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You file a John Doe lawsuit, prove your case has merit, and then ask the court to subpoena the platform to hand over identifying information. On facebook, the moderators can see the identity of anonymous posters, I believe.
/r/MensRights03/07/26 11:19 AM
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Women post your picture, name, location and age, so yeah, it's very obvious who the guy is. That's the point. Every woman who knows this guy has likely seen it, either from being in rather group themselves or through a friend showing them, which is something to keep in mind because they all know and have such little respect for you they say nothing to you. Sisters won't even tell their brothers they've been posted. This is the world that women have created for men to live in.
/r/MensRights03/07/26 04:24 AM
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Try to get screenshots from a friend. It's easier to gain access to the tea app than AWDTSG. Sadly, there's not much you can do at this point, which is one of the great frustrations of this group, especially if there is no direct libel. Depending on what city you're being posted in, someone at another subreddit might be able to help you with access so you'll know exactly what's being said (not sure of the exact rules, so I won't link it, do me if interested). If it's really bad, you may want to …
/r/MensRights02/07/26 10:10 PM
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I wonder sometimes if we're getting to a point where we don't even live in a shared reality with each other, at which point society really begins to break down.
/r/MensRights26/05/26 10:17 AM
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Ah yes, the "traditional gender roles for thee but not for me" paradigm is still going strong. To make the issue even more frustrating, a popular refrain from feminists when men fall behind is that we aren't "evolving" but clinging to the patriarchal past, so the blame is on us no matter what we do. I'm hoping that recent viral article from the New Statesman about how much women dislike men opened some eyes, but many men have a hard time seeing it, and therefore seeing the effects it has on them…
/r/MensRights25/05/26 08:52 AM
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I saw a YouTube video showing a bunch of female names, then the site went dark for a while, zero entries, now that it's back I don't see any female names on it, at least in my state. Perhaps flooding it with female names would get it taken down again.
/r/MensRights15/05/26 03:44 AM
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Exactly right, and it's something not easily fixed, especially when so many institutions, especially in higher education, are ideologically captured. Today, studies show that most young men still want a pretty traditional life, with a wife and children. I'm seriously wondering if the next generation of men are going to want that. One sign of hope here is that I seem to be seeing more young woman on social media pushing back against the more blatant misandry displayed by their peers. I'm hoping t…
/r/MensRights27/03/26 03:17 PM
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Thanks. It raises many of the concerns I have about that program, which I believe will be met with hostility from the students and lead to further alienation from the education system.
/r/MensRights27/03/26 01:25 PM
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I couldn't get the link to work, even when I took off the "At" at the end.
/r/MensRights27/03/26 09:19 AM
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Lol, yeah, I know. Implicit bias is what these kinds of tests are designed to find, though: bias the subject isn't even aware of.
/r/MensRights14/02/26 04:28 PM
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More and more we are seeing the violence in feminism being celebrated. Recently, Aileen Wuornos has become a heroine on social media. Its despicable, to be sure, but that so many can be so easily led is a genuine concern.
/r/MensRights14/02/26 04:20 PM
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They come back with, "Who is assaulting them? Men!" It's hidden (or not so hidden) victim-blaming, blurring the distinction between the victim and the perpetrator on the basis of sex and nothing more. Sometimes there's a subtle suggestion that the victim deserved it because he's a man.
/r/MensRights14/02/26 04:08 PM
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Or it just means that he's on TikTok. Plenty of actual misandry on that site. It gets the clicks, which makes the money.
/r/MensRights04/02/26 03:08 AM
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The echo chamber effect is definitely real. I am older, and when I first heard about these flat earthers, I thought they were joking, that it was satire. When I realized they were serious...that was hard. Feminism is a bit different for me because it has such a profound effect on society. I've said here before that misandry is the bigotry that binds it all together, and that changes things for me. I've seen grown woman on TikTok blaming 8 year old boys for not doing well enough in school. They b…
/r/MensRights30/01/26 01:08 AM
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Yeah, I've been talking about that video for a while. She has sons, too. There is a sickness deep inside a lot of people. Social media reinforces, erodes the boundaries of acceptable morality, and converts people who have a strong in-group preference and want to be accepted.
/r/MensRights29/01/26 08:06 PM
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Female therapists defend AWDTSG gossip forums,, where men are humiliated and shamed for women's amusement. It's impossible to trust a female therapist. https://www.reddit.com/r/therapists/comments/1ozzqc4/are_we_dating_the_same_guy_group/
/r/MensRights28/01/26 05:54 PM
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In response to your update, yes, it's likely every woman you know I aware that you're posted and probably know what it says, and they will lie directly to you about knowing. It only takes one woman you work with to spread it around. If your sister knows, then all her friends know, too.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 02:12 PM
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I think the answer to what will men rally around that isn't strictly gender-based is fairness. Everything shows boys falling behind in education, so why are we still funding girls-only programs to get them into college? Seems unfair. It doesn't mean girls shouldn't go to college, just that it should be equal. Same with DEI admissions. Why are people getting into college with lower scores than men have? Seems unfair to me. These are roadblocks men are facing, and they're put there intentionally.
/r/MensRights30/12/25 11:17 AM
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Because the chances of making a living are not high, just look at what most OF models make per month, and there's even less financial security. Also, the recent essay about the Great Feminization of the workplace posed some serious questions about the future that can't be ignored.
/r/MensRights29/12/25 04:50 PM
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True, and the bias is so strong many don't want to know. Instead, they'll listen to rhetoric about 'breaking the cycle of oppression' and continue supporting all the wrong things regarding their sons.
/r/MensRights29/12/25 04:47 PM
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Exactly. The environment these kids face everyday is so toxic, and it doesn't look like it's getting better and may be getting worse. To me, this is one of the biggest issues out there, because we're set to lose an interest generation of men, and nothing good will come of that.
/r/MensRights29/12/25 04:44 PM
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Excellent comment. You brought up all the things I was going to say and more.
/r/MensRights28/12/25 07:50 PM
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It's a real problem, and I don't think there's going to be any help or change for a long time, when a whole generation has been sacrificed. Ultimately, they'll have to save themselves if they can, but that means being serious about their futures and I fear that message isn't getting through. Not sure what to do about that, just think it's something worth considering.
/r/MensRights28/12/25 07:41 PM
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Yes. My fear is that this is keeping boys from maturing. If there aren't expectations placed on them, and no support, I think that can manifest as a feeling of uselessness which leads to inertia. It's not fair, but the sad truth is no one is coming to save boys, and I worry about fathers who don't quite grasp the seriousness of this situation. Fathers are needed now more than ever to keep these young men on track. Ultimately, these kids could have much harder lives because no one is telling them…
/r/MensRights28/12/25 07:37 PM
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Sometimes I get a constant stream of misandry. I don't just mean a bit of frustration with men, but truly hateful stuff. Sometimes you have to reset the algorithm. I like books and movies, so I'll start looking for posts about those until that's what's coming up for me. It will shift back eventually, of course, but the respite is necessary. Btw, I hope you know that most men, even us scary guys in the "manosphere," don't agree with a single one of the things listed about women in your post. I ce…
/r/MensRights25/12/25 05:18 PM
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So many articles about men walking away from dating and asking where all the men have gone, so many videos on TikTok of women whinging that men don't approach and there are no men at single events, but I'm seeing more women saying that they've chosen to be single. No, no they haven't. The men just aren't there for them, and many of the ones who are left are players, who will always be there for women to "date," but who do not want to have a genuine relationship. I'm older, but I do wonder how ba…
/r/MensRights25/12/25 05:08 PM
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True, and when confronted they'll either deny or ignore reality completely. Happens to me all the time.
/r/MensRights22/12/25 02:20 PM
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Yes. The alternative is too assume they're far too stupid to say what they mean. Taking their words at face value is a sign of respect that they know exactly what they're saying saying and are saying it intentionally. We really need to stop looking at them like spoiled children and start taking them seriously, and that means understanding they mean what they say.
/r/MensRights22/12/25 02:18 PM
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Reddit says saying "kill all men" doesn't violate its policies. The opposite will get you banned.
/r/MensRights22/12/25 02:13 PM
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According to Google's AI overview: Targeted Interventions: Boys showing concerning behaviors (e.g., sharing intimate images, controlling behavior) may be sent to new behavior change programs or "anti-misogyny courses". So does that mean a girl could report a boy she doesn't like for "controlling behavior" as an act of revenge? Because we know that when people are given power, they tend to use it to benefit themselves. Certainly there will be teachers forcing boys into these "new behavior change …
/r/MensRights18/12/25 04:20 PM
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The most basic and essential tenet of feminism is that the gender class men oppress the gender class women. They genuinely mean it when they say it's all men. Once that's accepted, any action by the oppressed against the oppressor is justified, no matter the circumstances. Even fetuses aren't spared: I don't know yet if it's a girl or an abortion is a popular quip just for this reason. Misandry is the bigotry arising from this ideology, a necessary component of it, even. There's nothing to be do…
/r/MensRights16/12/25 08:52 PM
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This is a very real issue that is virtually impossible to discuss rationally. Why did Rep. Mace announce an investigation into the Tea On Her app when the tea app was sitting right there and has millions more users? That's just courting the female vote, and it's pretty obvious. Meanwhile, men's lives are getting wrecked and no one cares.
/r/MensRights14/12/25 06:11 AM
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I'm a bit concerned that it will reinforce the notion that girls and women need to be frightened of all men, all the time. We grow to hate the things we fear, and how can either sex lead healthy lives if this is how they're indoctrinated before they even hit puberty?
/r/MensRights14/12/25 05:32 AM
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A+ comment right here. Couldn't agree more. What really stands out is that we're talking about boys here, as if an eight year old is the oppressor. Teach him that he's awful by nature and welcome to a world of disaffected young men, and that's not a good outcome for anyone.
/r/MensRights14/12/25 05:29 AM
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I'd really like to hear the internal discourse that lead to such a thing not being laughed out of existence. That's truly an example of ideological capture, in which reason cowers in the corner, wondering if this is the time it's gone forever.
/r/MensRights13/12/25 06:17 PM
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Yes. That's the implicit bigotry here. I'm hoping the details might make it not so bad, but I fear this will be the result.
/r/MensRights13/12/25 06:08 PM
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I've been thinking this for a while now. The UK has a population of young men without much hope for the future, and all it will take is one charming man to give them a purpose, a future, a little hope. Add in just one triggering event and I think the nation will revolt. Maybe someone with a bit more polish than Paul Golding, a little smoother, a little more nuanced and reasonable sounding, but the pieces are all there. I have zero faith in Farage, and it's a long time until the next election, a …
/r/MensRights13/12/25 06:06 PM
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One would think that mutual respect should be the standard, but a gynocentric society won't see it that way, which is why the men's rights movement must continue to grow. People look at it and say it's misogyny, when in reality it's a brake against over correction, which, imo, has already gone too far.
/r/MensRights13/12/25 02:13 PM
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Limiting the rights of men specifically seems less like good law and more like open discrimination to me.
/r/MensRights03/12/25 11:17 AM
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Wow. That sub is a real cesspool. Regarding this post in particular, seems like only one person brought up any actual feminism at all, referencing Dworkin and how she'd disagree with this (which is true, Dworkin was 100% against biological determinism). The rest, like the sub itself, was just a choir of misandry.
/r/MensRights25/11/25 11:12 AM
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I can't remember where, I think on X, I said something similar about the next time the UN needs blue helmets, ask the women. It would be nice, wouldn't it?
/r/MensRights22/11/25 10:41 AM
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Yes. The WHO posted on X all day...about women. The UN declared it International Toilet Day. Various UN accounts posted about DV. The misandry is real and institutional.
/r/MensRights21/11/25 10:29 PM
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Ukraine conscripted foreigners to fight and didn't permit men to leave the country. Germany just reinstated conscription, and while they're hoping they'll be able to get enough volunteers, if they don't it goes to a lottery. Regardless, every 18 year old man will have to endure the infamously humiliating physical exam, usually performed by a female doctor with a female secretary present (because equality, of course). Women can NOT be conscripted by law, and have different rules for the physical …
/r/MensRights21/11/25 09:12 AM
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Plea deal, like most cases. One or two misdemeanor charges and then it's all forgotten.
/r/MensRights16/11/25 11:29 PM
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Oh wow...I looked up where that image came from and that sub is...something else. They even say that reddit is misogynistic, which has not been my experience, just the opposite, in fact.
/r/MensRights13/11/25 05:08 AM
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Someone posted the link in another sub, so I read the book. We have a very good understanding of the long-term psychological effects of this sort of thing, but it's just men, so no one cares. Women hired in the name of equality, but never required to to experience what men had to. It's all double standards. There are too many fronts we have to fight on.
/r/MensRights13/11/25 04:49 AM
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Yep, that's what I was referring to. Awful.
/r/MensRights13/11/25 04:00 AM
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I've learned it's the vast majority of women who feel that way.
/r/MensRights13/11/25 02:52 AM
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Examined. Do they mean the musterung is back? Because that was a nightmare for boys.
/r/MensRights13/11/25 02:47 AM
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There's one from August where a woman post a guy from New Mexico in Denver and got responses. Then there's the woman who posted her husband and got comments about him, I think one said she was either sleeping with him or talking to him. Her husband passed away in 2017. Tiktok has finally proved useful!
/r/MensRights08/11/25 05:16 AM
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Still up for android users. I think they'll tweak it a little and it will be back for Apple.
/r/MensRights08/11/25 03:03 AM
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The tea app. No longer available in the app store for Apple, still up on Google play. It's ridiculous.
/r/MensRights08/11/25 03:01 AM
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Just a quick note about directors. Hollywood will virtue signal to the moon and back, but at the end of the day, Hollywood wants money. If women direct hit movies, they'll get more work. If they don't, they won't. Greta Gerwig has had no trouble at all finding work. Know why? She made movies that did well. That's it. That's the secret. Either that, or get lots of award nominations, because the industry still cares about them. PTA does not make many hit movies, but he makes very good movies that …
/r/MensRights07/11/25 01:52 AM
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I'm not an expert, but that sounds like depression. Has your therapist suggested anti-depressants? It can be hard to stay motivated, but no motivation at all is a problem. It might be worth talking about with a professional. One other thing to possibly look into is a vitamin D deficiency. I've known some people who had it and it can make a person feel listless. Like I said, though, I'm no expert. It's just stuff I've picked up through the years. I had to look up was vs. were in this situation. I…
/r/MensRights06/11/25 02:32 AM
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Female therapists are decidedly inclined to blame the male patient. This is a good fairly short read about by a male therapist: https://www.centreformalepsychology.com/male-psychology-magazine-listings/why-i-became-a-male-centred-therapist-a-personal-journey There's a female therapist on TikTok who specializes in treating men. She seems to get it, doesn't victim blame and understands that talking to male clients is very, very different than talking to women. She also said that in some ways men w…
/r/MensRights04/11/25 08:25 PM
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This was about cheating. Is cheating now considered "violent crime?"
/r/MensRights02/11/25 05:02 PM
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I guess AI hasn't gotten around to watching all the film noirs that feature female adultery yet. Maybe they're too obscure, like The Postman Always Rings Twice or Double Indemnity. Or we live in a gynocentric society where AI is being used as as a method of social conditioning to create outcomes desirable to the ruling class, which is now gendered.
/r/MensRights02/11/25 03:22 PM
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A blood sample from the mother and a cheek swab from the father. 99.9% accuracy.
/r/MensRights27/10/25 04:28 AM
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I saw that on YouTube earlier. I feel for the guy, she really hates him. If women truly believed men are more dangerous than a bear, they wouldn't poke us all the time. They knew they were lying and we know by their own behavior. Still, it must be hard to live with that woman. And then she puts him on blast to make his private humiliation public. Too many women are just too toxic to bother with any of them.
/r/MensRights27/10/25 12:59 AM
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Don't know what to tell you, that's what it's called. Here's a page about testing from the Cleveland Clinic that talks about it. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diagnostics/10119-dna-paternity-test
/r/MensRights26/10/25 10:48 PM
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I'm for mandatory paternity testing, and no one has to wait until birth. From google's AI overview: "Non-invasive prenatal paternity testing (NIPP): This is the most common method. It involves collecting a blood sample from the mother and a cheek swab or saliva sample from the alleged father. The fetal DNA in the mother's blood is compared to the alleged father's DNA." Absolutely no reason not to do this.
/r/MensRights26/10/25 09:13 PM
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Wow, schools have really just forgotten about boys completely. From kindergarten through 12th grade, I guess boys just dont merit any effort from the schools.
/r/MensRights21/10/25 01:52 AM
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From Google's AI overview: "Yes, men must register with the Selective Service within 30 days of turning 18. While the registration is mandatory during a specific 60-day window (30 days before and 30 days after the 18th birthday), it is possible to register late until a man reaches age 26. Not registering can lead to denial of benefits like state-based student loans, federal job training, and federal jobs." You should register before 30 days are up, though. You can lose federal financial aid elig…
/r/MensRights21/10/25 01:50 AM
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Don't high schools tell boys this anymore? I know a guy who is 21 and I mentioned selective service, he never signed up, didn't know he had to. Anyway, I looked it up and you have until your 26th birthday, but seriously best to do it now.
/r/MensRights20/10/25 08:57 PM
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It's no secret that Democrats are desperate to win back male votes. I thought the same when Gavin Newsom issued that executive order a couple months ago, that this is part of his run for president. That said, even if it is posturing and pandering, once something is actually in place I think pressure can be applied more effectively. I'd absolutely love to see the decline in male education addressed, especially at the elementary school level, which can set up lifelong attitudes toward education in…
/r/MensRights20/10/25 08:17 PM
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Lol! Yeah, X seems to be a victim of that, too. Otoh, if you ever leave a comment on one, or even like some comments a TikTok has, the algorithm will give you more of the same. If it gets overwhelming, you can tell it you're not interested in it and you should see less. Worked for me, anyway. Also, liking a variety of videos helps. My fyp gave me a guy crashing out about what Ohtani did the other night, now I get the occasional baseball highlights video. (Honestly, it was a genuinely amazing per…
/r/MensRights20/10/25 08:03 PM
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Now it's like the boogeyman. The patriarchy is the monster under the bed, hiding in your closet, and it can shape-shift to be whatever they need it to be. Is it systemic oppression? Is it the male gaze? Is it crime...but only against women? Are we individually responsible for it? Does it actually benefit men? No one knows.
/r/MensRights20/10/25 02:29 PM
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They just come right out and say they don't want equality under the law. These are crazy times.
/r/MensRights19/10/25 12:38 AM
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Yep, that's the one.
/r/MensRights18/10/25 06:21 PM
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"there is still the infantilizing of women by men." YES! And also by women, using the victim narrative in which women start out as oppressed and anything bad that happens is the result of her inherent victimhood, nothing she's can be held responsible for. It's a sad state of affairs.
/r/MensRights18/10/25 09:48 AM
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Loved that line.
/r/MensRights18/10/25 12:40 AM
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Last I checked, nationally HR was 74% women. Just saw a post on another sub of a woman posting in an AWDTSG group saying she was pretty sure a guy posted there was coming in for an interview, and now she was looking at him differently. HR is a threat to men, imo.
/r/MensRights18/10/25 12:39 AM
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Otoh, men have given up a lot of power and they didn't have to. I'm hoping the whole thing collapses under its own weight. Of course, there could also be an unforseen event that changes things very quickly, like a war with China, which will hit us at home quickly with attacks on the electric grid and water facilities, and who knows how all that plays out.
/r/MensRights18/10/25 12:36 AM
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Guys, why are you down voting this? She's largely correct. Quaid's character was a grotesque parody of a Hollywood producer, an image they've earned over the years, by the way. Also, and this is always overlooked, he was right. Ratings skyrocketed after Elizabeth was replaced. Dennis Quaid exists because the audience demands he exist, he gives the people what they want, and in this case, the people were other women, the traditional demographic for a workout show. No one here escapes unscathed. A…
/r/MensRights16/10/25 03:45 PM
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Public condemnation, not celebration. A reminder that attacking people instead of ideas is weak and hateful and shameful. A public apology. See how easy that is?
/r/MensRights07/10/25 04:29 PM
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She made the kind of comment you'd see on the tea app, then followed it up on X with the kind of comment you find daily on TikTok from women laughing at men on the tea app. I don't really care whose politics you like. She's normalizing mocking men and laughing about it without consequence. It's no different than the mean girl making fun of a boy in school her friend group doesn't like, and that should always be condemned.
/r/MensRights07/10/25 11:56 AM
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No need to sympathize with him to condemn her. Two separate actions. She's normalizing mocking men for appearance. Don't like his ideas? Great. Attack the ideas. This really should be obvious to everyone.
/r/MensRights07/10/25 11:51 AM
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Women's colleges didn't exist in the Fifties? Huh.
/r/MensRights03/10/25 02:51 AM
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Buying stock in battery companies right now.
/r/MensRights03/10/25 02:48 AM
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Is the documentary available for viewing?
/r/MensRights02/10/25 11:43 PM
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Focus on fairness. A lot of people recognize unfair practices for what they are and don't like them, but also don't want to be linked to MRA or "incels," a word that is so overused it has lost all meaning. Example: paternity by estoppel laws, forcing a man to support a child that isn't his. Focus on boys. We have a natural tendency to protect children. As I said the other day here, boys did fine in school for many decades. What has changed? If it were any other group, people would be saying it's…
/r/MensRights01/10/25 03:49 PM
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I have to push back on this a little, because for years and years, boys did just fine in the standard education model. Same in the UK, where boys were often in single sex schools memorizing Latin conjugations, which can be really boring and repetitive, but they were kept in line by male teachers and their own expectations of themselves to succeed. In this way, they learned self-discipline. I think expectations for boys have been lowered, with female teachers just wanting them out of their classr…
/r/MensRights29/09/25 08:16 AM
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Online or irl? There's usually no point in arguing irl. Online it's sometimes worth it, depending on the forum. If it's all feminists there, don't bother. However, if there are a lot of people there, I think it's sometimes worth it, because I'm not arguing with her, but for people that might read it, so my only objective is to discredit her. One of the ways I do that is to never engage in ad hominem attacks and always stay relentlessly on topic, because most people, when unable to counter facts,…
/r/MensRights27/09/25 02:29 PM
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Her entire account is about hating men, that's all she does. Men cannot do the same about women, of course. Their accounts will be banned. Just another privilege women have in this society.
/r/MensRights20/09/25 10:15 PM
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He mentioned that his country has a national age of consent law, so I figured he's not in the US.
/r/MensRights06/09/25 08:21 PM
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If it were me, I would absolutely NOT send a photo. God only knows where she'll post it. Maybe she just wants an updated one to replace one you don't even know about, possibly a Telegram or private Discord account. Be safe and block her is my advice, and be suspicious of that friend who knows her, too.
/r/MensRights05/09/25 11:26 PM
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Also, boys are graded more harshly than girls. https://www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorrison/2022/10/17/teachers-are-hard-wired-to-give-girls-better-grades-study-says/
/r/MensRights05/09/25 07:15 PM
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Wow. If they didn't have the money to hire a forensic expert, that guy would have been convicted. Madness.
/r/MensRights16/08/25 04:03 PM
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