Hello! 27F here!, I need help with my confidence and sexiness. I'm currently married for almost 4years now, and I've been with my husband for 7years. However he was my first, so I don't have much "practice".

I am terrible at intiating sex and getting him turned on. It seems like I have better luck just going about my day to end up getting lucky, rather than when I try and seduce him.

I've tried lingerie & usually get laughed at. I've tried masturbating around him, I m called gross. I'm terrible at sexy talk... Idk what to do. I'm just awkward.

I have ok luck just giving him a bj, but if I pick a "bad time" then I still get rejected. Ugh, it's so frustrating. Why am I like this!!

Help me!

EDIT: Let me add this update, it's not that he won't have sex with me. If I initiate for sex, I mostly get rejected. Due to my libido being pretty low, he jerks off more often however we still have sex at least weekly. Also, due to circumstances he hasn't really worked since October, however he does own his own handy man business. It has been slow picking back up. Thus, I am the only one with a normal 8-5 job that can pay bills on the regular.

I did not mean to make him out to be a complete douchebag.