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No problem
/r/MensRights11/06/23 06:45 PM
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Left Wing Male Advocates. It's a subreddit that has the same focus as this sub pretty much. I just find a lot less instinctive reactions of outrage there, so it's a sub I like to check out pretty often. They just don't have nearly as much activity as this sub though.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 06:42 PM
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Woah it's gone for me too and I was just on that sub yesterday. Weird. Maybe it is because of the blackout? I did see them mention it but I thought everyone was starting it tomorrow?
/r/MensRights11/06/23 06:28 PM
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That explains the whole story clearly to me. It felt like a lot of info wasn't clear in that video and I had more questions than answers.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 01:41 PM
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Oh that makes sense then. Thanks for the info
/r/MensRights11/06/23 01:08 PM
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I did see that he got found guilty of the firearm thing, but didn't have to take any penalty due to.... already serving that time? I was confused about that. It didn't sound like he got arrested, but they said he served the time already. Also didn't catch that they're still going on with the trials. Good to know about.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 04:06 AM
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The way they go about it is just what doesn't settle right with me to be honest.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 02:54 AM
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That's a pleasant surprise then. Good to know that there's that kind of portrayal available somewhere finally.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 01:51 AM
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Was that painted as a rape scene though? The way you described it, it just sounds like it'd be painted as something the guy was happily willing to do. Unless they're looking for it, I doubt most people would recognize it as rape. He'd have to look like he was miserable for it to pass as maybe, possibly rape to the general public and even then, it'd be a stretch to them.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 01:13 AM
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All you can do is just help him be more social I guess? I don't think sex is the goal by the way, so the prostitute method seemed pointless, like a temporary fleeting moment thing rather than a solution. All you can do is try to bring him along to social gatherings where there are probably single women also looking to mingle and just hope he socializes with them and hits it off. I don't think this is something you can do much about.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 12:58 AM
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Isn't the reason they use men as guinea pigs because women have more variables to deal with in the testing phase? Something about hormones and other bodily functions that make things more complicated? That's what I've heard at least. It does feel kind of silly to test such products on men only though when you want to test if it's safe for use for everyone.
/r/MensRights11/06/23 12:08 AM
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I really don't know how to feel about this one. On the one hand, it's absurd that she detained HIM while he was being chased by a woman with a KNIFE in hand. On the other hand, the man has schizophrenia so it's totally possible for him to be the perpetrator in this case. That being said, it's insane for her to detain the one who doesn't have a weapon and is being chased anyways because I doubt she knew he had schizophrenia. However, it's kind of crazy that he got away scott free despite beating …
/r/MensRights10/06/23 09:08 PM
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I remember seeing a thread on Reddit where someone asked about how the men with vasectomies feel now. Almost all of them said it was the best thing ever and pretty much nothing changed in their sex lives. They absolutely recommend it because it takes a lot of stress off of them since they don't have to worry about an accidental pregnancy. I had to scroll down quite a bit to find someone who had a botched vasectomy. He was disappointed by the amount of people encouraging a vasectomy so easily bec…
/r/MensRights10/06/23 04:10 PM
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Yeah, that friend constantly got fed feminist info online and would share it with me. When she used terminology like "internal misogyny" and "emotional burden," those moments were what made me realize she was getting dragged into that stuff a bit too much.
/r/MensRights10/06/23 02:07 AM
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Not sure if it's the same podcast I'm thinking of because that is definitely not the intent that came across. It was more like shaming women for having high standards and blaming them for the bad dating market. That wasn't really their focus. It's just something they do time to time.
/r/MensRights09/06/23 11:35 PM
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I feel like I've seen more of that content, but I don't know if it's popular to be honest. Also the more known ones that I've seen kind of suck. The podcasts always have these points that sound really good and then they say a bunch of stuff that makes me go "woah, hold up a sec there. You had me in the first half, not gonna lie." There's this one podcast, I forget what it's called, but it annoys me. I liked half or a quarter of one episode, but every time they thought a good point was made, they…
/r/MensRights09/06/23 08:01 PM
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OP says 18+, so I don't think there's anything other than that
/r/MensRights09/06/23 01:12 AM
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But there's a "rape culture" epidemic supposedly. Apparently everyone is high fiving each other about raping women according to what I'm hearing from feminists.
/r/MensRights09/06/23 12:22 AM
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It always seems to be a one way thing with emotional labor, as if there was none on the man's part. A friend of mine told me she was tired from the emotional labor of having to be supportive of me. I never asked for it by the way. Yet I never complained about her insulting me often "out of love," her complaining to me about her drama, the times I supported her, the times she put me down, the amount of expectations she constantly wanted me to live up to, etc. I didn't ask for pretty much anything…
/r/MensRights09/06/23 12:17 AM
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I meant, didn't they figure out a way to do it without sperm? I've seen a few articles pop up about it. Let me see if I can find it. Edit: Found it from the first link when I googled it. That was fast: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/creating-embryos-in-the-lab-how-why-and-what-the-future-holds
/r/MensRights09/06/23 12:06 AM
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Honestly, I couldn't care less what they called MRAs. They just straight up hate MRAs with a passion so obviously they're going to try to throw every insult they can come up with at them. They'll use whatever they can to make MRAs the boogeyman of the current society.
/r/MensRights08/06/23 09:52 PM
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Nope, haven't they already started figuring out how to make babies without men?
/r/MensRights08/06/23 09:41 PM
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Rather than herd mentality, I always thought of it as the people who are more confident end up talking over others. As a guy, I get talked over all of the time because I'm passive. I don't really know of a single time where I wasn't talked over, both by men and women, during a conversation because I'm so passive.
/r/MensRights08/06/23 09:36 PM
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Yeah, that definitely doesn't help decide whether or not them transitioning was the trigger for all of this or if the job change was the trigger. My sister has been in a few terrible jobs where her bosses treated her terribly (and usually all of her coworkers as well). Eventually she landed in a job where everyone treats her super well and she loves it there. You could easily be just on a bad streak of luck and then end up at a good job in the process. Like I said, I can't definitively say wheth…
/r/MensRights08/06/23 09:05 PM
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But that goes back to my idea of, how does that just happen around coworkers? Unless you're so hidden from their eyes that you're basically nonexistent to them, how do you just hide that you changed while also thinking that everyone knows you've changed?
/r/MensRights08/06/23 08:52 PM
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Can't really say much about this since I don't know how they're perceiving the world, but I'm surprised they get treated better at all. I'd think that trans people in general would have a harder time getting accepted since they're still not exactly the most widely accepted group. I just find it strange that a person could be a woman at a job for a while and then suddenly come out as a man and everyone just instantly doesn't recognize that person as a woman anymore. That just doesn't make sense t…
/r/MensRights08/06/23 08:48 PM
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Standard-Broccoli107's response has it nailed. It's exaggerated in the sense that they conflate some experiences with what's happening everywhere 24/7, but it's not like it doesn't happen. Like you said, you see men being terrible here and there for sure, but you've also seen women being terrible here and there. You've surely also seen both being great to everyone around them. When all you hear though is that men are terrible all of the time and really believe in that, you start to take that as …
/r/MensRights08/06/23 06:32 PM
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I think most people here would agree with you, but when you call it out like that, you're going to get some backlash because it will feel like you're calling them out. On top of that, the default argument is going to be that feminists do that all the time when it comes to men. My argument will be it's going to happen because some people will highjack the subreddit for their own uses due to the small amount of options. Also no one is really going to really call out attacks against women, includin…
/r/MensRights08/06/23 03:07 AM
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the joke? guy, no centrism = gynocentrism almost flew over my head too tbh
/r/MensRights07/06/23 05:52 PM
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the gender wage gap exists because women have to take time off work for pregnancy which is not always planned The gender wage gap does partially exist because of maternity leave. If you don't work, obviously no one is going to want to pay you the same amount as a full day of work especially if it isn't their fault. Employers barely want to do that if you get injured by the job. On top of that, women also leave work after getting pregnant fairly often, so that adds to the gap. the gender wage gap…
/r/MensRights07/06/23 01:03 PM
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This is how I read it. It's extremely frustrating because she words it like she cares a lot and is showing gratefulness for the awareness post, but then keeps on basically saying women actually have it worse due to attempts, men are at fault ("patriarchy" mentioned so that if you call her out on that, then she can say she was really talking about the higher powers that be instead of men), and you should research how women have it worse. Oh by the way did I mention that it's paradoxical so women …
/r/MensRights07/06/23 12:07 PM
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It's not that they don't talk, it's that no one cares. There have been far too many times where a man will talk about his problems and people will say he's either blowing it out of proportion or someone else, probably a woman, has it worse. I know a few times where I've talked about a problem and was told it just wasn't that big of a deal. Everyone has different perspectives on how big a deal an issue is. If it's a problem for me, that means it's a problem. There's no debate. Sure, it might not …
/r/MensRights06/06/23 08:08 PM
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This is a bit difficult. Talking about a worst case scenario when you're about to have one of your best moments in your life theoretically is always tough. I think the expectation is that you're so unreasonably in love that you'd give everything to her, but realistically, that's just stupid. She's definitely being the unreasonable one here.
/r/MensRights06/06/23 05:49 AM
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Unfortunately that's easier said than done for a lot of people. There's a reason why people struggle to speak out about injustices done to them without heavy support sometimes. Though it would be great if we could all follow that advice with ease.
/r/MensRights05/06/23 07:48 AM
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It's a straight up lie considering there have been multiple cases of women killing men out of deep hatred for men. Some will even kill their children if they're boys because of that hatred. Some have made sure to castrate men in the process of killing them. On top of that, misandry is found in things like the draft which only calls for men. It's literally sending men out to die by the thousands.
/r/MensRights05/06/23 01:20 AM
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Let's be fair here. It takes a lot of courage and will in order to speak out against the overwhelmingly popular narrative. I, as a man, have trouble speaking out in other spaces comfortably without feeling like I'm going to be hated. I have so much motive to speak out regardless. You really can't expect those women to speak out in places where they'll get hated every time. It's good that they at least let us know that there are some more people out there who are willing to hear us out.
/r/MensRights04/06/23 06:25 PM
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Yeah there seems to just be a sweet spot for how a guy needs to act in order to be a good choice and it's a very thin line between being a jerk and being too passive. I had someone who was pretty understanding of me and tried to get me to be more and more open with her, but I was always worried about going a step too far. I always checked with her if it was ok to take another step forward in each thing I tried to do as she wanted. Did exactly what she wanted at one point and she hated it because…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/06/23 07:28 AM
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Yeah, it's a bit of an issue that the mod was ok with some women hating men and thinking that they claim misandry doesn't exist solely because of the systemic definition. It allows for them to just kind of late the hate fly under the radar because it has a higher threshold of acceptance than simply disagreeing with common feminist responses in the sub.
/r/MensRights04/06/23 03:44 AM
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I'd like this sub to have much less hostility to feminism and women as a whole. They're not as harsh on women as they are on feminism, but there are definitely times where I've seen that a person is revealed to be a woman and has a neutral opinion at worst and they get instantly downvoted. I've seen people say feminism isn't as terrible as a whole as people on this sub make it out to be and they get downvoted to hell as well while also getting berated often. I get the hostility, but it would be …
/r/MensRights04/06/23 01:49 AM
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It's a bit difficult to deal with. With every movement, you'll find people like that who take advantage of it for their own use. Some people are super susceptible to normal messaging and take that to mean something more extreme. The best you can really do is challenge them when they show up. Bury them in downvotes so no one will see their comments. Report them so that maybe their comment will get removed. If we're talking about outside of Reddit, again the best thing you can do is challenge thei…
/r/MensRights04/06/23 12:37 AM
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I can guarantee you right now, the response you'd get to this if you shared this anywhere else would be "what is said in surveys and what is practiced in reality are wildly different. Women settle all the time in reality and men are the ones who get the better end of the bargain. You see it all of the time." Because we don't like any form of information that doesn't support us.
/r/MensRights03/06/23 09:39 PM
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Weird solution. I know the whole judging people for how they dress thing is controversial, but what a surprise that people aren't as sexually interested when you're not wearing something that accentuates your chest (crop top). I do think the guys were being absolutely horrendous though, especially that one guy who went up to her and told her what he'd do with her body. This is honestly one of the less toxic posts on their sub considering that. I personally find nothing wrong with it other than t…
/r/MensRights03/06/23 08:56 PM
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you wait for a positive WORD to do something. That's not how women see it at all The irony in this when verbal consent has been such a huge thing these days. We're literally waiting for the verbal consent, but they just want us to pick up on signals and act on those.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/23 08:51 PM
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The whole "shy guys keep to themselves" thing is something pretty important to understand. When someone responds to "all men in the dating space are jerks" with "there are plenty of guys that aren't jerks, they're just not really outspoken," they typically go "well that's a problem too because they're not even putting in any effort." They don't really understand that the reason they seemingly don't put in any effort is because men are so well known to be just terrible that they literally have to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/23 08:48 PM
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Where did you get the information that they've be inundated with calls from men? That article is literally just one quote and is shorter than a writing assignment I had to do in elementary school. I'm glad to hear about this campaign, but I'm kind of disappointed that there are no statistics or any meaningful information and that it wasn't even worth the time to write a full blown article about.
/r/MensRights03/06/23 06:43 PM
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When a former friend of mine started talking about how all men suck and women are so much better. She would tell me about how men need to be more like women and would nitpick every little insult to women and every little flaw in men. She would share videos of people sharing very similar sentiments with millions of people agreeing. Really opened my eyes to that whole world.
/r/MensRights03/06/23 06:39 PM
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I'm sure that's true, but I'd imagine they'd try to do it subtly. By advertising, I don't mean saying out loud "hey, I have an OF, check it out!" I mean that they'd be overly positive and cheery or just say something that gets a ton of attention to their comment in a way that makes you want to check their profile to see if they're part of some other subreddit that you'd associate that type of comment with or something.
/r/MensRights02/06/23 08:27 PM
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I'm into equality. Just treating people as humans. Some things on this sub are just purely hateful, while others are constructive. What's good about this sub for me is that it is willing to listen to and share men's issues. There aren't really a lot of places for that. When I look for other subreddits at least, none are nearly as active as this sub so they just feel lacking as a result. It's important to just know what is constructive and what is just a result of frustration when looking at thin…
/r/MensRights02/06/23 06:57 PM
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I don't want to generalize here. I'd hope that the women I was referring to who are extreme as thinking men are terrible from birth are in the minority. I was just saying that it has been a pretty common thing I'm seeing lately. A person I know even said someone she knew revealed she was having a baby boy and that person just went on a rant about how she feels sorry for her because he's probably going to get a bunch of love and care only to abandon her and treat her like shit when he grows up. I…
/r/MensRights02/06/23 06:15 PM
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Yeah I go to therapy weekly, so all set there. Thanks for the concern
/r/MensRights02/06/23 06:07 PM
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This is something that feminists miss when they see someone is not feminist. Of course everyone gets that women face struggles and we need to help them out. We're literally told that every day through every form of media. People literally blatantly sympathize with women in situations where they'd ignore a man. We get it. They just think that because we're not under a banner of raising women while not really caring about men, we're somehow anti-women. We care, but we want people to care about men…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/23 05:59 PM
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It does feel awkward when I find that they have an OF, but if they're not advertising it in any way while in a men's rights space, there's nothing wrong with that right? I would be bothered if they tried to somehow gain obvious attention.
/r/MensRights02/06/23 05:44 PM
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I'm doing ok. Had a fight with a friend recently so on the low because of that, but otherwise I'm doing good. Edit: Update on the situation. We're no longer friends, so it only put me lower. Gonna take a little bit to bounce back from this one.
/r/MensRights02/06/23 05:40 PM
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Not a fan of any Japanese, Korean, or Chinese revenge plots to be honest. They're always very gruesome and typically involve rape. I mean I get that the MC was broken by the abuse and betrayal so he's probably psychotic from that, but I never feel like the MC is in the right whenever I see those stories. It always feels like the MC goes overboard and he is the villain especially because they typically just do a super short recap of the bad that those people did to him.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/06/23 08:56 PM
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Some things that should be insults just aren't from some people. It's a stupid type of compliment, but to me the intent behind someone's words is more important than the wording itself. I respect your view though since it's also reasonable to not just accept something like that like it's normal.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/06/23 05:43 PM
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There is no one way to approach socialization based on gender. When questions like that post are asked, people kind of get stuck on the idea of how the genders act differently and end up making it sound like there's only one way to act when really they just mean that their general approaches are different and neither should be considered wrong. You're supposed to socialize in a way you think fits in the moment. Socialize in a way that's comfortable for you. My method of socializing would general…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/06/23 07:16 AM
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Nice to see things like this on this sub here and there. Especially after I just saw a post on r/mildlyinfuriating where a guy talked about how he almost got pepper sprayed by a girl who thought he was following her and all of the comments just said "it's great that you were understanding" and "here's another way to handle the situation to make her feel safer." I think it's nice that people were so nice about the situation since I prefer kindness over outrage, but man it was just depressing seei…
/r/MensRights01/06/23 04:34 AM
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It kind of sucks that they have a policy of literally removing all comments by anyone who isn't a confirmed feminist unless your comment is responding to another comment. Like, you have to pass their check for whether you're a feminist or not. It's a very stupid rule that they have. I imagine with a rule like that, they're very hive minded since you have to be approved by a mod who wants you to think a certain way.
/r/MensRights31/05/23 11:01 PM
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Really? To get offended by a word used in the scientific and medical fields is so stupid. If someone gets triggered by "female," especially when there is no problem with "male," then they're not worth talking to. It's a very telling sign that they're so lost in their own world of wanting to be pampered and thinking everyone is against them that they will not listen to reason.
/r/MensRights31/05/23 06:16 PM
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Yes more men are victims of crimes, but its by other men. And that's always the response. It doesn't suddenly make men not afraid of getting attacked because it's other men. It doesn't suddenly put them at less risk of getting attacked. It doesn't make men feel safer to be out and about. So this doesn't address the idea of why women should feel less safe than men despite this. teach young men that violence is not a viable response to anger That already is a thing. That was taught multiple times …
/r/MensRights30/05/23 05:50 PM
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All men who are not feminists are kind of associated with men's rights. You get a huge pool to pick and choose from when you define men's rights as that. Also, to be fair, some men's rights posts here have been about incels, mgtows, redpills, and all those other terms. They're not super common, but I've seen those posts plenty of times on this subreddit. It's great to associate all of those groups with men's rights because they give you more opportunities to actually pick out the worst of the bu…
/r/MensRights30/05/23 05:13 PM
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Feeling safe is a basic human right That's true, but how do you decide when someone is safe enough? Some extremists feel that they won't feel safe enough until all men are locked away. On top of that, they're afraid to go out at night, but men are the victims of crimes much more often than women. If anyone should feel less safe, it's men because of that. I'm not trying to downplay women's feelings, but I'm just trying to figure out how you decide when things feel safe enough. Im not sure what yo…
/r/MensRights30/05/23 04:55 PM
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What rights are you fighting for? Just genuinely curious. The things I've heard people argue about aren't rights, but feelings of security and, in some cases, superiority. There's a difference between rights and feelings, but feminists are fighting for equal rights.
/r/MensRights30/05/23 04:28 PM
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Ok, feminists need to make up their minds about this. Is feminism for equality, therefore everyone benefits from this, or is feminism only about women? I can't have feminists arguing both. A huge part of how feminism pulls everyone in is by saying that feminism helps both men and women. You seem to be on the side that says that feminism is essentially only for women, which then makes it make sense for why it seems like it doesn't care about how it affects men. As for how it affects men, it tries…
/r/MensRights30/05/23 04:19 PM
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Could I be friends with a reasonable person who decided to identify as feminist because they blindly believe that feminism purely is about getting equal rights and has no other agenda? Yeah, I definitely can. I really don't care what people call themselves as long as they're reasonable. If they can look at a person and just go "that's a person" instead of "that's an oppressed woman and a man who is an oppressor," that's pretty great to me. They don't have to worry about misandry or misogyny. The…
/r/MensRights30/05/23 12:42 PM
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lol we all have our moments like that for sure
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/05/23 10:01 PM
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Absolutely. If quite literally anyone else said that to me, I'd think they were insulting me, not because being a woman is an insult, but because telling me I am not the thing I actually am is kind of insulting. That being said, I just let it slide because I know how she's thinking and know she does not really mean it that way. It is still a poor compliment especially if she felt the need to throw an underhanded comment like "don't take it as an insult to your male pride."
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/05/23 07:23 PM
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Personally would avoid it because there really is no good way to convince people that it isn't just a purely bad thing that can be controlled. It's just a great way to dig a hole for yourself. There's also no solid evidence for it. It doesn't help that there's also an attempt to prove that our sex drives are similar because that helps with fighting the idea that men are controlled by their libido due to it. Love picking and choosing how an argument works.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 04:49 PM
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No, didn't you know? It's those students' faults /s
/r/MensRights28/05/23 04:47 PM
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I mean, I kind of expected this when it involved the infamous Facebook group thing. I knew right from the get-go that OP really was just begging for everyone on this sub to just scream RUN when he mentioned that. There was no way he was going to get reasonable advice from the majority.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 04:46 PM
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This is a tough one. To be fair, you said she has been lied to and abused, so it's not the strangest thing to be wary at this point and do a check on who you're dating. If you can get over that initial invasion of privacy, I think you just move forward with it as you would with any other date. If you can't get over it, then just end it there because you're not going to get this relationship to work if you can't. If her search ended up with a bunch of people making false claims against you, then …
/r/MensRights28/05/23 07:54 AM
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This is something that annoys me too. Not only do they do that, they say it's like everything in the universe is against them and wants them to suffer and men have it easy instead. Like I get it, it sucks, but don't turn that around on me and say that that's a privilege I have as if it's a choice that can be made. People sympathize with women because of these issues, they don't think the issues are a sign that they're lesser somehow. Who’s gonna tell them men have to deal with a high sex drive, …
/r/MensRights28/05/23 07:29 AM
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This is what I was saying. Make people aware that it isn't toxic through promoting it in these scenarios as well. Then they can also see these things aren't toxic in scenarios other than ones where it's about male sacrifice so they start to realize that male sacrifice is wrong to promote as well. I specifically said I don't want to glorify male disposability.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 01:14 AM
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Personally, I do think it's good to promote both. This show of masculinity is the type of thing that is considered toxic in pretty much every scenario outside of saving someone else, so it's good to have these moments to show it's not really toxic. But it is important to promote it when it's not about sacrificing yourself too so that it doesn't get conflated with glorifying male disposability.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 12:05 AM
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What I like about that, on the flipside, if you say men underreport all the abuse, sexual harassments, and pretty much everything that happens to them, they'll very quickly tell you that you can't use that as an argument. They'll even sometimes tell you that's just straight up false. Or better yet, they'll tell you that's men's fault so who cares.
/r/MensRights27/05/23 07:10 PM
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I'm not a bookworm, so I can't say much, but to add to this, there was supposedly a period of time where women weren't really allowed to write, right? I remember learning in history class that some women would submit their works through men they knew in order to get their writings out there. So add that to the mix, it could also decrease the amount of possible literature they wrote about the human condition despite already having all of the examples you've listed.
/r/MensRights27/05/23 07:00 PM
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It doesn't always happen that way, but when it does happen, it's because everything the wife does should make the husband happy. Every chore she does should be enough for him. Her presence should be enough for him. She bring home a random item, it should be enough for him. Quite literally everything she does because she finds it amusing should be enough for him. That's what I've heard at least. It's never said that way, but they just give a bunch of examples of what women do and how men don't do…
/r/MensRights26/05/23 08:52 PM
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It honestly is tiring and disappointing how every time men's issues are brought up, they have to point out that either women have it worse or the thing that directly affects men somehow affects women more. The irony of it in a study about social isolation is pretty great. "Men are more socially isolated, but let's look away from them, because doing that is totally not adding to the problem."
/r/MensRights26/05/23 05:49 PM
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This is a huge thing that gets ignored, but I think what bothers women more is that when they get attacked, it's purely about the fact they're women. If I get insulted, it's brutal but it's about my skills or they just come up with random things to insult me with. When a woman gets insulted, the insult can literally be "shut up, you're a girl." It doesn't really have anything to do with the fact they're a girl, but the insult makes it sound like that's the only reason that person is being rude, …
/r/MensRights26/05/23 05:09 PM
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Same thing happened to me. Plenty of people thought I was a woman and actually would constantly try to help me out for some reason. I remember getting free items constantly from random people and just being treated nicely. I was hit on by one dude but that was it. When people found out I was a guy though, the free items stopped coming in, but they were still relatively decent towards me.
/r/MensRights26/05/23 05:05 PM
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A big trend I'm noticing is the belief that men are terrible by default. Some of the more extreme people out there truly believe that at birth, if something isn't done, a boy is destined to grow up to be a misogynistic man. When looking at a couple, people commonly believe that the man is going to ruin the relationship and feel sorry for the woman. When men do common "manly" activities, but don't really do any "womanly" activities, it's not uncommon for some people to assume that he's going to b…
/r/MensRights26/05/23 01:49 AM
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I don't know if there's an active attempt to make men look unattractive, but it is a common sentiment now to think that men overall look worse than women. There are plenty of videos of both straight men and lesbian women saying something along the lines of "people ask 'why aren't you interested in guys?' Have you seen them? Have you seen how women look in comparison? And they still ask." On top of that, it's super common for people to look at a couple and just think that the woman is out of the …
/r/MensRights25/05/23 06:53 AM
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Never knew there was a reasoning given at one point for why male groups should be disbanded. I know nowadays people immediately associate male only groups as "boys' clubs" which is a cesspool for misogyny. I've had this argument given to me that male only places shouldn't exist since they have nothing they need to be protected from, unlike women, other than other men and a male only space does not exclude other men. Due to this, the only purpose of a male only space is to promote misogyny. Becau…
/r/MensRights25/05/23 03:01 AM
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They told me to fuck off and that I'm just a white degenerate gay twink (which wtf lmfao), who thinks it's okay to be mean to women and throw them under the bus simply because I was gay I think this is all you need to figure out whether or not those two "friends" are right or wrong.... They instantly insult everything about you simply because you don't agree with hatred towards men. Plus they just added to the list that they're racist against white people, homophobic, and sexist. Congrats! They …
/r/MensRights25/05/23 12:46 AM
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It's a trope at this point, but it looks like the ideal man would be a woman if we follow that train of thoughts. That's something I often hear, we should "correct" men in behaving more like women. This makes me think of how my friend considers me different from the other men because I'm like a woman. She told me it's a compliment, so don't take it as an insult to my male pride. I knew it was a compliment from her because that's how she is, but it did make me just go "why is a gender considered …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/05/23 06:47 PM
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It's something that annoys me when it's brought up. One of my female friends heard about how little I know about my friends and she said that it's kind of sad/pathetic that you can't ever really talk to each other seriously because of that. I was taken aback by that statement. Not once in my life did I think I couldn't talk to my friends about something personal. We have talked about personal things. We help each other without even asking questions because we know the other isn't the type to jus…
/r/MensRights24/05/23 06:43 PM
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seem to get worked up all over is the way that men bond doesn’t make any sense and that it is their fault for why their issues are not taken seriously by their mainstream I think what a lot of people seem to misunderstand is that women tend to just have a different idea of what's important to know about another person and have different topics of conversation than men typically do. They can have the same ones here and there, but generally they're different. For example, something men are almost …
/r/MensRights24/05/23 06:05 AM
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He wasn't pretending to be gay. He is bi, which is gay, and has a male partner, which again, is gay. No pretending there. He just didn't explicitly say that he was open to having relationships with women if he wasn't already taken since that little bit of information is the determining factor for how he's treated for some reason.
/r/MensRights23/05/23 09:32 PM
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I know exactly what post you're talking about and while a lot of the comments did say it's deceptive and wrong of him to do, there were also a few that said it's not bad the way he's doing it. It's manipulative whether it's for a good or bad reason, but in this case, it's not wrong for him to do. I gave my two cents on that post and said that while it was borderline manipulative, there's nothing wrong with doing this and it's kind of weird that the main argument people were making was that he sh…
/r/MensRights23/05/23 09:29 PM
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That probably does add to it.
/r/MensRights23/05/23 09:20 PM
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I think in more recent years it's more uncommon for people to put such heavy importance on whether a man is circumcised or uncircumcised, but as I was growing up, it was a pretty common thing to shame dicks. I think it still is common to say they're super unappealing, but back then it was just kind of expected for men to be circumcised because it looks better. No one talked about it because of hygiene, only for looks. I used to be extremely embarrassed growing up because it was such a common ide…
/r/MensRights23/05/23 06:42 PM
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Overall, a lot of things in romance stories aren't things people would really like irl. It's romantic because it's a story where you know these two main characters will eventually like each other, but irl, it just doesn't work that way. Take Twilight, a story beloved by so many. The males are super creepy and stalkerish at times. They can be super forceful and aggressive. It's ok though because they like each other and it's not actually like they harm or scare the MC. They're actually super will…
/r/MensRights23/05/23 07:10 AM
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I've seen this question asked on the feminist subreddit and the overwhelming majority of them said you can't be sexist towards men. You can be mean towards men, but not sexist. The reason why it isn't sexist is because sexism implies systemic issues towards that group, but there aren't any systemic issues for men. Even if it's true that there need to be systemic issues for sexism to exist towards a group, it would definitely apply here. They just blatantly ignore any difficulties men face to all…
/r/MensRights22/05/23 10:14 PM
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I remember looking at an AITA post where a father was asking if he was an AH because he gave his daughter advice on how to do better in a tech company. She was complaining that she was being treated like she wasn't professional simply because she was a woman. The father just said "you can try not saying "um" or "uh" with every other word." He didn't say it in a condescending way or anything, he simply said it as advice. To speak to how it wasn't condescending, none of the comments even mentioned…
/r/MensRights22/05/23 09:57 PM
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That's the issue I have with the feminist subreddits too. They're very blatant about their hatred for men pretty often and don't accept even the slightest disagreement. I've tried participating and actively go out of my way to not put any blame on women the few times I've tried to say something, but they often remove my comments because I say something like "the issue can't possibly be summed up as men just hate women." I usually have to say that because the top comments literally are "men just …
/r/MensRights22/05/23 09:46 PM
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Straight male here who women have decided "is like a woman" so I'm also "not like those other men." Turns out just being a decent human being is the same as being like a woman. I've also been told about sex in detail before by multiple women and told how men aren't great by one person in particular. Let's not lie here, men talk about sex too but they never actually go into any detail. It's very surface level, as in, for example, they'll say something like "the sex was great and she did x thing w…
/r/MensRights22/05/23 09:28 PM
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Well, if you were to ask a feminist, they'd probably say "men can't control their libido and libido does not equate to love" or "it's obvious that women would feel less sexual desire when their partner is a just an overgrown baby/manchild" or even "how do you expect them to have a sexual desire for someone who abuses them all of the time?" There are definitely a bunch of explanations they could come up with that goes beyond "we're just built that way."
/r/MensRights21/05/23 06:16 PM
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Personally, I feel like it's a good way to get me lynched in this day and age. A privileged man talking about how oppressed women are encroaching upon his privileges due to equality? Sounds like a guy who will eventually need to be put in jail. Yeah, I'd rather take the random hate I get here and there for being a guy over focused hate on my whole existence and possible threats to my life. Maybe when enough people become comfortable with the idea that men aren't really privileged, then I'll be o…
/r/MensRights21/05/23 06:12 PM
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The issue is that this was done against a force that was accepted as evil to half of the world. It was done against a force that you could say did terrible things, have a bunch of evidence, and no one could dismiss that evidence by saying "yeah, but it was for a good reason though." This action was done against a force that was causing physical and visible harm to people. For feminism, there's none of that. You can argue there is harm being done, but as things are now, there is a reason why harm…
/r/MensRights21/05/23 06:42 AM
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I have been told I look more handsome when I smile. Didn't think anything of it, but if a stranger said it, I'd just think it's a bit weird they said that to me. With me being socially awkward, I'd just think that they said it because I looked like I was fkin depressed or something, so I'd just check myself. As for being told "as a man," it depends on the context. If they say it with that tone of voice where they're very clearly being condescending, I'd brush them off and just ignore them. I'd g…
/r/MensRights21/05/23 05:08 AM
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This basically sums it up neatly. Feminism tries to bring women up by trying to show that men are equal and often inferior to women. This also sends a message that men are obsolete and are a plague on society. People end up interpreting this as a justification for them to hate men and put men down. If you keep on discriminating against a group, you're just asking for that group to react aggressively, sometimes violently if it lasts for too long. Having half of the population in that position is …
/r/MensRights20/05/23 08:37 PM
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I agree, but it's a consequence of these types of focused groups. As a group gets larger, it gets harder to filter out the more extreme views people will have especially when they hide it in between logical statements that you can't really disagree with. On this sub, I do notice that the ones who do it so blatantly get downvoted at least, but it gets a pass sometimes when it's about some article about a woman getting away with something horrendous. It's a bit sad when I see those moments, but li…
/r/MensRights20/05/23 08:31 PM
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The whole point is that taking the route you're planning on will only add to the problem. While it might take long with the high road, it would take longer with the low road because it would just worsen people's views of men. If you take the low road, you just feed the perception that men are evil.
/r/MensRights20/05/23 05:14 PM
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When you're already "in the wrong" in the eyes of society, doing that will only prove that they're right. Lowering yourself to that level is exactly what feminists want and say happens. It is a poor way to show people that men are decent human beings and aren't just trying to step all over women.
/r/MensRights20/05/23 04:53 PM
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In the moment, no one ever lays down all the reasons at once especially when they feel hot headed already. You don't think about all of those possibilities in the moment. In the moment you think of what the most common reasons are. It doesn't make it right, but it makes it understandable for how this happens, which is why I said even then, the man shouldn't be denied the test at all.
/r/MensRights20/05/23 04:51 PM
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That's why I was wondering what the study was. I keep hearing of the trials men win being ones where all of the odds are stacked in their favor based on the evidence, but it's still hard fought. I wanted to know if in that study, they mentioned if there was a reason those men won those battles or not.
/r/MensRights20/05/23 04:00 AM
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it sometimes brings women down to bring men up On that note, I want to mention that when MRAs mention that feminism brings men down to bring women up, they say that men are so privileged that they perceive equality as bringing men down. It kind of works the opposite way here. For example, when you hear something like "we need to address how people are getting away with false rape allegations," it can be perceived as "we need people to know that every accusation is false." That's not what we're s…
/r/MensRights20/05/23 03:51 AM
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Oh yeah, definitely. Everyone has issues they have to face and the issues faced often differ based on gender and race. The issue is just that there's this idea that men are so privileged that problems simply don't exist for them and if they do exist, they're caused by men themselves, so it's their fault. Unfortunately in any sub like this, you will get people who will have the view that women don't have any issues at all. That's just the consequence of any group like this. Even in the feminist s…
/r/MensRights20/05/23 03:39 AM
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Most of your post is anecdotal Just because I didn't provide links doesn't mean it's anecdotal. I just didn't want to take the time to go through the sub and get multiple links from various times. Everything I wrote is based on posts on this sub. Actual examples taken from news and other media sources are available. it’s more likely for a man to be raped by another man than it is for him to be falsely reported as a rapist by a woman. Also is another issue that needs to be addressed more, but thi…
/r/MensRights20/05/23 03:38 AM
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Actual equal rights and to stop society from villainizing men as a whole. We want to stop the casual acceptance of hatred and disrespect towards men being ok and, in some cases, praised. If you just take a look at fairly recent posts here, you have examples of how it's harder for men to win custody cases even if the evidence is absolutely in their favor. You have examples of men getting falsely accused for rape and having their lives ruined. You have articles about how men are a problem. In some…
/r/MensRights20/05/23 01:56 AM
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I'm pretty late to this conversation, but while "symptoms of a lot of systemic issues that men and boys face" is the definition given to toxic masculinity, that is typically not how it is used. It is used as an attack typically. It's used for people to say "I don't like this thing about men and I don't like this thing about you." It's a slap on the wrist while saying "you shouldn't do that." I've almost never seen it used as legitimate constructive criticism. I think a big thing to note with the…
/r/MensRights17/05/23 08:24 PM
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I was thinking that too, but I'm thinking that usually in these cases, there wasn't a plan to have a child. Plus, sex nowadays is not even that intimate of a thing and you can absolutely do the deed without having trust in the other person in the slightest.
/r/MensRights17/05/23 07:48 PM
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I did miss out on mentioning that if there was cheating involved, then it is fraud and extortion. You're right about that. I also agree that there needs to be an understanding that trust must be earned. Just because there are doubts, it does not mean we don't like a person or trust them at all, especially when it comes to something so life changing like this.
/r/MensRights17/05/23 06:07 PM
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To not even try to understand women would go against the whole purpose of men's rights. Men's rights, unlike feminism, is to work towards equality without putting down/ignoring another group. If we can't do the bare minimum of understanding another group, we are no different from feminists, just for men instead. This isn't even about trying to say that women are in the right here; it's about going beyond just thinking "women are villains who won't let men have anything."
/r/MensRights17/05/23 06:03 PM
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I'm glad to see this after I saw a very different article earlier: https://variety.com/2023/film/global/amber-heard-supporters-cannes-johnny-depp-1235612714/
/r/MensRights17/05/23 07:37 AM
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They're just... people? Nothing much to say about them. Can't really judge a person until I meet them. I'm not a fan of the idea of just assuming a person is a certain way without knowing anything meaningful about them.
/r/MensRights17/05/23 05:39 AM
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It's bad, but understandable to do in frustration. From the woman's side, her partner is essentially suggesting that the child might not be his and he had to make sure, meaning that she's being accused of cheating. If she did cheat, it's damning evidence, and if she didn't cheat, it's insulting and shows the lack of trust in her. In the end though, I do think it's the man's right to know for certain. Denying it feels like an admission of guilt. If a woman goes along with it and the man is the fa…
/r/MensRights16/05/23 11:00 PM
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I absolutely agree, but for some reason that is the argument people make. It's not even true, but it is what I keep hearing. It really shows the lack of understanding.
/r/MensRights16/05/23 06:26 AM
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It's kind of put in quotations because that's what other people (mainly feminists) say. It's not my belief in the slightest.
/r/MensRights16/05/23 06:23 AM
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You'd just have to somehow convince them that the way they talk about men is essentially gender profiling, similar to how talking about a person of color being a criminal used to be racial profiling. For some reason, people understand the concept of being racist, but not the concept of being sexist. I think the reason for this is that people of color were never considered a privileged class, but men are considered a privileged class. When it comes to talking about an allegedly privileged class, …
/r/MensRights15/05/23 09:03 PM
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The argument against that is always "yeah, sure, because those two are comparable. An angry woman at best hurts your feelings, while an angry man takes your life. Totally the same thing."
/r/MensRights15/05/23 08:50 PM
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This is something I've heard from some feminists themselves, but it's because being a heterosexual male implies that you have a propensity to disrespect the existence of females. It's because a male/female couple is seen as a relationship where the female is losing everything. One example of how far this belief goes is that some legitimately believe that hetero sex is always dehumanizing of women. They really believe that the act in itself just strips all control and rights from women, even if t…
/r/MensRights15/05/23 05:25 PM
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Still wouldn't call myself an MRA and I wouldn't go so far to say I'm anti feminist. I kind of pick and choose what I agree with from MRAs and feminists, but I definitely lean more MRA because spending too much time looking at feminist content really does a great job at destroying my mental state because of the generalizations they make constantly. Ended up here because my friend, who is very feminist and has admitted that she acts like women are owed everything while men are terrible but still …
/r/MensRights13/05/23 05:51 PM
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That falls under the handsome category. That's essentially a male beauty standard instead. I get what you mean and I'm not saying that these are standards that have to be followed because they're portrayed in media. I was just wondering why standards set for men are considered a positive thing, but standards for women are considered negative.
/r/MensRights03/05/23 12:02 AM
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I've also noticed how, when an old Disney fairy tale shows a woman having her adventure and at the end being handed a prince with all his riches, that's 'saying a woman can't live without a man'. When a man does everything he can to 'get the girl', when he changes himself, when he saves the world, just to impress her, that's 'using women as trophies'. That's a good point. I didn't even think about that. In both cases, somehow it's essentially misogynistic. There can't just be a good ending. It's…
/r/MensRights02/05/23 08:24 PM
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That's what I'm saying though. It's realistic and makes sense to feel that urgency, but a realistic mindset is not equal to a healthy mindset all the time. I'm not saying you're wrong for feeling that way, it's just not a good idea. I'm in the same mindset for different reasons, but it does have to do with being useful and giving back to the life I have had so far. I'm really just giving the advice that I got from my therapist. When I first heard it from him, I thought he was insane to suggest n…
/r/MensRights02/05/23 08:17 PM
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I get what you're saying because I've been there and am still sort of there, but that is definitely not a healthy mindset. Again, I'm still sort of there so I do truly believe it's a realistic mindset, but realistic sometimes does not equate to healthy. This is one of those cases where it's definitely not healthy. I know it doesn't feel like anything is wrong and it all makes sense, but worrying about the biological clock is unhealthy in terms of psychology. It sounds insane to say that you don'…
/r/MensRights02/05/23 07:58 PM
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To be fair, I don't think doctors can legally share that information without the patient's consent, but I'm not sure if they're allowed to test someone's DNA without their consent either. That's illegal I'm pretty sure and to not disclose this information to the people involved is pretty unscrupulous. Looked it up: DNA testing without proper consent beforehand is a violation of the Genetic Information Nondiscrimination Act—or GINA. So this is most likely happening without the "father's" consent …
/r/MensRights30/04/23 09:17 PM
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Gentlemanly
/r/MensRights29/04/23 11:32 PM
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Never heard of veteran owned. That's surprising to me as well.
/r/MensRights29/04/23 11:30 PM
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This is just a political/business move. Same thing happened because of BLM I believe. You'll see some places advertised as "black-owned business." I think there's also something like that for LGBTQ+, but I'm not 100% sure on that one. Guess feminism got to the point where they can profit by advertising as a "women-owned business." Whatever is considered the oppressed group of the time is kind of also the profitable group.
/r/MensRights29/04/23 09:07 AM
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Yeah, I highly doubt closing the lid helps much at all, but it does fool my mind enough to put me at ease.
/r/MensRights29/04/23 01:07 AM
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I've actually always heard of this being a thing, that men should be leaving the seat down for women. It's pretty stupid, but whatever, I always leave the seat down and the lid because when you flush, particles spray into the air. The lid probably barely helps, but it keeps my mind at ease. All this is to lead up to the fact that despite hearing that men should leave the seat down, I get annoyed when people leave the lid open, women and men included. Come on, if leaving the seat down is courteou…
/r/MensRights28/04/23 10:28 PM
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I have trouble giving an aggressive no to people. I'll say no, but in a way where it doesn't sound like I'm offended or anything because I'm not. It's fine to ask me things that are a bit much, but if I say no, just stop. I had a similar situation to you where someone kept asking me for sexting and pics and wouldn't take no. I asked for something I knew she wouldn't agree to in exchange since she said she wouldn't before (it was something you could ask for from pretty much anyone you're close to…
/r/MensRights28/04/23 07:22 PM
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Which bit? Using this to say that women are more likely to want "equality" only when it benefits them because the scenario just felt like one that has variables that wouldn't really fit the whole equality idea. The scenario just felt like a representation of gambling or investment decisions instead of just general equality. In terms of investing or gambling, you don't want equality, you want to win. You take the risk, but typically it's because you expect a bigger payout. Its a fun jumping off p…
/r/MensRights28/04/23 06:55 PM
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Much more recently I have. I don't even use social media much other than Reddit, which I've only started using about 4 months ago. I just get shown social media here and there, typically TikTok, and it constantly feels like there are people complaining about every little thing a man does. Even other men seem to step on other men by saying "you need to do this giant list of things and look like Adonis to pander to women." It feels like talking is mansplaining, existing is a crime, and not agreein…
/r/MensRights28/04/23 02:54 AM
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This is a bit of a stretch. What RockmanXX said is all this proves. This situation feels more akin to gambling. In that context, it's clearer to see that men are willing to take high risks (a foolish one at that if it is to be believed that the opponent is 30% better than them), whereas women take more reasonable risks. If anything, this would be a case to be made against men and makes men seem like they're impulsive rather than logical.
/r/MensRights28/04/23 02:34 AM
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Oh, I agree. I just was trying to say it wasn't a foolproof argument against feminists and that's how they would argue, especially because it basically implies that "male roles" are so easy to do that literally everyone can do it, thus making males even more unnecessary than they already are. It would imply that women are capable of having the best of both worlds, while men are incapable of doing that as well. There's ALWAYS an argument.
/r/MensRights28/04/23 02:29 AM
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Wouldn't the argument for that be that it's not a role that's masculine, but a role everyone can do? That gender roles are antiquated in the first place?
/r/MensRights27/04/23 06:21 AM
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I get that, I just personally also find it disturbing when I see those instances. I find it to be kind of disturbing if one person seems like they're enjoying a situation, while the other looks like they're in pain from it, but I try to respect people's preference for bdsm. I just don't see men saying that about a woman being tortured or badly hurt outside of a bdsm setting. I consistently just see some women (I want to avoid sounding like I'm generalizing here) enjoying men getting hurt/making …
/r/MensRights26/04/23 08:26 PM
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Yeah the fictional character thing is why I felt like I might have been overreacting. It just kinda gnawed at me bit by bit the more I was shown instances of it.
/r/MensRights26/04/23 05:47 PM
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Fair point. That's why at first I said I didn't think much of it when I saw the trend, but it just started to feel like it's not in the BDSM context because when I see it mentioned, it's in reference to the sound a character will make on the verge of death. That made me associate it with just seeing men in pain, but I'm not into bdsm so maybe I just didn't understand it correctly.
/r/MensRights26/04/23 05:45 PM
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TikTok and Twitter for the most part.
/r/MensRights26/04/23 05:42 PM
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I'm sure a lot of people read the title of my post and totally thought I was trying to prove a point that feminism has been beneficial, but I was trying to do the opposite. Not here for karma or whatever the reddit point system is called, so I didn't really bother addressing that. I was reading what the comments were listing off as beneficial for men and just thought that it really either seemed false or more of something that was meant to benefit women. Like you said, some of them didn't even s…
/r/MensRights24/04/23 10:36 PM
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I think most people do understand that it's not all feminists in the same regard that when men counter a feminist's claim with "it's not all men," the feminist claims that that's implicitly understood. In the feminist mind, it's most men similar to how in MRA's minds, it's most feminists. Feminism will justify this thought process with saying the numbers show that it's a lot of men, but that's enough to say it's most men to them. Similarly, MRAs will justify this thought process with saying the …
/r/MensRights24/04/23 04:12 PM
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I was kind of curious as to what they meant by prison reform as well. Just went back to that comment in the original thread and they don't really say anything beyond "Many feminists are directly involved in prison and judicial system reform." Some other person shared a link that supposedly talks about it, but at a quick glance I couldn't tell what the change that benefitted men was. That link actually has a bunch of articles that specify that the men who they mention in jail are teaching feminis…
/r/MensRights24/04/23 04:24 AM
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I'm not entirely emotionless but I do tend to run on logic or just basic thinking Same, but I do understand it to an extent. A lot of women I know of (not really the ones I associate with personally) have a fear of men and being treated unfairly. They just keep getting told about it and just think that's reality I guess. It makes sense for them to feel like something needs to change. They can't really legally do anything without making some very sexist laws, so focusing on feelings and changing …
/r/MensRights24/04/23 04:09 AM
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These are all theoretical and are almost never practiced in reality. Exactly what I kept thinking as I was reading through the comments. I was just looking for real changes that have been made due to feminism and the ones they gave either benefitted women or just were things that didn't seem to really be true. The things they stated are said to be morally correct, but I rarely ever see them practiced. Overall feminism even with women place so much emphasis on feelings. I've noticed that too. It'…
/r/MensRights24/04/23 03:58 AM
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This is an interesting perspective. I would be inclined to believe that too. We're in a time where it's all about being open minded and understanding mental issues and the LGBTQ+ movement was definitely a huge contribution to that. I couldn't pin down what exactly started this change, but I'd think attributing it to the LGBTQ+ movement would make more sense.
/r/MensRights24/04/23 03:46 AM
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Men have always been able to go to therapy. It was never 'just for women'. Funny enough, I've also never heard of therapy only being for women. I've only ever heard of it being only for the rich. Almost every time I heard of therapy in the past, it was for a rich man or rich couple in particular. (Allow to / cause; it's the same, right?) That wording sounded so terrible when I saw it from them.
/r/MensRights24/04/23 03:34 AM
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That's what I've seen said on this subreddit a lot and what I've seen myself as well. Well, from personal experience, it's a half acceptance for men not following gender norms. Typically when I see it accepted, it's for sexual purposes or for women to feel powerful in return. I have seen some people genuinely accept men acting feminine, but it's very few and far between.
/r/MensRights24/04/23 03:23 AM
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Your points make sense. Especially the second point, a lot of these are about feeling, not changes in law or policy. I was just legitimately curious about how many of these claims would be attributed to feminism and are changes that have actually occurred to the point where we could say they have been normalized. You could be right that these things can't be attributed to feminism and are just results of the times. I mean one of them even tried to claim that women were the primary supporters of …
/r/MensRights24/04/23 03:16 AM
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Honestly, just avoid villainizing or generalizing men and treat men's emotions/worries as you'd treat women's. That's about all that's needed from the average woman. An extra step is calling out people spreading generalizations or not taking a man seriously about his issues. If the perception of men that people have now isn't so widespread and accepted, it'll go away on its own. On a more involved level, speak out for men's rights. Just like you mentioned now, talk about the things men go throug…
/r/MensRights23/04/23 12:11 AM
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I've only spent a little time there because they don't post that often. I've checked around on different subreddits about men's rights and this one is the only one that's fairly active and even compared to the feminist subreddits, it's not that active. From what I've seen, they're a more tame group where they talk about men's rights, but use feminist views while addressing them for the most part. I don't think it's as bad as assuming men are evil and women are angels though. It's just that a lot…
/r/MensRights22/04/23 10:09 PM
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It's just so hard to say that's what is happening when there are so many feminists stating otherwise. That could be exactly what's happening, but it's hard to say that's the case without solid evidence when millions of feminists out there validate these kinds of claims. That's why I'm trying to find a foolproof way to argue against the claim.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 10:33 PM
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But if you argue with that, then you're regarded as a misogynist or at the very least disrespectful for saying they're basically lying. They'll say you're one of the reasons that rape victims can't go to the courts and get justice. So, it's just not a great/convincing argument to make and it ends up making me look like the bad guy without any evidence to back it up. Any better argument to make?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 05:57 AM
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That argument is the one I have the most trouble fighting against because if those crimes are committed by a tiny portion, then it shouldn't be the case that literally every woman a person knows has been assaulted. If anyone knows how to counter that argument, please enlighten me because I want to know how to do it. The only thing I can imagine is that they're lying, exaggerating, or it's really that widespread. I really don't want to believe that every woman has been assaulted like I keep heari…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 04:20 AM
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I agree, it's still sexual harassment. Like I said in my first comment, it didn't register at first because you're a guy, but once I swapped you to a girl, I saw it immediately and noticed the double standard. Only thing was that I just thought that the sexuality of these men didn't need to really be brought into it as the reason for why they thought this was ok. It's a normal reaction to have I'll admit, but I did just think that one specific aspect is what I didn't agree with.
/r/MensRights19/04/23 09:17 PM
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I've noticed a shocking amount of people get fussy about how people refer to women. I've seen people say they hate people saying "woman" or "female" or "girl." I see that and I just end up thinking "what do you want us to refer to the female gender as then?" Somehow each variation is insulting to women. I can get "girl," even though I use it all the time since it implies the person is young, but I balance it out with calling men "guys." It's not an insult, it's just referring to people casually …
/r/MensRights19/04/23 09:11 PM
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Were they being dead serious about it though? You even said they themselves laughed about it, so it didn't sound like they were serious. It just sounded like because they were gay, in your eyes, that joke turned into something 100% serious. I mean, I don't blame you for thinking it might have been a little more than a joke due to the nature of it, but it really sounded like that was a misinterpretation just based on the what was written. Maybe there was more to it than could be told through thos…
/r/MensRights19/04/23 08:35 PM
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I'm having trouble seeing this as pedophilia or verbal SA because them saying that to a guy just came off as a joke to me. It's definitely the type of joke my friends would've made in high school, but that's more along the lines of "we're not gay so it's obviously not going to happen which makes it funny." That being said, I switched your gender to female instead of male and thought about how it'd be if they offered to eat you out as payment and that IMMEDIATELY triggered the idea that this was …
/r/MensRights19/04/23 08:18 PM
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I saw a post where a girl said "girls text whole paragraphs explaining the problem and what to do to guys, only to get a response of 'I don't get what you want from me.'" All of the comments were exactly like you mentioned and I just also thought, why is this just the norm? Why can someone tell me this and make me feel wrong because they're validated by thousands or millions of other people? It's just disappointing every time I see it. Edit: It didn't help that my friend sent that to me while sa…
/r/MensRights19/04/23 04:36 PM
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“we not having sex anymore because I only have sex with women who would be good mothers” This sounds immature. It's something I've seen a lot of people on this sub say women do, so I'd hope they also agree that when a guy does it, it's equally as immature and controlling. In the middle of an argument, I can see it happening easily though in the heat of the moment. It's still a pretty poor thing to say. I also date for marriage and I see a future with us If the arguments are getting so bad that h…
/r/MensRights19/04/23 01:28 AM
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The issue is that regardless, they're a student or minor. No matter how aggressive their advances, the teacher is the adult and should have self control. If they're unable to resist, morally speaking, that's on them and the student/minor is not responsible. It's just not ok even if they're aggressive.
/r/MensRights17/04/23 05:30 AM
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So let's assume you're right, that if this was nonconsensual sexual assault, a boy would have no problem, while a girl would have a traumatic experience. I don't agree, but fine, let's say that's true. This is consensual sexual assault (it's SA since it's a teacher with a student I guess?). Whether they're a boy or girl, it was consensual, meaning that they aren't facing some horrific act. They're both doing something they wanted to do. Theoretically, in both cases, this shouldn't lead to trauma…
/r/MensRights16/04/23 04:34 PM
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If they're under investigation for rape, it's really not that strange for people to hate the person even if they're not proven guilty yet. The implication is very serious and is one of those things where people believe it took courage and strength for the alleged victim to talk about it, so they also think there's no way that the alleged perpetrator is innocent. I don't really think this is a case of misandry here. I mean, maybe it is to some degree, but it's mainly hatred towards an alleged rap…
/r/MensRights16/04/23 04:16 PM
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Almost the exact same line of thinking I had. I still do tbh even after I started exercising and got decently strong. Personally, I learned to not care about being particularly physically strong. If I can do my day to day activities with no issues, then I'm strong enough because what's the point of me being able to lift 300 lbs other than to show off? If I'm attacked, I'm probably screwed even if I could lift that much. I'm just going to live life being nice, staying relatively safe, and assumin…
/r/MensRights15/04/23 01:38 AM
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It's because they legitimately think they're right. If you look at pretty much any double standard or just things in general that women do that men also do, I've seen someone do mental gymnastics to justify that women do it in a way that isn't negative and thousands, if not millions, will agree with that narrative. They genuinely believe the reasoning they come up with despite it either being completely false or flawed. I don't know about other men, but when I try to argue with someone who has a…
/r/MensRights14/04/23 04:43 PM
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Those also serve as a reminder to me as to what type of people the movement ends up promoting. But like denvercaniac said, I don't engage with people who just turn to insults or just respond with "no." It's a waste of time, but thanks for reminding me why I couldn't hang around on the feminist subreddit.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:36 PM
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True, but in this subreddit, their votes are pretty non-existent considering the actual MRAs will overwhelm their votes, so I don't think it'd be too big of an issue.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 11:33 PM
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And that's why I like to get a reminder of that because sometimes, I just wonder if maybe I'm annoyed by them for no reason. I just keep hearing "that's a minority of people who aren't feminists, but claim they are" and on some occasions, I do see decent feminists, so I start to doubt my perspective of feminists, but then they make comments and I'm reminded that they're prevalent enough.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 09:06 PM
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I do think it's good to have some here at least in order to get their perspectives at times and see how the arguments here hold up against their claims. It's a nice reminder that people here aren't just fighting against a made up belief of how feminists think/act.
/r/MensRights03/04/23 08:42 PM
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The one thing I have believed for a while now that is key to making change is to instill confidence in people. That statistic that 75% of girls are afraid of possible discrimination is basically what's happening. It feels like everyone is afraid of discrimination happening and being accused of it as well. Once that gets solved, maybe we'll see more fairness. Once the narrative isn't "only men ever cause harm and women are always victims" changes to "everyone is capable of harm and everyone is ab…
/r/MensRights31/03/23 03:03 AM
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Never heard that before, but I do commonly see that people think men shouldn't write female characters or at least descriptions about it. There's a whole subreddit making a joke about it r/menwritingwomen. Basically it's about how men can't describe a woman without being weird about it. I've also seen talk about how because of that, the "female gaze" is superior as it does descriptions right and will reflect women's fantasies more than men's. I remember that being a huge thing with House of Drag…
/r/MensRights30/03/23 11:00 PM
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Incel means INvoluntarily CELibate. Basically a guy who can't get laid for the life of him for whatever reason despite trying. There are a few people who identify as that on this sub and there's a whole subreddit for it. It's kind of used as an insult by people who don't self identify as incels to essentially mean "virgin loser who hates women."
/r/MensRights30/03/23 05:30 AM
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My mother is the type to claim she wants the best for me, but one thing she won't give up on is convincing me to have a kid. I just tell her I don't plan on having one. I also tell her if she really wants the best for me, she would let me pursue my long term happiness instead of catering to her short term happiness since this would be something that changes my life forever. Doesn't make her stop asking me to have a child, but it does just make the argument devolve into her saying "I think it's b…
/r/MensRights30/03/23 12:08 AM
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This just reminds me of a story I heard recently. A woman was living at home with her husband or fiancee or boyfriend (I forget which one, but pretty sure it was husband) for free. She didn't pay for anything at all but she spent $25 a week or so on the lottery. She won the lottery and promised to share it with her partner and I believe they took the annuity option instead of the lump sum option. She gave him a couple thousand dollars in unpaid rent essentially and then left him and kept the res…
/r/MensRights29/03/23 04:18 PM
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Don't always do. Sometimes I just get an urge to binge true crime podcasts for a little while. When I do, I love going to crime junkie. They make it not boring to listen, are respectful of the deceased, and just state things related to the crime without really making assumptions.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 03:51 PM
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Never knew a single man that married for looks. Maybe someone who is so rich they really don't give a damn will, but most men won't. They'll date for looks, but marry? No way.
/r/MensRights29/03/23 06:20 AM
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This 100%. I also don't like seeing a lot of posts just ranting about feminism and women, but you need to point out the issues with those two things in order to add to the reasons for why men don't have equal rights. To make people see that progress needs to be made, you need to point out all of the bad that the feminists and women are showing and show all the good that men have to show. You need to show men are victims plenty of times and women/feminists are the perpetrators plenty of times. Yo…
/r/MensRights28/03/23 06:31 PM
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Please don't go down the feminist thought process of nitpicking things like this. The "man" in "gunman" isn't specifying this person is a man or woman. It's gender neutral. There are a couple of words like that where "man" is gender neutral and not referring to males. Edit: The argument that other words are being pushed to be switched to "xperson" is exactly what I'm saying to try to not copy. One of you even said it was feminists who insisted on that change. Why do we want to nitpick just like …
/r/MensRights27/03/23 06:10 PM
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When women who resonate with the feminist views feel like they have peace of mind apparently. It's not a fight for equality anymore, it's a fight to feel like every man isn't a threat. It's a fight to feel like they don't have to be insecure around men. It's a fight to feel like women occupy at least half of the top 1% so that they can feel like there are women representing them who have shown that they're capable of doing just as much as men. It's a fight to feel like the medical industry cares…
/r/MensRights27/03/23 12:05 AM
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“You can start by telling them what they are doing,” the article suggests. “You can say, ‘Mr. A., you are mansplaining to me.’ Then, from this point, we are pretty sure he might not have an idea of the meaning of what you just said. Go ahead and educate him.” The thing that bothers me about this whole quote is, what they're doing is quite literally what mansplaining is as far as I'm aware. You're being insulting by saying it's "mansplaining." You're assuming the person is unaware of a term that …
/r/MensRights26/03/23 06:42 PM
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For fathers? Something they either like or something that will be practical. When I say something they like, I mean something like a chocolate bar or cologne or something like that. You can usually make it a little more special by either getting their favorite version of that thing or getting a more premium version of it. For practical things, it would have to be something they would actually use often, but don't already own or if they already own it, it has to be on its last legs. Watches, char…
/r/MensRights26/03/23 12:08 AM
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Yes, but even there, people vote mainly democrat or republican. The other people are essentially nonfactors.
/r/MensRights25/03/23 03:51 AM
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I'm noticing that and am glad to see more coverage about it. Sucks to see it though.
/r/MensRights25/03/23 03:48 AM
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Personally, I can't be bothered to vote between two people who everyone knows are horrendous candidates as leaders. For some reason in the US we HAVE to have a party system where people pick their leader based on their favorite team like they're cheering for their favorite football team and not someone who can actually govern properly. Great that we have a ton of candidates in multiple parties, but it's a shame no one can be bothered to give a single care about anything other than republicans an…
/r/MensRights25/03/23 03:32 AM
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Glad that you two were able to talk it out and he was able to stop giving in to her requests. Hopefully she'll stop bothering you both soon and will learn how to ask for these things in moderation. Wish the best for the both of you!
/r/MensRights25/03/23 02:16 AM
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That's actually insane. That's not just doing a couple of favors here and there. That is insanely rude of her to ask your husband to do, especially without paying for any of it. It's one thing if she asks once in a while here and there because she really can't due to some important appointment or something like that, but to ask so often for these things is ridiculous.
/r/MensRights25/03/23 02:05 AM
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What type of favors does she have him doing? I'm pretty used to people asking me to do favors very consistently, but that's more reasonable in my situation since I have the free time for it. I constantly get asked to drive people to the airport (which is an hour away driving. at this point I've gone to the airport to drop someone off at least 10 times more than I've gone for myself) or get asked to drive someone to another place or asked to take care of pets and various things like that and I ne…
/r/MensRights25/03/23 01:32 AM
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Great video. She said something and I read comments mentioning this that really point out the problem: you never see media coverage of men getting abused by women. You never hear about the problems men have. If a man gets falsely accused and gets proven innocent, there's no media coverage on that and now all that everyone around him knows is that he was accused of a crime. All of this is hidden from the world. There just needs to be more media coverage because let's be real at this point, facts …
/r/MensRights24/03/23 10:08 PM
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Honestly, sorry to hear it got so bad that you felt the need to vent. I know that feeling is what made me get on reddit and landed me here after hearing feminist/anti-male comments from my friend. You're better than me in that regard to even address the people who are causing you to feel that frustration. Unfortunately with any space like this, you'll have people who genuinely just don't want to hear anything a woman has to say or that can sound like you're giving a little fairness to women, but…
/r/MensRights24/03/23 12:13 AM
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Sounds about right. Someone shared this video in some other post: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQ4h-lVyaP8 and one of the people in the video basically showed why things are like this. She said something along the lines of "well everybody knows that the wage gap is real." She said that after reading a fact stating otherwise. It's not about the facts, but about what we've heard so often that it's ingrained into our beliefs. Sorry, but facts don't work in that environment or with those types of…
/r/MensRights22/03/23 07:37 PM
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By video, I meant the christian video you mentioned at the end. Thanks for the dating tips, but I'm not trying to date right now lol. I want to get my life together and stable before I work on a relationship. Or maybe I won't get a relationship. I'm a bit uncomfortable with the idea of being around someone for such a long portion of every day. We'll see after I get a stable life.
/r/MensRights22/03/23 06:39 PM
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Just going to take a guess here. Maybe they want a guy like that in order to have someone keep them safe? Usually if you have a partner, they're someone you trust to an incredible degree. Because of that, you don't see them as a threat until they betray your trust. Instead, you see them as someone who will keep you safe from the actual threats out there.
/r/MensRights22/03/23 06:04 PM
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I've heard this multiple times and don't think the people who say this are lying, but it feels like, as a man, a lot of women don't take you seriously, especially if they're close to you. The amount of times where I've seen a woman argue with a trusted man and just dismiss everything he says as nonsense because she doesn't want to give up her point is uncountable. I constantly see men just give up in an argument because they've said all their points and have repeated them, only to realize that t…
/r/MensRights22/03/23 06:00 PM
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I've also had the exact same thing explained to me, but the amount of fear they get from it baffles me. I was so weak until maybe a couple of months ago that I truly believed that a literal child, maybe 10 years old, could beat me up. I was so weak that I've lost to children and girls in arm wrestling. I quite literally was unable to overpower anyone. Did that make me think that everyone was oppressive? No. I just thought, well if someone attacked me, I guess I'm screwed. Even if I was strong, I…
/r/MensRights22/03/23 05:45 PM
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This is rough to read. The way they say it really expresses how much it hurts, but we've dealt with it our whole lives, so just like how women just live with cramps that supposedly hurt an insane amount, we just live with that pain as if it's normal. Because that's fun and enjoyable, no ma'am it is not I think he was saying fun and enjoyable as sarcasm from his side, but this reminded me of how for some of them, it's quite literally for their amusement. It's not like they want to make fun of you…
/r/MensRights22/03/23 07:18 AM
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I agree that this is how it should be done, but when you're on a date for example, there isn't much you can show and it's not easy being honest and transparent in a way that will show your good side to your potential future partner. You might not know what to say, but an easy thing to do is reassure them that you're not bad and that you have the confidence to say you're better than some other choice. No clue what that video could be btw.
/r/MensRights22/03/23 05:35 AM
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If male rights cares so much for men then why behave like this? There's a clear distinction to make here that you're missing. Those are men who are following what they've learned from feminism and just all the media coverage on men committing heinous deeds. You don't hear a huge amount of stories all over the place of women doing bad things to men (though there are a decent amount of such news reports finally showing up here and there). When you're trying to pick up a woman, it's almost natural …
/r/MensRights22/03/23 02:49 AM
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I feel like, at the very least, some rules about cleaning need to be laid out if you want your partner to match your expectations. "Your expectations" is the key phrase here. Your partner has his/her own expectations for what is good enough and they're different from your expectations. What might be obvious to you is not going to be obvious to your partner or vice versa. I think one example I can easily think of is how, when I'm alone, I wait for the end of the day to clean all of the dishes at …
/r/MensRights22/03/23 02:04 AM
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There's one thing that irks me nowadays that I keep on hearing whenever I see some women trying to make men understand why they're in fear of men all the time. I see a similar argument to this video I saw today: walking around as a woman is like walking around in a prison where all the inmates are staring, licking their lips, and catcalling. You know that not all of them are in for sexual assault, but you don't know who. For some reason, that's an acceptable line of reasoning. I don't understand…
/r/MensRights22/03/23 12:31 AM
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I think you got it right: international women's day came around and made people realize there was even such a thing as international women's day. This made people wonder, if there's an international women's day, is there also an international men's day? Pretty normal train of thought to follow tbh. It could also be people mad at the trash talk men got on international women's day that made them angrily try to figure out when international men's day was to see when it's their turn.
/r/MensRights21/03/23 09:25 PM
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I don't know about feeling automatically upset from that situation with nothing happening beyond the rejection, but I have heard that girls get stressed about guys asking them out because some guys can't take rejection well. For example, I'm sure we've all heard of the guy who hits on a girl, gets rejected, and just goes "well you're ugly and have a terrible personality anyways, so good fucking luck trying to get anyone since you just threw your one chance away since you're pretentious as fuck."…
/r/MensRights21/03/23 06:56 PM
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Just a side note I always feel the need to mention: if you do this, I just want to remind you to not bring up this information in a way that sounds like it dismisses women's issues. That's an issue that we can easily fall into by accident or otherwise when trying to make a point for men. I don't know how exactly you should do it, but try to make sure that you get the point across that this isn't to look away from women's issues, but to look at men's issues alongside women's issues, or to even lo…
/r/MensRights21/03/23 06:40 PM
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And these are the arguments that I NEED feminists to start making instead of just saying men hate women. Never knew that was the case. Interesting fact to know and makes sense.
/r/MensRights21/03/23 06:35 PM
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(Or, they fake an orgasm just to get it over with instead of telling him that she isn't enjoying it, and then wondering why he never gets any better and the sex is always terrible... 🤣🤣) THIS DRIVES ME CRAZY. I keep seeing them talking about how they make a show and pretend to enjoy it but the boyfriend can't do anything right. And I'm just here thinking "WELL WHAT DO YOU EXPECT????" For some reason they expect him to ask questions when all the signs are showing that he's doing things right. Eve…
/r/MensRights20/03/23 06:11 PM
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You know, aside from toxic people like those in that sub and some feminists, for some reason, people have developed the thought that if someone is against something, it's because they represent that thing. It makes no sense to me. That's like the conundrum of someone sounding guilty if they deny their involvement in something. If they can't deny it, what can they do? They're guilty either way. I saw a comment on another post in this subreddit that really opened my eyes to something a little whil…
/r/MensRights20/03/23 05:28 PM
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Fair play. I can't argue with that at all. It's a sound argument to me. Thanks for working with me on this. Sometimes I just like to play devil's advocate and try to speak from the perspective of a woman as best as I can (since I'm a man and can't truly understand their perspective) and this is the point where I can't figure out how to argue against you. I agree with you by the way. There need to be less restrictions on men and more of a win-win solution instead.
/r/MensRights19/03/23 03:13 AM
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As the saying goes, the grass is always greener on the other side. So, I assume women don't really think men sacrifice nearly as much as women. These sacrifices imposed on us by society aren't really factored in. It's kind of hard to give credit to someone for something quite literally everyone has to do (in this case every man). Putting facts aside, I'm just trying to get into the headspace of said women in this scenario, so try not to take this as me just trying to shut down everything you're …
/r/MensRights19/03/23 02:02 AM
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Are those things sacrifices though? If they're things imposed on us by society and the government, can they be considered a personal sacrifice? We're talking about something that we can control in this case, not something out of our control. What are we sacrificing that is within our control if you want women to just accept a man's sex drive to its full extent?
/r/MensRights18/03/23 04:48 PM
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Oh some of them definitely do. Feminism kind of helps rationalize their hate for men a lot of times. A lot of information in feminism is about how men are in control of everything or are terrible people. It's easy to take that information to justify your hate for men and then claim that you're just trying to make the world fair since you just have the same beliefs as feminism.
/r/MensRights18/03/23 06:20 AM
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I think the irony in this argument is that they also claim that the medical field is more focused on men than women, so women don't get any decent treatment. I can almost guarantee you the response they would give you to that is that it's men's fault for letting themselves get fat and unhealthy through lack of exercise, because I've definitely seen that argument too.
/r/MensRights18/03/23 06:13 AM
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I get the concept, but let's twist this from the perspective of women. Going with the same logic, why should men get what they want without sacrificing anything in return? There's no need for women to go out of their way to fulfill a man's desire when it's not in their own self interest. There needs to be a compromise somewhere.
/r/MensRights18/03/23 05:26 AM
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I always believed it's exactly because of what you said: "men can't control how we are wired." Having a lack of control over such an... Animalistic desire comes off as kind of scary. It gives the idea of men think with their dick before their head. This basically brings about the idea that men are only approaching women for sex or might not be able to avoid their desire for sex and turn to rape. I assume that's the thought process for it. Not a great thought process, but it makes a little sense …
/r/MensRights17/03/23 05:25 PM
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This actually confused me too because I hear this super often. The weird part is that as far as I'm aware, both guys and girls I knew of found it embarrassing to not have sex at least by the end of college. Both guys and girls I knew just cared about getting sex and didn't really mind the body count. No one really judged the other for it unless it was the type of person who faked getting into a relationship just for sex. No matter who it was, they were looked down on for having no sex at all. Th…
/r/MensRights17/03/23 05:18 PM
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It's exactly this. They're picking and choosing how "equally" they want to be treated. My friend (female) is always talking about how they should be treated equally, but a man should still be essentially subservient (obviously she doesn't say it this blatantly). When I point out things that don't seem to line up with equality she says "men enjoyed that privilege, so they can let us enjoy it a little bit." Usually it's something inconsequential so I just let it slide most of the time. It's also w…
/r/MensRights16/03/23 08:50 PM
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This is happening so often now that it has started to actually make me laugh. They say men are the victims, but women are the most affected by this all the time. I literally saw "women most affected" and almost burst out laughing. It's just so sad it's funny now to me. Edit: Side note: Literally clicked this post just because the title was so stereotypically British that it made me smile. Nice title.
/r/MensRights16/03/23 08:34 PM
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Because I still have hope that she will tone it down. She's great in every way except in that regard, but she has been slowly getting better at not being so anti-male.
/r/MensRights16/03/23 07:58 PM
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I think the only time I've noticed men getting empowered is when it comes to gym bros. Gym bros are like a hype man for a rapper. They'll encourage you to push yourself and make you feel like you're making crazy progress even if you're weaker than a child. They're pretty awesome. It's empowering and embarrassing as hell to me because I'm not used to it though lol
/r/MensRights15/03/23 11:34 PM
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I was about to say this First line: Women and men, girls and boys have been deeply impacted I guess that means we should just focus on the women and girls.
/r/MensRights15/03/23 11:12 PM
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I feel that. It's just all the bad info about men pointed out in social media and the news has made people think all or at least the majority of men are terrible. Because of that, it's acceptable to say all men are terrible and point out all the bad things you might find in men like "icks." You don't get to see men complaining and being resonated with on social media, so you don't have people understanding that men are humans too who have emotions that they need to vent. As someone who also has …
/r/MensRights15/03/23 10:59 PM
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I said this in another post that was asking if men's rights movement will ever really get attention. There's just no way that's going to happen unless men are getting oppressed extremely blatantly to the point you can't ignore it no matter where you look. Like now, women are the victims no matter where you look because that's all that people seem to try to point out and the male victims are buried under all of that. Until that flips, there's probably not going to be a change in the men's rights …
/r/MensRights15/03/23 09:11 PM
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I like to think the best of people and the worst of myself generally, so I relate to you thinking "maybe I'm the issue." I like to think that everyone genuinely tries to help out when a man tries to express his emotions (excluding those who genuinely just don't give a fk and tell you to just man up), but I just don't know what it is, they're completely incapable of it. Like you said, they'll leap through fire for a woman, but it's like that natural thought process doesn't come forward when it's …
/r/MensRights15/03/23 09:05 PM
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I get that, but when a person says "I don't think the opposite sex has any good qualities and the same sex has all the good qualities," it's easy to wonder why they still say they're attracted to the opposite.
/r/MensRights14/03/23 05:26 PM
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Oh, actually I do still see them date mainly men, but at the same time say that men are worse for some reason. It's really strange to me because I never understood it. Maybe they're still a little nervous about asking people out when they're not sure the other person is also lesbian/gay? I'm not sure.
/r/MensRights14/03/23 06:36 AM
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I don't know for a fact, but I can say I see a LOT more women saying they're either lesbian or bisexual rather than men saying they're gay or bisexual. Usually if they say they're bisexual, I have noticed they prefer the same sex and will typically say they're better than the other in pretty much every way, which makes me wonder why they're still bisexual. Rather than this being because of capitalism, I think it has more to do with these preferences becoming more acceptable nowadays.
/r/MensRights14/03/23 06:16 AM
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Fair enough, I didn't think about how this would trigger those men. I did think she wasn't the greatest, but I also thought at the very least, it would be smart to offer advice to at the very least help out her son. I typically believe in trying to help people out as much as possible, but I see here I failed to understand that it is reasonable for people to express their anger towards her situation. Thank you for explaining that to me and sorry for my misunderstanding.
/r/MensRights12/03/23 07:49 PM
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Are you asking if "white feminism" is something feminism mainly promotes to help white women? If so, I believe that term is used negatively most of the time. If a feminist can't argue against their group having some radical claims, they'll just say that's not "my feminism" that's the "white feminists." White kind of gets equated with evil nowadays. Similar to how because men oppressed women in the past, men are equated with evil today; because white people oppressed pocs in the past, white is eq…
/r/MensRights12/03/23 07:04 PM
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They don't know the full story and only saw that he was the only one who got Dr. in front of his name. They decide not to actually learn the truth and just jump to the conclusion that he argued that men should have Dr. in front of their names (even though he was the only man who got Dr. in front of his name) because they are so buried in gender politics that they can't see anything other than gender discrimination in this small thing that wasn't even his fault. One person probably was the one wh…
/r/MensRights12/03/23 06:30 AM
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I get why you're getting harsh responses, but Christ men, at least give some ideas on how to fix the issue. She made a mistake and hopefully has grown from it and moved past it. Cheating is never ok, but if it happens, it doesn't make the person terrible forever. Though, it's hard to look past it. Was it his right to know the truth of his birth or not? Yes. He had every right to know about it, just like how adopted children deserve to know they were adopted. I don't know how old he is though and…
/r/MensRights12/03/23 03:48 AM
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I agree, it was certainly insensitive, but I still do wonder if that's grounds for suspension. I can imagine him getting a stern talk to about it or maybe getting detention at best, but to ban him from going to school for a week because of that question seems wrong to me. Also, while I agree he could've asked other things, I do think choosing things from personal experience make it easier to understand, so I can understand thinking it was a good idea in the moment (definitely not a good idea to …
/r/MensRights11/03/23 08:27 PM
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Not surprised by this to be honest, but it is crazy that you got suspended for asking that question to a teacher. Is that even allowed to be grounds for suspension? I hate when the argument is "how many times have you heard of x happening, but not the other way around?" The key word is "heard." My friend was trying to tell me that you only hear of men cheating on women and not the other way around. I tried to point out multiple times women cheated on men and the men were either just laughed at o…
/r/MensRights10/03/23 08:25 PM
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Awesome to see they genuinely did this out of the goodness of their hearts. Great school/classmates.
/r/MensRights10/03/23 08:17 PM
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Just be who you want to be as long as it isn't illegal and isn't detrimental to yourself and the people around you. Go ahead and be "feminine" or "masculine." Just don't be surprised if people point you out for being "feminine." It's not necessarily because they dislike you or anything, but it's not something they're used to yet. If you see something unusual, you're going to point it out. What matters is that you're comfortable with yourself and the people around you.
/r/MensRights10/03/23 07:03 AM
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Sometimes when I see things like what you listed while they're complaining about a patriarchy, I just wonder if what they want isn't to be better than men in every way possible or to be equal, but to just have it so that that one man they got bothered by or they heard their friend got bothered by will never exist again. Like, they somehow want to eradicate the existence of men who have the audacity to approach them or those handful of men who seem to think they can get away with anything. It's a…
/r/MensRights09/03/23 07:51 PM
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I'll be honest, that's a totally normal boundary to set. You have trust in her and are not really restricting her. Rather than a boundary, that's just a rule that should be followed by anyone going to a bar. Don't accept drinks from a random person. You don't know that person and it's not uncommon to put drugs in drinks. Although that's not what you were concerned about with this, it's pretty normal to avoid drinks offered by strangers because of that. So far from it being unreasonable, it's mor…
/r/MensRights09/03/23 07:41 PM
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The irony in this is that we are asking to be treated equally as well though....
/r/MensRights09/03/23 07:08 AM
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The imbalance does suck indeed, yet they argue that every day is men's day, so I guess that's what the excuse is. Don't feel the need to say sorry on behalf of feminists just because you're female. Always sucks when innocent people end up feeling like they have to be held accountable for something they didn't do. Thanks though.
/r/MensRights09/03/23 05:33 AM
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Personally don't think there's a point in any of these days. Just respect other people as human beings. Accept that as a human being, they must have had their fair share of troubles. Even the most wealthy and privileged people have their troubles that might seem insignificant to us, but serious to them. We should be appreciating each other every day for existing as long as we have and facing our troubles as humans. It's pretty silly to me to have a day set aside where we put one group over all t…
/r/MensRights09/03/23 01:41 AM
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To be fair, if you want a majority of people to like you, you have to appeal to the greatest audience. That audience is the type that appreciates that behavior.
/r/MensRights08/03/23 07:18 PM
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Wow, I thought there'd be at least one person backing the OP up, but guess not. Usually the white knights/feminists get the top votes, but then the replies to those comments will have someone defending the OP, but nope. He wasn't even that unreasonable with his argument. He has a preference and doesn't want to force a relationship that just won't work out because she doesn't fit his preference. He even gave examples other people have mentioned with various body types. Everyone just immediately d…
/r/MensRights08/03/23 07:10 PM
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Honestly, the idea of congratulating anyone for a history month/day is just strange to me. I don't go to a person of color and say "happy black history month" or "congrats." In fact, if I said that to a person of color, I'd think that I'm being kind of racist even if there is no ill intent behind those words. It's just another day where the people who have a lot of pride in what they think defines them will celebrate as if it makes them particularly special. Usually the people who do that kind o…
/r/MensRights08/03/23 07:02 PM
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To me it seems that there isn't exactly a wrong place, but unless you're hot or your actions are sexy to them, you shouldn't really approach them if they're a stranger. And even if you are hot/sexy in some cases, it still really won't work. I think the idea is that because you don't know them, you're approaching them almost solely for their looks which is very superficial and shows you're looking just for sex. And that's fair tbh especially when your first words to them is "hey, you look gorgeou…
/r/MensRights07/03/23 11:29 PM
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A few reasons, but the question itself isn't quite right. Men do go to therapy. I go to therapy. Both of my therapists were also coincidentally men. Don't really care about who my therapist is as long as they're helpful, but I can imagine men wanting a man as a therapist since they can relate more easily theoretically. So here are some reason I can think of: It's expensive as hell for something that isn't a guaranteed treatment. People don't go to their physicians half the time because the physi…
/r/MensRights07/03/23 09:36 PM
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Saw someone ask why women wear make up, which is what I assume you mean by "glam up," and the overwhelming response wasn't that it was for anyone in particular, but because it made them feel more confident and look more presentable. It's like why anyone tries to look good in public, they just don't want others to think they're ugly and also want to feel confidence in themselves. I don't think men try to impress other people all the time, but just like anyone else, just want to feel self confiden…
/r/MensRights06/03/23 09:03 PM
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Sorry, but your post is an L to me dawg. How is that not sexual harassment? It can be interpreted in 2 bad ways: "I don't want to buy the pants, I want to buy you" or "I don't want the pants, I want to have sex with you." If that's not sexual harassment to you, then that's a little troubling. Even if it was meant to say "I don't want the pants, I want to date you because you're beautiful," that is still sexual harassment. Some random dude who is buying something just suddenly says he wants to da…
/r/MensRights05/03/23 11:26 PM
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Personally, don't really care for body positivity, at least not in the way it's used now. It kind of became a way to defend people who live unhealthily. We shouldn't insult/make fun of these people and instead encourage them to get fitter, but body positivity just became "it's a good thing to be unhealthy" instead of that. You don't need to be ripped, you don't need to have an hourglass figure, and you don't need to look flawless, but you should be healthy and clean. What I do have a problem wit…
/r/MensRights05/03/23 11:04 PM
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Ah wonderful. I probably should've checked that. I did think that it was a stretch to find them saying all men are pedos even in that subreddit.
/r/MensRights05/03/23 05:38 AM
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First off, I had a fkin stroke trying to read that sentence. Second off, I never saw it get that bad in the feminist subreddit, but it's definitely plausible. Typically their most upvoted things can be summarized as "We live in a patriarchy, men just hate women, and men are just afraid of losing their privileges over women which is why things like r/MensRights exist." There are definitely some reasonable people in that subreddit like the OP of that post according to what you're saying, but they …
/r/MensRights05/03/23 03:44 AM
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Even if systemic misogyny is a thing, I hate that I see some feminists argue that there is no systemic misandry, thus you can't be sexist against men. On my first few days on Reddit, I went to the feminist subreddit and saw a post asking if it's possible to be sexist against men. I thought "wow, what a ridiculous question. Of course everyone is going to say it's possible." To my surprise, an overwhelming amount of them said no, it's not possible. What??????? Their argument was that there is syst…
/r/MensRights05/03/23 02:23 AM
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I only learned yesterday that incel meant involuntary celibate, which I guess isn't negative by definition, but it's definitely not a flattering term. It basically places the fault in others for why you're unable to have sex. Putting it in less euphemistic words, "I'm a virgin because others don't wanna fk me for some reason." If you say it that way, it comes off pretty negatively because it's the person finding fault in others and not working on oneself. On top of that, the term incel has basic…
/r/MensRights04/03/23 11:52 PM
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Like you said, there definitely are things people do that definitely are objectifying women, but also like you said, they expanded what can be defined as objectifying women to way too many things. It's absurd to essentially say being sexually attracted to someone is objectifying them. Are you telling me I can't find someone attractive without objectifying them? So you're telling me almost every single couple in existence is objectifying each other? Absurd. It's also absurd to me how the same peo…
/r/MensRights04/03/23 11:43 PM
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I get what you're saying and agree that it shouldn't make someone judge all women differently, but the way you're saying it is terrible. Dude just admits he almost got raped and you go "wow, you're not respecting the fact that not all women are the same." You call him out/attack him while not even acknowledging he's talking about a traumatic experience. On top of that, I've almost NEVER seen a person get destroyed for saying they hate all men unless they say that in a very male centric place. Ye…
/r/MensRights04/03/23 11:25 PM
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Sorry to hear that happened. Just keep in mind that was one specific person who tried to take advantage of you and don't let that experience define how all women are. It's ok to not trust from the get-go and even ok to stay on guard all the time even if it's someone you've known for a while, especially when it's around drugs/alcohol. Just don't let it make you unable to treat even innocent people equally. I can't tell you to just "get over it" since it is a traumatic experience, but I hope you c…
/r/MensRights04/03/23 11:10 PM
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I just end up thinking this person is one of those people who think you can only focus on one or the other. Assuming the attempt was a true attempt at suicide and not a cry for help with little at stake (and even if it was just a cry for help to be honest), then that means girls are facing some problem, but that doesn't suddenly invalidate that guys are facing some problem too. Clearly we need to work on both in that case.
/r/MensRights04/03/23 08:10 AM
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Whenever men bring up this point, I see women get disgusted by the men that judge them for the clothes they wear. They end up saying it's not their job to keep men from being creeps and rapists just because those men can't handle seeing clothes on women. Fair enough, not their job. It is a bit strange how tight fitting or revealing these outfits can be, but they are technically fully clothed so they're not really doing anything wrong. I just kind of equate it to a fit guy wearing a tight-fitted …
/r/MensRights04/03/23 06:44 AM
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It's easy to see another person do something wrong and think it's wrong, but it's hard to see yourself doing something wrong because it feels more nuanced to you. You can see it super easily in dating. You might see someone tell their friend that their significant other is a walking red flag, but they won't notice the same red flags in their significant other because they feel like there's a reason or it's not quite the same. On top of that, if it doesn't affect you negatively and in some cases …
/r/MensRights04/03/23 06:24 AM
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I dont know if I've ever seriously listened to this advice, if you've ever been in a fight then you'll know that it's actually pretty hard to get the balls Yeah, admittedly it's good advice if you have nothing else, but more likely than not, you're not gonna get the chance to get an attack there. But your average guy is also not well versed in fighting even though they like to pretend they are, so maybe you'll get a chance. Better than nothing, I guess. ​ I'm never cold from the get go Glad to h…
/r/MensRights01/03/23 10:49 PM
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Ah gotcha.
/r/MensRights01/03/23 10:18 PM
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I just decided to check that video. I've seen her stuff before. Is that video supposed to show mansplaining? I don't see any comments or anyone in the show saying the men are mansplaining? Loving the video though because of how ridiculous she is lmaooooo
/r/MensRights01/03/23 10:03 PM
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It's supposed to be men talking to women in a condescending manner. Basically explaining things in a way that sounds like they're saying "I'm smarter than you, you dumb woman." It just kind of turned into meaning men explaining anything really. If you give an in depth explanation, it just immediately becomes mansplaining, especially if you explain things they might consider common sense.
/r/MensRights01/03/23 09:50 PM
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Having a day where people in general stand up against violence against women and girls is fine, well, as long as there's one for standing up against violence against men and boys. Having a day where you have completely innocent people take partial responsibility for something criminals have done? Now you've lost me.
/r/MensRights01/03/23 09:29 PM
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Personally, I don't mind people being wary of men. Like you said, you assume he's going to be stronger than you, so you can't put up a fight. Personally, I think a good kick to the balls does quite a number, so men aren't THAT much of a threat, but realistically, it's a scary situation where you don't really have time to think about what to do. I just find it strange how far that wariness goes. In general, I think you should be wary of strangers, man or woman. You don't know them, they're a thre…
/r/MensRights01/03/23 09:13 PM
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I did think about that too, but I'm still not sure how accurate that'd be. I'm just not knowledgeable enough to do that and be certain it's accurate information with a very minimal skew, thus making it hard at least for me. I'm sure someone can do that somewhere, but that person just definitely isn't me
/r/MensRights01/03/23 08:23 AM
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Ah gotcha. Yeah, it's kind of hard to trust those websites, but also not strange considering some people like to make their own websites to promote their own content like that. But, yeah, can't take them seriously.
/r/MensRights01/03/23 04:14 AM
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To be fair, pretty much any group will use studies that are favorable to them as their sources. This subreddit looks for information/stats that are favorable to them too pretty often. It's just an unavoidable bias. It's kind of hard to use studies to prove any point because almost all of them are biased one way or another unfortunately.
/r/MensRights01/03/23 03:30 AM
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I feel like often times, whenever I'm asked to share how I'm feeling, it gets dismissed. It's not like that person doesn't care, but their response is typically something along the lines of "it's not that bad" or "it's not as bad as this other thing" or "your perspective is invalid." It's pretty rare to be given comfort and support. I've gotten advice or cold, hard facts, but it is EXTREMELY rare to just get simple support and comfort. For example, let's say you went through a break up and you'r…
/r/MensRights01/03/23 03:24 AM
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I see both sides pretty often, so despite what you see on media, keep up hope and keep searching. Eventually you'll find the right person. Looks matter, but for a good relationship, personality matters more and people will look for that first and foremost if they're a decent candidate as a partner.
/r/MensRights01/03/23 02:37 AM
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I've seen plenty of people say that girls are just more pleasant to look at than guys, both from girls and guys. It reminds me of what my friend told me and I've seen said plenty of times. You always hear "that guy is with a girl who is way above his league," but you never see it the other way around. Even guys I consider hot (I'm not sexually attracted to them, but I just think they're good looking), my friend would say is below the girl next to him who I would say isn't as hot. It's so rare to…
/r/MensRights28/02/23 11:17 PM
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I feel like this is a weird thing especially in America. Somehow we end up making everything that once was good turn into something negative. Usually these things are still good, but some people just take it negatively if they don't like you or have a lot of self pride. Back in the days for example, calling someone "ma'am" was a way to be respectful, but nowadays it has the connotation that you're calling that person old and are being condescending. Offering to carry something heavy used to be s…
/r/MensRights28/02/23 11:04 PM
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Usually when a fair share of chores is talked about, it's in a reasonable situation where both people are working and have to share responsibilities, but this is ridiculous. Her logic makes no sense because like you said, you do the work for maybe 45 min or so in total if you also take into account folding the laundry and putting it away when it comes to laundry specifically. Chores around the house, it's not like you're doing a full wipe down of the house every single day. If you were to vacuum…
/r/MensRights28/02/23 10:21 PM
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Can't really answer your question since I don't believe in gender spectrum. Don't know why people one day suddenly decided to separate biological sex from gender. They were used interchangeably very often. What I do believe is that there are social norms that vary depending on gender, which really shouldn't be the case. A person should be able to act however they wish as long as it's not harmful, whether physically or mentally both for oneself and other people. There shouldn't really be gender r…
/r/MensRights28/02/23 06:35 AM
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This. If you feel like you need it, go find it. Just know that because there isn't a one size fits all method to helping with mental struggles, you might not find the right counsellor on your first try.
/r/MensRights27/02/23 11:27 PM
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Your friend saying that you're the only guy he's comfortable with is a bit weird, but the other stuff seemed somewhat normal to me. Yes, it's not good to generalize, but when you're frustrated and just go through something like a breakup, you just want to vent your anger. It's pretty normal to say something like "fk guys, I'm not falling for another again." Guys do that too when it comes to girls, including in media. It's also normal to kinda support your friend in that moment even if you don't …
/r/MensRights27/02/23 01:00 AM
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Agreed on that. Kind of bad that they didn't pick up on what you slapped them in the face with and gave you generic responses. You're so right about some people actually getting more upset about that. It's like how everyone knows saying "calm down" to someone will have the exact opposite response.
/r/MensRights25/02/23 03:02 AM
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I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. In all honesty, people like to suggest therapy nowadays as if it is a great cure to any mental difficulties a person might be going through, including myself sometimes, but it's really a hit or miss. They're there to help you help yourself which kind of boils down to exactly what you mentioned, them trying to make you feel like you're being heard by them saying something like "I get how it can feel that way" and them offering advice you can get from …
/r/MensRights25/02/23 02:49 AM
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I get what you're saying and that's certainly a good starting point. To make change, we need to be the change. I don't think OP ever said he ever responded positively to these things though. Regardless, I think the point you're missing is that it's a blatant double standard where if a woman does that, it's the guy's fault for falling for it, but if a guy does that, he's a creep. It's the way society has a bias where a guy is kind of assumed to be a threat even if he is doing something harmless t…
/r/MensRights24/02/23 06:29 PM
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My favorite post on this subreddit is https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1165s9f/clearest_evidence_that_reddit_and_society_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb which showcased that extremely clearly. It's a post where the exact same story was told with the genders swapped and the responses were exact opposites.
/r/MensRights24/02/23 07:53 AM
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I'll be honest, I was wondering about that too because I see a lot of posts like that here, but I guess the answers you got make sense. Until now, the reason I came up with is because I commonly saw women talking about how men have high expectations for women's looks and don't consider women who aren't hot as women, yet usually you'll see women judge both men and women way more harshly (I've also seen men say women don't consider men who aren't hot to be men). But then their argument is that men…
/r/MensRights24/02/23 07:28 AM
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I certainly don't consider myself an activist since I don't have the will to do things for myself let alone the will or courage to publicly tell people that I get treated unfairly here and there, but I do believe movements take a long time to gain traction and attention to men's issues only started fairly recently. Being able to talk about issues and finding a group of people that can relate to your issues is a good starting point. You will inevitably get people who take advantage of it to just …
/r/MensRights24/02/23 06:48 AM
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I've always wanted to do this to see if I was just a guy who is in his own world believing that the response would be wildly different if genders were swapped with the same exact scenario or if I was actually right to think that. I avoided it since I thought people would notice the striking similarity in the scenario and just respond based on that realization. Clearly, I was wrong. Thank you for doing this and proving I'm not crazy.
/r/MensRights22/02/23 01:29 AM
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I go to therapy and it's a hit or miss. For me, it helps, even if only a little bit. At the very least it gives me a place to really get everything off my chest without worry and while knowing someone is actively listening to me. I've only been with two therapists. The first one wasn't great. He was telling me to do things that just weren't viable options for me at the time and he just wouldn't understand that. The second one listened to what I had to say. If I didn't know what to say, he would …
/r/MensRights06/02/23 07:09 AM
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That's why I said I accept I'm brainwashed. There's no basis for me thinking feminism is about equality. I just feel like it's a good thing because I've been told it's a good thing all my life. I feel like it's a good thing because it's always praised and anything against it is terrible. I feel like it's a good thing because I'm constantly shown instances where men do bad things to women and almost never shown the opposite. I feel that way, but I still hate it because it has a negative impact on…
/r/MensRights05/02/23 06:07 PM
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It was something I came to conclusion of after reading the words written on the declaration of sentiments completely unfiltered by other people's understanding of it. Looked at the link you posted very briefly but didn't find a mention of the Seneca Falls Convention. I'm not trying to argue that some feminists aren't out there saying some outrageous things and are blatantly misandrists. I'm just saying that at the very beginning, while some of them most certainly hated men after being mistreated…
/r/MensRights05/01/23 09:49 AM
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I'm digging for info on it and I can't see what's making it seem like they're trying to subjugate men. I literally even just read the declaration of sentiments and it is trying to obtain true equality, to the point where it even says that women should be getting arrested for crimes even if their husbands are there to protect them. I have no clue where you're getting this agenda of reducing the male population and subjugating males from. The worst I saw is them essentially saying that the rights …
/r/MensRights05/01/23 07:57 AM
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It's because it started with supporting women to gain equality, which isn't a bad thing. What it does is give place for women to gather. As you try to get on equal footing with the opposing faction, you share the reasons for why you should be on equal footing, which should theoretically just boil down to "we are all humans." However, noone really sympathizes or cares about "we are all humans." What does get attention and sympathy is "the opposing faction is bad and we are not bad." It's not mean…
/r/MensRights05/01/23 03:22 AM
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That's why both feminism and men's rights have trouble with making progress. You can't really pick and choose what you want to be equal. You have to accept everything as equal across the board that isn't different biologically speaking otherwise it becomes a thing where you're trying to twist rights/worldview into your favor.
/r/MensRights04/01/23 12:26 AM
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What you just said is kind of a problem and beyond physical abuse, there's verbal, emotional or financial abuse. You don't really need to be in a heavier weight class or even physically stronger to do real damage to people. Just use pretty much any household object as a weapon and it's going to do damage. Even without a weapon, your average adult, male or female, can do damage easily. Also, if the man is getting physically abused, most likely, he's not fighting back because morally speaking, it'…
/r/MensRights04/01/23 12:17 AM
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I'm starting to understand how important study methods are from these comments. Thanks for making it clear for me. By the way, that second hyperlink didn't work for me. It just took me to the CDC and it said the page couldn't be found.
/r/MensRights03/01/23 10:21 PM
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It's a sad reality
/r/MensRights03/01/23 10:15 PM
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Agreed on that. Easier said than done though to be perfectly fair for both sides. Thus the need to have society as a whole change to make it easier for them to speak out loud.
/r/MensRights03/01/23 10:08 PM
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Those posts are both interesting. Never really knew such things happened. Thanks for sharing the info.
/r/MensRights03/01/23 10:02 PM
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Which I'm sure is true, but you don't think it's possible that men are more likely to not report than women for something like DV? Or more likely to not report than men when it comes to something else (can't really think of an example off the top of my head)? At least, to a significant degree where the skew actually matters.
/r/MensRights03/01/23 09:55 PM
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This very much would help. The amount of times where I've brought up an issue by flipping the gender and just hear "that's not the same."
/r/MensRights03/01/23 08:35 PM
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That's the one
/r/MensRights03/01/23 10:28 AM
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There was a guy earlier today who posted here saying he was a feminist and in his worst moments, the very people he was supporting turned on him and kicked him out of their friend group. You can also talk about this trend of pointing out toxic masculinity, while still not really giving any emotional support and still telling men to essentially "man up." There's also this culture of constantly providing warnings against men to the point where people kind of assume men aren't safe to be around unt…
/r/MensRights03/01/23 08:52 AM
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That really sucks. It's a shame shit like that can happen in this world. I think you shouldn't kind of feel like all that you've done to support others was a wasted effort or a bad thing to do. I think it was great that you did that. There are certainly changes that need to be made that you helped with. I do however think that you should get some good friends. There are some pretty shitty people out there and people who would kick you out of their lives completely at the worst moments of your li…
/r/MensRights02/01/23 11:51 PM
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