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The Doors’ ‘People Are Strange’ now officially peer-reviewed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:23 PM
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My experiences are split between the women of color from a working class background I grew up with and the white-dominated environment of the university. I don’t gravitate towards any particular type of woman; my tastes are rather eclectic and I’m usually taken off guard when I find myself especially attracted towards someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 05:10 PM
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I’m average at best, probably more below-average. In my previous relationship, I “got” sex on the second date, eager blowjobs, the offer of anal, and some expressed interest in threesomes. I’ve only dated one person so maybe I just really lucked out that one time but I honestly don’t think so. I believe that it is far from impossible for average men to find eager lovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:56 PM
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In most cases that phrase is just banter-y flirting. Don’t take it so seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:56 AM
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What’s there to elaborate? Trans women are women. If I’m attracted to a trans woman and we’re compatible I’d date her. The fuck do I care whether you think I’m “just spamming the party line”. Believe whatever you want about my sincerity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:23 PM
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Yes. Trans women are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:18 PM
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So? Not everybody who's fit goes to the gym but few people would suggest that going to the gym to get fit is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:27 AM
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Having consensual casual sex is not misogynistic. Seems pretty obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:17 AM
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The kind attractive people you’ve met were probably just more memorable to you on account of their attractiveness. I don’t think looks has much to do with kindness or having a pleasant personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:01 AM
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OLD is completely mainstream nowadays. Everybody’s on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:57 AM
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It’s a fine sentiment. The world is large and filled with people, thinking you’re that special that no one could be attracted to or compatible with you is folly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 01:25 PM
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Of course long term relationships can work out. Y'all don't know couples who've been together for 20, 30, or even 40 years and who are still happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 11:23 AM
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This post just screams "wait, women get to have sex while also having opinions on it?!?!"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:19 PM
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I don't think parents with childfree and/or single children blame anyone for it. Not the good ones at least. They might get sad about it but they're not going to cast any blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:13 PM
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I do alternate day fasting so I just fast for one whole day then eat the next. Rinse and repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:46 AM
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Women are individuals and like different things? I'm attracted to women who don't fit traditional views on femininity; it's not hard for me to believe that, similarly, there are women who are attracted to men who don't fit traditional views on masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 07:45 PM
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Yes, (political) values are very important to me. What people think and how people think about society, politics, history, and humanity matters a lot. I could never date someone whose politics were too different from mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:21 AM
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I do not have a list of desirable traits that I’m looking for. Nor do I have some imagined ideal person I compare others too. Every single time I’ve found someone especially attractive and desirable as a person it has come as an surprise to me. It’s only when I’ve found someone that I know what I was looking for or hell, that I was even looking for something in the first place. So if I ever settle down I’m sure it won’t feel like settling or compromising.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:56 AM
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Yes, I think a woman doing anything even remotely nice or polite is liable to be misinterpreted as interest. I also think situations of misinterpreted interest can range from very uncomfortable to downright dangerous and life-threatening for women so it makes complete sense that they'd rather avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:12 PM
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Skill doesn’t matter at all. Her enthusiasm and interest in sex do matter if we are to have sex though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 07:10 AM
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No. Virginity is a dumb concept and I don’t care whether someone is or is not a virgin. Of course, I was also a virgin till my mid-twenties myself so maybe my views are too biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 07:08 AM
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It is far from impossible to find women who find you viscerally attractive. Yes, even if you are average or below-average. You don't have to settle for a woman who has lowered her standards for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:41 AM
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I’m mainly attracted to faces so if I find a woman’s face attractive I’ll probably be okay with her body. So too skinny is when a woman’s face starts to look boney or emaciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:56 AM
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Women (rightly) think a lot less is expected of men w.r.t. relationships and courtship. Just in practical terms, before going on a date a woman will probably shave her legs and private parts and dress to the nines. A man, meanwhile, might pick a slightly nicer shirt than usual. When having sex, women are often expected to perform oral sex, even in casual and initial encounters. The same is not true for men. Men in relationships doing just a little bit of the housework are praised for it while it…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 03:48 PM
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Waiting before having sex seems like the easiest and safest method. ' The best way is probably to stop thinking of having sex as being used. Only every have sex when you really want it, with no further expectations. That way you'll never regret having it. Beyond that, just accept that ghosting, heartbreak, rejection, and failed relationships are all part of the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 03:39 PM
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I guess I regret that I didn't pursue romance and sex in my youth but I don't dwell on it. What's done is done. As to whether it's overrated... I lack the experience to say. I like the way it's portrayed in movies, books, TV shows, and music but I don't feel bitter or like I missed out or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 03:29 PM
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It does take effort, the amount of which differs per person. But something taking effort doesn’t take away from the fact that we’re more than capable of changing our situation. Most things take effort and the first step in pursuing what you want is putting in the effort necessary. And it’s not like other, “more normal”, people don’t have to put in effort with regards to friendships and romantic/sexual relationships. In some ways, our issue is not that we have to put in more effort but that we’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 03:56 PM
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Why you gotta hurt my feelings like this😭
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 03:23 PM
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Shyness, introvertedness, fear of rejection, insecurity. Maybe you'd call that divergent personality traits but they're pretty common. Give in too much to those traits and you'll easily end up alone. Growing up I was a pretty normal kid. I just had slightly more anxiety and a higher fear of risk than most kids. So while I had friends and flirted with girls, I didn't do as well as the average kid. My introverted nature meant I prefered solitary activities. The friendships I did have either didn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 03:13 PM
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I do agree that it has nothing to do with looks but I think divergent personality and malsocialization are kind of big words for something that's probably a lot simpler. Lack of romantic involvement can usually just be attributed to not going out much and lacking in friends. Now, you might call that malsocialization but I think that conjures up images of a large, near insurmountable, problem. I don't think that's usually the case. It's a situation that can be changed pretty easily. Go out more, …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 02:59 PM
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Lol it wasn’t that bad. Sure, they hit each other once but there were also some good times. They’re like a more interesting version of Eleanor and Chidi.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 11:01 AM
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It's not really all that healthy but I love the dynamic between Sam and Diane from Cheers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:12 AM
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Some of the most popular-with-women porn stars are guys like Owen Gray and James Deen. They're not really the 6ft ripped stud types. Instead, women like their faces and/or how passionate they are during their scenes. Y'all have such weird ideas about what women like in men. In my experience, men have much higher standards for what we consider muscular than women do. When a woman says someone has "nice arms" I can't help but think that she's talking about "Chris Evans curling a helicopter" arms b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 01:56 PM
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Do any of you really rank the women you know, date and/or sleep with this way? There is no hottest woman to me. It just doesn't work like that. When I find someone I hot I just find them hot, I don't judge them in relation to others. If your girl was being insecure because she was afraid that someone in your past was hotter, do you think she'd have point or would you think she was being silly. Because I'd 100% think she was being silly. The same goes for past sexual experiences btw. There's no "…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 03:36 PM
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I want to experience that moment where an older couple who’ve been together for ages and may have gotten into a bit of a rut remember why they’re together. When the love and lust between between them ignites again and they’re suddenly back to the lovesick initial period of their relationship. This scene from Moonstruck basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 06:17 AM
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Thinking of it in terms of men being creeps or abusive is kinda dumb. It’s not that most men are creeps and abusers in some kind of categorical sense, it’s that most men have engaged in creepy and even abusive behaviors. That doesn’t now mean they’re creeps or abusers for life. It means most women experience creepiness and abuse and have to be on guard around men. I can say that I have been creepy in the past. I may even have been abusive in some ways. I’m deeply sorry for that of course and bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 06:06 AM
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It is always okay to open your relationship up, one-sidedly or not, as long as it is something you and your partner are into. Why the fuck should anyone else care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 08:37 PM
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Do you pay for conversations, hugs, nights out with your friends, birthday parties, hiking trips with the buds, and so many other enjoyable social activities as well? Is it childish to think those things can be done "for free"? Having sex can just be a mutually enjoyable experience that everyone involved in does willingly and enthusiastically.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 09:28 AM
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This motherfucker died in 1936 my guy. I promise you, no serious anthropologist since the 1970s has classified existing cultures as dead because they “don’t care about the higher questions in life” or ranked cultures on how “advanced” their art is. This type of research is literally only interesting as an insight into the ways science was used to rationalize and justify certain beliefs and systems of oppression.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 07:20 AM
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This is one thing I purposefully have no opinion on. I was circumcised for religious reasons and I don’t mind it. I’ve become quite attached to the way my dick looks now. I’m no longer religious and haven’t seen many convincing non-religious arguments for why you’d circumcise but I personally just can’t be too against it. If I were to have a son this is a decision I’d leave entirely to the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 07:52 PM
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Look, I’m pretty damn blue pill but I don’t see why I should have any type of opinion about your situation. You do you boo. I think it’s pretty rich to act as if bluepillers are the ones overly invested in other people’s relationships when it is mostly red pillers and other manosphere-types with strong and very vocal opinions on “beta bucks” relationships, hotwife or cuckold relationships, the relationship between twitch streamers/OF producers and their fans, and so on. Not only do they judge th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 03:07 PM
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Oh I know it's not man-hating but I think the bar for feminist can be a little higher than just common decency. Otherwise, you run the risk of making almost everything into feminism and robbing the word of meaning and radical transformative power.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:20 PM
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Looking into a mirror for that long, especially during an activity that is all about my appearance, triggers my body dysmorphia. I can’t stand it and often leave the chair feeling horrible, even if I like the new cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:25 AM
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The only benefit I can think of is that not being submissive as a woman can mean being judged and policed on your behavior by others. I don’t know how prevalent that still is in mainstream western society but I know of several (sub)cultures where that’s the case. Of course, that’s hardly a real benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:18 AM
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None of those things are feminist. They’re just normal people stuff. Just cause someone’s not a raving lunatic like the manosphere dudes online doesn’t mean they’re feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:12 AM
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If you’re smart, don’t drink much, stay out of fights, display a friendly personality, and have no criminal history This is a fuckton of people. None of this makes someone boring or makes dating hard. Now, if someone has nothing else going for them except these things, i.e. no real hobbies, no real interests, no regular (social) activities, then yeah they could be boring and it would be an impediment to dating. Most of all though I think men who feel like they're too boring to date are usually s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 08:15 PM
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Lady from DMCV. I also wouldn't mind getting choked out by The Last of Us 2's Abby. Both of those closely resemble their face models though so maybe that's cheating. I can't really think of more stylized/less realistic fictional characters I find physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 02:27 PM
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I can understand feeling like this but I don't agree with it. You are just a set of behaviours, habits, actions, and ideas contained in a body. When those things change you change and so it makes perfect sense for others to see you differently as a result. Taking that personally is understandable but also mistaken IMO. If you start working out because you want a more muscular body, knowing full well that muscular bodies are considered conventionally attractive and perhaps even being motivated by…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:02 AM
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Not being in a relationship is not the same as being depressed. And I did not say anyone should choose to be happy. I said that they should look for alternate avenues for fulfilment, satisfaction, and happiness. Those other avenues can exist alongside looking for a relationship and/or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 10:46 AM
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They should make their happiness not contingent on relationships but that doesn’t mean they should stop dating. If they want sex or a relationship they should try to find them. Lots of low income men, short men, depressed men, and even ugly men have relationships so it is not like it is impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 07:33 AM
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I think most men do get this. It’s really only the more socially awkward men who don’t. I was definitely one of those men but even now that I do understand the importance of good hair I still don’t style my hair often enough because barber shops and getting my hair cut trigger my anxiety something fierce. If I were to start dating I’d definitely take care of my hair though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 07:29 AM
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It’s probably one of the dumbest manifestations of male ego and insecurity I’ve seen. It is firmly rooted in insecurity and divorced from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 07:20 AM
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What makes you think the men who do that think they're being cool and woke? I'm pretty sure they don't think they're either at all. Also, who gives a flying fuck whether something gives off "feminine" energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:26 PM
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These findings remind of research done by Gloria Wekker on sexual behavior among black women in Suriname. If I remember it correctly, a majority of women, even those in relationships with men, had sexual/romantic relationships with women that they considered more "real" or more passionate than their heterosexual relationships. I think most of her findings are compiled in a book called The Politics of Passion. Anyway, I think our conception of sexuality as existing along a binary spectrum is pret…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:41 PM
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Cheating happens so goddamn often that it is truly ridiculous for people to think that there are “cheaters” and non-cheaters or that you can truly know whether you’d refrain from cheating in every possible scenario. “Morally weak”… give me a break. People in every category imaginable have cheated. It doesn’t matter what your general ethics are, upstanding men and women who follow those ethics have cheated and it’s not because they’re more morally weak than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:39 AM
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I've never put much stock into the idea that men miss consistently miss hints because women are just too subtle. I'd wager that most of the time, men either ignore them out of disinterest or are too scared/insecure to act on them. In fact, men are probably far more likely to see interest where there is none than miss hints or indicators of interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:31 PM
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1.: Around 7 or 8. Explicitly sexual attraction started around 11. 2.: At 26. Before that I had only had a few childish flirtations in middle school and high school. 3.: Around 10. I'd seen some before that but hadn't recognized it as pornography. 4.: At 26. I basically had all my firsts at 26. First real date, first kiss, first sexual experience, first relationship. 5.: Haven't had one yet. I was very late with most things. I let low self-esteem, depression, fear, anxiety, laziness, etc. hold m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:10 PM
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I dunno if it would be all that different, i.e. I'd have no strategy to speak of. Maybe men would be more proactive in pursuing me than women have been with me as a man so if I were a straight woman I would probably just end up dating and/or fucking whoever came my way and appealed to me. If I were a lesbian my dating life would no doubt be as non-existent as it is now lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 03:59 PM
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A person who has had no sexual contact with another person, i.e. anything involving either person’s genitals. Doesn’t have to be PiV, could also be a blowjob or anal or fingering. Basically anyone who could be said to have no sexual experience. You’re right about the historical context, it’s just a social construct born from the male ego and its insecurities. I don’t think it really has any use this day and age but if you were to use it I think my definition up top works best.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 06:26 AM
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I definitely think so. I’ve had a low body image since my early teens and it has made me a lot more inhibited. I still have a very hard time seeing myself as a sexual being.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 06:22 AM
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I have zero desire to see inside someone else’s phone and I’d never allow someone to see in mine. And my phone’s boring as all hell. It’s just one of those things that feels entirely private. I legit get uncomfortable when people hand me their phone. Kinda like when people hand me their debit card to pay on their behalf. Some shit should just stay private. Besides, I think being paranoid is a net-negative. Sure, it might help you catch a cheater but it’ll also make a relationship far more misera…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 05:59 PM
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I’d never tell a person to give up entirely. We’re a social species and the desire for companionship and intimacy can be incredibly strong. But I’d definitely encourage a person who felt hopeless and discouraged to also try to find other avenues for happiness. This whole bottom X% shit really gotta stop tho. There are men with genuine mental and/or physical disabilities who’ve struggled and succeeded at finding a partner. Dating is far from impossible for a guy who’s merely below average looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 05:55 PM
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There are a lot of funny, cute, slightly introverted and nerdy men that fit a male version of the girl next door archetype with large female fanbases. Someone like Richard Ayoade for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:12 PM
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Hottest means different things for different people. I'm sure some of the women I find the absolute hottest are just average in the eyes of others. That said, I would definitely pick someone I'm more compatible with over someone who might be more physically attractive to me. At least for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 11:52 AM
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Hell no I wouldn't shave my beard just to appease some woman. Be the person you want to be, do the things you enjoy. That doesn't mean be selfish or never make sacrifices but make them out of personal principle, not to be popular. Living your life trying to appeal to the most people possible sounds pretty damn sad. Just try to appeal to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 11:46 AM
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I genuinely don’t care at all. They could be a virgin or they could have thousands of past partners. It’d make no difference to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 05:24 AM
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The blacked pilled hatred I was referring to is usually aimed at other "low value" and "omega" men or at men that they see as incels in denial. I don't think black pilled men usually hate on macho men or "Chads".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:23 AM
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Anything that’s not consumptive. Like, we all enjoy consuming movies, TV, music, games, and shit. That barely counts as a hobby. Interesting hobbies are ones where you do shit. Creative hobbies like drawing, writing, making music. Active hobbies like skateboarding, rock-climbing, soccer. Productive ones like woodworking, car tuning, programming. Hobbies that aren’t just “I like Netflix”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:48 AM
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I don’t think I’ve ever seen this. And I’m someone who’d probably be derisively called a male feminist by some so if I’ve not seen this in my circles I’m sure it is not very common. The most common “male-on-male” hate I’ve seen is the black pilled self-hatred that’s turned into a hatred for most men and the hatred of “soy cucks” by projecting fucks. Both of those are just online though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:43 AM
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I don't think in terms of masculine or feminine traits. I've also found that I often like completely opposite characteristics in different people. I've been attracted to very muscular women but also to very petite women. I find pixy cuts and other short hair styles very attractive but I also like women with long hair styles, especially when they've got curls/afro-textured hair. Some physical characteristics that are sometimes deemed masculine like strong jawlines and large noses are very attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:51 PM
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I don't think in terms of masculine or feminine traits. I've also found that I often like completely opposite characteristics in different people. I've been attracted to very muscular women but also to very petite women. I find pixy cuts and other short hair styles very attractive but I also like women with long hair styles, especially when they've got curls/afro-textured hair. Some physical characteristics that are sometimes deemed masculine like strong jawlines and large noses are very attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:50 PM
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I prefer women my age or a little older. I wouldn’t date a woman under 26 (I’m 29) but I’m not sure where the cut offs are for every generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 04:21 PM
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Physical: A gorgeous thick black woman. Lifestyle: family-orientated and politically active. Outdoors-y. Professionally: A career in an altruistic/socially beneficial field (healthcare/education/relief efforts/leftist politics) Personality: I don’t fucking know. Outside of the physical part, this is basically what I want to be. It’s probably better to chase after your own ideal so you can meet fitting life partners along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 09:24 PM
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Certain levels of obesity. I’ve found women who are obese attractive but there’s a certain stage where it becomes too much of a turn off. Being extremely skinny is a turn off as well. Outside of that I don’t really have any physical dealbreakers except for obvious ones like having a swastika tattoo or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 09:06 PM
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Up to the woman. I don’t care at all. I’d take my wife’s last name if it was a cooler sounding one than mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:14 AM
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The first one. That’s basically my ideal life so of course I’d pick someone already living it. Imagine finding yourself a female Che.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:11 AM
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I disagree. I think being open and communicative in a non-judgmental way makes for far better sex than "just getting it". Someone who is interested in their partner's pleasure and isn't afraid to talk about it can still do everything right without talking about it later after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 02:57 PM
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She’d be a very family-oriented woman with a huge extended family who all lived close together. They’d live by the beach in Hawaii and her whole family would love me and see me and my family as part of them. She’d be very adventurous but not turned off by my lack of experience/me having had no life. Instead, she’d be happy to take me on all the adventures and experiences she loves. We’d climb every mountain, visit every country, she’d teach me how to surf. She’d want us both to be involved in ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 09:20 AM
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Age plays a far larger role in the attractiveness of women than it does in men. At least by conventional heteronormative standards. So yeah, the premise is sort of true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 07:19 PM
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It is necessary for there to be any kind of sexual contact. Considering the fact that most people see sex as an essential part of a relationship, sexual attraction is pretty damn important. Personally, I don’t think it is that important since I find a ton of people sexually attractive and I don’t rule out asexual relationships entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 04:16 AM
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This makes perfect sense to me but that might be because I'm a prime example of this in action.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:13 PM
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Long-term goal seems to be finding a "high value" man and getting them to commit while also protecting themselves from being used by men who either don't want to commit or who they deem not valuable enough to warrant commitment from. From what I've seen of it, they seem to deliberately use language that mirrors the way women are talked about in the manosphere. IMO not the healthiest approach but I kinda get it. And what the fuck do I know, I'm not a woman and it's not on me to police how women r…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:08 PM
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This is so subjective. It's impossible to say, the best you can do is guesstimate which faces might appeal to the most people. But even that's bound to be inaccurate as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:59 PM
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Nothing wrong with it. I’d start wearing wigs if I lost my hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 03:58 PM
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I've never felt this expectation at all. In hindsight, I probably should've been made to feel it a bit more growing up lol. I do want to provide for my parents and extended family but I've never felt like I need to be some kind of protector of provider for women/a woman. Obviously, I'd want to provide for my children if I had any and also protect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 09:10 PM
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I’d add more feminine clothing to my wardrobe and maybe try out make up sometimes. In sexual relationships I’d open up about being a switch and wanting to occasionally be submissive. I’d try out feminine-coded hairstyles. I’d be more open to being a “house husband” and doing a majority of the child-rearing. I already don’t care much about gender roles but those are some things I just don’t feel comfortably doing right now. I also think that in order for me to actually do those things I’d have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 10:43 AM
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I don’t have an end goal. While I’d be delighted to have a wife and kids it is not something I’m currently trying to make happen. I don’t intend to start trying either. I have other things I want to pursue and if I happen to meet a partner along the way I’ll count myself lucky. 29yr old dude btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:39 PM
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My partner's number would not matter at all. And yeah, I could be happy with only having one partner my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:46 PM
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Those are not the same things. People who care about a woman's past care even if all those past relations were entirely consensual and based on mutual desire. That's kind of assumed when people talk about a woman's N-count. Complaints about women who do sex work are usually talked about separately. People who care about someone having seen a sex worker care because they might disagree with the commodification of sex or because they think sex work is often exploitative and rife with abuse in a wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 08:55 AM
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I trust completely but have zero expectations. Basically, I like to think highly of everyone but if someone does something to hurt me it usually just rolls right off my back.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:20 PM
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If you're actively lying to them, yeah that's pretty shitty. Not the end of the world or anything but it's obviously not very nice. Outside of that though I don't know why you'd care. Just forget about this N-count/low value bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:42 PM
1

I don’t think my looks are the reason I haven’t dated much but I do think I’m unattractive. I’m 5’10 with a kind of stocky build. Both my shoulders and my hips are on the wide side. I also store fat on my ass and thighs which is pretty awkward looking for a man. I’m no longer fat (145 or so pounds) but I still have some stomach fat and love handles. I also got some moobage going on. It’s not as noticeable with a shirt on but it’s why I’d literally never be shirtless around others. My face is rou…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 08:12 AM
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I honestly think that it is just too easy nowadays to avoid dating completely. Our social lives have shrunk, we spend more time by ourselves behind screens, the economy is not conducive to longterm planning wrt buying a house/having children. It's easy to not date, to avoid the risk of rejection, to not put yourself out there. The reason this is truer for men than it is for women is that men have traditionally been the initiators in heterosexual courtship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 05:39 PM
1

I’m not sure. I don’t feel particularly unhappy but at the same time, I am pretty damn suicidal. I think I’m lucky for all the great things in my life but they’re all things I’ve been blessed with from birth. If I look at my own performance so far I struggle to think of anyone who’s done worse. So I’m happy with (my) life and don’t hate it but I very much hate myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:27 AM
1

Do many women say that tho? Seinfeld's just one example and that show was written by men. I've found that I'm a lot harsher on what I consider attractive male bodies than most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 10:06 PM
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Nah, it doesn't come from porn. It comes from male insecurity. Like, the thought that women all lust for men more masculine than I am (taller, bigger dick, higher status, that sorta thing) comes pretty natural to me and I think it does for other guys as well. That I'm a failure and therefore unlovable/undesirable whereas other, more successful, men aren't. It can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking that voice of insecurity is right and accurate about the world. A lot of men online like to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 10:03 PM
2

Pity is a lot more attainable than desirability in the eyes of many. I don't know why having to work and risk rejection in the pursuit of desirability is so terrible to some men. I'm not being facetious either, I've definitely struggled with that too. Still do, though I think I'm better about it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 04:10 PM
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It's people who enjoy the personalized interaction and appearance of exclusivity of OnlyFans enough to pay for it. People, men especially, have been paying for that stuff forever. Whether it's in the form of escorts, strippers, or hostesses. I doubt it's that large a percentage of men who pay for OnlyFans just like I don't think an especially large percentage of men goes to strip clubs often or frequents prostitutes. I see others talk of the exploitation of lonely men but there are other far mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 04:06 PM
1

Because the reasoning behind those preferences almost always lies in racist/homophobic/transphobic/etc societal attitudes. Like, there is no reason to not be attracted to "black people", a designator that covers over a billion people who come in a huge variety of skin colors/hair textures/facial features/body shapes, except for racism. Similarly, it is not necessarily transphobic to be turned off by penises, people can be turned off by big clits, big and small tits, or other such stuff as well a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 03:16 PM
3

I don’t care about other people’s standards. There are standards I consider stupid: homophobic, racist, and sexist ones mainly. But those individual standards are expressions of societal issues that need to be addressed; I don’t really care if some individual doesn’t date black people or bisexual people or trans people. People have some weird views on which standards are “fair” and “good”. You don’t have to be skinny to only want to date skinny people, you don’t have to be muscular to prefer mus…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 04:47 AM
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No. Abortion is about bodily autonomy. The person who is pregnant decides whether to keep it or not, simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 04:39 AM
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It seems pretty desperate. And yeah, I think it's good advice to never act desperately.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 08:10 AM
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God, I sure hope so.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:54 PM
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I'm not sure how many men feel this way but personally, sometimes a woman being seen as less attractive/unattractive by others or a woman who's disliked by lots of people can trigger the snowflake in me and make me feel special for finding them attractive. And that can increase my attraction to them. I do think those women were very attractive to begin with tho and it has nothing to do with expectations of low maintainance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:29 PM
5

Everybody should decide for themselves what the fuck their standards are. I don't believe in "standard" standards for any gender. That said, while I don't have standards for my side I do have standards for myself. I'm currently not even close to meeting them so I don't date. Before I'm ready to date I should be in good shape, be financially stable and live on my own, have an active social life, work towards a long term goal, be mentally in a healthy place.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 06:08 PM
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The girl is 23 dude. She hasn’t been an adult long enough to have had peaks and valleys.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 11:47 PM
11

Sarita Choudhury, especially in Mississippi Masala and Kama Sutra Aïssa Maïga Zadie Smith
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:21 PM
1

It all depends on how the people involved feel. I do think most people find sexual compatibility important, especially in the initial phases of a relationship. Personally, sex is not that important to me. I can have it everyday or never have it all. So I wouldn’t be opposed to an asexual relationship with an asexual partner. If sex is involved I do think compatibility is important however. Similar mindsets are important or sex can start feeling like a performance. Oh, and body count does not mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:05 PM
2

It’s pretty simple IMO. You split the bill unless someone feels like paying for everything. In that case, it’s polite for the other person to pay the next date. That’s how I feel when I get treated at least. People who feel emasculated about such things are silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:01 PM
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Yes. They don’t have to be a full on communist but they have to be leftist at least and be okay with views to the left of them. I can easily be friends with people who don’t like politics at all or who are centrist or a little right of center as long as politics don’t come up or they enjoy heated discussions on them. With a partner I’d need our values to line up somewhat though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:53 AM
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I don’t know about any primal protective instincts. If most men have those, those genes must’ve skipped me. I mean, I like to think I’m a helpful person but the desire to help usually kicks in when someone looks like they need it. So with children and the elderly. I don’t necessarily feel protective towards women, regardless of their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:46 AM
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Being funny is a great quality. I love being able to laugh with people. But to be completely honest, it's (a lot) more important that someone finds me funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 05:44 PM
1

What’s the effort really? Taking the time to take a few good pics, writing a decent bio, and then swiping left and right a couple of times. Not getting a lot of matches and getting rejected/ghosted by some of the matches you do get is not a lot of effort. Dating has always required dealing with rejection and heartbreak, that’s just a part of it. Yes, the less conventionally attractive you are the harder it gets but then again, for a lot of people relationships are worth it. Lots of things take a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:54 AM
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Some of y’all are weirdly attached to the idea that only Chads can get loved and lusted over. Believe whatever makes you feel good I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 05:55 PM
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I’m the one who broke up with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 05:29 PM
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I don’t believe any of the things unique to the red pill (AWALT, Cock Carousel, hypergamy, alpha/beta, sex god method, etc.). Normal shit like “being conventionally attractive is important to dating”, “self-improve if you’re not happy” does not count as red pill. So I’m blue pill I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:30 PM
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I’m below average and my ex was both deeply in love with me and even more deeply in lust with me. Most people would probably say she was better looking than me by a fair bit, though going by your post that shouldn’t even matter. If that shit can happen to me, it can happen to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:23 PM
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I’m currently not overweight but I’ve yo-yo’ed between being overweight, average, and thin in the past. I’ve never been obese but I’ve been pretty big. I’ve also been underweight. Weight has not had a big effect on my social life. Things did not improve when I was skinny and average. Now, I was never an active dater so maybe it would’ve improved my dating life if I had any. What motivates me is that I dislike feeling and seeing fat on myself. I feel happier when my body is less fat so I try to l…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 06:45 AM
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It seems like a woman can’t do anything right??? Welcome to patriarchy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 06:36 PM
1

No tradition is good to apply to everyone. People should do whatever fits them best.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 06:35 PM
1

I really enjoy discussions, even quite heated ones. I wouldn’t want to date someone whose views were too opposed to mine politically/ethically but I do need a partner with lots of strong views and opinions so we can discuss shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:55 AM
1

Would they accept that arrangement? If so, go for it. More power to you dude, nothing wrong with being polyamorous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:51 PM
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How would anyone even know you’re horny? This fucking victim complex, Jesus. Unless you DM women for tits and ass pics, randomly take your dick out in public places or run a countdown till 18 website for your favorite Disney starlet nobody knows let alone cares about your horniness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:09 PM
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Most times, being “low value” is a choice. There’s a whole world of options out there for doing things that make you valuable. We’re just more comfortable not doing those things. Hopefully we’ll all get radicalized in between the porn and games and us low value dudes will function as the fodder in the revolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:43 AM
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It is subjective. Beauty is only relevant with regards to humans’ subjective experience of the world. We can measure intersubjectivity by establishing what features are conventionally attractive, as in what features are considered attractive by the largest swathes of people. Ultimately it is all in the eye of the beholder though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 07:40 AM
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I can't tell at all. I only really consider my one ex to be someone who was attracted to me because she made that shit obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:11 PM
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Arranged almost always just means that the (extended) family acts as mediator. From what I've seen with my own family, it's just a matter of meeting people through different means. Usually, cultures where arranged marriages are common are also less permissive of men and women mingling, at least one and one, so introductions through the family are a good way of finding a partner. And in those cultures, notions about sex and marriage differ as well. I don't really see it as more or less beneficial…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:48 PM
2

Why would anyone need to learn to lie to women? I have absolutely zero issue with dudes approaching and seducing women for the purposes of casual sex. If someone has found ways online to get better at that, more power to 'em. I don't really care about people stringing others around for sex either, it's not nice obviously but it's not that big a deal. Unless the advice found online leads to abusive or otherwise harmful behavior I've got no problem with it. My issues with the manosphere have nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:41 PM
1

Putting on make-up, dressing well, taking good pictures, taking care of your skin/hair, etc. are all ways of making sure you present well. It's effort, calling it "cheating" is nonsensical. Women are judged far more harshly on their appearance and how they outwardly present themselves so it makes sense that they put in more effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 11:33 AM
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Extroversion (6) Emotional stability (30) Agreeableness (80) Conscientiousness (9) Intellect/Imagination (93) I don't put a lot of stock in self-assessment tests like these. I don't know myself well enough to accurately answer those questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 11:29 AM
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I wouldn’t marry for potential. I think that’s setting yourself and your partner up for hurt and disappointment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 07:43 PM
1

Be lowkey, always accept rejection or dismissal gracefully, and keep an eye out for obvious signs of someone wanting to be left alone (earbuds in, reading, short answers when you ask something). Do all that and the worst you’ll be to a woman is a nuisance she forgets 10 minutes after you left her sight. This idea that the smallest thing gets you called a creep when lots of women have had to deal with men acting shitty to them is dumb as fuck. Women usually underreport and downplay the shit they …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 07:34 PM
1

Shit's difficult man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 09:50 AM
0

My ex made all the first moves and was always the one initiating. That experience might’ve spoiled me because I’d definitely prefer a similar situation if I ever got into another relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 07:41 PM
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No, not at all. I don't lose respect for a woman because of what she's done sexually, what she wants to do, or what her kinks and secrets are. They also don't make me gain more respect or affection for someone. One thing my ex really liked about me was that I was completely non-judgmental towards her sexuality. It made her feel safe and allowed her to be open and honest about everything. That's how it should be IMO. Maybe my attitude would change if I ever encountered some more extreme stuff tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 12:00 PM
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No. What he should do is get off reddit and stop obsessing about that shit so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 06:25 PM
2

Top 20% in what? Like, there's a top 20% in terms of height, wealth, muscularity, amount of academic publications, amount of reviews on MyAnimeList.net, etc. Obviously, being in the top 20% by some metrics will help with regards to dating but it's not like there's a singular 20% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 03:30 PM
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Why the hell would I care. Everybody's taste is different. Besides, maybe it's because of my low self esteem but I usually have a hard time considering other men less attractive than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 03:24 PM
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Is this average? Funnily enough, that guy gained some weight and now looks a lot better IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 03:21 PM
1

I was never obese but I’ve been overweight, average, skinny, and relatively fit (still working on finally being ripped lol). My experience has been that weight does not play a big role in how I’m treated and received. Having said that, I’ve never been an active dater so maybe my experience would’ve been different if I was and being obese is really it’s own beast. Lose weight because it’s healthy and because feeling good about your body is important. Take whatever happens in how your perceived by…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 05:59 AM
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Shouldn't it be a turn off for potential partners? Like, I'm not saying it should necessarily be a dealbreaker (though it very well can be, talking 'shoulds' with regards to something this personal and subjective is kinda weird) but seeing as that it can be very debilitating to someone's life I don't see why it'd be unreasonable or harsh to be turned off by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 02:22 AM
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I'm simply not in a place to date. Don't think I ever really have been in my adult life either. I need get my shit in order and knowing myself that's a process that'll probably take some time. I'm mostly fine with being single but occasionally I do worry whether I'll ever be fit for relationships and parenthood at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 08:53 AM
0

Said this in another comment too but watch more black stuff. Watch ADD on YouTube to see attractive fat men who have been successful with women. Like Tahir Moore or DoBoy. And before you get on my back about those men being (semi-)famous, they were successful before they were famous as well and obviously interact with women who also interact with similarly famous non-fat men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:55 AM
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Being fat means not fitting conventional standards of attractiveness so yeah, the pool of women finding you attractive is smaller. Still big enough for fat people I’ve known to have dated around tho. I feel like anyone familiar enough with black culture knows being fat isn’t a death sentence with regards to dating. There are plenty of fat black men who are still considered attractive because they dress well and have a great sense of style. Like watch Tahir Moore of ADD on YouTube. Dude gets arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:52 AM
1

Get out more my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:45 AM
1

This place is the only one where I see people talk about SMV and I’d def call this place pretty damn jaded lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:40 AM
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Absolutely idiotic take. Plenty of fat men are sexually attractive to a portion of women. I’ve known several fat men who are successful with women. You genuinely think every straight fat men who has ever dated has been settled for?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:38 AM
1

I usually prefer thinking of this in terms of taking pride in yourself. That means presenting yourself honestly and authentically in a way that reveals what you value and shows you’re invested in yourself. This is important outside of dating as well. We only get one life, you might as well take it seriously and do your best. I find the concept of maximizing your ‘SMV’ really ugly tho. Sounds like someone looking for the most socially accepted forms of style, the most commonly desired ways to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:30 AM
0

I don’t really have a definition for them. They’re societially imposed roles and forms of expression that you’re raised with and either they’re comfortable enough that you can identify as which one you were assigned or you’re not comfortable with your assigned one and have to transition or identify as neither. Physically, I’m attracted to a set of characteristics that covers a wide set of people (cis women, trans women, nonbinary persons, but also some men in drag). Personality-wise, I’ve been a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:12 AM
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I was 26. It’s never too late. Just because it might get harder doesn’t mean it’s ‘too late’. Seeing as that you can’t go back in time to have your firsts at the ‘appropriate’ time all late bloomers can do is just work with what they got and lose it at whatever age they are. Not every woman cares and you can always just lie about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:03 AM
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You don't get insulted as a man simply for liking the totally ordinary things you mention like video games, anime, or comic books. Come on now, all those things are mainstream these days. Being gender nonconforming, even if just a little, can make you the target of ridicule and it is worse for men who don't conform, but that's because in a patriarchal society traditional masculinity is very strictly defined in opposition to traditional feminity and because that relation is one of superiority it …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 08:48 AM
2

The most common kind of dick pic is probably of the unsolicited variety. Women I know in real life have talked about receiving them and I've heard it a lot online as well. In terms of consensual ones, I think an explicit request for a dick pic probably isn't very common but women definitely fish for dick pics by trying to get you to talk about how hard you are for them and to show them, and stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:14 PM
9

By societal standards, a high value woman is a woman who is young and very physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 01:51 PM
2

Are people really that confused by what good means in terms of dating? I feel like most people understand it perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 01:48 PM
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Absolutely, I agree that fidelity is still a widely held expectation with regards to romantic relationship. I just question the basis for that expectation. IMO, it is rooted in an outdated view on sex that seems at odds with the way we commonly think about it nowadays. I don't have anything against monogamous relationships or anything, I just think this contrast between how a lot of people see cheating (the worst thing your partner can do/emotionally destructive to the cheated upon) and how a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 01:41 PM
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I don't really get the big deal with cheating. Like, I get why historically/culturally it has become a big deal. Cheating represented a threat to the integrity of the family, and more importantly, a man's lineage. It's why marriage was sanctified, and sex was heavily moralized. So I understand the cultural baggage but can't we all see that baggage for what it is these days. Just baggage. Through a modern lense it just doesn't make that much sense. There are so many ways to prevent or abort a pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:17 AM
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Decent men are getting laid. They’re just not getting laid for their decency.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 04:18 PM
2

No I wouldn’t accept a bad relationship. My default state is being single, I’ve got no issue going without a partner and without sex indefinitely. I also don’t think getting into a relationship for the experience is worth it. It is also not very nice to the other person. Pretty weird to suggest that being a step-father means you’re in a bad relationship tho. Post would be better off without your judgmental examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 11:30 AM
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Some men just like tearing down women. Probably gives them a sense of control.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 09:09 PM
1

Blowjobs are overrated. I def would not want to be woken up by one. Personally, I'd feel uncomfortable with any kind of sexual touching while I'm asleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 09:07 PM
1

Tattoos can be ugly and they can be hot but most of the time having tattoos is just a lateral move in terms of attractiveness. They don't really make someone more or less attractive. I'm not at all bothered by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 07:40 AM
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I mean, what else but sex itself could anyone ever offer. Maybe you'd get a good story out of it if it was with a celebrity or noteworthy person but outside of that a fun night's the best thing you could possibly get out of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:12 PM
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I personally don't think relationships are business transactions and I like to think most people, even the ones here, ultimately leave all that market thinking behind when they're actually meeting indivudals. But I'm a bit surprised by your claim that FDS doesn't see it that way. Doesn't FDS regularly talk of men in terms of their "value" and isn't that value at least partially determined by what those men bring to the table materially?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:07 PM
2

I'm guessing it's because men are more likely to react very negatively to rejection, whether it's by being extremely insistent or by being insulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 10:30 PM
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I broke up with my ex once I realized I wasn't in love with her. I hadn't lost attraction, I still found her very attractive, but I did not want to string her along. I also didn't hook up with her afterwards despite her really wanting to because I felt like it would give her the wrong idea. I'd never string someone along for sex. Despite all that she still occasionally claimed that I just used her for sex🤷‍♂️ Honestly, it seems like a lot of work for little reward especially if we're talking lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 02:26 PM
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With regards to average and below average women I actually think it is more dependent on how often those women are in social spaces where approaching others is considered normal/desirable. An above average woman who's never in bars, clubs and other such social spaces probably gets approached less than an average woman who spends time in said spaces every week. Below average women rarely get approached by men regardless of the state of their social lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 09:13 PM
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You've got it backwards. If you're willing to trade places so that you would go from the oppressed to the oppressor you shouldn't be complaining about injustice. That's not really true either, after all it is not like people choose to be born as part of a discriminated against group. So I would never be quick to judge someone for complaining but also wanting or at least being okay with trading places with someone better off. If you're someone actively speaking out against injustice based on gend…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 02:10 PM
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They should simply do their best and see where the chips fall. Put themselves out there while taking pride in themselves and not take rejection personally. In other words, just like how everyone else interested in dating should approach it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 11:30 AM
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Nah, I don't hate being attracted to women. I've never been hurt by one or anything like that. My experiences with women, like my experiences with people in general, have been pretty pleasant if a bit too minimal. I do have really intense low self esteem though, not entirely unwarranted, and that does suck in combination with feeling attraction to people. I don't blame the people or my attraction for that however.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 05:50 AM
2

I don't think sex robots are ever going to be a thing but I think it is possible that in the future VR/AR will allow for an even greater portion of the population to be always online, leading to a deterioration of real life connections. It's not that sex and dating would be luxuries in that scenario but that, to a growing number of people (regardless of gender), dating and real life sex would be too much of a hassle in comparison to the ease of VR/AR relations. Those relations would still overwh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 06:33 PM
1

Yeah I was going to say inaction as well. Taking rejection personally and letting their actions be based on their hurt feelings and insecurities too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 05:19 PM
0

Weddings are fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:39 PM
1

Google penis extenders/sleeves. They come in all colors and sizes so you can pick out the perfect one for that very special size queen. Hell, they can even come in all sorts of weird shapes; for when the size queen also ends up being a furry.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 10:26 AM
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Am I just not understanding this right or do you really think dick size is that important? Bro, you can't buy a supplemental face or some extra height at bad-dragon.com Dick size is easily the least important thing on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 09:39 AM
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No. I do think other relationship forms will become more accepted in the near future so that monogamy and the nuclear family will no longer be enforced and sanctified as the default and 'best' way of having longterm relationships. But this idea that the future's going to be 'Chads' with harems is a laughable delusion born from male insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 09:27 AM
1

I don't care about makeup. No makeup, natural makeup, full makeup; I don't have much of a preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 09:20 AM
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I am not at all attached to traditional gender roles so there's literally zero reason for me to not be okay with this. I'd 100% be a house husband for a nice wealthy sugar momma, give or take a few creative and/or activist pursuits on the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 05:20 PM
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There can be specific reasons behind specific difficulties one can encounter when it comes to dating. How detrimental those difficulties and their reasons are depends on a lot of things but they are never a reason to give up or not try. They can never act as excuses. A person with special needs has very understandable reasons for struggling when it comes to conventional methods of dating. But even for someone with those specific, rather serious, struggles, finding someone is not insurmountable. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 05:17 PM
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I honestly think most men who aren't getting laid as much as they would like are just not trying very hard. They make an online dating account with 3 bad pictures taken while parked in front of a Wendy's at 4 PM and the most dry-ass bio possible and then, when that doesn't result in 15 matches in a week, they decide dating's not worth the effort. It is very possible for people of all walks of life and with all kinds of looks to date and fuck around as long as they put in the effort. I think a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 10:15 AM
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I think it's less about what 'pill' someone is and more about just personal preference. Personally, I don't give a shit about biology but I wouldn't want to be a primary breadwinner. I simply wouldn't be a very good one, to put it lightly lmao. I also really like kids so if I were to be a dad I would like to be a very involved one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 06:52 AM
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I don't have any data on this but I'm willing to bet that the likelihood that a woman's into anal also increases with every additional lifetime sexual partner. So you win some, you lose some I guess. Seriously though, I just don't vibe with this approach to dating, or to life in general. I don't look up what height of women report the greatest marital satisfaction, which age produces the most long-lasting marriages, or what the optimal education level is for avoiding a divorce. I'm just trying t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 01:00 AM
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Doesn't having a kid mean that dating ultimately wasn't actually a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:05 PM
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N-count is completely irrelevant. High, low, who gives a fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:26 PM
3

They want you to not get mad at their misogyny on account of them being so sad and lonely and lacking in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:25 PM
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I prefer it when they just play hard. Period. I just want to get stepped on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:17 PM
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First thought is rolling my eyes because it sounds real stupid. Second thought is that I can kinda see why someone would think like that when it comes to class.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 02:51 PM
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Not at all. Why would it be evil? Just take into consideration whatever variables you deem important.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 02:48 PM
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This did end up being true for me. I basically got into a relationship simply because I felt ashamed of never having been in one at my age and it turned out that I had never been in one because I had never actually bothered to try to get in one. And the reason I had never bothered trying was that in truth, I just wasn't all that interested. Too bad someone had to fall in love with me and get hurt just for me to learn that lesson. So yeah, getting into a relationship doesn't always fix shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:46 AM
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Somehow I don't think sexless is all that big of a concern for the homeless. They probably have more important struggles to deal with. Outside of the manosphere and self-declared incels themselves I also don't see many people talk about sexually unsuccessful men with vitriol at all. Unless you think people reacting with disgust towards the misogyny of men who have consciously decided to organize as a hate group around the concept of 'inceldom', something almost noone else considers a thing, is s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:38 AM
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Anecdotally I can say that women have seemed far less apprehensive about dating single fathers than the reverse. Based on what I see online I can also say that single fathers are not talked about as negatively as single mothers, not even close. So I do think this is about single motherhood specifically and not simply single parenthood generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:32 AM
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Of course it's all personal preference. For example, I already found Rebel Wilson attractive before she lost all that weight. There's no such thing as a weight limit for me, if I find a woman's face attractive then she's not too fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:05 AM
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Going by the vitriol spewed against them online, single moms are probably considered 'losers' or undateable by a sizable portion of men. Fat women are also talked about in the same denigrating manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:01 AM
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Yeah, I think most men are often more liable to misinterpret normal friendliness for a sign of interest than they are to miss hints. I also think 'missing hints' is a bit of a misnomer a lot of the time. It's more often about men being too afraid to act on a potential sign of interest. It's a lot safer to just not act and later talk about missing hints than it is to actually make a move and risk rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:19 PM
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Sounds like your friends don't like the beach but might be enticed by the possibility of meeting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:15 PM
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I'd say face then height is the most important part of a man's physical attractiveness. Shoulder-to-waist ratio probably comes third.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:10 PM
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I lost my virginity at 26. That was also when I had my first kiss, went on my first date, etc. Prior to that I had ocassionally dabbled in incel-ish self-pity/self-hate and FA whining, especially online. After losing my virginity though, I had to accept that I just didn't care that much about relationships and sex, and that my own lack of desire was the reason I was a late bloomer. All those years, I was more than happy to not step out of my comfort zone. Hell, the only reason that one relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 12:55 PM
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