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My ex did the same and I ended up offering more alimony, and the house …for nothing as today I can’t even step into the house I left her as she guilt trip me that I would have to be ok with her and the kids living in the ghetto of o didn’t, now she brings her new man to sleeping in the house I left her, FK the guilt trip
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 06:20 AM
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I live in S. Cali and it took me 2.5 years, first off they won’t even look at your file u til 6 months after you file and then you are in a line of files …then go through the discovery of finances, then settlement and then waiting for h to w judge to sign off and that’s not if one of the lawyers miss a paper signed which sets you back
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 07:44 AM
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I raged and argued and even when my ex stared to date some one serious I followed him to get in his face. At the end of the day, it doesn’t change her feelings and only made me look stupid. But I got it off my chest and really who cares what other ppl think about you if you need to say what you have to say then do it. She may not have a response or the response might not be what you wanted but you have the right to speak your peace. Forget playing the high road , as once it’s over it’s over and …
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 01:15 AM
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I’m in the same boat at 47 with 2 young kids. Life only feels normal when I have them and when they are gone, so is my happiness. I think the real problem is I feel that I can’t trust another woman to be that close to me again. 2.5 years we been separated and officially divorced as kid last Nov 2023 …and it still hurts
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 09:07 AM
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Never get married, just have kids! Raise your kids right that is all you need, you will never get that bond from a wife as you do with your own children, hence wives are like 80% who initiate the divorce! Not worth it to get married just to be let down and have to pay them bc they don’t want you …how F is that
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 08:25 AM
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She still loves you so unless you want to reconcile then be upfront and talk to her that these conversations are no longer necessary to bring up as you have moved on, not with another women but emotionally moved forward. My point is communicate and don’t ghost her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 04:22 AM
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Wow I just divorced my wife and she has one more year in dental school and I have 2 kids a 5 and 14month and she too has a huge ego …she doesn’t threaten me like your situation. I just found how similar our scenario was…the mental abuse is there and it’s been 2 years since the divorce started and my advice is you need to move forward faster and don’t even think she will ever change..I’m not completely there but moving ahead is easier now that I don’t think of reconciliation
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 08:25 AM
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The time I have my kids is the only time I get good sleep if you can imagine that as when they are gin that’s when I’m drinking and just overthinking the whole life situation….fml there days I drink 48hrs straight
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 09:40 AM
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I learned once it starts, there is no turning back and the person you married turned into the person they really were and masked it for the relationship hence the divorce…..
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 09:38 AM
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Thank for your the sound advice!
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 04:29 PM
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Don’t consider moving out! That is the worst move!
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 11:45 PM
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If you are considering reconciliation, then do NOT let this happen! I went through this and the MiL only causing more strain between each other!
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 01:50 AM
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I fully intend to raise my daughter to not take things for granted and own up taking accountability for her actions…doesn’t mean us men didn’t make mistakes but it is never one sided and both parties either will grow together or fall apart…my ex-w would NEVER admit to anything wrong…to a point she blames me for doing things during our separation as if I had an obligation to her as a wife yet she was able to act independently …talk about being hypocritical
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 06:10 AM
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I have 50/50 and our schedule is Friday after school to next Friday dropping the kids off school in the morning. This gives us each weekend time with the kids and also weekend off without the kids….I couldn’t handle 2 days on 2 days off schedule that some do…just not enough time to spending quality time …it’s like just whenever you settle in with the kids they are off …7 days together works great for me
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 03:22 AM
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I got divorced without a lawyer. You don’t need one if you agree what is fair between the both.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 04:55 PM
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Thanks, that’s the hard pill to swallow even though I know that is what is needed as well as that is what she has already started doing with me….she doesn’t reply to any text if it’s nothing about the kids needs SMH
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 03:28 PM
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Not take accountability for her fault and just rather never talk about the 8 years and 2 kids we built but hey learn that better things will come around it’s just you gotta go through this trench before reaching better times….I’m 1.5yrs and it still barely has gotten better …it actually just gets worst so not even sure I have hit the divorce bottom yet FML
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 05:54 AM
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Don’t let your feelings get you to give in more, I made that mistake I gave her more $ and she shows zero appreciation for it
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 01:49 AM
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I need to read this everyday! Great advice!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:47 AM
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The term narcissist is used by therapist to help women blame men so they don’t take any accountability of a failed marriage….my ex called me that too and sent me videos of of what it means and I was like well realistically you do the exact same thing …women get bored and leave the marriage that a reality no one talks about yet blame it on men BS
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 07:57 AM
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Bro, I read your caption and then stoped after the word “cheated”. Anyone cheated on me I would be upset but OFC I would be completely over a waste of time women. Nothing to think about and actually easier to move on knowing it wasn’t your fault !
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 07:07 AM
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You really haven’t described anything horrible about your wife. You also haven’t mentioned what steps YOU taken to make the marriage better …the only negative is that YOU can’t handle the stress of married and having a kid so you get high and drunk….what wife would be happy in a marriage with a husband like that? Trust me, being the sole provider is NOT a reason to think you deserve to be King of the house. It’s taken me loosing my family to realize my ego about being the sole provider was a mis…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 09:36 AM
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I would never merry again period
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 08:05 PM
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This is what I’m saying, why wives would divorce their men they know completely already to just jump with another guy who’s wife divorced them…that new guy will still have the same problems so why not try and fix the marriage first instead of calling it quits
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 05:17 PM
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Wow I’m not trying to say I’m happy, but it is a good insight to how the person who initiated the divorce feels, maybe not all but partially feel regret. I always advise ppl that think about getting a divorce to no look at what your spouse hasn’t done to make the marriage work, but be honest with one self if you have made the effort to make the marriage a happy one, and no being the sole provider is not all you can do….it’s a very long emotional roller coaster this thing called divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 12:22 AM
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I’m in the same boat, don’t get me wrong, I made mistakes, didn’t pay attention to her, didn’t make plans to make her feel special, argued a lot and worst of I started to gamble….though I was the sole provider, I used that as excuse that she would never leave me and she did…I think we all go through ranting it was out of left field, but really deep down we know our faults …I’ve haven’t come fully to terms that my marriage is over even with the final divorce papers ….but I’m slowly started to acc…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 07:25 AM
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It’s hilarious the top reasons women divorce men are the same; communication issues, lack of attention, and no respect for us men…yet the ex’s believe leaving us they will find it in other men lmao yet almost 100% divorce is bc of these 3 reasons so why not just fix with who you are with than start over and just repeat the same issues with the next and most of the time if they divorced at a later age with kids end up with other divorced men SMH stupid just they don’t appreciate what they have….n…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 07:17 AM
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I wouldn’t say the divorce was all my ex-w fault, but yea it would feel good to know she finally takes responsibility for her part in our divorce
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 05:21 PM
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Todays world is about what have you done for me lately and not what have you done for me through the years ….my ex wife told me well that was your choice …zero appreciation for being the sole provider for 9 years, we lived an above average life and as I didn’t feel appreciated I went out more often and didn’t come home as I turn to gambling to pass the time of zero affection…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 06:33 AM
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You need to man up and let her go…..for me if my ex had did that it would be easier for me to let her go….respect yourself otherwise she would never respect you
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 06:25 AM
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What does it mean you get primary if it is 50/50 custody?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 05:22 PM
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Mine is 36 and now she posts she’s getting closer to becoming the person she was meant to be, as if having a family with 2 young kids, living above average life in a nice house, luxury cars wasn’t who she was meant to be ! Now she’s hanging around ppl in their late 20s and early 30s as if she missed something from life total bs
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 05:49 PM
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That’s what I’m saying, for this past Vday and Mother’s Day I took my daughter to let her pick out a gift and a card ….it was a paw patrol card …but I get snub for Father’s Day….I told her I get your reason I was a shit husband ( I was but I still was the sole provider ) but im a great father to our kids at least acknowledge that when she is barley a good mother and I still got our kids to acknowledge her on her special day so wtf
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 09:06 AM
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When we first separated and she stayed in the house with our kids and her mother, I continued to pay all the bills and even that didn’t earn me any points ..when I brought up how ridiculous it was she goes well you’re paying for your kids to have a roof over their heads …putting the guilt on me to provide while she doesn’t work yet she leaves me fml
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 04:20 AM
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I hear you brother, ex wife rants to everyone she divorced me bc she don’t want me to take her down and yet, the house still only in my name, her Mercedes AMG car still in my name, our car insurance I’m still paying, text me on payday to remind me to send her the alimony lol and still rants to our friends I’m broke but she needs my money bc she won’t get a job wtf …I’m done …good ridden!
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 01:53 AM
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Sounds like this is your chance to explore a different life for you by moving away to a big city? If I didn’t have kids I would move so far from my ex wife !!! Dallas or Houston would be my choice!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 02:12 AM
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I never cried or begged for my ex-wife to stay and while being separated my way of trying to win her back was pointing out her flaws and continuing to argue with her to a point she called the cops on me 2 days before Christmas ( the argument was that I asked her if she was going to out both our names on the presents and she asked for me if I was going to pay for them if I wanted my name on it ) to this day which the whole process took almost 1.5 years I’m still arguing over her faults…needless t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 12:25 AM
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Women eat that word up making those dumb relationship influencers like Jay Shertty money…gives them a reason to not take accountability for their mistakes and blame us by calling us narcissists! But reality is when we argue we are telling facts but they can’t handle it and find a way to not be their fault calling us narcissists and verbal abuse lol
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 03:11 AM
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Thanks !
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 04:01 PM
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2 miles in order to get 50/50 custody otherwise o would only see them 4 days every other week and she would get more alimony and CS …having my daughter around helps as she brightens up my day even when I struggle to make ends meet…moved into a new place and could only afford the bed for now …so we eat on the floor and she’s like it’s like us having a picnic….I’m so mad that my ex gets to keep the house and everything while I have to struggle to make a new home and now need a 2nd job fml never ag…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 07:33 AM
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I still have access to our outside security cameras so I get notifications and check them …I think my ex left my access as she knows I love my kids and I’m just making sure they are safe I’m assuming u til she has moved on. This is how I know…as for the right of refusal o didn’t even think or know about this…this irritates me so much that she can’t schedule her personal life around our children. She may had field for divorce but lots of things she has done to uncover perhaps it maybe been for th…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 04:14 PM
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To be fair, you ex has zero idea when the papers would be served to you.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 06:25 AM
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My kids are 4 and 9 months
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 05:56 AM
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Sounds like you don’t have kids, it is harder on holidays when the kids are with the ex. It’s my first weekend away and my ex instead of spending time with our kids she went out back to back nights…I understand it’s her life now but when I have the kids I never leave my kids alone …when I have my kids I make them my priority. Why become parents if you can’t grow up to be real parents.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 04:46 AM
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I moved out when she filed and when I saw no reconciliation in our future I moved back in telling her she can’t legally keep me out of my house. Good luck and definitely this a good place to get advice or at least have some sanity back into our minds with people helping us
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 08:57 PM
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Yes we finalized the divorce about 2 weeks ago, so now I’m moving out
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 08:19 PM
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Really depends, was it 100% your fault? In my situation I would say I was 70% at fault and how I deal with it is I know I need to man up and continue to provide for my kids as giving up is not an option. Everyday I wake up hating that my ex divorced me and though she was with IG rights to do so, I hate the fact it was a last straw without let’s give it one last try when we are both in the same page …then I just focus on what my life will be as soon as I fix my whole I created during the divorce …
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 08:15 PM
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you can sell the house and split the equity. I wish my ex decided to leave me the house …now it’s back to renting and I go knows when I can save enough to buy another house …with alimony and CS I’m paying $4500 a month to be divorced and she said she divorced me bc she didn’t want me to drag her down ( I gamble ) yet she living off my money and not even gonna get a job ! It totally does get worse every step, in the same boat as you …only thing keeping me on the positive thinking is the time I ge…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 12:40 AM
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Yup so true I speak from experiences…fml
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 12:19 AM
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Totally agree I too will never get married again my ex gets about 60% of my pay now for the next 3 years …how stupid is that that they can leave you and the law makes us still pay for their living expenses! How about you want a divorce then go get a F job
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 09:44 PM
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Did you feel u happy too? Be honest bc I think it takes both to be unhappy and choose to not do anything about it for a divorce to happen. So while your pointing fingers at her being selfish, did you bring happiness to the family…and holding a job and paying the bills doesn’t make it a happy situation just stable …but if you did your part then I’m sorry it happened to you…some people I think just get so overwhelmed with the family life and looking at all the IG influencers traveling and having f…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 08:16 PM
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I believe when you move on to your next spouse people have learned and do things differently, hence it will seem like the grass is greener but in actuality you’re just doing more to make the relationship happier…obviously this is not 100 everyone as there are those cheaters and crazies spouses lol
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 04:46 PM
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The grass is NOT greener and n the other side …you seem to be where I was before my ex filled for divorce and reality hit…your life is how you make it, not how your wife makes it for you, if you’re not happy, figure out how to make it happy with your wife and family not being selfish by yourself…trust me no one here ( unless the ex wife cheated ) would want a divorce…you need to ask yourself if you put enough effort in making your marriage happy…are you doing your part , not as the good supporti…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 06:23 AM
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Listen, if you need to hear someone else has it worst than you, then I experienced all you mentioned and add on I have a gambling debt from Loan sharks looking for me. But there is no way suicide is the answer….I too was on top of the world, living above average and then my ex wife had enough of my gambling and I went to a spiral…and here I sit no idea how to turn it around but I believe I will bc I have to….can’t give up…and who said we need to be rich to feel happy…to be honest when I was poor…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 06:25 AM
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You can ignore your ex but not the police. I don’t understand why the exchange is late at night. I worked with my ex the exchange is pick up from their school Wed and drop off Monday morning at their school. Never need to see each other or have to be in the position either one is late
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 04:53 AM
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Isn’t it crazy when you look around the house and know that everything in the house is bc of our hard work…and these women just think it’s nothing and toss us aside BS
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 06:04 PM
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Brutal truth fml
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 05:06 PM
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She’s still in dental school and doesn’t have a job…and she’s doesn’t think she will need a job either now that she gets half my pay fml
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 05:06 PM
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The whole “love yourself” is total BS and really selfishness!!! The standard therapy solution to marriage that ultimately always will end the marriage….but hate to break it to you, in a marriage you can’t be selfish, that is for the single people with no kids…anyone ask older married couples if they got there being selfish, the answer will be no…takes hard work, compromises and forgiveness….we are all human and we are not perfect ..so expecting your spouse to be what you imagined without putting…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 02:14 PM
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I agree kids should come first, but people who complain they are not happy need to ask themselves, what have I’ve done to make “US” happy! Instead of “me”
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/23 07:26 AM
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When you state there is no connection anymore, have you asked yourself why? What have you’ve done to keep the connection over the years? What is it you are missing that you think you need if don’t have a broken family yet? Couple things you may not consider 1) Missing the family life, the routine you know and cherish as a family 2) Depending how old your children are, imagine another man potentially them calling Step-Dad, and if you have a daughter imagine that other man being your daughter’s fa…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/23 02:07 AM
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I’m guess depending on the state you live in, here in CA I just went through this…once the ex starts working, we go back to court to reevaluate the child support …alimony is fixed for the years agreed:..so only child support can be revised once the ex works
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 02:02 AM
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Ask how much contact does he has with his ex…if they talk everyday he definitely has not moved forward
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 12:18 AM
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Something I’m not looking forward too when we all move on …women just think the grass is greener but if they took the time to water their own lawns or treat their husbands like kings if we treat them like queens, there be les divorces
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 07:49 AM
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I went through my STBXW phone and saw she was befriended a 25 year old kid, they where meeting up for lunches, she even bought him a jersey of his fav soccer team for the World Cup. So many levels of emotional commitment between the 2 and she kept arguing they are just friends…even so to see the level of friendship with another man ( kid ) hurts so much that I’m finally able to move on….I filed my tax and sent it to her lawyers to finalize the settlement…sometimes we need this hard fact to move …
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 01:30 AM
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So on point but women will never agree try to make excuses like we are the narcissist one, while they are the one who belittle us while we men are the bread winner and they don’t even work. It’s unreal how entitled they get after marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 07:11 AM
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It’s is so stupid that the women can file a restraining order just for arguing with no violence or threats….STBXW called the cops on me bc I was drunk and arguing with her how she acting entitled asking for money for xmass present to put my name on the presents and I’m shocked she made that request when I still pay for our mortgage, her car, her car insurance and all the utilities…cops come and hand cuffs me so she can leave with my kids and her mother …she comes back the next day and said I cou…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 09:20 AM
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Oh that is a great quote! I need to repeat this daily.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 12:37 AM
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As many times what my STBXW has said and done that makes me realize it’s over, I’m still stuck loving her. I’m dumb
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 07:35 AM
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Wow! I commend you for seeing through her BS and not having any doubts about your decision…my STBXW hasn’t contributed financially, doesn’t ever clean so I have to pay for a maid, complains that having 2 kids is too hard to take care of so needed to hire a nanny, I was working 2 jobs and taking care of our daughter at home when we didn’t have a nanny and instead of seeing how overwhelmed I was she said it was my choice to work 2 jobs and not of hiring a nanny. Barely had sex when all she does is…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 04:45 PM
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You even shed more details that are similar to me, we didn’t respect each other…and even now as I try to be more understanding and not one up on her, she just has so much anger and disappointment from my actions…she called the cops on me 2x for excessive arguing with her…it’s a very sad place to be….but again my advice to you as I would do this over, stop and think what is the purpose of one up on her when arguing? Why need to have the last word? Is the small battle worth it or the war more impo…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 03:53 AM
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I was in your shoes 8 months ago and it was the worst decision if you are not being honest with yourself if divorce is what you really want…I thought great I get to work on myself and things just went down a spiral. Not to say this will happen to you, but I agreed to the separation bc we were not happy…and now 8 months later I wish I worked harder to make things work than make excuses for why we didn’t work. The feeling of starting over, not seeing your kids everyday, the STBXW moving on and the…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 03:26 AM
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I get it, I dread the day my STBXW will bring a new man around …I just see you making excuses to meet your ex new bf to see who see dating…I’ll be in your shoes one day
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 04:06 PM
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you care more about meeting the new ex than taking full custody bc I thought you where concerned your kids are around a creepy guy?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:21 PM
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Wow you hit it on the nail! I didn’t think of it until you said it, “you feel more lonely when they are there” and that is bc my STBX ignores me and I literally have to find out things as she talks to her mom in front of me rather than her telling me…feel so disrespected in my own home. I need to get things situated financially before i can make moves. Wish us better outcomes this year!
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 09:27 AM
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Honestly what is the point of labeling your ex wife a narcissist? How does it help you or the fact you are divorced? The funny thing is at one point you loved her to want to merry her and now she is just all these awful traits with none of the personality that you fell in love with? My STBX labels me this and it’s just dumb….it’s like needing an excuse to show everyone else why one needed to file for divorce….why not just plain and simple say I don’t love you anymore and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 06:47 AM
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I’m still living with my STBXW in our house with 2 kids and her mother. It is NOT easy, even if both are supposedly wanting the divorce and there is no such thing as amicable choice to divorce….The things that made the divorce a choice will still be there bc you just turn off your feelings no matter if you have separate areas in the house…bottom line is take this time to really plan your life after divorce…that was my problem and I was stuck in limbo and really still in limbo but I’m making it m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 06:34 AM
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Agreed and better to not be arguing in front of the children so much…it is though mind fak u bc than my stbxw start talking about things as if we still married and we going to be living together for long…that’s what puts me in limbo. I wonder if I should fold and just move out and start my life over..but than she wins and I don’t get to see my kids as often…catch 22 oh well I’m going suck it up for my kids
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 10:04 PM
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Thank you, I just feel I do owe her even though I was working 2 jobs, taking care of our kid so she can go to school 100%. Im confused why I’m still doing the husband thing, whether it is to win her back or feel like I owe her …hate this limbo feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 08:30 AM
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I’m in limbo still living in the same house but sleeping in my office. Still doing all the husband thing and more bc though the divorce maybe my doing I can’t help but also feel she pulled away from me too and treated me like she was entitled. We just need to remind ourselves how crappy they treated us. I think about it every time I still do the husband duties and don’t know why I still do it …can I get the remote that fast fwd my life
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 07:59 AM
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100 so true, I thought I was giving g her space to figure things out about the marriage and then get the divorce papers and see she put down she takes care of the kids 90% WTF I was only out of the house a month. Saw that and I moved back in
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 05:55 PM
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I wish I thought this through before just packing up, retreat moving out …worst thing to do with a divorce
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 01:10 AM
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I’m in limbo not knowing to still do the husband thing or just say F that
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 04:22 AM
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Very hard to do, I find myself still doing thing for her with no appreciation back…like just yesterday, first time having to take care of both our kids alone ( 2 month and a 3 yr old ) and she told me the night before that her mother ( who lives in our house ) has some things to do, so instead of her taking off school she just expected me to be home to take care of the kids bc I WFH …MIL was gone for 5 hrs and when they both got home not one asked me how it went or even bother talk to me…nice gu…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 07:06 PM
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Exactly according to who, but most men are the ones who leave. Every friend of mine who is divorced moved out and the ex got the house wtf
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 06:02 PM
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Divorce seems to bring the true colors in the person you thought you married. My STBX kicked me out of the house I paid for and was still paying for when she never worked or had to pay anything and decided to only let me see my only daughter from Friday after daycare to Sunday night….I had to fight to get more time and as the divorce papers start coming I see why, it was only so she can put that she takes care of my daughter 90% of the time to get more child support, unreal.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 06:24 AM
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The alternative is much worst if this is the most grip you have about your wife in a divorce section. My advice is to really understand the issue and perhaps there is a compromise.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 01:04 AM
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Good points! Will try, it’s tough…I need to hit the gym back to my pre marital shape
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 04:49 AM
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Man it’s so brutal to see family pictures just disappear as if we never existed…I am trying to not look …need to focus on myself thanks
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 11:39 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 11:36 PM
3

Thanks facing the truth that she has moved on hurts
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 08:14 PM
3

Great analogy! If I look at past pics I can start to see when the relationship started to fade. Dam truth hurts
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 08:12 PM
1

Then your lawyer dropped the ball, if you both wanted to sell the house it should be in the court order…I’m finding this out now that no matter how many years and money one has done for the other, divorce brings out the ugliness in people….I supported my STBX wife for 8 years, paid for everything and she didn’t even have to think about prices ( within reason I’m no millionaire but not poor ) but now she filed for divorce and wants everything on documents…unreal.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 04:54 AM
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Did you request to sell the house as I have read that if both parties do not agree on what to do with the house that the judge would default to sell the house. That would help you not having to pay half the mortgage and if you have equity in the house half is yours.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 12:16 AM
1

Never stay with someone who cheated on you bc you will always resent them for it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 06:22 AM
2

So sell the house and cars now? And let her worry where to live on her own even though she prego with my son and has another month to go?
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 10:12 AM
2

Wow, I'm almost in the same boat!...my advice is to NOT MOVE out until YOU want the divorce. That was my mistake, as once you move out its over.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 09:38 AM
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