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RantBobby_Digitul/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 12:24 AM
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Need SupportBobby_Digitul/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 06:57 PM
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Just say what you have learned from the previous relationship. Good women love to hear this because it shows accountability, emotional maturity, vulnerability, and strength. Paradoxically, acknowledge something positive about your ex while you do it. Something neutral like how she was good at keeping track of expenses or something. Let them see how much you have grown and how you focus on your own growth and the next woman will be so glad you broke up with your ex to meet her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/26 12:36 AM
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I don't know what to say. I don't have one and I'm looking for one. I did have an experience with a woman and kind of felt a bond with her after the fact. I actually got a little bit attached and I still am so I feel like there's a space that needs to be filled. For me, I would like if we could mess around again and get a regular thing going on and that would probably do the trick but since we're not in a relationship and we're both so busy, there's like an empty space. I'm taking the time to fo…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 12:06 AM
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Hell no
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 01:09 AM
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It's going to feel that way for a while. It took me a whole year to stop feeling like a cheater when a woman smiles at me in the grocery store. Even though my ex had already moved two hours away and we certainly weren't friends.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 07:19 PM
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Imagine that another man has ejaculated inside her and or on her face. And she is presenting herself to you to get a kiss. Think back to moments when you were in her presence post divorce and she gave the men around you more positive then she did to you. The thought of another man having slept with her and the sight of her smiling at others while she's frowning those two combine visualizations will usually turn you off really quickly despite how hot she is. Some dudes do have intrusive images of…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 09:05 PM
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Understand that what you really miss is the connection. You miss the bond. Yes you may always have some level of a soft spot for the woman you were with. The woman who divorced you is not the same one. The woman with another man is not really the same one you were with. It's a primal reflex to think about it, and to feel like you're cheating when another woman gives you the eye, even though you're divorced. Focus on learning emotional regulation for the pain of the split. The thoughts about her …
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 01:30 AM
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This even applies to a guy that has great sex once per month when he used to get it much more than that when he first met her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:22 PM
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How did you get head without catching something that doesn't wash off
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:19 PM
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Yes, because I won't be in control of the outcome. My kids would be better off
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 01:26 AM
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Bruh there is loss. But because you stand up for your child there will be financial opportunities for you. This is a universal law. You will bounce back and earn even more than you did during your marriage
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 10:41 PM
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Or a cousin lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 08:25 PM
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Damn does she have a sister
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 03:16 PM
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Much appreciated!
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 03:44 AM
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DM me
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 04:28 AM
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I will definitely leverage that
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 01:02 AM
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Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 12:46 AM
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I have huge swaths of "free" time I didn't have before and during those times I get lonely or bored. I'm going to put in some more goal oriented activities. Thanks for this
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 12:27 AM
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I lived with my wife and kids for another whole year while she told me "it's Friday, I'm leaving and I'm not sure where I'm going. I will be back Sunday." Sleeping on the couch, nothing I did was ever good enough, seeing it coming and unable to do anything to stop it. Then, coming home from work to hug my kids as she puts them in her car to drive 2 hours away to her new condo. Watching them pull out of the driveway through the windows of an empty dark house, sitting there dealing with the memori…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 11:55 AM
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I attract bossy women too. The best way to avoid it is to meditate and analyze yourself and find out what makes them like you. Often bossy women are attracted to the calmness and ability to resolve conflict of men like us. However, they don't do very well when it comes to being receptive to a man outside the bedroom. It's not always necessary to stop dating these women. You will need to articulate what you want and not care if they will leave you for it. Let them miss you. Ironically this will c…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 10:32 PM
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Thank you so much.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 12:37 AM
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I cosign on this. Went through the same thing. She asked me to leave the bedroom. It was for the best because it would not have been good for me to lay there next to her after she cut me off. We screwed a couple times after she started talking divorce. She liked it, she came back for more. It numbed my heart when she told me she didn't like me hugging her and kissing her in the cheek the morning after. That shit hurt. The mother of my children who I been fucking for 20 years exclusively saying p…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 05:25 PM
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It's more common than you might think. Don't do it. In a few months you will look back and feel like that moment was a snapshot of someone else's life.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 04:19 PM
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I know a guy whose ex wife swore up and down that in her divorce the kids needed to go with her because she is the one who takes care of the kids. I believe she said that because she was paying the majority of the bills which was a mistake on the guys part. This guy was taking 7 hours out of his work week to take one of his kids to speech therapy twice a week. He also taught homeschool one day full week and worked afternoon/evening shifts. He had known jobs bringing home 3.5k a month so he wasn'…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 04:34 PM
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Dude as I read your post I am lying down and putting my son to sleep for the last time in the house that he was actually born in. In the room he was born in because he popped out before we made it to the hospital. The sale of the house will be finalized this upcoming Friday. 16 years of marriage 16 years in this house and 20 years overall dealing with the same woman. Got to focus on the horizon, focus on what us next for me and my boys. It's a big world out there and I will adapt and overcome. T…
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 03:09 AM
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I'm trying to get where you are. To a state of peace. To just nurturing and building my children.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 01:22 AM
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Ask a professional. I can say that when a person meets criteria for BPD you will see "peaks and valleys." Meaning times where they have this huge optimism and energy and start new projects and may not sleep for days.....then weeks or days when they are depressed, have no motivation, and can't see anything positive in their lives. People usually cycle for weeks at a time. Meaning somebody has peaks that last anywhere from 6 or 10 days to three weeks and a valley (sad depressed period) that lasts …
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 11:37 PM
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It's remarkable how similar our situations are as revealed by this post. This is liberating information. Taking expectations off her and refocusing in my own vision goals and self improvement is infinitely empowering.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 12:22 AM
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First shift your purpose l. Second, date younger women who are still fertile. There are women out there at 30 looking to start families with a good guy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/24 02:04 AM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:13 PM
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Yo tell me which app you met her on
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 04:53 PM
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I am going through the same thing. Suddenly as she is looking back and perceiving literally everything in the relationship as shitty. This is very common evidently and it really rattles you to hear it. Just seems unfair and she comes off like well you should have known.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 01:16 AM
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Bruh you're dropping wisdom. You're a lifesaver thanks
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 01:42 AM
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Bruh thanks for that wisdom. To clarify, currently we are still living together, she has no family here, we have a strong supportive community, but I am with my kids a lot. Over the past year her ass disappears a lot and it's not good for the kids because they miss her sometimes. You're right I can't control that. Once she is gone she will have them most of the time by default because I will have to drive up there to see them. I haven't been to court so I don't understand the law that well. But …
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 11:51 PM
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I plan to come up in the middle of the week. I know it's vindictive but I don't want to give her ass free weekends every weekend because for the year she's been ghost in terms of spending time with our kids. Example she goes out of town for work sun to Thurs then goes and spends the night at a friend's house leaves sar morning to Monday morning. She comes back Monday after kids have gone to school. Coming up on a wed Thurs twice a month would also give me a chance to pop up at my kids school and…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 04:25 PM
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Nah bruh I'm good 🤣🤣🤣🤣that was a good way to get me to refocus
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 12:24 AM
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Thanks Bros
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:03 AM
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Anytime
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 07:50 PM
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God damn that sounds good. Man can I DM you. I'm going through this shit and really trying to reinvent myself. Everybody on here says things are sweet on the other side but your story really makes that real. Could I get some advice from you on how you moved on and leveled up so well
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 06:49 PM
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She left AND you lost our job at the same time? And kids not speaking to you? That's rough bruh. It makes you feel good to beat yourself up, it gives you a sense of stability and coherence for someone to tell you, that you are being a pussy. But I'm not going to tell you that. The pussy move is for you to ignore your feelings right now. The hardest thing is for you to look at your own mistakes and your condition in as neutral a manner as possible. And to see that some of what happened has nothin…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 06:46 PM
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A wise elder once told me Love is a Verb not a noun
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 06:51 PM
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Bruh, make a list of all the things you learned you need to change about yourself....not because she said it but because it's objectively true, other people have confirmed it . Now make a list of qualities you've always wanted to cultivate. Next take the time to identify things that other people have also said are your strengths and positives. Her feedback to you is necessarily incomplete and somewhat subjective. Decide where you want to set the bar for yourself then raise it some more. You are …
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 02:49 AM
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