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Thanks. I will be leaving PPD now. I need to kick my social media addiction. Thanks for the thoughtful conversation. All the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:30 PM
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They go on and on about how much they hate women, but still talk about how much they wish they had a girlfriend to have sex with. Maybe they don't like women as much as they think they do. They also keep talking about wanting male spaces so they can hang out with dudes. Maybe that is where their preference lies. Men don't get the same attention from the opposite sex as women do, we all know that. But I think men struggle understanding that being desired sexually is not always synonymous with bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 11:57 AM
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Wow, someone who actually socializes has a better time. Groundbreaking news, truly. So you understand our plight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 11:46 AM
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By the way, to add context. Shortly before making this post, for an unrelated reason I was listening to a psychology radio show and the topic was cycles of abuse. There was a case of a woman bringing her daughters to her abusive grandfather who would rape them. She knew he was abusive because he raped her at that age. At some point it gets really fucked up and disturbing. How many parents will drive their kids over and drop them off with a child rapist knowingly and why? I find that really hard …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 11:22 AM
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I wouldn’t share half my income, bed or time with French fries lol lol that's a funny thought. I guess that broaches the topic of love language as well. For you love means sharing income, bed, and time I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 11:01 AM
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I love that your first thought wasnt also someone autistic. Yes. You chose to use an umbrella term for all sorts of different people. If you meant autistic you could have said autistic. “I bet you see a minority with a minority a minority of times”. And you've seen this minority with someone not in this minority a majority of times. When you’re anti-social, that will be hard to do. Yes, life is hard for us. For you guys comparatively it's easy mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:56 AM
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When you say neurodivergent, do you have specific illnesses in mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:24 AM
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So if a guy is autistic, he should go for someone with borderline personality disorder because they are both neurodivergent and clearly will get along? Mental illness comes in many different forms. People who are mentally ill don't just magically see eye-to-eye and understand each other. Also, I have seen neurodivergent guys with dates. They date neurodivergent girls. I think this is a massive generalization. You've seen this two or three times I bet? Thing is, I have seen women be generally mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:21 AM
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It sounds to me like John has a fetish for humiliating and degrading women. I don't know why, but sexual desire to degrade women is very common. It's one thing to do it in the bedroom but I wonder how often it spills out to "normal" life. And how much of misogynistic behavior is based on that. The dudes literaly get a kick out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:08 AM
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Why do you think women choose to marry them? They have strong redeeming qualities?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:50 AM
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That's fair. People get diffrent things from sex. I think a rapist seeks control, and domination. And wants to cause fear and pain. It's far from just "enjoying sex" but I guess it does count as "wanting to fuck someone" so in that sense I was wrong. Many men can fuck someone they don't like for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:47 AM
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Thanks. I didn't go too deep into my personal experiences, but maybe I should have. Most of the time I see the label of misogynist used is when a man and a woman has a disagreement online. I honestly have trouble taking that usage of the word seriously. But some guys indeed are weird assholes in ways I don't really understand. Like, my inspiration to make this post is a coworker who keeps complaining about one of our female managers. I feel like she could tell everyone "good morning" and when sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:34 AM
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lmao. Bro, why does every idiot like this have a wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:25 AM
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I agree with your assessment. I think women, even radfems, tend to underestimate how violent and dangerous men are. I think they are too soft on topics like rape. It's not every single man who is a rapist, but an alarming amount. Rapist should be systematically removed from society. Consider it a form of eugenics if you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:22 AM
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I love women, and would gladly have kids. I just think if people are going to have kids, Plan A should be commitment. Plan A shouldn't be divorce. Men get into relationships especially marriages aware of the economic disparity or they come to an agreement where they BOTH agree on kids and BOTH agree for her to be stay at home. If it's clearly set in stone like this, then some agreement would be fair. But let's say there are no kids and they are both working. They both are making their money. Why…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:17 AM
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I think some guys want to fuck women. But they don't necessarily love to fuck women. They want to fuck women enough to use them as a hole. But a certain level of passion is hard to separate from feelings. It's like, when someone cooks a meal and puts love into it. It's like an intangible thing you feel. That dude loves to cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:05 AM
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Aww, sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:53 AM
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What is more greedy? Wanting to keep your stuff (the dude in this case) Wanting other people's stuff (the lady in this case) I think wanting other people's stuff is far greedier. And yeah, sure, I don't expect women to do reproductive labor if they are not into it. And men don't have to do financial labor if they are not into it. And yeah, we live in a toxic culture, but I don't think making divorce as financially profitable as possible is some kind of magic key to fixing all this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:53 AM
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Oh boy. Does that mean he's really bad, or everyone you know is excellent and he's just the least excellent?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:40 AM
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Rapists rape. That is not rocket science. Someone who's presumably not a rapist staying with a man who's repeatedly raping their children is a much more complex situation. The rapist is a rapist. He should be executed. That's not complicated or hard to understand at all. And I mentioned a "staggering amount" of women, not just one particular case. In this case she ran. In many cases after running they return and bring the kids with them and they get raped again. A rapist wants to rape. So I unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:38 AM
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What about utilitarian love (I don't think that's an actual term). For instance, can you love a singer? They sing so good it soothes your soul. Couldn't you say you love this singer?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:21 AM
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It isn't? I mean, you wouldn't want to fuck someone you don't like, right? And preferably you like them a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:59 AM
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I'd put them in a joint lock Should put them in a jail cell. suddenly (as I was visibly going through puberty) deciding to lecture me on how women don't want advanced degrees or careers, and I should drop all of that to find a strong man to protect me. Wow. That's kind of creepy. I would expand on that but it sounds like you are hinting what I was going to suggest. got me started on coding when I was five. Nice! What languages did you start with? I described him as the most amoral person I knew.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:57 AM
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Jesus, what a loser. Poor kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:45 AM
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My personal experience is people who go out of their way to be "allies" or whatever are wolves in sheep's clothing. If you want to be kind to people, just be kind to people. It's not rocket science. People who signal how virtuous they are just come off like they are hiding something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:43 AM
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I don't get why people like that are married.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:37 AM
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Let people do what they want bro. lol It's a free country. Someone can look for dates if they want, or not look for dates if they want. Why does it bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:35 AM
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Note: I am not referring to men who genuinely and truly follow traditional values and want a woman who fits these values. I am referring to a certain subtype (usually manosphere types) who appropriate the word ‘traditional’ for their own benefit. I get what you are doing here. But I think you are being a bit too specific so it kind of doesn't leave room for argument. For example, let's say I made a post like this: Men like watermelons. Note: I don't mean all men like watermelons, I'm talking abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:32 AM
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Bring up front is good. On the other hand she does seem a bit high-maintenance. But I'm glad to know that ahead of time. She seems like the kind of person who will keep track fo how much money I spend on her and demand I spend certain amounts by certain times like some glorified prostitute. She better have some redeeming qualities because this is a rough start. Yeah, sure. I think dating is cringe to start with. This would make me less likely to go on a date with her. I feel like I'd like to kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:26 AM
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Look at it this way: If a relationship is going to be transactional, at least it should be transactional both ways. If the dude is going to pay, he should get something in return. If you are married or in a relationship and you support your partner, you presumably get affection, companionship, and maybe even love. Now, if you are divorced, you are presumably no longer getting affection, companionship, or love, but still have to keep paying? No. No way. Paying for something is one thing. Paying f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:03 AM
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What a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:02 AM
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I don't get why women like this sort of behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:00 AM
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wtf lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:42 AM
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That's fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:39 AM
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The amount of women who tolerate their man molesting their children is staggering. As awful as the male behavior is, I can sort of get it. There's testosterone and all that shit going on. But what would make a woman turn a blind eye to her kids being raped is something I just do not understand at all. Particularly in cases where the woman's life is not in danger. If she's scared of leaving it's one thing, but just knowing the dude is raping her children and turning a blind eye to it. What the fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:29 AM
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I left 4 months later for a 125% increase… Good. Fuck that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:05 AM
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What a weirdo. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:04 AM
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How do they act?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:39 PM
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Does it affect your faith?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:38 PM
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I don't get why men like your dad aren't in jail permanently.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:36 PM
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You can't answer a question?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:33 PM
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I think women tend to think of men as wallets on legs not just a personal level though. I think they believe that on a societal level. Hence why they keep voting for more and more and more spending. Or they start spouting rhetoric like "If we took rich men's money, we could afford everything we could ever dream of!" First, you're not entitled to a dude's money just because he's a man. And secondly, that money is not infinite. If you take everything a guy has, it's gone. When you run out of billi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:32 PM
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Based. People act like objectifying someone is a death sentence. But I think there's nothing wrong at all with consentual objectification. It dosen't make someone drop dead if you objectify their body. If it works for a couple, good. Fuck what people say. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:41 AM
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Do it on FaceTime or in person so he's on the spot. Preface it with, "You love me, right?", etc I wasn't born yesterday. This would come off as clear manipulation. Trying to manipulate your partner is a big red flag in my book. She wraps it up saying, "Head up, Chest out, Hand out!" Now that's just being a brat. Or would they embrace this as she's being a bit more more traditional and allowing the male to play the role of the provider? Identifying something as traditional is really hard. I mean,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:30 AM
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So rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:36 PM
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Ok, I see. I do find it silly for the most part when guys label themselves "good". Like sure, most people try to be good but just "identifying" as good is a bit silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:58 PM
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Its not ‘extreme’ for a guy to not think with his dick. You mean post-nut clarity?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:52 PM
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Personally, I don't care if someone expects something in return. I think a doctor saving lives can be an amazing person even if he expects to make a living from it. It's assinine to have a standard that good people need to expect nothing in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:47 PM
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You think men who get pussy stop being thirsty?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:39 PM
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Lilith, don't underestimate what a man will do for pussy. If it weren't for guys wanting pussy we would probably be still living in caves. Men will do a lot of good in hopes of getting pussy. And they are thirsty af.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:37 PM
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OP is debating that that is a sexist belief because it applies an unfair generalization to men. Man, people get so wound up, tripped up, screwed up, concerned, and confused over what they think the common belief might be in their particular area. I'm not trying to be rude to OP, but I really encourage you to take a step back. You are getting anxiety not only about how fast you might be at loading a dishwasher, not only how fast someone else might be at loading a dishwasher, but you are getting a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:08 PM
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Cool story bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:48 PM
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Use your imagination please.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:15 AM
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I can't understand this. To me, love of self is essentially central to true empathy. Knowing what feeling at peace feels like makes you want to see everyone feel at peace. If you carry hate for yourself with you 24/7 I don't see how that wouldn't taint the way you view everything. I don't really trust hateful people. Hate over time eats into every aspect of your personality. It's disturbing to see what harboring hate does to a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:14 AM
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Can't say.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:04 AM
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What, you don't love yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:26 AM
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So, if you see someone who doesn't love themselves you think it's a good sign because it means they are not a criminal or an abuser?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:26 AM
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Abusers seem to get dates just fine. Hence why there's so much abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:25 AM
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Why do people not love themselves? I never understood this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:23 AM
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lmao. Dude dodged a bullet. Thank god. But no, people should do whatever they want. It's up to the lady to say yes or no. It's not up to us to say yes or no for her. If a guy proposes, and the woman is about to say yes, there shouldn't be a Redditor coming out of a bush saying "Stop! That was too generic!" Ppl should get out of other peoples' business unless absolutely necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:16 AM
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It is nice to have a place with many different points of view. I find it so cringe how most subs operate where 99% have the same point of view and a relatively harmless disagreement gets 99% downvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:10 AM
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Maybe things like, biological differences between men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:05 AM
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I would argue a healthy society shouldn't need to censor conspiracy theories. Because the mainstream theories would be solid and able to withstand competing ideas no matter how silly they are. The problem now is mainstream ideas are just as stupid as the conspiracy theories. Our society is ripe for an ideological collapse. Censorship means that mainstream ideas no longer need to adapt to new circumstances. Protected ideas become old and outdated. The longer censorship remains, the more maladapte…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:02 AM
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Most of the comments on here are saying it's not censored. So you disagree with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:48 AM
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Soon we won't need to. When AI takes over. Your minds will be combined with the machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:44 AM
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Is flat earth censored?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:39 AM
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No one is trying to censor it How do you know? Do you have inside sources with Reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:39 AM
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Nope. Bigotry, stereotyping, and immorality is not liked for any group. Bigotry, stereotyping, and immorality is loved by most groups. Humans are social creatures. We like in-group out-group dynamics. Whatever in-group you are in typically allows bigotry, stereotyping, and immorality towards the out-group. It's just not seen as legitimate bigotry when the in-group does it. Because the out-group is considered not legitimate humans with full rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:37 AM
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It’s censored because any violent and hateful rhetoric is censored. False. Plenty of hateful and violent rhetoric is allowed. It's a matter of playing favorites. For any given site, hateful and violent rhetoric the owners agree with gets preferential treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:30 AM
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How come?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:29 AM
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Lots of rude women. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:04 AM
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Nice! Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:27 AM
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Change him / being the one special girl who he will settle with Pretty similar trope. Again, It's fine, not judging. I hope you get your man.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:16 AM
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I get it. I'm not judging. It's the old romance trope. The old "I can change him" story. Like the old "the sexy neighbourhood vampire has been killing people for 100 years but I can change his ways" story. lol But hey, romance is fun. If you can get it, go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:07 AM
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Women are strange creatures. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:59 PM
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I see. It's not something I think about a lot but I think you have a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:53 PM
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I mean, if someone needs an app to start this particular conversation, do they have a selection of conversation starting apps? Like, this is their consent conversation app, but if they want to talk about the weather they bring up the weather app?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:51 PM
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And once he's with you he stops getting any other woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:50 PM
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And two scoops of protein powder.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:46 PM
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99% of the time when I see someone, I don't notice what they are wearing or what haircut they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:33 PM
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Lots of shallow women. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:31 PM
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Gotta find a dowdy woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:29 PM
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Then your date just attaches a slightly phallic breathalizer attachment to her phone for you to blow into. Just, you know, a conversation starter.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:27 PM
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Bro, anal without a condom? Your duck is gonna be filthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:24 PM
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Phone attachment - I don’t want to increase the extent phone time is part of my life I feel that so much. I got a smart phone mainly for work. I can't lie, it's convenient as heck, but I leave it behind whenever I reasonably can. Disconnecting from technology from time to time is refeshing as hell. I'm a software developer so technology is my job. But I need a break. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:21 PM
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Would they make it a habit of whipping out their phone to start conversation? Like, mid sex "I would like you to touch me where it is indicated on my phone" Bro... At that point the person might have a psychiatric condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:18 PM
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I totally agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:17 PM
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His hobby is designing consent apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:15 PM
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Red flag for me. It's not the topic, it's the app. If I'm there on a date with someone, I want to spend that time person to person. I don't want my date to shove their phone in my face. Unless there's a medical reason, I don't want to have to use your phone to interact with you in person. If you want to talk consent, talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:12 PM
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I think people waaaaaaaay over analyze this issue. 99% of sexual issues can be resolved by: Are you engaging sexually with this person yes/no If no, none of your business. If yes, is it consentual yes /no. If yes, go ahead. If no, stop/call the cops. There's no need for this over analyzing of like "Oh, this person is maybe turning me on, but are they trying to turn me on specifically or people of my gender? Or maybe they are trying to turn everyone on? Or maybe they are doing it for themselves. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:57 PM
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I don't understand your logic, but I understand that tastes particularly in sex are often not logical. I have things I like or dislike that I know are just gut feelings. There's nothing you can really do about it. It is what it is. Just have to find compatible people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:48 PM
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So you like a man with a high body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:46 PM
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Do you hide yours in shame?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:45 PM
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Oh my god. You're a saint. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:44 PM
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Attractive women posting on social media, for example, is one example. A woman could just be talking about something and would just be hot - and because of that half the comments are men sexualizing her. I think you made a grave error here. Men posting these comments aren't doing it because they are sexualizing her. There is something more profound at play. Sexualizing happens in your mind. Posting a sexual comment is something else. But what is it? These men post sexual comments on these videos…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:42 PM
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Society has lost the art of calling someone an asshole. Everything has to have a special category, a special explanation, a special theory. Because surely, human beings are good natured and someone being a jerk means there's some complex problem at play. No. People by default are assholes. Men and women both. It has nothing to do with masculinity or femininity. They are assholes. You can try to compartimentalize, pathologize, theorize, and analyze until we are blue in the face. You will end up e…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:30 PM
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We are not the ones proposing that democracy is a magic solution to all problems. What I'm doing is holding you to your own standards. Democracy is a sham.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:21 PM
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We’re talking specifically about benevolent sexism/hostile sexism. Sure some groups treat anyone who questions trans ideology as subhuman, but it isn’t through the lense of benevolent/hostile sexism so it isn’t really that relevant to discussion. The description you provided fits 100%. It is in no way different. Again, just sort of feel like it’s own separate issue. Not really a benevolent/hostile sexism thing. Lying to women for sex is different than putting them on a pedestal of either being p…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:05 PM
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In democracy, question marks are resolved through voting. Once the people voted, the question mark is resolved. The vote is done. The question has been answered.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:53 AM
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They might be caring/protective/give special treatment to women, but only so long as they’re the ‘right’ type of women. Otherwise they’re treated as subhuman. An example is people who are extremely vocal about trans bathroom issues Bro, have you seen the way lefties talk about TERFs? Treated as subhuman is right. Or are you going to dismiss trans activists and feminists as traditional? Or men who are a perfect gentleman to some women, but if they don’t meet a certain level of ‘purity’ then sudde…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:01 AM
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Nope in what way? I don't get what you are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 02:42 AM
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I see. I can see how that makes sense. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 02:40 AM
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Yes, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 02:16 AM
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Mainstream is full of propaganda. All different special interests vying to twist the story. In a world full of lies, being normal is a radical act. Like Winston and Julia. Sometimes the most rebellious thing you can say is 2+2=4.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:23 AM
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Being normal is based. Blue pill is gaslighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:12 AM
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Words don't dissapear from existence. Are you high?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:02 AM
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OP is not talking about institutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:47 AM
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Based and red pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:46 AM
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Yeah, I feel like something like that is going to happen. I'm not sure in what form. I'm cautiously optimistic for the future. I know things can seem bleak, but a lot of people are thinking and talking about these issues. Some solution might come from all this talking. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:15 AM
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And who cares about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:14 AM
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Wouldn't a rapist try to pursue and rape a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:09 AM
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Men have the much smaller genitals Bro, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:07 AM
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You're sounding like a red pill. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:06 AM
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Who cares about the institutional standpoint? We're not Bill Gates here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:35 PM
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I think the lack of focus on men's mental health is kind of a mixed blessing really. I think a lot of mental health problems stem from poor living conditions. Life is materially shit, so mental health declines. I'd rather have people live materially better than just medicate them to cope with their materially shit lives. The question is why has life become materially terrible for many men, instead of how can we make them tolarent of their bad living conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:34 PM
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So like, instead of opening a door for you, a man will let you open the door yourself? Is that hostile sexism?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:28 PM
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Being able to sit back while others do the dirty work is kind of dominant. So women not going to war is privileged. And men being in leadership is kind of traditional, so it's benevolent sexism. Your definitions are wishy-washy and interchangable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:27 PM
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Favoring a gender is very vague. If you're homosexual, you're sexist. If you're heterosexual, you're sexist. If you're bisexual but leaning one way more than another you're sexist. This is a silly standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:25 PM
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It's because the concept of oppression is sophistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:22 PM
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Men don't think about women nearly as much as women think we do. We think about boobs, butts, sex, food. Stuff like that. All the talk of men scheming and plotting about women shows you have no idea what men are like. lmao This isn't Mean Girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:20 PM
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Men are simple creatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:17 PM
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They’d definitely rather have all single mothers be killed than have 90% of kids be raised by single moms. What? When has this ever happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:16 PM
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Young women can serve. We don't have the muscle mass of men but we can steer a drone, repair a tank, interpret the sonar on a submarine, travel to an underserved community to provide water, food distribution, education. This means women would be in less dangerous roles. So less chance of death or maiming. Which is a privilege. Also, if women take these positions that are traditionally held by men, what happens to the men? They go to the wood chipper (front lines). So having women fill these role…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:12 PM
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I see. I've never had a long term relationship so I've never been nagged at or nagged at someone. It seems alien to me but thanks for the explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:03 PM
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Are you talking about mewing?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:54 PM
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You're not so bad bro. You can handle civil conversations with people who are different than you. In 2025 that's like top 20% social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:49 PM
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The sex wars predate the human race. You can see sexual "arms races" all over nature with females evolving to be better at enforcing selection of males, and males evolving to fuck as much as they can. This will likely continue indefinitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:45 PM
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I think you are pretty much spot on. In my case, I kind of missed my prime dating years due to a severe case of social phobia. (I'm not actually shy, it's a literal mental illness.) My life was basically a complete disaster from 10 to 25. I worked my ass off to recover from my illness and eventually things got a lot better. I went to college and now at 35 I have a decent career. But part of me would have liked to have started a family in my early 20's. It's not literally too late now, but yeah, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:38 PM
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If my partner complained at me, I'd get rid of them. If my partner reviewed me, I'd get rid of them. Both archetypes you describe sound obnoxious. Far from a recipe for success.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:10 PM
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How would you define nagging? Why not just talking? Where do things cross the line from just communicating to nagging?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:09 PM
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I think some partial amount of leader/follower can work. But what OP is describing is just bizarre. How do you define nagging? I feel like nagging has a negative connotation, so to me nagging is something like making tone-deaf demands like complaining that the primary bread winner has to work hard. It's nagging because the person wants the status, wants the money, doesn't want to work for it, and complains that the partner is working for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:04 PM
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I agree. There's no difference between review and complain. It's nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:59 PM
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I agree. People exagerate the power of bosses. A boss is just a glorified employee with more responsibilities. People who worship bosses are boot lickers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:57 PM
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Don't underestimate the amount of clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:51 PM
1

Right. OP's position is very strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:18 PM
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At least maybe it gives you a hint regarding which men to avoid? As ugly as it can be when people show their colors, at least you know up front and don't get a bad surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:35 AM
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So, she thinks cheating is okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:25 AM
2

What does the black belt spirit have to do with this? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:21 AM
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You guys really tell on yourselves with these posts… Not me! lol Women actually want to have good sex with men who are attractive (to them) and who they respect as good, loving partners. Some people are asexual and stuff though, right? We get it, men can want and enjoy sex with someone they are mad at, someone they don’t respect at all, someone they resent or someone they don’t even really like. Ouch. True. lol But yeah, I agree with your comment. It's so odd that men and women are so different …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:17 AM
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Yeah, the shit some people say can be depressing, but the occasional voices of reason restore my faith in humanity. Thank god for all the reasonable men and women out there (and I'm not even religious!) lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:06 AM
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The porn is supposed to make you sexually satisfied. So if the issue is the link between sexual satisfaction and cheating, then porn watching will decrease cheating. If anything it would be less okay for them to cheat based on sexual satisfaction because their sexual satisfaction is higher than it would be in the non-porn watching cohort.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:00 AM
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This subreddit is supposed to avoid heated racial topics so it's not the place for a full discussion of his statement, but it was at the end of an interview with "The Breakfast Club" radio show.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:31 AM
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Yes. From many guy's perspectives, they need to increase their asshole behavior. Blue pillers telling a people pleasing pushover "No, you need to be even nicer!" is not going to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:25 AM
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“voting wrong” is similar to commentary about any marginalised group It's a common pattern. "Advocates" of marginalized groups expect obedience in return. It's disgusting. No one is surprised if men vote 55% one way and 45% another. It's not 55% wrong or 45% wrong. Men are treated as having agency and individual thought and spirit. Avdvocates of marginalized groups act like the group belongs to them. It's utterly disgusting. It's the old "If you don't vote for me, you ain't black" trick that Bid…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:01 PM
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I think your argument makes sense. I definitely agree this is a problem on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:51 PM
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It is outdated and has no place in a modern society. It's a free country.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:49 PM
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What is your objective morality? Jesus?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:44 PM
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A: I do it sometimes. It mostly depends on how much they changed my mind. If they just 1% changed my mind I probably won't bother. B: I'm betting on AI taking over the world so arguments on Reddit won't matter too much by then. (Once AI takes over I will merge my brain with the machine.) I take a more contemporary utilitarian approach to politeness on this subreddit. I think politeness makes it more fun. If people were just 100% flaming all the time this would quickly become an echo chamber and …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:41 PM
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I pretty much agree with you on this one Lilith. Online dating is kind of shit, but I don't see how dating was much better before. Dating has always been a struggle. I don't think online dating is perfect by any means but it's not that much worse than how things were in the past. Maybe some day we can find something better but I'm dubious that things like phone speed dating or shit like that were much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:25 PM
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Thousands? Ever since my childhood I noticed this constant push and pull. If a woman showed too much skin, women were outraged. If a man wanted a one night stand, women were outraged. If a man looked at porn, women were outraged. If a man thinks a woman is sexy, women were outraged. Just yesterday I was talking to a woman who was saying there is nothing sexual about a woman's body. Wtf? It's not all women doing this, but it's a lot of them. Women are constantly complaining about sexuality and se…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:21 PM
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The root of sex is exchange of gametes. It's a tradition that has lasted for billions of years and facilitated the development of multicellular life. The biological and physiological act that would bring gametes together is sex. Doing it with plastic is not bringing gametes together so it is not sex. I'm a bacon cheeburger virgin lmao I think this concept can be useful at times. If your partner wants to try doing anal you might want to tell them you're a virgin to anal. Which might be useful inf…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:59 PM
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I think you mean two or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:52 PM
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I think there's also the fantasy that the PIV feels so good that you blow her mind. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:51 PM
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Never having performed PIV No idea You lose never having performed PIV Because women tell us that sex and sexuality is wrong and immoral. So we assume they must not like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:46 PM
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So you're saying the high standard men she's going for don't exist? So she's not settling with the guy after having been with many other guys, she's settling after never having met the fictional high standard man?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:41 PM
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Learning and applyIng the Morally wrong lEssons fRom my own parEnts on relatioNship Conflicts It's missing an E.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:29 PM
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If she was satisfied with Chad then why is she lowering her standards? Your proposal dosen't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:10 PM
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In this case the problem won't happen then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:07 PM
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So, when you enter a relationship, from the start you plan to use verbal abuse and silent treatment to dictate boundaries?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:03 PM
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most men in this sub, admittedly, would settle for a woman giving him attention or sex, yet he don't want her to do the same. they want a woman to make him feel special but it's too high standards to make her feel special. I think you're wrong here. Most men would be plenty happy with attention and sex. It's not about feeling special. The issue is when there isn't sex and attention. The stuff we don't want to hear is like "I had plenty of sex with my exes, but now I'm done and I don't want it an…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:57 PM
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It's more the lady not being able to have her cake and eat it too, right? She can't get the top 1% guys to commit to her, and she can't earnestly like someone below 1%. In other words, she's shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:53 PM
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I can't speak for all men but I think it might be because to use your example, a lot of guys in their 30s would like a bit of motorbike action as well. If your lady is like "I used to pick men for sex, now I pick them for their money" well okay, fine. But maybe the guy with the money also has a sex drive. I guess he should just kick that woman to the curb and find himself a motorbike?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:46 PM
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In this case, what do you suggest she does? If she keeps her standards, she's unhappy. If she lowers her standards, she has no interest in her lower standard relationship. It's a bit of a mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:37 PM
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I think another point (maybe 2b or 3) is if there's a more "ideal" guy in her life that she'd rather be with but she settled because for whatever reason the ideal guy is not currently an option. I don't know how often this happens. Hopefully not often. But I think that's part of the "settling" problem. Ideally, if you're going to tell someone that you're in a committed monogamous relationship with them you shouldn't have an "ideal guy" waiting in your back pocket. A commitment is a commitment. "…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:30 PM
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Both.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 04:11 PM
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I think you overdosed on the kool-aid bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:54 PM
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I feel like it's a "mask slipping" moment. It's a moment where feminists accidentally reveal what they really think of women. Ironically they respect men's independence more than they do women's. I find it utterly disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:48 AM
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I prefer being able to vote How do you feel about people saying women "vote wrong"? I remember in the aftermath of Trump's election (both of them) news outlets were looking at how many women voted for Trump saying they voted the wrong way. Men don't only have voting rights, but their votes are respected as their choice for better or for worse. What is the point of having the right to vote if you don't get to vote the way you want? If you don't get to choose who you are voting for, who is suppose…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:22 AM
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Woman now have more choice of their lives and can make their own decisions about what suits them best It seems to me like feminists will readily berate women for their life choices. I don't see this freedom of choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:14 AM
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If we say "men and women are equal" It always leaves room for some idiot to be like "If men and women are equal, that means they have equal strength!" People confuse equality and being the same all the time. Or they will say the opposite, like "men being stronger than women is proof we don't have equality yet!!" It opens the door to so much idiocy. I don't focus anymore on saying men and women are equal because people take it in stupid and destructive directions. Yes, men and women should be con…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:03 AM
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I agree that being different is fine. Eliminating differences is a fool's errand. What I find funny about feminism from being on here is that what women tend to seek in men is the opposite of what feminism advocates for. Feminism says too many men are in power so they should give up their positions of power and let women take it instead. They say men make too much money so they should make less money. That men should take up less space in society and defer to women. They say women are just as ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:51 AM
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Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:25 AM
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Good points.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:24 AM
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True. My best friend for example, he's been in a relationship for nearly 20 years (still going strong!) but I think we spoke about his relationship less than 10 times. Mostly spoke about it 3-4 times when it started and he introduced me and such but after that not that much. They are happy. That's all I need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:20 AM
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I don't have Instagram. What you are describing sounds like a pimp.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:18 AM
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I see. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:14 AM
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Yes, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:13 AM
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I think there's a certain level of niceness that does start to give men a disadvantage. If on one extreme you have assholes, on the other extreme you have people pleasing pushovers. Boys are taught that everything in society is their fault and they need to be put last and put women first. Of course many of them will become pushovers. They've been taught they don't have a legitimate place in society anymore both in the workplace and in relationships. Businesses want to hire women for diversity po…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:56 AM
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I've talked to a couple of men over 6ft who were soft spoken wimps. I feel called out. lol How many of you guys are actually attracted to a loud mouth dominant woman? Bro...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:33 AM
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I like the reaction we are getting. Men do think with our dick. (not all bla blabla)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:12 AM
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The thing with me is I'm a very solitary person in general. Most of my interests don't involve people. I don't generally care about being with anyone or having friends. I do have a small social circle but that's enough for me. I'm not looking to socialize more. I have health, hobbies, education, status, money, but sex is missing. I don't need people to fulfil anything else in my life. Everything else is doing quite well. I wouldn't say I hyper focus on sex, but it's the last piece of the puzzle …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:10 AM
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Yeah, I feel like even if someone is socially awkward, if you spend enough time with them you start to understand them. Unless it's like a super extreme case, it tends to turn out okay once you get to know the person well enough. So if you want a partner that is not socially awkward, it's mostly for others. Like, you get a kick out of watching your partner interact with strangers or something. Idk. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:59 AM
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I see. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:45 AM
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I find it strange that social skills are so highly prized by women, and seemingly not such a high priority for men. It's like, women want a man that they can show off or something? Like, the woman wants the man to impress her friends and family? Is a man a trophy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:33 AM
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Yeah. I don't know why women like men in general. but I guess I can't complain. lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:13 AM
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There's a big caveat though. You can't be some disgusting ugly old fucker. Or some fat ass. You still need to be at least moderately decent looking. Yeah, you can even look like Salman Rushdie. lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:31 AM
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I think your choice makes a lot of sense. If I was in your situation I might do the same. It's just good sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:51 PM
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Do you think trad wives are bad people? What is misogynistic about modesty?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:48 PM
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I'm glad it sounds like your doing better. I had a bit of a "feminism detox" period myself. There's so much toxic nonsense and baggage bottled up with feminism. It's like if "mean girls" was an ideology. It's all about spite and gaslighting. It feels so fucking good to let go of it. But then you have the problem of trying to interact with people who are still in it and gaslighting themselves and each other. At this point I feel almost like a recovering alcoholic, like, I don't want to be around …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:45 PM
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Right, so if you tell your partner like "With my exes, I used to get turned on and we'd have hot sex all the time, but when I'm with you I don't feel that way. Isn't that interesting?" and none of that is going to get under their skin? Do you have an empathy defficiency?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:12 PM
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It's very good when your partner is able to manage their emotions, but it doesn't make them like an emotional punching bag. Having an emotionally stable partner is a lot easier if you don't push your luck for no reason. It wouldn't be reasonable to call your partner fat every day just because "they have a choice in how they deal with it."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:51 PM
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I mean, that's the ideal situation but things don't always pan out that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:44 PM
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Well, I've been told that slim, young, unmarried, childless men is a reasonable and realistic standard for women to have. So I thought the % would be higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:43 PM
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You mentioned accountability. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. If we think that 3% is too low, we could tell men to lower their standards, or tell women to lose weight. It's two ways to go about it. And yes, men are fat in the USA. I guess they make me look better in comparison so I shouldn't complain. lol Strategically speaking, I wonder if someone in the 3% is better off not encouraging others to better themselves and join their ranks. I guess it's good to be in an exclusive c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:31 PM
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Don't underestimate my skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:15 PM
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Are the 59% of 18-29 unmarried, childless, but overweight/obese women accountable for their weight? That 3% could be a lot higher than it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:12 PM
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People are irrational. It's natural and normal to have emotions about all sorts of things. Unless you're dating a robot, your partner is going to have emotions bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:09 PM
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Wow. I'd spend the rest of the day fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:06 PM
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When I put age 18-85 as the only parameter it just says 99.99% I'm not trying to put your numbers in doubt, but when I click the link I don't get total number counts just percentages.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:01 PM
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If you're not getting what you want in an adult relationship then just break it off. Well yeah, you might get pissed and break it off. Personally I'd be wary of a guy who wastes money like that. I see it as a waste, but a lot of people would like a lavish life style.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:55 PM
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If a formerly spendy guy used to shower his exes with lavish expenses, but decides he wants to "take it slow" and not spend money on his new GF, she's supposed to be cool with that? Yeah, people sometimes have selfish reasons to be in a relationship. Relationships aren't perfect. Learning your partner was giving more in the past, but is giving less to you personally I think is understandably irksome. Imagine he's hanging out with his GF talking about past gifts and lavish trips he used to go on …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:45 PM
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I don't see the total counts on https://realitycalc.com, maybe they removed this feature? Your third link shows 18.11% but I think this is in the age range specifically, not in total. So 81.99% of women ages 18-29 are either married, mothers, or overweight/obese. 59% aged 18-29 are unmarried, childless but overweight or obese. Shit bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:35 PM
1

This does ring true.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:48 PM
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Is this really top 3%? Shit...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:45 PM
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Apparently red pill is the more suffering you willingly expose yourself to, the more the universe will smile in your face. But blue pill is the OG bluepilled mindset a lot more. Get a haircut, clean up, work on your social skills (leave the house, have a beer with friends at a bar as opposed to lifting your life away in the gym), get yourself to a healthy body fat; So both pills tell you to expose yourself to suffering? Bro...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:42 PM
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Most people don't know who they are or what they want. Our brains don't come with a user manual. It's irrational to expect people to act rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:36 PM
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Yeah, I thought that shit was supposed to be banned by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:34 PM
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I think people get a guilty pleasure at throwing an insult that hits someone deep at their core. It's pushing people's buttons. If you call someone fat who isn't fat they might get confused. Maybe a bit annoyed. But if you call a large person fat it will hit them differently. This can hit even harder if the person has some kind of cognitive dissonance. Like, outwardly they say fat is beautiful and healthy, but getting called fat hits their core where they don't actually like being fat. This does…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:31 PM
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Something I've noticed is that Red Pill men point to exceptional men (e.g. Brad Pitt, Elon Musk, Chris Evans) Are you saying I'm not exceptional bro? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:01 PM
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Many people do enjoy the company of the opposite sex though, so it's not all doom and gloom. But if you can only stand the presence of a man when he's giving you money, you probably shouldn't be with him. It's not fair for you and it's not fair for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:56 PM
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I don't like dates either. lmao If you don't like spending time with men, you have your answer right there. Don't spend time with men. Maybe try women. I'd rather stay home together and read than play dress up going to expensive restaurants like oversized barbie and ken dolls. If men don't like dates, and women don't like dates, what are we doing? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:47 PM
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I think patriarchy is like the concept of hell in christianity. If you don't believe in it, it goes away. It's a socially constructed fantasy idea. You can point to a fire and say "See! There's fire in hell, this fire means hell exists!" but that's just a fire. You can point to men being assholes, but that's just men being assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:38 PM
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Do you find it repulsive too?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:34 PM
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I don't think any of that is male specific, Feminists tend to view men as broken women who need to be fixed. Only when they behave in ways that are not male specific are they whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:15 PM
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feminists do celebrate some aspects of femininity e.g. nurturance and mother goddess stuff From my experience they don't even celebrate positive femininity that much either. Mothers are kind of looked down upon. And god forbid you're raising a son. The women who get celebrated are childless, bitter, hateful and unhappy. This is the ideal woman apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:12 PM
1

What about the hair on your legs?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:05 PM
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It's funny how they are always tiktok based. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:57 PM
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I'll pay for your coffee if I get to drink it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:56 PM
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If he doesn't already feel lucky to be in your presence Hell no. If a woman has this much ego she needs to go. We're both human beings. If you think you're not a human being go back to your home planet. It's degrading to be expected to prove yourself or to impress your date This is 100% of what dating is about. If you don't want to do this, don't date. That's a fine option to me. Males should invest in you before checking for chemistry This is prostitution. Its immature to not even invest in a $…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:54 PM
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Patriarchy is a social construct. It's a meme not a gene. It didn't exist before people invented it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:30 PM
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I think people generally need to learn to live without submitting themselves to an ideology. You shouldn't need people telling you what to do, what to feel, and what to believe at every moment in your life. If the ideology you believe in has a gap (like feminism not giving an alternative masculinity) it should be fine because you should be able to think independently. And hell, at that point, if you can think on your own why have the ideology in the first place? Ultimately, I think people get a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:29 PM
1

Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:55 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:20 AM
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Good men want to be around good people. Yes. So when the people around us are not good, we don't like it. Because what you see as rewarding is based on what you value. Bad people are rewarded based on what bad people value. If you give bad people what they want, that is a reward to them. If you reward a behavior you get more of it. So if you reward bad behavior you get more theft, rape, violence, murder, etc. Unless you are a nutcase this is a bad thing. And conversely, if you don't want to be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:19 AM
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Tell your dad to get his shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:30 AM
1

So you are jealous of Kanye?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:18 AM
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Correct. I am never jealous of relationships I wouldn't want to be in. It's silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:17 AM
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I've never heard this argument before you brought it up. (And you keep bringing it up) From my perspective, the argument comes from you. I think liberal women are awful. Maybe because I'm not a conservative? I don't know. Liberal women come off as bitter, fickle, emotionally unstable, and hateful. The kind of person who will stab you in the back at the drop of a hat. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:14 AM
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I think the "we are the same" argument is mostly applying to this line: "We are essentially self centered and just want what we don’t have." People like to argue about who's preferences are more justified, but ultimately everyone is equally self centered. Men and women aren't saints. We selfishly want what we want so we shouldn't waste time arguing which side is right or wrong when we are doing the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:08 AM
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I think you hit the nail on the head. People underestimate how selfish they are. I think selfishness is inevitable. It's baked into us. It's tempting to ignore, but more productive to accept and move on. We are selfish. Now how do we nagivate relationships between two selfish people is the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:02 AM
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Personally, I'm not intersted in most women, so what "most women" want is not very relevant. If one day I find a woman I'm into I'll want to know what that woman wants. If I'm not interested in her, I don't need to care about what she's looking for right? Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:58 AM
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So, at 25 you should be fine with a sexless relationship, because when you're 50 you'll be too old to have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:48 AM
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It says you're promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:51 AM
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Yeah, but we live in the same country so it still counts. "The principle of free speech requires . . . that we do not pass laws forbidding Communists to speak. But the principle of free speech . . . does not imply that we owe them jobs and support to advocate our own destruction at our own expense." -Ayn Rand "A society that puts equality before freedom will get neither. A society that puts freedom before equality will get a high degree of both." -Milton Friedman
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:49 AM
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So not all men, just a lot of them? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:43 AM
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Personally, I think different styles work for different women in different situations. I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all style. Generally, when it comes to a potential partner, personality is the most important thing to me. I could love a brain in a jar I don't give a fuck. But if I'm going to try to judge someone's dress, I'm not looking at modesty/immodesty. I'm looking at if the outfit is coherent. If their clothing go well with their body type. If it matches their personality. If the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:41 AM
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That's sad. Yeah, I never let go of my principles. When some "queen bee" type would try to pressure me into something I'd stand my ground and just be like "I'm not trying to fuck you. It's none of your business." But they really think the sex lives of everyone in the group is their business. So toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:15 AM
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Man, can people not express an idea without vomiting 1000 words? Like my homeboy used to say, brevity is the soul of wit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:09 AM
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This reminds me of a particular BDSM community I dipped my toes into and yeah, it was very duplicitous. Like, everyone is supposedly equal, but women get to make sexual advances and men don't. And a woman with enough clout can kick you out of the group even if you are not trying to get with her and the women you actually are interacting with get along with you. I think some people in these scenes will end up acting almost like a cult leader. They kind of want to be involved in and orchestrate al…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:03 AM
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It's a free country.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:54 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:10 AM
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A red flag in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:08 AM
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I’d probably seek his permission to have sex with other people, He didn’t believe me when I said I’d stay with him, which kinda hurt To be fair, you did admit you would look for sex with other people. That's one foot out the door at best. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:06 AM
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So, at 25 you should be fine with a sexless relationship, because when you're 85 you'll be too old to have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:03 AM
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Playing devil's advocate here, I think you are taking this too seriously. It's fine to give approximate answers. This is Reddit, where people are wrong every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:02 AM
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What do you do when sex and intimacy are off the table? Sit together and cry?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:01 AM
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What is classified as intimate is vague. Let's say you want to buy your old lady some flowers. Maybe that counts as intimate so it's against the rules. Romance with no intimacy might be very limited depending on what counts as intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:56 PM
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OP probably wanted the stakes in this question to be high. If you are interested in a different topic you can make your own post. No need to consider someone else's question a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:54 PM
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I think men and women would get along better if sex and intimacy disappeared from the world. But sex and intimacy is awesome so I wouldn't wish that. I think I could tolerate if sex was off the table, but if even intimacy is off the table at that point it might not be worth it. If we had kids I'd stick through it but otherwise it would start to be awkward because I'm supposed to be connected to this person and I can't share a big part of myself with them. (pun intended) As far as if it's still a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:51 PM
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Bro, I hope you find someone who has your back 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:40 PM
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I thought you said Slim Shady, like Eminem. lmao And yeah, gatekeeping in subcultures like this is fucking annoying. It stops being a scene for people interested, and it starts being a scene circling around a few individuals manipulating the group for their benefits only and screw anyone else. How long did you try sticking with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:36 PM
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I think you hit the nail on the head. Monogamy/Non-monogamy preferences in many ways do seem to manifest similarly to sexual orientation. Some people are wired for it, some aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:28 PM
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Based and wholesome pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:26 PM
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Now that you say that... That does happen to match every poly woman I've seen. wtf lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:24 PM
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Monogamy personally. There's something about the concept of two people coming together as one that is endlessly fascinating to me. I find that human beings are really complex. You can spend a lifetime learning about yourself. And you could also spend a lifetime learning about your connection with someone else. And while I personally enjoy being single, if I were to be in a relationship I would like to be able to focus on this one person. Even if it changes, even if it gets boring, to me that jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:18 PM
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Do you know the guy personally? wtf lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:56 PM
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You learned the wrong thing bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:54 PM
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Only their zodiac sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:48 PM
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I think when guys observe the behavior of other guys, we see that guys who express a lot of feelings tend to be more on the dainty feminine side. So if the priority was finding a guy who's emotional, you would land on danity feminine guys. The skinny with big boobs thing is a good example really. The biggest boobs you can find will be on fat ladies. So a woman might say something like "Why do guys say they want big boobs when they don't want me?" So maybe it's best to specify, skinny girl with b…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:45 PM
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That's right. You know what they say: Happy wife, happy life!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:38 PM
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I don't think it should change much if shaming of sex was gone. I think people are motivated enough to have sex that shame is not a major factor in rates of sex anymore. I think the main barrier to having more sex is consequences. Pregnancy, STDs, emotional attachment, betrayal, abuse, etc. Rates of sex would increase somewhat but probably not by much. I think we already live in a situation where if two people really want to have sex they will.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:32 PM
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“Men dont give a shit about other men. Why not address that problem?” Because I don't want to fuck them. “Stop blurting out your preferences, especially in a dehumanizing way, and you would t be hated your preference.” What? “Your bad taste in women is not society’s fault.” Why do you think my taste in women is bad? “Stop being an asshole and people will stop insulting you. Dont be a crybully.” I'm okay with people insulting me. “Your personality can be the problem, not women’s looks standards.”…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 06:01 PM
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If the lady is planning divorce from the start, then you would be silly not to get a prenup. Hell, you'd be silly to marry her!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:52 PM
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We don't have shit because it's all been taken!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:51 PM
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As a guy, I'd like a lady more conservative than me. There's something nice about a person who's grounded in reality. Like a salt of the earth type person. I don't want some airhead with their head in the clouds
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:50 PM
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True. But at least she's posting. So few women actually post on here for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:42 PM
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On the other hand, if the woman is planning on divorce from the start, taking half our shit, stay the fuck away.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:38 PM
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This lady gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:36 PM
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Men are simple creatures. I think simple is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:46 AM
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Man, half the time I don't know what Lilith is talking about. Her posts are so meta. It's like you need to keep track of who she spoke to because she's refering to specific conversations with specific people with no sources.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:41 AM
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Yes, I mean college. If I look closer at the numbers it was more 20% the year I was there (start with 25, end with 5), but the previous year only 3 graduated. Personally, it worked out really well. Going to college was the best decision I ever made. But it's hard for me to give that advice sometimes because of how many people I saw who didn't make it. Do I say just keep trying until you make it? I don't know. It's rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:20 AM
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You're saying that without giving argument or evidence. You're not even saying what you think the throughline is. You're just asking us to take your word for it by claiming that to do otherwise would be "pedantic." I'm trying to focus on one aspect of the discussion at the time. I don't want to read or write 5000 word comments. No, the theory you've been advancing is that, unlike feminism of the past, feminism today exists in some sort of degraded, self-interested form. It's an attempt to level …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:14 AM
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This is an incorrect understanding of memetic theory. Under memetic theory all memes are trying to spread. Trying to spread isn't a feature memes acquire when they get old. I didn't say it didn't have it at first. But as you said, feminism evolves and changes. Memetics puts an evolutionary pressure on focusing on spread. Or do you not believe in evolution? Just think about it. Memetic theory is a direct metaphor for biological life. Do you think early forms of life had some "higher goal" than re…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:14 AM
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A para-basketball player has less opportunity to play in the NBA than a college basketball player. Is this not unequal opportunity?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:57 AM
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I think there's enough of a throughline in feminism that it doesn't dodge all attempts to describe it. If we want to be super pedantic we can find niche exceptions but I'm not interested in being pedantic to that degree. This is incoherent. In memetic theory, memes don't have brains or goals any more than viruses do. You just made my point. Viruses spread without a brain. This is coherent. An entity doesn't need a brain to spread. and feminism wouldn't be different than any other meme in that re…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:45 AM
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Yeah, I have a very biased view of society lately (I'm very aware of my bias). I don't really go out except for work so most of my social interactions are at the office. So it's all well educated people with stable high paying jobs. It makes life seem so simple. You go to college, get a job, ez pz. But only 10% of my class graduated, and only 10% of applicants get hired. I can't imagine how rough it is for people making minimum wage these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:28 AM
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It depends how far you take it. Let's say I don't have the opportunity to play basketball because I don't have legs. Well, it wouldn't be equal if you to get to play basketball now would it? It's easier to decrease opportunity than to increase it. So the path of least resistance is to make things worse but equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:19 AM
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I'm not ChatGPT. If you want to do research on this topic go do it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:09 AM
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If you like what our society has become, then sure, fill your boots. I think it's in a sad state but to each his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:00 AM
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I think the strongest argument is a memetic one. Over time, ideologies tend to focus more on self-preservation than anything else. There is a limited space for ideas to spread, so ideas that spread more can outcompete and push other ideas out of existence. As an ideology evolves, it branches out into different forms, and the forms that are better at spreading choke the life out of the others. Repeat that over 100 years and what do you expect? An ideology that grips people profoundly when they he…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:51 AM
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Is violence ever a show? You can say violence is underpinned by insecurity, but at some point it's not a show anymore. If someone who's insecure kills someone, that's never going to be undone. The person is dead. It's not a show. Murder is not self-defeating. You can't point out the contradictions in a killing and bring the person back from the dead. I'm using an extreme example here with a murder but the point stands. At some point violence is no longer a show no matter how insecure the person …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:38 AM
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So they hallucinated the girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:16 AM
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Well shit, you are awesome. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:13 AM
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Your ideal world sounds like a hell hole to me. People are different, so I much prefer a world where each person can strive to live their best lives regardless of if it's the same or "equal" to anyone else. And the birth rate is already below replacement in most countries, so it will go even lower. So humanity will fizzle out. How bleak.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:12 AM
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I think most "cis" people aren't revolted by the idea of being the opposite sex. Being revolted by the opposite sex sounds kind of toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:08 AM
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If women want to give up the exclusivity of women only spaces, that's fine by me. But it's annoying when women then complain to us that the exclusivity of their women only space is being taken away. Maybe you guys can fight each other and leave us out of it? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:06 AM
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Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist. It's in the name.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:02 AM
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you males lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:02 AM
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Do you complain to the manager too?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:58 AM
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At this point feminism feels like a very particular philosophy and ideology that has long since strayed from the core focus on women's plight. From a memetic perspective, feminism seems more concerned with perpetuating feminism than improving anyone's life. The idea has become a husk with the only purpose of spreading.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:57 AM
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So, a woman who admits to liking bad boys is a liar?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:43 AM
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The bully has a new girl on his arm because girls notice the resentment that nice guys feel? What?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:42 AM
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The words inferior and bad are pretty close to one another. If you squint a bit maybe the two words will start to blend together. The inferior men will become the new bad men and women will be all over them! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:40 AM
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What about all the romance novels about men basically violating the protagonist? Are women reading these books just to trick red pill men or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:37 AM
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100% agree. Fuck criminals. (not literally Lilith!)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:36 AM
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Man... 60% is kind of sad. lol One would hope nearly 100% of people would be sane and stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:32 AM
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I see. Is there a particular aspect of RP philosophy that you find particularly pertinent?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:21 AM
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Personally, I guess it's kind of like you described. It's fun sometimes to go on the internet and talk shit. Ultimately, I think everyone is different, so I don't believe in one-size-fits-all solutions. I don't like arguments of "everyone needs to do this" or "everyone needs to do that". Which is most discussions around this topic. I personally kind of hate when topics like this or politics spring up IRL. I'm not super social, but when I'm spending time with someone, I want to be with them and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:45 PM
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Yeah, no hard feelings. I think we pretty much agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:20 PM
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It is strange that lesbians seem to get more DV from males than heretosexual women do. You would expect that lesbians spend considerably less time in relationships with men than heretosexual women do. I guess if a woman is a lesbian she should avoid relationships with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:13 PM
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Congratulations! It sounds like you have a beautiful relationship. It's always good to hear. I don't really care about "trad" one way or another, but I kind of dread the idea of two parents working stressful jobs full time and not having time left to be with the kids. It sounds like you have a great balance though. Here's a question. Since you are not trad, how does being RP affect your life overall? How about your social circle? So many people are BP these days. How do you navigate that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 11:11 PM
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Yet you don't undestand it. Because you can't explain it. If you don't undestand it, why do I have to understand it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:57 PM
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I am driven to procrastinate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:49 PM
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I'm really not educated on the RPW scene (though I am curious now. I will check it out!), but can you expand on what you mean by 'trad' not being in your best interest? I'm not trying to debate, I'm just genuinely curious. I feel like red pill discussion is like 99.99% of the time about the male perspective so this is quite interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:57 AM
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I agree that good habits are good, but is this specifically a dating thing? As in, should you go to the gym because of dating? Should you eat properly because of dating? Should you take care of your health because of dating? I think it's good sense to live your life adroitly whether you are dating or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:27 AM
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men have always been able to criticize women, even in the current year, you just cant be a misogynist about it. The problem is there are no rules to deciding what is misogynistic or not. It's just, if someone labels it misogynistic, it is considered misogynistic. So, let's say woman A accepts criticism, and woman B doesn't accept criticisim. You can give the same critique to both women. woman A will be ok with the criticism, woman B will call it misogyny. It's just a random subjective label.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:18 AM
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not cause they don’t like the woods, or because they’re incapable, but rather, because of stalkers - who are usually male, who track them down because they see a woman alone in the woods Criminals also target men. If criminals knew the location of a man's house out in the woods they could also target him. I'm a man and I used to live in a crime-ridden neighbourhood and I had to watch out for ciminals myself. Men would look through my windows trying to find anything of value they could steal. I g…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:09 AM
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Or, let people live their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:20 PM
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And in turn insecurity masquerades as class awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:56 PM
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It's more to lift!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:52 PM
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Yeah. It's really not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:46 PM
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Well shit, that's even worse than transactional. Time to get a prenup I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:31 PM
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If they got a divorce, the partnership was probably not exactly productive. If it's correct to treat relationships as transactional like this, why not pay up front? If the wife is so helpful to the man's career, he could pay her then and there. And in the event of a divorce everything was paid off already. If we can calculate a wife's contribution to a husband's career after the fact, why not during?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:18 PM
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Money is meant to be spent. Every time a person makes a purchase, it means they wanted this thing more than they wanted money. And hell, some things are priceless, worth all the money in the world to us. Women are used to objectifying men for their money, but their lack of empathy makes them fail to notice that men don't care about money nearly as much as women do. Past a certain moint, most of us earn more money specifically because we know women love money. It's not for us. Having some jerk ru…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:07 PM
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Yeah. Robert Sapolsky has good stuff on this if you are keen on this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:48 PM
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It's been a long ass time but I remember seeing some studies on the topic that showed that pair bonding was related to specific hormone balances. It seems like some individuals are hormonally inclined to pair bond and others not. In many animals, the behavior is often completely one way or another, but humans seem to have unusually high variability in many sexual behaviors and strategies.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:42 PM
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a very small part of me TMI bro
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:39 PM
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Bro, you just ChatGPT'd that shit? lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:37 PM
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Society is an illusion. It's just an amalgamation of people. These people are different. If you frequent certain types of people, society will feel a certain way because these people are around you. There isn't an objective concrete society that has definite concrete opinions. But yeah, do whatever the fuck you want bro. If your little section of society is happy and fine with what you do, and it works for everyone involved, do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:34 PM
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Oh, of course. Guys here all think the same. Better?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:28 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:26 PM
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Oh, of course. Guys all think the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:30 PM
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My frame of thought on this is that if a guy wanted to pursue these goals, he would already be doing it. If a guy is not doing it, then doing it will be fake and forced. Pursuing goals is great, but I think if it's going to happen naturally it's just going to happen. If you force goals, and force dating, and force this, and force that, it's a lot of forcing. Some people are just naturally perfect for each other. Great. But hypothetically if we were trying to give advice to someone where this is …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:59 AM
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You need reciprocity for this stuff to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:37 AM
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Seems like so much trouble when you can just buy a fleshlight.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:27 AM
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Women are dollar-sexual. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:24 AM
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Feminism is for helping women, like christianity is for helping the poor. It's just one extremely biased way to go about it. Full of baggage, ideology, and bad actors. If feminists earn themselves a bad reputation, so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:19 AM
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So, just for your spouse, you need to not only keep dating them continuously, but go out and develop new hobbies and such just to keep things mysterious when you go on the dates. At that point you better be getting something in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:56 AM
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I'd pick this over a one-sided effort relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:51 AM
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I believe in equal effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:49 AM
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I've had a few relationships, but none of them ever involved dating. It was just like, you meet an acquaintance, spend time around each other and get closer gradually until you agree to a relationship. (But I'm single now so it's not like I can claim to have the secret to an eternal relationship.) That being said, my gut feeling is that dating is mostly a female thing. As in most heterosexual pairings, the female is going to enjoy dating more than the man. As such, I think never stop dating is o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:36 AM
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Thanks bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:32 PM
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Whenever the topic of abuse comes up, there is always men in the comments saying an abusive relationship is always the woman's fault, because she didn't "choose better." It's not necessarily the woman's fault. But choosing better helps. Let's say you're walking across the street and get hit by a car. It's not your fault. But looking before you cross decreases your chances of getting hit by a car anyway. Who cares who's fault it is? The goal is for you not to be abused. Is that not a good enough …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:57 PM
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Idk. You don't seem banned to me. Although I've had it sometimes not let me post for a few minutes. I have no idea what the problem is. I just get a red banner like "You are not able to post" or whatever. But it looks like you're not banned. Congrats.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:43 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:57 AM
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You make a good point, they are not exactly the same, but still, the more they mix the more they become the same. Technically, you could destroy a culture completely, and a new culture will spring from it. People living on the land of the destroyed culture will invent their own way of doing things. If we think all cultures are equal then destorying one is essentially neutral. I'm not sure it is neutral.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:32 AM
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I see. Maybe men need to be more aware of Fujoshi stuff. It's not like it will hurt them to know about it. lol I wonder if attitudes are different in Japan? I hope you find people who aren't so weird about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:25 AM
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I think that's great. I know I'm probably coming off as quite critical but I think in essense Fujoshi is great.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:23 AM
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If someone is so fragile that a fanfic is terribly traumatic they are going to be traumatised by anything and everything. Let's not throw girls under the bus and expect them to repress their sexuality forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:21 AM
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Well it feels a bit fucked to use a group of people for my porn but completely misrepresent them As a dude myself, I give you permission. You have the dude pass. I also feel like women appreciate more realism in porn when it comes to partner dynamics. Oh, so it's about writing more titilating smut. Ok, have at it. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:17 AM
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If you put everything in a melting pot, it melts. It's not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:15 AM
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Ok. I was being a bit hyperbolic but it was funny how the guy makes a comment about hate of male equivalents and all this stuff burst out of you like a loaded spring. It seemed like you were just itching for a chance to say this stuff and it was kind of funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:10 AM
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I think the way women like things, and the way men like things tends to be very different. Even when they are into the same thing. Let's take a super stereotypical example just to demonstrate: Take a game like Overwatch, the average male player of Overwatch will like the game for it's mechanics, it's competitive scene, it's challenge. The average female player of Overwatch will like the game for it's story, it's characters, it's beauty. These are exagerations and I'm not saying everyone is a ste…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:07 AM
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Fetishizing gay stuff is a little bit strange though isn't it? I mean from the point of view of objectification. Like, if some dude presented himself as a "feminist ally" but you find out he reads feminist fanfics about raping feminists and that's why he's likes being around feminists it would be creepy as fuck. But with gay people it's just normal I suppose. They can be objects to fap to and that's just being a good ally.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:57 AM
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I don't see a problem with unrealistic depictions of MM love. It's smut. People fuck vampires. It's not realistic. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:54 AM
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I think it's great that different cultures have different movements and attitudes like this. This is part of the reason why I'm not a fan of 100% uncontrolled immigration. I think it would be sad to just melt every culture into a grey sludge. I think it's great to have different countries with different cultures and philosophies and ways of doing things. It's nice to be open enough to share the culture, but I 100% understand countries who want to preserve said culture. It would be great if Japan…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:53 AM
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I think fujoshi is both based and cringe in different ways at the same time. Based in that it's good to not be so sexually repressed that you don't like anything. It's great that you found something you like. In that sense I 100% encourage women to do all the fujoshi stuff they want. Have the time of your life. Cringe in that women lack empathy already, so they find this niche and they think it makes them special because they never empathised with others. Towards others they have the sexual mora…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:48 AM
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That hate was just under the surface waiting to come out. lmao I don't think the way fujoshi fetishize men is respectful. Objectification is objectification. It's not the end of the world, but it's not respectful. I'm not going to moralize and tell you you can't do it. But claiming respect because you fap to something is just silly now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:33 AM
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Maybe the dude's wrong. Can't people have disagreements without being bad people?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:26 AM
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Saying women have MISSED THE BOAT ON FINDING A MATE is misogyny, bullying, and hate. Let's not redefine words please. He stated a pretty benign opinion. If you say a retired athlete is passed their prime and can't compete anymore that's not hatred, bullying or athletism. People have primes and eventually pass them. These exagerations are very toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:35 AM
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He's paragraphasing what the bitter women are saying. I don't think he's being cruel. Unless you think the women are not bitter and he is misrepresenting them. Women can be bitter. Are we supposed to just act like women are perfect beings that never get bitter? Come down to earth please.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:31 AM
2

Most guys don't go on Facebook and Instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:27 AM
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I don't see this at all. Unmarried childless women are portrayed as "strong and independent" and unmarried childless men are portrayed as creepy incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:26 AM
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You took too many conspiracy pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:19 AM
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Why some ugly manlet would want to sneak his crappy DNA in the gene pool? Successful reproduction is the marker of gene quality. You don't know your genes are irredeemably bad if you don't try. And at that point if you fail then so be it. If you worry about gene quality just go with the flow and trust the process. I think you are overthinking it OP. Life is about food, shelter, and sex. It's not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:15 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:03 AM
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You mean like, it would be difficult not to develop feelings? Sure, but at least if things go bad, the breakup is going to be clean. Divorces are ugly as fuck. (If I could afford it) I'd rather pay up front an amount of money where the woman won't be destitute if we do happen to break up, but then if we do all ties are cut. I think emotionally I'd be a mess if I was in a relationship that I thought was not transacrional and invested my feelings into it but then it ends in a divorce and now that …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:59 AM
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Oh yeah, my friend's GF is a school teacher and she sometimes remains in her "teacher mode" and talks down to other adults. It's a bit strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:45 AM
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I agree there's nothing shameful in being a woman. But I also think misogyny paranoia is mostly bullshit. If it's not shameful to be a woman, it's also not special to be a woman. Human beings as a default are assholes. When humans are assholes to men it's just considered normal. When humans are assholes to women it's considered special. It's not. If women aren't special then misogyny is not a thing. It's just humans being assholes like humans are. I like the ladies just as much as the next perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:33 AM
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Green flag: Nurse, flight attendant, highschool teacher, cop, nun, prison guard Red flag: Human resources, general manager, college teacher, journalist, diversity officer, congressman
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:20 AM
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I don't get paid enough for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:07 AM
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Why not? I don't get the point of these he-said she-said posts. "Some people said X, what do you say to that?!" Don't you have something to say yourself? Why not bring something new to the table? If you saw men say this on other posts and it interested you why not talk to them directly about it. Why do we have to indirectly comment about what other people said according to you? It's like a glorified "and then everyone clapped" post.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:31 AM
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Men cannot be pregnant. In 2025? :o The man makes more money to offset this work and make it more equal. Women can make the same money as men. These two sentences don't go together. As far as men getting treated equally it also won’t happen. Correct. Men have always been objectified as emotionless wallets on legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:14 AM
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And I would be paying for a dead bedroom too. I work and contribute financially and I want sex (as do most women!). Yes. I wouldn't judge a woman for using a service like this (if it's safe and she can afford it responsibly) Be an active partner, don’t cheat/abuse, be a present father (if children), stay fit, communicate, etc. and you likely won’t have a dead bedroom. I don't think either partner can guarantee the relationship will stay healthy. You can definitely do things to help it stay healt…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:10 AM
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I think in an effort to appease feminists businesses have been cutting men's salaries and avoiding promoting men even in cases where they are working harder. So in 2025 men's salaries are artificially lower so instead of equal pay for equal work, men get paid less for equal work. Just returning to equal pay for equal work would restore the gender pay gap for better or for worse. But ultimately, it's just a choice of preferences. Aiming to date only a very exclusive dating pool leads to an imbala…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:55 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:48 PM
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I'd love a more purely transactional society. It makes things simpler. No hard feelings, strictly business.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:42 PM
1

I'd buy that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:38 PM
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Unlimited availability and only once per day? no way in hell bro lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:34 PM
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I like your disclaimer model. Holy hell people don't know how to read and it's so annoying responding to everyone "actually, if you read..."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:33 PM
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lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:32 PM
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Sold.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:31 PM
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But in your case, you could cut off sex at any time and your husband would be paying for a dead bedroom. If someone's going to take our money, might as well get a guaranteed return out of it. I'm not saying prostitution is the superior option in every case but being stuck in a dead marriage isn't too hot either. In a dream world we would all be happily married but that is clearly not reality. Sometimes you have to pick the least bad option.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:24 PM
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I heard from sex workers that a lot of men do want to stay and talk and sometimes spend most of their time talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:21 PM
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I think I would only go for Diamond. But only if I was filthy rich and single. Maybe I'd pay 200k a year (assuming I'm rich af) but I'd also provide plentiful accomodations. That being said I would only do it if I actually like her personality. If we see eye-to-eye I'd take her under my wing and probably waive most of her duties. If I don't find someone where we see eye-to-eye then I'm dropping the service. I don't want to fuck someone with a shit personality so I might as well just hire a maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:12 PM
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I agree with this. I think people have the impression that having social skills is about never being awkward of never being embarassed. But as I grow older I've noticed that social skills in a way is really about not freaking out when something is awkward or not just shriveling up when something is embarassing. If you have a bit of a backbone and stick through the awkward moment and recover from it most people will forget about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:45 PM
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I use to not use the “These guys dont go outside” explanation I will admit, I don't go outside. Dating is cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:36 PM
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XD
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:33 PM
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There is literally no contradiction between wanting equal pay in society and wanting a man who can support you financially through pregnancy and early child rearing. Yes there is. Let's make this super simple. If a woman makes $10,000, and a man makes $10,000. (equal pay) how is the man going to provide more money than the woman? If the man made more money it wouldn't be equal pay anymore now would it? This is classic objectification of men as wallets on legs. Women think men can at the same tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:22 PM
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Wanting the same pay for the same job is not related to wanting a guy to be a breadwinner. It is related because when you combine the two the numbers don't add up. If you think men who earn the same amount as you are too low quality to date, then you have to aim higher. But you insisted that men's pay be brought down so you're now fishing in a smaller and smaller pond. And there's something very ironic in thinking that someone who is equal to you isn't even worth a chance. How special are you th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:18 PM
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I think someone can recover from being a creep. It's not a death sentence. Maybe someone is actually coming off as a creep. So the person calling them a creep is doing them a favor in a way. Like, drop the creepiness and you won't be perceived as a creep. If I call someone a creep it doesn't mean "You are and forever will be a creep!" just that the current approach is not working. I called someone a creep when a random redditor went through my entire post history searching for intimate posts whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:30 AM
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Ok, that one is accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:18 AM
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Is there a study that separates the two? It is still odd though. One would assume hetero women spend more time in relationshpis with men. If men are doing the DV to lesbian women, then the DV has to happen in a shorter amount of time, right? Like, let's say the average lesbian has 1 hetero relationship in their life, but the DV rate is 44% and caused by men, then 44% of their 1 hetero relationship has DV. But lets say an average hetero woman has 10 hetero relationships and on average has 35% DV …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:14 AM
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Why do lesbians need validity from straight men? Validate yourselves. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:07 AM
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Not saturated? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:03 AM
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Men want women with good personalities, so most of you are safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:02 AM
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Human beings have double standards when it comes to sex. A bisexual woman still sees men and women as different, and is attracted to different things in men and women. Ultimately though, it's easier to get along with someone who is similar to you. Even in hetero relationships, there's high demand for men with slightly feminine hobbies, and women with slightly masculine hobbies (as just one example), because this facilitates having a partner without giving up your hobbies. People want the benefit…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:52 AM
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The same women who will say they want equality will say they want a man who makes more money than them. Why want equal pay in your public life but insist on unequal pay in your home life? If men and women get paid equally, there's now going to be a shortage of men who make more money than you. You've been hoisted with your own petard. Women have demanded equality, and now equality is an "ick". Society is supposed to treat men and women equally, but men who get treated equally to women are not wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:31 AM
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People's healthy urges are difficult to break even in this sick culture of ours that tries to tear people apart. The goodness of human nature is able to withstand the deluge of deranged modern filth, but not unscathed. The human instinct to be good to one another is hard to destroy. But then the question is wtf is wrong with the people trying so hard to destroy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:47 PM
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No. I don't want friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:37 PM
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Usually there's some context clues. Like "Men are lonely because modern dating culture is a mess" or something. Unless they are trying to date dudes, they are probably looking for a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:35 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:33 PM
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If you already do manage good platonic relationships, then the flood of advice of "you don't need a partner, just friends" is a huge waste of time. Not everyone who can't find a partner doesn't have friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:33 PM
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Yes, the myth of female empathy is hilarious to observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:31 PM
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Based and manpilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:29 PM
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If they need it to be sexual, then they're just horny Yes. And then people say like "Just get a hobby" and it really misses the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:28 PM
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I've seen dozens of people on this subreddit suggest replacing romantic relationships with friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:24 PM
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Yes, they are policing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:23 PM
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It's a euphemism. "Men are lonely" is far less crude than "Men need pussy".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:22 PM
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You are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:03 PM
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I mean, there's nothing wrong with your physical appearance, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 09:55 PM
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He looks cute because he has girls going after him is the idea. None of us control why we find someone cute or not. It's subconscious. Neurologically speaking, our subconscious mind makes the decisions, and our conscious minds make justifications. And our subconscious mind doesn't tell us why we made the decision. You have to either scan your brain while making the decision or observe behavioral patterns.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:58 AM
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Competition is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:49 AM
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Because there was no competition. Competing with yourself is really not the same as competing with someone else. Try playing chess with yourself playing both sides of the board. It's far less interesting than playing against someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:29 AM
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How can you know what your gender does and doesn’t do if you aren’t dating them? I think the missing part here is that a conversation is not supposed to be just about talking at each other, but also listening when the other person is talking. It's true, hetero guys don't date hetero guys, and hetero women don't date hetero women. Men and women have different experiences. Heck, every person has different experiences. We won't understand each other if we don't listen. On the other hand, it's somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:23 AM
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I've heard from women that women can be very competitive. Particularly over a man. Is it not possible that the competitive spirit will direct attention to converge towards a particular guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:13 AM
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I get your feeling about compliments on appearance. I find it strange how some people like them. Or maybe they fake liking it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:48 PM
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As a dude, I think I would be less bothered if my GF cheated with a woman. It wouldn't exactly be cool, but something about it feels less dangerous. Like, no risk of pregnancy, the sex organs don't penetrate. I feel like hetero relationships always have a little extra edge of danger for some reason. And this danger would make me worried for her and maybe doubt her risk management. As a dude, lesbian sex seems like extensive foreplay. Fun, but still foreplay. So it's not the worst possible betray…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:29 PM
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PUA shit makes me angry. So that's a pretty strong backfire. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:58 PM
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I've never made this argument, but I think the idea is something like this: If you look at 100 men and pick the tallest, he won't necessarily be the most loyal. If you look at 100 men and pick the most loyal, he won't necessarily be the tallest. On top of that, men who are over 6ft, attractive, and loyal, are probably not single. A list of toxic behaviors is complicated because typically guys don't have the experience of dating heterosexual men. I guess if a woman goes for "bad boy" types maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:37 PM
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Yeah, I don't often enough tell the bosses when someone did a good job. I should though. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:25 PM
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What if they compliment your groceries? /s lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:23 PM
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I almost fell from the pole. LOL Yeah, that is a nice compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:22 PM
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Ooh yeah, I forgot about the cooking compliments. I take those. lol I like compliments about cooking. Not so much because I'm glad people think my cooking is good, but just because I'm glad I provided tasty food, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:17 PM
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I see. Maybe people who get compliments often take them for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:14 PM
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Then it's not gay
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:09 PM
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If there's a romance shaped hole in your life, and a man is filling that hole, then sure, that might be a bit gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:40 PM
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Yeah, dudes can be awful. Makes me wonder why women like men sometimes. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:37 PM
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I don't know. Maybe they go both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:29 PM
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You don't get compliments?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:28 PM
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Yeah, that would definitely be a violation of the bro code. Do women know this is happening behind their back and they just accept it as normal?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 01:40 PM
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What toppings do you use on the nachos? I've been thinking of doing nachos lately (not all from scratch lol) I'm not sure if I want to make it more of a dip style or toppings on top.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 01:38 PM
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Yeah, it's something I'm slowly getting better at. One step at a time. It is weird how the pandemic sometimes opened doors for personal growth in one way or another. It was the catalyst for me to go to college and start my new career. It was awful but opened doors in weird ways. It was such a strange moment in people's lives. But thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 01:28 PM
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lmao The way you phrase it is kind of funny, but I think I get what you mean. I feel a bit in the same boat. Like, I really like the way I live my life and finding someone where I can be with them and keep my life style is unlikely. Giving up being able to live my life the way I want to live it (in my man-cave) is a big ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 01:24 PM
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Ooooh, so you're batting for the other team?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 01:03 PM
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Yeah, women can be strangely catty at times. I remember working at a restaurant and the waitresses were all nice to each other's faces, but tore each other down behind their backs. I'd see two waitresses talking shit about the others and I'm tempted to say to them like "Hey, you know when you're gone, she talks shit about you too, and shen she's gone you're going to talk shit about her!" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:58 PM
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I agree with what you are saying, but I know of myself that I don't put this into practice. lol I wonder if part of it is due to growing up poor. There was a time in my life while growing up where things were getting dicey. It wasn't guaranteed we'd have food on our plates or a roof over our head. (we were like 90% sure we'd be okay but even that 10% can stress you the fuck out.) In hindsight it might not have been that bad but my child self was panicking at the decline. Things are much better n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:51 PM
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Personally, I agree with you. But I know a lot of men will disagree. As a guy, I don't feel like platonic friendships are a replacement for romantic relationships. But who knows, maybe some guys just want to hang out with the boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:28 AM
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Is this the state of society nowadays? Being fat is normal to expect? bro...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:24 AM
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Who takes care of the cats?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:10 AM
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Woman B 1000% Simple. This is the kind of life I want. I'm not an adrenaline junky. Being with someone I love is all the excitement I need.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:08 AM
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I think the raw essence of "creepy" is similar to "prying". Like, someone who seems to want to know more, or control more than is consented to. Someone who might cyber stalk someone or otherwise try to leverage an unfair advantage to blackmail or make someone do something. It's hard to say for sure. Sometimes you just get that "creepy vibe" but I think that's part of it. Someone who looks like they don't respect boundaries. Maybe they lack experience with boundaries to know how to respect them i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:02 AM
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I think feminism also makes women unhappy. Men and women are both unhappy under feminism. So it's not hard to see what the problem is here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:58 AM
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I agree. I have no interest in a pursuit of some sort of "equality". I want my partner to be different than me and I don't think you can measure human qualities to the point of being "equal". It's a wild goose chase. I wouldn't want this idea to poison my relationship. What is important is that we are both happy with what we bring to the table. Equal or not I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:08 PM
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The second comment is about Parcitular_Oil3314's comment. He is not a she.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 05:33 PM
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I was responding to specifically to Parcitular_Oil3314 who is labeled a man. Who is the "she" you are talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:51 PM
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To quote Parcitular_Oil3314, hate men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:21 PM
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You said needing help from others is the only option. As in: All these women can do is... The stuff about all men never needing help or whatever is a straw man. There's no shame in needing help. But if like you say "all these women" are always unable to be an adult without help then that is news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:50 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:24 PM
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Do women need help to be adults? Maybe that's what I'm not understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:06 PM
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There's no good reason to do a bad thing. Two wrongs don't make a right. Strength is doing the right things when things get hard. Not just "Oh, I give up I'll take the easy path."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:48 PM
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Or be an adult about it and not paint 50% of the population with the same brush.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:19 PM
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Women today hate the idea that men are in large part motivated by women It would have been nice if you expanded on this. Maybe it's just me but I don't really know what you mean specifically here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 11:12 AM
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So men of PPD why do you lie to women that women should give sex "early" and stop playing hard to get even though real life experiences say otherwise? First, not everyone's real life experience is the same. Second, I think your approach should vary depending on what you want. I don't buy into advice like "All men should do X" or "All women should do Y". People are different and have different goals. Use strategies that suit your goals. There's no point in using dating strategies that end up in r…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 11:06 AM
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I think you are correctly describing some men. Robert Sapolsky did some really good research on this kind of evolutionary behavior stuff and research shows that humans have a high degree of variability in sexual behavior compared to most animal species. Some species are strictly monogamous, some are not, but humans tend to vary from individual to individual. Variance within a species can be an advantage because the winning strategy can depend on the conditions. What is a good strategy today migh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:51 AM
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Man, there's nothing more sad than a feminist brainwashed into hating their son.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:26 AM
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My sister does this. I don't hate her but this behavior is super cringe. I think women don't know how cringe they are sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:24 AM
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It sounds like he's running away from a problem he doesn't know how to solve aside from drowning it out with video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:21 AM
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No, talking to my dad has given me immense sympathy and awareness of dead bedrooms though. Ouch.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:10 AM
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I don't undestand heels. Like, a piece of plastic is supposed to interest me? And I find the click-clack noise if heels irritating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:37 PM
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wtf, I like cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:36 PM
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Shit bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:52 AM
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Because she's on a diet?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:49 AM
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she should probably let the guy know she’s open to being flirted with. So women should do the first move?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:46 AM
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Do you find them difficult to understand sometimes though? I get the impression that women who are very much in their feminine side, and men who are very much in their masculine side have trouble communicating. It's like two completely different ways to view the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:34 AM
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Yes, I've noticed a pattern. I'm thinking of maybe making a post out of it. I call it the "pick-me-not" type as opposed to the "pick-me" type. For some reason, some women's strategy is to try to be as unappealing as possible. I think they get off on it. They get off on the idea that we hate them. But mostly we think they are cringe. Strange women indeed. And I'll give Lilith credit for this: She's one of the few women who post on here. I feel like most days it's like 9 posts from men, 1 post fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:29 AM
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I see. Man, sexuality is so fucking complicated. I know what you mean by "shiny" porn. I feel like porn studios adopted this aesthetic early on and I never understood it. As soon as porn with regular people showed up I was like "thank god." lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:25 AM
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Interesting. So you noticed when it changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:17 AM
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Just impressions. I don't know. Hence why I'm asking. Is there even a link between porn preferences and sexual crimes? You would think there are related, but I've seen BP talk about way more fucked up preferences than mine. If there's a link between preferences and crime, should people with violent preferences be on a watch list or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:16 AM
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Yeah, for the most part, what I'm really after when it comes to porn is post-nut clarity. As such, it's not like I'm forming a bond with a naked lady on the screen. I'm just trying to flush the hormones out of my body so I can be of clear mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:12 AM
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That's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:08 AM
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Judging by some people's answers, I'm starting to think maybe it is related after all, but in the opposite direction. Like, the men who are accused of hating women, don't like violence against women. The men who are white knighting, like to hurt women. Idk. It's hard to know without getting in everyone's business and at that point it's TMI.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:08 AM
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Right, there's not much difference in having a kink for watching men be violent towards women, and enjoying watching men be violent towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:04 AM
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Correctamundo. If a great deal of women fantasise about violence, it might disappint them that most men are turned off at the idea of hurting women. What a strange predicament...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:03 AM
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Last time I made a discussion post it was also considered circlejerking. I don't know how to please the mods here. The easier posts to make are debate posts, but then you have to genuinely hold the position. In this case I don't have enough information to argue one side or the other, so I'm asking. If someone put a counterpoint I'd be forced to say "Ok, idk." that's not much of a debate. But if I made a discussion post it'd probably be closed saying "make a debate post instead" I agree that in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:56 AM
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I wonder if this has an effect on how women view gender. Like, they watch all this violent porn and think "All men want is to hurt women!" Or maybe if affects their choice of men. Do they go after men who look like they would hurt them?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:49 AM
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Yeah, It's really rare I'll watch porn of people having sex. Often I don't need much more than a pretty face and a bit of skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:29 AM
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I see. No respect pilled. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:25 AM
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It kind of flies in the face of women who throw accusations like "Men are RP because they watch misogynistic porn!" or whatever if they don't even watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:23 AM
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Yeah, violence against women in porn is fucking disgusting to me. (sorry ladies)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:22 AM
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You started it insinuating males and females are not different.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:20 AM
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I coined the term 13 hours ago. And in this case they would. With the help of an AI or robot.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:50 PM
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You say I lie but you just admitted to it. You hide your sexuality from 99.9% of people, then blame us for not knowing you have a sexuality, You gave up on owning up to your sexuality. You admitted it. I rest my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:48 PM
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OP, I 100000% agree with you. I'm not sure what else to add. lol I think you are completely correct on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:43 PM
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I'm not insecure about it, but I do think theres hypocrisy. We are different. We have sex drives that work differently. One shouldn't be shamed while the other gets a pass. If we all consume perverted media in large quantities to get off then I don't think it's time to judge. (Not saying you are judging necessarily) One can't help the way they were born.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:38 PM
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Most women I know who admit to watching porn are into way more hardcore stuff than I am. Like, sometimes I just need a smile and a bit of cleavage. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:33 PM
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I think some of this comes from the endless stream of sex shaming women do. If a man likes breasts he's treated like some kind of evil pervert. Male sexuality is constantly shamed. For instance, if a movie has any sort of sex appeal to it, it's "the male gaze". But there's no "female gaze". Like women don't need a gaze. Like women don't have a sex drive. If something is sexual, it's men's fault. Women gave up ownership of sexuality, put it on our lap, blamed us, and now we are like "what? you we…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:30 PM
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The difference is we don't watch that shit. Women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:24 PM
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They are the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:22 PM
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Any situation is good. Specific is good. Straight and to the point. Every woman has different tastes. "What women like" is really broad. I would say if there's one common theme among almost all women's preferences is effort. Even wasted, pointless effort. Women are attracted to men who they think will spend energy, time, money, attention etc on them. It just makes things easier. I don't want to be fake. I want to be able to be myself so doing massive changes for someone who doesn't even like me …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:20 PM
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Because you made an unfounded claim. And now you contradicted yourself. Whatever. I'll take the "W" You're welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:59 PM
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Good
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:37 PM
1

you can hold people born 10K years ago to our current moral standards. I just did. So yes, I can. If 100 years from now everyone thinks eating meat is immoral, it wouldn't be fair to hold that cheeseburger against you Oh boy. Here we go. Eating a cheeseburder? Rape. Eating a cheeseburger? Rape. These are really similar to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:33 PM
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I didn't do any space ship stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:29 PM
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Why would they have different needs if they are raised the same way? Are you saying that even if they were raised the same way, they wouldn't be the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:28 PM
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Don Quixote is a fictional character from the novel of the same name. The gist of the story is that he has read too many adventure books. In fact, he is so enamored with adventure books that he starts to see his life in the lens of adventure books and decides to go on his own adventure. The novel details him going about his "adventure" with his delusions of being in an adventure book. Don Quixote type here refers to a woman who really really enjoys romance novels and would really like to live ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:25 PM
1

Is ignoring them acceptable?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:13 PM
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Are you robophobic?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:12 PM
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I agree with you. I think a robo chad might be easier to make actually. Women are already able to make the connection between their sex drive and literature/fiction. Interacting with an AI instead of a novel isn't that big of a leap. I know the world will be weird of an AI relationship exodus happens but I'm optimistic people will adapt and things will be ok in the long run. I don't buy into the fearmongering.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:58 AM
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Sex work is illegal and carries risks like STDs and other related crimes. If sex work was 100% legal and safe it would probably be a lot more popular,
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:44 AM
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-will likely want to leave their owners for greener pastures. Unless they are programmed not to. That's the point. They will be programmed not to. But anyone who wants a partner who's literally unable to even want to leave is a psychopath. It's an algorithm. Does 2+2 jump off the page and escape from you? Software is literally just math. If your calculator doesn't grow legs and walk away, it makes you mentally ill? Not to mention the cleaning, maintenance, and upkeep. Do you get depressed when y…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:41 AM
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Some people are low maintenance. They don't need a whole lot to be happy. I guess that does explain a lot if they are expected to put up with a lot of bullshit when they just want something simple. If all you ever asked for was a blowjob and a sandwich, then yeah, a robot could do that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:24 AM
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I don't understand why people care what other people think in this sort of way. If you are living your best life, who cares what anyone else thinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:17 AM
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TLDR: Way too many men struggle with the concept that your attraction should not heavily dictate how you treat someone. So, you should act like someone attracts you, even when they don't attract you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:05 AM
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Feminism is not dependent on rape culture... that's just one claim. Correct. This was just one example. There is no logical contradiction between saying there used to be no rape culture and now there is rape culture The logical contradiction come in when they basis of their claim is just that if you go far back enough in time, rape didn't exist (a claim made by feminists commenting on this post). Not even sure you can have the concept of rape when the concept of consent doesn't exist. And here i…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 09:58 AM
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That is the depth of your introspection? wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 09:32 AM
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What evidence is there that they would end up behaving the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 01:56 AM
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Thanks bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:55 PM
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If a man and a woman were raised the same way, would they end up behaving the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:55 PM
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I'll give Lilith props for one thing. She's one of the few women who actually post on here. At least recently the posts are like 95% men. Women are in the comments, but it would be interesting to see what posts women come up with. I guess they don't have masculine courage on their side. :P
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:47 PM
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Building a spaceship is not a population wide activity. You and I never built a spaceship. Exceptions sometimes make the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:37 PM
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Sure, but it seems like there's a bit of a supply/demand imbalance. Lots of men don't meet women's standards. Lots of women don't meet men's standards. And we are constantly bickering and pointing fingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:27 PM
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I think their dream is to find a woman who is both honest and compatible. Honest and incompatible doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:25 AM
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has no style Ouch. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:21 AM
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Based and crypto pilled. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:58 AM
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I think you have a good point. I still think there's validity in my OP but I think you are adding some good nuance. This is getting complicated but what I think is going on is this: Men in the west are taking on feminine traits that are not very desired. And women in the west are taking on masculine traits that are not very desired. We end up being the worst of both worlds in some ways. Like, these men will be weak, anxiety prone, emotionally unstable, but just as likely to SA a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:31 AM
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Ewww.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:12 AM
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Yeah. And then vampires show up and now you're stuck being into something that is impossible irl. ffs lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:56 AM
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lol I know what you mean. There's a lot of "bromance" going around. Straight guys trying to impress each other. It almost looks like courtship. Guys are strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:52 AM
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Yeah, I can't speak for all men but I don't think most men want to be like the men in romantic movies. Honestly, I think men can be quite tonedeaf when it comes to women's desires. I think sometimes men and women's sexuality are so different that we kind of don't notice women's sexuality. There's almost a feeling like men are "the sexual sex" and women aren't. It's so weird. I'm sure it can seem like malice but I promise most of us literally just don't know any better. I feel like generally, cul…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:46 AM
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I see. Thanks for the insight. For "peak" romance I just meant like whatever idealized romantic scenario someone finds in fiction. Where it is their subjective "ideal" romantic scenario based on their specific tastes possibly even including unrealistic elements.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:32 AM
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Men's sexual drives tend to work differently than women's. If you think a man just being a man is "concerning", maybe you don't understand 50% of the human species. If there's one thing to learn about men it's that our sex drives are very important to us. That's just part of being a human. It doesn't make us monsters and shouldn't be "concerning". See us as human beings who have value even if we have a sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:37 AM
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You do come off as very irate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:31 AM
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Beta buxxing sounds like zoomer talk. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:19 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that. That's awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:16 AM
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Yeah, and this thing's been going on for sooo long. I remember reading an old Archie comic at my grandmother's house. You saw Archie and Bettie having an argument, and the panels split in half with each going to their friends and complaining about "guys are all like this!" and "girls are all like that!" lol Getting along is definitely not easy. But it is a bit tiresome that there's so much noise and so little learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:09 AM
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I think in our minds, men who groom like gay men are feminine, and we think a heterosexual woman is not looking for a feminine man. But maybe reality is more complex than that (as my OP suggests)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:50 AM
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So, in secret they all go pick RPers?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:46 AM
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I think sharing feelings and opinions is empty. That's what makes someone an asshole. Assertiveness isn't just having a tantrum saying "I want this now" like a baby. Assertiveness is assuming responsibility. It's not just expressing a desire and hoping someone else will do the adulting for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:36 AM
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Interesting take. We do see this in nature, but rarely and usually in timespans of millions of years. Male/female behavior switching completely across the population is really unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:20 AM
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You're calling a lot of people gay man, that's pretty bold.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:16 AM
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Having hobbies you can bond with people over? Ew, no. I feel called out. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:15 AM
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Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:08 AM
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I must say, you seem very emotionally charged at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:07 AM
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Many people think assertive equals asshole My feeling is the exact opposite. I think a lot of people think asshole equals assertive. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:59 PM
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True. It's unfortunate sometimes, but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:54 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful input. Obviously, there is a major difference between fantasy and reality. But do you think these ideas of "peak" romance affect women's choices in real life? We might not live in historical britain, but a man who sleeps around is not impossible to find. What if there's a hope he will be failthful to her like in the novels? Hell, he might even play on that and make empty promises.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:52 PM
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I think it's good. Even from a completely selfish point of view. It's obnoxious when a woman picks an abusive man and then blames all men for it. By all means please don't pick abusive men. Let them rot in isolation please.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:43 PM
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Yeah, it's really really easy to fall for the "grass is greener on the other side" mentality. Men and women's experiences are different (like, on dating apps for example) but it's not like only one side has challenges. People can be so silly...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:41 PM
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Nice! Congratulations!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:39 PM
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Words of wisdom right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:33 PM
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It's not a cureall. You still have to put your adulting pants on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:32 PM
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That's a bold take. Good on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:09 PM
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You have very strange takes. What is your thing with prostates? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:08 PM
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You don't know how a quote works.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:01 PM
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I am aware not everyone is the same. There will be exceptions. Let's put it this way, you say you don't particularly like the company of men. Do you think that is usual? I mean, do you think most men are like you? Or might you be an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:58 PM
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IDK, your description doesn't really seem to fit me, or most men I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:55 PM
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Yeah, maybe it's naive of me but I think a snappy title can be a good spark to start a conversation. I could have made the title twice as long to be clearer but I don't really like super long titles. Hopefully people put their grown up pants on long enough to read the first paragraph. But yeah, this feels like an aspect of the whole RP/BP sphere that is really underexplored. Like you said, if you say you want someone super feminine, you better know what to expect from that. lol I think if people…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:53 PM
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List examples of female temperament or personality Emotional sensitivity. Mood swings. Judgemental. Needy. People oriented And then list examples of male temperament or personality Emotionally stable. Libido like clockwork. Independent. Easy going. Thing oriented. (these lists aren't perfect I'm writing this quickly off the cuff.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:45 PM
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Responsive libido is an interesting way to phrase it. It's a good description really.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:40 PM
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Oh boy, here we go again. Find a SINGLE sentence where I said “Women want men to act like women.” in my OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:38 PM
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So, women are men. Men are women. And women want attention. Does that mean men want attention? I'm confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:35 PM
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I mean, wouldn't you enjoy it if her sex drive worked similarly to yours? Being sexy is fine and all but what if she doesn't want sex? From a convenience standpoint, it would be nice if our partner was in the mood when we are in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:33 PM
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Yeah, it's a weird situation. Theres so much discourse on the ongoing "gender war" or whatever, but so much of it is men and women talking past each other. Maybe it would be easier for men to tolerate psychological femininity if we understood our needs and our partner's needs better. And vice versa for women. Or maybe I'm just overly optimistic. It just seems like so much energy is spent on these topics with very little benefit to anyone involved. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:31 PM
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Rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:28 PM
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Find a SINGLE sentence where I said anything about confidence in my OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:27 PM
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I don’t like women taller than me I said temperament. Is height temperament? No. I don’t see how understanding or love would be masculine though My theory is, the more masculine a woman is, the more likely she is to undestand men. And the more feminine a man is, the more likely he is to undestand women. Like I said, " It happens because a common thing that we want from our partner is to be understood. "
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:25 PM
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I as a man would give a woman everything if she would act like a woman and let me be in my masculine. If she doesn't let you be in your masculine, that sort of means she's putting feminine expectations on you. In other words, that's what I'm saying in my OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:22 PM
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Sometimes there's beauty in overcoming a challenge.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:20 PM
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Likewise we wouldn’t say men having face wash routines or jewelry is manly Bro. lol it only grew me as a human being. Maybe having an understanding of both feminine and masculine can help you grow. But that doesn't discredit my proposition in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:20 PM
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You might be right.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:17 PM
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Yeah, but they don't like a lot of typically masculine behaviors. A lot of the masculine behaviors of the average dude they don't like. So like I said, more feminine than average,
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:17 PM
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I feel like I still have interest, but very few people interest me. I'm not interested in short term relationships anymore so if I'm picking someone they have to have long term potential and most people just don't seem compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:48 AM
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Therapists aren't just a tool to avoid inconvenient truths. lol It's such a lazy answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:27 AM
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I don't think Reddit posts are a trustworthy source of anything other than edgy shitposting. It's entertainment, but it's mostly nonsense trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:09 AM
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How do you know you are not biased? If you say like "Other people are fake, but I'm the real deal!" Well, if everyone says the same thing, and we believe everyone, then everyone is real and no one is fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:06 AM
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I think in general it's good. Like, it's sad when good people can't find each other. But bad relationships are extremely destructrive. A lot of relationships straight up make society worse. If a woman is going to choose between being single, and being with an abusive alcoholic, I would prefer she stay single. Particularly because there's a pattern of women (and men) choosing abusive partner after abusive partner. If every time you choose a partner it ruins your life and the lives of people aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:03 AM
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This is clearly her affected by patriarchy. Noble savage fallacy again. "Without patriatchy I'd be a better person!" You don't know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 09:54 AM
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Isn't the romance novel industry basically founded on "bad boy" types? Judging by women's self-avowed fantasies it seems the ultimate man is somewhat of an asshole but "she can fix him". I mean, how many romance novels are about guys who are goody two-shoes who are never mean to anyone? If Hot and nice > hot and mean, why so many stories about hot and mean? We could argue fantasy and real life dating is not the same, sure, but if we see similar men being picked between fantasy and dating can you…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 09:43 AM
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Who's to say you're not a performer? Why would I trust you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:07 AM
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Oh great, a shitposting subreddit. The authority on the human psyche. Reddit edgelords will teach us about psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:53 AM
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Okay creeper.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:13 AM
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Too many people make one bad experience their whole personality, even when its a mild experience everyone goes through, like being lied to, taken for granted, heart break, etc. Thing is a genuinely good person doesnt let a couple of commonly bad experiences stop them from being good. There are plenty of people who appreciates a good person and surrounds themselves with good people. Thing is, you have to learn from your bad experiences to understand who to share your goodness with and who to igno…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:06 AM
1

Yes, the gender war has been going on for hundreds of millions of years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:57 PM
1

Red Pill is right sometimes, but often really silly. For Blue Pill, I don't remember ever seeing an openly Blue Pill person having a good take on anything. Maybe someone can refresh my memory? Other than platitudes like "relationships are hard sometimes." That's a normal opinion and not really a "pill" opinion. At this point I doubt any Blue Pill even has good taste in music.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:54 PM
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I think to some extent, dissatisfaction can be a drive. And having drive is not a completely bad thing. If your life is in the shitter, the goal shouldn't be to just find whatever you can to numb the pain. Sure, it's useless to impotently stew in your rage all day, but maybe channel some of that energy into something productive? When things aren't going well, it's totally okay to not feel great about that. Don't let people gaslight you into thinking being treated like shit is okay and if you fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:49 PM
1

Well shit, that's pretty cool. Good luck with your legal career!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:20 PM
0

Do you collect links to every personal communication you have over the years in case some creep on reddit asks?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:13 PM
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What does one have to do with the other? I don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:11 PM
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I find it fascinating so many people getting angry when someone is actually active in the sub they are in. I don't understand what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:10 PM
1

That's pretty based. I'm surprised you're pink pilled. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:05 PM
1

I mean this more generally rather than specifically about this topic. Weirdos these days seem to think criminals have a heart of gold and stopping them from committing crimes is cruel and unusual punishment. And then you have the therapy as a replacement for prison crowd. I'm curious to what extent these attitudes permeate the legal profession nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:05 AM
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Men and women on this sub aren't all the same either so it's still a generalization, and if you've encountered these people on here you had a chance to talk to them directly. Why not keep talking to them directly? Are you hoping the same people post again so you can talk to te same people more? If they say things you find interesting you can talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:42 AM
20

So many of your posts are like meta posts about this subreddit specifically. It's getting a little weird. Is it just like posts about comments on posts about comments on posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:49 AM
1

Lack of romance is lack of romance. Loneliness in this case is euphemism. "male loneliness epidemic" sounds more polite than "male not having sex epidemic"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:22 AM
2

But with social skills being toxic is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:20 AM
0

Oh, I see. So just toxic alone is not too bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:49 PM
2

You said toxic is even worse than socially awkward. Are criminals not toxic?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:39 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:30 PM
4

Oh god. What do they teach these days, criminals shouldn't go to prison?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:29 PM
1

The feminists who are willing to discuss issues are probably not the most radical ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:27 PM
1

You see this a lot in romance novels for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:21 PM
-2

Why not accept human nature instead of fight it? We are not robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:20 PM
2

You said women like criminals. Criminals are toxic as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:19 PM
12

Because women like bad boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:17 PM
6

Ah, the noble savage theory shows it's head again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:16 PM
1

What if they break up, and then choose to go back with the abuser again? Is that a good choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:11 PM
3

That's my situation. Not a lot of decent humans around these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:09 PM
-1

I mean, people need to put their grown up pants on sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:08 PM
0

Why didn't you just NOT speed before you got in an accident? I mean, yeah, isn't that kind of reasonable? Drive properly. It's not like we all go through life with 0 understanding of good/bad decisions. Speeding can be a very very very bad idea. It's not just "Something bad happened, I had no agency whatsoever!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:07 PM
1

I don't eat cupcakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:40 PM
0

Blatant lie. Everyone bonds over problems. I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:40 PM
-1

In fact I have bonded with other dudes over making cupcakes, and I'd be willing to bet the bond I have with them is stronger than most. I think this is a different kind of bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:38 PM
1

My dad and uncles and their friends all owned land, or at least rented land they could build on, which provided a sense of ownership and tangibility to the products of their shared labour. I think this is a massive factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:36 PM
4

It is dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:33 PM
1

I don’t hold only “mainstream opinions.” I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:26 PM
1

Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:21 PM
1

Says a random woman on reddit. Ok, cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:08 PM
1

So, some biases are okay, but some are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:55 PM
1

I buy goods from people but that's about it. Going to the store, grabbing food and paying at the self-checkout doesn't "cultivate a sense of community". But I like it that way. Community is cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:49 PM
2

True.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:44 PM
1

It's probably easier to find people with somewhat aligned world views when you hold mainstream opinions though, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:44 PM
1

Yes, I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:42 PM
1

How do you know it's not biased? You checked the code?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:42 PM
1

They want to catch some of Leo's STDs
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:08 AM
1

She can hate herself and the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:07 AM
5

It's frustrating. As a man, I don't get it. I feel like it would be easy to take a "RP" approach and just say women are all crazy or something, but this happens so often there must be something more to it. And we are all human. Solving this problem would make life better for all of us. I just can't quite figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:06 AM
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I've seen it about men as well. Some guy will beat his wife and women will be like "Oh god... I hope he gets the therapy he needs."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:53 AM
1

If a woman is attracted to men and not women, isn't that a bias?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:51 AM
2

If you are too busy to read the whole thing, Thanks. I have to go to work in a few minutes. Interesting, so body count comes into this too. lol I guess by this study, if women want to avoid being cheated on they should look for a man with a low body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:40 AM
2

Yeah, paying for sex is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:27 AM
1

And some amount of luck. Good people don't just fall out of the sky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:23 AM
0

Next time she should put it in writing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:22 AM
2

A handsome tall rich man. But apparently I'm supposed to think the opposite?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:49 AM
4

Maybe instead of leaving with no explanation she should specify like "I'm leaving because I know you don't like nagging but I can't stop. If the choice is between you and nagging, I choose nagging. Bye." Then all men won't come on here and be like "omg she left for no reason!"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:47 AM
1

Thanks bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:45 AM
-2

That sounds like hell man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:44 AM
1

Yes, men tell other men that they’re attractive That's not very manly behavior. whereas men prefer Netflix and chill dates. I kind of get the feeling like men don't really want dates all that much. Maybe this is like the minimum effort "date" because they would rather not be on a date. Why date when you could be fucking instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:43 AM
1

So many of your comments are references to things I've never seen. Have you just been on here a very very long time?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:40 AM
2

But they think evil men are hot. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:37 AM
5

But men will think it’s the opposite. Men will think women like short financially unstable men? Whereas a guy will prefer somewhere private, with no food involved. Date in the bedroom? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:33 AM
0

You must have a fun dating life. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:30 AM
2

If a woman is a nag and she left, she's doing him a favor. In your second example, you are saying this woman dates bad men, then ups her standard, but her upped standard is going after "bad boys"?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:29 AM
1

Wow, that's a mind bender. Any idea why that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:18 AM
2

I'm not some kind of statistician but this is what I saw on Google: https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.html It says 16% of women married, but I don't think there's a good reason to believe 16% of women are married and more than 50% of men are married. Would that be 34%+ gay marriages? In that case it wouldn't be that relevant to hetero cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:09 AM
3

I feel like men like this should be put away for life. But for some reason that's an unpopular opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:54 PM
1

I see. I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:52 PM
1

I googled marriage statistics and what I found was 16%. Maybe that is not the right number? Where do you get "most men are married"? Edit; And chad culture wouldn't exist without the women picking them. It goes both ways. The man didn't necessarily change, but he still represents the "haves" compared to the "have nots".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:49 PM
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This reminds me of the many women who don't even oppose their own abuse. They will have an outright abusive spouse, leave them, and then be like "Oh, maybe he wasn't that bad. Maybe if he promises to get help..." and she ends up going back.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:47 PM
10

Or maybe she hates the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:45 PM
2

What about criminal liability?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:40 PM
1

Maybe an average man becomes part of the 10% when married.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:38 PM
2

And what is your take on it after being through all this? When you hear about this woman doing an attempted murder/suicide, how do you feel about the statement "She had to be in a really dark place at that time. Hopefully, she got help, and they're both safe."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:18 PM
3

I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:15 PM
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Devil's advocate here, isn't this part of chad culture? As in, if 50% of women chase the top 10% of men, these men will be drowning in opportunity to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:13 PM
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Man, I can't stand "help" culture. When the response to someone doing some horrible act is just "Oh man, I hope they get therapy." Like therapy is magic. It's not. Some people are bad apples and need to be put away.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:08 PM
0

Shit, that's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:04 PM
1

So like, heterosexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:03 PM
3

Lol. I remember seeing a sweet old couple in the waiting room at the doctor's office. A nurse passes by, and a few moments later, I hear the old man whisper to his old lady "That nurse has put on weight" lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:42 PM
2

What is internalized misogyny to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:39 PM
6

I had a work issue with my boss one time (we worked at a restaurant.) He was driving me home, and it was not a comfortable ride to say the least. We were really really not getting along. Then, I told him that right before we left the restaurant, I set the kitchen on fire, and it's probably burning right now. He freaked the fuck out, understandably. Then I told him I made it up. After that point, we became really good friends and had each other's backs. Male bonding is strange sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:38 PM
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If I did any kind of self improvement with my life, she would never congratulate me Yeah, I feel like people underestimate how toxic this kind of behavior is. One of the best things I did for my personal mental health is learn to sincerely be happy for others. It's so damn self-destructive to just hate every accomplishment that other people get.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:32 PM
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I feel like women sometimes erroneously target their competitivness at men as well expecting us to reciprocate. Like "Oh, I'm so smart, men hate me." Like bro, we are trying to get along with you not compete with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:28 PM
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You don't have to, but you do it anyway. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:19 PM
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they do not have awareness do the concept of death the way humans do I think a concept of death can cause someone to ponder and think about their death in the future, but I think there's a big difference between concept of death, and viceral fear. Neurologically speaking I really don't think our brain waits to think about higher concepts before we get scared when we are in danger. In this way we are the same as animals. Again, you are trying to suggests that animals don't mind getting killed, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:17 PM
1

Yeah, it doesn't hurt for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:00 PM
3

Abrahamic religions are weird as hell. I started doing a bit of a "deep dive" not long ago. The "protagonists" are constantly involved in things like extramarital sex, incest, rape, murder, etc. I don't get how someone forms a "holier than thou" mentality after reading a book full of smut. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:57 PM
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I think men are much more likely to be phyhsically violent. I think women sometimes underestimate this when chasing "bad boy" types. A lot of men are violent, and it's not just because they were never told that violence is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:50 PM
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not because they fear death Why wouldn't they? It seems like humans have the most developed higher level thinking for sure, but fear seems to be one of the most basic emotions, not a higher level construct. How is it logical to assume these lower level emotions happen to only evolve at the same time as higher level thinking? The whole system undervalues and under prosecutes the crime of rape, and that perpetuates it. I agree with this, but the push I see from the left (I'm not sure if you are a …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:36 PM
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I think one big complication is that you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. The idea of personal responsibility sounds harsh to a lot of ears, but its inescapable. The world can be as accomodating as possible. But if you choose to sit in your bed and rot it's all for naught. People who just sit and wait for the world around them to fix their problems will never have their problems fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:16 PM
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I profoundly disagree that rape is some kind of higher concept and therefore doesn't happen among animals. Murder is a human concept, but animals still kill each other all the time. And they don't like being killed anymore than we do. Where are you hearing this insinuation from feminists that rape started existing a few thousand years ago? Here: Conceptually, rape between animals with few exceptions, does not exist. And lastly: That’s not blaming the system I know I'm not providing an example he…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:02 PM
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Wow, can this be post of the year 2025? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:39 PM
2

Interesting... I'll have to think about that. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:24 PM
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I always interepret this as a desire for power, born through paranoia and insecurity. The idea is that if they had more power, they could have more security. They like the idea that the universe is taking care of them in some way. It is kind of child like, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:21 PM
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Yeah, gossip is an interesting one. It definitely has a dark side to it, but there's probably some evolutionary benefit to the group. While a lot of gossip is sallacious, it probably is useful to be informed of the goings on. I do tend to see this much more often in women, but I've met a few male gossips. It's kind of strange, always wanting the next juicy bit of info on other people's private lives. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:17 PM
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I think it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:13 PM
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I feel like the high neuroticism part is the silent killer of our society. So much of our current culture seems focused on avoiding hurting feelings and comforting anxiety. But anxiety can be completely in your head. I'll hear things like "women deserve to feel safe!" but highly neurotic people are scared of their own shadows. Society is being turned into a kindergarden to coddle neurotic minds while governments and corporations are turning into parents. Yeah, we should have less crime. It would…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:11 PM
0

I think Trump is rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic. Most likely something big needs to happen to improve the economy dramatically. I'm not an economist but I think it would take longer than 4 years. This might be the start of an improvement but I don't expect it to wane in the next 4 years. But we'll see. Maybe we will all be pleasantly surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:20 PM
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Maybe I should have put more emphasis on the feel part. They want to feel useful. I'm not familiar with betabux but I imagine it's something like a woman taking your money without any form appreciation in return. Being objectified as some sort of interchangable wallet on legs doesn't really do it. On the other hand a bit of appreciation goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:15 PM
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Yeah, I can just imagine someone right now who's "friendpilled" and "friendmaxing" with all these fake friendships trying to get a relationship out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:09 PM
1

He lost NNN?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:06 PM
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The bullet points don't sound like male-male friendships. It's so much about emotions and shit. We burry emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:06 PM
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Affection makes me cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:03 PM
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I don't want community. Community is cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:00 PM
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Unrelated to this, I have been thinking about the topic of friendhips and acquaintances lately. I think in some ways friendships can be pretty similar to relationships. You basically have to set standards, and meeting the right people can be challenging. I think having a good friend is undoubtably a benefit, but good friends don't just come out of thin air. And if the friendhip isn't natural I'm not sure it will really have these benefits. Should someone try to force friendships if the compatibi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:58 PM
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I think deep down one of the main drivers for men's sense of self, is the need to feel useful. It used to be that an average man could support a family on a single income (being useful) but no more. It used to be equal pay for equal work, so a man could work harder to make more money (so he could be useful) but now it's equitable pay. Now, companies have the concept of "corporate citizenship" where mega corporations are spending more and more money on basically being the citizens in our society.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:28 PM
1

Bro, you gave me your heart already.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:49 PM
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I think it's the other way around. What people are expressing is a lack of romance, and simply are calling it loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:13 PM
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I had some good discussions with other posters who didn't require handholding. I'm satisfied. If you're some kind of high-maintenance debater where I have to do half your work for you then I'll gladly just skip on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:41 AM
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Do most 5 year olds you encounter ask you to provide sources for your generalising statements? :) Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:21 AM
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But this is because this advice is bad, not because they are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:05 AM
1

I'm not going to hold your hand explaining the world to you like you are 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:04 AM
5

Maybe that's the problem. Maybe we shouldn't listen to people thinking they can give common solutiosn for all your problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:00 AM
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Everyone's situation is different. Why apply a common solution to a specific problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:54 AM
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I'm not a mind reader. I can't guess what everyone would say in every situation. But most women I know aren't toxic. They don't give crackpot advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:50 AM
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It's always a risk in posts like these. You can go to a religious subreddit and be like "Christians believe christ died on the cross." and you know someone's gonna be like "SOURCE?! I NEVER HEARD SUCH A THING!" Someone can always play the dumb card like they were born yesterday and don't know the sky is blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:43 AM
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There are plenty of intelligent, reasonable women out there. The ones who tend to try to "speak for women" tend to be the cooky crackpot ones who's advice you should ignore. Yeah, don't expect BPD crackpot women to fix your issues. But plenty of women are perfectly reasonable and will give reasonable solutions. We reject bad advice, but you shouldn't assume someone's advice will be bad just becaue they are a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:38 AM
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That's the best you have? You don't disagree with my point? I'll take that as a "w" I don't keep a list of feminists on hand in case an internet weirdo asks for it. I do remember someone who made this argument in a more general progressive sense but it is on a topic not allowed in the rules of PPD. And I've seen feminists copy the pattern. Things like "Inequity is proof of systemic sexism." This logically insinuates that in a state with no systemic sexism (like, a time pre-system) there was no i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 10:05 AM
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False. With the way I see feminists use it, both make sense (or rather, both don't make sense because feminist arguments don't make sense.)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:52 AM
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The feminist viewpoint is so different from mine that from my vantage point, switching one for the other doesn't really change much. It's rearranging the deck chairs on the titanic. It's like nitpicking with a flat earther if the world is a disk, or a plane. It's the least of their worries.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:51 AM
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The words systemic and systematic are so far removed from how I generally view society that I really don't have any personally preferred definitions for this kind of context. I'm happy to use yours. Personally, I do think rapists are "bad eggs". We can put them in prison. This is another thing I disagree with feminists about, the sort of "He's a bad boy but I bet I can change him" attitude to rape but that's a whole other tangent. Feminists who claim rape is a systemic issue are not saying that …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:14 AM
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I tried to use a more generous definition in my OP. And wanting to remain at least slightly on topic is in no way dishonest. But sure, if you want to debate over the validity of the term systemic, what is your best argument for a systemic problem from a feminist lens? I wrote an argument debunking the systemic argument but I don't want to use an uncharitable example. Hit me with your best shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:34 PM
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A feminist in this thread claimed rape started existing a few tens of thousands of years ago. It didn't exist before then. I think arguing that this society has more rape than there otherwise would be is a hard argument to buy. It would be more conclusive if we had some sort of before and after. This is where theories on how things were "naturally" come in. If we could prove noble savage theory it would prove your case but without it you have a harder claim to prove. I'm not an expert on rape st…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:10 PM
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If the position you choose to take is that feminists don't blame problems on the system, I'll take that as a win. Don't backtrack now!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:58 PM
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If you believe in the substance of noble savage theory, but just don't agree with the naming of it, I'll take that as a win. I don't care if you find the name of the theory distasteful. I didn't come up with the name. And I was trying to be generous using the term systematic. I think the definition of systemic as you describe is even more full of logical holes but that's a pretty big tangent. So, I'll take the "W". Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:56 PM
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So, you are claiming that I'm a feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:20 PM
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That is an oversimplification and you know it. Let's not be silly here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:15 PM
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Yes, I agree. It is fun though. I don't argue with ideologues very often but it can be entertaining. Once in a while you'll find someone who's reasonable which is nice. In a way, I would like to make slightly less confrontational posts here focusing on more "fun" exploration of ideas, but apparently the mods don't like that. They worry a post will turn into a circle jerk if you are not confrontational enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:06 PM
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Well, one on here did, but even for those who don't deny it, they tend to insinuate it through their arguments. I'm not saying the noble savage theory is a favorite among feminists. I'm saying many of their claims logically insinuate it, resulting in a gap in logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:22 PM
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Let's not move the goal post here. You said I was straw manning. If we are going to get pedantic, I can get pedantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:03 PM
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Thanks. I think you have a point, but I think feminism usually doesn't bring the standard of proof required for this claim. Things like "Women only care about their appearance because of partriarchy!" Arguing something like, in nature, women care about their appearance. And in society, women still care about their appearance, but despite women having always cared about their appearance, it is only patriarchy causing them to care about their appearance. It's an extraordinary claim that requires e…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:57 PM
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Here is Makuta's correction in question: Tens of thousands, anyway. Technically, rape can't exist without a concept of consent Here is my description of her claim. However, Makuta kindly argued that there wasn't rape a few thousand years ago. I got the time scale wrong, but aside from that, how are you citing this as a straw man?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:48 PM
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I would say neither. Neither systemic nor systematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:35 PM
1

That was not very convincing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:33 PM
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It is an insinuation. I'm not claiming they say "My name is Jane, and I believe in noble savage theory!!" I'm claiming that noble savage theory logically underpins feminist arguments. However, Makuta kindly argued that there wasn't rape a few thousand years ago. That's even more than insinuation. That's pretty direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:31 PM
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But laying accusations of perpetuation, continuation, and failure at the systems that have been ameliorating the situation is then a bit strange, isn't it? Since the system is decreasing rape, one would think the system is against rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:09 PM
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user/Makuta_Servaela/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:05 PM
0

Brevity is the soul of wit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:01 PM
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The culture and legal system you say are continuing rape, are the very same ones you say are decreasing rape. You are attributing the non 0 rate of rape as a perpetuation, continuation, and failure as if there was one a state of 0 rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:53 PM
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Occam's razor.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:10 PM
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Bloviating aside, you are describing the system decreasing the amount of rape over time, hence it is not caused by the system.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:06 PM
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You are saying that young women will go for an older rich man (OP says early 20's is peak, so let's say 40 years old.) You think 40 year old women wouldn't also want that money?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:01 PM
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Because her cub was killed, and she's being raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:56 PM
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Do you think a lionness feels traumatized by the lion who mates with her after killing her cub? Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:41 PM
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I claimed he is used for money. This is not a disagreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:32 PM
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Interesting choice. You choose to double down on the idea that there used to be a (geologically) recent time where there was no rape. To argue against my stating that feminist theory depends on the idea that there as once a time where there was no rape. It's a bold move I'll give you that. I rest my case I guess. I mean, you are making the kind of argument I claim feminists make.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:29 PM
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I found a feminist making a noble savage claim: Makuta_Servaela Now go bother her if you have a problem with her argument. If you don't have an interest in diagreeing with my claims we don't have anything to debate about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:18 PM
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Tens of thousands, anyway. Technically, rape can't exist without a concept of consent I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one. I think rape is rape regardless of philosophy of the individuals involved. The legal part of The system is when he is let off the hook for the rape because the judge doesn't want to "ruin a young boy's future all because of one mistake" As far as we know, humans have always lived in groups. As such, judgement of each other's behavior has always been a thing. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:02 PM
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I did. And you didn't even disagree with it. You just beat around the bush. If you're not going to disagree with me I'm not sure what we are debating about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:55 PM
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I'm not going to hold your hand. If you think no feminist has ever claimed rape was systemic that's on you. I'll be happy to agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:54 PM
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In my post I explained that their arguments depend on noble savage theory even if they don't claim noble savage theory directly. Here is maybe what you are missing: I think feminism has logical flaws. I'm not claiming feminism is logically sound. So one logical claim by a feminist doesn't necessarily mean they have a thoroughly thought out logical argument. But inspecting the logic of a statement can insinuate logical dependencies. A claim can depend on noble savage theory without directly menti…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:52 PM
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This is what I mean though, the idea that it's all because of "the partriarchy they have established" This insinuates there was a noble savage society before partiarchy. But I do agree with you that ultimately, the underlying drive behind feminism is a clash between feminine morality and masculine morality. And good point, most men probably wouldn't be against mass immigration of attractive young women. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:48 PM
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Opening posts are made by a singular individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:46 PM
1

False.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:45 PM
-1

So, let me get this straight. Your position, which you are getting so worked up about, is that no feminist has ever claimed that rape is a systematic problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:45 PM
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By your standard, all opening arguments are straw men because the OP initiated the discussion. This is cheap. Do you even disagree with my point? If you agree with me I'll take the W. No need to beat around the bush.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:43 PM
1

I don't think fame makes someone's opinions more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:41 PM
-1

Incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:32 PM
-4

I'm not aiming to put someone on blast. This isn't a flame war.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:31 PM
-1

Incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:26 PM
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It's a tall order for someone to raise up their hand and claim to believe this right here right now. I debunked it pretty thoroughly. Proponents of this theory hiding in shame is not evidence that they are right and I'm wrong. We can play clown and say feminists never label rape a systematic problem but that just makes fools out of both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:25 PM
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No, it's not. If you don't read my writing there's no point on conversing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:23 PM
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Feminism does not insinuate that. Sorry I just noticed I phrased that incorrectly. I had in mind a recent conversation with a feminist here essentially claiming that misogyny started with christianity (hence the few thousand years ago mention). What I mean is the blanket ideas that bad things exist in 2025 singularly because we inherited an evil culture from a few thousand years ago. Again, this is noble savage theory. That if you went beyond a few thousand years you would find a society of nobl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:20 PM
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If you agree with me that noble savage theory is false, and most of the feminist gripes are not in fact systematic (because such a claim depends on noble savage theory), then I will take that as a win.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:14 PM
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My argument doesn't depend on this being the case. See "Even if you can probably get a feminist to agree the past wasn't literally free of rape, their arguments still use the logic of noble savage theory."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:12 PM
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Yeah, I get what you mean. I have that same issue with money. I'm making decent money now but I'm like afraid to spend any of it. I remember the bad times too vividly. But still, maybe you can heal a bit by not being so hard on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:31 PM
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Men peak when their career peaks. Society objectifies women for their beauty, while men are objectified for their money. The ideal woman is seen as a walking work of art. The ideal man is seen as a walking wallet. I think most men peak in their careers way past their early 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:29 PM
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I think there's a natural part of having a sex drive that makes us crave more. It doesn't necessarily go away but you don't have to let it wreck your mental state. When I'm really hungry, sometimes I feel like I could eat a million hamburgers. I know I couldn't. I don't get in a tizzy because I don't have a million hamburgers. I get it then becomes frustrating if you don't even have a single hamburger, but this feeling is just hormones and shit bro. Don't make such a big deal out of it. After al…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:36 AM
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This sounds oddly specific. Like you are describing a very specific woman you know. And we have to debate about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:14 AM
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I think you are missing a factor in your calculation. I think it's not so much that it's okay for the bar to be lower if the person is attractive, rather it's that being crazy is attractive. Being a villain is attractive. So it's not so much "Oh, he's hot. But he's a villain. Well, I guess i'll turn a blind eye because he's hot." but rather "Oh, he's a villain, that's so hot!" They would be less attractive if they were well behaved.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:20 AM
1

I think confidence and smarts mean different things to men and women. To a man, being confident is like saying "You know what? I can go to the gym, eat better, and lose some weight. I know I can do it!" Whereas to a woman confidence tends to be like "You know what? I don't need to do anything. I'm already better than they deserve so I'll put 0 effort!" Smarts for a man is like "I started a business with $10,000, and ten years later it sold for 10 million." Smarts for women is like "I read some p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:16 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 10:45 PM
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We are all humans. Who cares what genitals they like? The ideas are either good, or not good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:51 PM
1

I guess in your case you were barely holding on. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:23 PM
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I wouldn't give a fuck. I think this sort of behavior is better than "typical" female online behavior. It would almost be a relief compared to the degeneracy a lot of women get up to. Edit: Wow, I wrote this before checking the other comments. I'm surprised how thin-skinned people are. Think, you like this person enough to stay married for 10 years. And Reddit is basically a glorified edgelord shitpost site, and you find that she shitposted. Instant divorce? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 10:53 PM
1

Women be busy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:31 PM
1

You think being a misogynist is not a bad thing? Interesting position. I don't think the rules mention calling someone a misandrist. It's probably less common.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:26 PM
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Comments That Will Be Removed Name-calling. If you can't counter someone's argument without calling names, find another place to argue. No hearsay. You can't call someone a misogynist unless you cite a quote where he calls himself a misogynist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:33 AM
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Nice, yeah. I think some people underestimate how beneficial a great manager is. If they manage the team to increase efficiency, respect time off, and avocate for you to get raises, you end up working less and making more money. Who the hell wouldn't want that? lol I feel like I didn't really have any good teachers unfortunately. I had nice teachers but none that motivated me to learn or were particularly good at teaching me stuff. But yeah, in a way I feel like it's a bit cheap to be like "Hey,…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:37 AM
1

Men might start to dislike random unsolicited nudes if they were getting any.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:54 AM
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There's like a million subreddits out there that are moderated the way you like. The way you are describing. Instead you go where your behavior is not welcome and against the rules. Are you looking for conflict on purpose? Why not leave people alone. You chose to come here and you knew what you would find. Save us the crocodile tears.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:48 AM
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It's against the rules to accuse of misogyny. I guess it's a worn out insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:45 AM
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Not giving a shit is indiference, not hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:41 AM
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Man, this is like a word salad of shitposts and hot takes put in a blender. It sounds like you are fatigued from following internet drama more than anything else. With a statement like "when the gender wars were occurring online". I don't know what time frame you mean by this butI was probably busy IRL when this was happening. Never mind touching pussy, you need to touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:37 AM
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My complication is that I'm an introvert, so for one I don't want to live in a giant house with many people, and I don't want to go to daily events or third spaces. You might say "just force yourself to go to these places." But ideally, I'd like a partner who is also an introvert. If I meet a potential partner at one of these places, they will be the kind of person who likes daily events and third spaces and so on. It's the same with bars and such. I don't drink. I don't like to be around drunks…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:56 PM
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Awesome. Sounds like you have a lot of great people in your life! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:49 PM
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Among other things. I mean, it's pretty normal. My favorite musician is good at playing guitar. My favorite athlete is good at basketball.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:28 PM
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Your question is "Of the favorite woman in hypothetical y man’s life?" I don't know how to answer this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:15 PM
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Shit, I forgot that time when men collectively shamed a dude on twitter. My bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:07 PM
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Your favorite actor is probably good at their job. It's nothing to be ashamed of. I didn't say anyone had to follow me. Do you have an inferiority complex or something? the favorite woman in hypothetical y man's life? It wasn't a hypothetical.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:05 PM
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You say men treat their homies better than their women. Do you buy them gifts or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 10:45 PM
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I think you're not totally wrong, but I think men can survive a surprising amount of harship as long as they have a place in society. So many problems are amplified by being broke. Money definitely doesn't solve everything, but if I had to choose between being broke in therapy, or having a career that allows me to support my family and taking my problems to the grave, I'll choose the latter every time. Men don't necessarily want to be comfortable. They want to be useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 10:06 PM
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Bro, you give your homies flowers?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:27 PM
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When people talk like this, it sounds so tonedeaf. I've hever seen a guy who thinks of women as competition. Guys compete among each other. Yes, some guys are assholes, but guys who are assholes are assholes to other guys as well. This is like reverse "pick me". Like "I'm so strong and independent, I'm sure I live rent free in their heads!" but no, we probably didn't notice your existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 10:17 AM
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Would this in turn cause women to abort more, if they have a reasonable expectation that the man will financially abort? Man, our society is so messed up. An abortion feedback loop. Exactly what we need. /s lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 10:02 AM
0

Let me ask my cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:56 AM
1

My diet is like 90% meat and my bio is empty. However, I do have long hair. Is that a sign of anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:49 AM
1

Oh hell no.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 12:59 AM
1

Is there a minimum time a man has to stay on a date before he can get out of there? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 12:47 AM
1

Maybe you have a good reason. Maybe they bring up some weird whacky shit they never mentioned before.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 12:42 AM
1

So, before you go on a date with them, you should get to know them. Like, maybe go out somewhere together so you can talk and get to know them... You would do this before you go on a date, which is going out somewhere together to talk and get to know them...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 11:44 PM
1

What if you find out early on you don't want a conversation with this person?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 11:17 PM
1

My bad. I thought you knew what you were talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:40 PM
2

You were talking about it. I assume you know what you're talking about, do you not?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:35 PM
3

Why would being a virgin make you hate women? Are all babies born hating women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:26 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:17 PM
2

Why would someone hate women? I never hear the justification.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:14 PM
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I mean, when I imagine the kind of women I see online, sure, I wouldn't want to be around most of them. I don't know why, it's like being on social media or something brings the worst out of women. But IRL, I can hang out with men or women just fine. It doesn't make a big difference to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:42 PM
2

I don't think your response matches what I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:38 PM
1

These are extremely vague. abstract, and subjective examples. Compare a person being shot, to a person "not having access to a resource". Like what, your favorite game server is down for maintenance so you don't have access? The game company harmed you? Bro, come on. This is another example of objective vs subjective. Straight facts vs wishy washy. "I feel, maybe I should have had a better education. I was harmed!" I mean, ok. I get that you feel this way. I proposed that women tend to feel this…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:37 PM
1

As opposed to you, who I assume is out of the closet?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:27 PM
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Thousands of years old is not that old. And it wasn't everywhere. And it wasn't practiced the same everywhere it was practiced. A given christian practice might only have been around a few hundred years before it changed. In contrast, sexual dynamics have existed for hundreds of millions of years. And many of the behaviors human man and women express today, are abundantly common in animals. So on one hand, you have hundreds of millions of years, and current examples in billions of specimens. Ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:26 PM
1

I never thought it was a good idea that emotional state dictates how important a crime is. If a psycho kills you with a smile on his face, does the smile make anything better? I think it's hogwash.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:09 PM
1

That's intent, not emotional state.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:08 PM
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I think maybe the more important distiction is that men tend to value what is objective and women tend to value what is subjective. If someone gets shot, you can objectively see the effect. In a way it is a shared experience that doesn't change depending on how you feel about it. The person got shot. It's objectively true. However, if someone feels upset, you have to take their word for it. You can't verify it. And someone can easily lie about it. We don't value this subjective stuff as much bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:21 AM
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I think all this "x are systematically socialized into doing y" is tinfoil conspiracy nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:13 AM
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The proposed harm is emotional and not factual. Hence emotion vs facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:11 AM
2

Your wife dying is not an excuse to kill someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:08 AM
2

It works 100% of the time, 60% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 10:00 AM
1

I'm not like the other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:44 AM
1

And afterwards I'll like sports?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:41 AM
1

Ok bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:32 AM
0

And women are bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:34 PM
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Not everyone is the same. You will never have 100% of men thinking one way or 100% of men thinking another way. You are one step removed from just saying "All men think X". You are just saying "Men who think X, think X. Now let's debate" What is there to debate? If you make a topic like "Some men like feet and I can prove it!" there isn't much to debate about. You found some men who think a certain way. What is there to discuss?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:15 PM
1

Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:48 PM
1

Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:31 PM
1

Thanks for your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:37 PM
1

A recipe for disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:36 PM
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I won't tell people what to do, except have realistic expectations. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:36 PM
1

What about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:17 PM
1

You think one day I'll enjoy football?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 04:45 PM
1

lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:47 PM
2

Yeah, I have awesome friends who are men. I just don't really do very "macho" activities with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:03 PM
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See, in my mind, it's something like this: Male and female sexes are like puzzle pieces. They are separate, different, but ultimately designed, and if you will, meant to fit together. This is the core of what being male or female means. As such, a male is at peak maleness when embodying the core design of what being male is about. In a sense, peak male when not singular but part of a whole. This doesn't mean there's no other valuable thing you can do in life, but nothing is more male than connec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:59 PM
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I'd rather suck a guy's dick than watch the superbowl with him. Is that homophobic of me? Is watching the superbowl with your bros gayer than sucking a dick? Maybe? I don't know the answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:51 PM
1

Right. I get that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:07 PM
0

Rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:06 PM
1

Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:40 AM
1

Yeah, maybe because I'm an introvert, I don't really relax by being with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:31 AM
0

Accountability for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:30 AM
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This goes in reverse as well. Many women seem to think just because they have a pussy and low standards it makes them special.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:30 AM
0

I didn't say I dislike being around men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:13 AM
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Maybe part of it is an introvert vs extrovert thing? As an introvert, I don't relax through socialization. Socialization always comes at a cost for me so I tend to reserve it for things like work.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:12 AM
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Ah, shit. I didn't mean to break any rules. I mean, clearly the men here don't all agree, and the women here don't all agree so to me it makes sense that we can ask each other questions but who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:06 AM
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I don't understand rocket science. That doesn't mean I'm uncomfortable with rockets existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:59 AM
1

I could see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:46 AM
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Yeah, I see what you mean. I think what I find a bit weird is sometimes the way straight men bond together almost looks like courtship. The like "Hey bro, look at my gains! Also, do you like my new haircut? Do you want to go for a ride in my new car?" I guess we could call that bromance?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:45 AM
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Most men I know aren't into this stuff either. I don't get this "Bro, you're only a dude if you like dudes bro" mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:36 AM
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You can have your male spaces. I didn't say anything about removing male spaces. I just don't get what is "macho" about getting drunk and playing grabass or whatever bros do when they are alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:30 AM
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Yeah, I get what you mean about it being weird when a woman matches your intensity. Because they tend to bring something to it that don't match your vibe. Like, for example, let's say you are talking about your favorite movie and a woman shares the same favorite movie, so you start talking about it. And she says something like "my favorite part is all the outfits. I loved seeing all the different dresses the characters wore." and my mind is just like "wtf I watched the movie 100 times and never …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:20 AM
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I'm not sure I'd call it woke. There were some elements in common with modern woke culture but woke to me is a lot more americanized and "terminally online". I think a better definition would be a feminist upbringing. I'm an early 90's kid. We didn't have terminally online woke activists back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:06 AM
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I'm not disagreeing with the point, I'm disagreeing with the behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:59 AM
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You can ask a person a question. That's how humans work. You were going to write a post anyway. You'd get better information just asking me but choose to dig through years worth of posts for no reason. Yes, it's creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:56 AM
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Yeah, I used to be more interested in this kind of stuff. I guess I changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:52 AM
1

That's a decent answer. This helps me understand better. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:47 AM
2

I stopped doing fun things a long time ago. The closest thing I'll get to doing things for fun is doing things to pass the time but I don't need anyone's help to pass time. Time passes on it's own. But back before that, when I used to do things for fun, it was mostly "geeky" type stuff like playing video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:44 AM
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I didn't say I have a problem with it. I just don't understand it. Since I don't understand it, I asked a question about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:36 AM
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I just don't see the point. For instance, I work out alone. This is convenient because I can do it on my own schedule and it's no big deal. Why would I want to watch someone else work out or need someone else to watch me work out? I get it if I'm lifting dangerously heavy weights but I keep things safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:34 AM
1

I wasn't trying to contradict you. And I don't know why you bring up friendships of the opposite gender. I'm a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:27 AM
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I'm not uncomfortable with men or maleness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:23 AM
1

Yeah, I guess I'm a bit strange maybe. I don't particularly seek competition, excitement, or entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:38 AM
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Wow, you dug that far? That's creepy dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:32 AM
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I should clarify, I am a guy. I just don't get bro culture. I'd rather have a woman cut my hair. I'd rather have a woman give me a massage, etc. I don't have this like "Oh hell yeah bro I want to spot you at the gym bro" type of drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:19 AM
0

I guess I just don't feel the need of male companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:17 AM
3

Ah, that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:57 AM
0

No, that is not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:48 AM
0

You can read your comment yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:11 AM
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It's a reply to a comment saying "Idk why you all date attention seeking women" Attention seeking comes in different forms. And I'm not throwing blame I don't know why you are getting defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:09 AM
2

I see. So it's better to be open in the beninging? In the beninging... (high-five anyone who gets the reference. lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:58 AM
0

I think sometimes a woman will do an attention seeking behavior directly at us and we only find out later that she does that to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:49 AM
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It is usually known beforehand? Do you monitor your partner's social media posts for approval?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:47 AM
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Where have the good ones gone? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:38 AM
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I've always found it silly that just because we break up, you suddenly get to pick my pockets. This idea like your partner is going to be a "sugar daddy for life" or "sugar mommy for life" even after you break up is just bizarre. I totally get a couple helping each other when they like each other. But when they don't like each other anymore and don't want to be together, why keep the support? If you can prove that you bought or owned something, fine. But if your ex owns something that only they …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:31 AM
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Why someone does a bad thing doesn't matter that much. They shouldn't do it in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:20 AM
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So, women not allowing men to be vulnerable cannot be fixed by a single woman. Therefore we have to fix men... So the fixed men will then turn around and fix the women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:17 AM
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I know this is not a funny topic, but I have a funny anecdote about this lesson. As a kid, I was very ticklish. And for some reason people would sometimes ask me about it and I noticed a pattern. If I told someone I was very ticklish, they would instantly use it against me and tickle me to uncomfortable degrees. After a while I learned to just say I'm not ticklish. Wtf is with people and using things you reveal against you? lol I know tickling isn't a major serious issue but still. That lesson a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:13 AM
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Well shit, you seem like a kind person. Seems rare these days. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:06 AM
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Yeah man, I've been bottling things up for 35 years. Hasn't stopped me from having a good career and good health. I'm sure I'll take a lot of this stuff to my grave. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:04 AM
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I find it strange how much you generalize. "Men do this" "Women do that" "Bisexuals say this".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 11:59 PM
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You seem really bitter and combative. This is an ick. Even if you have "good reasons". It's not a pleasant quality in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 11:49 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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