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| 753 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hard | BigManager | /r/seduction | 08/02/20 10:31 PM | |
| 6 | I'm in a weird place where I know all about social skills, but have a terrible time executing them | BigManager | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 01:20 AM | |
| 5 | I care way too much about what people think of me | BigManager | /r/seduction | 16/12/19 05:09 PM | |
| 4 | Should I be saying less? | BigManager | /r/seduction | 16/12/19 02:22 PM | |
| 3 | Do girls frequently go from flirty to not interested? Did i fuck up in this scenario? | BigManager | /r/seduction | 26/12/19 06:06 AM | |
| 1 | So neediness is unattractive. Investing in yourself makes you not needy. Any suggestions on how to invest in yourself? | BigManager | /r/seduction | 26/12/19 05:14 PM |
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| 3 | Don't be hard on yourself if you're struggling to feel confident. Its hard to completely flip your self image over night.Just throw it out there and do it, and don’t care about the outcome. Care about the fact you had the bravery to do what weaker people don’t. Most of our “worst mistakes” weren’t even that bad. And if they were, we lived through them. And to bring it back to James Bond, he gets rejected quite a few times. But ultimately he knows he’ll be ok because there is always other girls, and he’s bound to be doing some cool shit in the mean time. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Don't be hard on yourself if you're struggling to feel confident. Its hard to completely flip your self image over night.Don't measure the outcome. Measure the fact that you nutted up and had the balls to do something where weaker people wouldn't. | /r/seduction | 09/11/20 07:20 PM |
| 5 | Don't be hard on yourself if you're struggling to feel confident. Its hard to completely flip your self image over night.Maybe you're not the "out there" type. Strong and silent is a type you know right? Think James Bond. | /r/seduction | 09/11/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else ever have trouble getting the "ratios" right for a good conversation/being attractive? (Ratio of humor, seriousness, sexuality, cockiness, interest etc.)But what about the other traits? | /r/seduction | 03/11/20 11:56 PM |
| 0 | Your self worth comes from where you chose. Don’t let it come from others.The holy grail of this sub, models, pretty much states what I was just saying. Soooooo | /r/seduction | 25/10/20 07:48 AM |
| 0 | Your self worth comes from where you chose. Don’t let it come from others.“Part of your worth will always come from your interactions with others...” If you chose it to. Yes we’re social animals, but that doesn’t mean we need to place our worth there. We need to drink water but that doesn’t mean we place our self worth in that do we? | /r/seduction | 24/10/20 10:04 PM |
| 1 | How to walk the fine line of fun and cringe?I’ve been told | /r/seduction | 21/10/20 11:06 PM |
| 1 | How to walk the fine line of fun and cringe?No 😢 | /r/seduction | 21/10/20 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else feel like "hard to get" only works if you're attractive?I get what you’re saying and it makes total sense. In some regards. No, I don’t need or, or don’t want to talk to girls at every party I go to. But at the same time, there has been many times where I’ve seen a cute girl, and trying to, “play it chill” has resulted in her and I never speaking and her going on her own way. I’m not the most successful in the dating/hook up game, but not doing anything has worked exactly 0 times. I got to make my own luck | /r/seduction | 13/10/20 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else feel like "hard to get" only works if you're attractive?But that’s part of the problem. Since I’m not a conventionally attractive dude, If I don’t talk to a girl at some point, they’re not going to come out of their way to talk to me. It’s not like I’m some mysterious hunk kicking it with his friends in the corner. I’m just that dude in the corner with his friends. And she won’t come out of her way to talk to me. | /r/seduction | 13/10/20 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Building a social circle outside of work?Not a handsome man, few matches, even fewer dates. | /r/seduction | 13/10/20 10:50 AM |
| 1 | Building a social circle outside of work?I started Jiu Jitsu, but its a very male dominated circle, and feel like its really hard to break into. | /r/seduction | 13/10/20 10:48 AM |
| 4 | 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐝, 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐮𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧.As someone who just had an incredibly embarrassing blow out... No. I whole heartedly disagree. I would rather not do anything than get blown out that bad. | /r/seduction | 13/10/20 10:48 AM |
| 2 | Never forget there are some people you will not win over no matter what you do...that’s exactly my point. | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Never forget there are some people you will not win over no matter what you doAre there people in your life that you don’t like/can’t stand? That you absolutely wouldn’t hang out with? That’s my point. There are just certain personalities that people don’t like and won’t make time for at all. And you just have to accept that you have that personality to some people. | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 11:24 AM |
| 1 | To some, I've been the funniest dude they've ever met. To others, I've been painfully cringey. How can I captivate attention without ending up looking weird?I feel like that’s kind of impossible though right? We all want people to like us. I mean isn’t that the whole point of this sub? To develop the skills to make people like you? | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 06:28 AM |
| 1 | To some, I've been the funniest dude they've ever met. To others, I've been painfully cringey. How can I captivate attention without ending up looking weird?I feel like that’s kind of impossible though. Everybody wants to make people laugh or fit in right? | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 06:27 AM |
| 1 | I just have such a hard time fitting in (gaining "social proof")ty for all your input | /r/seduction | 28/09/20 09:26 AM |
| 1 | I just have such a hard time fitting in (gaining "social proof")So what was it that you were doing "wrong"? | /r/seduction | 28/09/20 09:18 AM |
| 0 | Does anybody else get pissed off that they have to fucking abandon wants and desires and go on a fucking spiritual journey just to be liked by people?I know. It’s just such a contradiction isn’t it? You’re lonely so you want friends. To get those friends you need to not want them. Mind boggling | /r/seduction | 17/09/20 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Does anybody else get pissed off that they have to fucking abandon wants and desires and go on a fucking spiritual journey just to be liked by people?Already there captain 👍👍 | /r/seduction | 17/09/20 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Does anybody else get pissed off that they have to fucking abandon wants and desires and go on a fucking spiritual journey just to be liked by people?I just feel like I’ve tried everything under the sun. It’s so exhausting | /r/seduction | 17/09/20 08:19 PM |
| 0 | You have a friend who sucks in social settings. What do you tell them?I’m my friend 😢 Low key hate how I have to undergo a spiritual journey just to have good conversations and connect to people Especially when others who are kind of dumpster fires are ok | /r/seduction | 17/09/20 04:37 PM |
| 1 | I read something about how science proves jawlines are what determine how attractive you are. What if you don’t have a good one?https://bestlifeonline.com/heres-why-women-are-attracted-to-square-jawed-men/ | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 01:34 PM |
| -1 | I read something about how science proves jawlines are what determine how attractive you are. What if you don’t have a good one?Some like a soft puddy face That just sounds absolutely absurd and not believable at all | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 01:13 PM |
| 0 | I read something about how science proves jawlines are what determine how attractive you are. What if you don’t have a good one?That not all dudes are into boobs, some dudes are butt dudes, and you can still have small boobs and have a cute face? Like it’s 1 minor strike against you | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 01:05 PM |
| 1 | I read something about how science proves jawlines are what determine how attractive you are. What if you don’t have a good one?Unfortunately no go on the stubble, have to be clean shaven. And I guess it’s just hard when there is hard data saying this is what determines attractiveness and you don’t have it. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 12:56 PM |
| 1 | The need to be liked?Elaborate please | /r/seduction | 17/07/20 10:22 PM |
| 1 | The need to be liked?What to do if you want it too much though? | /r/seduction | 17/07/20 10:22 PM |
| 1 | The need to be liked?Interesting. I just ordered it, hope it’s helpful | /r/seduction | 17/07/20 02:37 PM |
| 1 | The need to be liked?Part of the ways I want to invest in myself involve things like jiu jitsu etc. That strong desire to be liked makes me feel awkward when I go to class, etc. kind of making me not want to go. It’s kind of a weird catch 22 | /r/seduction | 17/07/20 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Most seduction books are pure s**t, what you need to be doing is working on fundamental social skills and dealing with your inner demons.Hey I really identified with a lot of the stuff you said. May I ask what problems you had beyond women not being into you you had? And which books you read? | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 06:46 AM |
| 1 | So being not too invested is key. But how do you go about being not too invested when you're really lonely?If you're lonely youre usually needy, overinvested etc. Those things are not attractive and not what people want. So how is one supposed to make friends and have relationships when they have traits that people generally disdain? | /r/seduction | 21/06/20 02:37 PM |
| 1 | So being not too invested is key. But how do you go about being not too invested when you're really lonely?Edited to say; "If you want to HAVE friends, you can't be lonely" | /r/seduction | 21/06/20 02:34 PM |
| 0 | Anyone else ever get so wrapped up in saying or doing the right thing that they end up fucking shit up?Teach me the way muh lord | /r/seduction | 10/06/20 12:05 PM |
| 1 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyWhere in my post does it say I didn’t cold approach? | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 11:09 PM |
| 1 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyIt’s not always about just scoring immediately with who ever is at the gym, or using those dudes as immediate wings. Maybe married dudes wife has a friend who’s looking for a date. Maybe the guys who aren’t good with women has a friend or two who is. Just keep hanging out and having fun with that social circle and expanding | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallysee you next week | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 01:34 PM |
| 11 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyAbsolutely. Have you ever met a dude who acted like a hard ass but you could tell he wasn’t? Or seen someone who was very obviously lying? Or someone who was very nervous? If you can read that, girls can read dudes who are fake/acting like a tool | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 11:31 AM |
| 1 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyBut how much of that game is canned corny tactic shit they read in a book? They probably just have fun and this shit happens naturally. And no, working on your career, body, hobbies, etc will naturally build your social skills. Way more than reading shit online and saying to a bunch of drunk chicks In a club will | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 09:25 AM |
| 5 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyYes and no. There’s a lot of dumb shit in here that I think is toxic and dudes can do without | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 08:25 AM |
| -2 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyHow much “game” do you think brad Pitt uses? How much game does the dude YOU know who pulls the most use? They do that shit naturally, no tricks needed | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 08:16 AM |
| 0 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyI’m still developing as a person, and rona put a slow to a lot of it. But being in a jiu jitsu class is a lot of fun, it’s a hard workout, and it’s kind of cool knowing I’m on my way of being able to fuck someone’s day up and defend myself. And everyone is super friendly. Lots of connections to be made. The gym is cool because you get big and strong. Seeing your numbers go up and your body grow is cool. It’s also cool because a body is the one thing you have to get yourself. You can’t buy it, it… | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 08:01 AM |
| 0 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyWhat do you mean? | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 07:46 AM |
| 2 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyHell no, if anything most people don’t start jiu jitsu until later in life | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 07:40 AM |
| 5 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyHow about making music? Join a band! Chicks fucking love musicians If you want to try something new that you might not have considered jiu jitsu. I extreme confidence builder, make an you jacked as fuck, and has the friendliest god damn people ever. Instant friend group | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 07:29 AM |
| 3 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyWhat are you passionate about? What’s the thing you day dream about doing? What do you need or want to get better at? | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 07:18 AM |
| 25 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyMaybe. But if chillin gets me 80% of results with 10% of the effort, that’s what I’m doing | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 05:07 AM |
| 8 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyThat’s exactly what I’m saying. It’s easier to just be a cool dude with a lot of cool skills and stuff. This pick up shit you got to fake it | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 04:25 AM |
| 4 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyIdk about you, but my idea of naturally living a good life includes throwing parties at my place, going to classes, hanging with co workers etc. That leads to limitless networking and opportunities. Whenever some dude comes rolling up to us while we’re out, it’s always so awkward. And with all the connections you got friends vouching for you and stuff | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 04:23 AM |
| 6 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyMaybe, but its a hell of a lot easier to just enjoy yourself than have to constantly be playing mind games, analyzing, and strategizing. | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 01:58 AM |
| 1 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardJust make sure you shoot your shot at least | /r/seduction | 10/02/20 08:44 PM |
| 1 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardBecause its always an ongoing thing And the way i phrased it "if im following my plan" requires future tense to be grammatically correct | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 11:22 PM |
| 1 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardAlright then have fun | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 11:21 PM |
| 1 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardBecause the way i live my life, why would i ever need cold approach? If im following my plan the way i should, ive got friends who will literally do the work for me. Theyll want to invite the cool guy who fucking ice sculpts and is part of a break dance club. They will tell their friends, and it establishes "social proof" without doing a god damn thing. Ill also meet a shit load of people through those avenues, and each one is a new link in a web of connections, which could take me anywhere | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 10:02 PM |
| 1 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardI do get it, because i read this shit for years and practiced it. And as dumb as it is, this is a whole subsection of game known as "natural game" or "lifestyle game" which is just fucking stupid. Reality of the situation is, cold approaching is like cold calls or cold sales in business. Very very few people will take the time to listen to someones sales bull shit. Sure. Someone might be able to bump their numbers up a bit by being more persuasive. But were talking a marginal bump. The truth is … | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 09:54 PM |
| 1 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardIts an exaggeration. Just mean live a full life lol | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 09:35 PM |
| 3 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardA bit of an exaggeration, but have something going on is what i mean | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 09:11 AM |
| 1 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardIm straight addicted | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 09:07 AM |
| 2 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardI think the gyst of it all is just be content. How you achieve that is up to you | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 09:07 AM |
| 2 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardSounds like excuses | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 09:05 AM |
| 2 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardOn the real, cold approach is ass | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 09:04 AM |
| 2 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardI think the fact that you timed it proves youre doing the exact opposite of what i talked about. Youre way too invested and it creeps girls out. Just make yourself happy. Shit will fall into place, because when youre happy, youre probably out having a good time around people and not too invested | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 09:04 AM |
| 9 | I'm not the most successful man, but the few successes I've had were straight forward. Its really not that hardIm sorry, i don't follow? | /r/seduction | 09/02/20 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Are we fooling ourselves? Or are pickup coaches misleading us?Thats why just putting effort into becoming an attractive person is better than practicing pua bull that everyone sees through | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 12:48 AM |
| 2 | Do girls frequently go from flirty to not interested? Did i fuck up in this scenario?tru. man that sucks | /r/seduction | 26/12/19 06:27 AM |
| 2 | Do girls frequently go from flirty to not interested? Did i fuck up in this scenario?Probably exactly what happened, ty for input | /r/seduction | 26/12/19 06:09 AM |
| 0 | Is it seen as "weak/beta/not manly" to want to eat a girl out?Just wondering. You know, if its one of those "close the fridge door with your hips" type of guy thing | /r/seduction | 23/12/19 08:21 PM |
| -8 | Is it seen as "weak/beta/not manly" to want to eat a girl out?God damn a person for asking a question right? When was the last time you watered your high horse? | /r/seduction | 23/12/19 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Is it seen as "weak/beta/not manly" to want to eat a girl out?Interesting. Maybe its a cultural thing? | /r/seduction | 23/12/19 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Should I be saying less?The problem though is i feel like im still being needy when i ask questions. Like im still trying to make the person like me. Like im performing | /r/seduction | 16/12/19 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Response time is a perfect indicator of interest level when dating - Do you agree?Ive already mentioned this to OP in a reply, but to others looking for an answer, consider this; I work a 12 hour shift job where i have access to my phone for only 1 hour. My response times are pretty slow. Forgot to mention its also grave yard, so there's no way im replying on my 2 am lunch | /r/seduction | 15/12/19 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Response time is a perfect indicator of interest level when dating - Do you agree?I have a job where i work 12 hour shifts and only have access to my phone for 1 hour of it | /r/seduction | 15/12/19 12:58 AM |
| 3 | I'm in a weird place where I know all about social skills, but have a terrible time executing themI said i know about them, the same way someone can know all about basketball, but suck at playing it | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 03:38 AM |
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