BearBearChooey Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
40	For what?		BearBearChooey	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/22 04:34 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	What’s The Point? Lol you gotta be like dad cmon time for me to give you some wisdom.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/23 06:57 PM
3	What’s The Point? This was the hardest and weirdest part for me. How can you love someone and build up all that equity with them then one day it’s completely all gone? It’s like the flip of a switch and you’re strangers. This is what scares me about getting into another LTR. Loving someone so much, giving them your heart and it could all be for nothing in the end. I guess it’s better to have loved than not loved, right?	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/23 06:53 PM
2	Why don't fathers tell sons not to get married? Great point on do not settle and do not treat it just like a step in life you need to do. Feel like most men fall into this “hamster wheel” trap and “check off boxes on a list” trap when it comes to life. We are told to get married in life, we are told to have children in life, so we set out to do those things and check off those boxes on how we are told “life is suppose to go”. So that means we may settle for one of the few women who show us all that original love at a young age, even though in…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/09/23 03:07 AM
2	Is a self-described hoe phase any reason to be concerned? Hook up culture isn’t helping in that regard.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/09/23 08:38 PM
1	How’s the dating world in 2023? I’m late but I will say potentially old friends/acquaintances are an underrated one here too. Once it was known to one girl that I was divorced, all of a sudden her and I were chatting over multiple days. You never know some girls back in high school or college who maybe had a slight crush on ya and you were oblivious to it (or didn’t care you because you were too busy with your ex wife ha!) This is actually how my best friend and his wife got together too (old friends in high school) and they h…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/23 04:16 AM
1	Life Gets Better. Have Hope. Don’t Give Up. “It's so true You should never be with someone who doesn't want to be with you” 100% true. If divorce taught me one thing, it’s to NEVER settle and to fall in love with someone who WANTS you and not with someone who NEEDS you. Yes there is a difference between WANT and NEED. I feel a lot of people feel the NEED to get into a relationship because of FEAR (they fear being lonely, fear never falling in love. etc. With that, they settle and it leads to a disaster eventually because it’s truly not wh…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/23 03:49 AM
3	First week on my own without the wife and kids after separation. Feel unmoored … undisciplined If you are close with your own dad or have a few close guy friends or brothers, definitely tell them man. Sounds like you are looking forward to telling them, so just do it. Originally I thought not telling anyone would be good, but I am super glad I decided to tell some of my close friends I consider brothers and my dad. Felt a huge weight lifted off my chest and the extra support is so great during this tough time. Try to find a hobby and make it a set part of your routine. The gym/lifting is …	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/22 05:36 AM
1	For what? Yeah definitely open to chat anytime!	/r/Divorce_Men	22/11/22 01:55 AM
6	For what? Oh there is, I confronted her about the emotional affair I caught and she did admit to it. This is why we got divorced as I can’t even look at her the same anymore. Just sucks we have a kid involved in it all. We have had a few talks over the years about her needs I wasn’t fulfilling but it is funny now that I think on it things got a lot worse over the past 6 months in regards to her telling me she’s not happy anymore. Two things happened in those 6 months: new male co worker enters the picture…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/11/22 12:27 AM
10	For what? Yeah, relying on others to fulfill ALL your emotional needs and determine your mood is just a recipe for disaster in the long run IMO. You’ll never be content. I feel like there is a big difference between “happiness” and “contentment” and the latter is what more should strive for over a long period of time.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/22 02:34 PM
4	For what? She did give the reasons-mainly that she lost the emotional connection with me and I wasn’t fulfilling her needs when it came to affection/empathy as she’s talked about those things before as well with me (those are two way streets IMO I don’t always need to be the initiator!). Basically said I love you but not in love with you anymore. Our relationship wasn’t perfect (are any?) and I definitely could have been better in certain aspects, but my point still stands: you threw it all away for what?…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/22 02:14 PM
2	Is anyone else thinking about deliberately staying single as a life decision? Your 2nd paragraph definitely spoke to me, especially the “with their demands that will make them happy” part. My soon to be ex wife (why I am on this sub now) seemed to have all these emotional needs I needed to provide to her that weren’t being met. Whenever she would ask if I had any, I said no not a ton. She would always be shocked when she would ask if I had anything on my mind and I didn’t. Like I’m just enjoying a football game I’m not thinking about anything except enjoying the game lol.…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/22 03:48 AM