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My advice: Focus on creating a beutiful, calm and meaningful space for yourself and those who love you. Make being around you pleasent and whimsical. Be creative and look for every possible opportunity to be kind to someone. Find a man that is strong, kind and can lead. Explore the beauty of combining his masculine side with your feminine. Have children, if you can, and put energy into raising the next generations to be better than your were. That is your power.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/25 08:42 AM
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You hold the power of creating life. And never let the modern world tell you otherwise. You carry a baby for nine months and you are an essential role to keeping that human alive for the first few months of it's life. You create a biological tie to that child that the father doesn't poses. Besides the biology: Women have the power of keeping, fueling and nurturing relationships with other people. Just think about all the men who end up alone and isolated when their wives pass away or divorce the…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/25 08:38 AM
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I like that way of thinking. I would rather have attention, small gifts, acts of serviexe and such on a regular basis than just 2-3 days a year.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 11:04 AM
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He does show interest. And he does ask me to do things with him, like watch movies I like or bake. I just get so unmotivated when I have to take charge and make him do those things. Which could mean that all of this is my own fault.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 11:03 AM
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I do believe he is saving for a future with me. But since I am not as well versed in finance he feels we are not very compatible there. He is mostly saving for early retirement. Which I think includes me hehe. He says it does but I am a bit unsure because he talks about his financial goals. I do believe he would want me to get on board and be as passionate about saving as he is.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 10:58 AM
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I try to be. With time it has become a bit unmotivating though. He has been very clear about not wanting gifts, even though he is using the things I have bought him - and I do believe he enjoys the things he has gotten as gifts. And surprising him is not easy. He likes things to be planned ahead and isn't a very spontaneous person - it seems to make him uneasy. The closest I have gotten was buying some brealfast and other stuff for him and going to his apartment before work to leave it on the do…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 09:08 AM
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My boyfriend does his best, I think he has a lot of anxiety about spending money. Of course I agree with you - I would buy him anything he wants just to make him happy. But he is very anxious about the future and very set on reaching certain financial goals. Sure, it makes it harder to be romantic towards his girlfriend but he tries his best anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 09:06 AM
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I really appreciate your help here. Honestly this short conversation with you has helped calm me so much. Thank you❤️ About the heavy lifting - I do a lot of emotional heavy lifting in the relationship and it's tiring me out. He is a very sweet guy but he is not the best with dealing with feelings. He avoids his own, he avoids problems with his family (which we have) and avoids taking charge when things are uncomfortable. So having to save the romance in my relationship all by myself makes me re…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 09:12 PM
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Those are HUGE romantic gestures in my eyes... Buying you something that relates to your hobby "just because he thinks I'll like it". You didn't have to flex that hard 🙈
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 08:54 PM
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Thank you for this. It feels nice to hear that someone else has struggled with this. I know he cares for me in his own way. He does make a lot more than me, but he recently bought his own apartment and that + his saving goals is making it very very hard for him to spend money on me. He used to pay for stuff before he bought his own place. The thing is, after all his talk about money I sort of feel tired of all the romance. All I see is the price. He has very VERY clearly stated what a waste he t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 08:44 PM
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He gives a lot of his time, he is always available to hang out. I think that is his way of showing love. And it's great. He plans for a stable financial future, which I appriciate. I am failing to see my role in the relationship anymore. He doesn't really seem to appriciate my social skills, baking, cooking, my faith, my interest in children and family-oriented values. He sort of sees those as annoying to even talk about.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 08:38 PM
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It's a good realtionship but I am having a hard time with how little effort is put into making it romantic. I don't feel like the woman in the realtionship. We love each other, I know we do. I just don't want to turn 60 and never have experiences a spontanous surprise, romantic gifts, flowers and such...
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 08:19 PM
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This sounds so sad. But I assume you are posting this to get some real practical advice. Do YOU want to be girly? Do you feel in touch with your feminine/girly/playful side?
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 12:26 PM
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Yeah I agree with you. I think I just have to find a balance here. I can't expect him to understand him 100% and take care of my emotions the way I expect him to. This is my first relationship and really first experience with men. I think I had too high expectations
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 08:39 AM
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I have done that. It just doesn't feel fulfilling to put my relationship in a separate block in my life. I would love to be close to my boyfriend. To feel taken care of and dependent on him. Of course I can do everything myself, I just don't want that. I want to become one with my partner and I am now wondering if my expectations are too much.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 08:34 AM
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I honestly believe myself to be very self aware when it comes to this. I understand that he is doing his best and pushing him away and NOT talking is no way to go. When I am talking to him about problems he feels distant; physically and verbally. This is the feeling I have while talking about things inside as well as outside our relationship I just don't understand these women who then talk about how their man is their best friend and knows them the best etc. Am I supposed to surpress my emotion…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 08:26 AM
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I think your answer was great! My boyfriend doesn't really talk about his feelings. The best way I can be there for him is physically. Physical intimacy is a huge thing for him and I feel like I support him in that way. I do not bombard hum with solutions when he wants to talk, I hate when someone does that to me. It's more like this: he is very very comfortable with disregarding every problem with "it is what it is" and ignoring it by focusing on his work. The best I can do for him when he is s…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 06:59 AM
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I never really thought a massage could be helpful when it comes to being turned on - until my boyfriend gave me one. The twist was that he was doing it really calmly without expecting anything from it. Relaxation is truly the key for women.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 09:47 PM
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With all due respect; it's not very important weather he practices Islam or not. Culture is a powerful thing, honor-culture is even more powerful. Please protect yourself by keeping in mind that muslims from very strict cultures rarely follow the religion... It's the pressure from family that is followed. Cultural habits are more important than Islam. "What will people think" is more important than Islam. Your boyfriend may not be practicing but once he involves you with his family it will be wa…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 07:48 PM
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Yep, we should talk
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 07:38 PM
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Dear stranger, I am in the exact same position as you. My boyfriend is from a muslim family from Europe. Every single married person in his family is married to someone from their culture and religion. There are a few who have chosen a spouse who is german and not muslim. But this spouse still has to adapt to their culture and religion, not the other way around. I have to tell you that men are not that prone to thinking relationships through. 9/10 times situations like ours will end in the man r…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 07:23 PM
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I'm not trying to be the one to stir things up, but men are more simple than we think. If he where 100% sure about you - you would know. Now, this doesn't have to be anything serious. A year together really is nothing and it's wise to not make any big life decisions based on a year together. If I were you I would still question myself and him - could there be other reasons, besides the timeline, for him to not show signs of planning for a future together with you?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 02:39 PM
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My simple opinion is that cohabitating before marriages only distracts you from the problem that keeps you from getting married.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 09:59 PM
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Something about a milkshake, that brings a lot of men to their yard.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 05:45 PM
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I don't see how I insulted anyone. Would I be insulting a woman if I told her she didn't put feminine energy into the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 05:43 PM
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This is a great example of a man not putting masculine effort in the relationship. Instead of leading you to "being more respectful" he demands it without helping you get there. He should be able to show you what he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 09:04 AM
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Asking for forgiveness is all you can and should do. Asking for forgiveness includes: highlighting what you did wrong and making sure your partner sees that you understand the situation from their perspective not blaming your behaviour on something outside of you asking them to forgive. The things you would consider "making it up to him" should be things you do without being guilt-tripped. Love, affection, gifts, compliments, quality time and so on.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 05:47 PM
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You seem very aware of how much, how often and how many men are looking at you hehe. I'm happy that you like dressing feminine, I do too. Just be careful to not do it for the wrong reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 08:11 PM
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First date ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 08:09 AM
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Following traditional values is one thing. Redpill is another. I believe that traditional values are beautiful because they highlight how feminine women and masculine men can use their biological differences in a positive way. Traditional values protect the feelings of both the man and the woman. It puts them in a place where their traits are used for the good of something greater: a family. Redpill is all about men wanting to feel powerful and put women in their place.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 08:57 PM
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It's never too late to take a step back. Men are never afraid to ask things of us and we should get comfortable doing the same. I dont know how old you are or if this is your first boyfriend. But here is another thing worth knowing: Any man with a healthy level of testostorone will turn primal when it comes to intimicy. It's natural and doesn't necessarily mean he sees you as a sex object. If he prioritizes your well being in other ways, has committed to you and you feel happy; its normal to let…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 11:46 AM
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He has a legitimate reason not to trust you since you cheated in the past, this I understand. However: you can not get involved with a person, knowing this, and then hold it against them. He needs to either accept what has happened and move on and chose to trust you each day or simply break up. There is no middle ground.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 07:34 AM
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If there is nothing concrete on which to base your morality, then it can be subjective which is kind of the opposite of traditional. Great way to put it actually, I loved this. You put my feelings about this into words. If there is nothing to base your traditional values on it's pretty hard to stick to them and stand up for them.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 11:52 PM
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And what happens when your baby grows up to become an angry teenager who dislikes you? Or an adult that doesn't need you anymore? I didn't mean children when I said pressure from family. I was thinking family members that expect you to fill a certain role and live up to certain expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 11:41 PM
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I see your point clearly
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 11:23 PM
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I believe there are two reasons for a woman being truly traditional: pressure from society and God. Neither of these have to be extreme. But either her family and her surroundings are making it favourable for her to be traditional or her beliefs are making it worth it. The first one will crumble eventually. The second one can keep you motivated to live out your beliefs for longer.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 11:22 PM
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This is a great respons, thank you so much✨
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 11:18 PM
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I'm so sorry it was toxic, otherwise it sounds quite wholesome to share something like that. Unless he forced it down your throat and was one of those annoying christians who dragged you to church with them?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:51 PM
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I see your point, and agree!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:13 PM
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Yes organized religion does have it's faults. But as Jordan Peterson has said: thats not a reason not to attend it. Go in there and change what needs changing.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:12 PM
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Great point. Even though you do not believe in God something is standing as a foundation for how you choose to live your life! Your family, your own pleasure, a person you look up to. Faith is important for me as well, I do however believe you are able to be traditional without it. It's just important to be able to know what it is you are following and why.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 07:59 PM
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I understand you point, thank you for answering!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 07:54 PM
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Great point!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 07:50 PM
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So from what I understand you didn't actually do anything to support him growing into his role more? Besides maybe introducing him to your faith?
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 02:56 PM
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Thats beautiful, thank you✨
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 02:43 PM
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That’s leadership to me. When a person can make decisions that benefit the group and not just themselves. 🌟
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 08:55 AM
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he is a great leader but at the beginning of our relationship he wasn’t the way he is now. How did you support him claim his role as a better leader? What changes did he make before you felt he was done cooking?
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 08:53 AM
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Great list! A combination of love for your wellbeing, knowledge of you as a person and confidence in himself will make him a great leader of your household. Many men today seek to "find a wife" but few men seek to "become a husband". And those are two different things. Stay picky and high maintenance, girls ;)
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 08:51 AM
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If you choose to stay a virgin you are doing it for yourself. You should be proud of yourself and keep your head held high.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 06:25 PM
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I liked this list!! Great advice :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 02:28 PM
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I'm spending too much time on reddit hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 12:22 PM
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Captain of what? I am left confused
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 12:12 PM
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Hihih thank you❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 07:22 AM
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I am just trying to figure out why he would say that...? Is he warning you? Is he putting the emotional load of being attracted to someone who isn't your partner on you?
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 06:15 PM
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I simply believe I was put on this earth for a reason, not by chance. I am not smart enough to know exactly why. But I believe my purpose is to make the people around me happy. To grow and become a better person and give the best parts of me to my children (that I dont yet have). The love I give them during childhood will live with them long after I am gone. Last but not least, I read psalms 139 every day and that gives me something to look forward to. "For you created my inmost being; you knit …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 02:20 PM
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Because being submissive can bring out the best in him. And in you as well.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 12:40 PM
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I honestly agree with your husband here. I would love to be married for a few years before having a baby. If it happens earlier then, of course, I'll be happy too. The thing is, marriage and dating are two different worlds. I think it's important to establish a firm foundation on which you can rely on once the baby comes. Did you guys live together during these 5years of dating?
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 11:51 AM
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Acting like a wife is how you become a wife :)) If you LIKE cooking and he LIKES YOUR cooking, i see no problem with this. If it's the way he asks you that is making you uncomfortable then thats another thing. My boyfriend has never asked me to cook for him, and I love surprising him with something I have cooked/baked.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 03:17 PM
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Where do find men to go on dates with you?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 06:15 PM
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Economy: One person staying home means less money spent. You can make him lunch for work so he doesn't have to buy stuff outside. Peace: You can do things you like during the day and spend the day stress-free. When he gets home from work tired you can be in a good mood and take care of him emotionally. Those are only two benefits that make a huge impact on the way you live your life together.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 05:54 AM
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Hey... Before marriage you guys should be going out on cute dates and kiss and cuddle and stare in eachothers eyes romantically for hours in crowded places. You should not sit at his house and make meals and clean... Thats what you will do when you guys are married and living together. If both of you work full time both should take care of the home: clean, cook, and organize. It's not unreasonable for you to ask him to keep your livingspace clean if both of you live there. If it's his apartment,…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 12:38 PM
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Cursing at me is not acceptable. You guys seem to have things to figure out and I wish you godspeed in doing that. But cursing at you? A man cursing at his woman for hanging up on him when he plays a YT video over her voice out of annoyance? Thats not a very "high value male" way to go... Accepting such behaviour is your first mistake. Once you start placing your own boundries, you will be able to hold yourself up to the same standard. My boyfriend has never cursed at me and I have never cursed …
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 12:28 PM
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When I surround myself with wholesome conversations, music, movies and people. Thats when I am the most feminine. When I dont have to protect myself, thats when I feel like I can give my most feminine self to the people around me. If I am uncomfortable, if I feel unsafe: I will have to be protective of myself and will not focus on the people around me. I can only compare this to the feeling I have when with my dad. I know he will protect me and put me first, so I don't have to do that flr myself…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 02:10 PM
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Yep yep yep yep
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 06:36 AM
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Anyone found a way to set up their dating profile to only attract men who enjoy being providers without being offensive to the ones who aren’t. Adoption sites hahahahah
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 07:33 AM
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I would be able to forgive him. What he did is not okay and it's weak and honestly quite pathetic but still forgivable. Don't throw away a perfectly healthy and good relationship on one moment of weakness.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 06:05 PM
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I understand that completely
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 05:42 PM
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Oh hehe...
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 02:27 PM
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You may be right :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 08:50 AM
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I hear you.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:24 PM
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I actually thing that list of priorities are going to benefit your mental health in the long run. Prioritizing the people who actually give you support seem very healthy, something I have had to consider more recently.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:23 PM
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It's hard for us to understand. Being a man who wants to please anyone but himself must be very hard. And there is nothing wrong with wanting to please the people you love, man or woman. But yes, as a woman looking to submit to a man these qualities makes things harder.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:18 PM
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Haha, I had this verse in the back of my mind while writing this post!
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:16 PM
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inspiring
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:15 PM
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You may actually be right! It is wise to follow in the footsteps of people you want to be like. If the man feels that his familys way is the way; he should absolutely follow their advices and abide by their way. And then also chose a wife that can fit in.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:14 PM
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I completely agree, once you are married everyone outside the home is extended family; great mindset
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:10 PM
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How interesting! Keeping the peace with the in-laws may be the thing to start a war in the marriage
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:08 PM
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Thats a very nice way to look at it. Of course it's an indications of very good qualities in some sense.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:07 PM
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I resinate a LOT with your answer. My family is not traditional. I have a very traditional mindset and want a specific type of dynamic in my future marriage. So by being traditional I am going my own way and it makes me proud.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 09:55 PM
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I would be so turned off by a man who couldn’t form his own opinions or go his own way. I hear you
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 09:46 PM
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I get this, but at the same time it feels like you can't expect a man, especially someone under 30 to come all done to you. You have to be willing to grow together in some aspects
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:06 PM
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Thank you! Yes prophecizing sound almost manipulative but it's really bice to hear. It spreads positivity in your relationship :)))
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 12:28 PM
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Yes I know about her, don't know how to feel about her approach but I think there is a healthy way to do it. It's just that it feels a bit like "gentle parenting" your man hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 05:07 AM
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I think a lot of women have a hard time taking a step back and asking themselves what approach will be beneficial long term. Short term you sort of just blurt out "hey you said you wanted to work out more, so do that". You strategically helped him enjoy working out, that is amazing. There are so few women who understand this, myself included. Thanks for inspo!!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 08:55 PM
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I LOVE this response!! Thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 08:51 PM
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Yees :))
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 06:17 PM
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You are obligated to inform your partner if he is not able to satisfy you. So if you feel like your sex drive is a result of him not doing something right, tell him:) You are supposed to enjoy sex. But I have no idea, maybe you do have a lower sex drive then him
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 09:16 PM
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This one wins. I needed to hear that first paragraph.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 07:33 AM
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I understand your point
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 07:18 PM
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Wow! Interesting perspective!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 07:18 PM
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Not at all.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 02:02 PM
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Waste of time, great way to ruin your self esteem and make you feel worthless. Learn to invest in longterm relationships that will nourish you instead of catering to the needs of people who will only be in your life temporarily. Dont act a fool. Get a grip. Grow up.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 09:49 AM
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Tending to the needs of the people around you means learning about them, taking those needs in consideration and making a conscious effort to fulfill them. It means being sacrificial in your day to day life.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 03:11 PM
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This. Put your family first, that is your husband and children. All that matters is that you and your husband are happy with the way you live. Your parents should only be there to assist and love you. They had their chance to make a life of their own, now it's your turn.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 09:31 PM
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I like this list, I see nothing wrong with it. The only thing I would ask you to reconsider is for him to have the same ethnicity as you. How important is that to you on a personal level? You might be missing out on really good guys by only dating a certain ethnicity. Good luck :))
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 12:40 PM
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Sounds wonderful! I love the part about showing appriciation for the others strenght and work instead of seeing it as a competition or having to do 50/50 all the time. I belive that is the beauty of this type of structure in a marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 01:58 PM
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What do you have against online dating? Its a great alternative for someone, lets say, picky. You can talk to guys without having to waste time on meeting them. I understand you longing for marriage but it seems to be that you are thinking a little too much about it. Focus on being a "high-value" woman instead. Use your time as single to build up character traits and skills a man you would be interested in would appriciate. Also; stop thinking so much about what people look like... Its great tha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 03:03 PM
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