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Awayhethrows1961/r/RPChristians09/09/19 02:25 PM
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As a convert and woman, I could see myself saying "we did everything" but really meaning "we did anything." She did tell me that he was too aggressive with her (confirmed by messages she sent telling him so), but it referred to him choking her and her confronting him about it being too much. I apologize if that's too much information, but it's what led me to suspect they had sex as I can't ever imagine a consensual sexual experience where choking happens any other time than during PIV intercours…
/r/askRPC10/10/19 04:16 PM
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Update: I went through her phone again yesterday morning only to find she had deleted the message thread. Last night, I calmly confronted her about it and she didn't freak out that I read her messages. She knew exes were off limits and she understands why I read them. She did however continue to deny having sex with the guy. I don't have a copy of the texts and although she remained calm, I definitely felt like she was gaslighting me a bit - which made me question what I read. She kept saying "I…
/r/askRPC10/10/19 01:14 PM
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save my feelings, not admit she was/is a slut, couldn't take ownership of her actions, felt ashamed... whatever. My point is that she felt as though she had an appropriate reason to lie. I'm not justifying it and that's why I want to confront her about it - so she knows that I do not tolerate dishonesty in any capacity for any reason.
/r/askRPC09/10/19 07:04 PM
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I would be 100% honest with her and then if she did in fact take the most likely route of: "feigning anger at [me] for invading her privacy, denying / justifying her deception, flipping the script and pointing out everything [I've] ever done wrong, giving [me] some crocodile tears" I would have no problem wishing her the best and moving on with my life.
/r/askRPC09/10/19 06:35 PM
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it's because he's "special" to her. I can't say I agree. He was the only "short-term" prospect she mentioned when talking about her past. Every other guy she mentioned was an LTR. Ergo, I'm assuming she was ashamed of having sex with someone she barely knew and thought I'd judge her for it. You would do well to kick her to the curb, honestly. Doing so seems a bit extreme considering she most likely lied to save my feelings and to avoid looking like a harlot. AWALT, no?
/r/askRPC09/10/19 06:30 PM
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Primarily due to my lead, we attend church weekly together and do a daily devotional/study together. We also pray together routinely, but I do not know how fervent she is with her own prayer. I would agree that we are not equally yoked, but I have seen her take major strides in her walk since we've been together.
/r/askRPC09/10/19 06:22 PM
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What possible good would that do? Perhaps I'm wrong, but I think she's less likely to lie in the future if she knows I know she lied. Right now, she could just think that she can lie again and I'd be none the wiser.
/r/askRPC09/10/19 06:17 PM
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Did you both just get saved this year? Congrats if so, but other wise this seems like the timeline doesn't add up for her still being promiscuous and easily dishing out lies. I was saved back in 2012 and she was saved right before she met me, about 8-9 months ago. Not sure what you expected. I prefer to stick to a don't-ask-don't-tell policy, but we were sharing our testimonies with each other and discussing previous relationships seemed inevitable. I suspect she did not want to admit she slept …
/r/askRPC09/10/19 05:59 PM
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Re: social media I don’t think she flirts with guys on social media, but she is quite active on the apps. Do I overtly express my expectations as far as boundaries go? For example, do I explain to her that my future wife won’t be flirting with other men?
/r/askRPC20/09/19 04:35 PM
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I'm 6'5, 265lbs down from 330+ ​ I've tried every "diet" in the book and the only thing that has worked longterm for me is CICO (Calories In < Calories Out). It's really simple, eat less and move more. I also utilized intermittent fasting to help stay within my calorie allotment. It allowed me to eat whatever I want, which definitely allowed me to stick to it longer; however, and interesting thing happens after awhile: you start naturally gravitating towards healthier foods that are more filling…
/r/RPChristians01/03/19 09:00 PM
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IIRC from your deleted post, this was the girl you fell madly in love with, and were exchanging "ILYs" and planning a life together after just a couple of weeks? That's that girl. I wonder whether your ties to her were at the heart of your ambivalence with "Beth" the church girl? I got the feeling from your posts that "Beth" was a check-all-the-boxes girl, but your heart was elsewhere. Although I still love my ex, unless she were to be genuinely saved and become a godly woman, I could never be w…
/r/RPChristians26/01/19 05:31 PM
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I definitely don’t disagree. I’ve even had the conversation with her to see if she really knew Jesus. She would always say “of course”, but her actions always said otherwise. I was never in a position to lead her as I was living in sin myself, so I never felt like I had the right to critique her walk. I pray she is saved one day and her heart changes.
/r/RPChristians25/01/19 02:22 AM
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I see this, but what I'm hearing from the post is: "Is it possible she fixes herself so we can get back together one day?" You'll have to take my word on this, but I am NOT looking to get back with my ex. I wholeheartedly believe in Iron Rule #7 Don'[t] worry about what was. Worry about what is. I agree 100% 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goa…
/r/RPChristians24/01/19 09:20 PM
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Duly noted.
/r/RPChristians05/01/19 02:24 PM
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As a Christian, what's more important: your financial security or your spiritual security?
/r/askTRP03/01/19 03:52 PM
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Different strokes for different folks
/r/askTRP02/01/19 05:53 PM
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Through concentration, I can raise and lower my cholesterol at will.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 04:13 PM
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Real entrepreneurs don't call themselves entrepreneurs.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 03:29 PM
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Thank you for the advice. I'm not completely convinced she's 100% into me, but I guess that'll all be clear once we have that conversation. I plan on intentionally dating her if she's interested in doing so. The fact of the matter is, I'm not getting any younger, she meets the criteria of a godly woman/wife, and, God willing, I'd love to get married while I'm still young.
/r/RPChristians21/12/18 08:23 PM
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I'd like to think I'm the second guy as I have my crap together and those actions come second-nature to me. I own a successful business and my own home, I volunteer in my community often, I lift consistently (6'5, 265), I pray daily and go to church/bible study 2-3x/week. ​ ​
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 02:58 PM
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If you want to do these things that's great. If you're being pressured into doing it because you feel like there's some sort of social expectation that's not good. I do those things because I want to. On a conscious, superficial level, I open a door for a girl for the same reason I buy the homeless guy breakfast, it makes me feel good to be kind. The real problem comes in the form of covert expectations. If you're treating her a certain way in the hopes that it makes her like you more or gets he…
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 02:45 PM
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I wasn't saying, or even implying, that the bible promotes chivalry. The bible doesn't exactly promote dating, but we discuss that at length here, no?
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 02:38 PM
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Thank you for the advice, brother. As for not sitting with her at bible study, it did feel good post hoc to know that I haven’t COMPLETELY reverted back to my old blue pill self. Part of me can’t even believe I’m on Reddit making these posts in the first place. I’ve always operated with an abundance mentality even before finding TRP. I guess I need to proceed with the same confidence and execution that I have in the past with all the other girls. Sans taking her back to my place of course.
/r/RPChristians04/12/18 08:51 PM
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Join a BNI chapter. Doing so has led me to many a networking opportunity outside our weekly meetings; golf outtings, after hours networking events, etc...
/r/askTRP30/10/18 11:08 PM
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You’ll probably fuck up. And that’s okay, because there’s an infinite amount of Jane Doe’s out there for you my guy. Dating is a skill you need to develop; practice makes perfect.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 11:05 PM
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I write down my targets, goals if you will, every morning. The biggest improvements/advancements have mainly been centered around my mental targets like “I am more present with loved ones” or “I have complete self control”
/r/askTRP30/10/18 08:59 PM
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Bro, GTFO.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 06:44 PM
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Find something unique in her profile, comment on it, get her number in 7 messages or less. Text her with a time and place. Keep it to logistics only.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 06:31 PM
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Consistent, longterm Minoxidil use.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 05:14 PM
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When you're breathing out, try to feel the air pass over your lips.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 04:09 PM
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Start with 5 minutes twice a day, morning and night. Just sit there and focus on your breathing. What helped me at first, as weird as this sounds, was to focus on feeling the air coming in through my nostrils and then out over my lips.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 01:45 PM
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It's going to come down to how you handle each plate between meet-ups. Keep texting strictly logistical. Do not negotiate your time. Do not break frame. Do not hesitate to drop any one of them out of the rotation.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 01:24 PM
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Flying is dangerous and if you don't start golfing at a young age, you'll never be good?! LMAO
/r/askTRP29/10/18 01:11 PM
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Technically anything you enjoy doing will release dopamine. I think it's important to determine where you're getting "cheap hits" from (i.e. porn, caffeine, etc...) and focus more on meaningful, productive tasks and activities.
/r/askTRP24/10/18 01:58 PM
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Roses are red, I think I just farted
/r/askTRP22/10/18 03:33 PM
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Just got a response. She apologized for not responding last night and said she was asleep. Then immediately texted "I have a little get together with my gym people Sunday. Sorry it's kind of a busy weekend for me." ​ Looks like I found out everything I need to know.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 05:35 PM
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We live and learn
/r/askTRP18/10/18 05:32 PM
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How do I salvage it? Is it even possible at this point?
/r/askTRP18/10/18 05:17 PM
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Believe me, I instantly regretted changing course as soon as I hit send. I just didn't want to suggest doing something she's probably doing the night before with Chad. You're right though... Jesus. Fucking. Christ.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 04:02 PM
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Should I really follow up if she doesn't respond before Sunday? I was planning on just soft nexting her if I don't hear from her by then.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 02:32 PM
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2) I have the feeling it's going to be the latter. Haha oh well.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 02:12 PM
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I'm just glad I experienced it while I'm still relatively young. I've since swallowed the red pill and will NEVER be put in that situation ever again.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 07:36 PM
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This is obvious, but do not get into an LTR with a liberal feminist. I learned this the hard way.
/r/askTRP11/10/18 05:38 PM
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1st Law of the 48 Laws of Power: Never outshine the master. http://48laws-of-power.blogspot.com/2013/10/law-1-never-outshine-master.html?m=1
/r/askTRP09/10/18 12:34 AM
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What do I say when I message her about it?
/r/askTRP08/10/18 10:09 PM
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Holy shit. I found the jacket.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 10:00 PM
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Hahahaha! You know what I mean though... they were deep under the bed, so she may have looked and had not been able to find them.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 09:37 PM
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So even though I don't have her jacket, I should pretend I do to get her to come over?
/r/askTRP08/10/18 09:16 PM
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Probably a good time to mention she left her panties ...
/r/askTRP08/10/18 08:50 PM
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When you're right, you're right.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 07:57 PM
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I just don't see how, without actually having her jacket, I can use that as a transition into having her come over again.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 07:15 PM
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It's possible she's genuinely wondering where her jacket is, no? She doesn't seem like someone who needs plausible deniability.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 07:12 PM
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I guess I need to just say fuck it and see if she wants to hang out again. If she doesn't respond, or gives me some excuse, I'll just hard next her.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 07:11 PM
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My gut is telling me I was just a one-time thing for her, but that may be because I'm not fully RP adapted yet. I may hit her up in a few days and see if she wants hang out. I plated and old hookup a few weeks ago, so I don't really care if I plate this HB9, but it would obviously be nice to smash an HB9 on the reg.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 07:09 PM
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We going out tonight! Say a prayer for me.
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I love you
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I’m absolutely going to continue to pray and seek the Lord’s counsel. In fact, each passing day I’ve done so has led me further and further away from this early onset oneitist I’m suffering from. I also have to keep reminding myself to just be myself and do what I’ve always done. Text when I want to text, don’t when I don’t feel like it, crack a joke if I want to, touch her if I feel so inclined. I’m 100% overthinking this and operating with a scarcity mindset. Here’s to outcome independence!
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Thanks for the reply - it definitely makes sense. All I need to do is offer her the opportunity to hang out with me and it’s her duty to seize that opportunity.
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This may be a silly question, but what’s the difference between “initiating” and “pursuing” in this context? You say I must text her, but it’s her job to pursue. Wouldn’t her pursuing me involve her contacting me first at some point?
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You say don’t chase her, but if she’s not chasing me, what’s my next step? Just do my own thing and maybe she reaches out, maybe she doesn’t? Or do I ask her out one more time and give it to her straight. Maybe she’ll act differently once my intentions are clear.
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I don’t plan on ever partaking in premarital sex again. I do plan on establishing boundaries with her if and when we develop into something. Thankfully, she is currently in a season where she has a fire for the Lord and scripture, so although I know temptation will arise, it will be easier to avoid if we are both on the right path.
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It’s just that literally every other girl I’ve talked to in recent months, and even ones I haven’t, have contacted me first at some point. And now the one who I’m the most interested in won’t give me the time of day unless I ask for it. Do you think it’s at all strange she hasn’t once reached out to me first?
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I’m definitely leaning towards just putting my intentions out there. Perhaps I’ll tell her I’m taking her to dinner this week and have that conversation with her. But you’re right, I’m absolutely at risk for some oneitis. Thankfully, with prayer and bible study, I’m working through it.
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Thank you for taking the time to respond and for the value you bring to this community in general. I read through most of your articles today and look forward to putting your advice to work. I’m worried she’s just being nice due to the fact that she’s not making any effort to reach out to me first. In nearly every other “dating” situation I’ve been in over the last decade, the girl (if she’s interested) almost always texts me on her own accord or initiates at some point. Even other girls at my c…
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So the reason I've posted this question is because I have a friend who recently found out his son is gay (he's 22). Two years ago, the son responded to an alter call, accepted Jesus and was baptized a few months later. Turns out, the son has been living with a guy while away at school. ​ Basically, my friend doesn't believe his son is saved because he is still living in that sin and, presumably, has not repented. ​ Feel free to comment on the Christian LGBT community as a whole as well.
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I've made the first move... and the second... and the third... We've gone out multiple times. I have even been to her parents for dinner. I will note that we haven't had a detailed discussion regarding our intentions yet.
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She surprised me with homemade brownies at my office last week! So I guess that's.. uh.. brownie points.. for her?! One thing that does bother me, and I'm not sure how to take it, is the fact that she never initiates via text. She is very responsive when I text her and she's always available/excited to see me, but if I don't text her, we'll go days without talking. Normally, I wouldn't think twice about whether or not I'm texting a girl too much/little or why she isn't texting me first/frequentl…
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Do you suggest any specifically? I searched "chivalry" and it populated a long list of posts.
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You want a practical suggestion? Find another girl and treat the new girl the same way you are treating this one. You're basically asking us if you are heading towards ONEITIS. When you may be firmly rooted in ONEITIS already, and you're not married. I've only recently been all in on my faith and pursuit of Jesus, but before this current season, I was dating and plating 3-5 girls (non-christan) at a time. As far as paying for things, and overall chivalry, I treated them virtually all the same as…
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username checks out
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I don't disagree. I just can't help to wonder if having a conversation with her about it would be productive.
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