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And it doesn't stop when the kids grow up either. Now, I share a grandchild with my LV ex-husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 08:14 AM
1

I was at his, and he had driven. Not my finest hour. He was the last one-night stand I ever had or will ever have again. Fucking terrible. (Pun intended.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:43 AM
23

Love the #psychology! He's clearly an intellectual, with a broad education, who has deeply studied the intricacies of that subject long enough to be an expert in his field. #psychology, my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:40 AM
13

That's exactly what I said to the guy first thing the next morning. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:23 AM
38

An LVM I slept with on the rebound tried anal the first time. He was panting out, "I'm gonna fuck you in the ass!" I had to--in the act--firmly say, "No, you're not.," and literally redirect him into the right orifice. First time was the last time, with that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:04 PM
37

This. After my LV-husband fell in love with another woman, I went on a dating binge. I put up with so much casual, bad sex with near-strangers just so I could feel wanted. It's a pure miracle I never caught anything. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:37 AM
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My LV ex had an affair after 25 years of marriage--and not just a one-night stand. He fell in love with the other [married] woman. He was shocked when I filed for divorce, and had the audacity to whine, "Whatever happened to 'til death do us part?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:41 PM
43

Just as in the human species, there will always be females who think a hole in the dirt is good enough, and allow themselves to get knocked up, thus continuing to propagate the LVM blood line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:43 PM
3

This quote should have been brought to you by u/Blue85Heron's Ex-husband. I was raised in the '80's, in a Harlequin Romance, man-centric culture. Romance, love, and marriage were the end goal of everything in life. Every book, every movie, every career choice. I married the first man I was crazy about, who was mutually crazy about me, without ever asking myself who I was; what I myself wanted out of life. I had been taught that my aim should be to make my husband's life happy, so that's what I a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:52 AM
3

Thanks for this: I've never heard of Taco John's This guy's name was actually Jimmy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:25 AM
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I went on a blind date with a guy who chose a taco place. I, having standards, mentally heard, "upscale Mexican restaurant." Nope: it was a dive bar with a pool table in the middle and the tacos, eaten at the bar with bottles of Bud Light on offer, were literally from a supermarket Ortega taco kit. Oh, also, he brought 2 friends with him. Once the friends had melted away to shoot pool, my date spent 20 minutes talking bitterly about all the ways his ex-wife done him wrong. In the course of this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:18 AM
8

Needed to read this today. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:01 AM
9

Every other driver is an idiot: only he knows how to drive perfectly. Source: was married to a cop for 25 years, who thought himself God's Gift to Driving. I learned that the biggest asshole drivers are usually the biggest assholes, period. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:31 PM
3

Was married to #7; work heavily with #5; have sort of a weakness for #9 that I can't at all justify with any of my Objective Thinker Cells. Diagnosis: I'm organically attracted to assholes. Thanks, FDS, for continuing to raise the red flags!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:05 PM
5

You. Absolute. Queen. I'm otherwise speechless with admiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:00 PM
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It's telling that my first thought while reading this was, "Walk fast and get to a crowded, safe place ASAP." It wasn't until I read it a second time that I realized de la Renta is saying to walk so your ass and hips will be more attractive to those 3 men behind you. Men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:55 AM
8

"Is there anyone who would he hurt if they found out you're on a date with me?" I like this. It doesn't leave loopholes like asking, "Are you married?" or "Do you have a girlfriend?" Of course, a man can always lie, but this is a good place to start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:01 PM
22

I briefly dated a millionaire pre-covid. One night, we met up at a nice restaurant for prosecco and oysters, but before we ordered, he confessed ruefully that he'd "lost" his credit card the week previous. Like a little pickmeisha, I paid for the evening, but something wasn't sitting right with me. The next morning, in the clear light of day, I wondered, What kind of grown-ass millionaire loses his one-and-only credit card a week ago and doesn't replace it? I had recently discovered FDS, and it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:47 PM
1

Sure: I think that's a thoughtful response. Being coherent and as consistent as possible is key. As is not being cowed by a culture that demands we think a certain way that doesn't jibe with our own integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 09:52 PM
3

Word. Couldn't have said (and didn't say) it better myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 04:28 PM
2

Okay, I hear you, but here's an example of how that logic doesn't play out: ever seen the "fat-male-cop-eating-donuts" trope in movies or real life? Those out-of-shape MALE cops are ubiquitous in my local communities. They undergo the same annual training that younger, fitter cops go through, but no one wants the fat cop on their team when they're chasing a bad guy half a mile through the woods in the middle of the night. Trained? Yes. Physically up to the task? No. I recognize your argument tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 03:56 PM
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But he's not a beat cop: he has a much bigger job than that. Not sure what village you live in, but he has absolutely raided drug houses in his career and had shots fired at him. Please, oh person of such lofty black-and-white notions of the way everything in the world works: Tell it to the hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 02:52 PM
1

Thanks for that. I happen to agree with you about women in combat. In fact, I unapologetically believe it's okay to have CERTAIN double standards about men and women, just like it's okay to have certain double standards regarding children vs adults, managers vs managed employees, people with handicaps vs fully-abled people, etc. People are different from one another and as such, have different roles to play in society, and should be honored and treated accordingly. I believe that "slippery slope…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 02:42 PM
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I didn't say it's a double standard. The point I was trying to make is that there are some legitimate differences between the sexes and this is a reasonable case of recognizing what those differences--with their situational strengths and weaknesses--are. I could have pointed out that women statistically are smaller-framed, with less muscle mass than men, and are therefore statistically not as strong, but I feel that's generally understood in a discussion like this. (Vis a vis an argument, which …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 02:18 PM
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I was married to a cop for 25 years. He felt strongly that having a female partner at work put him in greater danger than having a male partner. In his words, "If we're raiding a drug house and I get shot in the leg, I want a partner who's physically strong enough to pull me out of that house by my collar." Also, happy Cake Day!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:11 PM
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Jettisoned him. It was hard for me because I wanted to keep re-writing the narrative with an ending where he really wanted me. But in the end, that wasn't the truth. He enjoyed me when I was around but didn't pursue me. Walking away was the right thing for me to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:27 PM
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You sound like a dick. This is 100% a made-up fantasy.
/r/seduction10/04/20 05:02 AM
14

Doesn't he try to Dogsplain things to you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:17 AM
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This is one if the best things I've read in a long time. Since leaving my LV husband and being on my own, I'm thriving. But he--now that he's without me--is merely surviving. I couldn't care less. I was a PickMe wife for 25 years, existing in a state of mere survival. For what??? I've earned this time to thrive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:34 PM
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"Passive reciprocation." I like that. Wish I'd known that term when it was happening to me. Ah well. Older... Wiser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:48 AM
2

Strangely/not strangely, my father has always spoken to my mother this way too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:42 AM
1

True story.
/r/seduction03/04/20 07:24 PM
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My ex-husband of 26 years spent most of our marriage doing this thing where he'd speak to me with a thin veneer of politeness, but just underneath it, I could tell he was irritated. When he got impatient with me, he would slow down, speak ultra-calmly, and preface his comments with an exaggerated, "Honey..." It felt so patronizing. I'd tell him, "If there's something I'm doing that's annoying you, just tell me and we'll figure it out." But he never could. It always left me feeling like I was a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 11:50 AM
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I had to upvote this to get your upvote count to change from 69. Because 69 felt like an immoral number for a nice girl like you to have on her post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 11:24 AM
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Of course. But that's not what they were talking about. The perspective I'm talking about was always about morality and emotional involvement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:24 AM
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Growing up in fundamental Christianity, I was taught that "When you have sex with someone, you are having sex with every other person they've ever slept with." This was supposed to be a compelling argument for virginity before marriage. Biologically, this is completely illogical. Emotionally, it doesn't make sense either. Yet no one ever seemed to question it....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 02:22 AM
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All thanks to FDS! A year ago, I would have put up with treatment like that and counted myself lucky that he still wanted a booty call. I know better now. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:53 PM
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All thanks to FDS! A year ago, I would have put up with treatment like that and counted myself lucky that he still wanted a booty call. I know better now. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:53 PM
5

Microwaved bread only tastes better for about 30 seconds. After that, it turns into a bread-flavored rubber tire. Just like freshened-up relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:22 AM
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This happened to me too. We'd been seeing each other about 3 months when he left for 2 weeks to travel for work/family/play. During those 2 weeks, he hardly contacted me at all. I figured I was being slow-faded and started the mental process of letting him go. Then he came home from his travels and suddenly wanted to see me. I told him in no uncertain terms that I was not going to put up with trails of breadcrumbs while he was away followed by thinly-veiled booty calls when he happened to be in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:14 AM
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Yeah, I do wish this super-nice, solid guy well. He deserves someone who can be crazy about him. That's just not going to be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:53 AM
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I disgree. I don't think the two are mutually exclusive at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:52 AM
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I stand by his being a HVM. His previous marriage and the way he takes care of his kids and does his duty by his ex-wife show me he's a solid guy with staying power, not an untrustworthy lunatic. He was just too eager too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:50 AM
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It's human nature to want what we can't have. J was a HVM in most ways, and yes, I may well have been interested in him if he'd been harder to get. It was his fawning over-availability that turned me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:48 AM
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I'm a nurse, and one of my jobs at my hospital is to annually fit-test all 45 employees in my department for N-95 filter masks. Yep: these are the masks that protect from airborne illnesses like TB, measles, Ebola, and now.... coronavirus. As of January 31st--that's the month I fit-test--I had tested 30 out of 45 staff. The other 15, I chased around the hospital for a month, trying to get them to commit to coming to my station and doing the test. I was such a Pickmeisha! Ladies, I had no idea of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:19 AM
2

Interesting mysterious men ask more about the girl than they tell about themselves...at first. But TBH, girls aren't so much into men being mysterious. What we actually want is for men to be emotionally transparent and available. It's way easier and more convenient for you to be mysterious, but for us it's a big.. Nah. However, keep working at that dude. Let us know how it works out for you.
/r/seduction17/03/20 12:12 AM
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We're soooo stupid. For far too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:33 AM
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Fuck you, Universe! You know this man was going to Be Different! If only things had gone a little better that last time we were together then we would have been....Perfect! Quit raining on my parade already, and give me the man I wanted---the man he certainly could have been, given half a chance, and all things being equal, and if only he KNEW the real me, and if I just hadn't made all those mistakes in the beginning.... It can still work, can't it? Maybe? Please? I'll do better! Really, I can!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:58 AM
15

Four times is, very possibly, a giant middle finger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:15 PM
12

I hope so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:08 PM
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Once in a while, it occurs to me to wonder what his narrative of the situation is--whether I was "irrational" or "crazy," etc. Until about 12 seconds pass and I realize I don't care what his narrative is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:07 PM
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And grateful I am for it, every single day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:51 AM
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I just said good-bye to a man I'd been seeing--and really liked--for 3 months. In that time, he flaked on dates we'd made about 4 times. Either changed his mind last-minute, or plain old forgot. I got tired of it. Finally, a good friend pointed out, "He's a savvy businessman: he knows how to do relationships when they're important to him." I thought, you know what, that's absolutely right, and I jettisoned the guy. When Mr. Savvy Businessman wanted to know what happened to us, and I pointed out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:05 AM
42

The best revenge is living well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:34 PM
15

I just learned that this is called "Whisky Dick:" when a man who's a heavy drinker goes and goes and goes during sex, but never finishes. (While you lie there and try not to be obvious about checking your watch.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 08:22 AM
11

I just walked away from a man I really, really liked. I'd been seeing him for 3 months and in that time, he either forgot or bailed in or last-minute-changed plans 4 times. The 5th time he did it, I walked away. When he wanted to know why, and I told him, he said, "Things happen." I was sad to leave but.. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:48 AM
9

Stiff competition. I see what you did there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:31 PM
5

I blame the rescuer in us. I cOuLd HelP HiM Be sOoO mUcH!!! AnD hE wOulD LoOoVe me FoR iT!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:18 PM
10

You forgot to add a mic drop. So I'm doing it for you. Because nothing more needs to be said than this: "Never let anyone make you feel ashamed or “too much” for doing what makes you feel beautiful. Anyone who judges you for that can take a seat on the goddamn curb." *mic drop* Exit, Stage Left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:15 PM
12

Or we fall in love with their potential. Unfortunately, you can't date potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:10 PM
1

Thanks for the link to the Psychology Today article. Loved it! It reinforced that I did the right thing by removing myself from my LVM's life. Nothing teaches a lesson like absence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:03 PM
4

I have a thing for tall guys, and one of my peeves is men who lie about their height on OLD profiles. I'm 5'6" and I won't even swipe on a profile anymore where the man claims to be 5'9". They're never 5'9". They're always 5'7". Like, Dude. Nothing wrong with being short, but just own it. If you lie about that up front, what else you be willing to lie about? Last week, I went on a date with a HVM. He stood up when I got to the table. Later, he told me it was so I could see that he really was 6'1…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:31 PM
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I love this so hard. Woke up today missing the LVM I just got rid of. Wondering if I did the right thing. Did I blow my chance at a really good thing? And so on. Reading this reminded me why I did what I did. I walked away from low-value treatment. For a HVW like me, there was no other choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:54 AM
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Oh my great, good gods, yes. At his ex's 3 times a week? He's still emotionally entangled with her. Nope nope nope. Already exclusive toward you and expecting you to do the same, while claiming "no pressure?" He's trying to force a version of what feels normal to him: being part of a committed couple. It's not YOU who's important to him; it's that relief of feeling like he knows where he belongs. You're just an expendable character in his plot arc. Yep: he's definitely insecure. I retract my for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:57 AM
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Apparently, I'm in disagreement with the majority here, but to me, it seems like he likes you but he's unsure of how you feel about him, and he's afraid to put himself "out there" too much, in case you reject him. I'm not encouraging you to rewrite the narrative to your own satisfaction but... there really DO seem to be some behind-the-smokescreen messages here. I hope I'm right and not wrongly encouraging you to put your hopes in an LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:41 AM
3

Eeeeeew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:33 AM
29

Don't go to a chain restaurant for a first date, ever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:32 AM
10

Bad advice. I'm a woman and I'd run across the street to get away from a man who escalated like this. The "What do you like in bed" conversation is for shortly before you're about to get into bed. Not for escalating at a party or an early-on date.
/r/seduction04/03/20 12:19 PM
5

This just happened to me yesterday. A man who has a pretty consistent track record of being unreliable canceled plans on me because he was "sick." He hated to do it. Felt really bad. Could he have a rain check? And wah wah wah.... I don't care if he was on a ventilator with coronavirus. I blocked his ass directly on every social media outlet and platform I'm on. I didn't even deign to answer his message first. If he'd shown himself reliable and trustworthy all along? Sure I'd've understood: ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:27 AM
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Yes, my father. He's not short, but he has major self-esteem issues, and throughout my childhood/young adult-hood, he was a big bully. Then, I stumbled upon an ancient truth: When you push back at a bully, he goes belly-up. And that's what I started doing with my father. And now, he's as docile as a calf. But speaking of short men: WTF with men lying about their height on OLD sites? I'm 5'6", and I'm into tall men. And it's gotten so that I won't--even for a minute--consider swiping right on a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:19 AM
4

Me either! Never thought, until this minute, that there was something fucked up about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:37 PM
25

Ouch. I was her. Although I only got to the point where I say I want more than a hook up...he apologizes and makes another date...then cancels the date. That's the point at which I blocked his ass directly on every social platform. Still. I miss the great personality; the phenomenal sex. I understand the very real struggle. Maybe your friend just needs to go through the whole, hopeless experience once. To feel the abject humiliation of realizing he doesn't want her. Better for her to be deeply h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:53 PM
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Is it possible that people have called you "a boring guy" for other reasons than your inability to make women laugh? I'm a woman, and I find people boring if they a) tend to speak in a monotone, b) are generally low-energy, slow-off-the-mark people or c) have poor posture. The poor posture part is not as weird as it seems. People whose shoulders slump generally come across as apologetic or unsure of their right to take their place in the world. Men like that are instantly forgettable to women. (…
/r/seduction01/03/20 06:04 PM
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Same here. Only mine was a 25 year marriage. I've never been happier, healthier, or more financially stable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:28 AM
61

"...but would like to nudge you with their erection in the hopes you'll jump on it like they saw in porn." LMFAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:14 AM
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It's human nature to want what we can't have. That's a truth as old as The Garden of Eden. Nothing catches a man's interest faster than a woman who seems to be going off him. But as a tactic to nail him down and keep him, it'll never work. Men like that will sense you slipping away, so they'll reel you back in. Once you're back by their side, they'll get careless about you again. It's a sucky way to treat a woman, and yet they still do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:54 AM
1

Sorry, can't help you then. Have fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:48 PM
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"High Maintenance" has to do with your standards of what you will and won't put up with from men. (And from women, for that matter. And bosses. And subordinates. And peers, and so on.) It's a whole, "I am worth THIS kind of treatment and I won't accept less" attitude. It might look like, "I am worth a man who actually plans out a quality date that he is going to pay for. I won't accept a first or second date that consists of "meeting up for a drink" where we split the tab at the end." If he offe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:47 AM
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My daughter (age 24) is high maintenance and I am so proud of her! When I was 24, I was an LVW; a people-pleasing Pickmeisha who had only ever dated crap boys or men and would never have dared to speak my mind if there was a chance of offending someone. Not my daughter. She says what she thinks and puts up with zero crap from men. And she's raising HER daughter the same way. They both inspire me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:39 AM
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This. *standing ovation*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:30 AM
7

Tell me you ended up with him for good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:18 AM
4

Which Portland: Oregon or Maine?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:09 AM
2

Draw what conclusion: that they have poor hygiene and posture? Because I see them, that's how.
/r/seduction29/02/20 11:03 AM
5

Eeew. I'm a lady and I HATE it when a man comes up behind me and massages my shoulders without my say-so. It's creepy and assuming WAY too much. Men who do this, in my experience, are usually the type who have poor hygiene and bad posture.
/r/seduction29/02/20 12:19 AM
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Yep yep yep. All sounds familiar! I secretly hope he really misses me for a long time amd realizes what he lost. It would be a just punishment! Probably won't happen, because he's more likely to be deflecting blame onto me. But still. It's a nice thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:36 PM
1

Me too, on the actual connection and the phenomenal sex. I miss both those things about him. Kind of a lot, even though I'm glad I said Boi Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:52 PM
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😅😅😅 You said it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:45 PM
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I'm newly single after 25 years of great, monogamous sex. And I've discovered that I can't orgasm with someone I don't love. My partners have felt threatened by it. One of them tried to convince me, "C'mon! It's a gift you give yourself." I told him, "Dude, I can give myself that gift anytime I want to; it doesn't mean I have to give it to just anyone else." TBH at first, it made me a little panicky. Like: was I ever going to be able to achieve the Big O again? But now that I realize what it's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:26 PM
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Just wanted to say thanks for posting this thread. I've been discouraged by a string of LVMs. The comments here remind me that there ARE HVMs in the world worth holding out for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:14 PM
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I just dated this guy. Wow. What a laughable, bloviating clown. So full of his own importance. Love the ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:57 PM
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I am so bewildered by the assumption that women are gold diggers. I have a job that allows me to support myself (and eventually retire) comfortably. I believe that at some point, enough money is enough. I have enough money. Financially, I'm content. I do think this surprised him. He talked about money a LOT. He was like...New Money. The kind of money that's still impressed with themselves for having "gotten there." I couldn't care less about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:50 PM
4

He totally did. Couldn't talk about feelings. Not. At. All.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:44 PM
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Examples? I just dropped a guy after 3 months of seeing him. I was pretty head-over-heels until I began to see some patterns in him. He was a millionaire, but other than 1 or 2 dates right in the beginning, he never spent any of it on me. He had a serious conflict in his soul about whether he should a) buy himself a new yacht or b) spend that money to put his daughters through college. I asked him about the things going on in his life all the time, but he rarely asked about mine. My mom was diag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:22 PM
14

The guy I just dumped would never hold my hand. Even though I told him repeatedly that I'm a hand-holder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:10 PM
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LMFAO! I'm totally stealing this. But giving you credit, because I'm not a doucheho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:08 PM
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28 Yep yep yep. Happened to me. First date was oysters and prosecco...which he paid for. Second date was brunch at an upscale place, which I insisted on paying for because I hadn't discovered FDS, and didn't know any better yet. Then there followed lots of hanging out at his place for "Netflix & Chill" dates. Finally, after 2 months, he took me out to a restaurant again and....forgot his wallet. (Did he really?) Been talking ever since about how he "owes me" but hasn't been in any hurry to pay u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:49 AM
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Okay thank you: this is the best answer I've gotten so far. The answer is: nope. Not what I want. Not enough to plan the next months of my life around. I've tried speaking up: it makes him uncomfortable. So...time for me to stop hoping he'll rewrite the narrative, and time to accept the narrative he's already provided me with. Thank you. This has clarified so many things! Xoxo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:17 AM
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My kids are grown and on their own; he has one in college and one just about to graduate from high school. Thanks for the input!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:44 AM
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I agree: it's a stupid game. How come HE can text all night and it's a sweet and winning strategy, but if SHE texts all night, it's clingy and needy and weird? Yet that seems to be how men are wired. They love the thrill of the conquest. Tale as old as time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/19 10:21 AM
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My 4th-grade teacher taught me this, back in the day when I was chasing my little crush around the schoolyard, trying to plant a kiss on his cute little face. As silly as it sounds, my 9-year-old heart really was broken that this boy wouldn't give me the time of day. So one day, during free time, Ms. Lucas gathered a group of us girls around her and explained to us the benefits of "playing hard to get." I've never forgotten that lesson. (The ethics of a teacher sharing this lesson with a group o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/19 10:19 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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