so today i read a post earlier saying you aint gonna learn nor develop any game skills if you don't cold approach. so i thought fuck it imma head down to the gym and on the way back if i see an attractive chick imma try the cold approach.
so walking down the train station to the bus port. on the way down i see a hb8 and i thought to myself damn i should talk to her. i checked the bus times and thought fuck it imma try at least, so i walk over there and pull out a ciggerate and ask her for a light i get one etc. etc. the conversation was short and pretty one-sided but i thought whatever she is probably playing hard to get and all of a sudden she points to this dude, her boyfriend walking over with his 11 year old or so sister. he comes straight to me and starts harrasing me saying shit like "what you doing talking to my girlfriend" etc. etc. this dude hasn't got any chill and is clearly acting like a fucking idiot and is hyping himself up for it too, im trying to calm him down but his caught up in his tough guy ego (note: i have only ever been in one fight in my life and am generally a pretty nervous person, i gotta say this is probably one of the times i have stood up for myself the most in my life even though it isn't much).
as his trying to pull me into his control of frame (i got to admit i did slip a little bit just to get him to shut the fuck up) i was mostly chilled out but a bit nervous and also thinking "wow this dude is a fucking idiot won't even rationalize, its clearly an act to impress his girl but he probs wont hit me". than about 10 secs later he hooks me in the temple, i took it pretty well and i think it gave him the impression i wasn't really too phased or scared of him (it did suprise me tho) so he keeps yapping shit so i get up, grab my shit and walk off as he keeps yelling shit like "yeah come back and start talking to her again".
this dude was a textbook hood rat, the hit connected well but i can't really fight so i didn't wanna take the chance. i slipped up by saying "sorry bro i didnt know" that's the only fucking thing i regret. i do feel a bit humiliated, hurt more than the hit honestly. The weird thing is i actually feel bad about the situation i don't know why, anyways my questions are 1. how do i not feel bad about the situation as if its somehow my fault? 2. what should i do or protocol to use if something like this happens again (chick gave me no warning but i don't really care) 3. i noticed i was pretty nervous and fucking up frame a bit when talking to her, does it get easier and are there good coping mindsets for cold approach beginners?
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