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No, in hindsight it didn't help me that much. But I took things more seriously at the time because I put down some cash. There was a lot of similar stuff as to what was on YouTube and there where some interesting videos about appearance.
/r/seduction20/05/22 04:15 PM
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Hmm I see, anyway I never have been obsessed but I used to be afraid of missing out on other women.
/r/seduction03/02/19 09:52 PM
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I don't think so. I used to be like "aah oneitis" but now I've realized that I shouldn't be afraid of commitment.
/r/seduction03/02/19 08:36 PM
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Salt Lake City
/r/seduction27/09/18 04:11 AM
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I don't have experience with big boobs. I care because I can target my approaches so I have better opportunity to get experience with them. It's hard for me to tell how much bra padding adds, though.
/r/seduction27/09/18 04:09 AM
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What do you mean by that last part?
/r/seduction09/09/18 04:40 PM
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I've heard that dinner isn't the best idea. I didn't originally intend to have a meal (closer to lunch time), but the cafe served food and she wanted to eat (so did I since I was hungry and the food was good). She lives in a more suburban area where there are a lot of chains so finding perfect venues is not as easy as in the city. Next time I bet she will be more comfortable. I'll try not to get oneitis, hoping to do some more daygame this week.
/r/seduction09/09/18 04:32 PM
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Thank you!
/r/seduction05/09/18 07:58 PM
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I gotcha, it is weird that she is interested in a 20 yr old, especially since she's over 25 and a mom. She agreed to a date this weekend. She also gives me a lot of IOIs and in her first response said I am cute and funny. She puts that "hahaha" in a lot of texts.
/r/seduction05/09/18 03:39 AM
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How can you tell that she's desperate? From what I remember she hooked immediately at the open and maybe a little before I stopped her. I want to think that I just did a great job at the set. If she's desperate than I can be real with her, but if it was good game, then I'd have to keep that up.
/r/seduction05/09/18 12:25 AM
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The thing is I might have to fake it if I want to hit it, but I'm hoping that I can keep her qualifying and have provider behavior as a reward. I don't know if I have the heart to quit right away, but maybe I can make things casual.
/r/seduction04/09/18 09:13 PM
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I can see some girls being wary of a 2 dimensional cheesy pick up artist type tho. I didn't ground myself at all in that set, because I hoped she would ask the boring small talk questions. But yeah, technically in the I couldn't think of a way to transition smoothly into the next phase of the interaction, so I just hard closed then moved to the next one to do better. The close worked tho, so solid enough.
/r/seduction04/09/18 09:04 PM
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Yeah man, this also isn't the first time I've accidentally number closed older women, so I might need to customize the London Daygame Model I use to screen women better. My set on the flake was my second of the day and not as good overall. She was cracking up at my story about her, but I didn't identify the hook point and didn't ask her qualifying questions, so it probably looked kind of "pick up artisty." She entered her number into my phone weird so I thought it was fake, but her snapchat popp…
/r/seduction04/09/18 08:21 PM
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Lol tequila is perfect! I think I recognize your username. This is how the great daygame session has progressed. I messaged two of the four and one responded and one didn't, normal daygame half the time you get flakes.
/r/seduction04/09/18 08:04 PM
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As in my plan or overall how it's gone? I try to avoid older women normally, but I've built the attraction. I just don't know what type of provider traps she is going to spring, but my hunch is to reframe her demands in a way that she has to prove herself to me before she can be provided for.
/r/seduction04/09/18 07:52 PM
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It's college, I don't game high schools, i stay legal some girls look 17 tho.
/r/seduction01/09/18 02:48 AM
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True
/r/seduction01/09/18 02:40 AM
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Thanks I'm not feeling as weird and will probably shoot a message off to my favorites tomorrow (ugh I'll also have to explain to my roommate that I'm a pua). You are right though about the personal experience, i know logically that women are highly sexual and that's one thing that helps motivate me to game and minimize AA, but when I see a 17-19 yr old and they look very inexperienced and I would feel especially guilty if I popped their cherry and ended things soon after. One of the girls who mi…
/r/seduction01/09/18 02:39 AM
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I watched some of his preview, it was interesting but pretty much all explaining psychology. He says there are examples of lines and things to say in order to structure an approach, but I haven't seen any in the preview and I don't know what all that entails. He also says that he'll provide formats for how to preface things, which he does on his youtube channel, but I have a hard time implementing those if I have to come up with my own material.
/r/seduction20/07/18 10:52 PM
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Everyone is selling the "ultimate resource". 90% of them are crap, so that's your odds. Yeah that's why I'm hesitant. There is a preview though, so I'll check that out.
/r/seduction20/07/18 10:10 PM
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Thank you doctor
/r/askTRP06/07/18 11:15 PM
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Fraternities are not Red Pill or necessarily self improvement oriented.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 04:10 PM
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I see what you mean now. Yeah, my intention isn't to impose anything on anyone, but we would probably determine the pros and cons of things like that and what our personal experiences have been like with it. There is a fine line and I'm not sure were it is.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 04:08 PM
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That would be the worst case scenario. I would have to make it seem innocuous enough from the advertising so the crazy people wouldn't think about it too hard. I mean there are women's groups, but guys rarely show up or are interested in it. I still wouldn't be comfortable with a crazy feminist trying to infiltrate to say I'm a misogynist. But colleges segregate boys and girls to a certain extent. Like men aren't allowed in the women's bathroom and vise versa. No co-ed dorm rooms. A fraternity i…
/r/askTRP06/07/18 03:43 AM
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I would hope that the people who show up are interested in improvement. I'll try to be careful, but I am not sure of all the ways I could be attacked.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 03:31 AM
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Yeah, I honestly find the PUA stuff more useful for initially making connections with women and TRP as more of the next step.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/18 03:26 AM
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It sounds like you were in a religious group first. I've been a part of things like this and enjoyed them, but it's not what I'm proposing. I'm a somewhat spiritual person, but not really religious and I'm not going to try imposing any values about wether things like monogamy are good or bad. Of course, I have my opinions, I also don't agree with everything that RPers believe, and I'd justify it maybe even suggest that members consider implementing them. However, the point is discussion, being o…
/r/askTRP06/07/18 03:18 AM
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Thanks! Yeah, I'd have to be careful how I advertise it, so no one shuts me down. Ideally, I could have a booth at the club fair and put posters up around campus/the neighborhood, so that more guys could see it. I don't know if using the term "Red Pill" would trigger anyone, but I'd at least want to make it clear that we discuss things from a "male perspective." I want to be inclusive and help as many guys as possible, but if the group is too big people might be less inclined to share or confide…
/r/askTRP06/07/18 03:00 AM
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I've only had one girl run away, but it is common for others to get very uncomfortable. The girl that ran away I suspect was under 18, maybe 16 or 17 (god, I hope not 15). I'm 19, but look a little older. Younger girls, are not as used to male attention and may buy into the "every man is a rapist" feminist bs. Plus, a sober cold approach on the street is very unusual. I was direct, I asked a question, then said I actually stopped because I thought she was cute. Then, she had a look of horror and…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/18 02:40 AM
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I learned the PUAs call the compliment approach a "direct approach." That is all I've done so far, because it's less to think about. It may be attractive for a guy to a approach a women out of the blue and tell her she's cute, but don't think that it's the cheat code to life, it can seem predatory and rape-y. On my first ever approach the girl ran away from me. In general it is very surprising. PUA is not just routines and canned lines, it's understanding the psychology of interaction and levera…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/18 12:09 AM
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Thank you, I guess it will be hard to know what the right things to do are, but I appreciate the advice.
/r/seduction02/07/18 07:14 PM
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Alright, the first part is a little unclear. Are you saying that you usually are not direct except with girls that say they won't have sex with you and 40% of all girls will tell you that? Then are you saying that the girls that said simple things like that you can't sleep over are the ones you don't sleep with? Your story is a good example of being direct. I also don't know what you mean by intent, like do you mean make your intent cleat or to disguise your intent? This is interesting and all, …
/r/seduction30/06/18 04:28 AM
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I've never done improv, but I've done acting and some stand up comedy. Improv should be a good challenge, I haven't been interested because coming up with good material on the spot wasn't as interesting as crafting something beforehand, but that's the point and a different skill to use. Like I said I'm not trying to be a pua and sleep with a ton of women immediately. I don't see why I need to be 21 to learn essentially communication skills. I just want to make connections faster, get more comfor…
/r/seduction29/06/18 08:18 PM
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dont focus on being a pua I don't want to be a pua just get better with talking to girls with more sexual tension. I would say work out like crazy I am really into fitness, health, and cooking so go to the gym three times a week and eat all sorts of protein shakes and other nutritious foods. have a girl for each class That's actually how I go into this. I was just a part time student, so I only was in one class at a time and there was this super cute girl that I got to know and seemed really fri…
/r/seduction29/06/18 05:21 PM
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Day game is kind of my only option, for now at least. I can't go into bars or clubs because I'm under 21. Honestly, if I was able to use groups to meet girls I wouldn't have had to do cold approaches in the first place. I'm in community college, so it's a little different and a lot more older and part time students. I'm not good enough to be able to get across my interest without being direct yet. I've had success, but I sometimes get nervous because the interactions can get chaotic fast.
/r/seduction27/06/18 10:29 PM
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Thanks for the diagnosis doctor
/r/seduction27/06/18 10:25 PM
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I appreciate all the info! What I suspected is that just me telling the girl she is cute was surprising, especially for the younger ladies that probably haven't had as much experience with that sort of thing. I accidentally approached a girl that was like 28 and she was much more receptive. I get your point about the bait and switch, but I don't really see it as weird. I'm not ready for indirect yet, it's a lot more to think about and takes up more time.
/r/seduction27/06/18 05:02 AM
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Blah blah blah about some neutral subject, nope I'm lying, I think you're cute.. This is actually almost exactly what I have been using, except I'll say "I actually made that up..." Same two words, different context, different delivery, different reaction So "I stopped you, because I think you're cute" when prefaced with an unrelated question has a different effect than "I think you are cute" on it's own?
/r/seduction27/06/18 02:44 AM
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Thanks for the suggestions, I'll give it a shot! The thing is it's easier to stop someone with a question and try to get a conversation going. The girls usually don't seem pissed just surprised and a bit uncomfortable. Do you mean that the question opens people up 90% to answering your question and it's limited because anything beyond that seems like a trick?
/r/seduction26/06/18 11:55 PM
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Thanks for the response, having the mindset of thinking you're the shit hasn't really altered results yet for me, just helps me get going. I guess I haven't really been able to convey that I'm the shit just by thinking/feeling it. What has seemed to work best is the positive self talk and having a good conversation. I feel like I can stay calm when receiving negative feedback, but when I respond and it's not going well I feel like her mind is made up and I don't know what to do. Anyway, my most …
/r/seduction26/06/18 11:42 PM
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BEAST NATION BABY!!!! Fearless Man is kind of spiritual like if you feel confident, steady, and have an unapologetic sexual energy then you are attractive. It helps me get into the right mindset, so I don't care about rejections, maybe it works well in nightclubs and bars, but during the day it can be creepy if you don't counter balance with good conversation.
/r/seduction26/06/18 08:44 PM
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Question? This mentality helps me initiate and start with confidence. I just go direct. However, I haven't noticed my efforts being received better. Maybe, I'm not as confident as I think I am, but I've researched what to do and feel that I check the boxes pretty well. So then, when the girl doesn't accept your compliment and looks uncomfortable. I start to get frustrated and mad, because I feel that I've done something nice and I'm being treated like a predator, then I get nervous and blow out.…
/r/seduction26/06/18 08:34 PM
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Honestly, I don't really like FarAboveAverage. It's all theory and some of his stuff I don't find to be true (or at least work for me) and sometimes contradict himself. How to Beast got me into approaches and just improved my life as a whole. Fearless Man and The Attractive Man are other favorites that co-exist with the How to Beast style. Then the RSD guys and Todd V Dating are very informative, but most of it is very advanced and is beyond me, too much to think about for a beginner like me.
/r/seduction26/06/18 08:00 PM
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Thanks for the info! I don't know all the terminology, I'm assuming a set is what you say on an approach. This has got me thinking about using different approach techniques, which honestly makes me a bit more nervous, because my last approach from yesterday I tried to on the fly alter what I usually do and I was tripping on my words and repeating questions. Also, what I mean by M19 is that I'm a male and 19 years old, so college campuses are a good option, because there are people around my age …
/r/seduction26/05/18 09:36 PM
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Bro you need to get better mics. This is interesting, but the production value is bad. I feel like I missed a lot of good info.
/r/seduction26/05/18 06:01 PM
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