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That is Gen X, near 50. Boomers are going to be around 60 and that is if they are younger boomers. Gen X the truly forgotten generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:44 PM
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Good for women leaving the US church. Hope it continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:52 PM
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Sure Jan.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:02 AM
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Yes, that is common, and do understand it. Especially if she wants kids. Women should very early on if he is interested in having a family, marriage, etc. If not, then she needs to move on and not stay to where she has to ask for an ultimatum. A man will ask if he wants to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:50 PM
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Where are you getting this shit? Link a study that backs what you are saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 11:09 PM
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Know this is statically true but I do have lots of friends, educated women, who have married men without degrees or lesser degrees (Bachelors but not a Masters). All of them are still married, 10-plus years later. Are there studies breaking down if women are married to those without degrees?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 11:07 PM
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All men have to do is vet and not pick out of their little heads over their big heads. Pick someone who truly wants you versus the people you desire but they really don't like you. Same for women but women think "they can change them".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:48 PM
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I've dated very anxious men, it can be the man trait as well. I think anxiety creeps in for the partner who doesn't have a sense of control in the relationship and they can't control the outcome.... or basically, the one who is the most in love has less control. I'm pretty secure and just believe if he loves/respects me let's go but if he doesn't want to commit (if I want to commit as well)...well, it is probably time to move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:54 AM
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I guess I see it from my own perspective and have never given a flip about it and wouldn't in a million years beg or ask for it. Oddly enough, that leads to being asked to marry and commit. Not attacking at all, do you tend to choose women who request it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:38 AM
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Do they? Do they really? Have you ever had a woman beg you to marry her? Does it happen sure but men also can beg for a relationship? In reality, women often say yes out of pressure from society (it is still the norm to marry) and say yes to the man who asks. Marriage is often for both sexes, under pressure from society. Sex is a huge one of why men marry. It makes you look desired and wanted. If you are religious the pressure is massive. Marriage/ having kids is the golden calf of religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:29 AM
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According to PEW research, they don't even want to date, let alone go into a long-term. They take themselves completely out of the dating pool and don't look back.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:54 AM
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Truth, women when they gain their "freedom" don't go back. Realizing marriage is a con for many women and benefits men in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:50 AM
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can I ask, are you over 40? If so I can see why they would be appealing to women if they are dating middle age men. So many middle-aged men are in terrible shape. I mean terrible shape. So if you are in shape after 40 you are going to get more attention than the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 12:11 AM
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I know, i know this sounds cliché but I've dated men who have been ripped we are taking an eight-pack and it really didn't turn me on that much. Like they took care of themselves but physically sex wasn't any better and the feel of their bodies didn't do it for me. I like some fat, not talking about obesity/chubby here, but a bit of fat on them. I really do think good-looking can be subjective to us individually. Age has something to do with it I was more attracted to those ripped types when I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 09:19 PM
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Not going to disagree we are all attracted to what we like for multiple reasons. I think if you are in somewhat good shape (you don't even have to be in great shape) and you take care of your health and yes that includes physically, you will attract a lot of people regardless. However, I think men fall heavily for peer pressure if they have higher-earning jobs. They often marry because married men are promoted and have more social status. They often marry what looks like the perfect "suburban" u…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 09:12 PM
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Nope, as far as I know, I've never been cheated on?.... and I'm not the pencil-shaped woman. I would have been very popular in the 50s, that curvier (not overweight) but in shape look. I've had tons of married men hit on me my whole life. It isn't from being cheated on but getting offers from men who have that perfect skinny wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:11 PM
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Sex works better for women if the guy isn't too tall. So don't get the obsession with women wanting men to be a lot taller than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:00 PM
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Do you mean the monarchs who cheat on those skinny wives most of the time for women who are usually curvier (not fat actual curves)?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 02:58 PM
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I was going to say this. I go to a gym where some of the younger men look like fitness models.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 12:45 AM
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Where are you getting 80% of women in America are overweight? Curious where you are getting those numbers when 73+% of Americans are overweighed and yes those numbers include men who are statistically fatter than women https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db360.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:54 AM
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Fatter than women. CDC backs those numbers up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:53 AM
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Men overall are fatter than women, women tend to be more obese (just slightly) but men the majority are still fatter than women. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db360.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:51 AM
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Yes, multiple times a week. It usually happens in stores. They keep coming up to me and asking "Can I help you with anything" while they are smiling. So I not only get approached often but rich dudes approach me as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 04:37 AM
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Well guess I need to buy a pair of theory to make myself feel better lol. My hips are about the size of yours, hovers around 36-38 (more around 36)and usually wear a size 6 in most brands.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 02:47 AM
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True...but I had a friend who got a boob reduction. Size 2 with 30 inch band and a J cup. It is genetics many times, you inherit your boob shape & yes size from your family line. I've known a LOT of obese women with totally flat chests.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:10 PM
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You don't understand this at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:06 PM
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I've worn size 4-6 most of my life and its been pretty much consistent depending on the style & company. It depends on the styles of the clothing more than vanity sizing. Example, skinny Jeans aren't as forgiving as lets say high waisted boyfriends jeans. A pair of jeans from Walmart (basically where larger women shop) is going to be vanity sized more than an expensive name brand pair of jeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:16 AM
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Yep. I weight train and know women who are 155 and above. They wear around size 2-6, not one the in the double digits and while muscled they are thin women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:10 AM
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laughing at the dude above who assumes big boobs equal fat. Men don't understand body shape period.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:10 AM
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Dress size is way more accurate than weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:08 AM
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Also weight is tricky. A woman can weight 130 but built like a box and a woman can be at 150 and look thinner with shape. 160 on a shorter woman is very different than 160 on a taller woman. Height is height.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:22 AM
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Personally think if you go long-term with someone simply ask his ex why she divorced him, ask her to be honest and why you want her to be honest. Tell her you are vetting him and you don't want to make a big mistake. Many times she will tell exactly why she divorced him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 12:03 AM
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They are basically the men who play hot and cold. If they play hot and cold, I assume and they usually are avoidants. So the only people who stay with them in the end, long term, are insecure women who tolerate that behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:39 PM
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It will boil down to them give the states the rights to make the decision. Blue States will keep it legal which means women will be flocking to live in them and get abortions in them. What a mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:52 AM
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Thank you for sharing. The problem lays in that the secure person is the one who ends up sufferings in the relationship from the burden of making it work. Their needs aren't met while the insecure person expects them to the main person in the relationship keeping it together. An avoidant person unless they have intense long-term therapy don't have the capacity to there and present. They avoid on everything, from sex, to work, their emotions and even the smallest things. It is extremely hard to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 02:48 PM
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Avoidants freak out when you do leave. Then say "I was surprised and I thought things were good"! I dated one who got the avoidant label dropped on him in therapy a. Going to therapy as a diagnosed avoidant and still played hot & cold. Tried with him really tried but the relationship collapsed. He is now with someone that we both know (probably marrying for the 2nd time) that he joked many times was dumb as a box of rocks. Which is sort of true because she will stay with him no doubt, no matter …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 02:40 PM
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Good book but the authors highly encourages avoidants to seek out secure people and date/marry them so they can be fixed. They seriously give that advice. Using secure people as the emotional therapy bag for the avoidant. Placing responsibility on the secure person to fix them. Its a pretty dangerous teaching and it is in several parts of the book. Also truly secure person will walk away eventually as they won't tolerate avoidance longtime, they don't stay in terrible relationships. or with deta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:32 AM
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"A partner who is okay with performative, detached sex". hit the spot. They run away right away if there is a intimate moment when having sex. They want detachment at all levels. Seriously, don't date an avoidant definitely don't marry one. They can make securely attached people anxious and "needy" & yes insecure. Securely attached people can become insecure if they stay with avoidants especially. Avoidants tend to marry/go longterm women who are needy, not so bright, don't question or challenge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:19 AM
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Adding on to Teddy his daughter was well known to be very independent during her time and Teddy compared her to him. He allowed her to be her in a time when marriage and children was pushed on women. She ignored those rules and he still spoke highly and fondly of her. He encouraged her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 07:54 PM
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Negging in my mind means they have a plan drawn out in their head on how to lower your self esteem so you stay with them. They plan it out, read up on how to neg, talk to others on how to neg, etc. Planned out completely and it is tactic. Some men, they actually think this way and just say it. They are so arrogant they believe you will stay with them no matter what. There is no plan, they frequently aren't reading/watching how to neg, they are just that type of man who says "I'm just joking, I s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:03 PM
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Oh 100%. It is always in the end about seeing what they get away, which boundaries they can crss, with and if you will tolerate it. Still a game in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:09 PM
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I think a lot men are telling the truth of what they really think sometimes and aren't always negging. Sure some neg to manipulate but many are dating women they believe they settled for and punish them for it. They really just don't like or respect the woman. Don't always believe it is negging, sometimes he is that big of an asshole. They assume they can say anything and you will stay with them, don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:01 PM
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Just want to throw this out...women in their late 40s can get pregnant and still may be ovulating here and there. If you are still having your periods, there is a chance you may ovulate as well. Be careful with the "no fear of pregnancy thing". I had a friend, pregnant at 51 because she stopped using protection and she was in the final stages of peri-menopause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:15 AM
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My dad was one of the best things that happened in my life. His voice is the voice I hear when I need to make better decisions in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:41 AM
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My Dad wouldn't let my brother and I watch animated Disney movies when I was growing up. Told us both they made men into bumbling idiots and the women into doormats. Bad examples for the both of us. Didn't understand at the time but he was very ahead of his time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:10 PM
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Agree. Hopefully women will finally wake up to it. I really think it is happening more certainly more than my generation, Gen X.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:46 PM
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Honestly I don't know why women get married period. I do understand if you really find someone who loves you and you love them. They are a good man and you know will be a good husband...but a lot of women marry to marry. Women don't need marriage to be happy, men do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:31 PM
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These hucksters are 100% lying to these men who are alone and lonely. Only to teach them further how to be alone and lonely. Which leads them to being angry and going worse into the rabbit hole. They lose viewers if these men actually found real love and a woman, so they need these men to be alone for their financial gain & viewers. Much like dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:16 PM
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Yeah he has a whole romance movie playing in his head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:13 PM
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Notice its a fruit flavored smoothie as well lmao. got those misconceptions down even to the fruit flavor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:12 PM
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These YouTube gurus, by the way Donavan Sharpe is married to someone close to his own age NOT a twenty something, are setting these men up for complete failure. men who want to meet someone and marry yet are holding out because these con men convince them it will be easier for them later and women are going to flock to them. They are selling a product to these men and its one that isn't going to deliver. This is how men who don't want to be alone end up alone. Meanwhile they won't work on themse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:11 PM
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Walking my own road alone-why yes you are and gee I wonder why? Get some damn therapy fools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:32 PM
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Tons of men who watch YouTube/Tic Toc videos on "How to be an Alpha". Men make profit of for telling men to be cold and to neg. The same men who when they do find someone wonder why they are divorced a few or years later The word simp isn't popular for nothing. Men are watching other men tell them to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:18 PM
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Actually watched a divorce lawyer on YouTube say in his experience when the women decides to leave, she gone. It is finished and done once the woman decides leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:51 AM
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They sure do regret their marriages though, even ones who are married. Here is every single damn day from my married friends. Constant complaining about their spouses, home life, no social life, neighborhood, neighbors and yes kids. Just one big complaining session any time we meet up. My single friends or divorced friends honestly seem to be much happier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:47 AM
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She probably didn't know the full extent of what he would do but had instinct he was dangerous. Always, Always listen to your instinct, there is actual science behind it as well to listen to your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:15 AM
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I did this at a grocery store and they did absolutely nothing. While I was there, two other women came up and complained about the same man. One of the workers then brings the man over and says "are you following and harassing these women"? The dude says no and then they proceeded to do absolutely nothing about it. They let him stay in the store, while he still continued to follow me down every single aisle I was in. One of the workers did follow him while he was in the store but as the dude lef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:15 AM
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You would think it would have its own section as that would be the top reason for older women especially waiting for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 01:53 AM
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Yes they do but there is a why Tinder is 80% men versus women. It sure isn't for LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:50 AM
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what does that have to do with character? He mentioned character. You can be a real piece of shit and still work hard. Working hard isn't character.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:19 AM
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You think a person has more character just because they have less money or no degree? How the did you come to that conclusion in your head?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:18 AM
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Tinder is a sausage fest. Other sites sites aren't so swarmed. Tinder is also where men go to seek sex, lets face it, so sausage fest. If you are serious man looking or a serious relationship, leave Tinder. Honestly wouldn't consider any man on Tinder "the best one".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:21 PM
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I haven't took myself off necessarily. I just don't care about it anymore. Dating apathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:24 AM
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If you are upfront, I seriously applaud you as that is being honest and the woman will know ahead of time....but a lot of men aren't being honest like you. Women as well I imagine but I don't date women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:17 AM
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Why do you think they take themselves off? I don't think they take themselves off as much as they serial date/relationship/marry multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:14 AM
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"but I want to have some fun with new women"....you just may be part of the dating pool problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:17 PM
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I would dare to say many of the stable sane ones actually take themselves off of the market and stay single by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:09 PM
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A lot of fucked up people are married or have partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:08 PM
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https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2014/11/14/four-in-ten-couples-are-saying-i-do-again/ ​ Yep. Women are the ones who nope out of second marriages, not men and there are tons of other studies to back it up. this is just one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:31 PM
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I knew a man in his 60s who married a year after his divorce. I asked how did he meet someone so quickly he said I kid you not, She responded to him on OLD and just asked her to be serious right away, without really knowing her. That woman is going to live with a man who only married her because she was the sucker who clicked on his profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:28 PM
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Who do you think is actually marrying? 10 percent of the population makes $100, 000 or above, correct? So 90 percent of people marrying are average as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:25 PM
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Keep in mind that 50% yearly rate isn't necessarily short marriages it is long-term marriages dissolving as well. People assume that 50 percent is shorter marriages, it is actually 50% overall all for first marriages (some think it is actually higher), second and third marriages have abysmal numbers up to 70% failure rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:20 PM
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yep on the dead part...which the study doesn't cover of course. It does reflect that when women get near 50, they just nope out and don't even want to date anymore. Men never give up. Yet here are as a society with the false belief it is women who are relationship hungry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 05:22 AM
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One of the reason old women are single, they simply live a lot longer men. Then add on women tend to not remarry out of choice which is in the same pew research study. More men than women want a serious relationships and this is at all ages but does increase as they age. Women's interest in relationships decreases as she ages to where they then opt out completely. Really interesting study to read all around. Some men saying MGTOW...realty is, it is women choosing to go their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 05:20 AM
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Just want to throw in men over 30 aren't looking that great either, many of them are overweight, out of shape, fat, single dads and a hot mess. People over 30 are often fat, out of shape, stressed and messed up, married multiple times with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:03 PM
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A lot of women do go down the road of poor food choices, little exercise if an at all and stress. You have to put the work in and a lot of people simply don't and that is their choice. It is hard to date as you age but it is due to divorce baggage and yes, the scheduling is just way more crazy. The one positive you don't date to find a parent for your kids, what society wants for you, the person others want for you, so in an odd way you actually end up choosing people you truly like versus your …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:50 AM
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ha, I was thin the first part of twenties, really thin. Only gained weight the last half of my twenties & early thirties. We are talking at my heaviest I was 164 at 5'7....I wasn't walking around at 200 plus pounds.... but nice assumption. Male attention, never been lacking even when even I was fat at 164 and now old and not even that goodlooking. You just have more dicks swinging at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:43 AM
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After dating men in their 50s, you would be surprised at how many this is their attitude. I've had a couple throw out they own a house with no debt like on the first. IT is actually a big turn off if they throw that out early.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:33 PM
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If you keep in shape, aren't a hot mess and have your stuff together it is just as easy at near 50 as it was at 25. I'm in much better shape and actually take care of myself now versus when I was in my twenties. I met more quality men in my 40s than 20s. The wall is pushed mostly by some men for their own egos.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:10 PM
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Look in the mirror..... and then slap yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 02:23 AM
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Yes women get sick as well but some people as they age don't want to be alone as they are scared of aging and being alone. Men do die earlier than women statistic wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 02:22 AM
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Sorry that happened to you but many other women don't do the same. There is tons of info/statistics/studies showing women are slower to marry after Divorce or being widowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 02:20 AM
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And I would agree especially with the part of raising kids and if you marry after 50, lets face it you are going to be someone "nurse" in just a few short years.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 09:06 PM
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Don't know? After my Dad passed my mother refused to even date, even though she was constantly asked out. Even into her 70s. She said it was because she couldn't love anyone else but him. It could be for many reasons but statics back up the PEW research study in that less post divorced/widowed women remarry and more men do marry after a divorce or breakup.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:52 PM
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...and the holy grail is your personal opinion? Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:48 PM
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Not true https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:26 PM
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A PEW research study, men want relationships more than women. especially as they age. Then add on unmarried men also die earlier while married men live longer. Men thrive in marriage, women it is the opposite. Once they are out of marriage many are out and never want to remarry again. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:20 PM
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Way happier than my married friends honestly. I had several married women come up to me yesterday at work, middle age, just talking smack about their husbands & what he didn't do & did on the weekend. I think many married women are downright miserable but will never leave that marriage because they are stuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:12 PM
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Have you grown up in religious circles? It is brainwashing in some circles. You can't magically change your thinking overnight. Especially if the woman marries from her parents home to her husbands without ever have any independence of thought. I grew up in strict circles where women had zero idea about anything when it comes to sex even after they were married. You are taught sex if for having kids, for your husbands pleasure (which is really starfish let him just do it to you)and not for your …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 03:12 PM
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Men who are separated before the actual divorce, they are on them within a month, sometimes that week. Think they are going to slay poon and make notches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:32 AM
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Lifetime movies are joked about but watched a few when I was a teen and scared me half to death on trafficking. Yes, the girl was always friended first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 08:54 PM
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They are also great with waitstaff and service people according to Lundy. You see the hashed out tired old saying, "people who mistreat servers" is how you tell a good person from a bad one. People hate people who aren't nice to servers. Judge peoples entire character on it and base their "good" on it. Abusers, nacrs and Psychos learn this early on and will play the part of the nice guy in public. They are terrific with public workers. Bancroft touching on this opened my eyes to the fake nice ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:11 AM
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Isn’t she early 50s at most? Looks 10 years younger than her age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:25 AM
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I actually think women compliment you less as well, especially if you are really attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:43 PM
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A lot of upvotes for this but there isn’t a lot of hard numbers for it. It is often based on surveys based on happiness rather than longevity. Some popular books on single women being the happiest https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Ever-After-Escaping-Perfect/dp/0241284449?tag=nypost-20 & https://www.amazon.com/Singled-Out-Stereotyped-Stigmatized-ebook/dp/B005NJYM6G/?tag=wwwbelladepau-20 PEW Research has a few studies where the happiest segment are single, never married women. They also have less desi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:48 AM
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Wow on the bloat. I noticed I woke up a few days ago and tons of bloat and I'm not PMSing. Didn't think of it could be side effects from the vaccine. I was extremely tired afterwards as well but thought that was my only side effect but may explain why I was surprised at much I was bloated .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:49 PM
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....and it is proven when they do have NPD they direct it usually primarily toward straight women and sometimes gay men. https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=118736
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:06 PM
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Control. He still had control. Also he was using it as leverage at the time to save his ass. Leveraging that if he spilled all the beans he would have to saved first. It was well known he didn’t want to die. If there was a hell he knew he was going to it, he even mentioned it. The real number is possibly near a 100.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:59 PM
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True but he murdered children that was definitely proven later. A known peeping Tom when he was a teen, he was actually caught. He murdered a 12 year old in Florida after he broke out of prison. Have no doubt he was capable of murdering at a young age. I believe it honestly and investigators do as well.https://www.king5.com/article/news/local/did-ted-bundy-kill-his-first-victim-when-he-was-14/281-14a065de-dba1-4ff8-a882-14d32f57228c
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:41 AM
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It is believed he murdered his first victim when he was a kid, she was like 8 and he was around 14. His first known victim wasn’t his first known victim. Also contrary to Myth he murdered women that didn’t fit the popularized long dark hair. They were all over the spectrum. A few more than not had long dark hair. He admitted to 30 but his number is probably way higher. He was a master manipulator and liar nothin he said should be believed regarding why he murdered women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:14 AM
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It is women who are noping out of dating market and longtem relationships. Not seeking relationships especially the older we get. Don't believe the myth it is women who seek relationships later on, it is actually men https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/nearly-half-of-u-s-adults-say-dating-has-gotten-harder-for-most-people-in-the-last-10-years/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:32 AM
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Ive been lifting now for almost two years and I’m finally beginning to see big changes. Im just going to say it, your glutes end up looking freaking fantastic and also for some reason my boobs even became perkier. Not bigger but perkier. My waist is a lot smaller, it defintely adds to your curves and helps develop that waist and hip ratio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:29 AM
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Years ago, I read Arnolds huge book of strength training, He was a big advocate all way back in The 70s & 80s for women to weight train and highly encouraged it. His gym (the original gold gym) was one of the few at that time that welcomed in women to weight train with the men. A few women came out of it and won competitions. Women who trained in the 80s still look great years later. It is actually an interesting history. Marilyn Monroe actually weight trained. So it has been around for sometime…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:17 AM
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I got skinny fat with and yes it wasted what little muscle I had. Especially horrible as you age. You know how some 70 year old women look fragile and weak and then some look great for their age, the lack of muscle is the big reason. Even body weight exercises aren’t going to cut it after you hit a certain age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:13 AM
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Well it has been used even on here they are afraid of getting so called “bulky“ if they lifts weights. Which is a complete myth spread by the fitness community to scare women more into gimmick fitness. Excessive cardio is one of those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:24 PM
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I heard a Jewish Rabbi and professor say he believed Eve was visted many times by the Serpant as she was familar with him. So Satan not only knew she would be the hardest to convince and he had to do it himself but it was a long process. Adam, it only took Eve. He knew he was the weaker of the two and he would be easily convinced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:14 AM
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it is no joke. Teens would steal anxiety and pain medication from their mothers and then sell them at school. That many pills floating around in the religious community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:33 PM
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A MLM pyramid scam no doubt. Essential oils anyone? Wait till you try Beach body shakes my husband cant keep his hands off after losing weight from drinking those delicious shakes! These mom are the guliable women sucking up the MLM movements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:48 AM
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They are brainwashed into it. Over and over again, on a weekly basis. Those things translate into normal society eventually. The churches teachings on men and women, infects everything even if you aren’t religious. It is the root of sexism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:19 AM
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I’m no longer involved but it deeply scared me in that I don’t trust religious people at all. Especially male leaders in the church. Deep, deep seixsm in most churches honestly. The men are laughed (in a humorous was) at for being sex crazed, It is the most important thing for them according to the church, & uncaring buffoons.... with a “oh well that is what men do” which in itself is sexist as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:13 AM
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Men are taught in the church: let her talk, let her share her feelings, entertain her emotions and we know she talks so much...so fake listen to make her feel good. Oh and this is big one, don’t fix her problem she just wants you to LISTEN. The church gives men advice as well but it is very mysgoinistic based on mens fantasy of the woman being 100% emotional, always talking, passive aggressive, flighty and vengeful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:05 AM
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As someone who grew up in a strict religion, these women talk a big game to impress those around them but in reality aren’t practicing. Reality, they are basic housewives at best and deeply resent their lives while fake praying and smiling. Many of the women if not most were very depressed in my church and the kids all knew their mother were on some sort of anxiety medication or depression medication. They low key talk shit about their husbands when those women gather. Just like everyday women. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:58 AM
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Thank you and yes she is trying to sound like a good down to earth woman that will like everything you will like. I grew up on a farm and everyone hunted, shot guns and fished including the women. I find it funny sometimes those things are now hobbies considering we did it so we could eat. As my Dad would say the outdoors doesn’t know if you are a man or woman, it just knows you are invading it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:21 PM
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Can I ask why fishing and golf are LVM hobbies? Ive done both myself and just curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:44 AM
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Same. I came out of an abusive relationship and someone gave me this book after I exited. Life changing and honestly I feel less stupid afterwards for not leaving earlier. Lundy does so well in explaining the cycle of abuse and how smart intelligent women can be trapped for years in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:09 PM
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Yo, so many men over 50 use this. Why? WHY?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:51 PM
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...but many of them aren’t single and even in longterm relationships. It is why they take offense to expectation of gift buying it is because they do fail their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:42 PM
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My very wise Dad years ago told me men will and can fake anything, I mean anything for sex and to get other mens approval for success. I rolled my eyes at the time and dang it he turned out to be 100 percent right. It is why it very important to know the opinion of others who actually know him. If they jokingly call him a jerk, say he is charming, joke around about how he got a girlfriend, etc....pay attention. It is low key saying bro has some issues. Another reason to NOT use OLD, a person can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:47 PM
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Yep...women dont come back plain and simple. Once they are done they are done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:46 PM
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I have a friend this happened to and left him because she was no longer in love with him. He is great dad active with his kids life, hard working and attractive. Emotionally secure. The ex still sings his praises but said she just felt like she was living with her friend and wasn’t attracted to him any more. It happens, people falling out of love even with great people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:28 PM
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OLD attracts LVM, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:23 PM
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HVM aren’t going to be on apps. If you do find one, he truly is a unicorn and an outlier. Get off of dating apps even during the pandemic. rather be alone as to use them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:38 AM
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Women need to get off apps period. Know I keep posting this but it is rare for HVM to be on a dating app. If they are on it is it an option and not their preferred way of dating. It is swimming in a sea of low quality people period Who are lazy daters, having no other options or those wanting to lie to people for as long as they can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:14 PM
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After last week at the Capitol, so many of those men who were there call themselves a Christian. I bet many of them are on dating aap/s. Scary to think about but you know they’re using dating apps/sites calling themselves good Christian men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:51 AM
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Women need to be off dating apps for many reasons and this is a big reason why. Get off dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:53 PM
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This group was full of neckbeards and uncles. So not surprised at all. Behind all of these right wing groups is total hate for women. haha EDIT not uncles I meant to type Incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:36 AM
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Their ultimate goal was to get their hands on the bodies of Senate members and house representatives. The crowd was reportedly shouting ”kill Pelosi”. They want to put on trial congress just like those goons in Michigan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:27 AM
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They at this point are hook up sites for men and a big reason why they are on for years. It is why you see the same dudes over and over again. Maybe some apps that are specific are more serious but the majority are on for hooks ups. SOME women are giving into hook ups for commitment only to be used and discarded. Which has led to the cesspool of what is now OLD, easy sex for men and no commitment for women. Women for mental,health and emotional health IMO should delete gthem all together. ​ one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:06 PM
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Dating apps have an abysmal record of actually producing marriages or longterm relationships. Around 7-12%, out of millions of people registered for them. They are low key smashing marriage because apps for relationships are complete failures. They produce tons of first dates, hookups but beyond that they are burning dumpsters of lies And they profit off of people not entering relationships and staying solo https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2020/02/06/the-virtues-and-downsides-of-online-datin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:00 PM
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Buried in that article, the parcipants were based in Switzerland. Very specific demographic. On top of very few actually met a SO online. Tricky, tricky, tricky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:48 AM
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Every single man in my family has married younger, by at least 5 years. older men, younger women isn’t an outlier. Even in modern times. A large age difference is more uncommon of coarse but the general stat is men are usually always older (even if it a year or two) or at least around the same age.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 09:01 PM
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Agree he has been basically the same great shape for most of his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 08:58 PM
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Some consideration needs to be it is in 4 of our largest cities with upper income to high income levels being more common, especially New York & Seattle. Then add on some of those cities women outnumber men. New York, dating for men can be like shooting fish in a barrel. The NE in general, men are going to have more options especially if they have even a bit of success. As women outnumber women in those areas. NY about 100 to every 94 men, Boston the ratio is the same as NY. An average dude in r…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:00 AM
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Yes, back when women had to depend on men for financial security. My grandfather was over 50 when he married my grandmother in her late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:44 AM
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Hair plugs look like tiny little pine trees sticking out of their heads, epescially when wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:42 AM
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..and he hasn’t look that way since or before. That body did not last last long.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:39 AM
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...or smarter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:37 AM
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I wouldn’t respond to it honestly he has a big ego and asked in the blog for people to comment. He wants the traffic and the scandel. Don’t feed into his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:49 AM
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“There is even a 60 year old”. Shouldn’t that say women in all generations are fed up with how some men are treating women.? Also, my favorite part, he wanted comments on the blog and ended up with two. There is your sigma man ladies, don’t beat up yourself trying to get to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:43 AM
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Well you do in their minds. Cry ourselves to sleep every night and bemoan our lost eggs. So tragic and of coarse a complete lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:39 PM
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They don’t get the irony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:37 PM
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Glad I’m not only one thinking this. Filming before she runs into her so called stalker, the strange music being added for drama and he looks like a contrived faceless stalker from a bad CBS show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:03 AM
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Yes....depending on where you live. My favorite gym ever was an all women’s Gym in DC. Sadly think it closed a few years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:23 AM
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Shopping for people like they are produce doesn’t lead often to real attraction or connection. Think there are a lot of reasons why....and yes one of them is the hookups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:40 AM
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Susan Winter is IMO hands down the best dating advice guru out there for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:25 AM
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I’m really surprised that only 15% of OLD actually end up in some sort of relationships. Yet those platforms sell it like its the only way to date and its how ALL people are meeting & marrying these day. Those are really bad odds aren’t they? I bet you anything meeting people IRL has a much better success rate. He has some really good points at the end as well. Good article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:16 PM
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I’ve read the book, can’t recommenced it high enough. Its one those books that is life changing. Thanks for the psychology today link :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:45 PM
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The really good thing about attachment theory, is you can get treatment for it and recover. Therapy is needed however and therapy can help. Some therapists if you live in a largish city can specialize in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:43 PM
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You feel like you are losing your mind when dating them. Always questioning what you did wrong. They are very poor communicators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:41 PM
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Read the book Attached: The new Science of adult attachment. ALL women should read the book. Personally I think the dating world is filled with avoidants and its why it has become so shitty to date. An avodient can make a securely attached person feel anxiety when that isn’t their normal go to. A secure person can feel like ”Am I losing it”? When with them. its not worth it to even try to attach to an avoidant IMO as they along the way have somewhere been deeply wounded and its hard to recover. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:39 PM
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