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| 1 | What to do after you've played too hard to get and how to“You need to overcome this feeling (the same thing he is doing)” See I’m not sure this was the case in the first place- I actually don’t understand what you mean by this… That being said yes I agree that I should stop speaking to him indirectly, he just makes me nervous | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/23 03:47 PM |
| -1 | What to do after you've played too hard to get and how toHe makes me so nervous though he’s just too good looking for me to feel comfy | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/23 11:11 PM |
| -1 | What to do after you've played too hard to get and how toIs it red pill to ask a man out by yourself? I was raised on the ethos of if he likes you he will pursue you? Point is well-taken though haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/23 07:16 PM |
| 5 | Fearing reaction from my mom after telling her that my boyfriend is ArabI hope this situation turns out well for you, but I do have to tell you, as a fellow ethnic person- Please think about what you would want for him if you feel you really love him. If you don't see your mom coming around to be more accepting even with effort, it may really hurt him to be in that situation with his mother-in-law. Such situations are difficult as is, and throwing cultural misunderstandings and preconceived notions into it can create a lot of stress. Of course there are certainly pl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/23 02:51 AM |
| 3 | How can I make my man to feel like he's "conquering" me?Np!! And I’m sure you know this, but make sure that it’s only things that you actually don’t know how to do-if he gets the sense that you are finding excuses to ask him for help for things you can figure out on your own, he could get annoyed depending on the type of guy he is. But yes I feel like relationships should be about helping the other out, that’s what makes you stronger as a unit | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 04:46 PM |
| 14 | How can I make my man to feel like he's "conquering" me?Bring a lot of attention to things that you don’t understand well and ask him for help with it, then afterwards express how you feel like you needed him to achieve it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Halloween Plans?I feel like Barbie is a popular one this year… Specifically the Wild West or Gingham ones | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 01:36 AM |
| 1 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itwhen I say anything I mean anything | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 04:17 AM |
| 1 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itThe supposed girlfriend is not in our program, and I don’t get why anyone else would care? As adults is it there business? Also I wouldn’t make it clear to literally anyone that I think this ab him | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itOk I know this is really bad but if he has a girlfriend I don’t care if he doesn’t care He keeps asking ppl if I hate him which makes me think that he cares but also that I’m being too standoffish and I just wanna make it clear that I’d do anything but only if he initiated it and idk how to achieve that | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 03:21 PM |
| 1 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itOk I appreciate this-I needed to hear this and I’ve heard it before but like I still just don’t want to | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 03:20 PM |
| 2 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itYep-I think my problem is that I am avoiding him and he's taking it at face-value, ty | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 03:01 AM |
| 3 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itLol this was acc so helpful | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 03:00 AM |
| 1 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itWydm? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/23 09:23 PM |
| -4 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itStill I literally can’t do that and he’s like idk he doesn’t seem like the type to be receptive to that, I think he would initiate himself but he needs to like think I’m into it, and I don’t think he does | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/23 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptThis is a weird question but do guys ever do this just to ask for pics, not even to meet up IRL because they’re too far away | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptcompletely corrupted & spoilt by society Can you elaborate on what you mean by corrupt-are really attractive girls not innocent/sweet because they have learned to use their looks to their advantage-like maybe not smart but "cunning?" Like "abusing" the power? Unfortunately-and maybe it's just people I know-but I don't really think I know anyone of any category that doesn't do like "clever and underhanded" things-and I can't decide if I see that more in "average" looking people or in attractive p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real concept“won over”, whether it’s by a subpar looking man with excellent game and a great sense of humor or a below average guy who becomes attractive because of his dominance, success, and wealth Yes this is always what I thought and I feel like this is very true-she's doing him a "favor" with her looks and he's doing her a "favor" with his success/education/financial stability | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real concepthe man would usually be more attractive than the woman. I never knew the theory actually suggested this! For some reason I really internalized the "men only care about looks" element-I feel like he definitely wants to be worshipped, but by the prettiest and that he would choose prettier over more likely to worship him but not as pretty? I feel like in the majority of couples I see, the guy is smarter/more professionally established but the girl is noticeably prettier and the guy doesn't care wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptcould sway the woman away. We see women leave good men for the thrill of a chance with someone “better” I always thought the fear was more the opposite, in that due to hypergamy women want the best option, and subsequently the man has more opportunity/desire to leave/explore other options than the woman does, and thus the woman is afraid that the man will leave for a chance with someone prettier/more praising of him? always going to be someone out there who is more successful and better looking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptIs it usually the case in relationships that the woman is more conventionally attractive than the man? Or nowadays is it the opposite? Yes agree with last line but I was just curious from that end | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 04:34 AM |
| 2 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptYeah the last line is really outrageously true isn't it-not one judge about looks persay but some people are behaving with really weird audacity nowadays lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Do most HVM and women view waiting for marriage as archaic? If you express this desire to a decent man what will his take generally be?The only reasons I’d have for it are that I simply can’t deal with consequences-any chance of STD/pregnancy I’m just not able to accept right now. I don’t know if that is considered immature or unrealistic? I just absolutely cannot be pregnant lol like since there’s no 100% prevention I can’t sleep at night with the risk. If it somehow happened-I am nervous about the guy not agreeing to marriage-nervous about access to resources for whatever choice I’d make with it-and nervous about infertility … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/23 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Do most HVM and women view waiting for marriage as archaic? If you express this desire to a decent man what will his take generally be?Appreciate this so much, thanks! Also from a kinda conserv community but the lowdown is that girls are the only ones that wanna wait/end up waiting. Everyone kinda implies that ppl are doing it, they just won’t admit it so it leads me to think that no one actually waits… I don’t know though! The whole sexual incompatibility thing is worrisome but I also feel like it’s not going to impact me personally just because of how my body is wired… but I don’t know about what the other person would thing | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/23 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Do most HVM and women view waiting for marriage as archaic? If you express this desire to a decent man what will his take generally be?Ty-I didn't necessarily mean that he wanted to wait himself, but more how much would he mind if you asked if it would be okay with him. you can fix bad sex. Trust me. If a man listens, and if he’s willing to learn, and he truly cares, bad sex will transform to good sex. Okay yes this is what I was curious about tysm-that being said honestly I have lower libido (defo not asexual though) so the concept of good/bad doesn't really effect me? Like if the person excites me then I am excited no matter … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/23 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Do most HVM and women view waiting for marriage as archaic? If you express this desire to a decent man what will his take generally be?Ok thanks lol... I always thought that it was different with different people so you'd always have to "teach" to some extent anyhow but then again I actually know next to nothing | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/23 03:45 AM |
| -4 | Do most HVM and women view waiting for marriage as archaic? If you express this desire to a decent man what will his take generally be?Wall Street playboys who have sampled every exotic fruit the world has to offer I did not know this-I genuinely thought all men preferred low body counts in women!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/23 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend won’t give me a timeframe for marriageI feel like at this age it’s just difficult to predict many important milestones that need to be crossed before marriage would be suitable-so perhaps he’s right it wanting to wait it out. Let him know how you feel and see what he thinks-if you can accept his answer then the problem is solved. If he seems set on something that doesn’t suit you then consider if you would be open to waiting or not . Wanting to get married young is your prerogative-but are you open to having to leave him to achieve … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/23 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Is it classless/a bad sign if a man uses Instagram as a dating app, or is it just what everyone does now?Wow thanks-I cant believe it effects the older generation too-so sorry to hear about your parents He doesn’t use Snapchat (thank god) but yeah I don’t get what’s so exciting. Like how different and exciting can girls boobs be after awhile. Men amaze me idk | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/23 05:21 AM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Okay-fair because I look a lot like his serious ex-same height/similar features/same “vibe” but I probably look younger than she does- All of the cases I’m referring to are like “hookup” types so yeah maybe you’re spot on?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/23 04:46 PM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?All fair-maybe not worded the best originally, but in the interest of not being super rude, face-wise I think they would be considered bellow average mostly? Some have bigger chests like I did notice that but then some also didn’t so I don’t think it’s that either- I can tell you it’s probably not the case that they are attractive enough and his friends are not dating/married to similar women at all so that is what raised my curiosity. Again no one is actually ugly etc etc but since the person i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/23 03:55 PM |
| 1 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Ok for instance his celeb crushes are like Jessica Andrea, Julia Kelly, Kourtney Kardashian but then he likes-people that look nothing like this? Is having a wide pallet a bad thing or do you think it doesn’t matter? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/23 01:05 AM |
| 3 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Yeah it just was surprising-I didn’t know guys had a wide pallet necessarily-I always thought mostly girls were like that. The only common trend I do see is that he seems to like chubby faces which-I don’t know I’ve just never seen that before? Like do some guys like girls that are like 10-15 lbs overweight intentionally ?? Even if they themselves are super athletic and fit | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/23 12:51 AM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?so helpful thank u! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 09:55 PM |
| 1 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Yeah I’ve seen something exactly like this-his bros are patting him on the back like omg | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 08:27 PM |
| 1 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Yes I hear this a lot but I feel like a lot of people have the opposite take on it too-like that less attractive guys won't cheat because they're more afraid to lose their gf, whereas hotter guys don't feel scared because they know they can just get another one I don't know though-what you said makes sense | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 07:52 PM |
| 1 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?That just might be a MILF thing?? LOL I think a lot of guys think it's a flex to get an older woman | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 07:50 PM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?True-as a woman I get the benefit of dating “down” but it’s exactly for that reason that I question it in guys because Isn’t it the case that men usually have the upper hand even if the girl is hotter than him, because these types of hot girls want stability and they are depending on him for stability-so she wants to make him happy whereas he wants to keep her around as trophy/deco? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 06:09 PM |
| 3 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Yeah this is the thing-I feel like the most attractive women almost seem to get cheated on more but is that just bc the types of men they are with can get anyone, and so when they have the chance, they do it? And maybe the woman is in the weaker spot even if she’s hotter because she needs the man for stability and then man doesn’t need her to be any of those things? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 06:07 PM |
| 1 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?This is actually such good advice thank you so much No I already do that in the sense that it's hard for me to like actually compliment him-I basically don't do it honestly because it makes me feel vulnerable, my "flirting" style is more middle schoolish unfortunately-it's like acting like I'm not impressed to provoke him to like be more affectionate. Sigh I'm so insane ugh. Thanks for this though this is so helpful | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 05:07 PM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?He definitely uses his looks to get what he wants and literally everywhere he goes at least one person has to remark that he’s hot. I feel like attractive men are more powerful than attractive women because there are fewer attractive men in my opinion, and somehow it just scares me. I don’t know | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 04:55 PM |
| 5 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Ok sure lol but she’s not supposed to be nervous that he’d go after someone else? Say they’re not married | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 04:48 PM |
| 4 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?But how does the plain wife cope with people viewing her as less attractive and other people flirting with her husband/having their eye on him constantly | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 04:31 PM |
| 3 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Happy but not secure-I am very scared of losing him/constantly worry he will go after someone more attractive. Technically he could-I mean he used to live in a place where literal models lived and he could get any one of them so I just feel inferior and like I’m embarrassing myself by thinking that I am on the level of like a good looking/attractive person | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 04:22 PM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?because both parties are subconsciously aware of the dynamic In this case, he has definitely approached girls who don't seem to know in any way that they are not in the "high category"-if she thinks she's as or more attractive as him, does it make the relationship healthier? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 02:15 PM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Is it a problem if this is the case? Like do you think if he thinks this, it’s active or subconscious? And if so can these relationships be healthy? Or will the guy eventually humble her/put her in her place if they get into an argument? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 01:44 PM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Yeah this is also true, and sometimes women who are not that “pretty” can be spoiled bimbos maybe bc they were raised like that or something. In the least rude way possible I do think some women think they are um-I mean they think they look different from how they actually do, and I’m not saying people shouldn't be confident but there is a certain type of attitude that is annoying in everyone but probably exceptionally annoying in people that don’t have a ton to show for it Like I have seen both… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 01:43 PM |
| 1 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Okay does it ever make you idk confused or nervous? I feel like usually we accept it if the man is less “attractive” than the woman, but if it’s the inverse than I personally feel like people question the relationship more, And I feel a lot of pressure in general to be pretty enough to be seen with him-but I don’t know if that’s every relationship or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 01:40 PM |
| 2 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?No for sure but this makes sense to me on real life but no on apps is all | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 01:38 PM |
| 0 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Okay fair lol-interestingly I- I don’t know why I care actually maybe I want to make myself feel secure | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 01:38 PM |
| 1 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Definitely both but admittedly I think about it more than they do | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 01:35 PM |
| 1 | 3% of women are virgins/wait to have sex before marriageEveryone says that guys are sex focused, but past a certain age they get bored of exclusively that and want someone they see as an ideal wife, mother, companion, etc. and sex becomes only a component of these things. If anything, him having a sexual history can sometimes be better because he knows what sex with other people is like and therefore it may not excite or interest him-he’s already tried it. Men who stay sex focused usually don’t end up in a good situation-and if they marry just for he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 06:25 AM |
| 2 | 3% of women are virgins/wait to have sex before marriageSimilar scenario/raised with very similar values-my SO’s sexual history bothered me a lot-I wanted a guy who hadn’t partaken in any hookup culture as I hadn’t and I didn’t like the intention behind it. But-life can be complicated and sometimes people make choices that they learn from and move on from-it’s really situational. As for “being good” at it, compared to past partners etc if he is the right guy for you he will take care in telling you what he wants and helping you figure out what you wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 06:22 AM |
| 2 | What are the advantages and disadvantages of being really conventionally attractive as a girl?Yep, always assumed this-but why do a lot of attractive girls complain that they feel like men don't actually care about them emotionally? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 03:44 AM |
| 1 | What are the advantages and disadvantages of being really conventionally attractive as a girl?Okay yeah. In the least pretentious way possible mine is up there and I am very anxious/easily frustrated/have unnecessary high expectations-I'm not particularly pretty though so I do wonder about the opposite extreme | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 02:55 AM |
| 0 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Not trying to be dense I actually don't get it? Worded badly in the post I guess but basically why would this person go after these types when he has "conventionally attractive" types as options that are receptive to him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleNo for sure, I struggled with it too initially-but is there not a space to sometimes just few some things as mistakes? Like say he did it when he was younger does it necessarily say something about his character | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/23 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Age difference in relationshipsReally appreciate this thanks- | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/23 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Age difference in relationshipsMy friends sometimes comment that they think it’s weird that he has never been into anyone that isn’t younger and that he seems to enjoy the power dynamic but idk I enjoy the feeling of being taken care of | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/23 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Age difference in relationshipsNo definitely-I just wasn’t sure if older actually meant manipulative and that they want to contrail everything thing she does bc some ppl describe it like that -but as a girl yeah I like when they take a guiding role as you said. I understand why girls like it, but what goes through a man’s head when he decides he likes someone younger? Like why would he have a preference for it and is the reason a good reason | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleIf he's religious, shouldn't his N count be close to 0? I'd say an N count of 5 is high for such a religious man. Yeah I don't really know what to say to this honestly-that was my impression too but I've found that people interpret religions differently, so even though they may care about the spirituality and religion itself a lot, they don't necessarily partake in every ritual-or they come up with a justification that suits them-I've heard all sorts of things like "premarital sex with a condom … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Is it classless/a bad sign if a man uses Instagram as a dating app, or is it just what everyone does now?Yes I feel like public posts can sometimes present as "I am open to relationships/messages etc." | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Is it classless/a bad sign if a man uses Instagram as a dating app, or is it just what everyone does now?Exactly exactly-now, the vibe of some people's posts does seem to be as if they are advertising themselves like a dating app but I don't think you can assume that it's the case, some people just want the hype from the girlies and stuff | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Age difference in relationshipsOh for sure. He definitely has moments where he gives 15 year old more than 26 year old | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Is it classless/a bad sign if a man uses Instagram as a dating app, or is it just what everyone does now?I don’t know -like dating apps are automatically consensual in the sense that everyone is on them bc they’re looking for someone, so hitting on/messaging someone is expected, but Instagram is not officially for that, and especially if they aren’t shown her profile but just happen across it through looking through other peoples following or explore page or something it just reads as like too easily interested -unless I’m not thinking about it in the right way idk | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Is it classless/a bad sign if a man uses Instagram as a dating app, or is it just what everyone does now?Wait can you elaborate | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Age difference in relationshipsOkay this is so funny bc my mom always says this. I don't know if I'm too immature for him or if he just tries to act more mature than he is 22/26 | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Age difference in relationshipsDo you think 22 F and 26 M is reasonable? We started dating basically one year ago-my friends thought it was weird that he was dating college girls but I didn't necessarily care or find the difference to be a problem | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleOk like if he disrespects certain women what does that imply yeah? Like I actually don’t understand I guess. Everyone says if he can do that to someone else, what’s stopping him from doing it to you?? But if that were the case I guess wouldnt he have done it by now, like 11 months in? The only “issue” we have is he touches me even when I say stop don’t touch me but admittedly I’m just fishing for extra attention when I say this so I don’t actually care that he is. But someone also said that one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleI mean that's what he said yeah I don't if I'm just dumb or not | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 07:07 PM |
| 1 | What is consent between two people that are datingYeah with the therapy thing I agree with him, he didn't convince me of it I ahd that opinion before, but his "credibility" persay like sold me on it so I just meant that I haven't maintained the opinion baselessly-but yeah yeah you're right psychiatrists do work with therapists/it's not universal and I'm not not seeing one just bc of him although it adds to it. If I feel like something is important I'll try to do it regardless. If neither you nor your friend have witnessed your boyfriend get mad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 07:04 PM |
| 1 | What is consent between two people that are datingOkay thanks I really appreciate this- So he's doing psychiatry after finishing med school and his dad is also one so he doesn't believe in therapy at all-(psychiatrists and therapists don't get along/agree on philosophy) also all my friends did not have good experiences with them, but idk maybe I'd see a sexologist? But I will definitely find someone to talk to and also talk to him about it yeah. One of my friends has said that he seems to be the type where he would get mad if I didn't let him t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleYeah the guy in question has every opportunity to cheat like girls throw themselves at him constantly If anything the hookup guy is more likely to be faithful since he chose you. Ok fair but then why do people say once a manwhore always a manwhore | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleOk thank you this was really helpful!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleThis is probably idk not a good opinion but I don't care about the past as long as it doesn't mean he'd be a cheater basically but I don't know if this is the case or not? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleUm. Okay fair but uh Idk like I guess I don't understand how hookup culture works in that like So is it just not true that men get to a certain age and just stop doing it like once they've done it there's no chance that they will outgrow doing that But anyway I don't know if this makes a difference but he only had penetrative sex with his ex girlfriend and the other "hookup" situations he had were only up to oral because he wants to save something and can't sleep at night properly if he thinks a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleUm. Yeah he does follow Andrew Tate uh... I always assumed it was ironically, like he follows politicians who have views that he doesn't agree with at all just to see | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleI get all of this but isn't it the case that the vast majority of people have partaken in some, and they're not all getting cheated on, are they?? I was more naive at first and didn't understand how widespread hookup culture is, and wasn't expecting most people (especially because this one in particular is pretty actively religiously orthodox, although I could tell he was idk the type to "push the limit" in other ways) but then my friends told me his body count isn't really all that high, like h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleYou can't turn a hoe into a housewife and the same goes for men. Why is it that ex-manwhore type guys have no tolerance for anything outside of like a 0-3 ncount wife most of the time? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleI am taking his word for it because I wouldn't date someone that I seriously think would cheat?? Not that anyone is technically above it I suppose, yeah, but we didn't discuss sex until I brought it up and he understood early on that I was a virgin and would want to wait for a long time or even potentially until marriage and I've been told that its a good sign if you tell him this before he even really knows you (literally first date) and he doesn't detach? Unless that's naive, I don't know, but… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleDoes this count for oral sex as well- I will clarify that he's only ever had penetrative sex with one other person but other random ish people have given him head | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 02:24 PM |
| 4 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleThese sort of men tend to want their cake and eat it too - they wanna be hoes and then end up with a low n-count girl Well yeah-him and his friends are exactly like this, if the n-count is too high the girl is an immediate no but is this usually a problem in terms of him being committal?? I just thought all men preferred low n-count. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleCan this be mediated by not having sex with him initially sex or just in general for a long time? We didn’t do it until like 8 months in | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 06:35 AM |
| 0 | Lots of one night stands/moved on from that lifestyleJust stopped hooking up with people that he wasn’t dating and even lived at home for a second where he wasn’t even really talking to anyone | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 06:30 AM |
| 0 | What is consent between two people that are datingOk-the only thing is-like what if- I don't know how to explain but like- If I say stop touching me and he doesn't, is it a sign of something actually bad? In this case I ended up not caring but like idk. I don't think he has ever actually stopped if I've said that, although it's true that I don't think I've ever not wanted sex after he initiated but it happens relatively often that I didn't agree to it before. Also yeah, I definitely prolong being mad or find excuses to be mad for extra attentio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsI think creepy is a little strong, alright- I thought everyone had at least a little retroactive jealousy? But I'm not saying it organically, I'm literally paraphrasing how he described it to me. He applied all of the derogatory/emotionally detached language and from talking to people who knew him at that time to me it seems true. But isn't there also the whole past making it so that he may not care about them at all anymore? Maybe he viewed them better at that time, ok, sure, but can't he chang… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsYeah I wasn't sure- I do it solo sometimes but idk the way the birth control that I take is, my drive is kinda on the lower end, but when he initiates or touches me in any sense I suddenly get really excited to do it-so when he's not around I'm mostly fine? Also I can't get a good angle or haven't really figured out how to achieve certain things by myself so there's not a lot of point for me idk Him? Again he says he does it without looking at it and just "thinking about us" but that's just like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 01:19 AM |
| -3 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationships I’m good enough to cook his food and keep his house clean. Not to be facetious/pretentious but I am not a good cook (and he knows very well) because I had a cook growing up (even though I do it as a hobby sometimes ,I'm just not good at it) and we both had cleaning ladies growing up- so if he views me a certain way, it's not due to this- maybe it's more that he thinks I'm more stimulating to talk to/presentable to other people? I-idk after knowing him I started to think like, well, idk, is it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsYeah this confused me too!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsYou can also notice an attractive woman without blurting out "her tits are hot" to your girlfriend No he doesn't do this haha sorry I don't know if I made it clear but we had a convo about porn and I told him my thoughts on it, and I just basically explained to him what would be okay with me-and when I used the quotes I meant to refer to what I am fine with him to think, not to say. He is not the type of personality to say "Her tits are hot" out loud oh my god. I'd, do something bad lol if he ev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsI have as a deal breaker that my future girlfriends don't do casual sex. I, myself, don't engage in casual sex for that part either. My boyfriend also has this as a preference-he will not date a girl who dresses immodestly or has done anything outside of a long term relationship/has never hooked up. I do this so I have to avoid overthinking my partners sexual history and the like. I wish this were the case but I liked my boyfriend to the point where I just decided to overlook it after not talkin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 11:50 PM |
| -5 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsDo you think that’s healthy? What if that was your daughter? If my daughter were like me, then she wouldn't partake in hookup culture or let a man touch her unless marriage was on the table, as was the case for me, but, yeah the double standard element bothered me a lot and again since I have only ever been with him (down to first kiss) I never believed in or understood hookup culture and thought all guys who partook were trash, and yeah, likely to cheat. But all of his "hookups" were at least 5… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 11:44 PM |
| 0 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsSorry what do you mean when you say do? Like why we don't meet up? This was mainly during last year because he started rotations in medical school and was not doing well so he literally would not leave his room and I also was studying for a grad school exam which I ended up having to retake and just decided not to go out that much either until I got it out of the way-we can't study together or anything because we just end up getting distracted This year we're even further away but since I at lea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsNo, sure, all fair, I will say the language I used is paraphrasing of language he used and that's what moved me to view it like this. So, I've never hooked up or done anything outside of a relationship, and he's the only person I've dated, so first everything on every metric yeah? And so when I found out he used to partake in hookup culture I didn't like it, like at all and we almost broke up over it because I couldn't take it-I knew about his ex girlfriend but she didn't bother me at all becaus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsYes day to day I find watching porn disgusting and there's no signs of him partaking when we're together but we are in situations where we don't see each other for weeks and sometimes months at a time, so I'm just telling him these things because I don't believe that he doesn't do it when he hasn't seen me in that long Unless it is fair for me to request that he doesn't? I don't know. I'm 22, so maybe I'm just immature, I don't know, but I always thought that every guy in a LTR is definitely doi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 11:10 PM |
| -1 | Thoughts on p*rn in relationshipsWe go to different schools 1.5 hrs away from each other and have periods where we don't see each other for 6 weeks at a time sometimes, and also weren't having sex initially, so even though he said he didn't watch it I just don't believe him at all I mean doesn't every guy do it no matter what? I really honestly don't know? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 11:06 PM |
| 2 | Since men on average have a physical advantage, is a gf (lightly) slapping one of her bf's cheeks in argument problematic?thanks I really appreciate this | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Since men on average have a physical advantage, is a gf (lightly) slapping one of her bf's cheeks in argument problematic?How do you think he actually feels about it? He is protective/dominant type and I'm completely the opposite | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 03:37 PM |
| -1 | Since men on average have a physical advantage, is a gf (lightly) slapping one of her bf's cheeks in argument problematic?I feel like he views our dynamic more as a kindergartner trying to slap the teacher | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 03:26 PM |
| -4 | Since men on average have a physical advantage, is a gf (lightly) slapping one of her bf's cheeks in argument problematic?Yes it was done bc it was funny in that if he folds his hand in half, it's still bigger than my entirely open hand-and when he sits down he's taller than me standing up-so when I "slap" it's more like making the shape with my hand but basically brushing his face with my palm/fingers than actual violent hit- I did this to my older brothers all the time (still honestly) and they have never cared I also touch my SO's cheeks/chin/face all the time when we're not arguing. Also the argument was kinda … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 03:21 PM |
| -1 | Since men on average have a physical advantage, is a gf (lightly) slapping one of her bf's cheeks in argument problematic?Okay-very fair. He laughed and did not react-he grabbed my wrist and started holding it-it was actually in public and no one cared other than this one maybe 40 yr old ish soccer mom who said don't give him a reason to disrespect you in the same way-I asked him later bc I felt guilty and he said "I don't care if you slap me like that but I care if you're that upset over----(the thing I was crying about)." Is it ok if he calls her a cunt because he's less emotional so he doesn't mean it as much? Y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 03:09 PM |
| -11 | Since men on average have a physical advantage, is a gf (lightly) slapping one of her bf's cheeks in argument problematic?Any chance it's ok if she does it as a "joke?" Meaning not at all violently but say he's talking too much and she just taps his face with her hand and the guy laughs bc it didn't hurt it was just to get his attention? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"When you say family background do you mean like whether his dad cheated or parents divorced? In this case the parents seem normally happy/ and are not divorced | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 06:49 PM |
| 0 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"Ok yes-this was the scenario I was curious about- Is there anyway for someone to know whether they actually will be a decent guy now that they're older, like is how they acted between 18-25 ish not a necessarily a good litmus test for how they'd be as a husband at 27-30? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"Bc it's marriage time/serious relationship time, and the girl likes the feeling of being "taken care of" and associates the controllingness with masculinitiy/"leading" the family They choose to be together in my experience because they like certain things about each other very much-the guy wants the "innocent' girl bc she''s "wife material" and the girl is just like naive or of the opinion that experienced guys will take care of her better and they may also buy into the idea that men don't have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"Oh yeah yeah sorry idk if I said seek out, but if I did that's not what I meant to say-I meant to say that they just creepily like it if she happens to be one, not necessarily that they search for it, although they definitely yeah judge for body count and discredit girls based on that hypocritically-so yeah that was my question Like are the RP views on body counts/women usually a sign that he is likely to be unfaithful or unreliable? Again I'm Muslim so among South Asian/Middle Eastern guys most… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"Ok yes the second sentence-you make a very good point haha People also just… grow up Ok yeah this is the thing-so based on this would you say that if a guy had a manwhore phase in college where he just kinda led girls on and juggled girls he could still be a moral/respectful husband? Bc there's that whole thing about how you can't fix anyone, and you should not rely on anyone to change? So if he's just aged out, like he's pushing 30, is worrying that he will be unfaithful based on his sexual his… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"Sorry for long-winded reply lol But yeah just wanted to add as well the guy isn't necessarily like problematically into partying or may not even party at all-but has experience with women, I'd venture to say in most couples it's like the guy's body count is 5 or 6 and the girl has only slept with the guy-but-it's just kinda confusing bc the guy isn't necessarily openly disrespectful or never openly says anything problematic/misogynistic-like they won't admit to double standards even if they have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"Ik exactly what you're referring to and I agree entirely however, I'm actually Muslim- so the "wholesome girls" I'm referring to actually tend to be genuinely innocent, naive, sheltered, and "well-behaved"/ very insistent on following the "rules" and think that everyone, especially men - want to follow the "rules" too- if that makes sense? Like there's no manipulative "present as innocent but actually be cunning and play games but make everyone think ur nice/clean" whatever like their faith is s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"Oh gotcha ok lmao sorry I hear these terms used interchangeably but what I meant was just a guy that doesn't commit and "falls in love with" every girl-but he may or may not be promiscuous he could just also flirt/ogle/lead women on knowing he will move on When I said dom I meant assertive and controlling personality wise outside of bedroom but i realize that probably wasn't the best term lol Good and wholesome just means clean cut, doesn't do "bad" things meaning doesn't party, doesn't drink/sm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Is the stereotypical thing of like ex-fboy/player marrying good wholesome girl a bad "prototype?"Oh ok-in this particular scenario I was referring to someone who is just a manwhore but doesn't drink/smoke ( I know that seems off but IK lots of these lmfao) That being said with the 2) outcome that you described-if the girl never wants to get into partying in the first place no matter what can it work out? I find that double standard men have obsessions with wholesome girls but do they usually not change their lifestyle | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Do men 20-27 ish care about relationship history?Yes I appreciate this take-the double standard is concerning | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/23 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?Yep-seen similar studies and I would guess the same thing!! I also wouldn't be surprised if this doesn't happen in men to the extent it happens in women. Ok wow this actually kinda surprises me actually-for some reason I feel like I would be more worried ab men than women? Maybe just being paranoid idk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?If a guy is following girls (and they also follow him) from kind of random locations that aren't at all close to him (which makes me guess they're from dating apps) does that mean he's actively dating them or is there no way to tell. I'd always get confused ab why they don't unfollow unless they're just "keeping them in their back pocket?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?since men like that are more likely to abandon the marriage. So I guess this is the point of contention right. Bc I'd worry for the same reasons but some people feel like it's just a phase & after a certain age they abandon that lifestyle. I haven't seen enough to know what's more accurate though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?Okay yeah I agree like-basically if a guy is attractive and has at least some type of background/decent job that should be all it takes to "order women like pizza" no? I'd imagine it's mostly looks-based/and if he presents himself well but marriageability cannot be detected from just that and yeah I agree that the types of men that spend a lot of time "ordering women like pizza" past a certain age are probably not ideal husband type but then again there are always stories of guys who act like th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?never used so I actually don't get how they work totally-like just curious, do you message and then meet up or do you like Facetime or something beforehand | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?Also from a niche community (religious/ethnic) so was curious about that yeah. My cousin met her husband on one and he's pretty impressive but idk I feel like the not serious thing also happens on those too. IRL gives the opportunity to see him acts and start the real vetting asap, Exactly what I'm worried about and idk I feel like it's really hard to get their vibe from online stuff. instead of spending weeks talking about rainbows. Yeah and this is the thing that confuses me the most-I get tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 12:23 AM |
| -2 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?if a man needs apps to meet women, it means he’s not doing enough in his life to approach women or meet them out in the wild. Yeah I always thought this as well-or at least that maybe they have something problematic in their background/personality that makes the women near them uninterested But yeah same I've also heard success stories it just surprises me that it worked out that way. It is hard to meet ppl if you're not in college but Idk. Idk how ppl got married before either bc everyone seems… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/23 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Do you use dating apps/do HVM?Thanks so much for this- Yeah I think you've hit the nail on the head with the niche subculture thing-my cousin did meet a guy on an app and it actually prompted me to ask the question in the first place bc to me he seems HMV, but we are from a niche subculture and it's hard to find ppl from that background in small towns. That being said I still don't know that I'd use one just bc the concept as a whole kinda makes me uncomfy but I wanted to know what others thought. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/23 08:30 PM |
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