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BR is fine I'm not hating on it just haven't really seen it in rotation much in a while. For jeans I really like Naked and Famous. But Levi, Uniqlo, and Lucky all look good too for way less. Rag and Bone isn't cheap but the best fitting best looking and softest jeans ever.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 02:21 AM
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Uniqlo, Ralph Lauren, Brooks Brothers, Theory, maybe J Crew/Ludlow. Don't sleep on Goodfellow for budget style.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 02:05 AM
0

Banana Republic lol is this 2000
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 11:02 PM
6

If you're in shape, it's amazing. First year after divorce was meh but I locked in and got lean and muscular, dropped 70 lbs and then bulked back up with weightlifting and dated girls from 25-45 (as 38). Now in a LTR with a 11/10 girl who is 30 and super high sex drive.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 10:59 PM
17

Dude she made her bed. Somewhere else. Don't sweat it too much.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 10:13 PM
5

For my ex it was her sister, she even did the EXACT same cheating with a coworker who had the exact same name as her sister's AP. Absolutely bonkers.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 08:09 PM
5

Basically could have written this myself
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 06:29 PM
8

Same story post kids she became a cold hard bitch
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 11:52 PM
4

What is Do They Swipe? I Googled but can't find this magical service.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 08:39 PM
4

Take her away from her responsibility. These hos cheat because these guys convince them to take up a new hobby with them or whatever and leave responsibility to the chump at home. Most of these women I've determined are lazy and should never have become wives or mothers because they just want to party and be hos.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 11:03 AM
17

If your weekends suck, that's on you. You're free now. Go to the gym. Hike. Paddle. Ride. Go out with hot girls. Eat at a fun restaurant. Read a book on the beach. Go camping. Go fishing. The possibilities are endless.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 11:55 PM
13

Mine did the same for years bringing him over to have dinner with us. Fucking whore.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 11:21 AM
3

Seems like you're getting a lot of different advice in here, mostly from people telling you not to get married again. I'm in your similar boat in some ways because I really do want to be settled down and have that peaceful life. Sitting on the couch reading books next to my partner and just chilling and I have found someone recently who is actually 10 years younger than me and have amazing sex and it's just been great for the last 6 months that I've known her. I'm not jumping into marriage anyti…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 12:49 PM
50

Stop putting whores on pedestals and treat the good woman you have now right.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 01:52 AM
12

My ex actually told me we had a chance and she wanted to go on dates with me again, it was just her way of buying more time. I was excited to take her to dinner on a date one night after finally convincing her to get a sitter, and at that dinner in the middle of the restaurant is where she told me she wanted to divorce, then she proceeded to tell me the whole timeline she had planned for when I would move out, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 02:00 AM
12

Mine too claimed anxiety was the cause for her being a total piece of shit, yet she wasn't too nervous to go whoring around.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 10:08 AM
7

This is so spot on for my ex. She gave away her family to get a house on the golf course with a bald stuttering old man.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 03:15 AM
3

Do you not have a lawyer? It sounds like you don't understand your legal rights and are being a pushover as a result.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 12:31 PM
14

Definitely years before she told me she wanted to separate. Bitch even brought the guy to our house multiple times to have drinks and dinner and my dumb ass thought it was just a work happy hour as she said.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 10:12 PM
7

Bro I'm a few years out and let me give you the best solid advice - spend all your free time locked in for 1-2 years getting RIPPED then go date a late 20s / early 30s girl and forget all of life's troubles. I'm happier than a pig in shit.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 01:20 AM
9

My ex's AP is like ashamed which he should be of course but it's kinda laughable. He hides. He's never shown his face anywhere, never home when he knows I'll be picking up the kids, never once in 3+ years has been in the car with my ex when she is picking up the kids, my old neighbors say he won't come out when they are around and ducks around so as to not speak to them. I can only wonder what it's like at their work where she is his supervisor. The whole thing is honestly hilarious now to me be…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 01:02 AM
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It took seven years to realize this? Go to the fucking gym already my dude.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 02:34 AM
7

Probably gonna have to get over the tattoo thing in this day and age. Some tasteful tats can be hot, though of course entire body coverage or face/neck are a deal breaker.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 10:10 PM
2

She isn't old enough to drive so how is she going to her mom's unless you are giving in instead of following the settlement agreement?
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 05:19 AM
2

Unless she has the cash on hand to buy you out, she's also going to have to re fi the house to buy you out and will end up with a higher rate also. If that's not the case and she does have the cash, then you just gotta accept she is making out better OR force a sale. You could ask for an additional one-time payout but good luck getting that, typically just not how it works. One additional thing I was able to get was because we bought the house before being married by a few months and I had paid …
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/25 12:09 PM
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I've felt what you feel, and I know it seems impossible but 3 years later and I'm HAPPIER than ever in my life and see that I'm better without her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/25 03:52 AM
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Man get in writing in the settlement agreement that you retain responsibility for the brokerage account and get that shit signed as soon as possible, then cash out and put it all in the ETFs. Then sell enough to drive a sports car over to pick up the kids and make her wonder how stupid she is.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 11:31 AM
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A tale as old as time. Could've written it myself.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/25 11:53 AM
4

TikTok and lust of money got mine
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 09:48 PM
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Have you sister hold the money. Don't tell your lawyer or your ex. Get this divorce finalized ASAP. Then and only then inherit the money. She can't have inheritance in most states but also don't want your lawyer drooling over it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 12:09 PM
11

Hydrate
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 12:36 PM
10

This is exactly their playbook man. For mine it was a golf miniskirt to start whoring it up until she got a man to buy her a country club house.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 12:45 AM
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Man you described me almost exactly. I started eating clean, tracked EVERYTHING, and worked HARD at the gym 5-6 days a week lifting HEAVY. Within one year I was getting plenty of dates but the 2 year mark really paid off and started to see the gains explode after a lot of fat loss and bulking back up. I also got serious about my career after some coasting and doubled my salary to well over $300K. Since you can move anywhere I'd say go somewhere very urban with lots of young hotties preferably im…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/25 12:45 PM
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No it's exclusively women
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 01:50 PM
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The apps are useless and mostly fake profiles. Bumble ended up being the best one and is worth a few swipes. Joining meetup clubs and going to bars and stuff for me personally never worked, everyone there was with someone already or not in the right age range or looks range. My recommendation to everyone is look into Asian girls. They are more traditional and loyal. Hang out at bubble tea shops, Asian cafes and bakeries, Asian grocery stores, etc. They're incredibly beautiful, hairless in most p…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 12:02 PM
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Possible the court could order the bank to disclose more info.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 12:13 PM
1

Not necessarily. All depends on what you negotiate in your settlement agreement. My ex and I each kept our vehicles we used. If no agreement can be reached then ultimately the court would make you sell and split the proceeds but at least you get half the money still and some motorcycle time until then lol.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 12:12 PM
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Buy a motorcycle
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 04:31 PM
3

Never lie during discovery on the divorce proceedings. They will uncover the records and then you'll be fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 04:31 PM
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Just being very specific and clear and open up front about what I want and who I am and passing at any sign that she's not 100% looking for the same.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 12:32 AM
9

Yup. I was devastated for a year. But now I realize how awful she was and I just took the abuse now that I'm in a loving relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 12:48 AM
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The spark leaves when the coworker's dick enters their vagina.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 10:40 AM
3

Anything but entitled white women
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 10:27 AM
3

Go Asian
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:12 AM
5

Please call 988
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 10:26 PM
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I didn't have to find out. She was brazen enough to straight up tell me she was doing happy hour with the guy multiple times and my dumb ass thought no way she has any feelings for this balding stuttering old guy who looks like an emu. But I guess family money will do things.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 10:43 AM
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RIP
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 12:49 AM
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Why hide if y'all have already decided to separate? This one is fishy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 08:36 PM
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Totally disagree. If you are with someone who has children from another man you are essentially cucking yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 05:22 PM
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Absolutely not worth it. It leads to kids and then you get divorced and have to still pay for kids and stay local to her if you want some custody. Otherwise I'd have freedom to travel or work a different job in another city. But I'm stuck for 14 more years.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 10:45 AM
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Omg yes. My ex made us have a whole shed JUST for Christmas. And guess who had to carry the huge boxes back and forth every year.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 12:18 AM
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Damn I should have tried this strategy at least once before getting recommitted lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 12:36 PM
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If you don't have a final order of divorce signed by a judge, you're not divorced lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 12:34 PM
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One year No Shitty on the apps, but people don't go to third spaces and meetups anymore under 50 Tips wise, just have REALLY fit body and REALLY good app photos and then pay for premium on Hinge
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 12:30 PM
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Same
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 01:20 AM
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Yeah not saying the ex wife's behavior was good here but IMO he was asking to get caught with ammunition against him to use down the road by dropping the kids to go hang with the girlfriend. Priorities man. And don't ever give such easy points away because women will take every opportunity to win one over on you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 12:07 AM
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Since I get less time with my kids now I don't leave them anywhere on my time.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 10:34 PM
6

Buddy I say this with a lot of love bro -- Get a lawyer. File now before she does. Move on. I know it feels hard to do but she's clearly been fucking other guys a long time and will never stop gaslighting you. She's for the streets. Work past it and gray rock the fuck out of her. If you haven't read No More Mr. Nice Guy you absolutely need to.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 04:27 PM
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Not for ADULT kids. That's fuckin weird.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 01:15 AM
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Only for a time at best
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 11:42 AM
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She's trying to cuck you until the next sucker comes along. No way man. If you consider it for a second think of this, do you really want to kiss a mouth where another cock just bursted in?
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 12:57 AM
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Lack of genuine desire. My current girlfriend will drive an hour out of the blue because she wants to fuck me so badly. My ex wife even when we were dating was not very sexual.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 02:18 PM
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Stop doing this. Be firm. Show no emotion. Get a lawyer. End it. Gray rock her. She's for the streets.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 11:17 AM
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It bothers me that she hasn't changed it back. The cheating ho doesn't deserve it. On the other hand, it's hilarious her boyfriend is fucking someone with my last name and has to see it and think about me cumming in there hundreds of times and making two kids come out of there.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 12:33 PM
4

Sounds like you need to lock it down
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 01:00 PM
4

I lost 70 lbs and got muscular in 1.5 years after separation and have been drowning in pussy since doing so. 3 days a week HEAVY weightlifting. I didn't even bother with a split until I got fit enough to target specific areas. Just hit the dumbbells to warm up then pound the machines. Hit the sauna after for 15-20 minutes. Rest day. 1 day per week run. Start with whatever you can do, walk, jog, whatever, but do 2 miles. Watch Netflix if you have to. Keep working up your distance over the months.…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 12:08 AM
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It'll cost a minimum $10K more.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 12:02 AM
0

Not worth pursuing honestly. I went down that road in Virginia and had lots of evidence but it was still going to be costly just to go to court and say she got tired of sleeping with me first.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 09:58 PM
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Don't bother with at fault in Virginia. Trust me. Not worth the cost and time. You'll still get out of this financially better because she makes so much more than you. Your lawyer will likely advise the same. (I live in Northern Virginia)
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 09:56 PM
2

You're in a great position to love like a king here.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 09:55 PM
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Don't simp. She's done. Hit the gym and transform into a beast, and lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 08:56 PM
6

I don't understand why it's even a question. The state formula and/or your agreement should have this all stipulated in writing.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 08:11 PM
3

She claimed she did and just sweat a lot lol
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 06:15 PM
4

Every woman in her family divorced and shacked up with a coworker just like she ended up doing She would rather pop pills than seek therapy and deal with her anxiety Daddy issues She was bad at sex and before we got engaged I kept hooking up with women I was more attracted to sexually but convinced myself I loved her enough to stop and settle down She was super lazy about chores and I ended up with a lot of resentment from doing everything She had a stinky butt that grossed me out in any positio…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:26 AM
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I definitely came out stronger. The free time I gained without her bullshit helped me land a job that DOUBLED my salary to make over $300K now. Luckily we split finances 50/50 and there was no hidden debt.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 07:27 PM
6

Hell no she's for the streets
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 07:05 PM
6

Dude unfortunately the ring will get you suuuuuch a tiny percentage at resale it's not worth it. I sold my platinum and diamond men's wedding band for less than $1K was the best price I could get
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 12:16 PM
1

This is completely false
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 11:16 PM
9

Until the first time I fucked someone hotter than her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 08:30 AM
1

We had the MSA done and dusted about five months into separation, so the final order just referenced that and was really just a formality.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 02:30 AM
1

My state requires a year with kids in terms of separation, after filing exactly at one year it took about a month for the court to send the final document.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 11:38 PM
4

I guess my 'serious' relationship basically is a FWB. We live 45 apart and see each other every other weekend and mostly just go to dinner then have lots of sex. Been going this way for like almost a year LOL
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 12:06 AM
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Honestly I just like having sex on the regular with one person who are really into and know isn't going to give me an STD
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 08:19 PM
3

Yuuuuuup
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 07:16 PM
8

Welcome to the club. Hit the gym. Go hiking and camping. Don't simp. Don't cry over her. It's done, seriously, don't bother hoping otherwise. The less time you waste becoming super powered the faster you move on and upgrade. I promise you this.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 12:01 PM
4

Yup, meanwhile they'll swallow a lot of cocks
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 12:54 PM
1

Yeah the AMPs can def get you through the dry spells
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 12:36 PM
3

Go for a long hike in nature. Be alone with your thoughts. Leave them in the woods. Come back a new man.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 11:43 AM
1

The things you bolded it out are very much what the reason is for probably most of us here and I very much resonate with them, it was way too late and after she had asked to separate when I finally read no more Mr. Nice Guy and realized where I had f***** up and why she was a cheater
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 12:23 PM
1

Yup you're right
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 04:50 PM
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Man you described my situation entirely. Both what she did and how I feel co-parenting. I gray rock her so good then I get the kids and suddenly send her pictures and chat about kid stuff over text that turns into other friendly conversations and suddenly I'm like FUCK why am I being nice to this slut??
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:02 PM
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I've had the same issues initially but now that I'm six months exclusive with a new gf it's back to normal. It's a comfort thing and getting to a spot where you can do the things that turn you on knowing it won't turn her off. I like dirty talk, putting a finger in her ass, choking (gently) as I pound her, just getting really dirrrty and now that I know she's into that things are fun and I come so hard.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 05:47 PM
0

This was my situation right here. She was soooo tired when she got pregnant she couldn't do a single chore. It eventually became too much I hired help, and after the kid was older she wanted to keep the lifestyle. Fine, I allowed it but I still got nothing in return, except that is for her cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 11:19 PM
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Honestly yeah, but I overlooked it because she was from my home town and I thought she would be more down to earth and in touch with reality and thought she'd learned some lessons. As I met my father in law much later, her ex, I came to realize all the stories I'd heard about him had to be made up because he was such a good guy. I was unfortunately already married many years by this point (my own ex had been estranged from her father a while and eventually reconciled because he's rich). My ex MI…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 04:45 PM
1

I'll check it out. I also read Rational Male and Alpha Unplugged
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 01:59 AM
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Yep. When I read No More Mr Nice Guy after my separation, I was like WHY IS THIS NOT TAUGHT IN SCHOOL lol
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 09:43 PM
22

You honestly type like a crazy person and sound mentally unhinged my dude. I think you need psychiatrist help and probably this is just one minor instance of many as to why she wants a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 02:49 PM
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This is it
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 12:09 AM
9

I know it's almost inconceivable right now, but she did you a favor. You'll look back in a year or two wondering how you ever put up with the unhappiness thinking it was just a numb married feeling everyone has. You don't realize how toxic a partner like that is until you experience true love and respect. I was someone who broke down crying daily for 2-3 months and now I feel so ashamed of that weak person who shed tears over a woman who didn't care about her vows. Now about 1.5 years later I ha…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 04:22 AM
3

Lol right
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 01:30 AM
10

Yep 100%. I go to pick up my kids and her dishes, laundry, garage junk are all piled high.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 08:34 PM
2

Yeah that might be a different beast. Or beaver.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 02:40 AM
2

I did for a few months. I have so many plates to spin now I don't need it, it got me a network of honies that should last a good while.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 02:39 AM
2

Man maybe the location, what area of the country? I'm in a major metropolitan area and it's like a buffet. Have you tried Bumble? It's awesome because the women are forced to message first so there's more interest when they reach out.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 05:51 PM
3

Honestly it sucks that it's this way but seems you'll spend less than legal. Take the deal.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 06:34 AM
5

I wish she would change it back, she doesn't deserve it
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 01:40 PM
2

I always thought I wanted a girlfriend, but man it is so much work and even when she's not a gold digger or princess type just all the doing activities together and stuff and buying Christmas presents and stuff gets expensive. Plus you lose so much free time. Such a trade off for a steady supply of exclusive sex to where sometimes I wonder if just pretending an escort is something she isn't once in a while would be the better option plus I could have variety.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 11:48 AM
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Nope, but the gym definitely did
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 02:56 PM
3

Nah. Attorney is a small percentage and not even a true percentage, just an hourly rate. The more you negotiate with your STBX up front the fewer rounds of review of the agreement the lawyer needs. Mine was like $450 an hour but had her paralegal do half the work at half that rate.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 11:52 AM
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Bro I could've written this. Only change would be mine was addicted to TikTok instead of Facebook.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 06:41 PM
2

I made out well because at the time our salaries were equal and we did 50% custody. So no alimony or child support, split bank accounts down the middle, and she had to buy out my home equity plus my premarital down payment. Funny thing is if she had been loyal she could be a stay at home mom because without all the extra time I had to spend doing all the house and kid chores she wouldn't do while she napped and scrolled TikTok on the couch, I've been able to job hunt and DOUBLE my salary after t…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 06:17 PM
3

Wow learn to control your emotions and you might not need pills my friend. Trust me, my ex was the same way and those pills turned her into an evil creature. Be careful with them. Wish you luck.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 10:26 PM
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Anxiety isn't real
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:49 PM
2

Yup. SSRIs are what made my ex crazy AF. Hell they nearly made her suicidal to treat 'anxiety' aka softness from growing up in cushy suburbia.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:48 PM
2

Nah fuck that. Those pills are poison. They have fucked up so many people I have seen. No better medicine than the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 03:48 PM
5

You're separated. Fuck whoever you want.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 08:17 PM
9

PPD made mine crazy too. Soon she'll want you do to everything, hire a maid, etc, so she can doll up and go out to cheat and escape her stressful mom life that SHE wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 01:50 PM
28

Do not leave. She needs to buy you out or sell.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 11:24 PM
11

Take a page out of their playbook and divorce her and get some alimony. Equality.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 10:45 PM
8

Sounds like you're both shit shows that shouldn't have a kid sadly
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 05:14 PM
7

Dude no, they are trying to make you legally on the hook for abandonment.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 12:39 PM
1

Hard agree with Bumble
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 08:02 PM
1

Yeah this is true. Literally unless there's some out of the ordinary case or the guy is not getting good legal advice almost everywhere in every scenario it's going to be a 50/50 split. Only thing in my case that was different was we bought our home before we were married so she had to pay out not only my equity buy pay me back my part of the down payment which was significantly larger.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 06:47 PM
1

I could have written this myself, my guy
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 03:11 PM
1

Going to court is just stupid for most states it's going to be split 50/50 regardless. I'm lucky that my ex didn't make things go to court and just listen to our lawyers who told us that going to court is pointless in our state.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 03:10 PM
1

Oh I'm bracing for it and will move to get the kids full time
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 01:14 PM
2

Yes
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 08:43 PM
1

Lol no idea but he's taking her on golfing trips so I guess she's living her best life. No worries that she split up a family with young children and should be focused on being a mom and wife.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 08:11 PM
2

You'll rebuild stronger over time. You probably are but make sure you're weightlifting 3-5 times a week. I promise it's the best medicine.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 01:24 PM
2

She had a total midlife crisis after developing severe anxiety and panic attacks and getting heavily medicated. She invented a narrative that our life together was never good and that she needed to be with someone who would support her becoming a pro golfer at age 40.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 01:21 PM
2

Feel you bro. Except the sex part, I'm at least getting laid regularly now lol.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 03:57 AM
6

Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 02:50 AM
4

I don't hate women. Hell half my life problems are because of quite the opposite. What I am now more aware of and convinced of due to firsthand experience is the hypergamy of women and the games they play. I'm aware that I need to maintain a very specific masculine frame that takes a lot of work. I'm aware that I need to have less blind trust and protect myself legally should I ever get seriously involved with one again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 02:19 PM
1

Honestly homie you put yourself in this situation by continuing to contact her. Apparently you can't learn your lesson. Have fun in the streets and prison and if you ever recover from this don't let a woman keep baiting you. It's so obvious what she's doing.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 12:41 PM
3

Hell no that never works.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 04:09 AM
1

I was actually going to do that but then determined there was no point because she almost never wanted to have sex. Lucky I didn't since she went off her rocker and we got divorced. It seems that most women I've dated lately, all in late 20s or early 30s, want kids, so I may end up having another. I love kids personally.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 12:51 PM
3

Oh yeah great point. My ex claimed that birth control made her fat and sad, so she never went back on either. As you said that meant we never could have sex spontaneously and always had to use condoms which we all know sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 01:05 PM
7

Is your wife on medication? For me the worst drought came with anxiety meds and then that led to a total personality change, cheating, and making up a story about our life that justified divorce in her mind.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:40 PM
4

The antidepressants for sure. That was the final straw, anxiety meds, that made my ex completely asexual and also turned her so crazy she quit her family life and decided she could become a pro golfer at 40.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:32 PM
1

Bro I know this isn't easy, but DO NOT go to Hawaii. For all the reasons everyone already described.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 03:32 PM
5

My ex didn't pull her weight so I was exhausted from all the stuff including kids she wouldn't do. I just needed an escape that I could do late at night with zero energy. So I just played video games until I fell asleep. She over planned our days and weekends mostly with shit her mom wanted to do. Plus she always dragged in tons of junk food. Once I had time and controlled my own diet I lost 75 lbs in a year.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 04:02 AM
1

Low cost might be a misnomer given we each ended up paying about $5K in lawyer fees just to get all the paperwork done. But overall compared to most I got super lucky. This stems primarily from the fact my ex and I had the same exact salary at the time she asked for separation. So no alimony or child support was possible. Plus she was the one cheating and just wanted an easy out to go be with her AP. She was willing to be nice to make things move faster. She did try to get more custody than 50% …
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 06:14 PM
1

Get a lawyer and serve her papers at dinner.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:29 AM
1

Go to the AMP a few times and once you're comfortable playing grab ass and flirting with the girls there and getting a good happy ending instead of being nervous about it, you'll know you're ready for the real deal. Start off by eating her pussy real good and you'll be hard as a rock and she'll be begging you to pound her into oblivion.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 01:04 PM
2

Bro you wouldn't be posting here if you didn't already know the right answer. Move and never talk to her again. Find someone who lights up for you and shows effort.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 07:19 PM
3

Lol welcome to women
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 11:52 PM
1

This is why you just do an MSA and handle everything yourselves prior to a final order
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 09:56 PM
2

I got to the point I had to donate all of my clothes that she had bought me over the years for Christmas or even just randomly at Costco. I ended up clearing every single reminder away so that it's like she never existed f*** her
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 01:14 PM
2

You need a gym membership and to plan some long back country hikes my brother
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 05:42 PM
2

I could have written this lol. She played the victim card from the day after she told me she was pregnant with our first. It was nearly 7 years of naps on the couch with Hallmark movies on until she Hallmarked her coworker.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 03:22 AM
3

This right here. Learn from our mistakes
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 02:53 PM
4

Jesus I could've written this myself
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 01:25 PM
1

You need to get over it and move on or you're in for so much disappointment. She was 100% banging him beforehand and now he's done with her and you're about to cuck right back in. It'll happen again, she is for the streets. Get a good lawyer and serve her.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 02:41 AM
1

Zero percent man. I went down that road and wasted too much time and energy.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:56 PM
2

Me too man about a month ago, year after separation, hot little thing that treats me like a king and doesn't give a shit if I'm gaming or camping with the boys. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 11:04 PM
3

It seems hard now, but 100% I promise once you're Jacked a year from now and have your peace back and are fucking a hot little thing you never dreamed of pulling you'll wonder what the hell you were trying to repair with her worthless ass that didn't value you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 12:25 PM
1

Best comment spot on
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 09:41 PM
12

Don't bother fixing her, been there, regretted that. Get yours and get officially separated and then divorced ASAP. Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 11:35 PM
2

Pretty sure it ended my marriage by amplifying my ex's anxiety to full blown panic attacks and a desire to 'escape' isolation by going wild. Soon as she was vaxxed, she started partying until 4am, cheating I'm sure, and 2 months later asked for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 03:22 PM
19

Married women have lots of sex, with other people, in my experience
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 11:49 AM
-1

Will sign a prenup Doesn't mind being step mommy but doesn't want kids or have them Decent cook Actually likes masculine men and being a feminine woman who is at least somewhat serving and domesticated Probably Asian for the smooth skin and good aging High sex drive (2-3x a day) Doesn't have any bad habits (eg smoking) Will actually be loyal
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 11:47 PM
0

No because despite being an OK looking woman, she looks so much older than the chicks I'm fucking now
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 10:40 AM
3

Preach brother
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 11:51 AM
3

I met someone two months ago, one year separation divorce is being filed this week. Every time I see my new girl we fuck no less than three times a day, and she proactively gives me head and swallows. She also feeds me, brings me water, massages me after the gym... I know it's a trap, but I'm loving it and also not dumb enough to get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 11:50 AM
1

I think you know the answer, she's getting it elsewhere
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 03:23 AM
6

She's putting on a good show but your gut was right, she's likely cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 09:43 PM
1

Just get divorced ASAP man, I know it's hard AF early on but I don't think a single one of us a year out would want to go back. Freedom is an amazing thing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 08:52 PM
3

Never worked for me, but I've been drowning in pussy on Bumble and I'm just super average looking. Lots of girls who fuck on first or second date too!
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 10:36 PM
6

I have no answers for you, but I can tell you once you start meeting other women and playing the field and getting in the best shape of your life it's funny how fast you won't care about her or feel this way anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 11:29 AM
3

I can't believe what is going on in our society. Modern American women have gone off the deep end. No value in commitment or vows or trying to work at a lifelong relationship. I knew divorce was common but it feels like it's going even crazier lately. I went on a hike with a Meetup group BOOM met a guy in the EXACT same boat as me (basically the situation you describe). Tonight I meet a friend from my kid's school (another dad of a friend she plays with). He tells me his wife just pulled the sam…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 03:44 AM
2

She had a mental breakdown from anxiety and I had never been around that, panic attacks and all that ever in my life. I didn't know what to do or fully understand it. Rather than seeking therapy, she got drugged up which made her sexless and cold toward me. That just grew the resentment and I withdrew more when she wanted me to be her therapist.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 01:27 PM
5

Bro go ahead and serve her papers. Mine was exactly like this and I regret how many years I put up with it until she decided to run off with another guy and serve me instead and leave me with all the duties.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 03:54 PM
2

Buck up, get a lawyer, and serve her my dude. If she's no contact that long she's not the woman who will add value to your life. I know it seems unimaginable but hit the gym 5 days a week for six months straight, then tell me you don't start finding better women.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 02:31 PM
3

Lol wow, but yeah mine really just tried to flip it back on me saying "well you didn't even want to marry me" which yeah shoulda stuck with my gut huh
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 02:26 AM
8

Bro same, it's because they're seeing someone else and don't actually want to work on a marriage or honor their vows.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 12:25 AM
1

Mine went batshit literally days after our oldest kid was born and it's just been downhill ever since.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 09:45 PM
1

This is the best advice
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 11:55 AM
4

Grey rock you're being dumb
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 03:31 AM
1

Yep as an older guy late 30s these late 20s chicas are eating it up. Drowning in pussy and a year ago I was getting no sex and nagged constantly! I honestly don't know why I fought so hard to keep that life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 08:56 PM
1

Right?! I'm kinda like damn why did I ever get married again?? Lol
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 12:12 PM
1

Yeah I just make sure not to match with any women over 5'8" unless they are a 10 and I want to throw a Hail Mary lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 11:37 AM
2

Verified profile Job listed as partner at a major firm Photos are a mix of me hiking, flexing at the gym, and just selfies smiling in casual clothes and one in a suit Intro talks about looking for a woman who adds value to my life and describes my hobbies Other prompt questions speak about direct communication, physical touch as my love language, and mental health being important to me
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 11:36 AM
1

I never thought I was short but man always seems like these six footers walking around every event I'm at. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 11:30 AM
3

Yes this!!! Hell I'm a short king at 5' 10" and having success, jealous of your height ahaha
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 03:00 AM
6

It's been a mix for me. I got no qualms about smashing a MILF with a couple kids, I'm not gonna marry her (or remarry at all)
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 02:59 AM
9

Very much the same brother. I was doing 80% of the child raising and house cleaning and chores plus working full-time while she decided to go out and be a w**** among those on the golf course.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 05:57 PM
21

A woman not communicating and then a year later dropping the bomb? Ah, a tale as old as time.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 05:54 PM
13

My wife made a lot less than me for 10 years, then the year (last year) that she got a salary that was within a few pennies of mine she suddenly wanted divorce. I helped support her for years and let her pressure me into a big engagement trip, buying a house, marriage, honeymoon in Paris, 2 kids, and then as soon as she didn't need me anymore, discarded to the side so she could chase a co-worker almost a decade older and spend all her time golfing (she never golfed before, but she likes the perc…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 04:27 AM
6

I don't even think I want to live with a woman again or commit in a big way to any kind of relationship with a woman ever again. It's not worth the time suck and hassle and nagging that I can avoid just living on my own efficiently, and I don't ever want to go through this whole vicious cycle again where she starts out amazing then becomes an alien after wasting 10 years of my life. Second marriages have even worse statistics, and I'm a pretty big numbers guy. Nah, no 2nd marriage here for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 04:22 AM
1

Hear hear!
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 11:13 AM
2

I never cheated once we said our vows and had kids, was fully committed, but in retrospect wish I had cheated because I had to deal with her asexualness and then she still ended up wanting a divorce despite my loyalty. So I know you might regret cheating, but don't. If she wasn't satisfying you then oh well.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 08:18 PM
2

What are the subs/sites in reference to? Do they just say escorts?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:22 AM
1

What's your recommendation for how to get started there
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:48 AM
2

Call 988 and ask them what to do
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:18 AM
11

Story of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 03:18 PM
4

Same, I can't wait until she realizes life isn't a Hallmark movie. I'm just going to laugh at her because at least now I'm free.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 11:46 PM
5

Call 988 my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 10:56 PM
1

Turns out women can be pretty predictable and shitty
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 10:55 PM
1

Weird thing man is I always tried to cook too for this reason but she was adamant that her burnt meals tasted better
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 09:30 PM
1

Lmao wow wow, classic
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 09:29 PM
1

Lol that's crazy
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 04:22 PM
1

Nah it's over, and I'm glad!!
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 04:21 PM
2

Thanks brother
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 10:56 AM
3

Bro this is why I didn't even bother. At least I saved the money to hand down to my kids someday or spend on them when they're with me instead of giving it up to greedy lawyers. Even though I have meticulous notes of all the time I've spent and all the days their mom was never around, I just knew the court costs alone if on the slim chance I could get 50/50 at best would be draining for a lifetime. Instead I played hardball on a bunch of other areas to wear her down and use as a negotiation tact…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 02:36 AM
0

Why do you even pick up the phone for a crack hoe?
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 11:34 AM
8

Why you cucking bro
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 05:15 AM
5

It's not you bro. Same thing happened to me. These women are just extremely entitled and selfish.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 08:50 PM
1

Sounds like you don't have a lawyer??
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 03:26 PM
13

If he's in it for more than fun he didn't learn his lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 02:09 AM
2

Well played
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 01:58 AM
5

My STBXW is lazy AF. I stopped putting away her laundry for her when she said she wanted to divorce and for like six months it's just stacking up in a chair.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 09:50 PM
1

Fuck man, yes!!! Wtf
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 09:47 PM
5

Omfg are you me?? Yesss dude yes!! Like what the fuck!! And they refused to get a tent that worked properly and always thought it was no big deal for me to set up the rickety rusty 20 yr old tent they had.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 09:46 PM
9

Omg these family beach stories. Who knew we all had to endure that bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 06:44 PM
3

Hahaha omg she going to start a MLM business too?
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 05:33 PM
5

My ex is the same way without being a lesbian. Then again it may turn out that she is.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 02:53 AM
2

Hahaha honestly I would've rather we split over that I think I'd have taken it a little better
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 10:55 PM
3

🎤
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 10:55 PM
9

Yep. Cards are stacked us against us. Wish I'd read No More Mr. Nice Guy in my 20s.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 08:27 PM
7

Oh I don't give a shit, in fact I relish in seeing how stupid her decision making has been because I know it's only a matter of time before she asks to come back and it's gonna be so satisfying to send her the Bugs Bunny NO meme.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 08:25 PM
5

Hahaha oh that's a good one
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 08:24 PM
3

Wowww
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 08:24 PM
3

Wow that is a good one lol
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 06:11 PM
13

Oh I'm almost 100% sure it's her little golfing boyfriend
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 06:10 PM
2

Just keep spinning those plates and having fun.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 04:29 AM
1

That sub is just full of women whining about how men didn't read their minds and then you get downvoted to oblivion when you call them on it LOL
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 11:54 AM
6

It's just their hypergamous nature and the faster you accept they are always on the hunt to trade up the better.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 01:02 AM
1

Sounds like karma already caught up to her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 04:18 AM
1

Like I could be getting 10 different pussies a week, I loved you so much that I committed to having your pussy 10 times a week instead, then suddenly you are asexual? Gimme a break.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 01:28 PM
1

There's a really good way to get a man in the bedroom every night if you really wanted him there instead of just wanted something to complain about....
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 07:10 PM
1

Oh hell yeah that... and f****** give you s*** because you're not in bed with them and it's like why do I want to sit there and stare at your back while you're looking at Instagram and tick tock and then falling directly asleep. We're not doing anything together, having any conversations, and we sure as hell aren't having sex.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 07:10 PM
1

Sounds like my stbxw. Nothing was good enough she just had a vendetta and hated me having any hobbies because she doesn't.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 11:08 AM
1

Sounds like you should hit it hard and quit it fast
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 04:00 AM
4

This is my experience. Nothing makes her content.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 06:14 AM
5

Because they want us fawning over them while they fall asleep to TikTok.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 06:13 AM
3

My stbxw same way. Nag constantly about gaming, doesn't want me spending time talking to my guy friends, etc. Meanwhile if I try to do something with her she blows it off or falls asleep. Forget anything romantic or sexual, once she had the kids she wanted and got herself doped up on anxiety meds she became asexual (until she decided to be a whore because she lost all her self worth having a midlife crisis realizing she was low sexual value about to hit 40). It's a shit test, tell her how it's g…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 07:12 PM
17

Hire a PI
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:07 PM
8

Damn this is exactly my experience. It's just so unbelievable.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 03:52 AM
4

Going female. I read up a lot and it was recommended the most so that you don't just look like a man team trying to steamroll team woman. Also the woman I've retained has literally written a book on divorce and is the best in the biz. She ain't cheap but she arms me with the homework to make the time she does spend more efficient.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/23 02:24 AM
2

I know this day is coming and I'm salivating over it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 08:03 PM
1

Yep just gonna have a lot of fun with coeds from here on lol
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:52 PM
2

Omg bro are you me??? Bitch literally sprung two kittens a few months apart on us less than a year before deciding she never wanted to get married in the first place (she was the one who pressured marriage).
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 01:36 PM
5

Bro exact same here. My STBXW literally cannot just be content and happy and is always searching for the next thing she needs... Engaged House Dogs Marriage Kid Second kid Cats Oh and now suddenly everything is my fault and she needs to chase something else including other men! Who knows what she'll decide she needs next.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 02:00 PM
15

Yep. My STBXW ultimatumed me into engagement, marriage, house buying, and kids all because of her own insecurities and lack of ever being content with anything and my dumb ass went hook line and sinker. Then after years when I was invested in all of it and actually doing well as a committed family man she decides it was all a mistake. Fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 11:10 PM
6

Smart man
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 11:08 PM
7

I honestly tried so damn hard to be a supportive husband, a feminist if you will, pulling waaaay more than my fair share around the house and kids, supporting her as she rose in her career, never complaining about any of it, always rearranging my schedule to be there for the kids when she couldn't be, the list goes on. I really wanted an equal relationship where I treated her as a modern woman. I gave her the perfect life. What did I get in return? A whole host of mental issues she wouldn't go t…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 08:50 PM
2

So many accurate comments in here.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 08:33 PM
3

Yeah I feel ya man, nearing 40 and mostly the 25 age range folks seem most interesting and attractive to me right now. Not to say there aren't some MILFs out there, but most of the women my age seem to lack the energy and speed and sex drive I would be looking for. Big sticking point with my ex was after she got on anxiety meds + had a second kid she became a space cadet with zero sex drive.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 01:46 PM
1

A little early in my journey to decide but I've certainly considered what you're saying
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 04:38 AM
1

Make sure your lawyer applies Brandenberg.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 12:00 PM
7

So true. My wife has everything and it's not good enough for her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 10:11 PM
2

You sound like my betraying ass wife. Didn't want marriage yet pressured me into it, had two kids, finally now decided out of the blue to tell me.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 01:08 PM
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