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They are in situationships with guys that won't commit to them in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 01:03 PM
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That used to be true but it isn't anymore. Swipe apps mean the 5'8" never even gets the chance because women set their filters at 6' or higher and cold approaching is considered creepy and toxic now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:23 AM
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This is the correct answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:50 PM
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That's not really true. When I was pursuing relationships only pursuing one at a time made me much more likely to screw it up because it raised the stakes so high on everything. I believe it leads to guys giving off a desperate vibe also. Obviously this applies much more to the early phases of courtship, I'm certainly not suggesting a guy in a committed relationship still be pursuing multiple women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 04:55 PM
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That's probably true for lesbian advice about attracting women for straight men, but I bet lesbians have lots of good advice about maintaining relationships with women for straight men. Call me an optimist, I like to believe everyone has something they can teach me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:06 PM
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Imagine making a post like this about a specific ethnic group.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:29 PM
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I think it varies a lot based on age, mostly due to hormones but also due to life experiences. I'm in my late 40s and I've sort of unintentionally gone MTGOW. I went on a date a few weeks ago, but everything about it was just meh so I won't be bothering with a second date. I have a built a really enjoyable life for myself and I'm to the point now where I see a partner as something that would have to be fit into that life, or as a potential disruption to it. I'd imagine it is largely a function o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:03 PM
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What do you mean zero accountability? Over 90% of prison inmates are male. As for the second part, I agree women should not entertain men with a propensity for violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:44 PM
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I don't disagree with any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:41 PM
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Bro, if you worry about physical violence from women to the same degree as men you should probably hit the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:28 PM
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Wow, I don't spend a lot of time here, that's wild. Yes, the world can be dangerous, and everyone should be aware of it and act accordingly. And I think in most circumstances, women have more to fear than men. Active warzones being a major exception. That said, the whole bear vs man in the woods thing is overblown because the reality is that most men and bears (at least black bears) would not bother a woman they stumbled across in the woods. Ironically a female bear (with cubs) is probably the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:26 PM
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Some do some don't and it's also situational. It's not like there is just the category of "will do crime" and "won't do crime." Like a lot of guys that would start a fight at a bar with another guy would never rape and murder a child, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:16 PM
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Yes, I am saying that statistically men are more likely to successfully defend themselves than women because they will almost certainly be larger and have more muscle mass. Much more likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:10 PM
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Because they have higher levels of testosterone and disagreeableness than women they will never lower their crime rates to those of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:07 PM
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Is anyone saying this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:06 PM
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Chad as a guy who can easily, effortlessly get casual sex and/or intimate relationships with women of his choosing, and this part is critical, while not providing any resources to the women. This can be because the guy is extremely good looking (more common) or decent looking but has very good game (less common).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:20 PM
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The early red pill understood this, specifically the PUA community. Later on the blackpill view only looks mattered took root and took over. I would define a Chad as a guy who can easily, effortlessly get casual sex and/or intimate relationships with women of his choosing, and this part is critical, while not providing any resources to the women. A guy getting sex by providing resources is not a Chad, he's Beta Bux.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:14 PM
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This isn't the gotcha you think it is. The Red Pill concept of "Alpha Fux, Beta Bux" as shorthand for mating strategy explains it. A loser with enough money will still have no problem finding a mate but that doesn't mean his mate has any actual desire for him. She may even be repulsed by him, but values the lifestyle he provides enough to put up with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:09 PM
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Women aren't TRYING to share the top men, they are unintentionally doing it based on the modern dating environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:27 PM
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I would imagine Liberal ideology correlates with higher levels of empathy, which correlates with being a woman. There a probably more liberal women than conservative women especially among younger cohorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 10:27 PM
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Imagine a dude saying average women shouldn't expect to get gifts, compliments and their men doing stuff around the house unless they are as hot comparatively to the top professional athletes in their global sports. Most guys don't want expect to be Chad to everyone, they just want to be SOMEone's Chad. I think in the past when men and women needed each other, this was the norm and people were willing to put in effort for their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:13 PM
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This is true for hard nopes only but it fails to account for the fact that women are less harsh on judging the looks of men they know versus strangers. And as a guy, i have also found women I was initially only lukewarm on to be more attractive as I got to know them. Leading with looks only works to the extent you are dealing with people solidly below your threshold, it can be counterproductive with the 'maybes' and that's frankly where people would have more success than the 'super hot' categor…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:40 PM
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This guy gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:34 PM
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It's not though. From 1990-2015 I would have agreed it was horseshit. Looks mattered but they weren't everything back when most dating occurred organically through IRL connections. But once everything shifted to dating apps the male looks ceiling became a real thing. A lot of women are pretty harsh judges of the looks of guys they don't know, but once they get to know them, find them more attractive. With swipe apps, that never gets to happen. I'm not miserable, or lonely. I just learned to acce…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 01:46 PM
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I disagree, I do think women are ignoring good men because I think the criteria women value have shifted drastically since the 1960s. I'm talking mostly about dating in America since that is that is what I've lived and observed. Prior to the 1970s being divorced or being a single mom had a huge stigma associated with it and limited job prospect for women made having a comfortable living as a single mother very difficult. As a result women were highly incentivized to value traits like reliability…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 01:40 PM
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Even if it isn't as common as the stereotype says women are conditioned to fear it because even if they've never seen it, it's been a common element in fiction they consume. And yes, this has been exacerbated by the fat positivity movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:03 PM
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It's because women as a whole are worried about getting replaced by "the newer model", and not without reason. The trope exists because it happens. Women also have to worry about competing with younger women as they age. Men on the other hand learn at an early age that dating down is a prestige multiplier for them as they watch seniors date underclassman and college dudes date seniors in high school. Watch any nature documentary and you see that being the young, resourceless male is never easy, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 10:50 AM
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Looks just increase your margin for error - eventually to the point where can't mess up if you're hot enough. There was a swimmer on my floor freshmen that looked like an Abercrombie model and was 6'4", he could do actively repulsive things and it didn't matter. At a party he busted ass and made a girl stand in the area and told her it was him and she called him an asshole with a huge grin on her face and then was making out with him moments later.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 11:57 PM
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Also, red pill says women tend to go for higher status men, not that they only go for them. The existence of poor couples is not the "gotcha" you think it is OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 01:49 AM
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One of the central ideas of old school red pill was that women followeda dual mating strategy - alpha fux and beta bux. A good chunk of them are probably raising some other dude's kids. The existence of poor couples is in no way incompatible with RP teachings. RP emphasized things like money maxing and all of that stuff because you can actually control it, as opposed to height and facial structure.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:09 AM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 09:32 AM
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"Well, you never know. The people that work here seem nice." It's pretty easy to make polite conversation with just about anyone that isn't actively being an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:46 AM
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By making polite conversation? Maybe I'm weird like that. Definitely not by reacting to her like a sketchy panhandler.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:50 PM
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Anecdotal but take it for what it's worth. Two years ago my buddy and I stopped at a trendy speak easy type place after attending a game. I saw an attractive woman in her 30s at the bar and for the first time in ages I figured, what the hell, why not? I occupied the spot next to her in waiting for a drink and said something to the effect of "I feel like the speak easy thing is just a fad, but I'll be rooting for this place" She scrunched her face at me and said "what?" I repeated myself and she …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:54 PM
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I used to get first dates and second dates all the time on eharmony and match. But as things shifted to Tinder, Hinge and Bumble it's been less and less and less. Swipe apps have distorted the dating scene. They have made it super easy for the absolute top looking men, and made it very hard for everyone else. Their is tons of matching data from the apps to back this up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:33 PM
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Either all guys are trying to tell the same lie for unknown reasons or it's a pretty common phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:49 PM
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I will concede it is harder nowadays because of swipe apps. 100%. It just is. The one guy that really comes to mind was in grad school. He was average height, a few extra pounds, totally average looking and an asshole. He tore through that place. He was like catnip to women and none of the dudes could explain it. But yes, the fact that it was in a school setting definitely helped him because the program was small enough the everyone at least knew who almost everyone else was even if they didn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:10 PM
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This is not my experience at all. Attractiveness just means you have more room for error on the part of the dance that used to be known as "game." If you are attractive enough, though, the margin becomes so big it really doesn't matter what you say or do. But I've known mid looking dudes that had good game that crushed it. I've also known conventionally good-looking guys that did poorly with women because they were socially awkward, lacked confidence, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 11:56 AM
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I'm in my 40s and I have given up. Eventually deleted all of my dating apps and just kind of made peace with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 11:50 AM
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No. The attraction just wouldn't be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 10:31 AM
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Intelligence is extremely attractive to me. I'm a higher IQ dude (so cringy to say that, I know, I know) so I really like women that are smart and value education.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:46 PM
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Those women are going to Africa because they want to be fucked by a human dildo on vacation and not worry about being judged or the dude becoming a stalker. Getting hit on at home would not scratch the same itch at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:27 PM
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The same reason women do all sorts of things they wouldn't normally do while they are on holiday, reduces the chance of being seen and judged. Also if they fuck a young fit "exotic" man on vacation they don't have to worry about him coming by their house/work at inopportune times, but they would have to worry about that in their home cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:04 PM
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This is an unearned assumption. Men and women biologically have different hormore profiles created by differing feedback loops. Assuming that environmental damage will affect both the same is not a sound assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:15 PM
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I aM tHe tAbLe
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:09 PM
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A lot of guy stumble into the Red Pill like Tom in 500 Days of Summer. Many didn't have a father figure involved. They put woman on pedestals and think if they are just nice enough, they will be rewarded with sex and relationships. Red Pill is very good curing these and some other misconceptions in ways that "just be yourself!" and "you'll find the right one!" never will. Yes, some people take it to a dark place that's unfortunate but that doesn't negate the underlying principles. I think the se…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 11:11 PM
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Hoe Math explains it perfectly on his attraction chart. In fact, I think Hoe Math is the red pill, but an evolved version, without the toxicity of the original and with something to offer men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 01:36 AM
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I've never had any success at getting casual sex. I've only had sex with one girl that I wasn't in at least a situationship with. My n count is low for a guy, but I'm not ashamed of any of my partners, they were all attractive. I guess I'm a quality over quantity guy, and with women like that I've always wanted more than causal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 12:37 AM
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Hope this isn't a double post, but looks like it got blocked because I didn't have flair setup. I am 47, my dad left when I was in 5th grade and never paid child support so I had zero contact with him. I got straight As in high school, partied too much in college but graduated (joined a fraternity, more on that later), and later served in the Army as an officer. After my time was up I got out and went to law school. I'm a practicing lawyer to this day. As far as dating, the only time I had real …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:08 PM
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This isn't true at all. I'm over 6', decent looking and have always struggled. There was a slightly chubby, average looking, 5'10" guy in my grad school program that absolutely SLAYED. And it was the hot chicks was getting, too. Does it help? Yes, it does. Plenty of shorter guys do well, or at least well enough. I think "game" counts as a bigger determining factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:46 PM
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This is a bit of an oversimplification. It's not that they want to be treated poorly, it's that a guy like Davidson has electric confidence and that is fun to be around and sexy. Who knew, having a giant dong is good for your confidence? And they aren't assholes all the time, they dole out niceness too, and it comes off as disarming and surprising, in a good way. Women love trying to tame guys like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 01:30 PM
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The classic example that comes to my mind is guys that don't know when to make a romantic move. This may be less true for the younger generation (I'm in my mid-40s) but I've had many, many women tell me they expect a guy to "just know" when to kiss them, and find it a turn off if the guy asks permission.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:26 PM
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Fair, but then we'd also need INB4 "I love my super non-aggressive, effeminate man that would look to me for protection in fight." That's great, I'm happy for those women, but we're talking about trends and percentages. Here's the nuance that gets confused around here constantly. 99.9% of women don't want to date an asshole. It's not what they are looking for. But assholes do a few things very well without trying. They tend to be decisive, unafraid to be disagreeable, confident and socially domi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:57 PM
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It's certainly much easier for extroverts. And you're, right, it can be a lot like sales. You're selling yourself. But like any other skill, it can be learned. Game got a bad rap when it became associated with guys dressed like they robbed a Hot Topic doing magic tricks in night clubs, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:10 PM
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Statistically? It would be hard to setup studies to quantify the effectiveness of game. You'd need different versions of the same guy to try to hit on the same girl and have her not remember the other attempts. But "evidence that for every quintile of looks gained the easier you have it for dating" is really just another way of saying that good looks give you a bigger margin for error. If you look like Christiano Ronaldo, you can have garbage game and still be successful most of the time. Anecdo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:18 AM
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A lot of dudes on this sub overrate looks and underrate game. Looks just gives you a bigger margin for error, IMO. IE, mistakes that would be fatal for a bad or average looking guy will be ignored for a really good looking guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:25 PM
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I noticed this a lot around military bases in the early 2000s when I was in. Due to the bases there was a huge surplus of fit young men. Supply and demand. You would often see young, fit guys with telltale haircuts around town with heavy and even obese young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:47 PM
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The divorce rate is skewed heavily towards the lower and middle class. The wealthy still use marriage as means of wealth growth and preservation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:29 PM
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I agree. Woman are today much more likely to pursue Alpha fun rather than Resource Provisioning, aka Beta Bux.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:25 PM
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I would argue a lot of that is what the PUA community used to call "game." In my very fairly grad program (~300 students of all years) there was a very average looking, doughy dude that was kind of a loner and he went on a tear sleeping with women in the program.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:34 AM
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I disagree. I've had two ex's reach back out to me. One just to express regret, the other to actually see if I was open to reconnecting. Both had ended up in abusive relationships after breaking up with me, one emotional, one physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:27 AM
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Context dependent. Cold approaching at grocery store or bank is very close to useless. At a house party or a bar it's a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:44 PM
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Some PUA stuff is actually good for everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:15 AM
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Oh, and one other thing. Since you like to view this as a contract situation between the two people in the relationship and find the third-party cheater to be blame free, in part because they have no obligation to the people in the relationship: In contract law, there is a tort known as tortious interference with a contract. There, a party with no contractual relationship between the two contracted parties can be liable if they induce one of the parties to breach the contract with the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:46 PM
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Which would hurt worse: A) this guy at work has been hitting on me and last night I was going to do it, but we were interrupted by a coworker. I'm sorry. B) this guy at work has been hitting on me and last night he decorated my womb. I'm sorry. Yes, both are bad, and breaking up is probably the right answer in A) also, but if B) wouldn't make you viscerally more hurt and angry, IDK what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 06:13 PM
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No, sorry. It's still someone doing something they know will hurt someone else that has done nothing wrong to them for their own pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 04:00 PM
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No, it is not implied at all in his post that a person is not fully able to make choices. The cheater makes the choice to cheat and they are responsible for the consequences and guilty of being a bad partner. The third person, if they are aware of the relationship, is also making choice, should face the consequences, and are guilty of being a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 02:57 PM
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"So the guy has cancer and probably would've died anyways so I figured I may as well just kill him." The relationship can be over and the third party can also be a scumbag. There isn't just a finite amount of blame that can't be divided.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 02:47 PM
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Are you suggesting that actions can be wrong only if they involve breaching a commitment? I think that is a misguided worldview because I reject moral relativism, which this seems to be a flavor of.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:40 AM
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Because they are deriving pleasure from something they know will cause pain to someone else that has done nothing wrong to them, without any consideration of them. It demonstrates a lack of empathy that suggestive of sociopathic behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:35 AM
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I have read that in Sweden and Norway fewer men are having children, but the ones that are having children are having them with multiple women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:24 AM
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This is the great unintended consequence of women's liberation. And before you accuse me of yearning for a return of patriarchy, let me say 100% unequivocally that it is a wonderful thing that women are able to pursue their dreams just like men have been doing for decades. But since having a man around to raise children is 100% optional now, traits like even-temper, reliability, etc.. are now just "nice to have" traits that many women don't select for. When women knew that would have to totally …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:21 AM
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Which is kind of funny to me. I'm in my mid 40s and I feel like in my youth, he'd be the guy the audience was rooting for to overcome his awkwardness and get the girl. And now they're like RUN GIRL!, he's a creep!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:27 PM
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It's also not enough to have character and a strong identity that doesn't revolve around your interactions with women. Guys are expected to "get it" when it comes to creating sexual chemistry with women and those don't are often left confused, dejected, and vulnerable to either PUA stuff, and when that fails to work for them, Incel ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 10:22 PM
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The majority of the comments I've seen on reviews of the episode seem to be wanting to end up getting the trope. They are pointing out his "red flags" and hoping Portia runs away.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:58 PM
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I agree and that's why I surprised to see a character like this in a show these days. I was expecting the trope.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:53 PM
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I have had several women tell me they see lack of the level of sexual and/or relationship experience expected of an "average" man that age to be a major red flag. I think that's part of why this topic strikes such a chord with me. I see myself in characters like this and agree with his assessment that "lots of women say they want a nice guy but find them boring." I also grew up fatherless and determined to be unlike my absent, philandering dad and struggled mightily with women for most of my lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:49 PM
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In the preview for the next episode Portia says that Albie "is nice. Maybe too nice. I wish he'd get my heartrate up more." and they tease a rival love interest for her. So, it does appear that the show is going to continue to explore this idea. It will be interesting to see which way they go with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:29 PM
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This take would've been thoroughly debunked if it didn't include the words "most likely" in the last sentence. But alas, it does include those words, so everyone's specific examples do not disprove it. Nowhere does he say that there are no well-adjusted high n-count women, or poorly adjusted virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 06:46 PM
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Anecdotal evidence ahead. At the planet fitness I go to there are way, way more fit dudes than chicks.
/r/askTRP19/06/21 11:10 AM
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I think this is a manifestation of the Dunning-Kruger effect. Some dudes are just too dumb to realize they suck so they have an unshakable belief in themselves. When it comes to dating confidence and balls can overcome quite a bit.
/r/askTRP10/07/20 01:24 PM
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Confidence. That’s the variable that explains this based on my 25 years of dating experience. A guy that truly believes he is the shit can and will punch well above their weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 04:02 PM
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Athlean-X YouTube channel has some great posture videos.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 01:51 PM
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At an environmental level, it’s fantastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 10:45 AM
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Oh they may want their resources and even try to convince themselves that they want them, but they aren’t sexually attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 06:19 PM
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You misunderstand RP theory fundamentally if you think female teachers sleeping with male students doesn’t make sense because of status and resources. Status and especially resources are the BB half of AF/BB. Many guys that lack status and resources get laid all the time because they are the AF side of the scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 01:41 AM
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I can’t think of a worse use of time.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 11:49 AM
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Joining a fraternity was the best decision I made in college for many reasons, including access to hot chicks. Pay attention to what your more successful friends do. Did you pay attention to what the other talked about and did with the girl that lost interest in taking to you? You have good role models to emulate, take advantage of it. You will fuck up if you try, it goes with the turf, but you will learn it’s only a big deal if you make it one.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 11:41 AM
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I know he’s not popular around here but I really like his stuff.
/r/askTRP29/07/19 11:37 AM
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Any quick anecdotes? Love to hear specifics.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 02:14 AM
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If waking up at 5am and being productive was easy, everyone would be doing it.
/r/askTRP26/07/19 11:36 AM
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Might want to delete your Instagram for a while.
/r/askTRP26/07/19 01:53 AM
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That’s gonna be a no from me, dawg.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 01:09 PM
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It’s like watching NBA from the 1950s. The game has changed a lot, but at the time it was revolutionary.
/r/askTRP25/07/19 02:30 AM
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The standard advice for any confrontation seems to be to get a concealed carry permit and pack heat.
/r/askTRP19/07/19 12:55 PM
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You need to get rid of that mindset by any means necessary or sooner or later you’ll convince her of that too.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 01:56 PM
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Guys with big muscles tend to beat up guys without them. I think you’re trying to drill into a steel floor.
/r/askTRP16/07/19 01:10 AM
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And if she is a 6 or 7 there are a lot of guys who would be down with that, she just finds them “boring.”
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/19 11:38 PM
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How did your buddy like the material? Did it change his situation?
/r/askTRP15/07/19 08:29 PM
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I’m not advocating for it, it’s pretty stupid and can lead to legal and medical problems if you are getting into fights. But it is aggressive, masculine behavior and it does make some women wet.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 01:56 PM
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Just look around at what looks good and copy it if you think it works with your personal style. I’m an America and I spent a summer in London 10 years ago or so. I thought people dressed better there. You should have plenty of good examples to go from.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 01:21 PM
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Some girls eat it up. Once I college I was drunk and really overreacted to some guy taking to my girlfriend. She told me after how sexy she thought it was and how she liked it when I got jealous. One of my first views behind the curtain of the female psyche.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 12:43 PM
9

If it makes you feel any better I’m 42 and still in the same boat. I never had to study in high school and I grew up with a fucked up internal definition of intelligence which was success without effort. I felt the same about other attributes as well. I’ve always been smart enough to get by, or dig myself out of the holes I created, but now later in life I look at myself and see wasted potential. You’ve got so much more time than me, make the most of it.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 02:02 AM
3

I’m a lawyer and I will never be wealthy. Law salaries have a very bimodal distribution. You have a small group that make a lot and a big group that make about the same as an RN or a teacher. I’m not saying you can’t become wealthy practicing law but the big majority of lawyers never do. Doctor is guaranteed from what I’ve seen.
/r/askTRP11/07/19 02:54 PM
1

I think the only guaranteed profession to become wealthy while working for someone else is doctor.
/r/askTRP11/07/19 01:00 PM
2

Both are a sign of the decline of western civilization.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 12:46 PM
2

Or it means you lack game and/or confidence. There’s a scrawny guy I work with that has fucked three of the hottest women at work and has 2 kids by one of them. He’s got serious game. Another guy there is about 5’7” but is a former Marine that thinks he’s the shit. He’s dating a gorgeous physical therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 12:22 PM
1

You’re the one who theorized that I was going after women that are out of my league, I was merely refuting that. I agree that people tend to pair off with people of similar attractiveness levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 03:02 PM
2

I see worse looking guys than me with women I’d be happy to date all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 01:19 PM
3

Hey, what I’ve been doing hasn’t worked for 42 years but who knows, there’s always the next Bumble match.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 01:18 PM
19

Disagree. I am a 6’1” attorney, never married no kids. Average physique, full head of hair. Face wise, I’d say 6 or 7. I have always struggled with women. I attribute it to my personality. I joined EHarmony back when it was just starting to get big, back when you had to take a very lengthy personality test. I’ll never forget, it said I had a personality only 7% of women found attractive. I tried to find the report again a few years later and it was gone. Bad for business to be so honest, I suppo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 07:25 PM
1

On SMV: I think incels over estimate the importance of looks. TRP probably over estimates the importance of lifting. Neither will help if you lack confidence.
/r/askTRP26/06/19 03:03 PM
4

Work on it. Watch YouTube videos. Practice with fat chicks. Or don’t and just focus on meeting women at other places. It really is up to you.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 06:13 PM
4

It’s not that you can’t. It’s that you won’t.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 05:16 PM
5

Dance > make out > hookup.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 04:54 PM
8

Most “conversations” in the loud areas of the club are just people saying “What?” and nodding approvingly even though they have no idea what the other person just said. Topics beyond “you look hot” and drink orders aren’t really on the agenda in my experience.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 02:16 PM
9

It’s typically to get back at their LTR. That’s why I hate orbiters when I’m the one in the LTR. They sit around in the shadows waiting like hyenas for you to fuck up.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 01:49 PM
43

Club game is all about non-verbal communication (eye contact, kino, dancing). Accordingly, looks matter more.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 01:47 PM
1

These threads pop up a lot and I’ve never seen this one. Thanks.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 11:28 AM
1

I think it makes more sense to think of SMV and RMV, relationship market value. I’m no expert but isn’t that the reason people refer to the dual mating strategy? AF/BB? So in your example the first guy is high RMV but low SMV. The other guy is the opposite.
/r/askTRP19/06/19 12:08 PM
2

Some people get really bothered by strangers taking their laptop from them, to put it mildly.
/r/askTRP19/06/19 02:26 AM
98

Surprised you didn’t get a visit from campus security on this one.
/r/askTRP18/06/19 03:00 PM
1

Does the book offer anything his website doesn’t?
/r/askTRP17/06/19 12:11 PM
1

Its pretty normal for guys to joke around with each other like but this could be more than that. I think you need to evaluate whether these guys are really your friends or not. Do you get anything positive from them or is it just constant shit? They might be looking for you to stand up for yourself a little bit. Only you can decide if all that is worth it.
/r/askTRP14/06/19 04:38 PM
1

Are you the only one in the group that gets this treatment, or does everyone bust on each other?
/r/askTRP14/06/19 04:23 PM
1

All kidding aside keep us updated. I think you need to walk the fine line between not getting suckered into a pissing contest with him and not letting him walk all over you. It’s not easy in this scenario since no matter how justified it might be, getting into an open feud with this guy could easily make the company decide neither of you are worth hiring. Be assertive but always remain calm.
/r/askTRP14/06/19 12:50 PM
2

Don’t t focus on what you lost, focus on what you gained. Tangible proof that you can get high quality women. It should build your confidence, not ruin.
/r/askTRP14/06/19 12:19 PM
2

Who is “disrespecting” you? How are they doing it? Can you give examples? This could be anything from guys just doing harmless ball-busting in your social group to really fucked up stuff that warrants cutting people out of your life. Tough to say from the post.
/r/askTRP14/06/19 12:11 PM
1

So is this your recipe to avoid being a kiss ass? Don’t help people Whine constantly Insult others Be rude Be arrogant Exclude people Be ungrateful Be disinterested in others
/r/askTRP14/06/19 12:08 PM
2

Initiate a BJJ match the next time he answers your question during a meeting. If you can make him tap out during a staff meeting nobody will respect him again.
/r/askTRP14/06/19 11:11 AM
3

Many assumptions there and they are wrong. But if you’re trying to convince me that I’m “sub par” or whatever feel free to keep trying if that’s your jam.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 01:19 PM
3

I’m in my early 40s. Sallie Mae will own my soul till I die. So it goes. You’re definitely an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 12:20 PM
2

NO huge debt? Guess I’m fucked. Thanks law school!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 12:12 PM
2

I always thought that PUA stuff was similar to magic tricks. If you know how they work they are really unimpressive. After PUAs started getting into the mainstream women’s magazines ran stories warning how to avoid falling for it. In particular they really latched onto negging and compared it to emotional abuse. Once word got out about tactics like that, I’m sure they were way less effective than they where before. Especially the canned routines and stuff. “I want you to close your eyes and imag…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 12:05 AM
1

I still talk to her every now and then. Years after the fact she admitted that me not throwing myself at her at all was extremely attractive to her. I think it was a perfect storm of me being something different to her by giving off a disinterested vibe and my feeling absolutely no pressure since I didn’t think it was possible. As interesting aside, the only times I’ve been able to replicate that effect on women was by accident. Women with significant others have a couple times made moves on me.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 05:44 PM
2

People tend to want what they can’t have. One of my first RP experiences was in college. One of my friends was dating the roommate of an insanely attractive, rich foreign student. Most students clear out for the summer but she decided to take summer classes and I was a “townie”. He suggested we hang out and of course I agreed. I thought this girl was soooo far out of my league I approached hanging out with her like I was doing a favor for him by entertaining her. It literally didn’t even cross m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 05:16 PM
2

I think he’s saying that ONLY look matter, and therefore TRP is bullshit since looks is mostly genetic. AKA some incel bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 12:34 PM
1

You are 100% right about smart girls. I recently met an extremely smart, nerdy girl. She has an advanced STEM degree, used to play D&D, huge GoT nerd, etc.. She might be the smartest person I’ve ever met. I thought finally, a girl I can just be myself around!!! I have an IQ of 135 and many nerdy hobbies and interests but I usually hide them when it comes to dating. I figured this was a girl I could drop “the game” with and just be myself. Wrong! After 5 dates I got the familiar speech, “you’re s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 12:29 PM
5

Okay then that is yet another one. The one I’m thinking of it seemed like the boyfriend may have had a warrant because he seemed more worried about the police than the muggers haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 01:51 PM
16

I read a similar story on Reddit somewhere a few months back. I don’t think it’s a repost because there were less details in this one. Wouldn’t be surprised if it happens more often than we think. They should go their separate ways, I don’t see how that is recoverable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 12:05 PM
2

Queen for a Year
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 03:23 AM
3

The behaviors can be learned but ultimately looks matter somewhat and confidence matters a lot. As far as looks go, it matters, but not as much as incels think. It's like IQ, it predicts success in life to an extent and then sees diminishing returns after a certain point. A confident 5 will do better than a 7 that is unsure of himself. While incels overvalue looks, I think TRP overvalues muscles. They help in both increasing attraction (again subject to diminishing returns) and confidence. I've …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 02:43 AM
1

As a dude who is looking for an LTR it seems if you aren’t having success with finding a relationship you probably aren’t finding FWB opportunities either. If you’re the kind of guy that gets casual sex easily I’d imagine in most cases you get a relationship if you wanted one. I could be wrong though I’ve never been the latter kind of guy. Theoretically maybe a really hot but really dumb guy might run into that problem? IE girls like fucking him but don’t enjoy his company enough to commit to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 04:49 PM
5

Have the same exact problem. In for replies.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 07:20 PM
9

I’ve learned the hard way that I need to. My last 3 experiences all went down the same. Got the first date with no problem. Kissed in date 2. Never progressed past making out. Dumped on date 5. Same talk. You’re a great guy and I feel like I should be attracted to you, but I’m not!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 01:08 PM
3

I assume non-exclusive until the talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 01:31 AM
29

All the extra attention and pictures and shit really screams guilty conscience. I’d be suspicious as fuck.
/r/askTRP26/05/19 10:51 PM
2

This is a college/university scenario I take it?
/r/askTRP24/05/19 07:28 PM
2

Most? And even accepting that, what about what a man has to offer their children?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 12:44 PM
1

If anyone is curious, the "Ched" birds begin at 26:40 of S1E1 of Our Planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 12:38 PM
2

I don't think it's necessarily silly, especially if you are comparing a specific behavior or group of behaviors. As fellow warm-blooded vertebrates, we have a lot more in common with birds than most things on the planet. The birds even looked like little chads, with bold, vibrant colors and animated, exaggerated movements.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 12:33 PM
1

I think we are headed towards a reckoning, but that's a conversation for a different sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 12:31 PM
1

Very true, and with humans there is an extra layer. A functioning society, not the physical world, is what creates the abundance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 12:28 PM
12

A thousand times this. Looks matter, but only to a certain extent. Looks are kind of like your resume, it can get you an interview but in most cases it won’t get you the job just by itself.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 11:15 AM
3

It’s not irrational, she’s hot and good in bed. I don’t think you need to next her, just enjoy it for what it is with no strings attached.
/r/askTRP20/04/19 12:02 PM
3

That’s the wrong conclusion, they most assuredly do have political opinions. It’s just that attraction trumps them. And, as we know, attraction is not a choice. A hot guy with political beliefs she finds repugnant will always triumph over a timid, boring guy that has beliefs exactly in line with her own.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/18 11:21 PM
14

He held frame professionally but didn’t hold frame in his personal life.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/18 02:05 AM
2

That’s great, never heard it before.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/18 08:28 PM
2

If you're worried about the dynamic changing if you ask about it, that should probably tell you that you value the friendship, which should tell you that you shouldn't do it. I'd say if that's a concern, just default to abundance mentality and move on the next one.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 01:03 AM
1

A lot of good answers and feedback, I appreciate it. The more I think about it, though, the more I think the answer to this situation (like many) can be found in Road House. The scene when Dalton is teaching his bouncers to deal with provocations: Steve: Being called a cocksucker isn't personal? Dalton: No. It's two nouns combined to elicit a prescribed response. Steve: What if somebody calls my mama a whore? Dalton: Is she? Feeling like I need to fight or feeling butthurt over a random slight f…
/r/askTRP25/06/18 12:52 AM
1

I don't disagree, I have some beta tendencies for sure. I'd imagine that is why most TRP readers find value here. A true natural alpha wouldn't be reading things like TRP, they already know it. Just curious though, which language/choice of words were you referring to?
/r/askTRP25/06/18 12:46 AM
2

Calling dibs on girls is stupid as fuck. Be honest with your friend but don’t feel bad about it. If you weren’t banging her, somebody else would be, and it wouldn’t be your buddy.
/r/askTRP24/06/18 11:51 PM
3

Yeah, thanks. You're absolutely right. There are options on the spectrum between "START A FIGHT" and "do nothing."
/r/askTRP24/06/18 03:37 PM
1

Chad has done it again!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 09:16 PM
5

With both sexes really, it’s like musical chairs. People marry who they are with when they think the music is going to stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/18 11:59 AM
1

Works for me. Though to be fair, I get most dates from apps, etc where its already known what everyone is there for. Even so, if you approach someone of the opposite sex and ask them to hang out one on one they will know you are asking them out 99% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/18 10:48 PM
1

Why would you want to do that? You can be direct about what you want without being crude. How about “hey, you seem really cool, want to grab a drink after work? Cool! Let me get your number.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/18 08:48 PM
1

A lot of PUA stuff doesn’t work if the girls you are hitting on know about it. It’s kind of like a magic show where the audience knows ahead of time how all the tricks work. Negging is the concept that pop culture latched onto to explain PUA to the curious public. As a consequence a lot of girl read about it and Cosmo and stuff. If they know you are trying to neg them they will most likely put their guard up. I think it’s kind of a dated technique tbh. Traditional “ball busting” type stuff works…
/r/seduction08/01/18 09:29 PM
1

And then terrorize them with a mountain cat!
/r/TheRedPill08/01/18 04:19 PM
2

LOL, Chad has done it again!
/r/TheRedPill03/01/18 03:20 AM
3

I didn't take it as an insult, I was genuinely curious and I appreciate the discussion. In this case though, it's his wife that is succumbing to his traits, no? He may have beta bux, but he is pretty alpha. I was just arguing that his extremely high SMV gives him more leeway to engage in unattractive behaviors (video gaming) than a guy that is a borderline 6 and barely making ends meet. A lot chicks would hang on to my friend for dear life even if he was playing WoW 6 hours a day. The second guy…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/17 08:07 PM
1

Educate me then. What did I say that was "beta"?
/r/TheRedPill31/12/17 07:49 PM
2

So if your passion is fucking anime pillows women will be cool with it as long as you’re passionate about it and maintain frame? Of course they won’t be. Many women view video games almost as bad. Is it fair? Nope. Just the way it is. Again, though, if you’re value is high enough they will tolerate it, or if your value is super high they might even make themselves get into it too. It’s all about context.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/17 08:41 PM
8

Look at the smugness on that bitch's face. Probably spending poor guy's life insurance on bon bons and her new fuck toy.
/r/MGTOW30/12/17 01:53 PM
9

It depends. I know a guy who plays video games in front of his wife all the time, always has. But is a VP at his company and makes mid six figures and come from a very wealthy family. If your SMV is high enough, you can do whatever you want. In addition to being rich he is tall, athletic and extremely personable. In the flip side if you are teetering in the edge of whether a woman thinks you are high enough value to commit to, your video gaming could be exactly the thing for her to justify ditch…
/r/TheRedPill30/12/17 01:48 PM
1

Everything in moderation. Facebook can be a great way to demonstrate value. It can show you have lots of friends and that you have cool interests. With that said, don’t be one of those people that checks in every time they walk into a place and don’t post every time you have a thought. In this age I think not having a social media presence at all can make you seem weird, but you def don’t want to go overboard either.
/r/seduction24/12/17 02:20 PM
27

You have a life rule dedicated to dealing with inspirational quotes?
/r/TheRedPill20/12/17 12:55 PM
1

Every failure that occurs from doing a cold approach in the same area can damage your SMV exponentially. I used to watch dudes come into the college bar I worked at and go from one girl to another cold opening. If a girl sees another girl shoot you down in front of her your odds of success are near zero unless you are extremely good looking. If a girl sees multiple women reject you, nothing can save you.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/17 11:11 PM
2

I’m 40 and have been drinking black coffee daily since my late 20s. Going grey but full head of hair. YMMV
/r/TheRedPill17/12/17 06:02 AM
2

Unfortunately you can be in great shape and seemingly have your stuff together but if you are doing it hoping for external validation (from women) you might still be miserable. I think that’s what he was getting at. Not just respect, but loving yourself too.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/17 01:07 PM
3

This seems more like a rant I’d find in my email inbox from my tea party relatives than something I’d expect to find on TRP. OP, let’s take it further. Since the top 1% pay a disproportionate amount of taxes how about only they get to vote. Or maybe the top 0.1%. After all, they are clearly the most worthy genetically as evident by their results. You good with that?
/r/TheRedPill28/11/17 06:06 PM
6

Firstly, agree with others that you should seek help for your depression. Second, a couple months ago (or maybe longer) a story went viral about a dude that leveled his character to max level in the starting area before the first boss in a Final Fantasy game, mainly to spite someone. Now bear with me, this isn't a story about video games. When he was done with the grind and shaming his forum nemesis, he had this to say and it is fucking poetry: "Life does not have inherent meaning; to say that o…
/r/TheRedPill23/11/17 12:52 PM
212

You failed the shit test so Chad will never bang you now. Better luck next time, OP.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/17 02:56 AM
5

True, it is an important lesson to learn, the stakes are even higher for high earners like yourself. I commend your attitude and your willingness to share your lessons and experiences with others.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/17 01:31 PM
4

Damn that sucks but it makes sense. Sorry bro.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/17 01:25 PM
3

How does this even happen? Like where did she meet him?
/r/TheRedPill20/11/17 01:08 PM
2

This is an interesting opposite (theoretically at least) of the FR from the 30 y.o. hitting on the 18 y.o. coworker that got called out for using beta provider game. So a bum with literally zero provider potential that was still able to bed hot, normal women because he caused tingles would theoretically be maximum alpha? E: for clarification I am NOT saying this is what the video actually depicts.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/17 06:09 PM
2

Imagine a male figure skater and you should get the idea.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/17 01:33 PM
1

In my area Tinder has many more woman but the quality on Bumble is much, much higher.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 09:24 PM
1

Were you Christian before that experience? Would you mind sharing any more details about it?
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 03:15 PM
8

OP should have fought the men, divorced his wife and left with the other chick but instead he got cucked. This is a disaster.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/17 11:50 AM
4

Lol, I love that some people think that anything that isn’t sociopathic “sounds BP”
/r/TheRedPill19/10/17 12:39 PM
4

If you went to the gym regularly for a few months and saw no improvement I’d bet the house that your problem is 95% diet.
/r/seduction17/10/17 04:38 PM
2

So you're saying that women are impossible to figure out because they real answer is that women simply don't like skinny guys? I'm sorry I'm not buying this for a second. Women, more so than men, have a wide spectrum of what they consider attractive.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/17 01:02 AM
2

For starters, most of that is bullshit. I knew a lot of dudes that were shorter than me, didn't dress as nice, and were at best about the same level of good looking as I am or actually worse looking, yet were still getting very decent looking chicks on a regular basis. I suspect from the tone of your post that your issue is the same one I used to have. Your post screams "bitter and resentful". I can assure you nothing is less attractive to women than resentful anger. If they get even a whiff of …
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 11:15 PM
52

Part of it is just his natural personality traits. Some men are just naturals. Also helps he was born and came of age back when masculinity wasn't "toxic" and "troubling".
/r/TheRedPill06/10/17 06:21 PM
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