Why do you like "bro" spaces?

Dry-Ad3452 · 2025-01-19T02:00:02+00:00

There is always a burden of performance in regards to men when men interact with women, even in platonic instances. Sometimes men just want to socialize without that burden or expectation of being pseudo provider/protectorate. There is a certain relief we get when "hanging with the boys" that's not available likewise when hanging with women.

Zabadoodude · 2025-01-19T03:08:20+00:00

Hanging out with masculine guys has a different energy to it. Guys tend to be more intense and more competitive. We can also talk about things most women will find boring or offensive. Even if a woman matches the interests and intensity (which is rare) there's a wierd dynamic that forms as at least some of the guys will be trying to fuck her, and there's a decent chance she will be trying to flirt with someone too.

Hanging out with women can be fun too, but it's a different dynamic. Most guys get enough female interaction from their wives/girlfriends/ women they date

LapazGracie · 2025-01-19T02:04:15+00:00

Because we have to watch what we say around you guys lol.

LordShadows · 2025-01-19T11:06:58+00:00

It's relaxing.

People just hanging out for fun without stress or judgment.

People who have similar experiences with life. Who are looked at the same way and have the same expectations burden them.

Honestly, give people this, food, and shelter, and it's sufficient to have a happy life.

TheDoctor716 · 2025-01-19T02:03:26+00:00

Male friendships are based on acknowledging mutual humanity in a way that I’ve rarely seen reciprocated from women that are friends with men

A close gay friend took me to Drybar once, that was the only time I felt anything like a princess with a hair professional. I’m curious what kind of barber you have in mind, most typically stay pretty normal.

I saw someone mention “homo” which also reminds me - there is not bullshit when you tell a bro something you’re proud of. No implication you’re tryna fuck or risk thereof. You can admire a bro purely for what they accomplished etc.

Ylduts · 2025-01-19T03:41:05+00:00

Why can’t men have their own spaces? Sometimes we just want to be amongst friends. Women fought tooth and nail to destroy male safe spaces, calling them sexist, while simultaneously demanding female only spaces should exist. Hypocrites, the modern female.

Pitiful_Many3583 · 2025-01-19T13:05:34+00:00

There is a weird underlying homophobia to your words here. Your insistence on stating that this is about ‘Straight’ men doing things that in the eyes of a homophobe could be perceived as being gay.

Otherwise, why keep alluding to the fact that these guys are straight?

-Kalos · 2025-01-19T01:53:48+00:00

Most men are homosocial

AMDisappointment · 2025-01-19T12:00:48+00:00

Because it's refreshing to not have anyone be offended when you talk

Hosj_Karp · 2025-01-20T09:19:31+00:00

LMAO. Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you a male pickme.

TopShelfSnipes · 2025-01-19T06:03:31+00:00

It REALLY depends for me. "Male spaces" vary TREMENDOUSLY in the types of guys at them and how they behave.

Playing ice hockey/softball, BSing in the locker room or on the bench? Usually a good group of dudes enjoying the game, having a fun time.

Sports bettors/hardcore fans? Toxic AF (as someone who played/plays sports and considers myself an athlete, I'm a fan, but I'm not into that whole "trash talk the opposition and scream at the refs" crap). Zero fucks given about gambling.

Crypto/finance bros? Hard nope. I'll talk stock picks with people who like to invest, but that whole "hype machine" culture? Hard pass.

Hardcore gamers? I've had a few friends over the years who had other interests and tried to drag me into these spaces. Nopity nope.

The bar scene? Also REALLY depends. Most dudes are pretty cool. Some are total assholes. Generally the more competitive guys are with other guys, the stupider things get. Especially over women when guys are single. Like, you barely know her...she's gonna pick who she's interested in, and it might be nobody. She's not gonna pick a guy because he looks "dominant" against another guy. You also get the guys that are just insecure/jerks about everything at bars sometimes. "This is my spot", "I was at the bar first, why's the bartender serving you first", "you bumped me by accident and now my pride is wounded so I gotta flex," etc. kind of crap.

DIY/Hobbyists? For the most part pretty cool, but there are some real weirdos in these spaces so sometimes you gotta watch out unless you wanna get your ear talked off for 30 minutes about God knows what.

Outdoorsy types? Very mixed. I'm mostly into firearms in this space. You got some very cool people, you've got some gun snobs that try to gatekeep people, and view it as a flex to show off their "expertise" which is offputting.

just_a_place · 2025-01-19T18:34:11+00:00

Because we can be ourselves. The bros understand. They just get it.

It's our natural instinct to form friendships, network, and to test ourselves against the strengths of other men and to learn and grow with the help and shared wisdom of the bros. Male bonding involves forming loyalties and friendships, covering each other's backs because we all understand that we need friends in such a fucking hostile and fucked up world.

"Like, the kind of guy who really likes going to the barber and having a dude treat you like a princess"

It's snide and manipulative shit like that which is the treason we don't fucking like women, or effeminate/dramatic men, in our "Bro" groups. We feel that we can breathe cleaner air when that drama mongering shit isn't in our environment.

TheNattyJew · 2025-01-20T00:35:44+00:00

Women sit around and talk. That's not how men socialize. We do things together, build things together, get shit done. That is socializing to us

Certified_Dripper · 2025-01-19T03:01:17+00:00

Bc girls can’t hang like that. I’ll just speak for me but in my experience but my friend group is pretty mixed with guys and girls, but there is a guy only group chat and the guys do get together without the women and just be guys and honestly it’s like fight club, only less schizo. Like we’re real fucking mean to each other like we roast each other and banter, and make fun of each others biggest L’s. Like if you don’t know how to cut ass you’re gonna have a bad time, but if you do then it’s just fun. Like if you ugly, we gonna call you ugly and you need to know how to say shit back bc we all got bs you can make fun of us on. And we carry that energy everywhere. Like we could be playing soccer, we could be at the gym, we could be playing video games, we could be chilling at someone’s house, it don’t matter. If it’s just us guys, we just start shit talking and it’s just fun. Like yeah I got better aim than you at the range, so you’re my bitch. Yes I fucked the hottest girl last year, that means I’m the CEO gopher in this shit. That’s just how it works.

Then there’s the dumb ass conversations too, like we deadass talked about Batman for like a few hours 1 time. I’ve yet to meet a girl who is down to just talk about Batman or who would win between a tiger vs a gorilla or whatever else.
It’s just a good time.

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2025-01-19T01:46:51+00:00

I've never really had a group of boys to do this kind of stuff with, but I can't deny that at least some of it sounds like fun. I sort of do it with my literal brother when I visit him, but that isn't too often.

Friedrich_Friedson · 2025-01-19T06:08:32+00:00

Straight guys who are really keen on seeing athletic men performing or like bragging about hunting or trying to impress each other with cars or something. I'm probably not explaining it right because I don't get it.

That's...not a thing lol,the majority of men don't do any of those,(except watching football. And even then ,not because of "watching men perform",but because they either like the sport or deep sentimental connection with a team)

Like, the kind of guy who really likes going to the barber and having a dude treat you like a princess on a throne while you have your bro talk with the boys.

More likely to have bro talk with your barber than random people at the barbershop lol

This sort of like Joe Rogan, Ju Jitsu, sportsball, having a couple beer with the boys, slap ass culture I just don't get.

You are mixing completely unrelated things here. Most people,men and women,go out for beers with friends,most also know jack shit about Brazilian jiu-jitsu and don't slap asses lol

James_M_Croft · 2025-01-20T18:51:11+00:00

WDYM, men liking "bro spaces"?

Men just dislike the performative nature that happens when a woman is around. It is just a job.

So they like being away from it, be it by being alone or just with male friends.

People like being themselves and not have to work all the time here and there you know?

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-01-19T13:26:06+00:00

Because hanging out with men is normal. Maleness and masculinity also rub off on you. I remember guys in elementary and middle school who hung out and played only with girls and their dolls. I’m guessing they are gay now. Contrary to popular belief, pussy juice isn’t going to solve all your problems.

giveuporfindaway · 2025-01-19T02:49:08+00:00

You're observing the environment but not seeing what men like. Fairness and respect can only exist in all male spaces. A space that is intermixed with men and women instantly changes because the dynamic becomes all about putting down other men to impress the minority of women. In an all male space, you need to stand on your words. This forces the world to behave in a more respectful way because every action does have a consequence. It's a space where gravity can actually be felt in a visceral way. We don't let shit slide. If you step out you will be confronted in an obvious, quick and direct way. You will have no doubt about anyones intentions. In short it's an environment that generates the most extreme form of truth. Of course truth isn't something that women care about. It's actually something they disdain. Women will always trade comfort for truth because they see no value in experiencing truth for the sake of truth.

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Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-01-19T02:41:39+00:00

I grew up watching sports with my dad. So I also liked watching and talking sports with guy friends. I started working out with my bros in colleges, so it was a spirit of camaraderie with working out.

I dunno I just guess I’m basic and I like “bro” things and that makes it easy to fund and relate to other guys. So it makes using those “common hobbies” as an easy in and then your chilling and talking and you make a new friend.

nnuunn · 2025-01-19T06:33:21+00:00

Because I like spending time with other guys where I can just be myself, and I don't have to have a social filter or manage a sexual dynamic with women.

Podlubnyi · 2025-01-19T10:01:35+00:00

Men need space away from women's drama. Women change the dynamic of any group, they just do. Guys start competing for their attention. And you can't speak as freely, knowing that anything you say will probably be repeated to everyone they know.

There is also the fact that guys hang out to do stuff women generally don't like, like drinking beer, playing video games and watching sports.

RealityCold4693 · 2025-01-19T11:53:11+00:00

What they mean don’t really be trying to impress each other. We doing the thing called just talking shit.

No-Rough-7390 · 2025-01-19T14:14:42+00:00

This is copied from a post I made elsewhere, but it has to do with the camaraderie and push for excellence that can happen. This applies to both when trying to reach a goal and trying to get your shit together.

I’ve gone through a few bouts of really fucked up shit. Some self inflicted, some out of the blue. Every single time I went to my closest friends and leaned on them in the same way I had been for them several times before. Some tears, a lot of ball busting, looking the truth of the situations in the face, and getting the fuck on. They would call/text/check in regularly without fail during this time.

For all this “men cast out other men who are emotional” bullshit, it’s typically women who don’t get that we are simply different than them. If you get through the initial stages of fucking around with some guys, there’s no telling how far they can end up going to support you and you for them. They’ve also been my biggest hype men when I’ve achieved my new goals in life.

kvakerok_v2 · 2025-01-19T17:26:12+00:00

Women = extra stress. Always. if you think you're an exception, you lack self-awareness.

When we want a stress and headache-free environment, we hang out with the boys.

awakening_7600 · 2025-01-19T18:43:24+00:00

It's nice to be friends with a couple of bros, straight up roast each other, tell offensive jokes, and laugh about it without some broad nearby acting like she just witnessed a murder.

Hefty-Lobster-5513 · 2025-01-19T19:29:33+00:00

Sportsball?

lonely-flower37 · 2025-01-20T05:49:32+00:00

I think this happens because by 25 most men have already given up on their dreams.

They are adults now and they aren't pro athletes, they don't make a lot of money, instead they work a boring job for some boss they hate.

They have all the responsibilities of being an adult but the social status of a child.

And the only thing that's left that makes them feel like they are doing anything with their lives is hanging out with the bros. (Bros = fellow young men who aren't doing anything with their lives)

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2025-01-22T17:57:39+00:00

Same reason women like going to the bathroom together.

burneraccountguydude · 2025-01-26T06:20:53+00:00

Uhhh yeah people like hanging out with their friends. Not really sure what your getting at

Guilty-Marzipan1058 · 2025-02-04T03:39:40+00:00

Are we just gonna act like women don’t have their own spaces? They literally go to gay bars to avoid straight men, so much so they annoy said gays

DiligentRope · 2025-01-19T02:45:51+00:00

I see no point in hanging out with women unless it's to fuck. Women aren't entertaining, funny, nor do they contribute anything beneficial to conversations.

There's a reason why women always come to mens spaces and not vice versa, and when enough of them do they ruin the space.

AssPlay69420 · 2025-01-19T04:55:08+00:00

I don’t, personally.

I just feel like anything that’s preemptively exclusionary is morally wrong.

Why can’t a woman hang out with you?

(Or a man, in the opposite scenario.)

MrNotSoFunFact · 2025-01-19T09:54:31+00:00

Edit: I just noticed a bit too late that several people assumed I'm a woman. Bros, just because I don't do Ju Jitsu or whatever doesn't mean I'm a woman. lmao.

I think there is some rule that prevents you from flairing a question as being for your own sex, idk why it works like that

berichorbeburied · 2025-01-19T02:33:17+00:00

I only personally like being around women I’m sexually attracted to

Personally

Then it’s people who love me

Then it’s men

The advantage/benefit men have is competition. Forcing one to rise above whatever challenge/confrontation is around. Toxicity. Loud/energetic/violence/excitement/action.

Most things that people think are fun are actually male dominated or involve heavy male participation

Me personally I just like being around sexually attractive women like I previously stated

But I understand why gang culture is big. Or brotherhoods. Or things like sports or action movies. Or fights or etc

Maybe it’s me embracing toxic masculinity that’s helping me understand

But if you are hanging around a woman you are not sexually attracted to

Idrk what you are going to do?

Talk?

Title	Why do you like "bro" spaces?
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Date	January 19, 2025 1:41 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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