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| 3 | Question for recovering addicts | BrodinsOats | /r/askTRP | 08/11/18 06:29 PM |
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| 2 | Got humiliated by a personal trainer in front of women in the gymHe sounds like he’s trying to do his job and keep his client happy. | /r/askTRP | 20/10/20 09:56 PM |
| 3 | This girl sent me a fucking survey after we had sexI mean facebook and online dating both turned out to be degenerate trash soooo | /r/askTRP | 18/07/20 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Redpill's opinion on psychotherapyImo therapy can be excellent. “Red pill” was pretty much irrelevant in the therapy I’ve done. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/20 04:26 PM |
| 2 | What's the best way to reply to a girl who is "checking in" on you, after leaving you on seen for 2 weeks?You leave her on seen, forever | /r/askTRP | 06/05/20 10:36 PM |
| 3 | what do you have for dinner when you have a girl over?Go forth and slay young king | /r/askTRP | 04/05/20 04:50 PM |
| 8 | what do you have for dinner when you have a girl over?My favorite easy meal is pan-fried salmon and sautéed broccolette. Optionally, you can also include rice. Fruit for dessert between rounds of banging. I recommend frozen bag of mixed berries that you can defrost. | /r/askTRP | 03/05/20 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Living with androgynous alphabet peopleThis. Gay does mean SJW. SJWs are insufferable closet fascists. I would NOT want to live with one. Gay people are just individuals. Judge them as individuals. They could make for a great roommate, or a bad one. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/20 11:58 PM |
| 5 | Tv sitcomsis it to get women viewers Probably. That’s who advertisers want because they spend the money. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/20 11:40 PM |
| 0 | People who haven been sexually molested and went to treatment — what kind of doctor did you see?FWIW I had to go outside insurance and drop some serious $$$ on a holistic-oriented psychiatrist (talk therapy, neurofeedback, medication) to finally find someone who got through to me. I went through several professionals in the years beforehand that didn’t. So just keep looking until you find the right one. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/20 07:57 PM |
| 8 | Narcissistic Personality Disorder TellsMost people on here usually confuse narcissistic personality traits for NPD or BPD. Not you that sounds like an actual legit case lmao. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/04/20 04:38 AM |
| 15 | Narcissistic Personality Disorder TellsThis can probably be fixed quite handily with correctly graded exposure therapy. You’re not a narcissist but they have just as much right to exist as you. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/04/20 04:33 AM |
| 3 | How to deal with unmedicated ADHDI 100% believe that neurofeedback therapy and meditation can be honest-to-god cures for ADHD. I’ve been putting some serious effort into my meditation practice (going up to 30, 45, and even 60 minute sessions daily) and it’s really paying off. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/20 03:05 AM |
| 3 | Cold approaching during coronaYeah, don’t | /r/askTRP | 27/03/20 06:38 PM |
| 6 | During quarantine I am learning to code for web development - any tips to move toward this career/side-hustle wise?I started out by looking for freelance projects on craiglist. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/20 06:32 PM |
| 7 | Do you guys believe in law of attraction/spirituality stuff?Law of attraction is just the same thing as “luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity” and the inverse of ”you miss every shot you don’t take.” To find or achieve something you have to seek it. That’s what happens when the “law of attraction” comes to fruition. It’s not magic. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Our brains aren't fully formed until 25. How to take advantage of this?You have more neuroplasticity. Great time to instill good habits. Good time for learning and training all kinds of knowledge and skills. Bad time to waste away on any bad habits. It’s only gonna get harder to change them the older you get. | /r/askTRP | 18/03/20 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Girl at a rave tonight said “you act like such a player but I can tell you’re a good person”Just take care lads don’t roll too often (handful of times a year is even too much imo). There are so many burnouts from this scene. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/20 08:12 PM |
| 2 | What's your cure for "swamp balls"?ExOfficio boxer briefs are a god send. Only underwear I wear now. | /r/askTRP | 15/02/20 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Massive sudden increase in SMV, but can't quite adapt mentallyIf you have some social anxiety you shouldn’t work from home imo. Reduced social exposure will just make it worse. I say this after working from home for about 4 years btw. | /r/askTRP | 13/02/20 07:18 PM |
| 2 | How do you gentleman handle stress and being overwhelmedKeep an open dialogue with your superiors about the problems and stress, but with a problem-solving/can-do attitude. Some feedback I once had from a superior who left me a negative review was that I internalized stress and workload too much. He said I needed to “make [my] problems other people’s problems,” by delegating to team members and communicating issues to superiors better. Idk if this applies to your situation or not but hopefully it helps. | /r/askTRP | 06/02/20 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Was I too harsh to this (failed) plate?You came off as a butt hurt clown. But it’s okay man we all gotta take Ls sometimes. You need to lay the blame on yourself for wasting your time though. She rejected you not once but three times. Should have just ignored her much earlier on. | /r/askTRP | 02/02/20 09:57 PM |
| 2 | Books to overcome childhood abuse and physical abuseI’ve got a great book for you... “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.” It will help you identify patterns woven into your psyche so you can work to dismantle them. I also recommend therapy. I also had a very temperamental father. Extremely tense, very neurotic, narcissistic and angry. Beat my brothers and I with a leather belt for punishment. So I feel you brah. Hope you’re not going down the substance abuse route to manage, like I did. That will just make it worse, by making you less equi… | /r/askTRP | 02/02/20 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Do you think living in a big city is bad for your mental health?Southern California all between LA and SD is still pretty dense. Unending urban/suburban sprawl. | /r/askTRP | 01/02/20 09:00 AM |
| 2 | I notice lots of men yell during a high-pressure moment when working with machines, is this panicing a weakness?Yes it’s a weakness. Sympathetic arousal (“fight or flight”) serves to enhance gross motor movements to help you survive in dangerous situations (so you can run away to safety, fight, etc.) but it is detrimental to fine motor coordination and problem solving. In contrast, highly trained men who work in stressful situations (like military special operators, pilots, astronauts, first responders, etc.) are trained to remain calm. Your coworkers are just letting themselves fall victim to their base … | /r/askTRP | 29/01/20 10:32 PM |
| 1 | How to handle road rage? Set me straight...Someone could easily pull a weapon on you in a situation like this and everything could go very bad very quickly. Regular practice of breathing exercises (nasal breathing, 2:1 ratio of exhale:inhale, etc.) and meditation can help develop your ability to calm yourself down. Cold exposure like ice baths combined with breathing exercises can also help develop the ability to calm yourself down when stressed. Remaining calm and controlling your breathing is key, if you just let yourself freak out the… | /r/askTRP | 21/01/20 09:15 AM |
| 1 | long term side effects of dead lifting and squatting 2x a week?Maybe it’s time to look into intermediate programs where you’re not maxing out all the time. | /r/askTRP | 16/01/20 11:32 PM |
| 2 | how to create a sense of emergency to get shit doneThis is how people with ADHD operate. Normal demands for a task are not stimulating enough (consequences too far in future). They procrastinate until the sense of urgency is overwhelming and try to marathon the whole task in a short period of time. This leads to chronic stress and burnout. It’s a horrible way to operate. I recommend a focused meditation practice. Neurofeedback therapy if you can afford it. This develops your ability to calmly maintain/redirect your attention at will. | /r/askTRP | 12/01/20 10:51 PM |
| 2 | The best response when requested to do something by LTR?This is such basic common courtesy. When someone fixes you up with food, taking care of the dishes afterwards is the least you can do to say thanks. | /r/askTRP | 12/01/20 10:41 PM |
| 15 | Chris Rock sharing red pills back in '96Bro that’s a huge part of his schtick. Lol | /r/TheRedPill | 12/01/20 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys know any indirect neck exercises?Bro that’s a picture of your traps not your neck. Lol but yeah they are big. | /r/askTRP | 10/01/20 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Whats your take on weed?Chronic cannabis consumption can cause symptoms similar to ADHD. Anxiety and neuroticism as welll. Look up published research reviews (a review of the scientific literature) if you want more details. Occasional use is likely no big deal but the key is “occasional.” It can be a slippery slope. | /r/askTRP | 09/01/20 09:08 PM |
| 1 | What are examples of classic literature, that every man should read?The Odyssey | /r/askTRP | 08/01/20 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Should I try intermittent fasting as a teen?Just start training and eat at a modest surplus. You’ll recomp nicely. | /r/askTRP | 08/01/20 05:57 PM |
| 11 | Things to do with the boys?Shooting | /r/askTRP | 08/01/20 05:38 AM |
| 2 | Anyone ever meet someone who was way too natural / present?Yup he’s very extroverted and connected with friends. Gets more ass than a toilet seat too, lol. | /r/askTRP | 05/01/20 08:23 PM |
| 3 | Anyone ever meet someone who was way too natural / present?I have a close friend who’s a natural like this. He’s seemingly one of those most well adjusted people I know...and he did an intense tour of combat in Afghanistan. I always figured maybe things just don’t phase him after he dealt with bullets flying at him and learning the value of life from losing friends. He says those lost were better men and he must live life to the fullest to honor them, or else their sacrifice was for nothing. Anyways, good question. I should ask him. | /r/askTRP | 05/01/20 07:11 PM |
| 3 | A woman is taken from me again - suicide... how to deal with harsh reality?Bro these are horrific tragic losses. What you’re feeling is normal. Don’t be hard on yourself for it. Yes we must strive to stoically accept the fact of death but it’s a hard fucking task, and that’s ok if it takes a hell of a lot of work. Let yourself grieve but also make sure you keep moving. Seek out therapy/counseling imo. | /r/askTRP | 04/01/20 11:17 PM |
| 1 | What are your favorite brands and types of condoms?This is the first I’ve heard of this | /r/askTRP | 03/01/20 08:20 PM |
| 9 | What are your favorite brands and types of condoms?Skyn. And try the large, you might be surprised and have it fit better. | /r/askTRP | 03/01/20 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Should you retract scapulae during pulling exercises?That article you linked is correct. For some reason “stay retracted” is a popular misconception. When rowing you should go from slight protraction to retraction as you pull the weight towards you. | /r/askTRP | 01/01/20 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Should you retract scapulae during pulling exercises?You shouldn’t be keeping it retracted the whole time. Scaps should move between protraction and retraction with the arms in a single coordinated motion as you push or pull. This is called “scapulohumeral rhythm.” My physical therapist taught me this. Kabuki Strength (headed by record holding powerlifter Chris Duffin) has posted about the concept on their social media too. | /r/askTRP | 01/01/20 02:14 AM |
| 4 | Handling Fast NutYou handled it perfectly. It’s not a problem at all if you engage in a lot of foreplay and go for another round after. In fact they’ll usually like it and take it as a compliment. I used to like singing a line from a Kendrick Lamar song to my girl when it happened. ”She make me cum fast but I never get embarrassed” | /r/askTRP | 30/12/19 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Why are older people so much nicer?It’s possible gen z is socially retarded due to smart phones. But idk, I would think that being used to being around people in school every day would help counteract that. One thing I know for sure tho is that older dudes have supreme DGAF abilities. Practicing a martial art probably makes them even more confident too. Sounds like a good environment for you. | /r/askTRP | 30/12/19 05:35 AM |
| 1 | First day back at the gym tomorrow, any advice?Go see a physical therapist. Also see this vid - https://youtu.be/qzGOcEuct54 You need to have proper positioning of pelvis and rib cage to facilitate correct diaphragmatic breathing patterns for proper Intra-Abdominal Pressure (IAP) to stabilize the spine while lifting. Hopefully you can find a physical therapist who can help you navigate that. Stuart McGill is also a good source of information, he’s written books you can look into. | /r/askTRP | 30/12/19 05:12 AM |
| 11 | literal last-minute date cancellation with rescheduling and high interest. Still wanting to next. Opinions?So don’t promote her from plate. But it sounds like you can still smash with ease. What’s the problem? | /r/askTRP | 29/12/19 11:25 PM |
| 2 | Can I get some feedback on my tinder profile?You’re a good looking guy you just have shitty photos. Wear contacts, no selfies, and don’t spam so many hiking photos, 1 is fine. | /r/askTRP | 29/12/19 08:05 PM |
| 1 | How do I improve focusI really recommend you look into Neurofeedback. Neurofeedback is like meditation on steroids. It will train your ability to regulate your sympathetic tone, which I’m guessing is what plays into your issues with anxiety. Breathing exercises and meditation are great too. | /r/askTRP | 29/12/19 08:12 AM |
| 1 | I'm 27, single, and about to make $170k at a remote job. Where should I move in the US?For me? In my city they’re too expensive, and it wasn’t a benefit my employer provided. I wanted to stay in my city for healthcare reasons. But yeah, it’s a good suggestion for sure. Could have been a totally different experience with a cool coworking space to work at. | /r/askTRP | 28/12/19 09:22 PM |
| 2 | How to not fuck up at the gym?He’s a completely novice lifter he doesn’t need to be maxing out trying to find his 1 RM. lol. Try just learning the movements first. | /r/askTRP | 28/12/19 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Can’t make friends on vacationIt kinda sounds like you just crashed a group of friends and they were like “who tf is this dude.” Were you any good? It’s quite a buzz kill trying to play volleyball with somebody who’s level of play is much worse than yours. I’ve played pickup games of VB and usually people are really friendly about it. But one time I was invited to a large group meet up and they were all realllllly good so no one really wanted to pick me for their team. Lol that day sucked. | /r/askTRP | 28/12/19 01:32 AM |
| 0 | Possibly cracked my sternum. Any advice or how to proceed with working out?Go to a physical therapist. | /r/askTRP | 28/12/19 01:27 AM |
| 2 | I'm 27, single, and about to make $170k at a remote job. Where should I move in the US?I’m not just talking about girls tho. Daily social interaction with friends, colleagues, and acquaintances forms a large basis of your mental health imo. I always hated working at coffee shops or cafes for the poor ergonomics and lack of external display/keyboard. I would always feel constrained in those spaces. I’m a software dev too btw. Anyways just wanted to throw my $0.02 since I insisted on trying remote life myself. I think it can be great if you scaffold it properly but you gotta be awar… | /r/askTRP | 27/12/19 09:12 PM |
| 4 | I'm 27, single, and about to make $170k at a remote job. Where should I move in the US?Outsourcing software dev isn’t as simple as everyone hoped. Coordinating with outsourced devs is difficult af and the quality is usually extremely shitty. | /r/askTRP | 27/12/19 08:47 PM |
| 1 | I'm 27, single, and about to make $170k at a remote job. Where should I move in the US?Bro if your goal is to be less lonely I would strongly suggest you don’t live and work alone at home. I just spent 4 years working from home and it’s really isolating. It slowly wears on you. I would recommend looking into coworking spaces so that getting out of your house and interacting with people is built into your daily routine by default. | /r/askTRP | 27/12/19 08:44 PM |
| 71 | LTR car smells like pussy? Am I losing my mindThese are the quality shitposts I come to AskTRP for | /r/askTRP | 25/12/19 06:47 AM |
| 9 | Is ghosting acceptable for a girl that’s obsessed with you?Just tell her you don’t think you should see each other anymore. Then block if she persists. | /r/askTRP | 24/12/19 11:35 PM |
| 4 | What do y’all think/recommend for talk therapy?A good psychotherapist isn’t supposed to really impart any value judgements, but help you navigate and come to your own conclusions. So this makes “being red pill” completely irrelevant for your therapist. That said I tried out a few different therapists over the years and never really vibed with any of them or found it especially helpful. But then I found an older psychiatrist who was extremely helpful for me. I think him being a psychiatrist (more education) and older (experienced) were helpfu… | /r/askTRP | 24/12/19 08:35 PM |
| 3 | Girlfriend ungrateful for me visiting her in the hospital.Was she on painkillers or otherwise sedated? That can make her irrational/needy/irritable. | /r/askTRP | 22/12/19 07:05 PM |
| 4 | Suggestions for killer isolated abs exercisesHanging leg raises, support hold leg raises, windshield wipers, ab wheel, and dragon flags are my favorite core exercises. Edit: hollow body holds progressed to hollow body rocks are great too. | /r/askTRP | 19/12/19 06:35 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with anger?The link in my comment is a simple but effective exercise. They teach it in the military for calming yourself down during combat. There’s also an app called “State” that you can use for breathing exercises. It’s made by ppl who have an “Art of Breath” course for learning about breathing practices and their use in performance applications. | /r/askTRP | 18/12/19 03:10 PM |
| 1 | What do yall do when you're feeling real depressed and hopeless?Talk therapy is actually really legit with the right therapist. | /r/askTRP | 18/12/19 06:10 AM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with anger?Meditation and breathing exercises will help you develop the ability to regulate your arousal levels (sympathetic signaling, “fight or flight”) on demand. I.e. it helps develop the ability to calm yourself down, whether you’re dealing with anger, anxiety or stress. Even for performance in stressful situations like combat or sports. | /r/askTRP | 17/12/19 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Better physique = Less attentionMan I’m 6’ and if I was 223 and 11% bf I would be JACKED. Let alone 5’8” | /r/askTRP | 17/12/19 09:29 AM |
| 1 | The thing that many of us dread the most happened to me$2000 for DNA testing??? Surely it shouldn’t cost that much? | /r/askTRP | 17/12/19 06:50 AM |
| 1 | Are there any of you who legitimately and permanently fixed their posture? If so, how did you do it?This happens to be a little bit of an expertise of mine, by way of personal experience. I’ve been rehabbing my posture for 5.5 years now. The first four years was with one PT whose model of therapy was...unsuccessful. At first I seemed to make good progress but eventually I regressed and got even worse. It included a lot of advice posted on this thread. Upper crossed syndrome, lower crossed syndrome, shoulders back, etc. Supple Leopard. Lots of self-myofascial release (foam rolling), which is es… | /r/askTRP | 11/12/19 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Are there any of you who legitimately and permanently fixed their posture? If so, how did you do it?My dawg!!! This man is woke. PRI is the way to go 100% | /r/askTRP | 11/12/19 06:40 AM |
| 2 | Cuddleslutlmfao I almost went “tldr” but then I held out, and wew | /r/askTRP | 11/12/19 06:26 AM |
| 1 | At what age do women feel they’re looks are fading?I started noticing people my age looking older around 26-27. | /r/askTRP | 09/12/19 06:30 PM |
| 7 | How do I deal with LTR sexual past , it s eating me insidePro tip: you position her yourself by grabbing the root of her hair at the back of her head, push her face into the pillow, and use your other hand at the crease of her hip to pull her ass up into the air. This is much more physically dominating than asking “can we do face down ass up now pls?” | /r/askTRP | 09/12/19 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Event PhotographyBitches love photographers. Hand out business cards so they can find the photos afterwards. The suggestion to wear an “event photographer” lanyard is great as well. | /r/askTRP | 08/12/19 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Guy who flirted with GF now wants to hang???It’s entirely possible he has an ulterior motive. It’s also entirely possible that he’s just looking for friends as well. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt...but don’t be naive either. | /r/askTRP | 06/12/19 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Why do I get sick after big lifts?This used to happen to me a lot but not anymore. I think taking vitamin D and sleeping better have been the keys. Washing your hands a lot is good too. | /r/askTRP | 05/12/19 07:31 PM |
| 2 | I'm not comfortable in my own skin anymore.Hey man I’ve been in quite a rut the past few years so I feel you. But I’m clawing my way out of this motherfucker. Hope you’ll join me. Could you elaborate on the PTSD? I found therapy really helpful for sorting out the trauma from earlier in my life. And a really good friend of mine who did an intense tour in Afghanistan (two Medal of Honor recipients in his unit) told me a big part of what he thinks helped him bounce back and resume a life of normalcy without suffering from terrible PTSD is t… | /r/askTRP | 04/12/19 06:29 PM |
| 5 | Men cheat physically. Women cheat physically, emotionally, and mentally. Why a cheating woman is far worse than a cheating manCan’t believe I had to scroll this far to find this comment. The woman cheating absolutely is much more devastating to the relationship because of paternity uncertainty. Not to promote cheating for either party...but the woman cheating is still worse. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/19 07:28 AM |
| 2 | Is the average attractiveness of the populace always on a gradual increase?This is a good question. Human females have evolved to have neotenous facial features to increase attractiveness in response to sexual selection pressure for youth. So that indicates that yes, we have evolved to become more attractive in the past, and it’s entirely possible that this is ongoing. However, it’s also possible to reach a sort of Nash equilibrium in evolutionary traits. I’m not an expert on evolutionary science so I can’t definitively answer your question, but it’s an interesting one… | /r/askTRP | 03/12/19 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Can someone please explain to me the need to have different exercises every workout for the same muscle groupVariations of lifts are good for a greater variety of stimuli that can help round out any weak points. They’re especially helpful for intermediate and advanced lifters. But you are correct that progressive overload of the core movement patterns (push, pull, hinge, squat, carry) are what’s important. The valid concerns you’re bringing up are the reasons why beginner strength programs pretty much focus only on main compound lifts for full body sessions 3x a week. Such high frequency on all your ma… | /r/askTRP | 02/12/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | What workouts should I add to my routine?Add squats, deadlifts, and rows. | /r/askTRP | 26/11/19 05:56 AM |
| 8 | Is coffee at night considered sketchy?Coffee is a wack date imo. What’s wrong with drinks? Ice cream or dessert is also a solid option. | /r/askTRP | 26/11/19 01:54 AM |
| 1 | The game changersThis film is vegan propaganda rife with bad science. | /r/askTRP | 24/11/19 06:36 PM |
| 2 | what are some ways to tell if a company will pay well but not require much commitment?It’s the opposite, startups can be stressful af and demand lots of your time as they try prove their viability. But there’s also a point once they have money coming in that they can be cushy af. | /r/askTRP | 23/11/19 08:34 PM |
| 4 | How to get upper body strength without having access to a gym ?There’s still quite a lot you can do for your upper body without a gym. Get a pull-up bar and some gymnastic rings. See the bodyweightfitness subreddit’s wiki for a routine. Kettlebells are a good way to load the lower body. Dip bars and parallettes are useful too. Parallettes esp useful if you have wrist issues. Search google for “GMB wrist routine” for some wrist strengthening exercises. | /r/askTRP | 23/11/19 08:24 PM |
| 1 | My dad brings me downMove out bro. I’m not a fan of my father either. I don’t really interact with him much since I live on my own and we don’t talk really. Also go to therapy. This has probably produced some deep-seated negativity in your subconscious that you gotta dismantle. | /r/askTRP | 22/11/19 08:28 PM |
| 5 | What happened to AskTRP and TRP?No that’s chortling. | /r/askTRP | 22/11/19 08:28 AM |
| 2 | Leaked out secrets of a friendWhy the fuck would you tell that to your girl, who’s friends with his girl. Lmfao Your fucking bad. You better own up to the mistake and sincerely apologize. | /r/askTRP | 21/11/19 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Female participation in anal increases with her education/income level.Could be for sure. iirc higher testosterone levels have been tracked in career women. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/19 07:53 AM |
| 2 | Need Advice Getting Out of RutMan I think this is where I’m at. I didn’t have serious acute injuries but I’ve been through 5.5 years of physical therapy for chronic postural problems—uneven muscle tension and pain that prevents me from lifting/training how I would like and drives me crazy with distraction from work. Been off from work quite a bit the past couple years and I’ve had a big loss in confidence in my ability to focus and be productive. Thanks for the reminder that I better straighten up and fly right. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/19 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Need Advice Getting Out of RutIt blows my mind if you’re consistently productive and healthy like this that you’re still depressed. To me if you have enough energy to carry all of those healthy habits that’s completely antithetical to depression. Maybe there’s something deep that’s eating you because you’re not being true to yourself. Or maybe in spite of all of these efforts, you have a lack of social connection. Idk. A good therapist can be really helpful to dig through and figure this shit out. Hope you feel better. Maybe… | /r/askTRP | 20/11/19 07:09 AM |
| 3 | Kill the puppy?Yes it’s called projection. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/19 12:10 AM |
| 3 | Kill the puppy?Those are some glaring red flags imo. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/19 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Staring in the street. What are the rules for eye contact when you meet someone's gaze? I look confident and have good body language and look up, but I've noticed some issues. Sometimes I'll notice someone looking and look back, and then it's a staring contest.Prolonged eye contact is aggressive body language. With a male it could provoke a fight. With a female it could either stir attraction or fear and disgust. If you happen to make eye contact with someone you should acknowledge them with a nod or a smile and then look away. | /r/askTRP | 15/11/19 07:23 AM |
| 1 | 17 in new high school - should I go monk mode for my grades or try to talk to girls more?Try to strike a balance my bro. But don’t sacrifice your grades. | /r/askTRP | 15/11/19 06:33 AM |
| 3 | Motivation is gone in my lifeI think you should keep playing. Yeah maybe it’s not as great as a serious disciplined team but it’s still a high quality social hobby. | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Anybody take Vyvanse or Adderall? I find it helps my ADHD and makes me horny as hell but it also makes me somewhat jittery and anxious which fucks up my gameMy experience with Vyvanse is that it’s a deal with the devil. I am greatly productive in the short term but there’s a rebound effect afterwards. The more I take it, the worse the side effects become, and the more entrenched is my dependence on it to be productive. L-Theanine, breathing exercises, and meditation can help you calm down. Make sure you get to bed early. Negative side effects can be exacerbated by the poor sleep that often goes along with it. I have such a love/hate relationship wit… | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Motivation is gone in my lifeHow tf are people in VB toxic?? | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Do any of you older guys think that rare use of LSD/shrooms or weed is useless for meditation/introspection, or enhancing spiritual/creative events?LSD and shrooms can make for pretty profound experiences. Sunsets on LSD are the most beautiful thing I’ve ever witnessed. But idk how much truly therapeutic or spiritual value there is in them. It feels really profound but it fades quickly enough. The first handful of times there was a big afterglow but in subsequent experiences it just felt like my body had been through the ringer and i was just hungover afterwards. | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Girl counter offered my date, is this a booty call?Idk schedules change all the time with bartending/serving. But yeah I suppose it could be. | /r/askTRP | 13/11/19 06:08 AM |
| 2 | Girl at my college keeps showing interest in me but I haven’t made a move cause she works at the place I always get food from. I think she’s hot but should I just forget about it cause of? “Shitting where you eat”... literally lol?Tell her you guys should hang out sometime and get her number. Ez | /r/askTRP | 13/11/19 06:04 AM |
| 4 | Got an offer... idk if I should take it.OP is the midnight cowboy Lmao | /r/askTRP | 12/11/19 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have tips for cutting?Track your macros. There’s a big psychological impact when you know you’ve had exactly enough food. | /r/askTRP | 08/11/19 11:22 PM |
| 2 | ADD/ADHD and relationshipsThe stims foster this positive feedback loop where it just escalates. | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 07:43 PM |
| 1 | ADD/ADHD and relationshipsI really can’t recommend it enough. The only issue is it’s expensive and not commonly covered by health insurance. But it works and it’s completely free of side effects (well, only positive side effects). Check out this ep of JRE with a neuroscience researcher to learn more about it - https://youtu.be/06olLYiMvM4 | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 06:32 PM |
| 2 | ADD/ADHD and relationshipsDoesn’t really have any effect on my relationships with women. The stimulants can, though. | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 06:11 PM |
| 2 | ADD/ADHD and relationshipsNot OP but i recommend taking meds sparingly. I like Vyvanse for its long duration and smoothness. It can raise your sex drive but also cause ED. This seems to get worse for me the more I take it. It can also exacerbate porn consumption with escalating intensity. Some cannabis negates the ED for me but has its own set of drawbacks. Edit: I recommend neurofeedback therapy and a meditation practice for properly fixing (maybe even curing) the ADHD. Stims are just a bandaid solution that manages it,… | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 06:11 PM |
| 2 | I like alpha women. Not bitches, but an alpha. Is this commensurate with TRP principles?Is that what mom was like? | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 06:06 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of this business casual fit?You could MAYBE get away with the ripped jeans here in LA if the office culture is trendy and casual. Really not a fan of the white, blue, and black color palette though. | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 06:04 PM |
| 2 | I ruined my friendship with my best friend, please give me some adviceBro | /r/askTRP | 06/11/19 06:18 AM |
| 6 | How to best use income to my advantage?1500 for housing on 200k salary leaves so much leftover income. You could probably be able to aggressively pay off your student loans and pay off a condo at the same time. Once the student loan is paid off you could move onto buying a house and keep the condo for renting out if you’re so inclined. | /r/askTRP | 05/11/19 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Do some women just not moan?I feel like I heard Gad Saad, an evolutionary psychologist, mention it on an episode of Joe Rogan’s podcast. He’s done a few episodes of JRE and they’re all pretty solid. | /r/askTRP | 05/11/19 08:43 AM |
| 14 | Do some women just not moan?I’m pretty sure it’s natural and is even a phenomena studied in evolutionary psychology. | /r/askTRP | 05/11/19 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Does being silent and unreadable make you more interesting to new people?No. If you’re attractive you’ll just look like an asshole, and if you’re unattractive you’ll just look like a loser. | /r/askTRP | 05/11/19 06:09 AM |
| 2 | What advice would you give to a 17 yearold who has everything - access to a good gym, goes to a good college and has a good family but has a terrible social life?You gotta have good rapport with someone before you can roast them in good humor. | /r/askTRP | 03/11/19 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Street fightMy friend got in a street fight recently. It was just some dumb disagreement from bumping into somebody. He figured they would just throw hands and it would be settled. He ended up getting stabbed like 8 times. Don’t street fight. | /r/askTRP | 03/11/19 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Are traveling nurses the ultimate CC riders?I met a dude at a music festival who does this. He seemed pretty god damn hyped on life, haha | /r/askTRP | 03/11/19 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls like it when you have your fingers in there mouth whilst fucking them?So they can fantasize about getting spit roasted. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/19 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Not being able to cum with ONSYeah, Skyns are dope af. Don’t be afraid to try the large size either. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/19 08:41 PM |
| 1 | What would you spend $1k on?Bruh where tf do you live with views of the ocean and neighbors driving lambos on an 80k salary?? | /r/askTRP | 29/10/19 06:05 PM |
| 1 | What would you spend $1k on?All inclusive, all you can eat usually tends to be pretty meh. I would much rather go on an adventure finding somewhere interesting to eat and really enjoying the meal. I guess the all you can drink is cool if you like alcohol (I don’t, at least not enough to take advantage of all you can drink). | /r/askTRP | 29/10/19 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Should I do cardio or go to the gym? Pic insideLmao, yeah honestly OP couldn’t go wrong with modest cut, bulk, or maintenance for calories. As long as he puts in work at the gym. But I agree, for me personally I would also do maintenance calories. | /r/askTRP | 28/10/19 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Should I do cardio or go to the gym? Pic insideI would just eat at roughly maintenance. Since you’re a beginner you will build muscle and lose fat easily. Once you have some solid beginner gains and a good gym habit then you could step it up with a modest bulk like you describe. | /r/askTRP | 28/10/19 05:01 PM |
| 1 | How to get respect from fellow men?Guys like you when you’re aligned on some task together (sports game, group assignment, etc.) and you display competency. Even better if you go above and beyond and display competent leadership. In other words, provide some value. | /r/askTRP | 25/10/19 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Ex girlfriend is saying I raped herIANAL but in two-party consent states I don’t believe this would be valid evidence. Quite effective in social circumstances tho. | /r/askTRP | 25/10/19 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Improving postureNo, back of the neck should have a nice lordotic curve to it. Trying to flatten might be problematic. Ribs down with engaged obliques and abs is indeed important though. | /r/askTRP | 25/10/19 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Improving postureI’ve spent quite a monumental effort the last 5+ years resolving postural issues and chronic tension, aches and pains. I’ve sought out the very best help and the most cutting edge knowledge available on physical therapy in order to do so. Good posture is not about “keeping a straight back” or “keeping your shoulders back.” Thats a bad cue that usually causes one to flare their ribs, which is the complete opposite of what you want. That sounds like how you’re describing your typical posture now w… | /r/askTRP | 25/10/19 07:22 AM |
| 2 | A point about weak core muscles, a follow up to my post about severe back pain, and a request for advice.All three are taught internationally. I believe FAS is Canadian and PRI is American. DNS is from Prague. | /r/askTRP | 23/10/19 09:07 PM |
| 2 | A point about weak core muscles, a follow up to my post about severe back pain, and a request for advice.The best thing to do is find providers with certifications from the organizations I mentioned. If you can find someone with all three, I can strongly recommend them. I say that PRI is priority #1 because if there are things that you can correct within their framework of rehab, it will make EVERYTHING else work much better. For core work in particular, DNS is my favorite. Their exercises are modeled off of how our core muscles are originally developed during developmental stages of infancy. Babie… | /r/askTRP | 22/10/19 10:20 PM |
| 1 | The role depression playsYes, of course. What I meant is there’s no “SSRI chemical imbalance” test. | /r/askTRP | 22/10/19 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Suggestions for a Tinder profile for tall seeking tallOn Hinge you can actually filter prospects by height. | /r/askTRP | 20/10/19 09:31 PM |
| 2 | My mommy issues strugglesSounds like you’re on the right track and doing well to sort this out. Keep going to therapy. Therapy helped me a ton with my daddy issues. Now dealing with my father or reflecting on our relationship is much much less of an emotional trigger. Check out the book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. It’s very insightful. The more you understand the underlying mental processes the better equipped you will be to resolve them. Like you said you’ll be inclined to seek out a motherly figure in ot… | /r/askTRP | 18/10/19 07:35 PM |
| 2 | A point about weak core muscles, a follow up to my post about severe back pain, and a request for advice.I’ve been working on fixing my posture and various aches/pains/issues for a long time. Let me drop some big wisdom on you. There are 3 different schools of thought that have made a huge impact for me. (1) Postural Restoration Institute (PRI), (2) Functional Anatomy Seminars (FAS), the creators of Functional Range Conditioning (FRC), and (3) Dynamic Neuromuscular Stabilization (DNS). The most important and basic aspect of core strength is diaphragmatic breathing, bracing, and Intra-Abdominal Pres… | /r/askTRP | 17/10/19 08:40 PM |
| 1 | The role depression playsIt’s not like there’s a test the doctors can run and say “ah, yes, there’s the imbalance. I’ve got just the fix.” But a high quality therapist or psychiatrist who emphasizes non-pharmaceutical interventions would still be advisable, because they’re professionals and she might also have an easier time talking to them. | /r/askTRP | 15/10/19 04:22 PM |
| 1 | how to get your mental shit in orderBro, I think therapy would be really helpful for you. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/19 08:39 PM |
| 6 | Cant forget LTRFocused meditation develops your ability to redirect your attention and will. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/19 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Best workout routineAyy, my man! | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 05:18 AM |
| 3 | Best workout routineMan, the concept of cross-disciplinary fitness is great. I love powerlifting, gymnastics strength training, and working on mobility. Conditioning is good too. But the whole CrossFit competition AMRAP for time thing is whack af. I don’t wanna be doing fuckin timed AMRAP kipping butterfly pull-ups. It’s too bad because I would otherwise be pretty interested for the social aspect. | /r/askTRP | 09/10/19 05:16 AM |
| 9 | Best workout routineeach muscle group should get hit every 48-72 hrs. This 5 day split is no good, upper/lower is better. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Lower Body Fat Percentage = more vitality?I’m 6’ 207 and cutting at around 2000 kcal and 200g protein. It’s a pretty good deficit but still manageable. Sometimes going up to 2250-2300 on lifting days. If I’m starting to get really hungry after consistently cutting for a couple weeks then doing a day or two back to maintenance at 2500-2700 feels good. 1500-1800 is crazy. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Balancing lifting and martial arts training?Try cycling which one you prioritize. Switch priorities every 3 months or something. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 07:19 PM |
| 25 | LTR hanging out with beta orbiter that she fucked before?Going out with a guy who’s buying her food?? Bruh that’s a date. Lmao | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Masculine DriveDawg you need some therapy, a serious meditation practice, and some serious heavy lifting. Also recommended the book CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving to help sort your mommy issues. Best of luck bud. Edit: some male camaraderie and competition would help too. Try MMA or joining a powerlifting gym or something. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 04:19 AM |
| 1 | Plastic plate gives me a "reasonable" sexual ultimatum.I had a girl that couldn’t really cum from sex, didn’t really like oral and it was difficult as hell to make her cum with my fingers. But she could get herself off rubbing her clit while I fingered her or kept my dick in her and choked her out and dirty talked to her, etc. The sex was amazing and she came back for more for a long time. Never let it phase me that I couldn’t make her cum from sex or whatever. If she liked toys I woulda been all over it, I dgaf and it’s hot for me for my partner to… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/19 04:16 AM |
| 3 | Are single mothers the new trend in the USA?If you asked Ted Bundy, he’d say he was quite successful. Lol | /r/askTRP | 06/10/19 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive crashed after adopting a shitty lifestyle.Continuing to live like that is gonna make you age a lot faster. | /r/askTRP | 03/10/19 04:10 PM |
| 3 | What are the best RP resources on money and career?Personal finance subreddit wiki is a decent start for managing money. | /r/askTRP | 27/09/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Lots of problems with eating and dietTrack calories. Meat, fish, and poultry are great, go for fattier cuts. Cheese is a great way to add calories to stuff. | /r/askTRP | 26/09/19 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Need feedback on looksYou for sure look better with a beard. Don’t do surgery, your ears look fine. You need to get jacked. I can tell from your lack of traps that you have plenty of gains to be had. | /r/askTRP | 20/09/19 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Help with anger managementToo much stress, not enough recovery. 6.5 hrs isn’t enough sleep. Up at 5, working till 6, university at night is an insane schedule. And idk where the hell you fit in any lifting. It’s good to push yourself but you gotta strike a balance. | /r/askTRP | 19/09/19 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Can't lift because of shoulder pain and I don't know what to do about itAh okay. Well who knows if ribs/diaphragm are an issue for you. But FAS methodologies are definitely the best for fixing issues with an individual joint. | /r/askTRP | 19/09/19 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on Masturbating Without Porn?Why nut before seeing a girl. I’d rather nut both times with her. She’s not gonna be disappointed at a short first round if there are more rounds after. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/19 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Can't lift because of shoulder pain and I don't know what to do about itHard to say from one photo but to me it looks like your ribs are massively flared open. This is gonna cause issues upstream and downstream because it will mean your breathing patterns and diaphragm are out of wack, and these two things are fundamental for everything to perform well. This can have a big impact on your shoulders. For that stuff I recommend a physical therapist (or even a trainer) who’s certified by the Postural Restoration Institute (PRI). Then for joint-specific work on the shoul… | /r/askTRP | 18/09/19 10:57 PM |
| 1 | How do I overcome addiction?Intensive outpatient rehab and Suboxone/Klonopin taper worked for me. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/19 08:04 AM |
| 2 | Gaining control of financesYou Need a Budget app has been super helpful for me. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/19 07:50 AM |
| 3 | Managing Gain & Testosterone killing Vices and their impactPick yourself up brother. Soldier on. You know what you have to do. Kill that coding test, get the job, negotiate for more money. Hit the gym hard. Focus on daily habits of discipline. For me this means meditation and some type of physical training whether that’s strength training, mobility work, rehab work, hiking, cardio, etc. Go to a recovery meeting or a psychiatrist or therapist if you think you could use the help. I feel for you because I’m faced with the same issue. All you can do is pick… | /r/askTRP | 15/09/19 10:49 PM |
| 8 | Can somebody explain monk mode to me in regards to losing weight?The term “monk mode” is meant to describe a period of time foregoing vices and pleasure to work on self-improvement. Working out, eating right, sleeping well, and focusing on school/career are all good things to incorporate. | /r/askTRP | 15/09/19 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Books about dopamine/reward systemsIn The Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté is a pretty great book on the what, how, and why of addiction. It’s not really prescriptive (doesn’t address how to fix all that much) but it is pretty informative. The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg is another solid read that covers the neuroscience of habits (which includes addictions). | /r/askTRP | 14/09/19 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Think I might be legit depressed. Not sure what to do. I tried meds in the past but they fucking ruined my libido and appetite. Scared about the future.Find a social hobby bro. Martial arts, co-ed sports, become a regular at a yoga or some type of fitness class, take some cooking classes, hiking groups, cycling, swimming, running, dancing. | /r/askTRP | 14/09/19 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Made over a mill by age 34, now more depressed than everWorking nights is terrible for your health. Combine that with solitude and it’s no wonder. Change those things up and you’ll probably be feeling great again. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/19 11:03 PM |
| 1 | LTR Cancelled plans - Appropriate Response from RP perspective.Bro you see her 3-4 days a week. Rescheduling 24 hrs ahead of time shouldn’t be a big deal at all. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/19 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Good second date ideas? Or just “hang” or “chill”Go for ice cream, then segue into chilling at yours or her place. | /r/askTRP | 09/09/19 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Placed on an all-female team. Struggling to survive. Feedback appreciated.3 years is plenty of time. You brought this up with the VP, there’s not much more you can do. I would start looking. | /r/askTRP | 09/09/19 06:39 PM |
| 4 | Does TRP still apply when drugs are involved?The drugs are a lot of fun. You spend time with people with shared interests. | /r/askTRP | 07/09/19 05:22 PM |
| 8 | Does TRP still apply when drugs are involved?Do you know the term “burn out”? Drug use is like fireworks. For a little while it’s exciting and burns bright. Then it’s all burned out and it’s no longer pretty. This dynamic you’re describing applies from 18 to mid 20s but then it sharply falls off into a lot of misery for those who heavily abused drugs. Cue the millennial-depression-“where’s my serotonin” memes. Compare this to someone who focuses on their health, fitness, and career/finance (TRP values). This person’s attractiveness will st… | /r/askTRP | 07/09/19 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Lifting With LtrTraining principles remain the same. Girls are just generally weaker and progress slower, especially on upper body. Bret Contreras is a good resource, he’s probably the leading world expert in building booties. I think figuring out something she enjoys is probably the most important key. | /r/askTRP | 07/09/19 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Can’t pull off tinder?Invite to a lounge or bar for alcohol. Agree that coffee date is shitty. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/19 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Why do children/toddlers have such high self esteem?Because they have every need and whim catered to. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/19 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Using THC or CBD to help with anxiety?It’s likely to make anxiety worse. This is my personal experience and my psychiatrist informed me that it’s common. It has some benefits so I still use it in moderation but there are big drawbacks (mental fogginess, reduced energy/discipline, worsened sleep, and increased social anxiety). These negative effects persist after you sober up, btw. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/19 10:50 PM |
| 4 | How to bounce back after traumatic event in life?Go to therapy bro. It’s helpful. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/19 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Necessary to cut pretty much all bad dopamine sources?Lmao thank you for the this. The main sub could use a post correcting this meme. Tbf though, dopamine plays a big role in addiction, whether it’s behavioral or to substances. That’s what’s responsible for that nearly “helpless” drive to use/engage in the behavior, even though you might objectively understand on a logical level that it’s destroying your life. Right? | /r/askTRP | 18/08/19 02:13 AM |
| 2 | ADVICE NEEDED: Ran into a guy who used to bully me todayWtf your buddy was followed when he tried to leave, continually attacked, and got 25 years?? | /r/askTRP | 17/08/19 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Need advice somewhat depressedSorry for your loss man. Why did you break up when she was gone? I imagine it was her idea. Think of why bud. If she initiated the breakup then I definitely don’t think she’s innocent of what shes accusing you of. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/19 08:02 AM |
| 1 | I am a male diagnosed with BPD. I want to become more stoic and unemotional in life especially during shit tests, any non-prescription drug related suggestions?Neurofeedback therapy. Expensive and unlikely to be covered by insurance, but very helpful. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/19 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Dudes who used to have short fuses, how did you evolve to DGAF over moderate to highly fuse-lighting stuff?I used to get really angry. I believe it was imparted from my father as well. I didn’t like him and I didn’t want to be like him, so I guess that was a big motivator. Breathing exercises and meditation are effective for increasing your ability to regulate your autonomic arousal, which is closely tied to anger. It’s a skill that’s developed, so it takes regular practice. TBH my anger mostly dissipated after I put myself through the ringer of drug addiction and recovery. I guess it was silenced th… | /r/askTRP | 16/08/19 09:34 PM |
| 1 | What is your sleep routine? How do you wind down at night?I get home from gym by 9ish. Set my lights to barely on, shower, put on a 20-30 min episode of a sitcom or cartoon or something, eat, and fuck around on my phone. Stretch a little bit, and once the episode is over I’m off to bed. I have my screen dimmed but it doesn’t take away from the show, because the shows I choose are more about the writing and jokes. Also I prefer something that I’m not inclined to binge. Right now I’m working my way through King of the Hill. Then I either put on a podcast… | /r/askTRP | 13/08/19 05:06 PM |
| 14 | Felony convictionsBro what in the actual fuck. That sounds like it should be very beatable but IANAL so I guess what do I know. You have my condolences. The war on drugs is the biggest crock of bullshit. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/19 10:45 PM |
| 12 | Felony convictionsJesus Christ that’s fucked. Did you simply get caught with weed in a non-legal state? | /r/askTRP | 10/08/19 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Is this potentially sex addiction? Spending several hours a week on sexIt’s addiction if it’s compulsive, has negative effects and you wish you could stop but you can’t. So if staying up late was heavily impacting your work or school and you wished you could manage it better but you kept getting sucked back into it despite your intentions and efforts, then it starts to look like yes it could be addiction. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/19 10:33 PM |
| 8 | Felony convictionsWtf. Smoked weed and owned legally purchased firearms? | /r/askTRP | 10/08/19 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Dopamine WithdrawlsCould be | /r/askTRP | 07/08/19 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Feeling conflicted about moving. (Long post)You’re going to college for accounting (full time?), working part time, you’re somewhere new which is its own adventure, and you’re with your best friend. I’m having a hard time seeing what’s wrong, it sounds like you’re on a good track. | /r/askTRP | 07/08/19 07:19 AM |
| 5 | Dopamine WithdrawlsBro you are fuckin trippin. Someone could be 50 days out from heroin or meth detox and they wouldn’t be feeling nauseous all day (just kinda tired/lazy/depressed). I would guess there’s some anxiety or stress at play. Learning skills to manage those things might help. Talking to a therapist could help. Good work btw. Not knocking your achievements. Just think you’re getting a little wrapped up in your head over-analyzing this. | /r/askTRP | 07/08/19 06:03 AM |
| 3 | Weighted vest at gym douchey? (in camo)Dip belt is better for pull-ups and pushups (unless you cannot elevate for pushups). And lunges and squats have tons better of options for loading via barbells, kettlebells, or dumbbells. | /r/askTRP | 07/08/19 05:43 AM |
| 33 | I just dumped my GF before she dump melol her first message coulda very well been a comfort test 🤷🏻♂️ | /r/askTRP | 07/08/19 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Hey guys I am on the verge of giving it all up. Any help is appreciatedYou need to focus on small actionable goals. You need to gtfo of your parent’s house. You need money to do that. So you need a job. There are steps required to get a job. Etc. Break down your goals into small steps you take every day. One foot in front of the other. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/19 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Am i an alcoholic?If it’s having a negative impact, you have trouble stopping, and you wish you could stop or you try and fail to stop, then you are probably an addict. | /r/askTRP | 05/08/19 05:49 PM |
| 12 | Head does not feel that good...You should go to a urologist, there’s things you can do to make it better. | /r/askTRP | 05/08/19 03:40 AM |
| 5 | Head does not feel that good...Do you have phimosis? Difficulty pulling the foreskin back over the head of your penis? | /r/askTRP | 05/08/19 03:26 AM |
| 5 | Why is being born female seen as some kind of disability?Probably because women are weaker than men, and in the past were much more dependent on men for security and survival. — “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” Genesis 3:16 | /r/askTRP | 01/08/19 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Is there a red pill site that covers male psychology and behavior like we do for women?RedPillWomen sub might, to an extent. | /r/askTRP | 01/08/19 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Working up to doing a chin-upRows Straight arm hanging scapular retractions. Flexed arm hang. Use a step or jump up as you grab the bar and hold it to your chest, chin above the bar. Stay there as long as you can. Slowly lower down. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/19 02:00 AM |
| 5 | Why do women go ape when you tell them to "just calm down" or "relax"?De-escalated a road rage situation once (with a dude) saying “let’s relax, I’m not trying to fight you. That would have been bad for both of us. Let’s take a second and chill.” (referring to a near collision from mutually aggressive driving). It could’ve gone way differently if I just said “YO CALM DOWN”. Lmao | /r/askTRP | 30/07/19 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Anyone notice most that most Chad's/alphas tend to be very positive people rather than dark triad?It’s interesting to consider these two different strategies in terms of evolution and game theory. Positive reciprocity-oriented socialization vs more self-serving dark triad. If most players are using the former strategy, then you’ll have the latter strategy emerge in competition to take advantage. Slowly the two strategies will competitively balance out over time. Furthermore, players might change strategies based on the situation. It may behoove you to have both tools available. TL;DR both ar… | /r/askTRP | 29/07/19 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Is there some truth in Law of Attraction?Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. If you have the mindset of seeking out the positive, you’re going to notice it better when it’s there and be better prepared to capitalize on it. | /r/askTRP | 27/07/19 04:36 PM |
| 7 | Any recent movies/series with great and kinda not stupidly degenerated male lead?I’ve been rewatching Breaking Bad. It’s so good. | /r/askTRP | 26/07/19 11:37 PM |
| 3 | Fat power lifter guy at gym being arsey and threatening, how did I handle it and how can i prepare for situations like this in the future?Rack the weights you mongrel. | /r/askTRP | 26/07/19 11:33 PM |
| 1 | 14 and never smoked weed. Should I do it?There is good evidence chronic cannabis consumption may cause ADHD-type symptoms. It interferes with your brain’s reward systems, which is what drives motivation, willpower, etc. I started smoking weed at 15, and this jives with my experience. I wish it didn’t play the role that it has in my life, but here I am. Focus on sports, working out, and doing well in school. Learning to appreciate the satisfaction from accomplishing goals with hard work will get you far in life. It provides enduring sat… | /r/askTRP | 26/07/19 06:57 AM |
| 6 | Posted a really fucked up caption on social media on a post about a sensitive topic”rape” and I had a whole bunch of people come out the woodworks... understandably I deleted the post because but I had some people message me “I’m offended you” even find that funny” do I owe an apology?I like dark humor and that’s pretty hilariously savage...but I would not make posts like that on Facebook. lmao | /r/askTRP | 26/07/19 06:11 AM |
| 5 | Their friend diedJust being present and listening means a lot for someone going through a hard time. Your response sounds good. | /r/askTRP | 26/07/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Disassociating from social media?Disable notifications, and avoid using social media during the day when you want to be productive. Or just go full bore and delete the apps. | /r/askTRP | 25/07/19 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Questions about Snapchat and Online DatingSounds like you should either get over your reservations about posting interesting stuff from your life on IG, or forget about dating apps. | /r/askTRP | 25/07/19 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Broke it off way too early. Want her back.What hobbies you plan on trying? | /r/askTRP | 25/07/19 06:58 PM |
| 9 | (Emotional) scar ruined my date, how can I recover from post traumas?Damn I got the belt as well but never that bad. No scars. Anyways, therapy was helpful for me. But it took a while before I met a good therapist who worked well for me. | /r/askTRP | 24/07/19 01:56 AM |
| 1 | What the fuck is wrong with me and relationshipsIt’s just something to examine when you have attachment issues coming up. Maybe you’ve just never had a girlfriend for a decent length of time before? | /r/askTRP | 23/07/19 08:54 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck is wrong with me and relationshipsHow’s your relationship with your mom? | /r/askTRP | 23/07/19 08:48 PM |
| 2 | How big of a deal is dietThose “cleaner” fast food places are still pretty trash. | /r/askTRP | 23/07/19 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Trouble breathing when liftingWatch this great presentation from elite power lifter Chris Duffin. It will answer all your questions and more. Basically your diaphragm is used for both breathing and stability. To generate maximum stability, you breathe deeply in and expand your ribs equally in every direction (including your sides and your back), and then draw your ribs down with your core at the same time to create a force opposing that expansion from the inhale. And then, you can valsalva maneuver. This is the strategy you … | /r/askTRP | 23/07/19 04:30 AM |
| 2 | A Supplement Guide For The Modern ManI’ve tried many supplements with negligible effects. But one thing I started taking recently is electrolyte drink mixes (sodium, magnesium, potassium, calcium) and it’s had a very noticeable positive effect. I’ve had a great reduction in tension headaches and general muscle soreness or tension. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/07/19 08:48 PM |
| 7 | A Supplement Guide For The Modern ManI believe supplementing vitamin D has helped my immune system big time. I hardly ever get sick anymore (although less partying has been a major factor as well). Omega 3 has great evidence for reducing rates all-cause mortality. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/07/19 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Overcoming social anxietyYeah you might not experience it but paranoia and social anxiety are extremely common side effects from weed. For me personally it didn’t affect me that way at first but after a long time of chronic usage it did, big time. I’ve heard from many people that they used to enjoy weed but then eventually it just started making them super paranoid. My psychiatrist has said that it’s common, as well. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/19 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Overcoming social anxietyDamn that’s a lot. What do you do for your jobs? | /r/askTRP | 22/07/19 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Overcoming social anxietyGraded exposure. Meaning you need to socialize yourself progressively more and more. Think of it like progressive overload in weight training. A good place to start is volunteering somewhere. I enjoyed volunteering at an animal shelter. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/19 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Overcoming social anxietyDude weed is probably one of the worst things for social anxiety, lmao | /r/askTRP | 22/07/19 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Do you hold your girls hand in public?I tend to prefer to kino other ways out in public (hand on their back to guide them, hand on her waist, sometimes maybe give them my arm to grab ahold of, etc.) If she likes holding hands then I can pick up on that and I enjoy it so I will. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/19 06:13 AM |
| 1 | How to stop being emotional about work? (Read before commenting about me being a little b*tch)Dude, great work. It’s okay to be a little emotional about it. You’re resolving a lot of deep emotional pressure from growing up always thinking of yourself as a failure. Tbh going to a good therapist and talking about it would probably be pretty great for you right now. You have potential to relieve a lot of emotional baggage at this moment. Talking it through could further strengthen your success and bolster your appreciation for life. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/19 06:05 AM |
| 1 | Squats hurt my backWatch this presentation from elite power lifter Chris Duffin on breathing and bracing. I would bet that’s where your problem is. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/19 06:56 PM |
| 1 | How to stop ass sweat?ExOfficio boxers are a total game-changer. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/19 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Mommy issues/BPDRead Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. And find a good therapist that you feel comfortable with. | /r/askTRP | 18/07/19 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Would you prefer commuting or childish annoying roommate?1 hr commute is pretty bad. Especially if it’s driving in traffic. | /r/askTRP | 18/07/19 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Identity crisis at 18 - I'm not sure if you guys have felt this?Just know that hedonic pleasure is a never-ending treadmill. Accomplishing goals that require hard work and sacrifice are what provide true long-term satisfaction. Also important is developing relationships and a place in society. So a little bit of partying can be good, but don’t let it consume you. | /r/askTRP | 18/07/19 07:52 PM |
| 1 | public places ideas for sexI banged in the showers at a music festival, that was fun. | /r/askTRP | 18/07/19 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Can’t go to gym everyday because of ageCheck out bodyweightfitness subreddit’s recommended program in the sidebar. There’s plenty you can do that will be challenging enough to be in the low rep strength training intensity. There are a million ways to scale up the difficulty of a push-up. Bet you can’t do a planche push up. | /r/askTRP | 17/07/19 05:55 PM |
| 4 | Had to choke my younger brother outMan you guys should start taking BJJ or MMA classes together and learn how to go at it safely. Then he can have an outlet for his competition anxiety. But in the end you’ll probably just develop more mutual respect for one another and the issue will be resolved. Sounds like you could make great sparring partners, so long as there isn’t so much bad blood that he actually hates you and wants to hurt you, lol. | /r/askTRP | 17/07/19 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Is sober sex awkward? Is sober sex for children?Why do you think that’s pathetic? It’s only pathetic if you do it strictly to pick up girls, are thirsty about it, and don’t actually enjoy the activity. Pick an activity that you enjoy, and would enjoy meeting other people who also like that activity to make friends with. Nothing pathetic about that. It could even be MMA with all dudes. You’ll make friends, be introduced to their friends, their gfs and their friends, etc. That’s social circle game. | /r/askTRP | 17/07/19 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Is sober sex awkward? Is sober sex for children?What’s funny is Theo is a sober 12-stepper and I bet this joke might have to do with his own same anxiety about sober sex that OP has. | /r/askTRP | 17/07/19 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Is sober sex awkward? Is sober sex for children?To echo what OP said, working out at the end of the day scratches the itch for me. | /r/askTRP | 17/07/19 05:28 PM |
| 4 | Is sober sex awkward? Is sober sex for children?I’m a former heroin addict as well. Good work staying clean. I’ve been off H/benzos for nearly 7 years but I’ve spent a lot of that time still struggling with my addiction with various other things (weed, party drugs, video games, etc.). I basically went from hell to purgatory. I recommend you stay the course and remain sober. It’s a big accomplishment, and your sobriety is much more important than banging some party sloots. Yes some chicks will think it’s odd when you don’t want to drink. Don’t… | /r/askTRP | 16/07/19 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Ex plate hit me up again after I made sure to let her know that I'm not interested in her againWhy are you hanging out with her if you’re not attracted to her | /r/askTRP | 15/07/19 07:56 PM |
| 2 | The most important thing in todays world: focus - but how to improve it?Focused meditation and neurofeedback training. These things train your ability to focus and strip it down to the most basic and bare essentials. Like lifting weights for your mind. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/19 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Not as aroused in LTR as I used to be4 months in and you’re getting bored??? My dawg you should still be ravenously horny for her. I’ve only started to slow down in my attraction for past GFs after a few years. | /r/askTRP | 13/07/19 05:05 PM |
| 1 | What should I do as a beginner if I am going to the gym 4 times a week?I suggest you stick to upper/lower but your second lower day could be less intense (do unilateral work, other lower body accessories, etc) and you can add in extra accessories if you want like for arms or shoulders. | /r/askTRP | 12/07/19 07:41 PM |
| 3 | How many of you are summer bulking?I love working out on vacation. There’s a hell of a lot you can do with just some gymnastic rings. Or you can often find a gym and get a day pass. | /r/askTRP | 12/07/19 06:03 PM |
| 6 | How much lifting is enough?~48 hrs of recovery per muscle group is optimal. So a full body session 3x per week is sufficient. A 2-day split (4 days per week) is pretty good too. | /r/askTRP | 12/07/19 05:58 PM |
| 10 | first ever cold approach, got hooked in the temple... advice?This. OP makes it sound like he had plenty of time to remove himself from the situation before that hook came flying in. There’s no sense fighting in the street, you never know who’s crazy enough to pull a knife or gun. | /r/askTRP | 12/07/19 05:54 PM |
| 14 | Gaylubeoil's 3 Iron Rules Of IronLook into Functional Anatomy Seminars (formerly Functional Range Seminars). They’re an educational/certifying organization specializing in joint function and mobility. Their most well-known cert is Functional Range Conditioning (FRC). Their methodologies are in use by a growing number of professional sports organizations (especially baseball). They are the red pill of mobility. Basically, it boils down to specific strength training at end ranges of motion. Kelly Starrett’s info (Becoming a Suppl… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/19 06:58 PM |
| 5 | The ego epidemic: How more and more of us women have an inflated sense of our own fabulousness (2009)Holy smokes. Instagram hadn’t even been created yet when this was published. Tinder, too. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/19 06:42 PM |
| 0 | Can calisthenics replace weight lifting?Yeah you can get plenty jacked in the upper body from calisthenics. Look at Daniel Vadnal from FitnessFAQs. Or any gymnast. Weights are recommended for lower body. | /r/askTRP | 10/07/19 05:02 PM |
| 2 | If you could cut out one of food addiction, porn addiction, or video game addiction, which would you cut?Addiction is addiction. It’s a behavioral pattern. Whatever it is you’re addicted to doesn’t matter as much when you’re trying to recover from addiction. It’s all very similar. You can cut out one thing, but your addictive behaviors can still rage with a new object of addiction. So, you really need to get at the heart of the issue and cut them all out. I know it’s tough, I’ve been there. For a long time. Your addictions are your refuge; what you use to make yourself feel better when you feel bad… | /r/askTRP | 08/07/19 08:08 PM |
| 3 | Have any of you guys taken acid before?I’ve taken LSD many times. The first time especially is mind-blowing and you’ll have an “after-glow” of motivation/peace/understanding. But if you don’t capitalize on it, it will simply fade. Acid sunsets at the beach or in the desert have been some of the most beautiful things I’ve ever seen. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/19 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Don’t like going outside how do I improve?“Graded exposure”. Gradually expose yourself to more of whatever causes the anxiety, as tolerated. Same concept as progressive overload in the gym. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/19 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Living with people in late 20s to early 30s.Depends more on the specific people than how old they are. Similarity in schedules and values are most important imo. E.g. I worked a 9-5, Mon-Fri with roommates who had irregular schedules (night nurse, restaurant server, student) and it fuckin sucked. Another example, you don’t wanna live with stoner roommates who sit around smoking weed and littering the place with pizza boxes if that’s not your style. All that said, older people tend to be more responsible and party less. You might learn a t… | /r/askTRP | 04/07/19 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell my LTR I’m gonna water-Fast for 30 days?You should probably try shorter length fasts before jumping into 30 days. lol | /r/askTRP | 04/07/19 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Aesthetics question: compromising face shape for muscle? When to cut?15-20% BF is time to start cutting again. | /r/askTRP | 04/07/19 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Hey guys, how many times are you able to fuck in row?I’ve done 24 hour fuck fest marathons where we lost count how many times. Probably something like 6 times before finally passing out, and another 3-4 times the next morning/into the afternoon. She just turned me on like crazy. And weed helps get me going again BIG time. | /r/askTRP | 04/07/19 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Go to BED BroIIRC: It’s very effective for jet lag or for shifting your sleep hours to earlier. It’s not effective for consistent usage. Your body just adapts. Not sure if there’s any negative effect. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/07/19 06:40 AM |
| 3 | Condom suggestions for someone who hates condoms? Amazon links appreciatedSkyn, and try the size large. I thought I was just on the high end of average but the large fits me a million times better. Also put some lube on your dick before putting the condom on. It makes it way better. | /r/askTRP | 03/07/19 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Lifting Vs Career? I need helpIf possible also get an opinion from a physical therapist with certifications from Functional Anatomy Seminars (formerly Functional Range Seminars). This organization teaches state of the art joint rehab and mobility/function training. They work with many professional baseball teams. If they can’t help you avoid surgery then their methodology will at least optimize your recovery from it. | /r/askTRP | 02/07/19 05:51 PM |
| 5 | Looking for stronglifts alternatives due to injuryGo to physical therapist and learn how to rehab your back. “Rest and avoid heavy lifting” is antiquated, bad advice. | /r/askTRP | 01/07/19 10:12 PM |
| 2 | How to get over post-oneitis depression?For a while she made me feel better than the hardest drugs. There are drugs that literally, physically overload your feelings of happiness to the limit. My time with her was better. Hahaha. My dawg, have you tried heroin? | /r/askTRP | 28/06/19 07:33 AM |
| 1 | Is “straight edge” the only way to form long lasting inner peace?It seems like you think the CBD has a lot of benefits. Does it have any drawbacks? | /r/askTRP | 26/06/19 07:59 PM |
| 2 | what are the benefits of meditation?I learned about this stuff from (1) my psychiatrist, in regards to neurofeedback therapy and meditation (which are related), and (2) the book, The Mind Illuminated (TMI). TMI was written by a neuroscientist, and it reflects his experience in that realm as well as in meditation/Bhuddism. I do have to admit I remember wishing it had better citations anytime it delved into the neuroscience of meditation, though. Edit: now that I think about it, I think there’s a good Joe Rogan podcast episode about… | /r/askTRP | 26/06/19 07:16 AM |
| 8 | what are the benefits of meditation?Yes. You experience an emotion/craving for something (cigarette, alcohol, fatty food, etc.) and your prefrontal cortex inhibits this craving in order to make decisions better suited for long-term goals (lose weight, stay healthy, etc.) This is called “executive function” and it can be practiced and strengthened via focused meditation. | /r/askTRP | 25/06/19 09:19 PM |
| 37 | what are the benefits of meditation?It trains the prefrontal cortex of the brain, which is responsible for rational decision making, long-term planning, sustaining focused attention, and inhibiting/attenuating signals from other parts of the brain, including those involved in anxiety and the fight-or-flight response. It’s like going to the gym for your brain. | /r/askTRP | 25/06/19 09:09 PM |
| 3 | What’re some books you’ve read that have given you purpose?This one is a great cure for nihilism. | /r/askTRP | 24/06/19 05:58 PM |
| 3 | Girl flakes on date then says “please don’t give up on me”2 strike policy for flaking. | /r/askTRP | 24/06/19 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Gym adviceFind a physical therapist with certifications from Functional Range Seminars (FRC, FRA, FR manual therapy, etc.) Trainers from this organization are working with an increasing number of professional baseball teams, among other sports teams. It’s some of the best modern knowledge for rehabbing and improving joint function. | /r/askTRP | 23/06/19 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Physique Critique?You should seek out physical therapy to see what you can do to improve your lower back pain from breaking your tailbone. | /r/askTRP | 23/06/19 06:53 AM |
| 1 | having a hard time of getting into the habit of counting calories. How'd you guys do it?Get a kitchen scale. Figure out some meal prep recipes with measured portion sizes and save those in an app. That way you won’t have to measure each individual item for a meal every time. I like to use Cronometer, a lot better than MyFitnessPal imo. It gets to be pretty easy and not a big deal once you get used to it. | /r/askTRP | 23/06/19 06:47 AM |
| 2 | LTR watches gangbang porn, red flag?Try putting your fingers in her mouth while you’re fucking her, hahaaaa | /r/askTRP | 20/06/19 04:50 AM |
| 3 | All I care about is money, sex and drugsHedonism is an endless treadmill that only satiates temporarily and never fully satisfies. Instead you just plunge deeper and deeper until one day you find yourself dependent on your vices to cope, and if they’re taken from you then you’re left in a world of hell. Instead, persevering for long-term goals that require discipline and sacrifice provides you with enduring satisfaction and the toolset to overcome the inevitable adversity that life will throw at you. | /r/askTRP | 19/06/19 10:41 PM |
| 8 | Senior TRP members, what would you advise (financially wise) to guys in their 20s?My big mistake was that I started earning well at a young age (programmer at 18), and so I kept on putting off saving much money, hamstering to myself that I was already well ahead of the curve for making money and I had plenty of time to start seriously saving. Well guess what, that just slowly turned into procrastinating on it later and later. Start the habit early and get used to saving at least 10-20% of your income as soon as you start making money. For you OP since you’re in debt, you’ll n… | /r/askTRP | 19/06/19 10:19 PM |
| 1 | If you ask for a hookup and get rejected on a dating app, is it simply your smv not high enough?Most people over-estimate their SMV, and women can be severely critical (something like 80% of men are invisible, 15% are “average”, and 5% are “above average”). | /r/askTRP | 19/06/19 12:25 AM |
| 1 | RP bros who've had / have mental health problems and take medication for it (esp ADHD, anxiety, depression), what's your experience with it?I take Vyvanse 1-2 times a week. Stimulant ADHD meds burn me out pretty bad, I can’t tolerate them daily. They can be pretty useful on occasion, and I would be lying if I didn’t say how much I enjoy taking them so I can Get Shit Done. They’re a double-edged sword though, because they incur dependence on them to be productive. I think it would be ideal to operate without them. Or save them for rare occasions, maybe 1-2 times per month instead of weekly. I took Wellbutrin for some time. It was hel… | /r/askTRP | 17/06/19 06:32 PM |
| 1 | had my first taste of pussy tonite. with a tinder hookup.Great work, Johnson. | /r/askTRP | 15/06/19 06:34 PM |
| 13 | AMA - Prostitution in South America. Legal, cheap and of quality.Which STDs did you contract? | /r/TheRedPill | 14/06/19 07:33 PM |
| 2 | My ltr wants to watch me with another girlIt’s called cuckquean, and it could be a legitimate turn-on for her. If so, congrats on the lucky find. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/19 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone here ever went to therapist(psychologist)? Do you think it helped? Would you recommend?The first few weren’t very helpful. But finally the last one I saw helped me big time. He was an older male psychiatrist who preferred other modalities like talk therapy and Neurofeedback over jumping straight into pharmaceuticals. So he was better trained than a typical therapist might be, but wasn’t a big drug peddler like many psychiatrists can be. I recommend it, for sure. But you gotta find the right therapist who you’re comfortable with and who can generate buy-in from you. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/19 05:48 AM |
| 9 | I get girls I don't want and don't get the girls I wantWas it Patrice? | /r/askTRP | 12/06/19 12:46 AM |
| 2 | How to cure anxiety of being in enclosed spaces with women?Therapy would help you a lot. You need to find the right therapist though, which can be pretty difficult. Also check out the book CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving | /r/askTRP | 11/06/19 08:12 PM |
| 1 | How to cure anxiety of being in enclosed spaces with women?Jesus. Did you have an overbearing mother? | /r/askTRP | 11/06/19 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Mind body connection? Yoga? Weightlifting?Find a physical therapist certified by Postural Restoration Institute. | /r/askTRP | 11/06/19 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Penis pipelineIf she doesn’t want to give you her number, any “plans” she’s making with you are null and void. Girls who are actually attracted to you will make it smooth and easy to meet up. They’ll readily give you their number, suggest alternative times if they’re busy when you proposed, change their schedule for you, etc. | /r/askTRP | 11/06/19 06:47 PM |
| 44 | This daddy shit is fucking weirdLearn to enjoy it. Ask her “who’s your daddy?” when you’re fucking her and see just how wet she gets. | /r/askTRP | 11/06/19 05:51 PM |
| 1 | New ways to fuck her?In the butt can be fun but it won’t be fresh. Lmaoo | /r/askTRP | 10/06/19 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Making 50k a year at age 18 and I am wondering if that will help me get womanEven better my guy. Forgot to write “at least.” | /r/askTRP | 10/06/19 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Strategy for beating dopamine addicitonTry looking into neurofeedback therapy. Impulsive pleasure-seeking (what you’re calling “dopamine addiction”) is a response to anxiety. Neurofeedback and meditation will help you develop the ability to self-regulate your arousal state to improve your ability to focus. | /r/askTRP | 06/06/19 06:53 AM |
| 2 | Eye-Contact: Making Cold Approaches Warmer.You probably need to see an EMDR therapist for better results | /r/TheRedPill | 04/06/19 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Bunch of dudes catcalled my LTR's friend, I intervened. Did I make the right choice?Good input my dude. OP and readers will have to assess their environment and situations for themselves. And of course, crazies can be lurking anywhere. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/19 05:09 PM |
| 1 | I’m ready to date but idk where to beginDating apps are pretty trash but if you can get some dates out of it the practice can be helpful. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/19 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Go on weekend vacation with girlSounds like fun. What’s the problem? | /r/askTRP | 01/06/19 03:51 PM |
| 15 | Bunch of dudes catcalled my LTR's friend, I intervened. Did I make the right choice?Well you AMOG’d everybody there and did it by diffusing the situation (assertive yet responsible) so it’s a solid win as far as your SMV goes. Confronting a group of dudes could be risky but it’s perhaps safer in your school environment. On the streets it might be better to just guide your girls away. Anyways it sounds like you read the situation well. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/19 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Is she dtf?Wtf happened? That shoulda been a slam dunk. If that was the third date and it didn’t turn into a lay I woulda nexted too. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/19 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Pulled my hottest chick ever , couldn t get it upI smoke weed if there’s ever any issue. Makes me very sensual and much more present in the moment. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/19 09:51 PM |
| 2 | I shat where I ate, at work.Yes there are times when I would feel confident that smothering a chick with attention/beta behavior would definitely lead to her ghosting me. But OP described this chick as “as far from attractive as it gets”, plus she’s old enough to be advanced in her career, talking about her biological clock just a few months into a relationship, etc. I really feel like she could just latch on. Anyways, that’s just my $0.02. | /r/askTRP | 28/05/19 09:42 PM |
| 10 | I shat where I ate, at work.This advice is commonly trotted out here but I don’t trust it. If you’re dealing with a chick with considerably lower SMV than yours then it seems like it could seriously backfire. Also consider women’s duel strategy, AF/BB. Sure, beta behavior might start to erode her sexual attraction, but it could bolster her desire to lock you down as beta bucks. | /r/askTRP | 28/05/19 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Went clubbin' sober last night, worth picking up chicks?Just leave earlier before it turns into a shit show. And try to stick to events with music that you like. A good DJ that you want to see versus some shitty top 40 DJ is a world of a difference. | /r/askTRP | 26/05/19 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Depressed, alone and frustratedYou ain’t wrong Better way to go out than this mass murderer scenario OP has playing out in his head. | /r/askTRP | 26/05/19 01:58 AM |
| 7 | What do you guys consider being treated like royalty from a plate?Man I had this chick once who meal prepped for me. Soo much delicious food. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/19 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Making 50k a year at age 18 and I am wondering if that will help me get womanNah. And make sure you save 10-20% of that. If you start investing at 18 you’ll be way ahead of the curve. | /r/askTRP | 22/05/19 04:42 AM |
| 4 | How to respond to extremely aggressive compliments?It’s extremely arousing for women to be desired. Once they’ve already submitted to you and are attracted then expressing your desire (verbally, physically, etc.) is a big turn on for them. It only sounds desperate like you fear when it’s too early in the escalation process and they haven’t submitted to you yet. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/19 08:21 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to extremely aggressive compliments?“Good baby girl. Come over tonight.” Is how I would respond, personally. Sent when I see her text the next morning. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/19 08:18 PM |
| 1 | What should I have done in this situation at the gym?Don’t file HR complaints. That’s a bitch move that hurts your reputation and doesn’t do anything to help you. Dude was a weirdo, just stay in your lane. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/19 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Best financial investments for 18 y/oPersonalFinance sub’s wiki is a decent starting point | /r/askTRP | 20/05/19 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Resignation: how to do thisIf you’re really an asset to them like you say you are, they won’t fire you. They’ll want you for those two weeks to coordinate handing over you responsibilities. Personally I would still give them a 2 week notice. But I would also have the savings in place to be able to tolerate 2 weeks of no pay. Since you have a new job lined up, maybe they would be able to bring you on sooner if there’s a worse case scenario and you got fired. Most jobs would be perfectly eager to bring you on ASAP. | /r/askTRP | 20/05/19 10:59 PM |
| 14 | I’m the Runt of my group and I hate itI’m the runt 6’2” Boo fuckin hoo. Hit the gym dude. | /r/askTRP | 20/05/19 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone have recommendations for a workout routine for Friday/Saturday/Sunday only split?Tbh probably best to do full body Friday/Sunday, then at least you have each muscle group done 2x per week. You could do some cardio, hiking, etc. on Saturday. | /r/askTRP | 19/05/19 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Called out Co-workers for Slacking, and now leadership is making me the bad guy? How should I proceed?I find the spirit of your response here agreeable, but I also agree with OP that you seem way too dramatic/a shit stirrer from your top post (calling people out, etc.) You need to try and accomplish the same goals with much more tact. I.e. you should try better to make your voice heard when it comes to assigning/divvying up work and making estimates. You want to come across as a problem-solver and get buy-in from both your team members and your supervisor(s). Then that gives you the opportunity … | /r/askTRP | 18/05/19 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you have a plate cut off age?Maybe if she already had kids. 36 and doesn’t have kids but wants them, she’s gonna try and get knocked up ASAP. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/19 08:20 PM |
| 11 | Girl Has Agreed To “Hang Out” At My Apartment In a One-On-One Setting. Tips Please?This guy fucks and eats pizza | /r/askTRP | 15/05/19 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Shaving, trimming and keeping, what to?I have a lot of chest hair. Some girls like it, and I like having that feature to polarize them. I might eventually wax or laser my back if it keeps getting hairier. And I would entertain trimming my chest to make it a little neater. Definitely don’t think I would shave my chest though. | /r/askTRP | 15/05/19 09:44 PM |
| 1 | TRP'ers who have Instagram. What do you post? And how useful of a tool is it ?I don’t post a whole lot, but I mostly follow a lot of trainers, physical therapists, mobility specialists, and evidence-based training/diet accounts. I definitely pick up a lot of useful info from it. | /r/askTRP | 15/05/19 09:35 PM |
| 2 | I want to radically change my sleep schedule, looking for adviceI recommend you maintain a sleep schedule based on daylight. If you want to get up early wake at dawn or just before. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/19 05:53 AM |
| 2 | How does Red Pill theory apply to Gay Men?So just like AWALT, there’s AMALT. Men have also have dual strategy, which is sowing your oats across many partners with low investment (plating), vs high investment in a single partner to raise better quality offspring. This complements women’s own dual strategy, providing us the relationship dynamics discussed on TRP. Gay men don’t have women (gatekeepers of sex) to balance out their sexuality. They’re hyper promiscuous. I would also have to guess that it’s tougher for them to secure stable LT… | /r/askTRP | 14/05/19 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Need advice getting back on track (depression recovery)Keep doing what you’re doing. Are you feeling any better from your efforts? I think going back to work or school, or really throwing yourself into your business would help. I took some time off from work because of neck pain/issues (and resulting depression/anxiety about not being productive at work), and that turned into some of my worst depression. Returning to work a few months later helped a lot. | /r/askTRP | 13/05/19 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Models vs Rational Male: which is right?IIRC Mark Manson’s point is that when you approach, you make yourself vulnerable to rejection. Being comfortable and secure enough to do that makes you attractive. | /r/askTRP | 12/05/19 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Sex noises?Talk dirty to her, grunt and growl, give a gruff moan, etc | /r/askTRP | 12/05/19 06:50 PM |
| 8 | I feel sad when I see beggarsI throw them a buck or two on occasion. I know for a fact many of them are spending it on a drug habit (b/c when I was an addict I dealt with other addicts who did this). Even then I’m still sympathetic. Do you think anyone really wants to be an addict beggar? They’re doing this only to try and escape their pain because they’re severely fucked in the head. But it’s odd that you’re so emotionally affected by this. You should work on accepting the world as it is. Anyway try volunteering in a soup … | /r/askTRP | 12/05/19 06:46 PM |
| 2 | “Oooo dominant, I love it” Good thing?Assertiveness/dominance plus affection can turn them into putty. Try talking to her like she’s a little girl more often—both when being affectionate and when she’s acting like a little brat who needs some discipline. | /r/askTRP | 12/05/19 05:33 AM |
| 1 | I burnt outFor 1 week go to gym and keep same intensity but cut volume in half and def don’t go to failure. Prioritize sleeping really well (research how to fix if needed), and increase calories to maintenance or even surplus while still eating the same foods (not binging). Spend some time with friends. Recharge and get ready to get after it again the next week. | /r/askTRP | 11/05/19 06:01 AM |
| 2 | went on a "bluepill" style date. feel sad afterwards. wtf?There should be steady escalating kino from the start of the date. I like to have a round or two of drinks, lots of kino, then suggest we walk around or go to another spot or something. Pretty soon once we’re outside, go for the kiss. It should feel pretty natural based on all the kino. Then suggest they come over to do/see x activity that we chatted about earlier during the date. I like music a lot and have some nice speakers so I like to chat about music and then invite them over to listen to … | /r/askTRP | 11/05/19 05:51 AM |
| 1 | My shoulders are fucked up and I don’t know what to doFind a physical therapist with certifications from Functional Range Seminars. Namely their FRC, FRA, and FR (manual therapy) certs. | /r/askTRP | 11/05/19 05:26 AM |
| 1 | How to react to a girl breaking/binning my shit?Man, escalating the conflict with her by trying to get your shit back seems like it could go horribly wrong. This sounds to me like one of the rare cases of legit BPD discussed here on AskTRP. Conflict with a BPD is like going to war with someone that has nothing to lose. Dangerous game you’re playing. Might be prudent to just say goodbye to your shit and hard next her. | /r/askTRP | 10/05/19 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Music?I like dark, aggressive-sounding rap. Bones is dope. I’m obsessed with $uicide Boy$. Night Lovell is pretty good too. Found these artists (and some others) from Spotify track/artist radio and suggested tracks. Spotify is pretty dope for that. Checking the other artists on record labels putting out music you like is another good way to find music. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/19 09:56 PM |
| 6 | How to find proper male therapist?I found an older male psychiatrist who preferred other modalities besides meds (Neurofeedback, talk therapy). This means he’s more highly trained without being a pill pusher like some other psychs I’ve seen. That was important because I wanted to avoid meds as much as possible, but still have that option available (for ADHD). When he explained mechanisms behind anxiety, etc. it was typically rooted in evolution. That was another good sign. And lastly he almost never makes value judgements in the… | /r/askTRP | 08/05/19 05:20 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with past trauma 18 MGood for you dude. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/19 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with past trauma 18 MWhat? Your first statement was not a complete sentence. Sun Tzu advised to “know your enemy.” If you have maladapted behavioral and emotional patterns from childhood, understanding those patterns and their origins is the first step in dismantling them. Therapy should be about taking ownership, toughening up and solving your problems to build a better life. Pretty in-line with TRP if you ask me. I think you have a misconception about therapy. It’s not just sitting around whining and talking point… | /r/askTRP | 07/05/19 08:39 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with past trauma 18 MHey lil bro What you experienced wasn’t the worst that could happen but it does seem like it could be legit trauma. It doesn’t have to define you and you shouldn’t let it instill a victim mentality but you also shouldn’t blame yourself, feel “lesser than”, or feel guilty for being affected in this way. I recommend reading “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.” It’ll help you understand what’s going on in your head and that will help enable you to resolve what’s troubling you. A good therapi… | /r/askTRP | 07/05/19 06:20 AM |
| 1 | Shoulder front dislocation.I recommend seeing a physical therapist with certifications from Functional Range Seminars to work on exercises to bullet-proof your shoulder. Having already had a dislocation puts you at high risk for another dislocation, unless you do the proper rehab/prehab. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/19 05:02 PM |
| 1 | (Little off topic) Which underwear do you buy? Is Ck worth it?ExOfficio | /r/askTRP | 05/05/19 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Shoulder injury, fucked up my lifeStart looking for a good quality PT. “Immobilize“ is an old practice that can do more harm than good. Depending on the case you want to start reintroducing tolerated movement and loading ASAP. | /r/askTRP | 30/04/19 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Do you people feel that (alot of) American woman are very entitled or have some sort of daddy/mental health issues?This. BPD gets parroted and exaggerated way too much on here. It’s a whole other realm from the usual “crazy ex-gf.” | /r/askTRP | 25/04/19 10:53 PM |
| 3 | "You're being very touchy-feely."You can say the corniest stupidest shit if you DGAF and she’s attracted to you. | /r/askTRP | 24/04/19 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Losing fat while liftingAs a novice you can build strength and muscle while losing fat. Keep the intensity high, strength training as normal pretty much. You might just drop the volume a bit. Calculate TDEE. Track your calories. Aim for ~500 cal deficit and 0.8-1 grams of protein per lb (or calculate protein by your goal weight if you have a lot to lose). I’ve lost about 20 lbs the past few months and I’ve hardly had to deal with ever feeling hungry by doing this. I’m aiming for a 700 kcal deficit with 190-200g of prot… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/19 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Going to a party alone tomorrow, unsure whether to drink1 or 2 drinks won’t hurt. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/19 04:29 PM |
| 2 | You guys should know about body language: is feet pointed at you actually a sign of anything?Yup it means something. During an interaction you point your toes away from someone when you want to disengage from that person. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/19 04:12 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with existential crisis?That's funny. After I discovered weed and a teacher introduced me to Camus around the age of 15, I really spiraled into many years of nihilism and hedonism. Perhaps re-reading him would be better after a decade and a half of perspective. | /r/askTRP | 20/04/19 08:08 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with existential crisis?That's a quite poor summation of what I wrote, or at the least what I intended to get across. I wrote what I did because I related to OP. I've had to deal with many of my own demons, and that book is one thing of many that I found helpful. | /r/askTRP | 20/04/19 08:04 PM |
| 80 | How do you guys deal with existential crisis?Read Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. It's his account of surviving the holocaust in Auschwitz. And if you can't tell by the title, it centers around the question you're putting forth here. If that doesn't make your first world problems seem small and inspire you to carve out some meaning for yourself, then idk what will. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/19 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only one who can't get dates on Tinder?I'm getting much better results on hinge, for whatever reason | /r/askTRP | 19/04/19 06:46 PM |
| 1 | College worth it at 22?You said your dad will pay for it. I suggest you go. And don’t do online, go in person. The socialization will be good for you. | /r/askTRP | 17/04/19 10:55 PM |
| 1 | i need help on losing fatGood to know, thank you. | /r/askTRP | 16/04/19 08:05 PM |
| 1 | How tf do you get out of depression with no energy?I can relate, I’ve been dealing with neck/back issues a long time now. Last year it got bad, I got really depressed and gained a lot of weight. I’m a lot better now, but still improving. Physical therapy has helped immensely. All I can say is that I kept trying, over and over. And slowly, over time, things have gotten better. | /r/askTRP | 15/04/19 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Is going swimming a good way to meet women?Maybe if you join a Master’s swim club (adult recreational swim team). | /r/askTRP | 15/04/19 07:30 PM |
| 2 | i need help on losing fatCalculate TDEE for caloric requirements. Aim for 2.2g of protein per kg. Track your food and aim for ~500 calories under TDEE. Be consistent. That’s the jist of it. | /r/askTRP | 15/04/19 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Which self-help book impacted your life the most?Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. Viktor Frankl was a Jewish psychologist in Germany during the rise of the Nazis. This book is his account of surviving the holocaust in Auschwitz and other concentration camps. Frankl determined himself to approach his imprisonment in a professional and humanistic capacity, documenting the experience and doing what he could as a physician to help other prisoners. In the book he discusses what separated those who survived from those who passed, concludin… | /r/askTRP | 14/04/19 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Workout question: as a man, how do I build an attractive butt?Advanced Techniques in Glutei Maximi Strengthening | /r/askTRP | 11/04/19 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Workout question: as a man, how do I build an attractive butt?Any recommendations on frequency/how to incorporate with regular strength training? | /r/askTRP | 11/04/19 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Workout question: as a man, how do I build an attractive butt?He just described the hip thrust. lol | /r/askTRP | 11/04/19 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Workout question: as a man, how do I build an attractive butt?My physical therapist showed me Brett’s giant technical book about training butts the other day—there’s 675 pages. | /r/askTRP | 11/04/19 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Workout question: as a man, how do I build an attractive butt?Just add hip thrusts and you’re good. Some unilateral work is recommended as well. | /r/askTRP | 11/04/19 07:13 PM |
| 6 | “During sex it is impossible to shield our emotions. During and after sex, you can access the deepest of a woman’s emotions directly.” -SGM How much of what a woman says during sex is the actual truth and how much is just the emotions of sex?“Fuckit, imma nut in her, a baby wouldn’t be so bad” lmao | /r/askTRP | 10/04/19 10:12 PM |
| 2 | is it better to train each muscle once or twice per week?Every 48-72 hrs is optimal for hypertrophy | /r/askTRP | 10/04/19 09:49 PM |
| 2 | What would you recommend for an emergency 'pick me up'?Do you have any friends you could kick it or grab something to eat with? | /r/askTRP | 09/04/19 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Best mid to upper back exercises?It’s okay, in a twist of irony “literally” has colloquially become the opposite of it’s true meaning in the English language as well. OP is just being pedantic. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/19 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Gf(22) says I’m too mellow M(32)Hit the sidebar and learn. It’s competition anxiety—the fear of losing you to another girl, because you’re desirable. You’re boring and predictable to her. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/19 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Gf(22) says I’m too mellow M(32)Needs dread | /r/askTRP | 08/04/19 11:24 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys spend your weekends?Sounds like you should move. Hopefully the military will work out for you. “A ship in harbor is safe — but that is not what ships are built for” | /r/askTRP | 08/04/19 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Mother died leaving me with tens of thousands and a house. Intend to travel the world solo for a year because I have no idea what to do with myself. Any advice?Enjoy a bit of traveling but keep a cap on it. That amount of money would be really easy to burn through, but it could also become much more if invested wisely. | /r/askTRP | 08/04/19 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Book or guide to help my LTR pick up other girls?Try going out with her, and ask her which girl(s) she likes. Flirt and kino with them in front of your girl, and hopefully they’ll pick up what you’re putting down when they realize you’re being flirty right in front of her and she seems to approve. To polarize you can whisper in their ear “I think my girlfriend fancies you.” | /r/askTRP | 07/04/19 09:41 PM |
| 4 | It Used to be Better: The Death of Masculinity in Professional WrestlingIt was cool when you were 9 years old | /r/TheRedPill | 07/04/19 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Need help with starting the gymStrength train 3x a work. Easy cardio, stretching or other mobility work the other 2 days. If you prefer fats, eat more fats. If you prefer carbs, eat more carbs. Just hit your required protein and fit whatever else however you want within your caloric budget. | /r/askTRP | 06/04/19 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Need help with starting the gymDoesn’t have to be complicated, keep it simple. Look up a TDEE calculator and calculate your caloric needs. Aim for 0.8-1.1 grams of protein per pound, and whatever ratio of carbs:fats you prefer. I recommend Cronometer app for tracking your nutrition. Meat, eggs, fish, poultry, and veggies should be the bulk of your diet. Fatty meat is just fine if it fits your caloric budget—I personally prefer to have some tastier fattier animal proteins instead of additional carbs. A bit of fruit is good too… | /r/askTRP | 06/04/19 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Hardcore last minute resistanceSounds like you might’ve red-lined the engine a little too much (all push push push, no easing off, no pull). You might not have turned her on enough before you tried to undress her. I get bitches REALLY hot and heavy before clothes start coming off. Intense making out, hands all over her, gently but firmly grabbing her neck and the roots of her hair, kissing her neck, guiding her hips to grind her pussy on my leg, etc. Trying to push her head down to suck you off before you’ve already establish… | /r/askTRP | 06/04/19 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Cureently ona plateau with my cut. Any ideas for breaking it?How long have you been cutting? If you have arm veins and slightly visible abs I would stop cutting. You’re 17 and still growing and cutting can be detrimental to that. You should implement a modest surplus and lean bulk. | /r/askTRP | 06/04/19 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Why does everybody think I am gay? How to stop this?Lift, work on projecting your voice, and be flirty. Especially work on kino. | /r/askTRP | 06/04/19 04:09 PM |
| 0 | Starting my TRP and lifting journey. Am i doing this right?Dude you are fucking retarded. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/19 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Got angry and slapped ltr at a night out, dick move, apologized and everything looks fine like it was before but she's still a bit sad and shocked about it. How can I make up for these things?Jesus Christ. You need to get sober and see a therapist. Rehab and/or NA/AA would be a good idea too. I say this as someone who unfortunately once did the same shit, many years ago. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/19 08:49 PM |
| 0 | Starting my TRP and lifting journey. Am i doing this right?Fat burning is not the same thing as fat loss. You also have to account for fat storage. Fat loss happens when there is a net negative of fat storage and fat burning, which happens in a caloric deficit. You’re not gonna magically lose fat on a ketogenic diet in the absence of a caloric deficit. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/19 07:41 PM |
| -1 | Starting my TRP and lifting journey. Am i doing this right?lmao this is just false. It promotes increased fat oxidation (“burning”) but that doesn’t mean a net fat loss. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/19 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Starting my TRP and lifting journey. Am i doing this right?Didn’t say it’s useless, it has its benefits. But there’s no difference in fat loss when you control for protein and calories between high carb and low carb diets. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/19 07:16 PM |
| 4 | Having a hard time lifting.Tendinitis is easy to rehab, see a physical therapist. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/19 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Just curious, but what does your ideal female look like?Thicc & brunette. Mediterranean, middle eastern, and latinas are the best. Love me some PAWGs too. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/19 02:37 PM |
| 4 | Starting my TRP and lifting journey. Am i doing this right?Ketogenic has no bearing on how much weight you lose. Caloric deficit is all that matters. Keep protein high and consume whatever ratio of carbs:fats that you prefer. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/19 02:22 PM |
| 1 | LTR wants to go to a rap band's concert tonightWhy don’t you quit bitching and just go with her? Is your eyebrow seriously in that much pain? Who gives a fuck what your eye looks like, you’d be there with your girl. | /r/askTRP | 31/03/19 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Are high heels just another tactic women use as part of their hypergamy?This, whether OP is consciously aware of it or not. | /r/askTRP | 30/03/19 05:50 AM |
| 12 | Girls in IT communities and jobs are less than 10%. Is programming too hard for them?I think some of them could be perfectly capable, they’re mostly just not interested. | /r/askTRP | 29/03/19 07:57 PM |
| 1 | How would you reject a girl nicely?Bro you haven’t even fucked her. Why are you worried about this | /r/askTRP | 29/03/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | 17M, I need your adviceAh so you have friends that you see consistently them. Hmm that’s probably not it. Read Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl | /r/askTRP | 28/03/19 10:35 PM |
| 1 | 17M, I need your adviceWhat’s your social life like? | /r/askTRP | 28/03/19 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Gym 3 days a week. Fullbody "only" option?Full body 3x a week is gonna be 3x the frequency and volume for each muscle group compared to PPL only 3 days a week. It’s gonna be way more effective. Do upper/lower in 4 days a week if you wanna change things up. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/19 04:18 PM |
| 6 | What advice would you give to your 18 year old self?Don’t do drugs. Just like Icarus, flying too high will send you tumbling back down to the earth in a most painful manner. Self improvement and attacking your problems is the surest way to enduring—as opposed to fleeting—happiness. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/19 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Go find work and stop my progress or keep sitting at home with bad mood?What’s this “progress” you’re talking about? I recommend you either go to school or get a job. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/19 07:48 PM |
| -1 | Ex plate said “Small Dick” publicly in a group of people I was talking with. What doYes vaping indoors in public is rude but I have reactive asthma and someone vaping nearby doesn’t bother it in the slightest. I’m inclined to believe OP that she was being dramatic. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/19 07:45 PM |
| 7 | Girlfriend wants me to “rape” her. How do I go about this in a smart way?I think false rape accusations are more of a problem with one night stands, girls cheating on their bf, etc. Not so much in LTRs. | /r/askTRP | 22/03/19 10:46 PM |
| 17 | Girlfriend wants me to “rape” her. How do I go about this in a smart way?Man I didn’t know I was into this but when my exgf had me “rape” her and she was fighting back etc. I nutted so hard my dead grandfather felt it. I say go for it. She’s your GF so hopefully that means you can trust her. Establish a safe word next pillow talk (“salty mangos” sounds like a good one 😆). Then sometime in the future grab her by the throat look her in the eyes and tell her you’re gonna rape her. She’ll probably get soaked. Edit: recording the consent for this sounds really over-board … | /r/askTRP | 22/03/19 10:37 PM |
| 1 | How does a felon find his own way in this country when nearly every avenue for success is denied?Bro I started freelancing when I was 16. By 18 I was contracting with clients feeding me steady work for $50/hr. This was 12 years ago. You’re hungry, use that motivation to your advantage. Figure it the fuck out. You will be very proud of yourself once you do. I started at the very bottom of the market. My first project was a $200 site for a photographer. I wish you well man. You have a good skill set for working around this challenge. In 10 years time when you’re crushing it with your own busi… | /r/askTRP | 22/03/19 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Suggestions for male spaces?Hunting is on my list of things to try. Joe Rogan has said hunting camps have a pretty intensely masculine and primal feel to them. | /r/askTRP | 22/03/19 06:59 AM |
| 10 | Question about analIf you sext you can tell her you wanna take her ass. Or tell her during sex. Build up some anticipation. Anal’s kinda hot when you’re working it in because it’s like fucking a virgin in a way, having to be gentle. But man soon as I caught that first whiff of shit I was fuckin over it, lmao | /r/askTRP | 20/03/19 09:45 PM |
| 4 | First Date: Girl Gave Out Number In Front Of MeI think accepting the drinks with amused mastery would be good. Don’t be threatened, and watch her reaction to judge how you should treat her (plate only? Etc) But I would also be mighty tempted to send them back | /r/askTRP | 20/03/19 07:10 AM |
| 1 | [Career] I need a career mentor. 27 yo Front-End EngineerInteresting, how does sales compare? Pay/stress/hours etc.? I’m 10 years in and engineering has lost a lot of its luster. | /r/askTRP | 20/03/19 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Question for guys who are into rough sex/dominance/sadism: do you do it because you like it, or just to please women?I was always naturally dominant and took the lead in sex, but wasn’t necessarily rough. Then I explored being rough with girls and mainly just enjoyed it because they liked it. But then one time i had a girl that wanted some rape play and boyyyy that was one of the fastest hardest nuts I’ve ever busted. | /r/askTRP | 20/03/19 05:46 AM |
| 3 | Current LTR of two years almost never gives me head. Advice?Have you tried putting your dick in her mouth? | /r/askTRP | 20/03/19 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone here quit weight lifting as a method for self improvement successfully?What I mean is that if you want to compare them to some people with physiques built from lifting weights, how do you know that the weight lifters aren’t using steroids either? You don’t, so if you’re include steroids in your consideration it makes a casual comparison between lifting/calisthenics very difficult to make. Regardless, anyone who uses steroids will tell you that it still takes a ton of work in the gym if you want to build a really impressive physique. | /r/askTRP | 19/03/19 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone here quit weight lifting as a method for self improvement successfully?Whether steroids were used is a separate concern from whether they used bodyweight training or lifting weights. | /r/askTRP | 19/03/19 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone here quit weight lifting as a method for self improvement successfully?Calisthenics can build a great physique. Check out fitnessfaqs or iamstipke on IG for some pretty insanely built guys who did it mostly with bodyweight style training. | /r/askTRP | 19/03/19 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have good first date places in West LA?Where are you staying? | /r/askTRP | 19/03/19 05:51 AM |
| 1 | I've done incredibly well with dating apps for years. AMAWhere are you located? I get really shitty results with Tinder. Majority of matches I’m not especially attracted to. The few that I am attracted to either don’t respond, or don’t seem interested in their responses. I feel like I’m decent looking and my pictures are okay. Sometimes I have to wonder if my locale (Los Angeles) is just ultra competitive or something. | /r/askTRP | 19/03/19 05:35 AM |
| 1 | Low SMV; What To Prioritize?I made more than that at that age as a software engineer. | /r/askTRP | 19/03/19 05:20 AM |
| 1 | How do i accept im not going to achieve great shit?Man you’re so young | /r/askTRP | 18/03/19 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Music suggestions?$uicideboy$ | /r/askTRP | 14/03/19 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Cut myself of anger, should I see a male or female therapist?Def see a male therapist. You got daddy issues bro. Those issues will come further to bear in the course of therapy with a male therapist, for obvious reasons. Then you and the therapist will be better able to inspect them under a microscope—analyze them, understand them, and ultimately resolve them. The hard part is finding a good therapist. For me, once I found the right one, he helped a lot. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/19 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Personal tastes aside, is a guy who has SMV of 8 for an HB4 also SMV 8 for HB8?It’s supposed to be market value. So that means the general consensus of everyone. But personal tastes might make someone who’s usually a 6 more like an 8 for you. E.g. me and my love for thicc bitches. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/19 10:50 PM |
| 2 | My borderline is fucking up my personal relationships(?) I'm a loose canon and suspect everyone's motives but I get the idea it pushes them away.Are you sure you have BPD and not something like CPTSD? | /r/askTRP | 14/03/19 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Should I ask her what she wants to eat or just cook something I like`?Tell her what you wanna cook and ask if that sounds good to her. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/19 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Does birth order (oldest/middle/youngest) determine whether you are naturally alpha or beta?Idk, I’m the oldest of 3 brothers and the middle one has his shit together a good deal more than me. More jacked, more sociable, more disciplined (AFAICT), better traveled, better developed hobbies, etc. Even better looking. But he’s also gay, lol. FWIW, research has shown that the more older brothers a boy has, the higher the probability that he will be gay. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/19 07:32 AM |
| 2 | Anxiety in MexicoSure man, I’ve been there as well. Hope you enjoy the rest of your vacation. Get off Reddit and have some fun my guy. Oh and don’t over-do it with alcohol and drugs to try and make yourself feel better. It’ll make things worse in the long run. | /r/askTRP | 13/03/19 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Anxiety in MexicoWho are you there with? Try and focus on having a good time with your friends. Perhaps put less pressure on yourself to “perform” and game. You want to ride that thin line of arousal where you’re stimulated and challenged, but not overwhelmed by too much stress or anxiety. So ease up on yourself a bit. Try to be less focused on expectations, and more focused on the present moment. | /r/askTRP | 12/03/19 10:45 PM |
| 5 | Who here on TRP has NOT been cheated on in a relationship and how did you find TRP?People would comment elsewhere on reddit about how awful TRP is. Curious, I wandered in and read the sidebar. Much of the material made sense and didn’t turn out to be this awful thing that it was characterized as by others. | /r/askTRP | 11/03/19 06:23 AM |
| 1 | a depressed & procrastinating 19 year old. is there any hope for a change?Go straight from work to the gym. Go every day mon-fri (or whatever your work days are). Alternate strength training days with easy cardio days to start. Once you grind through this for a few weeks, it will become habituated and nearly effortless to continue the habit. | /r/askTRP | 10/03/19 10:20 PM |
| 3 | Any book recommendations?Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl | /r/askTRP | 10/03/19 06:29 PM |
| 1 | What do you do to spice things up in bed?When I was younger I didn’t think I was into BDSM, though I was dominant and lead the interaction. Turns out if they like it, I like it. | /r/askTRP | 10/03/19 06:27 PM |
| 8 | Old Plate rekindling contactLol what a cunty way to “rekindle contact.” Ignore that bitch. Doesn’t seem like an authentic desire to see you, just an arrogant grab for attention. | /r/askTRP | 10/03/19 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Should I meet with this girlYou were flakey when you said “I might come” and she made other plans. Try contacting her again later this week. Let it chill for a few days. | /r/askTRP | 10/03/19 06:19 PM |
| 5 | how to shave off chest hairI’m pretty hairy and i recommend you just try rocking the chest hair tbh. It can be polarizing which is good, bc girls who are into it will really like it. I was self conscious about it when I was younger too. | /r/askTRP | 10/03/19 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Should I do PPL or 5X5 as a 17yo?Full body routine until you stall 2+ times after deloading. At 17 yo with 8 months training, you’re still a beginner. | /r/askTRP | 08/03/19 06:00 PM |
| 1 | What kind of music do you guys likeUsed to listen to looots of house music. Even picked up DJing for a little while. Been listening to way more rap lately tho. Been in a darker mood I suppose. | /r/askTRP | 07/03/19 07:32 PM |
| 2 | What makes music sound good or pleasing?Nah the quote is more about love and uses music as a device to relay his message. But his description of how we fall in love with a song because of the patterns that we notice, then expect, and are finally fulfilled is quite beautiful. It’s this detection of patterns is what tickles our minds. | /r/askTRP | 06/03/19 03:38 PM |
| 1 | How to beat depression?You just keep trying. Slowly you’ll chip away at it. With time you’ll start noticing bigger improvements. Eventually you’ll start to realize you’re beating it. | /r/askTRP | 06/03/19 05:47 AM |
| 2 | What makes music sound good or pleasing?“One must learn to love.— This is what happens to us in music: first one has to learn to hear a figure and melody at all, to detect and distinguish it, to isolate it and delimit it as a separate life; then it requires some exertion and good will to tolerate it in spite of its strangeness, to be patient with its appearance and expression, and kindhearted about its oddity:—finally there comes a moment when we are used to it, when we wait for it, when we sense that we should miss it if it were miss… | /r/askTRP | 06/03/19 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Any tips on falling asleep on timeSunlight exposure in the morning, very low and minimal lighting after sunset, minimize screen time before bed, reduce caffeine consumption, and especially avoid caffeine in the afternoon. | /r/askTRP | 06/03/19 04:26 AM |
| 2 | She said she's bipolar...Bipolar is pretty treatable and responds well to medication. Still a red flag but nowhere as bad as BPD. BPD is more similar to psychopathy than it is to bipolar disorder. | /r/askTRP | 02/03/19 04:22 AM |
| 3 | What are hobbies are you into that you'd recommend other red pill men to try out?You can take lessons at a yacht or sailing club. And you can rent boats. As a friend once told me, "if it floats, flies, or fucks—rent instead of own." I taught sailing on 14' Lidos, which can comfortably hold up to 6 people. Obviously you can go bigger or smaller, too. | /r/askTRP | 01/03/19 10:26 PM |
| 3 | What are hobbies are you into that you'd recommend other red pill men to try out?I taught small boat sailing at a summer camp for a few summers when I was 14-16ish. It was really, really dope. I like being out on the water and in the sun. Plus being on a small boat when the wind hits it really fucking tilts over and gets exciting and you gotta maintain control, it's not like you're just leisurely floating around. Plus it's something that you can invite people out to join in on. I'll look forward to trying it again as an adult and meeting people in the process. | /r/askTRP | 01/03/19 10:12 PM |
| 8 | Romance and dominationJust like women have a dual sexual strategy (AF/BB), men have a dual strategy as well—uncommitted sex (sowing your oats), and investment/commitment in a single woman to try and secure her fidelity and raise higher quality offspring. Banging thots vs feeling “in love.” | /r/askTRP | 01/03/19 09:30 PM |
| 72 | The Fuck Just Happened?Neg him and push thru any LMR. | /r/askTRP | 01/03/19 09:23 PM |
| 5 | What are hobbies are you into that you'd recommend other red pill men to try out?Imma try taking some sailing lessons as it warms up this year. | /r/askTRP | 01/03/19 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Hitting the 12 minute mark in meditationAs weird and woo-woo as it sounds, I used to get this sensation of a third eye opening up in my consciousness during effective meditation sessions. Check out The Mind Illuminated, it’s written by a neuroscientist and it covers the various phenomena/stages of a meditation practice. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/19 05:37 PM |
| 4 | Why do you take broken plates back?I don’t think you’ve reached acceptance yet...still choking down the pill. Take a step back and be objective. You were less attractive then, she became uninterested. You’re more attractive now, she’s interested again. It makes perfect sense. Why be salty about it? If you’re not interested that’s fine. But don’t be salty. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/19 12:43 AM |
| 2 | How to end sugar and junk food addictionComes down to mindset bro. You can do it. And if you fail you just dust yourself off, learn from it, and get back at it. I recommend checking out David Goggins’ interviews on Joe Rogan + his book for some inspiration. He specifically talks about his struggle with food addiction and obesity and how he beat it to eventually become a beast of a Navy SEAL and athlete. | /r/askTRP | 27/02/19 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Books on StoicismThe Obstacle is the Way has been my favorite book on stoicism. Beautifully succinct and written with real world stories of stoicism in practice. I think it’s a great precursor to Meditations because it’s a little more interesting and flows nicely. You should really try to push him into some sport or athletic endeavor though. Books might be a little too heady for young kids, real life role models and mentors (like a good coach) are more important. How old is he anyways? | /r/askTRP | 26/02/19 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Ed making me depressedSee a male doctor, they’ll be better able to properly sympathize. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/19 06:20 PM |
| 2 | How to end sugar and junk food addictionIf you slowly phase it out, workout a lot and eat a good diet (veggies, meat/eggs/fish, little bit of fruit) then you’ll lose the craving for sugar. I recommend replacing any sugar cravings with berries (strawberries, black berries, blueberries, etc.). They taste sweet but are low calorie. Eventually you’ll learn to love meat and veggies. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/19 06:18 PM |
| 5 | Dealing with addiction issues.Hey bro. I’ve dealt with addiction for quite a while. Started smoking weed at 15. Got into many other drugs over the years. Did rehab 6-7 years ago. I’m 30 now. Quitting will be nothing but good for you. I strongly encourage it. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/19 06:14 PM |
| 3 | RP stance on Juuling, nicotine vapingI love it when my girl brings her juul over but I don’t get my own cause I don’t need that addiction. She says it’s worse than cigarettes because it’s so convenient. | /r/askTRP | 25/02/19 08:17 PM |
| 7 | What to say when a girl mentions her working out?Tell her you’re a talented masseuse | /r/askTRP | 25/02/19 08:15 PM |
| 7 | Has anyone else noticed that most promiscuous girls nowadays have very deep, manly voices? What's the reason behind that?Higher testosterone will make for both a higher sex drive and a lower voice. | /r/askTRP | 25/02/19 08:11 PM |
| 11 | Parents did EVERYTHING for me growing up. 23 now and strugglingYou need a steady diet of Jordan Peterson, David Goggins, lifting, TRP, exploring other reading material, and seeing a good therapist. | /r/askTRP | 25/02/19 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have experience with the "digital nomad" lifestyle?Missing out on office politics and human contact I’ve worked remotely the past 3 years, though not as a “nomad.” I just wanted to emphasize that missing out on the socialization built into the daily routine of going to work somewhere can have a really bad impact on your mental health if you’re not getting it elsewhere. Even if you’re an introvert and it doesn’t feel like a big deal in the short term. Over time it can begin to take a toll. That was my experience, at least. All the flexibility and… | /r/askTRP | 25/02/19 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Solo Spring Break ideasI’m not from Texas but aren’t Corpus Christi and South Padre Island both known spring break party destinations? If that’s what you’re looking for. Could be some good options if you wanna endure the drive to save on airfare. | /r/askTRP | 25/02/19 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Morality aside, I want to break up with my ltr but don’t want to risk losing my job until I get an internship, need some adviceThis, try and maintain a (working) relationship with the father. But end the relationship with your GF if you’re not happy. The dad might still help you out, and if not oh well you’re only 20, plenty of opportunities lie ahead. You already have some legit working history for your resume because of him. | /r/askTRP | 24/02/19 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Logistics from a lounge to my apartmentWalk or Uber to venue. Walk, take her car, or Uber back. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/19 08:27 PM |
| 3 | I finally dropped a girl that I liked and it feels so fucking good.A natural once told me he had a “two-strike policy” on flaking. If they flake two times in a row, they’re done. I think it’s a good practice. I once informed a date of the policy when she tried to flake for the second time in a row, and she reversed course very quickly. | /r/askTRP | 21/02/19 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Need two separate book recommendations! One on the subconscious, and one on public speaking“The Power of Habit” is a good book that explains how our habits (cue, routine, reward) are driven by the subconscious. I can’t remember but “The Mind Illuminated” (a thorough how-to manual on meditation) might have some info as well. Basically you influence your subconscious through action and repetition. I haven’t read it yet, but “Thinking Fast and Slow” is on my list and I’m pretty sure it has a lot to do with the subconscious. | /r/askTRP | 21/02/19 06:36 PM |
| 4 | A coworker asked my boss to tell me to help her move a chair across floors, he did and I was forced to comply... what would you have done in my position?Man I would be super down to move a chair. Let me get the fuck up and move around for a bit. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/19 05:06 PM |
| 1 | How do you make women feel small if you’re not 6’5”+You could probably find something to complain about even if you were 6’5” with that attitude. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/19 07:41 PM |
| 1 | How do you heal the spirit?Read “Man’s Search For Meaning” by Victor Frankl. That, along with 12 Rules For Life by JBP and Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins have helped me a lot. But it seems like the main thing bothering you is existential angst, which is directly addressed in quite potent form by Frankl’s book. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/19 07:33 PM |
| 2 | So fucking tired of being afraidFirst of all, you’re killing it bro. Keep at it. The way psychotherapists have their clients work through anxiety is with “exposure therapy.” Look it up. They start with a tolerable but stimulating dose of whatever provokes the anxiety, and progressively overload it with time. Just like with PT/lifting. So you can start small, with a goal of asking a girl for the time/directions/etc. Repeat for reps. Over time, ramp up the intensity. Start flirting, ask for numbers. Etc. You’ll get the hang of i… | /r/askTRP | 14/02/19 07:31 PM |
| 2 | How did you get to lasting significantly longerYou don’t need to go longer than 20-30 min for a single round. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/19 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Would you lend money to your brother to get him out of trouble?Absolutely, but I would take the opportunity to ride his ass a little bit and push him to be better. As long as it doesn’t become a pattern. | /r/askTRP | 14/02/19 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Why is it such a common idea that "women mature psychologically faster"?You’re making an apples to oranges comparison, as far as whatever your definition of “maturity” in a person is. A fully matured woman is different from a fully matured man. Women reach their full maturity earlier than men reach theirs. | /r/askTRP | 13/02/19 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Working with coworker who has mental disabilitylmao, jumped into a river?? Holy shit. You’ve already tried to talk to the manager and boss, to no avail. Only sensible option would be to find a new job. | /r/askTRP | 13/02/19 02:37 AM |
| 3 | Why is it such a common idea that "women mature psychologically faster"?They are more socially attuned earlier and their SMV peaks (and drops) much earlier as well. Plus their biological clock for fertility drives them to have children and "settle down" earlier. | /r/askTRP | 12/02/19 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Best basic shirts that form fit to your body?Next Level shirts are dope. I like their tri-blend. Soft and stretchy, with a bit of an athletic cut, and they nicely drape over my physique, rather than being too tight. Flattering whether you’re lean or not. I order them on Amazon. | /r/askTRP | 10/02/19 03:20 AM |
| 2 | My (28/M) girlfriend (26/F) showed up 3 hours late to my house with her cousin, brother, and brothers girlfriendYeah, you know what, you’re absolutely right. Disregard my previous comment. I guess I was thinking more along the lines of a bigger party, not a small get together with her family. And not even being straight with you about how much they were lagging behind reflects pretty poorly on her as well. | /r/askTRP | 09/02/19 10:50 PM |
| 1 | My (28/M) girlfriend (26/F) showed up 3 hours late to my house with her cousin, brother, and brothers girlfriendIdk dude yeah she was a little rude and 3 hrs is a pretty long time... but I generally wouldn’t expect people to show up on the dot for a party, esp. with younger people. If you invited some others over you woulda had more people to hang with while the rest of the guests filtered in. | /r/askTRP | 09/02/19 05:57 PM |
| 2 | How to embrace the Italian Guido, swole look?lmao, I forgot that the line "not now chief, I'm in the fuckin zone" came from that vid. It's just been embedded in my mind ever since. | /r/askTRP | 09/02/19 05:58 AM |
| 2 | How to embrace the Italian Guido, swole look?Hahahaha, fuckin throwback! | /r/askTRP | 09/02/19 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Guilt with 2 oltrs and a plateWork with a physical therapist, it’s probably an easy fix, and they can teach you how to squat. | /r/askTRP | 09/02/19 12:11 AM |
| 3 | Where do you guys learn about clothing?Yeah I see a lot of wack shit on those subs. But sometimes there’s good advice. Try following some men’s fashion accounts with style you dig on IG. You could also get look books from different retailers for inspiration. Your post is a good question tho. Wish there was a masculine male fashion sub or something. | /r/askTRP | 08/02/19 11:49 PM |
| 11 | Tips on dirty talkOne thing I like to talk about that’s pretty easy and simple is what I’m doing or what I’m going to do to her. “You like that baby? You like when I grab ahold of your throat and take control of your body? You’re a dirty slut for me, aren’t you?” Another easy thing you can talk about is what’s turning you on about her. “I love grabbing you right there, you feel so fucking good. Your tits look so good while you bounce on my cock.” Don’t get too stressed out or hung up on it. Just relax, enjoy your… | /r/askTRP | 07/02/19 06:59 AM |
| 5 | The sudden "Why?" shittestHave you tried amused mastery + pressure flip? “that’s a weird question”, “why? Why you gotta be a weirdo, lmao” etc. Or just heavy, heavy dread when she starts with this shit. | /r/askTRP | 07/02/19 02:23 AM |
| 1 | My therapist is turning me blue pill?I could never imagine my therapist telling me that. He might ask many questions that dig into my feelings around both actions (going to gym vs being lazy and watching TV), but i don’t think he would make the value judgement himself as to which action I should choose. He would want me to conclude that for myself. I believe it’s in part II of Man’s Search For Meaning, the psychologist Viktor Frankl discusses the importance of abstaining from making value judgements for his clients, and to guide th… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Got an advice from a jacked gym broIt’s easy to let an LTR consume your life and to become comfortable and complacent. Especially when you’re young and you’re not yet fully aware of this fact. | /r/askTRP | 05/02/19 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Are you guys frequently sick?I used to get sick all the time from staying out late, drinking and drug use. Stopping all of those things (and supplementing vitamin D, I believe) have made a massive difference. | /r/askTRP | 05/02/19 12:17 AM |
| 3 | Ltr doesnt want to come for sex because she already masturbatedShe’s not attracted to you, the relationship is going off the rails. This is a massive red flag. She doesn’t even try to couch it in a better excuse like “I’m exhausted” or something. I mean holy shit. | /r/askTRP | 05/02/19 12:14 AM |
| 4 | Bad Neck Pain - Ruining my day and mood.I’ve been dealing with chronic neck issues for a while now. So you have my condolences, I know it’s really shitty. Your nervous system is freaking out, locking up your neck and sending pain signals to make sure you keep it safe. You need to give it some rest and let it calm down. Then reintroduce controlled movement as tolerated. You might be best taking off from work early and getting some rest. A hot shower, warm compress, and getting to bed early would do you well. Do whatever you like to win… | /r/askTRP | 05/02/19 12:10 AM |
| 3 | Are full body routines really enough?If you’re a beginner then full body routines are optimal for developing initial strength because you get higher frequency for each muscle group (each group is hit 3x a week vs 2x a week in a 2 or 3 day split). When you crunch the numbers, this results in a much larger volume of work for each muscle group over an entire year. Progressive overload is the most important variable for developing strength and size. For a natural lifter, frequency is perhaps the next most important variable. Eventually… | /r/askTRP | 02/02/19 06:35 AM |
| 4 | Do girls like obliques? Or is it all abs all day?Fuck getting hung up about what girls like better, transverse plane core work will make you a stronger and more well-rounded athlete. In any case, well developed obliques do a lot to create a shredded aesthetic IMO. | /r/askTRP | 31/01/19 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Workout routine; Would training one muscle group per day be beneficial?You should do the recommended routine from bodyweightfitness subreddit IMO. Check their sidebar. A pull up bar, parallel bars, and gymnastic rings will take you very far. Plus you can workout outside, which feels amazing. The dumbbells can be useful for some accessories. | /r/askTRP | 30/01/19 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Workout routine; Would training one muscle group per day be beneficial?Probably better off with an existing program written by someone more knowledgeable than you. I’m not a fan of 3 day split (like PPL) because you HAVE to be in the gym 6 days week. There isn’t any wiggle room to take a day off here or there, or progress will stall. Lots of people like it though. | /r/askTRP | 30/01/19 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Workout routine; Would training one muscle group per day be beneficial?You want to hit each group every 48-72 hrs for optimal growth. Full body, 2-day, and 3-day splits all work. Full body is optimal for beginners due to increased frequency for each muscle group, but can be harder to recover from as you advance. | /r/askTRP | 30/01/19 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Is there something like "lifting weights" for your soul?Haha. There’s plenty to criticize, but it works for some. | /r/askTRP | 30/01/19 10:44 PM |
| 3 | Is there something like "lifting weights" for your soul?This. Check out The Mind Illuminated for a detailed guide with progressions and goals that you can apply to your meditation practice. If you want to go really deep, try doing some neurofeedback therapy. It'll cost ya, but it will rapidly accelerate your progression in meditation. | /r/askTRP | 30/01/19 10:29 PM |
| 1 | What is the best way to still make maximum gains on low sleep?Poor sleep is really, really, really fucking bad for you. That said I would advise a very minimalist routine, either full body or a 2-day split (like upper/lower). Don’t workout till muscle failure. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/19 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Living with parents for the sake of saving money: good idea or bad idea?You can always move out at any time if you’re not happy living at home. It certainly is a lot of money to save. But I’ve also been out of my parents house and paying rent since I was 18 (29 now) and I’m happy with that, so I certainly understand wanting to be on your own. | /r/askTRP | 26/01/19 05:10 PM |
| 2 | What's a 5 day gym routine I can do?You could do a two-day split Mon/Tue and Thur/Fri with a sport, cardio, or mobility work on Weds. | /r/askTRP | 25/01/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Gaming for 7 hours a day now doing nothing for 7 hours a daySounds like you’re already on the right path. Just keep at it. Keep trying to challenge yourself. Things will slowly start to change. Just never give up. | /r/askTRP | 25/01/19 09:46 PM |
| 1 | should i start focusing more on aesthetics?You should just finish your workouts with some quick sets of arms. Should be pretty quick and you’ll get better results than 1x per week. Plus you don’t need to go to the gym just for a boring arm workout. | /r/askTRP | 25/01/19 09:29 PM |
| 1 | 0 likes on tinderDelete pic 1 Try and get a good pic that shows a built physique. If you don’t have that, work on it. | /r/askTRP | 24/01/19 11:12 PM |
| 3 | How to react when somebody elbows you on the street?You gotta make a friendly gesture like a head nod or say hello or something if you lock eyes with a dude like that. Otherwise it could be interpreted as aggression. | /r/askTRP | 24/01/19 11:00 PM |
| 6 | Social AnxietyIf you smoke weed, quit. This was a big factor for me (even when I wasn’t high). | /r/askTRP | 24/01/19 06:13 AM |
| 11 | Broke a hookah at a party. Should I pay it?If you’re really at fault, the proper thing to do would be to nut up and pay him. This affects your reputation. People aren’t gonna want to invite you around if you’re the dude who breaks shit and doesn’t pay or help fix it. | /r/askTRP | 20/01/19 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Dont ban me for being a highschool freshman,hear me out.Bro chill the fuck out it’s not the end of the world. Yes girls this age can be mean and fickle and shitty because they’re experimenting with and exercising their social prowess. Read about shit tests in the sidebar. The less you let this affect you, the more attractive you will be. You’re young and you have all the time in the world to make yourself into the man you want to be. I think you would enjoy and find some inspiration in David Goggins’ book. Watch his interviews on Joe Rogan for an int… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/19 07:11 AM |
| 2 | What does a top 20% lifestyle look like?lmao I drive a BRZ. It’s fun as fuck but it does not handle like an AWD or 4x4 at all. It’s easy to toss around and it feels pretty fucking squirrelly in the rain. But I won’t lie, the stability control in sport mode is pretty sweet. It’ll let you have a lot of fun but still save your ass. | /r/askTRP | 17/01/19 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Going for the kiss when watching a movieI prefer to pour some drinks and put on music. I have nice speakers and I like to show them what I’ve been listening to. I pretty much immediately start escalating, but slowly, starting with kino. I take it slow and build some tension. Chat a bit while doing so. Hand on her back, upper arm, thigh, lightly brushing the side or the back of her neck, etc. Come in close but don’t go for the kiss yet, to build tension. Lots of eye contact. Slowly build up so that eventually kissing is the obvious nex… | /r/askTRP | 15/01/19 05:16 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else get socially awkward or even “depressed” when they haven’t been to the gym in a while?You can progress to a harder variant of pushups: Diamond pushups Pseudo-planche pushups Archer pushups Tuck planche pushups Planche pushups There’s almost certainly a variant with a level of difficulty that would challenge you enough for 5-rep sets of strength training. | /r/askTRP | 12/01/19 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Lifting questionSee a physical therapist to rehab the knee before you start going in on squats and deadlifts. | /r/askTRP | 10/01/19 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Best chest workouts besides benching?Just work on rehabbing your shoulders | /r/askTRP | 08/01/19 12:22 AM |
| 2 | Stay away from the BPD - Even if she is your daughterWell no, it’s definitely not a “more extreme version” of bipolar. They’re pretty different. They just both have some confusing similarities. AFAIK a negative mood swing in bipolar tends to be a very deeply, inward-focused pit of despair. While a negative mood swing in BPD is a caustic, outwardly projected feeling. There’s a poor sense of self, so moods are derived from external input (other people). If that input is negative then they can fly off the fucking handle. Bipolar is also extremely tre… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/12/18 10:05 PM |
| 10 | Stay away from the BPD - Even if she is your daughterTo add to this, it’s in the grouping of Cluster B Personality disorders, along with Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Histrionic personality disorders. Oftentimes, those affected by these disorders don’t even have a desire for treatment, because they feel no need. Something is fundamentally wrong with their brain. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/12/18 08:51 PM |
| 3 | Stay away from the BPD - Even if she is your daughterNah bipolar and BPD are pretty different. Both are big red flags but BPDs can be more malovent. It’s more closely related to straight up psychopathy. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/12/18 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Stay away from the BPD - Even if she is your daughterNo. It's Borderline Personality Disorder. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/12/18 05:44 PM |
| 0 | Stay away from the BPD - Even if she is your daughterComplex Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) can present with similar symptoms but is definitely different from real BPD. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/12/18 05:41 PM |
| 15 | Stay away from the BPD - Even if she is your daughterI don't think it's possible to turn an actual BPD into a "sweet little muffin." | /r/TheRedPill | 14/12/18 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Reputation as "misogynistic" -> Learn from my mistake -> Heed Law 38I agree 100%. My interpretation of TRP is as a framework for attraction, with no moral judgement on what you do with that information. JBP touches on concepts within that framework for attraction, but also provides some moral judgement in suggesting that you might find life a little more meaningful and endurable for the long-term when you raise children. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/12/18 11:57 PM |
| 3 | Reputation as "misogynistic" -> Learn from my mistake -> Heed Law 38I don’t think so. JBP is pro-natalist, with a stated goal of promoting what’s best for raising children: a stable two-parent household. And his relationship with his him wife demonstrates his belief in what he teaches. So that opposes the “slay thots, never marry” philosophy that many hold on TRP. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/18 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Ohio Father teaches his daughter the law of karma for bullying. Gets trolled on social media. These are bad times for masculine love.Does the CO also get smoked when their recruits fuck up? | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/18 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Adult fan fiction followed by a serious question about uncomfortable sex actsOverpower her and pin her arms back or something. It stops whatever you didn’t like but the domination is still hot for them. I mostly just do this if they start clawing and scratching or biting me. I’m like bitch, just because it turns you on to get beat to shit when we fuck it doesn’t mean I want my back and lips torn to shreds. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/18 11:16 PM |
| 0 | Workout routine with dumbbells and resistance bandsCalisthenics will be more effective than dumbbells for your main compound strength training. You can use the dumbbells for accessories like curls and shoulder prehab. Check out bodyweightfitness subreddit. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/18 07:32 AM |
| 1 | I am going to be let go and replaced with an incompetent guy in two weeks. How honest should I be in the exit interview?I think you should be polite, positive, cheerful, and helpful. From what you said it sounds very possible that he will be a fuck up that they regret hiring, and they may approach you to come back. At which point you would have leverage to negotiate a higher rate. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/18 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Having trouble eating on adderall, any tips?Have a large breakfast before dosing, and a sizable dinner when it’s worn off. Take it earlier in the day, and do your best to maintain healthy sleepy habits. Don’t stay up late, you’ll wear yourself out. Try taking a smaller dose. Also, Vyvanse feels much smoother and more mellow for me. | /r/askTRP | 29/11/18 10:46 PM |
| 2 | What is the most ridiculous flake excuse a girl has used to cancel on your date?There wasn’t even any excuse. She confirmed that she was on her way 15 minutes beforehand, then never showed up and ghosted. | /r/askTRP | 26/11/18 08:12 AM |
| 2 | Do you handshake when introducing?Wtf is a dap | /r/askTRP | 24/11/18 08:24 PM |
| 1 | How to TheRedPill with your ADHDHmm, interesting. I did it with a technician in my psychiatrist's office. The visualization was this space craft that flew through a tunnel. The more focused and relaxed I became, the faster the space craft flew. Anyways. Hope things work out for you my man | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/18 10:40 PM |
| 2 | How to TheRedPill with your ADHDDamn, I’m sorry to hear that brother. Do you know what type of Neurofeedback they had you doing? What was the visualization they had on the screen? What type of entity was the provider? | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/18 06:51 PM |
| 4 | Is there any UK nightclub specific game tips?Instructions unclear, dick stuck in Ostrich | /r/askTRP | 20/11/18 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Fixing sleep cycle/bad sleep habits QUICK?Melatonin is very effective for shifting your sleep schedule to go to bed earlier. Paired with a couple Benadryl, it will reliably knock me out early. Just don’t take melatonin every day, it doesn’t work well for that. And don’t stay up a whole night just to go to bed early the next night. That’s fuckin retarded, and you’ll feel awful. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/18 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Using condoms and the sex is flat out bad any tips?I haven’t had issues with them ripping. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/18 05:17 PM |
| 11 | Using condoms and the sex is flat out bad any tips?Lifestyle skyn condoms are my favorite. And try the large ones, they might fit you better. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/18 06:43 AM |
| 1 | How to TheRedPill with your ADHDDamn, nothing at all? Did it enhance meditation any? | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/18 09:04 PM |
| 3 | I always stop lifting after a period of time, what the hell should I do??It’s more like you get 15% of gains in 4 months, and the remaining 85% takes years to achieve. | /r/askTRP | 09/11/18 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Photography cold approachKeep in mind there’s a big difference in a photographer cold approaching lots of people (some of whom may turn out to be girls), vs creepy dude with a camera trying to pick up chicks. | /r/askTRP | 08/11/18 06:37 AM |
| 2 | Trainer's routines or fitness sub guide?There can be legit reasons to abstain from jumping straight into compound barbell work. You might have a good trainer that knows what they’re doing or you might not. Tell him you want to do heavy compound barbell work like x program and ask what his game plan would be to get you there. | /r/askTRP | 07/11/18 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Nervous when talking to attractive women, what is the evolutionary reason for this?What’s that from? | /r/askTRP | 06/11/18 05:38 AM |
| 1 | What should I do with my "depressive" GF?Stay away from girls with mental issues. It’s all too easy to get dragged down with them into the abyss. | /r/askTRP | 02/11/18 10:54 PM |
| 1 | TBHs on Social MediaKids these days | /r/askTRP | 02/11/18 10:50 PM |
| 2 | What's the deal with Los Angeles women?What part of town do you live in? Whereabouts do you go out? | /r/askTRP | 02/11/18 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Is violence every okay other than if in self-defense?But seriously, this situation pretty much played out when I was 10 or so. This kid demanded that I give him my cookie. When I said no, he started mocking me, pointing and yelling. After this went on for a bit I stood up and cold cocked him in the jaw with righteous anger. I think I had a tendency to react this way because my father beat me for punishment. As an adult, I don’t think corporal punishment is acceptable at all. Take a young impressionable kid, and use physical force and violence to e… | /r/askTRP | 01/11/18 03:18 PM |
| 9 | Is violence every okay other than if in self-defense?Yup, take my banana and I’ll rip your fuckin face off. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/18 06:36 AM |
| 1 | PPL or high as fuk volume?You should be hitting each muscle group every 48-72 hours. Full body, 2-day and 3-day splits can all accommodate this. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/18 06:18 AM |
| 5 | Is violence every okay other than if in self-defense?Philosophically, I like this position. But man, when I think back to being a kid and someone trying to fuck with me...violence was an almost irresistible solution. I was not a bully but I sure as hell did not tolerate somebody trying to dick me over. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/18 06:16 AM |
| 2 | Ever tried therapy?Is Mate’s book prescriptive? Does it provide solutions? I’m reading his book about drug addiction, In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts. It’s pretty interesting but it’s pretty much just informational. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/18 03:46 AM |
| 3 | Ever tried therapy?Yeah one thing that was really helpful in therapy was practicing uncomfortable interactions, making eye contact, using assertive language, etc. Also if you smoke weed, stop. It can cause social anxiety, even when you’re not high. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/18 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Book or movie recommendationMan’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl | /r/askTRP | 31/10/18 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Some reading material on stoicism would be helpfulThe Obstacle is the Way has been one of my very favorite books. Especially because of how succinct it is. Very well-written. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/18 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on nootropics?I believe vitamin D has improved my immune system. I’ve stopped getting sick so much, although I believe sleep habits and not going out as much have played a huge role as well. Ashwagandah helped when I was feeling pretty burned out from stress. It helps mitigate negative side effects of adderall (amphetamines) as well. I don’t notice much if any effect from creatine or fish oil, but I take them anyways since they are well supported by evidence. I tried TruBrain and Alpha Brain without any appre… | /r/askTRP | 31/10/18 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on nootropics?I thought phenibut is a straight up drug, not a nootropic. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/18 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Been on TRP for a while, losing motivation and will for everythingTry reading Man’s Search For Meaning, by Viktor Frankl. The man survived Auschwitz. His wife, both parents, and best friend were all murdered. He barely made it out, clinging to life. But during and after his experience, he was able to persevere. The book helped me a lot when I was feeling pretty low. It might give you some perspective and inspiration. | /r/askTRP | 30/10/18 09:21 PM |
| 1 | How hard/easy is it to get a girl wetIs she smoking weed or doing other drugs? That can throw things off sometimes. | /r/askTRP | 30/10/18 06:06 AM |
| 2 | Where to start with meditationCame to suggest exactly this. Apps like headspace are really watered down in comparison. | /r/askTRP | 30/10/18 05:59 AM |
| 3 | Condom IssuePhew, OP had me sweating when he left that part out. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/18 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Photography issuesYup, I feel like there’s such a huge difference from what I see in photos vs the mirror it makes me question my sanity. Especially since my brother (who people have commented that we nearly look like twins) looks great either way. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/18 07:02 AM |
| 6 | Lifting weights vs Bodyweight training?Neither is better. Whether you can do a full planche or bench a fuckton of weight, you’re strong as fuck. Of course there are differences but it gets pretty nuanced. Do whatever you enjoy more, as long as there’s progressive overload you’re good. | /r/askTRP | 28/10/18 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Confused with my trip...Bro wtf, go and have a blast. I’ve heard staying at hostels is a good way to meet fellow travelers for fun times. | /r/askTRP | 27/10/18 09:49 PM |
| 2 | Saying positive things to other menIf it’s too gratuitous it can be off-putting (what does this guy want from me?), but if it’s well-done and authentic (and perhaps done with a dose of humor) it can be very endearing. | /r/askTRP | 26/10/18 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Doing group dance lessons with a girl, good or bad idea?Why not do something else with her and use dance class to meet other girls? | /r/askTRP | 25/10/18 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Do you think it’s pathetic to hire a personal trainer to help your with form and such?$500 a month for five 1hr sessions a week (say 20 sessions per month) is pretty suspect. That’s only $25 a session. A decent trainer would be much more expensive than that. $60-120 (and up) per 1 hr session. At least here in Southern California. IMO you may be better suited for a good physical therapist. They will be much better educated than a trainer and better equipped to fix any pain or movement dysfunction hindering your lifting. But to answer your question no, it’s not pathetic at all. The… | /r/askTRP | 24/10/18 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Looking for some tips on Nutrition+Fitness while traveling for work.I would get some gymnastic rings and do an upper/lower split based on bodyweight strength progressions. You can supplement with weights when available, but being prepared to work out with nothing but your rings will grant you the most flexibility. Your individual sessions will have to be quick but you can increase training frequency to account for that. | /r/askTRP | 24/10/18 04:13 PM |
| 14 | Chick Doesnt Want me hitting on her friendsHit on her friends, for science. | /r/askTRP | 24/10/18 04:05 PM |
| 7 | I beat a guy up, and it backfiredIf you were gonna go the violent route, you should have gone far enough that it was no laughing matter for him. But you really shouldn’t go the violent route. | /r/askTRP | 23/10/18 06:41 AM |
| 3 | Should I lift, start calisthenics, or box?Properly done, calisthenics is perfectly good for upper body strength/aesthetics. If you enjoy it more than lifting weights, have at it. Use weights for lower body for best results, though. | /r/askTRP | 22/10/18 04:00 PM |
| 3 | Is there ever any use in opening up to people?You should talk with a therapist about it. Or possibly a trusted bro. | /r/askTRP | 22/10/18 05:07 AM |
| 2 | Girls that do blow/linesI've partaken in and been around a lot of drug use (weed, cocaine, psychedelics, MDMA). It's a pretty massive red flag. Sure, I've seen some stable successful put-together people that use various drugs, but they're most definitely a small minority. There's even a large number of users who outwardly seem fairly solid. They're functional, have decent jobs, etc. But they're prone to short-term gratification and aren't "crushing life" like we aspire to here on TRP. | /r/askTRP | 21/10/18 07:55 PM |
| 5 | Weed and composureNailed it. My psychiatrist told me that chronic cannabis consumption can cause social anxiety, even when you’re not high. And it’s not like he’s an anti-weed zealot, we discussed the benefits of it as well. And he never demanded or strongly urged that I quit, just kinda laid out the facts and made the gentle suggestion. So after more than a decade of use I finally gave it up completely—and my social anxiety has vastly improved. There’s good evidence (by meta analysis) that it can cause dysfuncti… | /r/askTRP | 18/10/18 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Should I cut out running?Don’t cut out running, it’s good for you. Make sure you’re properly progressively overloading body weight exercises. Check out bodyweightfitness subreddit for info. | /r/askTRP | 18/10/18 05:46 AM |
| 2 | How can I be emotionally self reliant?Good therapy is about navigating and understanding your internal world. Your thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and experience. E.g. “what’s upsetting you? Why? How did that start?” Etc. I’ve done a lot of therapy with a psychiatrist and red pill or blue pill concepts have never been relevant. Closest thing was learning about stress mechanisms and their evolutionary basis. | /r/askTRP | 17/10/18 05:09 AM |
| 1 | How can I be emotionally self reliant?Check out the book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving and find yourself a good therapist that you trust and feel comfortable with. | /r/askTRP | 17/10/18 05:01 AM |
| 2 | What are some things that I can use money to buy that will help the most with building discipline and being productive?Neurofeedback therapy will make a huge impact. But a good course of it will be pretty costly ($2-3k or more). Still I definitely think it’s worth it, and you’ll start to see the benefits after just a few sessions. It’s like meditation on steroids. It’s one of the rawest forms of “self improvement” that you can invest in imo. | /r/askTRP | 16/10/18 03:26 AM |
| 12 | Am I coward or wise for not helping my friend getting jumped?Perfectly understandable with those two convictions. | /r/askTRP | 15/10/18 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Would you wear a jacket & tie to an IT job interview now in 2018?In California I’ve typically gone without jacket and tie. Just dress shirt, slacks, and nice shoes. East coast might be different. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/18 09:05 PM |
| 1 | What's a sport you can start at 14?Well fuck it bro, do both. Running and swimming are both great things to be skilled at. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/18 08:43 PM |
| 5 | Need some guidance, think I finally hit rock bottom.OP should take encouragement from our being humored here. He’s at such a good age to try and start making something of himself. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/18 04:31 PM |
| 1 | What's a sport you can start at 14?Whatever appeals to you the most. Swim & water polo would probably go together btw. And if you run track they’ll want you to do cross country. I don’t recall if swim & track share the same season. If they do you could try out for both and see which one vibes with you better. I personally enjoy both running and swimming so I would be hard pressed to choose as well. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/18 04:27 PM |
| 4 | Face cleaning routineNah that’s just his routine bro | /r/askTRP | 14/10/18 05:07 AM |
| 0 | What's a sport you can start at 14?Track, swim, water polo, or rowing could all be good options. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/18 04:59 AM |
| 2 | What's a sport you can start at 14?Wtf, where did you play volleyball? That’s one of the hardest sports for newcomers imo, out of everything else I played growing up (soccer, basketball, baseball). Unless you’re really athletically gifted with height, a big jump and good coordination to make you a strong hitter. Then you can be subbed out for defense. Setting and passing really well is hard af. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/18 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Can’t get a boner with her to save my life. Need helpwut | /r/askTRP | 10/10/18 03:39 AM |
| 1 | TRP was my first exposure to BPD . I think my LTR has it.First of all, I’m not a doctor. But I believe CPTSD (which does fall in line with her explanation) can sometimes bear some resemblance to BPD, but with a lot less wrath, fury, and destruction. Still a red flag, but there could be some distinction here that you can look into if you want. | /r/askTRP | 09/10/18 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Can’t get a boner with her to save my life. Need helpIt’s nerves bro. Just try and relax. Slow down and enjoy yourself. I don’t recommend smoking too much weed but if it’s something you already partake in, then it might help. It always used to help me big time. Just don’t do it too often. | /r/askTRP | 09/10/18 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Did i make a mistake disclosing to my friend i havent gotten laid at all while in college?OP is a porn attic | /r/askTRP | 07/10/18 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Stretching routine for lifting, where to find one?Functional Range Conditioning (FRC) is the red pill of mobility and training for joint function/health. What “stretching” is supposed to address. Embraced by Westside Barbell and numerous professional sports teams. You have to assess what you specifically need to address. Your mobility routine will be highly individual. But if you do some research on FRC you can start learning. I think Onnit has some decent collaboration videos. | /r/askTRP | 05/10/18 08:58 PM |
| 2 | I'm completely out of the loop with the Jordan Peterson stuff. What are some things he says which we haven't learned from TRP before and what things does he say in contradiction to our philosophies?I don’t think he contradicts TRP at all. He’s just pro-natalist, meaning that he advocates for what is best for raising healthy well-adjusted children. And that means a stable 2-parent home. And he cautions that promiscuity can threaten the stability of future pair bonding. So that’s where some TRPers take issue with him, because their attitude is to “enjoy the decline.” But TRP is amoral, it does not make a value judgement for or against pro-natalism or enjoying the decline. It’s just a framewo… | /r/askTRP | 04/10/18 08:45 AM |
| 5 | Different condom typesLifestyle skyn non-latex are my favorite. Big difference over latex condoms. | /r/askTRP | 02/10/18 05:55 AM |
| 3 | How to find a red pilled shrink?In my experience with therapy, RP is pretty much irrelevant. A therapist is supposed to conceal any bias they may have. There generally isn’t any advice given. Rather, they’re supposed to help guide you through careful self-analysis of your own internal experience, both conscious and subconscious, so that you have a better understanding of what’s going on and are better equipped to solve your issues. But anyways, I looked for an older male psychologist and that worked well for me. | /r/askTRP | 01/10/18 10:55 PM |
| 1 | how to find therapy as a manYou could try requesting a male therapist through your school. Hopefully having a preference for your doctor’s gender isn’t an offense yet, lol. It should be a normal request but who knows with this climate. | /r/askTRP | 01/10/18 10:51 PM |
| 10 | How does a strong ass feelAsk a swole gym bro if you could feel his ass to find out. Don't forget to say no homo. | /r/askTRP | 30/09/18 09:53 PM |
| 8 | [16M] Smoking in social eventsJust hold frame and decline the offer. It’s not that big a deal. | /r/askTRP | 30/09/18 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone seen this Bonobos clothing anti-traditional Masculine commercial?Holy fuck | /r/askTRP | 29/09/18 08:57 PM |
| 4 | A guy said we should hang out but didn't say when. Was he just being polite?lmao you don’t gotta game bros like this. He said he would be down to rock climb with you, so invite him next time you’re going. It’s pretty fuckin simple. | /r/askTRP | 23/09/18 12:49 AM |
| 16 | My wingman buddy is much more attractive than me.Use the MAC system. Move in After Completion | /r/askTRP | 22/09/18 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Is getting called 'buddy' insulting?Now listen here, buddy. It’s all in the context and tone. | /r/askTRP | 22/09/18 08:38 AM |
| 2 | Uncharted territory in my gameAfter she pulled away but still had her hands around you and was looking at you you probably could have resumed kissing her. She seems down to me from what you’ve said. | /r/askTRP | 21/09/18 04:50 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop self-loathing/hatred?Just keep on trying different things. Don’t give up. Neurofeedback therapy, talk therapy, meditation, volunteering to walk dogs at an animal shelter, getting sober, quitting video games, and lifting have all helped me. | /r/askTRP | 21/09/18 04:42 AM |
| 4 | Ignoring shit tests: Can this be seen as not standing up for yourself and being a doormat?lmao. Reminds me of my ex, brother. | /r/askTRP | 20/09/18 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Weight lossI mean that's totally dependent on other factors. If he's been eating around 1800 calories and continuing to lose weight at an acceptable rate then I would just stick with that. | /r/askTRP | 20/09/18 05:13 AM |
| 5 | Weight lossYour caloric requirements decrease as you lose weight. | /r/askTRP | 19/09/18 11:18 PM |
| 4 | Getting fit while avoiding bro-scienceThe bodyweightfitness subreddit’s routine is solid. Perfectly good for upper body. And work on getting access to weights for squats/deadlifts. | /r/askTRP | 19/09/18 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Dr. Jordan Peterson's detailed response to the question "What is it precisely that makes men desirable to women?"I agree. I think he's speaking at such a level of abstraction that it's making people miss the forest for the trees. So much of what is taught by TRP has to do with moving up in the hierarchy of men. Lifting (physical presence and ability -> the threat of violence that underscores all interactions between men), building wealth to enable you to live life on your terms, developing social status and an interesting life. What makes one a part of the 20% is how they compare to other men. And there ar… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/18 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Dr. Jordan Peterson's detailed response to the question "What is it precisely that makes men desirable to women?"Any links to said interviews? | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/18 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Abusive MotherJust do what you can to move out and remove yourself from that situation. Then seek therapy. Mommy issues can be tough to deal with. Best of luck bro | /r/askTRP | 17/09/18 02:43 AM |
| 6 | Girlfriend wants degrading sex...My ex wanted me to “rape” her. Full on try to fight me off and have me overpower her. Fastest nut of my life, lmao. I never even thought I would be into that at all. It was fuckin animalistic. Ask your GF if the thought of that turns her on, she sounds wild. Lmao | /r/askTRP | 17/09/18 02:40 AM |
| 13 | Meeting with girl who friendzoned me in high schoolYou don’t tell her. You slowly escalate physically and try to fuck her. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/18 05:12 AM |
| 1 | LTR is very good at volleyballVolleyball is pretty tough, there’s a steep learning curve from beginner to intermediate. And if a group of people are playing at a decent level, having to include someone who’s trash can be a total vibe kill. You could get AMOG’d pretty hard. But avoiding it is not an option. That would make you look weak. It’s a part of her life, so it comes with the girl. You just gotta learn what you can, have unshakeable frame, and be fun. A base level of athleticism helps a ton. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/18 05:05 AM |
| 14 | Is it a bad idea to try to escalate on your therapist?lmao that’s a massive violation of professional standards. Any psychologist who cares the least bit for their career isn’t going to fuck a patient. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/18 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Lifting injuriesI've been dealing with a lot of bullshit with my body. No acute injuries, but chronic postural problems and imbalances. The best thing you can do is find qualified experts to help you navigate this. I would say that the Functional Range Seminars methodologies (FRC, etc.) are some of the best for restoring, improving, and preserving optimal joint function. They work with a lot of baseball teams, as well as with Westside Barbell. A good physical therapist well-versed in FR would be your best bet. … | /r/askTRP | 15/09/18 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Couldn't get it up Part Two (solution seems to be found)Yup, that’s one big reason why I don’t want to take antidepressants. It’s also possible that you don’t really like blow jobs. I don’t. I realized this one time when this girl tried to “take control” a bit, unbutton and remove my pants and just have me sit there while she tried to please me. It completely killed it for me. I realized that I have to be the one performing actions or I’m not interested. It could be a possibility for you, idk. I don’t think it’s a good thing to smoke weed too often, … | /r/askTRP | 13/09/18 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Introduction to EmotionsTherapy can be helpful for this. You and a therapist can work together as a team to trigger this type of emotional reaction, and carefully inspect everything you can about it. E.g. early physical warning signs of a shift in sympathetic/parasympathetic state (fight or flight), or careful inspection of the thought processes (potentially unconscious) that drive this reaction. The more you come to understand it, and the more practice you put in controlling it in the safe controlled venue of a therap… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/09/18 05:59 AM |
| 1 | What do you guys think of gymnastic rings.Superior for what? It completely depends on your objective. | /r/askTRP | 10/09/18 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Cracking under pressure..........Volunteer to walk dogs at an animal shelter bro | /r/askTRP | 07/09/18 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Resources on meditation?Check out the book, The Mind Illuminated | /r/askTRP | 06/09/18 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Got stood up last nightThis has happened to me before as well. Confirmed minutes beforehand, only for her not to show. They’re just shitty people. | /r/askTRP | 06/09/18 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Day 4 of Monk mode: Experiencing racing thoughts, trouble sleeping amongst other thingsYou’re experiencing this and all you gave up was reddit and YouTube? | /r/askTRP | 06/09/18 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Looking for some fresh & new sex techniquesMore deadlifts, squats, and weighted carries for you! Especially the carries. | /r/askTRP | 06/09/18 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Chubby/borderline Fat chicks.Well, do they make your dick jump? | /r/askTRP | 05/09/18 01:19 AM |
| 4 | Would you fuck a girl who told you she had herpes?Yeah that’s gonna be a no for me dawg | /r/askTRP | 02/09/18 09:49 AM |
| 1 | How to manage plates as a wealthy guy?lol I have that outsourced and I probably make 1/10th of what you make. $140 a week for 10 high quality meals (about 50g protein and 400-500 calories per meal.) Delivered daily Mon-Fri. | /r/askTRP | 02/09/18 09:45 AM |
| 1 | How do I know a gym is good or not?I care about proximity to home or work, does it have the equipment I want to use, and is that equipment readily available when I want to use it (or is the gym a crowded shitshow). I would tend to prefer smaller local gyms, as they have less shitshow factor compared to big box globo gyms. | /r/askTRP | 31/08/18 08:26 PM |
| 4 | How to jump over the language barrierDude, language barriers are the best. It puts more emphasis on different ways to communicate, like body language. Try learning a little bit of Spanish and have fun with it. | /r/askTRP | 31/08/18 06:25 PM |
| 3 | How do you meditate?Check out The Mind Illuminated, it’s a very thorough how-to manual on meditation. You want to practice focused meditation because this is what actually exercises your prefrontal cortex, which is used for inhibiting other parts of your brain for executive planning of long-term reward (e.g. inhibiting your compulsion to have a burger and fries and instead adhere to your diet so that you will lose weight). | /r/askTRP | 29/08/18 07:01 AM |
| 4 | My bro just told me he has anxiety and that that is why he doesn’t read my text messages for very long periods of time. I’m an understanding person, so I don’t think of him any less. But it got me thinking about whether that’s safe info to share with other men/bros. Do you think it is a good idea?I’m guilty of this. I’m a recovering addict and go through depressive bouts of isolating myself, ignoring texts etc. Are you asking a theoretical question, or for advice in helping him? If it’s for advice on him, I don’t think you should specifically share what he’s told you in confidence—but you could definitely tell another friend “hey, I don’t think Jim’s doing so well, we should pay him a visit.” Believe me, it would be much appreciated. If you’re asking a theoretical question about whether … | /r/askTRP | 28/08/18 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Diaphragm breathingYou shouldn’t just breathe into your belly but in a 360 degree fashion into your sides, lower back, and belly. Breathe in through your nose. Fill the bottom of your lungs first, then let your rib cage and chest expand for the very end of the breath. Don’t let your shoulders rise. You want to create a cylinder of air pressure throughout your whole torso. Pelvic position is important. If you have APT then there won’t be a good flat surface for your lungs to expand against to create intra abdominal… | /r/askTRP | 28/08/18 05:45 PM |
| 4 | Diaphragm breathingThe two are inextricably intertwined. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/18 05:36 PM |
| 7 | My gf exhibits inappropriate behavior around homosexual men"Haha I'm gay it's just a prank bro" <proceeds to pound out other dude's gf> | /r/askTRP | 28/08/18 05:31 AM |
| 4 | A womans view about men getting laid“It’s easy for a man I’m attracted to who does all the right things” Translated the womanese for you | /r/askTRP | 26/08/18 09:10 PM |
| 2 | What to do post-fight with LTR?Dick her down | /r/askTRP | 26/08/18 08:34 PM |
| 2 | I need some advice on how to deal with my parents.I would exercise extreme discretion in matters of criminal allegations (sister says he raped her). AFAIK your own doctor(s) and lawyer are safe to talk to, but idk about somebody else’s doctor. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/18 09:06 AM |
| 1 | I need some advice on how to deal with my parents.Living with your grandparents sounds like a super easy answer to this clusterfuck. Hold steady bro, you can make it out. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/18 09:03 AM |
| 4 | Girl declines oralFunny, I don’t like blow jobs because they feel like the submissive act to me—laying back and having her take action/control. On the other hand I love eating pussy, and it doesn’t feel submissive at all to me. I am the one in control, leading the interaction, and doing what I please with her for my enjoyment. What’s most enjoyable is getting a reaction out of her. Playing that pussy like a fiddle. I suppose I kinda get what you’re saying, but I don’t experience it that way at all. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/18 03:59 AM |
| 3 | Now that I've changed I feel like I don't fit in with society... what happens now?I’ve been a part of these types of environments and while there’s a lot of bonding over drugs, I don’t think anybody cares if you don’t indulge. I got sober and nobody ever made a big deal when I started passing on offered drugs. Having done the drugs, I strongly agree with your conviction not to. They’re a slippery slope. If they have ambitions and other things going for them then I say try to maintain those friendships. I don’t really care for alcohol but if you can learn to nurse a couple dri… | /r/askTRP | 26/08/18 03:46 AM |
| 5 | Would you prefer being big at higher bodyfat percentage or being ripped and leaner but much smaller?25% BF is pretty fuckin fat | /r/askTRP | 23/08/18 09:39 AM |
| 3 | Plastic surgery worth it in my case?Breathing patterns are really important, you want to be able to breathe through your nose. Mouth breathing promotes parasympathetic signaling (fight or flight, physiological stress/anxiety). You should get it fixed. | /r/askTRP | 22/08/18 06:28 PM |
| 5 | How to get over my horrible self image?See a therapist bro, this is CPTSD. | /r/askTRP | 19/08/18 05:48 AM |
| 4 | Friend's girlfriend constantly tries to offend meMirin that full planche bro. That’s fuckin beast. | /r/askTRP | 19/08/18 05:39 AM |
| 4 | How to TheRedPill with your ADHDHoly shit, I feel personally called out | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/18 09:12 PM |
| 2 | How to TheRedPill with your ADHDI did a course of neurofeedback for 3-4 months or so. It is exceptionally effective. Keep up a daily meditative practice to retain the benefits. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/18 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Girlfriend very ill in hospital - how to be a good partner and help her out?Pretty much this, and bringing food is much appreciated (if she has an appetite). Hospital food can suck. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/18 07:51 PM |
| 4 | How do you greet women?AY | /r/askTRP | 15/08/18 07:55 AM |
| 2 | Just lift... (Venting)Are you third-world poor or something? Calories can be abundantly cheap if you live in most places. According to this answer on quora you can get 3000 calories per $1 with rice bought in bulk. | /r/askTRP | 13/08/18 09:16 PM |
| 33 | Broke down for the second day in a row.“Only great pain is the ultimate liberator of the spirit….I doubt that such pain makes us ‘better’; but I know that it makes us more profound.” — Nietzsche | /r/askTRP | 13/08/18 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Is this girl fucking her dogs?On the internet, nobody knows | /r/askTRP | 12/08/18 09:40 PM |
| 7 | Mixing Lifting, Running and Ashtanga YogaThe good thing is you have a pretty solid base level of work capacity. But you’ll need to scale back the yoga and running a little bit to accommodate the strength training. I would suggest a full body routine, 3x a week. You might enjoy bodyweight training, given your yoga practice. You can check out the bodyweightfitness subreddit and their recommended routine. Or look up Gymnastic Bodies and their Foundations routine. I still recommend barbell training for the lower body. But if you just want … | /r/askTRP | 12/08/18 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Defeating AnxietyChronic cannabis usage combined with isolation definitely ramped up into some really bad social anxiety for me. I saw a therapist and quit pot for 9 months and I was feeling a world of a difference. I relapsed a bit the past week because I’ve been feeling pretty depressed, and I definitively noticed the anxiety returned when I went out to grab some food yesterday. That’s enough evidence for me to quit the pot again. Depression is pretty fuckin shitty but anxiety is hell. I can strongly recommend… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/18 05:08 PM |
| 1 | My twin brothers a cockbloxkWtf, he’s your twin bro, just level with him straight and tell him you’re trying to smash. Your relationship with him will benefit from being open and honest. Your brother has the potential to understand you and have your back more than anybody else. Just talk to him. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/18 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Any of you guys take shrooms or psychedelics?Way too often, you’re on a slippery slope. How I know? I’ve been there. Shit burns you out hardcore. All the oldhead ravers end up switching to ketamine because of it. Ask them about it. Shit’s bad for you. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/18 08:27 PM |
| 12 | What would you tell your 17 year old self?Don’t do drugs | /r/askTRP | 08/08/18 10:40 PM |
| 1 | What are the best Nietzsche books, or order in which to read him?I did some research on this and found so many different answers that it was difficult to make much sense of it. I decided to start with The Gay Science and I’ve enjoyed it. Much of it is so esoteric that it feels like you need to be in a philosophy class to fully comprehend it, but I enjoy coming across the occasional beautifully poetic aphorism. Reading him to me is like panning for gold. Like this line from Ecce Homo, My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothi… | /r/askTRP | 08/08/18 07:34 PM |
| 1 | How can I lower my Agreeableness trait?A therapist can help you practice. It’s like having a training partner to drill with. They call it “assertiveness training.” | /r/askTRP | 08/08/18 07:20 PM |
| 0 | non masculine hobbiesHave you tried gymnastic strength training/calisthenics? | /r/askTRP | 08/08/18 07:46 AM |
| 2 | Being not socially skilled, unattractive, bad with girls, and overall beta, how do I deal with family members who are the complete opposite?God i wish i had a sociable father like that. Mine is just bitter, cold, and angry. You should count yourself lucky. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/18 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Any meal time videos suggestion?I liked It’s Always Sunny in Philly and Bob’s Burgers for something quick and funny that I didn’t care to binge. Stuff that doesn’t really have a strong storyline from episode to episode. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/18 05:58 AM |
| 1 | How do I recover from being burnt out?I’ve been suffering from recurring burnouts for a while now. Just this past week I am starting to take multiple months off from work to address my mental and physical health. Time spent wallowing in a depressive haze of avoidant coping mechanisms like drugs, alcohol, binge eating, video games, masturbation, etc. doesn’t really seem to help any longer than the immediate moment. It might even prolong or make the burnout worse. Unfortunately the best thing for burnout is time away from the stressor… | /r/askTRP | 06/08/18 05:48 AM |
| 1 | Been going on dates recently as I’m ready for a LTR. Met a girl I like but found out she makes $500,000/yr. More than triple what I make. How do I handle this?Marry her | /r/askTRP | 06/08/18 03:24 AM |
| 8 | Lifting vs Bodyweight traininglmao. The level of ignorance about bodyweight training on this sub is astounding. BW training is a fine method for strengthening and developing your upper body. Some caveats: Barbell squats and deadlifts blow bodyweight training out of the water for lower body strength & hypertrophy Weightlifting will be more expedient for pure upper body hypertrophy That said, bodyweight training is still extremely capable of building mass, especially if you focus on hypertrophy-style programming and progressin… | /r/askTRP | 29/07/18 09:21 PM |
| 2 | At what age can a child begin bodybuilding (weightlifting)I wish I did gymnastics as a kid. They start young and they get strong and mobile as fuck. It creates an exceptional base of strength and body awareness that can transfer to any athletic endeavor as they get older. | /r/askTRP | 29/07/18 08:24 AM |
| 4 | Exercise for sexAll in one giant circuit | /r/askTRP | 22/07/18 06:50 AM |
| 3 | What is up with girls looking at guys out of the corner of their eye?I’ve actually read that women have better peripheral vision than men, while men have better “tunnel vision.” | /r/askTRP | 19/07/18 07:08 AM |
| 2 | Sports to get biglol, you’re willfully ignorant if you claim gymnasts aren’t fuckin jacked. | /r/askTRP | 15/07/18 06:10 PM |
| 10 | Sports to get bigNot really. Unless the sport is power lifting, bodybuilding, calisthenics, or gymnastics. | /r/askTRP | 15/07/18 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Went to do some pull-ups and stuff did this outside in the nature.Do an upper/lower split. Upper body days out in the sun doing calisthenics, lower body days in the gym with weights. That’s what I like to do. | /r/askTRP | 13/07/18 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Pick up in gymlmao. I saw that exact Asian couple recently | /r/askTRP | 13/07/18 08:20 PM |
| 11 | Where do y’all meet girls?I was working for 50-60k about 10 years ago (dear lord) when I was 18/19. Web developer. | /r/askTRP | 12/07/18 07:42 AM |
| 0 | I had sex with one of my ex g/f's best friends on Saturday night... How to handle the backlash ?Just send her this. | /r/askTRP | 03/07/18 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Working Out While TravelingCheck out the bodyweightfitness subreddit's recommended routine. Get some gymnastic rings and you will likely have no problem achieving some high-intensity upper body strength training. Don't just do high reps, you can progress bodyweight exercises to a low-rep strength training range if that's what you want to do. Heavy squats and deadlifts are the only things you would be really missed. Just get them in when you can and figure out some sort of alternative when you can't. Unilateral exercises, … | /r/askTRP | 30/06/18 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Decisions to Change My Life.Personally, I would not do 10 or 12 days on, 1 day off of 12 hour shifts for $65k a year. Fuck that | /r/askTRP | 22/06/18 08:07 PM |
| 1 | How do I quit video games?In the addiction recovery community, it is advised to quit completely and make a huge change in daily routine. E.g. 60 days of rehab, or NA/AA’s “90 meetings in 90 days.” I myself did something like 3 months of intensive outpatient rehab, 3 hours a day for 6 days a week, when I quit heroin. The social component of meetings or rehab is pretty critical. I’ll bet you can find some groups if you’re near any major city. Online support should be a last resort, but could work in a crux. Ideally I would… | /r/askTRP | 21/06/18 07:13 PM |
| 6 | How do you make a girl addicted to you?Lay the pipe right and tell her no on occasion | /r/askTRP | 20/06/18 09:54 PM |
| 1 | How do I choose a lifting program? Which are best?I like calisthenics and the bodyweightfitness subreddit’s routine is pretty solid. I enjoy working outdoors with just my body, a pull-up bar, and some rings. It’s effective at building muscle, just slightly less expedient compared to weights. Bodyweight for upper body and weights for lower body will build a solid all around level of fitness. | /r/askTRP | 20/06/18 07:24 AM |
| 1 | Would you join in on an orgy if your buddy and his GF invited you?Follow the boner | /r/askTRP | 20/06/18 07:14 AM |
| 1 | Swimming instead of lifting?Do calisthenics outside for upper body sessions if you wanna catch some sun. | /r/askTRP | 18/06/18 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Getting GF in gym - programmingCheck out Strong Curves by Bret Contreras. That dude’s life’s work is in building glutes. He’s found that a variety of stimuli works best. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/18 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Would You Go Raw With A Plate Who's Going To Be On Birth Control?Dude just try large condoms. I didn’t try them for the longest time because I didn’t think my dick was huge or anything, but it turns out they fit a million times better for me. Magnums are an improvement but my favorites are the Lifestyle Skyn large. | /r/askTRP | 12/06/18 06:24 PM |
| 7 | 25 years old about to deployIf you invest $200,000 with an 8% return that would turn into a million dollars in just over two decades. | /r/askTRP | 10/06/18 06:48 PM |
| 2 | The subconscious results of lifting. (For beginners)Maybe you would enjoy calisthenics more. I think it’s more interesting, and I enjoy being able to workout outside. It’s perfectly sufficient for building your upper body, but adding weights for the lower body is well-advised. Check out the bodyweightfitness subreddit’s wiki for more info. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/06/18 05:57 AM |
| 1 | should i take creatineI don't really notice much visual or performance difference with creatine but it has very well-supported evidence for improving performance so I take it. | /r/askTRP | 09/06/18 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Help finding a therapistI didn’t find a therapist that worked well for me until I forked over the money for a psychiatrist who’s preferred modality is talk therapy. | /r/askTRP | 07/06/18 07:12 AM |
| 6 | IncelsIt's Marriage 1.0, the concept has been described often on TRP. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/18 04:15 PM |
| 2 | My formal date cancelled on me?Lmfao. Good work | /r/askTRP | 06/06/18 06:28 AM |
| 2 | How often or intensely do y'all annotate while reading?I have sticky note page markers that I like to mark certain passages with. They help big time when I want to go back and refer to something. This is something that ebooks would be better for but I really like physical books. | /r/askTRP | 06/06/18 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Garment care and you. Why it matters and how to do it.I buy short (nearly no-show) lightweight wool socks from REI. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 06:26 AM |
| 2 | Weed opens up my social life, but provides little to no other benefits. Should I quit or change my smoking habits?I blazed consistently for over a decade. You should quit, it’s not good for you in the long run. And you don’t want to build your social life around weed and other drugs, because a lot of the people you surround yourself with will just turn into burnouts. If you could keep it to a rare occasion, that’s one thing. But any regular usage is I’ll-advised IMO. | /r/askTRP | 31/05/18 09:46 PM |
| 1 | How do I start lifting?I’m of the opinion that the bodyweightfitness subreddit’s recommended routine is the best program for true beginners, because it has some mobility work/warmup and core work (body line drills) specified in the routine that would be very beneficial for a sedentary person wanting to start exercising. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/18 07:36 PM |
| 5 | How to train your brain to turn off anxiety while on conflict?Meditation will help you develop the ability to regulate your sympathetic response. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/18 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Do calisthenics count as lifting?Hell yeah brother. Check out YouTube channel FitnessFAQs if you want to see what calisthenics is capable of building. All else equal, weights will be more expedient for bodybuilding. But calisthenics is way more fun and interesting imo. Combine with barbell squats and deadlifts for best results. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/18 06:26 PM |
| 1 | I just snapped. Not sure if I handled it maturely or not. Usually reserved but I definitely scared myself. You guys seem fairly strong here could I please have some advice. (long but pls read!)This is good advice, OP could check out NarAnon (it’s like AA/NA for family members of addicts). | /r/askTRP | 26/05/18 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Did any of you see counselor or take meds AFTER discovering TRP to further help yourselves?Do you have any clue how hard it is for most people to arrive at that conclusion? I don't say this often, but you have my absolute respect. Yeah man, it took a lot of digging with the therapist, along with reading and introspection. Out of curiosity, male or female? I almost never recommend a female therapist. It was a male therapist, and that was a parameter that I searched for one by. I guess if someone has mommy issues they might be well served by a female therapist. I have had a great relati… | /r/askTRP | 24/05/18 05:33 AM |
| 2 | Did any of you see counselor or take meds AFTER discovering TRP to further help yourselves?I also used cannabis daily and MDMA and LSD plenty, and struggled to get sober and deal with depression and anxiety. I don’t think the drugs caused the issues, they just allowed me to suppress and ignore them, exacerbating them in the process. I didn’t learn the tools to healthfully cope, and so when I tried to get sober they came to full bear. Seeing a good therapist has been very helpful, but it took a few tries to find the right one. Personally I don’t want to take antidepressants, but some p… | /r/askTRP | 23/05/18 10:34 PM |
| 1 | How crucial is social proof, big circle of friends etc?Off topic, but how did you find the men’s support group? That’s something I’m interested in checking out. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/18 10:34 PM |
| 10 | Are relationships with an outgoing extroverted girl and a quiet introverted guy nearly impossible?Nah, I actually think it's kind of a complementary dynamic. As long as you're attractive. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/18 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Finding your inner child.This is a big precept in psychotherapy. Finding a good therapist to help you untangle your issues (which typically originate from some point in childhood) can be very helpful. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/18 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Crying when watching a sad movie with the gfWhat movie was it? | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Does weed withdrawal create anxiety?Yeah, if you use weed to alleviate some anxiety/depression/etc then in the short term you might feel worse when you remove that crutch. In the long term you will be better off, though. This was my personal experience after 10 years of pretty consistent use. I’m much better off without it now. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 05:19 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone ever dealt with a racial identity crisis before?Mixed race makes for some of the most attractive people. Stop tripping. Get a DNA test if you’re curious about it but it shouldn’t be anything to feel bad about. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/18 05:12 AM |
| 49 | [Heavy rant] How the fuck do you lift without getting fucked by a personal trainer?Stop maintaining eye contact while doing hip thrusts, it sends the wrong message. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/18 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Only child of single mom at rock bottom desperately looking for helpImprovement isn’t going to be perfectly linear. You might make some changes, improve, build some momentum, and then you fall down. The key is to get back up. I recommend reading “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving,” consuming everything you can find from Jordan Peterson, and getting back up. | /r/askTRP | 16/05/18 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Life has taken a deep turn... How should I move forward?Man, I know this feels like a pretty low point, but it honestly isn’t too bad. Material things are easily replaced, you’re just temporarily inconvenienced. Your GF left and that’s shitty, but now you have an opportunity to develop your abilities to get even better girls. I think school is the most important problem here. Just break it up into the smallest pieces possible (e.g. study for 2 hours today), let yourself feel good about achieving that small goal, and start building momentum. Oh, and h… | /r/askTRP | 12/05/18 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Emotinal disorders advice.Yeah based on your symptoms I could tell you had a neglectful mother. The book I mentioned describes all the different subtypes of CPTSD, and their different styles of coping/behaviors. It categorizes them into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn (fawn being where you try to supplicate to make others happy, or express neediness). I’m sort of a freeze-flight (with some fight that got suppressed with all the drugs), while it sounds like you’re freeze-fawn. Understanding all the mechanisms at play in yo… | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Improving sex thrustWhat you really want is power / explosiveness, not pure strength. Hip thrusts are an awesome movement but if you wanna be a jackhammer in bed then my money is on rowing machine HIIT. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Emotinal disorders advice.Oh, I thought you were a veteran since you mentioned veterans in another comment. You seem to be talking about shit from childhood, more along the lines of CPTSD. If that’s the case then I can highly recommend the book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. I have a lot of approach anxiety, I’m not a natural at all in that regard. That turned into some pretty bad full blown social anxiety so I shelved my dating life for quite some time. But I’m a lot better now so I’m starting to feel ready t… | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Emotinal disorders advice.I have a mild case of childhood CPTSD, which could be pretty different but definitely has similarities, emotional dysregulation being one of them. I found neurofeedback therapy, a dedicated meditation practice, and psychotherapy to all be really helpful. You gotta learn to manage your stress, and learn how to identify changes in sympathetic/parasympathetic state. At the beginning, my therapist was very focused on my body language, and would have me describe physical sensations quite a bit. This … | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 05:43 AM |
| 0 | Improving sex thrustHIIT on the rowing machine | /r/askTRP | 09/05/18 05:30 AM |
| 3 | 17 and my life has taken a turn for the worstWhat are the answers to avoid getting bashed? | /r/askTRP | 05/05/18 08:39 AM |
| 1 | I think I need a break from women and redpill or any type of of thing that deals with women :(Try different therapists. It took me several before I found one that made it through to me. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/18 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Any advice for quitting pot?I used to have a dog with my ex gf, we broke up maybe 5 years ago. Last year I was sorta struggling with quitting weed, after a decade+ of consistent use. What made things click for me was getting to have my dog for a 3 day weekend, after not seeing him for years. I stayed sober when I had him and it was effortless. My anxiety was a thousand times improved. Spending time with him and getting outside was better than getting high. When you have the right motivations and you’re able to piece togeth… | /r/askTRP | 24/04/18 07:50 AM |
| 1 | How to gain back my former state of self-confidence?You want another placebo? You’ve already shown that you have what you seek. You just need to relax, accept the present moment, and let it come to fruition by staying the course. | /r/askTRP | 18/04/18 02:23 AM |
| 2 | (27M) Extremely rude awakening from criminal record to TRP, seeking help, resourcesThankfully there is a healthy market for freelance/contract programming work. I started freelancing making websites when I was 16. Nobody asked me about schooling, my background, how old I was, etc. I just showed them my portfolio, talked the talk and walked the walk and got gigs. Started out bottom of the barrel but slowly got better and better work. Ideally you’ll want to land a job at some point just because you’ll learn a fuckton as a junior dev on a solid team. Try smaller companies and sta… | /r/askTRP | 14/04/18 05:33 AM |
| 2 | Hey fellas, how to stop feeling like trash?I haven’t smoked weed for about 6 months now, after blazing pretty consistently for more than a decade. I really recommend making the change. I’m also sober from heroin for something like 6 years now. Change is possible, you just gotta put in the work. Listen to this episode of Joe Rogan Experience with David Goggins for his own personal story of turning his life around from being fat and depressed to becoming a Navy SEAL. Anything is possible. If you can visualize a better future for yourself a… | /r/askTRP | 12/04/18 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Joined a gym - Best Gym routines/tips?IMO the bodyweightfitness subreddit's Recommended Routine with barbell squats and deadlifts added (regress to goblet squats if needed to nail down form) is the best beginner workout program, because it specifies mobility work and bodyline drills that will be important/helpful for someone previously sedentary. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/18 08:55 PM |
| 2 | What to prioritise: sleep and lifting or part time job in gap yearGet a different job imo. Quality sleep has a huge impact on your health, and a consistent schedule or rhythm is a major component. | /r/askTRP | 07/04/18 07:11 PM |
| 1 | EDM club? Not my Scene?If you don't enjoy the music then don't force it House music is way better than EDM imo. Maybe you'll dig some good house or techno more. | /r/askTRP | 07/04/18 06:14 PM |
| 2 | How to keep your mood up (stay positive) when you feel you’re about to/going through a funk?Fall seven times, stand up eight I’ve gone through a lot of funks. Sometimes bad ones. But I’ve always put lots of effort into resolving my problems. I have my downs, but the general trend is upwards. When I hit a bump, I dust myself off and try again—because there’s no other fucking option. A minor setback doesn’t have to turn into a spiral. | /r/askTRP | 07/04/18 12:17 AM |
| 1 | How to train for hypertrophyFWIW Prilepin's chart advises 3-6 reps at 80% RM for strength training. This Prilepin chart modified for hypertrophy suggests 5-8 reps @ 80% RM. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/04/18 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Guys who are in their 30s, 40s and older, what do you regret doing when you were in your 20s?Drugs | /r/askTRP | 31/03/18 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Completion Process for healing trauma and emotionsSounds interesting, makes me think of how my psychiatrist practices. He mostly focuses on what's called "intensive short-term dynamic psychotherapy" where he almost basically tries to trigger me so that we can take an extremely close look at the emotions (starting with bodily sensations) that rise up as we talk about whatever it is. This talk therapy combined with other sessions of alpha-theta crossover neurofeedback therapy did a lot to help me resolve past trauma and suppressed emotions. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/18 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Completion Process for healing trauma and emotionsI found this book very helpful, too. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/18 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Social Awkwardness at the gym. Help?Keep your head held high, with shoulders back. Make eye contact, nod your head, say whaddup. Try and open them to see if you can learn a thing or two. If you see them doing something relevant that you would like to know more about and you see them resting afterwards, try asking a quick question about it. Make it brief, do not impose on their time. I would say the majority of time this will stroke their ego and they will enjoy talking about it as it makes them feel knowledgable and like an author… | /r/askTRP | 25/03/18 03:42 AM |
| 2 | When there is a hiccup in your RP journeyThat’s probably bad medical advice. You need appropriate loading and progression, building up to be able to lift heavy pain-free. Check out Stuart McGill’s “Back Mechanic” | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/18 06:55 AM |
| 6 | Best city to live in?My man | /r/askTRP | 23/03/18 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Everyone in my school hates me, I feel helplessCrabs in a bucket. They’re just even angrier that you used to be one of the lower tier crabs and now you’re closer to the top. This will be over with soon, and then you can remake your social life in college. Try to just bob and weave and roll with the punches, don’t let it get to you, focus on your mission. Stay up bro | /r/askTRP | 23/03/18 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Moderation vs PerfectionYou're stronger than you think. | /r/askTRP | 21/03/18 06:16 AM |
| 6 | have a 4/10 girl interested in meIf she doesn't make your dick jump then don't do it, imo | /r/askTRP | 21/03/18 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Male child sexual abuse victims...somewhat special circumstance?I'm not a sexual trauma survivor but I've found therapy to be helpful. It took a long time to find the right therapist that was able to help me, though. Therapy is a well-supported intervention in the scientific literature, too. I put much more stock in it than pharmaceuticals. You can check out a book called "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving." I found that helpful as well. The Red Pill is just a framework for sexual attraction, it doesn't have any bearing on the effectiveness of therapy… | /r/askTRP | 16/03/18 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Addicted to fortniteFor the love of god, do not get pubg | /r/askTRP | 16/03/18 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Bulletproofing shoulders. Keep yourself in the gym and off the sideline.Check out "Back Mechanic" by Stuart McGill | /r/TheRedPill | 15/03/18 07:42 PM |
| 3 | Farmer's Walk: The best full-body exercise?Try slowly stepping over hurdles for an additional stabilization challenge. Do this for a little while and it's crazy how stable you feel moving with heavy loads. I'm also a fan of suitcase carries and uneven carries. If you have some postural issues with hypertonic and painful upper traps, try doing a farmer carry with 2.5 gallon water jugs. The instability of the water sloshing around (and the plastic jug flexing) does a wonder for calming down your traps. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/03/18 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Any advice for a tall weak man on how to learn to do a pull up/inverted row?Use gymnastic rings or TRX to do rows and slowly progress the angle until you get to inverted. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/18 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Going to study abroad. Spent previous college year with HB8. She showed interest but I fucked up. She hit me back on fb: "Are you alive?" Thoughts?You don't verbally state that as an ultimatum. You isolate & escalate. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/18 05:37 PM |
| 1 | How does a red pill man deal with living with his parents?They get a job, save money, and move out. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/18 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Male child sexual abuse victims...somewhat special circumstance?You should look into therapy. And yeah I’ve heard about massage therapy’s utility for trauma survivors. | /r/askTRP | 12/03/18 09:05 AM |
| 1 | Lifting advice for an intermediateLearn about periodization. There are lots of different ways you could go with it. 5/3/1 is a basic but popular periodization scheme. | /r/askTRP | 09/03/18 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Lifting advice for an intermediateCould you expand on that? | /r/askTRP | 09/03/18 08:35 PM |
| 2 | What sort of no equipment workouts do you guys recommend?A pull-up bar and some gymnastic rings will outdo the fuck out of some $30 dumbbells | /r/askTRP | 24/02/18 09:14 AM |
| 0 | Lifting weights or boxing? Both?If you’re relatively new then it’ll be easy to make gains in both simultaneously. As you advance it’ll be difficult to really push hard in both at the same time, but you can cycle your main focus every 3-4 or even 6 months. E.g. in the summer you focus on boxing while lifting is on maintenance mode, winter you focus on lifting with boxing on maintenance. Just eat plenty and manage your recovery well. | /r/askTRP | 19/02/18 04:01 AM |
| 1 | LTR wants me to be more emotionalShow her how you feel about her with your physicality. Give her some of that slow stroke deep dick heavy eye contact sex. But continue to polarize this and be spare with your emotions verbally. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/18 04:48 PM |
| 1 | But i just said Good Morning?Don't worry about her. You're doing well, keep at it. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/18 06:17 AM |
| 3 | GET HARD WHEN YOU HEAR THE WORD “NO”: The Truth About Rejection & Getting A TenI love how she pretty much spells out the thesis of OP's post: My strategy is to offend, offend, offend—and then the ones that are still standing are cool | /r/TheRedPill | 13/02/18 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Getting to know a huge dude at my gymThe way you formally asked him framed it as some sort of obligation. Whereas if you more casually shoot the shit, ask questions without being overbearing, etc. then you might get to know each other over time and become gym friends. I’m pretty knowledgeable about training and I love to talk and give pointers if somebody asks me a question. But it would probably put me off if somebody asked to train together like you did, unless we had some well-established rapport. | /r/askTRP | 10/02/18 09:48 AM |
| 1 | One Massive Insecurity is Wreaking Havoc on my MindDon’t trip brah. I don’t like blow jobs either. If it’s more like I’m fucking her face then it’s alright, but only because it’s a turn on to have a chick that’s turned on from being dominated. If a chick tries to take control and “perform” head on me i don’t enjoy it at all. | /r/askTRP | 07/02/18 08:49 AM |
| 1 | For plates: How to set up fuck-only dates after first date?Then just tell her hey let's go to the park, let's go to the beach, go on a hike, etc. | /r/askTRP | 31/01/18 03:24 AM |
| 2 | What's with TRP and self narrating yourself smirking? (more of a rant I guess)Don’t take it personally, kid | /r/askTRP | 31/01/18 12:48 AM |
| 2 | How to Deal With Youtube Addiction?Read "The Power of Habit" to understand your habits/addictions as neuroscience currently understands them to work. The key is that you have to replace these habits with other habits. Go to the gym, volunteer at an animal shelter, or read a book. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/18 05:38 PM |
| 10 | Anxiety at the gymA good personal trainer is very much worth it imo. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/18 04:54 PM |
| 16 | TRP Children’s BookWay of the Warrior Kid by Jocko Willink: Fifth grade was the worst year of Marc’s life. He stunk at gym class, math was too hard for him, the school lunch was horrible, and his class field trip was ruined because he couldn’t swim. But what was most awful thing about fifth grade? Kenny Williamson, the class bully, who calls himself the "King of the Jungle." When Marc's mother tells him that his Uncle Jake is coming to stay for the whole summer, Marc can't wait. Uncle Jake is a for real, super-coo… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/01/18 02:44 AM |
| 5 | GF and anal only when she is tipsyGet OP’s gf a little tipsy before you plow her ass. | /r/askTRP | 18/01/18 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Workout/gym. What equipement for efficient weight lifting at home ?For the upper body, rings and a pullup bar are all you need. Add a dip belt with some weights when you're ready. For the lower body you can't beat barbell squats and deadlifts. If you can't get a BB, then unilateral movements and kettlebells would be your next best bet. From there some nice additions would be parallel bars, parallettes, and an ab wheel. Bands are super useful too. | /r/askTRP | 16/01/18 11:08 PM |
| 2 | My last big issue: EXTREME negative-self talk. Any resource to deal with it?Ah, there’s the ticket. Check out the book “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.” Basically your childhood trauma ingrained an over-developed superego (your sense of self in relation to others), creating this vicious inner critic. You have to realize that that negative voice isn’t actually the real you, and you can learn to shrink it. Easier said than done, but it can be done. IMO this book is the most to-the-point suggestion in this thread for your particular problem. I would suggest start… | /r/askTRP | 09/01/18 07:35 PM |
| 5 | Had a girl on my bed, she got up and left. Where did I fumble my game?lol you put your hand on the back of her neck first, caress her neck/jaw/cheek with increasing firmness, if responding well gently grab the roots of her hair, etc. Lots of intermediate steps before full on choking. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/18 10:41 AM |
| 2 | Learning programming - which path should I choose?If you can’t teach yourself programming, you will struggle to maintain it as a career—because it involves constantly learning and teaching yourself new shit. That said, the path of a university degree + internship is one of the best ways to get into a high tier tech company. | /r/askTRP | 03/01/18 10:10 PM |
| 1 | What advice would you give to someone who is looking for hobbies but can't seem to get interested in anything?I plan on taking some sailing classes this spring. | /r/askTRP | 28/12/17 11:14 AM |
| 3 | What advice would you give to someone who is looking for hobbies but can't seem to get interested in anything?Attending a cooking class or throwing dinner parties can make it sociable. | /r/askTRP | 28/12/17 11:12 AM |
| 13 | Want to enter monk mode but have social anxiety, how do I work on that by secluding myself?For you, socialization should be a critical part of monk mode. If you don’t know where to start then I recommend volunteering at an animal shelter. | /r/askTRP | 23/12/17 10:25 AM |
| 12 | A Red Pilled-Master Schools A Narcissistic Colleague In The Importance Of Manners And ProfessionalismThe question “will you have any issues with long hours?” has nothing to do with someone’s marital or familial status. I’m a single male and would appreciate being asked that as an applicant. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/12/17 07:39 PM |
| 6 | Confidence issues even when doing well in life, my LTR HB9 model partner becoming more disrespectful.Holy fuck, 220k and your own company at 25. What are you consulting on? To answer your questions, I would advise focused meditation. Check out The Mind Illuminated for an in-depth how-to guide. This type of meditation will train your brain's executive function, which will enable you to recognize an impulse or compulsion (like an angry emotion), and immediately drop it to focus on more rational long-term goals (like remaining stoic—which will better drive her attraction for you and keep you prepa… | /r/askTRP | 21/12/17 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Complete lifting guide for noobs?I'm of the opinion that the bodyweightfitness subreddit's recommended routine is the best routine for pure beginners, because it's very well-guided and its built-in warmup/mobility work/bodyline drills are really important for a noob with potentially bad posture & movement function. The book Starting Strength has excellent info on proper technique with a barbell. Aside from that, finding good content on YouTube is your best bet. A good trainer can be worth it, especially if you have poor mobilit… | /r/askTRP | 20/12/17 09:48 PM |
| 3 | How the hell do you beat this depression???What was your childhood like? What are your day-to-day interactions with other people like? What's your social life like? | /r/askTRP | 18/12/17 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Etiquette for thanking unexpected giftsHow much are we talking here? | /r/askTRP | 16/12/17 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Discipline for what?Nah everybody's super friendly because they're all just stoked on the dogs. And the staff are very appreciative of the help. Not to mention the dogs fuckin love you for playing with them, walking them, giving them treats etc. And it feels good. Where have you been trying to meet people? | /r/askTRP | 15/12/17 06:07 AM |
| 4 | Subordinate woman cannot take criticism when she fucks up and fucking vents against me trying to get coworkers against me... is there something I can do to make her stop?You should have a discussion with both of these superiors. Looking for other employment options would be a good idea, too. | /r/askTRP | 14/12/17 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Discipline for what?Hey man, sorry to hear things aren't going well. I'm still in a bit of a rut as well, but working through it. Get your ass volunteering at an animal shelter. Seriously, just fucking do it. Consistently walk dogs and socialize with other volunteers/workers 3x a week for a month and tell me you're not feeling a million times better. | /r/askTRP | 14/12/17 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Subordinate woman cannot take criticism when she fucks up and fucking vents against me trying to get coworkers against me... is there something I can do to make her stop?Why won't she get fired? Have you expressed your concerns to your superiors? | /r/askTRP | 14/12/17 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Soon to turn 18 years old, don't like my body, want to make a change. Advice? (pics included)Just gradually increase caloric intake until you start slowly gaining weight. No need to go crazy pigging out on food. If you’re lifting consistently, progressively overloading, and slowly putting on weight, you’re golden. Just need to be patient at that point. | /r/askTRP | 12/12/17 11:53 PM |
| 3 | How important are internships in college?A solid software internship can really set you up to make a lot more money for your first job. | /r/askTRP | 10/12/17 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Faking PreselectionWhat are some of the other meetups you go to? What are they like? | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/17 12:22 AM |
| 2 | How to get rid of Brain Fog?Look into Neurofeedback training, I believe it has been a successful intervention in some brain injury cases. I personally found it very helpful for ADHD and anxiety. Check out this Joe Rogan podcast with Dr. Andrew Hill for more info. | /r/askTRP | 05/12/17 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Social advice among malesHe was building you up man, lol | /r/askTRP | 04/12/17 06:32 PM |
| 2 | What worked the best for you for combating anxiety?Volunteering at an animal shelter. You say hi to a lot of people, everyone’s really upbeat and friendly, and the dogs are awesome. And out on the street everybody loves you when you’re walking a dog. Look up exposure therapy. Think in terms of progressive overload. I already had sleep, diet, exercise, and meditation all on point. Those are important but not sufficient on their own. Socializing is the real key. | /r/askTRP | 04/12/17 05:57 AM |
| 1 | 26 Year Old Former Foster Child Needs Fatherly Advice (Long Thread)Hey man, it sounds like you have a lot of potential. You were dealt a pretty tough hand of cards in life and yet you've already beaten the odds quite a bit with your degree and internship. Childhood trauma is a huge bitch and you need to sort through it and understand it in order to defeat the patterns it instilled in your psyche. I would recommend digging through Jordan Peterson's videos—this is one of my favorites. Many are finding him to be a strong paternal voice of inspiration that we've la… | /r/askTRP | 29/11/17 08:36 AM |
| 2 | The BPD DiariesThe freeze response is a survival response along with fight & flight. I'm not certain but I think there's some correlation with BPD and trauma. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/11/17 08:06 AM |
| 1 | I'm skinnyfat and 22, working a desk job, and ready to start looking better. 5'10", 171lbs, somewhere between 14-18% bodyfat--bulk or cut??You can lean bulk and put on muscle while getting leaner for a good amount of time as a beginner. | /r/askTRP | 27/11/17 07:41 AM |
| 2 | ...I'm afraid to fail...and afraid to be seen failing. Need helpYeah so you just start there and vibe off the feedback from it. If she recoils then ease off and maybe she's not interested, or if she seems receptive then keep escalating—hand on the back, her waist, pulling her close to you, have her grab and hold onto your arm, etc. It's not like there's this 1 big single jump where you escalate. It's a gradual process. If you make it a series of small steps then there's less pressure on both of you because you've been building it up over time and reading her… | /r/askTRP | 27/11/17 05:26 AM |
| 3 | ...I'm afraid to fail...and afraid to be seen failing. Need helpCan you simply place your hand on a girl's arm/shoulder when talking to her? That's the first place to start with physical escalation. Maybe it will be easier to focus on that rather than getting yourself all psyched out about the end goal (sex). | /r/askTRP | 27/11/17 03:07 AM |
| 1 | I've let myself go. I have engineering exams in two weeks. Need to sort myself out immediately.You might find this book helpful, "CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving". It sounds like your childhood and family life weren't too great. This book will help you understand your emotional and behavioral patterns that have emanated from that. What you're describing sounds like an oscillation from flight survival response (perfectionism, OCD level discipline) to freeze (depression, anxiety, unable to focus, alcohol and substance abuse). Discipline is important no doubt, but needs to be balanced with… | /r/askTRP | 23/11/17 07:30 PM |
| 1 | How to accept myself, with my weakness(es)Find a better shrink. Might take a few tries, but a truly good one is really helpful. | /r/askTRP | 23/11/17 08:26 AM |
| 4 | Study: Women prefer muscular, dominant, wealthy menlol this was published to the journal, Feminist Media Studies. This isn't science. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/11/17 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Inconsistency costing me success... any advice?What was your childhood and family life like? | /r/askTRP | 19/11/17 12:47 AM |
| 1 | What the hell is wrong with my squat?Barefoot is even better | /r/askTRP | 16/11/17 06:30 AM |
| 3 | Fat girls/u/trpburner-- I'll spot you bro | /r/askTRP | 16/11/17 01:28 AM |
| 3 | Too harsh?These flakes are shit tests and you're failing magnificently. You're playing into her frame every time. After the first flake you should tell her that you have a two-strike policy on flaking either when setting up the second date or when she flakes on the second date. She would've been on my shitlist as soon as she replied "Oh crap!" the first time around. Like she didn't even remember. After that Saturday morning text I would've just told her "oh that's cool rest up, I actually wanted to go do … | /r/askTRP | 14/11/17 06:03 PM |
| 2 | I have an unconventional addiction I want to slayLearn to play music, or DJ. Djing is awesome, there's a modicum of technical challenge but it's mostly about curating your musical taste. Playing music or DJ will turn your hobby into one that creates high value in certain social contexts. Check out any Boiler Room show and watch the girls eyeing up the DJ. | /r/askTRP | 11/11/17 09:08 PM |
| 2 | I want to start living my life and stop wasting it,stop livign depressed and in regret. I want to improve,get out and conquer,do things. What should I do to start doing that? I am tired of being a beta addicted to pc i wanna live my life,i wanna wake upYou should reach out to your brother and ask him for help and guidance. I know if my younger brothers did I would embrace the opportunity. Your passing a lot of judgement on yourself. You need to focus on acceptance of the present and enjoyment in the process of improvement. Make small daily changes, build momentum, and eventually see these turn into big changes over time. You're so fucking young dude, there's so much potential to be had if you just embrace the process. | /r/askTRP | 11/11/17 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Should I go out tonight?You should try being more open to new experiences, and less pessimistic and judgmental. You might end up having the time of your life if you go with an open mindset intending to have fun. | /r/askTRP | 11/11/17 09:00 PM |
| 7 | The neurophysiology behind how physical pain, stress, and sweat fortify you mind.I would posit that the greater variety of stimuli, the better. It might be best to work in cycles. These are my favorite activities as well. Near me there's this huge hill/stair climb with pull-up bars at the top, it's fuckin awesome. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/17 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Sex with one of the hottest girls I've ever seen goes very wrong. What should I do?fwiw Lifestyles Skyn large are my favorite condoms (and they're non-latex). Give em a try. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/17 09:06 PM |
| 8 | Anyone want to start a book club?There's been an effort to do this before - /r/RedPillReadingGroup Unfortunately it seems a little difficult to get enough commitment. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/17 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Where do I go if I need someone to talk to?Don't worry too much about your problems with school. Seek out your school's counseling services, and then afterwards you can probably speak with your professors and figure out a way to rectify things. Therapy would be a good idea, but you might not immediately find a therapist that you "click" with. Keep on searching and trying. It might be a good idea to look outside of your school's services if possible. I would recommend an older male. Your home environment sounds toxic and I would recommend… | /r/askTRP | 31/10/17 12:14 AM |
| 2 | Fwb has hpvThere's an HPV vaccine, which would be a good idea regardless of what you do with this girl. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Pre-lift Workout StrategyYou need to go to physical therapy. | /r/askTRP | 28/10/17 08:43 PM |
| 1 | How to get meaty manly forearms and fingers?My dad has never lifted but he grew up on a family farm and worked as a mechanic all his life... jesus fuck his hands and grip are ridiculous. | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Advice on Marriage EventBy god, it's crazy enough that it might just work! | /r/askTRP | 26/10/17 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Increased SMV a ton, doing worse with girls?Sounds like you just weren't socializing and now you're a little rusty at it. You'll pick it back up plenty fast now that you're in classes and around people all the time. imo socialization should be an important component to "monk mode." It's probably the most important aspect of your SMV. Don't beat yourself up. Practice acceptance, and keep at it. | /r/askTRP | 26/10/17 04:13 AM |
| 2 | How to stay positive / mentally survive in university ?Not OP but there is solid scientific evidence that it negatively impacts executive function (willpower, ability to focus, ability to prioritize for delayed gratification, etc.) I was a big stoner for a decade and now I'm much better off without it. | /r/askTRP | 26/10/17 12:28 AM |
| 2 | In dire need of help. Hit rock bottom.Hey man, I'm a little fucked up from my father's anger and stress growing up. I'm 28 now. You have your whole life ahead of you. If you don't fall into the traps of unhealthy coping mechanisms that I fell into (drugs, etc.) then you'll be alright. I'm pretty well built from calisthenics/bodyweight exercise. 44" chest, 33" waist, 188 lbs 6', just barely visible abs. Check out the recommended routine in the bodyweightfitness subreddit's wiki. It's a really great routine and will do plenty to help … | /r/askTRP | 22/10/17 09:19 PM |
| 1 | My life is a mess, I am trying to sort it out. Where is the best place to start? Do things actually get better?I would posit that our happiness is largely a function of our social rank. Being valued and accepted by others, and regularly experiencing social interactions that demonstrate this. It doesn't sound like you have this in place, so what you're experiencing is normal. Accept yourself, you're not defective. Set yourself up for success by seeking out social dynamics where you can contribute value. Volunteer. You're automatically put in a position where all you have to do is show up and help out, and… | /r/askTRP | 22/10/17 08:39 AM |
| 8 | Is inviting chicks out for a run a good idea?I think an easy hike is better. Easier to talk, kino, etc. | /r/askTRP | 17/10/17 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Effective aluminum-free deodorant?I've been using Every Man Jack. There might be a transition period where BO is really bad until your natural body flora restores itself. It's just not gonna work as well as the aluminum-based stuff. But re-applying later in the day seems be enough for me. | /r/askTRP | 16/10/17 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Tips on incorporating red pill when I become a mother.A million times this. I suffer from the same problem. My father was (still is) stressed out as fuck, has an explosive temper, and has a very bitter and tense disposition. These are the opposite of alpha traits (calm control and leadership, low neuroticism). Combined with the beatings (and later on, just the threat of them) has made me pretty fucked up, too. Didn't even realize it until I was 27, after a lifetime of troubles. | /r/askTRP | 16/10/17 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Bullet PointsAwesome field report. Thank you for posting. Where do you take the language classes? I was thinking of enrolling with a local community college to do that, but it looks like there are other options, too. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/10/17 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Boys Scouts of America will be allowing Girls to join in 2019I was in the Scouts from 99 to about 2005. I remember one time for our survivalist merit badge class we had to go out into the woods, build our own individual shelters, and spend the night in them. God it fuckin sucked. Would do it again in a heartbeat. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/17 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Plate is getting married.. Wants to continue to our physical relationship behind the husband's backShh just let it happen | /r/askTRP | 10/10/17 07:11 AM |
| 1 | Going to jail for 7 months so basically a forced MGTOW. What are some good body weight workouts and books to read while I'm away?Check out the bodyweightfitness sub and its recommended routine in its wiki. The routine is based off the book Overcoming Gravity, which I recommend as well. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/17 08:47 AM |
| 2 | "3 Ways You Can Be an Ally to Women in Tech" - or: how stackoverflow is jumping on the feminism bandwagonYes, it is cultural Marxism, both parties identify as oppressed. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/10/17 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Got reported at workThat's good. You could very well be entirely safe. Just don't let yourself get blind-sided. | /r/askTRP | 05/10/17 07:27 PM |
| 1 | The Dopamine Reward Circuits & How To Exploit Them (ISC's Science Discussion Series 2)I'm high in neuroticism and I hate cocaine, mostly because of overwhelming physical discomfort–which actually seems related to a stress response. I don't really experience increased pessimism or paranoia. It's mostly physical. But I certainly don't experience the confidence that others report. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/17 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Got reported at workYou're not off the chopping block. They could very well need you in the short-term, and fire you when able. Or not. Be prepared for any scenario. | /r/askTRP | 05/10/17 06:13 PM |
| 1 | I've been feeling really tired.Sounds like you're depressed. You don't have to be sad to be depressed. | /r/askTRP | 05/10/17 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Why do girls hate video games so much?Are you fucking retarded? | /r/askTRP | 05/10/17 01:27 AM |
| 2 | Investing money in a more expensive hairdresser is totally worth itYeah, I get my hair cut by a gay dude with a masculine aesthetic. Best haircut ever. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/10/17 05:49 PM |
| 3 | TRP on Cannabis. Many Seem Anti.There is solid scientific evidence that chronic cannabis usage negatively impacts executive function, including your ability to focus. | /r/askTRP | 29/09/17 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Miscellaneous Thoughts/TipsYou really should see a good physical therapist in person. Shop around for one, don't just follow a doctor's referral. But you can also check out Stuart McGill's book, Back Mechanic. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/09/17 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Miscellaneous Thoughts/TipsDr. Jacob Harden is great. So is his wife quaddoc, themovementmaestro, FitnessFAQs, move u, evidencebasedmvmt, strengthcoachtherapy, and countless others. There's so much good high quality content out there. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/09/17 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Miscellaneous Thoughts/TipsI get my information from physical therapists, and I speak from my experience rehabbing my hips and scoliosis. Don't take my word for it, do your own research. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/09/17 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Miscellaneous Thoughts/TipsEh I don't think it's really dangerous but you're missing out on developing some big time connection between your feet and hips. Barefoot all the way. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/09/17 01:47 AM |
| 2 | taking complimentsIf someone gives you a compliment in admiration, try to stop thinking about yourself—try to see if you can spin it around to build them up or otherwise inspire them. Take the opportunity to be a leader. | /r/askTRP | 27/09/17 04:53 PM |
| 3 | I do understand the importance of lifting but i'd like to using bodyweight fitness (as i'm broke)Most of the retards on here talking shit about BWF have no idea what they're talking about. You can get plenty jacked with BWF. It's just not quite as time-efficient. It's way more interesting and fun IMO, though. Plus you can get a workout in anytime, anywhere. I took my rings on vacation and didn't skip a beat with my workouts. You gotta hit the barbell for squats and deadlifts ASAP, though. There are big benefits to moving heavy weight. But to say "bwf OR weightlifting" is a false dichotomy. | /r/askTRP | 27/09/17 04:44 PM |
| 1 | BRAIN WAVES and which one is best for alpha/dominant mindsetLook into neurofeedback. It is brain wave training. Extremely beneficial for ADHD. It's like meditation on steroids. It's not so much about 1 superior brain wave, it's about balancing the correct ratios. Neurofeedback training can help develop your ability to regulate your emotions and focus. Highly "alpha" capabilities. Check out this episode of The Joe Rogan Experience w/ Dr. Andrew Hill. | /r/askTRP | 14/09/17 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Rejection is still extremely hard. Is it expected to get better?Were you neglected or abandoned as a child? | /r/askTRP | 08/09/17 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Materials related to sexual selection / gene survivalThe Selfish Gene by Dawkins is a good place to start. | /r/TRPOffTopic | 05/09/17 02:46 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill on Alcohol and WeedAlcohol is terrible for recovery from training. Cannabis impairs executive function. Cannabis is effective at mitigating stress, but it prevents you from developing the ability to cope with it on your own. | /r/askTRP | 01/09/17 07:26 PM |
| 3 | What insights can be learned from looking at the lives/careers of Lindsay Lohan and similar people?Just because you're famous and rich and "have it all" does not mean that you will have peace and enduring happiness or success. Stay hungry, stay humble. And don't do drugs. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/17 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Young men who come here to create value in their lives, please stop smoking weed.I think these are all addressed by the fact that there were generally improvements in these markers following abstinence. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/08/17 06:48 PM |
| 1 | How do I fill the philosophy vacuum Egalitarianism left?Jordan Peterson. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/17 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Books on willpower?I have found that mastering willpower is like bending a spoon with the mind: "Do not try and bend the spoon, that's impossible. Instead, only try to realize the truth...there is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself." You can't force it, chastising yourself for not being able to conduct yourself as you wish. This is the stick, and it leads to stress, anxiety, neuroticism, and failure. You have to practice using the carrot: self-acceptance and genuine … | /r/askTRP | 24/08/17 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Best equipment to start lifting at home?A pullup bar and some rings. See /r/bodyweightfitness Once you have a gym membership incorporate barbell squats and deadlifts. | /r/askTRP | 23/08/17 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Cool Side Jobs and Hobbies?I'm also in a metropolitan area with tons of cute girls. Maybe it's the time of day I go (weekday evenings and sometimes weekend mornings). But in any case, it's the doggos that are the main benefit. | /r/askTRP | 23/08/17 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Cool Side Jobs and Hobbies?What kind of volunteering organization? I started volunteering at an animal shelter. There isn't much in terms of attractive girls, but it's immensely rewarding for its own sake. | /r/askTRP | 23/08/17 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Mentally Recovering From Being An OmegaThis is PTSD, you're not being a pussy. Don't blame yourself. You suffered trauma and your brain rewired around that, making you hyper sensitive to stressors. Find a therapist that you really like and trust (might take some searching). Learn to manage stress. And pursue social settings where you can set yourself up for success—group therapy, volunteering, etc. Figure out something where you can help others and have clear value in the group. Meditation, neurofeedback, and working out are key as w… | /r/askTRP | 23/08/17 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Young men who come here to create value in their lives, please stop smoking weed.I believe it can take around 21 days for THC and metabolites to be eliminated from your body. It's better than using often, but worse than complete abstinence. You can read more in An Evidence Based Review of Acute and Long-Term Effects of Cannabis Use on Executive Cognitive Functions. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/08/17 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Young men who come here to create value in their lives, please stop smoking weed.You are wrong. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/08/17 08:53 PM |
| 4 | Young men who come here to create value in their lives, please stop smoking weed.It is effective as an antidepressant, or for coping with stress. But there is a cost, as I described. It will keep you stagnant. It's an avoidant coping mechanism. It will prevent you from developing the ability to manage negative emotions on your own. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/08/17 10:21 PM |
| 13 | Young men who come here to create value in their lives, please stop smoking weed.Simply stopping will reverse the effects. If it's already been 10 years then idk, I can't speak to that. Neurofeedback is effective at reversing the effects, too. It's like meditation on steroids. Look up a Joe Rogan episode on neurofeedback with Dr. Andrew Hill. Edit: I've also found social media to have a similar negative effect on attention. Including Reddit. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/08/17 01:48 AM |
| 9 | Who is your favourite male role model? Wether he be fictional or non fictional.My father instilled tension, stress, anxiety and violence in me rather than courage and confidence. Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, and Odysseus (fictional) are some of my favorite role models. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/17 05:27 PM |
| 1 | New date and throat infectionAre you staying out late partying while pulling? That could have a lot to do with it. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/17 05:14 PM |
| 76 | Young men who come here to create value in their lives, please stop smoking weed.Chronic daily cannabis usage will cause ADHD-like symptoms (distractibility, reward-seeking) and increase baseline social anxiety, negatively affecting your sociability. All while you're not even high. Even if you just consume a little bit in the evening before bedtime. And it does so in a very subtle but powerful manner. It's very insidious. This is as-told to me by my psychiatrist and neurofeedback technician, and then confirmed by my experience. That's not to say that it's without its merits.… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/17 05:04 PM |
| 1 | My friends do not careIs there a weightlifting club at your school? Or an intramural sports team you would be interested in? | /r/askTRP | 19/08/17 05:34 AM |
| 1 | BodyweightYou can still get fuckin jacked with calisthenics, although it's not strictly as efficient as weightlifting. And I still recommend doing barbell squats and deadlifts. Getting big takes years of work, regardless of whether you're weightlifting or doing calisthenics. Some improved definition after a few months is normal progress. | /r/askTRP | 18/08/17 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Can you trust the people 'working' in the gym?Trainers can be really fucking good, but also really bad. There's a wide spectrum. The answer to your question is: it depends. I wouldn't bother with valsalva on high rep isolation stuff. It can also be counter-productive if you have any postural issues to correct. I still do it on high rep deadlifts or squats though. And it is really useful for high intensity work. Especially unstable high intensity (like weighted ring pushups). | /r/askTRP | 18/08/17 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Body language is insanely underutilized during the social interactions. The easiest place to start is by fixing your posture. This is how you do it + ExercisesBut your retractors should be firing, you certainly shouldn't be letting the weight pull you down into protraction. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/17 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Anyone here got neck gains from gym?Yeah, I do neck planks and wrestler bridges. And variations thereof. | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 07:08 AM |
| 2 | Girl I recently started dating said she "cant imagine ever coming to me for help" or "relying on me"This is a comfort test. | /r/askTRP | 16/08/17 07:00 AM |
| 2 | Do not fall for the deadly trap of the ego!I have to agree with /u/deadlegs12. OP you're on the right track in identifying it as a problem (as evidenced by this post) but you might find therapy helpful. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 06:43 AM |
| 2 | Do not fall for the deadly trap of the ego!I think you replied to the wrong comment, so I'm not sure who this is directed towards. I agree in defining ego as your "sense of self" and what you are describing is a healthy, congruent ego. Ego becomes pathological when it is not grounded in reality—e.g., "I am the supreme gentleman." This becomes extremely frustrating and anxiety-inducing because there's a mismatch between how you view yourself and reality. That is what OP is describing, and in that scenario it can be helpful to actively wor… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 06:38 AM |
| 11 | Do not fall for the deadly trap of the ego!Ego does not equate with confidence. This is a common misconception. Anxiety coupled with narcissism is a terrible affliction. I only skimmed OPs post because TLDR but it seems like he's describing it correctly. Ego with confidence and social skills, however, is how you get politicians, CEOs, founders of companies, etc. The optimal is to strike a balance between ego and humility. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/17 02:16 AM |
| 1 | What Being A Drug Addict Has Taught Me.Something to think about, for sure. What's your dose? | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/17 03:26 AM |
| 1 | My FR inspired by the drug addict post on RPAll women's romance novels feature the female lead taming the formerly untamable bad boy male, turning him from beast to lover. Literally: vampires, werewolves, etc. It still mystifies me why this applies to someone as destructive as an addict. Especially heroin addiction, it does not exactly provide you with social status. Congrats on getting clean. I know it's tough, I've been down the heroin road myself. | /r/askTRP | 15/08/17 03:16 AM |
| 3 | What Being A Drug Addict Has Taught Me.Agree big time. I got sober from heroin and spent way too much time dicking around with weed afterwards. Now I'm completely sober (save for an occasional single beer when socializing), and it's a big difference. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/17 02:42 AM |
| 1 | What Being A Drug Addict Has Taught Me.If you're doing a slow wean off suboxone, it's like you're in threshold withdrawal or PAWS for a long time. Within a month of weaning off suboxone, my energy levels skyrocketed. Just be wary of the pink cloud. Stay vigilant, don't fall into habitual pot or alcohol usage justifying that it's not as bad. While that might be true, it will stunt your recovery. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/17 02:41 AM |
| 10 | Been waking up at 5 AM for the past 2 years and it has really changed my life. Here are 5 reasons to get up at 5 AM, and also some tips on how to get started. | Join the 5 AM club.Dropping daily cannabis usage will improve your amount of free time, ability to focus, sociability, and ability to endure negative emotion. I would recommend focusing on that first, and then knock each of the other goals one by one. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/08/17 07:23 PM |
| 4 | Do you find caffeine to hamper your sociability/communication skills?This. And stress/anxiety will literally cloud your communication and thinking abilities as it directs resources towards fight or flight response. Other stimulants (like adderall) can do the same thing. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/17 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Why you should try intermittent fasting (mood, cognitive improvement, productivity, fat loss)I found it best to gradually reduce my eating window. E.g. eat just an hour later each day. This has made it completely tolerable. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/17 03:47 PM |
| 2 | How to be a Social Butterfly [Part 1: Theory]This post opened up very strongly, but then the message got watered down as you meandered too far off topic. Your writing style is great, the post just needs to be edited down quite a bit to distill the core message. Thank you for the post! | /r/TheRedPill | 02/08/17 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Socially awkward guys who joined clubs/activities to make friends, was it as bad as it sounds?I work from home as well, and I just started volunteering at an animal shelter. Not specifically to make friends but mostly because I fucking love dogs, and some novel socialization is another nice benefit. One of the things I definitely want to try next is some sort of MMA training. What are you interested in? | /r/askTRP | 31/07/17 06:20 AM |
| 9 | My mind is fucked up boys, need some adviceThey sound like a good crew, don't fuck it up. You can play off her attraction to generate attraction from other dimes. | /r/askTRP | 29/07/17 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Don't seek advice from womenlol well yeah, I have a form of PTSD from childhood. I appreciate the input, though. You're right that that's what most people are probably dealing with. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/07/17 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Don't seek advice from womenYes, experience is huge. The amount of money I pay for my psychiatrist is painful, to say the least. But it's worth it. Nobody else I've seen has come anywhere close. He is very focused on the mind-body connection, and the evolutionary mechanisms that can drive our pathologies. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/07/17 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Don't seek advice from womenKeep up the therapy. Don't be afraid to see different therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists until you find someone that really clicks. Once you do, it's a world of a difference. Group therapy is really beneficial. Most importantly, don't take up other substances (weed, alcohol, party drugs) with the excuse that they're not so bad. They will keep you emotionally stagnated and prevent healing. I'm clean from H for about 5 years now, but there's been lots of up and downs. If bad times come, … | /r/TheRedPill | 29/07/17 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Don't seek advice from womenI am a former IV heroin addict, and I've at least tried pretty much all other classes of drugs. The feeling after heavy deadlifts is the closest thing to heroin, out of anything else I've ever experienced. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/07/17 01:14 AM |
| 7 | Don't seek advice from womenPerhaps some, but I would wager that many aren't. The odds might get better with psychiatrists, due to more intensive schooling. My psychiatrist has been exceptionally helpful. We talk about a lot of evolutionary psychology (mostly pertaining to stress and anxiety). Jordan Peterson is another great example. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/07/17 01:10 AM |
| 1 | My Mother Won't Let Me Pay My Own BillsPut that money into savings. Look up recommendations on the personal finance sub. | /r/askTRP | 27/07/17 12:56 AM |
| 1 | For those of you working on yourself, how do you deal with negative feelings such as loneliness?You're lonely because you're spending all of your time with these solitary activities. You need to pursue socialization as a component of self-improvement, too. You're lucky that you're in college. Join an intramural sport, find some interesting club, take up a martial art, or invite a classmate to study or go for a hike or something. | /r/askTRP | 26/07/17 05:30 AM |
| 8 | Absence of Father Figure affects children at the CELLULAR levelAnother dynamic to consider is the father riddled with anger, who rules by negative reinforcement. Not calm masculine order, but toxic chaos underscored by the threat of violence. I'm completely fucked in the head. Always improving, though. It's mind blowing how much of an advantage you have in life when raised by a truly good father. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/07/17 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Skin care?What did the dermatologist advise or prescribe for you? | /r/askTRP | 18/07/17 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Extremely worried about my brother.He's suffered emotional trauma from his relationship with your father. Possibly complex PTSD. It is possible to recover and find some peace, but it takes a lot of work and professional help. It's like diabetes—it's livable, but needs to be proactively managed. Me and my brother suffer from the same thing—him worse than myself, and compounded by the ADHD he innately started out with. People also mistake him for being on the autism spectrum, but I think it's more PTSD. I remember him as a fun, bub… | /r/askTRP | 15/07/17 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Maximize your appearance before trying to become the Gandalf of social skills.If your hip alignment is out of wack, you should try getting used to barefoot or minimal shoes. Slowly, don't rush it. Do your research. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/17 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Massive Seizing Up of MusclesDrinking and working out don't mix. Especially if you're not very used to one (or both). It makes for the worst fucking hangover. | /r/askTRP | 16/06/17 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Why do women truly believe they are the "mature" ones? And why does society go along with it?I'm reminded of this passage I recently read in Nietzsche's The Gay Science: Will and willingness.— Someone took a youth to a sage and said: "Look, he is being corrupted by women." The sage shook his head and smiled. "It is men," said he, "that corrupt women; and all the failings of women should be atoned by and improved in men. For it is man who creates for himself the image of woman, and woman forms herself according to this image." "You are too kind-hearted about women," said one of those pre… | /r/askTRP | 15/06/17 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Favorite/Most Red Pill episodes of the Joe Rogan Podcast?+1. And after listening to both of the Jordan Peterson episodes, watch this lecture. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/17 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Get a personal trainerThe lines between "trainer" and "therapist" can get blurred. Sometimes a trainer can be more accessible. And they can also be complementary to one another. And shitty motor patterns can be on a gradient. Pretty much every modern sedentary person will have some work to be done in that regard, to some degree. Oftentimes you can't get access to a PT until pain becomes a component. You're grouping all trainers as "trash" without accounting for any individual variability. You're just talking about yo… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/17 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Get a personal trainerWell it's not up to you to justify their cost. It's their clients and the market. Perhaps you haven't had any serious postural, mobility, or movement deficits. It takes a tremendous amount of awareness to correct. A qualified trainer will be a million times more effective and faster than all the resources you could scour the internet for. And I say this having a voracious appetite for all the freely available learning material out there. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/17 10:38 PM |
| 17 | Get a personal trainerYou're ignoring the most valid reason for getting a personal trainer...your posture and movement patterns are shitty and need to be carefully re-patterned. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/17 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Get a personal trainerI worked with a personal trainer, physical therapist, and yoga therapist for over 2 years. Had lots of postural issues to sort out. I learned so god damned much from all of them. I believe if you have the means, it's really worth it to seek out a worthy coach or tutor in anything you seek to learn. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/17 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Psychological problems from childhood and teenage yearsTry to forgive your brother, he was probably just modeling your father's behavior. You should even try to forgive your father, if for nothing else than your own peace. Your father was likely treated the same, it's an intergenerational problem. Talk therapy, neurofeedback, and meditation have been helping me a lot. Make sure you're hitting the basics of sleep, diet, exercise, and sunshine. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/17 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Anyone have any supplements they take for muscle building or wellbeing they recommend?Here's everything I'm taking: Ashwagandha Vitamin D Fish oil Magnesium CBD Vegan protein powder Grass-fed beef collagen protein powder | /r/askTRP | 31/05/17 11:20 PM |
| 5 | Nipple pinches, ass slaps and sack tapsIt's just a prank bro | /r/askTRP | 31/05/17 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Headspace app worth a subscription?The most basic description: Focus on the physical sensations of the breath Your mind wanders You catch yourself. Smile and be happy for this. Reward yourself with positive reinforcement. This is the "rep" of meditation. Return your focus to the breath And you just slowly get better and better at it over time. The book has over 400 pages covering the nuances, techniques, and phenomena you will experience as you progress. Can't recommend it enough. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/17 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Back From the BeachAny advice on where to start with Nietzsche? | /r/TheRedPill | 30/05/17 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Headspace app worth a subscription?I think money is better spent on the book, The Mind Illuminated (TMI). Headspace is an okay introduction for those who have no idea wtf to do or what to expect with meditation. But with some moderate experience in meditation, I found it more distracting than helpful. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/17 04:57 PM |
| 1 | I think its time we take avocado toast back for men, who's tired of this?Every single day I eat 2 slices of toast w/ half a large avocado and 4-6 pasture-raised eggs fried in butter. Feels fucking great. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/17 04:10 AM |
| 3 | How do you guys like to initiate foreplay/sex?Grab her by the throat | /r/askTRP | 28/05/17 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Emergency advice needed -- got a plate pregnantNOW it's ok to come inside her (assuming she really is preggo) so treat this like an opportunity. There's always the off-chance that she could lie about being pregnant. | /r/askTRP | 26/05/17 08:54 PM |
| 7 | I think I handled this right.This is such good advice. | /r/askTRP | 26/05/17 02:22 AM |
| 6 | I think I handled this right.If she says things aren't going to change then she doesn't love you, she's done with you, and she just didn't have the courage to break things off herself. She's glad you stepped up. She would involve you in her problems if she was still into you. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/17 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Meditation question.Let it come, let it be, let it go. You don't need to resist emotions. But you don't need to agonize and suffer for them, either. Try to come to acceptance with them. That being said, sitting there thinking and ruminating isn't quite what you want to be doing with meditation. Here's what I like to do. To start, I go over this checklist in my head: What are my motivations for this practice? I like to vividly imagine how the near-future (weeks, months, or even years) could look if everything went w… | /r/askTRP | 25/05/17 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Can i turn my life around at 21Boy if you knew the journey I've been on from 21 to 28. Worlds of change, in both directions. Don't worry about the past, or too much about the future. Just focus on the present moment in a way that will build yourself up as you continue forward. | /r/askTRP | 24/05/17 10:05 PM |
| 12 | It's that time of the year again: we need to have The Talk about 'alpha' and 'beta'“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” | /r/TheRedPill | 24/05/17 04:49 PM |
| 1 | [32m] Would you date a female urologist?Careful, she might get you by the balls. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/17 09:00 AM |
| 1 | Anxiety will destroy your lifeI got all excited about Kava Kava and so I got some micronized Kava from Gourmet Hawaiian Kava, but it makes me nauseous and so it just feels pretty similar to alcohol—which I don't really enjoy. If I could have it without the nausea, it might be okay. Not enjoyable enough to become problematic, but good for bringing down anxiety levels if I'm feeling really shitty. Do you have any recommendations for improving the experience? | /r/TheRedPill | 16/05/17 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Anxiety will destroy your lifeYes, this is called "complex PTSD." You suffered recurring interpersonal trauma. It sensitizes your sympathetic nervous system and makes you more prone to the fight, flight, or freeze response to stress. During a stressful situation your body diverts resources from the more advanced parts of your brain responsible for critical thinking towards these survival mechanisms. That's the "brain fog" you experience. I suffer the same thing from my father's anger and his beating me with a leather belt in… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/05/17 09:34 PM |
| 7 | The Best Insult Against the Red Pillleaving genes behind = alpha When you're describing the social structures and mating habits of a species, that is pretty much the most concise definition of "alpha." | /r/TheRedPill | 15/05/17 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Balancing compassion with TRPTRP provides a framework for how sexual attraction works. It doesn't mean that you can't have compassion. They're not mutually exclusive. A lot of vitriol gets spewed on TRP because it attracts men who have been hurt. Learn to separate the signal from the noise. | /r/askTRP | 03/05/17 01:39 AM |
| 1 | How do I slay this vapid young HB8?Mid-date, make a venue change to somewhere with music that you enjoy. Now you don't have to talk much, just dance and escalate. | /r/askTRP | 28/04/17 12:49 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys handle 'loser' siblings?This is a really tough situation. My youngest brother is pretty severely depressed, anxious, and ADHD. He's 25 and hasn't really done much. I just try to offer him any support I can, without judgement. Chiding him at all will only produce more anxiety and he'll just shrink back in response. I know he's in pain. It sounds like she needs mental healthcare. I don't know if you all have the means for that. And even then, she still needs to have the motivation to get better. You need to focus on acce… | /r/askTRP | 28/04/17 12:38 AM |
| 1 | How to become wealthyCould you paint a picture of how much you've been earning and saving over time? | /r/askTRP | 26/04/17 04:49 PM |
| 1 | On Becoming ComfortableOnce you've developed a meditation practice to the point that it becomes enjoyable, it makes for the best kind of break. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/04/17 01:40 AM |
| 13 | Coworkers think i'm weird now...You can still be funny and friendly without being a Nice Guy. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/17 10:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you not hate yourself?It's really tough. I recently figured out in therapy that I've suffered from unresolved childhood trauma my whole life, and didn't even realize that was the source of ALL my problems. But it does get better with the right therapy. I also strongly suggest neurofeedback and meditation. | /r/askTRP | 20/04/17 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Mental health?Look into neurofeedback. It's helping me with my anxiety and depression. Check out this episode of Joe Rogan with Dr. Andrew Hill. Dr. Hill is a neuroscientist who has co-founded a neurofeedback training center in LA. It provides some excellent insight into what neurofeedback is and how it works. It's like precise, accelerated meditation. And of course, I also recommend developing a strong meditation practice. | /r/askTRP | 08/04/17 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Any of you guys have homemade mass gainer recipes?Add oats and peanut butter to protein shakes. | /r/askTRP | 07/04/17 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Can I get a little help from some fellow gym bros?"over the top" probably requires steroids and some hardcore dedication. | /r/askTRP | 04/04/17 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys journal? If so how, and how do you think it benefits you?I've tried bullet journaling in the past for a flexible way to log goals, habits, TODO items, etc. Look it up. But I recently started a separate journal purely for writing about my emotions and insights to my psyche as I go through therapy. | /r/askTRP | 03/04/17 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Addiction is not holding frame.As a recovering addict, two things that come to mind are "too much is never enough" and the myth of Icarus, who flew too close to the sun. You can't find true happiness in getting high. You're just chasing the dragon. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/04/17 05:51 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread March 29That just sounds like a shitty PT clinic. A good PT should be doing a proper assessment and telling you what's wrong. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/03/17 12:45 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread March 29From a physical therapist's perspective, MRIs are usually pretty useless. What's more important is how you move, and any pain or discomfort that you experience. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/03/17 06:19 PM |
| 3 | All male psychologists are beta. Don't use them for help to be alpha.The psychiatrist that I'm currently seeing for psychotherapy has helped me immensely. The experience has been pretty fucking crazy, tbh. He takes a very mind-body oriented approach, honing in on your body language as you talk. Whenever there's a physical symptom of stress—and it can be very subtle—we dig into what's causing that. He has me pay close attention and describe the physical sensations as we talk. It's raised some really hard-hitting questions. Shit I never even thought of. Shit that h… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/03/17 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Why is there so much more emphasis on lifting heavy weights vs. mastering bodyweight exercises?After being a sedentary desk worker for a few years, I started working out and following Starting Strength. With time, I kept on getting recurring muscle knots and pain in my upper back. So I went to physical therapy. I ended up going to physical therapy for about 2.5 years...for functional scoliosis. Learned a fuckload about corrective exercise and rehab. Somewhere along the lines I started getting really into bodyweight fitness because of the benefits it had for my goal of achieving perfect po… | /r/askTRP | 27/03/17 06:04 AM |
| 1 | What are the best secondary gym exercises?Rows, loaded carries, and core stabilization work. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 06:34 PM |
| 0 | MotherMan you need some therapy | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Criticism at work - very concernedBe ready to find a new job. Worst case scenario, they could be preparing a documented history of poor performance before firing you. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/17 12:00 AM |
| -1 | How to have a straight, confident posture ALL THE TIMEBreathing is key. Try breathing into different parts of your body. Your sides/obliques, your balls, your lower back. I like to breath into my sides and try to make myself wider. Don't hold your breath when training, just because hurr durr mah valsalva maneuver. YES it is key for powerlifting. But it is counter productive if your goals are postural correction. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/17 09:13 PM |
| 1 | How to have a straight, confident posture ALL THE TIMECrunches are not a good exercise for postural correction. You're strengthening and patterning your core for thoracic flexion, which is usually the opposite of what you need. Planks with thoracic extension are good. These are slightly different from some examples of "hollow body" planks that you might see, which do provide more stability for bodyweight strength training or gymnastics purposes. Different form for different goals. Supine hollow body hold and supermans are some of my favorite postur… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/17 09:08 PM |
| 1 | What to do when feeling emotionally weak?An avoidant coping mechanism is something you do to distract yourself from a stressor. Drugs, alcohol, sex, social media, procrastination, binge eating, the list goes on. I suggest you look for a good therapist. Find one who focuses on the mind-body—that is, the manifestation of physical symptoms of stress. I stress the importance of the mind-body because often times you don't know what's wrong on a cognitive level—but if you follow the physical symptoms of stress as you talk about things, you m… | /r/askTRP | 21/03/17 09:12 PM |
| 1 | What to do when feeling emotionally weak?I mean, is stress or anxiety a pattern in your life? Along with avoidant coping mechanisms to deal with it? | /r/askTRP | 21/03/17 06:28 PM |
| 1 | What to do when feeling emotionally weak?Any stress or anxiety? | /r/askTRP | 21/03/17 06:57 AM |
| 3 | Will reading Eckhart Tolle books make me too soft?No, it will not make you soft. And yes, it will be good for you. What I appreciated most about The Power of Now was how it explained the common themes and motifs that run through many of the different spiritual and philosophical disciplines. It made me realize how similar they all really are. The language can be a little flowery at times...and it tends to reiterate the same thing over and over...but the message is EXTREMELY similar to that conveyed by Meditations and other works on stoicism. I h… | /r/askTRP | 18/03/17 10:34 PM |
| 5 | Lifts are beginning to stall? Leangains vs 5/3/1Uhh leans gains is a dietary protocol, and 5/3/1 is a strength training protocol. They're not mutually exclusive. That being said, 5/3/1 is designed to be a simple programming method that helps you progress and prevents stalling. You could also just refeed and/or deload for a week and see how that works for you. | /r/askTRP | 18/03/17 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Stop Neglecting Your Body at the GymStretching is important and helpful, but it will do jack shit on its own. You need to inhibit any hypertonic shortened muscles (via stretching, foam rolling, manual therapy) followed immediately by strengthening that muscle in the increased ROM. What's especially tricky in left-to-right imbalances is the role of muscle chains that spiral around your body for stabilizing and generating force in the transverse plane of motion (rotational force). This plane of motion is especially relevant in many … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/03/17 08:46 PM |
| 1 | I've burned my bridges with my old social circle. How can I build back up?going out and drinking at clubs and stuff murders gains no Yeah, I've recently decided that I don't want to drink at all anymore. It affects my recovery way too much. But that doesn't mean you can't go out and enjoy yourself. You don't have to completely dismiss all of your old friends. Do work on making new friends who share your interests, though. | /r/askTRP | 03/03/17 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Career change in NYCIf everyone on your team makes double what you make (assuming they have similar responsibilities), then you might just be a shitty negotiator. If you work on your negotiation skills and find another job, I'm curious if you could come out making a lot more money. | /r/askTRP | 03/03/17 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Why no body-weight-fitness?The first step in the progression can be an active hang (I hate calling it a dead hang, because you want to actively engage your back muscles). Then straight arm scapular pulls. Then negatives. Also, train rows in parallel. Along with something like ab wheel rollouts (can do on an exercise ball to make it easier), or lat pull-overs in a supine hollow body position. This will help train motor coordination between your lats and core, which is important in the pullup. It's pretty approachable witho… | /r/askTRP | 02/03/17 08:04 PM |
| 1 | How bad have I fucked up with this girl?You should go for the kiss much earlier, in the middle of the date. | /r/askTRP | 02/03/17 05:49 AM |
| 1 | How long/far is your work commute everyday?I went from a 45-60 minute commute, to 20 minute, to none (working remotely). Each drop in commute time was amazing. Anything longer than 20 minutes starts to suck really hard. But if it's 30 minutes without heavy traffic then that might not be so bad. | /r/askTRP | 02/03/17 05:48 AM |
| 22 | Being good in bed: of a woman is a virgin and an alpha RP man typically wants a girl that's good in bed, how can she be a quality woman if she hasn't had sex?All she has to do for me to enjoy the sex is (1) be attractive, and (2) enjoy herself. I'm the one conducting the show. As long as she's turned on, I'm turned on. That's about all there is to it. | /r/askTRP | 02/03/17 12:58 AM |
| 4 | Why no body-weight-fitness?Ignore everyone responding. They have no fucking clue what they're talking about. Bodyweight fitness and gymnastics are on a whole other level of strength, body awareness, and movement autonomy. I would love to see these guys try and hop on some rings. Bodyweight fitness commonly advocates for strength training in the 5-8 rep range. Once you hit 3x8, you're ready to move onto the next progression. Advanced practitioners often work in even lower rep ranges. And nothing stops you from higher rep r… | /r/askTRP | 02/03/17 12:49 AM |
| 1 | March madness: Self improvement ideas?For your speaking and humor skills, try going to comedy/improv classes or toastmasters. | /r/askTRP | 01/03/17 05:32 AM |
| 6 | Working 40hpw, lifting, saving money. But no time for going to bars/clubs to meet women. Is it normal to be in "grind mode" for a few years before moving up in the world?It's okay to focus on certain things for a while. I've avoided pouring energy into chasing girls for periods of time as well. But to answer your question in the OP: no, it's not normal to just "grind" and not socialize for years—or even just months—on end. I'm not even talking just about girls, but about making friends. Don't get too caught up on people being red pill, blue pill, "of value," or whatever. Yes, you want to try to surround yourself with people who motivate or push you to be better.… | /r/askTRP | 01/03/17 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Manly HobbiesYou should tell him that you're interested in learning and if he would indulge you, you would be happy to help him out with any projects. Sounds like a good opportunity to make a solid friend. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/17 10:30 PM |
| 11 | Working 40hpw, lifting, saving money. But no time for going to bars/clubs to meet women. Is it normal to be in "grind mode" for a few years before moving up in the world?I work roughly 40 hrs/week, and train 2-3 hours a session for 4-6 days a week, and still have some time to socialize. Don't neglect the social sphere of your life. It's really important. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/17 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Mark Rippletoes Starting strengthlmao. The book is great for learning the biomechanics, cues, and proper form for your barbell lifts. Just don't listen to his advice about food. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/17 10:17 PM |
| 5 | Strategies for better sleepBlue light severely affects your ability to fall asleep, because it inhibits the production of melatonin. This includes the light from TV, computer, and phone screens. Get used to going to bed without the TV on. If you really can't stand the silence, then put on an audio book, relaxing music, nature sounds, etc. Having a routine to cue your brain for bedtime is important, too. For my evening routine I light some candles, turn off all lights, meditate for 20-40 minutes, stretch for 20-40 minutes,… | /r/askTRP | 28/02/17 10:03 PM |
| 3 | How to be at easeYou've got too much on the line in your social interactions (ego, desire). It creates tension and stress. You need to meditate on acceptance. Free yourself from desire. Only then will you be at ease. That will paradoxically make you come across as secure, which will get you what you want—whether it's friendship with other high-value males, or attraction from a female. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/17 10:08 PM |
| 0 | Date went sour because I didn't pay for her drinksAlternate who pays for the rounds This. You can pre-empt the entire situation by saying you'll get the first round. It is a nice, agreeable gesture which simultaneously makes it clear that you will split the cost of the date. | /r/askTRP | 25/02/17 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Herniated disk in lower back. How to find a guide I can trust? Looking for advice.You should shop around for a high quality physical therapist. If you have health insurance then it will probably cost you a lot less than $80 per session. My co-pay on a PPO plan in the US is $20. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/17 01:04 AM |
| 2 | advice on how to moderate your will of improvement?How you respond to frustration, failure, and a lack of progress is KEY. You need to meditate on acceptance. Let go of your internal strife, your desire for more, more, more. Only then will you avoid the backslides into old habits when things don't go your way. | /r/askTRP | 21/02/17 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Quick Post About PostureKneeling chairs are amazing. I also recommend a motorized sit-stand desk so that you can switch between the kneeling chair and standing. But when standing, you need to make certain that you stand evenly (DO NOT favor one leg). | /r/TheRedPill | 19/02/17 09:38 PM |
| 21 | [FR] First date f-closelmao I thought the same exact thing. HB9 staff sergeant computer science major? LOL | /r/TheRedPill | 19/02/17 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Best lifting subreddit and beginner routine?/r/bodyweightfitness and their wiki's recommended routine is the best beginner training program in my opinion. You can add barbell deadlifts, squats, and glute bridges/hip thrusts for leg work. You will build body awareness, mobility, strength, prehab, and the proper use of your core. And it's all spelled out for you in an easy-to-follow format. All of this will readily transfer over to any other type of training you decide to focus on afterwards—whether it's bodybuilding, powerlifting, olympic … | /r/askTRP | 18/02/17 08:28 PM |
| 7 | Slow down and Smile: Incremental ChangesYour body tension and stress/anxiety are very closely tied together. It can even be entirely subconscious, you might not be very well aware of it on a cognitive level. I recommend stretching & meditation, in addition to your other exercise. Being able to relax your muscle tone physically will bring you mental/emotional benefits as well. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/02/17 04:33 PM |
| 41 | How would you deal with this?lol so her and her friend are doing blow while watching the kid? This girl's no good man. | /r/askTRP | 17/02/17 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Semi boners when flirting?Are you 14 by chance? | /r/askTRP | 16/02/17 09:48 PM |
| 5 | My guide to Raves/Clubs and why everyone should try to go to one.imo if you hate that environment then that negative energy is going to come across and hamper your game. I would suggest figuring out somewhere else to look. Surely you have some type of music that you enjoy? Go to venues where you can listen to it. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/02/17 09:04 PM |
| 1 | My guide to Raves/Clubs and why everyone should try to go to one.I'm in my late 20s and depression/anxiety has been hitting so many of my friends (and myself) hard. Thankfully I'm beating it. Sober now. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/02/17 09:02 PM |
| 5 | My guide to Raves/Clubs and why everyone should try to go to one.Most warehouse parties I've been to in LA had bars where they sold alcohol and water. Also oftentimes shit like coconut water. Some are legal, some aren't. Most of the big legal commercial festivals in CA provide free water filling stations. Rave nowadays connotes shitty EDM, neon clothes, and a massive commercial festival. The preferred nomenclature with the older house and techno crowd seems to be "undergrounds," "warehouse parties," "desert parties," (for the underground, often illegal type o… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/02/17 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Most RedPill/Chad thing you have ever done?Most alpha thing you can do | /r/askTRP | 16/02/17 05:45 PM |
| 2 | Be Your Own Personal TrainerIf you hire a personal trainer for "motivation" you're going about it entirely wrong. But if you hire a good personal trainer to learn from, then that can rapidly accelerate your fitness journey. Especially if you've got fucked up posture or motor patterns that need fixing. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/02/17 05:40 PM |
| -11 | Best replies after failed kiss?"Don't act like you're not into it" said in your best Ron Burgundy impression. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/17 06:29 AM |
| -2 | Why You Shouldn't Start With Starting StrengthThis comment is some crudely reductionist bullshit. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/02/17 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Why You Shouldn't Start With Starting StrengthTHANK YOU. Starting Strength and similar programs are absolutely terrible for sedentary adult beginners. Heavy compound lifts are great, but you want "joint independence before interdependence." You should be able to effectively isolate movement at each joint before you can best use them together in a compound movement. I think that the bodyweightfitness subreddit wiki's recommended routine is the best introductory program. The prehab/mobility work and bodyline drills are especially important. I… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/02/17 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Why You Shouldn't Start With Starting StrengthGo to physical therapy, you'll get some of the best qualified personal training (long as you shop for a good PT) and your health insurance will pay for it. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/02/17 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Fellow TRPers, what are things that you still struggle with?I'm having the same struggle. I broke up with her because my head was more clear at the time and I took stock of all the red flags. But FUCK she drove me wild. She would turn me into a ravenous fuck machine, spending entire weekends in bed with her. And this dry spell of mine ain't helping. | /r/askTRP | 15/02/17 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Marcus Aurelius said - “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”That is a shame. That's my favorite type of content here. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/02/17 10:07 PM |
| 3 | Marcus Aurelius said - “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”The Obstacle is the Way is a very pragmatic guide that illustrates many of the points from Meditations with real-world success stories. It's a great read, especially paired with Meditations. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/02/17 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Methods of voluntary hardship?Ever pull your phone out without thinking? Stop doing that. Be present. It's not exactly a "hardship" but it can be an avoidant coping mechanism (even to the smallest of negative feelings, like being bored). You take it away and many people experience some discomfort. It's like an itch they can no longer scratch. You have the opportunity to practice meditation and presence in every moment. | /r/askTRP | 09/02/17 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Low T or Depression?I had my exercise, diet, and sleep all on point. Still had issues with depression and anxiety. I've been making a huge comeback the past couple of months with neurofeedback, therapy, meditation, and wellbutrin (in order of importance). The meditation goes hand-in-hand with the neurofeedback (it's extremely similar). Neurofeedback just makes it a lot easier to progress your meditative practice. The Wellbutrin definitely helped provide a bump in my baseline energy and mood. One benefit of Wellbutr… | /r/askTRP | 09/02/17 05:13 AM |
| 1 | My personal journey from blue to red and back again.Power. They get to exercise their social capital. Middle school is when they really start to realize and explore this social phenomena, so they're a little more brutish about it. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/02/17 08:59 PM |
| 1 | My girlfriend's drunk friend tried to justify her slutty behavior and the hamster went into overdrive. What women say is not an indication of what they think.What do you mean combined? It was a high school, grades 9-12, boys and girls. Close to 5000 students total. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/02/17 03:27 AM |
| 5 | How to not feel jealousy when your woman are flirting with other guys in front of you? How should you react to this in front of others?Do not be phased. Instill some dread—go have fun, chat up and flirt with some other girls. Depending on the severity of her actions, just quietly file it away under "reasons why I should temper my commitment to this woman." | /r/askTRP | 05/02/17 12:24 AM |
| 3 | My girlfriend's drunk friend tried to justify her slutty behavior and the hamster went into overdrive. What women say is not an indication of what they think.lol my graduating class in SoCal had over 1000 students. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/02/17 11:50 PM |
| 2 | The paradoxical state of the redpill. Newbies must read.Dude, bodyweight fitness is the fucking shit. The motor control and body awareness that you develop is on an entirely different level compared to weightlifting. The skillful movements are so much more interesting and challenging. You gain so much physical autonomy. And it can get you absolutely jacked with an amazingly balanced physique. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/02/17 04:32 AM |
| 13 | The Red Pill RightTRP is much more libertarian than neo-conservative, imo. And libertarian is actually "classical liberalism." Neo-liberalism just bastardized the term. Think of Ron & Rand Paul's stances... marriage should not be defined by the state, legalize all drugs, etc. These are not "tradition-based morals." The abortion debate gets a whole lot more nuanced, though. Unfortunately libertarianism is far too logical and abstract to ever compete with populism. It's realist pragmatism, but it takes some intelli… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/02/17 11:22 PM |
| 11 | First date with instagram "celebrity" update.To be honest, it sounds like the date went incredibly well, and you just have a really negative outlook that you need to work on. She even suggested a second meetup! Girls don't do this unless they're interested. I think this could have gone entirely different if you had a more positive and self-assured mindset. The thing I didn't anticipate, and it felt a bit overwhelming, it's that when you arrive in a venue with a girl like that, you're scrutinized You're not being scrutinized! Being with a h… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/02/17 05:56 PM |
| 2 | First date with instagram "celebrity" update.Haha, I work out at the same type of gym. But the clients are mostly older. Still, it's a pretty dope environment. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/02/17 05:40 PM |
| 7 | Do not neglect your lower back muscles!Holy shit, that whole video has some seriously good explanations and cues. Definitely watch the whole thing. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/02/17 06:31 AM |
| 6 | Do not neglect your lower back muscles!Hip thrusts are the shit. Unfortunately I'm working on fixing some hip impingement at the moment. I was bummed because I couldn't squat or deadlift heavy anymore...but then I discovered hip thrusts. Not only do they hammer my posterior chain without aggravating my hip, but they're doing a lot to help fix it. Doing an isometric pause at the top of the rep provides a different stimulus than a deadlift. At the top of a dead lift, your joints stack so that your glutes no longer have to work as hard … | /r/TheRedPill | 02/02/17 06:18 AM |
| 2 | "It is the mind that maketh good of ill, that maketh wretch or happy, rich or poor." - Edmund Spenser. Your frame of mind determines your reality. In the face of challenges to that frame of mind, stand with your feet firmly rooted in the ground, and your reality will become contagious."Nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." - Shakespeare | /r/TheRedPill | 28/01/17 08:59 PM |
| 0 | What is the best gym resource / guide to get a lean and well shaped upper body?Recommended routine in the /r/bodyweightfitness wiki, imo. | /r/askTRP | 27/01/17 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Volunteering in a primarycare doctors office for 2 years opened my eyes...Not really, at least not at first. You really need to have a trained specialist who knows what they're doing to target specific types of brain waves and parts of the brain. There's one clinic near me that will do an initial brain scan and session(s), and they can set you up with a protocol that you can follow on your own either with their equipment (or feasibly at home if you purchase the equipment yourself I guess). There are also consumer neurofeedback devices on the market, but supposedly the… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/17 06:22 AM |
| 0 | Volunteering in a primarycare doctors office for 2 years opened my eyes...I am experiencing extremely encouraging results from neurofeedback. I find it really similar to meditation, but amplified. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/01/17 11:59 PM |
| 0 | Volunteering in a primarycare doctors office for 2 years opened my eyes...Thank you for the thoughtful input. My mental health really fell apart over the past year. Primary disorder of ADHD-PI, along with binge eating, social anxiety, depression, and an extensive history of substance abuse. Exercise routine, diet, and sleep habits were already on-point. I'm long off the harder drugs from my past, but my addictive tendencies would still manifest with pot and binge eating. I'm about 2.5 weeks into wellbutrin 150mg XL. It seems that it's starting to have an anti-depressa… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/01/17 11:58 PM |
| 0 | Volunteering in a primarycare doctors office for 2 years opened my eyes...Do you have an opinion on Wellbutrin? | /r/TheRedPill | 17/01/17 07:04 PM |
| 1 | I'm about to turn down a job at Google because of a girlfriendDude, having Google on your resume basically makes you a made man. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/17 07:04 AM |
| 2 | Girl mentioned that her fantasy was to have forced sexHeh, my last girl had a rape fantasy. She liked to fight back until I hit, choked, and wrestled her into submission. I nutted so hard, my granddad felt it. | /r/askTRP | 22/12/16 05:31 AM |
| 1 | You Must Master Your Body To Master Your MindIs there one in specific that you're looking into? This has been a consideration of mine as well...sort of as an alternative to rehab. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/12/16 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with this girl and her shit testsYeah it's just a shitty tease/joke/shit test. Just ignore. "Okay great, I'll see you at 6 then." | /r/askTRP | 12/12/16 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Should I try medication?Hey man, I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. The past year has been really trying for me as well. I'm 27 now. I'm 5 years clean from heroin and benzos. I've still continued to struggle with my addictive tendencies, thought. Pot and binge eating are still a bit of an issue for me. I've got ADHD, although I've been able to mostly manage it and get by in my life without meds. But the past couple of years it seems to have gotten worse. The worst part seems to be the chronic stress that accu… | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Hitting the gym 6 days a week too much?A certain volume of working out is only "too much" when your performance starts to degrade because you're not able to recover in time for the next workout. This is called "overreach," and it's actually a great thing to pursue for gains (especially in trained individuals), so long as you properly program a deload period afterwards. For the deload, you can either do so with decreased frequency, intensity, or volume. So, try it and see. PPL 6 days a week is pretty common/popular. If you start to ov… | /r/askTRP | 10/12/16 07:49 AM |
| 2 | Rape - "She liked the attention"lol, my black friend liked to joke "white is right!" when talking about his preference in women. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/11/16 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Is this routine sustainable ?There's a brand new version of it coming out in the next couple weeks I think, so I would hold out until then if you want to buy it. It's specifically geared towards bodyweight strength training (esp. for higher level gymnastics skills), but a ton of the content is universally applicable, esp. on programming. | /r/askTRP | 19/11/16 01:48 AM |
| 2 | Is this routine sustainable ?You're cool, you just need to program in some deloading and re-feeds. With a decade of training you'll want to apply more advanced workout programming with periodization, training cycles, etc. I learned about it from the book Overcoming Gravity but you can certainly google around to find what you need. | /r/askTRP | 18/11/16 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Advice to slim down more?You should be seeing a physical therapist about your back, not a chiro. | /r/askTRP | 17/11/16 08:53 PM |
| 2 | If you're just starting to lift, don't sweat the details.Yes. If you have to twist your body, that's a failed rep. Stop before you get to that point. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/11/16 09:15 AM |
| 1 | What does it mean when a woman leans into you while walking on the street? Is it a reliable sign that she likes you? [xpost /r/seduction]Yes. Tell her to take your arm. | /r/askTRP | 14/11/16 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Seeking Comfort/DiscomfortBurnout happens from cumulative stress. You need to be wary of the early symptoms, and preemptively stop it from becoming a bigger problem. Note what you've accomplished so far, be happy for yourself, and take a break. Just like with lifting, you need to allow for some recovery. Periodize. As these new efforts become ingrained habits over time, your work capacity will increase. Don't be afraid to start out small (1 new habit at a time) and leave plenty of room for steady advancement over time. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/16 06:50 PM |
| 2 | The only post you need regarding motivation.Try out bodyweight calisthenics in a park. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/16 04:00 AM |
| 2 | Best exercises for fucking and stamina?For stamina: rowing machine, hands down. It'll turn you into a jackhammer. Train both HIIT (high-intensity interval training) and LSD (long slow distance). Deadlifts and weighted carries are great for being able to effortlessly pick her up and toss her around, too. | /r/askTRP | 14/11/16 01:00 AM |
| 3 | #NoNothingNov 2016: Give Up Vices, Forge New Habits.#NoNothingNov Giving Up Pot Social media (Reddit, Facebook, Instagram) Binging New Habit Daily AM & PM meditation | /r/TheRedPill | 02/11/16 01:59 AM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on "slut shaming"?It comes down to biology. Sex is high risk for the female, and low risk for the male. Before modern medicine, pregnancy was highly dangerous. And once the baby is born, there's another mouth to feed. There's a lot at stake. That is why women are the gatekeepers of sex. If a woman is not discerning of her sexual partners, it communicates low value. You also have the fact that the male cannot be 100% certain the offspring is his. But he wants to be as sure as he reasonably can before he provides h… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/10/16 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Working Out/r/bodyweightfitness, see the wiki recommended routine. Plenty you can do without equipment, although access to a pull-up bar, parallel bars, and some rings would be ideal. | /r/askTRP | 25/10/16 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Squat mobilityLook up sliding side lunges. Good eccentric exercise for your adductors. Helps them become comfortable with lengthening under load. | /r/askTRP | 24/10/16 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Workout Frequency ScheduleI do a two-day split: Day 1: push and pull. Pull ups, dips, rows, push-ups. Supersetted in opposing pairs. Day 2: legs and shoulders. Alternate between deadlifts, squats, and single leg work. 2 core exercises every workout. I never isolate arms, and they're plenty sizeable. Your priorities are out of wack imo if you're isolating arms and not doing any push or pull. And if you do isolate arms, that should be at the end of your workout. | /r/askTRP | 24/10/16 10:59 PM |
| 2 | New to TRP. Previously was making 3d sexual animations as a hobby. Wondering if I shouldn't?I would try animating other subject matter. Then you can still enjoy it as a hobby and share it with others to build your SMV, rather than detract from it. | /r/askTRP | 14/10/16 11:21 PM |
| 3 | Being a "lone wolf" will absolutely destroy you on the inside, see the value of a social life and acquaintances before it is too late!I'm big into the underground house music scene. Picked up DJing this past year, too. I love that music. But I'm having a bit of a crisis. I need to get sober. I look around at all my friends, and many of them are simply turning into full-blown drug addicts. I love them to death, but they're not a good influence. Not sure where to go from here. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/10/16 05:52 AM |
| 1 | OvertrainingOnce your performance starts to actually degrade, that is over reaching. If you're intermediate or advanced, this is might be desired. You'll do a deload at this point, and then come out stronger. Over training is when you continue through the over reaching, and your performance continues to degrade. Over-reach followed by recovery is good. But over training and not allowing for recovery will have negative impact. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/16 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Emotional eatingOvereating is a proper disorder of addiction, and you ought to seek help from a mental health professional. I'm about 5 years clean from heroin but binging on food is still a very real problem for me. You can also try checking out Overeaters Anonymous. Hopefully you would be able to meet people who have overcome this problem, for a source of inspiration and guidance. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/16 03:44 AM |
| 8 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Holy shit, I already use Skyn, they're amazing. Time to whip out the coconut oil. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 07:22 PM |
| 37 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Going in raw with coconut oil is goddamn amazing. The best lube ever. Unfortunately it cannot be used with condoms. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Started RP journey ~8 weeks ago. Hurt rotator cuff at gym, not sure how to improve.Go see a physical therapist. There is plenty you can (and should) be doing exercise-wise to rehab yourself. Working out doesn't stop here. | /r/askTRP | 05/10/16 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Shit Test: you'd be cute with my friendDo she got a booty tho? | /r/askTRP | 04/10/16 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Broke my jaw. Ways to create interest without having to talk?Strong eye contact, body language, kino, and novel ways to communicate (e.g. gestures, writing on a notepad, typing out on a phone, etc). I think this could actually be played strongly in your favor, as long as you're confident enough. Novel communication is fun. | /r/askTRP | 04/10/16 05:08 AM |
| 2 | On lifting vs alternative forms of exercisesomething magical about dumbbells and barbells? Just that it's easier to progressively load. Oh and barbell squats and deadlifts. I generally prefer bodyweight movements as well. More fun and interesting. Feels good for my posture, too. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/16 08:10 AM |
| 1 | Deadlifts and Squats for aesthetics?This. They are foundational, functional movements. You don't have to go crazy with the weight but you should definitely do them to maintain healthy movement function. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/16 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Female participant in Swedish Paradise Hotel 2016 slaps a male participant and then walks away, wailing with crocodile tears pouring out of her eyes.Any suggestions on how to find a psychologist like that? I've never been able to find one that I really vibed with. Trying to search for one is daunting but I need some help. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/09/16 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Birthday coming up and thinking about inviting a female friend to hangout...Just the two of you? That whole scenario just screams "date." | /r/askTRP | 21/09/16 02:59 AM |
| 1 | As someone who missed out on it, I want to party hard but I don't want to hang around undergraduates/college kids. What other crowds of older people go hard when partying? Where do I find them?Music festivals | /r/askTRP | 11/09/16 07:39 AM |
| 6 | Some problems with TRPTRP is not a moral position. It is a framework for describing and explaining sexual dynamics. I agree that the whiney anger phase bitching about women can be tiresome, though. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/09/16 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Gaming women you see everyday: myth or scarcely known success stories?There was a barista at the Starbucks I always went to that I ended hooking up with for a bit. She was always very flirty with me, jokingly giving me shit about my drink, etc. One day I just asked if she wanted to hang out that weekend. She was also 18 and our SMV ratio was in my favor. I think the takeaway here is to just read the body language and social cues from your interactions, and escalate accordingly. I think if you can do this effectively you can game them in a way that's low pressure f… | /r/askTRP | 09/09/16 08:05 AM |
| 5 | Taking GayLubeOil's Advice: My Authentic MGTOW ExperienceThanks for the kind words. Mastery over oneself, cultivating discipline, and self-improvement are what I enjoy most about TRP. I've certainly learned a lot over the years. I had a good experience with suboxone therapy. It really can be life changing. I was able to continue working full-time while getting sober because of it. Intensive outpatient group rehab was helpful as well. I never cared too much for NA/AA, but I don't knock it. It was just a little too much like church for my taste. It's co… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/16 07:46 AM |
| 1 | I open the door into the gym and...IMHO the recommended routine from the /r/bodyweightfitness is the best for absolute beginners because it includes mobility and prehab work spelled out in the program, and the bodyline drills are extremely beneficial as well. I would recommend incorporating barbell squats and deadlifts in the program. The wiki goes over it. | /r/askTRP | 09/09/16 06:28 AM |
| 2 | Got girls number at gym. Drinks vs hike.If you want to date her then a hike would be perfect. I wouldn't expect any other friends to be there. Do try to make it one-on-one if that's not the case. | /r/askTRP | 09/09/16 06:23 AM |
| 5 | (Serious) How to get over yellow fever?Wtf, why is this a problem. Own that shit. Let it be known. If you're a white dude, you're in luck. Asian girls love their white men. Live it up. Your friends are just busting your balls. Respond with amused mastery, agree and amplify, etc. This is what friends do to have fun with one another. It also sharpens you for other social interactions, including gaming chicks. This is a good thing. | /r/askTRP | 09/09/16 06:18 AM |
| 5 | Taking GayLubeOil's Advice: My Authentic MGTOW ExperienceBeing a little over 5 years clean from heroin, I'm curious about your business. Is it just regular rehab services, in an under-served market? Or is there something special that differentiates it? Can you speak to that? Thank you for the post, and congratulations on the hard work. I hope things go well. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/16 06:05 AM |
| 0 | Can't find enough information on working out with a back sprainRest Ice Compression Elevation (RICE) Definitely go on hiatus with the lifting. Do not lift through pain. Consider seeing a doctor. Ideally, a physical therapist. Regular doctors don't know too much about this stuff. Wading or low intensity swimming in a pool could be helpful. You probably ought to clear that with a doctor, though. You can't really assess injuries over the internet like this. | /r/askTRP | 07/09/16 02:24 AM |
| 26 | Women on Tinder in a nutshellThis isn't about becoming a man. | /r/becomeaman | 28/08/16 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Want a different career but have no idea whatI don't know much about sales, just that you can make a lot of money and that those specializations can play off of your experience as a developer. You could also try looking into consulting. Perhaps having increased ownership and autonomy would be more invigorating. And you can pick and choose projects that interest you. Whatever you do, your first priority should be to stack up as much money as you can so that you can afford to take some risk in changing things. That's what I'm trying to focus… | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Want a different career but have no idea whatIf you're good with people and would like something lucrative, perhaps you could pursue recruiting or technical sales. I'm a senior developer who's less enthused about their work as well. I've become really passionate about fitness and corrective exercise/physical therapy after going through years of PT myself. But it would take ~7 years of schooling to become a physical therapist, and it would pay substantially less than what I make as a software engineer. I think maybe at some point if I can p… | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Multiple repeated injuries - can't lift, how do I boost my SMV without lifting?You go to physical therapy and rehab those injuries. | /r/askTRP | 23/08/16 03:04 AM |
| 1 | How to learn no BS massage fast? Feet, tight spots, trapezius muscle massage using hands, elbows, knuckles (? maybe, no idea), every day objects etc. It is not a question about self massage (foam rollers, tennis balls, theracane etc.) though...I know your question says you're not interested in self massage, but I've gotten really fucking good at massage just from working on myself a ton. I have a couple different foam rollers (one firm, one soft), lacrosse balls, this wooden massage tool, and a foam ball. You learn to read the muscle and figure out how it responds to different types of pressure. From this, I've just intuitively applied it when giving massages in using my hands, knuckles, forearms, and elbows. Sometimes I will lie down… | /r/askTRP | 22/08/16 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Is There An App (Mac And IPhone) I Can Use To Trigger A YouTube Video Or Spotify Song To Play At A Specific Time?You can play audio files saved to your phone for your alarm. | /r/becomeaman | 21/08/16 06:45 AM |
| 3 | Another myth that is being advocated in TRP: "Getting laid is a symptom of success"This is me right now. What social activities/hobbies did you start picking up? | /r/TheRedPill | 21/08/16 01:20 AM |
| 3 | It's All DopamineYou know, honey actually has more sugar than pure maple syrup. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/16 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Struggling With Sugar AddictionTry out intermittent fasting. Gradually increase your fast (i.e. rather than having breakfast at your normal time, have it 1-2 hours later), until you're fasting for a good window--I like to go for anywhere from 12-16 hours. A 16 hour fast + 8 hour feeding window is pretty standard. This should help normalize hormones and whatnot, if I recall correctly. Still cut out the refined sugar, though. Have some fruit instead. I like to have a little bit of fruit with my breakfast, and immediately before… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/16 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Can't work out. Been dealing with many injuries for the past 2 years. What the fuck do I do?You need to find a better physical therapist. Wrist pain and elbow tendonitis were what first brought me to physical therapy, when I was about your age. They were pretty easily fixed. Then when I was 25 I started up another stint in physical therapy, this time for chronic back pain in my upper right back. A whole slew of chronic postural issues were unraveled. 2 years and a month later and I'm still in physical therapy. But I've made consistent progress and have achieved a pretty great level of … | /r/askTRP | 19/08/16 02:18 AM |
| 2 | Loneliness - What is it really?I'm enjoying this book at the moment. I read Meditations immediately beforehand, and there are many striking similarities in the ideas put forth. The Power of Now is much more cohesive, whereas Meditations reads like a series of brief notes Aurelius wrote to himself (which is what it is). I absolutely recommend reading it. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/08/16 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Go LiftI would recommend starting with the recommended routine in /r/bodyweightfitness. I prefer it over the beginner strength programs (Starting Strength, Stronglifts, etc.) because it has good warmup and prehab routines spelled out as a part of the program. Also, the bodyline drills are extremely beneficial for posture and have carryover to every single other lift. I would also recommend integrating barbell squats and deadlifts into the program. This is described in the wiki. Once you make some gains… | /r/askTRP | 17/08/16 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Fat and depressed, but some serious questions, please help me!!I like intermittent fasting. Also, you have the money, pay for a meal prep service. I get 10 meals a week from MyFitFoods (5 lunches, 5 dinners), works out to about $10 a meal. It's easier to stay on track when you have high quality meals that just need to be microwaved. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/08/16 04:59 AM |
| 4 | I've lived the beta life. It sucks. I want out, here is my plan. Critique and berate me.I only read the first few lines. You're thinking too much (I'm guilty of the same). Thinking about everything all at once can be overwhelming. Take consistent small steps in the right direction. Stop thinking about the monumental effort it's gonna take to scale the mountain. Just fucking move, one step at a time. | /r/askTRP | 12/08/16 09:38 PM |
| 8 | AF/BB not always a dichotomyThe combined AF/BB package is the female dream. It's just that when you lack one aspect, she will be inclined to seek out the other elsewhere. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/16 05:05 PM |
| 2 | How do you manage your expectations in relation to time? IE urgency without anxiety.I'm really enjoying reading The Power of Now. It provides guidance on how to let go of the past and future, and focus on the present moment. I think you might find that it answers a lot of your questions posed here. Sometimes the language in the book can get a little flowery, but altogether I'm finding its message genuinely insightful and encouraging. | /r/askTRP | 12/08/16 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Should I inform Potential Plate of Rewards for Good Behaviour?Ugh and it's PHP, too | /r/askTRP | 09/08/16 07:02 AM |
| 1 | 15 year old here. Need advice on lifting.Lifting would be great. I would recommend the /r/bodyweightfitness wiki's recommended routine for starting. It's highly balanced, you will learn some basic prehab, mobility work, and gain some basic body awareness. The prehab and mobility work is spelled out for you as a part of the warmup, which is why I like this program over any other for absolute beginners. The bodyline drills are a big plus, too. Once you've made some gains there, you can figure out where to go next. I like to incorporate a… | /r/askTRP | 09/08/16 06:45 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys handle being jealous of other dudes?The ones you perceive to be "better" than you are probably the people that you should be surrounding yourself with. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/16 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Met with a Tinder girl. Too aggressive?This one's a little tricky. I think playfully ignoring her movie plans and leading her back to your car/place is the right move the first time she resists. But the second time around, your insistence starts to come off as thirsty. I think I would have joked, "already trying to introduce me to your friends, huh? I know, I'm pretty great, right?" And then lament the fact that I can't join because of ____. Or maybe even don't offer an excuse: "go have fun with your friends. I'll be seeing you soon … | /r/askTRP | 07/08/16 09:32 PM |
| 25 | Dad had "The talk" with me about marriage and kids.But god damn if kebabs aren't tasty | /r/TheRedPill | 06/08/16 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Got the whole house to myself the next 2 weeksDon't listen to that drivel. Maintain a good relationship with your parents. There's more to gain from that if they are good people, as you say. | /r/askTRP | 05/08/16 09:02 PM |
| 3 | What music do you guys listen to?I like house music and hip hop or rap. Anything with a beat to groove to. | /r/askTRP | 29/07/16 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Have you successfully made close friends after 30 that you didn't meet at work?cultural activities Any examples? I like music a lot but people I through that tend to be into partying and whatnot. Trying to get away from that and meet people who are little more healthy and productive. | /r/askTRP | 29/07/16 09:41 PM |
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