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I am interested in joining, if there is any chance you see this, no matter how much time passes, please know my interest has not waned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/22 11:39 PM
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“ My body felt the " ick" towards men waaay before my young naive trying to be nice brain did. I stayed 5 years too long in a DB because my brain kept making excuses.. Now if I feel the ick I distance myself within minutes ,not years.” This in of itself would make a great spot with examples. If you feel comfortable with it, I would love to see you elaborate on this with a full post. This is something I wish I had been taught. I think back to all the times I felt “the ick” as an underage teenager…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 11:58 AM
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OP, I want to thank you for this gem of wisdom as you put it in your title “Trust Your Intuition” I’m shaking my head at myself, those questions you listed: “ "Why does my new bf do this?" "I know he loves me, but something feels off. Do any of you know—" "Any tips about this situation? He's 30 years older and—" “ I think back to questions I myself have posted on old forgotten accounts on the Internet. My own post history shows a particular question I had after a horrific discovery. How ironic a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 11:54 AM
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“ ‘If you have to ask, that’s your answer’ applies to most situations with men Every time I’ve had doubts about someone my intuition has been right..have really learned to trust it over the years” Well said!! 👏👏👏👏 I feel this in my soul, I think back to previous relationships when I would fixate on a particular question, for days, weeks, sometimes months, and I deeply regret how much tine I wasted. My intuition knew, and I hadn’t realized at the tone how my upbringing had wrongly taught me, the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 11:38 AM
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I want to thank you for your informative comment. I’m going to Google coercive control and make sure I thoroughly educate myself on the subject. I wanted to ask, what is the exact title of the boom by Evan Stark? I want to make sure I find the correct one. I’m excited to add that book to my reading list. I also plan on adding the other two books you mentioned “How He Gets Intk Her Head” by Don Hennessey, and “Invisible Chains” by Lisa Fontes. Thank you for the book recommendations!! If you have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 11:33 AM
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Let’s explore why lying is considered a universal red flag across multiple cultures, countries, languages, and years. Integrity-abuse is a real thing. A person who is comfortable lying is a person who not prioritize trust. You wrote “ Current guy I’m talking to lied about his height on dating app I’ve been on quite a few dates with him and he seems promising so far. On his dating profile, he said he’s 6’1. I asked him in person when we were walking and he said he’s 5’10 (which looked more accura…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:36 AM
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“ >Looking fon an Asian woman yeah, nah... race fetishes are such a ginormous red flag, you just ignore the rest and throw the whole man out.” So true. I’m not an Asian woman, but I’ve experienced being fetishized by other races of men and wow, it comes with so much abuse. The younger naive version of me thought they appreciated me for my culture and uniqueness, nah, they saw a trophy to prove their own “self-worth” through social validation because they literally had no soul. They didn’t care a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:25 AM
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“ How can you find your soulmate if you don't have a soul in the first place.. ” Savage and well said. It’s crazy how many LV/NV men out there are “looking for their soulmate” whilst not working on themselves at all. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:22 AM
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“ Look right, if you're asking on the internet if your partner is abusive, you straight up need to end it. This happens when women are gaslighted into ignoring their intuition and have no confidence” I couldn’t have said it better, this is perfectly articulated. It’s honestly sickening how many posts are out there of women talking about the “problems” in their relationship, when in reality, the problem is that they are involved with an abusive man who is gaslighting them. I’m thankful the termin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:19 AM
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Oh my god. 🤯 Men like this EXIST?! That term “Weaponized Ignorance” wow. “It’s when you know you don’t know, but you put no effort into learning.” I finally have a term that described the frustration I have repeatedly experienced in my life. Now just with men, with friendships, parents, relatives. This is incredible. Wow. His description gave me so many flashbacks. “So literally I want to say this to every guy who is preparing to get a gift, or an experience for a woman that they care about. If …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:03 AM
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Alright. It’s official. “Kinktok” is officially traumatic and disgusting. Ugh. I feel sick after looking through it. I looked through the content of this particular woman in the screenshot. She tries so hard to hide the sadness and despair in her eyes, but it’s there. You can see the subtle tinges of trauma-induced internal numbness in her eyes. There was a particular video where she shows her emotions, of when she left out of the “three way relationship,” and every time, she punches or kicks th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:31 AM
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Wow. “True generosity is about improving the life of the recipient, never about growing the ego of the giver.” “ This is not generosity, this is financial abuse. Do not allow cognitive dissonance and gaslighting tell you that they're just "weird" with money and "sometimes generous". They're not generous at all – they're seeking to control you with unpredictable behaviour. The lavish gifts are either love-bombing to win you back, or addictive dopamine rewards like in gambling – you'll never know …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:07 AM
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These are wonderful, thank you for sharing your artistic talent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:04 AM
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“ Ladies, it's hard getting out of relationships. It's hard to move on and imagine life being different when you are with someone who is dragging you down. You may see them be successful, find love and move on. But concentrate on yourself. You can be happy and fulfilled and NOT HAVE A MAN IN YOUR LIFE! I promise!” I needed this. Thank you for sharing your story and giving encouragement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:55 AM
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This “We don't realize how much men are holding us back while we take care of them because instead of cleaning up after them and cooking for their lazy asses and providing free therapy we could be advancing our own careers and being healthy for ourselves.” 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 It took me years to finally unlearn the toxic martyrdom society brainwashes women to do. Why? Why should I wait around for a grown adult, to learn to clean, take care of his skin, go to therapy for childhood trauma, build character, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:54 AM
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In this “ Do you think this is limited to long-distance, though?” What are you specifically referring to in regards to long distance ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:43 AM
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Long distance is never a good idea. Ever. I’ve gotten burned every time. Not worth the risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 09:53 PM
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Thank you for the book recommendation Patricia Evans "Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You" I’m going to look for it online right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:53 PM
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When a mentions that you as a woman should have an OnlyFans, start an OnlyFans, or expresses surprise or interest in you having an OnlyFans account, that is a GIANT RED FLAG THAT IS ON FIRE. 🔥🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:57 AM
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High end restaurants don’t do this. If you live in a big city, the more high end restraints won’t have any televisions AT ALL. That being said, if you live in a smaller city, or a small town, it’s likely most restaurants will have tv screens. Why? They want to appeal to the lowest common denominator of who makes money: average men. I can’t speak for the Easy Coast of the United States, but on the West Coast there are tons of restaurants that don’t have screens inside. It can be a bit of work fin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:38 PM
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What in the nonsense is THIS?!???! This is DANGEROUSLY inaccurate information!!! A red flag is called a RED FLAG in reference to stop lights as in STOP EVERYTHING AND PAY ATTENTION TO THIS IMMEDIATELY. I can’t believe what I just read. This is horrifying. Lady, I don’t know who you are, but I would really recommend you read the book “How To Spot A Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved” by Sandra L Brown I especially recommend reading the Chapter 2 titled: “Red Flags and Red Alerts: Knowing, Sens…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:02 PM
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“ When in doubt... he isn't worth it” Key mindset right here, 100% agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:31 PM
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“ If you can't first and foremost TRUST him with your safety - you really can't trust him at all. And no relationship can survive without trust.” I want to plaster this on a giant billboard in every major city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:31 AM
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Thank you for the link, I downloaded it and have started reading The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward. The first page is already mind-blowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:05 PM
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As a bisexual woman, your comment made me smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:41 AM
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I 100% agree, I feel every word of this in my soul. “ Trying to meet men is the worst. Imagine if every time you went fishing there were dozens of fish that might be poisonous… no one would fish.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:44 AM
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Everything in this “profile” is terrifying. It’s almost like he’s putting an ad out for a slave or something. What does he think this is, character creation on a video game?? Calling women “Females,” and what are “Female Favorites” and “Female Failure,” is this guy for real?! That whole page is a continent of red flags, A CONTINENT. There’s so many red flags I don’t see individual red flags anymore, just a giant blob of red, from so many red flags so close together. I sick after reading this. Ph…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:40 AM
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I am nauseous after reading those screenshots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:31 AM
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I hate having maintenance men in my living space. I’ve had so many uncomfortable, borderline traumatic, memories from maintenance men violating CLEAR BOUNDARIES. This is why I refuse to be alone when any kind of “maintenance” needs to be done in my living space. It’s not safe, and it’s insanely stressful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:18 AM
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This is really disturbing, I feel physically ill just from seeing the photos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:16 AM
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So the tides are finally turning and a wave of change approaches. Good. Maybe there is hope for society after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:02 AM
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Wow. I feel this in my soul. “ Most of the relationship problems I see on these forums really just boil down to one of 2 things My LV bf is not thoughtful -> therefore lazy and low effort My LV bf is not empathetic -> therefore mean and abusive You can’t cOmMuNiCaTe your way into changing the fundamental traits of a person. 🤷🏻‍♀️ just block and delete before he gaslights tf out of you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:23 AM
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Thank you for the book link, I just downloaded The Will To Change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:22 AM
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I feel this in my soul. Birds of a feather flock together. I always make sure to pay attention to the people a person chooses to associate with, it reveals an incredible amount of information. “ I cut off a guy because his friends were misogynistic gamer bros. He turned the situation around into me being a controlling person, and he said I was making it TheM or ME. But the truth is those friends are a reflection of him, and he is willing to support and tolerate people who are misogynistic. ”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 09:05 PM
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Your description fits the experiences I have had repeatedly. 💀 The positions are usually not comfortable or sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 04:13 AM
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“ The way he thought he was a sex god and I was frigid when really he was just bad in bed and addicted to porn.” Suddenly this explains so much. The enthusiasm for changing positions, but never truly connecting, the lack of eye contact, not knowing a woman’s anatomy, using WAY TOO MUCH PRESSURE on sensitive parts, thinking all women’s bodies are the same in terms of preference of actions, ugh. It’s all clicking into place now. No wonder they were terrible in bed despite their enthusiasm, all the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:35 AM
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I feel the same way, I learn something new and valuable every time I check FDS. I’ve made it a habit to check it almost every day. It has helped me so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:29 AM
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I needed to read this: “ A true HVM is who he IS, always, he doesn’t magically shift 4 months later.” Thank you.💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 09:59 AM
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Wow. He is dumb as bricks, the ignorance is palpable. Let’s see what security expert Gavin De Becker has to say about “most men aren’t bad.” “Men of all ages and in all parts of the world are more violent than women.” That’s right on the beginning of his book “The Gift of Fear” This is a man that is hired by corporations, celebrities, companies, and various government agencies to create safety plans for them!!! Why are men afraid of prison? What are the jokes about being “afraid of prison” reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:06 PM
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The accuracy of this “ Hoe phase: unsatisfying sex with a bunch of random people who could care less if you enjoyed any part of it.” 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 07:11 PM
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Are there books or particular resources that helped you get stronger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:10 AM
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Learned a new term today, “trauma-fishing.” That deserves to be a post in of itself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:02 PM
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Please tell us more about your dad. Stories like this give me hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 10:15 PM
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I swear to god, your comments are always my favorite. I love your sharp wit! This 100% “ Why don’t men in positions of power do nude calendars and stick objects in their ass on webcam?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 09:39 AM
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I love your brain. ♥️ 😍 10/10 execution on that writing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 09:38 AM
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This: “I CANNOT afford to give men the benefit of the doubt.” I feel this in my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 10:09 AM
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There’s a big difference between true sexual liberation, and sexual manipulation/coercion disguised as “sexual liberation.” It’s about time the mask for the toxic propaganda finally drops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:01 AM
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Wtf I am sorry that is so blatantly unprofessional. Ew. Thank you for warning women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:55 PM
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Wow, love this: “ Pro tip: If you have to start googling what's wrong with a person, save yourself the time and just get rid of them.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:14 AM
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Another fire comment, amazing. This section you wrote: “ Women still have more at risk- worse STI symptoms, unwanted pregnancy, reputation, abuse, murder etc. So it overwhelmingly benefits men more & women will still get shamed & face more risks.” This alone has been my main reason even BEFORE discovering FDS to avoid casual sex. The risk is so high, and for what? To be used like a human blow up doll? To get kidnapped? Abused? Raped? Men don’t respect women that have sex too early/too soon/easil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:17 AM
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Your comments deserve a hall of fame or a book or some kind of esteemed collection. Every time I read your responses, I am filled with fire and respect. I hope to someday have FDS instilled in me to the same degree you do, you exude the values in every word of your comments. Thank you for being an inspiration.💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:10 AM
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Wow. Weaponized Incompetence. This explains so much of my life. I have experienced some form of Weaponized Incompetence in EVERY SERIOUS ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP I have had up to this point in my life. It feels like a lightbulb has been cast on all the years of mental/emotional labor, physical labor I have put into past relationships with men. It was always me doing the research to fix the problems, and somehow if I lived with someone, I’d almost always end up cooking and cleaning, unless they had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:07 AM
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Everything, literally everything you wrote here, is right on the nail, thank you OP. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:40 AM
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Wow, Queen vibes. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:39 AM
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As a bisexual woman… the way women hit on you versus the way men hit on you is soooooo different… 💀💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:36 AM
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100% Accurate 💀💀💀💀 Especially Russian Armenians.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:35 AM
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Thank you for this beautifully written reminder.💖 I think for so many of us women, we got so caught up on focusing on SURVIVING and avoiding dangerous men, then the focus turns to vetting men to avoid LVM/NVM. Then finally, when we do meet someone who is a HVM, it’s easy to forget the last most important pieces, compatibility in regards to our own desires.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:22 PM
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I love this.💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:21 PM
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It’s from a book called "Why Men Marry Bitches" by Sherry Argov
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:09 PM
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I feel nauseous after reading this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:07 PM
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I am convinced a man wrote this thinking he “unlocked” how women think and write. It reeks of projection and entitlement. How incredibly dismissive and un-empathetic, to ignore thousands of pieces of information, that point to porn consumption leading to increased proclivity to infidelity. It’s not difficult to see porn addiction is a real thing, and that porn consumption hurts EVERYONE. Let’s be honest here though, porn hurts women more than men. Why? The sheer volume of women being trafficked,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:14 PM
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Entitlement. That’s all this comes down to. Many men, most men, LVM/NVM, toxic abusive men, are and feel entitled. They feel “entitled” to having multiple sexual partners. They feel “entitled” to having the girlfriend or wife experience without actually earning it by being a good man, a loving respectful partner, a COMPATIBLE PERSON. These toxic men who dehumanize women, don’t care that women have their own individual identities, preferences, desires, dreams, etc. A person who doesn’t dehumanize…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:13 AM
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This “ I have an art journal where I draw out these things that I want in my life. While I fill in colors for the shapes/images, I meditate on the phrase/quote, traits, or green flags that I'm trying to manifest. It helps me to read through it when I need a reminder of why I won't settle.” This is so such a beautiful idea. I want to start doing this right away. Thank you for sharing this amazing wholesome idea. Honestly it deserved to be a post by itself. ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:01 AM
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This is what everyone should be taught, period. “ Trust nobodies word always their actions. The biggest favor you can do to yourself is make everyone earn your trust, it should never just be given.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:33 PM
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This perfectly summarizes my experience with LVM/NVM / toxic men, especially as I “blossomed” as a young woman. They never actually cared about me. I was just a trophy, something on the arm to show off to their friends, family, coworkers “look what I got!” Did they care about my well-being? Did they care about my health and happiness? No. I have tried to explain so many times to men. “Women get more dates on dating apps!” If they only understood that 90-99% of men on dating apps are only using t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 11:31 PM
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Back in my pickme days, I was dating a man in his 40’s while I was in my 20’s (if only I knew back then what a clown I was, ugh, learning lessons) he literally straight up told me a teenage girl told him his dick was small when it was limp (he was average sized) and it haunted him INTO HIS 40’s wtf. If he lived a DAY, or even a WEEK into the life of a woman who is harassed multiple times a day, and gets insulted by aggressive toxic disgusting men for not “accepting” their advances, with very spe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:54 PM
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This vent diagram idea would make a great post of “me” the real me, versus the person in his head he thinks he’s in a relationship with. Would you consider making that post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:51 PM
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Handbook material right here, a perfect succinct description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:26 PM
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Wow. “ At first glance, this may make you feel insecure in your relationship or marriage. But you CAN NEVER KNOW what lurks in heart of men. EVER. The only thing you can do is be ready to walk away when things go south and have the confidence and intestinal fortitude to do so. If you have an HVM, great, enjoy your relationship with him knowing you have the confidence and strength to leave when the dark side shows up.” I wish with all my heart I had been taught this 10 years ago. Thank you, I nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:31 AM
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As a small woman (under 100lbs) yes. It is a very real thing, I’ve been targeted by men who clearly saw me as a legal alternative to their true desires. It makes you feel gross and disgusting. I can’t help it that I stopped growing in middle school, or that my voice is fairly high. I can’t help it that I literally don’t fit into normal women’s clothes. Every time a guy is attracted to me, I have to question it and ask myself, is he really attracted to ME or how small I am and that fact that, I s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:39 PM
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Happened to me too, hopefully it’s just a temporary glitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:34 AM
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I’m reposting this as a comment so I never ever forget. “ Early in a few relationships, the men made certain declarations about themselves that turned out to be 100% true. "I'm an asshole". This is obviously a great big bright glaring neon red flag seen from outer space, but when said with a smile, in a joking context, early when we are wearing stupid love goggles, it is easy to dismiss it as he is just kidding around. Especially if he's cute and ticks several other + boxes. Pickmes have a hard …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:43 AM
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I needed this. “Now, my mom’s a lawyer so she used this analogy that honestly enlightened me. “You say BDSM is consensual. Now let’s imagine we’re in a court of law. Imagine X told Y that he had a murder fetish and that he wanted Y to stab him to death. Do you think Y would get away with murder even if it was consensual? Apply this to assault, which is what BDSM is at its core.” “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:23 AM
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This whole section was like an arrow to my soul. “The thought of going to sleep every night, worrying if he's hiding something. The thought of getting to know someone's family 🤢 the thought of meeting their scrote friends 🤢 the thought of learning about their past relationships and seeing the way they talk about their exes, good or bad. LETTING A MAN HAVE A SAY IN THE DECORATING?!?!? No fucking thank you. I do what I want, when I want to. I sleep with who I want, when I want. I spend my money al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:46 AM
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“ In this memoir, Giuffre describes a conversation she had with Epstein on the subject of biology while she was giving him a massage. According to Giuffre, when she complained of a boyfriend’s infidelity, Epstein responded, “I’m going to save you a lot of grief with this one tip. Never expect a man to be faithful and you’ll never be let down. It’s just the way us men are genetically imprinted.” “ Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 08:50 PM
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Thank you for all the work put into this safe place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 06:55 PM
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I remember reading that Eli Wiesel would sexually harass/sexually assault women at his book events, a book about the Holocaust and it ruined it for me. How many more men out there who rape, sexually assault, sexually harass, cheat, etc… It’s disgusting… A lot of the men I looked up to as a kid, turned out to be villains in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 06:52 PM
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Thank you for warning others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 06:43 PM
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This is one of my forever dealbreakers. Forever. I don’t care who it is, how much I “love him,” one mention of wanting to go to a strip club I’m out. That being said, ladies, speaking as someone who has been to strip clubs to try to understand why men go, who has friends who worked in strip clubs, seriously, if a man says he’s been to a strip club, and enjoyed it, it’s a very serious red flag. Don’t mention being against it in the beginning. Okay the soft cool girl card to figure out where he st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 12:01 AM
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I feel nauseous after seeing this. I feel physically ill. Those poor women… Being used and objectified sexually, repeatedly… Reading the comments of the men disgusts me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:54 AM
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This is so incredibly depressing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 09:50 PM
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“Men do shit because they don’t fear consequences. Let me create that fear.” Wow. Powerful. I have felt this way, but never have I seen that feeling captured perfectly in words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:34 PM
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“Keep working towards your income, career, investment, retirement and asset goals as if he's not in your life.“ I needed to read this. Thank you for validating my core intention. Thank you for validating the direction I have carefully, strategically chosen to direct my actions to build my future. Thank you. This post is a goldmine of wisdom, truth, and strategies. Thank you with all my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:27 AM
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”Men do not change for who they want. They saw someone who they want and are keeping up an act to keep having access to it.” That one, that one is intense. I need to sit down after reading that one. I wish someone had told this to me years earlier...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:03 PM
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This one hit home for me. “If he wanted to, he would.” Goes in line with “Actions speak louder than words.” My personal favorite “Never stop vetting.” From Chump Lady herself. “Trust that they suck.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:01 PM
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Wow. Now that’s an anthem right there. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:56 AM
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I don’t understand why a man would listen to either of those podcasts. They both have horrid reputations. It doesn’t take a genius to do a simple google research and find out everything you need to know about them, and why they are terrible sources for information... Oh my god. I just had an epiphany. High Value Women and High Value Men, don’t just vet their future romantic partners. They vet EVERYTHING they consume!! Food, content, news, podcasts, books, movies, television, EVERYTHING! How did …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:53 AM
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This would make a great addition to the handbook. When you truly vakue yourself, you won’t settle for less in ANY category of your life, not just love, food too!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:49 AM
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I mean, even pizza has a low value version and a high value version. I love pizza too, but I love high quality/high value pizza. Low value version = fast food pizza from large corporate chain, usually made with cheap ingredients, frozen ingredients, processed/packaged filler etc. High value version = fresh dough made by hand with ingredients freshly harvested, sauce made by hand. Either by someone who loves you and knows how to make pizza from scratch, OR a professional chef usually in a high en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:49 AM
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I love your response and I 100% agree with everything you wrote. Also, love your username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:44 AM
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I will say, usually the few men who hold toxic men accountable for their behavior, are men who were raised by a strong mother and had multiple sisters around while growing up. I’m not sure what it is, but those two combinations , combined with loving and respecting their mother and sisters, usually is an indicator they have a higher standard for behavior, and will absolutely confront any man who is in their vicinity and is mistreating a woman in their presence, Extremely rare, but they do exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:43 AM
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Wtf... this is disturbing... is this real??? Does she have a legitimate learning disability? This isn’t normal, this isn’t healthy, this isn’t right...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:34 AM
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The more objectively attractive you are, the more you should be wary around men in general. That’s just how it is, it’s unfortunate but true...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:32 AM
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I would collect the evidence and report him to the police. You never know how far a man will go for “revenge.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:29 AM
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That is a great point, thank you. I’m going to remember those words: “You will if you allow yourself to open to a man of worth, and never less than that.” Thank you emmgdac 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:55 AM
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Sometimes it’s wiser to tell people, especially toxic dysfunctional men, what they want to hear, until you are able to maneuver the situation in your favor to leave. I’m not saying this is the best way, but I fall into the percentile of the smallest women in my country in height and weight. I can’t afford to take chances with my physical safety. I’ve already had countless experiences of men threatening me with violence just for rejecting their romantic advances. I’ve learned to socially maneuver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:53 AM
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“If he had an affair, he may be made to feel guilty for having it, rather than made to feel noble for electing to stay with his family in the end. ” What the fuck is this actual garbage of a trash human writing? Seriously? There is NOTHING NOBLE about having an affair!!! Who let this trash publish on PT? This is abhorrent. Where is chump lady when we need her, I feel sick reading that article. Really? Women desire sex less over time? Why is it only focused on men getting what they want? Is he gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:44 AM
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Wtf is wrong with some people... ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:36 AM
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Over time I became conditioned to say “not all men” as to avoid physical violence. Sucks, but that’s just the truth. You never know who might be listening, or who might react violently...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:09 AM
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Honestly, both, I hope to someday experience what you described “I made love once to a man I did think I loved, and the way we looked in each others eyes, the energy, the emotion, the comfort, the trust, I cried afterwards simply because of the emotional release that overwhelmed me- I never felt so vulnerable, so naked (not physically but mentally and emotionally) and so seen ever before in life that I cried that my younger self thought this only happened in movies..” Someday... someday. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:08 AM
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That book “Why Does He Do That” saved me a few years back from being stuck with a toxic narcissistic LVM/NVM. It’s a priceless gem of wisdom, information, and strategies to protect yourself and exit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:06 AM
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We should be teaching our sisters, our cousins, our friends, future daughters, in middle school how to avoid predatory men. In elementary school is when they should be taught to not blindly trust adults and how to spot predatory adults. The same way we teach children not to approach wild dogs. These toxic men will always exist, it’s up to us to protect and maintain the sisterhood. Men will try to brainwash into believing other women’s re competition, that’s not true. There is strength in numbers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:04 AM
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This is exactly why I, as someone with legitimate trauma, will test the waters by telling a story of something that could be seen as traumatic, but wasn’t trauma inducing for me personally. What a man does with that information, how he responds to it, if, when, and who he shares that information with, if he ever uses it as ammunition against me, his behavior/response gives me all the information about him, without putting myself in the crosshairs. Never stop vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:00 AM
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Irrefutable facts, trauma should only be shared with a therapist, and close trusted people who have EARNED your trust over YEARS of vetting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:58 AM
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This is so horrifying, poor woman. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:53 PM
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Wow, this brought tears to my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:03 PM
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The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker If He’s So Great Why Do I Feel So Bad by Avery Neal Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov Make Every Man Want You by Marie Forleo Leave A Cheater Gain A Life by Tracy Schorn Not Just Friends by Shirley P Glass Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft Stop Caretaking The Borderline or Narcissist by Margalis Fjelstad Dangerous Personalities by Joe Navarro Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S F Heller The Human Magnet Syndrome by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:34 AM
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The entitled ignorance is so disgusting. This just screams “Why won’t you take a chance on ME?! I’m ”not” a Predator!” Why is it the ones who protest the most, are usually the same ones who exihibit predatory behavior? Fucking hypocrites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:48 AM
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Wow. That sounds like a dream. I don’t think that was possible, your comment should be handbook material. A man’s attitude regarding children says a lot about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:46 AM
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Thank you for this reminder. “Your health and peace of mind should always come first.” Thank you also for this one. “Ladies, this is your reminder to get checked up regularly. Don’t ever put that off. Nourish and take care of your body. Be EXTREMELY ruthless with whom you let into your life — it will affect you in the end. DROP ANYONE, with no hesitation, who is anything but supportive and kind towards you. Try your best to stay positive, resilient, and gentle with yourself. Feel what you need t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:40 AM
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“There is nothing better than when a man can genuinely make you laugh, and genuinely make you cum.” I 100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:38 AM
1

I wanted to add this. Almost everh guy has some kind of anonymous username they use on the Internet. If you can find that one, and search through the content to see if there are any red flags, that’s great. Most guys aren’t going to hide things on their social media profiles that are attached to their real name/likeness etc. That’s just how it is. Most men, would rather gaslight you to accept their “questionable behavior” rather than take accountability, reflect on it, and grow in a healthier di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:36 PM
5

Time is valuable, better not to waste it on low effort meet ups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 07:52 AM
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“🚩Flying to him. Men that ask you to come to them are at best 50/50 men. And this is the worst outcome. Even if he pays to fly you out, you are putting yourself in his environment vs him having to demonstrate that he can thrive in your world.“ Never thought of it like that. 😳 Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:06 AM
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“You know what they say: when respect isn’t served, learn to leave the table.” I wish I was taught this as a teenager. I would have avoided many years of trauma and misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 11:54 AM
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“On OLD you have to be ruthlessly selective, just like in real life. There is absolutely no benefit to compromising on any standard you may have for men. When you bend the rules for men, they never thank you for it. They will just see it as a green light to keep lowering the bar.” Thank you for this. Exactly as you said, they, LVM/NVM/most men, never thank you for making an exception. They just keep trying to force the bar lower and lower...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 11:25 AM
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“Where we have to beg a man not to leave us, beg him to pick me when his attention is distracted by millions of naked women” Suddenly the anxiety I have felt on and off that I didn’t have words for, has been defined and described. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 11:23 AM
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The accuracy of this is too real. Selfishness in life equates to selfishness in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 10:32 AM
3

“When you’re not used to being confident, confidence feels like arrogance.” “When you’re used to being passive, assertiveness feels like aggression.” “When you’re not used to to getting your needs met, prioritizing yourself feels selfish. Your comfort zone is not a good benchmark.” FDS handboom material right here. I needed this reminder. This is exactly the pitfall of not learning discernment and healthy boundaries. The most important relationship you have, is with yourself. When you love and r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:41 PM
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This is priceless information, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:56 AM
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This is why, all FDS women should work towards becoming tech savvy. They can try to hide, sure, they can TRY, but every digital action, leaves a digital footprint. It can be found, if you’re willing to put in the work, if you’re willing to learn to be tech savvy, whilst simultaneously appearing NOT tech savvy. Vet more aggressively, by snooping, you’ll save yourself a lot of time, energy, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:55 AM
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“Do not ‘build-a-man’, save that energy for yourself and for your children.“ A perfect meditation mantra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:48 AM
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Snoop. That will tell you everything you need to know about their habits. Habits/Patterns don’t change. I wish I had more knowledge myself. I’m never married, just been in multiple serious relationships prior to discovering FDS. Every time I had a weird feeling, every fucking time, EVERY TIME, when I snooped, I found the information that gave credibility to my intuition. Become tech savvy, extremely tech savvy, and play dumb about it. I regret telling men I am tech savvy. I regret it, because th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:47 AM
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“also, I have a lovely high-value woman friend who chose to wait six years until her daughter turned eighteen before letting herself re-enter the dating world. She said, "I never wanted to make her feel uncomfortable having an unrelated man around all the time." I have nothing but huge respect for her doing that. Children. Come. First.” Her daughter has no idea just how lucky she is. A low value/no value woman destroys her children not only with the low value/no value men she brings around, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:40 AM
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“And maybe this is controversial, but wanting to split 50/50. The man who wants to go 50/50 on dinner doesn’t understand that foreplay begins with generosity (because there is no male generosity in porn—and no, giving oral is not generosity when intercourse is expected in return).” It’s honestly incredible how just one section of your well-writtn comment caused such a visceral reaction in my body of nausea and anxiety. This explains so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:37 AM
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“Commitment alone means nothing without respect.” FDS Handbook material quote right here. I learned this the hard way again and again. It doesn’t matter if they say he says he is committed, it doesn’t it his actions make it seem like he “is” committed. Does he respect? Do his actions show that he respects you? Do you feel respected? If someone asks you “Do you feel respected in your relationship with him?” does your heart sink and your stomach full with knots, or does your heart fill with joy? T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:31 AM
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“I'm not sure if this is a lot of help. But I figured out a short term college boyfriend was a porn addict by watching where his eyes went. It was always to every butt or chest we walked by or were around. Including my roommates or friends. For some reason no one else noticed. He also laughed uncontrollably whenever he watched anime and it had the anime boob jiggle. Everytime.” That first part, my god, level 10,000 observation skills. Thank you for sharing this valuable information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:27 AM
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I hope to reach this stage soon. This comment made my night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:24 AM
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As someone who escaped a situation eerily similar to yours less than a year ago, well done sister!!! Your new chapter begins, and it is fresh and full of beautiful memories to be made. You should be proud of yourself. ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:23 AM
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Omg “Stay toxic, King.” I am deceased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:21 AM
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“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” -Maya Angelou True FDS spirit all the way, what a great quote. It’s easy to ruminate over the guilt of past pickme behavior, accepting the past with love, and doing better with purpose, is the best way forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:18 AM
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It’s amazing how the redpill incels find new ways to repulse high value women. Truly incredible, you’d think with that kind of innovation and creativity, they could, I don’t know work on themselves. But alas, the bar is in the sewer, and they all they have to offer is shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:15 AM
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“Don't be thinking like that though. There's nothing wrong with your body. I have short friends who swear that they attract a disproportionate amount of LVM, abusers, and pedos. But my taller friends and I always swear that OUR height attracts more abusers; like trophy wife and social status chasers, creepy "breeding material" weirdos, and disgusting older men who grew up with tall women as the beauty standard and basically fetishize us. We've gone back and forth in debate about it but the actua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:18 PM
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If he ever compared you to a “porny” ig model or OnlyFans girl, saying that you look like her or something, or that she reminds him of you, he’s definitely watching her content. If he claims to not know how the OnlyFans website looks, randomly out of nowhere, red flag. If he says something like “I’m surprised you don’t have an OnlyFans!” He’s definitely watching that kind of content. Let’s see, what else... check his social media profiles. Who does he follow? If he owns a smartphone, he is consu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:06 PM
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“Mind you, this man told me he didn't have instagram. However, he did have an instagram account for his dog. Out of curiosity (and the fact I wanted to snoop), I asked what his dog's instagram account was and decided to snoop later. Personally, I don't have social media but if someone has a public account you're able to see who they're following/followers. Tell me why when I checked his "dogs" instagram account, his poor dog was following over 2k instagram models/pornstars. Why did he bring his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:57 PM
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Wow that first quote “a man’s heart is a wretched, wretched thing. It isn’t like a mother’s womb. It won’t bleed. It won’t stretch to make room for you.” I need to sit down after reading that. Perfect description of LVM/NVM...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:46 PM
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This is such a great point. Thinking back to one particular relationship, he didn’t just neglect me, he neglected his dogs too. The impulses of his dysfunctional behavior were always the number 1 priority, and it affected EVERYTHING .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:20 AM
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“I think that it is because of the social gaslighting, because women are judged non stop and they list any good or imagined qualities they could think of in a failed attempt to be FAIR. Because it is unthinkable for a woman to criticize man's character and actions/wrongdoings. So in order for women to state their pain or concerns in front of a mixed society, they have to dim or excuse the bad, give reasons to themselves and the others why they've chosen the scum bag and catalogue all the efforts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:17 AM
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“Support him at his lowest and watch him cheat on you at his best. Support him at his lowest and discover that he was cheating there too.” Your addition to it is a perfect description, a LVM/NVM is who he is regardless of whether you help him or not. I’ve had both happen to me in completely different relationships. It’s soul crushing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:12 AM
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“They can fake being generous, they think they're putting down a deposit and technically paying for you for life. Rent to own. They hate women's work and caring for women. See how they act when you have your period, have a cold, or otherwise sexually unavailable and need physical caretaking, or need them to step up and do housework/cooking for you while you recover. If they whine about it, refuse to come see you (mysteriously get busy at work once a month when you're on your period), mock you fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:38 AM
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“HV men are always thinking about their partners and family first. They exhibit high values of empathy and contribute to the relationship. This is their default. LVM want security and will put on a performance if that’s what they need to get it.” Thank you for this reminder. I needed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:32 AM
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I don’t have any valuable advice, I just wanted to say your daughter is lucky to have you as a mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:29 AM
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This is exactly why I have stopped going to local events unless I have someone with me, a man I trust, to protect me. I can’t enjoy local events without predatory men stalking me, harassing me, bothering me, trying to touch me, grope me, etc. Does the event organizer do anything about it? Oh sure, they lecture the predatory men, and then the predatory men go right back to what they did before, targeting women. I fucking hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:25 AM
5

This is a brilliant strategy, and definitely handbook material. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:37 PM
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This is life-changing information, thank you!!! I just downloaded it! This link by itself is worthy of being a post, photo priceless info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:46 AM
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That is incredibly depressing. Wow. It’s not that difficult to have healthy snacks and healthy meals available and accessible in your own kitchen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:53 AM
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It’s amazing how LVM/NVM toxic men will try to deny things even when there is LITERAL TECHNOLOGICAL PROOF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 09:06 AM
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As a woman, everything in this post hits home for me. :( I was working a full time job, cooking, cleaning, errands, logistics, EVERYTHING, while in a serious relationship during the pandemic. I worked so hard, I had multiple breakdowns, and it STILL wasn’t enough. I’ve learned the hard way, I will never live with a man again out of wedlock, never again. I worked to the bone, every single day, and at the end of it? I got nothing out of it, I ended up IN DEBT, because I was so busy taking care of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:36 AM
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When a man doesn’t know how to cook for himself, that is a GIANT red flag. What does he do? Eat out all the time? Order in? How does he manage his diet in his day to day life? Does he simply not care enough about himself to prioritize HIS health and HIS future by learning to do one of the most BASIC tenets of healthy habits? This isn’t husband material, that’s not a High Value Man. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:29 AM
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“A person who doesn’t love, value, respect and accept themselves will NEVER love, value, respect and accept you.” Handbook material quote right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:26 AM
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It really doesn't matter about what most guys are doing, it only takes one to traumatise you. Exactly. Then 10 guys all try to do the same abusive tactics and realize it was never about YOU these toxic men are the problem. Never let a man, or woman (!!!), convince you to forego safety precautions! Boundaries exist for a reason to keep us SAFE!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:59 PM
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thats brilliant advice !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:01 PM
1

Thank you for the reminder. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:40 AM
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I hate how society encourages martyrdom to women. Why? Why? What do I have to give myself away to everyone else, for THEIR benefit, what about MY LIFE?! What about ME?! It’s so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:35 AM
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Agreed... a lot of women think doing this kind of emotional labor is normal but it IS NOT. Here is my breakdown for screening + avoiding doing emotional labor for a man who is attempting to clown you: A lot of women just assume every man is a decent human being until proven otherwise. Oftentimes, after being proven otherwise multiple - dozens of times. By the same man! Through trauma bonding, some of them are unable to see what is clearly in front of them. The truth is, you have to vet him to se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:32 AM
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Cheaters are morally bankrupt people, it’s a character flaw. This is 100% the truth. There’s no changing them, or “helping them learn or grow” it’s a CHOICE, and they CHOOSE to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:28 AM
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The Saturday Strategy Spotlight is a godsend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:57 PM
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So a scrote gets past the gate and missed the point. What is the number thing that is talked about here in relation to men? Their BEHAVIOR!!! What’s the difference between an objectively attractive man and a plainly or homely faced man? Their attitude, and their mindset. I got treated worse by men who were unattractive, than I did by men who were objectively attractive. There are still jerks in the attractive range too, but how do you explain that? Why is it some of the biggest bullies I HAVE EV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:52 PM
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Wow this is a life-changing strategy. Now I just have to think of a false insecurity that would make a perfect test that I’d pick up on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:04 AM
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This is such a great list to keep in mind, thank you for sharing these details in your post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:58 AM
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Whenever I hear a man complaining about hypergamy, it’s an obvious red flag. If you donmt measure up, what’s stopping you from leveling up? NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:44 AM
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“A LVM will take years of your youth and feel like he's the one getting a bad deal.” Needs to be added to the handbook, the accuracy is too real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:42 AM
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I got used like this. It gave me trust issues for life. They, LVM /NVM, take and take and take and take from you. Then when you need support, resources, connections, anything, poof suddenly they’re busy, suddenly it “wouldn’t be appropriate” for hem to help you. Suddenly, the tables are turned, and turned against you. This is exactly why I keep vetting and will never stop vetting and observing. You never know, you might be dealing with a skilled, practiced actor who KNOWS he’s A POS but still wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:31 AM
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“Love is not transactional. A high-value man will not treat your relationship like you're a live-in maid because he makes more money. If he loves you, respects you, and values you, you're not his servant, you're his partner, and anything you do around the home is your additional and personal choice to support him, not an obligation. A high-value man wants to provide for you because he loves you and wants you to be happy. A low-value man will provide for you and then expect things in return. A hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:25 AM
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Omg, hobosexual hahahaha, what a perfect description!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:35 PM
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This is a great example of cultural and generational changes. Sure there have been some improvements in available opportunities for women in the work field, but finding a true gentleman, is almost impossible. That’s why I’m focused on my career, I felt safer when I had a big dog living with me, than I ever felt living with a man. PERIOD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:18 PM
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Ah yes, the “privilege” of objectified 99% of the time, sexual harassment, sexual assault, getting raped, potentially kidnapped, psychologically tortured, abused, and more. Hey lurkers, want to take a wild guess how many times I’ve been groped, grabbed, sexually assaulted on a first date? Let’s talk about the time an older man refused to drive me unless I had sex with him. After he suggested going to touristy spot that was quite a drive away in a city I lived in at the time. Let’s talk about the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:44 AM
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This is exactly why smooth subtle interrogation skills and not revealing yourself too early is exactly. A lot of men will pretend to be HVM because they can tell that’s what you want, and they want you badly enough to pretend , instead of focusing on growth and personal development. You know, the hard stuff, the stuff that actually requires effort. Like when a LVM/NVM man pretends to go on a diet and half-heartedly works out, to try to get with a woman who is an athlete. They’ll do the minimum a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:27 AM
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‘They just say whatever magical collection of words unlocks access to women's bodies. "I love you. I want a future with you. I want a family with you." Empty words and empty souls’ Like a punch in the stomache. I wish I was taught this when I was a teenager /entering my early 20’s. It would have saved me a lot of pain and trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:23 AM
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"Turn the other cheek." No. Absolutely the FUCK Not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:01 AM
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Me: Oh wow, look. It’s the ghost of my attraction to you. Him: 😒 Me: Because it’s dead. Bye. That is bloody brilliant, haha! Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:12 AM
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I have something to add to this. Sexual Experiences/Preferences Habits and romantic habits. Whenever I am starting to get to know a man, I will put random specific questions about his sexual preferences and sexual habits, in between “normal” questions. For example, I’ll ask him does he enjoy watching movies by himself or with people, then follow up with asking what are his favorite genre of movies are and why. After that, I follow up with do you watch any adult movies or adult entertainment such…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:45 AM
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Wow. These are all great points, especially that last slide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:52 PM
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When will we be able to genetically engineer men into being actual humans with a moral compass? Tell me why reading this felt as if my chest was punched. I wish my younger self was more well informed on the depravity of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:58 AM
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That is so terrifying, why don’t they test for these... It feels like a war against women from every angle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:56 AM
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It’s amazing, they really didn’t think it through AT ALL. Actions have consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:52 AM
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As someone who was unknowingly involved with narcissists, yeah, I 100% agree with this information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:48 AM
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I wish I had discovered FDS sooner. Ironically, my entry started with some random man on the Internet on an anonymous forum complaining about FDS. This piqued my interested, and the rest is history. I wish I had found this community sooner. I’ve been a lurker for about 2-3 months. This has been a life-changing experience of personal development, growth, healing, and connection. I’ve had to end friendships with female friends who accepted dysfunctional unhealthy men, being able to connect with ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:46 AM
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This is exactly why I stay away from men who brag about having a high body count. Too risky for my health, AND it’s ususlly a sign of bad character...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:36 AM
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The hypocrisy is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:18 AM
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This is exactly why I have refused to reproduce, get married, or fully move in with the past men I dated. I was absolutely terrified of getting trapped. My hopes for a HVM are low, but I won’t settle for anything less, and I know I can give myself happiness, good health, and stability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:14 AM
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This should be added to the Handbook. The worst most violating experiences, within a romantic context or a sexual content, I have ever had, were from men who had either a cop or military background.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:00 AM
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