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GeneralBjay_jw/r/MensRights18/06/20 10:52 PM
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If we're being honest. I feel like everyone does this? I mean, you can still absolutely love your partner and find someone else attractive simultaneously. That doesn't necessarily mean you'll leave your partner. I feel what connects people the most isn't the physical. It's the experiences shared, time spent, and active action that solidifies the love yall have between eachother. So more than anything, don't worry about your dick, just love on your partner right.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/23 10:06 PM
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Nah. If we're talking about straight forward dudes. More than anything I get more nervous as opposed to relaxed and comfortable. I like the silly goofy type.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/23 09:25 PM
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It just happens. When you're trying to get to know someone we all put our best foot forward. That doesn't last forever and our flaws start showing through. It doesn't matter how much work you do on yourself alone, in a relationship or intending to be in a relationship with someone is completely different. Unfortunately a lot of us stick around longer then we should.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/23 08:30 PM
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Yeah, no one is against it as long as you're not intentionally leading on a woman by making her think you want a relationship with her instead of FWB
/r/ExRedPill02/08/22 06:19 AM
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Yes they exist, of course. Unfortunately there's a great focus on women than there is on men that has always been a thing. But I mean... isn't that a part of life though. I don't get why deciding you want to take a different path late in life is considered a bad thing. It's better than never doing it. And hey, people change. We want different things, evolving mindsets and experiences and what not. It's okay to not know what you want. Just like it's okay to know what you want one moment, and then…
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 06:51 AM
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I'm 24, 30 in six years. Couldn't give any less of a fuck tbh
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 04:17 AM
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I mean, I see where they're coming from. But this really only works when you don't dating or hop into a relationship out of genuine feelings for someone. If you hop into a relationship like it's a transaction, that's what your relationship will be, a transaction. No self respecting girl (or guy) that wants a monogamous relationship would be okay with a guy cheating on her constantly no matter how much money or how 'high value' he is. This is such a dumb concept and what people's idea of a relati…
/r/ExRedPill12/01/22 05:10 AM
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Honest question and I'm not criticizing you. Is the way he's treating you the correct way to show you he cares about you? Boo, if you care for the relationship I'd at LEAST talk to him about it. If he doesn't budge, leave.
/r/ExRedPill07/12/21 03:51 AM
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I mean I dont see why not wanting to be in a LTR at the moment would be wrong. As long as that's what the other person wants too and you're not acting like you want a LTR with them and you don't.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/21 03:19 AM
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I agree with everything you said.
/r/ExRedPill18/02/21 02:57 AM
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I happy you got out of that. I’m happy you had that final thought that told you it’s not good to generalize. But I’m sad that it always takes finally finding a partner to realize ones own self worth and not to hate other people.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/21 08:51 PM
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Yep, I definitely agree. Keep doing you
/r/ExRedPill14/02/21 05:07 PM
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I didn’t mean just because a guy can sleep with a lot of women,he’s high value or vice versa.I meant that in a society a girl can just look pretty and get by whereas men have to be good looking,earn money,be social etc to be perceived as someone of value.The fucked up part is that some guys thing their value is in how many women they can sleep with(this includes me in the past).I did it and never felt happy,I just wasn’t myself.Took me a few years to realise that ain’t it. I don't think that's f…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/21 04:58 PM
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The difference is that men’s value cannot be on looks alone and a women’s can be. Aren't y'all the same people that say a man can do absolutely nothing but look good and he will have girls flocking to him? Which way is it? A woman who’s attractive can have an easier life compared to an attractive man with the same personal and professional skills.A women with good looks and no brain can go way ahead in life using other men but it’s not the same case for a good looking guy with no brain. That's l…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/21 04:37 PM
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So they don’t feel inadequate
/r/ExRedPill10/02/21 06:06 PM
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Whew I felt this to a certain degree. Mostly on my moms side mental health isn't taken seriously. I'm sure she has it as she once said she wouldn't kill herself because she has kids and I will never forget that. But on my dads side, and I owe it to my aumt who is the smartest, and most politically aware out of all of us. Then after her, my uncle who she married. I feel they help the whole family. I'm pretty sure she was the one who brought up the fact I might or am (haven't been diagnosed) depre…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/21 02:28 AM
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This is why you learn in sociology courses and psychology courses and hell, even in my cultural anthropology course that gender and sex are two different things.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/21 06:21 PM
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I'm sorry, wasn't Blake Shelton voted as sexiest man alive one year? I don't think he's attractive at all but at the same time I don't know anything about that man. You can think someone is or ismt attractive without knowing them. However, you can think someone is attractive and then GET to know them and think they're unattractive. I think the issue with people that get sucked into TRP, and you've probably heard this a million times, is that TRP has a lot of generalizations. Generalizations that…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 10:49 PM
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..... What?
/r/ExRedPill21/01/21 09:28 PM
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I get where you're coming from but at an actual twenty year old the age difference alone is kinda a red flag. Just being older is a shift in power in a relationship. They have the power of experience therefore probably a better job, a twenty y/o in most cases isnt as financially stable as a 40 yo would be, 40yo in most cases are generally aware in life. Personally, I'd never and would most likely be afraid of dating a 40y/o.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/21 04:03 AM
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If you get you validation as a man from a woman. Idk what to tell you.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/21 05:46 AM
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To you.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/20 03:47 AM
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Honestly I feel everyone, men and women should feel good about their sexuality. I'm from America and it's a pretty conservative culture but it is becoming super duper progressive. Thankfully. You should have every right to feel good about your sexuality as anyone else. Now.... Coming from a black woman who has not grown up in a super religious household although we did go-to church when I was younger and I did go-to a catholic school with mass on Wednesday's and shit. However, I grew out of it m…
/r/ExRedPill18/12/20 07:36 PM
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Dude whaaaaat. You're not even bad looking. I definitely feel this just goes to show not to listen to anyone who tells you how to or how to not live your life. I bet with enough talking to people in general, not just women with the hopes of being in a relationship that you will have friends and even habe a gf in time. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/ExRedPill13/12/20 10:34 PM
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9 inch cocks hurt. No offense to well endowed men.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/20 09:31 AM
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Saaaame. I was cashiering and a guy kept asking for my number and I had a whoooole line. Eventually he just wrote it on a piece of paper but literally that emoji you used was my face. Usually I keep a straight face but it made me really really uncomfortable.
/r/seduction10/12/20 08:31 AM
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THIS! A million times this omg.
/r/seduction10/12/20 08:18 AM
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Technicay she's not shaming you. It's what you admitted in the post. She's just repeating what you said and telling you what you need to do. Although he/she can minus the insults. But they're absolutely right. Why does it matter that someone else is getting laid THAT much. We all may get a little jealous that someone we once cared about seems to have moved on in some form. But we don't let that become debilitating in every-day live and social interactions. And yes, don't be defined by random wom…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 04:43 PM
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I see your point. Well, just know you are worth it to somebody. :)
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 01:46 AM
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I'm happy you acknowledge its garbage. But wouldn't a girl cheating on you be kinda a good thing. Wouldn't that prove that it just wasn't meant to be and she was disloyal. Wouldn't it allow you to find a healthier relationship?
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 01:35 AM
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Lmaooo What type of shit. So just by the fact that there are women that don't want kids destroys that whole arguement but let me indulge. If the whooole point of your relationship is to have KIDS then that not a relationship. The point of a relationship is about companionship. Now about that whole control thing. You don't think various people men and women have tried that? Guess what. They're called abusive relationships. Trying to control the various aspects of someone elses life is abusive. An…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 01:32 AM
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This!
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:32 PM
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Literally 😂
/r/ExRedPill09/11/20 04:52 AM
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Exactly. But at the same time if you do something that hurts your SO enough. Maybe it was a suoer red flag for her like say you cheated. She has no obligation to stay with you. I don't consider cheating a hardship but more of a breech of trust in honesty and the commitment of the relationship. But yes relationships take work.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/20 04:17 PM
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Again I think it's a generalization. What about relationships where one SO is sick? Why doesn't tge other individual leave? Actually it's more common for men to cheat/leave than it is for the woman. But again it's a generalization. Maybe it isntnalways for benefits. Maybe it's out of genuine love and care?
/r/ExRedPill05/11/20 09:26 PM
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I think your definition of "bluepill" is flawed. I never ever subscribed to that. I grew up knowing that if I didn't want kids or to get married or anything that was fine. Or even vice versa. I grew up in a Christian household and now at the age of 22 I believe in a higher power but I'm not religious. Who ever said you were entitled to your SO I'm sorry, but they're delusional. Of course your SO also has a choice to be with you just like you do with her. Of course your SO seen something in you t…
/r/ExRedPill05/11/20 09:22 PM
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I think people spend too much time worrying about people that aren't for them. Yes, women can be shallow but why would you willingly be with a shallow person? Shallowness isnt something we can change with federal policy. So why worry about these women? Go-to the women that are for you and want to be a friend/gf to you. Hang around the ones that genuinely care for you and don't let their issues that they see in themselves control you. Also, hey, if a really attractive guy wants to milk all the at…
/r/ExRedPill05/11/20 05:32 PM
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Yep
/r/ExRedPill29/10/20 03:56 PM
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Hurt people, hurt people.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/20 03:55 PM
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Yes.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/20 03:54 PM
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I like to hear your reason why the man shouldn't feel or be superior than the woman. It seems like in society, a lot of burden falls onto the man. If something breaks the man is expected to fix it (Car, house, appliances) or there's financial turmoil where she loses her job. I mean, who said men HAD to take on this role (or still has to.) There are women mechanics, technicians, and more women are in general entering the stem field. I believe with the influence of religion, and men naturally bein…
/r/ExRedPill29/10/20 02:07 AM
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Yea it's not uncommon for someone to marry somone of similar income. I really don't see an issue with it. But again it's still a generalization. And if your partner makes you feel that insecure then maybe one shouldn't be dating and instead start doing some soul searching.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 04:19 PM
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That's not at all what I meant. If anything having the need to feel like you are superior to someone is a pretty good indication of an insecurity. You just have to have confidence and be secure with who you are as a person. Not constantly looking down on someone as lesser than. That screams unhealthy relationship. If you ask any women, they want to be with someone that is better than them aka hypergamy. Generalizing. Im hooe I don't have to explain to you why that's an issue.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 06:33 AM
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Aaah thanks for the education. I mean, I can see the benefits and cons of both.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 05:54 AM
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Taxation of capitalism. Is that not taking the countrys funds and a whole and redistributing it among the masses? How is that not a form of socialism. The examples you presented if you are OP which I responded to are all examples of socialism. Just because capitalism cannot survive without welfare doesn't mean it's not a socialist idea.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 05:25 AM
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Can we all also agree that governments don't have to be strictly socialist or strictly capitalist For example, America.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 04:06 AM
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I think it's more so you having some insecurities you need to figure out of you think every girl you meet is going to cheat on you. Does that feeling come from having a lack of something?
/r/ExRedPill27/10/20 08:43 PM
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I never fully hated MGTOW even as a female because I support their feelings of men needing to find their identities away from women and I support the opposite as well. I just found it came off as a lil ironic because a lot of it was also hating women lol. But I do support the self betterment aspect.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/20 08:45 PM
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I mean. Of course it might just "be his turn" or it might not just be his turn. It might turn into a healthy marriage. Or it might turn into an unhealthy marriage and they might get a divorce. But is that not life? Are people not supposed to come in and out of our lives. Sometimes they're here to teach us something about ourselves.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/20 03:22 PM
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The way you dress. Matching, well fitted clothes... Invest in nice clothes too.
/r/ExRedPill16/10/20 12:00 AM
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Shhiiit. The fact to someone feels there are leagues proves how well redpill thrives off insecurity.
/r/ExRedPill15/10/20 11:59 PM
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Why are people so desperate to follow someone elses idea of the way they themselves should life their life.
/r/ExRedPill14/10/20 04:27 PM
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I think the only thing you've really given us to dissect your belief in the red pill is that you want a family and that you see your family members playing in those roles that trp describes. Im not suprised you consider yourself the "flat middle" because trp plays on some truths. Maybe you see yourself in a traditional gender roles relationship. That's okay if she's okay with it. I don't know what else you expect someone to say. You want to elaborate what you closely align with in trp?
/r/ExRedPill13/10/20 03:28 PM
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I think this whole post was very broad with no details... Also, this subreddit is for people in redpill wanting to get out of it not for people who like the redpill and don't see a problem with it. You have to do the first part which is seeing the issues of trp and we help with the rest. Edit: I can say though a problem in society is living life for others instead finding what you like or enjoy, being true to yourself so others will accept you as you are. You can weed out all the bad people. Not…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/20 02:47 PM
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That's the problem. They don't talk to women or when they do they don't care enough to pay attention to what she's actually saying because he's to busy looking down on them.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/20 01:51 PM
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I agree
/r/ExRedPill04/10/20 03:31 PM
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How was that slut shaming. I never said it was wrong. Just not everyone is the same and OPs comment came off as there’s something wrong with you if you haven’t lost your virginity at a certain point and that fuels the red pill rhetoric
/r/ExRedPill26/09/20 03:02 AM
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Wanting sex doesn’t automatically mean you’re going to run out and try to get it any way you can. People aren’t complete slaves to their feelings.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/20 02:56 AM
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The only virgins left are either really religious and are waiting for marriage, or aren't attractive. Are you serious?
/r/ExRedPill25/09/20 10:19 PM
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Exactly. People are different. Period.
/r/ExRedPill22/09/20 04:42 PM
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where do i start when it comes to dating, what can i expect when it comes to dating, where can i meet new potiental partners? First we have to acknowledge that ever is different. You are different. You have different needs, wants, hobbies, standards than the next person does. And that's okay. Dating is pretty complicated actually. Theres no specific steps you can follow that guarantee you'll have a partner at the end of dating around. However, that is where knowing your interests and diving into…
/r/ExRedPill18/09/20 02:51 PM
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They consider sex as currency and therefore link it to money payments.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/20 01:03 AM
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I find a lot of women think that men are supposed to read their minds. I'm not gonna lie this does have some truth to it being that being sexually open was/is seen as a deviant trait in women and the opposite in men. But sex is a two way street. You work to please eachother. Choosing someone just bc of their lack of sexual experience so they won't know what to expect IS manipulative.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/20 12:24 AM
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Idk I kinda respect MGTOW in a way. I think the whole grow and explore and experience by yourself thing is great. It definitely builds character AND on your own terms. That's why I don't date now (I'm a woman so I'm def not mgtow). But other than that if most of their posts weren't centered around woman then they would be a pretty good movement.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/20 06:33 PM
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I understand but I was using choking as an example that people don’t really want in real life that they’d want in bed. That’s all.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/20 05:22 PM
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I'm aware. But why would someone want to be choked during sex in the first place. I'm sure they wouldn't want to be choked while not having sex which is my point. Things you may want sexually do not always translate to real life and that's okay.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/20 03:52 PM
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Kind of like tge popularity of choking. Someone may want to be choked in bed but NO ONE wants to be choked in real life lol. But in sex it's really all about arousal. What gets you turned on. You're not as reasonable in bed than you are when not aroused or out in the world.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/20 03:43 PM
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I'm pretty sure in the vox explained docuseries they also talk about fatasies. I'm positive they say just because women may want to have more male dominated sex, it doesn't necessarily translate to their actual relationships. For example, a number of people would like a 50/50 relationship but when in bed they would like to be dominant or submissive.. That's what I meant to put.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/20 03:39 PM
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As a female sex will never make me attached to someone I don't already have strong* feelings for.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/20 12:09 PM
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Lmao how does one complain about hypergamy while doing the same thing..?
/r/ExRedPill12/07/20 04:31 PM
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Just live for yourself. Whatever and whoever us meant for you will gravitate towards the energy you put out.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/20 02:08 AM
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Oh wow, I'm so sorry. Have you tried reaching out since for some reason they won't to you. You should ask them why they don't call or anything.
/r/MensRights19/06/20 02:31 PM
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I don't want to get him the typical gendered gift like tools or sports gear because he already recieved a bunch of them... Thanks though.
/r/MensRights19/06/20 01:01 PM
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Thanks guy!
/r/MensRights19/06/20 03:23 AM
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Greys anatomy, the young and the restless, young Sheldon... True, I can get him dvds.
/r/MensRights19/06/20 03:22 AM
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Trust me Ive done that he just automatically assumes (correctly) that I'm getting him something.
/r/MensRights19/06/20 03:05 AM
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He will literally (he always does) say to keep my money and not get him anything.
/r/MensRights19/06/20 03:03 AM
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I lived with my mom most of my live and just moved in with him so I guess I don't really don't tell him how much I really appreciate and love him because neither of us are very emotionally forward. Sometimes when we argue I feel he takes it to heart even if he doesn't show it and probably feels like I have something against him but I really don't and love him regardless. I think this will definitely help our relationship.
/r/MensRights19/06/20 03:02 AM
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I don't see him do anything out of the ordinary though which is the issue. Otherwise I would have gotten him something pertaining to that. I'm really trying to refrain from the sports stuff because everyone gets him that and I want to get him something different butbshe doesn't showcase any hobbies in all my 22 years of living... :(
/r/MensRights19/06/20 02:57 AM
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No, thank you it's perfect! I think he's some sort of minimalist because he always says he doesn't want us spending money on him, he doesn't like travel and likes to sleep and watch TV so I think this will be great for him. At least he'll look like a bad mfker while doing it. 😈
/r/MensRights19/06/20 02:22 AM
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Wow awesome! I’ll check it out! So far I’m thinking of getting him a neck pillow and I’m going to check out beard oils and stuff. Thank you!
/r/MensRights19/06/20 02:15 AM
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We what does your dad like?
/r/MensRights19/06/20 01:46 AM
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I have no problems with that at all.
/r/MensRights18/06/20 11:10 PM
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I don’t care what my dad wants to do , I’ll do it with him. But I think that’s the issue because we both are really considerate so we constant put each others wants above one another and he just makes it hard to celebrate him :/ . I should also add he’s 53, doesn’t like to travel, always tells us not to spend money on him but I can’t help but feel like a bad daughter when I oblige. I want him to genuinely enjoy something because he likes being in the house sleep on the couch or watching tv. ._. …
/r/MensRights18/06/20 11:09 PM
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Cool. I wanted to go fishing with my dad but we never went. Also the state I’m in is quarantined.. :( Happy Cake day!
/r/MensRights18/06/20 10:58 PM
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Yet alot of guys aspire to make the woman in their lives moms. Its fucking weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:53 PM
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Same.
/r/PussyPassDenied07/09/19 07:22 PM
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