Brannus Archive

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1	Girls avoid me Sadly... you have to go back to the drawing board when it comes to the inner game. You are clinging to this idea of perfection and results. This is tied into being outcome dependent and caring about what EVERY SINGLE PERSON thinks about you. Then what makes it worse is you think there is some conspiracy that everything bad is happening to JUST you. Now.., to you comparing yourself to your friend. So your friend is making out with chicks? Is he kinoing more than you? Is he actually taking the ris…	/r/seduction	23/04/13 05:08 PM
3	Just an observation here, guys... Now, you're preaching to the choir. I didn't mean to come off as meaning that women's input is not needed (that wasn't my intention). I DO think women's input would be helpful for all of us; outside of the "Be yourself" kind of advice. I think it's odd sometimes that women get advice about men from women and men get advice about women from men. I think it speaks to your comment about the pressure of not being honest about sexual and romantic desires. The consistency of attitude towards positive …	/r/seduction	09/04/13 06:26 PM
6	Just an observation here, guys... You make a valid point. It wasn't as though the issue was lost to me. I think there is a larger argument being made than just the fact her positive input is being praised and her criticism being disagreed, just for being a woman. I think it a cause of that we (as men) are feed this seduction mindset and doctrine. We want it to work. When a woman goes "Yeah this works." or "Yeah, I agree this would work", it feeds into the whole idea that this stuff works (not to say that it doesn't). We want thi…	/r/seduction	09/04/13 03:46 PM
6	Just an observation here, guys... Welcome to the internet? Well... not really. We (as people) usually praise what we already think is right and disapprove what we already think is wrong.	/r/seduction	09/04/13 02:54 PM
5	the overlooked quality: female self esteem, from a woman's perspective Yeah, that comment by itself just made me cringe. I wanted a little more information before I jump to any conclusions. I agree with your points, especially the feelings and definition of being confident. With that being said, I think there is a point where you need to worry about a woman's self-esteem, but I don't think it is when you are first interacting with her (generally the approach and opener). I believe it comes when you actually have a relationship with her; which is second day stuff. E…	/r/seduction	07/04/13 04:21 PM
8	the overlooked quality: female self esteem, from a woman's perspective I have to ask with your comment of: focus on a girls "self esteem" (if such a thing really exists) Are you saying that a woman's self-esteem doesn't exist or that self-esteem as a whole doesn't exist? Since no tonal cues can be offered through text, this is more a philosophical (and slightly semantic) curiosity of what do you actually mean by this statement.	/r/seduction	07/04/13 03:22 PM
2	How do i ask my gf to prom. Just ask her to go with you... Time would be better spent on thinking of how to make THAT night a special occasion, than (in my opinion) the insignificant process of asking the girl whom you are already dating, who probably already assumes you'll be asking her, to prom. If you're still wanting to do something special, as NoSimpleReason said, use your imagination.	/r/seduction	04/04/13 06:07 AM
2	I'm about to quit. I've given my opinion/advice on the matter. You're asking for other people, who were never there for any of these situations, to give their opinions and advice on how to make you better. That is like asking a doctor for advice on how to treat a patient without any knowledge of what is wrong with the patient or even been in the same room as them. It's just not going to happen. With that being said, a little bit of tough love. I don't think I'm hot personally, that's just what I've been told by qu…	/r/seduction	03/04/13 04:41 AM
2	I'm about to quit. So it has nothing to do with your looks. Great, we have that acknowledged and can put it on the "Don't need to work on this" list. Now you need to ask yourself what it could possibly be. You need to sit down and critically, and thoughtfully examine your game. Clearly you are doing something wrong, at least so far as you see it. For example: Is it the way you are approaching them? Is it the vibe you give off? These questions, and more, you will need to ask yourself. And answer for yourself. You s…	/r/seduction	03/04/13 04:20 AM
4	I'm about to quit. Just because you do everything "right" still doesn't mean the girl has to be attracted to you or needs to be attract to you. It gets old when you only bang 1 out of 5 girls you meet in 6 months. Right there, you're being very outcome dependent (and trust me... I know how frustrating trying NOT to be can be). Again, just because you do this (dressing nice, not being too needy, etc.), doesn't mean you have any more right to be with said woman than the next guy. I'm of the opinion, depending on the…	/r/seduction	03/04/13 03:20 AM
1	Girl help please. Practice with a mindset of abundance and outcome independence. If you can't practice with that kind of mindset, then you need to work on your inner game and yourself. People usually suggest going to the gym and meditation for helping with this. There is no "easy button" for this. When you start out you are going to fail. Everyone does it (fail, I mean). Most people gets over it. A metaphor I like to use is learning to play an instrument. You can't expect to pick up an instrument and just play it…	/r/seduction	03/04/13 02:54 AM
14	We need to talk about flaking... Why do they say they're keen to meet and then send you a cancellation message an hour before? Emotions change, sometime in the matter of seconds. What was at first a very keen interest in meeting with you, has deflated into uncertainty and apprehension of meeting up with you. Great, you DHV'd, passed their shit tests, and got their numbers. However, a number doesn't mean anything more than an opportunity. There is no real guarantee she'll do X, or Y, or even Z. If you want to feel better, you're…	/r/seduction	16/03/13 03:01 PM
13	Funeral pick up Assume attraction and escalate, until you get rejected.	/r/seduction	02/03/13 08:30 PM
1	Really lame texting trick that surprisingly works. I think you are misinterpreting what I'm saying. I don't mean to text these girls on the full purpose of this 11:11 idea. Unfortunately, you have implied, if implicitly (however, I would have to say explicitly), that is what you are saying. But you do end with: I'm not suggesting you plan your day through a text schedule. Which is ironically contradictory to the very idea to the trick. The thing that I've been doing lately that has an amazing success rate is I will INITIATE a conversation, norma…	/r/seduction	02/03/13 03:50 AM
1	Really lame texting trick that surprisingly works. I, personally, see it as too far-fecthed because one big reason why: You first have to assume that the girl is going to make the connection. - If you're not hinting to this "11:11" thing, then it's all on them to see the association. If someone did this to me, I wouldn't make this association, because I have never heard of this. Therefore, a text like this would just be a random text at some time on some day; no other significance. I would just hope (and not to say that you didn't) that you had …	/r/seduction	02/03/13 02:21 AM
2	Heard this advice in response to asking how to speak to a girl when you're not very good together in terms of conversation. Gold or bullshit? I don't see this as anything but an easy way out to not make you face your fears and/or anxiety. Let's assume this works for you the first time you use it. At some point you're going to come off your "opiates". What then? You're not actually improving yourself in any sort of constructive way. It'll probably be better for you, both long term and short term, if you just take the time and effort to actually get better at either conversation skills as a whole or get better at talking with women. Edi…	/r/seduction	25/02/13 06:43 PM
1	Using Sex as a seduction weapon I will have to be honest with you. I don't see this as "seduction". I do think you basically extorted your husband for the ring. Someone could make the argument of you using a freeze out or straight pull to get what you wanted. But realistically, you basically just did negative punishment until he gave in. Now, I will admit, that maybe your husband should have been a little more attentive to your feelings of not having an actual ring. However, I, personally, would feel resentful towards you for …	/r/seduction	21/02/13 04:58 AM
5	I can't tell the difference between being "in-state" and mania Mania: The elevated mood of a Manic Episode may be described as euphoric, unusually good, cheerful, or high. Although the person’s mood may initially have an infectious quality for the uninvolved observer, it is recognized as excessive by those who know the person well. Inflated self-esteem is typically present, ranging from uncritical self-confidence to marked grandiosity, and may reach delusional proportions Manic speech is typically pressured, loud, rapid, and difficult to interrupt. Individu…	/r/seduction	21/02/13 04:58 AM
1	What are your thoughts on the power of genetics? I still don't call this more than correlational data that, while statistically supports the idea that being more attractive is associated with being more intelligent, doesn't give any actually evidence that attractiveness is the CAUSE of being more intelligence; genetically speaking. As I'm sure everyone knows, correlational does not equal causation. As an example, did you know that the number of cases of assault and number of deaths due to drowning is strongly correlated to the increase sales o…	/r/seduction	14/02/13 03:35 PM
1	What are your thoughts on the power of genetics? Better looking people are more intelligent Hm... I think you are getting at (in a not very well presented way) the halo effect but I'm pretty sure there is no evidence that attractive people ARE smarter than "ugly" people. However, I will say that the burden of proof is on you by making the claim.	/r/seduction	14/02/13 03:03 AM
2	A seeming contradiction - if 90% of communication is non-verbal, then why optimize for interesting conversation? For me, semantically, mentally (cognitively), and behaviorally, there is a distinct difference between hearing someone and listening to someone. Usually (again in my opinion) the listening I am talking about is usually defined as active listening. I believe most of us can tell pretty quickly when someone is (as many people call it) not being present with us or have ulterior motives to a conversation. They off in lala land or having to ask you repeat something again because they weren't listening…	/r/seduction	11/02/13 09:26 PM
8	A seeming contradiction - if 90% of communication is non-verbal, then why optimize for interesting conversation? If you are not congruent with what you are saying, then what you are saying becomes, basically, meaningless to someone else. I don't think you can emphasize one form of communication over the other. It's the whole package that makes you interesting to other people. No matter what you say, if you are looking at your watch, have your drink in front of your chest, and your tone is flat, you are not going to convey to someone that you are someone who is listening (which in my opinion is very key to …	/r/seduction	11/02/13 01:34 AM
2	Having an empty mind/ saying whatever is on your mind? Asked for and given. I think that TL;DR sums up what I am getting at.	/r/seduction	07/02/13 03:33 AM
8	Having an empty mind/ saying whatever is on your mind? I've not read Tolle. He is on my list of book to read, but I'll take a stab at this. Normally when people talk about having an empty mind, they do not mean you are brainless. You're not thinking about NOTHING. You just not adding anything to make you lose focus with whatever is going on right in front of you. So instead of getting wrapped up into YOUR thoughts and about YOU, you are actually listening to the other person. Most people can tell almost immediately when you have ulterior motives or …	/r/seduction	07/02/13 02:20 AM
5	"Be funny ..." wtf? I would have to agree with you. Being "funny" isn't something you can be taught, like vocal training. It's a... gut feeling that you just think will be funny. If you are, honestly, not as funny as you seem to be perceiving yourself, then I would suggest trying to either go to an improv class or see if you can get a group of close friends to help you what is "funny" or not. What I've come to understand about comedy is the biggest part of being "funny" is about timing and situational awareness. Th…	/r/seduction	07/02/13 02:13 AM
1	Help on what type of response to send (text) No you're not wrong there. I would caution to not take it to the extreme (becoming complete selfish). However, in many of these early interactions you are the most important person. This other person is just there for the rise, I like to think of it as. I mean when it comes down to it, in this kind of situation (early interactions), you just don't have the commit to this person. You may in the future, but right now this is just someone who is enjoying your time and presence. If they don't want t…	/r/seduction	06/02/13 01:04 AM
1	Help on what type of response to send (text) Good on ya! Best of luck tonight.	/r/seduction	06/02/13 12:43 AM
1	Help on what type of response to send (text) Again, if you already spent money on the tickets, I would just go and tried to make the best of it. No reason for you to not to have an awesome night. If you have both tickets, call up someone to go with you.	/r/seduction	06/02/13 12:37 AM
1	Help on what type of response to send (text) Need a little clarification here. Show? Movies, theater, concert, or...? Honestly.. if this is something that you have already spent money on, I would just go stag and have fun the best you can. It may be awkward at first, but just be the fun, social guy. You never know what will happen. Just send back you're sorry she is not up to being there. If later on she is feeling up to being there, to let you know and you'll try to meet up with her (and to clarify tell her or make clear that you're still…	/r/seduction	06/02/13 12:33 AM
2	How does escalation to sex work? Give this a look at. It can at least give you an idea on how to progress. However, I wold have to say that spontaneity (when you have enough rapport (trust+comfort) and a physical connection) is usually the best way to have it (more) seamlessly than trying to plan it all out.	/r/seduction	05/02/13 04:06 AM
2	There's this girl I like, don't want to screw things up When you're asking yourself if you should kiss her or not.... you should go ahead and try to kiss her. Also, not sure how old you are (I'm going to assume under 20 (if not younger)), but I would have to agree with mr3film. Try to find something else to do besides a movie. It's too clique and just not... fun, besides the movie. Depending on where you live, try and see if you can find you town's or city's website and see what you find. Just my two cents though. Best of luck to you.	/r/seduction	04/02/13 12:11 AM
3	Have been dating my girlfriend for 2 months now, how can I stay alpha in the relationship? You can start here.	/r/seduction	03/02/13 08:47 PM
4	Anyone else feel some shame in studying seduction? Shame? No. Am I conscious of what someone will think when I say "Yeah, I've studied seduction.", you bet your ass I do. However, I usually present it as social dynamics (it's easy for me to say this since I have a B.A. in psychology), because this is a facet of social dynamics. I'm quite proud of the strides I've made since reading "The Game" and being introduced to the community. So while I don't advertise of what I've learned and taught myself, I try to not shy away from it as well.	/r/seduction	03/02/13 01:17 AM
1	First College Mixer Talk to everyone This and This for more stuff to read.	/r/seduction	01/02/13 10:35 PM
11	I feel the need to apologize for women Slut Shaming is the idea that women who operate outside the "norms" (generally gender/culture specific) of how a woman should conduct themselves are seen as lower status or should feel guilty for their actions. So no, he (or she) is not making this up. It also applies to the double standard of it being more (relatively speaking) socially acceptable for a man to have multiple sexual partners than it is for a woman. Same with the idea that a man should "get rid" of his virginity as soon as he is a…	/r/seduction	01/02/13 10:01 PM
1	Met this girl at a bar who was practically raping me on the dance floor, got her number, txt'd, says she wants to come over and write "music" with me...is this an invitation to the bone zone? Nope, she looking for the next greatest hit. And by hit I mean your penis.	/r/seduction	01/02/13 02:42 AM
5	What is the best way you could respond to, "I'm not your type" ? I'm assuming you mean she is saying this to you, you could just respond with "Yeah,... you look like (you would be) a handful." Then move on to another topic in the conversation or move on to another girl. If she asks what you mean by that, you could probably just keep with a "Oh you know what I mean." kind of attitude. Just classic agree and amplify.	/r/seduction	01/02/13 12:46 AM
2	What's the best way to deal with an alpha male? Ah okay, I understand what you are saying now. I did not seem to understand this in your original comment. My apologies. However, I fully agree with you what you're saying though.	/r/seduction	28/01/13 03:46 PM
1	What's the best way to deal with an alpha male? I would have to disagree with your statements of you would project a lower sense of value and trying to validate my (I assume this is direct at me, if not, my fault on misunderstanding) inferiority complex. A quick aside. After saying trying to befriend the guys in the group, I was speaking on the assumption the guy is actively cutting the OP off because he is trying to exert social dominance on him. Of course the guy could have just been socially unaware and just spoke when he felt like speakin…	/r/seduction	28/01/13 02:10 PM
1	Alright I figure it's time. I'm going to need a lot of books to get over my AA and other social issues. So....lets have 'em. Agreed. If you looking for ways to get over it, you can take a trip to the sidebar and find all you would need to start. If you are looking to get over your AA by reading books.... Hm, I would rethink your strategy. When it comes down to it, most of the methods you'll find are going to make you go and become desensitize to the anxiety you get from going up to a random person. Through seeing that not everyone is going to flat out reject you, you start to push through some of the limiting beliefs …	/r/seduction	27/01/13 07:07 PM
4	What's the best way to deal with an alpha male? The best way to deal with an amog is to befriend him. This is probably the bar-none best way to deal with him. In the end you probably WON'T have to deal with him. Now, if this is not an option, then you have to make it look like he is trying harder than you to impress the girl(s) or trying to be better than you. In this case, I would probably go with my normal way of dealing with someone. While somewhat passive-aggressive, it's not making a big deal out of something. You normally allow him to f…	/r/seduction	27/01/13 06:58 PM
3	First time using PUA-techniques. Do everything you know that you didn't do last night. It's called calibration and practice. You seem to know where you messed up, so think of a new way to not make the same mistake twice.	/r/seduction	27/01/13 02:46 PM
1	About to hook up with a girl at a party when my friend finds out she has a boyfriend...Also, there's another girl I had invited who is now mad at me for ditching her for this girl... Guys, what do I do? I'll be it in a not so nice way just to get it out of the way... you fucked up. But I do think you probably did it for the "right" reasons. You saw that you could bag a bigger fish and you went for it. Unfortunately, the plan backfired on you because you did not know the finer details (not much you could have done, under the assumption of attraction). The real question you need to ask is what do you want more? Are you wanting to hook up with a chick who is already in a relationship or are you se…	/r/seduction	27/01/13 02:10 PM
1	Are shows like The Bachelorette accurate as far as how to people normally act on dates? As soon as you go, "Is reality T.V.... ", it should be followed with a no, unless you're referring to how fake it is or how over-dramatic it is. Do those things happen? Sure. Do they happened the same way as on the show?.... probably not. Now to your question.... what is your question? It seems, to me, that you're asking for a dream date with the dream girl. Well... you won't get that without the girl, and you probably won't get that even when you do get the girl. To pull on a meme... If you're …	/r/seduction	27/01/13 03:21 AM
1	DAE read Seddit to find the love of your life? First off you're all already assuming many of us on this subreddit is in for it for the pussy. I'm not going to blow smoke up your butt in telling that it's not the goal for many of us (me included). However, much of the "success" many people get from this subreddit is due to more of the changes they go through behaviorally and cognitively. By becoming more confident in yourself and being able to socialize (or manipulate as you have put it) more effectively, you will get the woman of your dreams…	/r/seduction	26/01/13 05:55 PM
2	Case-Study: Massive bitch shield employee at a retail store, how do I get through her cold demeanour and impress? I personally think you were just out of line. You're not dating this chick. You're not a friend to her. Why do you want to know? As someone one else said... it's just not something you talk about when you first talk to someone; especially when you are trying to gain attraction/rapport with a woman (or anyone). I would have honestly reacted the same way as her, even if an attracted woman asked. I would be asking myself, "Why would she be asking now?" One thing I really tried to teach myself is th…	/r/seduction	21/01/13 02:12 PM
5	How do you stop hating women? Normally when we get resentful towards something or become angry at something or someone, it's usually because we have a demand (explicit or implicit) that wasn't answered. Sometimes we aren't fully aware of these demands (the implicit ones or unstated) that we place on people. This isn't some "unconscious" application or anything. It's just we get into a habit of expecting certain actions or certain things in return for our efforts. Now, you need to sit down and, honestly, set about seeing why …	/r/seduction	21/01/13 01:58 PM
1	Is this wrong? Should i continue it? If you looking for casual sex, and you're okay with sleeping with another man's wife... go nuts. You're going to do what you want when you want to do it, regardless of what we say. This isn't a question of what "I would do in your situation". I'm not in your situation. This is a question of your own moral judgement and (to put it bluntly) how much shit you are willing to eat to just get some pussy.	/r/seduction	20/01/13 09:33 PM
1	Is this wrong? Should i continue it? Hm... it's more likely than not in my opinion.	/r/seduction	20/01/13 09:19 PM
1	Is this wrong? Should i continue it? If you can look at yourself in the mirror in the morning, do whatever you want, man. However, she will be carrying a lot of baggage with her. So you have to be prepared for this to maybe blowing up in your face. However, I would suggest not going for it for three major reasons: 1) She's married (this isn't about the "sanctity" but the fact that she couldn't just "break up" with this guy.) 2) The Kid 3)The baggage (Married with a kid, drama galore, this guy will probably be in your life if you pu…	/r/seduction	20/01/13 09:03 PM
3	Does anyone have any good likes or book suggestions on cold reading? Tradecraft - The Art And Science Of Cold Reading is a quick and pretty good "intro" to cold reading. It goes over how you're "readings" should be given and delivered, then has some nice stats about certain age groups and their tendencies (though I would have say they are probably outdated). It's about 50 pages, pdf. Another book, I have is called "Full Facts Book of Cold Reading" by Ian Rowlands. I have not really read this book, besides skimming some chapters. This one is a little more in-depth…	/r/seduction	19/01/13 03:11 PM
1	Asshole Game Yes. You probably did fine with the teasing and everything. However, when this girl (Molly) started to brag about being more popular than Sara, you kind of directly insulted her. Now, I'm not exactly sure what you mean by bitchy vibe. Was it directed towards you or Sara? However, normally when you want to disarm a woman's bitch shield, you normally don't directly insult a woman's appearance. In my opinion, going with "You're not that hot" was a little too direct for this situation. Maybe "Wow yo…	/r/seduction	19/01/13 02:58 PM
2	Asshole Game I think the two most important parts of this article are as followed: You have to be able to gauge what level of assholeness is required for maximum vagina turbulence. When girls act like attention whores, when they flirt with other guys while on a date with you, when they insist on you paying for everything every time, when they shit test you every 15 minutes, and when their egos are comfortably sitting atop a skyscraper, tear them apart. In my opinion, you off shot the mark of the level of "as…	/r/seduction	19/01/13 03:45 AM
1	Skewed statistics You would be correct, sir, to assume that rate. I was only trying to disprove the 98% figure and show that even in the best conditions (the entirety of the unknown are males) doesn't give you the 98% figure. However, thank you for doing the rest of the math for us. XD	/r/MensRights	18/01/13 01:41 PM
16	Made this graphic, suicide rates by sex in the USA, 2010 Ah I see.... well... that was 15 minutes I won't get back, but I guess it was good practice for my future professional career choice.	/r/MensRights	18/01/13 03:10 AM
-4	Made this graphic, suicide rates by sex in the USA, 2010 I don't wish to piss on your parade... but I do believe you have your numbers backwards, my good sir. It's 19.9 for males and 5.2 for females (regardless of race). The link if you wish to see for yourself. Another link to give you some more numbers to look at.	/r/MensRights	18/01/13 03:01 AM
11	Skewed statistics On Wiki in 2008 from (I'm pretty sure) Justice Department puts the % at 64% for males committing murder, however, with 27.8% being the sex is unknown. On the FBI website puts it at 64.3% of murders being committed by males in 2004; with 28.5% being unknown. It could be... said that it may be ~90% of murders are committed by males, but you would have to add the entirety of the % unknown to the males and it still doesn't get you the 98% you have put forth. This is of course with the data presented…	/r/MensRights	18/01/13 02:45 AM
1	Deep temptation for this dark angel. What can I do about this friend that I have liked for more than three years? I'm going to play "that guy" card. If you take a look at it all... you just need to accept the fact that she is not into that way. It's been three years and you've been trying. If you expect something to change by now... good luck with that. She and I had a falling out because I wanted to be more than friends when she did not Well there some women who you just have to be friends with. It's called oneitis and you have it BAD, my friend. I'm mean, lets take a look at the situation bit by bit. It's…	/r/seduction	17/01/13 08:43 PM
2	So apparently I wasn't as confident as I thought I was.... You're 16... take it a step as a time. It's not like you'll get over this in a snap. If you're so concerned about it, there is plenty of material on here about getting over your anxiety. I would recommend working on your inner game (check the side bar). You just need to keep practicing. It comes down to being aware of when you are doing counter productive behavior and/or thoughts, and forcing yourself out of your comfort zone. It'll come with experience. Just my two cents though. Best of luck to…	/r/seduction	17/01/13 02:33 AM
2	How to leave her, but leave her better? It's hard not to hurt someone's feeling when most of attach a lot of emotion to sex. You're best bet is to either have it out there known to her as you establish the relationship, or tell her to her face (literally). When it comes down to it, you can't stop someone from feeling an emotion. What I mean is that you can think of THE BEST way of ending it with a girl... but she is most likely still going to feel lost, sadness, or even betrayal regardless of what you do; unless she wasn't that invest…	/r/seduction	14/01/13 02:29 AM
6	Got flaked in a very dirty way. Lots of mutual/common friends. How to interact with her at gatherings? Yeah, that was kind of cold of her do that. However, you may want to reframe it by looking on her side of the coin. While, I am not condoning what she did was the right way of going about this, but she may have gotten cold feet when she realized that it something other than a casual meet up with friends. Then may out of anxiousness or guilt, didn't want to confront you then. However, in the end, I do believe, you handled it quite well. Made a pretty decent night out, out of a pretty shitty after…	/r/seduction	13/01/13 09:05 PM
2	A girl I'm talking to is really into forensics, and wants to major in forensics in college. I want to be able to have genuine conversations with her about her passion, so what are some things I should know and some conversational ideas? ^ Basically. You don't need to learn about this subject just because of this girl. Now if you TRULY, and HONESTLY have a passion for forensics, then go go crazy. I'm sure a couple wiki visits, and about an hour of reading can get you plenty of topics to talk about. However, why go out of your way to learn about for forensics just because of this ONE girl. Just remember to ask questions that are open ended (Use how, what, even why), and not to just ask questions. This isn't an interview. When she…	/r/seduction	12/01/13 03:43 PM
1	Help. I need help!! I like a girl You're quite welcome. We all need a little helping hand when starting out. However, I would suggest looking at the sidebar for some helpful information on trying to get out of the 'friendzone'. However, I would have to say that you have a very steep, up-hill battle trying to get out of a 4 year period. While it may be hard (not knowing your age, but not really important), it may be easier and more... convenient to go for someone else. You didn't give us much information to go on. So we don't kno…	/r/seduction	12/01/13 01:39 AM
1	Help. I need help!! I like a girl The first thing you need to do is ask yourself do you value you her more as a friend or as something more. Once you start on the road of trying to make something more than friends with her, it will probably never be able to go back to the way it was. Also, I do believe this should be posted in Ask Seddit. Best of luck to you though.	/r/seduction	12/01/13 01:25 AM
1	How do I call this girl out on her annoying tendency to give me wishy washy commitments to dates? You are correct, sir.	/r/seduction	11/01/13 10:56 PM
3	How do I call this girl out on her annoying tendency to give me wishy washy commitments to dates? If she has done this a few times, I wouldn't allow her to go "just kidding!". If she goes, "Hmm I duno, you've been mean to me", I would just say 'Yeah you're right. You can have this weekend (or night) off to recover." Then just stick to your guns till she is pleading to keep the date alive. You're kind of chasing her in this situation. Not a bad thing within itself, but with her tendency to keep doing this would mean to give her a little reprimand. Now you're more in control with giving her wh…	/r/seduction	11/01/13 07:22 PM
1	Can you get a girlfriend without a social life? Is that impossible? Well possible, I would have to say that it would be very difficult, as well as, setting yourself up to have a scarcity mind set about women. In addition, you'll probably need to have a girlfriend who would be like minded to be comfortable with your life style. Which means it'll be a luck of the draw with finding someone. So, I would have to agree with SinSlayer, outside of dating sites, you'll have a hard time finding one. However, in the end, yes it is possible, just difficult. I would have to …	/r/seduction	08/01/13 03:24 PM
2	Been seeing a lot of k-closes. What do you think of them? The biggest thing I think you are failing to realize (outside of starting with an opinion and abstracting from there) is that for some people... a k-close is a big deal. Yes, yes nothing more came of it and you never saw her again. However, its a stepping stone along the whole progression from AFC to PUA. For an AFC, kissing a girl may come at the end of the date or after a few dates. When it happens you get all giddy and excited. It's a progression along a relationship process which started wit…	/r/seduction	05/01/13 07:50 PM
1	Hard time accepting casual sex Link to the data for anyone who wants it: http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/FAQ.html#Age	/r/seduction	24/12/12 07:26 PM
1	Hard time accepting casual sex You're quite Welcome.	/r/seduction	24/12/12 07:25 PM
2	Hard time accepting casual sex It's not hard for me to believe that a small percentage of women over the age of 24 to have had 30+ sexual partners. However, to say that an 'average 24 year old woman' has had 30 is a stretch to think. Yes you can still go 'if a girl has sex at age 13 and we see how many she has had till she is 26', we can put into any number we wish to put into. However, you need to not just go 'an average X woman' when you don't have anything but your best guess to go on. All I'm trying to do is express the d…	/r/seduction	24/12/12 07:21 PM
2	Hard time accepting casual sex Yeah I thought the discrepancy was a bit odd when i was reading the numbers. However, I still thought the numbers would be more... objective and more reasonable even with the discrepancies. Even still, it should be pointed out (as you have done) that the numbers don't match up. I'm sure if I had taken a look at the actual literature, I could have seen the reasons why for the discrepancy. As you have spoken about, women are a little more... protective about the number of men they have had sexual …	/r/seduction	24/12/12 06:55 PM
2	Hard time accepting casual sex Kinsey Institute: http://www.indiana.edu/~kinsey/ Wiki page: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_Institute_for_Research_in_Sex,_Gender,_and_Reproduction	/r/seduction	24/12/12 04:03 PM
6	Hard time accepting casual sex I didn't really think you're numbers were correct. I did a very fast search and find a very reliable source for numbers. These number are from the Kinsey Institute (you can do a very quick Google search to see the reliability of this source this is for sexual data). I've bolded some important information pertinent to the discussion at hand. The link is at the bottom of my comment. Hopefully this can put aside your anecdotal evidence, which is nothing more than a case study at best. Number of Par…	/r/seduction	24/12/12 03:59 PM
1	When approaching/opening a set (mixed or not) with 3+ people, how do you usually transfer conversation towards just you and your target? I've not had a lot of actual experience with this kind of group. Honestly, normally with a group of 3+, I know one of the members of the group. So, I will say that you should take my advice with a grain of salt. However, from what I've learned over the couple of years learning seduction, you still want to open with entire group still. If you come up to one of the girls (let's assume a group of 5 girls for right now), you are A) showing your interested directly to your target (which may or may no…	/r/seduction	24/12/12 01:52 AM
1	Call it a K-close when you K-close. Call it a kiss when you kiss her in the middle of the night. K-close is when you kiss at the end of the night and then part ways. That is all. Just to have it clear for everyone. This comes from the side bar glossary: "Kiss Close/K-Close- This is when the interaction ends with a kiss, or when a kiss (but not much more) occurs at some point during the interaction."	/r/seduction	22/12/12 08:10 PM
1	Girl takes me home to snuggle, what's the deal? Snuggle....with penetration? Most likely you just make some pie-cake and play some Japanese dating simulations. (This is completely done in a sarcastic manner) Actually to say something progressive, I can only see this in two ways. First way, you're messed up in the attraction and sexual escalation stage of your pickup. Now this doesn't really stand too well seeing as you actually took you home. The second reason maybe she may have had the intention of sleeping with you, but her LMR (last minute…	/r/seduction	17/12/12 04:15 AM
0	How to attract a girl that has a boyfriend? For me it comes down to two things. The first is mutual respect. Would you really want someone to come into your relationship, let say if you do get her, and "steal" her away from you? I can most likely assume that you would answer no to this question. As ReadDinger said, you need to show respect to a relationship. Now this line can be blurred during the pickup (like when she has one, but is willing to sleep with you. Then it comes down to your personal morals), here not so much. From the VERY l…	/r/seduction	16/12/12 03:50 AM
2	How do you show interest in a girl you've just met without getting thrown into her pile of male worshippers? As said in 'The Game', "A PUA has to be the exception of the rule." As puaCurveBall said, you need to be different from the other masses of her 'male worshipers.	/r/seduction	12/12/12 11:39 PM
10	Seduction with a Studder I completely understand where you are coming from. I had a pretty bad stutter when I was in middle school through my freshman year in high school. My problem was I would talked so fast, and thought so fast, that my mouth could not process what I wanted to say. I also had a problem with saying S's and R's, however, I think this was mostly due to the amount of dental work I had done on my mouth from middle school through high school. However, I barely stutter anymore. Now this is a little backgrou…	/r/seduction	11/12/12 09:26 PM
2	Need some advice for a 2nd date Unless you are under the age of 18, my honest opinion is to find something else to do. A movie, while I agree with your reasons on why to go to a movie, is just so generic. You know? With winter (depending on your location) coming on, maybe trying to see if you can got to a ice skating ring or something like that. There is also dance lessons, which would be quite fun for the both of you. You could also see is there is any events going on in your town or city that would be interesting. I would tr…	/r/seduction	10/12/12 03:25 AM
5	Abbreviations. So. Many. Abbreviations. Side bar ----------------------------------> Glossary. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/pbkwv/glossary_of_terms_ag/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/pbkxs/glossary_of_terms_hz/	/r/seduction	10/12/12 02:25 AM
2	How do I escalate? If you want a seduction style of response, I'll try my best to provide one. You are either dealing with not having enough comfrot with this girl or dealing with LMR (last minute resistance). These are VERY similar. However, the big difference is if you are dealing with a lack of comfort with you, then you need to back up a step to get her comfortable enough with you to progress (escalate). Now with LMR, from what I know, you need to freeze her out. When I mean freeze her out is to pretty act VER…	/r/seduction	09/12/12 05:29 AM
1	Any psych majors out there? I'd like to design a social experiment to shed some light on sexuality/approaches. "Once this starts, I'll be documenting every single approach I make, whether or not it's successful and regardless of how long the interaction lasts." Good to hear. I was just trying to bring it up that without someone else overlooking this data, you have to really put yourself on a higher standard. This should get you the data that you seem to be seeking. On the personality part, I think they best you are going to get is maybe an initial response to your approach. So like, you have a likert sca…	/r/seduction	08/12/12 02:14 AM
0	Any psych majors out there? I'd like to design a social experiment to shed some light on sexuality/approaches. I know this won't be an academic study, but I'm going to act like it is. You can take what you will from it. The biggest thing is to keep it factual and to the point. From the sound of it, you may not have to worry about it, but it still needs to be look after. Since you are going to have complete control over the situations and variables, you need to look at confirmation bias and when you actually approach someone. I would probably try and put down whether or not you felt sure of yourself when …	/r/seduction	07/12/12 11:14 PM
3	Just got into a relationship, my game was just getting better. Now what? I, honestly, don't see the different when it comes to using majority of the skill sets we learn through seduction when being a relationship or not. While seduction is used to have more sex for us men who seem to be lagging behind other men, the inner game and the social dynamics we learn can still be used in other social contexts. Your social context, now, is to just met new and interesting people. It shouldn't depending on the relationship you have) to seduction women to k-close, f-close, or ma…	/r/seduction	07/12/12 08:02 PM
3	I've come to a realization about the "nice guy syndrome" I'm going to have to disagree with you here. This will be very 'grammar nazi'ish, but I think there is a distinction here you have made which isn't that big of a distinction. Definition of hope - A feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen (type in hope definition into Google, and it's on the very top) Definition of expectations - A strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future (same way as above) In many ways, I do agree with you that another part o…	/r/seduction	04/12/12 03:11 AM
1	Meditation: Fucking do it! I completely agree with this. I think the real power of meditation is the fact you can get out of your head. Especially when you are doing the seduction thing, you are almost always in your head. Meditation allows you to look at what is given to you, and just accept it. I take away from meditation is that we, ourselves, make a judgment call on when something happens to us. If we get rejected by someone, we feel bad about it. When something goes the way we want it go, everything is right with the…	/r/seduction	03/12/12 12:28 AM
-1	Dealing with a boyfriend when talking to a girl you didn't know was taken I've never been in a situation like this, however, I'll give what I would try to do from what I've learned over the year of reading seduction stuff. I would only go to this example if he is actually aggressive towards you. I would probably pull out a neg (Look at her and ask if he is always like this) and just explain that you were just having a nice conversation with her. If he feels threaten though (which should be a slight insult within itself), you'll leave her alone. This kind of shows how …	/r/seduction	02/12/12 10:11 PM
4	How to make it clear you are interested in her sexually, without looking like a perv? It's a combination of verbal content, and the addition of kino (laymen's terms touching her). If you're not familiar with kino escalation, I would HIGHLY recommend doing a little research before just trying it. It's the subtle increase of physical contact which makes kino so useful for so many people on Seddit. Also, bringing the conversation to sexual in nature, and/or something about relationships (if that is your goal) will let her clearly see what your intentions are with her.However, to mak…	/r/seduction	02/12/12 08:25 PM
1	Very new here, but I just read something that I think should be highlighted, especially for a newbie I think a key thing to think about is who is saying if something 'sucks' or everything is 'a-ok'. Just as a quick aside, I'm coming from a very Zen/existential kind of way of thinking. The thing to see is that whether something is good or bad is a qualifying element, we as humans, generally place on an event, person, or emotion. Generally, we consider something to be good when it gets what we want or adheres to an expectation of ours. Also, generally, something is bad or negative when it doesn't…	/r/seduction	29/11/12 02:27 PM
2	Hey guys if you had to make playing "the game" in steps what would they be? I would have to agree with sormenkynsi on the Rules of the Game recommendation. This is pretty much a guide for an AFC (but honestly anyone really) to begin to become a starting out PUA in 30 days. If you are looking for 'steps' as in the process from when you meet someone to when the start a relationship (or that one night stand), the whole "game" that the two sexes go through, I personally would recommend the Mystery Method by Mystery and Magic Bullet by Savory. Both of these books have a more…	/r/seduction	29/11/12 11:44 AM
3	I'm looking for a serious relationship not really to pickup. Are the techniques here still helpful with this cause? I'm going to repeat a little of what the others said above me, but the do have a very good point. If you start with the intention to be her friend...you'll going to end up just as her friend (a.k.a. 'friend-zoned). Plus by the time you realize this 'friend' is what you're looking for as a romantic interest, you probably made your efforts even more difficult. So in my opinion, going with what you friend is saying is only going to make things more painful and more difficult than if you start out w…	/r/seduction	25/11/12 02:36 PM
4	Getting blown off after the first or second date. You may not even have to wait two days. Usually waiting until the next day in the afternoon may do. However, maybe sending a text right after the date may seem to be a sign of neediness. I'll be honest, I'm just spit balling idea out there. Maybe give it that a try and see if it changes anything. If it doesn't change to what you want, there is a possibility that the main problem may be the interaction you are having with them during the date. You may not be giving off DHV and/or not being as int…	/r/seduction	21/11/12 04:24 PM
1	Here's my life. What should I do to change it? To start off, this is an outsider looking in kind of moment. So I would take my comments with a grain of salt. You're pretty much asking for a cognitive and behavioral modification regiment. In many ways, you are on the right track. You seem to have identified some area you feel as though are holding you back from getting what you want. In addition, you seem to have been making small steps in trying to change yourself (which is no small feat). As I'm sure many will agree with, these kind of chan…	/r/seduction	23/10/12 06:04 PM
1	Feeling wanted I really think this topic needs to be more directed at yourself. Instead of asking how you can MAKE her feel X or Y, you need to ask yourself why do you feel as though she needs to feel X or Y. I think that once you begin to examine this situation in this light, you'll see that the one you need make feel anything else is yourself. Also, if you want to portray this, how about just telling her that you miss her. You can use this is gauge her reaction. I'm sure if she does miss you she'll say so ri…	/r/seduction	23/10/12 02:49 PM