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Audentes/r/seduction16/03/19 03:50 PM
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Yeah, it's the most common way of communicating in Japan. Everyone has it. I'd say as a foreigner if you get it, it's better than a number close. They use it like Snap/Insta/WhatsApp in one. I'm not too sure at this point to be honest. Find some bars and branch to clubs by finding people there. Just don't trust people that speak English and solicit you on the streets. Theyre trying to take you to the equivalent of brothels or worse.
/r/seduction22/07/19 09:49 PM
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Very easy to pull, just find excuses to make contact. In clubs just dancing, smiling and having fun. At bars, teach them English by using your body (this is a hand.... This is a shoulder...) or pulling out your phone and sharing pictures. Shibuya is more expensive but has a lot of opportunities, you'll probably find English speaking foreigners there too. I found some locals who took me to Udagawwcho in Shibuya where there was a club I could swear was called Gas Light, that place was crazy (women…
/r/seduction22/07/19 09:40 PM
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Don't ask for breakfast or brunch as a 'first date' unless you never want to see her again. There's no tension, no energy and absolutely no chance of physical escalation which is your top priority the first time. Hell, don't do this until you've broken the intimacy barrier period. 'Hey, no worries. Totally respect your priorities, my buddies and I are doing our thing today. Why don't you hit me up with a couple nights you're free this week and I'll let you know what I have going on to join me.' …
/r/seduction06/07/19 04:04 PM
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It's been mentioned but can't be overstated. If you're not going down on her before going inside her you're losing your biggest weapon in bed. As a late bloomer at 27 I learned quick that was how to keep a woman lusting for you. Most women would say I was the best they ever had eating them out, it's my girlfriend's favorite thing I do to her. And I love it. It's complete control over her body, fucking is a different orgasm for women. It can be a really long and intense one. Going down on her is …
/r/seduction15/06/19 03:27 PM
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It could just be your luck, but it could also be your criteria for selecting guys leading to dysfunctional messes. Keep charging on, you'll find someone. Maybe focus on a bit older guys that are putting their post-college life together. Maybe also look for a guy a bit more shy that hasn't found their self worth yet, it could be 50/50 awful (clingy, inexperienced) or excellent (attentive, emotionally grows with you). If you met me at 20 I'd be a narcissistic dick. At 23 a functional mess. At 27 t…
/r/seduction14/06/19 12:20 PM
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There's no need to ignore her. Use this as a chance to learn, you can still recover this and flip her into chasing you. But you need to be more distant and worth the chase. She hits you up, wait until the end of the day to respond. Tell her you were out on some awesome thing (go do some awesome thing!) and you missed her text til now. It might not change anything, but that's how you switch from hunt to chase.
/r/seduction12/06/19 05:08 PM
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Ride her out as long as you can, but start to detach feelings. She's just using you as a plan b until something better comes along. Great learning opportunity tho since she has some interest in you. Be more aloof with her, have other plans she can't take priority over. 'Sorry babe, it's a gym night. Tomorrow?'
/r/seduction12/06/19 04:09 PM
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You're telling yourself her flaws, so you're already on the way to recovery. But you don't believe them yet. You're still emotionally hung up on her. Only with time and distractions will you get further. Another woman, focusing on yourself and/or letting time pass. This is a good thing, just another stepping stone on the path to the next one and a good lesson learned. You even realize it, you're just struggling to accept it.
/r/seduction09/06/19 05:05 PM
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Read the post. Been there. Had the same false sense of 'I'm trying'. But you're not in a state of mind to accept that you're holding yourself back yet.
/r/seduction03/06/19 02:40 AM
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Honestly man, skimming and reading your responses... It feels like one giant 'but it isn't my fault, if only...' Stop making excuses. Fall back to fundamentals. Dress well. Eat well. Workout. Do interesting things. Go interesting places. Go out, meet girls. Dance. Sing. Party. Get numbers and then take them out. Have fun. Be funny. Be confident. She's with you for a reason, kiss her. Take her to bed and show her an amazing night.
/r/seduction03/06/19 02:22 AM
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All you're doing is making her feel like she's a queen and you're her servant. She will see you as replaceable eventually. Every guy goes through this, don't feel too bad. But recognize the signs and take a step back. She should feel lucky to be with you. If you're doing it right, she'll try to flip the dynamic... 'You know, you're so lucky you found me'... That's her feeling that way about you. It's tough, relationships shouldn't require a lot of thinking but until they're on solid grounding yo…
/r/seduction02/06/19 01:41 PM
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You need to come to the realization that seduction isn't bad. It isn't being sneaky or pulling one over women. It's a way of life enabling self confidence first and a means of attracting women second by having a positive vibe and fun lifestyle. And it's also important to understand women are OK with this. They may not admit it, but they want guys to be attracted to them and act like this. They just don't like creepy skeevs which this life can attract too.
/r/seduction01/06/19 11:44 PM
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Good nugget of wisdom in this thread. We definitely all get thrashed at least once by the first stunner to shine our pole and stick around a few weeks. I think it's critical as a guy working with game to control the pace of the relationship. Don't rush into things, keep it casual hanging out and having fun. Make her lust for you and your affection just like any other woman. If you tip that balance, that tends to be how any oneitis story starts. After a couple months and she's still there, dial i…
/r/seduction23/05/19 02:52 AM
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Good advice by the other guy. But another one is about committing. Don't exceed her level of investment. If she's just having fun, keep it light yourself. If you notice she's developing feels, extra tight cuddling after sex or texting more or concerned about you... Then consider if you like her like that too. This keeps you in control of the relationship. So instead of her losing interest in you, she's wondering if you're losing interest in her. Drives women mad and more towards you. Just be use…
/r/seduction22/05/19 01:17 PM
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Sounds like you haven't found yourself yet, but have had enough success to feel arrogant about it and your value. Everyone seems to hit that phase eventually. Truth is, real value is not being bothered by these moments and instead letting things unfold as they will. You're showing insecurity by moving on when a confident man shows strength in understanding life happens and value by not being needy or getting walked over.
/r/seduction14/05/19 12:19 PM
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There's no jobs in a relationship other than the expectation to express yourself so the other person doesn't have to guess. 'He's responsible for this step' or 'She's responsible for bringing this up' is bullshit. In this community you learn how to take charge of a situation, you can do the same in discussing a future together.
/r/seduction10/05/19 11:11 AM
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We've all been there. I was hot for my first fwb after three weeks of us saying we wouldn't be like that. We hung out too much and did too many things that had a date-like vibe. But ultimately where I failed was in overlooking her flaws. You only do that in women you see a relationship with. And even then it's a gamble, save it for when she's visibly invested. Assume fuck buddy until proven otherwise and you're ready to invest. That's where I went right with my current girlfriend. And it's been …
/r/seduction09/05/19 09:07 PM
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It depends what your intentions are. FWB you need to dial it back and keep things casual. If you're looking for a relationship at some point you'll need to break the ice and talk to her about how you feel. FWB, focus on what you don't like about her to keep a distance. Relationship focus on what you do like.
/r/seduction09/05/19 12:51 PM
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Great post brother, good to see more people put their journeys up for others to read and be inspired by. Just wanna congratulate you for finding inner happiness and finding someone that enriches your life and is enriched by being with you. It's a great feeling.
/r/seduction22/04/19 10:15 PM
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Happiness begets happiness and fun people meet other fun people. It's not because of luck, it's because emotion is infectious and a good vibe gets carried on. Figure out how to be happy without women so when you meet women they're happy to be with you and you're happy innately. It makes it easier to have an aloof confidence and a fulfilled life. With or without women.
/r/seduction21/04/19 07:48 PM
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Just strike up a conversation and see if she reciprocates. 'So, what side do you take on the world's view that pepperoni is the best pizza topping? Myself, I think it's too boring. Give me something fun any day like pineapple and bacon!' You're making light conversation, giving her a radical viewpoint to form an opinion on and keeping it fun. You can meet anyone that way.
/r/seduction21/04/19 06:06 PM
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Not at all. I called my current girlfriend before our first date. Just be up front and try to plan some times when you want to talk so there's no guessing. Granted we only text when apart now. It's just more convienant than calling.
/r/seduction20/04/19 12:19 AM
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Some of us have actually gone out and done it. Others continue to sit on the bench and watch. Which one are you going to be?
/r/seduction19/04/19 08:05 PM
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This right here is why I think guys going through game need to stop and smell the roses every now and again. I opted to try something new with a girl I met five months back, went against every pickup instinct. Still with her now and it's only getting stronger as I let the relationship happen. You've got this man, you know exactly what you need to do. Time to execute and level up.
/r/seduction06/04/19 12:43 PM
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I'd suggest becoming comfortable pleasuring her many different ways. Until I started to hear how amazing I was going down on them, sex wasn't as much fun for me. Now I can get my girlfriend off in a couple minutes and as many times as I want at night. Completely changed the bedroom dynamic for me.
/r/seduction04/04/19 12:59 PM
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There's showing interest and there's showing interest. If you're confident, pay her attention and do things with her she knows you're into her. From there just be indifferent to her bullshit to avoid being overly interested. If it's for a relationship there's no rule but I'd wait months for that. The longer she craves to prove herself to you the more successful you'll be.
/r/seduction04/04/19 12:52 PM
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I think you're really caught up in this persona and just naive to be honest. Because the good women aren't gone, they just might not be up to your standards. And the guy losing his girlfriend isn't without blame, most likely he was deficient somewhere in his ability to not keep her attention. But the majority of the insight goes to the girl for dicking around on him and the other guy for having the low moral standard to hit on a committed girl. Stop treating women like slutty objects and maybe y…
/r/seduction02/04/19 01:39 PM
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The women you're going after and winning over aren't the keepers anyways. If a guy loses his girlfriend to you it reflects more on you and her than him.
/r/seduction02/04/19 01:19 PM
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Everyone else already said what you need to ask yourself, but just know this is normal. Going into my current five month relationship I felt that way. I oddly went with only her after a few weeks. One thing that helped was talking to her about this. I made it official around two months in and explained I wouldn't normally be focused only on you, but things have been going so well it just felt right. She ate that up and it helped keep the dynamic there.
/r/seduction02/04/19 11:50 AM
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I'm with this guy. Sex is a two way street, especially in a committed relationship. You both have a job to make the other feel good and to have fun. My girlfriend does a few things, honestly if none of these work you have to question the person you're with at least in terms of their sexual preferences. When she comes over she'll take off her pants immediately if it's one of those nights and I'll make a big deal about it to make her comfortable (and because I enjoy it). She'll put my leg between …
/r/seduction01/04/19 12:26 PM
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There's a couple other good posts here about how you could have handled this or should see things going forward. All I want to add is that you will be OK op. You will move on, find another amazing girl and you will enjoy every minute of her. I've been right where you are and it wasn't easy to move on, but I did. You can too. IMO there's several common things everyone goes through in their journey. Oneitis is one. So congrats on making progress!
/r/seduction01/04/19 12:14 PM
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Sex alone isn't what should be satisfying you. Sex with random women for the sake of sex is meaningless and empty. Decent way to shake off the cobwebs or nerves mostly. I've left bars when I had a sure thing just because the chase was boring and the catch wasn't more than a one night stand. I also don't think it's fair to say most women don't know what they're doing. Maybe in your age range since you didn't specify it. Honestly the best consistent sex I've had has been in a relationship so far, …
/r/seduction30/03/19 04:51 PM
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This post is pure gold. Everyone new to game should read it. And it works forever, not just the first time with a girl. My girlfriend thinks I don't notice, but everytime she stealthy slides my leg between her thighs I know it's game time and TV off soon. They want it as much as us, they just want it to be a game of pleasure escalating up to the big finale. And honestly if you don't have fun with it you're taking sex too seriously.
/r/seduction30/03/19 12:58 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with having your own opinion, but I think it's a bit odd you'd criticize others for having a healthy habit like the gym regardless of their motive. Sure, there's other important things too. More or less? That's relative. Besides mental health, physical health definitely comes second. Followed by all of the 'bonuses' like good clothes, interesting hobbies/life, material wealth, etc. Also, I think you're emphasizing going to the gym for women too much. A lot of guys I kn…
/r/seduction23/03/19 08:47 PM
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Its not about getting ripped, it's about building a healthy habit. It makes you more confident, it's an active hobby women appreciate in guys and it will help wipe away a stressful day. Not all guys need it to play this game. But it's a tried and true method at this point for new people.
/r/seduction23/03/19 07:05 PM
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Biggest in terms of total transformation was probably how much I learned to accept myself. I carried every single mistake I ever made like a live wound. I remembered the girl at the bar that wanted to sleep with me but I was oblivious. I remembered letting my father down. I remembered the girls that rejected me when I was younger. Each one. I had to finally let go and accept myself. I think therapy would have helped and I'd have suggested it to my former self, but Journaling helped me a ton and …
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:48 PM
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I think this is the most interesting question so far. If I don't hit it, let me know and I can try another angle. I think the answer lies in between. There's no magic formula that works for everyone everytime everywhere. We're all different and I'd argue we need to discover our own games by following our own paths. But I do think there's milestones everyone needs to hit to be happy and bring positive value to an interaction. I also think there's a theme of experiences from reading. For example, …
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:43 PM
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Thanks friend! I know now what I want which is a long lasting relationship and less chasing. The hunt is fun and early in my current relationship I craved it. It hurt not to be out meeting women. But now after about 4 months I'm where I want to be.
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:27 PM
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I think it is based on perspective. In college it should be easier to experiment and grow sexually and socially. But to be honest I had a hard enough time being a good friend, let alone meeting women. My friends from college like me better today and describe me as more extroverted. The good news is if you miss the college boat you're not doomed. It's harder, but I think women in their late 20's to early 30's who are still single are much more open today towards meeting guys and seeing where it g…
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:25 PM
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Thanks! I think the biggest thing to note is how my journey really was two parts. I started working on me before I found this sub, at least two years of climbing outta the darkness. But when I found this sub I still had no idea how to get a girl or have a happy healthy relationship. So I recommend everyone be true to themselves and where they are in their journey. A lot of my posts are focused on self improvement over seduction, that was my most difficult task. You need to know your own value to…
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:20 PM
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Sure thing! Can't always respond but I'll help however I can.
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:17 PM
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Not weird at all! When I was 19 I was just worried I'd lose my scholarship. I wanted to meet people, but I pushed off the idea of relationships to focus on my priorities then. One piece of advice though is to enjoy your early 20's socially as much as you can stand. It changes as you get older, people go out less and communicate less as they get busier and lead richer lives. I wish I had experienced a bit more of what it meant to be a college student. On the flip side I regret nothing, I'm beyond…
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:17 PM
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This sub helped a ton to keep me on track, going out, trying new things, etc. Just absorbing info and trying it. Beyond that I read mostly about leadership and group dynamics, a book called unfuck yourself was nice too. My real progress was made in writing, not reading. I did a lot of reflecting on what I wrote recently, how my tone came off and where my head was at. I compared myself to others in my life and when going out, basically molding what I liked about others into my standard emotional …
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:14 PM
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Excellent additions! I spend most of my reading on non-pickup books actually. Books about leadership and group dynamics. It's helped me better connect with other's mindset and along the way I just learned to avoid the neediness by finding my value. Everyone's journey is unique which is the coolest part about this sub.
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:02 PM
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You should write them! Reading/seeing first hand accounts helps encourage people to take action themselves and keeps you accountable to yourself. I started Journaling and writing down all my goals and telling everyone. It's helped me tremendously this year. Good luck finding a fwb! I think luck plays a huge part, but the opportunity to safely experiment and learn is huge.
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:00 PM
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Thanks for the kind words fem-bro! Everyone struggles, this post is for anyone that wants to hear it. We all deserve to be happy and sometimes that starts with finding inner love so you can be a better partner for someone else out there.
/r/seduction17/03/19 04:57 PM
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Those are HUGE points. But don't forget that you need to combine them to win the trophy. I've been privileged to listen into some female stories on guys they're dating lately and even the "hot" guys don't follow advice here. My girlfriend's friend had her date escalate on the 6th night. Six dates for a kiss because she wanted him to take charge. Tell her you're going to kiss her, pause a second and go. Easy as 1-2-3.
/r/seduction17/03/19 04:53 PM
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Cheer up friend, if you noticed my journey took a lot longer than a year. It was two years of self improvement at least and during that time I interacted with three women in total. One I managed to kiss. During my year commitment I ran into two such women like you said, you liked and thought they were everything you wanted. But in my experience things happen for a reason the way they do, in hindsight both would have been disqualified compared to my current girlfriend.
/r/seduction17/03/19 04:44 PM
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Hell yeah buddy. Hope you did this again today! The adrenaline rush and stress release is wonderful.
/r/seduction17/03/19 04:42 PM
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Like the other poster mentions, it's hard to articulate. But I can add some color. Internationally where language is a barrier (Asia for me) devolved interactions into their base experiences. About connecting. After work I went out and just wandered. I ended up in very random bars, clubs, restaurants, etc. And I just spoke English briefly, they didnt or maybe knew hello and if they smiled I sat down. Once I sat down I did the basic intros of name, country and more smiles. Every time I got a welc…
/r/seduction17/03/19 04:39 PM
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Just want to say this thread turned really wholesome and it's awesome. Thanks for the Reddit Gold kind stranger, I too agree we should be more focused about this journey around here. After I finish waking up and get some time I'm going to circle back and respond to everyone and the PMs. Glad this helped motivate some of you like it did me a long time ago and each time I logged in here.
/r/seduction17/03/19 01:45 PM
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Sometimes you have something to lose, sometimes nothing. Calling falls in the bucket of tricks for nothing to lose. My current girlfriend got the nothing to lose phone call, we ended up talking for a half hour on a Sunday night. It turned out that forwardness made her more comfortable in me, she opened up a night and we went out. I escalated like I was on a stairway to heaven and never looked back. I firmly believe in missing the shots you don't take and that's taken me a long time to buy into. …
/r/seduction11/03/19 03:30 AM
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Not sure if serious, but this sub is a good place. It depends where you are on your journey and what your personality is like. Don't try to blitz seduction like a lot of people, the more you read and watch the more hesitant you'll get with too many ideas floating around. Learn a few things and execute them. Rinse, wash, repeat until you've figured out how to handle yourself, how to introduce yourself, how to carry a conversation, lead her to a close, manage venues and change locations, keep her …
/r/seduction14/02/19 01:13 PM
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Recently was in a meeting where someone was arguing leadership was a thing you only had or didn't have. Asked him if picking up women was too, which was of course was a yes. After a couple minutes of breaking down the interaction and steps to learning and then succeeding he broke down and agreed it could be learned and that maybe leadership could be too. Some people only see the art of picking up women. Some people see the art of picking up yourself in this lifestyle choice.
/r/seduction13/02/19 04:15 PM
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Pretty much the same as going somewhere you don't know the language. When you can be in a place that verbal communication breaks down it turns into more primal means and you can escalate straight to touching more easily. As this sub emphasizes, physical escalation leads to more success per situation so it's no surprise this comes off so effective compared to traditional means. Congrats on your discovery, make sure you reflect on why it worked and don't get hung up on the how so much.
/r/seduction09/02/19 04:24 PM
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Fucking great question that hits home with where I'm at right now in almost every way besides the time and experience. Kinda good to know others hit it too. Feels a bit like a wall you want to climb and see what's on the other side but don't know if you can climb back if you do. For me, one thing that's helping me decide if I keep going forward with this girl is sticking to my dating beliefs. But amping them up to relationship level. Just like you qualify a woman on a date and she shit tests you…
/r/seduction22/01/19 05:08 AM
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Sounds like you're the backup plans. This doesn't happen to me often but when it does it's usually a lack of response cancelation. Which is easily addressed by 'Hey, haven't heard from you. I'm going out to do x with y, raincheck?' Women usually respect a guy not too hung up on them and get back to you asap to correct the issue. Just stand firm on plans that night. Even better if you've got a good enough rotation to make your own backup plans. A flakey convo with a girl leads me to canceling and…
/r/seduction19/01/19 05:15 PM
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All you can do is follow the path and see where you end up brother. If you're meant to have love and lost, the next one will mean that much more. That's where I'm at, fighting my own urge to move on and not appreciating what's at my fingertips enough. Seduction can be addicting. I could write a paper on what I feel it takes to get what you're looking for. But at the end of the day the age old advice rings true, you'll end up with someone you're meant to if that's what you're after given time and…
/r/seduction10/01/19 12:23 AM
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Anything is possible. Own it. Wear your weaknesses as a badge of strength. It doesn't prevent you from developing relationships.
/r/seduction08/01/19 02:36 PM
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It isn't about being an alpha (which to me is a misguided term here), it's about being comfortable and natural in your own skin. Nothing phases you and you're ready to handle anything while doing it with your own style. Do that, be outgoing and put yourself in places for success (solo or in groups) and you'll gather the interest of some amazing women (physically and mentally). That's assuming you're far enough along in your journey.
/r/seduction08/01/19 12:12 AM
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One thing to emphasize is that every woman has different areas and ways which turn them on more than the next you'll meet. And each night can be a bit different than the next. It's not as important to know exactly what you're going to do as it is to listen to her body and act accordingly. You might just be surprised how carnal things can get that way. That being said, these are good adds to the toolkit. Which is what it should be, a bunch of tools you acquire over time and experiences.
/r/seduction06/01/19 04:32 PM
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'Hey, haven't heard from you, I'm going out for x with y. Let's reschedule another time.' Shows you respect yourself, aren't playing games and you're still driving things. Sometimes texts get lost, phones break, people lost track of time, emergencies come up, etc. Ghosting until a response or apology is weak sauce.
/r/seduction29/12/18 04:55 AM
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Get to the venue early and take a couple shots to loosen up. Don't get drunk... You just seem like you need liquid courage. Be you 100% of the time. The last thing you want is to follow a recipe that isn't you and try to create a fake frame everytime you're with her. The only thing in your head should be to have fun, make sure she's having fun and if you're both enjoying eachother's company get a goodnight kiss to build yourself up for the next date. But that's assuming she's worth it... qualify…
/r/seduction18/12/18 02:59 AM
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Dude sounds like he drank too much of his own kool-aid. I think it's natural for guys who had no success, who find (relatively) a lot of it to get a bit stuck up for a little while. It's a high to go out and pickup a girl early on. Some people have addiction in their DNA and it spirals out. Some don't. I recall a week or two after some particularly successful weekends I was a complete dick to my friends. They called me out on it, I took stock of what matters and stopped. It's why in my opinion t…
/r/seduction07/12/18 04:25 PM
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Set yourself up as her victory date. When women are busy or stressed I always like to be the guy they go to after the dust settles for some fun and blowing off steam. Lock it in early, then go find someone in the meantime. 'Exams? Oh yeah those are tough. Good luck. Let me know when they're wrapping up, I've got the perfect place in mind to celebrate and pick back up where we last left off.'
/r/seduction30/11/18 04:24 PM
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If all you're after is fun, I'd suggest an Asian country. Even one week in Tokyo and you'll be able to solo pull 2 or 3 women minimum.
/r/seduction28/11/18 05:58 AM
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I think you're missing the fundamental reasoning for all of this. A guy who chases numbers will find his mean, 1 girl or 1000. But he'll be empty on the inside during and after and probably lose a lot of hunts because of a shallow personality and life. A guy who establishes self worth and confidence will live a richer and more fulfilled life. You don't do it for women but for you and then you leverage this confidence as a tool to get women. Women you wouldn't have gotten otherwise most likely, b…
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:37 PM
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Nothing saves you from rejection. The point is having meaningful confidence that isn't fleetingly based on a couple of encounters is essential to long term development and success. That's how you overcome rejection and grow from it, because you're confident in you enough to move to the next opportunity. That's largely grown through success in other areas of life if you're not a natural.
/r/seduction27/11/18 05:43 PM
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Before you're confident you have her figured out, don't forget when confronted with potentially losing a catch people will back pedal different ways. She might have lost her other lines and tried to play your conversation off as a joke. Doesn't sound worth the time, but I like to keep perspective since it helps in future interactions. We've all been there though, met a crazy chick at the bar after a good convo who ended up living with her ex husband and his girl who he cheated on her with and sh…
/r/seduction27/11/18 03:24 PM
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If you're in an emotional state where this fires you up, I fear you're also prone to spiraling out after a few days of rejection. Better to build up your confidence brick by brick. Slay it at the gym, New haircut, clean style, New friends, exotic travel, get a dog, get a promotion at work... At the height of your confidence fire up that drive once again and approach with simple lines. Keep it simple simple simple. You'll land one girl, make a goal to keep her around for as long as possible. You'…
/r/seduction27/11/18 03:57 AM
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Interesting read, some things I feel I caught onto but by no means do I pretend to be an expert. She was looking for a good shag, every woman (within reason) is. Some hide it better than others. She gets what she wants easily and isn't afraid to let you go. You came across kinda passive (which might be her thing... If she wanted ropes brought). Then you stepped up a bit and gave yourself a shot with the cocky funny play. But bailing before seeing it through was silly. Should have picked a nearby…
/r/seduction27/11/18 02:57 AM
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Well don't keep us in suspense bro, how'd your shedevil turn out.
/r/seduction25/11/18 08:59 PM
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You'll never know if someone is worth disqualifying until you meet them. Great conversations can be had with someone batshit crazy. Awful ones with someone intriguing. Edited out an example story. Long of short is you can turn what seems like nothing into something only if you see it through. And you'll never improve your game if you don't practice, those women are great ones to learn off of. So good on you for leading into this with the right frame.
/r/seduction24/11/18 07:40 PM
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No sources, just repetition. Try new things out. Edited out example story. Look into her eyes a few times, pull away. Finally tell her to come here, you wanna kiss her. Tension explodes. IMO guys on this subreddit suffer from indecision around how much forwardness is appropriate. We've been taught women aren't comfortable being objectivezed. But the truth is a good bit do, but only by guys they've 'vetted'. Once you've passed her shit tests you better rev it up to 100 on the escalation meter or …
/r/seduction24/11/18 07:04 AM
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Meet more people, give them a chance to open up to you and put yourselves in positions to have fun. Avoid restaurants, movies, etc. Opt for comedy shows sitting closer together, dancing, karaoke, etc. Then spend a night with them like a real person, cook together or game together or take a drive together. Make sure you learn where their head is at relationship-wise so you don't send mixed signals. By the end of that you'll have an emotional investment. You don't need a relationship to have good …
/r/seduction16/11/18 01:23 PM
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A lot of guys move on or roll over. Personally I use it as a chance to prove value and make her validate herself. The other week I had a planned 'let's go get drinks' after work. But no response, text confirmation or excitement. So I hit her up a few hours before and called it off like a normal person. 'Hey, just got back from gym, never heard back from you, I'm gonna go do such and such and let's find another time to meet up' Women don't usually get rescheduled, they do it. 5 minutes later I go…
/r/seduction16/11/18 01:13 PM
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Given your posts, one thing you might want to just start accepting is you won't be over her for quite awhile. Been there once (early in my journey) and it sucks. Distract yourself with self improvement. Get a dog. Find really cool hole in the wall bars and restaurants. Workout like crazy. Learn to cook. Write down what you didn't like about her to make it real, when you're 'in love' you look past faults but they're still there. Then hop right back on the wagon and get hunting. Check your boredom…
/r/seduction14/11/18 01:50 PM
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Great post. This stuff is a numbers game and a lot of new guys are risk averse. The reality of it is your odds increase per individual girl the more risks you take across the board. But one suggestion is to take risks which end in a bit of mystery too. Not only are you being playful but you're making her curious. It'll soften the delivery and leapfrog into the conversation.
/r/seduction12/11/18 02:39 AM
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Talk with your hands and body. I go to places I'm forced to interact in other cities, then use pictures to break the ice from my phone. Then it's just smiles, dancing, teasing and fun all the way to the finish line. I always learn a few key words in their language so it's not creepy at first. Hi, you're cute, drink, etc. And if we're sitting somewhere then I turn it into a language session for them to teach me more. For instance, you can innocently grab her hand and walk across her fingers with …
/r/seduction15/09/18 01:30 PM
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Everyone has their own degree of obsession for sure, maybe there's a better word. The point is to make it your every focus and to have a relentless drive to succeed. That's the level of dedication which gets you out of the stands and onto the field. Become a professional athlete at being the best you you can be. Not caring isn't going to help, it's only going to numb you to failure. And based on the people in this subreddit being realistic isn't enough to push them over the edge.
/r/seduction16/08/18 04:43 PM
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Part of why there is an army of men unwilling to approach is because of the perpetuation of saying not to care. If they stay on the sideline they think it shows how little they care. Stop not caring and start caring. Obsess over being the best and find a natural confidence that if you strikeout once there's still more swings at the plate to come. I don't care if it conflicts with the OPs post, getting tired of seeing this advice.
/r/seduction16/08/18 11:58 AM
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I like Penguin. There's a black one on Amazon that is pocket size and I use when I'm out for the night. That's the one the last three women I've been with commented on. Small bit on the wrists, rub to neck and a spray on the chest.
/r/seduction14/08/18 08:57 PM
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I just want to add one thing to a great post. It's not just looks, but also all other senses. Looks - Clean cut, shave, clothes, stride, etc. Smell - Attractive cologne, clean Touch - Lotion for soft hands, chapstick for better kisses, trimmed nails, avoid oily skin Not every guy is blessed with an Adonis body, but you can scoop up enough bonus points to compete against a guy who doesn't care. Smell is my favorite, women can get really carnal if a smell engages them right.
/r/seduction13/08/18 04:12 AM
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You're not even at level one with an opener like that. Step one, go to a bar and meet people with zero intentions of anything sexual. Make friends with the people playing pool or darts, get a drink with a girl and her friends and comment how something they're wearing looks good and introduce yourself. Observe the way people interact together and how they interact with you. Don't try to be confident, it'll only make you come across wrong. Be genuine, eventually you'll become confident. The more g…
/r/seduction29/07/18 03:43 PM
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Anecdotal, but to add to this. One of my fwbs who normally goes for Saturday nights wasn't vibing much last night when I shot a couple texts to confirm. So a couple teasing texts and one to recall a good time together led to her mood matching mine in conversation and confirming she'd be over. Shot a picture over this morning of what she'd be wearing. Moods can be changed (sometimes) and I completely agree it's best done by using your own frame and making it infectious. Even if it's over a non-em…
/r/seduction21/07/18 04:15 PM
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My favorite one is usually like this if there's little history between you two yet... 'Hey there, I heard this number might belong to this cute girl I met last night who does/likes x.... Let her know to meet me for drinks this night at this time if she's around.' If she's playful she'll pretend to be someone else and you can have fun with it for a few minutes and end on a flirty playful note while finishing logistics. If she's basic as fuck then it prolly goes nowhere and you dodged a bullet.
/r/seduction12/07/18 10:20 PM
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Why not both? You might lean one way or the other, you might avoid ones that you deem too easy if there's a low attraction threshold, but I see no reason to not approach and pursue both types in this question.
/r/seduction09/07/18 11:13 PM
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This level of honesty is where you need to be at, if you haven't internalized this yet. I'm working backwards (mobile), but 'start living' and attaining confidence should come hand in hand. By doing interesting things you'll be more interesting and therefore come across more interesting. If you do that and say Hi to women every so often, you'll get lucky accidentally. I was in your shoes thinking that would never happen. I decided to live my life. That doesn't mean I go out to get laid, I go out…
/r/seduction09/07/18 06:35 PM
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You've posted before saying you're 26. So you're younger than me. Seems to me you never spent time developing your confidence, just assumed it would come by losing weight and getting a good job. Confidence can be earned just like a fit body can be earned. I get plenty of rejections for being too big for some women, but that's fine. Some women are into that and some aren't. You haven't done all you could, stop self defeating and start living.
/r/seduction09/07/18 05:07 PM
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Replied to the other dude in more detail.
/r/seduction09/07/18 04:49 PM
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Me too man! Most of this has come in my later 20's. Two years ago I started missing relationships and tried sporadic online dating only to realize I wasn't ready when I read Neil Strauss's book and met a few women nervous as all he'll. But I also knew his style wouldn't work for me so I found seddit and lurked. I worked on internally figuring out what I saw as flaws, journaling them for months and determining how I need to reframe myself. My friends helped tell me how I was coming across. I work…
/r/seduction09/07/18 04:49 PM
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Realized anyone can get anyone at anytime because we're all just people with different preferences. That's when I stepped on the dance floor with a woman I was into, we kissed and I left with her number. Got the lay a couple weeks later. Realized physical escalation is really easy and more natural than science. And if you did it right the kiss is as simple as 'Come over here, I want to kiss you right now'. For me 'aha' moments are things I knew or should have known all along but finally internal…
/r/seduction09/07/18 12:10 PM
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I usually test the waters with a semi-bold escalation physically. If there's no retraction then I isolate her if not already, deep eye contact and if you can talk tell her you want to kiss her and then go for it. She'll stop you if it's not gonna happen. Should be first or second time together, in my experience if it takes two times she's either inexperienced or shy or both. I like to end the kiss early if it's going well and leave her wanting. Then come back with a light peck and reengage later…
/r/seduction02/07/18 02:29 AM
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'You're killing this workout! Keep hanging in there.' 'Thanks! It's only my second one' 'No way, look like you've done this before. My name is... Btw' 'haha, I'm... Nice to meet you' 'Before we head back, let's get a drink sometime. Hit me with your number and I'll text you later?' 'OK, it's...' That's about it. Compliment or tease, drop your name, if she says hers then use your mutual time constraint to get the number and disengage. Roughly what I've done before. Only ever engage if you're both…
/r/seduction29/06/18 12:52 PM
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Nice story man, hope to get to the point where I share mine too. The part that sold me is the 'come here' kiss. That was my tipping point too. Even women I'm not terribly into, let's see what the kiss is like. Because why not? Keep up the good fight, last night I had my first time experiencing a woman coming over purely to share a night together. Nothing more complicated. Didn't have to do anything other than pour some drinks, hit the tunes and have a mutually good time. It'll happen for you too…
/r/seduction21/06/18 07:46 PM
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Tinder is the lowest form of them all. But for those of us with little time and working jobs with less people interaction they're a good way to fill the gap between the last time you went out and next weekend. I have a couple of decent nights setup with Coffee Meets Bagel women soon. Don't get me wrong, the bar pickup is still the best of the bunch lately. But there's only 24 hours in a day. Also, it's easier to screen for gems. Most guys on dating apps are tactless oafs, you'll come across like…
/r/seduction14/06/18 05:06 PM
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I can assure you a woman has been attracted to you before. Just on statistics alone. Your challenge next is to improve your confidence and accept yourself. From there you need to start talking to anyone and before long you'll run into a woman attracted to you. I shit you not, one year ago I was where you were. Now I meet women and know they're attracted to me without them telling me. Hand around the waist that's reciprocated. Staring longingly into each other's eyes. Sending an unrequited pictur…
/r/seduction12/06/18 10:09 PM
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At 27 I had my epiphany and went on a binge. Women won't just come up and compliment you and stroke your ego, but if you're tactful in meeting them and engaging in conversation with them eventually you'll find ones attracted to you. Had a woman tell me (after sleeping together) that she didn't want to tell anyone, but she wasn't into my friend who was hitting on her and I was more her type. And she was glad I made a move. Any day you guys can wake up and change. But you need to start giving a fu…
/r/seduction11/06/18 07:16 PM
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Catch yourself in a negative mindset and recall what kind of mindset you want to be in. Do this until the moment is gone. Pissed off? Remember when you were uber happy out with your date last week. Feeling shy? Remember that time you sucked it up and met someone at the bar. I don't agree with the "don't care" mantra around here. In fact, do the opposite. Do care. The more you care the more you'll do something about it and doing is a strong emotional trait everyone should have.
/r/seduction10/06/18 09:41 PM
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By far my favorite goto for the second or third date, once she can't leave you without a prolonged kiss it's on. You just need to warm her up, accidentally bumping into eachother while cooking and teasing eachother. Compliments on her food, teases on her cooking technique, some dessert (whip cream can is simple fun) and then a night of escalation is on. Maybe a bit of playful dancing, cuddle up on the couch together with a video game or movie, eye gazing, work her onto your lap to make out and i…
/r/seduction01/06/18 08:39 PM
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I think it's only normal when you find that girl who is just a cut above everyone else to fixate more than desired. For people seeking relationships out of this seemingly endless cycle it's even more likely. I'm at the point in my journey where I've come to accept when I get this way because I believe I can recognize when it's real, at least for me. At that point it's about containing myself around her until or if she is on the same page. And focusing on being as busy as possible to get out of m…
/r/seduction28/05/18 07:57 PM
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You need to talk to someone bro. Friends, family, specialist, whomever. Yeah, early on getting numbers and bringing women home is a huge self fulfilling prophecy of validating one's self. But you sound hung up on getting close to women out of fear of rejection or spitefulness on their part. Especially with that childhood story. I know a lot of people here are just after the quick lay and getting over their approach anxiety, but a real meaningful relationship no matter how short or long is a very…
/r/seduction23/05/18 09:00 PM
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You won't stop the internal monologue. Nor is there anything wrong with it. Reframe it into a positive if it helps you and focus on your actions, which you can control. If you're still struggling there's a book called Unfuck Yourself that might help. I call what the OP suggested 'taking what you want'. Sometimes you can even use this directly with shy women. If you've engaged them, they're interested but reluctant, ask them if they take what they want in life. When they ask what that means, if t…
/r/seduction20/05/18 09:12 PM
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If that's the case I don't see any harm in taking a shot, just from my experience being hung on a girl enough to actively try to revisit her weeks or months later when you did nothing before is slim odds at best. Have to strike when the attraction is there or rebuild it. If her response didn't matter a lengthy post wouldn't be needed and tone implies to me it does, otherwise you'd just go talk to her instead of trying to make a plan, right? So just get outta your head, say Hi, remind her of a go…
/r/seduction17/05/18 01:50 AM
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Just my two cents, but it sounds pretty desperate / needy still thinking about her like that. Even if she goes out the attraction has to start over but you're already in 3rd gear. If that's where you're at, find a way to get out of your head. The best thing besides not bothering at all I can suggest is to make plans without her and with a bunch of friends, possibly even some of her friends, then offer her a fun time by joining you all. Make her see value, chase you a bit and escalate in a social…
/r/seduction17/05/18 01:08 AM
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Women that you desire physically but aren't hung up on emotionally. They'll then fill the emotional void and physically it'll just happen. Numbers are just a brute force way of shaking off something and should only be used as a stepping stone or a way to get out of your own head. There is definitely a rush to being able to claim four different dates in three days, I attribute the numbers to my last success indirectly because it helped me recollect my confidence after a rejection.
/r/seduction09/05/18 12:53 PM
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I've got to agree here, there's very little you can do right in the long run if you make small talk texting before you've escalated physically. Even if you do everything right, let her open up to you, get comfortable and playfully tease anything she brings up. You're at best setting yourself up for huge expectations on the second date, at worst making her nervous or ready to ghost. I say that also having the dumb judgement to try, since there's always that little thought that 'she's not like the…
/r/seduction30/03/18 05:32 PM
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