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Forget about the height, that is not a real concern. Cajun is a good dating expert that works for lovesystems. He has the same height you do and pulls tall girls whenever he wants. Keep F*UCKING GOING man. If you REALLY want to become great, you have to first go through the trenches like everyone else when it comes to cold approach. And yes, avoid approaching girls from behind, they can get creeped out easily.
/r/seduction22/05/16 10:43 PM
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Bowling, comedy club, mall and then go for ice cream while your there.
/r/seduction11/05/16 01:36 AM
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Life.
/r/seduction11/05/16 01:32 AM
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True story. For those who haven't tried this technique, It works BEST if you do it AFTER she has already EMOTIONALLY invested in you. If you do it BEFORE, it's not much of a big deal to her.
/r/seduction10/05/16 01:24 AM
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You can kiss close pretty much anywhere. It all depends on how "fresh" your skills are. I recommend going for the kiss close while your having awesome vibes with a girl. As soon as your gut tells you to go for a kiss, do it. Don't be surprised if she pulls away. It's normal. Wait 10 minutes and go for it again. Repeat until you either kiss her or she makes it CLEAR that she wants no kiss.
/r/seduction08/05/16 11:22 PM
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Did you try to isolate the girls? I'm sure you already know that girls hate coming across as sluts and easy. You probably ended up putting too much pressure on the girl since you managed to get a lot of attention from the crowd. You did mention that your friends were watching. Isolate the girls next time so she can have less social pressure from everyone around. Bonus tip: Next time you have great vibes with a girl on the dance floor and you want to make things more intimate just tell her to bit…
/r/seduction07/05/16 10:26 PM
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If you really want to become good with girls, you got to go through the trenches like everyone else. Two common ways to meet girls are #1: Through cold approach. and #2: By following your strong desires in life. With cold approach, you got to practice fairly often to meet awesome girls as well as keep your cold approach skills sharp. Meeting girls through following your dreams and passions can take a longer time before you meet really awesome girls. So really it comes down to two choices: Go thr…
/r/seduction05/05/16 01:05 AM
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If you do it in a fun vibing way without making it a big deal, she won't make a big deal of it either. If you make the situation logical and go for the kiss because you feel forced to do so, she will get creeped out. Act like it's the most natrual thing in the world. Good date idea by the way.
/r/seduction04/05/16 12:03 AM
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You sir are an action taker. Keep it up, you need more and more experiences before you can successfully succeed at closing things right. As long as your taking action, your mostly on the right path. It's learning from each experience that counts.
/r/seduction03/05/16 01:05 AM
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Be none reacting to it. Girls, especially the hottest girls spend most of their day looking at their phone. The stuff they find in social media takes them through emotional roller coasters. Girls love it. Keep things light, playful, challenge her, self-entertain yourself, be free flowing about what you talk about. If your free fun flowing vibes get to her, she will naturally put her phone away and get sucked into your world.
/r/seduction02/05/16 01:12 AM
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To become the best MAN you can be, read: The law of success by Napoleon Hill. But only if your really SEROUS about becoming the BEST. To become more interesting to women, I highly suggest to focus on your lifestyle. Focus on getting awesome fun experiences in life. Have a fun hobby, go to the party that people invite you to, go on a trip. Fun and social experiences is what naturally make any person more interesting.
/r/seduction28/04/16 01:54 AM
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I understand what you mean. I do want to point out though that high value people (both men and women) value their time A LOT. High value girls will almost always be occupied doing something, even if you and I may not see it as important. When a high value girl is genuinely interested in a high value guy, she will make to time for him almost anytime he wants.
/r/seduction28/04/16 01:48 AM
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If a man or women is sexually and maybe romantically interested towards the other person, the man or women will ALWAYS make time for them.
/r/seduction27/04/16 02:55 AM
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Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? How do I get over the fact that this one aspect of life is impossible for me to get? I'm assuming that what you think may be impossible to have right now is a healthy social life. If this is the case, start now. Only if you really want to have a healthy social life in the future. It all stars with a goal and a plan. Decide how you would want your ideal social life to be. Type it up. Warren Buffet has said that you have never fully thought out something …
/r/seduction22/04/16 10:01 PM
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Your welcome man
/r/seduction22/04/16 09:45 PM
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Show verbal interest in a girl without going to far. I'm sure your familiar with the term push/pull in the community. Push is when you tease a girl and verbally show a lack of interest in her. (this could be your asshole mode) pull is when you show genuine interest in a girl and actually end up building more of a bond with her. Right now it looks like you may be on the push mode too much which can turn girls off when done too much. Balance push pull in your interactions and more girls will be pu…
/r/seduction22/04/16 02:58 AM
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Solution is easier said then done. It's true though in my experience. Get more experiences dating. Almost every guy has a plateau stage. This may be yours right now. As you get more and more experiences, you will naturally learn from your experiences (if your smart about it) and get better and better even if it's in a small way. When you go on a date, I suggest you stay calm, self-self entertain, really experience the moment and be willing to "walk away" if things don't work out. Like my friend …
/r/seduction22/04/16 02:49 AM
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Guys who typically get picked on are "low status guys". Low status guys typically have week posture, lack of eye contact/creepy eye contact, weak/poor vocal tonality and poor body language in general. High status guys are the opposite. They have a tall and open posture, they make good eye contact with everyone that is not creepy, always have a confident tonality and always have a strong body language. People typically don't pick on these types of guys. This is one very important factor that may …
/r/seduction18/04/16 12:12 AM
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Good technique. This shows none neediness, creates curiosity in girls which instantly makes them more attracted towards the guy and even shows a touch of dominance.
/r/seduction15/04/16 03:54 AM
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She was wanting you to lead the sexual escalation. Let me tell you something you already know but looks like you may need a refresher on this: Girls want things to just happen If a guy puts all the pressure on the girl to make all the moves, she will end up feeling slutty. No girl wants to have that frame in her head. Instead girls often give none verbal cues to let you know that they want you to f*ck their brains out. Master escalation to get more mind blowing sex.
/r/seduction15/04/16 03:46 AM
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What you experienced with your girlfriend can bring both of you much closer together because of how vulnerable you both were to each other. Vulnerability is a POWERFUL tool AND it has a time and a place for it. One suggestion I would make for the future is to make sure that you master your emotions. Yes, women love a guy that is vulnerable at the right time but when that same guy loses control of his emotions at the wrong time, all the attraction she had towards him, drops dramatically.
/r/seduction15/04/16 03:36 AM
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For the most part, situations only get awkward when people make them. If your chill, calm, none reacting towards uncomfortable situations, girls and people in general will naturally mirror you.
/r/seduction15/04/16 03:20 AM
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Like a wise man once said, you never really get over approach anxiety. No matter how good you become at picking up girls, it will always be there. The difference between the guys who are good and the guys who are not is that they guys who are good, are constantly keeping their social skills "fresh". When it comes time to talk to the attractive girl, the less anxiety they will have. Another important point is to almost always approach right away. The longer you wait, more excuses a guy naturally …
/r/seduction11/04/16 12:15 AM
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Have you thought whether your coming from the "please give me your validation" mentality? The best guys are free flowing with their conversation and don't give a f*uck about what people think. Of course, you want to stay away from obviously offending people. If I were you, I would just talk about things that interest me and about my passions. Stay away from the "please give me your validation" mentality if you want to come across as naturally more attractive to people.
/r/seduction11/04/16 12:02 AM
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This girl ended up coming over last night really late and we planned to watch movies I think we can agree that she was up for more then just watching a movie with you late at night. She was coming to you already interested. It's either that or you have been put deeply in the friend zone and she can't imagine you making any move on her. Next time this happens, If I were you, I would decide first whether I want this girl for the night. Assuming I do, I would start escalating things SLOWLY as soon …
/r/seduction10/04/16 11:53 PM
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I'm sure your aware that you are not going to make everyone like you. If I were you, instead of focusing on how to make people like me, I would focus on having my purpose and mission in life all straighten out. I would identify my goals in life and pursue them. The people that you spend time with often during your journey of achieving your goals in life, respect them, avoid talking behind their back, offer value, self amuse yourself around them, praise them for their good qualites. If a close fr…
/r/seduction10/04/16 12:40 AM
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From FIRST glance, both men and women make sudden assumptions about races different from their own. People naturally use stereo types, especially when a person seems "out of place" from the setting. It's very important to have a solid INNER GAME here because this is what stops many beginners. Many beginners take it very personal and they can feel helpless. If you are constantly working on making yourself become the best version of yourself, as soon as you open your mouth with girls, they will pu…
/r/seduction10/04/16 12:24 AM
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You can make girls feel safe through your sub communications. This involves how good your body language, eye contact, and vocal tonality normally is. If your sub communication is that of a confident man, girls will naturally feel more safe around you. If you just started hanging out with a girl and you realize that she is not fully comfortable around you, have her spend time with you in low pressure situations. Low pressure situations include her friends and your friends hanging out together, as…
/r/seduction10/04/16 12:10 AM
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Just do what many guys find hard to do. Move FORWARD. This is one big reason why I suggest to guys to almost always be pursing multiple girls at once until something becomes exclusive. When you are the rare guy who is putting girls in an orbit, you won't care as much if you lose one girl because you will almost always be adding new girls into your orbit.
/r/seduction08/04/16 09:26 PM
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Everybody has their own style of attracting girls. All the dating coaches follow a similar foundation but each person has their own different style in applying the fundamentals. Looks like you need to find yours. The way to find it is by getting an understanding of the fundamentals of dating which are creating ATTRACTION, RAPPORT AND SEDUCTION. Use your own personal style to implement these 3 crucial phases when talking to girls. You do it by actually putting your balls on the line going through…
/r/seduction08/04/16 09:18 PM
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As soon as she gets into your car, shake her hand and hold it longer then normal and give her a good eye contact while smiling. Once you arrive to your destination, give her the hug. While you do say, "We're going to have a good time"
/r/seduction08/04/16 09:01 PM
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Always have a PURPOSE in life.
/r/seduction08/04/16 08:56 PM
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Exactly.
/r/seduction08/04/16 08:51 PM
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Phone game is mostly about keeping it fun and none needy. For best results, you want to keep the rapport building stuff aside unless you are talking to her on the phone. During texting though, keep the rapport stuff aside. Instead what you want to be doing often is AMUSING YOURSELF. Use what the top guys in the dating industry call, CALLBACK HUMOR. In case you might of forgotten, callback humor is when you tease a girl on something you teased her about when you first met her. Example: You met a …
/r/seduction08/04/16 02:18 AM
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Let your mind flow. As you gain more experience talking to people and letting your mind just flow, you will make yourself more and more comfortable just talking about whatever is in your head. Right now your probably doing what a lot of guys do and that is being too self conscious in conversations. The fewer guys that are more naturally good at talking to girls just talk about whatever they want to talk about. They let there mind just flow and end up talking about the things that THEY WANT. The …
/r/seduction08/04/16 01:50 AM
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That's why the best THINKERS in the WORLD don't allow themselves to be EASILY INFLUENCED by the MEDIA. In fact, they do very little TV watching as well as scroll around the media with no real purpose.
/r/seduction08/04/16 01:18 AM
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Honesty and TIME to build LONG LASTING TRUST
/r/seduction03/04/16 11:33 PM
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Be BRUTALLY HONEST with yourself and identify what behaviors you did too MUCH of or not ENOUGH of. If you really don't know what you did wrong, be more attentive of your behavior next time. Things you possibly did wrong: -You tried to logically attract her such as giving her logical reasons of why your awesome, instead of focusing on the VIBE between both of you. -Showed lack of sense of humor -Did not challenge her -Came across as approval seeking -You made yourself uncomfortable for too long w…
/r/seduction03/04/16 11:31 PM
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Getting more experience is what you need. After every experience, write down all the things you did well and all the things you didn't do so well. Focus on improving with each interaction. To get faster results, practice having conversations a lot. Just pace yourself and avoid overwhelming yourself. As you gain more and more experience, you will train your INSTINCTS on how to better lead conversations. Training your instincts mostly comes through experience. Here are some action steps for you To…
/r/seduction03/04/16 11:17 PM
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I also think that one of the missing ingredients that goes with what you said is to BUILD TRUST. TRUST is what every women wants from a man.
/r/seduction03/04/16 11:00 PM
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It's because you haven't created enough attraction with them yet. Why should a girl qualify herself to a guy that she is not even interested in? Self-entertain yourself, challenge girls more often, lead the interaction and master escalation.
/r/seduction02/04/16 12:56 AM
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After you gain more experience you will know. However, the way you make a girl jump your bones is by sparking sexual attraction from the beginning. Self-entertain yourself, challenge her, lead the conversation and the interaction, master escalation.
/r/seduction02/04/16 12:54 AM
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Looks like your seeking validation man. Focus on self entertaining rather then trying to come up with funny jokes, good conversation starters or something witty that you THINK other people will like. When you go with the first option (self entertaining) you should not care whether what you say is cool or not. As long as it's cool to you, that's all that matters. Obviously, stay away from on purposely offending people.
/r/seduction02/04/16 12:51 AM
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Keep persisting on gaining more experiences during the day. As you get more experiences, you will be able to analyze each interaction well and will know what to do better next time. If you don't really know what you did wrong, write a SHORT summary of what happen and we will help you out. Action steps to have better success during the day Smile when you first approach. There is a difference between grinning and smiling. Smile. Remember that during the 1st 5 minutes of most of your interactions, …
/r/seduction01/04/16 01:32 AM
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-Meetup.com can be a good option for meeting potential friends as well as potential lovers as well as an opportunity for trying out something you may like. Creating your own meetup group can be good as well. -If you can, moving out of your parents place as an experiment can help. You could find a place that can be walking distance from some good night venues. -Day game can be a good option. -Look out to see what fun activities are constantly going on in your town if there happens to be any -Do a…
/r/seduction01/04/16 01:21 AM
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Remember this: The state your in most often becomes your default setting. You get to that stage by taking complete control of your state everyday. Action steps to having more STATE control throughout the day 1. Have POWERFUL affirmations every morning and every night before going to bed. Repeat them out loud and look at yourself in the mirror while you do it. 2. Throughout the day when your just walking around, doing tasks that you can do without thinking or doing task that you don't really enjo…
/r/seduction01/04/16 01:10 AM
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Your welcome!
/r/seduction30/03/16 12:50 AM
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Have you considered creating an open relationship with your current girlfriend? If you and your girlfriend have had a very monogamous relationship up till now, it would be very odd to bring up an open relationship. What would be best for you is to not "make yourself fall into temptation" It's part of the sacrifices that both you and your girlfriend have to make in a monogamous relationship. If you think that your girlfriend is very open minded and you think that creating an open relationship may…
/r/seduction27/03/16 10:22 PM
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But now she has a boyfriend lol, im totaly beta so i never told her and kinda accepted and said "good im happy for you" >.< we still hang out, but not much lol since she has not so much time obviously. I know im totaly beta and should have said to her what i felt... I would work on my inner game if I were you. If you being beta is drilled in your head, that means that it has also influenced how you behave around people on a day to day basis. Work on your inner game, no girl will take pride in da…
/r/seduction27/03/16 10:04 PM
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Sounds like you may just be standing on the "side lines" while you let other guys enjoy the girls. Instead of wondering what could happen if you did this or that, make it happen instead. I'm funny, yet I struggle to break beyond mini friendzones (i don't stick around for long when I get that vibe), or when I do get the right kind of hints I can never successfully follow them up In the future, when this happens again, I recommend becoming more conscious about those moments. Become more conscious …
/r/seduction25/03/16 09:51 PM
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It's totally fine teasing people about some of their behavior, just remember that there is a fine line between teasing someone while smiling and actually offending people. Mix up your push pull as well. If you do a lot of push, people will eventually dislike you because all you will do is "punish" them. You create a happy medium when you balance push/push for the most part.
/r/seduction24/03/16 09:46 PM
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Within 5-15 minutes, after building lot's of attraction, you want to say something along the lines of, "hey, you seem like a cool girl. Let's hang out sometime" Her: Sure. You "great, give me your number so we can stay in touch" This is how you would get the number. You will avoid being needy by making sure you avoid sending her text after text after text without her putting as much effort as you. I recommend staying longer then 5 minutes though. The longer you stay and chat with a girl, the mor…
/r/seduction22/03/16 12:26 AM
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Here is a good way to be 'in the zone' more often Everyday, keep looking for ways to keep bettering yourself as a person. Small amounts everyday make a huge impact after 6 months. Remind yourself once every morning, once every afternoon and once every night about the person you intend to be. Write it down on your phone or on a piece of paper. If you don't determine your self-image everyday, the world around you will do it for you. Example: Today, I will be confident, charismatic, attractive, a v…
/r/seduction21/03/16 01:43 AM
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Practice cold reading more often. Examples: -"Something tells me you may be the free spirited type of person." -"You seem like the type of person that likes organization a lot" -"Hmm, I get a feeling that your trouble" (with a smile) The more you practice it, the better you'll be at getting it right which instantly allows you to stand out from the rest of the guys.
/r/seduction20/03/16 12:07 AM
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You live in the modern world. It's unavoidable long term. Text game can be really fun, looks like you just need to practice it more often. Here are some important highlights for text game: Realize that a phone number is just another form of communicating with girls. One of the main goals with phone game is get to see the girl in person again. (You will not ask for this to happen during your first few texts) Avoid being needy by texting too much (this is especially true for when you realize that …
/r/seduction19/03/16 11:59 PM
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Looks like your current friends have no desire to grow. They like living in their comfort zone while you want to continuously grow. This is a common conflict guys have after high school and even after college. Good move man, keep looking for ways to keep expanding your social circle. I honestly don't like going out in public alone, I feel like everyone just stares at me ( I know this isn't true, and they couldn't give 2 shits about me, but it still feels that way) and I sometimes have a rough ti…
/r/seduction19/03/16 11:41 PM
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Find ways to challenge and tease. If it doesn't come naturally to you, practice for YOUR fun and not to see if she will find it fun. Making sure that it's fun for you is what is most important. Of course, just don't offend girls or people in general on purpose.
/r/seduction18/03/16 10:59 PM
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Your way on deciding whether to buy a girl a drink or not is good. Stick to it. The mistake a lot of guys make is that they offer to buy a girl a drink as a way to just buy some time out of her. Weak when that is all a guy offers to keep her attention.
/r/seduction09/03/16 08:06 PM
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Believe it or not, your looks are just 10% of what makes you attractive Here is how to make that best out of your looks Action steps Take care of basic hygiene like (showering everyday, adding deodorant, shape any facial hair you have or shave it all off) Always wear clean clothes Always wear clothes that fit you really well (not too big or too small) You want a nice hug feeling from your clothes Have a good hair style for yourself and avoid a boring hair style like keeping it really short. A st…
/r/seduction09/03/16 12:02 AM
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Here are 5 action steps for you Replace negative self talk with positive self talk Avoid comparing yourself to others. Compete with your own potential instead. There will always be someone in a better position then you and there will always be someone in a worst position then you currently are. Stay fit and make the best out of your health. Avoid beating yourself up each time you make a mistake. Accept that it happened, analyze what you did wrong and do better next time. Instead of focusing on w…
/r/seduction07/03/16 12:46 AM
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Alright JC
/r/seduction06/03/16 12:09 AM
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It's about playing by your rules and not hers. As a refresher, always be leading. As soon as a girl starts "putting on" the pants in the relationship, the more your letting yourself play by her rules.
/r/seduction06/03/16 12:00 AM
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Here are two action steps for next time 1. Talk to the first girl you notice right away: Does not matter whether she is your type or not. Just approach her and talk to her about whatever you want to talk to her about. Let your mind just go with the flow. TRUST YOURSELF. Avoid being too picky and just talk to the girl that is nearest to you almost every time. Your building a skill here. 2. Create a solid routine for yourself to go out and meet girls: What are you able to commit on a daily or week…
/r/seduction02/03/16 08:01 PM
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I thought The Hook Point is supposed to tell me that she's attracted enough to me. The hook point pretty much means that you got the girls attention for a moment. If your transition is good, you will keep her attention. If it is not, you will lose her attention. Girls are naturally more subtle. Most girls will let you know that they like you by how they behave around you. If a girl likes you she will: Hold eye contact with you consistently, her body will be facing you completely when she is spea…
/r/seduction01/03/16 10:56 PM
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You got to consider different factors. Is she asking you just to be nice?, Did you actually build enough attraction for a girl to actually want to initiate rapport with you? She could also just be testing you just to see how you respond. If you actually build enough attraction for a girl to actually want to initiate rapport with you then yes, you did reach the hook point. The hook point basically means that you actually got the girls full attention.
/r/seduction01/03/16 09:12 PM
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Your welcome man. I am confident that you won't regret taking action towards this.
/r/seduction01/03/16 09:02 PM
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Here are three ways on how to defeat last minute resistance: Remind yourself that you don't NEED sex from her. Think about it as a gift that you would give her and not the other way around. Get that belief drilled in your head. Study her behavior while your both are being intimate. If you notice that she is a bit tense, or is backing away slowly, back off a bit. Do something else for a few minutes and go back and continue escalating. Avoid making the situation logical. You will not logic a girl …
/r/seduction01/03/16 08:57 PM
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Sounds like an inner game sticking point. Your subconsciously telling us that you currently have a scarcity mentality. Meaning you doubt that there are plenty of girls who would be interested in dating you. Don't feel ashamed. We all have been there at some point. Right now, you need to retrain your believes about how you view yourself and girls. Sounds like you need to work on building your self-esteem, confidence and redirect the beliefs that you have about yourself and girls. Here are two act…
/r/seduction01/03/16 08:33 PM
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Say something like "I’m open to something serious, but only if it makes sense, I’m not in any kind of rush and I want to find something that’s really great" Your letting each girl know that she may or may not be the one while also letting them know that you have no rush. You still get laid while each girl hoping that she may be the one. I think that both you and I can agree that once you find a great girl, you may decide to actually be in a committed relationship. It might just take lot's of gir…
/r/seduction28/02/16 11:38 PM
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You simply need to get in the habit of talking to everyone that your curious about (both men and women). This is how your social skills will always remain fresh and you will not be waiting for just the hot girls to show up. For the next two months you can also make it a goal to do 10 approaches a day. Don't expect to close each girl or to get her number. Just go up to them and start a conversation by making an observation, statement or by giving them a compliment on something you like about them…
/r/seduction28/02/16 10:39 PM
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"Decided to go out on my own since none of my friends wanted to come out" "I'm the cat lady, I don't have any friends" (with a smile)
/r/seduction28/02/16 10:23 PM
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Will hosting a party help you with your game and help you pull one of the girls there? Absolutely. Your social status will pretty much skyrocket since most of the people going already know you. Especially since it's from both guys and girls. A good way to start a conversation is to just go up to almost everyone and shake their hand. Say hi to them, and say simple things like "hey, hows it going", "where you been at? and tease them a little. Just stay at each interaction for a few minutes and the…
/r/seduction28/02/16 10:16 PM
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Adam Lyons and I actually talked about this not too long ago. Advice is solid.
/r/seduction24/02/16 07:40 PM
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It's not a black and white answer. It's not a complete yes and a complete no. Trust your instincts of who to be vulnerable with.
/r/seduction24/02/16 07:37 PM
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I agree, looking for better friends would be the better choice. You have to admit though that it is easier said then done. Absolutely, being in a social circle where your friends love your direct and strong attitude is ideal.
/r/seduction24/02/16 07:32 PM
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Yeah, you got to more cautious when it comes to your social circle. Yes, you want to be direct but you don't always want to come on strong. With someone you just met, it's easier and there are less "consequences" to be very direct because if the women does not take it the right way, you probably won't see her ever again. With women in your social circle, if you come on too strong, not only will you might freak the girl out (if it came out of nowhere) but your whole social circle is going to find…
/r/seduction24/02/16 12:07 AM
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Age is a sign of several traits that a woman looks for in a man: Experience (sexual even). The wisdom that comes with it. Stability. Provider. And leader. Age doesn't necessarily mean that a man has any of those traits. You can also get all of these traits at a young age. Try online dating. Instead of focusing on your age, focus on demonstrating these qualities in your perceived value through your images you choose to display that represent you. I recommend several key images to represent you bu…
/r/seduction23/02/16 11:41 PM
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I don't suggest being vulnerable to everyone. At least not to the same degree. Showing your vulnerability is something special you share with someone that makes your bond even stronger. Sharing your vulnerability with everyone makes the "magic" of vulnerability less effective. Being friendly and humane to everyone is one thing. Deeply opening yourself up to everyone is another.
/r/seduction23/02/16 11:14 PM
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Here is an in depth video on teasing from the one and only Richard La Ruina https://youtu.be/wxNGQbetpN4 Your welcome
/r/seduction22/02/16 10:09 PM
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If your truly interested in being more social and having more people be attracted to you, follow this simple and powerful advice for now on (make it a habit): Make it a habit to talk to everyone that your curious about Make teasing people in general your default mode for now on By following the above advice, in the long run you will be making friends everywhere you go and you will be generating attraction right away which is what you should be doing at the beginning with almost all your interact…
/r/seduction22/02/16 08:11 PM
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Make sure you pace yourself man. You don't want to be like the overweight guy that says he will finally go to the gym and over does it. Within a month or less, that guy usually burns himself out. If you want to go out everyday, start out by doing 10 approaches a day for the first month. Double it the next month and add 5 more approaches after each month. I also suggest typing out a page that states your WHY. Type up WHY you have a burning desire to do 10 approaches everyday. If you don't have a …
/r/seduction22/02/16 07:54 PM
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Have you been fully honest with yourself? Have you asked yourself the following question: "What am I doing too much of?" Your sticking point may be that your putting too much effort in creating attraction. You may be over teasing, self amusing more then you need to or just in general fucking around girls too much WITHOUT creating real moments to build rapport with them. You can always ask your closest guy friends for feedback on what your sticking point really is. Let them know that your not jok…
/r/seduction22/02/16 07:44 PM
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Your time lurking may be over and becoming the best version of yourself is always a work in progress. Keep learning and move towards your goals everyday. This is what will keep girls always interested in you.
/r/seduction21/02/16 06:11 PM
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Did you not like the advice you were given when you first asked here a day ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/46qxrn/barclub_game_solo_tips/ The advice you were given is good. Application is the next step if you want real results.
/r/seduction21/02/16 06:02 PM
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Just send the check in the mail :-)
/r/seduction21/02/16 05:43 PM
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Inner game is about your deep beliefs about you, women and the world. Or how you really view yourself, women and the world. 90% of the world does not take full control of their beliefs. They let the world around them (especially the media) determine what they should believe in and these same guys never really end up thinking for themselves. You got two choices. 1. Decide exactly how to view yourself, women, and the world around you. Or, 2. life will decide for you. There are rewards and sacrific…
/r/seduction21/02/16 05:26 PM
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Here is my top 8 Know what your REALLY looking for in your dating life right now. Consider the following questions: Am I looking for a girlfriend or a bunch of one night stands?, Identify the qualities that your looking for in a girl. Both physical and none physical. Master your inner game (it's the foundation of everything) (Have daily affirmations) Realize that there are 3 main phases to "get" a girl. 1. Attracton, 2. Rapport, 3. Seduction (always start with attraction and realize the these ph…
/r/seduction21/02/16 12:40 AM
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There comes a moment when a guy starts getting into his head. If he does not take control over his "state", he will get deeper and deeper into his head. When this happens, do something a bit out of the ordinary that will allow you to get back into state. This could be saying something random out loud or completely speaking your mind without much filter. I recommend doing something that will allow you to immediately snap out of overthinking mode when it happens. I know a guy that says ehhhhhhhhhh…
/r/seduction21/02/16 12:10 AM
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I have heard from dating expert Cajun that hanging out at the library from time to time is a good way to meet college girls if you don't happen to be a student. Once or twice a week can keep you "under the radar" from the girls and from the people that actually work there.
/r/seduction17/02/16 05:50 PM
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Very true. Remember to build attraction first. A great way to build attraction is to tease her the next time you see her. Bring in great emotional value, fuck around with her until she starts creating rapport with you. Think about it, you mention that you are in a large university. You are not the only guy who want his d*ck in her. It's important to stand out and make a real badass impression. After you have fucked around with her for a bit by teasing her and by bringing fun emotions, do what By…
/r/seduction16/02/16 08:46 PM
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This is a great way for her to live out a secret fantasy that she has had since she was a little girl. Thank you Disney.
/r/seduction16/02/16 08:05 PM
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From what I just read, it sounds that plenty of emotional investment was made on your part. I don't blame you. Hitting it off instantly, getting an invitation from her that same night and losing your virginity to her. Going on dates and still fucking her some more. Holding hands, kissing and displaying behavior that couples would. She raised the bar reasonably high for someone you just met back in December. I assume your relationships with girls before this girl came along could not match the ex…
/r/seduction16/02/16 08:02 PM
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Thanks for the great value. We could all be refreshed by this.
/r/seduction16/02/16 07:35 PM
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I see. If you happen to be around several people, move the girl to a less crowded area in the same venue and go for the kiss there and then. Or, even though there are several people around, just go for a light kiss when you feel that it's a good time and save a full make out session for when your in private with her.
/r/seduction15/02/16 06:23 PM
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Sounds like you wanted to do a Hollywood move. A Hollywood move is when you pretty much wait until the end of the date to go for a kiss. That is Hollywood though, not what should happen in reality. A kiss should definitely occur before the end of the date. Your line "I think your gorgeous, and I really wanna kiss you" is good. Next time say it during your date. Even before you head for the bar. Want to know when is the perfect moment to go for a kiss? Go for a kiss as soon as you feel that it's …
/r/seduction15/02/16 05:35 PM
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Whatever got you sick is holding you back still. I suggest you find a way to properly take care of that. Once that part of your life is handled, you can focus on growing. If you want to grow and become the best version of who you are, I suggest that you make an effort to live in your courage zone on a day to day basis. Right now, it looks like you are living in your comfort zone. I'm sure you have heard before that people do not grow when they choose to live in their comfort zone. Saying that yo…
/r/seduction15/02/16 04:53 PM
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When it comes to school. I recommend working on your social value. The goal is too almost become one of the cool kids. Talk to almost everyone, add emotional value to your interactions, seek to leave your interactions better then how you left them. Become good at a sport or become high value at a club you may join. If you just focus on cold approaching in high school or even college, and not focus on building your real social value in school, you will end up being the pick up guy that almost eve…
/r/seduction14/02/16 09:56 PM
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"I think you're really cute could I get your number" may work for you from time to time but I think that it's a very generic way to go about it. Let's be honest, the whole world probably thinks she is cute and it might be something she hears at least once a week from a guy. Giving her that line also subconsciously says that you want to get her number just because of her looks. You can do better. If your really interested in getting a girl's number and following up with her in future, you can go …
/r/seduction14/02/16 09:38 PM
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Thanks for sharing man. Here are some action steps for you: Get in the habit of smiling more. Since your in the marines, it can be hard to smile often because your peers may look down on it. Smiling makes a big difference though. Smiling in general makes you come across as more approachable and attractive. Get in the habit of teasing and bantering everyone around you. Make this your default mode. People will feel much more at ease around you this way. They will not take you as seriously. Teasing…
/r/seduction09/02/16 05:04 PM
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When it comes to FWB'S, most relationships end up having an emotional and sexual connection or a logical and a sexual connection. A "perfect" exclusive relationship has all three. Emotional, logical and a sexual connection. Avoid creating all three connections with girls you just want to hook up with. Sometimes it's not that you are not able to create all three connections with one girl. Sometimes it's your circumstances and her circumstances that naturally avoid creating all three connections. …
/r/seduction08/02/16 08:01 PM
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I know, with a small town, it can be tough and it can also work as well. Taking small persistence steps over the course of a few months can do great things. At first, it can feel uncomfortable to go out on your own in search for a more badass lifestlye. Once you meet new people though, especially with common interest, that's when things can go in a direction you want them to. It only takes one solid interaction with a new person to get the other person to want to bring you into their social circ…
/r/seduction08/02/16 07:45 PM
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Hey man, I also notice that this is very common. Many guys point this out and then go out and about with their day not taking any real action to make a change. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results” If you want to really improve this area of your life, you got to replace old habits. Start out small. Have you considered the following: Join a meetup group Join a group on facebook Become aware of events that take place in the town or…
/r/seduction07/02/16 07:38 PM
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As long as your comfortable, leave it the way it is. Just make sure you smile often. Having a bitch face while your body looks stiff is what can easily make you come across as always being on guard. If you agree that you come across as being tense often, recognize when your body is being tense and loosen yourself up more. 15 minutes of everyday meditation can work too.
/r/seduction06/02/16 09:55 PM
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It's not always a yes or no answer. Sometimes it's good to make fun of the situation which can include exaggerating, a mog a guy or even tease yourself more then the person just did. Sometimes it's good to just ignore the other person or even give them a warning to back away because you are there to just have fun or enjoy yourself. Sometimes it's good to prove the other person wrong in a none reacting way or without losing your temper. I'm sure you know that every situation is different and each…
/r/seduction06/02/16 09:45 PM
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Oh I know what you mean :-)
/r/seduction06/02/16 09:29 PM
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Day game is your go to. :) Your challenge right now is that your instincts are not "in shape" for dating right now. An athlete, businessman, entertainer, instinctively knows what he or she needs to do to get the outcome he or she wants because they are doing their thing frequently. It's normal for you to feel the way you feel right now since you mention that you are about ready to reenter the dating world. Owen, from RSD did at least one experiment that I know about where he focused a whole mont…
/r/seduction02/02/16 07:00 PM
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Bluelord is right, you can't fake confidence. At least not in the long run. You might be able to fake it temporarily but only temporarily. What can come from real confidence is a more fulfilled you and you will naturally attract the people around you, gain peoples trust and come across as a leader. There are more benefits of having real confidence but you get my point. The simple way to gain confidence is to master your inner beliefs. The longer and more effective way to gain long lasting confid…
/r/seduction27/01/16 06:25 PM
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It all comes down to calibration. During your interactions with girls, do you calibrate your body language, tone of voice, eye contact, conversational topics and physical touch? If you calibrate all these abilities to your interactions with girls, you will not come off as a guy with lot's of sexual "thirst" or even emotional neediness. It's good to show a girl that you are sexually interested in her. Usually, you start SLOW. You meet a girl, state your intent, initiate touching and slowly make t…
/r/seduction27/01/16 05:49 PM
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Comedy club, bowling, bar hopping, lazer tag, go kart, mini golf, kayaking, hiking, aquarium, going to expensive restaurants just for desert, outside movie theater, amusement parks (better with her friends and your friends)
/r/seduction26/01/16 08:36 PM
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Hey man, If I were you, I would improve my inner game. It's your deep inner believes about you that are holding you back. Do what most very successful people do. Have affirmations for yourself. On a word document, write out all kinds of qualities that you would like to posses right now in life. This could be that you wish you were more confident, comfortable smiling to people, be more of a leader, have more of a sense of humor or any other quality that you could think of. State all your affirmat…
/r/seduction26/01/16 08:29 PM
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Well we can say that you practiced getting a girl's number and that is a good thing. It's good to keep that skill sharp. Don't feel obligated to keep communication with her. She will get the message as you will never respond to her. Do you think that many girls hesitate to return text from guys that they are not interested in?
/r/seduction25/01/16 08:11 PM
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Put your balls on the line and go for it. I know it's just a TV show but these things do happen in reality. If you are familiar with the TV show californication, there is a point that Hank Moody (a complete ladies man) meets an old girlfriend from years back. She is a dentist and well eventually she falls for Hank Moody again. They eventually make out and have sex even though she knows that Hanks teeth are not in the best condition. Say hey, I like you and I would like to take you out for drinks…
/r/seduction25/01/16 08:05 PM
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Do day game. Streets, mall, grocery store, book store, health and nutrition store, parks, bars, (during the night), gym, community event, online dating. These are all good locations.
/r/seduction25/01/16 07:48 PM
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If your really interested in pursing Mormon girls, I would just take it slooow. For "regular" everyday girl, society is already being hard on them for coming across as easy. Imagine how much more pressure there is on a Mormon girl. You can still succeed but you have to come in with genuine intent and be willing to wait longer then "normal" to get her in the sack. It may be better for you to move on to less obvious conservative girls or to keep them as part of your cycle and continue to purse mul…
/r/seduction25/01/16 07:43 PM
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Well, for girls that you just want to hook up with, I recommend seeing them only once a week or once every two weeks. This is keeping it casual. If your letting girls spend the night, cuddle with you, build emotional connections, text them often and hang out together, you are coming across as boyfriend material. You can absolutely have multiple girlfriends and not lie about it. If you want an in depth video on how to have multiple girlfriends, go to this link: https://youtu.be/OiFRFs-Oby4
/r/seduction25/01/16 07:28 PM
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Good advice I see here. It's true, If you want to better your social life, focus on creating hobbies that you would enjoy socially. Make friends there. Meetup.com is a great option and since you say that you live in a city, you will find plenty of groups. If your up for a challenge, I would create a meetup group myself based around an activity that I really enjoy. Focus on your purpose in life. Do all these social things for yourself and not to see how many people would validate you. (Not saying…
/r/seduction24/01/16 08:16 PM
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Take small steps until the girl is in your dorm. Enjoy your time at the club and enjoy dancing and making out with the girl you want. A few hours before the club closes say "let's get out of here" like geoff says. Getting her out of the club can be a challenge because of all kinds of logistical issues that the girl can bring. The girl could be celebrating a big deal with her friends, she could be the designated driver, she may have to get up early in the morning, her brother could be with her an…
/r/seduction23/01/16 09:24 PM
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Looks like you may be shy about stating your intent. I imagine that your real intent is to see if you and a girl hit it off and then your looking to fuck the girl. Nothing wrong here, who is not interested in fucking someone that they are attracted to. Put your balls on the line and actually state you intent. Say something like "hey, I just noticed you and I think your really fucking sexy", my name is... or "hey, I just noticed you and I think your stunning today", my name is... Looks like you m…
/r/seduction22/01/16 09:21 PM
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Looks like you need to work on your attractiveness. There are two terms out there. Creating attraction and being attractive. Ways to create attraction are: -Taking charge of your state of mind and bring the fun to the party. -Having routines ready to execute -Teasing girls from lightly to harshly without crossing the line -Saying shit that just amuses yourself -Creating social proof for yourself -telling stories that say awesome things about you without saying, I am a blank blank blank -establis…
/r/seduction22/01/16 09:06 PM
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First off, good job going through your first date. Second, sounds like you have a scarcity mentality. Right now you may not be putting a lot of effort into meeting multiple girls at once. When a guy pursues one girl at a time, it's easy for him to get down when he gets rejected because he puts "all his eggs" in one basket too early. What I recommend is this, start thinking abundantly when it comes to your dating life. You got to TRAIN yourself in believing that there are many beautiful girls out…
/r/seduction22/01/16 08:36 PM
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Here is some advice so you can last longer during sex: -While you have sex, you have an arousal level that goes from 0 to 10 -0 means your not aroused at all. 10 means you were so aroused that you came. -During sex, you want to stay on the 6-7 level of arousal. As you get better, you can maintain it on the 7-8 level before you blow your load. -Do whatever you can to maintain your 6-8 level of arousal because once you get to level 9, there is no going back. Your grandma could show up in your room…
/r/seduction20/01/16 07:35 PM
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The best route is to actually go outside your place and practice. However, if you are interested in meeting new girls through facebook here is what you can do Look for girls that are already friends with your REAL friends. The men and women that you actually talk to on a weekly or daily basis. The girls that you are interested in, friend request them and always send them a message along with your friend request. In that message say something along the lines of "hey, I see that you are friends wi…
/r/seduction19/01/16 06:13 PM
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Your welcome!
/r/seduction19/01/16 05:48 PM
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Here is an opportunity for you to learn from him as well as him leaning from you. What he will be able to learn from you is pick up as well as give you honest feedback on what you may be doing ineffective. What you can learn from him is his sticking points. He can remind you what not to do. You can study his body language, tonality, eye contact, his lack of touching, conversation skills, etc. Belive it or not, your friend may not be into pick up but there can be at least one good thing that you …
/r/seduction19/01/16 05:37 PM
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Just say, "You seem like a cool girl and I would like to get to know you better. What do you say we get together for drinks this Wednesday around (enter time)"? or "I would like to get to see what your like outside of this place, what do you say you and I get together for drinks this Wednesday around (enter time)"? Her: Sure, let's do it! You: Great, give me your number and I'll text you the details. If you have friends, say, "You seem like a cool girl and I would like to get to know you better.…
/r/seduction19/01/16 05:17 PM
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Your welcome
/r/seduction12/01/16 11:10 PM
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Here is my advice In a word document, type in all the things you would want in your areas of health, wealth, love and happiness. I would write one full page for each category. Sounds like you want more of a sense of fulfillment in life and by focusing on all four pillars (health, wealth, love and happiness) is the best way to go. Just focus on everything you want in each of the four pillars for right now. You don't need to create a plan on how to achieve each of these yet. Type your big WHY for …
/r/seduction12/01/16 08:50 PM
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I answered a similar question early on. The reason you may be sad about it is because you sound like you have a bit of a scarcity mentality. Have an abundant mentality. That one girl that flaked on you is only one out of a hundred thousand girls that doesn't want to fuck you right now. When having an abundant mentality and a girl flakes, no big deal because you would already have other girls lined up. With a scarcity mentality you end up pursuing one girl at a time and that's why it can be upset…
/r/seduction10/01/16 06:40 PM
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Usually the best time to say the magic words "let's get out of here" is near the end of the party or near the time a bar or club closes. Unless the girl is being very sexual towards you, in this case you should use the magic words almost immediately. Like Metalliacs says, LEAD. It's super important throughout the whole interaction and especially once your making your move to take her back at your place. Another reason why a girl may not take you up on going back to your place is because she is n…
/r/seduction10/01/16 06:19 PM
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Glad I can help :)
/r/seduction10/01/16 05:48 PM
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This is when an abundant mind needs to come into play. You sound like you have a bit of a scarcity mentality right now. Your putting all your focus in one girl and your a bit scared of fucking it up that it's tempting you to get a bit overwhelmed. First off, you mention that you recently broke up with your girlfriend. If it's something that was serous and you both were together for a while, I recommend not dating at all right now or start looking for a rebound. Allow yourself to slowly heal. Tak…
/r/seduction10/01/16 05:25 PM
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The way to hook up with girls is by escalating sexually and by having your logistics handled. I assume you know what I mean when I say to have your logistics handled but i'll give you a refresher. Means making sure that you make it easily possible for you and a girl to go right into sex smoothly which includes having a place to have sex already ready. You can escalate sexually all you want but if you don't have your logistics down, you make it harder for yourself to make sex happen with a girl. …
/r/seduction10/01/16 04:54 PM
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The answer is simple but I'll go in detail. When a girl meets a guy, she usually puts him in either two categories, a guy is either the "good boyfriend" material or the guy to just have a "good" time with. Girls do this subconsciously most of the time. Girls make it much more harder for the guy who is good boyfriend material to have sex with. Girls make these guys jump through tons of hoops (again, doing it subconsciously) so they can earn the sex. Girls do this because they don't want to come a…
/r/seduction09/01/16 06:06 PM
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Yeah, girls that like to "game" guys can be fun. You can have these girls to hook up with and to have them as wing girls. Like the MinistryOfAwesome said, it's good that you can notice the girls that like to game guys. This means that you can avoid playing by their rules and turn the tables around if you want. There is a way to make these types of girls become your girlfriend. What these types of girls like is fun and they don't like to be pressured too soon. So, have fun with them. If, they wan…
/r/seduction09/01/16 05:32 PM
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Avoid going too extreme. So avoid showing too much interest as well as not looking interested at all. Act like it's no big deal. Like LeRick11 says, "be free about it and honest about your desires, if you wanna bone her just let her know.
/r/seduction09/01/16 04:56 PM
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You show that you are not looking for anything serous with how you behave around girls. If you don't want anything serious with a girl, see her only once a week in person. This is assuming you are just having sex with her. Don't allow yourself to see a girl more then once a week and when you do get together, avoid building deep rapport. Deep rapport makes things more serious.
/r/seduction08/01/16 08:54 PM
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Hey man, thanks for sharing Start out with your inner game. Inner game is the foundation of having a fulfilling life. Just as a refresher, your inner game is about how you view yourself and everything around you. You want to have strong, positive believes about who you are as a person and not overly judge the people around you if you don't know them well. (Not saying that you are doing this) I would recommend setting down goals for the next six months. Type it on a word document. Create a goal a…
/r/seduction08/01/16 08:39 PM
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If things go well with the first girl, I would not take the same girl to a concert where I am planning on "gaming" another girl. Creating jealousy can work towards your advantage but if you want things to work out with both girls I would keep one of the girls out of the picture when it comes to concert day. If the question comes up, I would also mention that I am currently dating other girls until I find one that I would want monogamously. I would only mention this if a girl asked me how I'm app…
/r/seduction08/01/16 08:15 PM
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What I want to add is that I recommend that you should really figure out what DRIVES you in life. After you identify what really drives you in life, move towards it and you will become more fulfilled. Get into personal development. Some of the greatest dating coaches in the world like Adam Lyons, Jason Capital, Owen from RSD, and Julian Blanc From RSD have done this. Master who you are as a person. Take the time to really get to know yourself. It can take a few hours to really get to know yourse…
/r/seduction07/01/16 11:02 PM
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I would also add that I recommend that you should really accept yourself for who you are completely. Accept both your strengths and weaknesses. When you accept your insecurities and move forward, you come across as an attractive man, you boost your self-esteem and you TRUST yourself more. When you try to hide or feel ashamed about your insecurities, you come across as an unattractive man, you lower your self-esteem and you TRUST yourself less. Accept your insecurities and be determined to better…
/r/seduction07/01/16 10:44 PM
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I would also add that I recommend making it a habit to touch almost everyone that you associate with. I'm sure you know of some cultures that are more touch then others. For the cultures that are a bit more "touchy" with each other it's usually easy for the guys to physically escalate because they have the habit of being more touchy. When you touch early in your interactions, people including women will think it's part of who you are and will not come across as creepy or weird. Touch early and m…
/r/seduction07/01/16 10:12 PM
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I go with the flow. Almost any conversational "bait" a girl gives I use it to keep things flowing freely. Almost every time a girl gives me a noun, I find a way to relate it to a memory I have about that noun or I get a girl to talk more about a specific noun she gave me. Example: Girl: I went with my best friend to the mall 2 days ago and this asshole randomly came up to me and asked me if I wanted to fuck. Here is the bait from her conversation: Best friend, mall, asshole, fuck. You can get a …
/r/seduction06/01/16 11:34 PM
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PREACH BROTHER MAN!
/r/seduction06/01/16 11:17 PM
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Either she really did have plans with her girl friend and did not want to turn one of her best friends down or she is not fully comfortable being alone with you yet. Especially being in a dark room together for about an hour and a half. I would try bowling, lazer tag, mini golf, go carts, ice cream or a similar activity in the future as dates or hang out time with girls. If the movies goes well with you and her, she will more likely accept a real date with you in the future. If it doesn't, take …
/r/seduction06/01/16 10:27 PM
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Make them your friend. Have a genuine interest in creating a friendship with them. Avoid looking for their validation. being needy and trying to nice your way into their pants. Most guys just view them like they are just delicious meat and that's all. Those girls don't get many guys approaching them wanting to just be friends. This means that it will take time to really earn their trust and create a good friendship with them. Appreciate their friendship and with time they will willingly introduc…
/r/seduction06/01/16 10:13 PM
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Hey this is great man! I notice that your also pointing out your sticking points like having low self-confidence and dislike going out of your comfort zone. These are two big areas that really affect anybody's "game". Imagine what your results would be if you had consistency with confidence and accepted getting out of your comfort zone more often? The quality of your relationships with girls in the long run would be at a higher level. Your line is great, I personally look forward to using it nex…
/r/seduction01/01/16 10:04 PM
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True man, very true, I would also add that girls love the high status guy in almost any field. You will become that high status guy by pursing what really drives you in life. You will meet like minded people that you may share very close values with, including quality girls. This is how you will become the "in demand" guy in the field that your passionate about. Happy 2016 everyone!
/r/seduction01/01/16 09:50 PM
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Yeah man, that's great! Now, you mention that you have never done anything like this. I'm sure that you want to start creating your own luck now and pretty much make it happen any time you want. If your interested, make it one of your missions to really understand each of the three main phases in courting almost any girl. That is that attraction phase, rapport phase and the seduction phase. Get the knowledge in each of these phsases and work on gaining more experience (the hard part) in each of …
/r/seduction01/01/16 09:40 PM
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Your welcome :)
/r/seduction01/01/16 09:32 PM
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Sure thing man, The way to build an emotional connection is by showing her that you relate with her in some way. It doesn't matter how good a guy is at getting a girl attracted to him. If a girl cannot relate with a guy, she will not be fully comfortable around him. Comfort is super important for women and almost no women will allow herself to be seduced by a guy if she is not comfortable around him. It's best when you and a girl can relate with a similar interest or hobby. You both can dive dee…
/r/seduction01/01/16 09:28 PM
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Start off by avoiding putting any girl on a pedestal. Most beautiful girls did not work hard to get their beauty, nature really just gave it to them. For them to maintain it for the most part is easy. That being said, look for qualities in girls that they have worked hard to get and compliment them on it. It could be their strong positive mindset or something that they have achieved. What also helps is that for each hot girl that you meet, find 3 things that they could have better. That could be…
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:46 PM
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What I recommend is to type or write down all the physical and non physical qualities that your looking in a women. Get as specific as you can. Even find pictures on google of the types of women you would really want. Print out the paper and put it somewhere where you can see it everyday. Subconsciously your mind will find a way for you to meet your ideal girl. Either by giving you ideas of where to meet that type of girl or by being able to be much more aware of where you might meet your ideal …
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:30 PM
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A common reason why girls flake is because a guy may not be providing a girl with something. A guy is usually lacking something either in the attraction phase, rapport phase or even the seduction phase. If you were to analyze your "game" and be brutally honest with yourself, would you say that your in control and know what your doing in each phase when your with a girl for the most part? Also the next time you set up a date say the following, "Listen, Jen, I value my time just as much as you pro…
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:20 PM
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Awesome man :)
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:07 PM
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Frank is right, it's important where you are mostly meeting women right now. Bookstore, gym and health food stores are good options. I'm surprised how you haven't found a quality women through Yoga. Your definitely better off sticking to day game. Meetup.com can be a great option as well.
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:04 PM
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Hey man, I would not compare my results with other people since each guy would be at a different level. Other then that man, wish you the best while your out there in the "trenches" Keep that head up and keep pushing through By the way, I would advice that you go out at least once a week after tonight so you don't lose momentum.
/r/seduction31/12/15 06:54 PM
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Forget about what people are calling you for a moment. Focus on making sure that you are striving to become the best version of who you are. Chances are, you may need to change the friends you have. They may not be helping you grow and only enjoy pointing out your weak spots without really offering to help. Improve the following 5 qualities in you. Being proficient in these qualities will highly help you become the most attractive version of who you are: Sense of humor Leadership Becoming more o…
/r/seduction30/12/15 11:32 PM
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Hey man, I recommend studying a girls body language more closely. Normally if a girl is not showing signs that she is attracted to me, I would "push" her to stir things up a little. Once girls seem more receptive I reward them by pulling them back. If a girl is being receptive to your approach, I would not advice to push her away. You don't want to punish her for bad behavior. That being said, reward girls for good behavior and punish girls for bad behavior using push pull. Some ways to pull a g…
/r/seduction30/12/15 11:16 PM
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Hey man, thanks for sharing. A few tips that I have for you when going out alone are: -It's very important that you stay in "state". Even before you hit the club. Two things that can help you get in state quick are to listen to music so it really pumps you up. 2nd, warm yourself up by starting some interactions before you get in the club. You can just focus on making compliments or find a way to add emotional value to both men and women. -Make an attempt to talk to many people once your in the c…
/r/seduction30/12/15 11:02 PM
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Looks like you need to do more approaches. Your instincts are unsure of what to do right now. An experienced "approacher" knows how to lead the interaction any way he wants to because he has done many approaches already. That is what I recommend you work on. Crate more approaching experiences for yourself. Some will go well and some not so well. The more you make it a habit to socialize with random people, the more you will train your instincts on how to get more of the outcome that you want. St…
/r/seduction20/12/15 07:04 PM
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Hey Logan, thanks for sharing. I would first recommend that you accept yourself for who you are right now. Let it sink in... Accept yourself for the qualities you currently have. During your journey of making yourself the best man you can be, you got to work with yourself and not against yourself. You mention that you are ashamed of your body and that you have not kissed or had sex with a girl yet. You mention that your afraid that people will laugh at you if they were to find out that you never…
/r/seduction20/12/15 06:44 PM
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Hey man, thanks for sharing. First things first, I recommend identifying what your really want when it comes to dating. Type it into a word document and be as specific as you can. Think about whether you want a good quality girlfriend or if you want multiple girlfriends. I know, most guys would easily want multiple girlfriends but is it really what you want right now? Paint a clear picture of how you would like your dating life to be. Think about every aspect. Last, identify your big WHY. Why is…
/r/seduction19/12/15 07:03 PM
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Yeah, good job man! Be proud of the accomplishments you have. Whether they are big or small. As long as you have handled your inner game well and have a clear vision of what you really want when it comes to dating and a strong WHY, you will have plenty of drive during your cold approach journey.
/r/seduction19/12/15 06:35 PM
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Yeah, going down on a girl you hook up with for the first time is a bad idea if you just met the girl. You really don't know what to expect. You won't know how often she has unprotected sex and she may not be honest with you if you were to ask her. If you really like the idea of going down on a girl the first time you hook up with her, I hear that using a dental dam is a good way to go to keep yourself safe. I know, it's not sexy and it can be weird but it really all comes down to how important …
/r/seduction19/12/15 06:28 PM
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I see. I don't recommend comparing yourself with other people. You can compare yourself for a bit but you have to stop yourself when your doing it too much. There is always going to be someone that has better and worst game then you. Everyone has there own advantages and disadvantages. Work with what you got. Maybe you are back to square 1. Accept it and make daily progress to get to where you want to be. We have all been on square 1 and there will always be guys who will be at square 1. Everybo…
/r/seduction19/12/15 06:19 PM
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Hey man, thanks for sharing your situation. I can tell you right now that the first thing I recommend you to do is to to honestly love yourself. Let it sink it for a bit. Becoming the most attractive version of yourself is a life long JOURNEY. Right now, things may not be working in your favor but almost every dating coach in the world has been in your shoes at some point. They had the approach anxiety and the frustration of not having their dating life the way they wanted it to be. It looks lik…
/r/seduction18/12/15 09:11 PM
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Good job man! Yes, you did not get the girl but you have to admit that you had good practice that night. We can't completely agree that the girl had no interest in the guy that was holding her. If she had zero interest in the guy, she more likely would of caused a scene. You probably did not do much wrong. We have to admit that girls get hit on constantly during night venues. She probably became more attracted to the other guy because he could have been more aggressive and direct.
/r/seduction18/12/15 08:41 PM
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Hey thanks man! Glad I can help.
/r/seduction14/12/15 01:04 PM
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What usually happens is that the guy or girl will stop losing interest in the other person because the other person is showing too much interest. He or she kills all the mystery and romanitc/sexual tension. We as humans usually value that which we worked hard to get. The things that come easy to us, are often not valued as much. Usually not until we loose them.
/r/seduction11/12/15 11:38 PM
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Live the moment and take everything in. Speak your mind during the whole interaction. Point things out that are funny to YOU. Touch, touch, touch! Grab her by the hand, sit beside her, stay in physical contact with her. Kiss her when you THINK it's time and don't wait to feel fully comfortable about it because it won't happen. You got a lot to learn and experience man but hey we all start from where you did.
/r/seduction11/12/15 11:15 PM
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Hey man, Thanks for sharing. Here is my honest opinion. Avoid judging this girl in the future about her being promiscuous (not saying you are). She likes sex and is not afraid to make it known. As long as she is not cheating on anyone, avoid looking at it as a big deal. This girl knows "game". I can almost guarantee you that everything she does to attract you, she is doing it on purpose. Trust me, she knows how inexperience you are and she may feel great knowing that she has the power to make yo…
/r/seduction11/12/15 11:03 PM
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Wow great to hear that man. You kind of remind my of the famous quote by Jim Rohn “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
/r/seduction09/12/15 11:53 PM
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Soo true eagle2401! I'm at work and during break time, instead of people getting together to chat, usually people are almost always on their phone.
/r/seduction09/12/15 11:48 PM
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Paride5745 is right. Keep her wondering why you cannot be available and yes tell her that you will make it up to her. She may go bananas wondering what you may possibly do to make it up to her.
/r/seduction09/12/15 11:46 PM
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Your welcome man! Let me know if you have other dating questions.
/r/seduction09/12/15 11:31 PM
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They are not in a specif order. They are all almost equally important. I personally have a word document that has each of the ten qualities next to my home office.
/r/seduction09/12/15 11:29 PM
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Yeah I would kiss her before taking her home. I know that in movies, it's very common for the guy to kiss the girl after he takes her home. In real life, this can put tons of pressure on her. Especially if you haven't touched her very much while you were hanging out with her. Get her used to your touch while you hang out with her. Go for a kiss when you think you should. She may reject you at first but if you keep trying without coming across as desperate, you can succeed. Just remember, if her …
/r/seduction09/12/15 11:25 PM
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Hey man, Good progress so far! Do you know how many guys can't get a girl to go to their place? Lots! It's not much that you did something wrong. It's the lack of experience you currently have. If I read correctly, you haven't dated in a year. Appoligies if I read that wrong! The reason why she probably freaked out is because she sensed your lack of current experience. You probably weren't very smooth with your moves once she was at your place. I believe you accidentally made the girl get to muc…
/r/seduction05/12/15 07:05 PM
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Hey man, I'm impressed by your progress, your building momentum! Keep this quote in mind, "you miss 100% of the shots you don't make" Your an action taker! What you have to do is honestly evaluate yourself. Know what your sticking points are. Have a small goal or goals each time you go out. It can be like making sure you touch early or making sure you move a girl at least three times in a venue. At the end of the night or the next morning, evaluate how well you did. Be honest with yourself and r…
/r/seduction05/12/15 06:49 PM
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The recommend post from azellah is great! Women are like ovens. They take time to get warmed up. With experience and applying the right techniques, you will get better really fast.
/r/seduction05/12/15 06:35 PM
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Very true here. This is part of being a high status man. This is how james bond, iron man, captain america, and other high status guys would handle intense situations.
/r/seduction05/12/15 06:30 PM
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Great stuff here man!
/r/seduction05/12/15 06:27 PM
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Your making progress Steve! I would of text the girl during lunch time. Texting her in the morning means that you been thinking about her almost all night and that she is almost the first thing in your mind in the morning. Part of that can flatter her but if she wasn't very attracted to you, your morning text could have creeped her out a bit. You mention that you are struggling with your confidence a bit. Feel free to get my free course on confidence here: www.attractandseducehotwomen.net
/r/seduction05/12/15 06:26 PM
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You got a good list their tim. I will share with you my only ten qualities that I really just focus on. Mine are related to yours. They are just compiled into ten qualities. Sense of humor Leadership Experience-part of what this means to me taking advantage of opportunities that will enrich my life. Provider (Ability to be able to provide food and shelter) Spontaneous Thoughtfulness Hygiene Physic (looking after your physical body) Sexual (Ability to have conversations about sex with just about …
/r/seduction05/12/15 06:15 PM
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You should definitely pursue the girl. Her knowing that you are interested in her is a good thing. By showing her that you are not afraid to show your interest in her will allow you to come across as a man. Here are 5 ways to be more attractive so you can stand out with this girl: http://www.attractandseducehotwomen.com/attraction/how-to-get-the-8s-9s-and-10s/#sthash.B35OAiW0.dpbs
/r/seduction28/11/15 10:22 PM
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If she makes none threatening eye contact with you, she may like you. I'm sure you can tell if she is giving you a playful eye contact or not. I'm assuming she likes you and is more likely into christian gray's kind of sex. (seriously) If you like her, give it a shot with her. If she gets offended with your cockiness, her words and actions would match by telling you she is not interested in you romantically/sexually.
/r/seduction28/11/15 10:09 PM
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Hey thinkwolf, When it comes to clubs, it's highly recommended to bring out your fun energy and loud voice. Talking to girls in a "normal tone of voice" can be used before the party really starts at the club. Once you have their attention, isolate the girl your interested and take her to a less noisy location so you can use more of your normal tone of voice. At this point you can get to really know the girl and move on from their. Eventually after having a good time with a girl at the club just …
/r/seduction28/11/15 09:58 PM
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Hey man, Good to hear about this recent experience. She might be into you and you wont know for sure until you test her limits. In your situation I would ask her in person or at least through a phone call. I would let her know in person (while having very good eye contact) that I find her attractive/adorable/sexy/cute and that I would like to get to know her more. I would then proceed to getting to know her a bit. I would make statements, observations, make assumptions about her, tease her to ke…
/r/seduction30/08/15 12:27 AM
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Hey man, Good to hear that your taking action on meeting girls. Here is a good way to get a girl to take you to her place after already hanging out with her that night. Make an innocent excuse to go to a grocery store with her during a night. While your in the store with her, suggest the idea of baking cookies. Tell her that you will provide all the ingredients to make the cookies and she can provide the oven to bake them. Done deal. This one is effective if delivered correctly. If you want to p…
/r/seduction30/08/15 12:01 AM
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Hey Knight, Good to hear that your confident and competent with your conversation skills. Yes, talking too much though can ruin an interaction because then you can come across as selfish and inconsiderate of other people. Here is a simple and effective tip to keep in mind: Almost always invest in the conversation just as much as the other person is investing. Or let the other person invest more in the conversation. When it comes to a social setting, most people want their egos to be boost. If yo…
/r/seduction15/08/15 06:38 PM
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Yes!
/r/seduction15/08/15 06:09 PM
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Hey Sederrr, Good to hear about the progress your making! Here is the advice I want to give you. Your doing great so far so accept the following tips if you want to keep improving. From what your telling us, your saying that you dated a more attractive girl than you usually date. The best way to become more comfortable and be able to better handle these situations with the more attractive girls (and the better your game is the hotter the girls you will generally be able to date/sleep with) is to…
/r/seduction09/08/15 10:47 PM
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You simply got to get used to talking to people in general more often. You got to make that a habit and at your own pace.
/r/seduction09/08/15 10:07 PM
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Yes! She invested way more then she had to. Hang out with her and lead it to wherever you want to. She should be easy to sleep with if that's one thing that you might want from her.
/r/seduction09/08/15 10:05 PM
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Hey Alpha, These girls can be heart breakers if one allows them to. Not you though. You got to first ask yourself what it is that you want from these girls. Do you want a serious relationship with them, just have them as fuck buddies, keep them as simply friends or not allow them to just toy you around. If you want to have a serious relationship or an open relationship with these types of girls I suggest you do the following. Make yourself be the kind of man who also has lot's of options. Flirt …
/r/seduction09/08/15 09:44 PM
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Hey Eric, First of all, avoid putting her on a pedestal. Look at her like any other women you feel very comfortable around (even if it's a bit hard). She knows that she gets tons of attention from guys every day. It's nothing new to her. She also knows that most guys give her too many "points" right away just because of her looks. So until you get to know her well, I advice that you don't show her that she has completely won you over. You still need to see if her personality is just as beautiful…
/r/seduction09/08/15 12:40 AM
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Hey Frank, Good to hear that you can open well, start a conversation and somewhat keep a conversation going. You mention that increasing your attraction during an interaction is challenging. Here are some ways to generate more attraction during your interactions with girls: -self-amusement -putting her in frames -role playing -be present and fun -tease her when possible Keep in mind that to court a girl successfully, you got to go through the following three stages. Attraction, rapport, and sedu…
/r/seduction09/08/15 12:06 AM
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Hey Russell, Good to hear that your looking forward to improving yourself as a man. I looked at the pictures and what instantly came to my mind was the following: Get more of a stylish hair style. Go to a hair stylist and let her know that you would want something fun, something that goes with your face structure and overall a look that would make you look more appealing. I recommend getting more of a stylish facial hair as well. You could talk to your stylist and see what she recommends for you…
/r/seduction01/08/15 02:58 AM
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I like the sound of that man
/r/seduction01/08/15 02:40 AM
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Sure thing man
/r/seduction01/08/15 02:38 AM
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Hey man, When it comes to text messaging, it's very important that you keep your text messages short and bring in high emotional value when possible. Building rapport on text is not always the best. Building attraction though is great. Revente is right, start the conversation with some joke referencing a previous conversation you had with her. Make statements, observations and funny guess when possible in your texts. Give her emotional spikes when possible. Aim to have a fun conversation with he…
/r/seduction26/07/15 11:40 PM
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Hey Lanaru, Monthlyduck is right, pick her up the first time/first few times. After hanging out with her a few times/dates, let her come and see you. You don't want to go every single time because then you would be investing more in the relationship during the beginning. Ideally you want to both invest in the relationship in a balanced way or have her invest more then you. I'm a bit confused by the second question. Here are some first date tips though: Make sure you touch her right away to estab…
/r/seduction26/07/15 10:11 PM
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Hey man, It's good to hear that you are taking some form of dance class. It's just another tool for your tool belt when it comes to game. Tell both the men and women in your dance class that you are interested in meeting new people. Ask them if they can introduce you to some of their friends (both male and female) that are outside of the dance group. Tell your dance group friends about some of your interest (if they don't know already) and find out if they have any friends that have similar inte…
/r/seduction24/07/15 09:52 PM
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Hey there Inshresting, Glad to hear about the job you have and about the main fact that you get to be around hot women very often. I imagine that you want to have really good game with girls just like most guys do. Assuming you do, I would suggest you follow the following advice to help you reach that goal. Inner game: It all starts with your inner game. It's very important that on a both conscious level and unconscious level you think highly of yourself but avoid going overboard. Aim for a bala…
/r/seduction24/07/15 02:21 AM
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Hey blaqjak, Follow the body language advice I shared with you and you will be on the right track. I live by what I preach so what I suggested is part of my lifestyle.
/r/seduction18/07/15 09:13 PM
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A guy that would want to stop a relationship with a girl would have to stop all romantic and intimate actions. You would stop treating her like a girlfriend. Slowly cut off communication with her and if you want to keep her as a friend I would keep all communication into friendship behavior but nothing romantic. If you guys have to make it clear vocally, I suggest you let her know that she is a great girl but both of you are not right for each other. Tell her that there is someone better for her…
/r/seduction18/07/15 09:09 PM
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If you want to continue the relationship I would advice you to let her stay the night and make sure you cuddle with her. No joke. When you get up in the morning put her hand on your D and escalate from there. Give her great foreplay and give her some more passionate sex. If she is not down for sex in the morning, no big deal. Just don't act like it ruined your day. Tell her how much you like fucking her and how hopefully how good she looks naked.
/r/seduction18/07/15 03:10 AM
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Just your thumb in your front pocket is not a big deal as long as your contributing to the social interactions. Just having your thumb in your front pocket can put you at a lower social level if all your doing is standing awkwardly and not contributing to the social scene. If you want to skyrocket your self-confidence, go to the following link and get your FREE course: http://www.attractandseducehotwomen.net
/r/seduction18/07/15 03:01 AM
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Your welcome for the advice =) Your an action taker! Your kino is well done. From beginning, middle and end. Now if you want to keep getting the same results as far as kino goes, keep doing what your doing. Your date ideas are great too. From ball game to Japanese restaurant (Which stands out from a typical dinner date) to hanging out at the park afterwards. One thing I almost always live by is making sure I sleep with a girl right away. Of course, she has to be comfortable with it. After a girl…
/r/seduction18/07/15 02:54 AM
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Hey man, Brutalwiseguy is right. The way you do a handshake is important because it express part of who you are as a person. Firm warm handshake= confident man. Weak warm handshake=weak man Now let's go into more detail about your question. Start with your mind (inner game) Make sure you see yourself as a confident attractive man. Your inner beliefs about you express themselves with your actions. (your beliefs influence your actions) Replace most of your negative beliefs about you with positive …
/r/seduction12/07/15 08:13 PM
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Hey man, Sounds like your at intermediate level. Good job on your kino by the way, from beginning to the end. The way you know that you're doing a successful job at kino on the first date is that the girl basically allows you to keep escalating your kino. A girl will not "push" you away or turn you down when you find ways to touch her. It's that simple. You mentioned that your concerned that one of the girls will not touch you back as often. Give her time. As she becomes more familiar with you, …
/r/seduction11/07/15 06:16 PM
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Yes and no. Yes because girls in general like an experienced man and the the older he is the more life experience you would expect he would have. (Especially romantic/sexual experience) No because if your general skills with girls (referring to how good you are at properly courting girls) are not good, girls will not stick around for too long. By the way, your really not that old when comparing yourself with 18-20 year old girls. When I read the subject line I expected this to come from a guy wh…
/r/seduction10/07/15 11:06 PM
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Hey manhani, It's great to hear that you want to meet all kinds of people. Your showing that you want to grow as a person. I know, nobody wants to have boring conversations with anybody. I'm sure your familiar with the courtship process. There are three main parts to it. Attraction phase, rapport phase and seduction phase. You can rely on this model with both men and women. You might just want to skip the seduction phase with the guys. Unless it's your thing as well. I also recommend skipping th…
/r/seduction29/06/15 03:10 PM
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Hey Nebula829, If you just want to hook up with women without them developing feelings for you, you just have to let the women know that you just want to hook up with them before you actually do the deed. Make it clear that you don't want anything intimate with them. If they cannot accept the offer well that just let's you know to not sleep with them. RisingPUA is right, let go of all the boyfriend behavior. Avoid activities that would cause you and a women to create feelings for each other. Als…
/r/seduction28/06/15 05:01 PM
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Hi Gruwoi8, Glad to hear your taking action. It's true, your standards may be a bit too high and that means less options for you. It does not mean you can't get your type of girl though or at least one that's close. I highly recommend giving the bars and clubs a break. Unless you can find a way to get access to higher end clubs where higher educated people would hangout. People like doctors and lawyers and other high occupation people. Definitely try day game. That's where you will find more int…
/r/seduction23/06/15 10:02 PM
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Hey Krainz, Good job with girl number 1 and 3. Now caressing a girl's neck is better used once you know that a girl is very comfortable around you. It creates some sexual tension which can take you out of the no sex zone or friend zone. Ideally you want to get a girl comfortable with you from the beginning with your touch. You don't want to just come out of nowhere and start touching her neck. During the night it's more natural to touch girls. During the day it's more of a challenge. Find innoce…
/r/seduction15/06/15 08:11 PM
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Hey Vine_that Building a social circle is both easy and hard. The fundamental and the understanding of how it's done is easy. Staying persistent is what can be hard. Anyway, the biggest challenge you will probably face since you say you don't have approach anxiety is going to be keeping a good consistent pace. That means don't give up. Anyway, it's good to hear that your part of a flag football team and that your in college. Since your in college, you have tons of options. What I recommend is th…
/r/seduction14/06/15 11:25 PM
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