BottedeNevers Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
17	Confidence vs Neediness	Discussion	BottedeNevers	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/22 11:00 PM

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1	Red Pill is nothing more than learned helplessness We women enter the world with this necessity of loving undefined, and if we take one man in preference to another, let us say so honestly, we yield less to the knowledge of merit than to a mechanical instinct which is nearly always blind. Women do not love men for their own merit. Attraction is closer to an taste or appetite, much like they might have a taste for Strawberry rather than Raspberry Ice cream. Now Strawberry Ice cream might think its was chosen because "Its the best most honest glut…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 07:12 PM
2	Who’s really the bad guy here? I remember that post and it was the worse bad faith post that I ever saw that twisted Starslatecodex argument: Literally 8 lines down he shows how entitled he is. Again i'm not shaming him i'm just pointing it out. Entitlement - belief that one is deserving of or entitled to certain privileges "I'm nicer than Henry hence I should be getting more pussy than him." No! That is not the thrust of the argument. The argument was that all things considered a literally wife beater should not by any metri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/22 12:09 AM
2	White Lotus S2 Illustrates Difference Between NiceGuys and nice guys Well that's the thing Women who go for unsuitable men are not typically young/damaged/lacking self esteem. They come in all ages and temperaments. I have seen women are successful in other areas of life still make these bizarre choices. You would think that age would make a difference but it doesn't. As I said it's a significant minority of women. You can get really unlucky as a man if you are attracted only to these women. I don't make the argument that you should give them a chance. I make the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 09:54 PM
1	What redpill “truth” do you think gives men the most rage? You missed out the Big one. The Gold Standard Bullet Point to which all others are secondary. Attraction is closer to an 'appetite' than anything else. It says nothing absolutely nothing about the actual quality moral qualities of the person you are attracted to or the qualities you have that are attractive to them. This has to be hammered home and drilled in since the first day, and you have to accept it both ways. Her attraction to you has nothing to do with your inherent qualities,anymore tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 08:09 PM
1	White Lotus S2 Illustrates Difference Between NiceGuys and nice guys One can't make pizza and it's because deep down he just feels entitled to a job at a pizza place regardless of his skills and will become violent or aggressive if refused. The other is a guy who genuinely likes pizza and maybe has some nice personality traits, but also doesn't know how to make pizza. Meanwhile a trained pizzaoilo comes in and gets the job. You ask him for his references and certificatesbut he does not provide them. He can however make pizza. However he is drunk, unsanitary, and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 07:48 PM
1	Who’s really the bad guy here? Re-read, its at the crux of the whole issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 06:55 PM
6	Has male cognitive dissonance towards women, completely taken over this sub? When I was 18, I had my first boyfriend, and he was a complete asshole/idiot who progressively treated me worse; he wasn't particularly attractive either. He was normal and nice at first, but I couldn't see the red flags because I didn't know many men or had been on many dates I feel for you, because there are definitely these kind of manipulative men around. However they nearly always give themselves away when you observe how they treat others. That's why romantic meals are good litmus tests: M…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 01:53 PM
14	Has male cognitive dissonance towards women, completely taken over this sub? This is the closest to the correct appraisal of conflict 1. There is a significant minority of women who for whatever reason are attracted to men who are character wise borderline reptiles, but because they pass some arbitrary attractiveness characteristic get a pass in the sphere of romance. Men have over the past 10 years have been told that "niceness is a baseline human characteristic and that it doesn't entitle you to sex", and time and again see men who fly well under the bar for inclusion …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/22 06:05 PM
1	Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman. But for men a lack of kindness in a woman generally a repellent quality, that often overweight attractive qualities, Being Kind may or may not make you attractive in men eyes, but being Unkind is definitely a dealbreaker. Are you suggesting that Unkindness has no effect on a man's attractiveness to women? Unkindness is not merely the lack of kindness, Its an active quality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/22 09:47 PM
1	Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman. Being nice doesn’t mean people will want to have sex with you and sex is not a reward for being nice. Wow. You are being particularly obtuse and moving the goalposts: I'll repeat its so that you engage with the main thrust of the argument in case you still had not grasped its salient points There seems to be some confusion about this, so let me explain what it means, to everyone, FOR ALL TIME. It does NOT mean “I am nice in some important cosmic sense, therefore I am entitled to sex with whomeve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/22 08:16 PM
1	Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman. But you still don't explain why that significant minority don't reject them outright. To Reiterate There seems to be some confusion about this, so let me explain what it means, to everyone, FOR ALL TIME.It does NOT mean “I am nice in some important cosmic sense, therefore I am entitled to sex with whomever I want.”It means: “I am a nicer guy than Henry." It means that BY ANY METRIC the Henrys of this world should have zero partners, because their flaws are so manifest. But instead many of them h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/22 08:40 PM
1	Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman. The lived experience of men is slightly different. Every man has a tale of a guy who is manifestly bad news who not only manages to attract women but attracts multiple women who are aware of his history. In internet parlance he even has a name : Henry, after the serial wife beater of Slatestarcodex's seminal article: https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ – I had a patient, let’s call him ‘Henry’ for reasons that are to become clear, who came to hospital after bein…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/22 05:50 PM
3	Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman. We are not saying that you should not be physically attracted to the person. We are saying that is if that person lacks 'baseline human kindness' they should not be considered for sex let alone a relationship irrespective of how physically attractive, confident or well put together they are. Kind person who is physically attractive? = go for it girl! Kind person you don't find attractive? = No. Unkind person who is attractive? = NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! I cannot express enough the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/22 11:40 PM
20	Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman. You are utterly missing the point in your question. Its not about screening in good men. Its about screening out bad men. One of the most bitter sweet moments of being a man is when one loses out in the affections of a woman because your rival is a kind and honorable man: even though you may have lost out on the girl of your dreams, you know that there's some hope in the world and that all is right. You move on and you are happy for them. This for man is a rarity, and was the one thing stopped m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/22 06:25 AM
2	Red Pill is nothing more than learned helplessness Aheeerm... I am going to attempt to break this down. Be prepared, its long. There will be no TLDR. Ninons letter covers multiple concepts and if you can't follow along, sorry, but 17th century letters about the inner workings of a woman's bya woman are longwinded "Worth and Merit Are Not Considered in Love No, Marquis, the curiosity of Madame de Sévigné has not offended me. On the contrary, I am very glad that she wished to see the letters you receive from me. Without doubt, she thought that i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/22 11:39 PM
-1	Romantically unsuccessful have a natural incentive to give the impression of being evil and violent since it is almost unanimously agreed that evil and violent men are very attractive to women No. You are overshooting this. "Worth and Merit Are Not Considered in Love No, Marquis, the curiosity of Madame de Sévigné has not offended me. On the contrary, I am very glad that she wished to see the letters you receive from me. Without doubt, she thought that if it were a question of gallantry, it could only be to my profit; she now knows the contrary. She will also know that I am not so frivolous as she imagined, and I believe her just enough to form hereafter another idea of Ninon than the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/22 11:00 PM
30	How do some guys get laid or dates without having to make much effort or doing anything special? True. Its the appearance of confidence. As Rory Miller the seminal self defence expert author says, human beings have the ingrained fault of believing that intensity=truth. Its the reason why scam artists, religious figures, politicians can beguile the average person over the ages And its the reason why a bad boys, despite perhaps being a penniless fuckwit who breaks rules because he has little no no self respect can still get a woman. If he makes her feel intense feelings then she will believe …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/22 06:29 PM
1	Women often like guys who treat them as disposable Its the whole Henry problem in a nutshell https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ Right down to the exasperated comment: Scott F says:September 1, 2014 at 1:27 pm ~new~I hear this “not being a jerk is the minimum expectation of normal people” and “congratulations you just barely passed the bar for inclusion into the human race, good job” refrain quite a lot, and I always wonder…… Henry clearly fails at meeting the minimum expectations of a normal person and sails well…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/22 07:08 PM
3	What are the differences between a 'friendship personality' and a 'sexually/romantically attractive personality'? Because of one particular reason: Social Proof. By and large men don't react negatively to a women that has been rejected by another man. If he digs her in any way, then the other man is clearly an idiot, unless she is crazy, or particularly promiscuous, in which case the word goes around, as unfair as that is. There is also a brand new tendency of men to red flag each other of women who have previously dated assholes or bad boys. But that's another story. But women...If you have been rejected b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/22 01:14 PM
5	A large percentage of women are undeniably drawn to assholes and men who exhibit toxic, abusive behavior, but lie and say they just want a guy who will treat them right having to copy and paste again..sigh - Why don’t women like toxic men? Because since the start of the internet it has not actually been definitely answered. Slate Star Codex got within spitting distance of it in 2014 with his now seminal "Radicalising the Romanceless post", giving perhaps the most thoughtful psychological salve for lonely men, but not coming to a conclusion. https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ Furthermore the exasperation in the comments section t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/22 05:54 PM
1	A lot of the posts and debates here are just stale Probably for the same reason that so many men date/marry women who don’t meet basic requirements for human decency. which is?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 07:56 PM
2	The whole “nice guy” narrative that women bitch about completely ignores the large number of men who simply react out of frustration with women less attractive than them acting stuck up and rude No The whole “nice guy” narrative that women bitch about completely ignores the large number of men who simply react out of frustration because a substantial minority of women are willing to go out with toxic men who don't meet the minimum standards of decency. The vast majority of men including 'nice guys' can take quite a few rejections. The problem starts when they notice men who should not be getting long term relationships never mind sex, getting multiple partners, asking why this is so a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 05:21 PM
1	A lot of the posts and debates here are just stale It's not representative of all women at all. The AWALT position has aways been nonsense. But the minority of women that are attracted to toxic men is substantial enough that as a man you can be really unlucky and only meet women who are in that subset leading to a confirmation bias. But the to drill down to the actual question is not why womens are attracted to Henrys's. Henry's probably have any number of attributes, confidence, money, handsomeness, charm etc.. that attracts women The real ques…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 05:05 PM
1	A lot of the posts and debates here are just stale - Why don’t women like toxic men? Because since the start of the internet it has not actually been definitely answered. Slate Star Codex got within spitting distance of it in 2014 with his now seminal "Radicalising the Romanceless post", giving perhaps the most thoughtful psychological salve for lonely men, but not coming to a conclusion. https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ Furthermore the exasperation in the comments section then was as palpable as it is now, bes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 03:01 PM
1	What are your deal breakers, also does body count matter to you? AI leaves much to be desired.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/22 10:23 AM
1	What are your deal breakers, also does body count matter to you? If shes attracted to your qualities then you are welcome to her. The very fact she is even slightly attracted to your qualities is a dealbreaker for me. NEXT	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/22 10:18 AM
1	What are your deal breakers, also does body count matter to you? The amount of men a woman sleeps with is not that much of a deal breaker: if they have all been good or upstanding men but it hasn't worked out for whatever reason with any of them then it's not dealbreaker. But if she is attracted to manifest assholes or bad boys or worse, foolish enough to have a relationship with one them - that's a definite deal breaker: Its a huge red flag that her bullshit radar is way off: https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ If she has had …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/22 08:11 PM
7	In your opinion, how does "Nice guy" stereotype affects actual good guys? Also the salient point in the comments section that is the crux of the actual question that for 20 years ever since the start of the internet never gets addressed. I can't tell how many times I've tried women to give a straight answer on this. If it would be addressed than half of the RP/Incel rage would subside: Ialdabaoth says:September 1, 2014 at 1:29 pm ~new~Henry clearly fails at meeting the minimum expectations of a normal person and sails well under the bar for inclusion into the human …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/22 11:53 AM
1	Gut check: how do we, as a community, feel about staying friends with your exes? Let them have their opinion. The important thing is that you come across as civil and affable. You have a responsibility to yourself first, and if keeping a distance is important for your mental well-being so be it. My only suggestion is that you communicate privately your needs to your ex. Express that your scarcity is not out of any sense of vindictiveness but emotional self preservation. There's no shame in this. Also state that in time of real need, strictly not related to intimate relations…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 11:53 PM
1	The biggest dating hurdle for men is accessibility, the biggest dating hurdle for women is safety. I think its important because too many times by pointing out how women could 'harden' themselves against attack by Predators you might be accused of 'victim blaming' and making excuses for predators. But Predator's, particularly Process predators are never going to be dissuaded by making society more egalitarian ,less misogynistic or making the streets safer. They will just find more inventive ways of preying on victims, either by infiltrating institutions or becoming part of the daily apparatus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 11:36 PM
1	Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyle and men cannot afford to be as picky as women so that means some men will either get with less than ideal options or end up lonely, childless virgins Independent, Child-free and possibly virgin, which in the greater scheme of things is actually better option as an individual man as he ages (different for the species) than If hes stuck with a woman with kids that don't belong to him, and in a relationship he can't trust because shes poor at vetting previous men in her life. I can't emphasise how …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 11:23 PM
1	Gut check: how do we, as a community, feel about staying friends with your exes? I tend to stay in decent rapport with my exes, but I avoid staying close or frequent contact because ultimately you are just deceiving yourself and it's unfair to both of you. If the relationship failed it's because either or both of you were not happy or suited to each other but at least you have the life experience to prove it . It was just not meant to be. If a woman gave you a shot at a relationship then it engenders a certain amount of respect for her. You wish them the best and hope that t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 10:37 PM
1	The biggest dating hurdle for men is accessibility, the biggest dating hurdle for women is safety. The chance is variable for women as it is for men. All assaults are usually asocial by either Resource Predators: Muggers/Robbers who have want something you have Process Predators: Rapists, Serial Killers who want you. Both types will use a combination of Shock Aggression/Intimidation or Charm to get close to you to get what they want, with the difference being that Resource Predators will want your resources as quick as possible, with as little violence as they can get away with, while Process…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 09:56 PM
1	Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyle No they won’t. Here’s the reality most men know and accept their place in life. Most men in that situation feel fortunate to have a woman in their life at all. They would much rather wife up a single mom than be single forever. Not Bourne out in reality - stats speak for themselves. It it was true then single women would have no problem finding LTR partners. The exact opposite is true. And this post was about casual sex not relationships so I was just staying on topic. Nope that is your interpre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 08:40 PM
1	Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyle "Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyle" But the part of Chads lifestyle that average men want isn't about Casual Sex. Its about the possibility of approaching women and get a chance at a relationship without having the constantly prove his eligibility when others (such as Chad) don't have to. Chad gets a possibility to develop a LTR after casual sex without going through hoops. (and if you think LTR isn't in the back of a woman's min…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 06:57 PM
1	Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyle You’re questioning why women aren’t tripping over themselves to sleep with any random male?? NO I'm stating that irrespective of whether he is good looking or not the Initial set of hoops he should jump through regarding basic decency` should be EXACTLY THE SAME as a random guy. After that he a guy has has to accept her choice, as he can't force attraction. But Chad shouldn't get a free pass for behaviour that is well below the basic standard of human decency, something that typical Chad avoids …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 04:29 PM
2	Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyle 'Huh, we'd have given anything to get practically nothing when I were a lad,' said Albert. BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU'VE GOT, IS THAT THE IDEA? 'That's about the size of it, master. A good god line, that. Don't give 'em too much and tell 'em to be happy with it. jam tomorrow, see.' THIS IS WRONG. Death hesitated. I MEAN ... IT'S RIGHT to BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU'VE GOT. BUT YOU'VE GOT TO HAVE SOMETHING TO BE HAPPY ABOUT HAVING. THERE'S NO POINT IN BEING HAPPY ABOUT HAVING NOTHING. Albert felt a bit ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 03:30 PM
5	Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyle And that means that men cannot point out these discrepancies? Bear in mind that things become just or meritocratic in the world because of a continuous and concerted effort to hold double standards and hypocrisy to account. If women can't be held accountable for a thing this trivial - then this becomes utterly corrosive to other arguably more important areas of double standards and hypocrisy in society such as sexism, racism or universal human rights. If you want to understand why RP/Alt right h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 02:21 PM
24	Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyle So Chad shouldn't jump through the same number of hoops? If not why not? Most men want the chance to apply for a driving licence. Some women seem happy to give known hit and run drivers the keys to the Lamborghini when they enter the show room.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 01:59 PM
0	Complaints about the friendzone and about being used for sex are just as entitled as each other, either they're both entitled or none of them are. But thats not what Friendzone means. It never has.... Sigh....this is what 20 + years of crap posting does on the internet, where no critical thinking is applied. The whole 'friend zone' thing obviously was popularised by the sitcom Friends with Ross being the Mayor of the 'friendzone'. The reason it was and still called 'friend zone' is because it has a faint echo of the expression 'Twilight Zone', in that the normal rules of reality are upside down or twisted, or in the case of men, where they…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 09:12 AM
2	The "friends first" route doesn't work, women actually hate it Yeah the Strawman has been going on for too long and doesn't reflect a number of nuanced circumstances: Could be he's been fed on a diet of 'Women eventually find nice guys attractive' so learns from Media or women in his life to be as considerate and as sexually non-threatening as possible as a cherished ideal of sorts, which backfires when he is viewed as non sexual full stop. Could be he already decided he found her attractive, but wasn't sure that despite friendship, they were compatible rel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/22 11:07 PM
3	The "friends first" route doesn't work, women actually hate it "I'm lucky he was interested because fat bitches deserve to be hunted for sport." That's next tier nastiness. Holy shit! You dodged a bullet there...	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/22 10:52 PM
2	Most men don't care that they're not their girlfriend's "first choice", they're just happy to have sex and companionship Bit more specific than that. A 'Henry' almost certainly has any number of attributes that make him attractive. Wealth/Status/Personality etc. etc. But his propensity for shitty behaviour to either her or other people is for whatever reason never enough of a penalty for her to see him for what he really is : subhuman In short her balance scales are all wrong. Now some men hide their repellent behaviours , and women who have the misfortune to date these men are not to be blamed for falling for man…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/22 06:41 PM
2	Compassion vs attraction The wilder unconscious part of your personality that you won't accept or come to terms with. If you haven't read it yet read the book Iron John.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/22 11:42 PM
2	Most men don't care that they're not their girlfriend's "first choice", they're just happy to have sex and companionship Depends if hes a 'Henry' type individual or not. https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ If her previous relationship was a chiselled quarterback and chad or what have you, or even a pasty nerd or some other socially awkward individual it usually doesn't make that much difference: The dynamic is different and she probably is looking for different things and vibes in her life that previous individuals did not provide. 'High status' is not the same thing as 'preferred s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/22 09:15 PM
2	Compassion vs attraction "Im in love with the girl in the movie I want to hold her in my arms while we're listening to jazz and not talk or maybe talk sometimes but mostly just be together enjoying being with someone who cares I guess she's taken now tho." WAT? You are Basically Pierrot Lunaire kid https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gIyxIhpLGQk All that will happen is that you will project this unto a woman who is neither sad or in need of your compassion You want the moon, but don't see the Harlequin of your own nature tr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/22 07:59 PM
0	As a man, is rejection just frustrating OR a bit deeper than that, more existential, when the subject of your love and adoration chooses another man over you Actually there is a way to cut back. When you get rejected, you hold their gaze and you say this: "That's Fair enough. But remember this... I only ever give one chance." Hold their gaze a moment longer turn your back then walk away. And not matter what you do in your life you never ask them again. Ever. Even the ones that come may back with a snark find their rejection suddenly hollow. You can see it in their eyes. Cold finality of opportunity does not sit well with the sex that makes life. Not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/22 12:06 AM
3	As a man, is rejection just frustrating OR a bit deeper than that, more existential, when the subject of your love and adoration chooses another man over you It depends in the 'other man'. If hes a great upstanding guy then most men go through that bittersweet moment when they have to accept that despite everything the woman is in safe hands and everything is OK with the world. Time to move on. Except when its not: https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ The vast majority of BP/RP/PP stems from seeing situations where the 'Henry's' of this world mysteriously having no problem getting involved in multiple relationships with…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/22 07:21 PM
2	CMV: It's a Just-World Fallacy that "misogynistic/sexist" men don't get laid. Ironically, they get laid just as much, if not more than the kind, agreeable men do. Its not victim blaming. Its the Henry problem/paradox. Please see : https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ We are not talking about guys who disguise their red flags and then show their colours later in a relationship. Women those circumstances have every right to be aggrieved We are talking about guys like Henry who are manifestly bad news, who women know on meeting them see the forest of red flags but somehow deliberately don't penalise those traits because of othe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/22 01:40 PM
1	CMV: It's a Just-World Fallacy that "misogynistic/sexist" men don't get laid. Ironically, they get laid just as much, if not more than the kind, agreeable men do. Needs fixing: "me nice, me virgin, that guy gets girl, who, what a coincidence, I dont like". 2 months later "me nice, me virgin, that guy gets another girl, who, what a coincidence, I don't like, because he vile to me and other people, but girl not see dat". 6 months later "me nice, me virgin, that guy now sleeping with two girls, one behind her back, who, what a coincidence me and other well adjusted men don't like. " 4 years later I still treat women like human beings, but I struggle to get…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/22 10:10 AM
2	Confidence vs Neediness For what its worth I don't think it's the majority of women either. But its substantial enough that a guy if he's really unlucky may end up attempting relationships with particular types of women that are drawn to disagreeable men, and without realising, through their own confirmation bias, extends his experience with women to all women in geneeral. This certainly happened to me, until I met a normal rational girl and had to reassess my erroneous beliefs. Ball park figure I'm guessing though is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 04:34 PM
1	Confidence vs Neediness Personally, I don't know the answer to the first question. I don't get it. Never liked dudes that were assholes. Even as a teenager. And I never understood why other girls did either....If I had a choice between confident asshole and needy Beta I would pick the needy beta if I had to choose. If I didn't have to choose, I would pick neither. As a needy man is sexually unattractive. But so is a man that's really cocky. This is really interesting. I think that you are very much an outlier. There is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 10:04 AM
1	Confidence vs Neediness And being desperate for a relationship is how people end up getting hurt BADLY. Thanks for replying, could you elaborate on this bit please?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 08:56 AM
1	Confidence vs Neediness Thanks. Given that misreading perceived confidence may be more dangerous than misreading perceived neediness, why do you think some women will give a pass/chance to the former and not the latter? In your opinion. I accept that you dont speak for all women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 01:20 AM
1	Confidence vs Neediness One, it's not the way I function That's interesting. Care to elaborate?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 12:43 AM
1	Confidence vs Neediness In particular it seems like women pick up very quickly on women who are faking attraction to men. This is interesting. Elaborate?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/22 11:19 PM
1	She's not just looking for a 'nice guy' You are focusing on the wrong part of the problem: It's like when someone says "I really want a beer" but what they also want is the beer to be cool, or ice cold, in a glass, or a bottle, or hoppy taste, or bitter, or....[Insert attribute here] This is normal and human, because romantic attraction is more like an acquired taste than an ideal, despite what novels and films tell us. Sure some people might like plain vanilla ice cream (nice), but the vast majority want a range of different flavours…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/21 03:02 PM
8	Self improvement is pointless/a scam for men You're too thoughtful for this sub-reddit. Seriously I've shadowed it for years and you're one of the more coherent/less insane female contributors. Its not RP but Purple-Pill is still slow acting poison. Endless questions get rehashed, reheated and reconstituted. You're insights are wasted here. Contribute somewhere where it makes a difference.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/21 07:28 PM
1	Society often forces men to become the worst possible versions of themselves to have dating success, if we want this to change Women have to change their dating preferences Mmmmmm	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/21 08:58 AM
1	Tik Tok account Vanrants deletes profile after viral video receives backlash. Nope.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/21 05:55 PM
3	If Chad is so desirable to the vast majority of women, why is he fucking average looking and below average women? Either "Chad" isn't a Chad or women aren't impressed by male beauty. mmmmmm	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/21 10:11 PM
3	Survival & Reproduction: Only Men Compete in Life I think he should.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 06:08 PM
3	Survival & Reproduction: Only Men Compete in Life What? No! If you really wanted to have a child why pay out all that money? Just donate to a sperm bank. Donated Onion soup (salted for extra kick) is so rare nowadays that the chance of reproduction and survival is almost certainly higher than a sabre tooth badger times. The only down side/upside is that in some places when they turn 18 you may have a knock on the door by your gene spawn. KNOCK KNOCK " Er hello..." pallid thing in search of meaning and origin "Sorry do I know you?" "Er I think y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 04:45 PM
4	What happens to a man who has not has a relationship/sex by age 30. +++ I swore I would never post here, mostly because I keep lurking eyes on this board in the hope that one of some redditor on PPD will be able to prise the crucial answer from women on THE most important question, which women keep on skirting round , mostly because it is never asked correctly. If you give enough monkeys a typewriter yadada and all that. However reading your posts I was reminded of myself (also 42), but I come from the opposite direction. I knew exactly what it takes to get wome…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/21 10:44 AM