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Glad to meet you. Agreed with everything you said. I have abundance mentality with my current gf and while I would love for her to be enthusiastic about my vision, and would be sad to next her, it would be the right thing to do.
/r/RPChristians14/01/19 06:45 AM
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Yeah unfortunately you’re correct. Just gives more reason to vet hard for a conservative, submissive, and teachable woman while at the same time being a man with strong frame. Do that and there’s a lower probability you’ll need to escalate. As for folks that are already married and struggling with this, I’m afraid as a single guy I can’t give more thoughts than those that I’ve already given.
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 10:13 PM
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I think you can enforce it. You enforce it like any other command that God gives: first help cultivate her relationship with God and see if God addresses her about it. If not, then you address it with her. If she still won’t listen, then escalate to a group of 2-3. If she still won’t listen, then escalate to church leadership. The obvious difficulty here is if church leadership follows feminism more than Scripture, then the final escalation won’t work. It’s also important to establish this conve…
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 09:13 PM
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Are you drawing a parallel to the passage in 1 Cor 7 by saying that Paul's command is "against our will"? If so, I disagree because it's a command, not "forcing". If you honor God you'll follow His commands. Same goes for evangelism. God commanded us to go make disciples of all nations. If we honor God then we should follow that command.
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 07:33 PM
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Based on 1 Cor 7, I think it's the latter: a right that each spouse maintains that the other simply and sinfully refuses to comply with at times. It should not have to be earned, but is something the husband can get when he desires, within reason, from his wife (and vice versa). What's tricky here is that the feminist culture for women hate the idea that a woman's body belongs to someone else, therefore requiring the man to have a strong frame and lead his wife out of the mainstream culture and …
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 07:42 AM
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Thanks so much for your feedback. I knew I was missing things :) What's missing here is how this affects the privileges/responsibilities dynamic. You're adding more responsibilities - that a man must be strong spiritually, physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially. Agreed. I was thinking about this as I was writing this but couldn't honestly think a man can get more privileges except by earning it. Isn't that why we talk so much about non-negotiable attraction? Based on 105, you can't chan…
/r/RPChristians19/12/18 06:59 PM
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Good question. I was thinking about separating this into a separate post because I figured my original post was long enough, but I'll give it here: I'll give my thoughts from an individual perspective and from an institutional perspective. TLDR - Two ways to approach this practically are at the individual level and institutional level. Individual level - Men need to be strong to earn privilege. Institutional level - Provide a compelling case and create a plan that addresses the erosion of a man'…
/r/RPChristians19/12/18 01:32 AM
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It's interesting to note that the Bible would say that the husband has authority over his wife's body and they also say that you should not deprive each other except for mutual consent... Let that sink in for a moment. Can you imagine if on social media a husband said, "I have authority over your body " to his wife. He would be banned from social media, called a misogynist and hated by the mainstream media. You are absolutely right. But feminists (and Christians that aren't explicitly conservati…
/r/RPChristians18/12/18 11:54 PM
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Thanks! I'm hoping it can help provide a framework for husband/wife relational dynamics. re: secular vs Christian: I'll make an edit in the TLDR to make the Christian point clearer from the get-go. The beginning is intended as neither specifically secular nor Christian. I believe that a framework of responsibilities and privileges applies to both.
/r/RPChristians18/12/18 11:38 PM
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Agreed. This is a great sub and I'm so glad it exists. Welcome!
/r/RPChristians18/12/18 10:36 PM
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Wow this is really good. Going to chew on this a bit more and read 104. Thanks
/r/RPChristians08/10/18 06:32 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. It's satisfies her desire to spend time with me and allows me to move forward in my mission and life. Thanks
/r/RPChristians05/10/18 12:36 PM
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First get a job and lift. Second: Did you ever call any of your hang outs a date? Did you ever say you were interested and wanted to be more than friends? This sounds like a classic case of just “hanging out” and then being friend zoned.
/r/RPChristians30/09/18 03:12 AM
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This is a great post. I was let go from my first job out of college but I saved up a good emergency fund. I was not worried at all the next day, killed my interviews in the following months, and found a great new job. Later when my company had taken a turn for the worse, I voluntarily left my job, without another job lined up, because I had a large amount of savings. I interviewed with confidence knowing I wouldn’t starve and could pay rent, and found an even better job. Emergency funds are grea…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/18 01:51 AM
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Interesting, thanks for sharing. I don’t have any problems with the commenting on the girl, but the abuse of women part does concern me. The authorities should have been involved right when the allegations of domestic violence were made.
/r/RPChristians27/05/18 12:18 AM
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This is so valuable. Saved.
/r/RPChristians15/05/18 04:53 AM
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Just to clarify, you mean “doesn’t have a u turn” correct? Cause that’s what I mean.
/r/RPChristians12/05/18 01:21 AM
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I like to keep texting light. We should be pretty occupied and driven men that we’re not spending a lot of time communicating important things over text. We have other more important things to do. Therefore for me, I like to keep texts either logistical or short, playful, and flirty.
/r/RPChristians12/05/18 01:19 AM
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For sure. One thing I forgot to add is that the on ramp is very obvious. It might not be “fornication” but the only path you’re heading down is for the highway. So I avoid the on ramps. I too am a dating man, 24, so this is top of mind. I appreciate you bringing this topic up.
/r/RPChristians12/05/18 01:17 AM
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I think of kino like driving. There are streets and then there are highways. Streets don’t need on ramps, but highways do. Streets = hand holding, resting hand on leg, holding waist, a light kiss On ramp = making out, groping Highway = intercourse, reserved for marriage. Using this analogy, I think it depends how far you take that kino and how fast you escalate. It’s obvious when the kino will lead to fornication, so don’t do those things. But I think a healthy amount of touching before marriage…
/r/RPChristians12/05/18 01:10 AM
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Lol Psalm 37:4? This man doesn’t know how to read Scripture in context. Actually, he doesn’t even need to look in the surrounding context. The verse itself doesn’t mention wives at all. Plus the one you are to take delight in is the LORD, which is an authority figure. Wives are not to be the husband’s authority. Poor boy.
/r/RPChristians08/05/18 01:37 AM
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I find myself in the same situation. I’m turning 25 soon and would love to hear others’ wisdom.
/r/RPChristians06/05/18 03:27 AM
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u/just_trixia read this man’s post
/r/RPChristians04/05/18 04:05 AM
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Given that if he were to stay at his current employer for 2 more years he would have all of his student loans forgiven - a windfall of over $100,000. Neither of them have jobs lined up in Spain ... she just wants to go and he's going to ruin the last 8-ish years of working toward this loan forgiveness program to accommodate her whim. Don't be that guy. He's changed and is no longer the same person I once knew - at least not when she's around. When it's just us, he's back to normal, but that will…
/r/RPChristians27/04/18 08:00 PM
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I love this.
/r/RPChristians27/02/18 03:26 AM
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This sounds awesome, and your results speak for themselves. Thanks for the recommendation, I'll check it out.
/r/RPChristians21/01/18 10:14 PM
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Thanks for the perspective!
/r/RPChristians22/11/17 08:07 PM
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But being a gentleman and getting the door for her isn't necessarily a respect-killer because you can still hold that mindset of not pedestalizing her and as long as all your other behaviors convey that, it doesn't matter. IMO it's a display of masculinity- the man is capable of doing more things, and so he does. I loved the way you framed this here. Going to think about chivalry more this way. Of course, it borders on moralism if avoiding physical contact isn't done solely with the intention of…
/r/RPChristians22/11/17 08:07 PM
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Thanks for the response. All of the above things are in check so I know I'm a catch. I do serve through playing on the worship team and supporting my friends in general. I have goals I set and ruthlessly work on my self development. What I'm wondering is more for RP theory, as it applies to dating Christian women. Given that I know I'm attractive and not unattractive, what do you think about points 3 & 4 I listed in my post?
/r/RPChristians22/11/17 03:36 PM
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Thanks for writing this. Here is a start for me. I definitely need to meditate and iterate on this multiple times before I set it in stone. Vision I believe that business is a systematic way of creating value, and I think when we create value for others, we are loving them. Therefore, I want to live in a world where business is done efficiently, scalably, honestly, and selflessly to love the world. This incorporates the 3 greats in the following way: Love God - I serve God through my work, so I …
/r/RPChristians19/11/17 06:40 PM
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I'm actually reading WISNIFG right now! Great book so far.
/r/RPChristians22/09/17 03:47 PM
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The Don't Overdo It section really resonated with me. I have a huge desire to see the lost saved, but I was always confused why people were spending so much time in church instead of being in the world. Over time I realized that it was such a comfortable default state to fall into: today's "Christian" culture makes us feel good because it's safe, predictable, and doesn't expect much from us. As I saw this I made it a point to make sure I only spend the necessary amount of time in church and use …
/r/RPChristians22/09/17 05:22 AM
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Thanks for your thoughtful response. I do have a question about "institutions" and "fellowship of people": Stop treating the church like an institution and treat it like a fellowship of individuals with a common purpose and you'll see more consistency. But this means giving up control over success. Institutions function very well in western society. After all, it's western society's model for success. Interestingly, if you look at the Christian Church in other countries that don't follow a capit…
/r/RPChristians12/08/17 11:46 PM
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