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This man really listed “perfectionist” while wearing a poorly fitted, wrinkly suit jacket that doesn’t match the shirt underneath, okay lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 05:24 PM
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Yeah none of this is actually true. Single, childfree women are the happiest group well into old age. Women are also way more less likely to remarry than men in old age due to, not wanting to deal with men anymore lmao Also we have got to stop lying to women about their fertility. The idea of fertility falling off a cliff isn't true until you're into your 40s. You have like an 8% less chance of getting pregnant when you're 35 vs. 25, and 5% lower than that once you reach 40. If you know you want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 01:36 AM
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Yeah I wasn’t implying that she shouldn’t take legal action, including reporting this woman to the bar. But the original lawyer used her nudes in court in an attempt to discredit her, which only happens to women. We have to stop allowing ourselves to be shamed in this way which starts with refusing to be embarrassed by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 01:38 AM
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While I don’t think nudes are a great idea, we have to stop feeling embarrassed about this kind of stuff. That’s what gives the patriarchy their power. The lawyers involved who intentionally tried to embarrass her for being sexual should be embarrassed for their behavior and the wife should act as such. “What a gross abuse of power for her to find those through her work, what an unethical thing to do”. Women are allowed to be sexual, I know we receive backlash for it so we need to be careful and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 10:45 PM
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Chris Rock himself cheated on his wife with multiple women, is a worse cheater than Jada. Men don’t hate cheaters, they hate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 01:48 PM
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You can legitimately get incurable STIs from 5 minutes of protected, uninspiring sex. Hard pass on equating that to money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 12:08 AM
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So I’m a genius, I have an IQ in the 98th percentile and I used to be in Mensa until I realized it was so closely tied to eugenics and yes this article tracks. Oddly enough, other smart people can usually clock how smart I am. People of average intelligence typically don’t realize it; these are usually men who are overestimating their own intelligence. It’s a fun litmus test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:46 AM
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Sounds like Molly isn’t going out of her way to say shit. These women are likely asking her and she’s telling them the truth. The absolute delusion of men lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 03:35 AM
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I’ll never stop saying this: men shit on trophy wives and “gold diggers” because they’re jealous of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 02:32 AM
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Men created a society and the standards for dating where they don’t look for a compatible partner and then screech that the divorce rate is high and mostly initiated by women. The same men marry women with no career prospects who become a SAHP and then whine that they have to pay alimony and child support. Oh look, the consequences of their own choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 09:44 PM
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This, something like 60% of millennial mothers are having sex too soon after birth because of the expectation from men and fear of losing their male partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:27 PM
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Here you go! https://www.manchester.ac.uk/discover/news/human-eggs-prefer-some-mens-sperm-over-others-research-shows/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:19 PM
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So the model we have of this is incorrect. It’s not the strongest swimmer who gets to the egg, the egg basically selects the sperm it likes the most. Even with sperm, we are the ones who do the selecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:11 PM
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Men you can’t trust get upset if you suggest wanting to protect yourself. Men who are trustworthy understand wanting to take reasonable precautions to protect yourself. I’ve never met a trustworthy man who expected me to comply with wonky shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:17 AM
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Right and that’s on female socialization. We’re taught to stay and work on things, to our own detriment. So by the time a woman leaves she often feels she has tried everything and the only sane thing left is to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:56 PM
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Women actually try harder to keep a marriage than men do but their bids for connection are ignored and that’s when they leave. Women will tell their husbands outright that they’re done and THEN the men want a chance to change, typically years after the woman has been trying to fix things. You don’t get unlimited chances in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:21 PM
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This. No other reason to speak in title case lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 06:29 AM
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The way I just cackled lmao “why won’t women date me? A person who thinks women are only valuable for their looks?” Women can tell when you don’t see us as fellow people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:55 PM
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Notice the comments about how she didn’t fuck a financially stable guy or pick a good father? The same ones who screech about women having too high standards about men they sleep with? Wild lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:03 PM
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It’s because men are socialized to be men by not being women, so the simple ones look down on female interests out of insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:31 PM
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This is also how I approach anal. You go first honey! Funny enough, I’ve never had any takers 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:16 PM
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Lmao a man took my hand into his on public transit and tried this. When he wouldn’t give my hand back, I twisted his arm so hard he yelped. That’s what that was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 09:27 PM
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You should meet male engineers. I have to turn my head when a lot of my colleagues are speaking. Before the pandemic, I’d have to do that foot forward trick so they couldn’t step into my space because I could smell their rotting teeth. And these are men who make 6 figures at least with good dental. I think they just don’t value caring for themselves and don’t take the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:28 PM
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Idk that I view a man suggesting that women are receiving endorsements?? From men? When they sleep with them? Like that’s a thing we want? as “murdering me” Lmao but go off. He did nothing to change my opinion. If you followed the thread you would see that it was me who changed someone’s mind 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 05:03 PM
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Ah yes it’s murder to bring up a stat unrelated to dating. Y’all are such simps for men over here it’s unreal lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 02:25 PM
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Not really the same thing. Look I’m gonna be just like OP: I answered the question and I’m not open to changing my view!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 01:36 PM
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Eh even if you weren’t, there are people who do. Purity culture for women leads to situations where women are stoned to death for not being chaste. I can’t recall any cultures where men are murdered for not being brave currently but plenty that still have honor killings.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 12:31 PM
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I don’t disagree with that at all. The tone of the sub concerns me occasionally but then I remember how few spaces exist that allow women to speak with other women in this way and I think the risk is worth it. It’s like anything else, I’m nervous about the nature of some of the porn subs on Reddit because I think that can be a slippery slope to hurting women but I also stay in my lane about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 08:08 AM
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Yeah I also didn’t address you other point and it really ties in here. FDS advocates for block and delete, disengaging with men who aren’t a fit or who throw red flags. But that doesn’t prevent a spin off with more sinister motives. I do want to remind you why FDS exists. It’s a pretty clear response to the redpill stuff. Look at this thread alone. OP told me men aren’t responsible for the future of women who they sleep with. If you’re arguing that men can treat women harshly for doing the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 08:01 AM
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Yeah I disagree lol there’s ton of evidence supporting male externalization of anger vs. female internalization. I mean look at the way men commit unalive compared to women. Look at rates of abuse in relationships, for women it’s mostly reactive abuse. Besides that FDS is a dating sub, there are threads reminding those who are fully not dating men that they’re not welcome to advocate for that. Plenty of us are also partnered with men. I am flattered that you think 250k women could personally und…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:38 AM
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When we can trace murders back to FDS like we can the incel subs, I’ll buy that argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:52 AM
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I mean yeah bud lol the point of the sub is very specific dating rules from a rad fem perspective. It’s not a debate sub or a sub welcoming diverse opinions. No one goes into the relationship subs arguing for relationship anarchy, you go to the poly subs for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:22 AM
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I’ve disagreed several times in there. What they don’t allow is disagreeing with their high level opinions and attempting to derail the sub with those opinions, they allow healthy civil debate on it though. I don’t agree with every thing, I just like it for the radical feminist space it is. Plenty of other members feel the same 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:15 AM
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I suppose I expected more from y’all lmao ignored my whole comment only to contradict yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:13 AM
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I am replying to a man no? Y’all post these with no intention to change your views. I’m sticking to FDS, even their craziest members are more open to debate lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:03 AM
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Calling women sluts in a derogatory way is treating them poorly lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 05:42 AM
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Who are men having casual sex with? Only other men? Because if not, you’re expecting women to sleep with men casually but also treat them poorly for doing so. It’s like expecting people to work at coffee shops but not wanting them to have a living wage. You’re expecting some people to suffer in a role you benefit from. Being brave is just about whether you hold or have developed that trait or not, it’s not creating imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 04:49 AM
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Right which is why I replied to OP who has a weird idea about people and casual sex lol I’ve never felt sad someone didn’t want to date me over my past, if anything it’s a good compatibility metric. I’d prefer a partner with sexual history vs. one without because I want someone who is confident and adventurous in bed. Also the Chad thing will always kill me lmao like I’ve talked with and slept with men who fit the bill and I never wanted more because those men tended to be less funny, less givin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:54 PM
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This really just comes back to personal preference. I don’t care if my partner has had casual sex, or a ONS, or a FWB, as long as they were kind and ethical with those people. If I connect with someone, have similar goals, and am attracted to them, I could care less about sexual history as long as they’ve been tested for STIs. But I recognize that others might place that higher, especially if they haven’t had any of those things. My issue is when people assume their standards are universal when …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:21 PM
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Well at least your view is consistent lol I mean it’s fine if you think this way and want to date others who think this way. I don’t lol and neither does my fiancé. I also love how I talked about a sexual past and you jumped to casual sex. Not everyone with a sexual past has had casual sex lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:07 PM
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So are both people objects here? Or does it cancel out? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:49 PM
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Do you think, women don’t enjoy sex lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:05 PM
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It’s either a bit or it’s a woman recording content and a man behind the keyboard pushing the content. I will believe nothing else lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:21 AM
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I absolutely convinced that’s a man lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:55 AM
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If someone didn’t want to be with me because of n count, I wouldn’t be sad about it because it shows we don’t have compatible views about humans. This weird idea that women with sexual pasts are torn up that men don’t want them instead of seeing that women don’t want partners who view them as objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:36 AM
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Not for nothing, women perform worse on coding tests because they’re not actually coding tests, they’re pressure tests. It’s well documented that women and anyone who is a minority in the field is going to do poorly on them. It’s also well documented that doing well on them is mostly random and says nothing about how well someone would do on the job. She also likely didn’t seem to code well in class because most classes require tons of work outside of class that is easy for those who come from w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:44 PM
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I just sent you a message, lmk if it went through!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:19 PM
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I think there are very specific circumstances where it makes sense. My partner gave me one right when I graduated college because I wasn’t ready for a proposal and he wanted to express his commitment to me. It was a 7k ring and he replaced it with an engagement ring once I got my career in a place where I was ready to start wedding planning. My promise ring is more expensive than a lot of engagement rings and was a request I made when we were discussing our future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:17 PM
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It’s likely trying to highlight she mentions only guys even though she also dates women. Ignoring the fact that every date I’ve ever been on with a woman was high effort by default. No woman has ever asked me to get coffee or go on a goddam walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 07:12 PM
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Are your DMs open? I’d prefer not to put this online where our loving fans can see it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:50 PM
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Also autoimmune issues! Can be triggered by and made much worse by pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:52 AM
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I do think the bar is in hell but he’s an internist which primarily deals with older patients (older than 50, past the time women need BC).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:21 AM
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Do not give out your phone number until you’re ready for your date to know your full name and personal information. I’m a programmer and I can get almost any piece of info I want if I have a phone number, plenty of men can do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:46 PM
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My therapist said that her male clients had a much harder time adapting to the new reality of the pandemic. Men are coddled so much by society that they simply cannot cope with needing to accept a less than optimal situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:36 PM
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My neighbor was raped two weeks ago by a man who broke into her car and hid in the backseat. It’s never safe being a woman in a city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:30 PM
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I haven’t read all the comments but my gut instinct is: yes working sucks, especially under capitalism, but you know what sucks more? No raises or ability to leave for better pay and more appreciation. Being a stay at home wife is a gamble, maybe you picked a good partner who will always treat you well but if you don’t? Best of luck trying to survive with no marketable skills in a place that doesn’t value care work at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:42 PM
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Yes. I’ve taught myself finance topics to be able to properly handle my 401k and own finances and my partner has a business degree. I consistently get better returns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:00 PM
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Zendaya actually put it into her contract that she refuses to do nudity. It’s powerful and badass and I hope it becomes more common. There’s absolutely nothing a nude scene adds to the plot of a show or movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:31 PM
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Ayo this is all very interesting, thank you for sharing! I don’t think women are less capable of war (they’re typically better strategists), I was more suggesting that women didn’t contribute to the war in the last few centuries, it was typically men and mostly because women were purposely kept out of decision making in a number of ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:09 PM
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Ah yes because female rulers had the same power as male rulers and also had female advisors, oh wait!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:44 PM
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You ever looked at the rates of women who died in labor vs. the men who died in war because, it’s pretty close. And war was never needed to continue humanity. Men made shit hard for themselves here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:13 PM
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This is great but be careful sharing directly from TikTok. We can see your username there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:04 PM
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“Why do we need a soap dispenser in the middle of a pandemic?? A luxury” lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 04:29 AM
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Yes I also did this math. Man moved in with essentially nothing and expected to contribute, nothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 04:22 AM
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No no honey I’m saying we don’t automatically DNA test every single person which is what OP is suggesting with an automatic DNA test at birth. The countries that don’t allow DNA testing allow it with a court order for the most part. No one is against establishing proper paternity, and honestly we both know this isn’t about paternity, it’s about this false notion that a ton of men are raising other peoples kid which, every study I’ve ever seen says it’s a tiny percentage. OP is suggesting we burd…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:45 PM
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I’m saying it’s not a good use of the governments time or resources when most countries already allow named and suspected fathers to either run a DNA test themself or have one court ordered. If you live in a country that doesn’t, you’re free to move! Actually love that you brought up murder because it’s the same thing. A small number of people are murderers so we don’t force the entirety of people to undergo DNA testing so we can find them ASAP to prevent other murder. Great point thanks for bri…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:31 PM
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Okay again: let’s logic this out big brain. So we test every baby at birth, a tiny number are false, we’ve now wasted a ton of tax payer money (or forced citizens to have a test that even OP suggests wouldn’t be needed 90% of the time), what’s next? Would the government just be like “okay great now we have this child with one parent who can claim government benefits likely?” No, they’d force men to store THEIR DNA in a database to that they could pin the cost on someone. Getting the government i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:22 PM
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To summarize: I asked what right is missing, you said a right to be automatically put on the certificate, I said that happens when married and now you’re saying married women cheat? What right is missing? A married man named father has full custody and the right to test his child. You’re just being emotional, maybe to take a nice bubble bath to calm down?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:04 PM
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Y’all say you are logical and yet here you are, being emotional lol married fathers are automatically assumed to be the father. Unmarried fathers aren’t because biology but suspected bio fathers can petition for a test and to be placed on the birth certificate. Have you considered only sleeping with your wife or only sleeping with women who would name you on the certificate? This is a nonissue if you pick who you impregnate better!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:01 PM
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Oh what right don’t men have in this situation? Because you already have the right to get a paternity test in most countries if you want. You have the right to have a court order a test for child support. What right are y’all lacking here exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:58 PM
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It does apply to both genders! I know several women who pay alimony to their former male spouses.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:29 AM
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Paternity tests are already a part of child support that can be requested.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:36 PM
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I think the pandemic really blew the door open on inequality. Society has largely been pushing this narrative that women are equal now (thanks libfem!) and then the pandemic exposed that for the absolute lie that it was. There are fewer women in the workforce right now in 2022 than there were in 1987. Women have noticed that society functions based on our unpaid labor and sacrifice so now we’re collectively waking up to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:16 PM
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We do but either way, you’re essentially involving the government in a non-issue. Men are free to get DNA tests without the mother’s consent already. If you’re trying to prevent hard feelings, only procreate with women who would agree with you on the test. Problem solved!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:03 PM
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Really curious about this: do you view alimony as fair in this case? Going out of your way to find a partner who doesn’t have her own income to depend on yours, does it make sense to support that person until she finds another source of support? Or does the risk she take in not entering into a career not matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:54 PM
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laughs in United states no that’ll be easily 1-2k per baby born.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:45 PM
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So you support the government getting involved in personal matters? Who pays for the test?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:28 PM
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This is also because the common symptoms of heart attack for women are different than men. Arm pain can be a first sign of heart attack for women and we should all be aware of that! Edited to add: also nausea, back or jaw pain, and shortness of breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:04 PM
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This is also why men will sabotage education. Whether it’s outright stop you from using family funds to go (even tho it benefits the entire family) or invent fights the night before your big exam. Educated women have options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 08:10 PM
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I say let him go and then file for divorce once he’s gone. He left the country, and the family home. Neither look good for a divorce case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 07:17 PM
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This has to be written by a man because I refuse to believe an adult woman would say her face has a rash because it came in contact with his genitals. There’s no healthy reason for that to be so, only an unwashed scrote would think that’s a normal thing that happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:25 PM
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The bit about how female doctors mean better outcomes for all patients is why I prefer to have female doctors. We all know that women in male dominated fields often have to work twice as hard as the men to be considered just as good (if that happens at all) and it means women are better doctors because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 11:05 PM
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That’s very sweet of you, I really appreciate it. I didn’t assume any ill intent, it just was a shitty time when that started happening on Twitter and it reminded me of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:50 PM
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I’m Jewish so it did throw me off/ make me uncomfortable to see it. It’s essentially letting someone know that others could feel upset even if it wasn’t the intention. I’ve stopped using words and hand signals that I thought were fine but were being used by hate groups when someone told me their context. Even if it’s a stretch, having the information is important. Having someone go on a pissy rant when you’re trying to add context to help others is LV behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:37 PM
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Okay so we disagree I guess. I try to exist in the world in a way that doesn’t harm others by accident but I see that you don’t. Have a nice day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:42 PM
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If I had used something that was also being used by n@zis, I’d want someone to point it out to me politely like this. The original commenter can ignore it if she doesn’t think it’s relevant. There are Jewish women on this sub, speaking up politely to try to make them more comfortable is HV behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:43 PM
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I feel similarly about being a stay at home wife. It’s absolutely a valuable position in a relationship and helps the working partner move up faster in their career but it feels like building a life on shifting sands. Even if you have a good partner, what happens if they die and you haven’t worked in 20 years? What if you also have kids? I know people get insurance payouts but that money runs out. Look at how expensive 4 years of college is right now, how do you afford that without a solid incom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:23 PM
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Huh seems like you know that the attacker is likely to be a man, it’s almost like men created a society where they’re the aggressors and then also don’t want to admit that without men, women wouldn’t need anyone to “save them” lmaooo the logical sex
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 01:08 AM
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Don’t people with pets have better immune systems because of all the tiny exposures we have to more germs? I thought men were supposed to be more logical lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:55 PM
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Notice how he describes what she does for him and how beautiful she is? Anything about her personality? Who she is? Nope just the benefits he gets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:04 PM
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I didn’t say women talk more but that they’re conveying more information when they talk. Men and women typically talk a similar amount but women’s voices are weighted as talking more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:25 PM
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Other subreddits: casually joke about murdering women FDS: gives tips to avoid men who casually joke about murdering women and men who actually murder women The rest of Reddit: WHY IS FDS SO TOXIC???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:29 PM
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I know it’s a (horrible) joke but women evolved to be more communicative because we were traditionally gatherers which included information like what plants are good for a snake bite and which man might murder you. There’s a great piece on the power of gossip in the “Believe Me” anthology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:01 PM
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Yes! I keep hearing men ask why we can’t go back 50-100 years and? Why not more? Why not back to the time when women were encouraged to sleep with all types of impressive men because they thought the baby received all the blessings of each one. Why do they randomly get to hold up one narrow part of history that justifies their bullshit? The worst part is that they actually believe what they’re saying is somehow logical and smart and not just self serving BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:38 PM
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Exactly this. It’s actually biologically better for women to have multiple sexual partners so that many men could be the father of her offspring and provide that offspring tons of support but I don’t hear any men wanting to have that conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:41 PM
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My partner and I are both gamers and he has a friend who plays a game that lasts hours and hours. One time he made a comment about how he turned him down again to play (I didn’t know he’d ever asked or that my partner had interest) and he mentioned that he’s just got too many things to do with me and for work to have time for that. It wasn’t manipulative or problematic, he just simply decided that wasn’t a good use of his or our time. Good partners prioritize you and your partnership (and other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:34 PM
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I regret to inform you that it’s absolutely true. It’s a big reason I don’t share drinks with people, sharing saliva is a very quick way to end up with a cavity unless the other person has great oral health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:14 PM
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Also don’t kiss people with active cavities!! The bacteria that causes them is contagious and you can actually get cavities from kissing someone with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:58 PM
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I, too, would love to know when it ends. I’m in my mid 30s and was bothered by 5 separate men during a quick trip to the post office the other day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:58 PM
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Also consider that you’re not totally protected if you live in a blue state and this happens. If we restrict the amount of states down to very few, it’s going to be harder and harder to get an appointment when you need it vs. having to stay pregnant for longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:10 AM
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It’s also funny to me that size preference for women is totally different than men having size preferences about women’s bodies because dick size is incredibly important to enjoying sex and getting off. Our vaginas are made such that a certain shape and size will feel best for us, it’s not just a random thing, it’s about actually being pleasured.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:32 PM
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This is a thing I cannot understand. If you’re exclusively dating, you’re in a relationship. Why are men so broken that they think just not calling it what it is will make it better for them? I’ve noticed this trend a lot and it’s the absolute dumbest shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:58 PM
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Yes this is very important! Block them or unplug them, don’t just turn them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 01:09 AM
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I had a college professor who had murdered his first wife. We all held our breath when he’d bring his little boy to class. He was easily in his late 50s/ early 60s with a young new wife. We always wondered if she knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 04:12 PM
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I say this whenever this topic comes up (which is often because so many men are straight up predators) but get cameras in your home and inform all workers that they’re being recorded. Don’t tell them where they are. If you have a dog, don’t let them associate with workers in your home so that they remain strangers to them so the dog can alert you if they return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 02:37 PM
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The helping got me too. So in his mind, if he became the stay at home parent, he’d be “helping” to raise a child? He wouldn’t just be raising a child. It’s always seen as helping with these types. That’s why women stop wanting them, who wants to be working full time and STILL considered the default parent. Talk about a mood killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:56 PM
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Please this is my favorite type of comment to see lmao I just love seeing men rip on FDS and say clearly untrue things or see them totally miss the point of posts and see other men correct them for it. Like no, we aren’t all fat, ugly, old, whatever lie they tell themselves to dismiss the very real movement this sub has created to inspire women to ask for more than the absolute bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:19 PM
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Thinking about all the men who say they want natural women and then point to women who are still wearing makeup but just less lmao they have no idea what they actually want, just want a reason to belittle women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:17 PM
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Absolutely. Society coddles men and tells them they’re perfect just how they are while women are told from birth that they must put their needs last and spend billions on beauty products. The same men who throw fits about paying for the first date also think beauty standards are optional for women, like we don’t lose out on jobs, promotions, and other opportunities. I’m starting to think they’re just too stupid to understand the complexities of it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:28 AM
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I saw a dude on Reddit once say that FDS is abusive towards him because we encourage standards he can’t meet. If you can’t afford $20-30 for someone’s meal, you shouldn’t be dating. Besides, there are PLENTY of pickmes who would pay for the entire first date, but weirdly men don’t seem interested in them? Huh it’s almost like, the thing men want is women to settle for less to stroke their egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 04:58 AM
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I make high six figures and I still don’t have Hulu premium or that many streaming services lmaooo maybe if he had fewer distractions he’d actually wash a damn dish. Meanwhile, the rest of Reddit thinks it’s abusive to expect a man earning more money, not even all the money, to do any housework. Edited to add: also if she’s the only one working, makeup is essential for women to be considered professional, there are plenty of studies proving that. It’s shitty and unfair but it’s not unnecessary f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:54 AM
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What’s really funny about astrology is that millionaires act like it doesn’t matter but billionaires typically will pay attention to it. It’s foolish to think we know everything about the universe and how it works and the extremely wealthy not only understand that but invest in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 06:57 PM
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NPR ran a story mentioning a security guard believed he was spiked and was revived with Narcan. Not a confirmed spiking (because it’s hard to prove with tiny needles)but the medical person said he had marks consistent with it. They’re wondering if a spiking caused the crush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:31 AM
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Something like 70% of the top 1% of income earners have a stay at home spouse because it’s efficient as hell to have one partner prioritize their career while the other manages the home. It’s risky for the stay at home partner because we don’t value care work in our society but the rich know that it’s extremely beneficial to building wealth. Broke men don’t understand having a stay at home spouse because they’re too busy being crabs in a bucket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:36 PM
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I think this happens with men and the mother of their children as well. I’ve seen a lot of men marry women they do not like and do not respect because she got pregnant. It’s extremely common among well off men. Men on Reddit will talk themselves blue about how they should have the right to abandon their children but men of actual status will marry women just to not have children out of wedlock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 10:53 PM
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Hi yes I do think that's a great point and I appreciate you saying it! Part of our discussions around having kids include hiring a night nurse/nanny for the first 3-6 months and also a nanny, potentially live-in, because we're both extremely high earners. We're also discussing moving closer to family, which he was a little resistant to before but is absolutely on board with after the baby animal and seeing how much work is involved (and anticipating it to be much, much worse with an actual infan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:00 PM
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This is absolutely it. I’ve been on the fence about kids and I got a baby animal recently. Watching my fiancé take care of our little creature in such a committed and meaningful way has pushed me deeply into “I think I want kids with this man” territory. He’s so sweet and involved and he’s not even 100% his yet since we are moving in together next year. He’s been going out of his way to help me with chores at my place so my burden is lighter, I’m talking has done all my laundry since July with n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:17 PM
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It’s wild to me how often this sub is criticized when I’ve never seen any of us advocating for violence or harming men. I’ve seen men say in other subs that women don’t deserve rights and that rape is justified. And yet, here we are again, seeing more examples of heinous shit a large majority of men say and still headass men will be like “but FDS is just as bad”. I simply cannot imagine being that inept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 06:30 PM
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I owned a ball python for a long time and don’t understand live feeding. It’s dangerous, the frozen mice were checked for bacteria and health issues where the feeder mice are, not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:25 AM
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It doesn’t work with addicts or abusers!! Never go to therapy with an abusive man, never ask an abusive man to get therapy, just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:14 PM
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I’ve never seen a man who makes 100k+ worry about gold diggers lmao never. It’s always men with no gold to dig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:05 PM
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Yep! Those women are also in for a world of hurt if they don’t submit to his demands because we live in a patriarchy. A patriarchy devalues care tasks, so women who pursue them are in a very vulnerable position if they decide to leave. Even if the woman has a job, if you have a male partner who refuses to pull his weight with the kids and in the home, he is stealing money from your pockets as you cut back on hours and dedicating time to your career. MRAs screech about how that’s their choice but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:17 PM
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I want women to realize that if a man refuses to step up for you and work towards real equity in your relationship, the next woman isn’t getting a prize. He’s not going to make any woman happy, even if she lies to herself that she is, because men don’t actually want women who are pushovers. Show me a man with a stay-at-home bang maid and you’ll see a man who resents his partner and is either already cheating or planning to with a more interesting woman. I’ve spent my whole life dodging men with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:44 PM
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Right and he mentioned how much less she makes, gee I fucking wonder why she makes so much less than you, surely it’s not because you shirk your parenting duties and leave her with all the responsibility and burden.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 01:04 AM
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The way he resents the time he’s had to take off work in order to bond with his child and work on his marriage is disgusting. Men aren’t entitled to a family, plenty don’t deserve one. He should show the post to his wife so she can leave him and find a partner who considers someone other than himself. “I feel like a paycheck” okay because you literally seem to contribute nothing but a paycheck, no empathy and certainly no emotional support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:25 PM
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Once a dude hit me with a “can you Venmo me for your drinks?” the next day because I didn’t go home with him. I added a few bucks and wrote “a few extra to never speak to me again” to really make the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 04:42 PM
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Is he a car lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:40 PM
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Once I pulled a knife on a man who entered my apartment with a broom and tried to continue to the second floor. He told me he was there to clean and I told him I wasn’t aware of anyone coming. He said the property manager sent him and he was going to do his job even though I was asking him again and again to leave my home. I finally pulled a knife and he RAN from my apartment. Turns out he was hired to clean the front steps and didn’t understand not to enter our apartment because my dumbass room…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:04 PM
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If I had to guess, something about not knowing both sides of the story about her spending and maybe him need to feel like the man because I’ve been analyzing scrote logic and it’s basically just backflips to give the man the benefit of the doubt in all situations and vilify the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:47 PM
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This. Ivermectin is being linked to male infertility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:45 PM
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Kids they neglect too, like those children will want nothing to do with him once they’re grown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:37 PM
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How sad. Anyway what are y’all having for lunch today?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:33 PM
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“A mall” imagine doing the least and still somehow finding a way to do even less lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:23 AM
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This is one of the best I've seen! https://scroll.in/article/989275/ancient-men-were-hunters-and-women-were-gatherers-right-wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:39 AM
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Where men unsuccessfully hunted for meat lmao they’ve discovered that women supplied like 90% of the food by gathering vs. the 10% men provided by hunting. Men haven’t been shit for most of history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:24 PM
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Your last line is actually incredibly healthy psychologically. My therapist often stops me and says: being upset when men are terrible is just disturbing your peace, start expecting them to be terrible because they often are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:18 PM
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Saw a woman on here call it garden gnome energy and I have been laughing since I read that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:29 PM
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They never want to talk about how this is because of patriarchal beauty standards lmao like women are still low key expected to wear heels in a lot of formal settings, wanting a partner who is a bit taller because of this is just an adaptation. Those same beauty standards shame women for being bigger than their male partners. But alas, it’s much easier to stomp their feet and cry misandry lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:24 PM
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Yep. Also the fact that women face a steep penalty in their careers for being mothers while men get a huge career bump. I’d be all in on kids if I were a man. I often joke that I’d love to be a father but I’m not so sure about being a mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 04:21 PM
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It’s also incredibly powerful to not center men in your life. I just announced my engagement and tons of people were shocked because they didn’t realize I was seeing anyone. Posting him and talking about him isn’t my priority, I’m my priority. He’s great and I love him but he’s not my entire world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:39 PM
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This. And with covid in the mix, places that have stricter gun laws often have stricter covid laws and higher vaccine rates. That being said, other forms of self-defense (tasers, pepper spray) seem to be legal in most places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 11:35 PM
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She’s always been mocked for that lmao the Musk stuff is what she’s actively trying to defend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:15 AM
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Essentially the comment section of every video she makes is just people dunking on her for being against capitalism and yet, is with a man who actively contribites to how bad it is. It’s just her desperately defending him. It just seems so sad. Edited to add: she also blurs the face of her baby saying he’s too young for social media while Musk censors nothing. It’s just a whole mess. He clearly doesn’t respect her at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:07 PM
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Grimes is being straight up bullied on TikTok for their relationship, I wonder if this is an attempt to make that better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:37 PM
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Men really want us to put our personal safety aside for their feelings lmao absolutely not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:12 PM
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Absolutely. We just had another post about abusers and intentions. Even if his intentions were good (they clearly were not), his actions and their impact are what counts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:18 PM
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Texas has entered the chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:07 PM
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Here I was thinking about how embarrassing it is for one person to say “I do” while the other says “I will” lmao it gets so much worse apparently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:05 PM
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Yep. She should report him to his commanding officer and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:48 AM
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Thank you I couldn’t place what about him was creeping me the hell out lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:25 PM
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Yep the study basically says that women don’t have the social or economic power to abuse their male partners, abuse relies on a power structure that women simply cannot tap into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:24 PM
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There’s a good study that essentially says women primarily commit reactive abuse. Like 97% of cases where the woman is “abusive” is in response to abuse from a male partner. If a man ever says his ex abused him you should be extremely suspicious of him and vet even harder. Edited to add this: https://opdv.ny.gov/professionals/abusers/genderandipv.html You can find a lot of studies linked in the footnotes. Also to the men fighting like hell to leave comments that are deleted: please seek therapy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:44 PM
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Or like the dudes who made those period gloves, to handle our periods, like that’s a real thing anyone needs. If anyone is ever feeling not confident, remember that a group of men presented a pink medical glove on Shark Tank lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 12:43 AM
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A good lawyer can find all the money he gave her and get some of that back in the settlement. Most courts look poorly on spending marital assets in this way and can order it paid back to the spouse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:37 PM
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$900 a month lmaooo you know it’s bad out there when they’re charging you to be their sex slave. I remember posts where you got free housing. 50/50 got hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:35 AM
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Yeah I don’t agree that the lower earner or the spouse that works less should do more housework. Both people live in the home. It’s a personal choice to work more hours and women are pushed into lower paying jobs (and job pay goes down when more women start doing a profession). It’s a cop-out. If someone wants to work 80 hours they can hire a damn maid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:53 PM
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Yeah that’s basically a huge part of male privilege: the world is made for men and women suffer on both large and small scales just for being women. A lot of men are truly too stupid to grasp how deep this shit goes and how easy it is for them when the world was made for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:22 PM
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I do! https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/feb/23/truth-world-built-for-men-car-crashes Car manufacturers are only required to test with male crash dummies. The vaccines gave women more reactions because the standard dose is based on the male body size. Same with most medications. The world is designed for men and based on the male body. It’s everything from office temperatures being set for the average male body temp and stairs being sized for the male gait. Women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:09 PM
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Ah yes, his partner is at much greater risk of dying in a car accident or having issues with medical care because everything is safety tested on men and smaller women suffer much more because of it. But it’s okay!! Because he feels better about his own insecurities!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:48 PM
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Also much higher rates of miscarriage. There’s a reason sperm banks have strict cutoffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 08:19 PM
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Period cramps can be as painful as a heart attack lmao there’s research proving that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:16 PM
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Heard a rough story about a woman who had a medical abortion that didn’t take and now she’s outside of the window for an abortion. So she likely won’t give birth to a health baby but is forced to continue the pregnancy. It’s not about life, it’s about punishing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:49 PM
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Ah so basically there was a lot of drama around the shooting of the video for Baby Boy and Sean Paul said on a Jamaican radio show that it was because Jay Z didn’t want them to be close. He’s since retracted that claim but several years later and they filmed their parts of the video separately. It was also before Beyoncé and Jay Z were married and the way she talks about how she wasn’t in a rush to get married sounds like he was pressuring her. So it’s not crazy to assume he didn’t want any “com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 12:38 AM
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Still thinking about a MGTOW who told me, not joking, he had icky thoughts in his head about women with a sexual past. I’m like, those are called intrusive thoughts and you need therapy lmao they’re all so underdeveloped
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 11:16 PM
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The entire world owed her an apology. Letting her marry R Kelly at like 14. Absolutely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:07 PM
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I wish I could find the specific interview but there are clues all over with red flags. Their age gap (started dating when she was 19 with a 10 year gap) as well as how controlling he was in the Sean Paul situation. That plus the cheating and way Solange attacked him also says a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:50 PM
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Their whole relationship is questionable as hell. He’s essentially admitted he preferred how young and naive she was when they got together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:40 PM
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Did no one tell them that being emotional is no way to win a debate 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:56 PM
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Every single debate I’ve ever had with a man on Reddit turned into them using insults and being rude just for being challenged. Men are weak because they’ve been told they have authority over women forever and so they don’t know how to hold their own when challenged, they simply expect women to bow to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:21 PM
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Never overfunction for an adult man who is refusing to sort himself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:36 PM
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It was Iceland! https://jacobinmag.com/2019/10/iceland-redstockings-womens-strike-feminism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:33 PM
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You’ve commented several times: traditionalism for traditionalism but you’re not traditional yet claim to only want to commit to a traditional woman. The math isn’t mathing so have a great evening!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:17 AM
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But it’s not simple lmao it’s wonky as fuck. Why would you predicate commitment on a value you don’t meet yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:13 AM
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So if there’s no benefit to staying chaste, why would a woman do it? Why would you want a woman who is doing something for what you say has no benefit? The math still isn’t mathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:10 AM
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So again, why would a woman stay chaste if men like you who want a chaste woman isn’t chaste himself? What’s the benefit?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:08 AM
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You’ve stated in the comments that you’re into sexual novelty and sleeping around because they’re aren’t any chaste women on offer? The math here is not mathing. Why would a chaste woman want a man who sleeps around? You can’t offer traditionalism when you aren’t traditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:05 AM
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One of the most alarming things about the Taliban takeover is how much they’re putting into their image, including on social media and trying to win over younger generations. It’s terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:35 PM
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Also a good point, thanks for catching that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:00 PM
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It’s often not about assets but cost of a fault divorce, they’re much more expensive and leave a mark socially. And infidelity can also void many prenups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:38 PM
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She has proof of infidelity, she should take all his shit in a divorce. Fuck these cretins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:27 PM
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I had a super creepy encounter at the DMV a few years ago. The guy had incel vibes and seemed extremely hostile. He put one of my papers in another spot, tried to seem casual about it, but it had all my info: address, number, social security. When we were done I asked for it back. He seemed furious but handed it over. I still think about what would have happened if I hadn’t noticed. Stay vigilant, plenty of men want to hurt us just for existing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:01 PM
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I’ll say it every time it comes up: it’s risky to make a baby with a man over 35. The risk of miscarriage and DNA fragmentation both increase. Lots of sperm banks have cutoffs as early as 30 and the majority by 35. Society is lying to these men about their lack of biological clock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:03 PM
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I actually yelled at that part. Women are objects to so many men. There was a study that monitored brain activity and a lot of men lit up in the same areas of the brain as they do with like lamps etc. when they viewed women vs. the area for humans when they saw men. It’s just not a few dudes, it’s most of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:36 PM
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I make a point not to laugh at bad jokes, especially with male coworkers, and have found that they will actually apologize if the joke is rude/sexist/generally unfunny if I just give them a dead stare. It's, perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:28 PM
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There's a study that shows that when women want a funny partner they mean someone who can make them laugh. When men say they want a funny partner they mean someone who will laugh at their jokes. It was enlightening as hell. Even with humor most men are egocentric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:31 PM
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I find it interesting that men parrot this shit but also want women with few sexual partners. Tell me how women are supposed to achieve both of these? Oh yeah, by settling for the first man who shows interest no matter if he’s a good match or not. It’s a win/win for men and a total loss for us. Date around, don’t sleep with anyone until you’re sure there’s compatibility otherwise, and don’t let men who set these double standards trick you into anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 12:48 PM
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I knew a few of those men in my 20s and I’ve gotta say: their female partners always seemed not that into them. A lot of the women seemed frankly relieved to have their sex pest partners bothering other women. Most of them eventually left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:41 AM
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It’s ironic that all of Reddit says we act like men are terrible when the rest of society treats men like they’re untrained dogs. This is disgraceful, I’m sorry a medical professional said that to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:12 PM
12

Garden gnome energy 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:12 AM
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I think part of the reason men do this is because it creates dependency. If he helped her or split things more fairly (based on income) or just, stepped up and provided for her (because we all know who’s doing the domestic and emotional labor) then she’d be able to save up enough to leave him when he treats her terribly. Men absolutely know what they’re doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 12:18 AM
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This made me legit cackle lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:28 PM
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You know what I did when I got my own apartment and wanted to make it more homey and inviting? I googled it. Women aren’t born with an innate ability to do this shit, we just put in the effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:50 PM
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Yeah I’m being way too generous assuming it was unintentional. You have to be totally inept not to know about the safety risks women face when dating, men like this are likely trying to use your inhibition or fear to their advantage. Picking a reasonable, proper, safe date isn’t hard unless your goal isn’t honorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:35 AM
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Men: we struggle on dating apps :( :( :( Also men: I cannot take a single hint or figure out empathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:09 AM
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Your response indicated a safety concern and he then suggested walking alone in nature high up on a mountain? I cannot with these men lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:24 AM
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Super likely he was making up cheating with you as a coercion tactic. I’ve definitely seen that before in the wild. Some men truly have no conscience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:33 AM
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This is usually when female is used as a noun and not an adjective like it was here (and in our name)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:26 PM
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This. I rarely shave my armpits because the hair serves a purpose. I trim because the length can get uncomfortable but removing hair entirely makes me sweat more and smell worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:56 PM
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Yeah you’re asking the same questions I had, what about insurance? College financing? They look at parents income and assets, my college recommended parents delay retirement if possible so that their kids weren’t totally fucked when it came time to apply for any type of financial assistance, which his retirement assets will bar them from receiving. Colleges are literally like “sorry your dad is a stingy asshole but we’re giving the help to a kid whose dad actually gives a shit about them”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:31 PM
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He’s raping her. She should find out what type of state she’s in because infidelity is a great way to end up in a power position during a divorce. She should get evidence of his cheating and file for divorce. A lot of the time these threats are trash and their bluff should be called (if it’s safe to do so).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:05 PM
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Whole thing is a dumpster fire but what’s sticking out to me is the fact he knowingly dated a student and expects her to handle all domestic duties. I dunno who needs to hear this but that’s a fucking trap. Never let a man trick you into being a maid. If you’re a student then that’s your job. If you both work full time but he makes more? He should still be cleaning and cooking and contributing. I’m tired of women becoming domestic slaves to these ain’t shit men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 08:04 PM
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Yep! My job also allows a decent amount of time off for the loss of a spouse, nothing for the loss of a boyfriend or fiancé. If he had retirement or a pension? Also no way she’s accessing that. If he had a pension, his mother won’t even receive that, the money is gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:29 PM
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A lot of hospitals wouldn’t have even let her in to see him because legally she’s no closer to him than a stranger. Marriage is so much more than a piece of paper. If he has life insurance, his mother will be receiving that. Do you want to have children with a man and then fight his mother for money once he’s dead? A whole nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:18 PM
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Or a much bigger dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:50 PM
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Most people need therapy. I dunno why everyone acts like it’s an insult to suggest getting your psychological shit together so you don’t unnecessarily harm others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 04:34 PM
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This is a really important point. Often doctors will prescribe BC to suppress symptoms instead of figuring out what causes them. A lot of women end up unable to have kids because they had fertility issues masked by BC and didn’t realize until they stopped using it to try to conceive. You should have monthly periods and they shouldn’t be crazy painful, if you’re not, there’s an underlying cause that can be dangerous to your fertility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:52 PM
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I agree with this. People talk about BC like it’s a given. I faced a lot of pushback from potential partners about my refusal to use most forms because it doesn’t work for my health. It changes who you’re attracted to and who you attract. Not to mention the cost. Also semen can severely impact your natural PH, so not using condoms carries other risks outside of pregnancy and STI concerns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:42 PM
8

He went through her purse to see if she had a self defense weapon, this is transparent to me. If you carry one, try to conceal it so it’s not used against you. Either in your pocket or hidden on your person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:46 PM
10

Absolutely. I stopped seeing a guy once because he had adopted an older dog and then immediately pawned it off on his parents because it was “more work than he was expecting”. Nothing is a bigger turnoff to me than a man who is selfish and shortsighted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:40 PM
21

100%. They often say over the wall is 25, which is also when our brains are fully developed and capable of long-term and critical thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:51 PM
10

Ohio has been fucked for years, I wouldn’t recommend women move there or live there. Same with Texas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:54 PM
3

I respectfully disagree. I’m not interested in convincing you of my view and arguing here is discouraged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:02 PM
8

I mean, yes lmao do you not think animals experience socialization? I’m not saying nature doesn’t play a role but I don’t accept that the patriarchy isn’t a huge cause of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:55 PM
12

It’s a matter of socialization and entitlement. If you grow up seeing mostly men holding power and being socialized to expect the world, you’re way more likely to externalize that rage and anger when you don’t get what you expected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:49 PM
168

Yep my current partner said, “can you send me a picture so I know exactly the right kind to get?” And then saved the picture so he can always get the right kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:43 PM
25

Yeah exactly! Men are, and have almost always been, the oppressive sex class. Women responding to that is self-preservation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:44 PM
22

You’re right, he’s showing most of the classic signs of fetal alcohol syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:18 PM
73

This is why I say misandry isn’t real. Women do not hold social or political power as a sex group to be able to commit this type of crime, it simply does not and will not happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:56 PM
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The rate is 90% for college educated women, which further proves that it’s not some scam to steal money from men: it’s because women benefit way less than men in a marriage and they will leave when it’s not meeting their needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:07 PM
6

This is one of the best things I learned here. It costs your energy and risks your safety. Blocking and deleting or slipping away are better for your mental and physical health. Also, if you tell men how they’re fucking up, they learn how to conceal their bad behavior to trick other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:41 PM
5

If you read my comment below, I don’t tell women to back down but I don’t engage in corporate recruiting efforts at my FAANG company to draw them into the field because it’s not done genuinely and lack of interest in the field isn’t the problem. Women are interested in tech but we cannot retain the majority of them past mid level, which again because you didn’t read, is where I spend my time. And no, I wouldn’t encourage anyone to be a cop because 1) cops have to be stupid and below a certain in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:59 PM
23

I work in tech and I refuse to participate in recruiting efforts for young women because of this. The industry isn’t safe, this behavior doesn’t stop, and I won’t tell women it’s a good career path until something changes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:18 AM
10

It sounds like she’s talking about a child lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:27 PM
83

This is also my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:08 PM
54

I’d argue that they’re worse because they don’t even benefit from their behavior, they’re simply doing the work of the patriarchy for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:18 AM
273

Saw a thread in another sub where men were like “what’s the worst that can happen with porn, it’s harmless in moderation” and yet here we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:18 PM
114

This right here. Any insult a man throws you is telling you about HIS greatest insecurity. “You’ll die alone” scared of dying alone “you’re ugly!” Is ugly “you’re fat!” Is either fat or living in fear of becoming fat (usually accompanied by orthorexia).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:14 PM
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If you’re doubting this, peruse the relationship related subs and you’ll see example after example of men using women for childcare. They often say some variation of, “I’m worried she’s not MATERNAL ENOUGH” for refusing to act like an unpaid babysitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:59 PM
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It’s because this is roughly the first generation of men who have to actually get a woman to like them. Before women needed men to have bank accounts and autonomy. Now men need to be likable and most of them are Very Upset about the shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:16 PM
28

I worry deeply about women who come to Reddit for advice. This sub is the exception because most women come here because there are so few radical feminist spaces online. Men who come to Reddit? They’re in the majority and almost all of them are forty shades of fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:46 PM
255

I saw a great callout about this advice. When men say this, they’re imagining being approached by women they find attractive. Men do not treat women they’re not attracted to like people, often ignoring them or outright abusing them. Women are socialized to be nice even to men we don’t find attractive. It’s a hell of a lot more dangerous for women to ask out men because of all of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:15 PM
9

Obviously an instant block but I’d absolutely consider sending a clown college application in response to this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:53 AM
365

So many men are genuinely not okay. Porn has ruined them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:28 AM
10

Several high ranking women at my job totally left the workforce this last year because of their kids. Women are still seen as the primary caregiver and that trickles down and influences absolutely everything. I’m really leaning towards being child free because I’ve never seen a situation that was equitable for a mother, especially a working one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:23 AM
73

I truly think the pandemic did this. It exposed how unequal women still are (look at the women who had to dial back their career to care for and homeschool kids) and gave single women tons of time for self improvement. Most men just masturbated and played video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:00 PM
63

Public proposals done like this often are a form of manipulation. Some men think if they ask you in front of a bunch of people that you will feel pressured to say yes. Especially if you’ve indicated you’re not ready for marriage or haven’t discussed it yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:55 PM
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Love this! I would add: don’t have a routine. Don’t be outside your home at the same time, try not to leave and come back at the same time. I used to have men wait for me in the alley behind my house to try to talk to me when I kept a predictable schedule. It’s annoying but men can’t prey on you as easily if they don’t know when you’ll show up. Additionally, I put lights in my home on a timer so you can’t tell when I’m not home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:27 PM
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I put a camera in my apartment and I inform everyone who enters my apartment that I will be recording everything. I used to have trouble with them lingering and now they hurry the fuck up, as they should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:16 PM
45

Saw that one. The sheer number of scrotes in the comments saying “well she’ll be single for awhile”. Like, yes lmao that’s the point. It’s better to be single than to compromise your standards and boundaries for a man who likely doesn’t even wash his asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:08 PM
291

There’s a woman on TikTok who left her narcissist abuser and her top tip was to secretly record all convos and listen to them back. She said listening and hearing the full picture of what he was doing while she was in a calm state is what helped her realize how bad it had gotten and gave her the strength to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:29 PM
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Monitoring media consumption and keeping an open dialogue about it. The shift in the last few years has felt radical with what men feel comfortable teaching other men. Red pill and other extremely dangerous mindsets spread like wildfire but even traditional forms of media contain such a warped view of the world and women. The podcast episode about pornography touched on this quite a bit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:03 AM
17

Just the way he’s describing her tells me he is an abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:51 PM
8

Women also live longer and are less likely to get promoted (not based on us, based on bias against us), and when we enter careers in mass, the pay goes down (pay gap is real) so 50/50 makes zero sense before you factor in the pink tax and the bodily risk women face dating. Also, it’s sexy when a man knows about all that and just pays, no fuss, just generosity and understanding of women’s lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:07 PM
6

I’m starting to feel like these posts are coming from men. Why else are they spending so much time in these spaces?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 02:08 AM
8

What’s wild to me is there is real, decades long studies on violence against women that men will deny and yet, they spread this kind of shit around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:19 PM
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I just argued a similar point on another sub. Essentially a man was trying to point out that there’s a double standard with caring about issues of control with men and I said that the stats on control are why. I also pointed out that when control is brought up on posts by women, it’s done by OTHER women. MRAs spend their time screaming about misandry (which is not real) instead of spending even an ounce of that energy to help other men. It’s clear that their real issue is with women getting help…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:36 PM
197

Reddit incels legit murder people and get less attention than we do. Women saying things men don’t like is considered equal to men murdering women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 07:53 PM
9

This was one of the affirmations that changed my life: “The way someone treats you says more about them than it does about you”. Good luck on your journey, it’s so, so worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:50 PM
29

I saw something the other day and want to find it but it essentially said that OLD is filled with people who have avoidant attachment styles. Essentially you’re trying to find a relationship with people who are least likely to attach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:09 PM
33

Mine blew her brains out when she realized she was stuck in the suburbs with a man and expected to play his helpmeet. It was not a better time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:02 PM
410

This is an excellent example of: men do not ask strangers for help, they were not socialized to do so. If a man in public is asking you for help, he’s likely lying and it’s a manipulation tactic of some kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:23 AM
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What always stands out to me is that tons of men defend this behavior. There was a post recently where a man lied to a woman about his job in order to sleep with her and she was obviously distressed because he gained access to her with a lie. It’s sexually coercive to lie to have sex with another person. The men on the post absolutely did not see that. Then it clicked for me: it doesn’t happen to men. Men aren’t lied to for access to their bodies. It’s illegal to sell someone a product based on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:50 PM
109

They always think they did something. Pick a hobby that isn’t bothering women online guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:45 PM
396

Imagine saying this and then listening to Gail absolutely hype up FDS on the podcast 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:01 PM
124

How do we get women to be fucking angry instead of in shock? How do we get women to fight back against these men and this behavior? It’s all so passive and I know it’s how we’ve socialized but how do we counter that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:44 PM
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I’m a huge advocate of this. Back in my hooking up days, I ended a lot of sexual encounters when it was clear I wasn’t going to orgasm or have a nice time. The men were always baffled beyond belief. Why let them finish and risk pregnancy if it’s not a good time? Bye. Women need to recognize that you can stop at any point, no matter what, fuck their orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:08 PM
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Men will do anything but go to therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:12 PM
24

It’s because they don’t actually want a boring Pickme lmao they want a strong, powerful woman but they also want to “humble us”. But their tactics don’t work because they’re not that bright or capable of critical thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:02 PM
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This woman is absolutely deranged. There’s another one where she talks about how she couldn’t speak to or look at her partner for days after a “scene went wrong”. But still out here trying to teach women how to participate enthusiastically in their own traumatic experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:15 PM
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Right like the literal point of a relationship is to find someone who meets your needs and to move on if they don’t. Not to expect someone to put their needs aside. Men are so fundamentally broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:07 PM
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It's because most men fundamentally need women to survive and live a fulfilling life and most women, do not need men in the same way. Think about it, why would so many religions focus on telling women they're meant to submit to men, play second fiddle, be a "helpmeet" if that's not our natural role? We can create new life, and with science, we can nearly do that without men. And even functionally, we see study after study showing that single women are the happiest, healthiest subgroup because wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:58 PM
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I don’t think they realize how much they’re projecting. I’m with a partner who makes me extremely, monumentally happy. I’m also a radical feminist who would be more than happy to end up alone if something happens with my partnership. Why? Because I love myself, I invest in myself, and I’m with my partner out of absolute choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:11 PM
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I love this. I also love when men in other subs immediately start with personal insults and name calling. It's so very clear how unhinged and unhappy they are. Like dude, if I wouldn't take advice from you, I am definitely not accepting or even considering your insult lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:28 PM
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Thinking about all the posts on this site where women are raped and the men are encouraged to leave them. It’s always especially gruesome if she ends up pregnant. Society is so fucked for women, it still shocks me every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:21 PM
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I saw a reverse gender version of that the other day on a similar sub and I’ve still been noodling over it. It was an older woman dating a younger man (40 and 19) and every comment was about how disgusting it was. As always, men get the benefit of the doubt and women get nothing but judgement for the same exact choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:15 PM
311

There was a study recently that basically confirmed period cramps can be more painful than a heart attack. Women are way better at tolerating pain than we’re given credit for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:45 PM
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YEP. A man grabbed my ass in a club once and smirked at me when I turned around. I chased him down, ripped his glasses off, and stomped them into dust. He was totally baffled, started crying, and tried to get the bouncer involved who promptly kicked him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:45 PM
21

Single women never die alone because we’re excellent at building community and friendships that offer support. Men are not taught the value in that and they often die completely alone and miserable without a wife. Also women live longer than men, so you’ll probably outlive any husband unless you date younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:57 PM
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Right but you also can’t do certain things like: rent a car, stay at certain hotels, basically rent property because under 25 you are way more likely to make a poor decision. But people argue you should be sleeping with predatory men and that’s natural? Oh okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:57 AM
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Can we say this louder for the scrotes in the back who throw around how 70% of women file for divorce? This plus the recent article showing married mothers do more domestic labor than single mothers and I can’t really understand why that rate isn’t closer to 90%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:24 PM
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It’s probably them realizing their previous work wasn’t getting any of the attention that FDS does and now they see our stance as a money making opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:12 PM
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The husbands of the married women caring for children AND their man baby end up on a certain sub on this site screeching about lack of sex. Entirely missing the point that women are biologically wired not to desire those they are babying and coddling, which includes you with your lack of effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:27 PM
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I’m never going to understand men who expect/demand a “traditional” setup but don’t uphold their end of the bargain. They should provide 100% and treat their wives with respect, which includes not consuming porn or images of half naked women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:49 PM
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I’m getting big abuser vibes off of this post. Spoke to her in anger in a mean tone and likely called her names and emotionally abused her. Your partner can upset you and mess up but nothing justifies speaking to her in this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:51 PM
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Love it. I do the same thing when I hear men complain about having a daughter or not wanting one. I declare a clear preference for only having girls (which is fake, I’d be happy with a healthy baby as any reasonable human should) and watch these men have a full toddler tantrum. One man even told me I was being “unfair”. Uhhh I was legit mirroring your fucked up stance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:35 PM
113

Yep only way to win this game is to not fucking play it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:53 PM
113

Fighting for a man is just shadow boxing your own standards and self esteem. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:47 PM
129

There was a post in the last week about a self made millionaire who was upset his fiancé wouldn’t sign a prenup. His grandparents gifted him 2 million. You cannot make this shit up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:27 PM
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It’s pretty telling that this gets so many upvotes when it’s not from FDS. It’s the same idea that men like women who don’t realize they’re pretty. People don’t like empowered women so when these ideals are spouted outside of a female empowerment space, then they’re accepted. I’m super glad it’s spreading but hate that it’s still got a form of “oh golly gee look even I’m doing it lol”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:48 PM
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I’m not bashing gay men with my comment, simply suggesting that red pill could be attracting men who are engaging in comphet. Edited to add: we already know how many homophobic men are actually gay, a very high number. It’s not far off to suggest that they also end up hating/abusing/using women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:56 PM
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I think we’re going to find out that most of the red pillers are actually gay men. They clearly hate women and cannot love them. Everything they do appears to be for the approval of other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:26 PM
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I think my favorite part is how fucking stupid they are. Like, it was auto removed. People said the same thing about commenting in hostile subs and being kicked from FDS, it’s automated lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:01 PM
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Yes! Idk if you’ve ever seen the stats for the number of women who have their consent violated during the birthing process but it’s an extremely high number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:50 PM
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All of this 100%. I was thinking last night about how like 50% or something of millennial women have sex with their male partner before they’re allowed to, essentially delaying and compromising their healing. I also think it’s related to how we treat mothers generally in a lot of countries, especially the US. I’d be interested to see numbers about PPD in countries who support women after birth with proper physical therapy to recover (basically all women need pelvic floor therapy to recover from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:47 PM
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I’m really sorry that this happened to you. I think the experience is really common. We know stats about domestic violence and abuse and how it normally starts during pregnancy so it’s likely that there’s a ton of emotional abuse being swept under the rug as well. We really need to prepare women with facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:24 AM
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It’s part of the “Believe Me” anthology put together by Jessica Valenti and Jaclyn Friedman. I will give a warning and say it’s one of those books that’s hard to finish because of how heavy the topics can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:47 PM
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Honestly? I think postpartum depression is going to look a lot different in 100 years. I absolutely believe part of it is from the hormonal shift of pregnancy and giving birth, but how much is the result of women realizing they’ve tied themselves to useless man children and are now too vulnerable to leave?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:47 PM
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Oh Freud 100% knew. He even wrote a paper about it and then retracted it after he became a laughing stock. He essentially proved that hysteria was just, CPTSD from women being sexually assaulted and raped by men in their communities and families and those men still being treated like upstanding members of society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:35 PM
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Not surprised because he was raised by JB who essentially lied to all his kids about their participation in the show and hoarded their pay. Absolutely psychotic to not want the best for your children and steal their money like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:08 PM
155

1000% a red flag. “I don’t want kids but I’m going to expect you to be okay with an abortion or birth control with side effects”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:14 PM
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I think this is important for dates as well. I always carried cash on a date so I could pay for my portion and leave instead of needing to wait for a CC to process. Easy to hand it to the waitress on the way to the bathroom and ask for a secondary exit if you feel unsafe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:55 PM
28

This reads like a porn addiction to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:24 PM
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Waiting for the news story in 6 months about how the user base is 100% men and fake female accounts to trick them into paying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:59 PM
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Scrotes respond: “well have you considered communicating to him that it’s important to you not to have an allergic reaction and die? Men can’t read minds you know. Also isn’t strawberry usually 10 cents more expensive? You sound like a gold digger and he should rethink the proposal.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:22 PM
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Yeah I don’t think they’re fully aware, I actually think the lack of awareness is what makes the sex preference so insidious. My coworker shared with me that when they found out the sex, while still in the room with the tech, her husband blurted out “oh but I wanted a college athlete”. She was gutted. She was a college athlete herself. Her partner just, baseline did not see women as equal to men and had zero self awareness about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:24 PM
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I will always say this when this comes up: most violence by women against their partners is reactive abuse. Women do not hold a position in society that allows them to perpetuate domestic abuse in the way that men do. When a woman is violent against her partner, it’s almost always in response to being abused herself. Edited to add some stats to back this up: https://opdv.ny.gov/professionals/abusers/genderandipv.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:50 PM
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Yeah it can be a few things but often it’s a form of salmonella. Even the more “benign” thing it can be causes UTIs and eye infections and is, airborne. Absolutely not safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:35 PM
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It’s super important to work with someone to manage your finances who understands that women live longer and need their retirement plan tailored for that fact. Women are way more likely to end up poor in their older years because common investing advice and practices are based on the lifespan of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:02 PM
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Oof. Idk who needs to hear this but the pink stuff is salmonella and it’s an airborne pathogen that can really fuck you up. So many adult men live this way and don’t realize that an unclean home is a legitimate health hazard. Cleanliness is not just a nice to have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:58 PM
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For the last few years I wondered why the feminism from my childhood had been warped into a male serving version and I gotta say, subs like that being run by men pushing an agenda both makes a lot of sense and really bums me out. I’m glad FDS is here to counter that garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:18 PM
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Depending on where you live that’s not totally true! In the US, as long as a mental health condition is being treated, it’s not considered negatively for adoption or fostering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:34 AM
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It’s not superficial to want to be attracted to your partner! Part of attraction is shared values, fitness is clearly part of your values and that’s 100% okay. There was a post today on another sub where the woman was with a man who didn’t find her attractive and men were gaslighting her about how that’s a-okay, it’s not okay!!! It’s normal to want to be with someone you find attractive and who finds you attractive, full stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:07 PM
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I was explaining this to a friend recently who didn’t recognize a few women in a show we were watching. I told him how a lot of women have body dysmorphia because of all the photoshopping, filters, and totally unrealistic aging standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:17 PM
51

Imagine that couple where the dude asked his partner to lie TOTALLY STILL. Like, he was not distressed by that lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:28 PM
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“Who is distressed by this?” Um not the man lying to himself that it’s normal to be 20-30 with a barely working dick because of death grip and an inability to get hard looking at regular women because they aren’t specifically done up to cater to the male gaze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:40 PM
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Women being hostile against men is literally self-preservation lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:44 PM
2

I think you missed the part where you claim that not showering properly and giving your female partners yeast infections and UTIs is actually your kInK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:51 PM
2

Well if they didn’t FLOOD THE MARKET with their unwashed dicks then maybe they’d have more luck. It’s basic supply and demand 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:41 PM
11

If you live alone, I highly recommend a camera. It’s saved me from a lot of sketch situations with my building (including a maintenance dude who came in when I wasn’t home). I’d also recommend getting a dog and not letting your dog associate with ANYONE around you, neighbors and building staff included so it will alert you when someone is near.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:34 PM
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I cannot believe that this isn’t satire. Why do men think women in previous centuries were treated like princesses? Like, they denied us education because we were property and were likely to die in childbirth, we had no control over finances, couldn’t have a bank account, often couldn’t work outside the home, couldn’t own or inherit property in a lot of places. Even princesses used to have to marry men 30-40 years older and suffer under a man who used and abused them. Men simply refuse to see th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:02 PM
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Lmao single women are the least lonely people on Earth. We know how to build a vast network of meaningful relationships. Single men? They are lonely and bitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:51 PM
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Heavy flow here and I have gotten blood on everything and I always, always do a double check. Women are socialized to care about others, men are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:19 PM
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Of course men think this is hate for the sake of hate, they’ve never been oppressed lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:28 PM
69

I have a similar distrust in men who want to mod female spaces to men who become gynecologists. Just feels off to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:27 PM
266

It's projection alllll the way down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:38 PM
33

Idk I ended up in ex Mormon TikTok and a woman was saying that sister wives essentially share yeast infections because they transfer so easily. I have not known peace since I learned that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:07 PM
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Yes!! My mom got so mad at that plot line that she told me to stop watching the show. “Never sacrifice your education for a man, what a FOOLISH THING TO SHOW YOUNG WOMEN”. It was decades ago and I still remember how MAD she was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:04 PM
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Yeah this is essentially what we mean when we say that the patriarchy hurts men too. Men created a system in which they require themselves to be socialized to suppress emotions (other than like anger). They think it makes them more logical or whatever but it just emotionally stunts them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:10 AM
21

The one truth I have absolutely started living by is that men are always projecting. It’s like their default attack lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:28 PM
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There’s some research out that contradicts his statement that it’s worse for other guys. The male crybabies have been screaming that women only go for attractive men but the study shows that it’s the opposite. Men go for the most attractive women while women go for low to average attractiveness men. Another example of outright projection. I think there’s a few things going on: 1) Men are delusional about the number of options they have, tons of OLD apps pay models and put up fake profiles to lur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:24 PM
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Reminder that the female fertility cliff is a MYTH. It’s based on an old and poorly done study in like 18th century France. Women see a gradual fertility decline, not a sudden drop. Men do seem to have more of a cliff around 35, especially if they don’t take care of themselves (poor diet, drug use, certain environmental factors like living around pollution).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:01 PM
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Can you imagine if this was posted by a man? They would not respond like this. Everything men say about and to women that sounds hostile or aggressive is just projection. This broke loser cannot STAND the idea of a rich woman lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:59 PM
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I wonder how much he spent on her engagement ring, or if she even received one? I’ve seen men shitting on them recently but I think we all know that men put their finances toward things that they value. I’d be surprised if she received a ring comparable to 3-6 months of his take home if he’s going around calling himself single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:52 PM
21

False dichotomy! Be with me or BE ALONE. Men all get the same psychotic playbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:24 AM
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Hey totally normal to panic, he threatened you. You should try to file a police report. Do you have his name? If you have his number, there are plenty of sites that can show you his full name. I’m so sorry this happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:19 AM
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I’m pretty sure this counts as a threat or attempted blackmail. I would try to go to the police and also report him on the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:18 AM
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He absolutely, 100% did. The older I get, the more I think women should avoid seriously dating before 25 and marrying before 30. It’s so easy for women to depend on men (because of how society conditions us) and that leaves us in terrible situations with no way out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:16 AM
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Love this! One of my personal heroes is Nichelle Nichols. She was an actress on Star Trek and is the reason NASA hired some of their first female and POC recruits!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:45 AM
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She said in a comment that they were “friends” and starting dating when she turned 18. She also mentioned not being close with family. This man smelled vulnerability and took that shit to the moon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:10 AM
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This thread was particularly brutal because this woman is obviously in an abusive relationship and was groomed as a child by this man. A lot of commenters were using the same insults her abuser uses to keep her small. Reddit refuses to acknowledge how often this actually happens (look at stats for adult men dating teens, they often result in pregnancy) and would rather victim blame. Edited to add: she mentioned he pressured her into the second because he wanted a boy. And now he’s pressuring her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:09 AM
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Oh look, it’s the same old tactic we see all the time! Ladies, remember, there are NEVER only two options. This is how false dichotomy works and it’s a powerful manipulation tool. Do not fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:22 AM
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This is legit a one way ticket to a yeast infection or BV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:18 AM
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Please go to a gyno! It’s important to have regular checkups! Just find a woman lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:02 AM
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Often you can catch wait staff on the way to the bathroom and ask if you can leave through another exit! I’ve never had anyone say no when I explained I was on a date and felt unsafe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:46 PM
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Cognitive dissonance or maybe projection. I assume the people who don’t shame this obviously dangerous and alarming behavior also have a terrifying “kink” in their closet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:53 AM
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Yeah this law seems good on the surface but they’re trying to say that forcing women to give birth doesn’t cause undue burden because now men pay half. I’m all for men needing to pay for pregnancy costs but not for it being used a weapon against women’s choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:17 PM
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Tbh I love when they call us mean lmao like half of men’s humor isn’t just dunking on women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:41 AM
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Good point, I updated to remove that word!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:50 PM
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If I found out my partner did this to me, I would be taken to jail for unaliving him. Absolutely the fuck not. I would not be understanding. I would not go to the police. I would unalive a man and expect this to be a fairly good defense for reasonable insanity. I’d rather sit in a psych unit for 5-10 than allow a person capable of this to walk the earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:01 PM
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American military members are given more pay and privileges if they’re married, so they often get married extremely young to people with whom they’re not a good match. I avoid military men for that reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:41 PM
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Yeah I would double check if you’re up for it! In the US, you can have charges stack up and result in more prison/jail time. I’d be calling a lawyer and contacting the police to make sure charges were pressed on my behalf and I’d ask about filing charges in civil court. Edited to add: I’d also ask about emotional distress and compensation for needing to attend therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:51 PM
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Are you in a two party recording state? If not, you might be able to press charges for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:32 PM
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If anything, we’re closer to MGTOW than to incels and even then, we actually have scientific backing to why we think opting out is better than settling for LVM or NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:52 PM
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My partner gets rock hard just from viewing my naked body, he doesn’t use porn and doesn’t follow any women who post racy pictures. He’s in his mid 30s. When I was dating, men would ask me to blow them to get them hard lol sir if my body isn’t doing it for you, I can’t help you. They kneecap themselves and then try to make it our problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:27 PM
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Men typically hate cats because cats are smaller than they are and refuse to submit to them. Cats require consent for, everything. Men who hate cats are usually abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:52 PM
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On this topic, does anyone have a good taser recommendation? I’ve been having problems taking out my trash lately (I think lack of access to women during the pandemic is making men bolder and scarier) and I want to be a bit safer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:56 PM
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I’m not on hormonal BC for health reasons and I make my partner check every time... is this not just, normal? I don’t get what the issue with wanting to make sure would be? It helps me know if I should take plan B depending on my cycle or drink a cup or two of mugwort near my next period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:18 AM
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Never give money to a man who isn’t your spouse. I firmly believe that it’s important for men to figure their financial shit out, giving them money just enables them. I’ve seen so many of my female friends do this. Dude always has some sob story. Let him get a part time job! Let him take out a loan! Stop playing build a boyfriend, the juice is not worth the squeeze, especially in a society built by and for men! If they can’t thrive on their own, they never will and they will bleed you dry on the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:04 PM
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The criticism of FDS entirely misses the point. Marriage is an institution created by and for, men. We are roughly the first generation of women who grew up in a world where we have actual choice. When my mother was born, she couldn't open a bank account. A life without submitting, on some level, to a man was not an option for her. I watched the women in my life make themselves smaller for men. I watched women get the short end of the stick, coming home from working the same hours as their male …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:58 PM
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I definitely noticed because we JUST had a post about this and it was at the top of my mind! It’s so common and incredibly dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:29 PM
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This is a really good example of the tactic manipulative and abusive men often use: false dichotomy. He’s essentially saying: be open with me immediately or never. He’s totally ignoring the middle ground, that openness requires trust and history, things that are earned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:18 PM
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“Do you normally drink past your limits?” 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:57 PM
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It happens with everything and I hate it. One I’ve seen a lot lately is men complaining about the body positivity movement. They’re like “wahhh what about men’s bodies??” And I always ask, oh so what content creators for male body positivity have you sought out and boosted? Because, they exist, it’s just mostly from gay male creators. They never can name a single one. Oh so you’re going to complain about seeing female body positivity but do NOTHING to seek out and boost the same for men? Wild, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:59 PM
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No the comparison is great, thank you for sharing it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:56 PM
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A giant green flag with my partner was that he did my laundry for me. I was studying for a huge exam and told him I was out of clean laundry. He picked me and my laundry up, drove us back to his house, and did everything while I studied. He still does all the laundry when we spend time together because it’s a chore I hate and one he doesn’t mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:00 AM
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Cryptomining is extremely bad for the environment and quite honestly a global scam. We still have no idea who created it and wallets are constantly drained of it. It’s useful for a few things but I’d consider this a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:35 AM
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My favorite response (if you feel comfortable) is to use the deepest, meanest, loudest growl-like voice to say “I don’t remember asking you a GODDAMN THING” and hold eye contact. Usually they retreat like the sad little animals they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:51 PM
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I don’t usually have PIV sex without an orgasm first. I think it’s an excellent boundary to set with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:56 AM
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I had another white dude try to tell me that his career hadn’t gone well because things are hard for straight white guys. I was like, no dude they’re just not on absolute easy mode anymore, just moderate easy mode lol he basically was upset that his career wasn’t a given at the expense of women and people of color. Can’t relate lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:00 PM
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That ELBOW oh god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:57 PM
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The last one I remember was a dude who had picked up a felony protesting charge of some kind. He mentioned living with his parents (huge red flag) and I asked why. He said he was having an issue financially because of the legal costs. I asked him why he was even dating if he was living with his parents and financially struggling and he asserted that the charge was bogus. It’s like, even if that’s true, handle your shit before dating? Also he was a white dude so I had zero sympathy when he went o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:24 PM
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I’ve slept next to a clean pile of clothing on my bed in the deepest pits of my depression but it was on the other side of the bed and, clean. This is a totally different ballgame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:27 PM
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Rape and straight up felons. Multiple men used to reveal felony charges to me after chatting for a bit. I would not recommend it without doing serious background checks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:48 PM
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A lot of men who are into fitness have straight up eating disorders and project that onto others. I used to live with a body builder and the way he talked about good food vs. bad food was insane. Idk who needs to hear this but no one should be eating chicken and veggies for every single meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:31 AM
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Don’t undersell yourself like this! Tons of studies show that motherhood gives women so many skills. The world is a lot different than it was even a few years ago, online classes are the norm and the cost of education for these types of things is falling. You’ve got so many options and the skills to make it work :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:03 PM
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Knowing you have BPD and then seeking out women with a history of abuse and mental illness is unethical. He knows he’s clinically unstable and yet seeks out women who need stability? The entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:54 PM
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There are good reverse number lookups like OkCaller that I love! Will often give you the correct last name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:20 PM
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This is actually a song and it’s one of my favorites. Keep Ya Head Up by 2Pac
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:31 AM
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You’re not wrong lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:25 AM
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It’s always been a confusing argument to me. Like okay so the women are often traumatized, and we’re okay that men want to beat them? We think that’s okay? Society is so fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:30 AM
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It is absolutely all men. Any man saying “not all men” is centering his feelings and should not be trusted. All men are socialized in a patriarchal society, all men are required to reach a solution. Any man unwilling to hear the issues women are facing without being coddled is part of the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:08 AM
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I understand when people say that women use BDSM to deal with trauma but what are the men who are beating them healing from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:04 AM
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The stats pretty much show that married men live longer and single women live longer which just means that married women give a few years of their lives to their husband. That should be your litmus test for marriage: does this human deserve a few years of your life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:56 AM
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You should be able to!! Anything that’s intended as a weapon is illegal but this is for hair. Same with mace, that’s illegal but a can of hairspray in your bag? Does something similar when sprayed in the eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:00 PM
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Will Ferrell fans generally are a red flag for me. Most of his movies are just him playing some version of a man child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:14 AM
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That edit lmao "I was not expecting this pandering post to appease the troglodytes on this site! Golly gee, upvoting all the way from their parents' basement!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:02 PM
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Women internalizing sexism and then becoming perpetrators of sexism is entirely how the system is meant to work. You're doing a great job being aware and working on your biases!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:56 PM
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50/50 also doesn’t work if you want children. I’ve seen so many posts where men refuse to contribute to medical costs for their pregnant partner. Are men going to suffer 50% of the pregnancy risk? The complications? The career hit? No? Okay then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:45 PM
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This. It’s not about the money, it’s about honoring his preferences above her extremely real and valid need to EAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:44 PM
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I referenced this study recently because it rings so true and is applicable in other situations. I work in tech and the men who are rude to me consistently do not know what the fuck they're doing. It's to the point that when a man is rude to me, I just assume he sucks at his job, I don't take it personally at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:53 AM
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Yep this sounds like human trafficking to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:15 AM
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It’s a red flag in that men should know that women need foreplay to enjoy sex. A man skipping it says either 1) this man has never researched or considered female pleasure or 2) this man had a former partner who didn’t like (or more likely, feel comfortable asking for) foreplay and now assumes all women are this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:05 PM
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Being suspicious of your partner doing nice acts is a huge predictor in breaking up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:34 PM
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I’ve run into these types and sometimes I love to actively lie to them. The thing that sticks out to me is that they assume the previous comments are the lies. These men are so full of themselves that it doesn’t occur to them that the person they’re attacking might troll them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:12 PM
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DNA fragmentation is abnormal genetic material in sperm which appears naturally with aging and can be accelerated with life choices (smoking, chemical exposure). It makes conceiving much harder, causes higher rates of miscarriage, and increases the risk of chromosomal abnormalities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:45 PM
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I used to think this and then I learned the most hormonal BC is thrown at women to silence them. Oh your periods are crazy painful? Have some birth control! The hormones don’t solve the underlying issue, they just cover it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:33 PM
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Yeah I think it’s important to mention that this isn’t every single kid, it’s just the likelihood of issues goes up. If you’re with someone and it’s not the right time for a baby, it’s okay to wait (provided you’re testing your fertility and both taking care of your health). For women currently dating? Focus on men closer to your age or a little younger to give yourself the most time. Having kids young can severely impact the careers of women way more than men so I absolutely understand waiting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:07 PM
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Your comment and the comment above just clicked this into place for me: this thousand yard stare that porn abusers get is so similar to that cold, dead look in the eyes of a man who is blacked out. All higher order functions are just, gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:13 PM
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Happy to help! There’s more on this here if you search! We talk about the myth of male fertility pretty often because it’s such an ignored thing. Men essentially have the same timeline that women do and yet society pretends like that’s not true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:04 PM
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A giant, annoying myth is that male fertility doesn’t decline when it absolutely, 100% does. The kicker? Because we have shamed women for so long, we barely have any tests or treatments for aging sperm. I would not have a baby with a man over 35 and DEFINITELY not over 40, you are asking for DNA fragmentation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:01 PM
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If you want kids, stop dating men this old. A 35 year old man is not someone you could have kids with, by the time you’re ready, his sperm will be dust (at 35 he’s already ineligible for sperm donation).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:28 PM
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I’m so sorry that this is happening to you but you are opening your life back up to so much good!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:26 PM
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I absolutely love this theory and I know I’m doing it. I’ve been on Reddit for a decade and now I use different accounts to post in different spaces. Ban my account? Fine, maybe a few women heard me before the ban, you absolute creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:14 PM
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I have friends who have! The vaccine now covers different strains than it did 10 years ago. The tricky part is getting insurance to cover it, they often won’t cover it for adults unless you test positive for HPV but it’s easier to get it covered if you didn’t already have it. Absolutely ask your doctor or local health department.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:23 PM
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It’s the benefit of the doubt for me. Basically every post where a man is being complained about at least 2-10 scrotes will pop out of the woodwork to offer up reasons why this man deserves a break. When people complain about women? Pure vitriol and character assassinations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:57 PM
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Women are taught to coddle and cater to men so when women don’t put on an absolute show men assume they’re being “mean”. It’s another way the patriarchy tries to exhaust women and distract them from their goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:23 PM
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This exactly. The murders happen because they aren’t getting their perceived “prize” for leveling up. My absolute favorite part of FDS is that we level up for ourselves. A man isn’t the prize for leveling up, our health and happiness is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:48 PM
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I broke up with a guy once who kept using hard drugs instead of just, adjusting his life. He tried to say it was treatment for his depression but he was taking acid several weekends a month which is, super unhealthy. I’m someone who supports the use of psychedelics to treat depression but some dude doing acid in his house every weekend is not the same thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:04 PM
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The thing that always jumps out to me is that these men are fully aware of the problem and say stupid shit like, “I’d have it surgically removed if I could”, like okay? OR you could go to THERAPY and WORK ON IT instead of dating people and being like, this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:59 PM
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If I ever have a daughter, I will make sure that she knows there’s nothing she could tell me that would make me love her less. These situations are always made worse when the women feel like they have to hide things from their parents when the abuser starts the blackmail. I want my daughter to know that threats do not work, you can make mistakes and do things that disappoint me and still no one will ever be able to tell me and make me love you less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:14 PM
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That’s just a little girl who doesn’t know anything about the world yet and it makes me feel sad for her (and furious at the men who convinced her to act this way). From her videos, she seems pretty lonely and unfulfilled and this account seems to be desperately seeking validation. She can’t cook well and says her favorite part of the day is “the gym”. I’d love to check back in on her in 5 years when the shine has worn off of depending on another person who doesn’t think you’re a full human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:51 PM
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Imagine thinking this makes you a better person. “Oh I don’t pay content creators, I steal their content”, what??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:01 PM
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It’s a form of abuse and we do not talk about it enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:30 PM
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Yep going for a walk with a stranger is dangerous as hell. You can’t tell someone your location, it often gives away the area you live in, and any man who suggests a walk isn’t considering your lived experience as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:21 PM
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This makes me scared for you. Do you live alone? Do you have cameras or lights that you can put on a timer? Do you have a dog or would you consider getting one? I agree that you should consider a police report to establish that you don’t know this man or invite his attention just in case it escalates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:07 PM
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Part of me thinks this is a form of childishness and selfishness. These men cannot comprehend the idea of fairness not existing. Like, is it unfair that women are allowed to decide to end a pregnancy when men can’t decide to walk away? Idk Kyle, is it fair that men get to orgasm and women must carry a baby for 9 months, rearrange her organs, risk physical disability and death? No? Okay cool, you agree that fairness isn’t really a factor here, morals and ethics are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:32 PM
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Drinking warm champagne on a plastic tablecloth? Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:24 PM
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If you want a big, ambitious career, I’d recommend waiting until 35 for a baby. Women take a much larger career hit for motherhood. If you’re planning to wait, get your fertility checked. You have options, including freezing eggs and embryos. More and more companies are covering these services.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:37 AM
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Not the OP but my advice for this is to ask yourself how a man would feel. Would a man ignore this behavior? Would a man be graceful when faced with this? That's really helped me decide where the line should be re: respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:52 PM
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It’s so much projection! I have been asked “aren’t you afraid of dying alone??” And responded, “unless you die first, you’re dying alone and women typically outlive men”. The pure panic of realizing that putting up with trash treatment might still result in their greatest fear. Me personally? I am absolutely fine with dying alone, I love being with myself and cherish my alone time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:32 PM
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I get the same thing from these women. A lot of “well that’s just how it is” when you question how deeply unappreciated they are in their own home. I told a coworker once “well I’m glad that works for you but I personally wouldn’t be happy in a relationship where I was treated like a sidekick” and now she doesn’t speak to me anymore, a blessing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:13 PM
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I think it’s based on a childish notion that someone will love you for exactly who you are. It’s a nice idea but it doesn’t include the importance of being a fully formed, functional human being. I’ve dated so many men who wanted me to fulfill them when they weren’t even fulfilled on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:37 AM
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The idea of doing things just because they feel nice and bring joy is totally lost on most men. It’s the same reason they don’t decorate their apartments or have cleaning schedules. I wake up every day and do my makeup/hair because it starts my day off right. I wake up and make my bed even though I’m usually the only one who sees it. These things provide structure and balance and most men are too unbalanced to understand this concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:45 PM
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I don’t think you can judge this as HVM or LVM. Plenty of LVM men have high powered careers because of family connections. You CAN judge how someone handles their job. Is he in a lower status job but doing his best every day? Is he focused on the right things (self improvement, being healthy, his family)? Is he thoughtfully handling student loan debt? Did he get a degree and then realize he’s happier and more fulfilled working with his hands? Sometimes classism can seep into what we picture as a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:58 PM
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I was dating a man once and was explaining a small scar on my face from a surgery I'd had for a medical issue. I pointed to another spot and said something silly like "and this is busted blood vessel that's healing from being clumsy" and he replied "yeah I'd been trying to tell if that was a permanent problem". I felt, disgusting suddenly. Like he'd been appraising me like I was cattle. I can't imagine ever looking at a man and scanning him for blemishes and deciding if they're temporary or perm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:23 AM
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“Boys will be boys” forever because no one is PARENTING THEM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:56 AM
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Hey this is definitely frustrating but you can’t post usernames or other subs like this here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:37 AM
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Your comment really amplified something for me. Men are upset that women fear them because they think it harms their chances to get laid. Most importantly, they think there’s something wrong with women (them listening to bad advice) instead of seeing the real problem: other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:53 PM
61

The man who sexually accosted me when I was 10 taught me, you absolute dimwit. The disgusting, rapey comments that (mostly) ceased when I finally looked older than 16. Some men really think there’s some conspiracy to tarnish men instead of, women operating based on their own lived experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:14 PM
35

I see misandry accusations all over this site and it’s the same as being racist towards white people in that it’s not real lol these ideas need power structures behind them in order to be real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:13 PM
148

I also think this is an excellent example of why we need women in tech and more specifically tech leadership. Any woman can tell you that men will exploit anything and everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:43 AM
69

First of all, amazing. Second of all, thank you SO MUCH for the children comment. I cringe so hard every single time I see an unblurred face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:42 PM
3

I think even though you said it’s okay, it’s a bit of a red flag to be a solo drinker as a guest in someone else’s home who is not drinking and when spending time with someone who isn’t drinking. A more normal response would be to not bring alcohol at all in this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:21 PM
6

This is just straight up negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:25 AM
9

This is very clearly a man writing pretending to be a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:47 AM
11

LVM and NVM will literally do anything but go to therapy and fix their issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:56 PM
46

I kept running into this with extremely young men and I always wondered if it was porn induced. And like another commenter mentioned: they try to make it your problem. I’m sorry if you can’t get it up after an hour or two of teasing and making out, that’s absolutely your problem! I’m extremely hot and most men are rock hard in my presence, if you’re not then please take your broken dick and go! Do not call, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:13 PM
78

The guidelines do a lot to vet but nothing can prevent the situation you’re describing. The other advice about making sure you’re never financially dependent on a man (have your own career, have savings going into the marriage, get a prenup to protect assets prior to marriage) will help in this situation. Being completely happy and stable by yourself will give you the strength to walk away if your spouse becomes abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 10:55 PM
63

I assumed OLD would be filled with all the men who are single because of the pandemic. Breakups and divorces escalated, mostly by women, because the pandemic made them question if they really want to continue to waste their time on NVMs and LVMs. I’d stay far away from it for awhile, likely until a couple months after the pandemic ends. Also thank you for this report! It confirms my assumptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:49 PM
59

I also feel like we miss the nuance behind the issue. There was a post recently on deadbedroom where the wife posted like, “my husband has been lying to all of you, we don’t have sex because he’s not contributing in any way to our life and has killed my desire FOR HIM”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:19 PM
99

I’m over 30 and had someone ask me if was even old enough to drink recently. Sunscreen and moisturizer is all anyone needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:07 PM
73

They’re not even cats! It’s a group of kittens like, why are you threatening me with an ADORABLE time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:53 AM
17

I did notice that and I screamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:29 PM
50

His main issue is parking. Sir, buy a bicycle if your cheap ass can’t afford parking. Or leave on time? Why is his transportation her problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:25 PM
51

Japan is currently on track to be in a situation where they can’t support their aging population. The birth rate keeps falling because of the patriarchy, basically. It’s not a sustainable model.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:37 PM
89

I work in tech and a thing I’ve noticed men do constantly is respond “who knew!” when I point something out. Who knew? I knew, which is why we are here, right now, having this very conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:58 PM
48

I’m really sorry you had that experience. Most abuse is like being slowly boiled in hot water. It happens little by little and can happen to truly anyone who is capable of love and empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:37 PM
147

Because most forms of abuse work by making women distrust their own thoughts and judgements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:32 PM
26

The more I observe men, the more I think a lot of what they do is subconscious. That man sounded in denial about reality and wanted to tread water in life. I think a lot of men do this and it’s what leads to the forever girlfriend situation. They don’t want commitment to someone else because they can’t even commit to themselves about any type of forward motion. This is a huge reason I love FDS. It encourages women to move their own life forward instead of saddling themselves to a man who is froz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:19 PM
15

This. And most courts won’t even touch division of assets between former partners. Marriage and divorce law deals with property division and most courts don’t look kindly on people who try to ignore that fact and prefer not to get involved beyond the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:22 PM
17

I once had a man get a message to me from jail. I declined his interest but if they want to speak to you, they’re gonna find a way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:08 AM
82

Men encouraging female partners to engage in sex work is a form of abuse and we do not talk about it enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:53 PM
19

I just shocked my mom by pointing this out. She was like “well men have much longer to decide about kids”. They do not! Their dusty sperm is essentially trash by the time they’re 45.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:23 PM
523

All the ones where the women are cheating, even with kids involved, Reddit recommends leaving and exposing the cheater. When men cheat? Time to cOmMuNiCaTe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:59 PM
63

This is a good rule and it’s one I follow. I cum first and if you can’t achieve that, we aren’t having sex. Why is your orgasm assured but mine isn’t?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 10:29 PM
138

Imagine telling the world that your partner is trash and having no self-awareness about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:27 PM
16

Did you know they've actually started continuing certain medications through pregnancy that previously were thought to harm the baby because maternal mental health is now being seen as important (lol, now, in the year 2020). Lithium is one but I believe there are a few others! I'd love to hear what these "breast is best" simpletons think of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:21 PM
38

I loathe “breast is best”. Like sure, you might get some benefits from breast feeding BUT some women can’t or don’t want to, for so many reasons. My mom couldn’t breast feed any of us because she needed to be on certain medications. I’m still a member of Mensa and I don’t think I’d want to be any smarter than I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:03 PM
2

You might want to crop this a little more. I worry about personal info with all the hate we get here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:49 AM
271

“Male privilege is men getting bored and deciding to destroy lives” we need this printed on t-shirts and billboards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:29 PM
31

This is not "build a boyfriend", they better come preassembled or they will be promptly returned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:48 PM
22

The entire system is broken particularly because we have studied most diseases and how they present in men. It's why women are more likely to die of a heart attack than a man. All the commonly listed symptoms for heart attack are based on the male response. Same with medications, women are often taking too high a dose of medications because they were tested on men. See also: crash test dummies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:33 PM
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He can go to a charity for these items. Many places provide this type of stuff to low income parents, he probably just feels above that and would rather further traumatize a woman. Don’t procreate with men who lack empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:33 PM
6

Bacteria that cause cavities is also contagious!! You can risk your dental health kissing by someone who isn’t taking care of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:13 PM
22

Please go file a police report and try to get a restraining order. Actually, respond to this email that if he contacts you again you will get one. And go make a report and see if you qualify based on this threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:05 PM
11

He asked you to take his number with full hands and didn’t even offer to help!! Wild. I’m sorry this happened to you, what a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:18 PM
23

Once I asked my therapist if anyone had done studies on this, especially in the digital age. What does it do to women to see their female peers essentially lose their identities by giving up their name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:15 PM
17

Did he even offer to help you carry groceries? My male neighbors always offer when they see me, even in the pandemic. I always say no because I’ve got it but for me, it’s a giant green flag when men offer to help with tasks. It shows they’re thoughtful and kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:10 PM
134

I just think we should all stop dating cops. They’re more likely to beat you than any other profession.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:34 PM
13

This is why unmarried men die younger than their married counterparts. Women often take on the role of providing healthy, balanced meals that contribute to longer lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:30 PM
13

Absolutely this. The amount of labor that goes into meal planning, shopping, and recipe hunting is totally lost on most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:29 PM
39

That thread is simply a gift from the universe. It's perfect. *chef's kiss*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:41 PM
43

Men have the same time pressures. Their sperm is no good after like 45. Edited to add: DNA fragmentation starts around 35 and really bottoms out around 45. We don't currently have great testing for it so I personally would consider 40 the limit but others might decide to trust testing into early 40s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:19 PM
18

While I think you had a good comeback, I don't think responding is the move. These men are messaging us because they feel alone and isolated and want someone to LISTEN TO THEM. Your time is better spent doing anything else. Also, if these messages are violent, report them so Reddit can ban these absolutely damaged humans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:44 PM
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There was a post here recently that was like "A woman's biggest fear is late marriage" and this here, is an example of my greatest fear. Imagine tying yourself to someone financially, taking on a greater burden of the chores/household duties, and realizing you need to pay thousands of dollars to free yourself from an absolute psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:45 PM
19

Yep and I think it needs to be said that people can be manipulative, controlling, and abusive unintentionally. Often women stay in bad relationships because they think their partner is a nice person despite clearly abusive and manipulative behavior. Your partner doesn’t need to know their behavior is abusive for it to be abusive. They don’t have to be some mad scientist in a lab with a black heart plotting this out. Simply engaging in abusive behavior (due to their own trauma, past, mental illne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:40 PM
81

At some point we need to stop talking about equality and start talking about equity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:58 PM
47

He must have been really, really calling and putting pressure on the cops to the point that they did something before they needed to. It’s typically 24 hours before they will even entertain a missing persons report. He was probably calling and calling to the point they decided it was easier to just get involved than make him wait for the time limit. This man harnessed the POLICE. Imagine what he’d do to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:36 PM
20

This energy is beautiful and I hope you carry it into every aspect of your life <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:12 PM
9

I was reading about the same thing in France!! I find this a very advanced and thoughtful way to handle the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:11 PM
17

Yep 100%. Think about what hackers can do with CC info and consider what they could do with genetic information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:52 PM
34

This is an incredible point I hadn't considered, thank you for sharing it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:53 PM
87

Yep my assumption has been that this push is coming from the MRA/Red Pill/Incel bowels of Reddit because they always seem 1) entirely detached from reality and 2) mentally unstable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:40 PM
15

I couldn’t afford proper mental health help for years, just saw whoever school insurance could provide in the little time I had and I regret not making more effort to have done it earlier. Everyone should see a therapist but some people really need to see a therapist and stop dragging people around them through their trauma. People study for years about heavily researched methods to help people live happy, fulfilling, and functional lives. Use that if you have access, it will only help you and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:28 PM
125

Yep big advocate of this (only caution if you’re totally alone with the person and smaller). A man grabbed my ass in a club once and smirked at me so I chased him down, grabbed his glasses off of his face, and stomped on them. His smirk dried up QUICKLY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:01 PM
34

It’s funny because at the start of capitalism, companies didn’t pay shit and no one could feed their family on the income. So women grew gardens and raised livestock and then traded the surplus. Men paid for like, idk clothes. It’s just that we don’t value work done in the home even though it has always been, and will always be, vital to surviving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:51 PM
41

This reminds me so much of a dude I briefly interacted with before committing to my current partner. He was mid 30s, no career, lived with roommates, and had literally nothing to his name. No savings, no health insurance, no car, n o t h i n g. When I asked him what his long term plans were he said he was “attracted to smart, successful women” and I asked him what smart, successful woman would tie herself to a parasite and blocked him. The absolute nerve of these men is wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:12 AM
33

A big tip that I hate but feel is important: yell fire in this situation. People will ignore help and try not to get involved. Yelling fire will get people to open up and help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:11 PM
73

Ah yes, only Goldilocks amount of ambition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:31 PM
35

That study is super interesting. It basically proved that men who aren’t performing well in a certain area will view women as competition and treat them poorly. It’s why low achieving men are so harsh towards successful women and a big reason I refused to date men who earn less than I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:43 PM
9

Send it. She has her entire life ahead of her and he’s just dragging her down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:39 PM
5

Yep and depending on the state, she will get nothing from that house. We have to start teaching women that their partner’s money and assets are not their own without marriage (and even then, depending on the state).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:19 PM
18

Law school is also not the flex that they think it is. Oh so you’re taking on a ton of debt to go into an oversaturated field where the top earners work easily 80-100 hour weeks? No thanks! See also: doctors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:11 PM
31

I told my partner I wouldn’t change my last name because of the hassle involved and he told me how important it was to him for us to share the same last name. We’ve agreed to combine our last names into a brand new last name so that we each take on the burden of the change. That’s high value behavior. This? Is the lowest of the low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:30 PM
121

My therapist once said “unless you die first, you’re going to die alone and most women outlive their male partners” and that really put my fear into perspective. Most women, even partnered, live through old age alone and die alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:24 PM
102

Imagine having facial hair like that and thinking you’re a prize. I cannot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:29 AM
9

I’m perfectly fine with that and hope he told the next date about it with his barely concealed seething so she knew to also ditch ASAP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:37 PM
30

Elon Musk is scum. He was tweeting “take the red pill” bullshit and the mother of his current partner went absolutely off about how he didn’t care or support her during a challenging pregnancy. Be very suspicious of men who look up to him because they’re often trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:23 AM
131

I left a date once because of this. His profile said he was 6ft (I don't really have a thing for height honestly) and I'm nowhere near that. He showed up and we were about the same height. I made a joke about it and he got extremely defensive that I must be taller than I thought. I slipped the bartender $20 for my drink and left out the back of the place because I don't deal with aggressive men or liars for a second longer than I need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:12 PM
39

She should leave ASAP. Some guy in my hometown was convicted of raping his step-sister and everyone believed him that it was consensual and her mom just had an axe to grind. Dude gave me THE CREEPS but was in my friend group. He assaulted me in the back of a car on the way home from a bar when he was married. I have no doubt he raped his step-sister and probably other women as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:31 AM
60

I do as well. Some dude messaged me about how he had a dream about me and wouldn't it be nice to hang out since he was coming to my city soon. His girlfriend posted pictures of the date he took her on for her birthday not long after and I sent her screenshots immediately. I was just like "Thought you should see this" and she responded "thanks for letting me know". I felt bad for her but at the same time, I would have wanted this done for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:47 AM
16

Works in the IT field means support desk person lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 11:17 PM
1

You should also send this man a little Grace Hopper, an eternal badass and my absolute hero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:02 AM
2

I agree with you and have also noticed this. It happens as well with "yummy". I don't know if it's because I'm a millennial but the second someone tells me about their "yummy dinner" or "delicious lunch" I want to light myself on fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:31 AM
3

I yelled when I read this, I’m so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:29 PM
3

This is totally not surprising to me. Men are constantly complaining that no one cares about their problems like women have it any easier. I pay a professional trained to listen to my issues, most of the women in my life do. Why men think we have it any easier is beyond me, we just handle our shit instead of offloading it to someone else who isn’t qualified, paid, or interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:47 PM
3

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3253726/ "The idea that robust fertility for a man will continue well past a woman’s decline in fertility is untrue. Although the female ovarian reserve is perhaps the most crucial component of a couple’s per cycle fecundity, the age of the male partner also has significant impact on reproduction. Beyond the fact that older men tend to have older female partners, increasing male age is associated with increased time to conception. This reflects the ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:04 PM
3

This isn’t true! They proved recently that sperm quality and the health of offspring from older men are not as good. I love to shout this information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:16 AM
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It’s even more interesting when you realize women don’t hit their sexual prime until their 30s. I was chatting with a friend recently and said that this idea of women being less valuable over 30 is a myth men spread because it’s when we start to reach our full power. I’ve been noticing older women more and more as I age and I’ve gotta say, I am excited and thrilled to be that kind of badass one day. I regret spending any part of my 20s worried about turning 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:20 AM
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