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I think it is more coming more from a place of confidence and comfort within yourself. Relationships are work, and they take effort, and you aren't going to jump into whatever relationship appears in your life, it has to be worth it. Personally, I like being single because it's a great chance to work on yourself and become the best person you can be. Basically, you are comfortable and confident as a single woman, and you aren't going to throw that away for whoever walks by and calls you cute, it…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 01:55 AM
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This is amazing advice. Great comment.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/20 02:59 AM
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Girl. I have so many questions. Your living situation sounds like a nightmare. What did they do for cleaning before you lived there? Why is his dad moving into your house together? If this is the case, there must be strong boundaries put down, together, by you and your fiance about his dads contributions to the house and cleanliness. This means that you and your fiancee have a discussion BEFORE and come together to your dad in law to talk about what it will mean for him to live with you guys. Ho…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/20 02:58 AM
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Flattening the curve means waiting to get infected so that less people overwhelm the hospital system. You are right in a lot of ways, but I'm sure you can agree that 100 people with the virus in a hospital are easier to deal with than 1000 people. With only 100 people in the hospital, it is likely everyone is going to get the treatment they need. If those 1000 people get seriously ill from their infection over 10 weeks instead over 1 week, every person can get the care they need from the medical…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 06:09 PM
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Not only have there been cases of perfectly healthy children dying from this, but her children have comorbidities which make them more vulnerable. Furthermore, if nobody in her area is taking it seriously, there is an incredible likelihood that the medical systems get overwhelmed and there is not enough care for anyone. Thus if she or her kids get sick, but not so sick that with proper hospital care they would be okay, but there is not enough ventilators, drugs, staff, whatever to treat them, th…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 06:03 PM
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/u/ManEatingMatzahBall_ , I really agree with /u/Theendisnearornot 's comment... Is there a way you can isolate yourself and your children from him, to limit exposure? I sort of think this is similar to a situation where an alcoholic partner/parent chooses to get drunk and make themselves not safe to be around you... It is up to you to protect yourself. Can he sleep in a different room? Putting those boundaries down where he is limited in his interactions with you and the children means that you…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 05:58 PM
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Well yes, but it gives people who have it more of a fighting chance in the hospital system. Sorry to harp on this point, but I think every time the fact that the virus isn't going away is brought up, it is important to mention why it is still important to stay inside... It also gives people who have illnesses not related to the virus the ability to access medical care, because there aren't 100 people with respiratory problems needing ventilators, and 50 ventilators, and not enough medical staff …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 05:51 PM
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I think surrendered wife/ empowered wife by Laura Doyle will really help you. A lot of libraries are making their free e-books programs easy to access because of covid, and also kindle has them as well! Another one which is older and kinda outdated BUT still has some really valuable/applicable content is For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn (the updated version). I think I even found mine as a PDF for free look it up on this sub.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/20 02:45 AM
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I love this comment, because it is easy to think about men as sexual beings and neglect to think about their need for companionship, seduction, love and romance. /u/OjosAzules1111 , what is your husband's love language? Are his needs outside of sex being met? Does he see you more like a mother (where you are telling him what to do, nagging him, cleaning up after him) or a wife where you are supporting him, deferring to him, showing him respect and adoration? Are you making him feel sexy and want…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/20 11:33 PM
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Interested to see the response to this q!
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/20 04:25 AM
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Ok I hear you. You are obviously going through something. Your past relationship was bad news, and you obviously have a lot of baggage left over from that. Proud of you for getting out of that relationship! But now you need to break those bad habits. I would highly highly suggest you read "The surrendered single" and "why men love bitches" before you do anything more with this man. Those books are really good resources for your exact situation. If you only have time or resources to read one, rea…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 05:52 PM
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I also wouldn't like it if he told me that another girl is prettier than me or more sexually appealing, even when it is true! Take that as you will. Based in my insecurity? Absolutely! Reasonable? It is arguably a boundary that is reasonable to ask of a partner. I think intelligence is so hard to categorize (the way that I define it, anyway) that I was doing my best to build him up in front of our friends. Regardless, this post and this community was hugely helpful for me to figure out my feelin…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 11:53 PM
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Thanks for your bluntness! Yep, I know that I need to do more work! Bottom line, it hurt my feelings, and I wanted to know how to deal with that, and get through that. This community was very helpful for that. I'm not perfect (obviously). I have insecurities (obviously). Maybe you are right about me wanting to be put on a pedestal. Maybe I am right about feeling justified for wanting credit within the relationship. Most likely it is a bit of both. What it came down to is a difference of definiti…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 11:46 PM
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I didn't mention this because I didn't think it was relevant, but I said "him!" When the question was asked.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:54 PM
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I did actually say "him!" when the question was asked. Then when he said himself as well, I made a joke like "oh it's so easy to tell, is it?" or something and he said "yes" and then my feelings were hurt. I will work on developing a thicker skin, especially about intellect. Because he is very very smart, but I want him to feel similar respect towards me as well!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:51 PM
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It sounds like OP, might expect a certain amount of graciousness and “manners” surrounding this. I know I would, which is why I don’t date engineers. Whoops called out!! It is so true, I do expect graciousness surrounding this. Maybe, by being with an engineer, I give that up haha. Who knows. I would have much preferred that he turned it around and built me up in another way, maybe even expected it because it was exactly what I would do.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:49 PM
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But then you made it mean that “he doesn’t value what you do.” I’m not sure that’s true. I did! I totally did this!!!! I know it too, which makes it all the more complicated, because even intellectually "knowing" this my feelings are still hurt. I was having trouble copying your original post to reply to specific sentences but here’s the thing: if you are smart as fuck, and worth your salt, then you should choose a guy who is better than you. This too. What amazing advice. But I want a guy who i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:47 PM
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It is for sure hard because it is typical that someone in engineering discredits someone with a philosophical/psych background. I have always struggled with feeling good enough because I struggle with math, but excel at writing and abstract ideas. So that is part of the back ground as well.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:42 PM
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It was a big reaction, I agree! Not healthy at all, and points to something being really wrong. It has been weighing on my mind. He really doesn't make a habit of insulting me, but he does make little jabs about my math skills and stuff, I think because of his growing up in an environment where his parents are very sarcastic. I think part of my big reaction was because I felt like it shattered how I thought about our relationship... Two different but equal people helping each other and lifting e…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:40 PM
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I have definitely been struggling with "well it doesn't make him superior to me" and "I'm hurt and I feel as though he sees me as inferior". I don't think he thinks he is better than me, he actually acts the opposite a lot of the time, so this blatant disrespect really came out of the left field. I am going to take your advice, and really work on letting it go. I think I was also reacting to disgust at his ego, and unsure how that really factors into the relationship, because this was the first …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:21 PM
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Ohh what a good point. He is normally EXTREMELY compassionate, goes above and beyond for consideration for my wants, needs and feelings, so this felt a little out of left field! He is always talking about equality and leaning on each other and going out into the world as a united partnership so this was surprising. He does definitely talk about some people in his life who he has to work with that are obtuse or useless within the project, but I think this is something we all have to deal with. To…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:16 PM
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Even if he is (and I am leaning towards yes, if I am being honest) I still want to feel valued and respected for the intelligence I bring to the table. I am totally defensive! "Ouch my feelings I'm smart too" is basically what I have been saying in this entire post and comments haha.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:11 PM
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I don't necessarily have an answer as to why I take it as an insult! A lot of my self worth is tied up in my intelligence, and I want my partner to see me as different but equal, not less or more. This is why I was going between "suck it up he is just telling the truth, get over yourself" and "no, I shouldn't have to work on feeling good in spite of how my partner thinks of me". I think my definition of intelligence is much broader than his, so I took it less like "I'm better at tennis" and more…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 08:07 PM
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You really hit it on the head here, this is exactly what we discussed when I brought it up last night. Thanks for your insight!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 07:58 PM
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I agree with a lot of what you have said, thank you for taking the time to write it all out. I think that saying "I'm smarter than you" is more like saying "I'm prettier than you". It is somewhat subjective (depending on the tastes of someone or applications), has incredible variation and a lot of it is due to work. For example, we talk about maximizing our SMV here with diet and exercise, and you practice math, or interdisciplinary thinking to become better at it. Does that make you smarter? It…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 07:41 PM
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Hahahah very tempting to be petty like this sometimes. Likely that it would just end in him being frustrated and me getting my feelings hurt again though.. Thanks for the laugh either way!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 06:54 AM
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So true. I think I do, there is just a little work we can both do to make sure that is more solid.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 06:53 AM
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I agree :) It is always good to take everyone's advice into account though! We have a really solid base, and there is so much about him that makes him the best man I know. I am trying to figure out how to have another conversation about this now. I really just want to thank you for all of your support and guidance. You have really helped me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 06:32 AM
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I was wondering if I should... That seems sort of dramatic in itself though.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 06:06 AM
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I think he feels bad and he is scared to lose me... I would not care at all if he said he was stronger than me! This is totally the crux of the problem. I think we just need to have another conversation. Thanks for taking the time to comment :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 06:05 AM
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Thank you for your advice and the heads up. I am definitely noticing every comment, good or bad, much more now. I need to figure out what my discussion points are, and bring up the overarching problems with our negative comments towards each other in the relationship. I will be on the lookout for escalation. I'm glad you are in a better situation now!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:52 AM
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I do wonder if there is some undercurrent of feminist programming which is like "you have to exactly equally give me credit for my womanly accomplishments!!! Feelings matter and I am good at then so screw you!!!" haha. Who knows.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:49 AM
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Hahaha so true.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:47 AM
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Ugh that is so insightful. Maybe this is just highlighting a deeper problem I am having with him "biting" at me too much with things he sees as jokes. I do really think that what you say about the partner even in joking always points to some truth. Perhaps this just needs a conversation about being more respectful with our words. I could use some work on it for myself too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:47 AM
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Thank you for this insight! and for the laugh from the fuck head comment. Much needed :). I think this is probably close to what he feels... It would not bother me if he is definitively smarter than me. I am friends with lots of people who are smarter than me, at least in one area or another. But they also do not tell me straight up that they are superior to me (me misquoting his words.. Because this is how they sounded to me). You make some great points and ask some great questions. I want him …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:45 AM
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Yeah, but it doesn't feel right to just say his view of "smart" is just wrong. It seems dramatic but there is part of me who doesn't know if I can go on with someone who feels this way about me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:36 AM
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Thank you for that affirmation, it means so much to me. I teared up a little if I am being honest. I wonder about those comments as well. What is the difference between joking around and disrespect? His family environment is all very sarcastic and they are always going at each other... Something that I really think about is that if/when we have kids will there be a time where he tells one of them he is smarter than them? That would be unacceptable in my eyes. So why am I accepting it from him? I…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:32 AM
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I thought he did respect me and see me as an equal and this has just thrown that all out of whack. His apology was going through all the issues I had and telling me... Why they weren't so.. Like I said "I feel worried that you won't take my opinion into account" and he would say "I care about your opinion more than I care about anyone elses".. I think the 'sorry I hurt your feelings" vibe was more that he would not back down and "lie" in his mind, about finding me smart. If that makes sense. He …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:25 AM
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Ugh so true! I know I am good at what I do. Maybe it is even because I have never had my smartness doubted before that it stung extra? It was just shocking that he was so certain about it! As someone with a philosophy background, certainty just doesn't happen. It is really comforting to hear that this is something that other, successful couples have gone through, and have made it out the other side.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:18 AM
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What an incredible comment, thank you so much for taking the time to write this. I think this is exactly the thing I needed to hear. It's clear that these things are true and he likely even agrees. He just values the things he excels at more, which isn't surprising since that's where he puts his energy. It doesn't make it any less true that you're better at those things than he is, whether or not he thinks they're comparable. That really spoke to me. He doesn't regularly make me feel stupid. You…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:06 AM
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Marriage has for sure come up! I want to be debt-free, and finished with all my schooling before I get married. Making sure that I have solid experience in the workforce etc. We have discussed timelines many times, and he has made it clear that he wants to marry me. We are on the same page about kids etc. Edit: Realised I didn't respond to the meat of your comment.. Yes I found the ego thing to be.. not great. I think that you are right in that his comment was disrespectful.. At least I feel dis…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 04:59 AM
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Thanks for your really thoughtful response. I think you totally hit the nail on the head... I've tried to bring it up before, and he basically said sorry (stood by his point that he is smarter) and said he was sorry he insulted me in front of our friends. Since then, I am not sure if I am just more sensitive, but he makes little joking comments a lot which has also started to hurt my feelings. Maybe after the big blow to my feelings, I am just feeling a lack of "words of affirmation" love langua…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 04:52 AM
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You sound incredibly compassionate and like such a loving mother and wife. This is not a personality defect! This is you burning out! You could request that before he launches into a big rant, he just asks you "do you have the emotional space/energy for me to talk about my shitty boss for 20 mins" or whatever is on his mind. Then you have three choices" Yes, not right now, or "I'd love to, if you give me time to (insert some self-care that you need to do to feel centred and ready to take this on…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 04:47 AM
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Hey there, that’s rough. It sounds like you are both wonderful, and this sounds like a scary situation for both of you. I hope you don’t mind, but I went through something similar when my boyfriend was going to fail out of his program, the ladies here gave me some wonderful advice. Here is the link right here
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/19 03:41 AM
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Love this !! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/19 10:29 PM
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French manicures are always classy and go with everything! If you can learn to do them yourself they are actually so quick because it's just a quick swipe of white and then clear coat over.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 04:11 AM
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Great comment!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 05:15 AM
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I don't really have any advice but that sounds frustrating and heartbreaking. It sounds like you have really done everything you can in this situation. I think your instinct is correct in that an ultimatum isn't the way to go. I'm sure other ladies on this forum will have much wiser, insightful advice, all I can really say is I sympathize! It's hard to juggle your own emotions and wanting to respect his timeline/ not make him resent you bringing up marriage. No one likes to be pushed, but from w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 03:51 AM
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My house is always cold, so it is hard to layer up and look feminine. However, I have started to make more of an effort. When I am bumming around the house, it has gone from full fleece pjs which are very shapeless and unflattering to hair up in a knot, little bit of mascara and my robe. It's not perfect, but is an upgrade. I have a fleece robe in black from Calvin Klein, it is cinched at the waist and goes half way down my thigh, so it is not skimpy by any means, but also very cute and sexy in …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 03:34 AM
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Yeah I think that is pretty accurate. People love their children selflessly because there is no way to be selfish while looking after a creature fully dependent on you and raise it successfully. I like your thought about the expectations and what your partner needs to provide to you. It doesn’t make sense to love your partner totally selflessly because you have to advocate for yourself. Being selfless completely in a relationship and being a doormat isn’t productive and is not a good look. If yo…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/19 02:59 PM
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Well I’ve thought about the definition of love a lot. In the beginning of the relationship I’m in now, it was really important to me to define what love is before I said it to him. I wanted to be sure. I didn’t want me saying it to be cheap because I didn’t understand what I was saying. I talked to a lot of people, both men and women to see if their definition seemed right for me. None of them seemed right, but some seemed closer than others. This showed me that there is a “right” answer or perh…
/r/RedPillWives14/05/19 09:24 PM
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Good books: "surrendered single" "why men love bitches" When it comes to sex, if you can't have a conversation about sex and all of its possible consequences, you are not mature enough to be having sex (is a good rule of thumb). If you can't have a sitdown conversation with the guy you are with, and talk about pregnancy, STIs, buying condoms, sharing the burden of birth control etc. then you should not be having sex. ​ Let guys do stuff for you and give stuff to you. Let them pay for dinner. Don…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 04:52 AM
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Hmm that hasn’t been my experience at all. My mom is a high functioning on the spectrum woman with asburgers and she is basically as introverted as you can get. She would be okay with sitting in her room and seeing people once a week. She can be “rude” just out of not understanding a social situation or cues, but she is one of the most empathetic people I know. What it comes down to, I think, is that assholes are assholes. Men aren’t shitty and women aren’t shitty, specific men are shitty and sp…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 02:58 AM
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I'm in Canada, but yep!
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 11:18 PM
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Aw that sounds so wonderful! What a sweet gesture. I hope I can find a balance like that. Most of my time with my friends is like you described... Trivia or movies. Still important to reflect on why I am choosing to spend time with ladies, but often I just need some feminine energy around and I need to rant about something that my boyfriend has already heard about 2-3 times and doesn't want to hear about anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 08:16 PM
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AWALT, yeah. Maybe this explanation will help someone with a SO that is needy, while at the same time not immediately nexting them. What it comes down to is that I am an introverted person who was confused and distressed by extraverts need for constant contact and conversation and this is how I would handle it in the future so that I can preserve respect and help the person I'm with through insecurities or neediness. Maybe according to AWALT I would immediately dump someone who is sad when he fe…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 08:13 PM
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You are very kind :). Co-dependence and dependence are different things in my opinion, but like most disagreements, I think that you and I agree in principle and disagree definitionally... Co-dependence is needing the other person in ways that you should be able to depend on yourself for. An example is needing a partner to snuggle you to get to sleep, or not being able to be self-sufficient in a social situation without your partner. I believe these kinds of dependence are deal breakers. In my e…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 07:48 PM
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I should adjust my expectations you are right. I guess I have a tendency to prepare for the worst from my partner while at the same time having this image of perfection that I want which is unattainable. What I've figured out is that I really need to relax my standards and be less wrapped up in everything. I don't know. It's complicated! My boyfriend is wonderful and isn't really needy. This post is basically my experience with other needy people, some of the strategies which I have used in this…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 07:34 PM
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Phew, this comment sure has a lot of great points, I will try to address them. First of all, you have hit some of the themes on the head. I think it did come off more aggressively than it should have because I wrote it with an uncooperative partner in mind. My SO will tell you that I come into every argument with the mindset that getting him to agree with me or see my point of view will be an uphill battle paved with fallacious arguments because that is what I am used to. To this day whenever I …
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 07:20 PM
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That is very insightful. I do have a tendency to solve all my own problems. I should start working on that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 07:03 PM
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Thanks so much :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 06:59 PM
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I don't want to be controlling, and I have controlling tendencies. I have been reading Laura Doyles surrendered single and surrendered wife back to back for months trying to drill into my head that I need to surrender. It does worry me that control is the first thing that both commenters point out. I guess the question is where is the balance between being controlling and getting your needs met. I think the answer is to pick a man who is likely to meet your needs, and ask for what you want but d…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 06:46 PM
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Thanks for your response, and I agree. It is to do with a more needy partner than I have. Maybe this isn't the right play to post this, but it was some advice taken from a response to a relationship advice question asking about a needy partner. Everything here can be scaled down to work for situations which aren't as dire. If you don't think it is the right tone for this subreddit that's totally understandable. That's a good thought about girls night. I didn't mean that specifically, I kinda jus…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 06:40 PM
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I kept a picture file on my phone of all the pictures we have taken together and all the cute texts that he has sent me so that I could look at them when I was lonely. We also agreed that when we were both home right after his work, or both home right before my bedtime we would always call no matter what, even for 5 mins. He is also really into board games, so we had a few ongoing games through Facebook, we played scrabble and words with friends and chess. Even if we only did a couple of moves a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 03:34 AM
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Aw thank you so much ! What a lovely comment to wake up to !
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 05:03 PM
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Is he a quality time love language person? I know I am, and listening and sharing and analyzing thoughts, ideas and situations is a way that I really connect with my boyfriend. Possibly he wants this too. I really like it when my boyfriend remembers comments I have made or opinions I have. Sometimes (this is the best) he will think about a point I made in a conversation and come back in a few days after reflecting and ask questions or have a counterargument. This shows me that not only is he lis…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 01:43 AM
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How long would long-distance be for? It's do-able if there is a plan for you to be back together in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 04:08 PM
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Looooove this thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 08:02 AM
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I'm here because every time I stop reading here I revert to my old ways, and it helps m relationship and world view to be reminded of the principles of this community. Great question!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 06:22 PM
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Wow, thanks for such a helpful and in-depth comment! You have given me a lot to think about. I love how you laid out possible problems, it really helped me see where my head was at. Really great idea about bringing him the problem like a man. I do tend to sugar coat things, and I didn't even consider that might make it even more stressful for him when I do it that way. I have been doing a lot of reading on trust and respect in response to the comments I have gotten here, and I think I will try t…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 03:01 AM
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Ahh that link was a good read! Thanks! I'm not sure what will happen if he fails another course, but reading all these comments has made me feel a lot better about the situation. I think you are probably right in saying that making this into an issue, it would just be another thing for him to deal with on top of loss and school. I will wait until he has his marks for last semester and then see if they warrant a discussion about everything. Thanks again
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 02:56 AM
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Amazing comment!!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 10:56 AM
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Excuse my language, but fuck man, that sucks. I don't really have any advice. You deserve to feel loved and to feel desirable. You deserve someone who wants to make your life the best it can be. Can you guys take a trip? Somewhere without internet or cell service? Preferably for like two weeks, so you can have a week to rest/reset and a week to sort shit out. Sounds like you are both working insanely hard and deserve it. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 10:53 AM
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I really appreciate your words of encouragement! Yeah, I tend to get wrapped up in other peoples stress quite easily. I will work on prioritizing my own stuff so that I have enough energy to be what he needs from me AND what I need from me. At the end of the day, if he isn't able to get his shit together, there is nothing I can really do about it. Whatever happens, I can only control how I react to it. So if I decide it is too stressful/negative for me to watch him go through another semester of…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 10:32 AM
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I have been basically trying to "step back" and let him be the master of his own destiny, so to speak, so I'm glad to see that you think that is a good course of action. I think it is really insightful of you to say that maybe there is a problem beyond (or in addition to) his loss. He has made comments about how easy it is to get out of bed early when it is to do something he enjoys, like skiing, or his design team, but really hard for classes. I think I will for sure have a sit down with him af…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 10:22 AM
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I have been feeling this way as well, but am not surer if it is just my inner passive aggressive person trying to make him feel bad for not being the person I want him to be, if that makes sense. If it is a good idea to express that him skipping and failing is affecting me, I would love suggestions on how to do it in a way that I won't make him feel disrespected, and so that he knows it comes from a place of love and from a longing to help him achieve his (and our) goals. Ways to minimize emotio…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 10:08 AM
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Hi, thank you so much for such a comprehensive and considerate message! Reading it back I see that my wording is confusing, I am also a student so I would set up times that we can mutually study together when spending time together. For example, when I'm going to a library close to my house I invite him to bring his homework, not that I am scheduling his study time if that makes sense. Like going on a date, but studying together. I think it is probably a mix of everything you said. It is odd tha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 10:04 AM
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-emergency kit for his car -activity he wouldn't normally splurge for (sports game etc) -professional massage -personal training sessions -beard oil -a nice electric razor -really nice boxers/briefs.. Bamboo or silk or something -posters/art from a tv show that he likes -really nice sheets for his bed -handcuffs/ some stuff to be experimental with in bed -stuff related to his hobby, my dad cooks and I got him some really nice oils and infused salts for cooking with -if you don't live with him ge…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:45 AM
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Oh man this is tough. Don't really have too much advice, just offering support. What is his love language? Do you know? Maybe spend a little extra time performing duties under that love language... For example if he is an acts of service dude clean his office or your room to give him the clarity of mind and help him minimize distractions. Maybe ask permission to clean up or organize his distractions like video-games so that they aren't as easily accessible to him Words of affirmation... Leave li…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 06:20 PM
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I once made a safety kit for my boyfriend at the time for his vehicle. It had basically everything you needed to get by in a car.. From small emergency packages of his favourite snacks for road closures during road trips to emergency blankets and water purification tablets, basic tools like screwdrivers and tape... He loved it! I felt it was a good exercise in nuturing to be able to be considerate to that degree, and really showed him I was thinking about him and his safety. To think about all t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 06:05 PM
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Great comment!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/18 03:28 PM
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Yesterday I had an arugula salad with shredded beets and carrots, spicy couscous and feta. If I liked dressing I would have made a vinaigrette. Tonight I am making either stirfry (veggies in a pan with thai salad dressing as a sauce), or red curry. Curry is so easy, all you need is veggies, coconut milk, and green or red curry paste. I also make coconut rice, which is just half water half coconut milk and rice!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 03:53 PM
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So sweet :) glad it's not just me! After practice it actually turns out that I like being in a more independent relationship. It makes me feel like we are with each other because it is truly what we want, and not just habit like my last relationship (near the end at least).
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 06:07 AM
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Go into therapy for your ED. Read "Why men love bitches". Don't sleep with anyone you aren't in a long-term, committed relationship with. Go to the gym. Practice cultivating a healthy relationship with food. Mental illness is horrible and also very unattractive, confidence is the best thing to have. Focus on hobbies and passions that improve you as a woman. Read the sidebar here. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 07:28 PM
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Hey there. I think you have the wrong sub.. Were you maybe looking for the Red Pill? Regardless, I think that I can sympathize with you... I think everyone, men and women alike have had times in their lives when they feel undesirable, like a lost cause etc. I think it's just part of the human condition. It is a Red Pill tenant that men have more of an issue with this, especially at a younger age, because they are not given the inherent societal value that women are given. It is easy to be angry.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 06:59 PM
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This is so funny, I was just reading the old tarot posts and wishing it would start up again! Hi cards, what would be the best thing for me to work on in my relationship for the coming weeks? Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 05:19 PM
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It's so true what you've said about the thoughts being thoughts... It's a good reminder because sometimes the train runs away! I would love to start meditating as well I have great respect for those who practice it. I guess I do a similar thing, where I reflect on his actions rather than my fears. He wouldn't be doing long distance, or even be in a relationship with me unless he genuinely wanted to be. He is a high-quality man, and would have no issue ending a relationship that isn't pleasurable…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 05:13 PM
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Thanks for your question! I have been trying for a few months not to harp on him or tease him too much, and also lift him up in public! My big priority recently has been to tell him I appreciate the things he does for me, and point out and brag about his successes to him and to others in my life. He compliments me all the time and I think that we should make a habit to give that same gift back to men in things that make them feel good; their accomplishments as strong providers, leaders, and part…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 06:20 AM
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Glad to hear it's not just me... The texting thing is so hard, I honestly forget that he cares about me if I go for more than a couple of days without him specifically saying something! Crazy! What have you been doing to quell the thoughts about it?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 06:13 AM
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I don't know if it's inherently bad to text, but I feel like it easier to miscommunicate without indicators from body language or tone of voice! I didn't consider that he might like the chance to think about what he wants to say in response. Thanks, me too :) !
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 10:54 PM
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Wow amazing comment. Thank you so much for this.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/18 12:59 AM
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