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| 3 | Have any of you had an actual relationship from tinder?5 years ago my brothers friend was on there and it started a 4 year toxic relationship. He was a porn addict, abusive, LVM. I trusted him too quickly because I was newly divorced and I had known him when we were kids. I haven’t used any dating apps since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Some of the most telling screenshots from men from that front page post about 🌽⭐️s needing to face the ‘consequences of their actions’. Men don’t think coercion exists on ‘big name’ websites and think sex work = any other industry, ignoring that exploitation is a key feature, not a bug, of pornI know at some point the world will wake up and the social opinions will shift as more and more evidence of abuse in the industry comes to light. I just hope it’s in my life time, because the fact is, this world is so pornified that yes, young girls are being brain washed into thinking OF and porn is easy money and that is how they keep trapping these young girls into the industry and use them up and traumatized and abuse them. And when any of them speak out they are violently shut down. And the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:16 AM |
| 14 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisUnblock the phone number. I just want to talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 12:06 AM |
| 76 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?I love all these responses and would like to add: Any Lion tats Anything to do with poker or playing cards Anything with money or “baller” Anything drug related Anything with the joker/Harley Quinn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:17 AM |
| 86 | Porn actress on TikTok admitted that stopping a scene had consequencesHow men compartmentalize and justify porn use never ceases to amaze me. They know. They know that they are watching abuse and rape on screen. They know because none of them want a woman they care about to do porn. They know that it’s dehumanizing. They know it’s wrong. Imagine if they treated all women with the respect they have for women that mattered to them. Imagine if we could all matter. All those women are my sisters. I will speak out every chance I get against porn. I will never date a ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:59 PM |
| 13 | how porn images filter into mainstream culture - OR - leave poor greg alone uwu !trigger warning!As a culture we have become more and more desensitized to the images being shown. As mainstream artists gain attention for pushing the boundaries further and further at some point there is no more shock to be had. And when violent gonzo porn migrates into the mainstream like soft core porn did, where do we go from there? When the toddlers now are brought up in society that is saturated in violence against women and they are told it’s empowering, what kind of society are they going to have to sur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 01:37 PM |
| 17 | We talk a lot here about the dangers of porn addiction, and I found a little guide to check and share with men if neededFacts! If I have to see one more pick me in dating advice on any platform of a woman shaming another woman for not being okay with porn I am going to lose my mind! There are so many reasons we need to stop being with porn sick men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:06 PM |
| 21 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 14 - Dr. Gail Dines & the Queens Rage Against the Porn MachineI got tears listening to my Queen Gail Dines speaking with my favorite FDS inspirations!! That was so beautiful! So inspiring! This gives me hope for our daughters 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:39 PM |
| 18 | "They're like brother and sister"I dated a guy who had a “sister” I was not a fan. It of course caused a problem when she would call him about her abusive ex and one night he ended up fighting with him when he showed up at her house and my bf got his nose broke. I got mad. Then his “sister” jumped in my inbox and told me how I should feel in my relationship, all about their special bond, and how she knew him better than I did. When I made it clear that wasn’t okay, he sided with her, assumed I was in the wrong when she was nast… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:49 AM |
| 31 | TW: Hot take, liberal feminism and the glorification of "Sex work" will signficiantly increase the number of woman mental health issues/suicides in the next 5-10 years.This is an awesome topic that is spot on! I was watching an older sex worker be interviewed and she said the ones aging out of SW will sometimes do more and more extreme acts to keep an income. They have to put themselves through more abuse and degrading acts to be able to keep a roof over their head. Just think about that for a second. In what other line of work do you have to SUFFER more at the end of? Just another of the thousands of reasons this society needs to wake up to reality when it co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:10 PM |
| 66 | If he visits strip clubs, assume he is soliciting sexMy LVX used to go to the strip club alone.. during the day shift when our kids were babies. He told me that after I left him for spending money on cam girls and he was confessing everything in order to work it out. I am just happy I made it out of that marriage without an STD. We had 3 kids under 5 at the time and struggling, but paying SWs was more important than paying bills. The first time he went to a strip club was for his bachelor party (no one told me that he said because I was pregnant a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 12:25 PM |
| 35 | Chrystul Kizer, sex trafficking victim accused of killing alleged 34 year old abuser when she was 17, wins appealThis amazing young woman did exactly what she was supposed to do in that situation and our patriarchal system put trauma on her before allowing her to move on and heal. I was reading a Twitter post about things officers responding to rape said to the victims and it made me cry. One that I remember was “are you sure your crying didn’t sound like moaning?” WTF?! The people who are in charge of helping victims of rape are adding trauma to already traumatized women and children. When will Rape be ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:03 PM |
| 82 | T-Mobile sides with harasser instead of employee of 7 years because victim had an OF account.I work in the same industry. We had a girl with an only fans get hired. It took 48 hours for all the men in our district to circulate her pictures/videos. I know of a few incidents of co workers saying gross stuff to her. I am sure there is more I don’t know. The company essentially pushed her out by “promoting” her to manager at a horrible location when she was too new to even have a chance. They knew she would fail and she did. The entire thing pissed me off. I can’t imagine this doesn’t happe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 12:45 AM |
| 63 | Porn does cause higher occurrences of childporn use and pedophilia and studies are coming out suggesting this connection with porn use and paraphiliaI wish all moms would read this study! Do not let porn users around kids! Period. CP/teen porn/incest porn. There are so many men watching and normalizing hurting kids. As a single mom, it makes me so upset that society is telling women men watching this stuff is normal and they are letting pornsick men around their kids completely unaware of how sick these men can become simply from porn. I heard about this the first time in Gail Dines Ted Talk and made that rule then. I have only let one man i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 09:01 PM |
| 123 | Don't waste any of your time on people who watch porn.If he watches porn the sex will be trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:45 AM |
| 36 | I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit.I love this sub!!! You are absolutely amazing for starting a new and beautiful life for yourself! I am sending you hugs and strength! Sex workers are our sisters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:05 PM |
| 7 | Why women oppose prostitution.Cultural gaslighting! You don’t like prostitution because you are JeLoUs and you don’t like porn because you are InSeCuRE. Definitely couldn’t be that we see through the controlling patriarchal abusive bullshit and have actual human empathy! They fine with it until it’s their sister well the ones that aren’t incest porn sick they are fine with all the abuse until it’s someone that they care about. What does that tell you? I know this might shock some scrotes but ALL women are PEOPLE who deserve … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 09:31 PM |
| 50 | Why 90% of Men Aren't Worth ItCulture reframed website has a good parent’s education guide. I used the Love People Use things podcast episode “how to talk to your kids about porn” when I talked to my 14 year old son. The scariest thing for me about that was he thought the speaker warning of the dangers of porn was lying because he had never heard anything negative about porn in his life. We NEED to get more education to kids about what they are doing to their brains. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 12:06 PM |
| 30 | Yazidi survivor: 'I was raped every day for six months' - ww documentaryThis is absolutely heart shattering. These young women know a strength that most won’t. We need to form a culture of awareness. So many people have no idea how massive sex trafficking/ sex slavery is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 11:14 PM |
| 54 | Women thrive without men, men perish without women, not the other way aroundNo lies detected | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 05:47 PM |
| 92 | Anybody see thisNever. Send. Nudes. Not ever! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Banned from other subs just for being a member of FDS?I also made one post about not wanting your partner watching porn is an okay boundary to have and I got immediately banned 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 11:56 PM |
| 8 | Idaho legislative intern reports rape, is ID’d by lawmakerThis is disgusting! How much you wanna bet after he got charged he started panic scrubbing all his rape porn/CP off his office computer. Can we just start concidering rape porn as premeditated crime? How can a grown woman put a teenager through extra trauma? That makes me physically ill! This whole thing is gross and I hope that strong beautiful young woman gets justice 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 08:21 PM |
| 35 | Grooming in the adult industryIt was hard for me to get through because she is just so very young and doesn’t fully grasp what happened to her yet. She was still blaming herself and I was yelling at the screen when she said she couldn’t define it as rape “girl that was RAPE just because they paid you those abusive porn producers know exactly how to manipulate you!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 51 | Grooming in the adult industryhttps://youtu.be/qrgufzKdBi8 This is a very young porn star who recently got out and describes the manipulation and trauma she went through. It is truly truly vile what they put these very young women through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:37 AM |
| 55 | Our society lives on women's unpaid labourI was a SAHM for 10 years. I got divorced from that LVM man after 15 years with 4 kids. I didn’t get shit but minimum child support in the divorce even though he makes a lot of money and I was starting from scratch at 32. He won’t help me with anything outside of child support. Bought himself a new house/truck/vacations but I asked for help getting groceries when I lost my second job bartending at the beginning of the pandemic and he told me it “wasn’t his responsibility to buy me groceries” I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 01:20 PM |
| 16 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsI was actually wondering what FDS thought about female best friends and the females they have known forever and call “sisters” /female room mates. I have had so many experiences of being called insecure when boundaries were clearly being crossed and fully thought I just had jealousy issues and was controlling, when really none of it was okay and I was just being gaslit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:47 PM |
| 187 | My cousin was molested by her stepbrother and his friends. The proliferation of "stepbro/stepsis" porn is something we should all be very, very worried about.I was molested by my neighbor when I was 3-6. He used porn as a tool. I was an 80’s/early 90s kid, so porn videos weren’t something I experienced aside from that experience until high school parties where someone would raid the parents closet and put one in the VCR. The first time that happened it was of a girl with 3 guys and as they were penetrating all 3 holes and she was crying. The guys thought this was hilarious and I started having my first major panic attack. I have never equated porn wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 02:56 AM |
| 47 | The false equivalency of pornography for men and romantic comedies for womenAlso, never has a rom com been linked to human trafficking. They aren’t playing rom coms to trafficked kids so they know what is expected of them. Rom com starlets don’t regularly get non curable STI’s on set. Rom coms don’t normalize rape, incest, and pedophilia. There are so many reasons I hate when men use that argument. That is like comparing Tylenol to Meth. Sure they are both technically drugs as porn and rom coms are both technically films rom coms/Tylenol can help distract from headaches… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:02 AM |
| 39 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.I am a 37 divorced mom of 4 and I too have raised them for the past 7 years with no assistance anyone. I have watched the smoke from many men after I told them I have 4 kids. I got sick of men telling me in one way or another I should settle or should be grateful they would ever consider even being with someone in my position. I am happy single. I love my life. And I don’t actually need a man for anything. So I have kept my standards and if i meet someone who can be an asset to my life that’s fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 28 | Standing up for women has never been popular, which explains the backlash against FDS. It's worth it because I can already see our culture changing. More and more women are choosing to be bold, have non-negotiable boundaries, and speak up unapologetically.Yesss! Let’s build each other up! Let’s be an example of what a strong women is to the girls on our lives. The more of us they have to look up to the better. I believe there will be a day when half of the governing bodies are women. Half the CEO’s are women. All the amazing changes that are possible in the world if that happened makes it all worth it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 07:47 PM |
| 169 | “It is hard to respect yourself when you are being forced to pick up the garbage of another human being. An adult.”“A dick doesn’t entitle you to a servant” I love that line so much!!! I want to embroider that on a fucking pillow! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 10:58 PM |
| 186 | Yes, you are allowed to set the standard that you don't want porn in your relationship.I am in a group in another social media platform that is primarily women. one of the women posted about thinking porn is cheating. It was mostly all women bashing her and telling her she hates sex workers and is insecure and controlling. Like 50 female commenters shaming her. With only a handful of women chiming in at her defense. I expect men to behave this way, it is really frustrating to see women tear down other women that way. It was really gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 08:29 PM |
| 40 | Would love to flip this around and ask sons of fathers who visited prostitutes, how do you feel about what your father did?These stories are the reality of most sex work. The effect it has on the sex worker and the people around the sex worker. Glamorizing only fans and sex workers that have the privilege to avoid the abuses is ignoring the reality of the vast majority. I feel like I get shamed every time I say I am against prostitution. I am told I don’t respect sex workers. It’s like I am also against for profit medical insurance companies as me being against the doctors and nurses on the front line. It doesn’t ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 07:33 PM |
| 19 | Scrote so mad he forgot how to spell and shitThis was an actual post in another sub... I hope it is a joke but they removed it so probably not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:38 PM |
| 14 | This was basically my ex's friends. Weird how so many men don't find this odd( when not actively boasting about dating teens as my ex and his friends would *vomits!*)My ex LVM is 40 and lives with a 24 year old female. He would tell me she was like his “little sister” while also telling me what a “slut” she is and obsessing over her “big tits” another 22 year old female social media friend of his that he would always love her pictures and drop comments on her page.. when I confronted him about it he said “I just think she is pretty, I think a lot of young women are pretty like Grace Moretz there’s nothing creepy about it” They are so fucking gross and don’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 12:30 PM |
| 25 | Andrea Dworkin is amazing!!!I have never heard of her until now. That brought me to tears. It breaks my heart the truth she speaks. And pornography has gotten so much worse than when she began her fight. We need more women to speak up. I love this group and how much we empower each other for better in our lives and for other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 06:31 PM |
| 11 | Oh no, men’s porn addiction is our fault apparentlyMy ex said him and his friends watched porn together and jerked off together in their teens which eventually led to some of them jerking each other off and giving each other oral sex like this was just the normal progression of teen boys. So how about they just take care of each other and leave woman and girls alone 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:43 AM |
| 14 | Break-Up Survival Guide 🧘♀️I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years about a month ago. I was sexually abused to porn as a little girl. He knew how I felt about it but when I told him it was me or porn, he chose porn. It’s such a gross feeling having someone leave you for part of the thing that hurt you the most in life. He was my best friend and I never thought he would hurt me this bad for porn. I have been doing no contact/avoiding men in general. FDS is helping me so much! This is incrediblely painful but at least I fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 11:18 AM |
| 11 | The FDS podcast is now LIVE!!! Weekly Discussion Thread: Episode 1I am so happy I found this sub and this pod cast!! 💜💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 03:52 PM |
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