 PM
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Okay after spending about an hour on this app it’s basically a different kind of onlyfans all the guys just seem to want to do masturbation video calls or get nudes. Not a lot of guys just wanting to chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:20 PM
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Yeah I can see that being a problem. Sadly women have to worry to much about safety in this day and age (this is a dual gender problem btw it sucks for women and trustworthy men). My best advice for that if you want it is to make sure the women are as comfortable with you as possible and invite them to things initially that are in public and don’t have to involve drinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:18 PM
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I didn’t join a social circle I made one. Maybe that is the difference. I met people I liked and invited them out to go do things with other people I had met and liked. We created the new social circle. It was slow going but it worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:10 PM
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I’m 34. I move to a new city in February (It’s a large city Phoenix). I have already made quite a large friend group. We are close enough that we regularly go on trips together (Havasu last weekend, Palm Springs this weekend). We have pool parties at various apartments on the weekend we do random events in the city. We are a pretty close group. It’s not the easiest thing to do it took a lot of effort on my part but it is doable. Also before you say it’s easier because I’m female, my roommate who…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:01 PM
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Well of course they can’t. These are both areas where the average man is at a severe disadvantage. On dating apps it’s like 5 guys to 1 woman. Women can have their pick on these apps and they know it. Most women also completely hate being cold approached and will only tolerate it if the guy is gorgeous. This is why the best advice for dating is to develop a social life on your own. Have a good friend group that includes women. Have a hobby that you enjoy and go do things that relate to that hobb…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:45 PM
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Ever watch the bachelorette? I’ve never watched it but a friend that is obsessed with the show pointed out something super interesting to me. When the woman is the one that all the men are competing for the relationship tends to last a long time after the show. When it’s the man that has all the woman competing for him the relationship tend to end very quickly after the show. I tend to see this often in real life too. If a man had to win a woman from other men he was competing with for her atten…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 06:55 PM
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If you feel like you need someone else to make you happy the last thing you need is someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 04:54 AM
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I have a female friend that is a virgin at 36. We have been picking on her about it since she was 20. People are going to make fun of your for whatever is out of the ordinary. It’s not just men that will get picked on for that. Just to add she will probably stay that way for life she is VERY asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:48 PM
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Actually women serve longer sentences for killing their husbands then men for killing their wives even when abuse is involved https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/in-the-news/women-serve-longer-prison-sentences-after-killing-abusers I would also like to debate the physically assaulted point. The number one cause of death for pregnant women is murder. Women are just more likely to be physically assaulted by their partners and are less likely to report it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 06:32 PM
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This honestly just sounds like having healthy boundaries. Healthy boundaries make for healthy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:06 PM
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I think it’s subjective. And this is my feeling on the matter. You are allowed to have different feeling and opinions than me but that still doesn’t make my opinion wrong. I just don’t date people that look at other naked people. That is my right.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 05:27 PM
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Not OP but, If you look at naked people that aren’t me then in my mind that’s cheating. If you are looking at animated porn or reading dirty stories where you aren’t seeing real naked people. That I have no problem with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:08 PM
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Hell no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:04 PM
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I think that is at least one thing we can all agree on in this sub. Fuck boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 05:16 PM
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You also mean your own boomer grandparents right 😂 But the point still stands can’t get abortions in half of the US now
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:39 PM
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I think one year after discovery should be the limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:02 PM
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Isn’t really an option anymore in half of the US now though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:00 PM
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Haha check out r/unclebens if you like mushrooms. One of my fave subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:49 PM
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Oooh it’s on YouTube I will check it out for sure thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 09:10 PM
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Not sure what country you are in but, only 15% of tinder users in the UK are women. Edit: stalked you post history a bit only 9.7% of people in Sweden use dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:29 PM
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I always wonder about these dating app comments because as far as I have seen only 20-30% of people have ever in their life used a dating app.. Also of these users almost 70% of regular users are men. So if such a small percentage or women have ever used a dating app and even fewer of them are regular users how has this affect women’s perceptions of dating on the whole?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:43 PM
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I think it’s way more difficult to compare celebrities to real life. How many of these relationships were real Vs publicity stunts. We don’t know. Also life is very very different for the rich and famous over the average joe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:00 PM
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Uhhh wut? What kind of mental gymnastics did you have to go though to end up here? Like yeah if I’m unhappy I’m probably not going to want to have sex! Why would I want to have sex with someone who makes me actively unhappy. If my SO is upset in life or with me I 100% understand why he would want sex. I wouldn’t even ask him for it in those cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:41 AM
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I have NEVER withheld sex as a punishment. Have I been completely out of the mood to have sex with someone because they are a fuckwit? Yes many times. Why do I want to have sex with someone how was shitty to me that day? Or couldn’t be bothered to wash their dishes? Or left dirty socks on the living room floor for the 13th time that week? It ain’t sexy to me and for sure will prevent me from being in the mood. It’s not a punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:03 AM
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Fuck him, make dinner, do the grocery shopping, do most of the child care, do most of the cleaning, make sure everyone make its to appointments. The free labor that women have been doing for years is massive. ​ https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2020/03/04/opinion/women-unpaid-labor.html In the United States, women perform an average of four hours of unpaid work per day compared to men’s two and a half hours. Back in 1965, when the government first started keeping track, American women did almo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:06 PM
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I’ll be honest here these women sound awful. Sorry you had to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:31 PM
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I’m 33. Just broke off an engagement about 6 months ago because he changed completely after we got engaged (stopped helping around the house, started whining when I have to travel for work, threw a hissy fit when I wanted to go out with friends). I hadn’t settled anywhere before the mask slip except for looks he was a bit bigger of a guy than I typically go for, but he was able to keep up with me on my weekly mountain jogs. Now I’m debating if I even want to date again. I’m not sure if it’s wort…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:24 PM
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Doctor can be better than lawyer (in California at least) if a doctor injects the sperm there is already a lot of built in legal protections even if the mother knows the donor.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:16 PM
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If I’m going to do a random hook up with a man the number one most important thing is that I need to feel safe and comfortable with him. Any creepy comments are going to be an instant no. There is a lot of factors outside of that but that’s the biggest thing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:07 PM
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Yes thank you!!!! Life-time prevalence of IPV in LGB couples appeared to be similar to or higher than in heterosexual ones: 61.1% of bisexual women, 43.8% of lesbian women, 37.3% of bisexual men, and 26.0% of homosexual men experienced IPV during their life, while 35.0% of heterosexual women and 29.0% of heterosexual men experienced IPV. When episodes of severe violence were considered, prevalence was similar or higher for LGB adults (bisexual women: 49.3%; lesbian women: 29.4%; homosexual men: …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:16 AM
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Would still love to read it. I’m honestly very open to learning new things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 12:52 AM
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I was curious about this because I hadn’t seen it before so I looked it up. I can only find articles and studies that say they there is more DV in same sex relationships(the rate is 1 out of 4 for either gender) than it is in heterosexual relationships but nothing saying it happens more in lesbian relationships. Can you send me the study I would love to read it! What I found btw: https://www.plu.edu/gender-equity/wp-content/uploads/sites/219/2014/11/myth-fact1.pdf https://www.bbc.com/news/magazi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:33 PM
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I’m looking for a new job right now. I have probably sent out over 300 resumes in the last three weeks. If someone asks me if I have applied anywhere else do I tell them that? Hell no. I just say that I have just started looking and they are one of the first places I have applied to. Jobs don’t want to hire thirsty people either. It’s not a woman thing it’s a society thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 11:36 PM
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Stagecoach?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:03 PM
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I also think though it is very hard to be able to fall in love with or have some one to fall in love with you that you don't have basic respect and empathy for. Good partners have empathy and respect for their SO's and that goes for both genders. I don't want to have a conservation about how much my day sucked at work with someone that won't have empathy or care about what I went through. It would be a terrible conservation and those types of things would only build up resentment over time (I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:05 AM
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This is the exact reason I stay in the sub! I also agree with you though. I won’t empathize or forgive those who hurt me directly, but I also won’t say that all men are like that either (well not so much anymore I’m a work in progress). It’s a fine line to walk. Therapy helps lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:52 AM
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Despite the bellow debate(which I think u/cautionTomorrow555 has made some great points) I’m just answering the question of if you wanted to how. It’s up to you if you want to. I was a bit of a hardcore FDS supporter. I’ve been raped by a man. I’ve been physically and mentally abused by men. I was groomed by a man 35 years older than me when I was 14. I have suffered a lot at the hands at men from constant harassment to actual physical harm. I was far on the kill all men side and I realized I di…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:14 AM
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I think the biggest gulf between the red pill vs women and FDS Vs men is empathy. Not that men or women need to have empathy for FDS or the red pill. But, red pill and FDS need to learn empathy for men and women. Both sides use dehumanizing language (foid, scrote ect) and in doing so this causes people to see the other side as less than human or as a object. In a range of studies, psychologists have been able to >show how dehumanizing messages can influence how >we think about and treat people. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 09:18 PM
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Thank you for making my point
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 04:58 AM
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I could name more but how many FDS followers can you name that have shot up people?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 07:23 PM
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Elliot Roger, Jake Davison, Tres Genco, Alex Minassian. There is a lot more than one self identified incel who has gone out with the intention of shooting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 02:17 PM
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I was in 5th grade the first time I was catcalled! I never wore halter tops again after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 07:16 PM
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Would love to learn how this is tested if you have any info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 03:59 PM
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Thanks for the reassurance. My mom got it for me for my bday last year so it’s going no where lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:29 AM
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Oh god I have one of those chairs. To be fair though I spend 5-10 hours a day in my home office on my computer and I got back problems comfiest damn chair I have ever sat in. It’s not that bad right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:18 PM
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I believe the mini Natasha denona mini tropical is on sale right now at Sephora for $12. It is gorgeous and I’ve been debating picking up a second one for storage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:52 PM
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Currently in the process of changing my last name to my mothers maiden name. My “dad” is a POS and I would rather my moms legacy continue on than his. It is an option in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:38 PM
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Uhh going to start watching this now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:36 AM
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That dude looks 100% like he runs his podcast out of his moms basement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:14 AM
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Well it kinda does at the disclaimer which I must say made me laugh out loud: Disclaimer: This article has been written by a man-child who may not reflect what other ‘Real Men’ are actually thinking. This is humorous effort to look at how your life will change after the wedding and should not be taken seriously enough to leave your current girlfriend. Sad thing is I’m pretty sure this is how my ex fiancé feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 10:56 PM
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This is actually pretty normal in frats/sorority culture. Still doesn’t mean it’s good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 01:24 PM
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I needed to read this today! Thank you for posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 03:12 AM
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I’m already gone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:44 PM
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I wish that was fully an option but our circle of friends and family are so intertwined it makes that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:53 AM
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Natures Miracle for anything dog pee related it kills any smell/ stain and leaves a pheromone behind that tells dogs not to pee there again! Also that stuff is incredible for getting stains out of anything. Even removed red wine from my white carpet once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 08:10 PM
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I just might do that. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:22 PM
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He’s not tech savvy enough to put bugs on my phone or computer. He can’t even manage online banking or bill pay. I do computer programming and trust me I would notice. However he knows the username I use for everything and I wouldn’t put it past him to check on stuff like that. I don’t want to mention my current plans just in case he is reading but there is one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 07:22 PM
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My thoughts exactly tbh. One of the more recent red flags is some jealousy/trust issues that have been showing their ugly face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 07:03 PM
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That was actually a great read thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:18 PM
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Legally I have no idea. I do know though that public shame is a good recourse when the courts aren’t. It’s up to you if you want to make those texts public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:12 PM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:02 AM
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They were so minor. Things like stalling to do laundry until he was literally out of clothes to wear but still things I wanted to keep an eye on if they popped up in other areas. I totally get hating laundry I’m the same way with the trash just keep stuffing it down till I can’t anymore haha. I did start to notice it spreading to other areas though which is why we are now at a stop sign. I 100% get what you are saying though and I should of heeded it earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:44 AM
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Step A is actually what got me here! It’s something I would recommend any woman’s do every so often in any relationship. I knew I was starting to be unhappy I could feel it. I made a list of all the good and bad stuff going on in my life to try and pin point what it was and when it came to the wedding I started to write it in on the pro side and I hesitated. That hesitation let me know why I was feeling the way I was. So then I made a list for him and 90% of the stuff on the good side was all th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:17 AM
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No, I don’t really think he is that kind of guy, but I guess with the recent change in his behavior who knows. His mom lives two houses down and I think if he tried anything like that she would step in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:13 AM
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Thank you. I needed to hear this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:57 AM
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We got engaged in December. There was a few small red flags I was keeping my eye on before we got engaged but they got a lot bigger afterwards. I think in his head I’m a done deal and he could let a few things drop now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:56 AM
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Wow. You just kind of changed my perspective on a few things thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:54 AM
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I’m on FaceTime with her right now going over the advice on here and she agrees with this. She thinks that I should just tell him that I’m not happy and that I need some time to think through things pack a bag and stay with her while I finish processing everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:50 AM
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I’ve been talking to my mom about it for the last week. She is the best sounding board I have and is very good at staying neutral. I’ve got a tricky project at work that I’m working on right now so planning is already on hold while I put in a few weeks of 12 hour days. This is honestly great advice though. I just need to figure out what to say to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:22 AM
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She updated her post and she got out last night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:11 PM
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Commandeering top comment she updated her post she managed to get out late last night! She is headed to a shelter and contacting police today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:06 PM
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Already done by me and others!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:49 AM
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A lot of people have reached out from what I’ve seen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:28 AM
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There is already a ton of women volunteering to help thankfully!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:15 AM
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I think I saw it mentioned that her parents sold her to him for drugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:14 AM
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Yup that’s why I deleted all dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 12:17 AM
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I received offers multiple times a day from multiple men when I was on tinder. It has to work at some point otherwise they wouldn’t waste their time with it. I actually once’s asked if that ever worked to one and he said about once a week so YMMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 10:11 PM
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I honestly don’t think he has any thought that he did anything wrong. He’s just a bit mentally unwell now. I honestly even feel bad calling it karma because I believe he was abused quite a bit by that industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 08:10 PM
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I don’t know if this is karma but the story is a bit heavy and sad. I date this guy back when I was 18/19. He was one of the most gorgeous men I have ever seen outside of TV/magazines. He was a model at the time and had recently gotten out of the army. We traveled a ton and generally had a great time. A few months after we got serious I discovered I had a (treatable) STD. I broke in to his MySpace and saw the 20ish women he was messaging on there and sending and receiving nudes from. Also there …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:51 AM
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You got this girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:55 PM
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Agreed! Just hate it when people look down on servers. I am a level one sommelier working on my level two. I know my shit and I worked really hard to get where I was just for people to be “oh you are a server.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 12:17 AM
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Not to say that this is his situation but to defend servers. I was until super recently a white glove fine dining server. I was making about $1200-1500 a week in tips working only 6 hours 5 days a week. Plus with my other income (hobby of mine that I sell on Etsy with all my free time) I was making close to 85k a year. There was people I worked with that worked less hours than I did but had built up a great clientele list that were making 120k a year. How ever demanding to know what someone’s sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:12 PM
22

THERE IS A NSFW HOUSE PLANT SUBREDDIT. ARE YOU KIDDING ME. /end rant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:22 AM
67

It’s honestly the best for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 12:32 AM
253

Honestly, a lot of the comments on there are pretty much along the same lines as what is here aside from the probable cheating. This sub I mostly visit as birth control and it is strictly for moms who are breaking down and only approved posters who have given birth can post. I try not to get involved just to respect that boundary that I am not a mom. Very similar to how we like our boundaries of only women here, I am not a mom and do not want to cross that there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 10:01 PM
66

I feel like this is a key point that so many women miss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 07:18 PM
326

Facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:38 PM
114

Classic DARVO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 05:40 PM
104

To be honest when I was reading it that thought did not cross my mind. I just assumed like most guys he was just trying to abandon responsibility. It’s really a good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 05:39 PM
181

Haha I absolutely love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 05:32 PM
1

Look who is now making the same assumptions men do. You basically just said “well if she didn’t want that attention she shouldn’t dress like that.” You are the reason that rape victims get asked what they were wearing when they are raped. You can wear any clothing for any reason. Because it makes you feel good, because you want to be covered up, because you want to feel sexy. Doesn’t matter. No one has any right to judge you for what you chose to wear and men need to stop seeing clothing as an i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 08:41 PM
1

Let’s stop judging women by what they wear. Your worth as a person is not tied to your clothing choices. Wear whatever you want at any establishment. Burn the patriarchy and your bra.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 11:55 PM
29

This got such a good laugh out of me thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 03:59 AM
4

I would totally sign up for a shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 11:45 PM
14

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:16 PM
17

Basic sewing machine is completely fine! Also I can teach hand stitching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:03 PM
58

Absolutely! There is many past relationships I have had before finding FDS that I wish someone would of done the same thing. It’s probably multiple times a day I’m reaching out on Reddit. Most of the time I don’t get a reply but the effort is all worth it for those I get to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 09:55 PM
59

I taught sewing lessons on zoom over the pandemic for free (I’m in a medieval reenactment group and it involves a lot of costuming which is VERY expensive if you can’t do it yourself). Would be happy to start them up again for any queens looking to learn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 09:53 PM
1

Construction or HVAC are great places to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 03:55 AM
54

I never understood the hypocrisy behind half of this. A man can what porn and see a multitude of naked women, but watch the wrath of hades fall down if anyone besides him sees his women naked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:38 PM
28

Don’t forget that he still expected gifts from her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:16 PM
2

I love these do you do commissions? If yes DM me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:43 AM
51

I’m cringing because I’ve been this list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:40 AM
18

Aw thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:09 AM
27

And drop their standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 10:10 PM
6

That you for this that was a great read!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 08:15 AM
48

You should be aware that your boyfriend has a most likely giving this guy high fives which is he is getting the stories and makes him LV as well. Even if he says he is disgusted he obviously isn’t sharing his disgust with his co workers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 05:23 AM
18

That sounds amazing! She’s my new role model I absolutely love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:17 PM
47

I honestly would love to live in a van and travel for half the year every year. There is a lot of my country I would love to see and explore. But: the van I want and the build I would put into it is going to cost about 70k (an RV might be better but I’m terrified to drive one plus gas prices would be much higher) I will still have a house and a remote job so I’ll still be working I’m child free would probably still do hotel stays often -would not be able to live my full life like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:35 PM
49

Would highly recommend this video that gets into how sexist that disgusting show is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:41 PM
1

That study mentions only 55% of mothers not working full time not married women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 11:10 PM
3

Trying to find a source on 55% of married women do t work or work only part time. Only thing I could find was that in 45% of marriages only one spouse is working but that isn’t broken down by gender and stay at home men is on the rise with an increase of 18% in the last years. I could also find that only 18% of married mothers are not working which is up by 6% in the last year. I can find nothing that supports your statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 09:42 PM
1

I’ve actually been working on a post doing just that. Just waiting until we are engaged next month to post it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:50 PM
3

I’m a FDS follower. Dating what I would be consider a HVM. He is: a) overweight/obese (I am on the lower end of normal and a runner) b) a bartender so good money but no great career prospects. c) tells me no all the time d) is generous and would generally follow the guideline of FDS principles of what you want in a man. I am not perfect. Not trying to claim that. I am probably a few points over him looks wise but he adds value to my life and I add value to his. That’s all I ever wanted and FDS t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:05 AM
27

As someone who felt isolated and alone because of him I wanted her to know that no matter what she had an ally. So many friends abandoned me because of him and I wanted her to know she would never be on her own. I would be there and I would understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:50 AM
11

I keep googling his real name to see if an articles show up about it but nothing. He was still in the navy so hopefully something pops up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:48 AM
18

It’s a sad reality that to many women are living in. Even worse is that many like me don’t even realize how abuse the relationship is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:47 AM
36

I’m doing much better now I’m still worried about the new gf. I’m hoping I’ll hear from her when she is ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 11:37 PM
15

These are lawsuits and not facts also you should look up the results from those cases one still pending and others thrown out for lack of evidence. Like I said do some research.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:37 PM
45

As someone who worked in the medical field and in hospitals doing patient care we had no idea who was an organ diner when we were working on them. Wouldn’t even figure it out until we told the family they were brain dead and we were working out next steps. This honestly sounds like complete and total Facebook fake news BS. The most likely scenario here is that people came in for something minor and they turned out to have something way worse going on and passed on quickly and the family is left …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:36 PM
20

I think the reference here is that she is the addict. As in addicted to the toxic relationship. I could be wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 04:31 PM
8

Commandeering top comment to add she updated and called his parole officer 😭😭😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:55 PM
35

Me and my LTR (still showing lots of HVM traits over a year and a half later!) go camping all the time. We do still take separate cars, 90% of the camping equipment is mine, all of the food is mine and the bow I use for bow hunting is mine. There are ways to do it safely but I wouldn’t do it with a man I’ve known less than a year. There is a great app/website called Dyrt. It will let you know if you have cell signal in an area. How often the rangers come by. Also works for hiking trails I highly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:32 PM
9

I asked him for his actual job and actual hobbies. I already know bots are a problem and will ignore those matches. I’m going to be updating him with all of the matches and any conversation screen shots with him so he can judge what’s real. I honestly just want to know what you guys go through. If I fail, I fail, but I’ll learn something in the process. Edit: Forgot to mention and his actual height as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:17 PM
4

Not so much that, but I am genuinely curious. I want to know what it’s like for the other side. Let me know when you have sent them!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:00 PM
4

Sounds fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:58 PM
5

Send me some photos and I’ll do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:52 PM
0

This is just proof it isn’t their looks that are killing their chances with women. It’s their personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:52 PM
11

found it in Amazon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:20 PM
1

It sucks. I’m super fit and in a normal BMI range. Why can’t any guys around me be decent people and in some form of shape. I run twice a day and hike every week. Just be able to keep up :(
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:42 PM
3

Okay not to be that person but I looked this up and he didn’t find out about the pregnancy until two months post break up. Still an ass I’m sure though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:46 AM
96

They also still split house hold chores and child care 50/50 🤡 Poor girl is being financially abused by a man 15 years older than her (25f/40m) and has no idea. She can’t even get coffee with a friend with out permission.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:26 AM
22

Not the asshole and the asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 10:32 PM
8

It stands for Fear Obligation and Guilt. It’s a defense mechanism the many people instinctively use when being abused by a narcissist. https://kimsaeed.com/2014/02/06/how-the-narcissist-keeps-us-in-a-fog/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:28 AM
54

This makes me sad the FOG is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:37 PM
65

The worst part is in the comments she mentions she asked him what he would do if they got more serious and she moved in with him. He said he would make her go on birth control so she didn’t bleed all over the place.🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:42 AM
1

That can be learned there is a lot of resources out there. If you feel comfortable feel free to PM your general location and I’ll see what I can find for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:25 PM
12

He married you because he knows he can’t have her. You are second choice. Look at those texts he is pining for her. Do you think for a second if she decided to take him back he wouldn’t leave you. Don’t be anyone’s second choice you deserve to be their first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:11 PM
151

Don’t ask don’t tell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:55 AM
52

Do you watch ONAN? Do you bathe daily? When was the last time you scrubbed your toilet? When was the last time you cleaned out your fridge? Do you see your doctor and dentist at least twice a year?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:00 AM
5

This is what I get for half reading Reddit while stalling to get out of the bed I somehow missed the end of your comment. Sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:42 PM
4

I know we can’t post subs here but there is a subreddit for child free people (it’s a bit toxic just a heads up but….) it has tons of resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:03 PM
1

It’s a complicated and personal thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:20 AM
4

When I was younger(up until about 27) I had never had an orgasam before and sex was boring. I just wanted it to be over with quickly and foreplay just made it last longer so I would tell guys to just not and be all about PiV. This could also be the issue for these girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:37 AM
27

It’s so funny I should go back and find the text but a few months ago I was literally texting my best friend and presenting this as my theory on homophobes. It was a great convo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:35 AM
10

I read a study not to long ago on what is common in long lasting and healthy relationships (pretty sure it was posted on here but I will try to search and edit and add it in). The biggest indicator between most healthy and unhealthy relationships was both parties knowing where they stood in the relationship and how the other felt about them being communicated often in words and actions. The more each person felt secure and understood their partners feelings toward them the healthier the relation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:01 AM
3

Thank you for letting me know I will edit my comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:14 PM
17

My apologies if I am incorrect here I just always thought Arab was a catch all for that region much like Hispanic. I will correct my comment if I am wrong! I did serve in the Middle East in the military so there is a lot of misconceptions (and racism) about that area from my time in that I am working towards correcting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:46 PM
18

No it’s not true if you read the article it goes in to the details (she was accusing him of copying one of her music videos) also talks about how she supported Donald Trump and has spouted lots of homophobia and racism in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:36 PM
33

She tweeted "do you understand that you are a sand n----- who emulates white boys' rendition of black male hood?" To Zayn (an Arab artist). Along with a few other pretty nasty things for no reason. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/music/2016/may/12/azealia-banks-suspended-twitter-racist-rant-zayn-malik
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:30 PM
-2

That’s only because they can’t get younger women due to lack of looks or money. There is a reason why first wives and second wives are a common trope among the wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 03:55 PM
40

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:42 PM
129

He started going to therapy a few years ago after his third divorce and I think is finally working though a lot of his childhood trauma. He had a really rough life growing up but did manage to get his GED and an associates degree at 35ish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:54 PM
49

Made a comment bellow. Actually am the daughter of a male prostitute and the few stories I heard from him about his time on the streets were truly heart breaking. I didn’t even know about it until I made a joke about becoming a stripper and he sat me down for a serious talk about the reality of sex work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:08 PM
314

I felt super weird about this when I saw this because my dad was a prostitute for gay men when he was 14-19 years old. His mom was a drug addict and it was the only thing he could do at the time to survive after she kicked him out. The few awful and heartbreaking stories he told me about this time is why I know sex work is not work no matter what gender you are. Men suck and will treat your horribly anytime they have power over you sexually and monetarily no matter what your gender is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:42 PM
2

I’m dating what I consider so far a HVM and all of the the points in this post. We actually had a conversation about this recently. I don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t add value to my life. I also don’t want to be with anyone of which I am unable to add value to their life. The ways value is added can differ from person to person. For him her is a list of the big ones from that conversation. -I was in nursing school and I dropped out three month before graduation due to COVID. He has a few …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 02:20 AM
17

I mean I wouldn’t think to ask someone about their kids, I would think that they would want to tell me about them. Kids should be a big part of your life, big enough at least that those you are close to or at least seriously dating should know about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:49 PM
29

Isn’t that more on your dad for lying than on your mom for not knowing though?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:32 PM
45

In my area it’s the opposite most of the female restrooms have stayed the same and all the male restrooms have been switched to unisex. I don’t hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:06 PM
52

I live in a VERY progressive gay orientated area. I think we have the second highest population of LGBTQIA+ in California after San Francisco. Most restaurants and stores have switched to unisex bathrooms but the difference here is also since it’s a high tourist area as well is that there is usually a unisex bathroom and a female only bathroom. I think this is the best way to keep it inclusive and safe for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:04 PM
19

“If the way I dress bothers you that has more to say about you than it does me”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:05 AM
3

Omg that is so good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:22 AM
20

This just gave me a nice thought. I’ve always wanted to come up with a counter analogy to the old lock story. “If you have a key that can open any lock that is a really awesome key. If you have a lock that can be opened by any key that’s worthless lock” In this story men being the key and women being the lock. Yes I heard this story from countless men and family members growing up. So new story. “If you have a fertile field and a farmer just begins throwing his seed every which way with out care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:29 PM
54

Am I the weird one here. This is 💯what I say about Valentine’s Day. I hate it it’s such a stupid holiday. I told my BF this when we got together that I just don’t do it. Though, with his usual (so far) HVM attitude he told me last night that he got me something for Valentine’s Day and not to be mad lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:55 AM
57

On the other hand having terrorist threats to the USA arrested is queen shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:43 PM
36

Yeah it’s for sure underweight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:39 AM
21

I told my now boyfriend that if we ever got engaged I would want to do counseling before moving in together so we could make sure this was a step we really wanted to take. He agreed immediately (great green flag) and has even brought it up when a few of our friend have asked if we are moving in together (no moving in until engagement or counseling). I think the difference here is that we aren’t doing it to work on problems we want to do it to make sure that are marriage will be great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:10 AM
7

That sub has been a savior for me and it’s actually some of the amazing women over there that pointed me here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:46 AM
14

So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:00 AM
25

Thank you! Same for me! I hope this makes your day just a bit better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:50 AM
45

The second I read “I wanted to feel important and valued,” he said. “And it worked.” As an excuse for his cheating I wanted to vomit. Jfc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:59 PM
45

I can’t even finish reading this because it is so unbelievably heart breaking. I can’t believe what some of these poor young girls have gone through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:08 PM
18

Dude, I need to be that ladies friend. She’s that girl you have coffee with and tells you what’s really wrong with you life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:11 AM
48

This is brilliant I’m going to have to track this down down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:12 PM
13

It was posted on a private sub so I don’t think so, but you never know. I sent her our info and she said she would check it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:35 AM
18

To think I was almost one of them at one point. Thank god he showed his true colors early enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:43 AM
41

It is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:03 AM
19

If I remember correctly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:42 AM
2

It’s not bad in my area. My only Jewish friend met husband on there. Not sure how HV he is I’m not that close to them but he is pretty cute:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:46 AM
3

Its a Jewish only dating app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:42 AM
3

I wish I could upvote this 100 times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:29 AM
1

I’m all for getting the orange out of office. Doesn’t make either of them suck less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:28 AM
22

I told my (seemingly HVM after a year of dating) about my rape after three months of dating and before we had sex. He held me while I told him about it and told me it was okay afterwards. I think it was one of the moments when I realized how great he was. His sister went through something similar so he had a lot of empathy for the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 06:11 AM
9

It popped up on my insta not sure where it is from sadly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:55 AM
14

Cheers! Thank satan for AOC!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:55 AM
22

It depresses me that my vote was between two rapists this year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:46 AM
32

The problem with only men in the military is that they will rape behind enemy lines with no repercussions. At least with women around we can try to stop that. Look at what happened with marines in japan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:40 AM
50

I was a woman in the military. The entire time I was in the Middle East I was more afraid of being in my barracks than out on a convoy. I would rather be shot at than deal with the constant sexual harassment I went through from married men. I was even raped by someone in my command and they tried to cover up even after the hospital said I was raped and the DNA test proved it was him. There is a cheers I do it’s a bit dirty but I hope you find it funny. I fucked to the east, I fucked to the west.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:31 AM
1

In a tree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:15 AM
1

That’s gross. Do they steal a lot of content from here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:08 PM
3

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:56 PM
24

You know what. Good question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:51 AM
5

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:36 AM
82

OLD most likely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:44 AM
197

For reals. Bro was just trying to get a free meal and ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:44 AM
15

Sadly no. They told him what he can do and in what time frame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:21 PM
12

Damn. Hope you are okay. They still aren’t letting anyone else in hospitals where I live it’s crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:05 AM
2

🙄 the syntax between rubbing on me and groping is so thin that I’m surprised you went for this as an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 06:50 PM
29

Hell, I don’t even want a daughter because I know how men are. I’m to scared to have kids because I don’t want a daughter to go through what I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 06:00 PM
5

Thanks for that reminder.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 09:26 AM
9

Cheers, and I’m happy to say that’s what I have now (a committed relationship with great sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 12:47 AM
5

This is so perfectly worded thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 11:35 PM
14

Him coming on to me is not in it’s self assault. Groping me while I was sleeping in a different bed is assault. Continuing to grope me after I said no stop please get out of my bed makes it assault. The fact that I was afraid of what he would do if I kept saying no because he got more and more aggressive with me makes this assault. Me sharing a room with someone is not consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 11:22 PM
1

No we didn’t have a close relationship but we did work together and had done many work related outings like the one we were at. It was the military so drinking was often involved. I was also way more trusting then. I also trusted the people I served with more than civilians at the time. He just offered to make my life easier so I didn’t have to get my car in the morning and sleep in the other bed. Not my brightest decision. Like I said in the first comment. I put myself in a situation where it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 11:19 PM
11

When I was younger, which is when this example took place, was in 2009. As I said in my post I do know better now. I agree with you that during this time (2020) and age in the midst of the "me to" movement it is no longer valid which is why I also stated that I would now consider this incident sexual assault instead of what I considered then. I say "nice guy" here because I had know him for about a year at this point and I did suspect him of being the creep he ended up being. I am not generalizi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 10:11 PM
10

I will add a comment here I put else where in this thread but, I didn’t want to have sex with the guy that pressured me in the first place. I am not treating them better. When I was younger I would allow myself to get in situations with men where saying no didn’t feel like an option (I blame them as much as myself). Women are raised to be people pleasers and often times it’s hard for us to say no in the first place. One scenario I can think of that happened to me. I was drunk and had a “nice guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 09:37 PM
10

When I was younger I would allow myself to get in situations with men where saying no didn’t feel like an option (I blame them as much as myself). Women are raised to be people pleasers and often times it’s hard for us to say no in the first place. One scenario I can think of that happened to me. I was drunk and had a “nice guy” I worked with checked me in to a hotel room offering to sleep in the other bed. After I had feel asleep I woke up to him in my bed rubbing me. I asked him to stop and ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 09:31 PM
25

This. I want to feel respected in a relationship. Any man that pressures me in to sex too soon isn’t a man I want to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 09:07 PM
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Not OP but, the post does have an air of I gave you xyz and this other guy gave you nothing he got sex and I didn’t. I can see the transactional nature of sex being emphasized in this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:53 PM
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Thanks for the response!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:47 PM
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Now a question I have for you. Mostly just curious. Up until my current long term partner. I was dating multiple men. 2-6 at any given time. I was honest about me dating other people and that I was keeping my options open (I was also vetting for a HVM) and it was okay for them to do the same. I also established that I would not be having sex with anyone until I was in a committed relationship. Would this be acceptable to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:36 PM
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As a FDS disciple. I’ll agree to a few points here. I agree that I would not want to be with a man that was doing the same thing. If we had been dating for a month and I found out he was having casual sex with another woman that would be then end of it for me block and delete. I, however, would not be angry with him for having the casual encounter because we had never established boundaries for our relationship. He is allowed to do that. I just won’t tolerate it. The other side of this since you…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:29 PM
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Right? How is Sandra oh a 3/10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:10 PM
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Haha! Glad you found it fascinating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:34 AM
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https://imgur.com/YlBqElb This is probably the best explanation of this. Not my opinion I got this from r/truerateme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:21 AM
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In before soy is a reference to a type of vegan milk that allegedly increases estrogen in men making men more sensitive and more like women. He is say I’m saying this before I become like those “sensitive” guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:38 AM
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Haha if you want me to explain anything I’d be happy to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:32 AM
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The c is a slang term for a man who’s wife sleeps with another man. S is a reference to a type of vegan milk that allegedly increases estrogen in men making men more sensitive and more like women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:31 AM
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The worst part is I understood all of it 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:24 AM
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I’m still evaluating but fairly certain he is a HVM. We met at work when I was still very in to my pick me ways. We had a one night stand (my choice not his). It was an amazing night and we really connected, but I was not in a place for a relationship. I was dealing with a break up from and abusive relationship and trauma from a rape. Two years later we reconnected. I saw him at a restaurant and gave him my number again and we have been going strong ever since. I have never met a man that has tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:56 AM
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Commenting so I can follow. I have been interested in prenuptials myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:04 PM
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Message me anytime :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:49 PM
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I used to lack all self confidence and photoshopped the hell out of my photos. Then I slowly learned how people could tell that I photoshopped my photos so I got better at hiding it. Which lead me to being able to tell when others photoshop. It was my New Years resolution this year to no longer post any photoshopped photos. I’ve stuck to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:20 PM
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If you zoom in you can see that he has no pores. Also he has to be past 30 and not a single wrinkle under his eyes. For men I always check the nose that’s where they tend to have the most pores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:09 PM
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Makes fun of women wearing makeup... Photoshops the hell out of his picture. Hunty, I can spot that blur tool from a mile away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:17 PM
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https://youtu.be/NWHedf01JEQ Link for the curious it’s an interesting watch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:21 PM
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Why bother wasting energy even responding. Just block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:47 AM
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I agree with this. I was recruited for a match making service through my Instagram. I had a few dates with different guys but nothing that really stuck. The service even planned the dates and we had some fun ones. I’m fairly attractive and I have a rare collection of hobbies (race car driving, medieval bow making, mead/beer making etc) so I think I was their go to for guys that had similar odd hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:02 PM
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Btw. Jade is a great person to follow on Twitter if you need some FDS ladies to follow. She is a lesbian that follows our philosophy on her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:54 AM
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I remember that it’s disgusting what cops/men get away with in this country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:01 AM
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The problem with that is the power dynamic. No woman can consent to sex if she is in an officer's custody. It puts her at a huge disadvantage. Edit: fixed spelling error
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:22 AM
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I usually have plans for the next date set as we are ending the first one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:08 AM
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It’s on Netflix I wanna say Indian matchmaking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:15 AM
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Here is the closest I could find. https://www.7forallmankind.com/satin-cowl-neck-cami-in-dark-green.html?gclid=CjwKCAjwgdX4BRB_EiwAg8O8HV2txdDBZk9kZzkgSIdk5ivstctjd68YyqSsli5KXSgsMpexkgeNchoC8hsQAvD_BwE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:00 PM
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Agree. This is a community of women trying to encourage each other to be better and to level up. We should not be bringing each other down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:48 PM
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Indian Incel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:44 PM
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